Any type of constructive criticism or just blatant honesty that I've searched for about my Character defects that I just simply couldn't see ones that are not obvious to me anyways cuz I see plenty I just need to watch one or two at this guy's videos and all of those curious feelings disappear but like I said I love it because I can't fix what I'm not conscious of if it's in need of being fixed
@@Kiseochan Exactly. I've reached a point where I feel somewhat lonely so I just joined 3 INFP groups on FB. I'm also struggling to get a job in this COVID-19 era.
they dont feel like doing what they want even if they are very good at it if they dont recieve some "likes" or something .they are attention seekers while me an intp i dont do anything even if im good and i like it but if i feel like im doing it for nothing i stop doing it because i feel like i spend time for nothing. both infp and intp would do a hobby even if it doesnt follow the requirements i wrote up IF ! they would have a friend close to them that would have the same hobby and do it together
Daniel Nistor u are wrong we are not attention seekers. Im good at sports but i don’t do them simply because i don’t really enjoy it. Not because i want attention lol
And here I am, INFP with no passion and no developed talent. That's why I will probably just live a calm and uneventful life, enjoying what other successfull people created. It's not too bad so far tbh...
I think INFPs consider it a "win" to live by our own principles or lifestyles even when people tell us that won't be possible, so this makes sense as advice.
@@akashmishra5224 Hmm INFPs are very subjective by nature, so the best advice tends to be to do what you're personally passionate about and make it work, as trite as that can sound. I have noticed a lot of INFPs work as writers, in the arts, in teaching, in marketing, at nonprofits, and in psychology/social work.
@@khadijatasnim2187 i know how you feel. You'll get through this okay? Have you gotten tested for depression or some other condition? You seem to care and mental illnesses/disorders sometimes present themselves as laziness. Good luck!
As an infp winning to me is to reach happiness and to live a life full of peace, freedom, independence, and to create memories that i'll be thankful for. That's a great victory.
@@MonkeeRush I as an individual INFP obviously can’t speak for all INFPs. But I’d say that in general we just don’t give a shit about “success” whatever that word is supposed to mean. Success can be almost anything depending on the person in question. And us INFPs don’t give a shit about being “successful” in terms of having a job that gives us lots of money, which is the traditional way of seeing it. Success to us means a waist of time for other types.
Sometimes for INFPs adopting a "don't believe me just watch" mentality is called for, even if you have to sit on your hands at times to train yourself to do it.
hi i really resonate with this. when i was younger i would always try to convince people that question my decisions or ideas. In the end i realize i would have to do it instead
(INFP) "Let the work do the talking" I have a knack for getting people to open up. Have been told, "I feel like I've always known you", and "There is a sense of peace when I'm around you"... This all began after I accepted myself with all my quirks and offbeat'ness.
can i ask how you accepted yourself? i think i am still in the process. i accepted myself for myself but not for society. i still feel like an outsider.
@@deadleaves58 Read this yesterday and have been trying to think of the most conscience answer to provide... but's not that simple. For me it was spending a good while alone. No relationships and especially trying new things. By going out of my comfort zone I found what worked and what didn't until attracting the right kind of vibe from people. If they don't vibe with me, they respect me for my differences. PS. I too still feel like an outsider, and it's great!
This happened to me even when I was at my lowest point. People telling me there dark life stories and then remarking "Wow, I have never told this to anybody. I don't know why I'm telling you all of this" . I don't know why... simply sitting there and listening might be an actual skill.
I feel like I’m winning when I know I make a positive impact on someone else. I like to nurture and make people feel accepted for being authentic. I don’t judge but rather I like to find the psychology behind actions. Bossy people really get on my nerves because I like to do things on my own terms.
"Bossy people really get on my nerves" You said it sister. When I was younger and would ocassionally get in fist fights it was almost always with a bossy type. I don't know where they get the nerve or the idea that I am in any way subject to their individual wills, but I never hesitate to disavow them of their delusions.
As an INFP, I feel I have no problem "[letting] the work do the talking." What I've recently found difficult (and frustrating) is feeling that my work is either not appreciated or that my actions are misunderstood by others.
