I don't give a crap what color you are as a woman, and we have all heard this saying before a MILLION times: If you don't want me during your prime then I don't want you on your decline. Period!🤷🏽♂️
With black men its very same. They want you when they have nothing. Once they get on top, they start betray their women, cheat on them, and considering them has one of the house furniture. They are UNGREATFUL. That is why divesting exist. White men are way more grateful and have a better sense of integrity.
but they def expect us to have no problem w/ dating "potential" ( a woman w/ several baby fathers & life in turmoil still fancies herself as a potential good mate for most decent brothers)hell, even SUKI ; a mutli time baby maker & thot senate member, tried to tempt UMAR w/ the "goods" like they were some sort of coveted prize to have
@@BadTV1993 they outnumber us. Focus on yourself as a man and when the right one comes around vet her. Also don’t forget there are black women all over the planet. If a woman speaks nonsense like these don’t give her any attention.
It’s not just potential. They look for men on the come up. So they’re catching men entering/graduating law school, business and medical school. They’re catching guys in undergrad who play football before they go pro. So they’re better at picking winners. It’s not just potential. My brother has potential but he won’t do ish 😂😂😂😂. It’s about catching men who are on the ascend
Said this for years. Non-BW are FAR better talent scouts. It’s not even close. They are already the MRS. long before the guy becomes partner at his law firm.
I still agree with some things the Dr says. My thing is if a Black Man wants a Black Woman go right ahead. I do not even need to know why. Just keep it moving. Thanks for sharing.
For those of us who attended a non-HBCU, we saw numerous exceptionally attractive nonblack women with the raggediest, dorkiest, nerdiest, guys and wondered what she saw in him. Later, you learn that he was in pre-med, pre-law, engineering school, etc. with a 4.0 GPA.
Nah… not in my area. Only Birds of the same feather sniped the the Future Earners lol. STEM and STEM, Athlete and Athlete, Capitalists, Bureaucrats, Academics, Etc
& in my mixed military over populated town their are tons of single white women mad that a black man made them a babymama so now their ignorant family looks at them disgraceful,while I feel sorry 4 the children smdh ....I even had to curse 1 out at work screaming she h8 black men yet I'm telling her she's rasing one so stfu....disgraceful lol 😂
Umar sounds like he might be warning up to the vanilla ice queens. Maybe he should find a snowbunny who sees his potential, and is going to help him build that school.
I agree with you Phil because I know Black women who saw potential in Black men and they elevated together. I get tired of our people putting all Black men or women in the same category and comparing us with other ethnicities who have not experienced our struggles, life history, etc. And we must still go to the root cause of these behaviors. Trauma that has not been healed, a renewing of the mind. Counseling and mentoring are so vital within our community particularly if there is not a father with strong male leadership skills and habits, leading by positive example.
You do know phillips has vidoes tellin this old white woman that when they hit the wall to basically come to black men cause how dare white men have standards to tell their women to take care of their bodies. You know that right?
The problem is that when black women build these men with 'potential' at their lowest, they will upgrade once they achieve success. They have learned from the struggle love generations before them to date the best man for the job. I had a neighbor that worked at the time to put her then husband through medical school. Once he finished his residency, he bounced and left her with three children. She eventually remarried a provider some 10 years later and moved to a bigger home.
I was telling black women on different platforms that women of other ethnicities are going after the black men they see potential, for example Bronny James, Marques Brownlee (millionaire content creator) picked by white women. I be trying to school black women but fall on deaf ears
Phil, 100% on point. I recall sitting in the Livingroom one evening. I dated a lady in college, and I was interviewed by the father and mother for an hour. My date was not in the room, because she had to stay at work late. They asked me some questions about my parents, my intentions, my career plans, etc. The relationship did not work, but I remained friends with the parents for many years.
I've been saying the same for quite awhile. White women in general (of course there are exceptions) don't stand at the finish line waiting for the winner of the race. White women can see the potential of the studious brother in class who rides the bus to school, while sisters are mainly checking for the star quarterback, point guard, or Pookie. This is why so many sisters miss out on successful Black men. Despite the popular narrative, most men don't forget the woman who gave them love when they had nothing.
No, not most men, just men in general. Problem is they think when they get the guy with the potential and help him, they can also do whatever they want. They think they can talk to him however they want, treat him however they want, disrespect him, and mess around with other men behind his back because he's not yet the man that he will be in the future, because according to their thinking he'll get kingly treatment when he's a king, and while he's a peasant he'll get peasant treatment. Do you honestly think that man is gonna stay around the moment he becomes successful?. No, he's gonna leave her where she is for someone new who'll respect and treat him better while she's left crying about how much she invested into him while leaving out the times she disrespected and belittled him.
I always felt like that as a Black man in regards to going back to a girl that didn't like me when I was broke. Why would I or anyone get to that level to intentionally move backwards?a A lot of them want to do that with Pookie & Ray Ray, but a White Woman/Other Woman ain't going for those types unless she one of those too. Yeah, there are some Ratchet White/Other Women in America fellas.
I believe Umar was on point. I don’t like everything he says, but this was spot on. Judge Mathis talks about his wife’s family taking him after he just got in college and his mother died since they were better off and a middle class family. He always would mention them on his old show and show his gratitude
For a more concrete example instead of just saying potential. What other communities are looking for is "Competence, responsibility, consistency AND hard work". If all of those things are already present in a man you can actually build him up to a degree. But never fall in love with the potential to be a great rapper, ball player or anything else if he doesn't have those 4 qualities.
