HOW TO FIND A LIFE PARTNER | DATING SUCCESS FOR CHAPS
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- Опубліковано 28 чер 2024
- In this video your host offers some advice in an agony uncle style, for a viewer seeking some guidance in his journey towards romantic happiness.
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When you said your second date had taken images of herself in diving gear, I can imagine your disappointment when you questioned her on Rolex Submariner specifications 😂😂
I married a Singaporean woman 3 years older than myself...on paper, we have nothing in common...background, professions, friends etc etc..but, we got on like a house om fire when we first met...and 12 years later we still do....funny how these things work
The problem is not on woman think about it bro
Your suits as of late have been wonderful in their nod to a classic gentleman!
Great advice (as always) the one thing I'd add is to stop looking. That's not to say avoid opportunities, just don't try to force things. Just roll with it, and let what will be will be. I know from my own history and with talking about the topic to friends, being too focused on getting a 'life partner' can frequently actually get in the way of that happening
Very true!
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Yes, all my best girlfriends popped up ever so randomly without an ounce of force.
Spot on
I married my Mexican pen pal in the days when you had to send a letter or use the phone. We wrote to each other for several years and then i finally went to meet her in Mexico City in 1997. The rest is history except to say we have now been happily married for over 25 years.
My wife and I have been happily married for 19 years. Watching this video just to hear your thoughts. I remember being single when I was in my 20s. I didn't like it. After I became very happy as a bachelor, In my early 30s A twist of fate happened and I was married. And that way ever since
I would say that the first few dates say a lot.
When my wife and I had our first dates, we just talked and talked and laughed.10 hours of forgetting the time. Never a moment of awkward silence.
I never experience that in any date I had before.
And as Ash said. The rest is history.
Hi Ash. The only thing I would add and it applies to both genders, is to stay away from people with a negative disposition, social climbers, egotists and self centred and shallow individuals. People tend to attract as like with like. Personality and a sound purpose of common sense, decency and understanding will be demonstrated at the beginning of the relationship and Looks are definitely not important.
Some great advice Ash. The only thing I would say is that if I made sure I was fully prepared to begin a relationship I probably wouldn’t ever be ready.
Sound advice, that life partner simply will not show up on your door,one must get out and look for someone.
I married my best friend. It’s not always perfect - and we’ve had some very difficult times - and still do, but, above all, we’re always best friends. My advice is, find someone who is kind, has good morals, and who will always keep you on your toes. Anyone who is too interested in status or image, and who is unable to see their own faults, and show you yours, is not worth investing time in. Marriage is the hardest thing I’ve ever embarked upon, but, warts and all, I love my wife, and can’t imagine being with anyone else. Oh, and remember - relationships ebb and flow - many people throw in the towel at the first hurdle. It’s not about that - the vows you make are for better and for worse, richer or poorer. Couples who last are those who work through the hard times and the good times.
I really enjoy listening to your opinions and views. You are a man of many facets.
I think it's important to find a wife with the same background as yourself: be it religion, politics, leisure time activities, cultural interests, upbringing of children: so that you can share the same outlook on life. So I think it's good to look for a future wife amongst the group of people you are mixing yourself with. I for one would grow extremely irritated if my wife had a completely different view on e.g. religion or politics as myself, as this would lead to bitter conflicts in your private life. It is highly advisable to go with much common interest into your common life as a couple. Thankfully I've found such a good lady.😊
I find it a difficult and rather depressing landscape for men today (certainly of my age or below), which isn't helped, in my case, by the fact that I have always preferred music, film and literature from before my own time to the rot which followed during my life-time to date, resulting typically in thin common-ground. This video timed well as I was kept awake for a while last night feeling a little hopeless about my situation. Thank you for the injection of hope!
Not every candidate you meet will be a perfect fit in the first five minutes, remember your partner choice should be a 1+1=3 equation, they should not just match but be like a catalyst where you both make each other better but the core values have to be in alignment to appreciate the polishing of each of your sharp edges by each other, otherwise its a disagreement not an evolution.
Hi Ash. Yes, the vernacular of the original email didn't scan well! I'm sure (hope) that when his words were read back to your viewer a few cogs started to turn and some self-awareness kicked in. As ever all your points are spot on. Give and take (not domination) is the key to a successful, happy, fulfilling relationship. By the way, could I ask who made your jacket? I'm looking for one right now and love the look of yours.
