Anita, by listening to you I found out that my daughter is an empath. I was always worried for her wondering why she is so sensitive. After listening to you I started to read more and found that she is an extreme empath. I understand her now and not worried any more. I learned not to judge her and to help her. Thanks my dear Anita💕💕 I have learned a lot from you beautiful angel.
I've been waiting years for someone to say this: that conventional spiritual wisdom is not appropriate for empaths. So much of HayHouse wisdom (which I've been imbibing since 2007) is very useful for people who are just awakening: things like Serve Others, Be a Good Listener, Get Out of Your Ego, etc. 11 years later, I'm still miserable in part bc I'm an empath. I tried to strategize what I could do to help others - in part because their suffering made me suffer - and I gave and gave until I was used up and acquired an autoimmune condition. I didn't realize that I was being untrue to myself: I was simply trying to 'save the world' and at the same time believing that my value to others was conditional. I am sure there was a very necessary time period in self-development when selflessness HAD to be the main push, but IN THE NEW ERA if your boundaries are already a little shaky, if you already feel what others are feeling, and if you are getting all your self-esteem from what you DO for others, you have a problem.
Yes, I've feel the same. I gave too much and now am sick with an autoimmune condition. I'm so drained emotionally from trying to please everyone and it is never enough anyway. I need to take a new path.
I know your comment is 2 years old but I am only seeing this now. Maybe you will read this and I would be interested to know if you feel that you have progressed in your journey over the last 2 years since you read this. I can identify with what you say in this comment which is why I am interested. Cheers,
Sadly Anita, I am both. Last year when realisation hit rock bottom, I turned away with struggles. Recently, I found you which helped me to accept my new "me"! In the past, I was told to change or be buried alive. I didn't know how to change till I hit profound sadness and disconnected. So Anita, ALL your chats resonates with me at all level, which I listen to albeit with tears, is giving me the strength to find the long lost "me", thank YOU!
OMG, yes I can relate to everything you said. I am a nurse and totally drained and dont know how to continue this way anymore, and get very angry sometimes. I going a spiritual way and read a lot about it, always thinking there is missing a piece, and yes had also spiritual teachers who drained my energy even more, or I felt that way, because I felt even more quilty about not being always peaceful etc. I am happy seeing your Chanel and seeing you embracing all parts of me not only the positive ones. It is a start for me to shift. Thank you
I worked in a nursing home, had a stroke -without long term disability . Instead of relocating me to a sit-down job, they made me resign. Long story short, had to earn a living in home healthcare for a private agency. There was a huge financial stress as the work was very irregular and the agency paid themselves a 50% profit out of every job they sent us to. I had to take care of other people's needs even when I felt like I was slipping away from myself(dying) because I was depleting all my physical resources. Through God's Grace I survived into my retirement, and have been working very diligently to recover my health ever since. Your story inspired me Anita, I can tell you are a beautiful soul and I am SO THANKFUL FOR YOUR LIFE! Sending you love from Quebec, Canada.
This is probably one of the most helpful videos I have come across in a long time. As I prepare for surgery, I am observing all the people I have continuously given to just seem rather apathetic towards it. It's a real eye opener for me. Instead.. they want to push me even harder before I go in!!! There comes a time where one has to get real with themselves and put self love first. Hopefully next time, I won't have to learn this lesson in such a dramatic way.
I can sooooo identify with what you are going through. It can be a shocker when you are in true need and all the people you bent over backwards for tend to disappear. Or try to squeeze the last drop out of you when you feel like you're sinking with your own life crisis. Sorry to hear you need surgery and I hope all goes well for you...you will be in my prayers, if you don't mind. I've had several life experiences where I basically got knocked on my @ because of this type of thing...the universe 'forcing' me to STOP! Notice I said several experiences. Guess I'm a slow learner : ) It took me decades to learn self love - that it didn't make me wrong or selfish or evil - and to put my basic needs first, and doing that would fill me up to be more and give more to the world. Like Anita says....not to be a better doormat but better able to give what and who I am just by being me and feeling light filled and peaceful. Anita - thank you so very much. Your words bring much peace and wisdom to my battered soul.
The definition of ego is your sense of self and self esteem. A healthy ego is extremely important in maintaining your integrity and creating guidelines and boundaries about how you want and need to be treated. A healthy ego is vital for healthy self love. 💛
I relate soooo much to this message. The whole ego death spiritual teaching NEVER sat well with me. I am an empath that always do the giving and make myself small. Thank you so much for this message.
Hi Anita, I am writing from Fontana, CA. I have just discovered in the last year that I may be an empath. I love helping people and I had to realize I wasnt taking care of myself. 9 years ago I had breast cancer and I'm healed from that. In 2016 I was diagnosed with an inoperable Sarcoma. This is when I found you! I don't want or plan on dying anytime soon and I thank God I came across you. Grace and Peace.
Happy birthday, Wayne. I’m grateful for his life well lived...and for finding YOU! Now I, too, have been healed! You are dear to me. I am forever your friend. ⭐️
Thank you so much for posting. I'm a drained empath and doormat. And I had a particularly difficult day at work, caused by a narcissist who wreaks a lot of unnecessary stress in a different department. The staff from other depts approach me often to vent/unload, because the corporate culture is dominated by a few narcissistic, retaliatory management. I try to balance the frequency of these vents, and advise staff to speak directly with their managers, or if they are uncomfortable, to please speak to HR. That narcissist though attempted to provoke issues for me. Today after work, I swear, I UA-camd for you...even to locate an archived video about this topic. Thank you very kindly for your comforting words and guidance. (Are you sure you are not telepathic?!). I love you and thank you and your books so much for "being there" for me after my Mom's passing in 2014, and then again, after my Father's passing in 2017. Blessings to you, Anita!! ❤️🙏
I’m an empath and made the mistake of doing exactly what Anita talks about in this video… I cared too much about others BEFORE taking care of myself which made me a doormat. I let person after person walk all over me and take advantage of my kindness to the point where i wasn’t able to take care of myself when I reached a point when I needed help. My life literally fell apart and I had drained myself so much by helping others that I wasn’t even able to help myself when I needed it most. Now, I’m the one who needs help and someone to rescue me and NO ONE is there to help me in a time when I need it most. If I had just loved myself enough to take care of myself first, that would have prevented me from ever reaching this point.
