If she dated all the trash dudes in her prime and It didn't work out why should another man take her older, heavier, kids from a previous relationship, bitter from past relationships and still bring more to the table Than the men that got her In Her prime?
Notice she didn’t name not one man with a career, “the drug dealer, the scammer, the guy who worked at Walmart”. This is also a reflection of who they tend to get pregnant by. You never hear, “I dated the guy in cybersecurity, the guy who works at the bank, the guy at the marketing firm”.
She's doing that cause she herself knows the type of man that she's expecting to be with who has all the qualities and requirements she's looking for doesn't want her back if she doesn't have all the qualifications he's expecting out of her but she still wants to delusionally and stubbornly out of pride be in denial thinking she could still pull that type of man that she prefers even though he don't want her back. This is why many women hate a man to have standards, preferences,and requirements. She knows deep down, and other females like her, know she's not the type of woman that the man she wants is looking for.
@@LanierHale-oq3dr Oh they understand but they refuse to acknowledge it because it's them. If they had high value sons they would encourage them to start their own families with someone who isn't used. Also, when a lot of them were younger they had men who were on their way to making 6 figures but they couldn't be loyal to the man so he left.
My wife takes care her Mom at a very large 55+ community. There are 4 couples. The rest are singles and well over 80% are women. I have only met 2 widows and 1 is my Mother in law. This is going to be this woman's future if she is lucky.
“We dated drug dealers” first of all who is we???? I hate when bw think every bw does the same mistake they did like one I don’t date criminals or drug dealers none of those things are attractive to me that’s like when people say “everybody smokes” lol no hunny you smoke not everybody does the same thing 😂🤣
Kendra G, of all people, said it best, "you can have a preference, but does your preference want you?". And unfortunately, a lot of females were not accustomed to thinking about that.
@@damedan9389 and that's why they hated Kevin Samuels because unlike the Steve Harveys and Derrick Jaxns of the world, he'll hold those women to the same standard in terms of natural face, height, weight, dress size, if they have kids and the kind of men they had kids with. They couldn't stand the thought that the kind of men they want won't want them.
When in her prime, she did not have those high standards. Now that she is past her prime and has more baggage, she wants to increase the requirements to date her. You cannot play hard to get when you are hard to want.
What you prefer may not be what you NEED or WHAT YOU QUALIFY FOR! 😮 But self-reflection is not exactly the modern black woman's strong suit. Great video, Dee.
A lot of the high earning men don’t want these type of loud annoying bossy women and Dee-Dee your right it’s up to the man if he wants the relationship with them
The woman in the video is a classic example of having life and BS mixed up. She gave the wrong men all her best years and now she wants the right man to accept what's left. It's a crying shame...
You can level up all you want but when you in that 40ish range all that bs is over. No man of value will take you serious you jus a fun girl at that point.
They have children with the low value men, and then when they are older and worn out, they look for high value men to take care of her and her children.
Simply put… fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive. Literally most are missing AT LEAST one of these, which is the fit part. Most even don’t have most of the others. This is why they can’t get what they want no matter how confident they call themselves. Results show that confidence does not get them what they want. Doing the work does.
@@thankthelord4536 yes and what they also won’t talk about when it comes to having excessive weight, it interferes with her chances of pregnancy. I know too many women that have excessive weight on them and they keep losing their babies. I did some research on the matter and excessive weight does in fact cause fertility issues. Women see you can be excessively heavy and healthy at the same time, but I beg to differ.
Ironically she’s right and she is expressing the frustration of realizing who she is doesn’t attract what she wants. She is facing the fact that her lived reality conflicts with her desired outcomes.
At the end of the day men have Time on our side and we have Numbers on our side. It's more women on this planet than worthy men who meet their qualifications.
Dreamers…. Or as they call it, preferences. Most women block their own blessings by day dreaming about what they will never get, and refusing to get in where they fit in. Some women think they can level up like Eve. When their reality is that they are as combative as Lisa Raye, and their lack of having a relationship match hers.
She spent her youth chasing Chad Rone poncho and dudes who already had money. Always ignoring the hard-working normal guy. Now that she's gotten run through an old but she's made a little bit of money in life she wants a Chad Rone poncho with money, But Chad Rone Poncho's with money ain't putting up with her old bad ass attitude.
