“ You have to the let soft animal inside you love what it loves. “ Every other earth dweller is afraid of vulnerability, whatever it may look and feel like to the specific person, but at the same time , they also wish they could be vulnerable , we all wish we could ❤
The painful part of becoming an adult is realizing a huge part of childhood friendship are because of proximity. Then as you start pursuing your dreams while dealing with the daily struggle of life, you start drifting. Very few childhood friendships survive adulthood.
I think most friendships stem from proximity, just the environment changes. As we grow up we might not even meet our earlier best friends much but we try to connect at important points and when we do meet it feels like there's very little barrier between us no matter how many years have gone by, you might build those barriers the more you interact though if you don't find it satisfying. Sometimes it's just better to send an occasional greeting lol
This is so out of the blue but Snapchat kind of artificially prolongs my friendships until I see them again. You get to share your thoughts and your everyday happenings with each other. It really has made the difference in my relationships as weird as that sounds.
It is. My friend, who was like a sister to me, and I did this when we were young. We joked about how we would get boyfriends and how cool it would be if we had kids around the same time and that they would be friends growing up. We knew each other for about ten years, growing up together, but sadly it didn't last. A few years after high school, we drifted apart. She wanted to get married, have kids, etc while I didn't want any of that stuff (and I still don't). We would talk on the phone, but most of our conversations always shifted to her and her baby. We never spoke about daily problems or old memories or rehash funny conversations. Our schedules never lined up anymore. It was like fighting to hold onto something that wasn't there anymore. We were on two different paths in life. No one was at fault, we just wanted different things, so we eventually drifted apart. Nonetheless, I'm still grateful for knowing her and the time we spent together for all those years. I think we met in a time in both of our lives where we truly needed someone and when we didn't, life had us part ways.
@@willowingwhispers2612 Although it may be sad to lose someone your dearly love, I agree about what you said. My friends in the past were definitely there when we needed each other most and helped me become who I am today
@@kebdo3387i rlly relate🤪😭it’s crazy to think that i used to talk to my bestie literally every day but now we haven’t talked in a year & i don’t hv any friends😸
I am so lucky. I got a new roommate and we're besties. Like the type of bestie where we're always joking that we're like actually married and help each other through everything and tell each other about how our morning poop went😂😂😂 we're what people call "wayyy too comfortable" but honestly it's great. (get a roommate! Maybe you're lucky too!❤)
trauma bond is what a victim has with an abuser. a "trauma bond" is not just bonding over trauma, though i understand why people get confused by the word
@@taylorfrink1182I'm pretty sure not everyone is attempting to use the established phrase and are just putting the two words together on their own, which people do all the time
no fr she asked me about my relationship with my dad and i was like "... no thank you :3". and she said, "what do you mean no-" "i mean uhhh no . ? 😬" "wha- err uh okay 😃" and it was never brought up again lmfao
@@y0y0masterI mean you dictate what you talk about and how far you wanna go in detail about something. Even if it's therapist trust takes time to build and sometimes those simple questions are not that simple. I'm glad your therapist understood and respected that.
We need a term for whatever it is when you just see someone every couple of weeks and can't talk about anything heavy with them, because it's not friendship.
@@Reisende193 For years now I’ve been referring to it as a “positive acquaintanceship”. One step above acquaintance, but below the threshold of friendship. Like, if I could disappear for weeks at a time and you wouldn’t even notice I was gone? We’re not friends.
Bro, literally had a friend call me his best friend, over years. We've seen each other like 3 times a year. Starting this year, I told him I kind of don't feel the best friend status.
@@cara-seyun however if we always keep it in it can literally hurt our physical bodies. Perhaps you can just write it down in a journal just to release it instead of bottling it up. :)
Yeah, you know when a friendship is dying but you're not brave enough to let go of it first, so you just try to keep it up as long as you can? Yeah that's what I've been going through.
Just walk away, it’ll only hurt the longer you care about the “friendship”. If it really troubles you though, then maybe you should discuss with your friend about it. I know that seems like relationship talk, but I mean a friendship is a relationship just of a different kind. You can’t continue if you don’t communicate. And you’ll regret if you still care.
She finally ended it. I did so well to make it work for 2 years after just taking all the mental blows on myself but she really just wanted to end it this time and I couldn't stop her anymore, like I always used to before. Nor could I make it better. I really thought that if I kept making efforts, it'll get better but guess not. Both have to equally put effort and want the friendship to go on. I can't alone carry it on. Won't be doing that same mistake ever but I still miss her and feel very sad this finally happened.
