“I make 5x my bf’s salary-but I’m about to lose my job”
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- Опубліковано 24 вер 2024
- Ramit Sethi of I Will Teach You To Be Rich talks to Mindy, a 39-year-old software consultant, and Victor, a 25-year-old boxing gym owner. They have fundamentally different views on money, and it’s causing tension in their relationship. Mindy wants an equal partner, but Victor struggles to talk about money-and they won’t get married until they’re on the same page.
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I’m baffled by why so much time was spent talking to the 25 yo about his financial goals and no time talking to the 39 yo who is about to lose her jobs in 3 months, with seemingly no prospects in the pipeline and very little savings to keep them afloat. Honestly, it feels like she’s distracting herself by focusing on him.
My thought too.
She wants a 25-year-old who is still figuring out life to step up and protect and provide for her, but he hasn’t developed those skills yet. He’s still growing. She chose the wrong partner and is stuck in a cycle, expecting someone without the necessary experience to save her. That’s unfortunate.
@@chadDickerson-s8m In my experience, expecting anyone to save me was where I messed up.
Exactly. Smells major deflection strategy. He’s not good for a 25 year old but she’s terrible for a 39 year old
I think she's waiting for him to step up. Yeah, I'm not sure that's going to happen.
Lmfao 39 and 25! These are VASTLY different phases of life. It's lowkey like a highschooler being annoyed at a kindergartener for not acting "grown up" 😂😂😂
She has been raising him since he was 19.
*grooming
@@Kinsale101 Honey , no. An adut with an adult. Take your prejudice elsewhere.
@@janettacoronte860”has been raising him” you mean grooming him the whole time? If this was a 33 year old man and 19 year old women that is exactly what people would say
@@AF2277Sno, they would say the girl wants a sugar daddy
I don't understand why there's confusion...they aren't a match. That's very clear. People really do make relationships complicated for no reason.
You're 100% right.
They should have compared Zodiac signs before they got together I guess. 😅
@@Crimzin8 She should have not expected a 25 year old to act like a 39 year old.
He’s in it for the poon-tang 😂
@@arpitakodagu9854 if they've been dating for 6 years, and he's now 25...
It’s interesting to hear Mindy talk so much about investing and saving to start the podcast, then you see the numbers and realize she hasn’t been doing any of those things.
But she feels like she "should" be doing these things. So, the shame has it at the forefront of her mind. (I haven't watched anything in this video yet)
Mindy said that she had only recently started investing - since she read Ramit's book! Recently is not defined but it's very few years.
Yeah, she got to stop like she is a know it all. The number doesn’t reflect that.
@@Ps7apple the number only reflects that she hasn't been investing long.
She might not have been knowledgeable from 18 - 38, but that doesn't mean that she isn't knowledgeable at 39.
Some people are late bloomers when it comes to personal finance.
There is a saying in my country that goes “ when you sleep with a baby, you will wake up wet.”
Not sure what she, as a 33 year ild was thinking when she decided to start a relationship with a 19-year-old. It is not fair for her to ask him to be her equal. 14 years difference is a huge gap in personal development. They should each find someone more compatible and who is at their same stage in life.
Sounds Dominican!
I was 20 and my husband was 32 when we got together. I don't believe it's an age thing, it's the stages in life and values. Do they align, or not. Clearly here they don't align.
@@jwarnstarsmileit’s a little different when the man is older because women are socialized to be more “mature” but that’s still really weird
@@denomen3391yeah I agree even a 10 year gap is weird to me. I’m in my 30s and could never date someone so young. Nor would I expect them to be at the level I’m at financially or emotionally.
@@denomen3391 I'm sorry you feel that way. We've been together for 16 years and it's never been an issue.
I think it would be cool if Ramit had a discussion with his wife on his podcast and they discussed their financial relationship together. They could set an example of what a healthy relationship surrounding finances looks like
Yes! I've been saying this for months. Ramit, show us your CSP! :)
All his zeros wouldn’t fit in the screen! 😂😂😂
Or maybe he can show it like this:$100e9😂😂😂😂
They need to face the reality that they can both be great people...but not the lifelong partners for one another.
