1. Prayer 2:25 2. Pre-marital counseling 4:55 3. Marriage is about service 7:22 4. Lose your pride & learn to receive feedback 9:57 5. Create future habits now 13:20 6. Discuss your expectations 15:40 7. Understanding biblical marriage 18:36 8. Your connection in greater than your problems 21:17 9. Take radical responsibility for your life (start your healing journey now) 22:33 10. Don’t give up someone for something 24:43 11. Really look at the person you’re interested in 26:36 Side note: work on your communication ;)
As a single young lady who is praying for a godly relationship this is GOLD. I want to be a blessing to my future spouse and want to be prepared. You all inspire me! Thank you.
Mic Drop!!! You’re not in a relationship for how they make you feel! I NEEDED that, I will say that I have been guilty of complaining about stupid things, thank you!
This is going to be one of those videos I’ll keep coming back to over the years! Sooo much good advice and I appreciate all the wisdom from you both! Love the encouragement in the description too! Love you both!
Prayer is underrated!! Not cheesy at all!! And thanks for mentioning servant leadership!!! You guys have so much knowledge and wisdom to share. God Bless!
My fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 months now, and we have been seeking Godly marital wisdom. This is the answer our Lord has given us, thank you for this❤️
Wow I absolutely love you 2 I have been with my partner 6 years we have 2 beautiful children together and are getting married in December next year. I really needed this ❤ thank you so much
Thank you, I am single and I really want more of this so thank you because I need this. I was never taught how to navigate relationships in general and when it comes to marriage I am often fed a negative view so really thank you again in teaching me how to prepare for a Godly marriage 💗❤️💗❤️
okkkkkk i'm feeling convicted about the taking critique point. A lot of the time I internalise it as someone attacking me. Will be praying for myself on that one!! Thanks guys
7:20 - A point that helps you verify wheter you're truly ready for a HEALTHY relationship or not 23:30 - The Thing you NEED to know before entering a relationship
I can't even begin to describe how impactful this video was.. it always is but as is said , the timing couldn't be more right. I just love everything you'll share and feel so blessed to being able to understand how much this helps me grow and look forward to having such qualitative conversations with my significant other( wherever he is) Just feeling so moved. Thank you as always.. so happy to see you two make such a helluva of a difference and touching soooo many lives at a go! Thank you for following your hearts and thank you youtube for showing your video one fine day during early pandemic. Lots of love ❤.
@@ToriAndChad awwwwww!! I try and write the best i can and you just make me feel so valued by your response. I'm praying for our connection to always remain so !
I have one word. Wow. There's a quote that says We have a tendency to want the other person to be a finished product while we give ourselves the grace to evolve and I think that's so important to understand specially in marriage
Not only do we have to heal, we have to be strengthened. Kind of like any surgery on an ACL. You get the problem fixed and you heal, but you also go through rehab to strengthen that ligament/tendon again.
Thank y’all for this video, it really helped me start to analyze myself and asking God what He needs me to do, order to be the husband that my future wife needs. God bless us guys, and thank y’all for being bold in your faith. Also, where can you get the “B. Kind State University” sweater, ngl it’s pretty dope
@@ToriAndChadoh gosh the longer the better!! My mom just walked in and asked why do I have this smile on my face I’m like😃when I first found your channel I didn’t know Christ but Ik in my heart this is the kind of marriage I want one day, I started to think whatever is the foundation of a relationship like that must be at least worth knowing. One year later I’m growing steadily in Christ , so thank you for being one of the people led me to Christ !
I got to meet Dave and Ashley in February when they spoke at Church of the Highlands' annual marriage conference. I'm single and have been soaking up all the things on relationships during the past 4 yrs of being single (actually how I came across your channel back in 2019). It was so good and I'm so glad I went and that all this info is coming to me now to help me grow as a person. And I can use it to help ALL my relationships, not just dating/marriage. God's opened my eyes to so many opportunities, it's crazy but a very enjoyable journey. I love learning and He's the best teacher😁
It’s refreshing to hear good, solid information . It’s good to know that it’s not all about you, that you want to help the body of Christ. God is not unrighteous to forget your labor of love, how you have ministered to the saints, and do minister. That is not the whole verse, it is found in Hebrews. God bless you. You and your husband have such a wonderful spirit. I have only seen two videos , but I love your spirit. Stay sweet! God bless you!
