Adella’s eyes did not leave you at all... she admires you and adores you and appreciate you... I’m telling you, her eye contact is on point... that to me is one of the deepest form of communication and actively listening... you guys marriage was ordained before the foundation of this world, so in saying that I’m asking God to bless your marriage in Jesus name ❤️🥰🙏🏾👏🏾
I think your husband wants what he says acknowledged and validated - he does not necessarily want you to agree so much as understand. The key is you’re discussing it- beautiful.
Love the quote: we are not the example, we are part of the proof that when you committed to working on a marriage it will flourish. Totally!!! Thumbs up!!!
I watched your wedding on UA-cam last week and I got hooked instantly. You guys balance each other. Your husband is very grounded, settle and wise. He's sort of quiet like he is always thinking. Adella , you're a wild one. Love your outgoing personality. You both are sooooo adorable. Love your videos. Subscribed !
Hey guys, this is so vulnerable. Thank you, for that. I think you might really like the Perry’s podcast, this sounds kinda similar to some things that they spoke about. I love that while talking about hard things you still look at each with love and are prayerfully treating each other so. That’s important and beautiful. Love you guys, xx
Honestly guys; yall are married, you need to have each others back even when your mind is telling you other wise, even when you are fighting, you need to have your backs against each other. I hope this makes sense; stop calculating each other cause you are only gonna end up picking yourselves apart. Anytime you angry, remember to have each others backs. You was raised differently so naturally you will judge each other so always remember to have each other back. Okay I’m done now lol
It depends on what it is. If it’s a fundamental difference or a matter of disrespect, it’s not that simple and you shouldn’t just let things go. Marriage or otherwise, same thing.
I haven’t even got half way through but I had to highlight thank you so much Adella for being open about being selfish and about finding deep convos challenging because I’ve been experiencing the same emotions atm with my 1 year relationship. I know you found it difficult to accept but hearing you talk about it is like a breath of fresh air. I don’t feel alone with this🙏🏾🙏🏾
Heyy! Thank you so much for this kind of content, coz personally as a young woman the prospect if marriage can be idolized and made to be some sort of fairytale dream. But you're very real and it's kinda like having a big sister to tell you the things that no one else will regarding serious things like marriage. I pray that God will glorify Himself through your marriage and keep you in perfect unity forever. 🧡
Dear Adella & Keith!! Your channel popped up on my feed and thank God it did!🥰 This is timely as I pray for Christ led friends in long-term relationships/marriages to talk about the real stuff with 🙏🏾- you know the very, very hard parts that no one speaks about pre & post marriage!!! Anywhoo!! I resonate with both of you and would say I have similar principalities (esp the black and white strict kind 😒) to Keith. It gets me in trouble as my emotional intelligence fails to see the grey area in some circumstances. 🤧Accountability is needed and you both balance each other perfectly!! You're living proof of God's will at work!! 🙌🏾 LISTEN!!! We are here for the three year plan!!!!! I also receive it here!!🤲🏾 I truly pray Jesus continues to guide you and for God to bless you abundantly for generations to come!! 🙏🏾 With love in Christ, from a new subscriber, fellow UA-camr and sister in Christ from the land of Australia!! P Xo
Also, don't know if you'd be interested but Keep Your Love On is one of the BEST books (Christian) I've read on how to relate well with anyone. It's so powerful.
Absolutely love the vulnerability and your willingness to grow and learn from each other. THIS is the real real that christians looking to get married or on the verge of it need to watch, so thank you! God bless your marriage
Wow! Love your Frank conversation about marriage. This is good for any relationship to succeed. I like Keith point of view based on the fact that marriage should be christ centered , which perfect cause without HIM, we're nothing. Adella is so cute and love her man, well both of them love each other. May God Almighty continue to keep you guys together. We love you from🇸🇱🇸🇱👍🙏🙏💕
Adella I see humbleness in you , keep praying so that your husband feel that humble in you. You are doing good as submissive wife and your husband is a really head of the house and humble to God! Keep learning how to address him a respectful way that way more grace in you. I I love the way to give him time to talk without interrupting him, that is very very good.
