this happened to me and my son. i worked all the time and know im retired at home. and hes always working.and after work as he had the weekend off hes hang with his buddies. one time he came over to ask for some money and he saw me crying listening to this song. he listened and it broke his heart.poor kid . he cried and we hugged. every weekend hes comes over nowand stays in touch constantly. thank you harry chapin.
Thank you for this beautiful story, and thank goodness the two of you mended fences while there was still time. And oh, yes: thank you again, Harry Chapin, AND your wife, Sandy--for writing the original lyrics. 💓💓💖💖
Only the ones with jobs. In my experience, most dads are layabouts that collect welfare and drink until they're drunk every day, and then leave forever when the mother or kids finally get sick of his constant yelling and violence
Who is listening to Harry in 2022? This is one of those songs that I've listened to all my life, from childhood to teendom, then in later adulthood I re-discovered it. Love it still!
I'm listening,ebonpaladin.....as I have for years...along with "It was a very good year"...Frank Sinatra...and "Father and Son"...Cat Stevens ....just to name the minimal; I have no sons but the very beauty of these lovely songs makes us realise how very short life really is and these days there are no songs that can compare.
I am 58 yr old and have 20 yr old kids. This song is my living life right now. I worked all my life and the kids are in school and doing their thing. I see this song everyday. People, ENJOY your kids while you can..
Talk about the moment... Croce wrote "time in a Bottle" for his then unborn son and died when his son was 13 months. ua-cam.com/video/dO1rMeYnOmM/v-deo.html
@@jamesknowles1907 also... sometimes the only way to have a "family reunion" and to finally get the WHOLE family together under one roof is funerals and weddings !!!
My dad was my best friend. I joined the Marine Corps fresh outta high school when I was 19. Unbeknownst to me his time on this earth was coming to an end. A day after I turned 21 he died in my arms of a massive heart attack at 58. I would give anything to have those years back and see my dad again.
A couple years ago my dad asked if i could get time off work to go with him on a road trip to Idaho. My brother and sister both just had their second kid and weren’t visiting much. This song came on. He laughed and said “this song is so true” and I went “huh?” He said “well… it’s about a father who never had time to spend with his son… and when his son grew up… his son didn’t have time for his dad… thanks for coming with me on this trip. I really appreciate it.” Took everything in me to not cry.
its a song that reminds me of a story that my dad had told me about when i was really young (still tells me about it now). Its about a father not having enough time for his son, and the point of the story was that the kid had saved up money to buy an hour of his dads hour (because he was a professional businessman).
I recently re-discovered this song as a dad with a young 18 month old boy. Actually listened to the lyrics instead of just singing the chorus. It sums up my relationship with my dad perfectly, and now in hard times having to spend so much time apart from my lad for work, it's such a relatable subject. Seeing how quick he grows it makes me appreciate the time we have together and how important it is to try and break the cycle. Emotional song to hear though.
Sure do miss my dad but as an adult I found my way to the Bible study and discovered the resurrection!!!!! I will see my dad again!!! Revelation 21:3,4 and beyond happiness!!!
My Dad passed in February this year, and at 45 now I just feel so much more this song hits hard. We have no way to not be stuck in this pattern in life, the people we want to spend time with we never have enough time to
That final lyric, "As I hung up the phone, it occurred to me, he'd grown up just like me. My boy was just like me." chokes me up every single time. It looks like it chokes up Harry, too. If it doesn't, then you don't have a soul. Songs like this aren't written anymore.
Nitro Junkie: Or we don't hear them, or can't relate to them because we're old. The world keeps changing. And we change, inevitably. We can't reach out and be teens or 20's etc. again. It was a great song, and I have no real desire to listen to most modern popular music because it lacks context to me (like rap and hip hop -- give me a break), yet that's the most popular music, per statistics.
Songs like this are still written, they're not always as popular or in the same genre but there's always genuine artists writing and performing stuff that speaks to the human experience.
My father was raised in a small town on the western side of Wisconsin. His father, my grandfather was a decent man. Worked hard to provide for his family but rarely made the time to spend with my father. My father met my mother while he was attending college in Kansas City Missouri and that's where I grew up. About a month after I graduated high school, my grandfather passed away. During the 500 mile road trip from Kansas City to my dad's hometown this song came on the radio. My dad turned the volume up and told me to listen to the song. After it was over my father told me a lot about his childhood, things I'd never heard before. He explained to me how much he respected and loved his father but promised himself long before I came around that he would never be absent from his children like his father was. First time I can remember seeing my father cry. My father kept the promise he made to himself all those years ago. And I'm happy to say now that I am a father, I've been the kind of father that mine was to me.
I’ll never forget the first time i heard this song, my dad had a model railroad set in the basement and we were hanging out. This song came on and he just said “listen to this song”. He passed in 2018 and I now have a 9 month old boy, hearing this song now really hits home. God Bless!
The first time i heard this song i was a very abused kid. still to this day it hits home and i am very protective of all my kids and my extras that i have taken in oven the years
@@denisehammill3625 wow Dennis I hear your pain.. my husband was an abusive alcoholic who stayed at home raising my kids while I worked I hardly see my older son and I always tell him hey cats in cradle. ... So yes this song works for women too.. my regret is what my boys went through because of my husband..
I'm 58 never had kids, but this song reduces me to tears and makes me miss my mum and dad (both passed). It is a song which will never age, a simple song, yet I think the saddest song in the world....yet beautiful. Now to wipe the tears away. xx
I lost my father in the year I discovered this song, but before I was able to share it with him. One thing I've learnt, is that they never lose love in their kids, it only grows. I hope you had a chance to experience their love. My deepest condolences. I truly understand your loss. Wish you recover well and grow. Love.
It brings to light how so many of us are entangled with everyday hustles , away a sad amount of time from family. The short hours together we need to make the time special. Sadly, many are too exhausted by then.
I have two daughters both of them have 3 children. The oldest has 2 boys the youngest has 2 girls Me and my wife have two daughters.this song makes think of who I was at that time I was 15 or 16 years old I still have tears every time I hear it.. my daughters are great moms and they have strong convictions of right and wrong .i tell them every time I see them to spend time with them. Every minute of every day on this planet should be precious have time set aside to visit them as much as you because one day will be your last to visit. If your children bury you then you have won the game of life.
I saw my father cry twice. The first time was when he received a call from a family member informing him of his mother's death. The second was when I informed him that his only son had died. I lost my father on Sept 12, 2010. I wish that I could have told him more often that his baby girl loved him. He was only able to tell me that he loved me twice... once written in a card and once in person, the night before he died. I leaned in and whispered back, "I always knew that you did, and I love you, too". Peace.
I bet your dad was a great dad when I read that really got me I understand him I guess I felt bad about the news he heard no father wants to hear that I the youngest I miss my dad he wasn't easy but we got along great at least after he retired then you don't have to come home and see the kids you know he has enough worries in his life he's the breadwinner he supported us and took care of us
OK that story got me as a composer. Just like I said to a woman falling from Tower one on 9/11 "Honey I don't know your name but I will write a song for you " I want to write one based on this, thanks for sharing. www.ourmuiscrocks.com Song was called Unborn baby of tower one.
I would give anything to go back and live in the 70' s when i was young back then we were free and safe. I miss those safe days. All we have are the good memories! No cell phones. We had great music to keep us busy. Kids today have no idea how good it was back then. Sometimes i sit with the 70"s music and peacefully wonder back in time feeling like im living it with my mind set at the moment.
In the '70's our airing was breaking in the Dwight D Eisenhower CVN69 brand new. This song is a national treasure. The comments are treasures themselves!!!
Yes I agree with ya! The 60s and 70s were my era as a kid and loved it. Much simpler times compared to all of the social media these days. Although I appreciate UA-cam for thinking about are generation that brings great memories back to us. Thank you!😎👍🇺🇸🎼
My parents were friends with Harry Chapin. Harry, was friendly and outgoing. He had so much love for everyone and Huntington, New York. I went to Huntington High School with Harry's sister.
I live in Huntington too, its really cool to see how much love and pride our town has for Harry. My wife went to HHS with his daughters, and just loves the Chapin family. My friend Kieran was fighting cancer and Harry’s son brought him some memorabilia, made his last days special. Really felt like something Harry would yave done.
As Pumpkin Puna mentioned, his wife wrote it while he was on the road, touring. He looked at the poem, set it aside, and forgot about it for a while. Shortly after his son Joshua was born, he found renewed interest and put it to music. Henry died in a car crash about half a dozen years later. His son was only eight years old.
Had my boy at sixteen. I grew up fast. I married his mom in the seventies. It was was tuff on us all. I had to support us. His mom left . She thought she was taking my boy. Didn't happen even in the old days. My boy at fifty knows who took care him. I'm so proud of him. When he was young I had to support us, so this song hits right to my heart. I worked six days a week. Wasn't easy but I wouldn't change a thing. He's helping me out now that I'm old. I had a great family too. That helped us out as well.