I was that person! A doormat ! , I have had sooo many people , because of my soft heart, come to me asking for help, and in my life I made such a small amount of money, but gave it away to those who said they loved me and then have heard little or nothing from them from the time that I did! I gave and gave and gave... but it never seemed to receive, I have had such an intense revelation lately with your teachings ! THANKYOU sooo much Anita ! .❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I did the same exact thing and would give a person who was in need my last dollar without taking care of myself first. I’ve literally spent my entire life helping others and now that I need help, there’s NO ONE. A good example of this is that I have my fiancé a SUV (and paid thousands to get it out of impound TWICE). I bought my sister a brand new car. I sold my paid off Lexus super cheap to help a someone lit who needed a vehicle. It’s so ironic that now that I’m the one who needs a car and can’t afford to buy or even finance a cheap one. It’s so messed up and that’s just one example of how caring more about others more than myself really messed up my life 😔
Empaths are their very own selves . You speak of me. Exactly. Thanks. All of mum's family members were doormats to an extent. Even the men. I wish away from the narcs. I love my daughter.
Yes, I relate to what you’ve said. It’s very difficult to be someone new...but it’s a quest. You make me feel empowered. I’ve detached from most people who drain me or who are believing in controlling, judging or critiquing. I attempt to stay away from gossip. From terminal cancer to cancer free. My husband wonders why I don’t have more friends...accused me of being a hermit. I tried to explain I don’t have like many minded people in my life here. He perceives I’m somehow flawed for this. I dedicated my Facebook page to healing, I attempt to help everyone who asks for coaching. I do it through messenger on Facebook. I write. People tell me to write a book. Yet I don’t have any ideas how to accomplish something so big. I’m not special, I just used you (and other authors) as my friends...replacing my company to a higher level. It worked, Anita. If I can figure out how to serve on a bigger platform I will. And everything you’ve said is true and correct for me as well. Everyone with an open mind can have what we have (unless God has a better plan).
Thank you for your wonderful talk. There is one point I want to flag up around assertiveness. I feel it is very important when saying an honest NO not to defend or justify. So using an excuse like ‘Tiredness’ doesn’t work for me. I did this for years in a difficult relationship and become tired whenever I didn’t want to say yes. It would be much better to use things like “I understand and no” “ I appreciate what you are saying and no” “ I hear you and no. Do you have any other suggestions “ “I am quite frightened to say no to you, please support me” “no. I need your help and support on this”. I hope you receive this comment as I think it is important. Ellie
Hi Anita, from Melbourne Australia. Yes I am empathetic and very prone to being a doormat. After being there for everyone else it was eye opening to me a bit over a year ago to get cancer and have No one prepared to be there for me. All had very good excuses to do nothing or as little as possible. It was a very lonely road and a huge learning curve for me. I’m looking forward to to learning more from you. 😊
Hi Anita! I am in Austin Texas. Wiki says Wayne Dyer was born May 10 1940... he would have been 78 this year. Yes i relate to it... I am an empath who has been a doormat for years. And yes it is totally draining!! I tried to live up to my mother’s standards of self sacrifice and self denial... she’s done it all her life. She now says “I don’t know how you could put yourself through that! “. Because she told me to ! I twisted myself into a pretzel trying to be the good daughter she expected me to be. I don’t want to feel helpless anymore. I want to feel empowered again. You are right that we need to embrace our egos instead of denying and squashing our feelings. I am learning to love and honor myself and to ask myself what I want - something I hadn’t done in so long I don’t even recognize my own feelings. Thank you for sharing your message. Thank you for your courage.
Thanks Anita...exactly what I needed to hear...Such a profound discovery about how not to kill our ego because it dims our light..Amazing! But how are we supposed to find ourselves again..I have lost track of who I am..how do I find who I truly am? Love
Thank you sooooo much to telling us truth! I agree with you 100%! Conventional Spiritual teaching made me a doormat too! Made miserable my life! God bless your courage! You are really wakes me up! Thank you!! Sending you love and appreciation from 🇯🇵 Japan.
I'm catching the replay from South Texas. I learned this - what you're saying today - the hard way! I'm so glad you're talking about this subject! I didn't do well at all as a volunteer at a spiritual center because I took the teachings so to heart that I burned out very badly from too much work and I still felt I was not contributing enough - time, money, energy - but I now see I did way too much because I didn't know how how to handle it. Even when people said, "you can say no" ... I took the teachings wrong some how and I felt if I was going to be there at all I had to GIVE more and more and more. Of course it might have helped if it had a bigger community with more resources - there were true and constant needs for money and work contributions. I still have not been successful in being "in" a spiritual community again. Now I study at home and serve in my own self directed ways - I feel I make a bigger impact now because I am not burned out or broke.
Hi Anita, I'm Inge and live in Holland. I realy, realy love your massages! They are so powerfull. Thank you so much for sharing! I am so greatfull for that! 🙏🧡
Hi Anita, i am from Belgium. I teach people mindfulness. One of the most important lessons i teach people is loving themselves, being assertive (and say no if needed), respecting their boundaries,... I used to be a doormat and learning this to other people helps me to remind myself of loving myself enough...and don't make myself small... (I am still learning myself...) Thank you for your video's. They support what i believe in...
thank you!!! I think you just saved my life!!! I'm in BC Can.:) I'm spiritually exhausted on just about all points you mentioned, conflict avoidance, over giving in many ways including $$, guilty over serving by volunteering, saying yes when you say no etc. etc. I wrote down your suggestions:) but more importantly I'm going to practice is. YOU NAILED IT!!!! wow ...immense gratitude for this! This ia amazing. I cannot thank you enough. xooxoxoxo
Watching this in 2024. It took me many years to finally love myself. Now the next step is not to exploit myself anymore. I am a perfectionist and I give all I have in my job, nothing left for myself. This has to end. Because, yes, my life depends on it. It is not going to be easy, especially as I work with and for people. But I already said "no" a few days ago. I felt guilty, but was proud of myself at the same time.
Love your message. I'm in NYC. Dr. Dyer was born on May 10th. I'm a medical miracle like yourself. I got rid of my head trash and healed. I also had an NDE, was too young too understand. Now I know that we don't need the outside world to heal ourselves, the outside world are our aides. All lasting healing comes from within.
Thank you, dear Anita, for this great video and for the eye-opening message in it. Being an empath and not knowing how to protect yourself can be really harmful to you, especially if you follow the ideas of conventional spirituality - I can tell this from my personal experience, too. Being a people's pleaser is very good for others, but definitely not for you, because by focusing on others needs, you start forgetting about your own, you completely lose yourself, your identity. So, empowering your Ego and listening to your Voice is the real Spirituality for Empaths. Thank you for sharing this message and helping all Empaths start the healing process for themselves! Much love and appreciation.