So true. Unfortunately, a lot of women will sacrifice their happiness as long as their bills and materialistic needs are met. Not changing anytime soon.
@@thesilentdiva when a blind man could see that he wasn’t the one to “build with” why do women choose to still move forward? Remember men can’t do sexually what you ladies won’t allow🤷🏿♂️
There's time when women are with the man when he has nothing and helps him and when he gets on his feet, he decides to go get someone else forgetting the woman that helped raise him up.
Untrue, some men accepts the assistance. Plays with the woman's affection & leaves because he wanted/needed help, but not the woman who helped, just to try & come back because the "grass wasn't greener".
Depends, are helping a pookie or are you helping a quality black man? Most of you black women help pookies, that's not what Umar is talking about. Invest wisely in quality black men!
This only happens with pookie and Ray ray. When you deal with real brothas, this happening is a rarity. We are speaking about what usually happens and you in here talking bout "sometimes" lol.
Time change Phil, No one man can cover every single bill in the household these days, unless you are a millionaire or stupid. (If you can good for you.)
😅 Exactly sometimes I think Umar is low-key gay on the low because it seems like why is he always so obsessed with who other men are dating and marrying, especially other BM I don't know it just seems weird that a men is always so worried and obsessed with who other men are dating or marrying especially other BM just seems kinda suspect 😂
@ryanherelle4618 I know right the Dick Policing is real and check this out he has now started to Pussy Policing BW as well dude just seems weird to me 😅😅
I don't agree at all! A lot of us have helped them when they were nothing, and when he is together with the help of our hands and work, then they leave for the white women or other races. There is some truth to this, but not all!
My sister use to say she's not getting with a fixer upper! I often wonder why, she had more than enough resources to help a person excell in their life together. She died alone, no husband, no children, and left cousins and friends fighting over her estates.
@robinsonfamily3948 Yes, she tried to live a good life with so much work & prestige and responsibilities that it wasn't easy and always lonely for her, and I truly hope that she is at peace and not alone anymore.
@listentoauntrobin9617 She named names, and those of us who were absolutely guarded of her are well off. I would give it all back to have her here, healthy, happy, and not alone.
@@decemberwhite3219 I see your admiration for your sister. It’s wonderful she named names. She adored those she named. If it was her choice to live alone maybe you could honor her by accepting her choice is life style. No everyone woman want children or a husband. Those things does not transcend happiness to all women. A lot of women with said lifestyle are miserable and they lie about being happy. Facts, my mom was one of those kind of women. She made everyone’s life miserable.
@listentoauntrobin9617 Thank you, and I do understand not everyone was meant or is built for that life. However, she was. She wanted it but never could find the right time. It was never the right time to fall in love or nurture a relationship. It was never the right time to keep her babies (my body! my choice!) Smh, it was never the right time to stop!! Then time flew bye to quickly.
Most black women? Y'all see potential in pookie 💩 and Ray Ray 💩💩💩💩💩💩💩??? Because that's all y'all choose. I don't see y'all get with the hard working men ........those are the ones that have the potential not the 💩💩
@@CaramelCali yeah I’m sure all those men y’all call squares are pookies too 🥴
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Phil is actually arguing against himself here. A woman cannot invest in a man on the ground floor, while expecting him to be the sole provider simultaneously. That makes no sense. And when you factor in that most of the accelerated programs are for girls and women, how are men expected to be these super providers in the face of outstanding inflation? None of that makes sense. Do most men naturally want to pay all the bills? Yes. That's how we're wired. It makes us proud and feeds our souls to build and prosper financially for the family. However in this US-based society, most functioning households need 2 incomes to get by. Hell, that logic applies to most countries these days. So this is a false reality. And believing that this is achievable en masse, is destructive. Don't be a hero. Just adapt and survive.
We definitely need to have our villages in our community.The sad thing is,is that it didn't seem as bad when I was growing up. A lot of the attitudes that are accepted now wasn't acceptable decades ago.
Respect - excellent info. I’m dealing with this right now with my daughter. He’s a good guy, had a couple of setbacks but work ethic, character, and integrity are intact.
I disagree with Dr Umar. I'm a black woman & and have always been of the mindset of dating black men not for what they had. For me, it s about their integrity, being respectful, values & morals,. I've never been materialistic. I'm the type of woman that will support her man to reach his potential & would want him to do the same for me.
I disagree with investing in a man who’s NOT your husband. I unfortunately was a fool and invested in the dreams of two relationships and got screwed over. Both men and women should be able to care for themselves and thats a fair expectation 💁🏽♀️💜 I also wished I had a father to guide me through my dating endeavors, I would’ve made better decisions.
I always did dislike how people refer to WW as "snow bunnies" as if they are something "top shelf" to be coveted. Love who you love, but to me they ain't deserving of some ridiculous ass stamp of affection nickname like that.
the stats come from black woman being in school more or more educated than black men or having more degrees , regardless if its useless in the real world
I’ve seen it as well Phil. I know of a guy who had a good women help him out but the brother just couldn’t and still can’t get right. I’ve also seen it the other way around.
Hypergamy happens across cultures BUT it is generally more pronounced in Black American culture. That's why many black women go after athletes and entertainers (have the 'bag' now but likely not in the future) when they should be dating dentists, engineers and CPAs with a solid future (a 'bag' that grows and grows for decades, maybe generations). Like he said, short vs long-term thinking.
