Thanks for talking about how people always try to “talk down” or dismiss your concerns as an Autism mom. It’s really hurtful especially from family. I have learned to try to let it roll off my back because I know they will NEVER understand. Love your willingness to share and increase awareness.
I relate SO WELL with the social aspect of having a special needs child. Especially black families feel that our methods are too permissive and not customary for our culture. Accused of accommodating our children like non-black folk. They want us to enforce strict discipline and punishment for the behaviors of our angels. I so get it. You’re doing a BEAUTIFUL job with staying connected and on top of her needs and I salute you Sis. 💞💞💞
Yeah I was gonna touch on that. I’m not a special needs mom but I’ve noticed cultural differences in parenting. We are a black family but my methods may differ from that of other black families. It’s kind of like in politics. You have the far left and the far right or parenting style that’s borderline abuse and a style that is completely indulging the children not showing them right from wrong. Any parenting needs to be tailored for the needs of the child ie special needs🤷🏽♀️it’s that simple. There still needs to be a balanced approach and I think Ms Vaughn does that very well. I just discovered her channel and I had to do a little bit of research to see if Ann was special needs cause when she was bouncing on that furniture her mama shole said get yo butt down girl👀😂 now you know a white mama would have ignored that behavior special needs or otherwise. I appreciate that msVaughn caters to her needs accordingly but still don’t allow her to run a muck just because she has a disability. Nothing like a balanced Black American mama to keep these babies on a path to greatness😌
You could not have presented this video more gracefully and lovingly. I do not have children but I’m open to always learning. Anne is blessed to have you as her mother!
As someone who doesn’t have children at all, I’d still like to say that these videos are extremely insightful. Keep doing the great job that you are with your amazing little Annie
I think it’s time to be frank with your family members, and tell them to fall back. Their words and commentary are not helpful. As an educator, I get the sensitivity when talking about and interacting with a child on the spectrum. Boundaries need to be made. Thank you for sharing your story.
Exactly! As Vaughn spoke my mind went back to parents who may be in denial to once that diagnosis comes in, the shock, then the action plan. What can we do so that the child has the best tool available to assist in growth? I'm an educator as well and people don't always understand. I've had students that were reading grade levels above their age and people think they're ok because they can read so they can't be autistic. There's a lot to learn out here.
I saw came across this quote from Judge Lynn Toler “I think twice before I come to conclusions about people stuck on the side of a mountain I haven’t had to climb”
Don't pay those people ANY mind Vaughn! They can actually stay away if they can't understand her condition and what comes along with it. The lines between being concerned and being judgmental, can get blurred very easily. Protect your peace at all costs girl. Love some of them from a distance if you have to.
You are great mom and it shows how you have researched in order to help your baby! I am a mother of two, my son is 31 and daughter is 26. This was my son 31 years ago but there wasn’t any information out there or little. I was very passionate about raising my kids and I can see that in you! Great moms like you are appreciated!!! I just love watching your videos!!!!
Family are surprisingly the first people to quickly start comparing children. It’s very stressful but I feel the need to continue to educate my people.
I am a childcare teacher with an autistic child in my class, and your updates with Anne helps me out a lot with activities and goals that I can provide even for my entire class. I am also able to pass the information on to the children’s parents. 👍🏾. My center does not offer trainings when providing for special ability children, so teachers have to research on their own.
Keep your head up!! You’re doing an amazing job with Anne. You and hubby!! My son is 11 with ASD and its rough. But we got this!!💪🏽 I appreciate the updates with Anne she’s such a doll 🤍
Man I felt this to my soul. For me it’s been kinda lonesome even because my family has been very dismissive to my kids health and whatnot so it’s like.... I even have anxiety visiting them because I hate having to explain myself and argue with my family when I just want them to understand and be supportive.
❤️& RELATE TO THIS COMMENT SO MUCH!!! I like watching all of Vaughn’s vlogs because I am a teacher and first time (single) mom. I think my son has hyperlexia with traits of autism. My research and intuition tell me that he most likely does not have ASD but I still use some strategies likes PECS, written schedules to help maintain our daily routine, melatonin to help him sleep at appropriate times, and scripted prompts to help him understand language and respond accordingly. I feel lonely in my motherhood journey and I have also read that many people won't understand my son's development and hyperlexia 3. But the blessing in all of this is learning and understanding the multi abilities of young children.
@@anbonner17 Yes. Like my daughter is 2 and I can STILL count on my fingers how many times she has seen her grandparents on my side and on her dad side they literally live down the street and they visit once every 4 months (honestly being generous with that estimate) Like moms need breaks of course and its sad because when your pregnant everyone is so supportive and comforting but now when we need the most support its not there. Watching Ms Vaughn videos brought me soooo much comfort and her speaking out about this issue she's having made me feel not alone in this.
@@lunabunneh1687 My son is 5 and in Kindergarten. From August to October, I sat next to him during his distance learning. I was his teacher’s aide, teacher, speech therapist, and behavioral specialist! I am glad I had that time with him to train him to listen, focus, etc for school. I am now back in the workforce as a substitute teacher for quick money while trying to finish my final obligations for credential and teacher induction. With the pandemic, things are more difficult and my relationships with my parents and my son's dad are even more strained. Since I have opposing views of the virus, my parents chose not to help me with childcare. I respect their decision but I have no choice but to work and be exposed to more people (babysitter and a couple of people in the school office). I want to keep my distance from my parents as much as possible but I am not denying them the opportunity to visit their only grandchild. I love them all but it is team too much for me to be around them. I am beyond tired of the narcissistic, controlling, manipulative, and critical generational attitudes!