She can date him but he’s not a life partner to her. He’s not ready for that role.
Different life stages. I’m 43 and cannot imagine myself with a 29 year old.
I have been there: but I didn't want marriage or demanded any financial responsibility of him . I had my money and situation, he had his. He did very well for his age, was mature and financially sound. We shres and then had our own expenses. We were a couple but didn't live together or planned to marry (I was out of a long term marriage). It ended when it had to end (i did) but at no point i thought of demanding of him to be someone he isn't.
She chose a 14 year younger boyfriend. What did she expect?
EXACTLY... Unless she's REALLY trying to get that VIRILE SPUNK for her eggs that are left
Bro they got together when he was 19 and she was 33 🤦♂️
@@aas55wow!
He chose a 14 year older girlfriend!
Judgement much? I have a 25 year old nephew that at 24 had already bought his own place. In a region where stable employment is hard to come by and most people live with their parents well into their 30's and 40's. He doesn't have a Bachelor or masters degree but studied a professional qualification and started to work as he studied. It is not a matter of age, it is a matter of knowing what a person wants, having a certain money mindset and going for it. While his mates were out getting drunk, he was focused on getting his place. His girlfriend is almost 6 years older than him. This couple here just have very different money mindsets and aspirations: perhaps a traditional relationship based around marriage is not the best one until they can be clear on each person's roles.
What in the hell is a 33-year-old woman doing dating a 19-year-old? Forget money. That's a huge power difference. My guess is he stopped maturing at the moment they got together as she stepped in as mother/lover and takes control. Then she gets frustrated he's not mature. I hope he gets out of this relationship so he can grow and mature in a healthy way. This is why big age differences at a young age are so unhealthy. If they met at their current age, it wouldn't be a big deal.
This is a really good point. I never thought of it that way, but it makes complete sense. He needs more of his years in his 20s by himself to mature more. 🎉
I think he's actually doing fine, in regards to maturity.
He's only 25.
That's a baby. 🥺
When I was 25, I was not worried about spreadsheets. I was putting like 7% in retirement and using the rest to go to bottomless brunch and Aruba. 😂
It is perfectly normal for a young person in their 20s to not be super financially savvy, and to want to focus on enjoying life.
She wants him to be 39, and he's not.
If she can't give him the time he needs to grow up, she needs to go be with a man her own age or older, and let him be with a young woman who wants to grow with him.
Kind of crazy. She’s starting her prime earning years and he’s just starting his career. They’re in two different places financially
I think the age gap doesn’t help either. My mindset and financial situation was way different than when I was in my 20s.
I also find it interesting that when she is talking about taking time off, instead of talking about how she will further her career and maybe grow herself for the next job, she is talking about stepping back and figuring out what she wants to do going forward. Sure, I know there are instances where someone may need to reassess. But the fact that she seems to be jumping straight from a high-paying job into consulting (aka running her own business) appears to me that she is trying to get on the same level as him.
It’s not about how much you make. It’s about your money mindset. If he was more financially savvy, she would be happier. If he understood how much he makes, how much he spends, saves, and invest, I really think she would be a lot happier.
@@dquan731 no because she still wouldn’t want the simple life he wants
Newsflash if we are not married my money is Not your money.
So, they started when he was 19 and she was 33? What did she expect? 14 years is very big gap in career development, but also in personal development. Especially when younger person is still in early to mid 20s. They are in totally different phases of their lives.
she groomed him, saw a poor victim and took advantage.... it's pretty textbook.
That’s what I was thinking too that’s a super big age gap with different expectations. Not just financially, but emotionally and your mindset is different. I’m in my 30s but in my 20s I was a different person and how I navigated the world.
Bizarre.
Call her what she is. A 33 year old man dating a 19 year old would be called a predator.