I’m so lucky to have a best friend that’s more like the girl in the first clip! And the funny thing is, our dads were best friends growing up TOO, so we’re technically carrying on THEIR legacy! 🤣
I’m 26 and I can validate this (I know no one asked). But I remember being a kid and having those wholesome friendships being like bro were gonna have kids in the future that are gonna play soccer together like we do now!! And now I meet up with my friends like maybe once a month and most of the time we will talk about how life sucks these days and make dark jokes and it’s like low key not even funny anymore
That’s the truth though. “I genuinely didn’t think I’d make it to this week” despite working 2 jobs because the cost of living is so high now, that you basically can’t even enjoy life. You just have to get by on rice and beans and work 24/7. All I wanted was a little place to live. It didn’t have to be nice. It didn’t have to be large. I just wanted it to be my own. Not in this economy.
Real- the unrealistic part is the friend saying "you want to unpack that?" instead of something like "haha same bro same" or "yeah me neither, It's already a miracle I managed to make it *today* 😂" lol, dark humor is basically the only humor me and my friends have and joke with those few times we see each other every 6-8 months or so-
bro everyone’s saying the same thing, so most likely both sides feel the same way so why aren’t either of them sort of fighting for the relationship to keep going?
Accurate... As me and my best friend of 5 years drove away from graduation I said "I honestly thought I'd have killed myself by now" and in some messed up way he knew I was trying to thank him for helping me find a will to live😅
I wasn’t expecting this to hit so close to home. I only see my childhood friends a few times a year now because they’re both in college and one of them also has a job.
This isn’t just a social media problem though. Me and my friends used to be super close back then and now that we’re in University, we don’t see each other as much. We still love each other dearly, but we just don’t have as much time as we used to and that’s normally what happens when you have more responsibilities. That’s just life.
Nah cuz this is why those friends who you can go a couple months without talking to and pick back up like nothing happened are the best. Even better if they know literally everything about you, good and bad. You get to let each other breathe but you guys are also high up on each other’s list of favorite people.
Thats exactly how I am. I really struggle keeping up with people through texting. There are no hard feelings for me though. If I value the friendship I am glad to meet or catch up after a few months. Some people dont understand this and get angry at it unfortunately. That's what different friendship expectations do for you
At the end of the day, it's the one you get lesbian accusations with. Just recently found out that my best friend's mom thought she and I were dating all throughout high school
Crazy how many people are lonely now days ngl, I feel that way too. I have so many friends in a group but it feels like you can’t talk to any of them. I get left on read by all of them
Same. One moved away years ago but I talk to him literally everyday, and if we’re in the same city, first thing we do is meet each other. Then I have another true friend that I talk to maybe once every couple days, sometimes weeks, but it’s always like nothing changed and we hit it off immediately
I mean that really is friendships now because of how society is today we barely have time for each other anymore. Things are expensive as hell so it’s constant working and school is like a 2nd job. So people are just busy, tired, and depressed, then get told how easy it is by people who are older and got to enjoy being young without those worries. It sucks and its annoying.
I feel like if I see a friend I haven’t seen in a while it takes so long too talk to them cause I have no idea what to say and then when I’m about to leave we finally begin talking like … really come on 😭😭
the 1 one was me and my best friend when she used to live near me. now she lives in FRANCE!! we still try to call 1-2 times every 2-3 weeks. BUTS ITS SO HARD!! i miss her sm!
cant relate cuz my best friends and me all live in a small neighborhood together, our dogs are brothers, we all know each others parents, we treat each others younger siblings like our own, have sleepovers every weekend, their house is 30 seconds away, and i go on the family roadtrips and same for them.
this is why i dont think friendships exist for us anymore, its non existent pretty much or really rare thats why having online friends is the best, you can find people who are actually like you and all dat.
i agree its easier to instantly find ppl like urself but online friends still don’t make up for that in person connection and quality time you could have with someone, u just feel more disconnected in real life, its annoying that other ppl no longer want to put in effort for real life friendships, its like we’ve all given up on each other.
I get that completely but for me with someone who has extreme social anxiety and i can barely talk to people in real life the internet friendship makes me feel really comfortable so i find it easier to like "come out of my shell" and when meeting them irl its easy for me to talk of course, different for everyone
I can't have online friends it's just not the same. I ended up having one for a bit but I got more and more busy and finally got the balls to quit videogames and xbox. It was becoming unhealthy and isolating and I finally want to go out and have a life and finally actually get a girlfriend. Online stuff just witholds you from that. I feel really bad for him he missed me so much but it just wasn't fulfilling or healthy.