Omg!! You said so much!! Being a mom of a 23 year old autistic son, it was a hard journey, because I did it as a single mom and still doing it!! Every anxiety, frustrating, irritating, complicated situations that come your way, you feel it and it does affect you! You build tough skin, you become more outspoken and you learn to navigate through those who get it, and those who will NEVER understand!!! You’re doing an awesome job! I wish UA-cam was around when my son was younger, but I’m considering writing a book of my journey as well!! You and Anthony are amazing parents!!! Family and Friends can be the worse, but over time and education.... they will soon discover to keep their opinions to themselves!!
Hon! Mrs Vaughn! You got it going on! You are a powerful mother! Daughter! Wife! Friend! Sister! Influencer! And Lady! I understand. Love you hon! Keep doing what you do. Change nothing and God will help you through it all! 🥰🔥
It is a pain like no other defending what you know to be true because someone sees improvement or progress. Progress is a blessing but folks forget that no one wants the miracle more than the parents and no one lives the reality more than the parents. Honor your truth.
I had those same issues with members in my family bc of a condition that one of my children has. I was so depressed because it's like no one understood. I did learn all I could but I feel I could have done better so I applaud you for being a warrior for your daughter. I also wish I had told people to back off earlier as it would have saved some hard feelings with family,.
Wow... I learned something today. When you said “you’re not going to relive it” was very profound for me. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. God Bless you and your beautiful family.
Whew...I have come to the point in my life where my son just cannot be around certain people for too long Even family. He is 11 and has been diagnosed well over 6 years ago so there still shouldn't still be any confusion. He is old enough to understand that he is being treated differently and it effects him....which then becomes a problem for me. So I had to distance him until they are ready. Some have changed their ways but others didn't and that is on them. I appreciate these vlogs because I see that its not only happening on my side. Thank You
Vaughn, it is amazing how people who are not in your shoes and around your daughter as much as you are think that they know more than you do; you know your child better than anyone else; I pray that at the right time and in the right way you can get them straight once and for all.
There are different levels of autism. Now Anne, because of you and her dad y’all are constantly teaching her. I think you both are awesome 👏🏾 keep up the good work and stay strong!
Vaughn I swear u said everything in this video that I’ve been having in my head. I’m so tired of having to explain to people why I parent the way I do because of sensory issues etc. it’s already hard enough accepting the diagnosis & trying to grieve the life u expected your kid to have. Everyone wants to chime in & say what was helpful to their kids when in reality, unless they have an autistic kid then they will never understand! But Vaughn u are such an awesome mom I commend u & I just hope to be as great as a special needs parent as u are
Vaughn you are such an awesome Mom, Daughter, Wife, Sister, & Friend....You give a lot of yourself to the people you love. So of course it is hurtful to hear negative feedback on how you are "helping" Anne. I love your content, & who you are, please don't ever change! And keep doing you! I just have one request....When you have to vent, just come to us for positive reinforcement! God Bless you, Anthony & Anne.
Hey Vaughn! You guys are wonderful parents. I cant even imagine how much you guys have to endure mentally with the situation, and constantly having to explain to people. Hugs to you Vaughn. I admire how You and Anthony (and your immediate family) are so patient and nurturing to Anne. She is a lucky little girl to have you all in her life as her parents & support system. She has grown so much over these years & we (your YT family) are even able to see some of her growth. When she sings or says hello during a vlog, it always brings a smile to my face. Blessings to you guys!!
I went and still go through the same thing. My family was big on “he will get it when he gets it. He doesn’t have anything.” It hurt but didn’t stop me from doing what I knew had to be done.
It's the "Whew Chile" for me! I had to hold back some serious tears just even thinking about my bonus son that I helped raised & was diagnosed before my fiance past away. Since I have no legal rights I have to just pray over him & his siblings not knowing if they are all getting the proper care that's needed.
It’s the way you’re almost at 200k for me ✨🎊✨✨✨ #wecelebratingearly! I love your videos and seeing Anne growing into the lovely young lady that she is ! You’re an amazing mom!! 💕💕💕
🌺 Love how I have learned so much from you on a subject I knew nothing about. What a blessing you are to others that may need this virtual support and guidance.
Thanks for sharing. You're an awesome mom. Nobody is in your shoes. Everyone experience is the same but you're doing an amazing job in these years for your daughter. Anne is lucky to have you and Anthony. She'll look back in life and know you loved her deeply. Hugs❤❤
I love the fact that you are so invested in the well being and development of Anne. It is wonderful to see when parents fully embrace treatment practices and are all in when in comes to daily implementation of strategies to improve outcomes in all areas of development and life. You are knowledgeable of Anne's needs and what it takes to get her what she needs to be successful and I commend you for that! Keep your head up and know that you and your husband are doing an amazing job!
Hello Ms.Vaughn, thanks for sharing your journey. I am also a special needs mom. My daughter is 25 years old . The reality of what we experience can't be explained to those love ones who dont live in your home.I still get the"Well why dont you do this"question ? It never stops ,so dont let it get to you. I'm so happy that you all have so much more educational resources than I had. But my husband and I just keep moving forward and loving our daughter and appreciate what we have as a family.
Everything you've highlighted about family and friends giving their opinion is the same thing I've experienced when my son was Anne's age and still experience 25yrs later. You are helping so many mom's that have gotten the diagnosis that their child is autistic. I would have love to have had someone like you 25 years ago.
This video showed up in my suggested videos and I am happy it did! We have an 8 year old daughter with autism and can relate to the information you shared here. Autism conversations and content are so important in helping the world be more understanding and accepting of our kids.
I am so proud of you Anne is blessed to have a mom like you, I don't have any children but I teach children with special needs and they are a challenge.
As being a mom of 2 maybe 3 kiddos that has ASD I completely understand the stress and misunderstanding that family my put on us ASD moms. We have the hardest most crazy funnest job any typical mom may have. I love the way you are trying to get the infor out for others with or without kids with Autism. Thank you.