Thank you for sharing guys! Because a lot of people only share the good parts or the parts that they improved on rather than the things that they found or been finding difficult. I’m not in a relationship atm but I feel like when it comes to sharing about my work a lot of the time it’s stressful and talking about it with my partner will just mean I’m bringing stress after work when all I wanna do it log out if work physically and in my mind too
This kind of healthy relationship diologe and modelling is so important. As an 18 year old, ive only ever exposed to toxic relationship models (family/friends/parents). I wish i could afford therapy but im in the states loll
The realness 🙌🙌. Yes yes yes. This will definitely help others. Im also married, my first 1 years was horrible, but now i realised i was immature. So its all about growing together. Now im enjoying my marriage, 3 years next year. Both growing spiritually and mentally id important 🎊🎊🎊
Wow I’m Keith and this is hilarious for me because now I’m learning a lot more about my self 😩, so scared to get into a relationship and see these aspects of myself play out
Thank you so much again. God really used you guys, I've been going through so much along these lines and felt so confused. Please keep listening to God and ignore the fear. Will be saving this video
Loved this 🥰 appreciate you guys and your vulnerability! Adella, I loved what you said re reminding yourself to view things through the lens that Keith is for you, not against you - feel like that’s a major key. I deffo got what Keith was saying haha. “It’s just the principle 🙄” has become one of my catch phrases lol, although I can also be super sensitive to the emotional aspects of situations, so it gets stressful in my head sometimes 😂 feel like I’m a hybrid between the two of you! Do you guys know your enneagram numbers? I reckon Keith might be a 1, and you a 9. I love the enneagram! Have found it to be a really useful tool for better understanding personality, motivations and behaviours for myself and those I’m in relationship with 🥰
Haha spot on with the enneagrams! Although we don’t reference it often it definitely helps to know and better understand the other’s personality to an extent 😅😅
loved this video! really insightful. its interesting how ive had similar conversations with my boyfriend and he's like keith, quite eloquent so i kind of dont want to bother but im glad the same thing resonated with us adella, he's not saying stuff to make me cry. we just need to be on the same page. keep these chit chats coming!
Great content! Was intrigued all the way through. It’s having the bible there as a mutual reference point for both of you. See how the word of God can support Open, objective communication. Keep it up, and keep God first 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
I feel that you are me and my bf. He is so good at winning argument because he can articulate his point better but actually I just know I don’t agree. We had to learn how to disagree because this was causing a lot of frustration. Eventually now we don’t have anymore big disagreements because we listen a bit better and with the intent of understanding rather than being right. Also omg your characters are so similar to ours. I am the grey one and he is more black and white. 😅
This was such a helpful video. Thank you so much! Not that you’re asking for advice or anything but l think that maybe you don’t communicate that you understand him in a way that he receives understanding. It’s just a matter of feeling like the point was acknowledged and received even if you still disagree at the end. Again thank you for sharing your experience thus far in your marriage. May God continue to bless your union
You have discernment Adella!!! I also like what he said. Its the spirit in which you do things.....!!! May the Lord bless and keep you guys in NSYNC(hope I spelt that right😂), cheers!!!🍻
Oh man l looove it this is so awesome Keith and Adella. I think also another thing you may need to consider as well Keith as far as Adella is concerned is birth order because Adella is possibly the youngest child so that may also have affect how she responds to stuff and like you said validating her feelings whether or not you understand them. What I love about this is you guys are talking about it and open to learning.
Adella, you're stunning 🥵 Also, have you heard of the Enneagram personality types? Could you possibly be a Type 9? It's such a good tool for Self-awareness 🙌🏿 I think Keith might be a Type 1 😅
Honestly, there is difference between religion-ism and having a spiritual relationship with God!! Religion= denomination, acts that represent that denomination -key word is ACT While a relationship with God= you embody and emulate things differently because of your relationship with God
Let me know if you'd like more videos like this or have any questions for us xx
Yes pleasee!! Love these types of videos. Love the transparency!
Thank you 😊
yesssss!! more videos like this please. thank you for sharing!
Yes pls, more videos like this
I love the transparency. This is what we need to see as Christian couples that are aspiring to get married . God bless you guys ❤️🥺 Wish you well !!
Adella’s eyes did not leave you at all... she admires you and adores you and appreciate you... I’m telling you, her eye contact is on point... that to me is one of the deepest form of communication and actively listening... you guys marriage was ordained before the foundation of this world, so in saying that I’m asking God to bless your marriage in Jesus name ❤️🥰🙏🏾👏🏾
Amen 🙏🏾
It’s fascinating. I’d love her to explore that more - I get the sense that she looks to him for a lot of validation.