It ain’t always like that nowadays. Be open to your friends and you’ll find people who will be open with you and then y’all can plan your weddings accordingly just like when we were 10
That last part hit me heavy because I know too much what that feels like, from both sides. I'm thankful that my friend tells me once in a while that he's going through really bad stuff, but I almost never do the same because I know he's much more sensitive than me towards having to deal with the idea of losing a friend and not being able to do anything about it when it's already too late, so I just try to avoid that in order to keep him from reaching that edge. The only thing worse to me about this whole situation is the fact people you love will get deeply hurt by you, so you just try to make people not care enough about you until they don't miss you and won't get hurt by you. I wish we could all just be free to say what we feel to others, but certain things are better dealt with by professionals, so if you're going through that, seek therapy.
And you always will be, because it *costs more to file taxes married than it does single.* Unless you have amazing-paying jobs you will always live a life of poverty
The only one staying single is you with that shitty attitude. I was just trying to share something sweet and funny and you had to find an issue with it. You’re just trying to ruin my fun with my friends because you don’t have any. Who hurt you?😭
Yeah me and my best friend don't really meet up during the school holidays that much and only occasionally on christmas holidays. But our friendship isn't tainted because we're both autistic introverts who like being alone anyway 🤣like we could be separated for months and then on the first day we meet again just say hi and talk like no time passed 😭
😂😂😂 I also casually drop that on my friends and move on to the next topic. Like “omg in 3 months? I might not even be alive by then. …no fr I hate that guy too.”
one time me and my ex best friend were having a conversation about going to uni. she was so exited about it and said that we were going to go to the same universities, and see eachother every day, even after i told her that realistically that probably wouldn’t happen. a couple months later i’m lucky to have one conversation with her per day. miss you.
When I realized I was the one sending the messages in our GC, and planning our hang outs to getting “cancelled” on… that I decided to pull away and not bother…. but what’s funny how now they trying to reach out and send random messages 👀 😂
Give it a go again. feel like good portion of the alana audience are introverts, can say I basically cancelled on my friends for over 2 years but later i changed up abit. Now I get cancelled on, or go without anyone.
Hello, I am new to your channel but if this is a genuine cry for help, I’m here to give you some advice. Just enjoy the beauties of life regardless of how depressed and anxious you get. Find something you’re passionate about and fully commit to it because it is so rewarding. This video really spoke to me and Mike current. Thank you, you just earned yourself a sub. We’re here for you.
Marrying a best friend sounds like a dream. I once had a best friend I thought I was gonna marry. But life is life, and we haven't been close in over ten years. Lol. 😔
I saw one of my friends a couple days ago it was crazy. I said hi to them and everything. Wild. I wonder when if I'll see them again within the next year.
I have worked a side job in retail the last few years. Of course I get to talk to both sexes, and a wide range of ages in this job. Younger women (Gen Z primarily) have seemingly given up. Very consistently they tell me they have 0 friends. They just go home, get into their bed, and watch Tik Tok/youtube. I have also been told several times that they "put on a persona" when they get into work. And that the person I am interacting with "isn't really them". The younger men are less social/talkative in general, but have large groups of friends who they either hang out with or play online games with.
Because I have chosen to stop playing games, (didn’t play much but I did sometimes play) about 2 years ago. Legit people and I have nothing to speak about. So I decided to start becoming educated, and God willing. Start having people to speak to at least about important business topics. I’m not interested in speaking about my personal life anymore. But I am very interested in speaking about the intricate details of one’s work, and how they managed to get into that line of work.
ma man this is so true i wish i could show you my recent chats to this friend ive been telling to how im now buildiing walls and putting up this 'persona'to everybody because nobody respects this love and effort and everybody wants so much SPACE, ah man you just said it out loud, im tired at this point and funnily im tired of wanting people to GIVE LOVE TO not even vice versa, some body whod just appreciate my presence, things have been weirder lately im just keeping my feelings to myself because i in no way want to hear öh Ayushi, youre just a bit too much"for loving ever again
@@daniale581 i guess it's because you see, most girls have problems with each other a lot. I'm not saying you shouldn't, you can have problems. But girls just make it go more and more, which makes them very exhausted at this point i've realised. This can happen with males too, but i see most males still hold onto their friendships because they genueily don't have huge ass standarts and they friend each other because they truly get on well with each other, while most girls have a really big standart.
This girl perfectly captures the awkwardness and fear of vulnerability that plagues todays youth
thats such a sweet way to put it
My fear of vulnerability came from my father's ass whoppings 😊
bro this exactly me during uni rn lmaoo
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“ You have to the let soft animal inside you love what it loves. “
Every other earth dweller is afraid of vulnerability, whatever it may look and feel like to the specific person, but at the same time , they also wish they could be vulnerable , we all wish we could ❤
The painful part of becoming an adult is realizing a huge part of childhood friendship are because of proximity. Then as you start pursuing your dreams while dealing with the daily struggle of life, you start drifting. Very few childhood friendships survive adulthood.
im pretty sure there's a word for that, it's called propinquity
@@MZahra7 Thank you for letting me know. I've never heard that word before. I'm adding that to my lexicon.