There is nothing wrong with wanting the bag. The problem is how they want to get it. A smart man would gladly provide for a woman that put the work in by being at your side when all you had was values and,grind and intelligence and you were in shape and a regular job. The problem is they just want to do almost ANYTHING outside of morals,putting in work and empathy.
Unfortunately this doesn’t work for us sisters Unless your a preference aka white he will rarely invest in you We see this Even Kanye rapped about this
There are millions of black men around the globe. You just have to be picked by one. Roughly 75% of new marriages with black men are to black women. So the odds are in your favor.
My son is at the Air Force Academy. This white girl is playing the long game with him. He is going to be a black fighter pilot. But I am on my job so this won’t turn out like she wants. But she didn’t get him to the Air Force Academy. His mother and a I did.
But what if this white girl is the one for him?? Good for him getting into USAFA...but one thing has nothing to do with the other. If this kid can fly fighter jets he can stare anything down I would guess.. He's gonna have to learn on his own, here on th ground and at the stick of an F-22/F-35.. Ask me how I know..
I left a trail of angry black women that preyed on my downfall after not choosing/cooperating! I thank God for that motivation! Me winning is an understatement and my example is nesasarry for future generations. I'm an example for both the young women and men in my vicinity. Bring back shame & Black Excellence.
@@Renrens-LionessofJudah I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two black women now, but I do/did date interracialy in my travels. There's something attractive in all women. Everyone has value. Everyone isn't going to be valuable to everyone though. The mid 40's version of me is attracted to peace, so I can continue to be successful. I have an example to set for my son's and a standard to maintain for my daughters. As far as women go... If their "Parents" taught them how to identify people of value, while being of value themselves, we'd all be in a much better place in a shorter amount of time.
EXACTLY, IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. WE WERE GROOM TO STAND BY OUR MEN EVEN AFTER THE DISAPPOINTMENTS. WE WOKE UP. GO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. YOU DON'T NEED AN EXCUSE TO DATE WHITE OR ANY RACE THAT IS. STOP USING BLACK WOMEN AS AN EXCUSE. DO YOU!!!!!
As a BM, I tried working with the BW here and there in the US. I wanted someone to start with me while I am working towards the top. All I got from the American BW was stabbed in the back. When it comes to US bw, I almost have to sacrifice beauty to obtain loyalty. I can't give up beauty, fertile, youth, and no kids, in order to have a submissive loyal woman. Even if she's hispanic, if her close friends are under that sick influence, she's gone to. I'm in Brazil next month, let's see how that works..🤷♂️
Everybody had their own opinions but the man knows what he's talking about and he's good at it and if you can't understand where he coming from he's not the problem you are❤❤❤
I don't agree one of the biggest differences with African women and European women when it comes to African men is that European women hunt for African men for which is African men that are already rich.
They date Pookies and NugNug thinking they have potential. A few kids and a decade later, they have too much baggage to date based on potential. The bills are do today. They need the six figures now. That’s pretty the dating cycle in our community.
Lovely ladies as a Foundational Black American man I'm going 2 tell u if invest in some dude's dream business 1 don't go bankrupt 2 your name has gotta be on that business papers real talk & get a prenuptial agreement nuff said .
It may be a bigger problem than that. I'll call it the "instant coffee problem" that is rampant in black communities. In Africa, they all want to be like Gates, Bezos etc. - minus the hard work, of course. Go for one or two, heavy, and often crooked deals, and voila, you're a billionaire! The concept of slow, steady, painstaking growth seems foreign.
Some BM no matter how much potential you see in them and strive to help and stick around them for “the long game”… Already have their mind made up of leaving you for a WW anyways!
We were better..we are better. We left. You should ask yourselves, really why that continues to happen. You opened the door we walked thru it. Preach on that...
@@rocnnrollbus You sound like an oxymoron. Who said I was letting men like you in? I said some black men.. but if the shoe fits wear it. Trust me you won’t be missed lol.. They can have you 🤭
Umm i beg to differ. I have numerous friends with white women and some are the sorriest mfs I met, but still my bro. And they not trying to build a damn thing. I think its a case to case situation. I feel sometimes we can be so woke we sleep.
He makes a Good Point 😎👍 Just Stop 🛑 explaining Why those others are better for you. It's just history repeating itself and Black Women and Girls will be okay. 🦋
Playing the long game is present in black households as well. The thing with the long game is its long and so many think long is until things aren't their way. Great content.
Absolutely, I don't know why we are celebrating single motherhood. My sister told me I was old fashion because her friend's daughter was having a baby at 17 and they were giving her a babyshower, and I asked why is this being celebrated?
Umar is the king of half truths but he is correct. MinisterJap made a video "Men Like What They See, Women Like Who You Are" that basically sums up this topic
Dr Umar is actually 100% right with this, I've personally witnessed this for myself not just white women but even Asian, Arabs and mixed women so this. It's not just potential, but they tend to show interest in a black man's personality/morals as well. A lot of western blk women care more about financial status than a man's character or integrity.
Dr. Umar been playing the LONG GAME with building that SCHOOL 🏫. 😅😅😅
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You won the internet today 😂😂😂
FACTS !!
@@JamesJones-x5q 🤣😅😂
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I don't give a crap what color you are as a woman, and we have all heard this saying before a MILLION times: If you don't want me during your prime then I don't want you on your decline. Period!🤷🏽♂️
With black men its very same. They want you when they have nothing. Once they get on top, they start betray their women, cheat on them, and considering them has one of the house furniture. They are UNGREATFUL. That is why divesting exist. White men are way more grateful and have a better sense of integrity.