I just found your channel yesyerday and i'm obsessed with it! I am happy i found you guys cause now i have a couple to look out to whenever i feel like getting an advice about marriage and relationships. I am currently in a relationship with my best friend and love of my life. And if it's God's plan, i'll stay with him for the rest of our lives, I never felt this excited about marriage before, but seriosly... watching at your videos and listening to your wise words is incredible
Thank you for teaching me how to prepare for a Godly marriage. I am currently single and my heart was really blessed by this video. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!! God bless you
Wow... Blown away by this topic ready! Thank you so much..can't wait to absorb the words of wisdom! This is going to be sooo helpful for so many of us!
@@ToriAndChad Since I am single, such an apt video to come by at this point in my life. Very grateful, thank you. I'm sure to re-watch it multiple times. There's got to be a loooveee button and not a mere like button 😎
I am in a relationship(10 months) but I am 16 years old. My mom has been divorced 3 times and my dad has been divorced 3 times. I thrive to have a really good marriage and my boyfriend thrives to have a good marriage. His mom and dad are divorced as well and it makes us nervous and thrive to have a really good marriage. I’m nervous to ask people for advise bc I always hear your young. Do you have any advise?
Two pieces of advice: 1) God can heal anything and break any cycle - ask yourselves what are the qualities you’d want in a spouse, and what are the qualities that God wants in your spouse. And ask yourself if you’re able to be that same kind of spouse (the one God wants). 2) and yes you ARE young - But high school sweethearts are a thing sometimes, so ask yourself those big questions even at your young age. Don’t let your age prevent you from being obedient to Gods plan, only He gets to tell you who you are and what his plan for your life is… and it may include your boyfriend… it may not. Pray!!! Trust His word and his timing.
Sooo much goodness, wisdom and knowledge 🤩 I wish I met you guys when I was young 😉🙏 which is technically impossible of course 😂 i could not be more happy, for all the young people who have the chance to start off marriage, resourced by what you (and others in the field) share 🥰
1000%!! This is so needed! Marriage is not prepared for enough. Too much never talked about. Y’all nailed it with these tips! Wish I had this when I was young, but eternally grateful that you are putting it out now.
This video is definitely needed! Can't wait❤ also that description encouragement is so sweet🥺 was thinking about that yesterday while going through some stuff. How I always have joy from the Lord to tap into. Truly living the best life!
Can’t wait to listen to all your advice 🤍 Love all you have to say about this subject! You two are such an example and an inspiration for me! Sending you my love and appreciation 🤗
Recently got engaged, this video was sooo perfectly timed! Thank you so much, very much needed!! So appreciated! Would absolutely love a part 2 on how to prepare for marriage!! 🤍💕
This was such an interesting and helpful video, especially for someone who's in the stage of a relationship who's thinking about marriage! My church is doing a Rethinking Relations course at the moments and it's been so helpful seeing the biblical meaning of marriage.
So thankful for you both ❤️ truly missed these kinds of videos & would love to see more of them. Y’all are so wise!! Thank you for always blessing us!!
I just got to the part of the video where you talked about marriage counseling and I was interested in more of how that went, was it ever awkward or fun, details! Lol love yall
Love this! Y’alls single, dating, and married content is so rich and I have learned so much! Quick question: what was the name of the book y’all referenced regarding 100 questions?
Yes this is exactly what I need!! And have been wanting to see and learn more about! Thank you both so much!!
Awww if people like the video we will make more of them!
Who is here after seeing the pregnancy announcement!😭 I actually screamed. So so beyond happy for them❤️❤️❤️❤️
1. Prayer 2:25
2. Pre-marital counseling 4:55
3. Marriage is about service 7:22
4. Lose your pride & learn to receive feedback 9:57
5. Create future habits now 13:20
6. Discuss your expectations 15:40
7. Understanding biblical marriage 18:36
8. Your connection in greater than your problems 21:17
9. Take radical responsibility for your life (start your healing journey now) 22:33
10. Don’t give up someone for something 24:43
11. Really look at the person you’re interested in 26:36
Side note: work on your communication ;)
Thanks Jessica!
Ty❤️
As a single young lady who is praying for a godly relationship this is GOLD. I want to be a blessing to my future spouse and want to be prepared. You all inspire me! Thank you.
@Lizzy smith Me too!^_^💯❤💕
Mic Drop!!! You’re not in a relationship for how they make you feel! I NEEDED that, I will say that I have been guilty of complaining about stupid things, thank you!