I think most friendships stem from proximity, just the environment changes. As we grow up we might not even meet our earlier best friends much but we try to connect at important points and when we do meet it feels like there's very little barrier between us no matter how many years have gone by, you might build those barriers the more you interact though if you don't find it satisfying. Sometimes it's just better to send an occasional greeting lol
This is so out of the blue but Snapchat kind of artificially prolongs my friendships until I see them again. You get to share your thoughts and your everyday happenings with each other. It really has made the difference in my relationships as weird as that sounds.
I'm not letting that happen to my two friends
The “Planning our future as bestfriends” is so true but sad when most of them dont come true
when i was 8 i thought i was going to live with my best friend and we won’t have boyfriends only cats 😭
@@deemah3602 Fr😭 I told my bestfriend that we would live in our apartments and travel the world together
It is. My friend, who was like a sister to me, and I did this when we were young. We joked about how we would get boyfriends and how cool it would be if we had kids around the same time and that they would be friends growing up. We knew each other for about ten years, growing up together, but sadly it didn't last.
A few years after high school, we drifted apart. She wanted to get married, have kids, etc while I didn't want any of that stuff (and I still don't). We would talk on the phone, but most of our conversations always shifted to her and her baby. We never spoke about daily problems or old memories or rehash funny conversations. Our schedules never lined up anymore. It was like fighting to hold onto something that wasn't there anymore.
We were on two different paths in life. No one was at fault, we just wanted different things, so we eventually drifted apart. Nonetheless, I'm still grateful for knowing her and the time we spent together for all those years. I think we met in a time in both of our lives where we truly needed someone and when we didn't, life had us part ways.
@@willowingwhispers2612 Although it may be sad to lose someone your dearly love, I agree about what you said. My friends in the past were definitely there when we needed each other most and helped me become who I am today
@@willowingwhispers2612Dang. That was heartbreaking. I’m sorry to hear that. A similar thing happened with me and my best friend, it sucks a lot.
So real. We are all so lonely now. :(
Frrr i had my best friend for 2 years now idk what happened and im alone again loooool😂 its ok the right people will come soon ! 🩷🩷🩷❤️🔥❤️
@@kebdo3387i rlly relate🤪😭it’s crazy to think that i used to talk to my bestie literally every day but now we haven’t talked in a year & i don’t hv any friends😸
O,O you call this lonely. I'm not sure if my friend will hang out near ethier of our birthdays.
I am so lucky. I got a new roommate and we're besties. Like the type of bestie where we're always joking that we're like actually married and help each other through everything and tell each other about how our morning poop went😂😂😂 we're what people call "wayyy too comfortable" but honestly it's great.
(get a roommate! Maybe you're lucky too!❤)
Idk who we is but get well soon
Best friends then: Happy
Best friends now: *Trauma bonds*
Atleast we have ppl to vent to
This is so weird
@@masterculturedunkerque7918not rlly
trauma bond is what a victim has with an abuser. a "trauma bond" is not just bonding over trauma, though i understand why people get confused by the word
@@taylorfrink1182I'm pretty sure not everyone is attempting to use the established phrase and are just putting the two words together on their own, which people do all the time
“Are you- are you going to unpack that?”
“no”
Me with my therapist
**insert John Mulaney bit here**
no fr she asked me about my relationship with my dad and i was like
"... no thank you :3". and she said,
"what do you mean no-"
"i mean uhhh no . ? 😬"
"wha- err uh okay 😃"
and it was never brought up again lmfao
@@y0y0masterI mean you dictate what you talk about and how far you wanna go in detail about something. Even if it's therapist trust takes time to build and sometimes those simple questions are not that simple. I'm glad your therapist understood and respected that.
@jclyntoledo i agree. i'm so thankful for her, she's seriously amazing
dude fr tho. I’ve had my therapist for like four years now and i still don’t go into detail
the most unrealistic part is the friend questioning it
Edit: I am the comment lord
right lol you can be legit suicidal and they’ll just say “haha same”
forreal
i thought he was joking! 😭 (this is also a joke)
Can you call them a friend if they don't question it?
My friend used to question it, now it's just normal lol
alana is so real for this
@@DanielFellner810u know her??
