It is actually terrible but it’s been around for a while. However, in the past women created the fashionable silhouette with padding and undergarments, which means that anyone of any size could be fashionable, however since we’ve lost so many layers in fashion, the only thing left to sculpt is the body itself.
@@adanactnomew7085 most of the times this is true. You don't even need Plastic surgery. Just better self care and correcting medical issues. And that requires a lot of money. Another I would add is "you're not ugly. You just don't know your style" "You're not ugly you're just not your type"
yes!! theres a quote I love "it took me too long to realize that I dont look good in pictures cause I have the kind of beauty that moves" and I always think of it when I see a "bad" pic of myself.
Honestly it’s confusing. There’s body positivity being pushed down our throats by the same ppl who are getting all of this stuff done. So I just feel like it’s better to just stay off of social media. Like I really can’t anymore.
And it sucks cuz now you have people like "well that IS body positivity, it means you can do what ever you want to feel positive about your body!" Like n-no....not exactly 😭 it's all turned upside down now. Like people have the right to do what they want with their own body but to say that all these procedures is practicing body positivity....is not correct.
The worst part is when Instagram models lie about getting anything done. Fans will literally ask them “did you get lip fillers?” And they be like “no all natural 😘”
Like we know it’s “none of our business” but it’s my business if u tryna sell something to me that “obtains the look” but u got nip, tuck, and fill to get it. 🙅🏾♀️ no ma’am. Product will be ignored.
The weirdest part is when they change their PINK undertone to yellow just to appear arab/latina/literally any race other than white. It's so strange that Kylie Jenner looks like an arab auntie when she is White.. like Mayflower white
I’m North African and sometimes can’t stop comparing myself to these white girls that get perfect UV tans, with no body hair, hair always flawless (no frizz like my Mediterranean hair does) lips injections, tiny noses and it’s like, they look like the ´perfect’ version of me
“People want something that seems realistic but they also want a lie as well” What an awesome quote. It also perfectly sums up a lot of heterosexual men’s notions on women wearing makeup. 🤣
I hope one day we'll quit the war on female noses. Guys can have giant potatoes as a nose and still be considered handsome but women need those tiny button noses (that are highly impractical in environments like the cold where noses are meant to heat the air before it hits the lungs).
My 13 year old daughter is an artist and I noticed a lot of her drawings were Instagram face, after I told her she started doing a lot of different faces. Concentrating on people with less perfect features
I had the same experience with my adult daughter in the early 2000s. She was not online, most kids did not have cell phones and Instagram and Facebook was not out. The television and magazines created the same impact on her art. I mentioned it, just like you did, and I saw a lot more diversity in her portrayal of the human form. Moms Matter! Hats off to you! 👍🏾
OMG the “South Asian influence on the eyebrows and eye shape” is so true!!! We naturally have very high brow bones, thick eyebrows, and eyelashes. It’s insane how the Instagram Face is just an amalgamation of different cultural features.
I have literally had a plastic surgeon tell me he can "fix" my nose. When I asked what was wrong with it. He said and I quote " I can make it slimmer. Its in trend now" When I tell you my mom jumped so fast and told him " so what? In a few years when its not a trend we have to do it again? There is nothing wrong with her nose!" I still look at my nose differently since then.
Your mum has a point your nose is probably perfect for your face structure .Nose jobs now a days arent looking natural they go out of there way to give that dramatic Instagram look.That isnt going to be in fashion forever much like the 2016 trend of insta baddie make up and layers of foundation and powder.Now natural is better and were showing our real skin.I hope we begin to love our natural features
Ugh! I have a deviated septum. I went to an ENT a few months ago for chronic sinus issues, and the way he brought up my deviation made me feel like he might be trying to set me up to for a rhinoplasty, which they also do. Though I'm not 100% averse to a rhinoplasty, it's not at the top of my priority list right now, and I'd want to carefully research doctors, not just go with any random one.
Uhm, that plastic surgeon was probably just low-key fishing for business. If you "had to" do it again in a few years, that' be even better for business. You get the idea. Of course it's hurtful, but don't let someone's marketing strategy get to you. :)
Side note: one thing I have noticed is that even the body positivity movement is still not there yet, like people cheer if you're plus size, but your face still has to be 'cute'. People like Jordyn woods, Barbie Ferreira, Iskra Lawrence are plus size and all have beautiful faces, now stick your average girl's face on any of their bodies and the media companies will be like: "uUh nO."
Just wanna say that fillers do not "disappear", they travel. That is also the reason why people who have gotten fillers for years look so bloated. It's not because their fillers were botched but because the past fillers have traveled to other parts of their face. Great video!
Exactly, it's all short term beauty. You have to keep getting them redone again and again, and a decade down the line your face is all saggy and bloated and frozen. Doesn't look good at all.
It ages really poorly and quickly, along w tanning. My friend looked fairly good in 2016, now her skin has leathered, cracked and the puffiness is in places it's not supposed to be.
I think they can dissolve it and you should do it before injecting more as to prevent puffiness. But a lot of people don't do it because it costs additional money and time.
Yep, even the stuff that's meant to go away doesn't go away completely and ends up very odd looking. There's a Dr on yt who explains it well and shows the scans
I've been modelling full-time for the past 2 years, and yesterday for the first time I had to tell someone not to photoshop my face to look like this face you're explaining. The person who responded to me told me they were a new editor and will no longer edit my face.. but just the fact that they came on board and decided to edit my face the way they desired, thinking everyone would be okay with it - including me, looking at my distorted face is just absurd.
I had a similar thing happen to me.. in high school. We did a photoshoot to show new students what programs the school had to offer and I was part of the “models”. An older student was responsible for editing the pictures (light, saturation, skin) and she completely changed my face. It really messed me up thinking that my face wasn’t good enough or that it needed so much changing. I was 15 at that point.
I'm a professional photo retoucher and I NEVER change aspects of the face outside of removing blemishes and retouching the skin where needed. But I tell every client I am not going to photoshop a new face or body onto you. I like to keep it as natural as possible. I think it teaches people that they aren't good enough when you start changing aspects that are natural to them.
"People want realism but they also want the lie." True. It's like how some people play you for not being real but will tear you apart when you're vulnerable. Glad I came across your channel.
Having beauty standards that are only achievable through surgery is classist as well. Life, if the only way for the vast majority of people to follow the beauty standard is to pay hundreds or thousands of dollars for cosmetic procedures, then it's automatically inaccessible to poor people, i.e. only rich people can be pretty.
There was another UA-cam who I follow who was saying essentially the same thing, but with regard to “perfect teeth” that all these influencers have. Because these 18 kids are spending $$$ getting their real functional teeth sawed down to put vaneers on that most people can’t afford. I wish I could remember her channel name right now.
And on top of making beauty inaccessible to poor people, we also know about the "pretty privilege" that Khadija talks about. The less conventionally pretty you are, the less opportunities you have. You get treated worse, you get dismissed, etc. I lived it myself, being underweight with long hair, and then gaining 20 kg and cutting my hair short. The way I was treated was night and day, it was awful. So without even touching upon the self esteem issues, depression, EDs, anxiety etc that that mindset brings, by making "beauty" only accessible to the elite, they're marginalizing people with a lower income even more.
🤳🏻❤️I am deeply touched with your comment … it is so true , that it is classism . And sad that this beautiful generation , that is the future if USA , is trapped into this notion of beauty ,that I just hope it doesn’t affect their future .
Dude, there are people who have been seriously offended by me saying "cosmetic surgery is making women look all the same. It's like we're in a sci-fi novel." Usually their response is: "women should be able to do whatever they want without your criticism" ... but it needs to be addressed. Btw, you are gorgeous.
@@jeanneg6004 exactly. I can critique the effects of cosmetic procedures on our society without criticizing the women who actually have these procedures.
@@kathmandoozle yeah. Contrapoints made a great video about beauty where she said how awful it is that we shame women for not meeting societal beauty standards but mock them for trying to fit that standard through dieting, surgery, makeup, etc. it’s like we’re supposed to naturally check all the boxes for beauty standards or else we either don’t care or care too much. Tdlr: don’t hate the player hate the game.
Exactly, being uncritical is how we got here in the first place. Women are free to make their own choices sure, but those choices have wider implications for the rest of us by changing beauty standards and making more and more extreme interventions the norm.
SO true. The answer they give you is pure hypocrisy since they aren't letting women be who they really want (or at least themselves) since women with big noses, small breasts, big body, etc. probably at least once in their life felt insecure. These stereotypes lead to people wanting to be the "general beauty standard". From my point of view, it's boring and ugly when people look just "fine", literally like society wants you to look. People with a natural appearance (basically an appearance that wasn't modified with surgery) and that has those "imperfections" I usually find them much more attractive and exotic, but that's just my opinion. The same happens with men of course.
I just discovered your channel because I’ve been obsessed with feminist video essays lately and I just wanted to say: you are STUNNING. I don’t even mean just looks. Your personality, your intelligence, your demeanor, your sense of humor. You are the whole package and I am so excited to be able to watch your video collection.
@Spicy Memer47 ^^^ I noticed the skin lightening too .. I didn’t think about it TOO much but.. I noticed. It feels weird when I do it because it don’t even look like my skin, so I never do that filter.
I have naturally huge bulging eyes. It aint all that. I actually shrink them in pics and cant wear eye makeup bc everyone stares and has to make comments
I find that a lot of gay men are also going for this “Instagramface” I see so many men with the cheekbones and plum lips.. I don’t know but the look is super 👽 ..
One time my gay friend told me that he doesn’t like my ‘tall and skinny body type’ and prefers my friends ‘short and curvy’ body. Thought that was weird. Some seem to be drawn to hyper feminine traits
@@sallysmith7664 thats not your friend baby. He high key has negative feelings towards you I’d even go as far as he’s jealous of you and he doesn’t deserve someone like you. Skinny and tall is literally what 90% of what models look like. Don’t let his hating ass get to you
85% of plastic surgeons are male, while over 90% of patients are female... wow. That's really interesting even just purely from a sociological standpoint. Loved this video! This is the first video of yours I've watched but I've subscriber. I'm off to watch the pretty privilege one now. Lol.
The reasons are myriad. One of the reasons is that the course takes over 3-4 years over the usual MS which is already 8 years, at least in countries like India others perhaps longer. And committing to this long gruelling residency is difficult for women what with also being weighed down by family duties *scoff* men don't apparently need to tear themselves between work and home.
Yeah, because usually it's men that are interested in those types of jobs, I don't find it very much interesting because it's too obvious to me . Most politician's and most Doctors are men, isn't this one obvious too? Most judges, most police officers, most lawyers and most prosecutors are men. No one is keeping women from these jobs they are keeping themselves from these jobs. 60% of collage students and graduates are women and 40% If you ask me these jobs bore women to death they rather be a cosmetologist or a makeup artist and there's nothing wrong with that as these fields are mostly what they are into.
Nah it's plain to see... For poor ppl like me we do extensive research on how these rich ppl are so beautiful and VOILA we get educated in the process and no longer feel like the "standard" is what we wanna achieve..... But if you're upper middle class and above.... idk never been so I have no data xDD
"Rootless exoticism," reads like maybe "context- free saleable sexy"... it's popcorn, it's confetti, it's arm candy, with no fixed existence or personhood. If she's actually Italian or Tunisian, then she's got, like...a grandmother and ideas...
