How Do We Stay So Positive During Our Fertility Journey?

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  • Опубліковано 28 тра 2024
  • We put out a request for more questions and these were the most commonly asked! There's one we're saving though and that will be its own video. A lot to unpack about that topic. Hoping this info and advice continues to help others going through a similar situation!
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  • @beachbum7425
    @beachbum7425 15 днів тому +31

    After 9 years of infertility treatments 5 miscarriages and a lot of tears we reevaluated and said we have such a beautiful life and marriage,let’s focus on the beautiful things we do have. We’re married now almost 31 years. Love our 🐈 cats, and enjoy being the fave aunt and uncle. It takes awhile to heal your heart. But it can happen Best wishes to both of you❤

  • @strengthcomfortmedia6104
    @strengthcomfortmedia6104 16 днів тому +26

    My husband and I never had children. We helped many teens in our area and we even prevented teen suicides. We stay creative and run a global peace program. We would have enjoyed children but it was not possible in this lifetime. However we do really feel happy and fulfilled, because we are providing so much service to our community and the world.

  • @cmeflywva
    @cmeflywva 18 днів тому +84

    Please stop asking them if they have thought of adoption. "There are so many kids who need homes." I don't think you understand how hurtful it is for couples to be told they need to consider adoption and then make them feel guilty for wanting children of their own. Most of the people who ask this question have not adopted and only have children of their own. I'm sure they have deep discussions on their available options for children. The process for an adoption itself is long and can be stressful. Please give them and their medical providers every opportunity to have children of their own.
    When comments like these are made, it can make couples feel as though they are selfish. Jessi and Alesso deserve respect for sharing their journey, and I'm sure there are people out there benefitting from their information. They didn't have to share this highly private part of their lives with us.

    • @ambergoesviolining3318
      @ambergoesviolining3318 18 днів тому +25

      I get what you're saying, but I'd like to add to that--I'm an adoptive mother, and I am BEGGING people to stop using the phrase "children of their own, children of your own, etc." What you mean is "biological children." Nothing hurts me more than when someone says to me, "but don't you want children of your own?" "Why didn't you have children of your own?" My adopted daughter IS my own. She is no less my own daughter than if I carried her inside my body. Language and word choice matters. Please say "biogical children" when that's what you mean.

    • @Al-isthatyou
      @Al-isthatyou 18 днів тому +2

      Totally right. They don't have to share ANYTHING.

    • @cmeflywva
      @cmeflywva 17 днів тому +5

      @ambergoesviolining3318 You made a great point and I thank you for reminding me of this attitude from some people. A similar situation that occurs is with blended families and children having to face being asked about step-parents when this not the case for some families. A lot of people see step parents as their real parents and vice versa for the parents. Some people may have never known their biological parent or parents and shouldn't be made to feel different due to societal norms.

    • @daisy9910
      @daisy9910 17 днів тому +2

      I've been asked this, and in my country, adoptions are open. So the bio parents can have contact. This is not always a positive experience for the child and can be very unsettling.

    • @marjoriekeough4284
      @marjoriekeough4284 17 днів тому +4

      @@daisy9910 We have both, and much depends on the state. For closed adoptions where I am, the child may obtain the original birth certificate when (s)he reaches adulthood. The bio parents are allowed to file preference with the state, and if they don't want contact with the child the child will be told when obtaining the birth certificate. The child still gets all of the bio parents info on the birth certificate, though. This is how it should be.

  • @lesleydickens8831
    @lesleydickens8831 16 днів тому +5

    Imagine if we told people that certain foods would prevent pregnancy! It’s just as crazy and you don’t need anymore stress when you are on this journey. Don’t ever beat yourself up because you are doing the best you can. Praying for the both of you!

  • @babs546
    @babs546 18 днів тому +15

    I appreciate that you have a positive attitude towards a life without children. It’s not an empty and sad life. Thank you for reminding yourselves and everyone else about it.

  • @mare5718
    @mare5718 15 днів тому +5

    So I have been through pretty much everything you are going through except the IVF. Had many cysts, many surgeries, a lot of scar tissue and years and years of pain. After much prayer we made the decision to adopt. Our son is almost 34 now. Praying you two find peace and wisdom that only the Lord can give. God Bless.