This song reminds me of my wife. It was her favorite song before she lost battling cancer, I wish I could change the hands of time, she was always there for me and our lovely daughter, life could be so unfair most times, but sometimes I wonder why bad things always happen to good people
I am now 64 years old and remember this song from my days in high school. My dad and I never were able to heal all the rift between us. He had been raised in the Depression and, like many in his generation, learned to hide his fear, his feelings and would never admit being wrong or say he was sorry. I have two daughters, 32 and 27. I am very close with both of them and so is my wife. For our 40th anniversary we asked them to join us - we are both most happy when our girls are with us. I just sobbed while listening to this song. In the last few years I have referenced this song when asked how my girls are doing. That's the power of this song...even when it makes you think of those you ARE close to and love. I determined that this great song would not describe me with my children. Cherish the time with your children. This is a great song.
I’m 68years the same sanario but I have boys who grew up just like me and I idid the same thing my father did .i haven’t seen my two sons in close to 30years
I heard this song the first time when I was a young man with three little boys. It rocked my soul and at that moment I dedicated myself into being the best father and husband I could be. Day upon day and weeks upon weeks and years went by. I kept my promise. My sons are all grown now and they have given me wonderful daughter-in-laws and 9 grandchildren. We talk everyday on the phone. I was at my youngest son's home visiting along with my wife and the mother of my boys. I overheard my son telling his oldest son, "I want you to be like grandpa. I had to excuse myself saying I needed to use the restroom. I closed the door and I wept. Always let your children know you are not perfect. Tell them at least every hour you love them. Sometimes I cry a little wishing I could have those days with 3 little kids all over again. I love them so much!
I am a father of 3 boys under 10. I just heard this song for the first time recently. Your comment hits home...so much, it hurts. I will be the man they want to be.
When I was a teen and this song came out, it literally spoke to my relationship with my father. When my father died in 86, I stood at his casket and cried. Not for the loss of him, but for the loss of memories not had, and memories I didn't have to hold on to him with.
I think I'm blessed as a 20-year-old to come across this masterpiece of a song. Definitely taught me the importance of fatherhood in the future. Song's too poignant and emotional for me :")
@@lemurianchick You's what we call, "a Hater"! I'm a stickler for the usage of English too, but I wouldn't go out of my way to critique a post on UA-cam! That's just WAY OUT OF BOUNDS!
More like you were 14. "Cat's in the Cradle" is a 1974 folk rock song by Harry Chapin from the album Verities & Balderdash. The single topped the US Billboard Hot 100 in December 1974. As Chapin's only number-one song, it became the best known of his work and a staple for folk rock music. Chapin's recording of the song was nominated for the 1975 Grammy Award for Best Male Pop Vocal Performance and was inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame in 2011.
@@jshrek62: Not sure how being pedantic about it is really helpful here. It's not like whether it was 1970 or 1974 makes ANY fundamental difference re the context and meaning of that wonderful old song.
40 years ago, I took it to heart, and Harry’s song made me a better dad. I can tell, by watching my kids now. They are wonderful parents. Thank you, Harry. 👩❤️👨👭🧍♂️
This song is sad but until you have children of your own it doesn't hit you! But as soon as you have a child and hear this song it HITS YOU like a TON of BRICKS!
Cant agree, I have no kids and Iam 57 but my dad still lives. He had a stroke recently and corona. I visited him today at home and he wanted something explained on the smartphone, but i was short on time... A few hours later on YT i heard this song and read the lyrics...iam from germany. I think i have to change something when there is time left... There is an additional song from Luther Vandross which put tears to my eyes... "Dance with my father".
TOP, nun ja meine Kindheit war gut . Aber viele meiner Freunde haben das erlebt . Tolles Lied TOP, well my childhood was good. But many of my friends have experienced this. Great song
I will agree that having children does help to understand. I am childless however I have helped in raising quite a few...... This song makes me shed tears everytime I listen to it. Ever since it was released way back.......even right NOW
Yes it hits you like a ton of bricks. Then your wife (or husband) dies. Then it hits you a hundred times harder! My wife soulmate Karen died October 5th 2023. It still hurts. We met on a blind date June 30th 1989. Got married March 14th 1991. Never separated but for hospital stays and when I drove 18wheelers from California to Main and everywhere in-between. I miss her greatly!
I heard Cats in the Cradle on the radio the other day and I thought of my Dad. It’s a song that surely hits the heart of every son that has an aging father. My Dad once told me the song reminded him of me. It occurred to me that the song is incomplete without a response from a son and these lyrics just came to me as I was listening to the song: I’ve longed since the day my Dad passed away, I called him up just the other day. I said I’d like to see you if you don’t mind and then I realized I had run out of time. And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me, I’ve grown up just like him, my Dad was just like me… Miss those phone calls Pop. ❤
My dad was raised in the depression, in the 1930’s. He was so hardened by it that there was no way we would ever be close. I can never remember him giving me a hug. But this song made me think about a lot of things when my son was born. We’re very close. Thanks,Harry😊
@@ronschultz6887-I wish that could have happened, but dad died in 1988. We had gotten a little closer, but he was raised in a way to show NO EMOTION. The older generation thought that crying was a sign of weakness. I never saw him cry. My wife, kids, and grandkids have all seen ME Cry, but that’s ok. This song has been a big part of that growth 😊
Had my dad listen to this song back in the day. He was working so much he was up at 5 and worked til 11 ... I forgot how much he did for us ... But his love still with me ... I cared for him in his last year after mom past ... He was suffered by dementia and physically disabled by it ... I carried him ... Like he carried me ... Miss you dad ... ❤
My dad used to sing this to me when I was a teenager, just as a joke. It made him this of his dad who died when he was 32. I am now 32, and my dad is dying...and I can't stop thinking of my dad in the kitchen, singing this with a smile on his face thinking of his dad...
sooooo sorry to hear your dad is not doing well .. Be of good courage and remember those good times .. Nothing will ever separate you from his love however this turns out May God bless you your dad and family,,,
Beautiful timeless song, I remember hearing this song and never forgot it. My parents were workaholics and we grew up as latchkey kids. The years has gone so fast and a lot of time was lost spending quality time with them . Thank you Harry Chapin & his wife Sandy for the great song! It helped me make sure I put my children first , took time off for birthdays, vacation, taking them to the park, playing board games ect They are both adults now 20 & 28 and make sure they make me and my husband a priority to spend time with us for holidays, birthdays and vacation. It becomes the norm generationally if you live by example! That song put family and life in the spotlight & right perspective! ☺️👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾❤️💕
As a hard working family man having to provide for your kin. You really are caught between a rock & a hard place . Especially in todays economic climate.... 34 years long haul truck driver... Looking back I wish I took a different direction but was not able too . But my kids had a good mother & turned out well , went to college . They are both settled in good careers making their own way in life. And I am proud of them . I live a little way apart from them & visiting times are precious.
We should’ve been seeing Harry sing this song at age 70, after it all truly ran full circle for him. We were all robbed of that. Thanks for sharing a masterpiece with us, Harry.
I had the pleasure of meeting, and conversing with both,. Harry and his brother Tom. In a USO Tour show in an extinct volcano around Naples Italy. A very small, yet personalized show that was truly a once in a lifetime gift for me. Both gentlemen were immensely cordial and laid back, easy going. I still have these photos and cherish them.
@@drakehonest2 I'm not sure if you are referring to me. This is the first time I've seen a reply in UA-cam. I'm not a big social bug. Not even sure if I am doing this right. Lol. As for your inquiry. I'm doing as well as I can. Lol. How are you.? Where are you from.?
@@drakehonest2 I live in a very small town on Onieda lake. Some 25 miles N. E. Of Syracuse NY. I was reading allot about Southern Californians apparent flustration with the govt,. As well as the homeless situation. That is until UA-cam censored me. Now, I can't get anything political, or in social science areas. Unfortunately, we now live in a corporate, socialist governing country. No more Republic 😔 The people have become hedonistic sheep. That suits them just fine. How bad is it there.? Even with all of California's difficulties. I would love to return there. It's truly a beautiful state. With the best weather. Norway, is amazing. I don't think I would want to ever leave there.
when I hear this song I cry because my dad was my scout leader, My baseball coach and the best teacher of how to fix things. Now he's gone and i feel for those that didnt have a father like mine and i realize how lucky i was to have him. Unfortunately he died at age 65 and didnt get to teach me everything that he knew so there will always be an empty place in my mind for the final teachings from my Dad
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.... the empty space is the place where you share what he taught you, the joy he brought you learning, and now sharing him thru your teaching. I miss the Old Fart more each day. Was the Grand Master of Hugs, Humility, and Love.