I have a daughter with anxiety and one with a learning difference. It is frustrating when people with zero experience with these issues share opinions. I now keep those conversations to a limited group of people. I can relate to your frustration. You are doing a great job! Stay encouraged!
I watch your videos sometimes and I just came across this video which has excellent content. Thank you for sharing "your experience" with your daughter as she continues to thrive. Yes, continues to thrive for those who feel as though she should acting differently or whatever. I have a niece who has autism. Her development is unique and none like we have ever experienced in our family. She is high-functioning with a very short attention span, particularly choosey about the color and texture of foods she will eat and has difficulty sleeping sometimes. As a family, like yours, we realized that our task is to make sure she is receiving love not criticism. When it comes to explaining to people about her condition we simply say there is nothing wrong with her. She is uniquely different. Thank God! And that is it! We actually love the fact that she is unpredictable. Your daughter has a happy spirit and great parents who are providing her with a very comprehensive support system. She also has a "village" of family and friends who support the family. There may be those within that circle that don't understand but just tell them this, "no disrespect but until you walk in our shoes, please be mindful of what you are saying. Words cannot be taken back. I love you, and thank you for your continued support". As an individual who worked for over ten years with DCFS with children who had special needs, I can tell you that the children improved their developmental disabilities by being around people who genuinely loved and supported them. Your daughter is receiving all that and then some. You and your husband be blessed and continue to fight the good fight. Do not get discouraged or question yourself. It appears Anne is quite the precious young lady that anyone would expect. Take care.
Awwww Vaughn I felt your heart in this video! I am a FAITHFUL watcher of your videos and I actually got a chance to meet you RANDOMLY in the U of C parking (you were leaving an appt and I was going to one). You and Anthony are doing an amazing job with Anne. From an Educator's perspective, you all are giving Anne INCREDIBLE access to resources that will help her development TREMENDOUSLY!! Unfortunately, in the Black culture, we tend to dismiss any disability simply because of the lack knowledge and informative education around it. Keep up the GREAT work. You are doing WELL! Let those folks be because those will be the SAME ppl when Anne does something miraculous in the future will want to take credit some way some how!
I just love watching your videos, I have learned so much from your videos. I to have a autistic son, so I’m Familiar with all the trials and tribulations. They are sweet children. Happy holidays to you and your family..
This video was so relatable in terms of your experience as one ASD mom to Another. It bought tears to my eyes. I thank you for sharing your real life experiences as I felt I'm alone on this journey. 💙💙💙💙
I feel your pain, and I sympathize with Vaughan, I have a son with autism and I always felt alone, for the same reasons Vaughan is speaking about, and the pressure family put on you mentally is draining, which results in depression, anxiety, and loneliness. You have to get tough skin, and pray. GOD is with us, he blessed us with ASD kids, because we are his chosen few. Talk to GOD every day🙏🏻
Aww!!! Ms Vaughn I love your personality and always look forward to your videos. Ann is a beautiful little girl and I love to see you interact with her and I can’t leave out Anthony, you guys are great. God will continue to see you through all of your trials and tribulations 🙏🏿🙏🏿😍😍👍🏾👍🏾
Whewwww, I could share this video at the loudest volume a thousand times and I feel like people in my life wouldn’t hear it all 😪. My 2 year old is nonverbal and now I have a 10 day old still in the NICU. Family thinks we’re just trying to make the load worse on ourselves by not letting them take turns keeping our 2 year old. He needs his routine and he’s not a great sleeper. I’m tired of hearing “just give him xyz or trust me I can put him to sleep” it’s not that easy 😒. These videos help me so much Vaughn ❤️
“Trust me I can put him to sleep” 😫 whew chile. ❤️ Yeah we’re going through the same stuff. I just fear that *if* Anne doesn’t become what her relatives want, it will be my “fault” because so-in-so’s kid “overcame” it or was “cured” so it must be something I did wrong.
Omg I got a weighted blanket for Mother’s Day and it helped with my insomnia and anxiety I got the same exact one from Amazon. It puts me to sleep so quickly!
I love your transparency Vaughn! You continue to do what’s best for your daughter, yourself and your household! Anne is such an amazing little girl! I have loved watching your journey and your ability to share. I am not an Autism Mom, but I’ve learned a lot from you. Mom to Mom...Keep being the awesome Mom you are! 🥰🥰🥰
Vaughn kudos to you and Anthony. I'm sure it's a huge challenge. You guys arendoing an amazing job. Also so cool that you are sharing your experience with others
I know it has got to be hard at times. As you stated you are investing 100% in your daughter's growth. People do not understand there are different levels, different experiences at different ages, and you are constantly learning each day. You are doing an amazing job. At my school the special education department has used weighted vest as well to calm students who are very active and they do work. Continued blessings and know that only Anthony and you are living with your experiences 24/7!
Thank you for sharing! So informative. I wish my mom could’ve seen this when my brother was younger going through ASD. He’s now 17. As his sister being in the house everyday, I know the strength it takes for a parent to raise your child through the disorder. Your the perfect mother for Anne! She’s so blessed and will thrive in life because of you and Anthony ❤️
Thank you soooo much for talking about your experience as a special needs mom. I have the same experience with family and friends and it hurts every time I have to explain myself and my daughter’s condition. I especially hate it when I explain some behaviors that she may have and they responds with “well every kid does that... every kid misbehaves...” it’s not the same. It feels a little bit better knowing that we are not the only ones going through this. Thank you again. You are always so uplifting ❤️
You are strong girl! Thanks for sharing your journey, Anne is adorable so you must be doing a lot right. I had a sister with special needs and no one understands how hard it is for the family. Hang in there you are awesome.
