@CasualDude I feel like they're both being insecure here. She said she wouldn't feel ok with Ethan comparing her with someone else, potentially hotter than her.
Rose: Really? This person is "a cunt" because they don't find Hila attractive? Surely it's just about bad taste and not about being a bad person. Or how are you thinking here?
@@respectfulgamer7232 It's about feeling the necessity to say it, not about feeling it, you goof.. It's common decency to not push people down, regardless if the person talked about is in the conversation or not.
@@sl33pybunny if you're implying that a simple conversation with anyone else of the opposite gender than your partner, i urge you to never be in a relationship. Cause you sound like a very stupid, jealous and annoying person to be with...
@@TheIndestructible93 lmao you got that from my comment? How about you don't put assumptions in my mouth- as it makes an ASS out of U and ME. Dumb ass.
Ethans eyebrows go sicko mode when Hila is yelling at him. I’ve never seen him get defensive like that, lol he looks like a kid getting yelled at by his parents
Hila’s not worried about Ethan cheating. She’s just upset over the principle. They share the same core fundamental beliefs and agree on so much. Hila feels like checking the profile is crossing a line and she’s probably hurt that Ethan is acting so casual about it. And she’s probably shocked that they disagree about something she feels strongly about.
Of course that’s why she’s upset. But I think it’s only human to be curious, if you get a confidence boost from seeing attractive people saying they like you, big deal. It doesn’t mean your talking to them, engaging with them, or being unfaithful in anyway.
@@EveryCrazyDay Yeah but she probably gets messages all the time from dudes but she ignores them and when ur partner sets a boundary you respect it always.
@@queenmonique1481 I mean I guess that’s for them to sort out where they’re boundaries are. And seems like they have a disagreement about what’s acceptable. Just because Hila’s opinion is more conservative doesn’t mean Ethan has to automatically follow it. They should have their own conversation probably not in front of a camera. I can see both of their perspectives.
Yeah but I agree with Ethan on this one !!!! They are just to insecure if they feel that way, it's just the curiosity of wanting to know what that person looks like. Litteraly that's it, because they took the time to complement you so you're intrigued. But the theirs no end goal just wondering what they look like. The most Ethan can do if a smoking hot girl complements him is feel a boost of confidence way different from window shopping but they won't understand it 😂
Her argument is bullshit anyways she needs to chill out lmao people are sexual beings. He's not aloud to find other people attractive? Girls do the same shit. Thinking someone is attractive while in a relationship isn't cheating even remotely.
@@blackcraft3465 she just doesn't understand the curiosity of looking. why would he look if there's no intent on pursuing. But I don't think she is insecure like him, and he likes validation and would want to know what kind of person finds him attractive.
Sare Greenwood but the curiosity shouldn’t be there in a healthy relationship. Why should Ethan be checking out what kinda chicks he could “theoretically pull” when he’s happily married. What does it matter to him? I’m not up Ethan. Everyone would be at least a little tempted to click, but you shouldn’t entertain that fantasy.
There's no such thing as incel level ugly. Lots of incels get comments about how they aren't even that ugly but people just can't stand their views or bad social skills. Take Eliot Roger for instance.
I don't understand this assumption that a person is "shopping" by looking at another profile. I like men, but social media makes me nosy and curious. If some lady wrote a suggestive e-mail to a coworker, I'd be the first to say, "Let's find this person" and believe me, it wouldn't be said out of romantic interest.
@@b-six-twelve “if some crazy lady wrote a letter to a coworker” right there. There’s the difference. They’re are talking about if someone messaged YOU, not your friend. If you click on the profile of someone who has interest in YOU, while being in a committed relationship, and you are defacto showing interest in THEM!! Like viewing your options on a menu when you’ve already had dinner AND desert; it’s gross!!
That makes sense to me that she feels that way, but yea I personally am on Ethan’s side because in my opinion this isn’t a case of window shopping. I think liking naked pics of girls or watching porn is actually worse than just seeing a person’s face that’s interested in you. Because the way I see it, you want to see how attractive that person is as purely an ego boost to yourself. If the person that’s into you is attractive, it’s going to make you feel like an attractive person. Now if you’re just looking at attractive people that don’t know you exist and are jerking off to them, that’s actually more like window shopping in reality. Just sayin!
@@Malally2 But what if just wanna see if they're a goofy person of any sort and develop a joke about them in relation to you or your friend. Like say "someone was fishing for me*pulls out phone and shows image of the person fishing* but they weren't very good" which is an example of something funny. Especially in a personal sense. Also I think Ethan means it when he says he wants to see who sent the letter, I like to literally see people online if they message me for any reason, to conceptualize of them as a person.
I think what Ethan is thinking and trying to say with “we’re married” is that he thinks their relationship is beyond things like attraction and looks. I think he means that he views Hila as more than a lover and like a life partner. So in his mind, looking at something like an ig profile wouldn’t even mean anything to him beyond his curiosity because that’s how connected and close he feels to Hila. That he’s so connected to her that he can’t even think about looking at someone else in that way. But that’s just what I think lol
Even in a non-married relationship it would be okay to look. My guess is that she feels that by just looking he's gonna get an incentive to go farther. Idk, feeld weird she doesn't want him looking yet she acts fine with all the Belle Delphine stuff. Though the difference there is that Belle wouldn't be all over him so I guess that makes Hila feel safe. But given hid husband's drooling over Belle the same could happen with another.
Yeah I was thinking the same, I'm genuinely shocked that everyone from the podcast disagrees with Ethan because I think the same way. Hila asked what good does it do, the only good it does is scratches your curiosity and nothing more or less. I'd be offended if my wife would even ask me or tell me it's wrong because that would be questioning if I'm being faithful to them.
No you can tell how he speaks he’s being cheeky he definitely is attracted to other women. ask any guy. But you’re right about the life partner thing and not actually wanting to do anything , but thoughts and fantasies never leave
I understand both sides of this heavily. As a naturally curious person (about everything) I completelyyy see where he's coming from. HOWEVER, part of being a good partner is not doing things that make your spouse uncomfortable. She has every right to say "I don't like this" and it has to be respected.
@@zaciorfida-costanzo706 it’s not that he said anything wrong, he’s just touching sensitive topics that could get him in some deep shit. Idk I just stopped watching Ethan after about a year into the podcast because his opinions are garbage
Emotional Distress, honestly I kinda agree. There's been a lot of times when watching the podcast where there are some really dumb and shitty opinions thrown around, not even just from Ethan. A lot of the time it can also be from others in the group. What triggers me most is when something new is shown to them and the first thing they do is just shit on the idea and not even give it a chance to try and understand it first. But I still like them a lot so I still watch the podcasts.
@@emotionaldistress This comment makes no sense. You stopped watching Ethan but this is an Ethan video and you are commenting? So you do watch Ethan. No need to be a closet fan
YES!!! Hila knows him better than us. His constant drooling and obsession over Belle is gross. Hes thirsty as fuck and it shows. He should be thanking his lucky stars he got someone like Hila.
Ethan really missed the point when he tried to highlight Dan responding to the letter writer as if it were the same as checking her profile to see what she looks like. Responding to her email was treating her like a human being - oogling her Instagram is treating her like an opportunity. Dan did the right thing.
@Blake Babushka :3 I am certain Hila had a more in depth conversation with him later about it. They seem to have a very healthy relationship with good communication. No doubt he would take the time to listen to her.
Why did nobody else starts screaming laughing at eight minutes eight seconds when The soundboard played Hillas voice saying “you’re on the wrong street cuz” with a gun shot. 💀😂😂😂
@@joyfully1872 that's stereotypical. Women don't date solely for looks and money. An uglier, non-rich, guy is less likely to cheat and more likely to actually listen and care.
@@joyfully1872 well if I'm being honest she just tells me I'm funny but she says I'm handsome and I'm like "at least one of us thinks so thank God it's you haha"
I agree with Hila. Man or woman, if someone expresses interest in you and you’re married, going and perusing their Instagram is playing with fire. Because what if you find them really hot, and then you can’t stop thinking about them? Then You guys get into a big fight over something else, and all the sudden it becomes an option.
I think most everyone has had a bf/gf who has gotten approached on social media. I don't think it's wrong to read the message or look at the profile. What IS fucked up is when you start to message the person back and start a conversation, that's where you crossed the line into cheating, that's not ok at all.
@@abcdeoapdj except it's only weird because they're MAKING it weird. Like itd be suspect as hell if dan actually looked, after him saying this about it. Because now we know that he considers that unfaithful, so if he DID do it, he had bad intentions.
Totally agree, I really not sure why Hila and Dan took that stance as hard as they did. It would be another thing if you reply or start flirting back or something. But just scrolling through a profile?
@@juantheoriginal1 I think they were against him because Hila is clearly sensitive, and they didn't want to complicate the situation. They knew Ethan could take the L, and Hila could not.
I agree, but Ethan definitely wasn’t looking to put a face on her. He was looking to see if she was attractive. That’s wrong and would cause your view of the letter to change based off the generalizations you would make about her looks.
I can see BOTH points. There’s no clear right answer Ethan is speaking from an existential perspective, saying that just because he sees a hot girl who wants him, he’s in charge of his own decisions and isn’t going to do anything. From Hila’s perspective, she’s feeling insecure that her partner would check out attractive girls with no intention of cheating on them, because the possibility of him doing it exists. Both are valid points and make sense.
Yeah this is my view. In the case of the video, I would 100% side with Ethan. Not because I think Hila is wrong, but that she's being so dismissive of what he's saying (and surely in a trusting relationship you should believe your partner when they say it's curiosity for curiosity's sake!). Her feelings about it are completely justifiable, but it's patronising and rude to assert that Ethan isn't capable of distinguishing ill intent from innocent curiosity, that he isn't capable of being curious without also having thoughts of being unfaithful.
In other words, Hila is being possessive and insecure and irrationally untrusting of their relationship when there is clearly no reason no motive to think Ethan would betray her for some random hussy. She is not confident in her own value as a woman and the authenticity of the relationship they have built together and doubts his honesty and the sincerity and devotion of his love for her, and is scared of even the most remote of possibilities that comes with the fact that Ethan is an independent thinking human being who has free choice and free thought and does not necessarily have to pick Hila. She should respect that he DID pick Hila, and believe he did so for a reason, and did so because it is his choice and it is how he likes it. It's an inner problem with her, not a problem with Ethan's mundane ordinary behavior of casually wanting to see who's talking to him. Hila thinks so lowly of Ethan to suspect that he would go down a dark stupid path that would betray everything he's ever said or ever done thus far in investing in their partnership to start over with some high risk fling with a completely unknown person. Hila is showing disrespect and lack of belief in Ethan and his ability to stay true to his principles.