If you’re a prize, how come nobody has won you? Aren’t prizes supposed to be won? Know your worth? How come nobody is paying this price that you set? - Shannon Sharpe
I agree with the woman in the clip… I believe that we are all free to desire the exact type or man/ woman that we desire… It’s just that, it does NOT mean that any of us will get exactly what it is that we want… Life is NOT fair…
Your truth here today is painful and illuminating and i hope it reaches at least some women in their prime and impart some knowledge before time and good men passes them by....Peace
You preached that. They "know their value" after 4 kids 2 divorces and now looking for a sponsor. Learn how to pick a man BEFORE you come with baggage...or ARE YOU DUMB??? Which one? 💪🏽
Worth and value are not self-determined. It is determined by the market. Value/worth starts with valuing and protecting the most desired, or more importantly, the things that the men they want are looking for.
"Her logic is completely incorrect! I'm a strong, independent woman, I have a Masters degree, and I make good money! I'll never settle for anything less" - Eboni K. Williams
You never said that you're married so we know exactly where you are in life. You said absolutely nothing feminine about yourself, all masculine energy I see, you actually sound like a dude.
That sounds good, but if accountability is many of their Achilles heel; self-assessment will always fall on someone else because they're never at fault. Remember what many of them say; I AM WHO I AM, JUST DEAL WITH IT.
Well they said Hinge was racist cause they couldnt get responses fr high value men and the men they get responses from they didnt want but claim the dating app is racist cause they werent the types fr the non bm/lawyers/engineers who were the ones who had to get back to them. But gotta blame Hinge. smh
I'll be completely honest real men go through the most to get what they have...and their willing to sacrifice more for the right woman...but a man who is a man "amen" is not going to give you everything penny he has or all of the authority that comes with headship... because that's between him and God...I notice that alot of women do desire that control but the right one won't because they know what ever it is...be it cleanliness, taking care of your body, (and/or) controlling the financial responsibilities that come with marriage...A good man will find a way to make it work...without completely losing his Identity and a good woman will follow his leadership....
She did not name once successful man and even if he working at Kroger's or Walmart he still working She ain't pick no guys making 100,000 or more cuz she can't get one
And I want a cover model! Almost every man has a “preference” for cover models but how many men do you see walking around with a 10 out of 10 cover model?! 🤔🤷♂️ If men had the same ridiculous standards as women, we’d all go extinct!
AGREED... People have their preferences, but uhhh... I think at times women don't humor these men when they are YOUNGER OR they don't prioritize relationship/marriage when they are in their youth/prime thinking "they have time" OR they are trying to force something that just doesn't fit. Hence, you'll be better off going for character overall IN REGARDS TO work ethic, personality, meaning how does he treat you and others and do other people respond to him well? And values in regards to family values, expectations of a partner/ views on family or relationship dynamics...do they align with yours or are you accepting of his?... IMPORTANT THINGS BEYOND tall, dark, handsome, and even rich especially if you're pass your prime. Otherwise, IT WOULD VERY WELL BE a compromising situation. Is it impossible for women to gain what they would want in a man? Well... it's not impossible but it can certainly be more difficult the older a woman gets because most of these men may already be married or simply not interested in YOUR "level up."
Drug dealer always gets his turn. They don’t see an issue with that. All of them will say they gave themselves to trash dudes but at 35 and 40 now know their worth.
I've heard on say whays between her legs is valuable.. I asked where was that value when you let 5 guys run one?.. Crickets . if you kmow your worth and a man can hit off a blunt or pills or a burger. That's your worth.
we can all agree, men are visual creatures, and we all also know that women are non visual to men once they reach 40 y/o, with another 40 years to go , women age far too quickly
If she dated all the trash dudes in her prime and It didn't work out why should another man take her older, heavier, kids from a previous relationship, bitter from past relationships and still bring more to the table Than the men that got her In Her prime?
Notice she didn’t name not one man with a career, “the drug dealer, the scammer, the guy who worked at Walmart”. This is also a reflection of who they tend to get pregnant by. You never hear, “I dated the guy in cybersecurity, the guy who works at the bank, the guy at the marketing firm”.
Exactly.
I’m married to a business man and I gladly gave him 2 babies.
Why isn't Walmart a career? What if he's the manager at Walmart or doing something high level for Walmart?
🎯
Exactly 💯
Women are quick to state standards , but fall silent when you ask them the preferences of the men that meet those standards.
And get pissed when the qualifications tells her she doesn't qualify for him, let alone the felon she got kids from
@@evos469absolutely
Why was homegirl in the clip yelling? Imagine coming home from a long day at work and having to deal with her. 😑
And imagine you return that energy, she'll go out there and say that was verbally and emotionally abused.