Dear Anita, I can totally relate to what you describe. I also was a doormat, avoiding conflict and wanted to please others all the time. Thank you so much from Paris, France.
Hi Anita, thank you for your video. Your video resonates with me, I'm super sensitive, I'm a empath and doormat. Thank u for video, its so empowering. I was diagnosed with breast cancer earlier this year. I realise how I drained myself. I would love to meet you at your events. I hope u have one coming up in london, uk xx
My name is Leelah Saachi, I grew up with those vampyres all around, and later became a therapist - and in my practice through 25 years we explored what heals these patterns on a deep level - and how **we*** also may have tendencies to "vampyrize": like "driving over" others when we MUST have our will. We also learned how to disarm darkness with love - and creative work. I was guided through all these years, and the lessons from Spirit let me see WHY it all had happened. That helped a lot :) The book is also filled with playful synchronicities - had Spirit not served all those to me, I would not have been able to TRUST God in all situations. If you may feel that this is a book for you, google Leelah Saachi - and you will find the Amazonpage with the book and will be able to read reviews.
Thank you so much for this and your other videos! Listening to you is changing the way I live my life and I feel so much encouragement and hope and inspiration to walk the path I have chosen! I found this at the right time. Wishing you all the best. Love and light. From Norway
I'm so grateful that I found you. You remind me on what I knew but surpressed because most of the people in my surrounding are very consumed with materialism and fear based beliefs. They always try to put their views on me and want me to acknoledge the "truth" of it. I'm being rediculed constantly for believing in God and Love and Freedom. Judged for being different. It's so hard to hold on to what I sense to be true and what I wanted to share with everyone. Friendly or uplifting words or a hug because of the beauty that lives in me (as it does in everybody)? No, never. My heart feels so very heavy most of the time.
Dearest Anita, just saw your news letter and tuning in now from Australia! Thank you so much for your work! you have helped me so much to bring awareness to my life and yes I have always been super sensitive and eventually became a doormat and a people pleaser and I hated being "super sensitive person" and thought there was something wrong with me! listening to your video with Dr Norhtrup , and your story specially resonated with me word to word and what you went through prior to getting Cancer in your early days ( when you mentioned that you developed a cyst in your ovaries etc,) . I really took it as a warning sign and really went through listening to all your videos and I can see a big change in my life thanks to you. Your story has helped me so much to put everything in perspective. Btw I love your energy it even comes through when I'm watching your videos it really does! So Grateful for you Anita
Excellent Anita! I find my conventional Christian faith strengthened by this message. I think the proper occassion to confront or compromise arises when we find our hearts aligned with our Makers. I see in Christ his ability to confront where appropriate, empathise when required, challenge when needed and then surrender in love with his life. Anita your insights are phenomenal and reminded me that the 2nd greatest commandment hangs on the need for self love, self preservation and self affirmation. These epiphanies must have undoubtedly created that spontaneous healing for you so that these ideas may take root in the here and now. Awesome stuff! Manoj Nandwani.
Oh my god... I got into a conflict situation because I could not say NO in the very beginning when a person started becoming my mentor without my consent... And then I exploded and then got blamed for being the bad person... I love you Anita... I love you so much for bringing these clarity to us...
Thank you, Anita! Yes, like you, and other sensitive people, I very much have taken to heart these messages to serve more, give more, lose the ego, ..... and my light has diminished, ego squashed; I isolate, and stay small... ~ now I'm learning to receive, recharge, and expand!!! :) Your words are timely, practical, and precisely helpful! (fear of disappointing others, avoiding conflict, consciously choosing my well-being.) You really are helpful!
I can relate 100% to this being a doormat specially to my inlaws.I have started working on myself and started saying NO where I mean to say NO only.But still long way to go .Hope to make smooth boundaries of mine soon .Thanks for sharing this beautiful video 😊
Such great and helpful videos. Please continue with your great work. I can't wait to buy via Amazon your books since... that's definately me! I can't help but feeling guilty for a lot of things most people usually don't feel guilty at all. For example, I met someone and we started seeing each other for a month AS FRIENDS. I've never though about that person as nothing more than a new friend, but then he said to me he wanted to date me but I refused. Now I'm feeling guilty about reject him, guilty about being kind with him for a month thinking I'd made a new friend, guilty about hurting him. The curious thing is I've never given him hopes about nothing more than friendship. But now I feel sad, really sad for him, for his dissapointment, I actually feel his dissapointment and sadness. I don't feel flatered because he pop up the question to me, I feel guilty about rejecting him :( but I don't like him in that way at all. I'm going to work in not being so harsh on myself, thank you Anita (we share names, hehe).
Having been born an Empath, whose Heart was, literally killed by all the narcs and psychos that started to surround me, I might have an answer; wise up to the narcs&psychos that WILL surround you, and understand that helping certain People is counterproductive to Your Emanating Love, and might get you in real dire Straits(I walked around With a piece of charcoal in my breast for 10 years), until my heart was finally resurrected,albeit not quite as an Empath anymore. Just an ordinary heart, this time, but better than no heart. I understand that this "shuffling certain people out of the equation" is Counter to everything an Empath understands, but you HAVE to do it, or risk Your life/lifequality ~S~;)
Listen to your gut feelings - your intuition and say no, if something is not right for you. This is called boundary setting. Face up to and Overcome your fear of loss of love, fear that people won't like you and fear of rejection. Actively create guidelines for how others are to treat you. Accept that disharmony and conflict are a part of life. Saying no can make others angry at not getting their own way (especially bullies and narcissists) but say no anyway to stop the endless cycle of codependent behaviour of giving and neediness and making yourself sick. Conflict can be uncomfortable but have courage.. Be brave. Use your willpower.
I remember Anita mentioning she would do financial related video for those of people who are suffering in terms of financials and not being able to work on what they love. Still waiting for it to come!
I feel like I’m addicted to being a door mat I’ am so glad I found you But this is very hard to undo For me I’m a empath on the top of the spectrum I don’t know I’m Able to undo this I found you and felt so relieved and now I’m realizing how hard this is
Hi, Anita! In Romania it is 7:00 PM hours on the 21st of June 2018 ! I love Dr.Dyer a lot, as I love you, Anita! Buna, Anita ! In Romania este ora 7.00 PM in 21 iunie 2018 ! Il iubesc mult pe Dr.Dyer , asa cum te iubesc pe tine, Anita !
There can be fear of exposing fear while having to say No or stay true to myself--which goes with fear of being embarassed, etc or simply holding on to the old conditioning.