Thank you for another great insightful video Vaughn. I have a neuro typical son and we all know parenting in itself is challenging and unchartered territory so blessing to you all. I definitely don’t take for granted each milestone I see from my boy, and it is so wonderful to be able to share and watch sweet Anne. Also I wish fam & friends would honestly mind their biz in general sometimes and not give unsolicited advice, especially when it’s not their own kid. I know sometimes their heart is in the right place but it is taxing, so again love and blessings to you, patience and strength.
Thanks for sharing! I can agree with your comments concerning your family. Maybe you can create some content for what families can do to support parents with kids that have Autism.
I completely feel you...it’s such a battle talking to people about your ways of parenting your special needs child. People really be doing the most. 🙏🏽🖤 to you Queen keep your crown high.. being aware is your best friend.. I keep reminding myself that I know my child PERIODT I got it
When you said whew Chile🤦🏾♀️I know people on the outside try to tell moms what’s up with their child when the child is healthy I couldn’t imagine dealing with the unwanted commentary being a mom of a special needs child. That would def weight heavy on me as well. I must say from what I can see you’re doing an amazing job. Stay strong love❤️
As a fellow ASD mom of a 3.5 year old, I totally get it about family. I don’t open up about him because I know they won’t understand and I don’t want to hear their unsolicited comments. You are doing great and thanks for sharing. We need to get one of those canoes. My son is always asking me for a hug and I think this will help him.
Very helpful thank you. I personally didn’t out right tell people about my kid on the spectrum bc I just didn’t want him to feel different from others. All your struggles are mines too. I don’t have an opportunity to even speak to anyone going through this so your series mean a lot to me and others. Again thank you.
Love your videos and vlogs. I’m not raising a child with special needs but watched my oldest sister raise one and even though he’s 40, she’s STILL raising him because of his disabilities. I admire her whole heartedly and you and I want you to remain encouraged and know nobody knows your child like you and your Husband. Gods strength and peace to you both as you continue your parental journey and praying God sprinkle some understanding on your kinfolk!! 😬 Keep up your good work and encouraging other Austin Moms!!
Usually, individuals offering their opinions don't have a clue what's required in the care of a child with disabilities...as a mother of a child with disabilities...dismissed/shut down those negative individuals who don't offer assistance, respite care, or knowledgeable and useful information. You don't have the time or energy to waste...do you!
Hey Vaughn! Sending you hugs and lots of love. This video touched my heart. You are an amazing woman and a great mom. Keep it up and thanks for sharing 💛
You guys are doing an exceptionally awesome job! Love how transparent you are with all aspects of Autism. Your wealth of knowledge will no doubt help other families in a similar situation!
I love my weighted blanket.I have Fibromyalgia and many nights when I’m in bed my legs and feet are ACHING insane. I keep the weighted blanked on my legs and feet and it helps. The one I purchased heavy lol.
This vlog helped me so much!! My husband and I found out about our 5 year old when she turned 2. We had no idea, she was our first child and it was all new territory. I definitely relate to you every way! Keep it coming!
You're amazing!!!💕 My baby boy was diagnosed with Autism at the beginning of this year. However, I always knew there was something wrong. I feel like I'm always having to explain things, and it gets exhausting. Thank you for your wonderful videos. I look forward to them every time 🥰❤️
Hang in there you're doing a great job from what we can see. Its hard raising kids in general but to be a raising a child with special needs, I can't image. I take my hat off to you and any other parent thats going through these challenges. Keep your head up and thanks for sharing.
So proud of you daughter, yes daughter. My grandson was diagnosed at about the same age, he will be 4 in February .it can be very difficult as a grandparent, so I know its harder as the parent, therefore yes I am so proud of how you trailblaze for Anne, as well as the other children who's parents(my daughter included) follow you. We are in this together.. God bless you, .keep up the Good work you do for all of us. This is a journey.
Thanks for talking about how people always try to “talk down” or dismiss your concerns as an Autism mom. It’s really hurtful especially from family. I have learned to try to let it roll off my back because I know they will NEVER understand. Love your willingness to share and increase awareness.
Well said and I agree. Thanks for the video
I relate SO WELL with the social aspect of having a special needs child. Especially black families feel that our methods are too permissive and not customary for our culture. Accused of accommodating our children like non-black folk. They want us to enforce strict discipline and punishment for the behaviors of our angels. I so get it. You’re doing a BEAUTIFUL job with staying connected and on top of her needs and I salute you Sis. 💞💞💞
BAYBEE. Nailed it. Whew.
Yeah I was gonna touch on that. I’m not a special needs mom but I’ve noticed cultural differences in parenting. We are a black family but my methods may differ from that of other black families. It’s kind of like in politics. You have the far left and the far right or parenting style that’s borderline abuse and a style that is completely indulging the children not showing them right from wrong. Any parenting needs to be tailored for the needs of the child ie special needs🤷🏽♀️it’s that simple. There still needs to be a balanced approach and I think Ms Vaughn does that very well. I just discovered her channel and I had to do a little bit of research to see if Ann was special needs cause when she was bouncing on that furniture her mama shole said get yo butt down girl👀😂 now you know a white mama would have ignored that behavior special needs or otherwise. I appreciate that msVaughn caters to her needs accordingly but still don’t allow her to run a muck just because she has a disability. Nothing like a balanced Black American mama to keep these babies on a path to greatness😌
You could not have presented this video more gracefully and lovingly. I do not have children but I’m open to always learning. Anne is blessed to have you as her mother!
As someone who doesn’t have children at all, I’d still like to say that these videos are extremely insightful. Keep doing the great job that you are with your amazing little Annie
I think it’s time to be frank with your family members, and tell them to fall back. Their words and commentary are not helpful. As an educator, I get the sensitivity when talking about and interacting with a child on the spectrum. Boundaries need to be made. Thank you for sharing your story.