Pass ...
I was thinking 🤔 that exact same thing 😉.... why is she shouting at the camera and who wants to be dealing with that???
I was thinking the same ....
Absolutely 👍🏾
That's why arranged marriages were once popular among the common people.
Yea because the females got Sponge for brains.
Exactly
She was big mad. Screaming and shit. 😆😂
That's what I'm saying, all that anger and aggression. She can't get her point across without screaming and hollering.
She's doing that cause she herself knows the type of man that she's expecting to be with who has all the qualities and requirements she's looking for doesn't want her back if she doesn't have all the qualifications he's expecting out of her but she still wants to delusionally and stubbornly out of pride be in denial thinking she could still pull that type of man that she prefers even though he don't want her back. This is why many women hate a man to have standards, preferences,and requirements. She knows deep down, and other females like her, know she's not the type of woman that the man she wants is looking for.
😂🤣😂😂
Men marry who they want women marry who they can
We dated the drug dealers....we dated the scammers....lol
That's what they're attracted to.
Remember fellas, she's not waking up at 40. She's just not able to attract the same kinds of men that she had when she was younger.
@@LanierHale-oq3dr Oh they understand but they refuse to acknowledge it because it's them. If they had high value sons they would encourage them to start their own families with someone who isn't used. Also, when a lot of them were younger they had men who were on their way to making 6 figures but they couldn't be loyal to the man so he left.
True. So true
No man, broke or rich, wants that
They always want a family at 40!!!! Baby gurl you could have that in your 20s SHOUT OUT TO KS!!!!
My wife takes care her Mom at a very large 55+ community. There are 4 couples. The rest are singles and well over 80% are women. I have only met 2 widows and 1 is my Mother in law. This is going to be this woman's future if she is lucky.
It's always to late when most wake up...👎🏾...waitng until close to 40 yrs old is delusional mindset...😢
“We dated drug dealers” first of all who is we???? I hate when bw think every bw does the same mistake they did like one I don’t date criminals or drug dealers none of those things are attractive to me that’s like when people say “everybody smokes” lol no hunny you smoke not everybody does the same thing 😂🤣
Exactly
Straight Truth comes from this Spiritual Queen.👑👍🏾 Correct you are
You are not attracted to bad boys?
Exactly!!!!!
Thank you 💯 like who tf is we 🤣
Why is she holding back tears 😭 in her rant lol 😂 😅😂😢
Thank goodness I am blessed to be married to a good man. These women out here placing an order for a man and have nothing to offer.
Kendra G, of all people, said it best, "you can have a preference, but does your preference want you?". And unfortunately, a lot of females were not accustomed to thinking about that.
Nope, Kevin Samuels said it better and before she did.
@@damedan9389 and that's why they hated Kevin Samuels because unlike the Steve Harveys and Derrick Jaxns of the world, he'll hold those women to the same standard in terms of natural face, height, weight, dress size, if they have kids and the kind of men they had kids with. They couldn't stand the thought that the kind of men they want won't want them.
Kevin Samuel's said this.
Kevin Samuels taught her that.. sorry
Kendra piggy backed off KS please do your research and keep up
When in her prime, she did not have those high standards. Now that she is past her prime and has more baggage, she wants to increase the requirements to date her. You cannot play hard to get when you are hard to want.
Dee Dee is 100% right.
What you prefer may not be what you NEED or WHAT YOU QUALIFY FOR! 😮 But self-reflection is not exactly the modern black woman's strong suit. Great video, Dee.
The world doesnt dictate what a man or woman should have. The market does.
It's too late.
Somebody's in their feelings.
A lot of the high earning men don’t want these type of loud annoying bossy women and Dee-Dee your right it’s up to the man if he wants the relationship with them
The woman in the video is a classic example of having life and BS mixed up. She gave the wrong men all her best years and now she wants the right man to accept what's left. It's a crying shame...
It isn’t settling or compromising, it’s rational, adult behavior to find a mate who truly matches you.
You can level up all you want but when you in that 40ish range all that bs is over. No man of value will take you serious you jus a fun girl at that point.
I love when they talk about leveling up. It sounds like basic adult ingredients to me. To them, it is like they won the Power Ball Lotto
They have children with the low value men, and then when they are older and worn out, they look for high value men to take care of her and her children.