Its a great song I always loved the song. My son was born in 2008 his mom passed away when he was 7, now when I listen to this it brings tears to my eyes. He's 10 I'm 51 and I'm all he has. Just writing this I couldn't stop crying. That's a powerful song.
Take this from someone whose father never cared about his child. Please keep doing what you’re doing with your son. You will be rewarded in due time. Please trust me from my perspective.
@@coloradokevin1675 I'm sorry for your predicament but glad to see it had a positive reaction and you have a good heart to see past that with a heart felt comment peace brother....
My dad literally went out for a pack of cigarettes and never returned I was just a baby I had a mean stepdad for a while The only quality time we ever spent together was when He was beating the s*** out of me Mom eventually divorced him You can't imagine watching other kids with their dads And you don't have one I used to be a boy scout My mother the bartender set me up with some drunk dude To go on the father's son retreat He told me to get away from him he had something to do So I did Come to find out The something he had to do was go back home So here I was Father son retreat all by myself I didn't get to do anythingCouldn't do any of the games All I could do was watch other kids with their dadsAnd let me tell you that was awesomeMy father has since diedAt least that's what someone told meI said my father didn't die I didn't have a fatherBut enough of this doom and gloomBut enough of this doom and gloomYou guys that do have fathers cherish themCherish every single moment😅😅😅
After watching the recent documentary on Harry Chapin, I was so happy to hear his music again and remember all those concerts. My son indicated he didn't know the name. After singing the chorus to Cats in the Cradle, he said I feel like my body knows that song. About 31 years ago, I sang that song over and over again to a colicky baby during those long nights Thank you for the music, Harry
Angela Hill: Music is SO generational as is all media, really. I'll never forget being in a record store (remember those?) in roughly 1990 and hearing some kid (a seemingly perfectly ordinary kid) say something like: "The Beatles? I thought Paul McCartney was in Wings!" It doesn't take long for things to REALLY, REALLY change in the modern world.
My father (RIP) was on his way to Chapin's final concert when he got the news of the accident. My mother was pregnant with me at the time. This song was played at his funeral at his request.
I was on the Long Island Expressway and passed the accident where Harry died. A true talent who will always be missed. Went into the motel at Bethpage and heard the bad news.
I like how this song does not really villainize the father, but merely reminds us all to make time for our loved ones most particularly our children, because they will be grown up before you know it and you will miss so much if you don't. Nothing is more important than that.
In September of 77 as a teen, I was riding my moped up to Griffith Park Observatory and I hear "Cat's in the Cradle" playing. Harry Chapin was playing this at the open air Greek Theater just down the hill. I pulled over on the side of the road where I could watch and listen to the whole concert for free. What an amazing show.
I have listened and cried to this song for many many years and it never fails to remind me of my Dad and our lives together. I feel so lucky to have him as long as I did. We all need a good cry now and then.......
I think of my Dad ever time I hear this song . I wish I could tell how much I truly loved him. Sometimes I cry listening to this like now . I miss you love Andy
Just gave my 16 yo son his first car today. After his first spin, he backed into the driveway. Wife commented how he is so you. My response was "my boy is just like me..." tears to my eyes
I was so lucky to grow up with this music, this new generation has no clue. We didn’t have social media, internet, iPhones, but we had the music, he was such a high talent of my generation.
Christine: Respectfully, I'm 63, and I don't think it's about fault or good and bad, etc. The world was different, largely since technology was very different. Even though in many ways (and I'll accept the blame) I have trouble relating to much of the modern generation and their seemingly complete obsession with phones (I spend my time on Windows laptops, but still absorbing lots of media) -- I'm sure they find me just as clueless / strange as I find them. It's mostly luck / fate / accident, how we find ourselves re time, place, and circumstance -- NOT about being clueless or brilliant, IMO. And 99.9999 percent of us fall into the ordinary bucket, re historical time... And big picture, the species doesn't get smarter or wiser by leaps and bounds. The media and technology change and the times change along with them. But the fundamental human issues and constraints and problems remain. Cold war then. Ukraine travesty now. Pollution and hunger and overpopulation then. AGW and hunger and overpopulation now (bigger population, but same big picture). But we were brilliant because we grew up with what were the great musical artists of the 70's (which were inimitable in their way, granted), and young people are "clueless", now? Again, respectfully, like so many people, I think your perspective on the world is very narrow to have that attitude.
@@rogergeyer9851 I appreciate your feedback, I just feel we lost something. I didn’t grow up with them/they non-binary, etc. I can’t understand how we as a society can accept a man as a woman, playing in women’s sports. Kids being taught hate in school, trying to indoctrinate them. Girls trying to be boys and boys trying to be girls, and teachers are ok with it, when these kids are just kids. In congress they can’t define what a woman is, and accepting that men can have babies when it is impossible and ridiculous. I can go on and on. No, I didn’t grow up like that and thank the lord I didn’t. Look at this country is beyond a mess, never have seen this in my lifetime.
“Cat’s in the cradle, and a silver spoon. Little Boy Blue and the Man in the Moon…” Kid trying to make sense of fragmented nursery rhymes that no one had the time to teach him. Heartbreaking and ingenious lyrics. 😢
I remember hearing this song for the first time in 1974. I was 14 years old. I cried when I heard it and vowed not to be like my dad. It seemed to parallel me and my dad. He was always too busy to do things with me. He was either tinkering with some project he had in the garage or was unwilling to stop watching some show on the idiot tube. I was determined to be a better father than he was when I had kids. Unfortunately, I ended up being worse than my dad. I believe he was a better father than I was.
Loved this song since it was first released. My dad at the age of 97 passed away in December 2022. As I am writing his obituary for the newspaper right now, I turned on You Tube; and what are the odds that Cats in the Cradle showed up? It is true, I turned out just like him. We will have a good time soon - God has blessed him with eternal life, love and light.
When I suddenly became a father and, consequently, a husband at 25, utterly unplanned and unintended, I had no idea how to fit into this new, unintended, and utterly bewildering role. But I happened to have a cassette of a local group singing Cat's Cradle (which I had only been vaguely aware of previously), and it became the blueprint for my relationship with my twins: No matter what, always take time for them. Today, they're pushing 36, and I see them regularly. Say what you like about me, but there is no way I could ever become a cold, distant father, and I owe that entirely to Harry Chapin.
I love this song! It brings home reality. Because of this song, I've tried to keep in contact with my kids. Lately, I've been learning how to play and sing it. For my entertainment only. Thanks Harry!!
I listened to this wonderful song the other day. I wiped away my tears and took my 13 year old son out for a camping trip. It's his favorite thing to do. I didn't feel like it but know I will miss these moments as soon as he grows up.
From the first time I heard "Cat's In The Cradle" back in the 70's, it galvanized me. I vowed that if I ever had a son, I'd be different. I'd be there for him. And when he "arrived in the usual way". I looked at him and said, "Welcome, Harry, I'm your Daddy." And he's now 16; I have no regrets. Thank You, and God Bless You, Harry Chapin; because of this song I know my son; I REALLY know my son.
I love this song 🎵 ❤️, so much truth in this song. I love the 70's it was the best time for music 🎶 🎵. I'm so blessed to have grown up with this type of music. Harry Chapin you sent something to think about in this song. Your lyrics are mind blowing. All parents should listen to this. Ty,well done 🎉❤
You just don't get it. He wanted to. Alot of us want to. But part of being a man is supporting your family. He talk his child the most important lesson. Do what's needed. NOT WHAT YOU WANT
I have a son, he apparently listened to this song, of course you need to provide, but in your absence... it's called a balancing act. While you're busy they are growing up alone, your love and attention means more than than great wealth
I am living this song but in a good way had house church with my son and family and thankfully we get to spend a lot of quality time together ,, Dear God may it continue and let us all be here for our precious children Love and blessings to you all Jesus loves you
That last line “My boy was just like me” gets me every time. I never had the greatest relationship with my Dad, but we do our best to get along now. Been told many times by my mum and my sister I take after him.
I first heard this song in the early 90s covered by ugly kid joe. 2010 I flew from the UK to Australia when my son was 4 as work was difficult to find at the time for a self employed construction worker. I came back after catching the planes and paying the bills. 2024 he’s in college so my life is 75% into this song. Some songs don’t age well however this is a timeless piece and will follow me through life. I’m 41 now and as I was once told but never appreciated then, time is the most valuable commodity you will ever have. Im on the cusp of I’d like to see you son if you can find the time. Spare us all the who is listening in blah blah year comment. This song and it’s lyrics is worth much more. If you’re a father and don’t quite understand. In time you will.