  • @fallonbrooks1248
    @fallonbrooks1248 18 днів тому +34

    I love you both so much. We have had 6 failed transfers this year, moving to surrogacy. I have watched your channel long before you shared your fertility journey. You are amazing people, and I appreciate you being so candid. I look forward to your updates and pray for you all of the time. Xoxo

  • @GinnyScates
    @GinnyScates 18 днів тому +10

    Positivity is found inside of us... I've been in and out of hospitals since I was 2 (34 now), i went through a rare disease, three cancers, multiple surgeries, uncountable side effects, been deaf since I was 3, two years ago I even lost my ability to walk due to nerves damage... and I'm always the most positive person in the room.
    The point is, shit happens.
    Don't be sad because you're deaf, be happy because you can turn on your earing devices when you want to listen and turn it off when you need some quiet.
    Don't be sad that you're not walking, be happy that you have a wheelchair to move around and think that you're lucky to not be forced in bed.
    You're sick? It sucks, I know... the pain, the fatigue, the frustration of not seeing any way out of it... but you can choose whether to only see the bad side of it, or focus on any "not so bad" things that happen to you day after day.
    YOU have the power to change things. Start with small things, remind yourself that you're doing it to improve your situation.
    If you try to change things, you can succeed or fail. If you don't try, you'll only fail.
    Jessi and Alessio are right, tho. You need support, and you need to find out what really matters to you. Don't be afraid of your emotions.
    In my opinion, the only limits are physics and death.
    Love yourself, you're amazing ❤

  • @Susan-cooks
    @Susan-cooks 17 днів тому +11

    Jessi, I also struggle with anxiety and tend to over think even the smallest things. I've had multiple surgeries and have reached a point that I almost look forward to the anesthesia because it's a relief to have my mind medically shut off so I get some sleep! Since I have not experienced your challenges, I can't pretend to understand your battle against endometriosis or the IVF journey you and Alessio are going through, however, I can emphasize and keep you both in my prayers.
    What I didn't hear either of you mention in this video is the importance of communication. You two are clearly a strong, loving, understanding and communicative couple. I think communicating with and understanding each other are major reasons you've been able to remain positive. You two should take credit for your communication skills because you are clearly extremely proficient in the often difficult art of it ❤

  • @saramathenysweeney6537
    @saramathenysweeney6537 17 днів тому +7

    “Just don’t stress” is such a frustrating thing! Of course those of us struggling with infertility don’t want to be stressed. That and “it’ll happen once you stop trying” are so diminishing.

  • @ednuijen3243
    @ednuijen3243 18 днів тому +15

    I am really interested in your story. Instead of giving advise on how to fix your problem (eat differently etc.) I will send you my support and love ❤️, you are the best judges of your situation. Again, ❤ your videos, stay strong and healthy. From France 🇫🇷 with love.

  • @travelagentify
    @travelagentify 17 днів тому +6

    Thank you so much for sharing! I had my third transfer today after pregnancy loss earlier this year. All the best to you and everyone in the comments section. ❤️

  • @ellendorian
    @ellendorian 15 днів тому +2

    I admire you so much for continuing to share your journey, even when people's comments are less sensitive. Thank you. I was lucky to have a great support group when I was going through my own fertility struggles, but not everyone has that. I love following you for everything you share.

  • @DeathsAsylum.DW300s
    @DeathsAsylum.DW300s 17 днів тому +5

    Love u guys, i never had kids due to many medical issues im almost 45 and my husband almost 50 our two kitties are our fur babies, you don’t need children to have a full life ❤

  • @JohnSheehan72
    @JohnSheehan72 11 днів тому +1

    Keep staying positive. I'm Irish, Italian and French. A true American mutt. Your journey is your journey, and just be grateful. My dad's first wife lost multiple births before they found out she had a rare blood disease. She passed away not to long after, and somehow he met my mother and ... here I am. You can be sad, you can be depressed, but just keep going. Your journey will affect many others.

  • @jadebeam3029
    @jadebeam3029 15 днів тому +2

    My husband and I struggled for 6 years because of my PCOS. I then ended up getting pregnant at 37 almost 38 years old!!! I am so sorry y'all are having to go through this I understand how hard it can be. We are praying for you and your future family 🙏🙏

  • @Eloiseat6
    @Eloiseat6 18 днів тому +21

    I’ve never had kids, and I don’t regret it at all! I’ve been a professor of film studies for my entire career-here in the U.S. and at a university in Europe. I’ve also worked with kids as a volunteer tutor-in Italy, as a matter of fact. I live a rich and fulfilling life and if I could, I’d foster both dogs and cats for rescues. Unfortunately, my living situation doesn’t allow it. So I have a cat and have had cats for 30 years. I’m certainly not drawing comparisons, but it seems to me you guys really love each other and support each other. You have no end of things you do and want to do in life. Those things are a recipe for a great life!
    I hope, in the event that you can’t have a baby, that you really do practice radical acceptance. I’ve done that a number of times, and it has helped me immeasurably. However you do it, or whatever you call it, meeting yourself exactly where you are, in my experience, is the key to happiness.