As a white person, I find the black fishing or trying to be racially ambiguous irritating. Just be who you are. It's unfair because it also puts real black models to the back of the line. Shitty
Honestly. I’m a white person who gets really tan during the summer, and I’ve had weird thoughts like “I feel like I’m black fishing if I post this pic where I’m more tan” bc so many white celebrities, specifically Ariana grande have faked tanned so much. Like a shade darker? Okay. But clearly they’re going several shades darker.
@@LLCoolJ_25 simply being "tan" or having one doesn't necessarily make a white person look not white. I think of black phishing more when white people get a very dark fake tan, crimp their hair, and get a bunch of lip fillers
As a 15 year old, it really doesn't feel nice. Sometimes I even forget that I'm still going through puberty and that I shouldn't want to change my body since it's still changing.
My 10 year old boy just walked by (as I sit here and listen to you whilst working) and saw you on my phone and said “that girl has beautiful skin by the way mommy.” So I had to share that not only are your videos engaging and thought provoking, but you are also beautiful.
It’s scary how much influence Instagram(social media) has in people, when a more masculine look in woman was popular I remember feeling so happy with myself, happy for my jawline and cheekbones, but when it went “out of style” it was horrifying for my self-stem and till this day I feel so bad for how I was born, which it’s ridiculous! I mean, I was born this way
I feel the same way about broad shoulders. Like when (if) I see any public figure with broad shoulders, they have ample sized boobs and an houglass figure to go with it and it just made me feel like if I have these broad shoulders, I must have a curvy body to go with it. I mean, why has beauty become a combo pack
People are so vain. We can’t choose our bodies. They’re given to us. We’re simply souls surrounded by skin and bones. Physical appearance shouldn’t be such a huge factor in deciding someone’s worth
Because people are insecure, I don't know why that's hard to understand and there is money to be made off your appearance and experiences to gain by doing so. People chase the fame if it = Joy in their life. If you just thought about if for a second maybe the answer would have came to you.
Honestly, just the fact that "people are getting prettier because we're more visually oriented" totally explained to me why we looked so terrible when my friends and I were in high school, and how now people look ~flawless~ at 14
I’m super concerned, I had to remove myself from social media in order to figure out if my insecurities were real. They weren’t, I was on social media too much. Great video!
Well I'm glad someone gave it a name and closet Instagram face ... I knew a lot of women were starting to look alike and couldn't describe it as good as the person who came up with that name . Plus I ditched my Facebook and other social-media except for UA-cam 4 years ago ... much more peace of mind except , hey , Instagram face is also everywhere on UA-cam... for example today we noticed Joe Biden's daughter definitely has had some kind of work done and starting to go the way of Instagram face .
Yesss!! Last year I started to limit my time on social media apps to just a few minutes a day, if that. And my self image improved GREATLY. It’s crazy because when I was a teen I used to really want all these surgeries but what I really needed was self love.
I just had a massive AHA moment! I'm mixed race (Persian, Mexican and Caucasian) with naturally curlycoily 3b/c hair and I've been accused of "race fishing" sporting the face and hair I was born with LMFAO. But people trying to achieve a racially ambiguous "instagram face" look puts things into perspective! Great video!
I know I'm late but me too 🥳 first video I saw of hers was the brigerton one, I don't even watch the show so idk how it got there but I'm so glad i clicked on it 😁
@@laurencannon3417 ikr it’s like yea she is the blueprint for “the face” but she should at least give credit to the cultures and people she got the idea from
Agree, and is is so sad, how people go through life hating their body, when it's function is literally keeping you alive and let you do the things you want to do. SO SAD how social media is making people insecure about everything on their body.
I love that you said that because our Creator makes all different kinds of birds, fish,trees,plants,dogs,cats,all types of animals,don’t get me started on the food all types .Yeah , I love our virtuosity of life❤️
Thats why i cant get into the makeup trend thats been a thing for the past 5 years. Too much makeup. Eyebrows all the same. Everyone looks the same just like the duck lips on myspace
Ligeia Siren it’s actually not...unfortunately we subconsciously gravitate towards physically appealing people, the personality is what keeps ppl around but to our dismay, the beauty is what brings them in. I researched it bc I wondered why appearance has always been a big deal. I think we instead of pushing beauty standards that are really boxed in we should push self acceptance. Loving yourself for how you look and not fixating on only your face, but we all have different opinions🙂 that was just mine.
The beauty standards these days are almost impossible to achieve naturally and it kinda worries me for the future generation that's growing up on instagram :(
Beauty standards come and go. So I’m just wondering what will be the next beauty standard for our future generation. They change all of the time so I don’t get why everyone wants to look the same. It’s exhausting. Pretty soon what was labeled as “unique” will be “mediocre”, or “regular”.
@@lanae1146 I can predict a return to more natural makeup for sure (we've already seen this with the popularity of brands like Glossier) and I also see more and more people acknowledge the sheer toxicity of social media and its detrimental effects on their mental health, which makes me wonder if a total rejection of social media will be a trend in the future.
That's why I really like influencers like Charlie Damilio. She just looks like a normal cute teenager to me, she isn't trying to look like she's in her 20s
I find if even a naturally pretty person is called beautiful constantly then others start to wonder why, wether it be their small nose or bigger lips ect people start to go down the surgical root unfortunately. Because people are constantly put on a pedestal because of their looks so its the only thing people focus on. I have a friendship group and everyone comments about how beautiful one friend looks and it can be quite soul destroying when nobody compliments you.
Why do I feel like the trend is gonna be this “instagram face” for a while and then more natural imperfect faces will be the new in thing because it would be rarer to fine 🤦🏾♀️😭😭
Thats the sad part when having a real face becomes just a trend. Then what happens when it's no longer in......back to toxic beauty standards. ...this world is insane.
The definition of beauty is not any individual colour or shade. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To raise anyone over another based solely on colour is a scourge that will only serve to divide. There is beauty everywhere, in every people, and the more people that see that, the more unified we can become.
And the second the conventional beauty standards become attainable to most regular people, they change. Beauty standards almost always tie into socio-economic status. Something something capitalism.
There's a 2015 TEDx Talk by a guy called Robert Hoge called "own your face" which really put things into perspective for me, and he mentions the idea of an uncanny valley of beauty. The closer to perfection you perceive yourself to be, the more you'll try to get there... Only to fail miserably.
What’s going to happen is everyone is going be high cheek bones and symmetrically perfect and the NEW beauty standards would to be have asymmetrical stuff going on. Crooked smile, unibrows, natural hair will be considered STUNNING
It never sat right with me that influencers would have discount codes for their plastic surgeons, so that their followers can then get plastic surgery..
The ‘ethnic ambiguity’ stuff has also altered people’s expectations for mixed race individuals. People now have silly expectations of what a mixed person should look like: not too light, but not too dark either, only the pretty features from each ethnicity. As someone who is half south Asian, I just want to be able to accept me for me, not what someone else thinks I should look like
yea, and since white ppl tend to make themselves look more mixed nowadays (lip injections, fake tan), the expectation for mixed black people has become a lot more strict
Same, I’m half white half Filipino. I feel like I’m too tan to be accepted as white, but I’m too American to be accepted by Filipinos. When I would get bullied, they would try to attack my race because people thought I was either half black or some kinda Hispanic, but when they found out I’m part Asian they back off slightly... it’s VERY weird.
@nadiakashoo I completely agree with you! I am so glad someone spoke about this. I am biracial as well ( African American & Vietnamese ) I have experienced these judgmental expectations by several people. They expect me to look a specific way and are not more open minded to just how diverse “mixed” biracial people are. 🤍✨
As little as about up to ten years ago my naturally chiseled arms were considered way too chiseled for a woman and people would often react to them but not in a very positive way. Nowadays I feel like a superstar in a sleeveless shirt, getting compliments across the board. I grew up in the eighties with a bigger butt that was an absolute curse in those times. J. Lo, Beyonce and the Kardashians made meat on the lower body trendy, and compared to them my butt looks kind of small but it's still big enough that it draws positive attention. My point is - I've pretty much had the same body for the past thirty years, and in those thirty years my body type, or at least some body parts, would go in and out of fashion. Whatever the instagram face is, it will go out of fashion in a few years, but these people will stay with permanent damage and the face they won't like anymore.
As a North African person, I will say too the “racial ambiguity” is so harmful. People will straight up accuse you of attempting to do the same & im like, bro this is just my face & my hair lmao.
@@Kwintessential2 I think they mean because North Africans are *one* of the groups of people who can sometimes look racially ambiguous, so he relates to this problem because of that. I don't think he meant that only North African people have this problem.
As a African I'm sorry, me too! A lot of etnicity of my country are arabe/black mixed or just look more arabe than African and sometimes it's complicated because they don't treat you as a true black or arab
@@Kwintessential2 of course not and North Africans are also very racist, unfortunately. They still prefer white light and bright. Even mixed isn’t impressive enough to them. They drool over Europeans especially European women. My own cousin left his Egyptian wife he has 2 boys from for an older Russian woman he met on the beach 😂🤦🏽♀️
Puerto Rican woman here. I wanted to bring up this point cause I don’t see a lot of conversations about it. I feel like a lot of the tropes of what Latin women should look like foreshadowed this whole “Instagram face” phenomenon. I’m so glad you brought up exoticism. The way that Americans want Latin women to look like is basically a white woman that doesn’t look like an *American* white woman: lightskin, with big lips, hourglass/curvy body, high cheekbones, etc. Think of JLo; she’s the actual embodiment of all of this. Again, what Americans want with Latin women is that racial ambiguity because it makes us look “exotic”. Also, Latin America has a huge history of mestizaje which is maybe why they created this trope. I’m not only gonna blame US Americans for this tho, bc when latinos started bootlicking US Americans, we ended up supporting these tropes too (hence why racism and colorism are such big issues here cuz we’re always bootlicking either US Americans or Europeans :/:/:/). I don’t know necessarily what caused this trope (now the “Instagram face”) to go this mainstream, but I think that with social media being able to connect us globally they wanted that exoticism to be more “accessible”. Anyways, my point is: WHY DONT WHITE AMERICANS JUST READ THEIR OWN HISTORY AND PREVENT THIS!!!!! Duh, it’s white supremacy, but it’s still really frustrating. It’s bad for everyone else!!! Especially black people bc it ALWAYS results in blackfishing.
@@KhadijaMbowe thank you! i just wanted to say you are my *favorite* channel atm and so incredibly underrated!!! i’ve been binge watching all your videos these past few days 😭 keep it up girl i’m rooting for you so strongly!!!
Yes!!! When she started talking about the exotic mixed look all I could think about was that's how lots of us latinas have been described for so long. They sexualize us from so long, call us exotic, but at the same time want just the best part of looking like us, while still being white. Our mixed features have so much history behind them, and not everything our people went through is pretty. Edit: in case anybody is wondering I'm brazilian.
I just remembered some messed up thing. Here in Brazil we have lots of different looking people because we were so mixed! Some look more caucasian, others more asian, and so on. But I see s lot of influencers doing procedures to have a more caucasian look. So they end up also looking like this generic instagram face. I see a lot of them getting the so called "facial harmonization", they are all looking the same. Lots of lip fillers (even when they already have nicely full lips), rhinoplasty and so on. When I was younger I loved how diverse we would look, how we would have people so different that were all beautiful in their own way, with their different features and all. Now everyone wants to look the same. It makes me sad.