Thank you for this wonderful video, Anita! You always know how to articulate different topics that I may have heard others speak about in the past so that I understand much easier. I have not thought of my being empathic and highly sensitive as reasons I tend to be a doormat. Not sure why I haven’t put it all together before. It makes perfect sense when you talk about it here. My challenge seems to be about attracting bullies and manipulators that have been intent on beating down my defenses until like you said I explode. A simple ‘No’ doesn’t seem to get my message across to these individuals. It takes my exploding and pulling away before they finally get it. It’s like these people know that I do not like fighting and they count on my caving in eventually if they continue to work to beat me down. Other than cutting off all communications with these people (some I have done so with in the past for years at a time), I’m not sure what to do differently. Any suggestions on how I can change what I am projecting so that I don’t attract manipulators into my life? Thank you for all that you do!
I have a question for you, Anita. Many times, on the job, I am a doormat. It seems to me that I am supposed to be a doormat. That I won't find work if I don't want to be a doormat. There are a few cases in which I am respected, but they seem to me to be very few and that in general I have to be a doormat and ignore my needs to the point that I get very stressed. I am told that I have to run run run "because we have to be faster than competition" and that if I slow down to respect myself, I am out. I even know that if I run run run I just do a bad job and what I make is likely to become useless and has to be rebuilt again with an actual loss of time. But this is not understood. What is understood is that we are supposed to run run run and ignore our needs and our health. If this is crazy it doesn't matter because anyway it's what it is. The problem is, it looks like I have to be a doormat if I want to work otherwise I starve. What do you think? How to solve this? Is there a solution? There are people who just get out of this non-life and go to grow their food and live as farmers or something like that. But I'm far from sure that I can do that. Also, to ask myself who I am seems to me a luxury I can't really afford. With love
There are some useful tips on how to assert yourself in work situations in books on the topic - How to Handle Difficult People is one that I find helpful. Find something you feel comfortable doing, like a different strategy, a different response, and practice it in situations that are minor, where there's not all that much at stake, and you'll feel more confident to apply it in tougher situations.
Here is something I just found: Boundaries and risk management are very important parts of living a healthy and positive life. Even professional therapists, psychologists, and social workers draw boundaries to limit exposure to their clients. What makes you think you can handle unlimited exposure to toxic people and survive? You can still be a charitable person who helps and cares about people, without helping those very people destroy your life. Learn how to draw a line and learn how to enforce it - let people know what is and what is not accepted by you. Get selfish and take care of you. Cleanliness and order are good *Feng Shui*, which applies to people even more than it does to the things in your life. You must clear out what you don't want, to make room for what you do want to arrive. The way to send a clear message that you are ready for better people in your life is to kick the rascals to the curb. The intimate space of your personal life should be reserved for amazing, beautiful, radiant souls - good, wholesome and loving people. Your truest family is your chosen family, people with whom you most identify. Make a clear decision on the type of people you want in your life and if they don't make the cut, create some distance. It doesn't matter if it is a close relative, a parent or a childhood friend; no matter the history - when people are toxic, disruptive and dysfunctional with no reasonable signs of recovery, then they need to go. Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking a piece of your heart off; like a wolf chews its leg off to escape a steel trap. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it's necessary to save yourself, and others, from dying inside. Love toxic people from a distance. - Bryant McGill, New Exclusive Content >> SimpleReminders.com
Is not so easy to break family and cultural programmation..🙄 the most important is that you did not break after having childs. Thanks a lot for your testimony.
I am tuning in because you r a light worker who has experienced racial discrimination. I am being heavily discriminated against. When people think it is funny to completely abuse your being because you r of a certain ethnicity and colour and that they r entitled to use you in any way they wish it's upsetting. Fighting this entitled racism in all arenas in all nations is very very upsetting. Ppl label u unfairly and think they can use u for free. Remember that story of the entitled lawyer who condemned u for charging for your services. It's like that on a world scale. It's refusal to recognise the being that you are and entitled use without permission. Only someone who has experienced racism understands this.
People who are super sensitive people and empaths are very susceptible to becoming doormats < am confused .. this is a reminder for me just in case i need to come bak to this video
Anita, by listening to you I found out that my daughter is an empath. I was always worried for her wondering why she is so sensitive. After listening to you I started to read more and found that she is an extreme empath. I understand her now and not worried any more. I learned not to judge her and to help her. Thanks my dear Anita💕💕 I have learned a lot from you beautiful angel.
How is your progress with the daughter.?
So beautiful 🙏❤️
Conventional Spirituality turns you in to a doormatt if you're an Empath. Holy shit. That's exactly right.
and is mostly taught by narcissistic spirtual teachers :)
Part of my spiritual awakening was learning to strengthen my ego so that I could say no and receive. I totally agree!
I've been waiting years for someone to say this: that conventional spiritual wisdom is not appropriate for empaths. So much of HayHouse wisdom (which I've been imbibing since 2007) is very useful for people who are just awakening: things like Serve Others, Be a Good Listener, Get Out of Your Ego, etc. 11 years later, I'm still miserable in part bc I'm an empath. I tried to strategize what I could do to help others - in part because their suffering made me suffer - and I gave and gave until I was used up and acquired an autoimmune condition. I didn't realize that I was being untrue to myself: I was simply trying to 'save the world' and at the same time believing that my value to others was conditional.
I am sure there was a very necessary time period in self-development when selflessness HAD to be the main push, but IN THE NEW ERA if your boundaries are already a little shaky, if you already feel what others are feeling, and if you are getting all your self-esteem from what you DO for others, you have a problem.
Brilliant. Arrived at the same conclusion. Killing your ego is a new age trend that doesn’t apply to anybody
Yes, I've feel the same. I gave too much and now am sick with an autoimmune condition. I'm so drained emotionally from trying to please everyone and it is never enough anyway. I need to take a new path.
I know your comment is 2 years old but I am only seeing this now. Maybe you will read this and I would be interested to know if you feel that you have progressed in your journey over the last 2 years since you read this. I can identify with what you say in this comment which is why I am interested. Cheers,
@@tangz42 did you get the answer.?
Sadly Anita, I am both. Last year when realisation hit rock bottom, I turned away with struggles. Recently, I found you which helped me to accept my new "me"! In the past, I was told to change or be buried alive. I didn't know how to change till I hit profound sadness and disconnected. So Anita, ALL your chats resonates with me at all level, which I listen to albeit with tears, is giving me the strength to find the long lost "me", thank YOU!