Harry Chapin One Of The Greatest Men On Earth December 7, 1942 - July 16, 1981 While waiting outside of Colden Auditorium at Queens College, after a canceled concert, I met and had a few words with the man who was to have given the concert. In my eyes, one of the greatest men on Earth. He was a dedicated humanitarian who fought to end world hunger. He was the co-founder of World Hunger Year or WHY, now known as WhyHunger, a wonderful and efficient non-profit that is still helping feed hungry people today. He was instrumental in the creation of the Presidential Commission on World Hunger in 1977. He was a man that was posthumously awarded the highest civilian award in the United States, the Congressional Gold Medal. He was a man who performed benefit concerts for hundreds of worthy organizations during his career. He was a man who raised more than 3,000,000 USD for those in need in the last six years of his life. He was a man that donated to charitable causes an estimated 33% of the revenues from his indefatigable schedule of 200 plus concerts performed each year. Besides his tireless humanitarian work, he was an accomplished and creative renaissance man that during his life was nominated for the following illustrious awards: Oscar, Grammy, Peabody, Emmy, and Tony. He was a man that I was lucky enough to have seen in concert a handful of times between 1975 and 1980. He is a man that I still miss today. His name was Harry Chapin. by Mark R. Elsis EarthNewspaper.com/HarryChapin
My Dad and I had a great relationship, and this song reminds me of how lucky I was growing up with him. I was a new Dad when this song hit the charts and its story has stayed with me. My kids and grandkids and I have the same wonderful relationship.
My father and I did not have a great relationship, maybe we were too much alike. Then he passed quite a few years ago, I wished we could have overcome some of our differences. We had a small funeral and I was to speak at the services. I chose parts of this song to work into my farewell to my father and this song will forever remind me of him.
August 26, 1989. I was 22 with no relationship with my father. My mom was mentally ill. We dealt with it in different ways. He hid in his office and I hid in sports and writing. Out of the blue that day, he called. I was stunned. We didn't really talk. He asked me to come with him to the US Nationals in Indy. I didn't want to talk with him let alone spend a weekend. with him. I gave him as many excuses as I could. He stopped me. "Sean. What are you trying to tell me?" I knew then this was my only chance to have a relationship with my father. I told him. "What I am trying to say dad, is when should I expect you?" That weekend, we made the decision to not be a song lyric. This song was our dedication and promise to each other to not have this kind of relationship anymore. Whenever we heard it, we called each other. In 2022, I wrote a book about my father's life in the automotive world and included a chapter on our relationship that shocked people and changed how they dealt with their own paternal challenges. Dad died April 23. Although he couldn't speak when I talked to him on April 20, I whispered in his year, "We didn't become a song lyric." He cried and smiled. Josh, a lot of us would love to meet you and tell you these stories but, we can't so I hope somewhere, somehow, this story gets to you. This song changed generations of my family because it made dad and me realize how hollow and empty our lives would be without the other. This song gave me my father back.
I want this played at my funeral.
I'll play it at my dad's funeral he gave me a better life
I'm 59 this song still brings tears to my eyes
Me too
I cry every time I hear this song. Unfortunately it reminds of me and my Dad.
I’m 70 and still listening.
Me too husband died sang this to boys
I am 75 and it brings tears to my eyes by the bucketful.
I remember this song when I was a little boy. I'm 58 years old now and this song still brings tears to my eyes...
61. Same thing!
Me too
I’m 58
Same 58 and loving this song
You and me both man i miss my old man
this happened to me and my son. i worked all the time and know im retired at home. and hes always working.and after work as he had the weekend off hes hang with his buddies. one time he came over to ask for some money and he saw me crying listening to this song. he listened and it broke his heart.poor kid . he cried and we hugged. every weekend hes comes over nowand stays in touch constantly. thank you harry chapin.
You should write your own song about how your son is always working, but has to borrow money to go out with his friends.
Thank you for this beautiful story, and thank goodness the two of you mended fences while there was still time. And oh, yes: thank you again, Harry Chapin, AND your wife, Sandy--for writing the original lyrics. 💓💓💖💖
That's wonderful, God bless you both.
Touching!!❤
I'm am so there
Every dad should listen to this song from the moment you find out you'll be a dad until your child is born. Puts priorities in order
Hello how are you doing today?
AMEN
Only the ones with jobs. In my experience, most dads are layabouts that collect welfare and drink until they're drunk every day, and then leave forever when the mother or kids finally get sick of his constant yelling and violence
Who is listening to Harry in 2022? This is one of those songs that I've listened to all my life, from childhood to teendom, then in later adulthood I re-discovered it. Love it still!
Ironically I'm watching Shrek the Third and Donkey was singing the song made me come back to it
Love this song.
I'm listening,ebonpaladin.....as I have for years...along with "It was a very good year"...Frank Sinatra...and "Father and Son"...Cat Stevens ....just to name the minimal; I have no sons but the very beauty of these lovely songs makes us realise how very short life really is and these days there are no songs that can compare.
I do and i love it 🤗
Always!
I am 58 yr old and have 20 yr old kids. This song is my living life right now. I worked all my life and the kids are in school and doing their thing. I see this song everyday. People, ENJOY your kids while you can..
Stage of life hopefully they will find more time. 😉
I tried and tried and still was not able to fulfill avoiding the truth of this song.
I heard a horrible saying along the same line as this song. "People avoid the sick and visit the dead"🤔😪😢😥
Talk about the moment... Croce wrote "time in a Bottle" for his then unborn son and died when his son was 13 months.
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@@jamesknowles1907 also... sometimes the only way to have a "family reunion" and to finally get the WHOLE family together under one roof is funerals and weddings !!!
My dad was my best friend. I joined the Marine Corps fresh outta high school when I was 19. Unbeknownst to me his time on this earth was coming to an end. A day after I turned 21 he died in my arms of a massive heart attack at 58. I would give anything to have those years back and see my dad again.
I know what it's like bro
I went through the same situation
I cried as I read your words. I was there as my dad took his last breath 😭. Spiritual and sacred times
My dad was dying of cancer and we booked our plane tickets to see him but he died before we got there
hugs .. glad you had some time ... cherish the memories . my dad was a walk away. the best mom ever..
My all time favorite song
Harry left all of us thinking
I'm 49 years old, and this song still makes me cry every time I hear it.
I’ve always known the song but now that im nearly 30 it definitely makes me cry now.
Me too
You are not alone
At 66 I still cry when I hear it.
Why crying? Hes just talking about cats 😆
A couple years ago my dad asked if i could get time off work to go with him on a road trip to Idaho. My brother and sister both just had their second kid and weren’t visiting much. This song came on. He laughed and said “this song is so true” and I went “huh?” He said “well… it’s about a father who never had time to spend with his son… and when his son grew up… his son didn’t have time for his dad… thanks for coming with me on this trip. I really appreciate it.”
Took everything in me to not cry.
its a song that reminds me of a story that my dad had told me about when i was really young (still tells me about it now). Its about a father not having enough time for his son, and the point of the story was that the kid had saved up money to buy an hour of his dads hour (because he was a professional businessman).
The power of parent guilt never fails
I recently re-discovered this song as a dad with a young 18 month old boy. Actually listened to the lyrics instead of just singing the chorus. It sums up my relationship with my dad perfectly, and now in hard times having to spend so much time apart from my lad for work, it's such a relatable subject. Seeing how quick he grows it makes me appreciate the time we have together and how important it is to try and break the cycle. Emotional song to hear though.
Beautiful words.
@@joepincombe66 Only if it raises its ugly head and you ask for correction.
This is probably one of the most moving songs ever written
Culturally significant. The future generations will thank you for putting this on youtube.
Sure do miss my dad but as an adult I found my way to the Bible study and discovered the resurrection!!!!! I will see my dad again!!! Revelation 21:3,4 and beyond happiness!!!
My Dad passed in February this year, and at 45 now I just feel so much more this song hits hard. We have no way to not be stuck in this pattern in life, the people we want to spend time with we never have enough time to
That final lyric, "As I hung up the phone, it occurred to me, he'd grown up just like me. My boy was just like me." chokes me up every single time. It looks like it chokes up Harry, too. If it doesn't, then you don't have a soul. Songs like this aren't written anymore.
Nitro Junkie: Or we don't hear them, or can't relate to them because we're old.
The world keeps changing. And we change, inevitably. We can't reach out and be teens or 20's etc. again.
It was a great song, and I have no real desire to listen to most modern popular music because it lacks context to me (like rap and hip hop -- give me a break), yet that's the most popular music, per statistics.
Good thing fathers and sons the world over can listen to this song and remember not to brush each other off across their whole lives, right?
I always cry when I hear this song 😢 Harry Chapin was a great song writer, truly missed!