Everyone is expected to have that perfect hour glass body, perfect skin, luscious lips, take perfect selfies, etc. ITS NOT REALISTIC and social media has truly distorted things 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
I want to add that filler doesn't naturally dissolve, it settles into your face and stays there. I think the misconception that it's temporary and you can get it as many times as you'd like is part of the issue
yes, people's faces look swollen after a while, because the fillers don't dissolve fully and start to migrate inside the tissues, so the former plumping effect fades and people just keep adding more fillers. it seems like jaclyn hill's or nikkietutorials' faces look so swollen because they can't stop using fillers. they didn't look like that when fillers weren't a thing.
Yup. Gavin Chan at the Victorian Cosmetic Institute has a whole video on how filler doesn't dissolve naturally, but just moves to other parts of the face. It's actually pretty freaky that so many people are getting filler every 6 months and it's just pooling in different areas of their face after a certain amount of time.
Your voice is such a famous person voice idk how to explain😭 its just so clear and pleasant on the ear. It reminds me of some of the black actresses from the 90s
@@Suryavue Aaawww, thanx sis. My parents decided I wasn't too -ugly- broke for braces back in middle school. 🤓🙊😬 Thanx mom n dad! They must've seen this day coming & started saving! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
first of all, your skin is just glowing and radiant the whole way through this video! but secondly, this was very insightful and interesting. i have acne (and have done for like 10+ years) and i have always struggled with wanting perfect skin because of this. however i have never enjoyed wearing make up because i find the textures strange and i can always just feel it on my face. because i never saw any representation of people with acne (especially other women) in my teens, i have made a point in my own videos and photos i post online to not really cover it up because it is actually a lot more normal than we think! i feel like this might have gone off topic a bit, but yeah, i hope we don’t evolve into a society where we all just kind of look the same. thank you for this video!
I think you touched on a really important point, representation. Not seeing people that look like you, no matter how you look, can weirdly make you feel like you’re the only one with a certain look. It’s weird to me that all these people wanna look like the same person, but I understand wanting to feel “beautiful” and seeing this as a way to get there. Lord. We have a lot to unpack in this world. Thanks for watching and for your comment 💕
I have the same thing! Acne and i don't like how makeup feels. I wound up going on accutane and my pimples are smaller now but i still have them and like that's just me 🤷🏻 I've hidden them with filters before but recently i haven't been bothering
I don’t have acne anymore but I still have all the hyperpigmentation and scars. It’s comforting sometimes to see others with their bare face who have similar skin type.
Glad to know I'm not the only one with this issue! 😆 Actors with very unique character-filled features I can appreciate, and mostly differentiate (as long as they don't change their hairstyles too drastically!) But if I had to tell apart most of these "influencers"... 🤦🏻♀️
“rootless exoticism” what a phrase. i’m a biracial woman who is both white and asian and hearing you say that felt like something clicking. the fetishistic attitude towards mixed people right now makes a little more sense to me after watching this and i really appreciate it so thank you 💜 edit: to clarify, just thinking mixed people are beautiful is not fetishism. people have told me i am beautiful in different ways, some of which indicated fetishism and others not at all. i’m just going based off of my own experiences, as well as what i’ve seen others go through in relation to our statuses as mixed race people.
Ikr! I'm also biracial and it's odd to me how some ppl are either strictly against interracial couples/biracial ppl or fetishize it. One time i read an entire paragraph from a black woman talking about how "exotic" blasians are and how "they all look perfect" and it freaked me the fuck out. She might aswell have been salivating while writing that, it was sooo creepy and hasn't left my mind since. I'm sure a lot of this is rooted in internalized racism and feeling like you're "basic" for just being one race
@@yogurtfan7336 love your comment! something id also add is people overcompensating because they dont want to be perceived as racist to the point where they sound racist as hell for sometimes unknowing fetishism! a lot of people want to be more racially sensitive and considerate/compassionate towards other peoples experiences but are afraid to ask questions that can genuinely move their education forward and over compensate. "youre not racist bc youd bang someone of a different race" argument. i dont even think its a complete matter of 'cancel culture' i just think people are trying too hard to overcorrect some past behaviors and just went to the other extreme!
@Alex Styles no one has ever made mixed race people to feel ashamed of their beauty. If anything they praise it and exemplify it. Literally mixed people have ALWAYS been praised. All the above comments are saying is that, they don’t want people praising them as superior to anyone else. It makes people that praise them insecure of their own beauty and that mixed is somehow better than mono racial. Because it’s not tbh.
hey Khadija! I'm a teenager and I've just started watching your videos, and they are really good! They explain everything in a clever and empathetic way, so I'm really learning a lot with you! Your videos like the slim-thick video clarify all these questions concerning toxic beauty and beauty standards nowadays and, as a teenager who constantly sees people fitting these standards, your videos help deal and learn about it. Keep up the good work! Love from Brazil!
The part that gets me about “Instagram face” is that people really have the nerve to think they’re beautiful by participating in this behavior. They go through all this work (and money) to be generic. They prance around like it’s an achievement to be ordinary but I’m ugly for liking my own individual beauty.
I was telling my husband how much I didn't like my hyperpigmentation on my cheeks and he was like I don't care you're still beautiful it just looks like your face that i love and it makes you look like a real person. I just...😢😣
Dr Dray here on UA-cam has helpful videos on hyperpigmentation. She’s a board certified dermatologist and the products she recommends are super affordable :)
@sonera yes I bet it only makes your face more beautiful and unique! I hope this stupid Instagram face trend goes away... I miss beautiful unique faces!! More people need to accept the parts of their face that the patriarchy says isn't what's attractive. Spoiler alert: they created that image in the first place and are making you pay money to fit THEIR ideal!! The time is now for total body acceptance!
I hate this trend so much, my sister’s only 15 and utterly convinced that she wants a nose job. her nose is completely normal btw, it’s just not a tiny button nose like mine. she takes after our dad in that way, and it breaks my heart that tiktok has her convinced that her unique and perfect face needs altering when she hasn’t finished growing up yet.
postfeminism has made women thing that literally EVERYTHING is fine as long as it's "consensual" and "informed", the only thing it asks in return is that you don't criticise or question anything or anyone at all for it.
@@unknown0290 The point she's making is about feminism because 'Consent' as a topic is mostly talked about in feminism usually around the topics of sex, r@pe etc. The same goes for beauty standards and their effects on women's self-esteem. Yeah it's the patriarchal standard, but a counter-response to being anti-plastic surgery (usually the feminist response) is "well, as long as you're doing it for YOU it's fine!!". Hope this explanation helps☺️
I deleted tik tok after I caught myself researching plastic surgery and actually posting on forms asking what to get done. I actually thought about spending all the money I've been saving
Omg I also have noticed so many people starting to feel hella insecure because of tik tok. As their algorithm pushes pretty people Honestly be proud about deleting tik tok, if its making u think u need to spend all your savings on plastic surgery like nooo hunny You are unique don't ever change your own beauty to look like a copy of someone elses feel good about yourself and the features you have been blessed with ! Plastic surgery isn't all that and tbh most of them influencers are hella superficial and insecure themselves beauty also comes from within if you have disgusting personality with a pretty face it's going to overshadow it In the end matters a whole lot more to have a good heart than having pretty eyes or cheeks,lips.etc And the biggest flex tbh is to be content and happy with your natural You (outside and inside)!
Proud to see that you walked away and didn’t feed into that lie. You are beautiful just the way you are now. Plastic surgery isn’t how someone really looks it’s just permanent makeup/quick fixes.
Your skin is positively luminous. You're gorgeous. I wish my skin was pretty but alas I inherited toad skin. :'( Go ahead and do it. I need that grocery list to see what I should be eating to improve my skin!
I got made fun of for having fat lips and thick brows and now that’s what everyone is sticking needles and cutting their faces for, and it blows my mind
Sameeee people used to make fun of my thick brows and my parents kept calling me Shin Chan because of his sharpie eyebrows. People now compliment them tho 😌
I'm Mexican with heavy indigenous heritage, I was made fun of because of my eyes (they'd call them small, "japanese" eyes, and they'd pull their skin to imitate the shape of them), same with having big lips and my skin tone. And now it's trendy because white supermodels had had a procedures for that?
@@herediaee oh kids did the same to me with the eyes. My brother is literally half Chinese too so it fueled them to be racist to me too, even though I’m not Chinese
I must say I hate filters because I have features that I think make me attractive to the beauty standard of my culture and genetic heritage, and instagram and snapchat filters take away some of these features, which offends me because it is like they are telling me that my culture's beauty standards are wrong.
Oh same! I don't use any of those bc i end up looking just straight up weird and not like myself or my culture at all... Only skin smoothing filter works well.
Yea everyone’s preferences are different. I personally prefere straight brows, but I naturall have the high pointed ones which I personally don’t find as pretty so I purposely brush them down so they look straight lol. Same for crow eyes. I love those little wrinkles around the eyes and try to squint so I’ll get them at a younger age XD beautys definitely subjective!
For me personally, feeling beautiful is totally connected to feeling confident. I feel beautiful whenever I feel confident and proud. It‘s also what in my opinion does make other people attractive for me. Confidence is so beautiful.
Me being a 16 year old black girl sometimes I’m like is my face too round or my skin not clear enough or whatever the case is you’ve made me realize as much as some of them look pretty it’s better to be my own self then just wanting to be in the loop with all these girls with the same features. Individuality is better than looking like everyone else. I’m so glad I found your channel💕
I asked my then-boyfriend (now-husband) why he liked me and he said that at first it was because I don't look like anyone he has seen before. Your individuality is your biggest strength 😉
Came for the title (immediately agreed), then my 16 yr old daughter walked in and said "(Gasp!-in the excited way) She is BEAUTIFUL!!" Yes hunny, you are! Instant subby. Loving the content 👌🏽
Exactly. I don’t have the same experiences with insecurities like many seem to now bc of not having Insta in particular. Just FB for family and UA-cam.
4:45 "racial ambiguous while still maintaining eurocentric beauty standards" girl yes, you took the words right outta my mouth. I've never heard it be described this way. I'm Pakistani, I have high cheekbones and pretty decent lips (not instagram lips but not thin) and obviously tanned skin. Like how are white girls who made fun of me in school having the same skin tone as me now?!
Same with south east asians. I‘ve been made fun of in elementary and highschool for my asian eyes and nowadays every instagram person pulls their eyes back and lift them to make them look more asian. And it‘s infuriating that it‘s only pretty when white girls make it a trend
The funny thing is the eurocentric beauty standards still can't even be attained by white people. Like, northern, southern, eastern, and western Europeans don't even look the same either.
@@belzeebubbubbachunks This - I'm someone who is ghost-pale, but with dark wavy hair, dark eyes, and quite frankly a huge nose. And the only women I saw growing up (and still see tbh) looking like that were really just model faces made up to look "ugly" for movie or TV roles, and they'd always get made over to look pretty in the end. Like think Princess Diaries, Miss Congeniality etc. I love/d those movies but yknow? It's hardly the shit people who are mixed-heritage are going through, what with how the people who probably made fun of them are now trying to sell a sanitized, marketable imitation of their natural features, but it still hurts.