@@arpitakodagu9854 agreed, I said something to the same effect and UA-cam auto censored it. she saw a mark and decided to pounce on them, regrets the payout wasn't as big as they hoped.
He's in his mid-twenties. Despite the dreamer mindset, he already sounds like he's getting realistic about his future especially for the industry he's in. He'll get to where he needs to be, but her timeline seems like she wants someone ready for their forties
Been together 6 years? 19 yr old and 33 yr old? how did they even meet 💀
Right like was she patrolling high school graduation ceremonies 👀
I wonder if she met him on vacation. Like if she went to PR and met him there and he moved to the mainland for her.
I wish Ramit would have asked.
I feel like he left so many stones unturned this time lol.
@@Aquaria2291Caleb would have gotten to the bottom of it
@@FearhandWinner period lol 😂
She was 33 and started dating a 19 year old. She is not going to get the financial security she is asking for with such a young guy. He seems like he is making strides to become better. She needs to save up her own emergency account and safety net as the much older one
I love how everyone in the comments watched this episode and came to the same conclusion: why are these people together?! The age gap alone is cringy but the fact that they have differnt life goals is a red flag. Its time to move one and find someone they are more compatible with.
She wants a 25-year-old who is still figuring out life to step up and protect and provide for her, but he hasn’t developed those skills yet. He’s still growing. She chose the wrong partner and is stuck in a cycle, expecting someone without the necessary experience to save her. That’s unfortunate.
Their incompatibility is not just the age gap AND the finances (which is a LOT), it is also goals, lifestyles and life stages, expectations, communication issues. and it's been 6 years! Also-- hate to admit but he's pretty consistent with who he is; she is contradicting!!!! She needs to find a teammate who meets her expectations and more in line with her goals. He too! Good pod. Different couple/issues.
Couldn’t help but notice when Ramit asked them about their individual rich lives, Victor still included Mindy and what she wanted while she only mentioned what she wants and dragging him with her even if he doesn’t like it. She answered the question properly but it really shows how differently they think
I’m only 15 minutes into the video but why is Ramit skipping over the fact that Victor pays 78% of his income on fixed costs, while Mindy only pays 48%? 🤔 🤨
I was thinking the same thing
but all the savings for holidays etc is 100% on her though
Yea Ik…
@@racquelholness169 she is the one who wants to go on the vacation and he makes a lot more than him .. idk
@@racquelholness169 he doesn't even want to go on vacation, he wants to stay home. 😂
He's 25. She's old enough to be his teen mom and that's exactly what she is.
At 25, i was broke as s**** too.... probably less direction then this guy as well. hes still trying to figure things out and that takes time.
Okay!
I was broke asf with 10 housemates, having the time of my life using whatever money I had on guilt-free spending. 😂
25 year old boyfriend??? Bruh...
33 and 19 yo to start with. Dude...
Mama talks to her “son” …she wants security asking it from person who is 14 years younger… do you remember yourself as 25 yo? You are basically still a child at this age…
Just a couple hundred years ago, at 25, men conquered entire continents with pointy sticks, explored the seas on little more than wooden rafts, and built wonders of the world and great civilizations with stones and wood.
25 is plenty old enough.
@@GiftofGod289 maybe … hundreds years ago…don’t see this now in modern times
yikes
@@TatianinDen even possible today.. I was at my 2nd job at 25 and already had 15k in savings.. I am 39 now so basically this woman’s age and I am a millionaire.
Tbh, she’s a bigger disaster than him if she’s worried about losing a job and has no emergency funds to cover. Everybody loses a job at some point.
@@garyish good for you! Bravo!
An epiphany kinda... people spend untold hours scouring tiktok, Instagram, X and can tell you all about politics or Diddy crap but you ask them what they make a year and they are clueless? What's their aprs on debts, dunno....it's wild AF.
There are two types of people....people who use resources such as time, the internet etc to their advantage and people who squander the same resources.