@@cosmosofinfinity It's not JUST a lack of belief, you also have to understand the culture we live in. One of fear. People are CONSTANTLY afraid of lots of stupid shit. Is this going to happen, is that going to happen, I don't want this to happen. She probably sees hot girls and is a bit insecure because she hears other stories of guys cheating. A culture of fear. It makes her think it could happen to her, which I guess it could, but she sees that aspect of the relationship as a statistic rather than something personal. Hila not wanting Ethan to talk to other girls doesn't reveal anything negatively about her, it's just an insecurity that comes from the culture she lives in.
It IS a problem if your partner says it's a problem. It's not a problem if you can both agree. I also think it is important to look at it from the other side of how you would feel if your partner was looking at pictures of people who expressed interest in them.
Yea if my partner were that insecure and absurd, it would definitely be a problem for me. But that doesnt matter to you does it, the woman should always get her way? Simps.
There is compromise in relationships but if the partner is so insecure that someone can’t look at a picture it becomes unreasonable. Something just as important in a relationship is trust and if you can’t trust a partner there isn’t much else to say
And Hila, like most women, needs to learn to be less entitled sometimes. Looking and being able to appreciate when another is objectively attractive doesn’t make them less faithful, quite the contrary. Denying the beauty of a stranger proves that you are just self-conscious about the temptation whereas admitting that a stranger is beautiful while simultaneously remaining loyal is the real test.
@@stephaniestephanie3090 Ethan should only care about his wife finding him attractive and not crave to see other woman who find him attractive. The only woman he should be wanting to see should be hila. Period.
@@mjbgjkhjjvghj502 Wow, you are ignorant, aren’t ya? Him being curious has nothing to do with him wanting to see any attractive woman. If a gay dude said Ethan was hot, he’d check out the guy’s Instagram. It’s called curiosity and it’s human nature.
Can I ask how these conversations come about? Yes, you can say that you would like to set out some boundaries to see what you and your partner are fine with; however, how do you know the questions to ask? What do you ask to learn somebodies boundaries? Am I supposed to know all of my boundaries and be able to list them with ease?
Promxy Mc some boundaries are obvious for most people and then there are some things that you have never even thought about, for example what’s happening with Ethan and Hila in this video, you should always set up boundaries from the beginning of the relationship but most of the boundaries you set throughout the relationship, but the most important this is to listen to each other and try to understand where the other person is coming from which seems to be the issue with Ethan and Hila in this case, but Ethan gave up at the end
Martin N. You are very right about the porn thing lmao, some people don’t have a issue with it and some consider it cheating, in my opinion if a had a man I wouldn’t want him to watch porn, it would make me insecure and sad
Unholyarrowxx also it’s because we all want to become more aware of how we are perceived by others. Ethan wants to understand what kind of girl is interested. Also maybe he wants to feel complimented by being further flattered if it’s someone who is, conceivably, attractive.
@@lorinvandusen4 you shouldn't want to feel complimented. If your in a relationship you get that attention from your other, no curiosity should exist because you shouldn't consider what else you could get
I’m such a nosy person I would 100% look just to see and then laugh about it with my bf. But I get where hila is coming from. And I always believe cheating is whatever you and your partner have decided it is. Like some people think p*rn is cheating and some don’t so it’s just what ever you guys decide.
Oh yeah you're right. I'm on Ethan's side, I would be curious and look (whoever the person might be... woman,man,furry...) And also wouldn't mind my partner doing this. But yeah if Hila has a problem with it than he should respect it
As you said, looking at the profile and laugh about it with your partner. Hila didn't even know that Ethan does or would check the profile. In fact, I believe this is not exactly window shopping, just by guessing based on Ethan's personality, I would guess this is an ego thing. He maybe wants to see if beautiful girls are interested in him, and maybe that boosts his self esteem. Either way, I think it is not a healthy thing to lean towards.
Yes, and I think Hila is not being too sensitive here, I get her pov completely, even though I'd be curious and check too (because I'm insecure haha). However, there are lines, such as your partner not allowing you to have opposite sex friends or even talking to members of the opposite sex, and just getting rid of half of my friends is a dealbreaker for me and is a sign of a controlling partner if you've never actually pursued anyone or explicitly cheated.
But that's not what it is. He checked a message directed to DAN. He just wants to see what kind of person wrote the letter. People need to stop mind reading.
McJive We know that. The whole conversation led to a hypothetical of what Ethan would do if that happened to him. We are saying we understand Ethan’s perspective.
@@sheridan7475 You're all assuming you understand his perspective. What he's saying is that he's just curious. In other words, he wants to see if there's anything interesting about the person. Why is that so hard for so many people to grasp? This whole thing is so frustrating lol
Lol I used to watch h3 back a while ago and now I’ve been watching frenemies ... is AB the same as one of these guys or is he different lol don’t make fun of me
@@roxxyfoxify sorry but no he’s not. And people who agree allow their subconscious to fixate on other people, which can lead to infidelity. It’s toxic to not get rid of other peoples messages whom show romantic or sexual interest
@@Malally2 Wait, because maybe I'm not understanding the situation fully. Because the way I see it, if someone were to dm me and they were hitting on me (while in a relationship), I would check their profile to see who the fuck is dming me. Not because I'm checking them out, but more just for curiosity's sake. But I do this for everyone that sends me a dm, regardless of what it contains. I'll click on their profile, scroll for like 2 seconds, and will leave. That would be the end of that interaction. I don't think that's me window shopping or considering cheating.
Happy Hila and the boys stood their ground. Why check and be curious if you’re in a happy relationship? Looking at their photo can only lead to 1- Ego boost 2- Keeping your options open 3- Make ur significant other insecure 4- Leading it to something that could of been avoided to begin with
I don’t think it has anything to do with that. As Ethan said, he’d even look at the profile if it was a gay dude saying he found him attractive. I would do the same. It’s just about putting a face to a name. I understand what Hila was saying but i can completely relate to how Ethan doesn’t see why it’s such a big deal. It’s not even like it’s a conscious decision to look at the profile. It’s just how my brain works. I’d just want to see what they looked like
Doesn't that speak of how little trust she has towards Ethan? I get it if it's a new relationship but they've been together for a decade and are married, you gotta have some trust in your significant other
5- (especially if they are cute) you love your partner so much that you’re happy to sacrifice all the potential things you might have with others for it. It boosts your value and their value, in a sense. If someone finds you cute it doesn’t mean you’d have a better relationship at all! You don’t know them. It’s really weird to compare.
Okay, hear me out. When you are in a relationship with someone, other people who are attractive don't stop being attractive, BUT you make a choice. You cannot control your mind, but you chose how to act. As a man in a happy relationship, you chose not to flirt with others. As a woman in a happy relationship, you chose not to look at another guy. As a person in a happy relationship, you chose not to check other people's instagram after they expressed an interest in you.
I’d check and let my partner check. If we have the same idea of what this means. To me, it’s just attaching some basic perception of what kind of a person they are to the message. And getting a better idea of what this is
I will never cheat but i would go to war with my girlfriend if she got mad at me for looking up who sent me a message. Ofcourse i will look up who sent me a message. You have no right to get mad at me and you should also not get insecure when i click on a link in a email that's complimenting me.
I don’t see how simply looking at someone’s ig constitutes being unfaithful. If someone finds you attractive and they’re attractive themselves, it can sometimes be nice to have that confidence boost, that attractive people find you attractive. It doesn’t mean you’re gonna start flirting with them and cheating on your partner.
Love seeing Hila speak up here. I completely agree that if someone expresses romantic/sexual interest and you start looking at their insta, it’s basically like checking out their tinder profile.
Ethan: "Guys, help me out here." Dan: "Idk, I was flattered and just moved on." Zach: "If you're in a committed relationship, why window shop?" Ian: "I mean, you wouldn't look at their profile if they were just some goofy guy right?" Ethan: "You... hate me. Don't you?"
I get Hilas point curiosity can lead to more, you can go in with no intention of cheating but noticing something you like or something you find cool it can stay on your mind and eventually you could reach out even just in a friendly way and that can change. Cheaters dont always know they're gonna cheat but it happens. So I see why curiosity is a problem for her.
Honestly, it's just checking a profile. I wouldn't mind if my S.O did that long as he doesn't make a move or anything. We're free to find other people attractive, that's just human. I don't see this as cheating :/ but I definitely understand where Hila is coming from, we just have different principles.
If you were with your girlfriend and another girl started talking to you and saying how they found you attractive I don't think you would be looking at her the same as you would as someone holding a normal conversation. It's about the context, I doubt he would look at peoples instagram if they sent a normal letter.
Agreed. However, Hila is there as his significant other and I’m sure compliments him all the time and that should be enough. That being said, I’d be curious wanting to know who emailed me that just purely out of curiosity
why seek out validation from someone other than your significant other? the other person would feel like theyre not doing something right. i would stop if my s/o told me they didnt like it. its out of respect for their feelings.
That letter is super eloquently written, well thought out, and contains a lot of important information I didn't know before. I think it was cool of Dan to leave out the end part to keep it focused on the real issue. Too bad that backfired spectacularly lol
I think highlighted text would be better going forward. Now that I know he’s editing content, I have to question the integrity of everything. I agree tho, the intention was good... and the backfire, even better lol
There's insecurity in everyone. Also just because she has certain expectations of a relationship, that doesn't mean she's insecure in her relationship.
@@Shewas-kathybates I didn't really mean insecure in her relationship, it seems they're going very strong, but she is a new mom so that might bring insecurities in her body or how sexy she feels. For Ethan too, I'm talking just about insecurity in his looks. Like you wrote that's normal.
Not wanting to be compared doesn’t make you insecure. It’s just frustrating as a woman to constantly be brought down to our physical looks and be compared.
It's so frustrating how they keep asking "what's the end goal?". There is no end goal, humans are curious by nature, we often want to know something just for the sake of it.
hey_you yes, but why are we curious? It would be very naive to think there’s no underlying reason. Not that what he did is wrong, but she’s got a point.
@Kawi curiosity and asking questions serve to fulfill what we perceive as "holes" or "pits" in our understanding of our lives and the world around us. There is no such thing as simply wanting to know something for "the sake of knowing". In this context, I think Ethan bases how valid/good the compliment is on the person's looks. By showing interest (or "CuRioSIty) in what the person looks like, Ethan is showing that he cares enough to see how valid/notable the complement is. This is a problem to hila because she reasons that Ethan should only need her validation and no one else's; I find myself agreeing with her.
Satan Lucifer the fact that people have any other opinion on the matter is actually kinda revolting... why would you need someone else’s validation while your in a relationship. Your in the relationship in the first place to validate each other not seek attraction from other people just for the sake of having people think your attractive. It’s a really dumb and self centered way of thinking about relationships. Kinda ruins the point of being with someone in the first place 😂 “oh yea let me just check this girl out on Instagram to see how hot she is because she called me cute” the only point in doing that would be to entice unfaithful thoughts and or validate yourself in a way you feel your significant other can’t and both of those are unhealthy in a relationship
@@niyahubbard5377 that’s racist but no one says stuff when people joke that white people don’t season food or how Asians love rice. Y’all choose your fave race and it shows
Xixx Xxix it’s completely natural to be jealous within a relationship, it can 100% mean that you’re insecure about your partner but i would personally say that most of the time it’s one person fearing that they’ll lose the other.