    • @Michigoose
      @Michigoose 18 днів тому +6

      Beautifully said. I chose to not have children, and this is a cat household. A&J, if one is near you, hubs and I have experienced so much joy from fostering cats and kittens from the Humane Society. You pay for nothing (depending on the place you choose, YMMV). They give you food, supplies, vet care, everything. ALL you have to do is love them, socialize them if needed, and share some of your photos with potential adopters. You'll see Micha turn into a kitten again. Our cats are older, and they get so playful when a newbie comes into the mix. When you foster a cat that you fall in love in, and Micha is sleeping in the same bed and washing their face, you can join the "Foster Fail" club.
      There are many, many ways to leave a legacy. Love each other, and love yourselves.

  • @corrieclark6718
    @corrieclark6718 18 днів тому +5

    Unless you have a chronic condition it can be hard for others to understand their well meaning questions can hurt. It’s also hard for those with chronic conditions to remember people are asking if you have tried xyz because they want to help. Or maybe something did help them or someone they know. I know for me it can be a slap in the face. You are already dealing with your body letting you down. Most people have tried all the things. So it gets annoying and frustrating when people ask if you have done this or that. Or when you shoot down their idea because you know it will not work for your situation.
    I love your mentality and perspective. My prayers are with you

  • @marieledu8228
    @marieledu8228 15 днів тому +2

    You're such a beautiful couple. And I must say, Jessie, you're absolutely gorgeous. Graceful, luminous.. Your smile bless us all.
    In my prayers, I visualise you two holding your newborn with tears of happiness in your eyes. It feels so real, I'm sure it's coming.
    Lots of love from France (yeah... Sorry Alessio 😁❤️)

  • @chrisanderson9856
    @chrisanderson9856 11 днів тому +1

    I wish you both the best of luck on your journey thru this infertility struggle.
    My wife and I went thru all this same struggle between 2006 and 2010. It was heartbreaking to watch my wife go thru the ups and downs associated with Endo, PCOS, and other fertility issues. We did what you are doing. However, my wife decided in 2009 that after many failed attempts and much pain, she opted for a total hysterectomy. I've never felt so much love for her as when she made the decision to put her health first.
    My God bless you both. We send prayers to you on this journey.

    • @OliviaLee777
      @OliviaLee777 10 днів тому

      I am so sorry to hear about your wife's struggles. With all the fertility issues, did she ever have her methylate levels checked? It's something I came across a couple of days ago doing research about migraines and I found out depending on where the levels are at will cause PCOS, endometriosis, other fertility issues, migraines, mental and neurological issues.

  • @BlueBird-nf2gp
    @BlueBird-nf2gp 17 днів тому +3

    I’m glad you’ve found ways to keep a positive outlook as much as possible. Best wishes on your journey. ❤😊

  • @CuteNP
    @CuteNP 17 днів тому +5

    So grateful for you guys and your posts. I’m too shy to comment on Facebook so thank you for having a platform on UA-cam ❤ I went through 2 IVF cycles. First resulted in ectopic and second just didn’t take. I’ve been so sad about it. Thank you for talking about your journey. It’s so helpful and makes me feel less alone ❤

  • @CarmelaV59
    @CarmelaV59 13 днів тому +1

    Just continue to be your positive, beautiful, happy selves!
    I have had RA for almost 25 years and continue to get the same advice from people, i.e., that if I would only give up: gluten, meat, diary, nightshades, wine, bla, bla, bla. And, yes, it feels judgmental - almost like it’s your fault you have a medical condition. I have tried eliminating all of the above, to NO effect (I have found that limiting alcohol does seem to make a difference) other than being more stressed trying to figure out what the heck to eat and cook. I confess I was beyond relieved that giving up gluten and nightshades didn’t make a difference because life without pasta, good bread/bruschetta, tomatoes or eggplant would be more than I could bear! I need my pasta and caponata!!! 😂😂😂 Keep the faith!

  • @kiouria90
    @kiouria90 17 днів тому +2

    Guys! Listening to you made me remember our fertility journey, it is not so long as yours.. But! I had struggles mentally to accept that we have a problem in conceiving, i was crying every single moment, I didn't want to see anyone.. I did a lot of therapy that helped me to get rid some of these feelings, try IVF (although it was difficult financialy for us) and try to have our precious baby.. Meanwhile I realized that I love my husband, I love travelling and having a good time with him, I have my 2 beautiful cats that I love so much...and that was something that made me be less depressed day by day..
    Be positive and everything will be fine! I hope that your story will have a happy ending.. It already has a happy ending, you have each other! And Micia of course!!❤ (Sorry if my English are broken, Balkan here!!😂)

  • @petitfour7687
    @petitfour7687 16 днів тому +3

    Wishing you all the best guys!!!❤❤❤ Love to Micia too

  • @lburbs
    @lburbs 17 днів тому +2

    Wishing you a successful surgery and fast recovery. May your journey end up with a healthy, happy mom and baby.