Exactly! As Vaughn spoke my mind went back to parents who may be in denial to once that diagnosis comes in, the shock, then the action plan. What can we do so that the child has the best tool available to assist in growth? I'm an educator as well and people don't always understand. I've had students that were reading grade levels above their age and people think they're ok because they can read so they can't be autistic. There's a lot to learn out here.
I love how you do your best with Anne so that she has the best experience in life! 💕 such a great mom!
I saw came across this quote from Judge Lynn Toler “I think twice before I come to conclusions about people stuck on the side of a mountain I haven’t had to climb”
I just love Judge Lynn Toler. She's a wise lady
Don't pay those people ANY mind Vaughn! They can actually stay away if they can't understand her condition and what comes along with it. The lines between being concerned and being judgmental, can get blurred very easily. Protect your peace at all costs girl. Love some of them from a distance if you have to.
Love this video. But that’s exactly why you don’t have to explain anything to anybody. Y’all living this 24/7, they stop by on the weekend!
"I'm not complaining just sharing" THIS! Thanks for sharing as a fellow autism mother! I needed to hear this.
Bravo well said my son is now 40 yrs old and I still have to explain. But you get stronger as the journey continues
You are great mom and it shows how you have researched in order to help your baby! I am a mother of two, my son is 31 and daughter is 26. This was my son 31 years ago but there wasn’t any information out there or little. I was very passionate about raising my kids and I can see that in you! Great moms like you are appreciated!!! I just love watching your videos!!!!
Family are surprisingly the first people to quickly start comparing children. It’s very stressful but I feel the need to continue to educate my people.
I am a childcare teacher with an autistic child in my class, and your updates with Anne helps me out a lot with activities and goals that I can provide even for my entire class. I am also able to pass the information on to the children’s parents. 👍🏾. My center does not offer trainings when providing for special ability children, so teachers have to research on their own.
Keep your head up!! You’re doing an amazing job with Anne. You and hubby!! My son is 11 with ASD and its rough. But we got this!!💪🏽 I appreciate the updates with Anne she’s such a doll 🤍
Thank you so much love! And all the best to you and your son!
Man I felt this to my soul. For me it’s been kinda lonesome even because my family has been very dismissive to my kids health and whatnot so it’s like.... I even have anxiety visiting them because I hate having to explain myself and argue with my family when I just want them to understand and be supportive.
❤️& RELATE TO THIS COMMENT SO MUCH!!! I like watching all of Vaughn’s vlogs because I am a teacher and first time (single) mom. I think my son has hyperlexia with traits of autism. My research and intuition tell me that he most likely does not have ASD but I still use some strategies likes PECS, written schedules to help maintain our daily routine, melatonin to help him sleep at appropriate times, and scripted prompts to help him understand language and respond accordingly.
I feel lonely in my motherhood journey and I have also read that many people won't understand my son's development and hyperlexia 3. But the blessing in all of this is learning and understanding the multi abilities of young children.
@@anbonner17 Yes. Like my daughter is 2 and I can STILL count on my fingers how many times she has seen her grandparents on my side and on her dad side they literally live down the street and they visit once every 4 months (honestly being generous with that estimate)
Like moms need breaks of course and its sad because when your pregnant everyone is so supportive and comforting but now when we need the most support its not there. Watching Ms Vaughn videos brought me soooo much comfort and her speaking out about this issue she's having made me feel not alone in this.
@@lunabunneh1687 My son is 5 and in Kindergarten. From August to October, I sat next to him during his distance learning. I was his teacher’s aide, teacher, speech therapist, and behavioral specialist! I am glad I had that time with him to train him to listen, focus, etc for school. I am now back in the workforce as a substitute teacher for quick money while trying to finish my final obligations for credential and teacher induction. With the pandemic, things are more difficult and my relationships with my parents and my son's dad are even more strained. Since I have opposing views of the virus, my parents chose not to help me with childcare. I respect their decision but I have no choice but to work and be exposed to more people (babysitter and a couple of people in the school office). I want to keep my distance from my parents as much as possible but I am not denying them the opportunity to visit their only grandchild. I love them all but it is team too much for me to be around them. I am beyond tired of the narcissistic, controlling, manipulative, and critical generational attitudes!
Omg!! You said so much!! Being a mom of a 23 year old autistic son, it was a hard journey, because I did it as a single mom and still doing it!! Every anxiety, frustrating, irritating, complicated situations that come your way, you feel it and it does affect you! You build tough skin, you become more outspoken and you learn to navigate through those who get it, and those who will NEVER understand!!! You’re doing an awesome job! I wish UA-cam was around when my son was younger, but I’m considering writing a book of my journey as well!! You and Anthony are amazing parents!!! Family and Friends can be the worse, but over time and education.... they will soon discover to keep their opinions to themselves!!
Write your book!
@@CG-of9sh I’m going to really shoot for it!! Thank you for the encouragement!! ❤️❤️🙏🏾
@@dannigirll I am excited for you! you’re welcome!
I know this is about Anne but.... Vaughn, girl you look GOODT!
LOL thank you hun!
❤️❤️We Love you Vaughn!!❤️❤️
My nephew is autistic. He’s such an amazing kid and so is Ann. I am praying for your strength. You are doing great 😊
Hon! Mrs Vaughn! You got it going on! You are a powerful mother! Daughter! Wife! Friend! Sister! Influencer! And Lady! I understand. Love you hon! Keep doing what you do. Change nothing and God will help you through it all! 🥰🔥
It is a pain like no other defending what you know to be true because someone sees improvement or progress. Progress is a blessing but folks forget that no one wants the miracle more than the parents and no one lives the reality more than the parents. Honor your truth.
You and your husband were chosen by God for Anne...I pray God will continue to strengthen you both for this journey.