I think it's on her, to be honest... who in the right mind at 33 would have a 19 years old boyfriend?? What did you expect?
Money For Couples!!!! PERFECT. Way to go Ramit. Awesome rebranding.
They really don’t seem very compatible to me, she wants to travel he likes routine, she gets bored with routine?
They aren’t even married so no combining income
Absolutely! @ramit?
In general, most gym owners are broke. I’m not knocking it, I used to be in the industry, it’s a tough one. But if you date a gym owner you should expect most of the time they are barely scraping by.
I would like to know how she handled money at age 25, by the look of it, she also didn’t value saving and investing at that age. She’s playing catch up
Edit: after finishing the video, I guess there isn’t use in dwelling on the past. If they are setting boundaries and working on their relationship with themselves and money -good for them. Good luck to both. It’s hard out here
this was a really great episode. the "love isn't enough" parts really resonated. i think this was such an important message to have the hard conversations with our partners! that's the only path towards either getting aligned or deciding that this isn't the relationship they want to grow old in. either option is fine but avoidance of the real issue is not. thanks to the guests for letting us observe this difficult realization/discussion.
Staying single is so much easier
I am confused as to why we are even talking about their finances together when they aren’t even married yet. Victor is also very young compared to her. He will eventually feel the need to figure out his finance when he reaches late 20s to early 30s. She is already in her 39 and expects a 25 years old to mature faster to be on her level??? Read the room lady, This will never happen. GROW UP
I THINK she wants him to earn a lot of money so she can go travel every month. While he is earning good for his age especially in Ohio. IF she wants to travel, earn money, she needs to leave this man alone!
It almost felt that Ramit was trying to get them to break up. Like, he doesn't think they are good together. But he stopped just short, saying that they should assess the future of the relationship, and whether they see themselves getting married, and if not should they remain together.
When Ramit asks if she'd be ok with this dynamic continuing for the next 20-30 years, she gives a very decisive "absolutely not." I think that's what he means by "get impatient with your life," except apply that fire to now.
Kinda wondered that too, especially when she retires 14 years before him and has nothing going on while he’s working and scraping by
They are absolutely and unconditionally incompatible. The best solution for them would be to separate. Period. They have different interests and goals in life. They are in very different phases of life. Sorry to say, but they are not meant to be with each other.
Large age gap aside (although I'm not sure what a 33 year old expects when they start dating a 19 year old), I don't think they're compatible. They don't view money or life the same. What's even the point?
and what’s crazy is. The compatibility is highly due to the age gap that we can try to ignore. It’s not something that’s excusable and is the main factor in this.
He’s 25 his frontal lobe has barley developed she’s 39. I’m 31 and would feel like I’m emotionally mentally taking advantage of someone. They’ve been together for 6 years. So that means… he was 19 and she was 33… uhhh…
What happened to the CSP at the beginning!!!! Also love the title change, makes sense to me.
Yeah I liked the CSP at the beginning
Sorry to say and no dis respect but I think the difference in age, maturity and what they want out of life is too great and they will end up parting ways. This is not a huge issue for a 25 year old man but it is for a 39year old woman so for her in particular, maybe some counselling to really analyse what she wants and if all the imbalances are too much then a break up sooner rather than later might be best for both. Best of luck to them.
This guy doesn't need a therapist - he's happy. 😂
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Age and cultural differences and earnings are going to be very difficult to overcome.
I would say mostly cutural differences and money mindset. Her expectations are difficult to match
I think when she loses her job that will probably be the breaking point of their relationship. Like how are they going to make this work when her money goes down? She will want to buckle down and be tighter with money and he's probably just still thinking about having money in the moment (which is very common for people in their 20s).
Age is not always a factor, but it typically is. They have different approaches to finances and want different things in life. What she wants in a partner is the maturity and foresight to think about the future, but unfortunately most men in their mid-20s arentlike this
It's amazing to me as I watch these podcasts how important it is to be on the same page regarding finances yet how much most couples are not and what the consequences really are!