I agree. Greg wrote about 'They don't write ua-cam.com/video/k8ePSJ44Fiw/v-deo.htmlsi=_B5vLcXvxBSUssPB
Songs like this are still written, they're not always as popular or in the same genre but there's always genuine artists writing and performing stuff that speaks to the human experience.
My father was raised in a small town on the western side of Wisconsin. His father, my grandfather was a decent man. Worked hard to provide for his family but rarely made the time to spend with my father. My father met my mother while he was attending college in Kansas City Missouri and that's where I grew up. About a month after I graduated high school, my grandfather passed away. During the 500 mile road trip from Kansas City to my dad's hometown this song came on the radio. My dad turned the volume up and told me to listen to the song. After it was over my father told me a lot about his childhood, things I'd never heard before. He explained to me how much he respected and loved his father but promised himself long before I came around that he would never be absent from his children like his father was. First time I can remember seeing my father cry. My father kept the promise he made to himself all those years ago. And I'm happy to say now that I am a father, I've been the kind of father that mine was to me.
Nobody cares
Barak Busby apparently you do! If it offends you so much, then don't read it.
Barak Busby I do. Great story
nicholas bronson Thank you for sharing that story.
awesome story!
Who's still here in 2024? I'm 65 and I remember when this came out! I loved Harry 's songs. Always touched my heart.
Me too!
Me
I’m 70. Yes.
75 here....hope I raised my kids with this in my brain....I know God was there
52
I’ll never forget the first time i heard this song, my dad had a model railroad set in the basement and we were hanging out. This song came on and he just said “listen to this song”. He passed in 2018 and I now have a 9 month old boy, hearing this song now really hits home. God Bless!
The first time i heard this song i was a very abused kid. still to this day it hits home and i am very protective of all my kids and my extras that i have taken in oven the years
@@denisehammill3625 wow Dennis I hear your pain.. my husband was an abusive alcoholic who stayed at home raising my kids while I worked I hardly see my older son and I always tell him hey cats in cradle. ... So yes this song works for women too.. my regret is what my boys went through because of my husband..
@@denisehammill3625 beautiful
I'm 58 never had kids, but this song reduces me to tears and makes me miss my mum and dad (both passed). It is a song which will never age, a simple song, yet I think the saddest song in the world....yet beautiful. Now to wipe the tears away. xx
I lost my father in the year I discovered this song, but before I was able to share it with him. One thing I've learnt, is that they never lose love in their kids, it only grows. I hope you had a chance to experience their love. My deepest condolences. I truly understand your loss. Wish you recover well and grow. Love.
It brings to light how so many of us are entangled with everyday hustles , away a sad amount of time from family. The short hours together we need to make the time special. Sadly, many are too exhausted by then.
I wanna meet you... I miss my dad!
Yes sir I'm there too. Great song
TAPS@Davidholton0207
One of the greatest songs ever written.
For sure
And "Dear momma" by Tupac Shakur......Beautiful song IF one can listen to the words/message.
i love that song@@shanghunter7697
Anyone listening 2024/2025?
This song gives me tears sad story REST IN PEACE HARRY CHAPIN
I have two daughters both of them have 3 children. The oldest has 2 boys the youngest has 2 girls
Me and my wife have two daughters.this song makes think of who I was at that time I was 15 or 16 years old I still have tears every time I hear it.. my daughters are great moms and they have strong convictions of right and wrong .i tell them every time I see them to spend time with them. Every minute of every day on this planet should be precious have time set aside to visit them as much as you because one day will be your last to visit. If your children bury you then you have won the game of life.
It happens between son and dads,....sad as it is,...it's reality...😮😮
Always and forever!
Always like a wake up call. I always use it to help my friends.
Boomer here. Will always be listening. This song has meant so much down the years. So glad to hear it is just as powerful today.
I saw my father cry twice. The first time was when he received a call from a family member informing him of his mother's death.
The second was when I informed him that his only son had died.
I lost my father on Sept 12, 2010. I wish that I could have told him more often that his baby girl loved him.
He was only able to tell me that he loved me twice... once written in a card and once in person, the night before he died. I leaned in and whispered back, "I always knew that you did, and I love you, too".
Peace.
I bet your dad was a great dad when I read that really got me I understand him I guess I felt bad about the news he heard no father wants to hear that I the youngest I miss my dad he wasn't easy but we got along great at least after he retired then you don't have to come home and see the kids you know he has enough worries in his life he's the breadwinner he supported us and took care of us
Lorie Harris Never saw my Dad 😢cry....never ever said he loved me...But I know he did...God Bless you DAD.....
He knows Lorie, you just told him. He 's listening from above.
OK that story got me as a composer. Just like I said to a woman falling from Tower one on 9/11 "Honey I don't know your name but I will write a song for you " I want to write one based on this, thanks for sharing. www.ourmuiscrocks.com
Song was called Unborn baby of tower one.
WOW! A beautiful, amazing story!
How can anyone dislike this song, one of the best father son songs in the history of the world hands down love it
Another great one is "Father and Son" by Cat Stevens.
Douglas Roth Cat Stevens Rocks
Dave Bercea True that.
roopdog2675 Another great song is I believe called 'Beautiful Boy" by John Lennon
Ryco50 beautiful boy is such a lovely song!
That song will never die! RIP Harry Chapin
I would give anything to go back and live in the 70' s when i was young back then we were free and safe. I miss those safe days. All we have are the good memories! No cell phones. We had great music to keep us busy. Kids today have no idea how good it was back then. Sometimes i sit with the 70"s music and peacefully wonder back in time feeling like im living it with my mind set at the moment.
In the '70's our airing was breaking in the Dwight D Eisenhower CVN69 brand new. This song is a national treasure. The comments are treasures themselves!!!
Yes I agree with ya! The 60s and 70s were my era as a kid and loved it. Much simpler times compared to all of the social media these days. Although I appreciate UA-cam for thinking about are generation that brings great memories back to us. Thank you!😎👍🇺🇸🎼
I wish we could go back as kids with our kids and see them enjoy what we enjoyed, together.
I agree with you - we didn’t know how much we’d long to go back- many people live for the “next “ thing and don’t enjoy what’s right in front of them.
Me too ❤❤❤
My parents were friends with Harry Chapin. Harry, was friendly and outgoing. He had so much love for everyone and Huntington, New York. I went to Huntington High School with Harry's sister.
Hey how are you doing today?
I live in Huntington too, its really cool to see how much love and pride our town has for Harry. My wife went to HHS with his daughters, and just loves the Chapin family. My friend Kieran was fighting cancer and Harry’s son brought him some memorabilia, made his last days special. Really felt like something Harry would yave done.
Harry was a salt-of-the-earth guy!! Such a tragedy. I learned this song on guitar as a tribute to him!!
@@bcal4877That's amazing!! ❤
Went to Walt whitman high school but was friends with Tommy forte from huntington high school
Harry Chapin was one of the best.. R.I.P. HARRY
Who would thumbs down this song!?!?!? This is one of the greatest songs ever written!
Exactly....I think people intentionally thumbs down videos just to be pricks.
Michael T Hale only a fable minded fool would
Crappy father's
A message to the future generations:
Don't let this song die.
Ugh, really? Every damn comment is like this.
@@skifullydone8165 Bot or just a sad person...
@@DrewHop325 Ah, probably. Don't know. It's either: Underrated song or this garbage. Fucking annoying shit. Ah well.
I feel like it'd be best if this song DID die...because that would mean nobody ever had to live the life of the boy
@@NeilPundickOr nobody remembers a time were they weren't the boy
This is an absolute masterpiece. Chapin wrote a plethora of brilliant songs, but few can say they wrote a masterpiece. This one is.
his wife wrote it as a poem
As Pumpkin Puna mentioned, his wife wrote it while he was on the road, touring. He looked at the poem, set it aside, and forgot about it for a while. Shortly after his son Joshua was born, he found renewed interest and put it to music. Henry died in a car crash about half a dozen years later. His son was only eight years old.
He didn't actually write this song. His wife did then he put music to it.
@Shimmering Fairy Dust did you actually watch the video? Wow the illiteracy of people is astounding!!
He shouldnt have went into the chorus after one verse
Had my boy at sixteen. I grew up fast. I married his mom in the seventies. It was was tuff on us all. I had to support us. His mom left . She thought she was taking my boy. Didn't happen even in the old days. My boy at fifty knows who took care him. I'm so proud of him. When he was young I had to support us, so this song hits right to my heart. I worked six days a week. Wasn't easy but I wouldn't change a thing. He's helping me out now that I'm old. I had a great family too. That helped us out as well.