Preach
Facts 💯
I literally have never heard of that saying. But I understand what it means.
@@ReasonsWhy5I hope you haven’t given yourself to pookie’s… if not if your single i hope you find a great successful Blk man.
BW have stated many times they will not date potential. Why is Umar wasting his breath?
but they def expect us to have no problem w/ dating "potential" ( a woman w/ several baby fathers & life in turmoil still fancies herself as a potential good mate for most decent brothers)hell, even SUKI ; a mutli time baby maker & thot senate member, tried to tempt UMAR w/ the "goods" like they were some sort of coveted prize to have
They shouldn't get mad when Becky and em, swoop up quality brothas then.
@@BadTV1993 they outnumber us. Focus on yourself as a man and when the right one comes around vet her. Also don’t forget there are black women all over the planet. If a woman speaks nonsense like these don’t give her any attention.
They will date criminal gangbangers with nothing to their name tho😂
@@leandermiller1963boom drop the mic 🎤💯👍🏿
It’s not just potential. They look for men on the come up. So they’re catching men entering/graduating law school, business and medical school. They’re catching guys in undergrad who play football before they go pro. So they’re better at picking winners. It’s not just potential. My brother has potential but he won’t do ish 😂😂😂😂. It’s about catching men who are on the ascend
Said this for years. Non-BW are FAR better talent scouts. It’s not even close. They are already the MRS. long before the guy becomes partner at his law firm.
shading the bro and commending ww in the same comment is nasty work.
Bingo
@@jabbaweezyright? Thousand bucks say’s he probably gets more girls than him 😂😂
Gotdamn right.
The minute Dr. Umar says anything favorable to black men or holding black women slightly accountable, his most loyal fanbase turns against him
They gonna call him ghey watch.
The Queen of Accountability does a far better job of holding black women accountable than Umar, its like he's scared, or needs his revenue intact.
Not alll of us
Now u see why they pander
I still agree with some things the Dr says. My thing is if a Black Man wants a Black Woman go right ahead. I do not even need to know why. Just keep it moving. Thanks for sharing.
For those of us who attended a non-HBCU, we saw numerous exceptionally attractive nonblack women with the raggediest, dorkiest, nerdiest, guys and wondered what she saw in him. Later, you learn that he was in pre-med, pre-law, engineering school, etc. with a 4.0 GPA.
Oh please y’all act like nerdy black women don’t exist on these “Non HBCU’S” either, black nerds just ain’t checking for black nerdy women. Period.🙄😂
Nah… not in my area. Only Birds of the same feather sniped the the Future Earners lol.
STEM and STEM, Athlete and Athlete, Capitalists, Bureaucrats, Academics, Etc
@@theroyalone5765Nerdy black women don’t want brothers. They be going for Asians and white
@@theroyalone5765the difference is a lot of the non black nerdy chicks be low-key baddies. Don't be jealous
& in my mixed military over populated town their are tons of single white women mad that a black man made them a babymama so now their ignorant family looks at them disgraceful,while I feel sorry 4 the children smdh ....I even had to curse 1 out at work screaming she h8 black men yet I'm telling her she's rasing one so stfu....disgraceful lol 😂
Wow, Dr. UJ actually completed a statement with repeating himself 3X. Also, he is spot on!
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@@idesiignit698 Black women will get mad at Dr. Umar for telling the truth 🤣🤣🤣🤣
He does that to give himself enough time to think up his next pithy clever nonsense or lie.
He actually addressed that before, he says things 3 times because it takes 3 times to hit your self-conscious.
Aw damn, I didn't even catch that. That goes to show you he knows whats up.
Umar sounds like he might be warning up to the vanilla ice queens. Maybe he should find a snowbunny who sees his potential, and is going to help him build that school.
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I agree with you Phil because I know Black women who saw potential in Black men and they elevated together. I get tired of our people putting all Black men or women in the same category and comparing us with other ethnicities who have not experienced our struggles, life history, etc. And we must still go to the root cause of these behaviors. Trauma that has not been healed, a renewing of the mind. Counseling and mentoring are so vital within our community particularly if there is not a father with strong male leadership skills and habits, leading by positive example.
Its very very rare
You do know phillips has vidoes tellin this old white woman that when they hit the wall to basically come to black men cause how dare white men have standards to tell their women to take care of their bodies. You know that right?
This is why the creator, speaks so strongly on patient, The lack of patience will cause one to sell their soul
There is no creator.
@@gerogekaren2771Prove it!
@@gerogekaren2771How do YOU know?
The problem is that when black women build these men with 'potential' at their lowest, they will upgrade once they achieve success. They have learned from the struggle love generations before them to date the best man for the job. I had a neighbor that worked at the time to put her then husband through medical school. Once he finished his residency, he bounced and left her with three children. She eventually remarried a provider some 10 years later and moved to a bigger home.
I was telling black women on different platforms that women of other ethnicities are going after the black men they see potential, for example Bronny James, Marques Brownlee (millionaire content creator) picked by white women. I be trying to school black women but fall on deaf ears
It's Jermaine's fault that all of the MODERN black women are single!😂🤷🏽♂️
Why tell them anything. Stoooopi d
Better examples then ball players they the same as rappers
@@Shaolin91zExactly.
No, he wasn’t looking at them.
He's right and the main thing is the white family is going to support and help their child. African parents wants everything from you.