I've never heard the term "window shopping," before but it's going to stick with me. This was a really good segment. I'll always be faithful, but this was a good reminder off how important it is.
I do not agree with Ethan’s premise of this at all, but I have a lot of respect for his honesty to Hila about it. It speaks more about his devotion and true love to her than if he were to walk around eggshells when this conversation came up. It’s better to speak your truth and then work on it from there.
@@JorMFge not about control it's disrespectful when you have a loving partner and you choose to be "curious" just shows you need more and she can't be enough. Glad Hila stood up for herself but that would've ate me up inside :( it's all about intentions
@@angryerika my problem with everyone justifying hila is that people are adding assumptions to the action. Ethan never said she wasn't good enough and by merely looking at an Instagram post and assuming that just sounds like a lack of trust. Ethan's intentions are not bad at all because it's coming from a place of curiosity not a place of wanting to be with someone else. That's the difference. Hila’s only argument for this was that it's a step towards the wrong direction and she's just assuming all these things because she's insecure of losing Ethan. If she trusted him she wouldn't care about him being genuinely curious and would be interested too.
@@samlee5499 oh I agree, of course commenters always take everything too far. It’s just a disagreement if anything not an actual serious issue. I don’t really think Hila is having trust issues, it’s just a matter of the principle and having respect for your s/o. She is secure and confident enough to never have to suspect anything but I think it is just unsettling to know that he thinks that way. Also, personally I just think that Ethan has so many flaws that probably come from his lack of confidence, and that’s why he has this attitude and is debating this, which is something he needs to work on as an individual. Nothing more than that, I would never think that he had seriously bad intentions, but the act itself is odd and uncomfortable for Hila and I’m sure most s/os.
I really insist that this is simply a matter of respect, and it’s difficult to debate this on the internet because of how fueled it is by morality and principle, but really that’s all it is.
I appreciate Ethans honesty here. Yeah it wasn’t handled in the best way, but he wasn’t being shady. He didn’t lie or gloss over it. He owned that he looked at her profile and found her pretty. Honestly I do not think there’s anything wrong with innocent curiosity. Looking at someone’s profile, especially when you do not message the person after, is not cheating or even a gateway to it. Now if he wrote the girl, that would be different. I’m amazed to see such various opinions in the comments.
That’s fair! I think the part that I would have a problem with would be looking with the intention to see how attractive they are. If you’re truly just looking to put a face to the person then that’s okay
I wish they took this letter a little more seriously - the girl took time out of her day to educate them and I wish they took more away from her letter than what she looks like. Also I’m soo with Hila - Curiosity killed the cat.
Thats what annoys me about them I have seen it a ton before where they have a chance to interact with their fans and then ignore em and go on immature rants that popped up outta nowhere and its usually always ethan that gets everyone sidetracked but nobody seems to care to go back to the main point!!! Im offended for them but other people might not see anything wrong...
@@TeawitG cause there is so much more about the world history than that. What do you want? An hour long podcast about chicken? Not all of us are from America.
the fact that he argued for half an hour & got annoyed at no one agreeing with him is.. strange. Don’t understand why it’s SO hard to validate your wife’s feelings & not look at other girls’ instagrams
She's def in the wrong and these guys were almost at the point of gaslighting ethan. In this case, literally everyone was crazy which is why etham kept asking cuz he was so appalled
@@theanonymoustalk no one was gaslighting him. They were just not agreeing with him. Just because no one agrees with you doesn’t mean you’re being gaslighted. There’s no reason for ethan to ask a million times when everyone already said NO & that they were on hila’s side..
@@jennaxm no I worded that wrong, I meant to say ethan thought they were gaslighting him because of their girlfriends at the time or just being live on the podcast. I personally think they were gaslighting too but anyway that's why I think ethan kept pushing. Not good that he did, but its also not a huge issue. He was visibily appalled thst no one agreed with him, and when something u accept as reality is questioned u too would probably asked over and over again to get confirmation thst literally no one agrees
Im with Ethan here, its really ego-boosting when someone attractive shows interest in you, so its more about feeling good about yourself than a step in the wrong direction
Shouldn't it be enough that the person you're with thinks you're attractive? If you need to feel good with other people liking you instead of your bf/gf, you probably need to find someone else.
Not having confidence in your partner’s ability to resist the temptation of a stranger is also very disrespectful. Especially, when those “temptations” aren’t even temptations and come from a place of sheer curiosity.
I think its only disrespectful if they respond to the message, save the message, or follow the instagram. Just looking is not a big deal, but if your partner is openly uncomfortable with it, it shouldn't be a big deal to NOT look.
@@stephaniestephanie3090 its disrespectful to crave to look at another woman other than your wife. Why are you wanting to look at other woman? Just cus they are interested? Thats disgusting
@@SykeeNot when you get married thats different. You marry someone because you care about eachother that includes eatchothers emotions. In order to establish a healthy relationship, you respect eatchothers boundaries, emotions and try to meet eye to eye. You are an individual in a relationship. But its not just a relationship. Its a marriage meaning what you do or say will effect your partner whether its in a good or bad way or even a neutral way. No it doesnt mean you should be walking on egg shells. But when a partener is verbalizing their uncomfortablilty towards an issue. As a spouse you should respect that and avoid causing harm to your spouse
I saw it more as “still got it.” Like it goes without saying, hopefully, that the person you’re in a relationship with finds you attractive. When a stranger finds you attractive, it feels a little different since there’s no doubt in your mind they’re being honest since they don’t know you. It’s a different kind of ego boost, like when your parents call you attractive VS a stranger at a bar. Then again, I’m only 20, have only been in 1 long term relationship and a toxic one at that, so I may be missing the experience of having your partner validate you. But I never thought it was “could I get someone more attractive” and more “this is how people really see me.”
@@Drumcomedy what are you on you’re probably a white cis male. there’s so much going on right now have you seen how many hate crimes that are directed towards asians. you’re probably privileged so it doesn’t affect you
I understand where they're coming from, i think hila's perspective is that an infedility can be easily avoided by just not showing any form of interest to begin with in this kind of situation. But in ethan's case where hes in a committed relationship, even if he checked someone out it wouldn't matter bc he's devoted anyways. If someones appearance can cause a possible act of infidelity, then i don't think a sense of commitment is present in the rs
then you don't understand men. the idea that we all think we are married to the most beautiful woman on the planet is naive and childish. we find other women more attractive. deal with it. it doesn't mean we suddenly want to leave our spouses. We have to say some stupid shit to women sometimes because their insanely over inflated vanity is the cause of most of these problems
I don't understand why they are so against looking. I'd definitely look out of curiosity and just to see what kind of person was attracted to me. It's more of an ego thing than for cheating or wanting to start a relationship.
@ are you fucking kidding me? There's nothing about being jealous it's about being treated less than, you want to be that person's number one, you don't want to feel that your second compared to anybody else when you're in a relationship. And if you're going to sit there and undermine people for their feelings indicating that they're insecure and that your Superior, then you should probably spend your time working on yourself instead of opening your fat mouth and being patronizing and condescending towards everybody else.
@@itsallgoodbaybe4342 you have a huge issue if you are worried about multiple females having an attraction towards you instead of one particular special one that you can actually go somewhere with with in life. That kind of behavior is only acceptable if you're single.
@@colleenharrison1638 But you do are number one if they just look to see if they attract pretty people and stay with you without ever thinking anymore about it. Knowing a beautiful person can find us attractive is a compliment in itself, it reflect our own beauty. Like if somebody only got ugly or nasty people going over them, or no people at all, maybe they wouldnt feel so good about themselves or as attractive as they could be. But above all that, human instinct will make us look at anything attractive, be it a plant an object or any other human.
Ethan isn't a conventionally attractive guy, which is something Hila can't relate to. Confidence boosts are worth their weight in gold for unattractive people
Ivan Galt also, from the mind of someone who does not believe they are conventionally attractive, Hila could be luck. You don’t have to compare when looking at other people, it could be like “damn, this other attractive person is attracted to me, maybe I got somethin goin on here”. You can cherish what you got lucky with and never let it go, but if you get the boost and start acting more confident, it could benefit your relationship even more!
It doesn’t even have to have anything to do with boosting confidence. Ethan already has Hila who is pretty good looking herself. I view myself as attractive and I have a boyfriend, but I personally would still look just because I’m nosy af. I already look at people’s pages all the time for making stupid comments, or comments that I really like. Depending on my boredom I could even end up on someone’s best friend’s brother’s stepmom’s sister’s page on Instagram too 😂. Some people are just nosy/curious and bored.
I get where Hila's coming from. If a girl walks up to you and hits on you, you didn't do anything in that situation. But if they tell your their insta and then you search for it, you are being active in that situation, regardless of intent. It's not about the relationship you have or curiosity. It's just a little uncomfortable
In my opinion the difference is that in one situation you have already seen the person and have an idea of who they are and in the other you just have their words and a username.
William Hickman yea. I mean my girlfriend gets messages from dudes on instagram and facebook, she’s always checking it out. NOT checking it out like ogling over another person, but checking it out like “is this someone I know?” Or “did I go to school with this person?” If someone is actively checking an account of someone they know, that’s uncomfortable. But it’s to gather some information, it’s pure curiosity. We look at those messages all the time and if a guy one day hits on her in the street and we are both familiar that we’ve seen him before, well I think i’d be happy to know that beforehand
on the other hand if someone sent you an email saying they hate you, there might be a slight curiosity of who said it and whose perspective its from. Thats why you might want to see who it is from. But indulging in that curiosity might be a bad decision for opening the gate to a grass is always greener thoughts.
I understand what Ethan is saying yeah curiosity is a thing but like Hila said it’s a matter of respect and if that’s the case curiosity killed the cat bro
People act like being in a relationship means pretending like there are no other attractive people in the planet...That makes things worse instead of better.
Everyone has different opinions on what is disrespectful if you dnt find looking at other people disrespectful then find someone who believes the same, let people be however they want to be.
@@bloo- That doesn't make any sense. We don't live in an isolated pod, how can you create a rule that says "looking at other people is disrespectful"? A healthy relationship is not about completely avoiding temptation, but choosing your partner everytime even in the midst of temptation. Attraction isn't even voluntary at the base level, it's biological instinct, which is why I don't even have/use Instagram in the first place, I don't like the feeling of being unable to click/look at attractive women showing off their body.
@@jamaicanwarrenbuffett760 okay but that's you. How are u going to say that ur urges to look at or click on womans profile apply to every male? How could you know that? I also do not have ig or wish to have any social media. I agree that everyone is tempted to look but not everyone gives into that temptation it's all about how YOU choose to be. Not to say that it's bad that you do it's just what I'm saying is to each their own. If that bothers someone for their partner to b looking at others then so what that's their life why do you care. Let people be how they want to be. I agree that jealousy is not good but it's about respect.