I had those same issues with members in my family bc of a condition that one of my children has. I was so depressed because it's like no one understood. I did learn all I could but I feel I could have done better so I applaud you for being a warrior for your daughter. I also wish I had told people to back off earlier as it would have saved some hard feelings with family,.
Wow... I learned something today. When you said “you’re not going to relive it” was very profound for me. Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. God Bless you and your beautiful family.
Whew...I have come to the point in my life where my son just cannot be around certain people for too long Even family. He is 11 and has been diagnosed well over 6 years ago so there still shouldn't still be any confusion. He is old enough to understand that he is being treated differently and it effects him....which then becomes a problem for me. So I had to distance him until they are ready. Some have changed their ways but others didn't and that is on them. I appreciate these vlogs because I see that its not only happening on my side. Thank You
Vaughn, it is amazing how people who are not in your shoes and around your daughter as much as you are think that they know more than you do; you know your child better than anyone else; I pray that at the right time and in the right way you can get them straight once and for all.
There are different levels of autism. Now Anne, because of you and her dad y’all are constantly teaching her. I think you both are awesome 👏🏾 keep up the good work and stay strong!
Yes but many people do not understand that! All autistic children are not the same and their needs change as they grow!
These vlogs are therapy!! Thank you for your transparency and understanding ❤️❤️
As an autism parent for 29 years now I can totally relate with everything you're saying.
Vaughn I swear u said everything in this video that I’ve been having in my head. I’m so tired of having to explain to people why I parent the way I do because of sensory issues etc. it’s already hard enough accepting the diagnosis & trying to grieve the life u expected your kid to have. Everyone wants to chime in & say what was helpful to their kids when in reality, unless they have an autistic kid then they will never understand! But Vaughn u are such an awesome mom I commend u & I just hope to be as great as a special needs parent as u are
Your doing a great job mom!!! Ur really Anne’s super duper fabulous mommy 🌸💐
Thank you for sharing this. My 13 y/o wasn’t diagnosed until 9 and the struggle was real. Be blessed!
Vaughn you are such an awesome Mom, Daughter, Wife, Sister, & Friend....You give a lot of yourself to the people you love. So of course it is hurtful to hear negative feedback on how you are "helping" Anne. I love your content, & who you are, please don't ever change! And keep doing you! I just have one request....When you have to vent, just come to us for positive reinforcement! God Bless you, Anthony & Anne.
Hey Vaughn! You guys are wonderful parents. I cant even imagine how much you guys have to endure mentally with the situation, and constantly having to explain to people. Hugs to you Vaughn. I admire how You and Anthony (and your immediate family) are so patient and nurturing to Anne. She is a lucky little girl to have you all in her life as her parents & support system. She has grown so much over these years & we (your YT family) are even able to see some of her growth. When she sings or says hello during a vlog, it always brings a smile to my face. Blessings to you guys!!
Your baby, your way. Period.
Very well said! My son is now 20 and now I have different challenges but somewhere we find strength to keep going. 💕
I went and still go through the same thing. My family was big on “he will get it when he gets it. He doesn’t have anything.” It hurt but didn’t stop me from doing what I knew had to be done.
It's the "Whew Chile" for me! I had to hold back some serious tears just even thinking about my bonus son that I helped raised & was diagnosed before my fiance past away. Since I have no legal rights I have to just pray over him & his siblings not knowing if they are all getting the proper care that's needed.
God bless you!
It’s the way you’re almost at 200k for me ✨🎊✨✨✨ #wecelebratingearly! I love your videos and seeing Anne growing into the lovely young lady that she is ! You’re an amazing mom!! 💕💕💕
🌺 Love how I have learned so much from you on a subject I knew nothing about. What a blessing you are to others that may need this virtual support and guidance.
Thanks for sharing. You're an awesome mom. Nobody is in your shoes. Everyone experience is the same but you're doing an amazing job in these years for your daughter. Anne is lucky to have you and Anthony. She'll look back in life and know you loved her deeply. Hugs❤❤
I love the fact that you are so invested in the well being and development of Anne. It is wonderful to see when parents fully embrace treatment practices and are all in when in comes to daily implementation of strategies to improve outcomes in all areas of development and life. You are knowledgeable of Anne's needs and what it takes to get her what she needs to be successful and I commend you for that! Keep your head up and know that you and your husband are doing an amazing job!
Hello Ms.Vaughn, thanks for sharing your journey. I am also a special needs mom. My daughter is 25 years old . The reality of what we experience can't be explained to those love ones who dont live in your home.I still get the"Well why dont you do this"question ? It never stops ,so dont let it get to you. I'm so happy that you all have so much more educational resources than I had. But my husband and I just keep moving forward and loving our daughter and appreciate what we have as a family.
Thanks for sharing your journey Vaughn! Your family’s vlog discussing Anne’s journey is so so so necessary. Press on sis!
Everything you've highlighted about family and friends giving their opinion is the same thing I've experienced when my son was Anne's age and still experience 25yrs later. You are helping so many mom's that have gotten the diagnosis that their child is autistic. I would have love to have had someone like you 25 years ago.
This video showed up in my suggested videos and I am happy it did! We have an 8 year old daughter with autism and can relate to the information you shared here. Autism conversations and content are so important in helping the world be more understanding and accepting of our kids.
I am so proud of you Anne is blessed to have a mom like you, I don't have any children but I teach children with special needs and they are a challenge.
Vaughn you and Anthony are doing Amazing! Anne is beautiful and God has his arms around your beautiful Family!
As being a mom of 2 maybe 3 kiddos that has ASD I completely understand the stress and misunderstanding that family my put on us ASD moms. We have the hardest most crazy funnest job any typical mom may have. I love the way you are trying to get the infor out for others with or without kids with Autism. Thank you.
I have a daughter with anxiety and one with a learning difference. It is frustrating when people with zero experience with these issues share opinions. I now keep those conversations to a limited group of people. I can relate to your frustration. You are doing a great job! Stay encouraged!