Facts 💯
Depends on if your family can actually talk. To think other cultures don’t do it is crazy talk.
That’s embarrassing that you think like that, you think white people hae your best interest at heart? Embarrassing
That’s embarrassing that you think like that, you think white people hae your best interest at heart? Embarrassing
Morden day African parents don’t do that and it’s so wrong
Phil, 100% on point. I recall sitting in the Livingroom one evening. I dated a lady in college, and I was interviewed by the father and mother for an hour. My date was not in the room, because she had to stay at work late. They asked me some questions about my parents, my intentions, my career plans, etc. The relationship did not work, but I remained friends with the parents for many years.
Damn that's actually pretty decent I wasn't expecting the ending. I'm guessing the father is fond of you?
Yes@@jayo3074
Black parents do the same thing wdym? Name one black dad that ain’t looking into the background of a potential
I've been saying the same for quite awhile. White women in general (of course there are exceptions) don't stand at the finish line waiting for the winner of the race. White women can see the potential of the studious brother in class who rides the bus to school, while sisters are mainly checking for the star quarterback, point guard, or Pookie. This is why so many sisters miss out on successful Black men. Despite the popular narrative, most men don't forget the woman who gave them love when they had nothing.
No, not most men, just men in general.
Problem is they think when they get the guy with the potential and help him, they can also do whatever they want. They think they can talk to him however they want, treat him however they want, disrespect him, and mess around with other men behind his back because he's not yet the man that he will be in the future, because according to their thinking he'll get kingly treatment when he's a king, and while he's a peasant he'll get peasant treatment.
Do you honestly think that man is gonna stay around the moment he becomes successful?. No, he's gonna leave her where she is for someone new who'll respect and treat him better while she's left crying about how much she invested into him while leaving out the times she disrespected and belittled him.
@@Carolyn-vh4nzGod is not the author of confusion. Stop with your blasphemy
Gotdamn right.
@@stifler5062why are you mad?
@@Carolyn-vh4nz😂😂😂 omg!
Great video coverage Phillip 💯 Dr. Umar, is on point and you're speaking facts
I always felt like that as a Black man in regards to going back to a girl that didn't like me when I was broke. Why would I or anyone get to that level to intentionally move backwards?a
A lot of them want to do that with Pookie & Ray Ray, but a White Woman/Other Woman ain't going for those types unless she one of those too. Yeah, there are some Ratchet White/Other Women in America fellas.
Ik brother! I seen it with my own damn eyes 😭
I believe Umar was on point. I don’t like everything he says, but this was spot on. Judge Mathis talks about his wife’s family taking him after he just got in college and his mother died since they were better off and a middle class family. He always would mention them on his old show and show his gratitude
For a more concrete example instead of just saying potential. What other communities are looking for is "Competence, responsibility, consistency AND hard work".
If all of those things are already present in a man you can actually build him up to a degree.
But never fall in love with the potential to be a great rapper, ball player or anything else if he doesn't have those 4 qualities.
So true. Unfortunately, a lot of women will sacrifice their happiness as long as their bills and materialistic needs are met. Not changing anytime soon.
betta to be rich and miserable, than poor and miserable
@@Gizziiusa The suicide rate disagrees
yeah, sure it does. smh@@yangasidziya3245
I disagree. Lots of black women 'build a bear', and end up as single parents.🤷🏾♀️
Yep.....but everyone blames us
Yeah build a drug dealer bear
And that “build a bear” gave women all the red flags that women ignored🤷🏿♂️
@@thesilentdiva when a blind man could see that he wasn’t the one to “build with” why do women choose to still move forward? Remember men can’t do sexually what you ladies won’t allow🤷🏿♂️
There's time when women are with the man when he has nothing and helps him and when he gets on his feet, he decides to go get someone else forgetting the woman that helped raise him up.
that's because he was out of your league and you were low balling him.
Untrue, some men accepts the assistance. Plays with the woman's affection & leaves because he wanted/needed help, but not the woman who helped, just to try & come back because the "grass wasn't greener".
Depends, are helping a pookie or are you helping a quality black man? Most of you black women help pookies, that's not what Umar is talking about. Invest wisely in quality black men!
Men lost more in relationship so u thinking that way is invalid
This only happens with pookie and Ray ray. When you deal with real brothas, this happening is a rarity. We are speaking about what usually happens and you in here talking bout "sometimes" lol.
The only thing that can change Idiocracy and dysfunction is repetition of discernment and discipline.
Time change Phil, No one man can cover every single bill in the household these days, unless you are a millionaire or stupid. (If you can good for you.)
Amen! We don't have it like our grandparents. Inflation has outpaced wages for decades, and it's only getting worse. Racism makes it even harder.
@@MrDMC11889 true that
you're a racism victim. good luck in reality.
Agree, as an entrepreneur I don't think I can provide for a family even if I wanted one. I'm lucky enough to provide for myself. Inflation is no joke.
Exactly this dude keeps on saying that and he doesn’t understand its making things worse. He is outdated in whats going on
😂 Dr Umar, we conscience people already know that 🤷♂️
Yea, he’s not saying nothing new, besides all he does is talk, alot of hot air.🤨👊🏾😖
😅 Exactly sometimes I think Umar is low-key gay on the low because it seems like why is he always so obsessed with who other men are dating and marrying, especially other BM I don't know it just seems weird that a men is always so worried and obsessed with who other men are dating or marrying especially other BM just seems kinda suspect 😂
Sadly alot of common sense is not common anymore alot of people don't know about this especially making life choiceses
@ryanherelle4618 I know right the Dick Policing is real and check this out he has now started to Pussy Policing BW as well dude just seems weird to me 😅😅
Do whatever/whoever you want. Umar is a nobody strutting around like a peacock making fatherless households.