@@bloo- they are married for a long time, do you think that they should look for other people because of this? My point is, you will never 100% agree on everything with your so, so the ideal is that you can both discuss and come to an agreement, in this case Ethan decided to not look, that being said, it's disrespectful to him that Hila thinks that he can't even look at someone even though he has no intentions, it's unbased jealousy, jealousy = distrust and trust is the basis of a relationship.
"an attractive girl is like opening a picture of beatle juice, it's the same shit compared to you" I really felt this, I have big insecurities and my boyfriend has more or less said this to me, not that super models don't exist, but that I'm uniquely me and my beauty comes from both physical and who I am. You can't expect your boyfriend or partner to not be curious or look at other people and find them attractive, it'll happen, I think that's unrealistic to expect it not to. I think having respect for your partner and communicating and knowing what you have to offer and in what ways you're amazing is more important than if they're occasionally thinking someone is attractive.
Bro when u arguing wit ur girl and she just stands her ground with a stale smile while u freak out over ur point it’s always gonna end bad lmao
Shooot
Literally
When you're arguing with your girl it's always gonna end bad no matter what lmao
@@joshualawton57 lmao frrr
@@johngilliam6764 bro...
I think Hila is purely thinking:
“do you realise how many hot guys I ignore in my dms?”
Yeh I bet she has 😂 but maybe she looked at 1 and ignored 1 million. Now she’s in the moral ‘high ground’ with Ethan 😂
it's almost as if personality plays in a role in people's attraction
@CasualDude I feel like they're both being insecure here. She said she wouldn't feel ok with Ethan comparing her with someone else, potentially hotter than her.
Rose: Really? This person is "a cunt" because they don't find Hila attractive?
Surely it's just about bad taste and not about being a bad person. Or how are you thinking here?
@@respectfulgamer7232 It's about feeling the necessity to say it, not about feeling it, you goof.. It's common decency to not push people down, regardless if the person talked about is in the conversation or not.
I watched this video with my girlfriend and I somehow got in trouble
Thanks ethan
Haha sorry bud
im about to ask my bfs opinion 💀 hopefully he doesnt have the same fate as you 💀💀
@@yeckeyilana and what are you going to do if your boyfriend says something you don't like
Ian Stuart beat him
whateveryoufeellikeman liltecca* is the rapper my name is lilteca bc my names tecaliana 💀 but yes i will slap the shit out of him
The sound bite of Hila “ur on the wrong street cuz” was perfect 💀💀
omg i laughed too haRD
Time plz?
@@Marie.Jager. 8:06
I was on my phone not paying attention and thought she literally said that 🤣 thanks for making me go back lmao
Genuinely thought she suddenly could speak without moving her lips...
"Cheating doesn't start in the bedroom, it starts with conversation".
Bullshit
@@TheIndestructible93 lol how does cheating start then?
@@sl33pybunny if you're implying that a simple conversation with anyone else of the opposite gender than your partner, i urge you to never be in a relationship. Cause you sound like a very stupid, jealous and annoying person to be with...
@@TheIndestructible93 lmao you got that from my comment? How about you don't put assumptions in my mouth- as it makes an ASS out of U and ME. Dumb ass.
@@TheIndestructible93 I literally said "lol how does it start then"?
Ethans eyebrows go sicko mode when Hila is yelling at him. I’ve never seen him get defensive like that, lol he looks like a kid getting yelled at by his parents
Hahahhahahahhaahhahahahahahahhahahahahahahah
This and the first Bill Burr interview lol
Hila is an alpha female
Any kind of Tourette’s gets super aggravated by stress.
Darryl Wayne not funny, and it has nothing to do with lies etc
“You in the wrong street cuz “ is probably my all time favorite sound bite 😂 I can see Hila holding the handgun in my head
Jack Frost SAME 😂😂
I lol at that drop.. The cuz part got me..
the gunshot noises is what makes it
The fact that I'm not drooling over Hila proves I'm not even a little bi, because I would be.
Its "cuh"
Hila’s not worried about Ethan cheating. She’s just upset over the principle. They share the same core fundamental beliefs and agree on so much. Hila feels like checking the profile is crossing a line and she’s probably hurt that Ethan is acting so casual about it. And she’s probably shocked that they disagree about something she feels strongly about.
This
Wow 🥲
Of course that’s why she’s upset. But I think it’s only human to be curious, if you get a confidence boost from seeing attractive people saying they like you, big deal. It doesn’t mean your talking to them, engaging with them, or being unfaithful in anyway.
Exactly. You nailed it.
@@EveryCrazyDay Yeah but she probably gets messages all the time from dudes but she ignores them and when ur partner sets a boundary you respect it always.
@@queenmonique1481 I mean I guess that’s for them to sort out where they’re boundaries are. And seems like they have a disagreement about what’s acceptable. Just because Hila’s opinion is more conservative doesn’t mean Ethan has to automatically follow it. They should have their own conversation probably not in front of a camera. I can see both of their perspectives.
Yo the girl who wrote the letter is just watching this in shock
It was me! I was surprised for sure.
Thanks, was wondering what you looked like for the entire video
@@Pavilionofsalt That's so cool!
@@Pavilionofsalt you're attractive girl!
Lol yeh, thinking wow, dodged a bullet on this one
Hila was fired up in this. She’s gotten way more brave on camera since their old videos
Yeah but I agree with Ethan on this one !!!! They are just to insecure if they feel that way, it's just the curiosity of wanting to know what that person looks like. Litteraly that's it, because they took the time to complement you so you're intrigued. But the theirs no end goal just wondering what they look like. The most Ethan can do if a smoking hot girl complements him is feel a boost of confidence way different from window shopping but they won't understand it 😂
ronaldreggiereagan same
Her argument is bullshit anyways she needs to chill out lmao people are sexual beings. He's not aloud to find other people attractive? Girls do the same shit. Thinking someone is attractive while in a relationship isn't cheating even remotely.
@@blackcraft3465 she just doesn't understand the curiosity of looking. why would he look if there's no intent on pursuing. But I don't think she is insecure like him, and he likes validation and would want to know what kind of person finds him attractive.
Sare Greenwood but the curiosity shouldn’t be there in a healthy relationship. Why should Ethan be checking out what kinda chicks he could “theoretically pull” when he’s happily married. What does it matter to him? I’m not up Ethan. Everyone would be at least a little tempted to click, but you shouldn’t entertain that fantasy.
I think what hila is dancing around is that when you look, there may be an implication of wondering if you could do better or if you're "missing out"
Hila is def missing out, ethan is borderline incel level ugly
Peliac thats toxic as fuck
@@traderjoes7976 not really this dude speaking the truth h3 is a fucking loser
Peliac okay cmon he’s not THAT ugly. He’s not attractive but he’s not “incel level ugly”
There's no such thing as incel level ugly. Lots of incels get comments about how they aren't even that ugly but people just can't stand their views or bad social skills. Take Eliot Roger for instance.
“If you’re faithful to someone, like if you’re in a committed relationship…. why window shop?”
I don't understand this assumption that a person is "shopping" by looking at another profile. I like men, but social media makes me nosy and curious. If some lady wrote a suggestive e-mail to a coworker, I'd be the first to say, "Let's find this person" and believe me, it wouldn't be said out of romantic interest.
@@b-six-twelve “if some crazy lady wrote a letter to a coworker” right there. There’s the difference. They’re are talking about if someone messaged YOU, not your friend. If you click on the profile of someone who has interest in YOU, while being in a committed relationship, and you are defacto showing interest in THEM!! Like viewing your options on a menu when you’ve already had dinner AND desert; it’s gross!!
Because they are 👀😂
That makes sense to me that she feels that way, but yea I personally am on Ethan’s side because in my opinion this isn’t a case of window shopping. I think liking naked pics of girls or watching porn is actually worse than just seeing a person’s face that’s interested in you. Because the way I see it, you want to see how attractive that person is as purely an ego boost to yourself. If the person that’s into you is attractive, it’s going to make you feel like an attractive person. Now if you’re just looking at attractive people that don’t know you exist and are jerking off to them, that’s actually more like window shopping in reality. Just sayin!
@@Malally2 But what if just wanna see if they're a goofy person of any sort and develop a joke about them in relation to you or your friend. Like say "someone was fishing for me*pulls out phone and shows image of the person fishing* but they weren't very good" which is an example of something funny. Especially in a personal sense. Also I think Ethan means it when he says he wants to see who sent the letter, I like to literally see people online if they message me for any reason, to conceptualize of them as a person.
I think what Ethan is thinking and trying to say with “we’re married” is that he thinks their relationship is beyond things like attraction and looks. I think he means that he views Hila as more than a lover and like a life partner. So in his mind, looking at something like an ig profile wouldn’t even mean anything to him beyond his curiosity because that’s how connected and close he feels to Hila. That he’s so connected to her that he can’t even think about looking at someone else in that way. But that’s just what I think lol
Angela awwwww I hope she sees this
I think you’re dead on. I couldn’t have said it better myself
Even in a non-married relationship it would be okay to look. My guess is that she feels that by just looking he's gonna get an incentive to go farther. Idk, feeld weird she doesn't want him looking yet she acts fine with all the Belle Delphine stuff. Though the difference there is that Belle wouldn't be all over him so I guess that makes Hila feel safe. But given hid husband's drooling over Belle the same could happen with another.
Yeah I was thinking the same, I'm genuinely shocked that everyone from the podcast disagrees with Ethan because I think the same way. Hila asked what good does it do, the only good it does is scratches your curiosity and nothing more or less.
I'd be offended if my wife would even ask me or tell me it's wrong because that would be questioning if I'm being faithful to them.
No you can tell how he speaks he’s being cheeky he definitely is attracted to other women. ask any guy. But you’re right about the life partner thing and not actually wanting to do anything , but thoughts and fantasies never leave
I understand both sides of this heavily. As a naturally curious person (about everything) I completelyyy see where he's coming from. HOWEVER, part of being a good partner is not doing things that make your spouse uncomfortable. She has every right to say "I don't like this" and it has to be respected.
Are u a libra?
@@rachelanastasia1977 aquarius lol
Virgo bestest sign ✊
... Sorry, I'll take my random outbursts elsewhere now.
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Right, it’s just curiosity. But if it makes them uncomfortable why do it?
This video should be titled “Ethan digging himself into a hole for 30 minutes”
How though? Ethan didn't say anything wrong
@@zaciorfida-costanzo706 it’s not that he said anything wrong, he’s just touching sensitive topics that could get him in some deep shit. Idk I just stopped watching Ethan after about a year into the podcast because his opinions are garbage
Emotional Distress, honestly I kinda agree. There's been a lot of times when watching the podcast where there are some really dumb and shitty opinions thrown around, not even just from Ethan. A lot of the time it can also be from others in the group. What triggers me most is when something new is shown to them and the first thing they do is just shit on the idea and not even give it a chance to try and understand it first. But I still like them a lot so I still watch the podcasts.