I have a lot of respect for cosmetic surgeons that will turn patients away if they suspect the patients' bodies are still growing and changing. Even if it's on the principle of "your changing body will ruin my work".
Great video. Reminded me of a YA series called “The Uglies” by Westerfeld, about a society where people undergo compulsory plastic surgery once they turn 16, unless they’re willing to be outcasts.
Omg yes I was thinking of the same thing. I don’t remember if there were ever like grotesque people even in the stories - it seemed like they were simply exaggerating the horror of their features because that’s how society saw those features
@@warloslaurez2374 I read it so long ago that I can’t remember, but that seems right. I remember a scene where they came across fashion magazines from our time and they were so shocked by what the models looked like!
I know this comment is really late, but everytime you said "minimally invasive" or that stuff like filler disappears after a few months, I'm just reminded of cosmetic surgeons now warning people of the dangers associated with it. I saw a video from the Victorian Cosmetic Institute where the surgeon posited that filler doesn't disappear at all
people fail to realize that if everyone looks the same, beauty becomes obsolete. I think society will eventually move to praising differences/ different features as beautiful and hopefully looking at non-beauty traits such as intelligence/ accomplishments
That was the beauty of the 90's. We didn't have those procedures, or photo technology. Everyone looked so different, diverse and beautiful. You look like someone from the 90's.
@@AnaSofia-xe2wg yes, for very high end, haute couture supermodels. And even that wasn't to the degree technology is today. Actresses, singers, professional cheerleaders, and the everyday woman did not photoshop.
@@AnaSofia-xe2wg We did but everyday people did not have access to photoshop and even minor cosmetic procedures like fillers. Those things were usually for the rich and famous.
This is exactly what my mom says. She says that every actor/celeb in this generation has the same face that’s easily forgettable 😂 And everyone in the old generation had their own unique faces.
I literally can't tell most white male actors apart and I don't even try anymore. I am not extremely into Hollywood, but I'm really tired of looking at the same bland face over and over. I'm also REALLY over the crazy idealized male form that's wildly over muscular and requires a diet and exercise regimen that is totally unsustainable and often described to be miserable. IM OVER ALL OF THIS NONSENSE. When can we be PEOPLE again?
Such great insight. I love that you still inserted a snippet of how, even in plastic surgery & the development of “editing” software, the patriarchy is still dictating beauty standards. I think a lot of us tend to overlook the fact that people are still the masterminds behind these apps & practices
the fact that body types go in and out of style like they’re fashion trends is disgusting
Exactly. During the late 90s and 2000s, I grew up with the thin body type being in style. I wanted to be skinny so bad and still do.
It is actually terrible but it’s been around for a while. However, in the past women created the fashionable silhouette with padding and undergarments, which means that anyone of any size could be fashionable, however since we’ve lost so many layers in fashion, the only thing left to sculpt is the body itself.
It's all going to keep changing
@@mikeymullins5305 the only thing left to sculpt, is the body itself... horror movie in the making.
I’m just waiting for mine to be in style but it never will. If you notice, it is always a dramaticized version of something attainable.
and I quote "You're not ugly, you're just not in season right now" - Jessica Vill
or "you're not ugly just poor"
@@adanactnomew7085 yes that one applies to any season
@@adanactnomew7085 someone at my high school literally said that to me once 😭😭
@@adanactnomew7085 most of the times this is true. You don't even need Plastic surgery. Just better self care and correcting medical issues. And that requires a lot of money.
Another I would add is "you're not ugly. You just don't know your style"
"You're not ugly you're just not your type"
Or “You’re not ugly…wait…yes you are” lol
"Some people are naturally pretty, others are just popular pretty"
Thank you! Popular pretty is a thing
yeah but maybe we shouldn't judge the beauty of someone like that
@@perryabruz6846 you don’t get Whats being said. “Popular pretty” basically means what social media tells you what’s pretty
Oh, okay my bad. Now i get it. I thought it meant: someone is born beautiful and someone is considered beautiful just because they're popular.
@paint kitty
instead of telling em' to sit down u could've just.. explained to them 🤷🏽♀️
ik someone already did but like, still kind rude.
Am I the only one who think I look better in person rather than on pictures??
I think so too. None of my selfies look nice but in mirrors I look so cute
Yes girl me too
same here and ppl have actually told me I look way better in person. also I am not great at posing.
Yeah same I haven‘t figuered out my photo face yet. And I can‘t look normally when I now I‘m being photographed
yes!! theres a quote I love "it took me too long to realize that I dont look good in pictures cause I have the kind of beauty that moves" and I always think of it when I see a "bad" pic of myself.
Honestly it’s confusing. There’s body positivity being pushed down our throats by the same ppl who are getting all of this stuff done. So I just feel like it’s better to just stay off of social media. Like I really can’t anymore.
Nothing weirder than being told to love yourself and the way you look by someone who completely changed the way they look
Social media is the devil. These people are delusional af no sense of reality.
And it sucks cuz now you have people like "well that IS body positivity, it means you can do what ever you want to feel positive about your body!" Like n-no....not exactly 😭 it's all turned upside down now. Like people have the right to do what they want with their own body but to say that all these procedures is practicing body positivity....is not correct.
Also making excuse after excuse about why they did it while telling you to love yourself 😬
You're literally gorgeous ,🥺
The worst part is when Instagram models lie about getting anything done.
Fans will literally ask them “did you get lip fillers?”
And they be like “no all natural 😘”
Like...ma'am...
This emoji 😘 took me TF Out!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Or for celebs when weird obsessive stans will spend all day arguing that they didn’t get any work done on their body and/or face when it’s obvious
💀💀 It’s the emoji for me.
Nothing but facts. 😘
Like we know it’s “none of our business” but it’s my business if u tryna sell something to me that “obtains the look” but u got nip, tuck, and fill to get it. 🙅🏾♀️ no ma’am. Product will be ignored.
The weirdest part is when they change their PINK undertone to yellow just to appear arab/latina/literally any race other than white. It's so strange that Kylie Jenner looks like an arab auntie when she is White.. like Mayflower white
Mayflower white 😭😭
im from boston.
I will now describe myself as Mayflower White
I’m North African and sometimes can’t stop comparing myself to these white girls that get perfect UV tans, with no body hair, hair always flawless (no frizz like my Mediterranean hair does) lips injections, tiny noses and it’s like, they look like the ´perfect’ version of me
I’ve noticed that
@@FarahEmoticonna SAMEEEE,Im moroccan and i always compare myself with kylie and kendall
“People want something that seems realistic but they also want a lie as well”
What an awesome quote.
It also perfectly sums up a lot of heterosexual men’s notions on women wearing makeup. 🤣
« I dOn’T lIke wOmeN wItH MakEup »
as soon as they see you without makeup
😳WhAt ?? What happened ?
Ah yes, the no-make up make up look
I lIkE mY gIrLs NaTuRaL
@@apriliahussna4561 literally 😭
Some women look plain without makeup and others don't
I hope one day we'll quit the war on female noses. Guys can have giant potatoes as a nose and still be considered handsome but women need those tiny button noses (that are highly impractical in environments like the cold where noses are meant to heat the air before it hits the lungs).
Agreed 100%
My nose bump and deviated septum appreciate you for this comment. 😂
@@amyw3472 I’m fixing my deviated septum it’s so annoying
Exactly 100% true
@@amyw3472 One of my besties has a nose bump bc of her deviated septum and I love it 😤❤ We support you & your bump
My 13 year old daughter is an artist and I noticed a lot of her drawings were Instagram face, after I told her she started doing a lot of different faces. Concentrating on people with less perfect features
You're a great mother! Thank you for this!
Gracias !!! Eres una mamá muy atenta
I had the same experience with my adult daughter in the early 2000s. She was not online, most kids did not have cell phones and Instagram and Facebook was not out. The television and magazines created the same impact on her art. I mentioned it, just like you did, and I saw a lot more diversity in her portrayal of the human form. Moms Matter! Hats off to you! 👍🏾
what are perfect features?
@@symoneprice4980 features that are not so symmetrical
OMG the “South Asian influence on the eyebrows and eye shape” is so true!!! We naturally have very high brow bones, thick eyebrows, and eyelashes. It’s insane how the Instagram Face is just an amalgamation of different cultural features.
I'm South Asian. What was against me (thick brows, is for me) it's mad. Literally hated myself. And now I get mad compliments
@Nishita kunder 100 B I swear, you are so right about the body hair. I am literally a black bear but my eyebrows and eyelashes are fuller.
Yep
@@TheFaro2011 yess can we flashback to when people made fun of our busy brows???
Yep completely agree
I have literally had a plastic surgeon tell me he can "fix" my nose. When I asked what was wrong with it. He said and I quote " I can make it slimmer. Its in trend now"
When I tell you my mom jumped so fast and told him " so what? In a few years when its not a trend we have to do it again? There is nothing wrong with her nose!"
I still look at my nose differently since then.
Your mum has a point your nose is probably perfect for your face structure .Nose jobs now a days arent looking natural they go out of there way to give that dramatic Instagram look.That isnt going to be in fashion forever much like the 2016 trend of insta baddie make up and layers of foundation and powder.Now natural is better and were showing our real skin.I hope we begin to love our natural features
Ugh! I have a deviated septum. I went to an ENT a few months ago for chronic sinus issues, and the way he brought up my deviation made me feel like he might be trying to set me up to for a rhinoplasty, which they also do. Though I'm not 100% averse to a rhinoplasty, it's not at the top of my priority list right now, and I'd want to carefully research doctors, not just go with any random one.
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Uhm, that plastic surgeon was probably just low-key fishing for business. If you "had to" do it again in a few years, that' be even better for business. You get the idea. Of course it's hurtful, but don't let someone's marketing strategy get to you. :)
I hate this vile cult of stump noses, I consider it a manifestation of racism, including anti-Semitism
My girlfriend used to say, "she's not hot, she's just rich."
Khloe Kardashian, Kylie Kardashian, all of them except Kim when she was 25 etc...
You got rid of this girlfriend? Or has she found something new to say?
In my country, Philippines, we say she is not hot she's just white or light skinned.
@Subi I think he was referring to the past tense of OPs post
Her perfume smelled more of money than taste.
Side note: one thing I have noticed is that even the body positivity movement is still not there yet, like people cheer if you're plus size, but your face still has to be 'cute'. People like Jordyn woods, Barbie Ferreira, Iskra Lawrence are plus size and all have beautiful faces, now stick your average girl's face on any of their bodies and the media companies will be like: "uUh nO."
Truth
And you can only be one type of fat which is hourglass, if you have anything else its not the right kind of fat apparently
@@dicksdrugsanddebutantes9305 that's very true
I get what you're saying, they often have slim faces with racially ambiguous features.
@@dicksdrugsanddebutantes9305 absolutely true!
Just wanna say that fillers do not "disappear", they travel. That is also the reason why people who have gotten fillers for years look so bloated. It's not because their fillers were botched but because the past fillers have traveled to other parts of their face.
Great video!
Oh jeez. That doesn’t sound good
Damn. Glad I dont want or need those.