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 13 днів тому +1

    Aw! I'm glad that you have neices and nephews to love and care for! That is amazing! :)

  • @Ambimom
    @Ambimom 17 днів тому +2

    Life is a journey. Yours may be a difficult one, but when you look back, it'll make sense. 🌺❤🌼

  • @helenemalenfant5435
    @helenemalenfant5435 8 днів тому

    You will find your own path and what works for you. Both my sister and I had fertility issues. She had endometriosis. Mine took longer to sort out as an underlying endocrine problem with my adrenal glands it was too late by the time it got discovered. But, frankly, I took a different approach because I saw my sister become obsessed with becoming pregnant. She went on fertility drugs for way way too long and it impacted her mental health, they tried IVF which failed and she unraveled as did her marriage. I was in graduate school until quite late and by the time I was even looking into these issues I was already older and I had a number of complex health issues so it was a no brainer for me to just reformulate. I love kids but I refused to torment myself as I saw her do. It sounds like you’ve gone through a similar process and are moving forward, hoping for the best, but appreciating what you have.. I’m sure you will still have challenging times emotionally but your overall mindset and outlook is a positive one.
    And regarding lifestyle and nutrition…yes, it can affect any illness. Anything autoimmune or inflammatory, somewhat more. So yes you want to optimize, as you’ve been doing, but it’s not going to cure endometriosis. I feel your frustration. My husband has a rare bone marrow cancer and has the absolute best team who saved his life against odds. And, although well intentioned, I have friends saying he needs to eat this (actually, no, that’s not healthy for him post stem cell transplant), or use CBD oil…the guy is needing daily platelets and blood to stay alive every day with complex coordinated care but avoiding gluten will do it. So, yes, people are well intentioned but it can be a tad frustrating sometimes. Anyhow, all the best to both of you. When times are rough, remember to cherish one another. It’s been a protracted battle for us but we try to turn it around that we are both still alive and lucky to have one another.

  • @Tureckymed
    @Tureckymed 15 днів тому +1

    Sweethearts 🥺 You bring so much joy and laughter, I didn’t imagine the struggle you go through. May you live the happiest and the most fulfiling life ❤

  • @daisy9910
    @daisy9910 17 днів тому +5

    I just want to point out that Mischa is your first child, and will always be a child 😅 I too wanted biological children, but it didn't happen with my husband. I am now going through perimenopause, and the odds of pregnancy would be small. Be happy within your selves first, everything else is icing on the cake. PS. I'm a mother to 3 cats and 1 puppy.

  • @hbee921
    @hbee921 17 днів тому +2

    Blessings to you both. Prayers...hugs...❤🙏🏻 I don't know of your struggles...but I recently lost a child. So steps of loss.
    .and your steps of discouragement trying. Sending hugs and prayers ❤🙏🏻

  • @user-ep1nf4qj6m
    @user-ep1nf4qj6m 18 днів тому +4

    I was much older when i married and we tried for a few years and i had 2 micarriages. Ultimately my nieces and nephews were the recipients of our love. We are the fun aunt and uncle. My niece asked me to go on her high school art trip to Florence. I wentand to this day we atill talk aboutour magical time together. Di i wish we had a child---yes, but there are things we cannot control. My husband was as suport as Alessio and believe me, that is vital to any relationshp especiaaly in this situation. Know that you both are on my nightly rosary list. Only love and good wishes. JESSI ---YOU EAT THAT COOKIE. LOL.

  • @user-sw3np7je1c
    @user-sw3np7je1c 18 днів тому +5

    Great post. As with most things in life, half the battle is deciding on your game plan and it looks like you both have an excellent one moving forward. Wishing you all the luck in your baby journey. ❤❤❤

  • @amyo1344
    @amyo1344 15 днів тому +4

    Your journey is helping me not feel alone in our journey of infertility. I have PCOS and we haven’t been able to conceive for a year and a half now and I’ve been watching all my friends have babies and boy it is hard. We’ve had set backs so we haven’t been able to try fertility treatments yet like IUI or IVF. So my heart goes out to you guys. Infertility is hard, but I’m glad you guys are sharing your story to help others not feel alone.