@@emotionaldistress This comment makes no sense. You stopped watching Ethan but this is an Ethan video and you are commenting? So you do watch Ethan. No need to be a closet fan
@@emotionaldistress lol yet you’re here scrolling through comments , and watching Ethan’s videos 🤣🤣🤣
The crack in Hila’s voice at 10:00 honestly hurts my heart. You can tell this kind of rubbed her the wrong way.
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I can’t believe Ethan didn’t pick up on that - or he just didn’t care
Yah sounded like she was about to cry
Oh my god, i know right 😭😭😭
@@mangojelly20 I didnt hear it until the third time tbh
Put Ethan on a lie detector and ask him about Belle Delphine
Great!
YES!!! Hila knows him better than us. His constant drooling and obsession over Belle is gross. Hes thirsty as fuck and it shows. He should be thanking his lucky stars he got someone like Hila.
bingbong Yeah buddy!!!
Lie detectors are notoriously inefficient and inaccurate. Most US courts don't even allow them as evidence anymore
Damage ConTrolling Yeah, but it would be entertaining.
Hila has a lot of self respect. I really look up to her for it.
i think im in love with you
i know im in love with you
@@hawaiianpunch1813 I think you're a simp dude
@@erikgranath3643 ek awesome
@@hawaiianpunch1813 what
The girl that wrote the letter watching this like
👁👄👁
I was thinking this too hahaha definitely a story to tell at a party
I really am tho
Lol true 🤣
@Shroom Grizzley dude what
@@hayleejade1749 but her name was Brielle.... not Haylee 🤡😬
Ethan really missed the point when he tried to highlight Dan responding to the letter writer as if it were the same as checking her profile to see what she looks like. Responding to her email was treating her like a human being - oogling her Instagram is treating her like an opportunity. Dan did the right thing.
DANS A GOOD MAN
@Blake Babushka :3 I am certain Hila had a more in depth conversation with him later about it. They seem to have a very healthy relationship with good communication. No doubt he would take the time to listen to her.
U guys gotta watch when they discuss this topic with Whitney Cummings
Why did nobody else starts screaming laughing at eight minutes eight seconds when The soundboard played Hillas voice saying “you’re on the wrong street cuz” with a gun shot. 💀😂😂😂
I need it to be my text notification sound.
TsG x Pr3Dator that shit had me dead
you can also type 8:08 and it displays the timestamp 👍🏼
Doug if you’re going to check some one please put the right time jackass. It’s more like 8:06
Lmaoooo who types out the timestamp like that this man is a treasure
ethan is not cheating,he is too busy breastfeeding anyways
Is that an insult to Ethan or Hila. 🤔
Serjohn είσαι παντού ρε
Nina M. It’s an insult to whoever is sucking his tits lmao
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He wish he was young again
My girlfriend would be curious who in the hell found me attractive
Haha yeah I still wake up shocked that I'm married 😮 ppl look at my wife then at me and look confused
@@nitro-verse5311u probably rich then
@@joyfully1872 that's stereotypical.
Women don't date solely for looks and money.
An uglier, non-rich, guy is less likely to cheat and more likely to actually listen and care.
@@joyfully1872 well if I'm being honest she just tells me I'm funny but she says I'm handsome and I'm like "at least one of us thinks so thank God it's you haha"
@@sadpotato3386 I fully agree 100%
I agree with Hila. Man or woman, if someone expresses interest in you and you’re married, going and perusing their Instagram is playing with fire. Because what if you find them really hot, and then you can’t stop thinking about them? Then You guys get into a big fight over something else, and all the sudden it becomes an option.
@@birke571 Right. I believe what youre saying, I really do. But people are weak, and so many people do it. My point still stands
If you're getting all fired up from someone's Instagram I think you shouldn't be married in the first place.
@@Simpie32 Who is getting "all fired up? And who shouldn't be married in the first place?
I don't agree with this, this kinda teenage mentality
Stop simpin guys ffs its ok to look omg so controling jesus christ save me
Hila Accuses Ethan of Infidelity... And Hila Attacks
I think most everyone has had a bf/gf who has gotten approached on social media. I don't think it's wrong to read the message or look at the profile. What IS fucked up is when you start to message the person back and start a conversation, that's where you crossed the line into cheating, that's not ok at all.
Noirling a man of culture
I love hila she's such a badass
@@noirling1 I have a feeling you've never been in a relationship
Yeah I agree, unless it's a conversation about trees lmao.
Can we appreciate the honesty of Ethan? Not lying even when everyone was on Hila's side
Juan no
@@abcdeoapdj except it's only weird because they're MAKING it weird. Like itd be suspect as hell if dan actually looked, after him saying this about it. Because now we know that he considers that unfaithful, so if he DID do it, he had bad intentions.
fabi_87 Dan always seems dishonest to be honest
Dan is totally a liar, he messaged her back.
Nut Ringos at least back your point up you fucking idiot.
“You on the wrong street cuz” 😂💀
LMFAOOOOO THIS TOOK ME OUT
She is the last person id expect to say that
That killed me
“You acting Brazy”
Brooo I fucking couldn’t stop laughing🤣🤣
Hila is so loyal. Solid as a rock. And beautiful.
Hila is way too good for Ethan
@@cristenaaa I don’t know about that. Pretty sure Ethan is the reason they are rich and successful today. He also treats her very good. He always has
She is exquisite
@sussy Nah Hila needs better. I can tell Ethan needs her but Hila would survive on her own. With her fashion brand etc.
@@cristenaaa who are you to decide who or what isnt good for someone?? How about you just respect other people's relationships??
I completely understand being curious and just wanting to put a face to the person who wrote the letter
yeah i was kinda confused why they were all against him haha
Totally agree, I really not sure why Hila and Dan took that stance as hard as they did. It would be another thing if you reply or start flirting back or something. But just scrolling through a profile?
@@juantheoriginal1 I think they were against him because Hila is clearly sensitive, and they didn't want to complicate the situation. They knew Ethan could take the L, and Hila could not.
I agree, but Ethan definitely wasn’t looking to put a face on her. He was looking to see if she was attractive. That’s wrong and would cause your view of the letter to change based off the generalizations you would make about her looks.
Lord Jay Ok incel. You are the definition of a beta male. Keep being sexist.
Ethan doesn’t even use any logic. He just says “I was curious.”
I can see BOTH points. There’s no clear right answer
Ethan is speaking from an existential perspective, saying that just because he sees a hot girl who wants him, he’s in charge of his own decisions and isn’t going to do anything.
From Hila’s perspective, she’s feeling insecure that her partner would check out attractive girls with no intention of cheating on them, because the possibility of him doing it exists.
Both are valid points and make sense.
Yeah i probably agree with ethan just out of pure curiosity but i definitely understand Hila's perspective on the matter
Yeah this is my view. In the case of the video, I would 100% side with Ethan. Not because I think Hila is wrong, but that she's being so dismissive of what he's saying (and surely in a trusting relationship you should believe your partner when they say it's curiosity for curiosity's sake!). Her feelings about it are completely justifiable, but it's patronising and rude to assert that Ethan isn't capable of distinguishing ill intent from innocent curiosity, that he isn't capable of being curious without also having thoughts of being unfaithful.
In other words, Hila is being possessive and insecure and irrationally untrusting of their relationship when there is clearly no reason no motive to think Ethan would betray her for some random hussy. She is not confident in her own value as a woman and the authenticity of the relationship they have built together and doubts his honesty and the sincerity and devotion of his love for her, and is scared of even the most remote of possibilities that comes with the fact that Ethan is an independent thinking human being who has free choice and free thought and does not necessarily have to pick Hila. She should respect that he DID pick Hila, and believe he did so for a reason, and did so because it is his choice and it is how he likes it. It's an inner problem with her, not a problem with Ethan's mundane ordinary behavior of casually wanting to see who's talking to him. Hila thinks so lowly of Ethan to suspect that he would go down a dark stupid path that would betray everything he's ever said or ever done thus far in investing in their partnership to start over with some high risk fling with a completely unknown person. Hila is showing disrespect and lack of belief in Ethan and his ability to stay true to his principles.
@@cosmosofinfinity It's not JUST a lack of belief, you also have to understand the culture we live in. One of fear.
People are CONSTANTLY afraid of lots of stupid shit. Is this going to happen, is that going to happen, I don't want this to happen. She probably sees hot girls and is a bit insecure because she hears other stories of guys cheating. A culture of fear. It makes her think it could happen to her, which I guess it could, but she sees that aspect of the relationship as a statistic rather than something personal.
Hila not wanting Ethan to talk to other girls doesn't reveal anything negatively about her, it's just an insecurity that comes from the culture she lives in.
Cartman breathing heavily......
Bro hila needs to have more respect, who talks to their dad like that. Smh
I actually laughed out loud
Ur so rude smh
Elle L. Shut up it’s a joke
This guy lmao, I fell out 😂
I might love you SUS
It IS a problem if your partner says it's a problem. It's not a problem if you can both agree. I also think it is important to look at it from the other side of how you would feel if your partner was looking at pictures of people who expressed interest in them.
Yea if my partner were that insecure and absurd, it would definitely be a problem for me. But that doesnt matter to you does it, the woman should always get her way? Simps.
@@Your_Face I’m sorry u ain’t ever been laid but plz why u have to make it our problem?
There is compromise in relationships but if the partner is so insecure that someone can’t look at a picture it becomes unreasonable. Something just as important in a relationship is trust and if you can’t trust a partner there isn’t much else to say
@@borgieporgie6402 respect for u partner is as or more important
@@borgieporgie6402 if u value other peoples interest more than ur partner than ur already a lost case
Ethan needs to learn when to stop talking
And Hila, like most women, needs to learn to be less entitled sometimes. Looking and being able to appreciate when another is objectively attractive doesn’t make them less faithful, quite the contrary. Denying the beauty of a stranger proves that you are just self-conscious about the temptation whereas admitting that a stranger is beautiful while simultaneously remaining loyal is the real test.
Clearly just giving an opinion.
@@stephaniestephanie3090 Ethan should only care about his wife finding him attractive and not crave to see other woman who find him attractive. The only woman he should be wanting to see should be hila. Period.
@@mjbgjkhjjvghj502 Wow, you are ignorant, aren’t ya? Him being curious has nothing to do with him wanting to see any attractive woman. If a gay dude said Ethan was hot, he’d check out the guy’s Instagram. It’s called curiosity and it’s human nature.
@@stephaniestephanie3090 well said not many people understand that.
This is low-key a beautiful conversation. As a couple you need to lay down these boundaries real early in one's relationship.
Yeah. That's a very important thing I wish I'd learned sooner. Talk about what's cool and what isn't.