I’m 70 years old and still love this song
I'm 78 years old and I wish I would have listened to the comment above about putting my priorities in order
This song reminds me of my wife. It was her favorite song before she lost battling cancer, I wish I could change the hands of time, she was always there for me and our lovely daughter, life could be so unfair most times, but sometimes I wonder why bad things always happen to good people
I am now 64 years old and remember this song from my days in high school. My dad and I never were able to heal all the rift between us. He had been raised in the Depression and, like many in his generation, learned to hide his fear, his feelings and would never admit being wrong or say he was sorry.
I have two daughters, 32 and 27. I am very close with both of them and so is my wife. For our 40th anniversary we asked them to join us - we are both most happy when our girls are with us. I just sobbed while listening to this song. In the last few years I have referenced this song when asked how my girls are doing.
That's the power of this song...even when it makes you think of those you ARE close to and love. I determined that this great song would not describe me with my children. Cherish the time with your children. This is a great song.
Your comment made me think you’d also like the Mike and the Mechanics song, “living years” from back then.
I’m 68years the same sanario but I have boys who grew up just like me and I idid the same thing my father did .i haven’t seen my two sons in close to 30years
I heard this song the first time when I was a young man with three little boys. It rocked my soul and at that moment I dedicated myself into being the best father and husband I could be. Day upon day and weeks upon weeks and years went by. I kept my promise. My sons are all grown now and they have given me wonderful daughter-in-laws and 9 grandchildren. We talk everyday on the phone. I was at my youngest son's home visiting along with my wife and the mother of my boys. I overheard my son telling his oldest son, "I want you to be like grandpa. I had to excuse myself saying I needed to use the restroom. I closed the door and I wept. Always let your children know you are not perfect. Tell them at least every hour you love them. Sometimes I cry a little wishing I could have those days with 3 little kids all over again. I love them so much!
Inspiring stuff. Thanks for sharing.
Listen to Dan Fogelberg, Leader of the band, another great father son song
I am a father of 3 boys under 10. I just heard this song for the first time recently. Your comment hits home...so much, it hurts. I will be the man they want to be.
When I was a teen and this song came out, it literally spoke to my relationship with my father. When my father died in 86, I stood at his casket and cried. Not for the loss of him, but for the loss of memories not had, and memories I didn't have to hold on to him with.
Very well said sir i have 3 daughters between them i have 7 grandkids love everyone of them
I think I'm blessed as a 20-year-old to come across this masterpiece of a song. Definitely taught me the importance of fatherhood in the future. Song's too poignant and emotional for me :")
If something is TOO poignant it's criticizing how it makes you feel. I think you meant SO poignant;)
You are a wise young man ReaperZapper.
Aus I will find you I promise that
Definitely they grow so fast , kids . I wish we had more time to spend with our kids .
@@lemurianchick You's what we call, "a Hater"! I'm a stickler for the usage of English too, but I wouldn't go out of my way to critique a post on UA-cam! That's just WAY OUT OF BOUNDS!
This came out when I was about 10, I'm 62 now and still sounds amazing, great story.
I can’t believe it’s already been 52 years
John Shields, totally same.
Take care! The Best. Karita.
More like you were 14. "Cat's in the Cradle" is a 1974 folk rock song by Harry Chapin from the album Verities & Balderdash. The single topped the US Billboard Hot 100 in December 1974. As Chapin's only number-one song, it became the best known of his work and a staple for folk rock music. Chapin's recording of the song was nominated for the 1975 Grammy Award for Best Male Pop Vocal Performance and was inducted into the Grammy Hall of Fame in 2011.
@@jshrek62: Not sure how being pedantic about it is really helpful here. It's not like whether it was 1970 or 1974 makes ANY fundamental difference re the context and meaning of that wonderful old song.
I'm 61 and believe it was for us
60yrs old and still enjoy this masterpiece. I have 2 sons in their 20s and they appreciate great music
Bringing Harry Chapman into 2023 just as he should be!!! Rest easy Harry your still here with us with your music!!!
Chapin.........
40 years ago, I took it to heart, and Harry’s song made me a better dad. I can tell, by watching my kids now. They are wonderful parents. Thank you, Harry. 👩❤️👨👭🧍♂️
This song is sad but until you have children of your own it doesn't hit you! But as soon as you have a child and hear this song it HITS YOU like a TON of BRICKS!
Cant agree, I have no kids and Iam 57 but my dad still lives. He had a stroke recently and corona.
I visited him today at home and he wanted something explained on the smartphone, but i was short on time...
A few hours later on YT i heard this song and read the lyrics...iam from germany.
I think i have to change something when there is time left...
There is an additional song from Luther Vandross which put tears to my eyes... "Dance with my father".
TOP, nun ja meine Kindheit war gut .
Aber viele meiner Freunde haben das erlebt .
Tolles Lied
TOP, well my childhood was good.
But many of my friends have experienced this.
Great song
I will agree that having children does help to understand. I am childless however I have helped in raising quite a few...... This song makes me shed tears everytime I listen to it. Ever since it was released way back.......even right NOW
Yes it hits you like a ton of bricks. Then your wife (or husband) dies. Then it hits you a hundred times harder! My wife soulmate Karen died October 5th 2023. It still hurts. We met on a blind date June 30th 1989. Got married March 14th 1991. Never separated but for hospital stays and when I drove 18wheelers from California to Main and everywhere in-between. I miss her greatly!
I heard Cats in the Cradle on the radio the other day and I thought of my Dad. It’s a song that surely hits the heart of every son that has an aging father. My Dad once told me the song reminded him of me. It occurred to me that the song is incomplete without a response from a son and these lyrics just came to me as I was listening to the song:
I’ve longed since the day my Dad passed away, I called him up just the other day. I said I’d like to see you if you don’t mind and then I realized I had run out of time.
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me, I’ve grown up just like him, my Dad was just like me…
Miss those phone calls Pop. ❤
My dad was raised in the depression, in the 1930’s. He was so hardened by it that there was no way we would ever be close. I can never remember him giving me a hug. But this song made me think about a lot of things when my son was born. We’re very close. Thanks,Harry😊
You can still make a turn-about
@@ronschultz6887-I wish that could have happened, but dad died in 1988. We had gotten a little closer, but he was raised in a way to show NO EMOTION. The older generation thought that crying was a sign of weakness. I never saw him cry. My wife, kids, and grandkids have all seen ME Cry, but that’s ok. This song has been a big part of that growth 😊
Harry, this song describes my life in many ways, I miss my dad ,thanks Harry
Had my dad listen to this song back in the day. He was working so much he was up at 5 and worked til 11 ... I forgot how much he did for us ... But his love still with me ... I cared for him in his last year after mom past ... He was suffered by dementia and physically disabled by it ... I carried him ... Like he carried me ... Miss you dad ... ❤
my brother's favorite song, all passed now...and it was this way exactly
My dad used to sing this to me when I was a teenager, just as a joke. It made him this of his dad who died when he was 32. I am now 32, and my dad is dying...and I can't stop thinking of my dad in the kitchen, singing this with a smile on his face thinking of his dad...
sooooo sorry to hear your dad is not doing well .. Be of good courage and remember those good times .. Nothing will ever separate you from his love however this turns out May God bless you your dad and family,,,
@@jallancam5503 wow....thank you so much 🥲
So sorry to hear about your dad. Be beside him till his last breath. Greetings for you man 🤗
@@janekostov7674 thank you. I was. Got to see him just before he left us. Best wishes to you and your family. Thanks for the kind words.
Wow what a beautiful beautiful song I love ❤️ xo it reminds me of my beautiful son x
Beautiful timeless song, I remember hearing this song and never forgot it. My parents were workaholics and we grew up as latchkey kids. The years has gone so fast and a lot of time was lost spending quality time with them . Thank you Harry Chapin & his wife Sandy for the great song! It helped me make sure I put my children first , took time off for birthdays, vacation, taking them to the park, playing board games ect
They are both adults now 20 & 28 and make sure they make me and my husband a priority to spend time with us for holidays, birthdays and vacation. It becomes the norm generationally if you live by example! That song put family and life in the spotlight & right perspective! ☺️👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾❤️💕
As a hard working family man having to provide for your kin. You really are caught between a rock & a hard place . Especially in todays economic climate.... 34 years long haul truck driver... Looking back I wish I took a different direction but was not able too . But my kids had a good mother & turned out well , went to college . They are both settled in good careers making their own way in life. And I am proud of them . I live a little way apart from them & visiting times are precious.
We should’ve been seeing Harry sing this song at age 70, after it all truly ran full circle for him. We were all robbed of that. Thanks for sharing a masterpiece with us, Harry.
I had the pleasure of meeting, and conversing with both,. Harry and his brother Tom. In a USO Tour show in an extinct volcano around Naples Italy. A very small, yet personalized show that was truly a once in a lifetime gift for me. Both gentlemen were immensely cordial and laid back, easy going. I still have these photos and cherish them.
Hey how are you doing?