    • @OliviaLee777
      @OliviaLee777 10 днів тому

      Have you heard of methylate and have you had those levels checked? Depending on what your levels are at, it can cause endometriosis and other fertility, mental, and neurological issues. I came across this information a couple of days ago doing research on migraines.

  • @sharonmulloy2181
    @sharonmulloy2181 18 днів тому +3

    I spent an enormous amount of time and money trying to adopt as i really felt called to be a parent. When (for various reasons) it didn't work out, it was very sad. I think you're right about the value of therapy and the work you need to do to find value in a different life. That said, I pray that your hopes result in a positive outcome. Thank you for sharing your journey.

  • @z.a.r.777
    @z.a.r.777 18 днів тому +2

    Hello. My daughter in law went through all, and still does. It's heartbreaking. Now she wants to adopt. Lord willing everything will work out

  • @cherylsouza4926
    @cherylsouza4926 18 днів тому +4

    Thanks for the update. Glad to hear the present cyst has calmed down at this time. If we were neighbors I sure would be loving on Micia while you were in Italy. Cat Mom here! 💜

  • @TinaPauHana
    @TinaPauHana 18 днів тому +4

    Stay positive, I've had an ectopic pregnancy and am cyst prone. I also totally understand the feeling when you are so ready to have a baby and all you see are babies, baby mommas, it's frustrating (I can tell you stories on how I felt. So many feelings...). Hang in there and stay postitive. Now that I look back (I'm in my 60's now) I realize it's a marathon than a sprint. I am sorry you two are going through this, but know there are many of your viewers who are wishing you the best. btw- I now have two beautiful babies (they are 30 and 27, but are always my babies)

  • @kristinmaguireDeadhead65
    @kristinmaguireDeadhead65 11 днів тому +1

    You both are awesome! Great attitude!

  • @jakesbel8237
    @jakesbel8237 18 днів тому +8

    My husband was international pilot doing lot of flying for the military (he was retired military). After 9/11 he was flying in and out of war zones being shot at when taking off and landing. I prayed a lot and I was thanking God he was home safe and sound for a few days. Then God let me know it didn’t matter if he was home, on a trip, or flying only He knew what day, year, and time and I didn’t control it or keep him for one extra second. I stopped worrying about. I was scared at times then I have to remember God has it.
    As DES Daughter I was told I would not live past 30. I turn 69 next month. Lot of surgeries and little anxiety but it’s in God’s hands.

    • @lynndinovo3500
      @lynndinovo3500 12 днів тому +1

      You are certainly one of God's very best

  • @petitfour7687
    @petitfour7687 16 днів тому +1

    Looove Jessie's pyjama with the cat!

  • @mariankay6482
    @mariankay6482 18 днів тому +4

    God bless you both. Praying for health and healing and I pray you prosper, in all ways, as your soul prospers. God knows your needs and desires and He will give you the answers you seek and bless you with what you need and some of your wants.
    Romans 8:28
    This comes from a 62 year old woman who's been married for 42 years with no children of our own. We wanted them earlier in marriage and like you just thought that's what was supposed to happen. We have been blessed with the love of so many children. Scripture says that a woman with no children of her own will be the mother of many. Yeah, that's me! I love our life and I am thankful, now, that we didn't have any children. Life works out, now matter how it works out.
    I am not sayint our path is yours, at all! I am just saying this is where I am. God has His plans for you 2 and no one's lives work out the same. I want Gods best for you 2. Just keeps loving each other and living your lives and blessing where you can and it will all be fine!❤️🙂🙏🙌

  • @DinaMadi23
    @DinaMadi23 12 днів тому

    Hey guys! Always lovely to see your beaming faces! I know everyone wants to throw their 2 cents and it's because despite never having met you, we all truly care. So here is my question: Have you ever looked into something called Histamine Intolerance or MCAS? As I heard it can be closely related to endometriosis. It's a disorder that can manifest in a plethora of ways depending on the person. I have it and have been managing it for years now and things have gotten a lot better. Once you read up about it many things may click. You can listen to Michelle Shapiro, RD and Organic Olivia on UA-cam, they really knows what they're talking about. In bocca al lupo and looking forward to your next update 😘

  • @carolynturk-hu7je
    @carolynturk-hu7je 18 днів тому +5

    God bless you both! Sending good vibes, thoughts and prayers your way always!😊❤

  • @davidholiday4494
    @davidholiday4494 18 днів тому +2

    great to see you guys again!!!!