I watch your videos sometimes and I just came across this video which has excellent content. Thank you for sharing "your experience" with your daughter as she continues to thrive. Yes, continues to thrive for those who feel as though she should acting differently or whatever. I have a niece who has autism. Her development is unique and none like we have ever experienced in our family. She is high-functioning with a very short attention span, particularly choosey about the color and texture of foods she will eat and has difficulty sleeping sometimes. As a family, like yours, we realized that our task is to make sure she is receiving love not criticism. When it comes to explaining to people about her condition we simply say there is nothing wrong with her. She is uniquely different. Thank God! And that is it! We actually love the fact that she is unpredictable. Your daughter has a happy spirit and great parents who are providing her with a very comprehensive support system. She also has a "village" of family and friends who support the family. There may be those within that circle that don't understand but just tell them this, "no disrespect but until you walk in our shoes, please be mindful of what you are saying. Words cannot be taken back. I love you, and thank you for your continued support". As an individual who worked for over ten years with DCFS with children who had special needs, I can tell you that the children improved their developmental disabilities by being around people who genuinely loved and supported them. Your daughter is receiving all that and then some. You and your husband be blessed and continue to fight the good fight. Do not get discouraged or question yourself. It appears Anne is quite the precious young lady that anyone would expect. Take care.
Awwww Vaughn I felt your heart in this video! I am a FAITHFUL watcher of your videos and I actually got a chance to meet you RANDOMLY in the U of C parking (you were leaving an appt and I was going to one). You and Anthony are doing an amazing job with Anne. From an Educator's perspective, you all are giving Anne INCREDIBLE access to resources that will help her development TREMENDOUSLY!! Unfortunately, in the Black culture, we tend to dismiss any disability simply because of the lack knowledge and informative education around it. Keep up the GREAT work. You are doing WELL! Let those folks be because those will be the SAME ppl when Anne does something miraculous in the future will want to take credit some way some how!
I remember meeting you in that parking lot! ❤️ Thank you so much and happy holidays sis!
I just love watching your videos, I have learned so much from your videos. I to have a autistic son, so I’m Familiar with all the trials and tribulations. They are sweet children. Happy holidays to you and your family..
This video was so relatable in terms of your experience as one ASD mom to Another. It bought tears to my eyes. I thank you for sharing your real life experiences as I felt I'm alone on this journey. 💙💙💙💙
I feel your pain, and I sympathize with Vaughan, I have a son with autism and I always felt alone, for the same reasons Vaughan is speaking about, and the pressure family put on you mentally is draining, which results in depression, anxiety, and loneliness. You have to get tough skin, and pray.
GOD is with us, he blessed us with ASD kids, because we are his chosen few. Talk to GOD every day🙏🏻
Aww!!! Ms Vaughn I love your personality and always look forward to your videos. Ann is a beautiful little girl and I love to see you interact with her and I can’t leave out Anthony, you guys are great. God will continue to see you through all of your trials and tribulations 🙏🏿🙏🏿😍😍👍🏾👍🏾
Whew, chile! the people who think they know and have no idea are the worst. thank you for your honesty
Whewwww, I could share this video at the loudest volume a thousand times and I feel like people in my life wouldn’t hear it all 😪.
My 2 year old is nonverbal and now I have a 10 day old still in the NICU. Family thinks we’re just trying to make the load worse on ourselves by not letting them take turns keeping our 2 year old. He needs his routine and he’s not a great sleeper. I’m tired of hearing “just give him xyz or trust me I can put him to sleep” it’s not that easy 😒. These videos help me so much Vaughn ❤️
“Trust me I can put him to sleep” 😫 whew chile. ❤️ Yeah we’re going through the same stuff. I just fear that *if* Anne doesn’t become what her relatives want, it will be my “fault” because so-in-so’s kid “overcame” it or was “cured” so it must be something I did wrong.
YES to family not understanding the keeping of our routine!!!
Say it mom !! Keep overcoming & staying who you are as her strong mom😁you know your doing an amazing job ! You & Mr.Ant❤️
It also sheds light on how to treat kids and there parents. I feel so enlighten.
Omg I got a weighted blanket for Mother’s Day and it helped with my insomnia and anxiety I got the same exact one from Amazon. It puts me to sleep so quickly!
I love your transparency Vaughn! You continue to do what’s best for your daughter, yourself and your household! Anne is such an amazing little girl! I have loved watching your journey and your ability to share. I am not an Autism Mom, but I’ve learned a lot from you. Mom to Mom...Keep being the awesome Mom you are! 🥰🥰🥰
Vaughn kudos to you and Anthony. I'm sure it's a huge challenge. You guys arendoing an amazing job. Also so cool that you are sharing your experience with others
I know it has got to be hard at times. As you stated you are investing 100% in your daughter's growth. People do not understand there are different levels, different experiences at different ages, and you are constantly learning each day. You are doing an amazing job. At my school the special education department has used weighted vest as well to calm students who are very active and they do work. Continued blessings and know that only Anthony and you are living with your experiences 24/7!
I love you so much. You are the perfect mom.. periodt!! Baffled how anyone can second guess you on what you KNOW. You are doing an incredible mom.
Thank you for sharing! So informative. I wish my mom could’ve seen this when my brother was younger going through ASD. He’s now 17. As his sister being in the house everyday, I know the strength it takes for a parent to raise your child through the disorder. Your the perfect mother for Anne! She’s so blessed and will thrive in life because of you and Anthony ❤️
Thanks for sharing. I appreciate how you and hubby have patience and tender loving care with your daughter.
Bless you. Stay encouraged. You are doing a great job.