Exactly, it's all short term beauty. You have to keep getting them redone again and again, and a decade down the line your face is all saggy and bloated and frozen. Doesn't look good at all.
Not all filler. Stop spreading false info.
@@a.j.1819 yess, it usually happens when the filler is added over and over again, during a period of year/s
I heard filler doesn’t go away. it shifts, it moves and will last for years.
Sometimes it shifts, but the body does metabolize it. How long it lasts depends on the product and person.
It ages really poorly and quickly, along w tanning. My friend looked fairly good in 2016, now her skin has leathered, cracked and the puffiness is in places it's not supposed to be.
@@magui178 with my metabolism speed it will last forever
I think they can dissolve it and you should do it before injecting more as to prevent puffiness. But a lot of people don't do it because it costs additional money and time.
Yep, even the stuff that's meant to go away doesn't go away completely and ends up very odd looking. There's a Dr on yt who explains it well and shows the scans
Everyone is saying her skin is luminous but her personality is luminous too 🥰🥰
Yes I agree 👍🏽 but how can anyone not love her skin though!!
Everyone saying her skin is luminous and her personality is luminous... what about her voice too?
@@Sarasapien as long as SHE loves it, no one else should matter. She is very dark, but most African people are this dark, nothing new.
Exactly. She's so beautiful. I'm honestly OBSESSED with her skin. She has such good genes.
Now thats. Just being stereotypical,not even most african ppl have darker skin.Hello?
I've been modelling full-time for the past 2 years, and yesterday for the first time I had to tell someone not to photoshop my face to look like this face you're explaining.
The person who responded to me told me they were a new editor and will no longer edit my face.. but just the fact that they came on board and decided to edit my face the way they desired, thinking everyone would be okay with it - including me, looking at my distorted face is just absurd.
Good on you for saying something!
I had a similar thing happen to me.. in high school. We did a photoshoot to show new students what programs the school had to offer and I was part of the “models”. An older student was responsible for editing the pictures (light, saturation, skin) and she completely changed my face. It really messed me up thinking that my face wasn’t good enough or that it needed so much changing. I was 15 at that point.
I'm a professional photo retoucher and I NEVER change aspects of the face outside of removing blemishes and retouching the skin where needed. But I tell every client I am not going to photoshop a new face or body onto you. I like to keep it as natural as possible. I think it teaches people that they aren't good enough when you start changing aspects that are natural to them.
@@Rossi.K do you do contracts? If so where can i reach you?
@@Rossi.K Exactly, professional retouchers don't go too far on models, it's mostly skin retouching, it's still you but ''better''.
"People want realism but they also want the lie." True. It's like how some people play you for not being real but will tear you apart when you're vulnerable. Glad I came across your channel.
Lot to think about with this, how you worded it. So true...
Damn this is so true
Right, they want real, but also perfection
Felt this 🗣👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Having beauty standards that are only achievable through surgery is classist as well. Life, if the only way for the vast majority of people to follow the beauty standard is to pay hundreds or thousands of dollars for cosmetic procedures, then it's automatically inaccessible to poor people, i.e. only rich people can be pretty.
There was another UA-cam who I follow who was saying essentially the same thing, but with regard to “perfect teeth” that all these influencers have. Because these 18 kids are spending $$$ getting their real functional teeth sawed down to put vaneers on that most people can’t afford. I wish I could remember her channel name right now.
And on top of making beauty inaccessible to poor people, we also know about the "pretty privilege" that Khadija talks about. The less conventionally pretty you are, the less opportunities you have. You get treated worse, you get dismissed, etc. I lived it myself, being underweight with long hair, and then gaining 20 kg and cutting my hair short. The way I was treated was night and day, it was awful. So without even touching upon the self esteem issues, depression, EDs, anxiety etc that that mindset brings, by making "beauty" only accessible to the elite, they're marginalizing people with a lower income even more.
@@Ash-op2ql I think it's tiffanyferg
🤳🏻❤️I am deeply touched with your comment … it is so true , that it is classism . And sad that this beautiful generation , that is the future if USA , is trapped into this notion of beauty ,that I just hope it doesn’t affect their future .
Actually, I don't like people with heavy make-up because they look alike and much older, with darker makeup.
My god, this woman literally has luminous skin.
For realll. I spent a good five minutes admiring the sheen 😌 Gorgeous
Oh my god I was thinking the same thing. Stunning 🤩
Right!!! I need the sheen to be a Queen!!😂😂😂
Dude she is beautiful
@@randomfemale4322 srsly I couldn't look awayyy
can we talk about the absolute BOP that is that pencil skirt song????
She had me moving
Fr was dancinggg
Good to know I'm not the only one who gets excited wherever I wear a pencil skirt
I'm vibing to it now!
It’s gonna be stuck in my head all day 😂
Dude, there are people who have been seriously offended by me saying "cosmetic surgery is making women look all the same. It's like we're in a sci-fi novel." Usually their response is: "women should be able to do whatever they want without your criticism" ... but it needs to be addressed.
Btw, you are gorgeous.
Well, one statement doesn't exclude the other
@@jeanneg6004 exactly. I can critique the effects of cosmetic procedures on our society without criticizing the women who actually have these procedures.
@@kathmandoozle yeah. Contrapoints made a great video about beauty where she said how awful it is that we shame women for not meeting societal beauty standards but mock them for trying to fit that standard through dieting, surgery, makeup, etc. it’s like we’re supposed to naturally check all the boxes for beauty standards or else we either don’t care or care too much.
Tdlr: don’t hate the player hate the game.
Exactly, being uncritical is how we got here in the first place. Women are free to make their own choices sure, but those choices have wider implications for the rest of us by changing beauty standards and making more and more extreme interventions the norm.
SO true. The answer they give you is pure hypocrisy since they aren't letting women be who they really want (or at least themselves) since women with big noses, small breasts, big body, etc. probably at least once in their life felt insecure. These stereotypes lead to people wanting to be the "general beauty standard". From my point of view, it's boring and ugly when people look just "fine", literally like society wants you to look. People with a natural appearance (basically an appearance that wasn't modified with surgery) and that has those "imperfections" I usually find them much more attractive and exotic, but that's just my opinion.
The same happens with men of course.
I just discovered your channel because I’ve been obsessed with feminist video essays lately and I just wanted to say: you are STUNNING. I don’t even mean just looks. Your personality, your intelligence, your demeanor, your sense of humor. You are the whole package and I am so excited to be able to watch your video collection.
Tank u 🥺💕
Me in a cycle of watching Tee Noir, Khadija, and amandabb-
Not only you
Yesss
yup !!
HELLO ME TOO this train is nice
I'm glad you all have taste too
*This is the best thing I’ve seen on the Internet this year*
Cassandra 😆🙋🏽♀️
Didn't expect to find you here
This is so good
Girl yes 🙌🏾
2021? It's just starting
The fact that most filters reduce the size of your nose and enlarge your eyes.
@Spicy Memer47 ^^^ I noticed the skin lightening too .. I didn’t think about it TOO much but.. I noticed. It feels weird when I do it because it don’t even look like my skin, so I never do that filter.
I have naturally huge bulging eyes. It aint all that. I actually shrink them in pics and cant wear eye makeup bc everyone stares and has to make comments
It annoys me so much because I have a literally tiny nose and it looks stupid when’s it’s smaller. I hate filters honestly
they also make your jaw/chin a LOT smaller.
YESSSSS !! then im like "i wish i could look like this"
I’m convinced we’re going to go from wanting to look “beautiful” to just wanting to look like literal video game characters lol 😂
The "video game character" damn I feel exposed😂
*glances at the cosplayers*
I find that a lot of gay men are also going for this “Instagramface” I see so many men with the cheekbones and plum lips.. I don’t know but the look is super 👽 ..
*cough* James Charles *cough*
So true!
One time my gay friend told me that he doesn’t like my ‘tall and skinny body type’ and prefers my friends ‘short and curvy’ body. Thought that was weird. Some seem to be drawn to hyper feminine traits
@@sallysmith7664 who tf gave him the right to pass judgement? Prefer - for what ur gay?
@@sallysmith7664 thats not your friend baby. He high key has negative feelings towards you I’d even go as far as he’s jealous of you and he doesn’t deserve someone like you. Skinny and tall is literally what 90% of what models look like. Don’t let his hating ass get to you
85% of plastic surgeons are male, while over 90% of patients are female... wow. That's really interesting even just purely from a sociological standpoint. Loved this video! This is the first video of yours I've watched but I've subscriber. I'm off to watch the pretty privilege one now. Lol.
I’m shook. I never even noticed
Wow, that is really eye opening.
The reasons are myriad. One of the reasons is that the course takes over 3-4 years over the usual MS which is already 8 years, at least in countries like India others perhaps longer. And committing to this long gruelling residency is difficult for women what with also being weighed down by family duties *scoff* men don't apparently need to tear themselves between work and home.
And yet no one forces women to do this.
They do it because beauty opens doors and gets stuff...
Yeah, because usually it's men that are interested in those types of jobs, I don't find it very much interesting because it's too obvious to me . Most politician's and most Doctors are men, isn't this one obvious too? Most judges, most police officers, most lawyers and most prosecutors are men. No one is keeping women from these jobs they are keeping themselves from these jobs. 60% of collage students and graduates are women and 40% If you ask me these jobs bore women to death they rather be a cosmetologist or a makeup artist and there's nothing wrong with that as these fields are mostly what they are into.
i'm really scared for our generation due to body image , it's like being fake is the new "REAL".
It is totally freaking me out
It is..
Sadly is
They want something real but they also want absolute perfection.
Nah it's plain to see... For poor ppl like me we do extensive research on how these rich ppl are so beautiful and VOILA we get educated in the process and no longer feel like the "standard" is what we wanna achieve..... But if you're upper middle class and above.... idk never been so I have no data xDD
"Rootless exoticism," reads like maybe "context- free saleable sexy"... it's popcorn, it's confetti, it's arm candy, with no fixed existence or personhood. If she's actually Italian or Tunisian, then she's got, like...a grandmother and ideas...
A grandmother and ideas lmao. You got me with that 😂
Brilliant comment
As a white person, I find the black fishing or trying to be racially ambiguous irritating. Just be who you are. It's unfair because it also puts real black models to the back of the line. Shitty
Honestly. I’m a white person who gets really tan during the summer, and I’ve had weird thoughts like “I feel like I’m black fishing if I post this pic where I’m more tan” bc so many white celebrities, specifically Ariana grande have faked tanned so much. Like a shade darker? Okay. But clearly they’re going several shades darker.
@@LLCoolJ_25 simply being "tan" or having one doesn't necessarily make a white person look not white. I think of black phishing more when white people get a very dark fake tan, crimp their hair, and get a bunch of lip fillers
Yeah. I’m white, pale, and hate my skin. I’m so confused. What’s with my mind. I think I stoped trying with the whole standers thing
@@bonnieonthesideee you should learn to love yourself and your skin. i’m sure you’re beautiful no matter your shade.
@@LLCoolJ_25 it’s okay to get a tan spray duh, nicki Minaj literally bleached herself & no one is talking about... do whatever that makes you happy 💕
As shitty the early 2000s was I am happy I’m not a teenager now… even as an adult it’s hard I could not imagine being 16 seeing these Instagram faces
I’m 16 rn and I’m not living for this
No but women in the early 00’s were actually stunning 😍
Same!!! These teens nowadays go through so much bullshit now
I was n high school in the early 00's the girls was breath taking in NYC back then.