OMG, yes I can relate to everything you said. I am a nurse and totally drained and dont know how to continue this way anymore, and get very angry sometimes. I going a spiritual way and read a lot about it, always thinking there is missing a piece, and yes had also spiritual teachers who drained my energy even more, or I felt that way, because I felt even more quilty about not being always peaceful etc. I am happy seeing your Chanel and seeing you embracing all parts of me not only the positive ones. It is a start for me to shift. Thank you
I worked in a nursing home, had a stroke -without long term disability . Instead of relocating me to a sit-down job, they made me resign. Long story short, had to earn a living in home healthcare for a private agency. There was a huge financial stress as the work was very irregular and the agency paid themselves a 50% profit out of every job they sent us to. I had to take care of other people's needs even when I felt like I was slipping away from myself(dying) because I was depleting all my physical resources. Through God's Grace I survived into my retirement, and have been working very diligently to recover my health ever since. Your story inspired me Anita, I can tell you are a beautiful soul and I am SO THANKFUL FOR YOUR LIFE! Sending you love from Quebec, Canada.
This is probably one of the most helpful videos I have come across in a long time. As I prepare for surgery, I am observing all the people I have continuously given to just seem rather apathetic towards it. It's a real eye opener for me. Instead.. they want to push me even harder before I go in!!! There comes a time where one has to get real with themselves and put self love first. Hopefully next time, I won't have to learn this lesson in such a dramatic way.
I can sooooo identify with what you are going through. It can be a shocker when you are in true need and all the people you bent over backwards for tend to disappear. Or try to squeeze the last drop out of you when you feel like you're sinking with your own life crisis. Sorry to hear you need surgery and I hope all goes well for you...you will be in my prayers, if you don't mind. I've had several life experiences where I basically got knocked on my @ because of this type of thing...the universe 'forcing' me to STOP! Notice I said several experiences. Guess I'm a slow learner : )
It took me decades to learn self love - that it didn't make me wrong or selfish or evil - and to put my basic needs first, and doing that would fill me up to be more and give more to the world. Like Anita says....not to be a better doormat but better able to give what and who I am just by being me and feeling light filled and peaceful.
Anita - thank you so very much. Your words bring much peace and wisdom to my battered soul.
The definition of ego is your sense of self and self esteem. A healthy ego is extremely important in maintaining your integrity and creating guidelines and boundaries about how you want and need to be treated. A healthy ego is vital for healthy self love. 💛
I'm from South of Korea. I watch all of your videos almost everyday and you've helped me very much, thank you :)
this video sums up my life. im exhausted
I relate soooo much to this message. The whole ego death spiritual teaching NEVER sat well with me. I am an empath that always do the giving and make myself small. Thank you so much for this message.
Hi Anita,
I am writing from Fontana, CA. I have just discovered in the last year that I may be an empath. I love helping people and I had to realize I wasnt taking care of myself. 9 years ago I had breast cancer and I'm healed from that. In 2016 I was diagnosed with an inoperable Sarcoma. This is when I found you! I don't want or plan on dying anytime soon and I thank God I came across you. Grace and Peace.
Happy birthday, Wayne. I’m grateful for his life well lived...and for finding YOU! Now I, too, have been healed! You are dear to me. I am forever your friend. ⭐️
I agree 100% with you about conventional spiritual teachings. I had the same experience.
Thank you so much for posting. I'm a drained empath and doormat. And I had a particularly difficult day at work, caused by a narcissist who wreaks a lot of unnecessary stress in a different department. The staff from other depts approach me often to vent/unload, because the corporate culture is dominated by a few narcissistic, retaliatory management. I try to balance the frequency of these vents, and advise staff to speak directly with their managers, or if they are uncomfortable, to please speak to HR. That narcissist though attempted to provoke issues for me. Today after work, I swear, I UA-camd for you...even to locate an archived video about this topic. Thank you very kindly for your comforting words and guidance. (Are you sure you are not telepathic?!). I love you and thank you and your books so much for "being there" for me after my Mom's passing in 2014, and then again, after my Father's passing in 2017. Blessings to you, Anita!! ❤️🙏
San Francisco Bay Area, CA. 🙂
I’m an empath and made the mistake of doing exactly what Anita talks about in this video…
I cared too much about others BEFORE taking care of myself which made me a doormat. I let person after person walk all over me and take advantage of my kindness to the point where i wasn’t able to take care of myself when I reached a point when I needed help. My life literally fell apart and I had drained myself so much by helping others that I wasn’t even able to help myself when I needed it most.
Now, I’m the one who needs help and someone to rescue me and NO ONE is there to help me in a time when I need it most. If I had just loved myself enough to take care of myself first, that would have prevented me from ever reaching this point.
I was that person! A doormat ! , I have had sooo many people , because of my soft heart, come to me asking for help, and in my life I made such a small amount of money, but gave it away to those who said they loved me and then have heard little or nothing from them from the time that I did! I gave and gave and gave... but it never seemed to receive, I have had such an intense revelation lately with your teachings ! THANKYOU sooo much Anita ! .❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
I did the same exact thing and would give a person who was in need my last dollar without taking care of myself first. I’ve literally spent my entire life helping others and now that I need help, there’s NO ONE.
A good example of this is that I have my fiancé a SUV (and paid thousands to get it out of impound TWICE). I bought my sister a brand new car. I sold my paid off Lexus super cheap to help a someone lit who needed a vehicle. It’s so ironic that now that I’m the one who needs a car and can’t afford to buy or even finance a cheap one. It’s so messed up and that’s just one example of how caring more about others more than myself really messed up my life 😔
Empaths are their very own selves . You speak of me. Exactly. Thanks. All of mum's family members were doormats to an extent. Even the men. I wish away from the narcs. I love my daughter.
Yes, I relate to what you’ve said. It’s very difficult to be someone new...but it’s a quest. You make me feel empowered. I’ve detached from most people who drain me or who are believing in controlling, judging or critiquing. I attempt to stay away from gossip. From terminal cancer to cancer free. My husband wonders why I don’t have more friends...accused me of being a hermit. I tried to explain I don’t have like many minded people in my life here. He perceives I’m somehow flawed for this. I dedicated my Facebook page to healing, I attempt to help everyone who asks for coaching. I do it through messenger on Facebook. I write. People tell me to write a book. Yet I don’t have any ideas how to accomplish something so big. I’m not special, I just used you (and other authors) as my friends...replacing my company to a higher level. It worked, Anita. If I can figure out how to serve on a bigger platform I will. And everything you’ve said is true and correct for me as well. Everyone with an open mind can have what we have (unless God has a better plan).