@@drakehonest2 I'm not sure if you are referring to me. This is the first time I've seen a reply in UA-cam. I'm not a big social bug. Not even sure if I am doing this right. Lol. As for your inquiry. I'm doing as well as I can. Lol. How are you.? Where are you from.?
@@lawrencewerline9509 Nice meeting you here I’m originally from Norway 🇳🇴 but living in San Diego California..
Where are you from?
@@drakehonest2 I live in a very small town on Onieda lake. Some 25 miles N. E. Of Syracuse NY. I was reading allot about Southern Californians apparent flustration with the govt,. As well as the homeless situation. That is until UA-cam censored me. Now, I can't get anything political, or in social science areas. Unfortunately, we now live in a corporate, socialist governing country. No more Republic 😔 The people have become hedonistic sheep. That suits them just fine. How bad is it there.? Even with all of California's difficulties. I would love to return there. It's truly a beautiful state. With the best weather. Norway, is amazing. I don't think I would want to ever leave there.
@@lawrencewerline9509 San Diego California it’s a very beautiful place to stay i bet you gonna have fun 🤩..
If i may ask are you married with kids?
I miss my Dad. He passed 12/2010.....he was my hero.
It's hard. My father passed away 30 years and I still miss him so much. I was 21 when he passed 😢😢 and I miss him as much now and I did then
I’m sorry to hear this
My father sends this to me every birthday. I get so happy every time I see this.
Spend time with him as much as you can. :)
when I hear this song I cry because my dad was my scout leader, My baseball coach and the best teacher of how to fix things. Now he's gone and i feel for those that didnt have a father like mine and i realize how lucky i was to have him. Unfortunately he died at age 65 and didnt get to teach me everything that he knew so there will always be an empty place in my mind for the final teachings from my Dad
Sorry to hear that man, my condolences.
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fill that empty places with his smiles and his love
.... the empty space is the place where you share what he taught you, the joy he brought you learning, and now sharing him thru your teaching. I miss the Old Fart more each day. Was the Grand Master of Hugs, Humility, and Love.
Its a great song I always loved the song. My son was born in 2008 his mom passed away when he was 7, now when I listen to this it brings tears to my eyes. He's 10 I'm 51 and I'm all he has. Just writing this I couldn't stop crying. That's a powerful song.
You sound like a future hero to your son if not now partner peace to you and the little guy.
Take this from someone whose father never cared about his child. Please keep doing what you’re doing with your son. You will be rewarded in due time. Please trust me from my perspective.
@@coloradokevin1675 I'm sorry for your predicament but glad to see it had a positive reaction and you have a good heart to see past that with a heart felt comment peace brother....
Be strong he needs you god bless you prayers for you
My son is 20yts old now,with a beautiful bay girl..i miss all the time we used to hunt,hike,and whatever.. GREAT SONG.. GETS ME EVERY TIME
Came here because of a meme on FB.
"The older you get the more devastating, Cats in the Cradle, becomes."
Who's listening in 2023 and 24?!! God bless all of us us and our families!!
This song hits home for alot of people. Incredible voice and passion in this song! Love from Toronto Canada 🇨🇦
2024 and I'm now 73 ... and my son's a dad. 😍
My dad literally went out for a pack of cigarettes and never returned I was just a baby I had a mean stepdad for a while The only quality time we ever spent together was when He was beating the s*** out of me Mom eventually divorced him You can't imagine watching other kids with their dads And you don't have one I used to be a boy scout My mother the bartender set me up with some drunk dude To go on the father's son retreat He told me to get away from him he had something to do So I did Come to find out The something he had to do was go back home So here I was Father son retreat all by myself I didn't get to do anythingCouldn't do any of the games All I could do was watch other kids with their dadsAnd let me tell you that was awesomeMy father has since diedAt least that's what someone told meI said my father didn't die I didn't have a fatherBut enough of this doom and gloomBut enough of this doom and gloomYou guys that do have fathers cherish themCherish every single moment😅😅😅
Listening now, grew up with this. I have grandkids now. 71😊
I am
Old memories. Listening in 2023, in Canada. Both parents passed away.God bless both of them.
2024 and the counting
Mine too 12 years ago and still think of them everyday
After watching the recent documentary on Harry Chapin, I was so happy to hear his music again and remember all those concerts. My son indicated he didn't know the name. After singing the chorus to Cats in the Cradle, he said I feel like my body knows that song. About 31 years ago, I sang that song over and over again to a colicky baby during those long nights
Thank you for the music, Harry
Angela Hill: Music is SO generational as is all media, really. I'll never forget being in a record store (remember those?) in roughly 1990 and hearing some kid (a seemingly perfectly ordinary kid) say something like: "The Beatles? I thought Paul McCartney was in Wings!"
It doesn't take long for things to REALLY, REALLY change in the modern world.
I'm 64 still love this song
มันช่างยอดเยี่ยมจริงๆ ผมมีจิตนาการขณะฟังผลงานชิ้นเอกนี้ ตลอดระยะเวลา10กว่าปีที่ผ่านมา ผมยังไม่สามารถบอกได้ว่าชอบเพลงแนวไหน ผมไปมาหมดและเหมือนจะไปติดแขนงอยู่กับแนวร็อคช่วงนึง แต่ก็รู้สึกมันยังไม่ใช่บางทีมันก็แข็งเกินไป จนผมเริ่มมาเจอแนวคันทรี่เออเริ่มมาล่ะ แต่ก็ยังไม่อิ่ม จนมาเจอเพลงนี้เออนี่แหละ ขอบคุณมาก
I love this song and how Mr. Chapin sings it. One of my favorite songs of all times. RIP, Mr. Chapin. RIP
This is one of the most powerful songs ever written ❤I am 48 I absolutely love every time this song comes in the car radio ❤
My father (RIP) was on his way to Chapin's final concert when he got the news of the accident. My mother was pregnant with me at the time. This song was played at his funeral at his request.
Praise the eternal ancient of days!
I was on the Long Island Expressway and passed the accident where Harry died. A true talent who will always be missed. Went into the motel at Bethpage and heard the bad news.
I like how this song does not really villainize the father, but merely reminds us all to make time for our loved ones most particularly our children, because they will be grown up before you know it and you will miss so much if you don't. Nothing is more important than that.
In September of 77 as a teen, I was riding my moped up to Griffith Park Observatory and I hear "Cat's in the Cradle" playing. Harry Chapin was playing this at the open air Greek Theater just down the hill. I pulled over on the side of the road where I could watch and listen to the whole concert for free. What an amazing show.
I have listened and cried to this song for many many years and it never fails to remind me of my Dad and our lives together. I feel so lucky to have him as long as I did. We all need a good cry now and then.......
I think of my Dad ever time I hear this song . I wish I could tell how much I truly loved him. Sometimes I cry listening to this like now . I miss you love Andy
This song will remain Immortal..
Let's hope so!! My broken relationship with my father.
This song is very profound and cautionary, Harry Chaplin was a great storyteller, perfection
Saw him in NJ back in the day and was very sad when he passed...still one of the best
Just gave my 16 yo son his first car today. After his first spin, he backed into the driveway. Wife commented how he is so you. My response was "my boy is just like me..." tears to my eyes
I was so lucky to grow up with this music, this new generation has no clue. We didn’t have social media, internet, iPhones, but we had the music, he was such a high talent of my generation.
Now you have no family
@@petrwarthursty2011 OOOOOH
Christine: Respectfully, I'm 63, and I don't think it's about fault or good and bad, etc. The world was different, largely since technology was very different.
Even though in many ways (and I'll accept the blame) I have trouble relating to much of the modern generation and their seemingly complete obsession with phones (I spend my time on Windows laptops, but still absorbing lots of media) -- I'm sure they find me just as clueless / strange as I find them.
It's mostly luck / fate / accident, how we find ourselves re time, place, and circumstance -- NOT about being clueless or brilliant, IMO. And 99.9999 percent of us fall into the ordinary bucket, re historical time...
And big picture, the species doesn't get smarter or wiser by leaps and bounds. The media and technology change and the times change along with them. But the fundamental human issues and constraints and problems remain.
Cold war then. Ukraine travesty now. Pollution and hunger and overpopulation then. AGW and hunger and overpopulation now (bigger population, but same big picture).
But we were brilliant because we grew up with what were the great musical artists of the 70's (which were inimitable in their way, granted), and young people are "clueless", now? Again, respectfully, like so many people, I think your perspective on the world is very narrow to have that attitude.
@@rogergeyer9851 I appreciate your feedback, I just feel we lost something. I didn’t grow up with them/they non-binary, etc. I can’t understand how we as a society can accept a man as a woman, playing in women’s sports. Kids being taught hate in school, trying to indoctrinate them. Girls trying to be boys and boys trying to be girls, and teachers are ok with it, when these kids are just kids.
