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  • Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
  • Our new channel: / @theafadis
    What we've learnt after years of marriage: • 3 years of marriage | ... ✌🏿✌🏾
    For Enquiries, Sponsorship opportunities and Music Promotion please email: adella@afadi.co.uk
    TimeStamps:
    0:00 - We have a new channel
    0:53 - How do you support each other on bad days
    1:58 - Favourite/Least thing of marriage
    3:11 - One thing that fascinates you about Adella
    4:03 - Do you recommend marriage
    5:45 - Ideas of marriage before you got married
    6:38 - Biggest lesson in marriage
    7:43 - Where do you guys wanna travel
    8:27 - Where will you be by 2030?
    9:29 - What have you learnt about love from each other
    11:40 - How do you know you're ready for marriage
    14:45 - Communicating during a disagreement
    16:45 - How do you manage finances
    19:51 - Who is the stronger Christian
    21:35 - Inconsistent boyfriend
    23:50 - Did lockdown make you see life different
    24:43 - Who initiated first
    25:36 - Can you love more than one person
    26:44 - Single and finances
    28:34 - Our new channel

КОМЕНТАРІ • 199

  • @akatobi2002
    @akatobi2002 3 роки тому +253

    a young black Christian couple!? yes im happily following.

  • @calebjohnson7617
    @calebjohnson7617 3 роки тому +108

    Bro I feel like this guy doesn’t have the ability to get mad at anything😂… real positive guy for sure

    • @gregory3768
      @gregory3768 2 місяці тому

      Absolutely beautiful 🎉❤

  • @ZoeysMusings
    @ZoeysMusings 3 роки тому +113

    "Marriage is a mirror." Love that expression!

  • @hildaking3338
    @hildaking3338 3 роки тому +64

    skinnnnnnn Adella. You've got to give us a routine. I'm in love.

  • @maremarechiqk
    @maremarechiqk 3 роки тому +117

    I just got married this year! It’s cool that videos like this are actually relevant to me now. It’s a whole new world ❤️. Love your content Adella!

    • @ashleyhenna6201
      @ashleyhenna6201 3 роки тому +5

      Congratulations 🎊🎉 to you and your husband 😊

    • @maremarechiqk
      @maremarechiqk 3 роки тому +4

      @@ashleyhenna6201 Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +4

      Congratulations 🥳❤️ and thank you ✌🏾✌🏽

    • @Sunshine_Hime
      @Sunshine_Hime 3 роки тому +3

      🎉CONGRATULATIONS!🎊😁

    • @maremarechiqk
      @maremarechiqk 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheAfadis thank you so much 💕💕

  • @christianconsciousness
    @christianconsciousness 3 роки тому +22

    OMG at 12:20 when He said you have to be "READY TO COMPROMISE". I felt that in my spirit. It is the biggest thing I observed from those who are already married but not spoken about. A lot of people who are single are always saying they not going to settle, not going to compromise and its blows my mind because there is a difference in having standards or being selfish and thinking everything has to go your away. There is NO WINNER IN MARRIAGE. WIN TOGETHER .... those are some bars. SELFLESNESS.

  • @CornOnAKhob
    @CornOnAKhob 3 роки тому +178

    "Is marriage worth it?"
    If you want it and you and your partner are both good for each other, yes

    •  3 роки тому

      True. Both of you should want it.
      ua-cam.com/video/RoQyZRWIenY/v-deo.html

    • @missfefeloves
      @missfefeloves 2 роки тому

      👏🏼👏🏼

    • @gregory3768
      @gregory3768 2 місяці тому

      Excellent

  • @ayanomar1408
    @ayanomar1408 3 роки тому +89

    Happy Annversary for both of you🌸🌸 I have been married for 6 years and I remember the first year like it was yesterday. one thing I can say is: dont take everything personally and remember you two are on the same team. Also you dont have to agree on every single thing! you two are different people born and raised in seperate families. Marrige is good specially when both partners keep showing for eachother everyday

    • @user-gn8qn5wd6i
      @user-gn8qn5wd6i 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you for this! 💕

    • @user-gn8qn5wd6i
      @user-gn8qn5wd6i 3 роки тому

      And congratulations! 🎊

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +4

      Thank you! And thank you again for this piece of wisdom 🙌🏾

    • @missfefeloves
      @missfefeloves 2 роки тому

      I was thinking this b4 I saw ur comment

  • @Borntobemade
    @Borntobemade 3 роки тому +12

    Girl I feel the constant communication thing 😭

  • @riah_x
    @riah_x 3 роки тому +19

    "His pay rise is my pay rise, my pay rise is my pay rise" 😅😭 That cracked me up!!
    Such an informative video. Thanks y'all 👏🏿💙