As a 15 year old, it really doesn't feel nice. Sometimes I even forget that I'm still going through puberty and that I shouldn't want to change my body since it's still changing.
My 10 year old boy just walked by (as I sit here and listen to you whilst working) and saw you on my phone and said “that girl has beautiful skin by the way mommy.” So I had to share that not only are your videos engaging and thought provoking, but you are also beautiful.
🥺💕
She is ✨shinning✨ absolutly stunning
I found your skin very beautiful 😍🤗
awwww
It’s scary how much influence Instagram(social media) has in people, when a more masculine look in woman was popular I remember feeling so happy with myself, happy for my jawline and cheekbones, but when it went “out of style” it was horrifying for my self-stem and till this day I feel so bad for how I was born, which it’s ridiculous! I mean, I was born this way
gaga
I feel the same way about broad shoulders. Like when (if) I see any public figure with broad shoulders, they have ample sized boobs and an houglass figure to go with it and it just made me feel like if I have these broad shoulders, I must have a curvy body to go with it. I mean, why has beauty become a combo pack
People are so vain. We can’t choose our bodies. They’re given to us. We’re simply souls surrounded by skin and bones. Physical appearance shouldn’t be such a huge factor in deciding someone’s worth
Right!
It shouldn’t but when people are too afraid to accept themselves for they way they are they focus on the superficial and it’s sad.
Can I turn "We're simply souls surrounded by skin and bones." Into a poem?
yup, God gave us this body, this face and we are all beautiful/handsome.
Because people are insecure, I don't know why that's hard to understand and there is money to be made off your appearance and experiences to gain by doing so. People chase the fame if it = Joy in their life. If you just thought about if for a second maybe the answer would have came to you.
Honestly, just the fact that "people are getting prettier because we're more visually oriented" totally explained to me why we looked so terrible when my friends and I were in high school, and how now people look ~flawless~ at 14
I could not agree more .
@John Smith teenagers years ago looked younger and less put together, less like adults than the ones now
And social media wasn't really a thing then so the whole "how will I look in photos" never really was a real concern.
definitely!
I’m super concerned, I had to remove myself from social media in order to figure out if my insecurities were real. They weren’t, I was on social media too much. Great video!
Very relatable. That why Im taking a month of social media
Giirl! Same! It has been a healing and growing journey and I wouldn’t have it any other way!!
Well I'm glad someone gave it a name and closet Instagram face ... I knew a lot of women were starting to look alike and couldn't describe it as good as the person who came up with that name .
Plus I ditched my Facebook and other social-media except for UA-cam 4 years ago ... much more peace of mind except , hey , Instagram face is also everywhere on UA-cam... for example today we noticed Joe Biden's daughter definitely has had some kind of work done and starting to go the way of Instagram face .
Yesss!! Last year I started to limit my time on social media apps to just a few minutes a day, if that. And my self image improved GREATLY. It’s crazy because when I was a teen I used to really want all these surgeries but what I really needed was self love.
I just had a massive AHA moment! I'm mixed race (Persian, Mexican and Caucasian) with naturally curlycoily 3b/c hair and I've been accused of "race fishing" sporting the face and hair I was born with LMFAO. But people trying to achieve a racially ambiguous "instagram face" look puts things into perspective! Great video!
Everyone with “Instagram Face” looks like they hit the random button in Create A Sim.
🤗 😂😂😂
This made me wanna find my pencil skirt so I can sing that song 🙌 love it!
When you said “people are commenting for the algorithm” just letting you know, they won because you’re in my recommended ❤️
YASSSS im a new subscriber, love the vibes shes giving tbh
Same!
literally that's how I found her and I'm so glad!!!
I know I'm late but me too 🥳 first video I saw of hers was the brigerton one, I don't even watch the show so idk how it got there but I'm so glad i clicked on it 😁
I can't get over how beautiful this woman is.
Same
I feel like Kim k's influence on 'the face' CANNOT be understated
yeah also kylie def had her part in it
And black features too...
Kiasha Williams black features definitely inspired Kim as well, that’s basically her whole aesthetic 🤣
@@laurencannon3417 ikr it’s like yea she is the blueprint for “the face” but she should at least give credit to the cultures and people she got the idea from
Kiasha Williams and not only that but wearing braids and black fashion...
I find this so sad. Life would be so boring if everyone had the same face. Just work with what you have.
@Ligeia Siren yes!! I totally agree! We are more than just a face or a body
Agree, and is is so sad, how people go through life hating their body, when it's function is literally keeping you alive and let you do the things you want to do. SO SAD how social media is making people insecure about everything on their body.
I love that you said that because our Creator makes all different kinds of birds, fish,trees,plants,dogs,cats,all types of animals,don’t get me started on the food all types .Yeah , I love our virtuosity of life❤️
Thats why i cant get into the makeup trend thats been a thing for the past 5 years. Too much makeup. Eyebrows all the same. Everyone looks the same just like the duck lips on myspace
Ligeia Siren it’s actually not...unfortunately we subconsciously gravitate towards physically appealing people, the personality is what keeps ppl around but to our dismay, the beauty is what brings them in. I researched it bc I wondered why appearance has always been a big deal. I think we instead of pushing beauty standards that are really boxed in we should push self acceptance. Loving yourself for how you look and not fixating on only your face, but we all have different opinions🙂 that was just mine.
The beauty standards these days are almost impossible to achieve naturally and it kinda worries me for the future generation that's growing up on instagram :(
Beauty standards come and go. So I’m just wondering what will be the next beauty standard for our future generation. They change all of the time so I don’t get why everyone wants to look the same. It’s exhausting. Pretty soon what was labeled as “unique” will be “mediocre”, or “regular”.
@@lanae1146 I can predict a return to more natural makeup for sure (we've already seen this with the popularity of brands like Glossier) and I also see more and more people acknowledge the sheer toxicity of social media and its detrimental effects on their mental health, which makes me wonder if a total rejection of social media will be a trend in the future.
It will have changed again by then
That's why I really like influencers like Charlie Damilio. She just looks like a normal cute teenager to me, she isn't trying to look like she's in her 20s
@@emmacooper4286 that's true, but I wouldn't be surprised if she changed her look in the future because of all the hate she gets :/
I find if even a naturally pretty person is called beautiful constantly then others start to wonder why, wether it be their small nose or bigger lips ect people start to go down the surgical root unfortunately. Because people are constantly put on a pedestal because of their looks so its the only thing people focus on. I have a friendship group and everyone comments about how beautiful one friend looks and it can be quite soul destroying when nobody compliments you.
Why do I feel like the trend is gonna be this “instagram face” for a while and then more natural imperfect faces will be the new in thing because it would be rarer to fine 🤦🏾♀️😭😭
you’re right
Thats the sad part when having a real face becomes just a trend. Then what happens when it's no longer in......back to toxic beauty standards. ...this world is insane.
COUGH COUGH
Dark circles are trending now ladies
Totally my thoughts!!! The same with Tattoos!!!!
A cycle of trends. Getting harder to be real.
filler WHERE? You are literally perfect I can't even think of what you'd want done cosmetic surgery wise.
Instagram Faces: Suspension of Disbelief
Love your video
Right?! She is gorgeous and just perfect as she is.
That's because in reality black is the definition of beauty. Through history always white women were jealous of black women.
The definition of beauty is not any individual colour or shade. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. To raise anyone over another based solely on colour is a scourge that will only serve to divide. There is beauty everywhere, in every people, and the more people that see that, the more unified we can become.
@@justirene6907 no need to pit women against each other. How about acknowledging her beauty as well as other women's from different other races?
And the second the conventional beauty standards become attainable to most regular people, they change. Beauty standards almost always tie into socio-economic status. Something something capitalism.
Something something capitalism will be the name of my thesis 😂
@@natasha8007 🤣
@@natasha8007 idk why I think this so funny but I'm dying 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@KattReen be
Wow this was one hell of a lens, now that I think about it. It’s so true
There's a 2015 TEDx Talk by a guy called Robert Hoge called "own your face" which really put things into perspective for me, and he mentions the idea of an uncanny valley of beauty. The closer to perfection you perceive yourself to be, the more you'll try to get there... Only to fail miserably.
i watched that one several times, it’s great
What’s going to happen is everyone is going be high cheek bones and symmetrically perfect and the NEW beauty standards would to be have asymmetrical stuff going on. Crooked smile, unibrows, natural hair will be considered STUNNING
Exactly! The new beauty standard is going to be big noses in the future just wait and see
strxberryx milk lol with lil hair coming out lol it’ll be fried dyed and laid to the side
@@yogialchemist2335 you're too funny:) I literally could vision this
Waiting for my lazy eye to be the new beauty standard
Sweet Dream Baybeh!! It’s already fabulous ❤️ I have a lazy eye too!!!!
It never sat right with me that influencers would have discount codes for their plastic surgeons, so that their followers can then get plastic surgery..
This happens ?!
That's just insane !!!
@@awoman5363 YUP
I didn't know that was a thing. Yikes.
That’s sick
The ‘ethnic ambiguity’ stuff has also altered people’s expectations for mixed race individuals. People now have silly expectations of what a mixed person should look like: not too light, but not too dark either, only the pretty features from each ethnicity. As someone who is half south Asian, I just want to be able to accept me for me, not what someone else thinks I should look like
yea, and since white ppl tend to make themselves look more mixed nowadays (lip injections, fake tan), the expectation for mixed black people has become a lot more strict
Same, I’m half white half Filipino. I feel like I’m too tan to be accepted as white, but I’m too American to be accepted by Filipinos. When I would get bullied, they would try to attack my race because people thought I was either half black or some kinda Hispanic, but when they found out I’m part Asian they back off slightly... it’s VERY weird.
This is a WORD
@@nikahatt same!!! I’m the same mix it’s so annoying!
@nadiakashoo I completely agree with you! I am so glad someone spoke about this. I am biracial as well ( African American & Vietnamese ) I have experienced these judgmental expectations by several people. They expect me to look a specific way and are not more open minded to just how diverse “mixed” biracial people are. 🤍✨
As little as about up to ten years ago my naturally chiseled arms were considered way too chiseled for a woman and people would often react to them but not in a very positive way. Nowadays I feel like a superstar in a sleeveless shirt, getting compliments across the board. I grew up in the eighties with a bigger butt that was an absolute curse in those times. J. Lo, Beyonce and the Kardashians made meat on the lower body trendy, and compared to them my butt looks kind of small but it's still big enough that it draws positive attention. My point is - I've pretty much had the same body for the past thirty years, and in those thirty years my body type, or at least some body parts, would go in and out of fashion. Whatever the instagram face is, it will go out of fashion in a few years, but these people will stay with permanent damage and the face they won't like anymore.
Not even five minutes into your video and I keep thinking FINALLY the algorithm did something good and took me to your channel.
Yasssss glad you’re here! 💕
As a North African person, I will say too the “racial ambiguity” is so harmful. People will straight up accuse you of attempting to do the same & im like, bro this is just my face & my hair lmao.
Is that only in North Africa?