YIKES! This should be interesting - major age gap, vastly different incomes and lifestyles.... HE WAS ONLY 19, and she was 33?!
Realistically, I do not see them being together for much longer because this is 10% about finances and 90% about them being an unhealthy mismatch!
What a great look into how money psychology really isn’t that obvious and can cloud so much of our judgement in our relationships. It was heart wrenching to watch a couple talk about maybe having to breakup to be successful individuals.
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Ol girl out here cougin.
Best comment ❤
😂
Better trademark "cougin" otherwise I'm stealing it and slapping it on some t-shirts
They are not compatible.
I think reassurance comes also from a belief that woman can only overreact. So, if you think she is overreacting, it makes sense that he is trying to reassure her because.
Not saying he is a bad person. I think it is one of those cultural scripts that most of us carry
What did she think would happen choosing someone that much younger, financially & mentally they are in different stages of life
Underlying issues outside of money 💰. Its a mother/son dynamic
She needs to release this poor man from her relationship trap and find someone closer to her age and life stage.
He is in his mid-20s & is entitled to take his time, make mistakes and to figure out his own finances without the pressure of having to support her.
Not enough conversation around the predatory age gap. There's a huge power dynamic and she's definitely using it to mentally manipulate him. He is a victim.
Totally agree - I find the age gap creepy! Why can’t she find some closer to her age and who is more ready to get serious about their finances!
Yawn... They're both adults, get over it.
@@nono99136 lol. Then why is she complaining that her toy boy isn’t serious about his finances!
@@anjalianthony1656He is an adult and can leave anytime. If at 19 he had murd-red someone he would be convicted as an adult and sent to an adult prison....so he was and is old enough to decide to date someone older.
Her problem is she has a 15 year head start and expects him to be at the same place as her.
Yep, if the genders were reversed there would be more talk about a controlling relationship.
I rarely comment on these videos but like many of the commentators on this video, these two are not a match. I'm 45 years old and my goals and ambitions when I was his age were different from now. She is too much like a motherly figure to him. Also, does he want kids? Both of them seem cool, but as a couple, I don't believe it'll work.
I have a 25 year old son. No ma'am, he's still maturing. He's still a baby. It's just a phase, please walk away now. It doesn't get better.
I think they need to separate. She needs an older, steady man who already "figured it out".. I mean, he is very young. But hey, who knows if he "figure it out"
Hello princess! Are you secure?
Ramit always does his best! Good job!!!
When Mindy talked about the kind of person Victor was and began crying it was absolutely beautiful. I'm hoping they can solve their issues.
He's a good man, Savannah!! 😭😭😭😭
Something I learned about this and similar couples like this on the channel is be careful who you get into relationships with. Just because you love and care about this person it doesn’t mean you’re compatible. For Mindy and Victor to continue the relationship would require a lot of compromising from one partner (most likely Mindy) because they’re not on the same page and Victor can’t help his age and lack of experience. I really concerned for Mindy when she’s not receiving a paycheck anymore. I wish Ramit spoke more about that and asked if she has an emergency fund and how much does she expect to depend on Victor…
Not gonna comment on the age gap b/c it’s been commented to death BUT I’ve been the younger one in several relationships and I was the more financially savvy one.
What I did learn from these relationships is that I didn’t want to get married and that I didn’t want to legally combine money but I wanted to share a life with that person and that did require us to discuss money.
I think those who consider this couple’s interview invalid because they are living together and not married, that’s silly. Marriage is not very everyone. Marriage isn’t forever. Sure it creates a legal framework for dealing with money but people get hosed in divorces all the time. My point is that many people live together and their unions are just as valid as any other relationship combo. Plus marriage rates are going down so Ramit is smart to not include a couple that for sure a part of his audience can relate to.