I feel so secluded as an INFP. I have certain boundaries and convictions that at just for me and I don't push them on everyone. But it feels like everyone I know, including my siblings want me to 'get over myself' and 'let loose'. What they refuse to understand is that this IS who I am.
INFPs = lifetime of misunderstandings. Eventually people will realise who you are, I've been taught that time is the best way to demonstrate who you are.
As an older INFP I would like to add this. "Winning" is a very subjective word. I don't care that it doesn't look like I am winning to others because I don't live according to their standards. Winning for me is being content with who I am (at the moment) and making a difference in life according to my own measurement system. Also not beating myself up or overanalysing things but just taking things as they come and integrating them into who I am (or not!). Every day is an adventure, whether we leave the house or not! ✌️
As an INFP, my view of winning is when I hopefully finding a career where I can pursue my passion authentically. I am taking steps to get there but if you know anything about my type I do tend to get distracted and will often have bouts of polarization due to not meeting my own ideals of perfection regarding what I am doing. If I get confirmation that I helped someone along the way it is an ego boost and I keep moving.
I‘m an INFP but I feel really extrovertet when it comes to speaking with people. And I think I’m really good at getting people to like me. But I never trust anyone. That means I don‘t speak to much about me. I keep most things, as example my struggles, to myself. Is this a normal infp-type thing?
Thank you for making a video on our type! I like that you mentioned being a role model of our own values as a way to influence others as opposed to hitting them over the head with it. I resonate with that immensely. If I am allowed to add my own tips that I have learned through life: 1) Be compassionate towards yourself. We can be very hard on our selves and we know the importance of being compassionate towards others, but we don't realize the importance of being compassionate towards ourselves. 2) Spend time on self-health physically, mentally, and spiritually. I feel as an INFP I had a dislike towards exercise, but incorportating exercise is so important for a healthy mind and body. But individualize your exercise where it is inspiring and fun. Like maybe yoga or African dancing, just as a few examples. Mental health goes without saying. It is impossible to help others if we are not in a good place mentally. And spiritually, without it, there is that strange feeling that something is lacking or missing in our lives. Maybe like an empty or hollow feeling. Spirituality also individualized to what resonates deeply with us can heal that hole inside. And eventually lead us to inner joy. 3) Know when things are not your business. This one is a hard one. We want to help people and get involved in the lives of the people close to us because we care so much, but know that sometimes things are none of our business and trying to help people who don't want help is not helpful. 4) Recognize when we are being selfish. This one is a hard one because we don't like to see ourselves as bad people. But to be frank we can be kind of selfish only wanting to do what we want to do. Recognize the importance of volunteering and helping the community, but not in a way that is draining to ourselves, but uplifting to our spirits. 5) Find our Dharma. This one is a tough one too. But as INFPs we cannot be satisfied in a non-fulfilling job. Our career has to be our passion and what we are meant to do. So find our dharma which is our destined path in life which calls us. We have to listen to the universe which is trying to lead us in the right direction. 6) Lastly, listen to your inner voice, especially when it is telling you to act. INFPs we are observers. We observe what happens around us and we are slow to act because we spend more time thinking than doing. But if we see something and we know something bad will happen, we should do something about it. Instead of watching and waiting, intervene, if appropriate. If that inner voice is like you should do something, even if no one else is doing it, then do it. I especially feel this way about safety. If we recognize an unsafe environment, we should do what we can to fix it. So yeah that is my advice. Sorry for it being so long. Would love to hear other INFPs insights.
Your comment is exactly what I needed right now. As an infp in my early 20s I'm going through a really hard time finding the right career path and being stuck with one that is not right for me. I've always been too scared to follow my inner voice and do what I'm passionate about which is music, especially when I'm closely surrounded by Si personalities. I'm inspired to explore out of my comfort, thank you for your words!
7) Don't ever stop believing. Believe in your goals, believe in what you do, believe in making the world a better place and that everything's possible, if you're passionate enough to do it. There's always a way. Our hope and our trust in the good is one of our most valuable instruments. Don't lose them. Because believing is the first step of achieving.
