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- The 7 videos titled “Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing” are a series of self-reflections and insights about vulnerability, transparency, my work with clients, and sharing my Personal Healing Process.
The videos cover a range of contemplations, specifically around my relationship to making and sharing videos on UA-cam, my work as an Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist, and how trauma reenactment shows up in the most sophisticated of ways in my life.
Perhaps, my approach and organization of sharing these ideas gravitate more towards some kind of manifesto, a declaration announcing where I’ve been and where I’m going.
I was mindful of you, the audience, when filming. Specifically, I held the intention that my personal stories and life experiences might serve as encouragement to understand your own.
Maybe through the normalization of talking more about how Attachment Trauma impacts our lives in many ways, over the course of many years, we might begin to see our collective options for change and healing.
Also, I realize there is a risk with the level of vulnerability I offer here. However, the alternative of solidifying around a guarded privacy only serves to reinforce the limitations of persona-management, which would more uphold a choice to align with disconnect and not relationship.
And if any of my previous videos hold water, then they attest to the fact that I value relationships and emotional connection. As I have said for years, “Emotional Connections Matter!”
I took certain inspiration from a specific UA-cam Channel called “Yes Theory” to challenge myself regarding degrees of exposure and revealing myself here.
The “Yes Theory” videos, while sometimes initially presented as a fun and silly premise, mostly deliver a heartfelt intention grounded in the power of connecting with strangers and celebrating our humanity.
Additionally, I also considered how I might present if I were to give a Ted Talk, albeit my version comes with permission to go beyond the standard twenty minutes and sans a stage.
It’s a very bizarre world indeed to be so personal while talking to a video camera alone in a room with the awareness that we (the viewer and I) don’t know each other. It is bizarre to give others access to the most fragile parts of my heart and strongest resources for my healing work.
Please watch with respect.
The end of this video includes me asking for help around the evolution of my work. I ask for help with collaborations, spreading the message of better relating, and engaging a larger in-person audience through lectures and workshops. As we all know, no one can do it alone. I cannot do it alone. I need to learn how to ask for more help, find it, and even more importantly, practice letting it in.
If you are just learning of me and my work, thank you for your interest and curiosity. If you are one of the longtime supporters who have followed me for years, I feel heartfelt gratitude.
Thank you everyone.
Alan Robarge, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist
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Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing
Alan you are invaluable there is NO ONE else doing the scope of work you do. We've so missed you and welcome back! Please continue to take excellent care of you best you can. Just one moment at a time. How else can we support your work? 🙏❤️
I appreciate the kind words. Thank you for the warm welcome. And thank you for valuing my efforts.
If this content is helpful and you would like to become a sustaining supporter then you may like getting in on the conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. I welcome you joining us. www.alanrobarge.com/community
nice. I love Peter Levine. I like hearing you explain his work.
I’m so glad you’ve come back to UA-cam. I found your channel a couple months ago and all your stuff really resonates with me. After watching your videos I’ve got myself back into therapy and have been doing a lot of healing work.
I’m doing brain spotting again 😊
Thanks for the warm welcome. Glad this content offers benefit. Thanks for valuing my efforts.
Thank You ,for ur expertise and sharing it with us all. U are a wonderful person and healer.
I appreciate the kind words. Thank you for valuing my effort.
Bite sized and easy to watch 🌸
thanks
I really appreciate your encouragement to take a break here.
Thank you so much for these videos Alan. I feel very emotional listening to you speak a lot of the time because the way you communicate with so much empathy and care, I feel incredibly lucky to have access to your content online. I currently feel a big lack of empathy and compassion in my life, something I am working through in therapy, but watching your videos makes me feel safe. Thank you so much for sharing your story and for all the work you put into your practice.
Thank you for sharing the story about your client and the foot bindings. It’s touching and e really beautiful example of how to move through things, as well as your therapeutic connection with her. I hope the both of you are doing wonderfully. Well wishes ❤
Glad that spoke to you. Thank you for the kind comment.
I just discovered your Chanel and I can't stop watching your videos. Your insight, creativity, intelligence and empathy has deeply touched me... the wonder woman story has greatly moved me... if there are therapists like you, the World cannot be such a bad Place as it often appears to be... thank you with all my heart 🙏.
Glad the videos speak to you. Thank you for the kind words and thank you for valuing my effort.
If you like the videos then you may also like joining us in our conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. You're invited. www.alanrobarge.com/community
This is so helpful to humanize you and therapists as I tentatively and frightenly start my healing journey
I appreciate hearing this was helpful for you and offered perspective. I want to share you may be interested in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. We learn a lot from each other. www.healingattachmenttrauma.com/iyr_quiz_2
Thanks so much for the trigger warning. This was the first time I felt that it would be good for me to heed the warning and I chose to skip forward. Thank you for giving me that option.
I’m truly enjoying hearing more of your background and what’s informed your practice. I’m also so happy to hear you employ body-centered therapy and somatic approaches! After years of therapy and personal development work, bodywork (a hybrid of different practices I both learned on my own and got to experience with various practitioners) has really been transformative, working loose some of the most stuck old stuff.
In some other dimension where I live in same city and can afford. I would really be grateful to have you as my therapist. Thank you
I appreciate the kind words. Glad my work brings value.
I'm wondering if you heard about the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. If you like the videos then you may also like getting in on the Community conversations. I welcome you joining us. www.alanrobarge.com/community
You're the best thanks for sharing
Thanks again for the kind comments.
People find me approachable and tell me personal things too. Somehow they must subconsciously recognize my being emotionally parentified as a child. I was my mom's buddy and her advisor, therapist. Ironically, that's why I am drawn to psychology but I feel that it wouldn't be a wise career choice. I don't want to bring my "stuff" and I don't want to carry your "stuff" home. That wouldn't be good for anyone.
Binding...for me that brings me back to first grade in Catholic school. I got out of my desk a couple of times. The way the nun solved that was to tie me to my chair/desk with jump ropes every day. Talk about shame...
This is Jennifer Sinclair. When my mother and I were doing therapy over Zoom last year, she would constantly cover her face. When she sat in my car, she slinked down to make herself as small as possible. And all of this made me angry. I can't stand it that she doesn't even notice this. I want her to walk/sit tall with her shoulders back and look at people in the eye.
For reasons I cannot identify, I can read Natalie Davis's response to me somewhere else but I should see her response here but don't. Strange. In any case, Natalie Davis, you recognize I have felt a lot of anger toward my mother about her slinking down in the seat and such and you ask me if I can have more empathy for her. The problem is that my mother says she has NO problems, makes up stories rather than tell me the truth, and has informed me that any time I try to talk to her, that I am "just trying to start a fight". So she doesn't allow me to try to help her. I have spent YEARS trying to help her with her just deflecting her issues and blaming other people. I have spent YEARS being lied to. All I ask is that my mom be honest. And I haven't even been able to get that. But my mother and I have written back and forth and have decided to try again while we see a therapist separately. So wish me luck.
been holding my breath all my life 🤭