I dont mind that Ramit is doing an interview with this couple for the reasons you mentioned above. However it feels really silly to have a whole conversation around ‘household income’ with an unmarried couple. They have not committed to a shared life/vision/each other yet, hence arent morally or legally bound to be responsible for the other person, make sacrifice, prioritize the other person well being. their incomes and expenses should be reviewed separately, and they can talk about whether shared visions and goals are possible.
unmarried couples arent invalid - obviously married couples start out as an unmarried one first. Im not even saying one is better than the other - there are bad marriages and amazing relationships. But a dating relationship is just not the same in nature as a marriage relationship.
This was disappointing to watch. How can you ask the low earner who is just getting started in their career to take charge of their finances when the high earner loses their job. And they’re not even married! Yes you live together but why live with someone if you are so unhappy with how much they earn. I feel bad for this guy because it feels like he’s being told he’s not doing enough and getting the blame for not living up to expectations of the high earner who has 14 years of more experience and wants a more expensive lifestyle. It takes time to get comfortable with money you can’t just flip a switch. If you want that fancy travel lifestyle find it with someone who can reasonably afford it and actually wants it don’t bully someone into getting there.
My main question to her being 39 years old is why is it so hard for you to rip the band aid off and just let him go if the relationship isn’t working.
After a point you have to decide whether the person on the other end of the finances is worth your time and energy. If all you can focus on is the money then it becomes extremely difficult.
During the beginning of the video it feels like she almost resents him at times for not having the same motivation about money. Did any of us at 25 years old have an understanding of money. I know for me personally it wasn’t until I was about 29 when I really started caring about money or retirement.
Overall you just really have to remember that on the other end of your relationship there is a person and you have to decide whether that person is worth the fight.
We had ready purchased a house and saving for retirement at age 26.
We were financially on the same page.
Some research suggests the human brain doesn't fully "mature" until age 26.
If so, Victor is still growing up, while Mindy is at a completely different stage of life.
However, even if they were closer in age (2 or 3 years max), and all else being equal (mindset, expectations, etc) , the incompatibility would still be glaring, so that's not necessarily down to the age gap.
I wonder if they are both trying to hold onto their relationship hoping the other comes around to their perspective. Probably not happening.
Neither is the "bad" person or wrong here.
She is incredibly unserious. Girl, you are 39 years old. It’s time to focus
Sort of sad that Victor feels pushed to “rise” to the level of Mindy’s mindset. He could gain a lot by learning and investing. She could gain a lot by relaxing while still being conscientious about saving and investing. It took years for my husband to take finances more seriously. He’s only three years younger than me (we met at 59 and 56) but had a very different mindset about money. He did shift and we now work in partnership, but it took years. If you’re a business owner, you must know where your money is going! I’m not hung up on the age difference, but if they don’t have basic values in line, it’s going to always be a struggle and a fight.❤
Half your age and add 7. That's the youngest life partner you should have. He's too young for her if she wants "an equal partner", he is emotionally and financially her junior.
What would a 33 year old woman see in a 19 year old? I’m 25 and the thought of dating a 19 is just so strange to me! Add on 8 years and dare I say it’s gross!
Same net and gross pay in the CSP are how he ended up with IRS debt. No judgement, I've been there! Victor needs to put aside 25% of his revenue for taxes.
Despite the age difference, they are committed to each other. Let’s hope they can work together to straighten out their finances and instead saying they should breakup.
he is young and smart and willing to learn. Best of luck!
Thank yooooou!!! Everyone is stuck on the age difference and when they got together (yeah, that happened), but not once did he say anything that alluded to not wanting to change. That is HUGE compared to some of the men (yeah, I gendered it) who come on this podcast and want to keep their toys and their lifestyle and ignore reality. He has time to get there. Not sure she has the patience or time to wait, though.
Why isn’t she job hunting and “figuring out what she wants to do” now while she still has income? And I’m sorry - he’s a sweetheart but he’s a child. I don’t get this relationship at all.