You’re a great mom, Vaughn!!! God Bless!!! 🤗
Anne is blessed to have such a warrior, advocate, & all around down ass momma in you💕
Thank you soooo much for talking about your experience as a special needs mom. I have the same experience with family and friends and it hurts every time I have to explain myself and my daughter’s condition. I especially hate it when I explain some behaviors that she may have and they responds with “well every kid does that... every kid misbehaves...” it’s not the same. It feels a little bit better knowing that we are not the only ones going through this. Thank you again. You are always so uplifting ❤️
Love love love this video and admire your care and attention to your daughter 💕☺️
You are strong girl! Thanks for sharing your journey, Anne is adorable so you must be doing a lot right. I had a sister with special needs and no one understands how hard it is for the family. Hang in there you are awesome.
Thank you for another great insightful video Vaughn. I have a neuro typical son and we all know parenting in itself is challenging and unchartered territory so blessing to you all.
I definitely don’t take for granted each milestone I see from my boy, and it is so wonderful to be able to share and watch sweet Anne.
Also I wish fam & friends would honestly mind their biz in general sometimes and not give unsolicited advice, especially when it’s not their own kid. I know sometimes their heart is in the right place but it is taxing, so again love and blessings to you, patience and strength.
Thanks for sharing! I can agree with your comments concerning your family. Maybe you can create some content for what families can do to support parents with kids that have Autism.
Your an excellent mom,keep pushing.
Thank you for expressing yourself so clearly and kindly. Praying for you and your family 😊👍🏾
So proud of you and Anthony. Keep up the great work, I know it's not easy, but it's so worth it.
I completely feel you...it’s such a battle talking to people about your ways of parenting your special needs child. People really be doing the most. 🙏🏽🖤 to you Queen keep your crown high.. being aware is your best friend.. I keep reminding myself that I know my child PERIODT I got it
When you said whew Chile🤦🏾♀️I know people on the outside try to tell moms what’s up with their child when the child is healthy I couldn’t imagine dealing with the unwanted commentary being a mom of a special needs child. That would def weight heavy on me as well. I must say from what I can see you’re doing an amazing job. Stay strong love❤️
As a fellow ASD mom of a 3.5 year old, I totally get it about family. I don’t open up about him because I know they won’t understand and I don’t want to hear their unsolicited comments. You are doing great and thanks for sharing. We need to get one of those canoes. My son is always asking me for a hug and I think this will help him.
Very helpful thank you. I personally didn’t out right tell people about my kid on the spectrum bc I just didn’t want him to feel different from others. All your struggles are mines too. I don’t have an opportunity to even speak to anyone going through this so your series mean a lot to me and others. Again thank you.
Love your videos and vlogs. I’m not raising a child with special needs but watched my oldest sister raise one and even though he’s 40, she’s STILL raising him because of his disabilities. I admire her whole heartedly and you and I want you to remain encouraged and know nobody knows your child like you and your Husband. Gods strength and peace to you both as you continue your parental journey and praying God sprinkle some understanding on your kinfolk!! 😬 Keep up your good work and encouraging other Austin Moms!!
Blessings to you! You are such an amazing mom! Anne is lucky to have you as her mother! Stay strong mama!
Vaughn your strength and vulnerability is refreshing ❤️. Thank you so very much for just being you!
Usually, individuals offering their opinions don't have a clue what's required in the care of a child with disabilities...as a mother of a child with disabilities...dismissed/shut down those negative individuals who don't offer assistance, respite care, or knowledgeable and useful information. You don't have the time or energy to waste...do you!
Hey Vaughn! Sending you hugs and lots of love. This video touched my heart. You are an amazing woman and a great mom. Keep it up and thanks for sharing 💛
Thanks for sharing! Both of you as parents are doing a great job!
Thanks for sharing. Good information. Continue to do what you feel is best for Anne.
You guys are doing an exceptionally awesome job! Love how transparent you are with all aspects of Autism. Your wealth of knowledge will no doubt help other families in a similar situation!
I love my weighted blanket.I have Fibromyalgia and many nights when I’m in bed my legs and feet are ACHING insane. I keep the weighted blanked on my legs and feet and it helps. The one I purchased heavy lol.
I felt every word you said!! #momofachildwithspecialneeds
This vlog helped me so much!! My husband and I found out about our 5 year old when she turned 2. We had no idea, she was our first child and it was all new territory. I definitely relate to you every way! Keep it coming!
so proud of Vaughn you and Anthony are doing great !!!!!!
AWWWWW MY ANNE!!! Love yall!! Hey sis!! ❤️❤️❤️
She wore her outfit to school today! ❤️❤️
@@MsVaughnTV awwwwww that sweet girl im glad yall liked it! 🥰🥰🥰
You're amazing!!!💕 My baby boy was diagnosed with Autism at the beginning of this year. However, I always knew there was something wrong. I feel like I'm always having to explain things, and it gets exhausting. Thank you for your wonderful videos. I look forward to them every time 🥰❤️
For whatever it’s worth, I just want you to know that, I AM PROUD OF YOU .
Hang in there you're doing a great job from what we can see. Its hard raising kids in general but to be a raising a child with special needs, I can't image. I take my hat off to you and any other parent thats going through these challenges. Keep your head up and thanks for sharing.
You are awesome! You and Anthony are both doing a great job! 💕
So proud of you daughter, yes daughter. My grandson was diagnosed at about the same age, he will be 4 in February .it can be very difficult as a grandparent, so I know its harder as the parent, therefore yes I am so proud of how you trailblaze for Anne, as well as the other children who's parents(my daughter included) follow you. We are in this together.. God bless you, .keep up the Good work you do for all of us. This is a journey.
Your hair is EVERYTHING! GOALS! LOVE, LOVE your channel. Hey Anne 👋🏼! she's adorable 😍
You and Anthony are doing great! I really admire your positive outlook while dealing with well meaning but hurtful actions.