In congress they can’t define what a woman is, and accepting that men can have babies when it is impossible and ridiculous. I can go on and on. No, I didn’t grow up like that and thank the lord I didn’t. Look at this country is beyond a mess, never have seen this in my lifetime.
@@christinemarieciurlino-dun4002 100% right - this country is a mess - have a good day.
“Cat’s in the cradle, and a silver spoon. Little Boy Blue and the Man in the Moon…” Kid trying to make sense of fragmented nursery rhymes that no one had the time to teach him. Heartbreaking and ingenious lyrics. 😢
Wow I never looked at it like that you just blew my mind
I'm 69 and dad's been gone 20 years and I still think him every day, this song really hits home with me.
Hey how are you doing today..?
I remember hearing this song for the first time in 1974. I was 14 years old. I cried when I heard it and vowed not to be like my dad. It seemed to parallel me and my dad. He was always too busy to do things with me. He was either tinkering with some project he had in the garage or was unwilling to stop watching some show on the idiot tube. I was determined to be a better father than he was when I had kids.
Unfortunately, I ended up being worse than my dad. I believe he was a better father than I was.
Loved this song since it was first released. My dad at the age of 97 passed away in December 2022. As I am writing his obituary for the newspaper right now, I turned on You Tube; and what are the odds that Cats in the Cradle showed up? It is true, I turned out just like him. We will have a good time soon - God has blessed him with eternal life, love and light.
When I suddenly became a father and, consequently, a husband at 25, utterly unplanned and unintended, I had no idea how to fit into this new, unintended, and utterly bewildering role. But I happened to have a cassette of a local group singing Cat's Cradle (which I had only been vaguely aware of previously), and it became the blueprint for my relationship with my twins: No matter what, always take time for them. Today, they're pushing 36, and I see them regularly. Say what you like about me, but there is no way I could ever become a cold, distant father, and I owe that entirely to Harry Chapin.
I love this song! It brings home reality. Because of this song, I've tried to keep in contact with my kids. Lately, I've been learning how to play and sing it. For my entertainment only. Thanks Harry!!
I listened to this wonderful song the other day. I wiped away my tears and took my 13 year old son out for a camping trip. It's his favorite thing to do. I didn't feel like it but know I will miss these moments as soon as he grows up.
Every time I hear this song, I get emotional. My son is indeed turning out to be like me!
From the first time I heard "Cat's In The Cradle" back in the 70's, it galvanized me. I vowed that if I ever had a son, I'd be different. I'd be there for him. And when he "arrived in the usual way". I looked at him and said, "Welcome, Harry, I'm your Daddy." And he's now 16; I have no regrets. Thank You, and God Bless You, Harry Chapin; because of this song I know my son; I REALLY know my son.
Jerry Guest
It's never too late Vishnu. You can be estranged from your son for decades, and still have a relationship.
I love this song 🎵 ❤️, so much truth in this song. I love the 70's it was the best time for music 🎶 🎵. I'm so blessed to have grown up with this type of music. Harry Chapin you sent something to think about in this song. Your lyrics are mind blowing. All parents should listen to this. Ty,well done 🎉❤
My oldest and don’t talk, I send him this all the time to remind him, I’m thinking of him 🖤
Maybe more dad's should listen to this song. Be a man and put your kids first
Hello!!! How are you doing? Please pardon me for intruding into your privacy but I just wanted to know if you are a fan? Have a great day… Stay Safe!
You just don't get it. He wanted to. Alot of us want to. But part of being a man is supporting your family. He talk his child the most important lesson. Do what's needed. NOT WHAT YOU WANT
I have a son, he apparently listened to this song, of course you need to provide, but in your absence... it's called a balancing act. While you're busy they are growing up alone, your love and attention means more than than great wealth
If you listen to the words, it hits you right where it hurts. Great song!❤
man I cry almost every time man gosh im so happy he made this song.
I'm listening. Old guy 67 years old. In my teens when this came out. Big times on the charts.
I am living this song but in a good way had house church with my son and family and thankfully we get to spend a lot of quality time together ,, Dear God may it continue and let us all be here for our precious children Love and blessings to you all Jesus loves you
That last line “My boy was just like me” gets me every time. I never had the greatest relationship with my Dad, but we do our best to get along now. Been told many times by my mum and my sister I take after him.
Me too ✋.
I first heard this song in the early 90s covered by ugly kid joe. 2010 I flew from the UK to Australia when my son was 4 as work was difficult to find at the time for a self employed construction worker. I came back after catching the planes and paying the bills. 2024 he’s in college so my life is 75% into this song.
Some songs don’t age well however this is a timeless piece and will follow me through life.
I’m 41 now and as I was once told but never appreciated then, time is the most valuable commodity you will ever have.
Im on the cusp of I’d like to see you son if you can find the time.
Spare us all the who is listening in blah blah year comment. This song and it’s lyrics is worth much more. If you’re a father and don’t quite understand. In time you will.
Just such a heartfelt story! What a Fabulous song, Fabulous Music, with a very important message! God Bless Harry Chapin! dx
Harry Chapin
One Of The Greatest Men On Earth
December 7, 1942 - July 16, 1981
While waiting outside of Colden Auditorium at Queens College, after a canceled concert, I met and had a few words with the man who was to have given the concert. In my eyes, one of the greatest men on Earth.
He was a dedicated humanitarian who fought to end world hunger. He was the co-founder of World Hunger Year or WHY, now known as WhyHunger, a wonderful and efficient non-profit that is still helping feed hungry people today. He was instrumental in the creation of the Presidential Commission on World Hunger in 1977.
He was a man that was posthumously awarded the highest civilian award in the United States, the Congressional Gold Medal. He was a man who performed benefit concerts for hundreds of worthy organizations during his career. He was a man who raised more than 3,000,000 USD for those in need in the last six years of his life. He was a man that donated to charitable causes an estimated 33% of the revenues from his indefatigable schedule of 200 plus concerts performed each year.
Besides his tireless humanitarian work, he was an accomplished and creative renaissance man that during his life was nominated for the following illustrious awards: Oscar, Grammy, Peabody, Emmy, and Tony.
He was a man that I was lucky enough to have seen in concert a handful of times between 1975 and 1980. He is a man that I still miss today.
His name was Harry Chapin.
by Mark R. Elsis
EarthNewspaper.com/HarryChapin
This is a song that every father, grandfather, mother family should listen to and keep in their music library. I love this song!
What about "Father and Son" by Cat Stevens, as well?
My Dad and I had a great relationship, and this song reminds me of how lucky I was growing up with him. I was a new Dad when this song hit the charts and its story has stayed with me. My kids and grandkids and I have the same wonderful relationship.
He passed away way too young.
Miss my Dad, He's been gone for 7 years now. I will see him again someday, along with my daughter who passed 2 years ago. Miss you both!
My father and I did not have a great relationship, maybe we were too much alike. Then he passed quite a few years ago, I wished we could have overcome some of our differences. We had a small funeral and I was to speak at the services. I chose parts of this song to work into my farewell to my father and this song will forever remind me of him.
Hey how are you doing?
Such A great song ! Never get tired of it. Went way before his time. GOD rest your soul Harry.
August 26, 1989. I was 22 with no relationship with my father. My mom was mentally ill. We dealt with it in different ways. He hid in his office and I hid in sports and writing. Out of the blue that day, he called. I was stunned. We didn't really talk. He asked me to come with him to the US Nationals in Indy. I didn't want to talk with him let alone spend a weekend. with him. I gave him as many excuses as I could. He stopped me. "Sean. What are you trying to tell me?" I knew then this was my only chance to have a relationship with my father. I told him. "What I am trying to say dad, is when should I expect you?" That weekend, we made the decision to not be a song lyric. This song was our dedication and promise to each other to not have this kind of relationship anymore. Whenever we heard it, we called each other. In 2022, I wrote a book about my father's life in the automotive world and included a chapter on our relationship that shocked people and changed how they dealt with their own paternal challenges. Dad died April 23. Although he couldn't speak when I talked to him on April 20, I whispered in his year, "We didn't become a song lyric." He cried and smiled. Josh, a lot of us would love to meet you and tell you these stories but, we can't so I hope somewhere, somehow, this story gets to you. This song changed generations of my family because it made dad and me realize how hollow and empty our lives would be without the other. This song gave me my father back.
Storytellers ... like Harry ... are the music for we all long for ... long lost days of youth ... Love you Harry ... Hope to see you in Heaven ... ❤
Still brings goose bumps and tears to my eyes. I’m 63 now and I’m still moved by this awesome song.
I have a 12 yo son.
This song is a stinging reminder that I only have 6 years left to show him how important it is to spend quality time together.
I have a 6 month old daughter and this song really makes me want to spend more time with her.