Women with 4 kids, and 4 baby daddies think they deserve the world..lol
6:38 “You’re not just wrong, you’re stupid.” 😂 I love that movie.
im not gon wife up a woman who willingly choose pookies or former pookies and wouldve bypassed me
They aren't getting the man they want. Many of them won't get any man other than a tune-up man.
Simply put… fit, feminine, friendly, cooperative, submissive. Literally most are missing AT LEAST one of these, which is the fit part. Most even don’t have most of the others. This is why they can’t get what they want no matter how confident they call themselves. Results show that confidence does not get them what they want. Doing the work does.
And don't forget fertile.
@@thankthelord4536 yes and what they also won’t talk about when it comes to having excessive weight, it interferes with her chances of pregnancy. I know too many women that have excessive weight on them and they keep losing their babies. I did some research on the matter and excessive weight does in fact cause fertility issues. Women see you can be excessively heavy and healthy at the same time, but I beg to differ.
Ironically she’s right and she is expressing the frustration of realizing who she is doesn’t attract what she wants. She is facing the fact that her lived reality conflicts with her desired outcomes.
Great Job!!!
At the end of the day men have Time on our side and we have Numbers on our side. It's more women on this planet than worthy men who meet their qualifications.
Their worth when will women learn it's not about them.
I love when people say never settle but are settling at the jobs they H8 & more 🎉
DeeDee, no lies in what you said!! Thanks for keeping it real. ( Yeah, I'm an OG)
Facts! Keep enlightening the people!😉👍🏾👊🏾✊🏾👏🏾💪🏾✋🏾🙌🏾😍😻🥰
All these, after they've been beaten and battered for over two decades by Pookies who actually make nothing compared to Walmart guys...
Dreamers…. Or as they call it, preferences.
Most women block their own blessings by day dreaming about what they will never get, and refusing to get in where they fit in.
Some women think they can level up like Eve. When their reality is that they are as combative as Lisa Raye, and their lack of having a relationship match hers.
Mutual:
Mutual attraction... Mutual alchemy... Mutual respect... Mutual humility... Mutual love... Mutual honest... Mutual compromise... Mutual cultivation... Mutual appreciation!!!
She is so hurt. Look at those tears and hear that vocal range.
Damn she's angry.
1:27 - 2:13 this is the very best way to explain things. #wellSaid
Great commentary. Truth!
👍 peace and love to Dee Dee!
Keep Preaching Facts 👏🏽 Sis 🙏🏻
I want a Victoria's Secret model but I'm not gonna get one.
She spent her youth chasing Chad Rone poncho and dudes who already had money. Always ignoring the hard-working normal guy. Now that she's gotten run through an old but she's made a little bit of money in life she wants a Chad Rone poncho with money, But Chad Rone Poncho's with money ain't putting up with her old bad ass attitude.
Facks
Lmao, she was mad. She was passionate, lmao. The man she wants does not want that. No man wants that.
True facts
Little Sister, i really like you and your info was very helpful
If you’re a prize, how come nobody has won you? Aren’t prizes supposed to be won?
Know your worth? How come nobody is paying this price that you set?
- Shannon Sharpe
I agree with the woman in the clip… I believe that we are all free to desire the exact type or man/ woman that we desire… It’s just that, it does NOT mean that any of us will get exactly what it is that we want… Life is NOT fair…
Your truth here today is painful and illuminating and i hope it reaches at least some women in their prime and impart some knowledge before time and good men passes them by....Peace
Keep up the good work Dee Dee facts
Some of them have all these Hugh standards and still end up with a person who they didn't want at 1st🤣
@4:05 - Boom💥💥💥
Why did she instantly get loud and aggressive?
Par for the course
I don’t care what anyone says, black women are completely finished in the relationship game! They just don’t realize it!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
That’s why she’s single they think you’re supposed to go that way not with me it won’t lol
How sister's leveling up at the bottom of all categories marriage, economics, evictions, desired,debt and divorce rates 🤔
You preached that. They "know their value" after 4 kids 2 divorces and now looking for a sponsor. Learn how to pick a man BEFORE you come with baggage...or ARE YOU DUMB??? Which one? 💪🏽
Divorces? You were right about the 4 kids part, but most of them never get married to any of their baby daddies.
Great video sis
If a man doesn't get real respect from the woman it's a wrap! a man don't ask much from a woman but to work as a team daily.
7,8,9and 10's get Married by 25.
Exactly!!! Men have standards we decided what type of woman we want it's a vetting process can she make my life better.