I don't agree at all! A lot of us have helped them when they were nothing, and when he is together with the help of our hands and work, then they leave for the white women or other races. There is some truth to this, but not all!
You got with them to feel like you're in control. You forgot that part.
It’s never “all”🤷🏿♂️
@@robertcortez3526 That is not true for all, some yes!
No, you have been helping pookies, not quality black men.
@@robinsonfamily222Facts.
My sister use to say she's not getting with a fixer upper! I often wonder why, she had more than enough resources to help a person excell in their life together. She died alone, no husband, no children, and left cousins and friends fighting over her estates.
@robinsonfamily3948 Yes, she tried to live a good life with so much work & prestige and responsibilities that it wasn't easy and always lonely for her, and I truly hope that she is at peace and not alone anymore.
Sorry for your loss. Your sister was a wise woman just a poor planner of who get her belongings after she passed.
@listentoauntrobin9617 She named names, and those of us who were absolutely guarded of her are well off. I would give it all back to have her here, healthy, happy, and not alone.
@@decemberwhite3219 I see your admiration for your sister. It’s wonderful she named names. She adored those she named. If it was her choice to live alone maybe you could honor her by accepting her choice is life style. No everyone woman want children or a husband. Those things does not transcend happiness to all women. A lot of women with said lifestyle are miserable and they lie about being happy. Facts, my mom was one of those kind of women. She made everyone’s life miserable.
@listentoauntrobin9617 Thank you, and I do understand not everyone was meant or is built for that life. However, she was. She wanted it but never could find the right time. It was never the right time to fall in love or nurture a relationship. It was never the right time to keep her babies (my body! my choice!) Smh, it was never the right time to stop!! Then time flew bye to quickly.
I love how he spoke on both sides of the coin on this one, because most black women see potential in black men to a fault.
How do you know that?
Have you spoken to most black women?
When it comes to the women in my life, most tried with me. Everyone's experience is different.
Most black women? Y'all see potential in pookie 💩 and Ray Ray 💩💩💩💩💩💩💩??? Because that's all y'all choose. I don't see y'all get with the hard working men ........those are the ones that have the potential not the 💩💩
1990??!?!! What video is this?!?! 😂😂😂
Exactly! Been there done that. It just breeds resentment when it’s a black woman on both sides.
Tiktok has been around since 1990, you didn’t know that? 😂😂😂
Dr. Unar is dropping knowledge for once in his life. A lot of successful black men were rejected by black women early in their life.
A lot of men were rejected by women early in their life.
This applies to all men.
Even a broken clock is right twice a day.
@@incognit01233no it doesn’t bw are far worse look at the out of wedlock rates with children
@@igpxmasterBingo
He shouldn’t generalize because there are a lot of us who have been with black men who have potential and it didn’t work out.
pookie doesn't count
@@jabbaweezyright 🤣🤣🤣
The bw more than likely could have been the problem and the reason it did not work out.
@@jabbaweezyyou guys are all pookies
@@CaramelCali yeah I’m sure all those men y’all call squares are pookies too 🥴
Phil is actually arguing against himself here. A woman cannot invest in a man on the ground floor, while expecting him to be the sole provider simultaneously. That makes no sense. And when you factor in that most of the accelerated programs are for girls and women, how are men expected to be these super providers in the face of outstanding inflation? None of that makes sense.
Do most men naturally want to pay all the bills? Yes. That's how we're wired. It makes us proud and feeds our souls to build and prosper financially for the family. However in this US-based society, most functioning households need 2 incomes to get by. Hell, that logic applies to most countries these days. So this is a false reality. And believing that this is achievable en masse, is destructive. Don't be a hero. Just adapt and survive.
I have live in a 2 parent household and both work 😂
Like most 2 parent household
@CCLL-ok5on🎉
Getting the bag is the worst statement
Exactly 💯
We have been doing this for so long already Dr. Umar‼️‼️
We definitely need to have our villages in our community.The sad thing is,is that it didn't seem as bad when I was growing up. A lot of the attitudes that are accepted now wasn't acceptable decades ago.
Black women have done potential. And potential left us for someone else. Hell no. I'm not Barbara the builder.
Exactly! Becky and whoever else can have is potential black @$$!
Lmao yall are losing
Getting pregnant by drug dealers and criminals is not potential 😂😂
13 years, no school, no progress = the long game
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He has the school. He had shown his school. 😄
@@honeybrownsugga6866 Thank You!!!! We quick to talk about the problems but slow on solutions.
DAMN, THAT SCHOOL AIN'T BUILT YET?!!!
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Respect - excellent info. I’m dealing with this right now with my daughter. He’s a good guy, had a couple of setbacks but work ethic, character, and integrity are intact.
I disagree with Dr Umar. I'm a black woman & and have always been of the mindset of dating black men not for what they had. For me, it s about their integrity, being respectful, values & morals,. I've never been materialistic. I'm the type of woman that will support her man to reach his potential & would want him to do the same for me.
And how did that work out for you???
Lipservice all you women lie
@@xSYNDICATEDx All of us don't. It's just the ones you've been dealing with.