I think your husband wants what he says acknowledged and validated - he does not necessarily want you to agree so much as understand.
The key is you’re discussing it- beautiful.
i love how transparent and raw this is, thanks for sharing Adella! more like this please🤍🤍🤍
Glad you liked it. Will defo create more of these
Love the quote: we are not the example, we are part of the proof that when you committed to working on a marriage it will flourish. Totally!!! Thumbs up!!!
I watched your wedding on UA-cam last week and I got hooked instantly. You guys balance each other. Your husband is very grounded, settle and wise. He's sort of quiet like he is always thinking. Adella , you're a wild one. Love your outgoing personality. You both are sooooo adorable. Love your videos. Subscribed !
2 years already????
I can’t believe how time has passed by so fast... wow
Nicola Waugh I know, time flies 😅😅
Hey guys, this is so vulnerable. Thank you, for that. I think you might really like the Perry’s podcast, this sounds kinda similar to some things that they spoke about. I love that while talking about hard things you still look at each with love and are prayerfully treating each other so. That’s important and beautiful. Love you guys, xx
I’ve listened to a few episodes but Keith listens to them often, they are great 😊🙌🏾
Honestly guys; yall are married, you need to have each others back even when your mind is telling you other wise, even when you are fighting, you need to have your backs against each other. I hope this makes sense; stop calculating each other cause you are only gonna end up picking yourselves apart. Anytime you angry, remember to have each others backs. You was raised differently so naturally you will judge each other so always remember to have each other back. Okay I’m done now lol
It depends on what it is. If it’s a fundamental difference or a matter of disrespect, it’s not that simple and you shouldn’t just let things go. Marriage or otherwise, same thing.
Very honest content. Navigating relationships is hard, let alone marriage. Takes a lot of accountability and self awareness
I haven’t even got half way through but I had to highlight thank you so much Adella for being open about being selfish and about finding deep convos challenging because I’ve been experiencing the same emotions atm with my 1 year relationship. I know you found it difficult to accept but hearing you talk about it is like a breath of fresh air. I don’t feel alone with this🙏🏾🙏🏾
Rosh C we’re in this together, thank you for sharing ☺️☺️
Heyy! Thank you so much for this kind of content, coz personally as a young woman the prospect if marriage can be idolized and made to be some sort of fairytale dream. But you're very real and it's kinda like having a big sister to tell you the things that no one else will regarding serious things like marriage.
I pray that God will glorify Himself through your marriage and keep you in perfect unity forever. 🧡
Dear Adella & Keith!!
Your channel popped up on my feed and thank God it did!🥰 This is timely as I pray for Christ led friends in long-term relationships/marriages to talk about the real stuff with 🙏🏾- you know the very, very hard parts that no one speaks about pre & post marriage!!! Anywhoo!! I resonate with both of you and would say I have similar principalities (esp the black and white strict kind 😒) to Keith. It gets me in trouble as my emotional intelligence fails to see the grey area in some circumstances. 🤧Accountability is needed and you both balance each other perfectly!! You're living proof of God's will at work!! 🙌🏾
LISTEN!!! We are here for the three year plan!!!!! I also receive it here!!🤲🏾 I truly pray Jesus continues to guide you and for God to bless you abundantly for generations to come!! 🙏🏾
With love in Christ, from a new subscriber, fellow UA-camr and sister in Christ from the land of Australia!!
P
Xo
Also, don't know if you'd be interested but Keep Your Love On is one of the BEST books (Christian) I've read on how to relate well with anyone. It's so powerful.
one amazing book for handling emotion in a christian/married context is “why emotions matter” by Jon Collins - hiighhhly recommend❤️
Anne Nonymus thanks! Will add it to our book wish list 😊
Absolutely love the vulnerability and your willingness to grow and learn from each other. THIS is the real real that christians looking to get married or on the verge of it need to watch, so thank you! God bless your marriage
Loved this you’re such a great couple. We’re all rooting for youuu !!! Praying for a long & fruitful marriage for you.x
B thank you 😊🥰
Love that you guys mentioned Beleaf, his and his family's content is amazing. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable 😊
And Keith is such a man after God's own heart.❤️ You guys are blessed 🙏
Wow! Love your Frank conversation about marriage. This is good for any relationship to succeed. I like Keith point of view based on the fact that marriage should be christ centered , which perfect cause without HIM, we're nothing. Adella is so cute and love her man, well both of them love each other. May God Almighty continue to keep you guys together. We love you from🇸🇱🇸🇱👍🙏🙏💕
The way they look at each other is priceless😃😍
Adella I see humbleness in you , keep praying so that your husband feel that humble in you. You are doing good as submissive wife and your husband is a really head of the house and humble to God!