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He said he want to make enough money to be happy and have enough time for himself and his friends. There it is…🤦🏻♀️
I am a completely different person than I was at 25 my priorities were different than I was at her age
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Girl 39? What are you thinking? Of course he can dream he is only 25! He will get there when he is 40-50 but you might not be in the picture by then. Gosh leave young people alone they have a long way to go.
I learn a lot from Ramit and his guests. Just concerned that lots of folks are on this financial journey alone. The most recent data available shows that 46.4% of U.S. adults are single, nearly every other adult 18 or older.
She knows what it is. That’s why she’s so tearful. The need to breakup.
Last follow up - “I learned a lot, and I just want to learn more.” Huh? Has any work been done post-show…like at all? No specifics of any kind at all.
oh no, not the planet fitness branding😂
Love the new branding Ramit, especially the CSP
They really arent a match im sorry. He seems like he's still "figuring it out" in life, while she's set and knows what she wants. Also the age and wealth gaps are massive they're literally in two different worlds. That big off a gap creates some power dynamics and will always create tension
For a high income they don’t have much money
this was hard to watch, there's not a single spark of recognition in his eyes. his answers seem so shallow and i've known him for one hour....
oh baby girl, you've lived with this for SIX YEARS?? beyond the age difference or the relationship, just the idea of having spent THAT MUCH TIME on anything that still isn't going anywhere or gaining any traction, move on. life is too short.
I don’t like to travel either. So that can’t be apart of my Rich Life. 😂😂😂
It’s so interesting to me that the two of them have exactly matching smiles. I can’t think of anything that would be more of an attraction and might be the glue that will ultimately hold them together.
The age discrepancy needs a lot of planning as well… when he’s 59 and can access his 401k, she’ll be 73! Is that really what you want?
Sorry but we just watch a "divorce in pause". This will not work.
“Where are those people? Where do they live?” Honestly, everywhere.
Ugh. One of those "i want unlimited money" types, and she gets with a much younger guy. Insufferable.
They seem to have very different life goals and expectations. This will be very challenging for a life partnership. Maybe it is best to be good friends, but not life partners.
Is it just me or does she seem like she loves the idea of him more than the person? I’m rooting for them, but it kinda feels like they should take a break/separate for a couple months and reassess their own wants and values in life. Then maybe see if their values align.
For her to be 14 years older (with the age he is at) is incredibly hard because she is simply at a different stage of life than he is.
I could totally see someone like her being with a guy in his mid to late 40s because a guy that age would for sure be on the same life path as she is.
Exactly! He expressed his vision of a rich life. It’s drastically different from what she’s pushing him towards.
Ramit, in all your videos, i truly enjoy your laughter the most lol
Do they want kids? If so, this might work awesome if he is the super caring guy she proclaims him to be. He may be able to be the “ more home” parent when kids were young. Just a thought I’m sure they have had because she’s said she wants “ forever.” Not sure if they want kids or not, obviously.
I don’t know if it’s that you cut bits of the conversation out or your future self talking is brining up points that are made later in the conversation. You say how “he said this and she says {insert reasonable response}” but we never heard her say it. I’m talking about the “ we could be okay if we do it together comment”.
I do find it odd that in this scenario you seem to be far more focused on her side being the more right way of thinking. As if the compromise shouldn’t be on her end. The compromise is he cares about money bit more than he does now and she needs to move out of the content concern about money to one that makes her less of a slave to spreadsheets
You don’t combine finances if you aren’t married🤔
I mean you could have a shared fixed cost account if you live together but that's it.
@@tomaszp2027 yes to pay household expenses, yes i agree
Rebranding w a new name. I dig it!
Brilliant!
“I know those people exist but where do they live” might be the most out of touch statement ever 😂. Honestly I’m all for people making money, I love the idea of people do whatever they want with it but comments like that are the reason people need to sometimes get hit hard financially before they make a lot of money.
I know- I raised my hand
I took that comment differently. I thought she was saying that people who say “I wish I had $175k a year, I would never worry about money” probably don’t live in high cost of living areas where that doesn’t go as far as you think.