Video 4 of 7 / Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing
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- Опубліковано 1 чер 2022
- The 7 videos titled “Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing” are a series of self-reflections and insights about vulnerability, transparency, my work with clients, and sharing my Personal Healing Process.
The videos cover a range of contemplations, specifically around my relationship to making and sharing videos on UA-cam, my work as an Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist, and how trauma reenactment shows up in the most sophisticated of ways in my life.
Perhaps, my approach and organization of sharing these ideas gravitate more towards some kind of manifesto, a declaration announcing where I’ve been and where I’m going.
I was mindful of you, the audience, when filming. Specifically, I held the intention that my personal stories and life experiences might serve as encouragement to understand your own.
Maybe through the normalization of talking more about how Attachment Trauma impacts our lives in many ways, over the course of many years, we might begin to see our collective options for change and healing.
Also, I realize there is a risk with the level of vulnerability I offer here. However, the alternative of solidifying around a guarded privacy only serves to reinforce the limitations of persona-management, which would more uphold a choice to align with disconnect and not relationship.
And if any of my previous videos hold water, then they attest to the fact that I value relationships and emotional connection. As I have said for years, “Emotional Connections Matter!”
I took certain inspiration from a specific UA-cam Channel called “Yes Theory” to challenge myself regarding degrees of exposure and revealing myself here.
The “Yes Theory” videos, while sometimes initially presented as a fun and silly premise, mostly deliver a heartfelt intention grounded in the power of connecting with strangers and celebrating our humanity.
Additionally, I also considered how I might present if I were to give a Ted Talk, albeit my version comes with permission to go beyond the standard twenty minutes and sans a stage.
It’s a very bizarre world indeed to be so personal while talking to a video camera alone in a room with the awareness that we (the viewer and I) don’t know each other. It is bizarre to give others access to the most fragile parts of my heart and strongest resources for my healing work.
Please watch with respect.
The end of this video includes me asking for help around the evolution of my work. I ask for help with collaborations, spreading the message of better relating, and engaging a larger in-person audience through lectures and workshops. As we all know, no one can do it alone. I cannot do it alone. I need to learn how to ask for more help, find it, and even more importantly, practice letting it in.
If you are just learning of me and my work, thank you for your interest and curiosity. If you are one of the longtime supporters who have followed me for years, I feel heartfelt gratitude.
Thank you everyone.
Alan Robarge, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
Attachment-Focused Psychotherapist
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Insidious Attachment Trauma / My Story / Why No New Videos / and Inner Child Healing
I think you’re the best. I respect you and all that you do.
Thanks for the kind words and for valuing my work.
I am here til 7 of 7 🤩
Thanks
Me too Amy!
you're such a genius Alan. thanks for sharing yourself
You are very compassionate and empathic. Thank you for sharing.
I feel I need to comment, even though my words will be totally inadequate.
Thank you Alan for these stunningly beautiful videos.
So poignant, intimate and moving.
I found the story about the blueberries especially touching.
I am truly inspired by your depth of compassion, your empathy and wisdom.
Your face-to-face clients are truly lucky to have you -
and your UA-cam family are absolutely blessed to have access to such wisdom.
With thanks and gratitude. x 🙏🙏🙏🙏
I appreciate the meaningful and thoughtful comment. Thank you for sharing the blueberry story was moving for you and thank you for valuing my work. Glad it brings benefit.
I want to share you may be interested about the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. If you value this content you may also like participating in our conversations in the Community. Learn more by taking the relationship quiz. www.healingattachmenttrauma.com/iyr_quiz_2
This is Jennifer Sinclair. I wish I lived near Alan so I could do face to face therapy with him. But I hope to be able to get therapy with him on Zoom. I want to do therapy with poetry and art.
My childhood was good until around 8. That is when the physical abuse started and didn't stop for many many years and then when it stopped , the emotion and mental struggle/abuse continued.
But I loved my father and mother. And it makes me very sad. Even now, my best school year of my life was 1st grade. There was kindness - and no hitting and crying. There were lilacs around during this time. So I love the smell of lilacs now because of this.
You always make me laugh- in a good way.. despite dealing with heavy content(ie the list of names after sunflower!) Just brilliant. Love your content...resonates soooo much and really enhances my therapy. I too have found "post" pandemic life hard (this relates to comments in your video 1 amd email)l...so so isolated... my pre pandemic life is gone...huge lack of connection also...am interested in online community connection (I'm in the uk) X
Resurrection consciousness is what you are DOING! Bravo!
Thanks for valuing my effort. I appreciate the kind words.
This is great ❤️
Minute 14, Grief as a mirror, look in the mirror and see your own face. So informative. So helpful.
This is Jennifer Sinclair. Right after I turned 3 years old, I almost drowned. I remember it well. A female stranger saved my life. I brought this up to my parents off and on for decades. My parents never validated nor denied it. But recently, after 50 years I asked my mother the woman's name. And my mother told me. WOW !!!!!!!! But my parents - for 50 years - never validated it. Because they were so ashamed. But I was so thrilled - to know her name. Thank you Dottie Bickford Bonneau. Without you, my family would be visiting a cemetery to visit me since 1970. But, because of Dottie, I have lived for more than 50 years and have helped many people in adult education.
Have you tried to look for her and say thanks, face to face?
Just curious.
@@elvenatheart982 Thank you for asking - she died in 1997. I have to admit, I resent my parents for not enabling me to thank her when she was alive.
This is very touching
Thanks!
Thank you.
THANKS FOR THIS. DO YOU KNOW OF A THERAPY FOR SOMEONE WHO HAS APHASIA & WAS SEXUALLY APPROACHED (ASSAULTED?) BY HER GRANDFATHER. SHE IS NOW IN A NURSING HOME, SO I WOULDN'T KNOW IF IT IS POSSIBLE,, NECESSARY OR APPROPRIATE TO BREACH. THIS HAPPENED WHEN SHE WAS A TEENAGER, SHE'S NOW IN HER 60'S.
I hate that Shame just take away my power and suffocates me from inside and stops me from doing anything about it.
I hear you. I can empathize. Shame locks everything up. Glad this video spoke to you.
This comes up around our emotional health conversations in the Community Program, Improve Your Relationships. If you'd like to learn more click here: www.alanrobarge.com/community