@@blacat2168 I feel like believing can become difficult,believing your inner voice and acting upon it feels like a very though but meaningful thing that's scary but maybe the most important thing
Actions speak louder than words, it's so true and also convenient if you're not good at talking eloquently. I've spent my adolescence and early 20s feeling misunderstood or even crazy because of my radical ideas and my inability to express them and convince people of their validity. When I started actually acting on my principles I understood I don't need to convince anyone to make a change in the world, I can simply act on my own or with other like-minded people. Trying to talk people into changing their worldview is a waste of time and energy. It's much better to act and other people will follow when they see what you're doing is good and makes sense.
Playing guitar: too damn perfectionist - and i wont stop until the 'music' sounds 'perfect'. >FOCUSED Playing anything else: begin excited as shit, then i suddenly stop, and then i'll try another one - never finishing this 'cycle'... > UNFOCUSED
I have taken the 16 personalities test multiple times in my life and people that know me have done it ”as me” aswell. I have gotten this personality 100% of the times. I fully agree with almost all characteristics. However, Im not opinionated at all. Im simply too uncertain about my own ability to understand issues and concepts. Id like to think that I rely on logic more than the description says. But that is probably because I link logic ability to intelligence (not social) and I feel insecure about my own cognitive abilities. Im really afraid that I have low potetial, and I know that its dumb to waste energy on that type of thinking. Nontheless it has followed me for as long as I can remember. Anyone else?
Oh god. Wow. You just voiced my thoughts and fears. It's crazy, I've been over thinking and trapped inside my own mind lately because of overthinking about these fears and doubts.
Same here! I think what helps is doing my own research and learning from others, but also understanding that opinions can change with new discoveries and statistics, and life (and things in general) is fluid and non-linear. I also learned to accept myself as more "passive", especially since I do think that, compared to quite a few people out there, I'm able to see, understand, and sometimes accept different perspectives. It may seem easy but I find that many fail to see the other side at times, especially when it comes to matters that are close to their heart. Anyway, stay open-minded and I hope you'll find a stronger sense of conviction soon!
These tips are SO applicable to ENFJ. I feel like people can't comprehend or don't care enough about the message were trying to send that we have to dumb it down to society for them to understand. It's such an pain in the ass.
Fi doms and aux can be very opinionated. I can respect Fi principles...just don’t tell me how to think and feel and we’ll get along fine. Us NTPs and NFPs can really struggle to find our place in the world, and I admire those who do. Best thing to do is force yourself to learn to be organized. It sucks but it helps. At 30 I’m finally learning to keep a planner. My old ESTJ friend would be proud.
First of all, let me thank you for making these videos. As an INFP, I think I do have certain principles and values that are of immense importance to me. Thus, unsurprisingly enough, I view them as ones comprising my personality. That said, I don't really want to be a voice of change because I find it too tiring. I'd much rather be creative (I am a writer) and get as much pleasure as possible from following what I find the most exciting and mentally stimulating. I am not sure what that means. I always hear that INFPs are passionate about some issues, but I guess I just became too self-centered as time goes by. Not sure if that is some sort of progress or degradation for a person of my type. Maybe it's neither, and I am just in this weird stagnation. Sorry for blabbering. Just a few cents from an INFP.
I think this is the natural role for the INFP. I don't think they actually do well as agents of change. They may become shrill or angry, or even make targets of themselves. My favorite INFPs are novelists that provide this window into a creative and beautiful world, and that can be even more of an inspiration than pushing or preaching.