@@studymissing411the internet is so parasocial now it’s literally so cringe inducing l
@@ghostrecon3834nobody cares
@@slidethreetimes if you truly didn’t care you wouldn’t have wasted time responding to it 😂 cope
@@ghostrecon3834 okay
“are you gonna..unpack tha-“
“nah 🙂😟”
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@@notchloe23That's fine too. A lonely reply section, just like everyone here relating to the friendships now.
@@aloelan what
im going to lead everybody to freedom
@@Kana-gz9gkhow are you going to do that?
i crave the old friendships so much.
We need a term for whatever it is when you just see someone every couple of weeks and can't talk about anything heavy with them, because it's not friendship.
That's called an acquaintance.
@@icecreamcake6238There's a sort of relationship that falls between acquaintanceship and friendship though
@@Reisende193Somebody that you used to know.
A friendquaintenceship.
@@Reisende193 For years now I’ve been referring to it as a “positive acquaintanceship”. One step above acquaintance, but below the threshold of friendship. Like, if I could disappear for weeks at a time and you wouldn’t even notice I was gone? We’re not friends.
two whole times this month is crazy tho 😭👍🏼
I'm shocked if I see one of my old friends two whole times in a year.
Adulthood 🎇
Bro, literally had a friend call me his best friend, over years.
We've seen each other like 3 times a year.
Starting this year, I told him I kind of don't feel the best friend status.
@@Littlefighter1911 maybe you're his only friend, hence the best friend status. Quite sad, but possible.
Are you ok??You need therapy?Someone to talk to?Anything?
my friend and I had our triannual meeting a week ago. good times.
As in three times a year or once every three years?
@@dylry86triannual implies 3 times a year
@@harikrish777but people refuse to accept the true meaning of biweekly
It’s like the older we get the more our friends keep things to themselves and I’m over here like please tell me, give me the details! I’m all ears!!!
Geez, I verified person with no comments?
Edit: A verified person
And you think they probably feel the same way about you but you’re not sure and don’t want to ruin it by dumping on them
@@Themagicalchristmasbeing all good lol’
@@cara-seyun however if we always keep it in it can literally hurt our physical bodies. Perhaps you can just write it down in a journal just to release it instead of bottling it up. :)
@@WokiesASMR journaling is just an extension of memory
I still need people to talk to
Yeah, you know when a friendship is dying but you're not brave enough to let go of it first, so you just try to keep it up as long as you can? Yeah that's what I've been going through.
me too:)
or when youre the only one making an effort. Thats what hurts the most
Just walk away, it’ll only hurt the longer you care about the “friendship”. If it really troubles you though, then maybe you should discuss with your friend about it. I know that seems like relationship talk, but I mean a friendship is a relationship just of a different kind. You can’t continue if you don’t communicate. And you’ll regret if you still care.
I feel this so much.
She finally ended it. I did so well to make it work for 2 years after just taking all the mental blows on myself but she really just wanted to end it this time and I couldn't stop her anymore, like I always used to before. Nor could I make it better. I really thought that if I kept making efforts, it'll get better but guess not. Both have to equally put effort and want the friendship to go on. I can't alone carry it on. Won't be doing that same mistake ever but I still miss her and feel very sad this finally happened.
I’m so lucky to have a best friend that’s more like the girl in the first clip! And the funny thing is, our dads were best friends growing up TOO, so we’re technically carrying on THEIR legacy! 🤣
YUHH that sounds so cool
lmao you must be under the age of 14 because that wont last long
I hope the best for u both ❤️❤️❤️
@@cQ2DHPavXTqemm9Vsbgi4TV7xPlease take your negativity elsewhere.
that's amazing
I’m 26 and I can validate this (I know no one asked). But I remember being a kid and having those wholesome friendships being like bro were gonna have kids in the future that are gonna play soccer together like we do now!! And now I meet up with my friends like maybe once a month and most of the time we will talk about how life sucks these days and make dark jokes and it’s like low key not even funny anymore
That’s the truth though. “I genuinely didn’t think I’d make it to this week” despite working 2 jobs because the cost of living is so high now, that you basically can’t even enjoy life. You just have to get by on rice and beans and work 24/7.
All I wanted was a little place to live. It didn’t have to be nice. It didn’t have to be large. I just wanted it to be my own.
Not in this economy.
so true man. I hope things improve for you. I know its tough out here, but we keep pushing through@@hobomike6935
I asked, friend.
@@flynnoflenniken7402I asked, seperately, additionally
Complaining about life and making dark jokes is what's keeping us going bro
Hits different when you only have one friend
Hurts different if that childhood friend offed themselves after reaching out to say they loved you.