I'm telling you, I know women who have lifted a man with new clothing, attitude, and new job, they still left to become baby daddies 😅
Never had a black woman to support my dreams sorry not sorry
I disagree with investing in a man who’s NOT your husband. I unfortunately was a fool and invested in the dreams of two relationships and got screwed over. Both men and women should be able to care for themselves and thats a fair expectation 💁🏽♀️💜 I also wished I had a father to guide me through my dating endeavors, I would’ve made better decisions.
Umar needs to get his donations on the long game lol
I always did dislike how people refer to WW as "snow bunnies" as if they are something "top shelf" to be coveted. Love who you love, but to me they ain't deserving of some ridiculous ass stamp of affection nickname like that.
Yup plus some WW do gray divorce lol....
The meaning of snow bunny is actually a negative term. People have been using it incorrectly.
Sunday December 3rd 2023, 2142hrs
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@dubbD84...you're right, it's basically putting them on a pedestal
It's a racial slur.
Retain skills is rare regardless of race in America. Protect yourself at all times, Gentlemen
My Father Heard A Comment My Daughter Father Said About Me 16 Years Ago, He Gave So Advice & I Left Him A Year Later
Thank You Dad; Miss You
Keep hearing this myth that BW makes more than BM, and the stats do not prove that.
Exactly it's just excuse for non wanted bw ( and it's alot)
the stats come from black woman being in school more or more educated than black men or having more degrees , regardless if its useless in the real world
@@rasulsamad5860yeah and they said they are the most educated. When actually BM are. There are 2 million more BW than BM. They are the most enrolled.
I’ve seen it as well Phil. I know of a guy who had a good women help him out but the brother just couldn’t and still can’t get right. I’ve also seen it the other way around.
We play the long game too ,real long 😂
ALL OTHER RACES OF WOMEN PICK THE LONG GAME AND BLACK WOMEN PICK SWAG… Dear black women, how’s that working out for you?
Exactly 💯💯
As a black man who was evicted from the COMMUNITAH. This is bad comedy.
When You Build Your Man Up; He Appreciates The Work You Put In Him & The Belief You Had In Him (Potential)
Hypergamy happens across cultures BUT it is generally more pronounced in Black American culture. That's why many black women go after athletes and entertainers (have the 'bag' now but likely not in the future) when they should be dating dentists, engineers and CPAs with a solid future (a 'bag' that grows and grows for decades, maybe generations). Like he said, short vs long-term thinking.
Well now bw just got up on hypergamy. Other cultures have done this since the beginning.
A perfect observation by Dr Johnson right there. He is talking about under normal circumstances and the vast majority!
I will say he is making a good point about mindset in potential wives.
Boy that sounded a lot different from the usual . Great Observation Dr. Umar.
There is nothing wrong with wanting the bag. The problem is how they want to get it. A smart man would gladly provide for a woman that put the work in by being at your side when all you had was values and,grind and intelligence and you were in shape and a regular job. The problem is they just want to do almost ANYTHING outside of morals,putting in work and empathy.
These are the bullet points that Kevin Samuel was saying. It’s about time he got aligned.
My uncle is like that. He is a fantastic father-figure!! I absolutely adore him!!! ❤❤
Unfortunately this doesn’t work for us sisters
Unless your a preference aka white he will rarely invest in you
We see this
Even Kanye rapped about this
Exactly
Lol y’all don’t listen that’s the problem 😂
There are millions of black men around the globe. You just have to be picked by one. Roughly 75% of new marriages with black men are to black women. So the odds are in your favor.
White man will invest his DNA, fair complexion, light eyes and good hair all up in sisters and for many sisters that's good enough
@@automatic_systematicmy baby gonna look prettier than me
My son is at the Air Force Academy. This white girl is playing the long game with him. He is going to be a black fighter pilot. But I am on my job so this won’t turn out like she wants. But she didn’t get him to the Air Force Academy. His mother and a I did.
Never knew fathers/men played this game as well…interesting
But what if this white girl is the one for him?? Good for him getting into USAFA...but one thing has nothing to do with the other. If this kid can fly fighter jets he can stare anything down I would guess..
He's gonna have to learn on his own, here on th ground and at the stick of an F-22/F-35..
Ask me how I know..
excellent analysis !
I left a trail of angry black women that preyed on my downfall after not choosing/cooperating! I thank God for that motivation! Me winning is an understatement and my example is nesasarry for future generations. I'm an example for both the young women and men in my vicinity.
Bring back shame & Black Excellence.
Bring back shame.
Bring back black excellence.
I love that you said this.
I pray that you are not the next Jonathan Majors. That will.ok for you as long as it not a woman that looks like you.
@@Renrens-LionessofJudah I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two black women now, but I do/did date interracialy in my travels. There's something attractive in all women. Everyone has value. Everyone isn't going to be valuable to everyone though. The mid 40's version of me is attracted to peace, so I can continue to be successful. I have an example to set for my son's and a standard to maintain for my daughters. As far as women go... If their "Parents" taught them how to identify people of value, while being of value themselves, we'd all be in a much better place in a shorter amount of time.
@@Renrens-LionessofJudah he is J. Majors incarnate. Look at his face 😂.
I'll take the long game over the one that never begins.
Just admit it Umar. YOU GOT SNOW BUNNY FEVER.
😂😂😂😂😂
I see it.
😂😂😂💯
What he said hold facts though
Yep yep finally his raisin eyes are opened
What happened to the school???... when you build a man, he will resent you
Because we have never heard the story of a Black woman standing by a mans side, and as soon as he gets rich, he leaves her for another race. OK
Yeah okay.