Katherine Chapman - I agree. Maybe I just misinterpreted some bits from the video :') As I certainly cannot see myself as an agent of change :D I think everyone fits certain role, and it just isn't mine ;)
I relate to this a lot. But I think creativity is a more natural way for us to communicate those values that make up our personality, since it's usually through works like writing that people even start considering these perspectives. So in a way when we try avoid being "voices of change" we're more likely to indirectly influence people, the same way we were influenced by things we read. Or I'm just lazy and rationalizing being a fantasy writer hahaha
When my INFP kid was little, I observed that when it was time to line up for anything, he'd never scramble with the other kids to be first. This means he was usually last, but he didn't care about that at all. The thing was going to happen anyway, and he didn't have to compete to make that happen. #winning
Wow. I came to the same conclusion a couple of days ago - my message needs a (good) medium. And while I see writing as my greatest strength, I'm learning video production because I think it is a more powerful medium nowadays. Nice one.
How to win as as INFP? Good question. I found by experience that I thrive more in chaos and crisis than in "all is good" times! As an INFP, I bizarely manage well this chaos world in which we live right now. The outside world right now is shut down and weird and it looks like my normal inner life ! It will be less comfortable when the world goes back to extrovert normal world though! Merci for your videos, I like the INFP ones you make they dont seem judgmental to me and I appreciate that. Merci from Paris.
Thank you for the advice! It helped me to know what should I do for next time... In INFP view, we choose what competition that suits us. What skill that being used, who were the oppenents, and what's the reward. We don't jump to any competitions for sake "winning". We jump to some competitions for fun and experience. Oh and also to see how far society values go, too, as you said in the video.
@@NathanJGlass your welcome! I forgot to add the example... One of my friend challenging me "who have highest exam score before graduate". I refused because I saw the reward is only a "score". And I knew my friend is a person who will do anything to win, include cheating. So... I don't want to deal with cheaters, too. But the other friend challenging me "who have better understanding english course" (we're not native on english), I accept it because I knew english will help me with the future. Both of us also being open each other about learning method, so no cheating in here. Despite I mostly lose later, but I got experiences, widened vocabulary+grammars, and I can explore the whole internet too. Which more useful than just "score" reward.
Fikamar27 i would agree with this. competition for competition’s sake probably seems meaningless to many INFPs unless, as you say, we manage to develop something as a result that we would wish to develop anyhow - regardless of whether there was a competition or not. tribe validation seems like a bonus rather than a goal. i’m not saying we’re never motivated by tribe validation but the circumstances have to be very particular for it to be something we strive for. from what i’ve seen in my own life (and i’m middle aged at this point), the more we live our authentic lives - whatever that means at that particular point in time to the particular INFP - the more validation we get. because people see we’re walking the walk, not just talking the talk. we inspire people by being our (best) selves, which means living consistently with our values. and not competing with others unless it serves our own purpose may be one of them. i think our greatest strength is getting people to think, ”oh, that way of doing things/living is actually an option too? well, who knew?” and this is how we can make changes in society, by showing people possibilities other than the norm. went off on a tangent there but i think you get the point!
M Rod yes, energy management is always a problem i find. energy and willpower. if i don’t want to do the thing and not doing it won’t get me into significant trouble, i generally don’t do the thing.
@@beaverones41 I just dont like dungeons and dragons type fantasy - i dont really know why but I suspect because its too far away from reality and I usually like fantasy thats closer to reality
@@atomiccritter6492 So you can watch something and just the fact that it is unrealistic will make you dislike it? I find that very weird but if that is how you feel I guess. I just think Lord of the rings are the greatest books and movies that will ever be made so I have a hard time understanding people that don't like them.
This was so eye opening for me! I am simply physically uncommitted from any values I hold dear to myself. It feels monumental to align physical reality with my inner life. Sometimes I feel a firm tide pushing my intentions away from body. I know this is my journey to bear, and this insight helps a lot!
Thanks so much! I’m so impressed by your starting saying it might be hard to adopt the attitude of winning cause that’s what I felt before watching this episode of yours, winning for me as an INFP is really personal.
I shut off Pandora and stopped what I was doing to watch this, lol. Concise as always; thank you, Nathan. I can see why Luanne loves you. We love you now too.
Didn’t even look at my phone and was therefore totally surprised by the sudden end. Some of the best advice I could have ever gotten tho, so thank you!
The only win I care for in life is being truly comfortable and happy with myself. As others have also noted, mental health seems to be a challenge that we as INFPs must overcome throughout various stages in our life. Finding the creative outlet to do so is part of that win.