Worth and value are not self-determined. It is determined by the market. Value/worth starts with valuing and protecting the most desired, or more importantly, the things that the men they want are looking for.
You always tell it the way it is my sister ❤️
"Her logic is completely incorrect! I'm a strong, independent woman, I have a Masters degree, and I make good money! I'll never settle for anything less" - Eboni K. Williams
You never said that you're married so we know exactly where you are in life. You said absolutely nothing feminine about yourself, all masculine energy I see, you actually sound like a dude.
That woman was combative and aggressive, no wonder why she is single
You don't have to settle for any man, but ladies, Time & Biology will definitely settle for you!!
Saying it louder and prouder: "We've dated drug dealers!" is DIABOLICAL 🥴🥴🥴
It is the awful truth.
They want a pat on the head for giving the drug dealer a chance lol
@@riddickj16 😆😆 Na they thought that they could reform the pushers, you know, I can fix him.
😂😂😂😂😂 and the delusional continues😂😂😂😂
🤦🏿♂️😔 shaking my head she look at the mirror 🪞and examined herself period..
Sometimes you have to take a self assessment
That sounds good, but if accountability is many of their Achilles heel; self-assessment will always fall on someone else because they're never at fault. Remember what many of them say; I AM WHO I AM, JUST DEAL WITH IT.
Well they said Hinge was racist cause they couldnt get responses fr high value men and the men they get responses from they didnt want but claim the dating app is racist cause they werent the types fr the non bm/lawyers/engineers who were the ones who had to get back to them. But gotta blame Hinge. smh
No body gets everything they want
SMDH, WOW
Loud and single
I'll be completely honest real men go through the most to get what they have...and their willing to sacrifice more for the right woman...but a man who is a man "amen" is not going to give you everything penny he has or all of the authority that comes with headship... because that's between him and God...I notice that alot of women do desire that control but the right one won't because they know what ever it is...be it cleanliness, taking care of your body, (and/or) controlling the financial responsibilities that come with marriage...A good man will find a way to make it work...without completely losing his Identity and a good woman will follow his leadership....
Smh here we go again
Right 👍🏽▶️.
Why is she screaming 🤬 I hate that type of shit
You are so beautiful keep up the good work
But that time they have no worth
She did not name once successful man and even if he working at Kroger's or Walmart he still working She ain't pick no guys making 100,000 or more cuz she can't get one
And I want a cover model! Almost every man has a “preference” for cover models but how many men do you see walking around with a 10 out of 10 cover model?! 🤔🤷♂️ If men had the same ridiculous standards as women, we’d all go extinct!
AGREED... People have their preferences, but uhhh... I think at times women don't humor these men when they are YOUNGER OR they don't prioritize relationship/marriage when they are in their youth/prime thinking "they have time" OR they are trying to force something that just doesn't fit. Hence, you'll be better off going for character overall IN REGARDS TO work ethic, personality, meaning how does he treat you and others and do other people respond to him well? And values in regards to family values, expectations of a partner/ views on family or relationship dynamics...do they align with yours or are you accepting of his?... IMPORTANT THINGS BEYOND tall, dark, handsome, and even rich especially if you're pass your prime. Otherwise, IT WOULD VERY WELL BE a compromising situation. Is it impossible for women to gain what they would want in a man? Well... it's not impossible but it can certainly be more difficult the older a woman gets because most of these men may already be married or simply not interested in YOUR "level up."
She angry lol
Drug dealer always gets his turn. They don’t see an issue with that.
All of them will say they gave themselves to trash dudes but at 35 and 40 now know their worth.
Their worth is 🗑 at that point
Yup and now they have a set of high standards for the new guy while cut corners for the drug dealers
I've heard on say whays between her legs is valuable.. I asked where was that value when you let 5 guys run one?.. Crickets . if you kmow your worth and a man can hit off a blunt or pills or a burger. That's your worth.
What is the point of her complaint, why didn’t she just focus her attention on higher quality men from the beginning.
Literally all of these women sound like broken records....
And some you "BOSS BABES" do need to humble your damn selfs!!!!
THAT MEANS You STILL DON'T HAVE THE WORTH You THINK
wanting vs obtaining 😂
Dont save bw
🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥👍🏾
Oh, she's crazy and needs the therapy to get over her bad past decisions.
we can all agree, men are visual creatures, and we all also know that women are non visual to men once they reach 40 y/o, with another 40 years to go , women age far too quickly