Can't wait for pregnancy content
I'm really thankful to God for you guys
I prayed for you and I'm safe to say that my prayers worked 😂😘😘😘
This is going to be one of those videos I’ll keep coming back to over the years! Sooo much good advice and I appreciate all the wisdom from you both! Love the encouragement in the description too! Love you both!
no way! That is the kindest thing! We love you too, man!
I just love how Chad refers to his loved ones as sweet... that is such a wonderful compliment!
This video was so needed, I can't even describe.
"He is without likeness and how yet He is closer to you than your jugalar vein!" 🙏💛
I like that!!!
The last point on removing the “metaphorical fig leaves” to see the person, for who s/he really is 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻🙏🏻
Prayer is underrated!! Not cheesy at all!! And thanks for mentioning servant leadership!!! You guys have so much knowledge and wisdom to share. God Bless!
oof chad's last piece of advice to not overlook people's character because of our excitement and want to be in a relationship. needed that!
Getting married on July 9, thanks for the timely and godly advice!!
My fiancé and I have been engaged for 2 months now, and we have been seeking Godly marital wisdom. This is the answer our Lord has given us, thank you for this❤️
Wow I absolutely love you 2 I have been with my partner 6 years we have 2 beautiful children together and are getting married in December next year. I really needed this ❤ thank you so much
Thank you, I am single and I really want more of this so thank you because I need this. I was never taught how to navigate relationships in general and when it comes to marriage I am often fed a negative view so really thank you again in teaching me how to prepare for a Godly marriage 💗❤️💗❤️
okkkkkk i'm feeling convicted about the taking critique point. A lot of the time I internalise it as someone attacking me. Will be praying for myself on that one!!
Thanks guys
Exactly what was on my mind recently. Y’all come perfect.
Thank you guys for blessing us with your content!❤️
thanks for showing up and learning with us!!
I’d love a Part 2 Marriage Preparation video! 👏❤️
I will keep going back to this video until I’m actually married. Thank you guys!!! This is a reallyyy great video 😭😭😭
Congratulations you guys
I'm literally crying 😭 in a cool way
What an answered prayer!!
Ya'll are so cute, Bless your union. Thanks for the sharing!! 💛💛💛
7:20 - A point that helps you verify wheter you're truly ready for a HEALTHY relationship or not
23:30 - The Thing you NEED to know before entering a relationship
I can't even begin to describe how impactful this video was.. it always is but as is said , the timing couldn't be more right. I just love everything you'll share and feel so blessed to being able to understand how much this helps me grow and look forward to having such qualitative conversations with my significant other( wherever he is) Just feeling so moved. Thank you as always.. so happy to see you two make such a helluva of a difference and touching soooo many lives at a go! Thank you for following your hearts and thank you youtube for showing your video one fine day during early pandemic.
Lots of love ❤.
aww thank you for watching it with us!!! You make a helluva difference in our life!! love you!
@@ToriAndChad awwwwww!! I try and write the best i can and you just make me feel so valued by your response. I'm praying for our connection to always remain so !
Love you guys 🤗 you’re so balanced in your approach to life & real in your faith 🙏 thank you for your faithfulness 😇
This is exactly what I need!!! I am getting married in 5 months and I need all the advice I can get. Y'alls videos are always so helpful ♥
Not sure if I should continue watching this channel because it makes me envy their relationship.
I have one word. Wow.
There's a quote that says We have a tendency to want the other person to be a finished product while we give ourselves the grace to evolve and I think that's so important to understand specially in marriage
Not only do we have to heal, we have to be strengthened. Kind of like any surgery on an ACL. You get the problem fixed and you heal, but you also go through rehab to strengthen that ligament/tendon again.
Thank y’all for this video, it really helped me start to analyze myself and asking God what He needs me to do, order to be the husband that my future wife needs. God bless us guys, and thank y’all for being bold in your faith.
Also, where can you get the “B. Kind State University” sweater, ngl it’s pretty dope
the good old long chat video we all love 😭
hahah is it too long?!
@@ToriAndChadoh gosh the longer the better!! My mom just walked in and asked why do I have this smile on my face I’m like😃when I first found your channel I didn’t know Christ but Ik in my heart this is the kind of marriage I want one day, I started to think whatever is the foundation of a relationship like that must be at least worth knowing. One year later I’m growing steadily in Christ , so thank you for being one of the people led me to Christ !