  • @iamsophiehannah988
    @iamsophiehannah988 3 роки тому +20

    Love the vibe of you two! Definitely love seeing a British Christian couple. Giving them REAL answers on marriage

  • @GabesandAnna
    @GabesandAnna 3 роки тому +42

    By 2030, you should be living next door to us too 🤓

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +2

      Haha we’ll see 👀👀

  • @racheloshaksmusic
    @racheloshaksmusic 2 роки тому +4

    I really love how you both spoke about how you manage finances. It really enlightened me. Keith is a wonderful partner to you! You both are radiating maturity. I love this video and I’m not even done yet😩 But I’m positively influenced by you both as a 21 year old that relates a lot to Adella. ❤️❤️ God bless your marriage ! Great representation of Christ! So transparent.

  • @AshleyChiLLi
    @AshleyChiLLi 3 роки тому +13

    I think Adella was about to say ‘Nigeria’ in that list of countries to visit but the way she cut off quick 😂 😂 😆

    • @tamaratarere
      @tamaratarere 3 роки тому +3

      was about to make this comment! looool!!!

  • @nicolesenkatuka9016
    @nicolesenkatuka9016 3 роки тому +4

    I love this because you have answered so many common questions. But have also still kept your privacy.

  • @michelletehillah
    @michelletehillah 3 роки тому +7

    What a solid, sober set of answers 🔥 I love how the both of you tackle marriage life thank you for sharing ❤️

  • @Sbp9284
    @Sbp9284 3 роки тому +10

    I just got married last month so I really enjoyed this video. Happy anniversary to you two!

  • @abvigayl5920
    @abvigayl5920 2 роки тому

    Good day, this is one of the BEST vids produced on the topic! Thank you

  • @uhleaseayah
    @uhleaseayah 2 роки тому +2

    I liked the part when he said how he allows you space to come to terms about how you're feeling and be able to communicate it later because I am the same exact way. I need that space! It just makes the process a whole lot better when you go back to your partner to translate what's going on with you.

  • @mercyapolot7757
    @mercyapolot7757 3 роки тому

    The advice in this video is timeless. Thanks for this.

  • @Sincerelyprisca
    @Sincerelyprisca 3 роки тому +2

    I just appreciate you guys. You guys are so refreshing to watch. Thank you for your transparency ❤️🤗.

  • @priscamoyesa
    @priscamoyesa 3 роки тому +2

    I love and respect how you both handle your finances. I admire how your Husband justified both accounts! Definitely looking out for that video! ☺️

  • @Uneek1980
    @Uneek1980 3 роки тому +1

    Great video! I think the two of you make a great couples. I wish the two of you well & eternal prosperity.

  • @jaymartin6099
    @jaymartin6099 3 роки тому +3

    Beautiful black couple. Definitely great energy. Continue to be blessed in life and love💘

  • @leehlemzamo
    @leehlemzamo 3 роки тому +33

    Happy anniversary to the Afadi's,your union is blessed and a blessing to us. much love from South Africa 🇿🇦

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you & amen 🙌🏾🥳

  • @REESCOMUSIC4EVER
    @REESCOMUSIC4EVER Рік тому

    The two of you are such beautiful spirits! I have been blessed by watching this conversation. You have made me believe in love and marriage again. Thank you.

  • @itstheengineersdaughter1296
    @itstheengineersdaughter1296 3 роки тому

    More love, success and abundance to you both!🎊🎊

  • @user-ln6pu7kq9j
    @user-ln6pu7kq9j 3 роки тому

    We appreciate Keith 👏 he does a great job editing your videos 👍

  • @hannahbanjo5629
    @hannahbanjo5629 3 роки тому

    Such a GREAT video! Thank you!! Xxx

  • @nokuthulambatha7289
    @nokuthulambatha7289 3 роки тому +1

    i love you guys so much! highly inspired

  • @taescanvas8630
    @taescanvas8630 3 роки тому +1

    You guys are so fun to watch!! I was laughing along with you both lmao

  • @khensk
    @khensk 3 роки тому +15

    Happy anniversary to the Afadi's!!!! From South Africa

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you 🥳🇿🇦

  • @jennaellissa8686
    @jennaellissa8686 2 роки тому

    When you talked about the different ways you show each other love I related so much! My husband is similar to keith: His love language is definitely acts of service and he is not quick to show love through words or physical affection, which is what I crave. In the first two years of our relationship is was a journey for both of us, for him to slowly integrate more verbal and physical affection, but also for me to recognize the many many things he does for me that show his love and care! it was a two way process :)