EXACTLY, IT HAPPENS ALL THE TIME. WE WERE GROOM TO STAND BY OUR MEN EVEN AFTER THE DISAPPOINTMENTS. WE WOKE UP. GO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE. YOU DON'T NEED AN EXCUSE TO DATE WHITE OR ANY RACE THAT IS. STOP USING BLACK WOMEN AS AN EXCUSE. DO YOU!!!!!
Savannah James
As a BM, I tried working with the BW here and there in the US. I wanted someone to start with me while I am working towards the top. All I got from the American BW was stabbed in the back. When it comes to US bw, I almost have to sacrifice beauty to obtain loyalty. I can't give up beauty, fertile, youth, and no kids, in order to have a submissive loyal woman. Even if she's hispanic, if her close friends are under that sick influence, she's gone to. I'm in Brazil next month, let's see how that works..🤷♂️
Gd luck
I’ll be in Brazil February I had enough the system has successfully broke bw
Try east Europe to brother they love black men Poland Estonia lativa
Everybody had their own opinions but the man knows what he's talking about and he's good at it and if you can't understand where he coming from he's not the problem you are❤❤❤
Good stuff by Dr. Umar..
Blk queens potential doesn’t mean a man who is unemployed and the king of 2k while rolling around his bed with a ash tray but he 6ft tall😂
It's about control and appearance
Good advice Phillip Scott.
I don't agree one of the biggest differences with African women and European women when it comes to African men is that European women hunt for African men for which is African men that are already rich.
They date Pookies and NugNug thinking they have potential.
A few kids and a decade later, they have too much baggage to date based on potential. The bills are do today. They need the six figures now.
That’s pretty the dating cycle in our community.
Bad talent scouts
Phil, you should be an expert in this!
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Thats a nice sweater Phil
I agree it takes both sides that children should listen to
Lovely ladies as a Foundational Black American man I'm going 2 tell u if invest in some dude's dream business 1 don't go bankrupt 2 your name has gotta be on that business papers real talk & get a prenuptial agreement nuff said .
It may be a bigger problem than that. I'll call it the "instant coffee problem" that is rampant in black communities. In Africa, they all want to be like Gates, Bezos etc. - minus the hard work, of course. Go for one or two, heavy, and often crooked deals, and voila, you're a billionaire! The concept of slow, steady, painstaking growth seems foreign.
Mr Phillip Scott u and Dr Umar should speak personally
Brother Umar be dropping knowledge. Salute to brother Umar 💪💯
Great content thank u as man with a Daughter this got me realy thinking deep
Umar becoming red pilled in real time is hilarious 😂
Great podcast, Mr. Scott.
Some BM no matter how much potential you see in them and strive to help and stick around them for “the long game”… Already have their mind made up of leaving you for a WW anyways!
Choose better!
@@Reignsupreme76 They need to stop faking like they are and be better!
Preach
We were better..we are better.
We left. You should ask yourselves, really why that continues to happen.
You opened the door we walked thru it.
Preach on that...
@@rocnnrollbus You sound like an oxymoron. Who said I was letting men like you in?
I said some black men.. but if the shoe fits wear it. Trust me you won’t be missed lol.. They can have you 🤭
Wow!😮Dr Umah is talking Facts! Facts!!!
Dr Umar is spot on with this.
He spoke facts
All women look towards potential, most people get together young, that's all you got at that moment.
Umm i beg to differ. I have numerous friends with white women and some are the sorriest mfs I met, but still my bro. And they not trying to build a damn thing. I think its a case to case situation. I feel sometimes we can be so woke we sleep.
He makes a Good Point 😎👍
Just Stop 🛑 explaining Why those others are better for you.
It's just history repeating itself and Black Women and Girls will be okay. 🦋
Nobody gives AF about y'all. If you're hurt just say that, hard headed and delusional is all you are. 🤗😩
Playing the long game is present in black households as well. The thing with the long game is its long and so many think long is until things aren't their way. Great content.
I agree with him on this one he’s speaking facts for sure💯
Absolutely, I don't know why we are celebrating single motherhood. My sister told me I was old fashion because her friend's daughter was having a baby at 17 and they were giving her a babyshower, and I asked why is this being celebrated?
Umar is the king of half truths but he is correct. MinisterJap made a video "Men Like What They See, Women Like Who You Are" that basically sums up this topic
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20 more years of Donations The Long Game To Get Dat School😂
I just said the same thing. He's playing the long game too. 🤣😅😂
Well the school is already built and ready to be open next year
@@arushanioshaka5600 Yeah ok haaaaa been hearing that for DECADES
@@IAmRetiredSoon just google it and he has already showed it
@@arushanioshaka5600so he’s got staff salaries budget curriculum
And students ready to go?
Also, Is umar going to call out the black women who marries white men? Why is he always going at black men marrying white women?
“We have to take responsibility because they have a poor selection,”
Glad he added context on why they have a “poor selection.”
Dr Umar is actually 100% right with this, I've personally witnessed this for myself not just white women but even Asian, Arabs and mixed women so this.
It's not just potential, but they tend to show interest in a black man's personality/morals as well. A lot of western blk women care more about financial status than a man's character or integrity.
Black women are getting their getting dating advice from Nikki Minaj and Cardi B. And random dating blogs online
The majority of BW won’t invest in BM, for she’s conditioned to defy brothers, yet be submissive to other men.
Jeezy bout to find out the hard way