I got to meet Dave and Ashley in February when they spoke at Church of the Highlands' annual marriage conference. I'm single and have been soaking up all the things on relationships during the past 4 yrs of being single (actually how I came across your channel back in 2019). It was so good and I'm so glad I went and that all this info is coming to me now to help me grow as a person. And I can use it to help ALL my relationships, not just dating/marriage. God's opened my eyes to so many opportunities, it's crazy but a very enjoyable journey. I love learning and He's the best teacher😁
It’s refreshing to hear good, solid information .
It’s good to know that it’s not all about you, that you want to help the body of Christ.
God is not unrighteous to forget your labor of love, how you have ministered to the saints, and do minister.
That is not the whole verse, it is found in Hebrews.
God bless you. You and your husband have such a wonderful spirit.
I have only seen two videos , but I love your spirit.
Stay sweet!
God bless you!
Be led by TRUTH.. omg, ya'll better PREACH!! 💗💗💗💗💗💗
So excited to watch this! Appreciate y’alls wisdom so much ❤️
we appreciate your love and support!
I really hope you have the absolute best time at the F1 too! I’m super excited for you both! Enjoy it and have an amazing rest of the week!
thanks a ton my man!!! Appreciate you being here as always!
Thank you for this beautiful gift. 🌸
I just found your channel yesyerday and i'm obsessed with it! I am happy i found you guys cause now i have a couple to look out to whenever i feel like getting an advice about marriage and relationships. I am currently in a relationship with my best friend and love of my life. And if it's God's plan, i'll stay with him for the rest of our lives, I never felt this excited about marriage before, but seriosly... watching at your videos and listening to your wise words is incredible
Need more of these!!! Especially how to navigate dating, and the road to marriage!!
Thank you for teaching me how to prepare for a Godly marriage. I am currently single and my heart was really blessed by this video. Congratulations on your pregnancy!!!! God bless you
Wow... Blown away by this topic ready! Thank you so much..can't wait to absorb the words of wisdom! This is going to be sooo helpful for so many of us!
Awww we hope it blesses many like it did us!!!
@@ToriAndChad Since I am single, such an apt video to come by at this point in my life. Very grateful, thank you. I'm sure to re-watch it multiple times. There's got to be a loooveee button and not a mere like button 😎
hahaha we need a love button!
I am in a relationship(10 months) but I am 16 years old. My mom has been divorced 3 times and my dad has been divorced 3 times. I thrive to have a really good marriage and my boyfriend thrives to have a good marriage. His mom and dad are divorced as well and it makes us nervous and thrive to have a really good marriage. I’m nervous to ask people for advise bc I always hear your young. Do you have any advise?
Two pieces of advice:
1) God can heal anything and break any cycle - ask yourselves what are the qualities you’d want in a spouse, and what are the qualities that God wants in your spouse. And ask yourself if you’re able to be that same kind of spouse (the one God wants).
2) and yes you ARE young - But high school sweethearts are a thing sometimes, so ask yourself those big questions even at your young age. Don’t let your age prevent you from being obedient to Gods plan, only He gets to tell you who you are and what his plan for your life is… and it may include your boyfriend… it may not. Pray!!! Trust His word and his timing.
Oh my gosh y’all have got me on a jimmy Evans binge and his wisdom is absolutely incredible
Perfect timing, getting married in 9 days!!
PERFECT~!!! This also is helping us inside of marriage!
Yes yes yes! More videos on this topic please! I’m getting married in three months so these videos are very useful.
Sooo much goodness, wisdom and knowledge 🤩 I wish I met you guys when I was young 😉🙏 which is technically impossible of course 😂 i could not be more happy, for all the young people who have the chance to start off marriage, resourced by what you (and others in the field) share 🥰
awww so sweet! better late than never we suppose!!!
@@ToriAndChad yeah, you guys give me hope 🥰
1000%!!
This is so needed! Marriage is not prepared for enough. Too much never talked about. Y’all nailed it with these tips! Wish I had this when I was young, but eternally grateful that you are putting it out now.
This video is definitely needed! Can't wait❤ also that description encouragement is so sweet🥺 was thinking about that yesterday while going through some stuff. How I always have joy from the Lord to tap into. Truly living the best life!
aww thank you Mish! We love you a ton!
@@ToriAndChad Love you guys!!
Getting married in 19 days!! What perfect timing for some great advice! 🙏😁
I would love to see a part two!! More like this please! Love you guys.
Familia!!!! Love y’all and Tori you’re so cute in this video with your hair! And the lighting. 🤣🤣🤣
We love you!! Always appreciate your kind words!