  • @MrsBraimoh
    @MrsBraimoh 2 роки тому

    This is a good quality video, I have been dating my boyfriend for three years and we are at a point where we need this video. Thanks, Adella and Keith

  • @Graciousgr8ness
    @Graciousgr8ness 3 роки тому +7

    Happy Anniversary and Congratulations to you both 🎉🍾🥳🎊.
    Adella’s ability to see different perspectives, plus to use reason and logic, among other things….. #Powerful

  • @leashines9937
    @leashines9937 3 роки тому +11

    Happy Anniversary 🎉🙏🏾! God bless your union. We celebrated our 3 years yesterday! I surely relate to certain things you’ve shared!

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Amazing! Congratulations and Happy Anniversary 🥳🥳

  • @wildfleurgirl
    @wildfleurgirl 3 роки тому

    You are absolutely gorgeous Adella. Love the video.

  • @BibiA1010
    @BibiA1010 3 роки тому +2

    Happy anniversary:D i was really glad when i saw it was above 30 minutes. One question: will there be scenario videos in the future?

  • @nompilomazibuko4615
    @nompilomazibuko4615 3 роки тому +5

    Oh my gosh! So excited about the couples channel 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽 happy anniversary 😊😊😊

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you 🥳❤️

  • @valeriejackson8835
    @valeriejackson8835 3 роки тому +19

    Loooool that man is from Zimbabwe “if you don’t see me there ” his embarrassment to us is much at times

  • @puriezeondy9425
    @puriezeondy9425 3 роки тому +21

    Happy Anniversary! May God continue to bless your union.

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you and amen ❤️🥳

  • @primgivens5393
    @primgivens5393 3 роки тому +5

    Happy anniversary y’all! More blessings!🎊🎉

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you 🥳🥳

  • @maanaatagoe6260
    @maanaatagoe6260 3 роки тому +2

    Happy Anniversary!💕 May God bless and keep your union in the shadow of His wings always!❤️

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you & amen 🥳❤️

  • @edannerowe-taylor3152
    @edannerowe-taylor3152 3 роки тому

    Congratulations guys you got married on my birthday, this is such a good video blessings to you two ❤️❤️

  • @aisyahshahidil2992
    @aisyahshahidil2992 3 роки тому +3

    Happy 3rd anniversary to the Afadis! 💕🎉🎊

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you 🥳❤️🎈

  • @ceecha
    @ceecha 3 роки тому +1

    So good. Well done

  • @ikranabdille
    @ikranabdille 3 роки тому

    Love this video so much!!!

  • @christianconsciousness
    @christianconsciousness 3 роки тому +9

    This video was very inspiring, you both to seem very level headed. Two very self-aware and emotionally intelligent people together. It was great to watch this cause I was sort of getting tired of the toxic gender war content. Especially the Love Language part.

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you & yep, so were we haha ✌🏾✌🏽

  • @salakiakuveronique9322
    @salakiakuveronique9322 3 роки тому

    Thanks a lot for that❤️❤️ from Brussels 🥰

  • @puritynakiyimbawinfred949
    @puritynakiyimbawinfred949 3 роки тому +23

    Keith seems shy
    And adella bold

    • @Graciousgr8ness
      @Graciousgr8ness 3 роки тому +17

      Nah G, it’s likely to be his natural disposition(not that I know him). But, he seems like a chill broda though.

    • @KeithAfadi
      @KeithAfadi 3 роки тому +3

      Not shy, i’m just chill

  • @loveafrica97
    @loveafrica97 3 роки тому +1

    On the question about being ready for marriage, I thought of this quote “If God calls you to it, he’ll equip you for it”.. be blessed!

  • @haliislands2032
    @haliislands2032 3 роки тому

    This is so helpful and the finance questions

  • @documena908
    @documena908 3 роки тому +1

    Happy anniversary guys!!! Love your content!