@@lmart16 Damn bro that can’t be easy to get through. I hope you’re doing okay
Real- the unrealistic part is the friend saying "you want to unpack that?" instead of something like "haha same bro same" or "yeah me neither, It's already a miracle I managed to make it *today* 😂" lol, dark humor is basically the only humor me and my friends have and joke with those few times we see each other every 6-8 months or so-
God, the being shocked at seeing your friend more than once a month is so real 😭
Imagine having no friends, no partner, no job, no prospects and 1 family member to rely on. Thats my reality. Dont take anything for granted kids
I have the government who has my back. 3,2k on income for me to emotionally survive...😢
Let’s be friends :)
Same
😢
Yikes
and then the kids are even wilder than their parents
That's kids for you
POV: You thought that friendship was going to be different.
bro everyone’s saying the same thing, so most likely both sides feel the same way so why aren’t either of them sort of fighting for the relationship to keep going?
@@MEMO0O0O00 Because peoples circumstances change and when that happens peoples goals change. So yes you both love each other its just different now.
@@MEMO0O0O00everbody everwhere are like 'im the hurt one"
Accurate... As me and my best friend of 5 years drove away from graduation I said "I honestly thought I'd have killed myself by now" and in some messed up way he knew I was trying to thank him for helping me find a will to live😅
When this is the same person it hits _so_ different
I wasn’t expecting this to hit so close to home. I only see my childhood friends a few times a year now because they’re both in college and one of them also has a job.
Social media killed being social
This isn’t just a social media problem though. Me and my friends used to be super close back then and now that we’re in University, we don’t see each other as much. We still love each other dearly, but we just don’t have as much time as we used to and that’s normally what happens when you have more responsibilities. That’s just life.
@@Cherry-rg6hm I'm also in uni, but it's a bit of both tbf
Adulthood*
It’s social media for real
The clip was about times being dysfunctional, not about being antisocial.
This makes me cry and laugh at the same time
Nah cuz this is why those friends who you can go a couple months without talking to and pick back up like nothing happened are the best. Even better if they know literally everything about you, good and bad. You get to let each other breathe but you guys are also high up on each other’s list of favorite people.
Thats exactly how I am. I really struggle keeping up with people through texting. There are no hard feelings for me though. If I value the friendship I am glad to meet or catch up after a few months.
Some people dont understand this and get angry at it unfortunately. That's what different friendship expectations do for you
In my experience, friendships is people asking if you and your friend are dating lol
At the end of the day, it's the one you get lesbian accusations with. Just recently found out that my best friend's mom thought she and I were dating all throughout high school
Crazy how many people are lonely now days ngl, I feel that way too. I have so many friends in a group but it feels like you can’t talk to any of them. I get left on read by all of them
And if you point that out
They tell you youre needy
That "just know i love you and i appreciate you for being my friend" text 3 in the morning.
ouch.
Bro my younger self felt that " didn't think I was gonna make it to this week"
Omg the “our kids are gonna be best friends” is SO REAL, me and my best friend literally did that same thing 💀
Please don't use God's name in vain
@@HeartEllis For the love of God please stop whining.
@@HeartEllisgirl it’s not in vain 😗
@@roxie4292 yes,it is
@@roxie4292 it's using His name unnecessarily
i have only two real friends, and they're both the two different types 😂😂 love them both
So relatable 😭 one invites me over every week and one meets me once a month if we’re lucky
@skymar8864 LMAOO literally same 😭😭
Same. One moved away years ago but I talk to him literally everyday, and if we’re in the same city, first thing we do is meet each other. Then I have another true friend that I talk to maybe once every couple days, sometimes weeks, but it’s always like nothing changed and we hit it off immediately
that's great, feels good to have friends who support u and are loyal@@Chadius_Thundercock
no the real difference is that now we just plan to marry each other instead of marrying other people at the same time
REAL
And they were roommates~
Ew
@@sathira_anuk5179wow you're so disgusting
@@sathira_anuk5179?
I mean that really is friendships now because of how society is today we barely have time for each other anymore. Things are expensive as hell so it’s constant working and school is like a 2nd job. So people are just busy, tired, and depressed, then get told how easy it is by people who are older and got to enjoy being young without those worries. It sucks and its annoying.
I feel like if I see a friend I haven’t seen in a while it takes so long too talk to them cause I have no idea what to say and then when I’m about to leave we finally begin talking like … really come on 😭😭
Real spill. Not one friend in the world. And Back in the day I wouldn’t be friends with me either.
It’s hard to see your people struggle while you life keeps moving on without them
alana is the most relatable person ever
the 1 one was me and my best friend when she used to live near me. now she lives in FRANCE!! we still try to call 1-2 times every 2-3 weeks. BUTS ITS SO HARD!! i miss her sm!