Great advice Ash. As you said you need somebody that you have things in common with. Personally I have always liked older women usually one to five years older. But you have to have things in common. Look for a partner in places where you like to do things. My current wife I met at our place of employment. She is one year older than me. We enjoy hiking fishing and working in the garden. If you find somebody that you can do things with and have things in common with you are more likely to have a successful marriage. Find somebody you have things in common with build a friendship first and things will happen. Cheers Ron
Thank you for acknowledging same sex. We have the same questions and concerns!
Spot on advice uncle Ash and great story, thank you sir 🙏🏽
Glad you enjoyed it
30 Years here and going. Parents were 55 years married, in-laws 50 years both golden anniversary. We have silver behind us. Money and success is not the key for a real trusting loving relationship. Look beyond that. Actually wealth can be contraproductive in this case.
I've never heard the term "agony uncle" before, Ash. -That's rich.
As soon as your correspondent used the phrase "they do not let me guide them" I thought "This guy doesn't need dating advice for 2024, he needs to build a time machine and pilot it back to the 19th century."
I've been happily married for 38 years, and I'd say the keys to a successful, long-term relationship are shared interests, beliefs, and values. -Opposites may attract in the short term, but in the long term profound differences only make for insurmountable problems.
Also crucial: both partners in a relationship need to be able to forgive and forget.
I’ve only been married half as long as you, but I could not agree more.
Good stuff Ash, thanks!
Glad you liked it!
Solid and sane content.
I wrote two paragraphs to express just this!😅
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A very important life lesson ❤️🫡 great advice
Brilliant and Inspirational advice as usual Ash. I was about to sort out a dating app but then remembered I am in a relationship for the last 22 years.
Thanks for covering this topic, your wisdom is appreciated.
Glad it was helpful!
I'm a young guy but, I think shared values are huge, this man sounds like he needs to pursue women in different areas, women from church and higher class circles. Those areas carry women who tend to have more preference for men who know where there head is at. You want a woman to be different and have different interests but, shared values is a huge plus. I notice most men who are single tend to pursue women without an eye on the future, not thinking about kids or family life early enough.
in my experience even women in the country are getting to be more like women from the city. they all suck.
woah! church where they stress the man is over the woman? Not a very good situation or setup. Church is not where you find higher class circles, only troubled people.
Great advice, Ash. Know yourself, and hold onto yourself.
So true!
This is to me, by far, one of your best content videos. I find there is somewhat of a connection between sartorial elegant choices and finding a good life partner. In both cases, it’s important to know one’s self, so one can make long lasting choices which suits their characteristics (pun not intended).
You have hit the nail on the head - a relationship of any kind, begins and ends with oneself.
Don't settle. Be patient. You got this.
the whole business terrifies me.I have painstakingly modeled my life after that of Bertie Wooster.Stoicism with a grand sense of humor,are vital.
If you could only laugh your life away....what a utter joy life would be. Someone who is humorous with style.
@@escapematrixenterprisejacq7810 .Indeed.I was half kidding in my response,of course life can be serious business,but I understand what the young genetleman was asking,and your response was wise and astute.I have,however,found,that in relationships, a sense of humor (with style) is important.For me,dressing well acts as a natural repellant to a certain kind of woman who would not be appropriate for me,(gold diggers are another story).Good ones are out there,though,(what-o,Honoria Glossop).Thank you again for a great video
Another interesting video, Ash - thanks!
I've been married to a German girl, two years my junior, for over thirty years. Also been living in Germany all that time.
We're certainly from different backgrounds but are very happy.
I've also been working at the same place all that time so am more-or-less "married" to some of my work-colleagues. This is where I notice the "gulf" between our backgrounds and miss like-minded humour, etc.. More so as I age.
Think very carefully before taking such a plunge, in both your married and working lives....
This sunday..HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!!!
Ash, I firmly believe that women live a few years longer because they stress us in a way that accelerates our departure to the beyond.
You may have a valid point there!
Actually men who are in a stable relationship live longer than single men.
@KlausKokholmPetersen I know, I'm in one, but the key word is: Stable
@@KlausKokholmPetersen btw you actually made my point 😂😁
@@andreleverettejr3747 they keep us on our toes....
Maybe its for men, but we women need it too, although I do love to be alone...funny the gentleman that wrote you has the issues I do, I do not want my own standards, character, or discipline transmuted or nullified and I am not willing to have that interrupted either. I'd like someone without children that has eccentric talents (not to be exaggerated into Lord Byron) but unusual endeavors and loves mystery and adventure, a bit of intellectual and highly creative, and has a deep similar vein of something we share together like a natural gift. I haven't put any energy or desire into finding this because I lost much of who I was from childhood trauma that I need to just focus on me, been building myself back so life is for my own well-being, I don't really think of the future just love to focus on each moment. Rachel is very beautiful, by the way.