Keep learning how to address him a respectful way that way more grace in you. I
I love the way to give him time to talk without interrupting him, that is very very good.
I can see you have different perspective to issues. But its intriguing how you get along. I would like to know what keeps your bond tight
We might do a video on this soon 👌🏾
Thank you for sharing guys! Because a lot of people only share the good parts or the parts that they improved on rather than the things that they found or been finding difficult.
I’m not in a relationship atm but I feel like when it comes to sharing about my work a lot of the time it’s stressful and talking about it with my partner will just mean I’m bringing stress after work when all I wanna do it log out if work physically and in my mind too
Keith is me and i am Keith, when it comes to principles vs emotions lol
Marriage is not easy but guys LOOK good together doing it... Keep the Communication going💛🙏🏾💚💪🏾
36 minutes oh my gosh I'm so happy! Aaaah!!!! 😍
I appreciate the transparency in this video ❤️
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I can't believe you're married, it still hasn't sunk in!! Always happy for you guys 💕💕💕
valerie kporye 🥰
Thank you for this. . I'm currently engaged. This was eye opening!
So glad you found it useful!
This kind of healthy relationship diologe and modelling is so important. As an 18 year old, ive only ever exposed to toxic relationship models (family/friends/parents).
I wish i could afford therapy but im in the states loll
The realness 🙌🙌. Yes yes yes. This will definitely help others. Im also married, my first 1 years was horrible, but now i realised i was immature. So its all about growing together. Now im enjoying my marriage, 3 years next year. Both growing spiritually and mentally id important 🎊🎊🎊
I am honestly praying the Lord will continue to mold you both and, you guys will endure the process am very grateful you guys shared!!!
I totally get this even though I'm not married yet. All the best to you guys!
Thank you 🙏🏾
I literally typed this response.
you know i had to like before i even started the vid!
You’re a real one 😁😁
Wow I’m Keith and this is hilarious for me because now I’m learning a lot more about my self 😩, so scared to get into a relationship and see these aspects of myself play out
Thank you so much again. God really used you guys, I've been going through so much along these lines and felt so confused. Please keep listening to God and ignore the fear. Will be saving this video
iiGraceyy glad it helped in some way 😊xx
Loved this 🥰 appreciate you guys and your vulnerability!
Adella, I loved what you said re reminding yourself to view things through the lens that Keith is for you, not against you - feel like that’s a major key.
I deffo got what Keith was saying haha. “It’s just the principle 🙄” has become one of my catch phrases lol, although I can also be super sensitive to the emotional aspects of situations, so it gets stressful in my head sometimes 😂 feel like I’m a hybrid between the two of you!
Do you guys know your enneagram numbers? I reckon Keith might be a 1, and you a 9. I love the enneagram! Have found it to be a really useful tool for better understanding personality, motivations and behaviours for myself and those I’m in relationship with 🥰
Haha spot on with the enneagrams! Although we don’t reference it often it definitely helps to know and better understand the other’s personality to an extent 😅😅
Hubby and I hit 2 years in December! 💛 Thank you for sharing!!
Omgggggggggggg this is me in terms of the confrontation and wanting people to understand as opposed to wanting them to agree
thsnks for being open and vulnerable guys!! appreciate this
My faves! Absolutely more of these, please. More grace to you both :)
Thank you and definitely will do more of these 🥰
Love and appreciate you guys! Your content is so necessary 🤍❤️
You guys were in the HTB marriage course with me! This video 😍Love to see it! 🎉
I love everything about this! The real ness, transparency, vulnerability!!! Yes!!! 🖤🖤🖤🖤
Loved seeing this! Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us like this!
T Vicky 😊😊 no worries
I am definitely subscribing! Thank you for sharing !🙏
loved this video! really insightful. its interesting how ive had similar conversations with my boyfriend and he's like keith, quite eloquent so i kind of dont want to bother but im glad the same thing resonated with us adella, he's not saying stuff to make me cry. we just need to be on the same page. keep these chit chats coming!