@@Kwintessential2 I think they mean because North Africans are *one* of the groups of people who can sometimes look racially ambiguous, so he relates to this problem because of that. I don't think he meant that only North African people have this problem.
As a African I'm sorry, me too! A lot of etnicity of my country are arabe/black mixed or just look more arabe than African and sometimes it's complicated because they don't treat you as a true black or arab
@@Kwintessential2 of course not and North Africans are also very racist, unfortunately. They still prefer white light and bright. Even mixed isn’t impressive enough to them. They drool over Europeans especially European women. My own cousin left his Egyptian wife he has 2 boys from for an older Russian woman he met on the beach 😂🤦🏽♀️
@@nawal10 your cousin did whet??!?
Puerto Rican woman here.
I wanted to bring up this point cause I don’t see a lot of conversations about it. I feel like a lot of the tropes of what Latin women should look like foreshadowed this whole “Instagram face” phenomenon. I’m so glad you brought up exoticism. The way that Americans want Latin women to look like is basically a white woman that doesn’t look like an *American* white woman: lightskin, with big lips, hourglass/curvy body, high cheekbones, etc. Think of JLo; she’s the actual embodiment of all of this. Again, what Americans want with Latin women is that racial ambiguity because it makes us look “exotic”. Also, Latin America has a huge history of mestizaje which is maybe why they created this trope. I’m not only gonna blame US Americans for this tho, bc when latinos started bootlicking US Americans, we ended up supporting these tropes too (hence why racism and colorism are such big issues here cuz we’re always bootlicking either US Americans or Europeans :/:/:/). I don’t know necessarily what caused this trope (now the “Instagram face”) to go this mainstream, but I think that with social media being able to connect us globally they wanted that exoticism to be more “accessible”.
Anyways, my point is: WHY DONT WHITE AMERICANS JUST READ THEIR OWN HISTORY AND PREVENT THIS!!!!! Duh, it’s white supremacy, but it’s still really frustrating. It’s bad for everyone else!!! Especially black people bc it ALWAYS results in blackfishing.
Imma pin this cause I see nothing but facts
@@KhadijaMbowe thank you! i just wanted to say you are my *favorite* channel atm and so incredibly underrated!!! i’ve been binge watching all your videos these past few days 😭 keep it up girl i’m rooting for you so strongly!!!
Yes!!! When she started talking about the exotic mixed look all I could think about was that's how lots of us latinas have been described for so long. They sexualize us from so long, call us exotic, but at the same time want just the best part of looking like us, while still being white. Our mixed features have so much history behind them, and not everything our people went through is pretty.
Edit: in case anybody is wondering I'm brazilian.
I just remembered some messed up thing. Here in Brazil we have lots of different looking people because we were so mixed! Some look more caucasian, others more asian, and so on. But I see s lot of influencers doing procedures to have a more caucasian look. So they end up also looking like this generic instagram face. I see a lot of them getting the so called "facial harmonization", they are all looking the same. Lots of lip fillers (even when they already have nicely full lips), rhinoplasty and so on. When I was younger I loved how diverse we would look, how we would have people so different that were all beautiful in their own way, with their different features and all. Now everyone wants to look the same. It makes me sad.
Somebody said they want the sexual parts of Black people
Notice how there’s no trend to have 4c hair and a big wide nose?
Influencers are a dime a dozen; Khadija isn’t an influencer, she’s a Vibe!
Everyone is expected to have that perfect hour glass body, perfect skin, luscious lips, take perfect selfies, etc. ITS NOT REALISTIC and social media has truly distorted things 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
not realistic AT ALL .. that's why i go so hard for us naturals , w/ no surgical/cosmetic manipulation
I want to add that filler doesn't naturally dissolve, it settles into your face and stays there. I think the misconception that it's temporary and you can get it as many times as you'd like is part of the issue
yes, people's faces look swollen after a while, because the fillers don't dissolve fully and start to migrate inside the tissues, so the former plumping effect fades and people just keep adding more fillers. it seems like jaclyn hill's or nikkietutorials' faces look so swollen because they can't stop using fillers. they didn't look like that when fillers weren't a thing.
Finally someone said it :)
Yup. Gavin Chan at the Victorian Cosmetic Institute has a whole video on how filler doesn't dissolve naturally, but just moves to other parts of the face. It's actually pretty freaky that so many people are getting filler every 6 months and it's just pooling in different areas of their face after a certain amount of time.
She is smart?? She is funny?? She is GORGEOUS????? WOW feeling blessedddd.
Why is nobody talking about how soothing your voice is? I can literally listen to you all day.
Your voice is such a famous person voice idk how to explain😭 its just so clear and pleasant on the ear. It reminds me of some of the black actresses from the 90s
I think it's because her voice sound so confident, she is well articulated and really positive at the same time
Reminds me of Chloe Bailey
well she is a singer right
"Child, you're not ugly... you're broke." -Funky Dineva, 2015
"Broke people should never laugh" ~Nicki Manaji
Can't be ugly n broke...gotta pick a struggle - Someone said.
Can I just say miss if that is you in the dp you have such a beautifully photogenic smile 😮😍
Nessa Girrrrrrrrl, is that you?! 👀
@@Suryavue Aaawww, thanx sis. My parents decided I wasn't too -ugly- broke for braces back in middle school. 🤓🙊😬 Thanx mom n dad! They must've seen this day coming & started saving! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
first of all, your skin is just glowing and radiant the whole way through this video!
but secondly, this was very insightful and interesting. i have acne (and have done for like 10+ years) and i have always struggled with wanting perfect skin because of this. however i have never enjoyed wearing make up because i find the textures strange and i can always just feel it on my face. because i never saw any representation of people with acne (especially other women) in my teens, i have made a point in my own videos and photos i post online to not really cover it up because it is actually a lot more normal than we think! i feel like this might have gone off topic a bit, but yeah, i hope we don’t evolve into a society where we all just kind of look the same.
thank you for this video!
I think you touched on a really important point, representation. Not seeing people that look like you, no matter how you look, can weirdly make you feel like you’re the only one with a certain look. It’s weird to me that all these people wanna look like the same person, but I understand wanting to feel “beautiful” and seeing this as a way to get there. Lord. We have a lot to unpack in this world. Thanks for watching and for your comment 💕
I have the same thing! Acne and i don't like how makeup feels. I wound up going on accutane and my pimples are smaller now but i still have them and like that's just me 🤷🏻 I've hidden them with filters before but recently i haven't been bothering
I don’t have acne anymore but I still have all the hyperpigmentation and scars. It’s comforting sometimes to see others with their bare face who have similar skin type.
I purposely Don't slap my make up like most women just so i'm no a negative copy of another original.
PREACH me too!!!
Me, with mild face blindness trying to tell people apart these days 👁👄👁❔
Same! People be like "do you think this celebrity is hot, or *this* celebrity?" and I'm like, "that's the same picture."
Glad to know I'm not the only one with this issue! 😆 Actors with very unique character-filled features I can appreciate, and mostly differentiate (as long as they don't change their hairstyles too drastically!) But if I had to tell apart most of these "influencers"... 🤦🏻♀️
Your voice is so unique you could be a voice over artist for a cartoon character. Love it!
That's my dream *cries* lol
It’s true ! I do think you’d be an awesome voice actress . Very versatile. Could listen to you all day
YES. Get into that, it's so good!
@@KhadijaMbowe girl you could def do that !! Sound so unique and very articulate ❤️❤️❤️
It’s giving The Hunger Games vibes, where people in the capital have money to get procedures done and the working poor can barely get by.
Welcome to free market capitalism
“rootless exoticism” what a phrase. i’m a biracial woman who is both white and asian and hearing you say that felt like something clicking. the fetishistic attitude towards mixed people right now makes a little more sense to me after watching this and i really appreciate it so thank you 💜
edit: to clarify, just thinking mixed people are beautiful is not fetishism. people have told me i am beautiful in different ways, some of which indicated fetishism and others not at all. i’m just going based off of my own experiences, as well as what i’ve seen others go through in relation to our statuses as mixed race people.
Ikr! I'm also biracial and it's odd to me how some ppl are either strictly against interracial couples/biracial ppl or fetishize it. One time i read an entire paragraph from a black woman talking about how "exotic" blasians are and how "they all look perfect" and it freaked me the fuck out. She might aswell have been salivating while writing that, it was sooo creepy and hasn't left my mind since. I'm sure a lot of this is rooted in internalized racism and feeling like you're "basic" for just being one race
@@yogurtfan7336 love your comment! something id also add is people overcompensating because they dont want to be perceived as racist to the point where they sound racist as hell for sometimes unknowing fetishism! a lot of people want to be more racially sensitive and considerate/compassionate towards other peoples experiences but are afraid to ask questions that can genuinely move their education forward and over compensate. "youre not racist bc youd bang someone of a different race" argument. i dont even think its a complete matter of 'cancel culture' i just think people are trying too hard to overcorrect some past behaviors and just went to the other extreme!
@Alex Styles the point is, is that it shouldn’t be seen as superior.
@Alex Styles no one has ever made mixed race people to feel ashamed of their beauty. If anything they praise it and exemplify it. Literally mixed people have ALWAYS been praised. All the above comments are saying is that, they don’t want people praising them as superior to anyone else. It makes people that praise them insecure of their own beauty and that mixed is somehow better than mono racial. Because it’s not tbh.
@Alex Styles that same study says that black people are unattractive so I wouldn’t really use it as a measure tbh.
hey Khadija! I'm a teenager and I've just started watching your videos, and they are really good! They explain everything in a clever and empathetic way, so I'm really learning a lot with you! Your videos like the slim-thick video clarify all these questions concerning toxic beauty and beauty standards nowadays and, as a teenager who constantly sees people fitting these standards, your videos help deal and learn about it. Keep up the good work! Love from Brazil!
I call it the “LA face”
A lot of those people photograph well but when you see them IRL in LA they look soo wiild and creature-like 😬
Lol 😂
@Jeremy S I think it's a pretty face, it just gets weird when everyone looks like that.
@Jeremy S the faces in the pic she showed, for example, are pretty imo
@Frida A *Gangnam
The part that gets me about “Instagram face” is that people really have the nerve to think they’re beautiful by participating in this behavior. They go through all this work (and money) to be generic. They prance around like it’s an achievement to be ordinary but I’m ugly for liking my own individual beauty.
I was telling my husband how much I didn't like my hyperpigmentation on my cheeks and he was like I don't care you're still beautiful it just looks like your face that i love and it makes you look like a real person. I just...😢😣
This is too cute! You got yourself a good man!
Yes! This is the energy we need!!
Dr Dray here on UA-cam has helpful videos on hyperpigmentation. She’s a board certified dermatologist and the products she recommends are super affordable :)
Oop-
You found yourself a good man.
Good to know you found the guy you deserve and that’s on purt
@sonera yes I bet it only makes your face more beautiful and unique! I hope this stupid Instagram face trend goes away... I miss beautiful unique faces!! More people need to accept the parts of their face that the patriarchy says isn't what's attractive. Spoiler alert: they created that image in the first place and are making you pay money to fit THEIR ideal!! The time is now for total body acceptance!