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Thank you for your wonderful talk. There is one point I want to flag up around assertiveness. I feel it is very important when saying an honest NO not to defend or justify. So using an excuse like ‘Tiredness’ doesn’t work for me. I did this for years in a difficult relationship and become tired whenever I didn’t want to say yes. It would be much better to use things like “I understand and no” “ I appreciate what you are saying and no” “ I hear you and no. Do you have any other suggestions “ “I am quite frightened to say no to you, please support me” “no. I need your help and support on this”. I hope you receive this comment as I think it is important. Ellie
Hi Anita, from Melbourne Australia. Yes I am empathetic and very prone to being a doormat. After being there for everyone else it was eye opening to me a bit over a year ago to get cancer and have No one prepared to be there for me. All had very good excuses to do nothing or as little as possible. It was a very lonely road and a huge learning curve for me. I’m looking forward to to learning more from you. 😊
Hi Anita! I am in Austin Texas.
Wiki says Wayne Dyer was born May 10 1940... he would have been 78 this year.
Yes i relate to it... I am an empath who has been a doormat for years. And yes it is totally draining!!
I tried to live up to my mother’s standards of self sacrifice and self denial... she’s done it all her life.
She now says “I don’t know how you could put yourself through that! “.
Because she told me to ! I twisted myself into a pretzel trying to be the good daughter she expected me to be.
I don’t want to feel helpless anymore. I want to feel empowered again. You are right that we need to embrace our egos instead of denying and squashing our feelings.
I am learning to love and honor myself and to ask myself what I want - something I hadn’t done in so long I don’t even recognize my own feelings.
Thank you for sharing your message. Thank you for your courage.
Very good stuff, it helped me a lot: ua-cam.com/video/q71APV6LUjI/v-deo.html
Garima Heath I totally relate with this too
Yes Wayne Dyer! He will never be forgotten. Thank you for your videos🙏🌟🙏 hello from Ca
Thanks Anita...exactly what I needed to hear...Such a profound discovery about how not to kill our ego because it dims our light..Amazing!
But how are we supposed to find ourselves again..I have lost track of who I am..how do I find who I truly am?
Love
Exactly the same place, hope you have found some answers
Meditation
Thank you sooooo much to telling us truth! I agree with you 100%! Conventional Spiritual teaching made me a doormat too! Made miserable my life! God bless your courage! You are really wakes me up! Thank you!! Sending you love and appreciation from 🇯🇵 Japan.
I'm catching the replay from South Texas. I learned this - what you're saying today - the hard way! I'm so glad you're talking about this subject! I didn't do well at all as a volunteer at a spiritual center because I took the teachings so to heart that I burned out very badly from too much work and I still felt I was not contributing enough - time, money, energy - but I now see I did way too much because I didn't know how how to handle it. Even when people said, "you can say no" ... I took the teachings wrong some how and I felt if I was going to be there at all I had to GIVE more and more and more. Of course it might have helped if it had a bigger community with more resources - there were true and constant needs for money and work contributions. I still have not been successful in being "in" a spiritual community again. Now I study at home and serve in my own self directed ways - I feel I make a bigger impact now because I am not burned out or broke.
Hi Anita, I'm Inge and live in Holland. I realy, realy love your massages! They are so powerfull. Thank you so much for sharing! I am so greatfull for that! 🙏🧡
Sorry, I mean messages instead of massages. 🤣
Hi Anita, i am from Belgium. I teach people mindfulness. One of the most important lessons i teach people is loving themselves, being assertive (and say no if needed), respecting their boundaries,... I used to be a doormat and learning this to other people helps me to remind myself of loving myself enough...and don't make myself small... (I am still learning myself...) Thank you for your video's. They support what i believe in...
thank you!!! I think you just saved my life!!! I'm in BC Can.:) I'm spiritually exhausted on just about all points you mentioned, conflict avoidance, over giving in many ways including $$, guilty over serving by volunteering, saying yes when you say no etc. etc. I wrote down your suggestions:) but more importantly I'm going to practice is. YOU NAILED IT!!!! wow ...immense gratitude for this! This ia amazing. I cannot thank you enough. xooxoxoxo
Thank You for Clarifying that US Empaths must FOCUS on our SELF LOVE first, and not the other way around.
Watching this in 2024.
It took me many years to finally love myself. Now the next step is not to exploit myself anymore. I am a perfectionist and I give all I have in my job, nothing left for myself. This has to end. Because, yes, my life depends on it.
It is not going to be easy, especially as I work with and for people. But I already said "no" a few days ago. I felt guilty, but was proud of myself at the same time.
Love your message. I'm in NYC. Dr. Dyer was born on May 10th. I'm a medical miracle like yourself. I got rid of my head trash and healed. I also had an NDE, was too young too understand. Now I know that we don't need the outside world to heal ourselves, the outside world are our aides. All lasting healing comes from within.
Greetings from the Netherlands .. it's 18:00 hours on the 21st of June 2018.
Thank you, dear Anita, for this great video and for the eye-opening message in it. Being an empath and not knowing how to protect yourself can be really harmful to you, especially if you follow the ideas of conventional spirituality - I can tell this from my personal experience, too. Being a people's pleaser is very good for others, but definitely not for you, because by focusing on others needs, you start forgetting about your own, you completely lose yourself, your identity. So, empowering your Ego and listening to your Voice is the real Spirituality for Empaths. Thank you for sharing this message and helping all Empaths start the healing process for themselves! Much love and appreciation.
Dear Anita, I can totally relate to what you describe. I also was a doormat, avoiding conflict and wanted to please others all the time. Thank you so much from Paris, France.
My friend Anita 😀... thank you for being that friend to me that sticks around. I am grateful to have been lead to find you and for all you share 💘
This is spot on for me. I avoid conflict too. Thank you so much for this awareness so I can work on it.
Oh wow ! I didn't realize this before! Thank you!!! Greetings from the Netherlands
Hi Anita, thank you for your video. Your video resonates with me, I'm super sensitive, I'm a empath and doormat. Thank u for video, its so empowering. I was diagnosed with breast cancer earlier this year. I realise how I drained myself. I would love to meet you at your events. I hope u have one coming up in london, uk xx
My name is Leelah Saachi, I grew up with those vampyres all around, and later became a therapist - and in my practice through 25 years we explored what heals these patterns on a deep level - and how **we*** also may have tendencies to "vampyrize": like "driving over" others when we MUST have our will. We also learned how to disarm darkness with love - and creative work. I was guided through all these years, and the lessons from Spirit let me see WHY it all had happened. That helped a lot :) The book is also filled with playful synchronicities - had Spirit not served all those to me, I would not have been able to TRUST God in all situations. If you may feel that this is a book for you, google Leelah Saachi - and you will find the Amazonpage with the book and will be able to read reviews.