  • @irinensame8305
    @irinensame8305 3 роки тому +1

    May God continue to bless your union 🙏

  • @lluk6144
    @lluk6144 3 роки тому +15

    Noooo I love you guys 😭🤎 Happy Anniversary, may God continue to bless your union❤️

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you and amen🥳❤️

  • @marianakebaso
    @marianakebaso 3 роки тому +1

    you guys are so cute and mature! goals for sure. i didnt even know u were married before this video 😭😅

  • @Melody-jc5hk
    @Melody-jc5hk 3 роки тому +1

    Your skin complexion is entrancing 🥰💫

  • @staceymoto3100
    @staceymoto3100 3 роки тому

    Am a huge fan ,,I hope to bump into u guys one day 😍.Happy Anniversary

  • @Mwapsy
    @Mwapsy 3 роки тому +19

    Happy Anniversary you two!🥳😍

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you 🥳🥳

  • @payyourrentbabes
    @payyourrentbabes 3 роки тому +4

    Happy Anniversary to you guys great to see your love still strong❤

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you ❤️

  • @babyg7796
    @babyg7796 2 роки тому +2

    Marriage is worth it, if you’re someone who’s interested in building a family, in my opinion. The current economic state of the country is on the bridge of recession & collapse constantly.
    I’ve realized most couples STILL financially struggle while married bc of inflation. In my mind, if I’m going to still be struggling, struggling to “have a better life & freedom,” but still have to be responsible for another human being(besides a child) then I might as well do this life of a circus as a single person. Emotional & mental companionship is nice, but it sadly doesn’t pay the bills & the cost of living just KEEPS
    Going up. We spend more time working, than we do actually fostering relationships☹️

  • @YeaImStacie
    @YeaImStacie 3 роки тому +3

    Happy anniversary! 💯💯💪🏾

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Hey Stacie! Thank you 🥳

  • @okhaeadeleye5313
    @okhaeadeleye5313 3 роки тому +2

    Congratulations on your anniversary!

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you 🙌🏾🎈

  • @hannahnotanna
    @hannahnotanna 2 роки тому

    I love your content. So real and encouraging.
    Can you let me know what the marriage course you did is called?

  • @crystal.chantel
    @crystal.chantel 3 роки тому +13

    Love this! ❤️ We will be married 3 years next month.

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Congratulations in advance 🥳❤️🙌🏾

    • @crystal.chantel
      @crystal.chantel 3 роки тому

      @@TheAfadis Thank You 🤗

  • @samuri2011
    @samuri2011 3 роки тому +8

    I'm always intrigued by comments like "yes, a Black Christian couple. Yay!"What is unique about their relationship in comparison to others? I think Black Christian couples are a norm in our community. I'm not saying there's absolutely nothing to celebrate but why do the centers keep getting recentered rather than the margins.... Food for thought.

    • @keythegeek3497
      @keythegeek3497 3 роки тому

      1/4 black women get married - Kevin Samuels

    • @keythegeek3497
      @keythegeek3497 3 роки тому +2

      What can be inferred from this data is this argument: most men today including black men that can afford to marry in most cases don't want to marry black women. Kevin Samuels argues black women are looked down upon the most in modern society and this has shifted / translated into black women marrying the least of every other race. I don't really need to say it but you probably are aware of how black men are viewed as it relates to crime and violence. In other words if all a person sees is their people in negative light seeing this would obviously give them relief especially if they also share religious beliefs with this couple. Personally I agree with the person's comment. It looks good and feels good. It looks sincere and healthy.
      Short Answer: I feel like black people just have a lot of love for each other dispite differences because of shared burden of race. That makes us a community still...hopefully? lol ❤ and often our community is shown in negative light to the world so I could see why this would be a relief to that person.

    • @sassymedea3065
      @sassymedea3065 3 роки тому +1

      @@keythegeek3497 that's not even true for American American 75% of women are married by the time they are 35

  • @akilasultana2368
    @akilasultana2368 3 роки тому

    Love your videos

  • @TheAdamSmasherMultiverse
    @TheAdamSmasherMultiverse 3 роки тому +2

    Happy anniversary fam!

  • @chickbrenda1
    @chickbrenda1 3 роки тому +4

    I love your necklace Adella. Where’s it from please?

  • @BeyondCommittedwithAyanna
    @BeyondCommittedwithAyanna 3 роки тому +9

    Happy anniversary! Making sure you are aligned and keep having those conversations over the years because things change.

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you & we will 😊🥳

  • @nicole__o
    @nicole__o 3 роки тому +3

    Happy Anniversary! ☺️

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you 😊🥳

  • @mindiperez2282
    @mindiperez2282 3 роки тому +2

    Love y'all.

  • @loveafrica97
    @loveafrica97 3 роки тому

    Love from Toronto 🇨🇦

  • @oe5827
    @oe5827 3 роки тому

    Great money advise

  • @MultiSheeky
    @MultiSheeky 3 роки тому

    Happy Anniversary guys 🎉

  • @4shanna
    @4shanna 3 роки тому +5

    Beautiful couple!!! Far off from marriage, but I love ur advice

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you 😊🎈

  • @kenndavid7172
    @kenndavid7172 3 роки тому

    Great video guys

  • @Pondering2b
    @Pondering2b 3 роки тому

    Marriage is a mirror!!! Year 2 for me & my hubby. It is werrkk baby lol but I love it.