Can I ask how these conversations come about? Yes, you can say that you would like to set out some boundaries to see what you and your partner are fine with; however, how do you know the questions to ask? What do you ask to learn somebodies boundaries? Am I supposed to know all of my boundaries and be able to list them with ease?
Promxy Mc some boundaries are obvious for most people and then there are some things that you have never even thought about, for example what’s happening with Ethan and Hila in this video, you should always set up boundaries from the beginning of the relationship but most of the boundaries you set throughout the relationship, but the most important this is to listen to each other and try to understand where the other person is coming from which seems to be the issue with Ethan and Hila in this case, but Ethan gave up at the end
Martin N. You are very right about the porn thing lmao, some people don’t have a issue with it and some consider it cheating, in my opinion if a had a man I wouldn’t want him to watch porn, it would make me insecure and sad
My name doesn't matter exactly. Unfortunately, it is so normal among men that many don’t consider it an issue until it’s too late.
ethans point: trust his character
hila's point: respect the conditions of their love/relationship
Unholyarrowxx also it’s because we all want to become more aware of how we are perceived by others. Ethan wants to understand what kind of girl is interested. Also maybe he wants to feel complimented by being further flattered if it’s someone who is, conceivably, attractive.
that's actually very insightful
This was a really good take. Thank you.
@@lorinvandusen4 you shouldn't want to feel complimented. If your in a relationship you get that attention from your other, no curiosity should exist because you shouldn't consider what else you could get
@Imight Realperson people can be different all they want. A standard is a standard
I’m such a nosy person I would 100% look just to see and then laugh about it with my bf. But I get where hila is coming from. And I always believe cheating is whatever you and your partner have decided it is. Like some people think p*rn is cheating and some don’t so it’s just what ever you guys decide.
Exactly!
Oh yeah you're right. I'm on Ethan's side, I would be curious and look (whoever the person might be... woman,man,furry...) And also wouldn't mind my partner doing this. But yeah if Hila has a problem with it than he should respect it
I love this comment exactly could not have said that better myself you’re s queen for tht lol 😝🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
As you said, looking at the profile and laugh about it with your partner. Hila didn't even know that Ethan does or would check the profile. In fact, I believe this is not exactly window shopping, just by guessing based on Ethan's personality, I would guess this is an ego thing. He maybe wants to see if beautiful girls are interested in him, and maybe that boosts his self esteem. Either way, I think it is not a healthy thing to lean towards.
Yes, and I think Hila is not being too sensitive here, I get her pov completely, even though I'd be curious and check too (because I'm insecure haha). However, there are lines, such as your partner not allowing you to have opposite sex friends or even talking to members of the opposite sex, and just getting rid of half of my friends is a dealbreaker for me and is a sign of a controlling partner if you've never actually pursued anyone or explicitly cheated.
He wants to see if they’re attractive cause it’s flattering. Confidence thjng
That would be me. The Eco Boost would be really nice. to me it just comes off as he doesn't want to admit it.
Red Hood inc. yeah, it could seem like Hila isn’t enough maybe.. but it’s just extra boost.
But that's not what it is. He checked a message directed to DAN. He just wants to see what kind of person wrote the letter.
People need to stop mind reading.
McJive We know that. The whole conversation led to a hypothetical of what Ethan would do if that happened to him.
We are saying we understand Ethan’s perspective.
@@sheridan7475 You're all assuming you understand his perspective.
What he's saying is that he's just curious. In other words, he wants to see if there's anything interesting about the person. Why is that so hard for so many people to grasp? This whole thing is so frustrating lol
Curiosity killed... Every man.
Yo you only got half a face.
What’s ya ig Tess
@@romeano4882 simp... smh
@@spacetripmix do u know what a simp is? Tf 😂
@@romeano4882 Simp😅
I’ve been watching this show for a while and I just realized Dan and Ian are two different people...
Lol me too recently
I'm ashamed to say but, me too-
Me too!!!!!!!!
Lol I used to watch h3 back a while ago and now I’ve been watching frenemies ... is AB the same as one of these guys or is he different lol don’t make fun of me
@@beanmoo AB is a whole seperate dude xD
If your wife has a problem with a behaviour that means nothing to you, why'd you keep on doing it?
Right! Just get a different wife easy !
he never did it
Because he’s a human being? Just because your spouse is jealous doesn’t mean they’re right. Sorry but Ethan is right here. That’s just toxic af.
@@roxxyfoxify sorry but no he’s not. And people who agree allow their subconscious to fixate on other people, which can lead to infidelity. It’s toxic to not get rid of other peoples messages whom show romantic or sexual interest
@@Malally2 Wait, because maybe I'm not understanding the situation fully. Because the way I see it, if someone were to dm me and they were hitting on me (while in a relationship), I would check their profile to see who the fuck is dming me. Not because I'm checking them out, but more just for curiosity's sake. But I do this for everyone that sends me a dm, regardless of what it contains. I'll click on their profile, scroll for like 2 seconds, and will leave. That would be the end of that interaction. I don't think that's me window shopping or considering cheating.
Damn Ethan's sister is jealous of him talking to other girls.
LOVE this!!!
Is this an "inside" joke? I'm new to h3h3
@@ShanCamp69 Idk if this is what they mean, but Ethan's mom literally looks like a 20 year older clone of Hila.
@@ShanCamp69 No. It's the truth.
*ṠḧḀṆ ḉḀṁṖ* don’t let people confuse you this is a inside joke
Happy Hila and the boys stood their ground. Why check and be curious if you’re in a happy relationship? Looking at their photo can only lead to
1- Ego boost
2- Keeping your options open
3- Make ur significant other insecure
4- Leading it to something that could of been avoided to begin with
I don’t think it has anything to do with that. As Ethan said, he’d even look at the profile if it was a gay dude saying he found him attractive. I would do the same. It’s just about putting a face to a name. I understand what Hila was saying but i can completely relate to how Ethan doesn’t see why it’s such a big deal. It’s not even like it’s a conscious decision to look at the profile. It’s just how my brain works. I’d just want to see what they looked like
What’s wrong with wanting an ego boost? Insecurity is a real thing 🤷♂️
Doesn't that speak of how little trust she has towards Ethan? I get it if it's a new relationship but they've been together for a decade and are married, you gotta have some trust in your significant other
5- (especially if they are cute) you love your partner so much that you’re happy to sacrifice all the potential things you might have with others for it. It boosts your value and their value, in a sense. If someone finds you cute it doesn’t mean you’d have a better relationship at all! You don’t know them. It’s really weird to compare.
Just seems toxically possessive and insecure to me... but okay.
Okay, hear me out. When you are in a relationship with someone, other people who are attractive don't stop being attractive, BUT you make a choice. You cannot control your mind, but you chose how to act. As a man in a happy relationship, you chose not to flirt with others. As a woman in a happy relationship, you chose not to look at another guy. As a person in a happy relationship, you chose not to check other people's instagram after they expressed an interest in you.
It’s so simple right? Lol
Yet idiots around the world jump into relationships just to literally have to lie and be shady- waste of their own energy
I’d check and let my partner check. If we have the same idea of what this means. To me, it’s just attaching some basic perception of what kind of a person they are to the message. And getting a better idea of what this is
I agree 100%
I will never cheat but i would go to war with my girlfriend if she got mad at me for looking up who sent me a message. Ofcourse i will look up who sent me a message. You have no right to get mad at me and you should also not get insecure when i click on a link in a email that's complimenting me.
I don’t see how simply looking at someone’s ig constitutes being unfaithful. If someone finds you attractive and they’re attractive themselves, it can sometimes be nice to have that confidence boost, that attractive people find you attractive. It doesn’t mean you’re gonna start flirting with them and cheating on your partner.
Love seeing Hila speak up here.
I completely agree that if someone expresses romantic/sexual interest and you start looking at their insta, it’s basically like checking out their tinder profile.
Sure but Ethan said multiple times that it wasn't for interest it was just for putting a face to a name
Insecure person.
Ehhhhhhh not exactly the same.
@@Dcolvin101 no need to do that whatsoever
You clearly didn’t listen to what he said at all
ethan just started a fight he’s never gonna finish lmao
J P 😂
Ethan: "Guys, help me out here."
Dan: "Idk, I was flattered and just moved on."
Zach: "If you're in a committed relationship, why window shop?"
Ian: "I mean, you wouldn't look at their profile if they were just some goofy guy right?"
Ethan: "You... hate me. Don't you?"
Well shit lol
I get Hilas point curiosity can lead to more, you can go in with no intention of cheating but noticing something you like or something you find cool it can stay on your mind and eventually you could reach out even just in a friendly way and that can change. Cheaters dont always know they're gonna cheat but it happens. So I see why curiosity is a problem for her.
ethan is ugly as f&%k tho...
Cheaters xD fucking kids talking about serious things in youtube
@@saderen2171 how can you talk when you just said "xD"
@@mylene5795 your point is...?
Hugo Gaete if you can’t see the point maybe your not mature enough
Man you can’t cheat on a girl like this...the ones that Are super calm and rational wont play that shit for long if at all lol
Dude you're so right! Could you Etransfer me some money for a pizza?
Heh but, he didnt cheat on her?..
Honestly, it's just checking a profile. I wouldn't mind if my S.O did that long as he doesn't make a move or anything. We're free to find other people attractive, that's just human. I don't see this as cheating :/ but I definitely understand where Hila is coming from, we just have different principles.
@@richburmond6761 Yeah but his still not respecting her boundaries and this could definitely led to cheating that’s why she’s not comfortable with it.
@@queenmonique1481 this is pure your speculation and beside my last comment. Read the comment minewas based on.
Ethan sounding like Nemo trying to say anemone
Samantha James
😂😂
This is one of those comments where you don't say anything, we just all know it's good .
LOL awesome
megadoodoo
Just trying to see the face behind the letter, it’s like looking at someone when their talking, you just want to see who’s saying it
You put it very well
Idk why this concept was so hard to understand
exactly jesus christ why were they all so against it like oversensitive snowflakes
YES! Why was everyone overreacting taking it to a whole different area & why was Ethan so unable to explain this lol
If you were with your girlfriend and another girl started talking to you and saying how they found you attractive I don't think you would be looking at her the same as you would as someone holding a normal conversation. It's about the context, I doubt he would look at peoples instagram if they sent a normal letter.
It’s all because of Bell Delphinfidelity
Jeric Gambon HA
Trueeeeeeee
Belle Delphidelity you mean
It’s the invitation of temptation, that’s the issue.
So true.
What about the women who post revealing pictures of themselves? Not trying to be misogynistic but what would they be considered as?
@@jackiesburgersandfries4604posting a selfie /thirst trap on social media is not an invite for your followers to f- you😂
I feel Ethan: he never felt attractive in his life and if he'd get such a email, of course he'd be curious!
I completely understand him, 100%.
Exactly
Agreed. However, Hila is there as his significant other and I’m sure compliments him all the time and that should be enough. That being said, I’d be curious wanting to know who emailed me that just purely out of curiosity
why seek out validation from someone other than your significant other? the other person would feel like theyre not doing something right. i would stop if my s/o told me they didnt like it. its out of respect for their feelings.