That comment about conventional spiritual teaching is not helpful. So bang on!!! And it is so true for me.
Thank you so much for this and your other videos! Listening to you is changing the way I live my life and I feel so much encouragement and hope and inspiration to walk the path I have chosen! I found this at the right time. Wishing you all the best. Love and light. From Norway
Just learned about empath. Your video that defined it. Never heard that word.
Your comment today - Very powerful. Thank you.
I'm so grateful that I found you. You remind me on what I knew but surpressed because most of the people in my surrounding are very consumed with materialism and fear based beliefs. They always try to put their views on me and want me to acknoledge the "truth" of it. I'm being rediculed constantly for believing in God and Love and Freedom. Judged for being different. It's so hard to hold on to what I sense to be true and what I wanted to share with everyone. Friendly or uplifting words or a hug because of the beauty that lives in me (as it does in everybody)? No, never. My heart feels so very heavy most of the time.
Anita, I share this video with lots of my clients in grief coaching... it always helps them and has also helped me greatly, cheers!
Dearest Anita, just saw your news letter and tuning in now from Australia! Thank you so much for your work! you have helped me so much to bring awareness to my life and yes I have always been super sensitive and eventually became a doormat and a people pleaser and I hated being "super sensitive person" and thought there was something wrong with me! listening to your video with Dr Norhtrup , and your story specially resonated with me word to word and what you went through prior to getting Cancer in your early days ( when you mentioned that you developed a cyst in your ovaries etc,) . I really took it as a warning sign and really went through listening to all your videos and I can see a big change in my life thanks to you. Your story has helped me so much to put everything in perspective. Btw I love your energy it even comes through when I'm watching your videos it really does! So Grateful for you Anita
thank u anita ji..before listening u i was a doormat..
Let's Empower ourselves more and more and more xxxx
Incredible!! Thank you so much for giving me the courage to be my lovely self...no more saying no to myself🙏🏽
Hi Anita. you have changed my life Angel 😇 thank you in life times. Brisbane Australia. xxxx
Excellent Anita! I find my conventional Christian faith strengthened by this message. I think the proper occassion to confront or compromise arises when we find our hearts aligned with our Makers. I see in Christ his ability to confront where appropriate, empathise when required, challenge when needed and then surrender in love with his life. Anita your insights are phenomenal and reminded me that the 2nd greatest commandment hangs on the need for self love, self preservation and self affirmation. These epiphanies must have undoubtedly created that spontaneous healing for you so that these ideas may take root in the here and now. Awesome stuff! Manoj Nandwani.
Oh my god... I got into a conflict situation because I could not say NO in the very beginning when a person started becoming my mentor without my consent... And then I exploded and then got blamed for being the bad person... I love you Anita... I love you so much for bringing these clarity to us...
Thank you, Anita! Yes, like you, and other sensitive people, I very much have taken to heart these messages to serve more, give more, lose the ego, ..... and my light has diminished, ego squashed; I isolate, and stay small... ~ now I'm learning to receive, recharge, and expand!!! :)
Your words are timely, practical, and precisely helpful! (fear of disappointing others, avoiding conflict, consciously choosing my well-being.) You really are helpful!
Thank you for this empowering message 🙏
I can relate 100% to this being a doormat specially to my inlaws.I have started working on myself and started saying NO where I mean to say NO only.But still long way to go .Hope to make smooth boundaries of mine soon .Thanks for sharing this beautiful video 😊
Such great and helpful videos. Please continue with your great work. I can't wait to buy via Amazon your books since... that's definately me! I can't help but feeling guilty for a lot of things most people usually don't feel guilty at all. For example, I met someone and we started seeing each other for a month AS FRIENDS. I've never though about that person as nothing more than a new friend, but then he said to me he wanted to date me but I refused. Now I'm feeling guilty about reject him, guilty about being kind with him for a month thinking I'd made a new friend, guilty about hurting him. The curious thing is I've never given him hopes about nothing more than friendship. But now I feel sad, really sad for him, for his dissapointment, I actually feel his dissapointment and sadness. I don't feel flatered because he pop up the question to me, I feel guilty about rejecting him :( but I don't like him in that way at all. I'm going to work in not being so harsh on myself, thank you Anita (we share names, hehe).
I’m in St. Gallen, Switzerland ☺️! Lots of love and blessings to you ❤️!
wow thank you, I really needed to hear this today....thank you for the gifts you offered to help us too.
Having been born an Empath, whose Heart was, literally killed by all the narcs and psychos that started to surround me, I might have an answer; wise up to the narcs&psychos that WILL surround you, and understand that helping certain People is counterproductive to Your Emanating Love, and might get you in real dire Straits(I walked around With a piece of charcoal in my breast for 10 years), until my heart was finally resurrected,albeit not quite as an Empath anymore. Just an ordinary heart, this time, but better than no heart. I understand that this "shuffling certain people out of the equation" is Counter to everything an Empath understands, but you HAVE to do it, or risk Your life/lifequality ~S~;)
Listen to your gut feelings - your intuition and say no, if something is not right for you. This is called boundary setting.
Face up to and Overcome your fear of loss of love, fear that people won't like you and fear of rejection. Actively create guidelines for how others are to treat you.
Accept that disharmony and conflict are a part of life. Saying no can make others angry at not getting their own way (especially bullies and narcissists) but say no anyway to stop the endless cycle of codependent behaviour of giving and neediness and making yourself sick. Conflict can be uncomfortable but have courage.. Be brave. Use your willpower.
Jacksonville FL :-)), I drained myself to cancer too, but in my case with the intimate partners.it started reversing when I read your book
Hi Liza, which book are you referring to here? Thanks.
I totally relate to all of this. Thank you so much for this awareness xx
I remember Anita mentioning she would do financial related video for those of people who are suffering in terms of financials and not being able to work on what they love. Still waiting for it to come!
I feel like I’m addicted to being a door mat
I’ am so glad I found you
But this is very hard to undo
For me
I’m a empath on the top of the spectrum
I don’t know I’m
Able to undo this
I found you and felt so relieved and now I’m realizing how hard this is
Best wishes from Germany and thank you for the great video. It`s 1:57 a.m. :D
Btw love your messages they are simple and real... blessings n love
Tuning in from South Korea! Missed you Anita, so good to see you back :)
Watching your videos from Germany. Thank you so much :)
Thank you very much, Anita, from Italy 🌹😘❤️
Hi, Anita! In Romania it is 7:00 PM hours on the 21st of June 2018 ! I love Dr.Dyer a lot, as I love you, Anita! Buna, Anita ! In Romania este ora 7.00 PM in 21 iunie 2018 ! Il iubesc mult pe Dr.Dyer , asa cum te iubesc pe tine, Anita !