  • @RBsuperstar9
    @RBsuperstar9 3 роки тому +5

    You guys are so cool and remind me of my bf and I

  • @saw12446
    @saw12446 2 роки тому

    Yo love and greetings from U.S. I just subscribed....

  • @k_a47
    @k_a47 3 роки тому

    Oh my goodness, I can't believe ir I knew I recognised Keith from a funny video but then looked at my favourites and it was your video from 4 years ago asking abo ut men about black women's hair and terminology.

  • @welikelethabo
    @welikelethabo 3 роки тому +3

    Happy Anniversary btw 💕

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you ❤️

  • @emmanuellamartins4303
    @emmanuellamartins4303 3 роки тому +1

    Happy anniversary 🎉 💗 💗💗

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      Thank you 🥳❤️

  • @mannyade2890
    @mannyade2890 3 роки тому

    Happy Anniversary🎊

  • @holamissmusica
    @holamissmusica 3 роки тому

    Happy anniversary 🎉

  • @MB-ig3tm
    @MB-ig3tm 3 роки тому +3

    I love your relationship ❤️

  • @007kitkit8
    @007kitkit8 2 роки тому

    Remarkable couple.

  • @stembabe740
    @stembabe740 2 роки тому

    communication and comprehension

  • @daoravida
    @daoravida 3 роки тому +1

    Off topic but your name is beautiful 💗

  • @kukenakingsleykuwema2907
    @kukenakingsleykuwema2907 2 роки тому

    The "Listen to Kanye" line got me... 😄

  • @ldn876
    @ldn876 3 роки тому +2

    Black love black excellence ❤️🖤♥️🖤

  • @Mscursed2
    @Mscursed2 2 роки тому

    You seem v well matched

  • @Graciousgr8ness
    @Graciousgr8ness 3 роки тому +10

    Both of you are sweet one’s still(even though you’re opposites).

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому

      Thank you ✌🏾✌🏽

  • @ToriOfTheNile
    @ToriOfTheNile 3 роки тому +1

    HER SKIIIINNNNNNNNNNN

  • @_Palesa_M
    @_Palesa_M 2 роки тому

    I really want to get married! 🥺🙏🏽

  • @Max-yk5mo
    @Max-yk5mo 3 роки тому +8

    I.. just you two are so🥺

  • @Zenoandturtle
    @Zenoandturtle 3 роки тому

    My folkes divorced when I was 3, I knew I would not go down that route.

  • @bunnews2131
    @bunnews2131 2 роки тому

    Adella is super beautiful 😍

  • @Lolzadoodle8484
    @Lolzadoodle8484 3 роки тому +1

    Marriage is a curse in my family so I'm gonna stay faaaaar away, but love other people's experiences about it. Always wishing you both all the love in the world :)

    • @malkiafuraha9694
      @malkiafuraha9694 3 роки тому +1

      No don't stay away, prayer to God and the experiences others face so also be your experience🥰

    • @Lolzadoodle8484
      @Lolzadoodle8484 3 роки тому +5

      @@malkiafuraha9694 sorry, I'm atheist, but I appreciate your sentiment :) wishing you well

    • @fa9183
      @fa9183 2 роки тому

      What do you mean by curse

    • @Lolzadoodle8484
      @Lolzadoodle8484 2 роки тому

      @@fa9183 it's used by my family to subordinate women or use the marriage as a means of lifting up the socioeconomic status of the family. There's not a single happy marriage in my parents' generation - they've all divorced, or are having affairs and have accepted the end of their marriage. That kind of thing. People aren't given the resources to make marriage work, or given a healthy and amicable way out of marriage. And in the country I live in, and in most countries, marriage is a legal contract two people sign to be bound together by the state which the two people have no control over the terms of. No thank you. I'll stay single on paper, even if I end up having a long term monogamous partnership.

  • @potato-sweet
    @potato-sweet 3 роки тому +11

    8:10 i saw u stop halfway through nigeria!! 😭😭

    • @BlessedLPT.
      @BlessedLPT. 3 роки тому +1

      😂 😂 😂 😂

    • @abiola33
      @abiola33 3 роки тому +1

      Me too!

    • @TheAfadis
      @TheAfadis 3 роки тому +1

      😂 whoops! We love Nigeria! Adella is half Nigerian