I get the first comment! Real fan of you guys. I’ve been married almost 48 years and you guys really inspire me. Stan
thanks for being here with us! Congrats on nearly 50 years!!! So rare now a days!!
Coming out with this a month before I get married. I see you God.
Hi there
Is there a second part of "how to prepare for marriage"? Would love that! Especially how to prepare together as a couple.
Can’t wait to listen to all your advice 🤍 Love all you have to say about this subject! You two are such an example and an inspiration for me! Sending you my love and appreciation 🤗
aww I was hoping we would see your name pop up!!!
We love you!
@@ToriAndChad love you too 🤗♥️
Love you guys! Thank you so much!!
Recently got engaged, this video was sooo perfectly timed! Thank you so much, very much needed!! So appreciated! Would absolutely love a part 2 on how to prepare for marriage!! 🤍💕
I like the natural humor!!! Love it! Stuff happens and you both make it fun. 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
This was such an interesting and helpful video, especially for someone who's in the stage of a relationship who's thinking about marriage! My church is doing a Rethinking Relations course at the moments and it's been so helpful seeing the biblical meaning of marriage.
I am so excited to watch pregnancy content starting in less than an hour
What is the best premarital advice you've received??
Life is hard. Marry someone who you can do life with!
Low expectations and assume the best of the other.
dang that's so good, Mish!
I've heard those too ;) hahah
@@mishajacobs.2000 oof true!
This has been my FAVE video so far, and I LOVE y’all’s channel!! 🥰 Please, more vids like this! ♥️🙏🏻
So thankful for you both ❤️ truly missed these kinds of videos & would love to see more of them. Y’all are so wise!! Thank you for always blessing us!!
Love this! So many great wisdom nuggets!! Would definitely love more
Thanks for the love!! We will do more if people want!
Wow Tori is glowingggg 😍😍😍
not us leaving a comment wondering where Sam & Angie are haha
Love this!!
Thank you for sharing 💗
thanks for being willing to watch it!!
Yes part 2 more specific!!! So so helpful I always take notes because it’s so good!
Love the video!!! And chad enjoy the F1 race this weekend! I’m low key super duper jealous that your getting to see that in person! 🏎
Thank you so much!! And yes, definitely would be interested in Part 2! Much appreciated:)
Thank you for doing videos like this and sharing your knowledge. more power to you guys and excited for more!
part two please !!!!!!!!!! these are my favorite videos! so inspired by y’all❤️
What advice do you have for singles over 25 that desire marriage but are about to give up on finding love?
I would like to get married again. 🥰 I hope this relationship I'm in now will be forever.
Also you both look amazing! Heavenly glow while speaking wisdom👏
you're too kind! Filters work wonders hahah
Thank you for this wisdom. We want more! 😁
This is 🔥 I have been wanting to know more about this. Thank you for sharing!
Excited for this video . This is so needed . Love you both
let's gooo! Thanks for showing up!!!
Love love love!!! I will definitely keep coming back to this video in the future! Love you guys
Hey! So excited for this video 📹
yayayay
Was waiting for this video. Super excited
yay!!! Happy you're here!!!
I just got to the part of the video where you talked about marriage counseling and I was interested in more of how that went, was it ever awkward or fun, details! Lol love yall
Love this! Y’alls single, dating, and married content is so rich and I have learned so much! Quick question: what was the name of the book y’all referenced regarding 100 questions?
Ahhh thank y’all I’m getting married in 3 weeks and this is so helpful
i’m so excited for this video!!!!!!!!!!
Can't wait to watch as always still at work, love the title already for us singles 😊😊🙈😜. Love you guys❤️
We love you!! have a nice day at work!!
Sooo looking forward to this. Thank you for sharing :))
aww yay!
Sooo much needed this video!
awww thank you!
I recognized the Twenty One Pilots reference immediately!! haha :) also this video was GOLD. Just what I needed. Thank you both ❤️
Looking forward to part 2 of this video
if enough people want it we will do it!
Love your videos and podcast 🌸 Forever a big fan of you xxx
thanks for showing up!
Q. What are the hard moments?
In a lot of West African churches you can’t get married without at least six weeks of counselling and I think it’s really helpful
Absolute gold!!!
Part 2 please!! 😊
This video was very timely for me HAHA thank you for the 🔥 reminders!
Part 2 please! Loved this!!🥰
Congrats on the pregnancy guys....Hope for a healthy pregnancy and birth for Tori❤️❤️💛💛
Love this advice! Would love a part 2 🙂
Yes please part 2 🙌