  • @birtajonsdottir9910
    @birtajonsdottir9910 12 днів тому

    My heart goes out to you guys. ❤ I have endometriosis, and my husband and I never made it to the finish line with IVF. I have adhesions too, and as a result, I had only one functioning tube. Then we had an ectopic pregnancy with the remaining tube. It was gut-wrenching to go through at the time, but my husband and I decided to regroup and focus on living our best life. We saved up to open a restaurant instead of spending all of our money on IVF, and it all worked out for the best in the end. Having said that, I really do hope we see a baby on the other side of this rough patch for you guys. ❤ Hang in there. ❤

    • @OliviaLee777
      @OliviaLee777 10 днів тому

      Sending hugs your way! Also have you heard of methylate and have you had those levels checked? I came across it a couple of days ago doing research on something I found out that depending on where your methylate levels are at can cause endometriosis along with many other issues including fertility and mental and neurological.

  • @Irene.Shalom
    @Irene.Shalom 17 днів тому +3

    Not because I'm Italian also....but living in Italy and exploring more traditional, ancestral, clean food and lifestyle would definitely help you out. It's considered "conspiracy" talk, but with some research it's crazy the amount of things you find that can impact our hormones and overall health. More and more women have fertility issues, more and more men have incredibly low testosterone levels... to the point that they changed the standard reference levels because the average has dropped significantly. If you have the option, leave the US

  • @nojaw11
    @nojaw11 17 днів тому

    Praying for you guys and sending lots of good vibes your way... much love 💗

  • @StitchetyDoodah
    @StitchetyDoodah 18 днів тому +1

    Praying for you right now. 💚

  • @joycupollilo2605
    @joycupollilo2605 17 днів тому

    Love the journey with you both and thank you for sharing your life with all of us. I have always been so fascinated with Italy 🇮🇹 .

  • @monicabarnett9231
    @monicabarnett9231 16 днів тому +1

    Sending you guys all the good vibes! ❤ love and support from NYC

  • @tmd7514
    @tmd7514 17 днів тому

    Sending you lots of hope and good wishes to meet your future babies ❤

  • @niencat
    @niencat 15 днів тому

    Very wise words Alessio, about the mind.

  • @optimusmike8680
    @optimusmike8680 13 днів тому

    Speaking as someone who probably won’t have kids due to the disability I was born with, an how people especially women view an treat me cause of it, wanna say cherish having each other even though u may not be having kids,many people in this life don’t realize how precious an rare it is just to have someone u love an be able to have them by ur side, let alone have a baby/ be able to create a family. In my eyes that type of thing is privileged because only a certain amount of people actually get to experience having the ability to create a family an have it be stable at the same time !

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 13 днів тому

    The cyst is shrinking!!! I'm so glad to hear that!!!!!

  • @ivydragonbreath
    @ivydragonbreath 17 днів тому

    Jessie you'll be in great hands, make sure to write down all the questions you have in your head no matter how big or small or how silly they might seem, just ask and writing down helps you to remember them. I found that if I ask the doctor/sugeon to talk me through the procedure that I feel less worried and it helps you understand and feel more in control which is so important when going into surgery I feel. Prayers and love with you both.
    I live in Bari and I find the healthcare here is very good and I've had much quicker and better treatment than I've had in the UK. personally I think the Italian health systerm is good and I personally have nothing but praise for the treatment I've been given or the treatments of my friends or family have had too, and I think it's great how private and ASL work together unlike in the UK.

  • @kathyrichardson6044
    @kathyrichardson6044 День тому

    Please look into acupuncture before and after your transfer of your embryos. 🙏

  • @The9thDaisy
    @The9thDaisy 18 днів тому +6

    Hi - I was one of the people who asked about and suggested diet a video ago (didn't know you tried it). I'm sorry! Please forgive the ignorant and best wishes.

    • @lynndinovo3500
      @lynndinovo3500 12 днів тому +1

      You are truly humble and certainly wishing the best for those with fertility issues. Just a fyi I knew a woman who had food allergies and learned that avoiding those allergens was key for her. For those with blocked tubes diet is of no consequence. You are surely a kind lady with good intentions. Everyone here wishes this couple all the best. I surely do.

  • @birgitwiley5540
    @birgitwiley5540 15 днів тому

    My own childless godmother was a big part of my life and my upbringing and it was also my choice to have no children.I’m still happy in my 60s of my choice and my husband is as well, so you have to embrace what you do and be happy with it

  • @maurofattori95
    @maurofattori95 18 днів тому +3

    ciao ragazzi... tifiamo per voi !! vi aspetto a Verona quanto siete qui in italia!!

  • @betta8536
    @betta8536 4 дні тому

    Video stupendo ❤
    In bocca al lupo per tutto!