The bangs look so good on u
this the realest video ever the awkard silence at the end is so rea
cant relate cuz my best friends and me all live in a small neighborhood together, our dogs are brothers, we all know each others parents, we treat each others younger siblings like our own, have sleepovers every weekend, their house is 30 seconds away, and i go on the family roadtrips and same for them.
this is why i dont think friendships exist for us anymore, its non existent pretty much or really rare thats why having online friends is the best, you can find people who are actually like you and all dat.
Yeah honestly! More variety on the shelf if you know what I mean 😂😂
Be aware of online frnds too..
i agree its easier to instantly find ppl like urself but online friends still don’t make up for that in person connection and quality time you could have with someone, u just feel more disconnected in real life, its annoying that other ppl no longer want to put in effort for real life friendships, its like we’ve all given up on each other.
I get that completely but for me with someone who has extreme social anxiety and i can barely talk to people in real life the internet friendship makes me feel really comfortable so i find it easier to like "come out of my shell" and when meeting them irl its easy for me to talk of course, different for everyone
I can't have online friends it's just not the same. I ended up having one for a bit but I got more and more busy and finally got the balls to quit videogames and xbox. It was becoming unhealthy and isolating and I finally want to go out and have a life and finally actually get a girlfriend. Online stuff just witholds you from that. I feel really bad for him he missed me so much but it just wasn't fulfilling or healthy.
yall i wasn't even sure i'd live through today
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Well you got this! I believe in you to make it through everyday❤️😊
As a young adult growing up in the world this feels scarily accurate.
I literally want to be those friends that go out often but I only talk to my friend during school and at home we do God know what😭
I'm so glad to have the "then" friendship☺️
It ain’t always like that nowadays. Be open to your friends and you’ll find people who will be open with you and then y’all can plan your weddings accordingly just like when we were 10
I just dont get how we're all feeling the same way, yet not getting anywhere. Is it like a trust thing, are we all jaded now?
Ive seen my bestie once this month, and the other bestie i see every week, just different kind of people honestly
When your friend make a sucide joke and it doesn't really sound like a joke anymore is the definition of my current friendship
And then you never see them again after graduation night😂
That last part hit me heavy because I know too much what that feels like, from both sides. I'm thankful that my friend tells me once in a while that he's going through really bad stuff, but I almost never do the same because I know he's much more sensitive than me towards having to deal with the idea of losing a friend and not being able to do anything about it when it's already too late, so I just try to avoid that in order to keep him from reaching that edge. The only thing worse to me about this whole situation is the fact people you love will get deeply hurt by you, so you just try to make people not care enough about you until they don't miss you and won't get hurt by you. I wish we could all just be free to say what we feel to others, but certain things are better dealt with by professionals, so if you're going through that, seek therapy.
"proud of us, its a new record" 🤪
So sad how relatable that one part is
me and some of my best friends are planning to have a triple wedding we’ve been planning for ages and we’re all still single
And you always will be, because it *costs more to file taxes married than it does single.*
Unless you have amazing-paying jobs you will always live a life of poverty
The only one staying single is you with that shitty attitude. I was just trying to share something sweet and funny and you had to find an issue with it. You’re just trying to ruin my fun with my friends because you don’t have any. Who hurt you?😭
@@hobomike6935 WHY YOU KILLING THE MOOD BRO PLEASE
@@hobomike6935that's what I was thinking too
@@uros3250yeah like fr no reason to
It gets worse as you get older. I'm happy when I see my friends every 3 months.
Your videos make me actually laugh out loud
I can definitely tell she was super cool down to earth chick in high school and just super hot overnight but doesn't act like anyone owes her anything
makes me miss high school
Yeah me and my best friend don't really meet up during the school holidays that much and only occasionally on christmas holidays. But our friendship isn't tainted because we're both autistic introverts who like being alone anyway 🤣like we could be separated for months and then on the first day we meet again just say hi and talk like no time passed 😭
my bestie and I have been besties for 11 years, and we already know we WILL be each other's Maid of Honor for our weddings.
That is soooo sweet😊
i refuse to say anything like that to my friends cuz there's just no telling what the future holds
No man but our friendship is the same as it was 10 years ago, trio❤
“i WaSnT eVeN sUrE iF i WaS gOnNa MaKe iT tO tHiS wEeK 😀”
“are you gonna unpack that? 👁️👄👁️?”
“✨no✨💅”
😂😂😂 I also casually drop that on my friends and move on to the next topic. Like “omg in 3 months? I might not even be alive by then. …no fr I hate that guy too.”