I hate this trend so much, my sister’s only 15 and utterly convinced that she wants a nose job. her nose is completely normal btw, it’s just not a tiny button nose like mine. she takes after our dad in that way, and it breaks my heart that tiktok has her convinced that her unique and perfect face needs altering when she hasn’t finished growing up yet.
postfeminism has made women thing that literally EVERYTHING is fine as long as it's "consensual" and "informed", the only thing it asks in return is that you don't criticise or question anything or anyone at all for it.
OOP.
This has nothing to do with feminism, but societal beauty standards. Which last time are check have been installed by patriarchy, not feminism.
@@unknown0290 The point she's making is about feminism because 'Consent' as a topic is mostly talked about in feminism usually around the topics of sex, r@pe etc. The same goes for beauty standards and their effects on women's self-esteem. Yeah it's the patriarchal standard, but a counter-response to being anti-plastic surgery (usually the feminist response) is "well, as long as you're doing it for YOU it's fine!!". Hope this explanation helps☺️
Omg exactly this. Drives me crazy!!
@@unknown0290 I think “postfeminism” refers to the use of feminist seeming concepts and ideas to then reinforce the patriarchy
I deleted tik tok after I caught myself researching plastic surgery and actually posting on forms asking what to get done. I actually thought about spending all the money I've been saving
Omg I also have noticed so many people starting to feel hella insecure because of tik tok.
As their algorithm pushes pretty people
Honestly be proud about deleting tik tok, if its making u think u need to spend all your savings on plastic surgery like nooo hunny
You are unique don't ever change your own beauty to look like a copy of someone elses
feel good about yourself and the features you have been blessed with !
Plastic surgery isn't all that and tbh most of them influencers are hella superficial and insecure themselves
beauty also comes from within if you have disgusting personality with a pretty face it's going to overshadow it
In the end matters a whole lot more to have a good heart than having pretty eyes or cheeks,lips.etc
And the biggest flex tbh is to be content and happy with your natural You (outside and inside)!
Good for you!! I’m glad that you guys were able to realise your own beauty!! Keep loving yourself❤️
Oh no I’m sorry love dont do it and if u will do it for yourself not for the person u want to look at like
Proud to see that you walked away and didn’t feed into that lie. You are beautiful just the way you are now. Plastic surgery isn’t how someone really looks it’s just permanent makeup/quick fixes.
Crazy how hyper aware I can be about all of this yet still feel ugly because of it.
You're not alone... We need to apply that awareness! By the way, your pfp is adorable.
Thank you! The cheek structure is so native! I knew I wasn't seeing things.
your skin said ✨flawless✨
you could upload a video of you reading your grocery list and i'd still watch
Girl, don’t tempt me. I’m committed enough to the joke to actually do it
Skin is absolutely flawless. The epitome of beautiful.
I AGREE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Your skin is positively luminous. You're gorgeous. I wish my skin was pretty but alas I inherited toad skin. :'( Go ahead and do it. I need that grocery list to see what I should be eating to improve my skin!
@@KhadijaMbowe omg make a video on shopping then!!
I got made fun of for having fat lips and thick brows and now that’s what everyone is sticking needles and cutting their faces for, and it blows my mind
Now you get made fun of for having thin lips and sparse brows. Life is crazy.
Literally me at 13, and now ppl are like spending so much money for bushy brows and big lips
Sameeee people used to make fun of my thick brows and my parents kept calling me Shin Chan because of his sharpie eyebrows. People now compliment them tho 😌
I'm Mexican with heavy indigenous heritage, I was made fun of because of my eyes (they'd call them small, "japanese" eyes, and they'd pull their skin to imitate the shape of them), same with having big lips and my skin tone.
And now it's trendy because white supermodels had had a procedures for that?
@@herediaee oh kids did the same to me with the eyes. My brother is literally half Chinese too so it fueled them to be racist to me too, even though I’m not Chinese
I must say I hate filters because I have features that I think make me attractive to the beauty standard of my culture and genetic heritage, and instagram and snapchat filters take away some of these features, which offends me because it is like they are telling me that my culture's beauty standards are wrong.
Oh same! I don't use any of those bc i end up looking just straight up weird and not like myself or my culture at all... Only skin smoothing filter works well.
Interesting point
Yes!!!! I have a big nose, I love my big nose! I hate it when I go and try fun filters and they just plain change my nose
Yea everyone’s preferences are different. I personally prefere straight brows, but I naturall have the high pointed ones which I personally don’t find as pretty so I purposely brush them down so they look straight lol. Same for crow eyes. I love those little wrinkles around the eyes and try to squint so I’ll get them at a younger age XD beautys definitely subjective!
The only filters I use are the obviously ridiculous ones 🤣🤣🤣
For me personally, feeling beautiful is totally connected to feeling confident. I feel beautiful whenever I feel confident and proud. It‘s also what in my opinion does make other people attractive for me. Confidence is so beautiful.
I went to highschool with this girl and am so happy to see she hasnt changed one bit! lmao. Keep slayying giril!
Me being a 16 year old black girl sometimes I’m like is my face too round or my skin not clear enough or whatever the case is you’ve made me realize as much as some of them look pretty it’s better to be my own self then just wanting to be in the loop with all these girls with the same features. Individuality is better than looking like everyone else. I’m so glad I found your channel💕
"Individuality is better than looking like everyone else" Thank you.
Exactly. Imagine how boring and terrifying it would be if everyone looked the same
THIS!!!! Always remember that YOUR beauty is not a trend.
I asked my then-boyfriend (now-husband) why he liked me and he said that at first it was because I don't look like anyone he has seen before. Your individuality is your biggest strength 😉
I really felt this as a 16 year old black girl myself
Came for the title (immediately agreed), then my 16 yr old daughter walked in and said "(Gasp!-in the excited way) She is BEAUTIFUL!!" Yes hunny, you are! Instant subby. Loving the content 👌🏽
The Instagram face picking and choosing features is like the character creation on a new game. Pick and choose the nicest features for your character.
There's something about blush on dark skin that's so dang pretty
I’m actually so glad that I wasn’t allowed to have social media until I was older. I think it helped me accept my body and choice to remain natural.
24 and still no social media. Not planning to either ✌🏾😅 except UA-cam and Pinterest
@@mi3helle707 27 and no social media besides UA-cam lol I got rid of Facebook 10 years ago
@@mariekano9730 eyyy. Goood for you x honestly it keeps you sane.
Exactly. I don’t have the same experiences with insecurities like many seem to now bc of not having Insta in particular. Just FB for family and UA-cam.
4:45 "racial ambiguous while still maintaining eurocentric beauty standards" girl yes, you took the words right outta my mouth. I've never heard it be described this way. I'm Pakistani, I have high cheekbones and pretty decent lips (not instagram lips but not thin) and obviously tanned skin. Like how are white girls who made fun of me in school having the same skin tone as me now?!
Hy ! I am a Pakistani too 🙋
Same with south east asians. I‘ve been made fun of in elementary and highschool for my asian eyes and nowadays every instagram person pulls their eyes back and lift them to make them look more asian. And it‘s infuriating that it‘s only pretty when white girls make it a trend
The funny thing is the eurocentric beauty standards still can't even be attained by white people. Like, northern, southern, eastern, and western Europeans don't even look the same either.
@@angelinak6323 I scoffed when I saw this trend. Like, after all the bullying you did, now you want to look like us?
@@belzeebubbubbachunks This - I'm someone who is ghost-pale, but with dark wavy hair, dark eyes, and quite frankly a huge nose. And the only women I saw growing up (and still see tbh) looking like that were really just model faces made up to look "ugly" for movie or TV roles, and they'd always get made over to look pretty in the end. Like think Princess Diaries, Miss Congeniality etc. I love/d those movies but yknow?
It's hardly the shit people who are mixed-heritage are going through, what with how the people who probably made fun of them are now trying to sell a sanitized, marketable imitation of their natural features, but it still hurts.
I have a lot of respect for cosmetic surgeons that will turn patients away if they suspect the patients' bodies are still growing and changing. Even if it's on the principle of "your changing body will ruin my work".
“I discovered Google scholar” lmaoooo 😂. I didn’t click on this video expecting to have flashbacks to writing final papers
I don't know why this made me chuckle so much but it did so thank you
Great video. Reminded me of a YA series called “The Uglies” by Westerfeld, about a society where people undergo compulsory plastic surgery once they turn 16, unless they’re willing to be outcasts.
Is it good everyon says something different? I wanna know if i should read it
@@chrissyosozzy6465 It’s a fast read and offers an interesting perspective. I’d recommend it 📖
Omg yes I was thinking of the same thing. I don’t remember if there were ever like grotesque people even in the stories - it seemed like they were simply exaggerating the horror of their features because that’s how society saw those features
@@warloslaurez2374 I read it so long ago that I can’t remember, but that seems right. I remember a scene where they came across fashion magazines from our time and they were so shocked by what the models looked like!
@@SleepStoriesASMR woah this sounds wild, this must be a prediction of where we’re headed! I must see this
i love when a black female creator appears on my home page. Loved this video!!!!
I love your profile picture! ❤
I know this comment is really late, but everytime you said "minimally invasive" or that stuff like filler disappears after a few months, I'm just reminded of cosmetic surgeons now warning people of the dangers associated with it. I saw a video from the Victorian Cosmetic Institute where the surgeon posited that filler doesn't disappear at all
people fail to realize that if everyone looks the same, beauty becomes obsolete. I think society will eventually move to praising differences/ different features as beautiful and hopefully looking at non-beauty traits such as intelligence/ accomplishments
That would be heaven, I want to time travel to this future.
Girl, you said a word!!!😏
@Lacedra Minor 100%! It’s only a matter of time!
Never going to happen, but it’s a nice thought!
That was the beauty of the 90's. We didn't have those procedures, or photo technology. Everyone looked so different, diverse and beautiful. You look like someone from the 90's.
You had magazines and photoshop
@@AnaSofia-xe2wg yes, for very high end, haute couture supermodels. And even that wasn't to the degree technology is today. Actresses, singers, professional cheerleaders, and the everyday woman did not photoshop.
@@AnaSofia-xe2wg We did but everyday people did not have access to photoshop and even minor cosmetic procedures like fillers. Those things were usually for the rich and famous.
For real. I miss that. Faces are so beautiful. We need to get back to natural. These toxic beauty standards are so unhealthy.
@@AnaSofia-xe2wg I mean people literally look NOTHING like themselves...
This is exactly what my mom says. She says that every actor/celeb in this generation has the same face that’s easily forgettable 😂
And everyone in the old generation had their own unique faces.
It’s true! 🤷♀️ saying this as a 16 year old
@@loggedout8572 I agree
I literally can't tell most white male actors apart and I don't even try anymore. I am not extremely into Hollywood, but I'm really tired of looking at the same bland face over and over. I'm also REALLY over the crazy idealized male form that's wildly over muscular and requires a diet and exercise regimen that is totally unsustainable and often described to be miserable. IM OVER ALL OF THIS NONSENSE. When can we be PEOPLE again?
or maybe for the first time, who knows, we didn't used to document very much compared to today
@@sharkofjoy u chose to speak facts today jeez
Such great insight. I love that you still inserted a snippet of how, even in plastic surgery & the development of “editing” software, the patriarchy is still dictating beauty standards. I think a lot of us tend to overlook the fact that people are still the masterminds behind these apps & practices