  • @garymacmillan
    @garymacmillan 18 днів тому

    Wedge in more food shows too; they are so darn good. Oscar worthy!

  • @StephanieBogart
    @StephanieBogart 17 днів тому +4

    I think so many people ask about the nutrition thing because so many people are just now having their eyes opened and they just want to help. Personally I’ve studied nutrition for 14 years. Every single body is different. You’re right. One size does not fit all. I think the worst culprit is gluten and dairy. In the US. Not other countries.

  • @kimberlyg4693
    @kimberlyg4693 18 днів тому

    Praying 🙏 for you all that you will be able to able to have a successful transfer!!

  • @EvelynJoy
    @EvelynJoy 13 днів тому

    Hugs! I'm about to start the video now.

  • @awhippersnapper
    @awhippersnapper 18 днів тому +1

    Hi there from an endo friend. Thanks for the update and sharing your experience. We are over here cheering you on! Praying your dreams do come true. 💛
    Not advice just my brain being curious: Something that came to mind that I wonder about for people with infertility due to fallopian tube problems is if a fallopian tube transplant is an option. Pretty radical but if possible I imagine could be a possible solution to help people.

  • @emnas82
    @emnas82 15 днів тому

    OMG its like you're talking about my journey although I didn't take therapy... In the beginning it was not easy but then after 6 ivf fails, removed my fallopian tubes too, i started concentrating about my career and forgot about kids.....yes I miss it sometimes but in general I'm in peace with it now, and i feel much better without all the medicines & injections....life must always goes on....anyhow good luck to both of u I wish you all the best
    Oh and I have a cat too 😸😁

  • @lucias8558
    @lucias8558 18 днів тому +1

    Sending love to you ❤

  • @suev7235
    @suev7235 11 днів тому

    God always has a plan! 🙏 Believe in him.

  • @ewb211200
    @ewb211200 16 днів тому

    Cute couple... I love your reviews. Funny.

  • @celestinaanderson3979
    @celestinaanderson3979 18 днів тому

    I love to see little Miss Micia🖤🖤🖤🖤

  • @patriciamcpherson4667
    @patriciamcpherson4667 17 днів тому

    Believe me I know what you're going through I had endometriosis so bad it was even wrapped around my colon surgery was the only answer. I survived it and you can too.

  • @helganakiyingi3379
    @helganakiyingi3379 8 днів тому

    I pray that God will grant you the desires of your heart

  • @fatimaadeel6382
    @fatimaadeel6382 14 днів тому

    i also had 8 hours long surgery my doctor told me ,this is first time she saw that much worse case but she did very well .some nurse told me this in belgium after endometriosis surgery that don't eat cheese, cheese make endometriosis worse try don't eat all kind of process food and also all soft drinks . I had surgery like 4 years ago and never eat these thing . I'm still fine . I also have one kid after surgery. soo always stay positive you will have kid buy your own. (Insha Allah)

  • @aymanrammal1532
    @aymanrammal1532 День тому

    I know many couples who decided to adopt and at that time they discovered that they were pregnant

  • @srqlisa7881
    @srqlisa7881 18 днів тому

    I have a question and please know if you answered this in another video I apologize.
    I am just curious have you ever been tested for any autoimmune illness’? This is part of my history so curious.
    ❤❤ thanks for the honesty here.

  • @gerib4234
    @gerib4234 8 днів тому

    Keep in mind, unfortunately food in America is allowed many ingredients that are banned in other countries. Many.

  • @invioletsky
    @invioletsky 15 днів тому

    I think in Europe they do not transfer more than 2 in one attempt. It is considered very risky and a bad practice.

  • @TheK448
    @TheK448 18 днів тому

    ❤ you are THE BEST.
    But i have one problem, and maybe someone in comments has some advice?
    I cannot deal with the fact that my husband wont have kids because of me. I know that pcos is not my fault, but i cannot to stop thinking how happy he could be If he be with anyone else, any of my friends of girls from highschool…all of them made familiies. I have the best husband, he is such a sweet man with golden heart. I think how cute he would be with pregnant wife how happy, and he would be the best dad ever. I dont really cry when see pregnant women, but when i see those happy to be farhers my heart is broken.
    Sometimes i think that mayby i should leave him so he could be with better women :( im shit Haha sorry for sad comment for such a wonderfull and hopefull viedeo.

  • @FreezyAbitKT7A
    @FreezyAbitKT7A 18 днів тому

    No matter what happens, it takes practice and more practice to make a happy family. Keep the boyfriend/girlfriend romance going your entire marriage. Romantic laziness of a spouse is a terrible thing. If you are too sad to be romantic, there is something wrong.