Thank you so much for this!!!! I can relate to this so much.
I've become more and more of an exploder. It sucks because users and abusers can make you the villain when you blow up.
Hello Anita, It's a great pleasure to listen to you! Sending love and appreciation. Thank you.
There can be fear of exposing fear while having to say No or stay true to myself--which goes with fear of being embarassed, etc or simply holding on to the old conditioning.
You're an amazing woman full of wisdom. Spot on with everything you're saying IMO.
Hello Anita, thank you so much for sharing this
Love from Denmark❤️
Hello from Williamsburg, OH - Noon. Love your videos!
Wow this video was so helpful to me as an empath 🙏🏻 thank you for sharing all your great knowledge and advises in the situations we often end up in😊
I live this video. Thank you so much!
I also love Hay House!!
You are the pure inspirational light of love. Thank you!
What you said about conventional spirituality is so true. I speak for myself. I'm so glad I attracted this video. Thank you Anita, you made my day.
Thank you for sharing such an important message for all empaths. God Bless!
Thank you for this wonderful video, Anita! You always know how to articulate different topics that I may have heard others speak about in the past so that I understand much easier. I have not thought of my being empathic and highly sensitive as reasons I tend to be a doormat. Not sure why I haven’t put it all together before. It makes perfect sense when you talk about it here. My challenge seems to be about attracting bullies and manipulators that have been intent on beating down my defenses until like you said I explode. A simple ‘No’ doesn’t seem to get my message across to these individuals. It takes my exploding and pulling away before they finally get it. It’s like these people know that I do not like fighting and they count on my caving in eventually if they continue to work to beat me down. Other than cutting off all communications with these people (some I have done so with in the past for years at a time), I’m not sure what to do differently. Any suggestions on how I can change what I am projecting so that I don’t attract manipulators into my life? Thank you for all that you do!
Gratitude and Love from Portugal
Yes I was told my a medium that I was an empath and people used to take advantage of me in a financial way , I’m from the U.K
Wonderful and beautiful message...loved it..thank you for your message ❤️❤️
So grateful for your words of wisdom.
Hello Anita from Prescott AZ...Thanks for sharing your spirit and wisdom.
I have a question for you, Anita.
Many times, on the job, I am a doormat. It seems to me that I am supposed to be a doormat. That I won't find work if I don't want to be a doormat.
There are a few cases in which I am respected, but they seem to me to be very few and that in general I have to be a doormat and ignore my needs to the point that I get very stressed.
I am told that I have to run run run "because we have to be faster than competition" and that if I slow down to respect myself, I am out.
I even know that if I run run run I just do a bad job and what I make is likely to become useless and has to be rebuilt again with an actual loss of time.
But this is not understood. What is understood is that we are supposed to run run run and ignore our needs and our health.
If this is crazy it doesn't matter because anyway it's what it is.
The problem is, it looks like I have to be a doormat if I want to work otherwise I starve.
What do you think? How to solve this? Is there a solution?
There are people who just get out of this non-life and go to grow their food and live as farmers or something like that.
But I'm far from sure that I can do that.
Also, to ask myself who I am seems to me a luxury I can't really afford.
With love
There are some useful tips on how to assert yourself in work situations in books on the topic - How to Handle Difficult People is one that I find helpful. Find something you feel comfortable doing, like a different strategy, a different response, and practice it in situations that are minor, where there's not all that much at stake, and you'll feel more confident to apply it in tougher situations.
Here is something I just found:
Boundaries and risk management are very important parts of living a healthy and positive life. Even professional therapists, psychologists, and social workers draw boundaries to limit exposure to their clients. What makes you think you can handle unlimited exposure to toxic people and survive? You can still be a charitable person who helps and cares about people, without helping those very people destroy your life. Learn how to draw a line and learn how to enforce it - let people know what is and what is not accepted by you. Get selfish and take care of you. Cleanliness and order are good *Feng Shui*, which applies to people even more than it does to the things in your life. You must clear out what you don't want, to make room for what you do want to arrive. The way to send a clear message that you are ready for better people in your life is to kick the rascals to the curb. The intimate space of your personal life should be reserved for amazing, beautiful, radiant souls - good, wholesome and loving people. Your truest family is your chosen family, people with whom you most identify. Make a clear decision on the type of people you want in your life and if they don't make the cut, create some distance. It doesn't matter if it is a close relative, a parent or a childhood friend; no matter the history - when people are toxic, disruptive and dysfunctional with no reasonable signs of recovery, then they need to go. Escaping a toxic relationship can feel like breaking a piece of your heart off; like a wolf chews its leg off to escape a steel trap. Leaving is never easy, but sometimes it's necessary to save yourself, and others, from dying inside. Love toxic people from a distance. - Bryant McGill, New Exclusive Content >> SimpleReminders.com
Thanks Anita! From Ribeirão Preto, Brasil.
Love, love, love this!! Thank you! You're a true blessing to this world!
Is not so easy to break family and cultural programmation..🙄 the most important is that you did not break after having childs. Thanks a lot for your testimony.
Thank you Wayne...……..Anita, you are a tremendous blessing...…………...xxx
You're such a gentle, precious and lovable soul, blessings to you and hope your path will get you to Spain someday :) XOXO
Thank you Anita - watching from Australia and I really needed this right now. :-)
Thank you so much for this, Anita!
I am tuning in because you r a light worker who has experienced racial discrimination. I am being heavily discriminated against. When people think it is funny to completely abuse your being because you r of a certain ethnicity and colour and that they r entitled to use you in any way they wish it's upsetting. Fighting this entitled racism in all arenas in all nations is very very upsetting. Ppl label u unfairly and think they can use u for free. Remember that story of the entitled lawyer who condemned u for charging for your services. It's like that on a world scale. It's refusal to recognise the being that you are and entitled use without permission. Only someone who has experienced racism understands this.
Bless you! Thank you for sharing your perspective from the big view.
People who are super sensitive people and empaths are very susceptible to becoming doormats < am confused
.. this is a reminder for me just in case i need to come bak to this video
long time no see!!!
how glad to see you again!!!!!!
from south korea!
first, leaving comment
and then let's watch!!