This is the most beautiful advice, anyone has ever given. I used to be very outspoken, especially 5 years ago. But it wasnt received well by my friends and i was bullied, so I learned how to not be sensitive and not talk out on current affairs. But it turns out I wasnt being put together and calm, but rather supressing my feelings. What I didnt realise was I dont need to disregard my inclination I just need another way to present them Thanks again.
Winning to me is this scene: The year is 2081. I am 78 and look out from my little window on a changed world. I've done my part and have dreamed as much as I possibly can. The fire and spark that I had when I was 17 still holds strong. I am uncompromising and stand up for what I believe is write. I leave behind something big, beautiful, and artistic. Even if I am the only one to care for it, I hope it change the world. Or at least someone's world. I won't feel ashamed for dreaming big and wanting more. I won't be living someone else's shallow, empty life.
I gets lots of love...and hate living this INFP life. I just do things my way, tell the truth all the time, don’t care about scores and meaningless competition at school. So many people love me for that. They became my friends, my fellowy supporters. But the others - who don’t understand me wholely - hate me together. Like they would make me feel weird anytime i make myself comfortable (eventhough i know they want to do it so bad too but they just can’t the way i do :)). It’s good to read people well and don’t get to live up to society and people’s expectations, but it’s hard sometimes. Glad i’m not the only alien :))))
I don't know if my values would benefit society as a whole. But I dream of a world where people would be able to think outside of the box and understand that a lot of their traditions and rules are needlessly strict or outdated.
this is actually really helpful, thank you!! I often worry about being hypocritical and the way you articulated this is very nice and clear. Have a good day!
As an INFP, I can say this is so true and the issue I tell everyone about is basically the trash education system of my country ( India) and I think education system should be changed a lot and shouldn't be based on memorization. Instead of spending truckloads of money on army, government should focus on better education system. But nobody around me seems to care 😕. And they think I am a weirdo . I am a little weird because I am an infp but still....
Yeah the hardest part is to get so deep into being convincingly ourselves that people in our immediate surroundings stop the "Adapt! Adapt! Adapt!" chanting and either shut it or even go "Oh, I see. Couldn't do it that eay, but I guess that's also a way to live. Good for you!" 😂 and maybe, very maybe "WOW I don't know how you manage but it's amazing. Would you share insights on how you do it? Maybe there are aspects to learn from that I can apply, too, even if we're very different." The real struggle of winning is often really the sheer survival and hopefully to "thriving" part, that tends to be an extra high hurdle from our starting points unless very lucky (but we're not the only ones there. Although frankly, unlucky INFP versus most other types is rather close to being doomed. And then it's "be the miracle or break" very realistically very fast! Best chance if epic escape at the price of high risk of "instant kill" to use gaming language).
(INFP) I think what you said about your actions speaking louder than words has merit, but I think people hearing the passion come out when you speak about why you are doing that makes even more sense when paired together. I was offended when you said we were skilled. lol I'm insecure about not being good at anything.
INFP's dont likes challenges because if they see from the start the opponent is better or if they lost once they give up Even when they thought they were the best EVEN when they lost just because of bad luck
tbh i think we’re usually pretty uncompetitive, except with ourselves. we don’t tend to care too much about what other people are achieving, we’re too focused on doing better than we did previously against our own metrics/value system. maybe Enneagram types/instinctual variants play more of a role in any competitiveness you see in INFPs, especially as most of us are 4s and way more self-focused than tribe-focused.
A S I guess being competitive depends on what for. I’m extremely competitive when it comes to playing sports or games of any kind. But it’s because I want to try and be the best I can be and of course winning is fun. I’m not a sore loser and if I do lose i usually just try again. Now, as for a career or something..I’m less motivated to be competitive. I will always try my best but I wouldn’t care enough for a promotion, for example, unless I wanted the promotion enough maybe 🤷♀️
A S I reread your comment and I guess I’m just competitive with myself in the end even if I’m trying to beat other people. Because I never feel too bad when I lose. I don’t even know what my point is. I need to sleep 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
@@AML147 I relate so much with the video games, I don't like winning when the enemy is playing bad, and I don't mind losing if the enemy plays better than me, late reply lol I just found this video today
as an infp...my family was not really content with me drawing all time or trying to enter a competition; I was portrayed as lazy and whatsoever they might've called me welp, I did not care that much to tell them how they are not understanding my point but instead I acted, in the end I got accepted and they even tried to help!