Wow two years!!!! Seems like I just saw your beautiful engagement/wedding yesterday. You are a beautiful couple keep going until your forever.
Great content! Was intrigued all the way through. It’s having the bible there as a mutual reference point for both of you. See how the word of God can support Open, objective communication. Keep it up, and keep God first 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽
Thank you for your transparency 🥺🤗💃🏿 God Bless your marriage
I just love how you look at each other 😍😍. Thank you for this.. it was very helpful
I feel that you are me and my bf. He is so good at winning argument because he can articulate his point better but actually I just know I don’t agree. We had to learn how to disagree because this was causing a lot of frustration. Eventually now we don’t have anymore big disagreements because we listen a bit better and with the intent of understanding rather than being right.
Also omg your characters are so similar to ours. I am the grey one and he is more black and white. 😅
This was such a helpful video. Thank you so much! Not that you’re asking for advice or anything but l think that maybe you don’t communicate that you understand him in a way that he receives understanding. It’s just a matter of feeling like the point was acknowledged and received even if you still disagree at the end.
Again thank you for sharing your experience thus far in your marriage. May God continue to bless your union
You have discernment Adella!!!
I also like what he said. Its the spirit in which you do things.....!!!
May the Lord bless and keep you guys in NSYNC(hope I spelt that right😂), cheers!!!🍻
You guys are my faves 💛💛. Thanks for this video as well, taking notes for the future ☺️☺️
Grace Egwede glad it helped 😊😊
You may have disagreements but I see love between the two of you, Amen!!!💗
I love the honesty guys. Nice and very interesting. I am happy to be here. I am your new subbie 🖐️. We have very interesting chanel as well.
This was really insightful, thanks for being open/vulnerable guyss!
Busayo no worries, hope it helped ☺️
Oh man l looove it this is so awesome Keith and Adella. I think also another thing you may need to consider as well Keith as far as Adella is concerned is birth order because Adella is possibly the youngest child so that may also have affect how she responds to stuff and like you said validating her feelings whether or not you understand them. What I love about this is you guys are talking about it and open to learning.
Oh wow I truly enjoyed watching this 😍💓
I absolutely loved this!!!
I really enjoy watching you both all the time..I don’t really know why but I just love watching you both. 😀😀😀👍
Adella, you're stunning 🥵
Also, have you heard of the Enneagram personality types? Could you possibly be a Type 9? It's such a good tool for Self-awareness 🙌🏿
I think Keith might be a Type 1 😅
This is so beautiful! I love this!
Jumoke Opeyemi 🥰
Thank you so much for sharing this. Very very helpful xx
...I like that. You are living proof, Amen.🙏
Thank you so much for this video. God bless you guys x
iiGraceyy no worries, hope it helped 😊
I Love Everything about this ❤
Happy anniversary to my favourite young Christian couple
really enjoyed this!
debbie gabrielle 😊😊
Your eyes are pretty!! Omg!
Very honest talk. Thank you
Thank you guys for sharing this.
Honestly, there is difference between religion-ism and having a spiritual relationship with God!!
Religion= denomination, acts that represent that denomination -key word is ACT
While a relationship with God= you embody and emulate things differently because of your relationship with God
I love this , now I meet Anna’s sister . Please tell #thedekus we miss them
God bless you for your honesty🙏God bless your marriage
I understood exactly what he was saying at 15:45 😂😅🤣🙃
i was confused
Christ like living, i totally understand him, but its hard.
Can you do live videos ? Be good to engage
Love this real/raw content 😘
Nicola Waugh Keith was saying the same, hopefully we’ll do one very soon
Very informative
Absolutely love this. Would deffo love to see more of this. Out of curiosity what are your enneagram?
Mary Ade we just recorded a new video together ☺️ I’m a type 9 and Keith is a type 1
Thanks for sharing 😊
Amazing video,very very helpful, thank you for you transparency an realness!
All of this will change with babies, you won’t care who moved what shoes, there will be no time!
I'm just curious what y'all zodiac signs is🤗🤗
Cute couple
Do you know your spiritual gifts
This is interesting🤔
Ok one more comment after listening, sounds like he is more prepared to be one but his wife less so