I don't find Hila to be the best one to comment on that as she's always been really attractive and therefore doesn't know how is it to feel like Ethan
She doesn't even have to yell 💀 her glare says everything 😭💀💀💀
Ethan: I know I'd look
Hila: But you shouldn't aka *you're not getting laid for weeks Ethan*
No Newfriends hahahaha
That letter is super eloquently written, well thought out, and contains a lot of important information I didn't know before. I think it was cool of Dan to leave out the end part to keep it focused on the real issue. Too bad that backfired spectacularly lol
I think highlighted text would be better going forward. Now that I know he’s editing content, I have to question the integrity of everything.
I agree tho, the intention was good... and the backfire, even better lol
Sounds like there's insecurity in both of them. He'd want an ego boost, she wouldn't want to be compared.
Exactly
There's insecurity in everyone. Also just because she has certain expectations of a relationship, that doesn't mean she's insecure in her relationship.
@@Shewas-kathybates I didn't really mean insecure in her relationship, it seems they're going very strong, but she is a new mom so that might bring insecurities in her body or how sexy she feels.
For Ethan too, I'm talking just about insecurity in his looks.
Like you wrote that's normal.
Not wanting to be compared doesn’t make you insecure. It’s just frustrating as a woman to constantly be brought down to our physical looks and be compared.
Mykaela Abbott as if that isn't a two way street?
It's so frustrating how they keep asking "what's the end goal?". There is no end goal, humans are curious by nature, we often want to know something just for the sake of it.
hey_you yes, but why are we curious? It would be very naive to think there’s no underlying reason. Not that what he did is wrong, but she’s got a point.
@Kawi curiosity and asking questions serve to fulfill what we perceive as "holes" or "pits" in our understanding of our lives and the world around us. There is no such thing as simply wanting to know something for "the sake of knowing". In this context, I think Ethan bases how valid/good the compliment is on the person's looks. By showing interest (or "CuRioSIty) in what the person looks like, Ethan is showing that he cares enough to see how valid/notable the complement is. This is a problem to hila because she reasons that Ethan should only need her validation and no one else's; I find myself agreeing with her.
Satan Lucifer the fact that people have any other opinion on the matter is actually kinda revolting... why would you need someone else’s validation while your in a relationship. Your in the relationship in the first place to validate each other not seek attraction from other people just for the sake of having people think your attractive. It’s a really dumb and self centered way of thinking about relationships. Kinda ruins the point of being with someone in the first place 😂 “oh yea let me just check this girl out on Instagram to see how hot she is because she called me cute” the only point in doing that would be to entice unfaithful thoughts and or validate yourself in a way you feel your significant other can’t and both of those are unhealthy in a relationship
@@maxherrlin241 facts on top of facts on top of facts!
But end goals change
The way Hila blushes and gushes when Ethan admires her. Y’all still have hella chemistry and y’all are such a cute couple.
I can’t believe there’s no comments on the fried chicken conversation.
...literally what i was thinking
Because it was so stupid!!
Because no one cares……
@@thatbeaatcch9884 obviously that’s the whole fucking point 🤯 saying all black people like fried chicken is fucking ignorant
@@niyahubbard5377 that’s racist but no one says stuff when people joke that white people don’t season food or how Asians love rice. Y’all choose your fave race and it shows
Lol Ethan should've stopped when she literally said "NO ETHAN" one min into the convo
8:06 “You on the wrong street cuz!” 😭😭 that shit is KILLING ME 😂
RIGHT LMAOOOOOOO
They didn’t even laugh and I was DYING
I think its natural to be a bit jealous when someone hits on your partner .-. No matter how secure the relationship is.
No it's not. It means that you are insecure of your partner.
I think its different to people individually, you cant say that it is or its not, everyones different
Xixx Xxix it’s completely natural to be jealous within a relationship, it can 100% mean that you’re insecure about your partner but i would personally say that most of the time it’s one person fearing that they’ll lose the other.
I've never heard the term "window shopping," before but it's going to stick with me. This was a really good segment. I'll always be faithful, but this was a good reminder off how important it is.
This person is a 18 year old white girl in her basement trolling you.
Patterns
Funny you think they're a female 🐸
@@pezpeculiar9557 try using Twitter for a day
@@nixonesport1998 is your point that only white girls use Twitter? Cause that's dumb.
that’s sexist
I do not agree with Ethan’s premise of this at all, but I have a lot of respect for his honesty to Hila about it. It speaks more about his devotion and true love to her than if he were to walk around eggshells when this conversation came up. It’s better to speak your truth and then work on it from there.
Why ? Controlling partners in relationships sucks
@@JorMFge not about control it's disrespectful when you have a loving partner and you choose to be "curious" just shows you need more and she can't be enough. Glad Hila stood up for herself but that would've ate me up inside :( it's all about intentions
@@angryerika my problem with everyone justifying hila is that people are adding assumptions to the action. Ethan never said she wasn't good enough and by merely looking at an Instagram post and assuming that just sounds like a lack of trust. Ethan's intentions are not bad at all because it's coming from a place of curiosity not a place of wanting to be with someone else. That's the difference. Hila’s only argument for this was that it's a step towards the wrong direction and she's just assuming all these things because she's insecure of losing Ethan. If she trusted him she wouldn't care about him being genuinely curious and would be interested too.
@@samlee5499 oh I agree, of course commenters always take everything too far. It’s just a disagreement if anything not an actual serious issue. I don’t really think Hila is having trust issues, it’s just a matter of the principle and having respect for your s/o. She is secure and confident enough to never have to suspect anything but I think it is just unsettling to know that he thinks that way. Also, personally I just think that Ethan has so many flaws that probably come from his lack of confidence, and that’s why he has this attitude and is debating this, which is something he needs to work on as an individual. Nothing more than that, I would never think that he had seriously bad intentions, but the act itself is odd and uncomfortable for Hila and I’m sure most s/os.
I really insist that this is simply a matter of respect, and it’s difficult to debate this on the internet because of how fueled it is by morality and principle, but really that’s all it is.
We need an h3h3 lie detector test episode asap
Yes!!!
And Hila asks the questions
Ah yes, Howard had one
Maury: "and Ethan's eyebrows have detected that as a lie."
Ask Ethan “do you feel any sexual attraction to belle Delphine”
I appreciate Ethans honesty here. Yeah it wasn’t handled in the best way, but he wasn’t being shady. He didn’t lie or gloss over it. He owned that he looked at her profile and found her pretty. Honestly I do not think there’s anything wrong with innocent curiosity. Looking at someone’s profile, especially when you do not message the person after, is not cheating or even a gateway to it. Now if he wrote the girl, that would be different. I’m amazed to see such various opinions in the comments.
Yes, ofcourse you get curious and if you got a problem it feels like insecurity,
if you answer thats a whole different thing.
Ethan's eye brows should get their own paycheck with all the OT they do
100%!
ossem1 I’m glad somebody said something
They are controlled by some guy in the back via bluetooth
Thats fucked haha
OMG 😂
I wouldn’t look for attractiveness. Just wanna put a face on the person that’s messaging me
cnnrmcllstrnovowels exactly
That’s fair! I think the part that I would have a problem with would be looking with the intention to see how attractive they are. If you’re truly just looking to put a face to the person then that’s okay
Especially if you would do that for anyone, girl or boy. That shows that your true intention is just to put a face to the person
@@sierrachasauce8655 what's your insta
Golden Memes
Not wasting any time are we?
Poor hila the belle and Trisha stuff is really getting to her lol
You know they fought after this
Nice username
Trisha is an annoying cow, nobody is worried about her. Belle on the other hand is a smoking hot cartoon sex person
Can someone please explain the situation?
Use a comma you dipshit.. I'm not trying to read a 5 year olds writing..
This is one of my favorite moments in the podcast. Ethan visibly nervous, Hila standing her ground, Dan laughing in the background
Personally think Ethan's correct in this matter. It's just curiosity. But I can also see where Hila is coming from but I'm a curious guy.
KiddJerichoXO I get ethans curious but some way I think hilas point is if you do look it’ll temp you to take a step further into infidelity
@@Probablydenji looking at women will lead to infidelity
I wish they took this letter a little more seriously - the girl took time out of her day to educate them and I wish they took more away from her letter than what she looks like. Also I’m soo with Hila - Curiosity killed the cat.
Thats what annoys me about them I have seen it a ton before where they have a chance to interact with their fans and then ignore em and go on immature rants that popped up outta nowhere and its usually always ethan that gets everyone sidetracked but nobody seems to care to go back to the main point!!! Im offended for them but other people might not see anything wrong...
Seems like it just comes with being a woman unfortunately. Reduced to her looks smh
Honestly me too this letter was to educate them about things people don’t seem to understand but they don’t seem to care
@@TeawitG cause there is so much more about the world history than that. What do you want? An hour long podcast about chicken? Not all of us are from America.
@@evelinaxxo9593 facts
Only one unfaithful in this relationship is Ethan's eyebrows 😂
Those brows aint loyal
Im fuckin dead
They rig the lie detector up to his eyebrows instead.
😂
Nailed it- I thought he was being dodgy and dismiss his medical for a moment. Yeah he’s a good guy lol
the fact that he argued for half an hour & got annoyed at no one agreeing with him is.. strange. Don’t understand why it’s SO hard to validate your wife’s feelings & not look at other girls’ instagrams
She's def in the wrong and these guys were almost at the point of gaslighting ethan. In this case, literally everyone was crazy which is why etham kept asking cuz he was so appalled
@@theanonymoustalk no one was gaslighting him. They were just not agreeing with him. Just because no one agrees with you doesn’t mean you’re being gaslighted. There’s no reason for ethan to ask a million times when everyone already said NO & that they were on hila’s side..
@@jennaxm no I worded that wrong, I meant to say ethan thought they were gaslighting him because of their girlfriends at the time or just being live on the podcast. I personally think they were gaslighting too but anyway that's why I think ethan kept pushing. Not good that he did, but its also not a huge issue. He was visibily appalled thst no one agreed with him, and when something u accept as reality is questioned u too would probably asked over and over again to get confirmation thst literally no one agrees
@@theanonymoustalk Naw she's not wrong, they're both kinda right in a way
@@jennaxm mmm mmm mmmmml
Im with Ethan here, its really ego-boosting when someone attractive shows interest in you, so its more about feeling good about yourself than a step in the wrong direction
@faerielaire agreed!
@faerielaire Perfectly phrased.
Haha no way man
I'm always nosy... I mean, curious. I get it. I also don't lust over people whose personalities I don't know.
Shouldn't it be enough that the person you're with thinks you're attractive? If you need to feel good with other people liking you instead of your bf/gf, you probably need to find someone else.