This, I think, was just what I needed to hear 😢 ♥ two months ago i lost someone who i really looked up-to and someone who was very close to my heart, and everything sort of just became...really horribly dim. It wasn't completely out of the blue, but I still cannot believe just how unprepared I was, not to mention shattered when I heard about it. So much so that I began to lose all energy and motivation...all willpower disappeared - even in things I believed in and were normally hyped about like my like my lightnovel which I've always been dedicated to for years. (gakuen st warriors on fp). Still in a writer's block because I couldn't even muster the energy, will or even the mind to write. "actions speak louder than words" Was was one thing the person I lost used to say, along with "if you have committted to something, whatever it is, finish it as well as you can." Perhaps it's just me meandering lol but this makes me at least want* to get my act together again - and stop being a zombie. Basically, thanks! This makes me remember why I wanted to write in the first place...which is what I think I had been losing sight of...
I have been in the camp of blazing your own path and let others follow if they wish. I just don't enforce my views or what ever on others, but due to who I am others can become curious or even inspired by what I do. The simple one for me is keeping in shape, and it is apparent I do so. It does lure people to be curious about staying healthy. Though I rarely hear of it, people do get surprised about my ability to draw. I feel like I'm failing someone because I can't inspire them to be more consistent with practicing. I practice during my breaks at work every day and I hope my skill development and consistency would spur them to hop on board as well to push themselves. Though at times it all feels like it is for nothing, that it is a trail that I and I alone will go and everyone else will stay the same. Though I guess that is nothing new. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, among a friend group, family, work, and so on. Though now I know it is normal, or at least for this type.
Dude, recently I found your videos... they are emotional for me cuz im also INFP and artist, Im always tryin to get something important on canvas. Idea of something I believe in. Thank you, its motivating to actually do it and use canvas and colours as a medium
3:25 in the brainstorming and building process of my "medium" of expression...been a journey to get to any form of absolution about it...but I'm creating a world...Supernatural version of 9/11 era Las Vegas...shadow vs light...called Neon...Character/ relationship/morals-driven concepts and plots...to ultimately create a place people can experience the social experiment of Vegas before smart phones...that is more fantastical and magnified...also going to be a series of hybrid novels and comicbooks placed together in a meaningful, seemless way...giving the reader 2 forms of storytelling to choose from...it's still broad and vague...but it's narrowed down enough to create within it and discover the core messages and themes as the characters, environments, and cultures created evolve organically:)
I'm starting with loving myself and yes I'm not interested in winning, I'm interested in learning what is true. The law ot attraction has helped to get out of my confort zone.
I'm just making this up but maybe in ancient times communities would have someone who is a shaman vision-healer... the members of the community, who play different roles, would go to that person for guidance and inspiration. And the shaman's knowledge of the interconnectedness of things would provide something for everyone. I feel like that is maybe the INFP's archetype or ideal role in society... what is the modern analog though? Counselors, priests maybe.
💗😊💕INFP here. ‘Win’, isn’t part of my self-vocabulary. A rug is pulled from under me when someone wants to engage in quarrels and fights with me. When this happens, I just stare at them while I try to backtrack to figure out what I have done to cause them to want to engage in a fight with me. Meanwhile they take my silence as me having conceded and therefore they have won. Since I’m not engaging, they are just fighting with themselves. I’m not placed on this earth to fix everyone viewpoint. Everyone’s got choices to make. Live and let live.💕😊💗
😂😂 you right... I'm never interested in winning... I remember playing chess in a championship... The guy I was playing was so nerves, I thought he was going to cry there way he was acting... I just put my king down, without even thinking... Everyone was so confused as in why would I do that... he was surprised as well.. relieved too. We both didn't win at the end lol but we both won some games and lost some... I never regretted my decision, my teacher wasn't pleased with me though
Infp here. How can a medium be found when any one else doesn't feel, see or even understand the same as infp's. You'll always see this from a different perspective when we try to let you see from our perspective that often require our Fi, that you simply dont have?