I’m lucky if I meet my best friends twice a year, let alone a month
Sameee, it’s cus we went to highschool this year and we didn’t go to the same schools😭😔
sameeee@@CherryKissses
one time me and my ex best friend were having a conversation about going to uni. she was so exited about it and said that we were going to go to the same universities, and see eachother every day, even after i told her that realistically that probably wouldn’t happen. a couple months later i’m lucky to have one conversation with her per day. miss you.
Nothing like convening for the biweekly mental breakdown
"I didn't even know if I was gonna make it to this week!" To real.
we dont have as much freedom as they did then 😭
UR HUMOR AND DELIVERYYY PLSSSS
When I realized I was the one sending the messages in our GC, and planning our hang outs to getting “cancelled” on… that I decided to pull away and not bother…. but what’s funny how now they trying to reach out and send random messages 👀 😂
Give it a go again. feel like good portion of the alana audience are introverts, can say I basically cancelled on my friends for over 2 years but later i changed up abit. Now I get cancelled on, or go without anyone.
Me and my best friend told each other that if we are not married by 30, then we will marry eachother , this is so zesty 😭💀😩
Why is this woman soo BEAUTIFUL😭😭💫💫💫
GURL you are ROCKING those bangs!!
Alana is too relatable it’s scary 😭
Basically, 5 year old friends, vs friends past college.
"are you gonna unpack that?"
"no"
so real sjjsjd
I miss having any type of friendship.
No because my best friend would go «damn had I known we could’ve given up together » 😂😭😂
Well. I hope mine goes like that too😢
The "friendship" I had with a girl just because our parents were friends was the most disgenuine thing you can get.
Oh yeah, same here...
I met my best friend a total of 5 times this year
shes so pretty omg
Fuck I love that sweater so much
I know righttt everyone has it. Where’s it from ?
“😢Yk I wasn’t even sure if I was gonna make it to this week” that’s so real 😢
This is so true except I started out then and now it’s now😢
Hello, I am new to your channel but if this is a genuine cry for help, I’m here to give you some advice. Just enjoy the beauties of life regardless of how depressed and anxious you get. Find something you’re passionate about and fully commit to it because it is so rewarding. This video really spoke to me and Mike current. Thank you, you just earned yourself a sub. We’re here for you.
Who said you could make content this accurate
Marrying a best friend sounds like a dream.
I once had a best friend I thought I was gonna marry. But life is life, and we haven't been close in over ten years.
Lol. 😔
But this is about a double wedding ans raising kids alongside each other not marrying your bestie....
I saw one of my friends a couple days ago it was crazy. I said hi to them and everything. Wild. I wonder when if I'll see them again within the next year.
I have worked a side job in retail the last few years. Of course I get to talk to both sexes, and a wide range of ages in this job.
Younger women (Gen Z primarily) have seemingly given up. Very consistently they tell me they have 0 friends. They just go home, get into their bed, and watch Tik Tok/youtube. I have also been told several times that they "put on a persona" when they get into work. And that the person I am interacting with "isn't really them".
The younger men are less social/talkative in general, but have large groups of friends who they either hang out with or play online games with.
That's really interesting. I would think women in general tended to have more friends.
Because I have chosen to stop playing games, (didn’t play much but I did sometimes play) about 2 years ago. Legit people and I have nothing to speak about. So I decided to start becoming educated, and God willing. Start having people to speak to at least about important business topics.
I’m not interested in speaking about my personal life anymore. But I am very interested in speaking about the intricate details of one’s work, and how they managed to get into that line of work.
ma man this is so true i wish i could show you my recent chats to this friend ive been telling to how im now buildiing walls and putting up this 'persona'to everybody because nobody respects this love and effort and everybody wants so much SPACE, ah man you just said it out loud, im tired at this point and funnily im tired of wanting people to GIVE LOVE TO not even vice versa, some body whod just appreciate my presence, things have been weirder lately im just keeping my feelings to myself because i in no way want to hear öh Ayushi, youre just a bit too much"for loving ever again
@@daniale581 i guess it's because you see, most girls have problems with each other a lot. I'm not saying you shouldn't, you can have problems. But girls just make it go more and more, which makes them very exhausted at this point i've realised. This can happen with males too, but i see most males still hold onto their friendships because they genueily don't have huge ass standarts and they friend each other because they truly get on well with each other, while most girls have a really big standart.
When we grow up we act like it’s cringe to be loving and enthusiastic to our friends
This is too real honestly, I only hang out with my friends every few months because they’re never available
real
And THEN you're lucky when you see them once every year/few years
Meanwhile my baggage is locked down under lock and key, and is never seeing the light of day.
Nah that seeing here and there with the little awkward laugh after the 'no' is sooo trueee
2 times a month is crazy