I regret to inform you that, because naturally you’re not getting any younger, it’s going to be exceedingly difficult for you to find a man meeting your expectations. Pardon my estimation but based on your picture you’re closer to collecting Social Security than your twenty-first birthday. If, by your admission, you “haven't put any energy or desire into finding,” you are not likely to find success. I wish you the best of luck.
It's essential that you wear beautiful sophisticated looking shoes. No kidding here.
Regarding this matter, whether I may; my exgirlfriend from Tokyo moved to her Homeland after eight years of relationship and the time and the distance did the rest...
I am 54 years old at the moment; I keep in shape (as fit as a fiddle as I like to claim) I keep all my hair, not grey hairs at all.
I did not find a lady who fits me yet. She must be cultivated (College degree or equivalent) stylish, in a good shape and easy-going.
I chose a difficult task, I,m afraid.
By the way I,m an Spaniard living and working in my Homeland.
Wishing you all , a great week!
Regarding serving in the Military, did you serve in Operation Desert Storm?
No sir, I was based in Germany during that campaign.
I’ve been wonderfully married 45 years this year. People mature like an excellent red wine, over a lifetime, many to be the best of themselves in their life as they grow older. Some achieve greatness…others… achieve. depends on how intense that desire and drive to achieve is?
Finding one is easy, just go to a different hairdresser every month (not a barber).
Chap Z?
I'm afraid the chap's time has gone. It's not just the women who find his 'tone', well, not positive to put it politely. I think you gently pointed out the errors of his ways there Ash..... first thing i thought .... Incel. ... must be one hell of a fellow to think he can play daddy to an adult woman!!!!! Very brave.
I really must be moving in the wrong circles. I find women today to be very aggressive , bossy , feminist , until it comes to paying the bill yet go on and on about how independent and self assured they are. They no longer dress like women but look more like storm troopers in tight jeans and jack boots. Tattoo piercings , vaping drinking paints . Swearing and shouting. The ones that do look nice . Want your money , pension weekends away trips to London. Short breaks in Europe. 3 Holidays a year.
Go asian
For all of you fellas out there using online dating apps in middle-age looking for wife number two, avoid the women who wear sunglasses in all their photos. They’re older than they claim. The More You Know
Find a traditional woman from the East, such as a Filipina. Western women are no longer what they used to be.
is that because we have evolved?
No, it’s because Western women are not as loyal and committed to their husbands. They’re not as good of cooks, they’re better mothers (in part because they prioritize motherhood above all else, including their careers), they’re more invested in faith and religious customs, and divorce is far less common, or even nonexistent, in many of their cultures.
@@alekhidell7068 It may not be for all men. Sounds like these woman are highly conditioned; yes we have evolved.
@@alekhidell7068(Id love a man that could cook). I lived in Italy many years and met people of many cultures, I see what goes on. Many are oppressed; and too controlled, most are not even happy. All western women are not the same by the way...and we are entering a new era, so why root all women into a neverending traditional role? People are entitled to their own perspectives.
My point was about women, not men. However, you’re right; I’m emphasizing the average. There’s a reason that outcomes are as they are in the West. I’m merely elucidating that which has made Eastern women a preferable alternative for many men. Of course, Western women are free to disregard this message; however, this does not make it any less true. The truth is that the burgeoning trend has seen men avoiding relationships with women in the West because, as they see it, it is a poor value proposition. This is not a value judgment on my part but merely a statement of fact. There are also considerably more legal risks in marrying Western women, so that has presented obstacles as well. Again, this is a statement of fact. As for the “evolution” of women, that is itself a subjective point of view, and candidly one that is probably detrimental to many who could learn from other cultures. Most “evolved” women claim to embrace diversity, equity, and inclusion, but when it comes to the vital distinctions between women across cultures, there appears to be a lot of animosity or otherwise an unwillingness to embrace those qualities prioritized and treasured by women in those lands. By the way, it is not only highly disrespectful but ignorant to suggest that those women are any more conditioned than you. If you wish to test yourself on this, think of any thought that you maintain which is unpopular amongst your peer group. Otherwise, visit ChatGPT and try to teach it something it doesn’t know. This will doubtless prove a challenging task, and one which can reliably expose the extent to which one is or is not a critical and independent thinker. I appreciate the probing question, and I offer my points as my own and with sincerity. As for a man who cooks, you can certainly find one. Remember, nobody owes anybody anything in this life. It’s up to you.
Perhaps this man could look for a woman who obviously does not need his "guidance."