  • @yvonnemanchester70
    @yvonnemanchester70 18 днів тому +4

    Can you bring your kitty to Italy with you

    • @StitchetyDoodah
      @StitchetyDoodah 18 днів тому

      I was wondering the same thing.

    • @monicabarnett9231
      @monicabarnett9231 16 днів тому +1

      Cats need a mircochip, exam by USDA registered vet, and rabies vaccine given within a certain time, along with a certificate of health from the same USDA approved vet. There isn’t a quarantine for cats for EU countries. The health has a very limited time frame, it’s pretty wild!!

  • @kajsafalck8117
    @kajsafalck8117 17 днів тому

  • @kristenkiki714
    @kristenkiki714 День тому

    🙏💫

  • @janeweldon8874
    @janeweldon8874 18 днів тому

    ❤️🙏🙏🙏❤️

  • @Star-hg4zx
    @Star-hg4zx 17 днів тому

    Jessi,I was wondering what is your nationality,are you half Italian,what?

  • @justinetaylor8779
    @justinetaylor8779 18 днів тому

    I know you were talking about surrogacy and the cost but do you know of a family member or friend that would possibly do it cheaper than going through a place or something like that and maybe you could work out something like only pay for doctor appointments or something like I said so it’s cheaper on you all

  • @igordoubek3513
    @igordoubek3513 18 днів тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤✌✌✌✌✌

  • @MermaidDolphinNYC
    @MermaidDolphinNYC 18 днів тому +1

    I know many women who have not have kids and they have completely fulfilling abc rich lives.
    Also, there are so many kids who need to be adopted.

  • @bernardbouzon5499
    @bernardbouzon5499 8 днів тому

    😼

  • @radicalrad77
    @radicalrad77 6 днів тому

    Why don't you adopt?

  • @RiverkeeperEmberStar
    @RiverkeeperEmberStar 18 днів тому

    Mind over matter doesn't always mean that the problem isn't there.
    The one thing that really upsets me about Western medical Doctors is that their constantly telling a patient that the illness they are dealing with is theirs.
    So you said my endometriosis....
    Sweetheart quit taking credit for the illness.
    Your body is your body in the endometriosis is a disorder. We can look at language and why we use certain words and the words we choose can impact us a great deal overall.
    You can stop saying yours and just say the endometriosis in my body. All this does is takes your power back and it keeps you from being powerless over endometriosis or any other complaint.
    See it as a dis-order in the body or a dis-ease.
    It's only taking hold of you so strongly because you giving it all your power.
    I've been dealing with crohn's disease for 25 years and the best way I've known to manage it is by the simple trick that could also help you as well.

  • @fatimaadeel6382
    @fatimaadeel6382 14 днів тому

    and don't eat sugar only eat coco suger or put dates in you's sweet dishes

  • @cherylbertolini3140
    @cherylbertolini3140 18 днів тому

    Sounds like you have a really great chance of becoming pregnant:)

  • @DeathsAsylum.DW300s
    @DeathsAsylum.DW300s 17 днів тому +1

    Just remind ppl not all bodies are made the same i went vegan and gained weight… so diet changes mean nothing may help a bit here and there but is no magic cure…

  • @HopeLaFleur1975
    @HopeLaFleur1975 9 днів тому

    I think. Keep trying and. I don’t know if you are Catholic or Christian. But do pray!!
    Go to Italy. Ask for for Intercessions from Mother Mary. Maybe do Rosary and ask for a baby. Maybe. God is calling both of you to Trust in Him. 💜❤️💜❤️🌺

  • @Rushu770
    @Rushu770 12 днів тому

    Hi
    I am Ayesha akther
    I analisis your UA-cam channel.i see you uploaded Huge amount video .but you don't have enough views out of 537k subscribers for some issues.can i share with you?

  • @sweetlady3651
    @sweetlady3651 17 днів тому +1

    Is adoption an option

  • @sofik964
    @sofik964 18 днів тому

    All the sadness will be payed with happiness once you get pregnant, pass 27 weeks knowing that even if you go to labor your baby will almost surely be well (no joke, that what was on my mind during pregnancy) and especially when you get to hold your child and this happiness will increase tenfold every time you'll see something new)

  • @lisametheny2243
    @lisametheny2243 18 днів тому

    Question, have you thought of surrogacy and transferring your embryo to someone who can carry your baby to term? Maybe a thought for if this doesn’t work only.

    • @heidibeechuk9203
      @heidibeechuk9203 18 днів тому +3

      Yes, they talked about that and how expensive that was. 😊