10:00 dude when her voice cracked a little I knew Ethan better fix this quick 😟😬
Ramon Castillo :(
her voice crack cracked my heart a little
Nooo :(
This happens to me sometimes when I'm trying to ask something while trying to not let my emotions get the better of me
@siân diann it is window shopping.
Why because she took stuff too seriously? No.
It’s about respect. Validating a strangers feelings for you by checking them out and ignoring how your partner may feel is very disrespectful
Not having confidence in your partner’s ability to resist the temptation of a stranger is also very disrespectful. Especially, when those “temptations” aren’t even temptations and come from a place of sheer curiosity.
No one is responsible for your emotions but yourself.Not even your partner.Your an individual in a relationship
I think its only disrespectful if they respond to the message, save the message, or follow the instagram. Just looking is not a big deal, but if your partner is openly uncomfortable with it, it shouldn't be a big deal to NOT look.
@@stephaniestephanie3090 its disrespectful to crave to look at another woman other than your wife. Why are you wanting to look at other woman? Just cus they are interested? Thats disgusting
@@SykeeNot when you get married thats different. You marry someone because you care about eachother that includes eatchothers emotions. In order to establish a healthy relationship, you respect eatchothers boundaries, emotions and try to meet eye to eye. You are an individual in a relationship. But its not just a relationship. Its a marriage meaning what you do or say will effect your partner whether its in a good or bad way or even a neutral way. No it doesnt mean you should be walking on egg shells. But when a partener is verbalizing their uncomfortablilty towards an issue. As a spouse you should respect that and avoid causing harm to your spouse
The curiosity stems from “could I pull some one more attractive”
Exactly, Julia
I saw it more as “still got it.” Like it goes without saying, hopefully, that the person you’re in a relationship with finds you attractive. When a stranger finds you attractive, it feels a little different since there’s no doubt in your mind they’re being honest since they don’t know you. It’s a different kind of ego boost, like when your parents call you attractive VS a stranger at a bar.
Then again, I’m only 20, have only been in 1 long term relationship and a toxic one at that, so I may be missing the experience of having your partner validate you. But I never thought it was “could I get someone more attractive” and more “this is how people really see me.”
Couldn't it just be ,,I'm curious about who is speaking/interested to me" ?
@@foggyfrogy no
YES thank you
I love how we all collectively ignored the beautifully written letter with a super important message in the beginning.
Because those messages are rammed down everyone's throat all the time.
@@Drumcomedy Mf what? raising awareness for racism is rammed down our throats wdym racism is still a problem
@@billyboi7517 Go outside and live and you'll see it really isn't. Not on a grand scale.
@@Drumcomedy what are you on you’re probably a white cis male. there’s so much going on right now have you seen how many hate crimes that are directed towards asians. you’re probably privileged so it doesn’t affect you
@@billyboi7517 Yep. Figured you'd go that route. Listen Mr. White knight. Stop being offended for other people. It's infantizing and cringey.
There is no one answer to this. Each couple should agree their boundaries and stick to them.
Tranxhead Indubitably.
Dusty Ghost no, infidelity 💀 jk lol.
We are getting a little crazy if looking at a persons instagram is considered cheating. We need to adapt to technology better than that imo.
If this is cheating, then just about every person on Earth is cheating. I'm pretty sure porn is still the largest online industry
Nobody:
Ethan: BY THE WAY I HAVE NEVER DONE THAT. I NEVER GET EMAILS LIKE THAT.
Papa Bless doth protest too much
hila knows her place, what a queen 👸
I understand where they're coming from, i think hila's perspective is that an infedility can be easily avoided by just not showing any form of interest to begin with in this kind of situation. But in ethan's case where hes in a committed relationship, even if he checked someone out it wouldn't matter bc he's devoted anyways. If someones appearance can cause a possible act of infidelity, then i don't think a sense of commitment is present in the rs
Exactly, their conversation sounds like they live in a extremely religious conservative country...
@@jaspeariv Hila did though. So of course her mindset comes from that
@@jazzimaeschannel true
@@jazzimaeschannel well shes not there anymore so its time for her to grow up. Religious conservatism is inherently backwards and childish.
True
“ do you want me to break something “ hila is one of those 😂
808 Pm omg 😂
And to Ethan's credit, I believe him when he says there is no one more attractive to him than Hila.
i also agree
then you don't understand men. the idea that we all think we are married to the most beautiful woman on the planet is naive and childish. we find other women more attractive. deal with it. it doesn't mean we suddenly want to leave our spouses. We have to say some stupid shit to women sometimes because their insanely over inflated vanity is the cause of most of these problems
kurtz theman no you’re just an incel
@@kurtztheman7926 yeah, crazy world.
@@kurtztheman7926 exactly!
Hila giving Ethan an out (at 10:00) and he misses it and doubles down instead 😆
He doesn't want to be dishonest
Ethan’s preaching some real shit right now.
And Dan 100% saw - his response was too late
Ethan knows he’ll never find another carer like Hila. He’s an Hila Kleiner for life. Also he knows she has military training.
Pocket Car Show nigga what
@@cameronboyce7195 what word was giving you trouble?
Geopoop Don’t you remember
I don't understand why they are so against looking. I'd definitely look out of curiosity and just to see what kind of person was attracted to me. It's more of an ego thing than for cheating or wanting to start a relationship.
Embers21 work on your ego then
Exactly lol it’s just looking to see what kind of girls like me
@ are you fucking kidding me? There's nothing about being jealous it's about being treated less than, you want to be that person's number one, you don't want to feel that your second compared to anybody else when you're in a relationship. And if you're going to sit there and undermine people for their feelings indicating that they're insecure and that your Superior, then you should probably spend your time working on yourself instead of opening your fat mouth and being patronizing and condescending towards everybody else.
@@itsallgoodbaybe4342 you have a huge issue if you are worried about multiple females having an attraction towards you instead of one particular special one that you can actually go somewhere with with in life. That kind of behavior is only acceptable if you're single.
@@colleenharrison1638 But you do are number one if they just look to see if they attract pretty people and stay with you without ever thinking anymore about it. Knowing a beautiful person can find us attractive is a compliment in itself, it reflect our own beauty. Like if somebody only got ugly or nasty people going over them, or no people at all, maybe they wouldnt feel so good about themselves or as attractive as they could be. But above all that, human instinct will make us look at anything attractive, be it a plant an object or any other human.
it's fairly simple, compliments are far more flattering when they come from someone you find attractive.
And from someone new or anyone you don't expect it from
You mean like someone's wife? He can get it from her.
And i think hila is saying if he found her attractive that's an uh-oh in her book
Ethan isn't a conventionally attractive guy, which is something Hila can't relate to.
Confidence boosts are worth their weight in gold for unattractive people
Ivan Galt also, from the mind of someone who does not believe they are conventionally attractive, Hila could be luck. You don’t have to compare when looking at other people, it could be like “damn, this other attractive person is attracted to me, maybe I got somethin goin on here”. You can cherish what you got lucky with and never let it go, but if you get the boost and start acting more confident, it could benefit your relationship even more!
It doesn’t even have to have anything to do with boosting confidence. Ethan already has Hila who is pretty good looking herself. I view myself as attractive and I have a boyfriend, but I personally would still look just because I’m nosy af. I already look at people’s pages all the time for making stupid comments, or comments that I really like. Depending on my boredom I could even end up on someone’s best friend’s brother’s stepmom’s sister’s page on Instagram too 😂. Some people are just nosy/curious and bored.
Ethan isn't conventionally attractive but he's not ugly either.
Ivan Galt as a straight male, I can see how people would see him as attractive
@M Muss They are definitely a factor for most people.
Everyone's sweating lmao i love this segment
I get where Hila's coming from. If a girl walks up to you and hits on you, you didn't do anything in that situation. But if they tell your their insta and then you search for it, you are being active in that situation, regardless of intent. It's not about the relationship you have or curiosity. It's just a little uncomfortable
In my opinion the difference is that in one situation you have already seen the person and have an idea of who they are and in the other you just have their words and a username.
@@williamhickman4672 this ^
William Hickman yea. I mean my girlfriend gets messages from dudes on instagram and facebook, she’s always checking it out. NOT checking it out like ogling over another person, but checking it out like “is this someone I know?” Or “did I go to school with this person?” If someone is actively checking an account of someone they know, that’s uncomfortable. But it’s to gather some information, it’s pure curiosity. We look at those messages all the time and if a guy one day hits on her in the street and we are both familiar that we’ve seen him before, well I think i’d be happy to know that beforehand
on the other hand if someone sent you an email saying they hate you, there might be a slight curiosity of who said it and whose perspective its from. Thats why you might want to see who it is from. But indulging in that curiosity might be a bad decision for opening the gate to a grass is always greener thoughts.
Excuse you???
I understand what Ethan is saying yeah curiosity is a thing but like Hila said it’s a matter of respect and if that’s the case curiosity killed the cat bro
People act like being in a relationship means pretending like there are no other attractive people in the planet...That makes things worse instead of better.
100%
Everyone has different opinions on what is disrespectful if you dnt find looking at other people disrespectful then find someone who believes the same, let people be however they want to be.
@@bloo- That doesn't make any sense. We don't live in an isolated pod, how can you create a rule that says "looking at other people is disrespectful"? A healthy relationship is not about completely avoiding temptation, but choosing your partner everytime even in the midst of temptation. Attraction isn't even voluntary at the base level, it's biological instinct, which is why I don't even have/use Instagram in the first place, I don't like the feeling of being unable to click/look at attractive women showing off their body.
@@jamaicanwarrenbuffett760 okay but that's you. How are u going to say that ur urges to look at or click on womans profile apply to every male? How could you know that? I also do not have ig or wish to have any social media. I agree that everyone is tempted to look but not everyone gives into that temptation it's all about how YOU choose to be. Not to say that it's bad that you do it's just what I'm saying is to each their own. If that bothers someone for their partner to b looking at others then so what that's their life why do you care. Let people be how they want to be. I agree that jealousy is not good but it's about respect.
@@bloo- they are married for a long time, do you think that they should look for other people because of this?
My point is, you will never 100% agree on everything with your so, so the ideal is that you can both discuss and come to an agreement, in this case Ethan decided to not look, that being said, it's disrespectful to him that Hila thinks that he can't even look at someone even though he has no intentions, it's unbased jealousy, jealousy = distrust and trust is the basis of a relationship.
I love Hilas thick accent, and Dan definitely looked.
I NEVER HAD SEXUAL RELATIONS WITH THAT WOMAN
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"an attractive girl is like opening a picture of beatle juice, it's the same shit compared to you"
I really felt this, I have big insecurities and my boyfriend has more or less said this to me, not that super models don't exist, but that I'm uniquely me and my beauty comes from both physical and who I am. You can't expect your boyfriend or partner to not be curious or look at other people and find them attractive, it'll happen, I think that's unrealistic to expect it not to. I think having respect for your partner and communicating and knowing what you have to offer and in what ways you're amazing is more important than if they're occasionally thinking someone is attractive.