I think this is why so many of them become artists and novelists. There is so much message and inspiration in these art-forms, that speak continually to the person who reads or views them, long after they walk away.
@@LadyIarConnacht That is very true. The feeling messages through other languages is tricky to share when the reciever dont or cant feel the same. Perhaps artwork that works with all the other senses and thought patterns is the better translater. Shared experiences works too, because there we can potentially feel the same or connect our fellings from the same source.
I think that's more a universal feeling. Not just Fi. No one can truly feel what another feels on the same personal level, no matter the expertise or empathy. Not one Fi user will Feel/share perspectives to the same level as another Fi user, feeling is completely personal and not feeling understood is completely universal. Fi users tend to isolate their emotions deep within themselves, and then feel disjointed because no one can dive into their deep authentic feeling. At the end of the day, no one will understand another 100 percent. Ever. It's not cognitive function based. On another note, Fi doms need to find a way to "pull" their feeling closer to the surface as to not drown and suffocate within it.- Infps need to bathe in authentic expression with a give no shit attitude and be happy with what they are and what they produce and their personal tint of perspectives...stop isolating...and breathe. Love infj type 4
This is a Real cool video well said and in a way for INFPs to understand but Not feel pushed lol anyway I am older now and I understand that now but I wish somebody knew how to explain that to me sooner so I hope it’s gonna help all other young INFPs stop f procrastinating lol
Dude love your insights! I am fucking so confused on my career ! All jobs i tried so far have been plain life sucking or so low paying that i cant even pay my education debt. Infps shit is killing me !!
As INFP, I am so joyful when husband goes out to help others and phisically at home not as much as he could. As long as he leave me to serve others in need, I dont mind.
I am an infp, but I lived in an abusive and very invalidating environment. I keep hearing all these wonderful things about us, but it hurts to know that since I have BPD as well, I may never be able to show myself to the world. I feel empty, meaningless, and useless, and I need something to look up. All I really want is to be loved. To be a close friend. To be someone that people want or need in their lives. I feel like people see me as disingenuous and fake, and I don't want to be, but I feel like I am. I don't have any redeeming qualities, and at this point I just want out.
The most you can do is start taking steps to improve your situation. Stay focused on obtaining valuable skills that will benefit you in the future. Try to think about what you can be doing now to make tommorow better.
Am I the only one INFP who blames my non-success or success (is never my fault because I'm perfect) because of my INFPness (word I recently made) and then giggles about the word "INFPness" because I said "penis" Yeah, sorry..
This resonates with me a lot, except for *principles and values being irrational". My very strong Fi is actually often very justifiable. Of course, according my understanding :).
How to win as an INFP
"This is definitely one of the more difficult episodes to do"
Starting off with a subtle roast I see
Lol! My bad. ~ Nathan
It's so true though... This world isn't very easy for the functions of an INFP
Any type of constructive criticism or just blatant honesty that I've searched for about my Character defects that I just simply couldn't see ones that are not obvious to me anyways cuz I see plenty I just need to watch one or two at this guy's videos and all of those curious feelings disappear but like I said I love it because I can't fix what I'm not conscious of if it's in need of being fixed
@@Kiseochan Exactly. I've reached a point where I feel somewhat lonely so I just joined 3 INFP groups on FB. I'm also struggling to get a job in this COVID-19 era.
INFPs need one INTJ in their life who makes sure they are on right track
INFPs need to find something they enjoy doing, have a passion, and are good at.
Good point, but I feel like that applies to most people though.
they dont feel like doing what they want even if they are very good at it if they dont recieve some "likes" or something .they are attention seekers
while me an intp i dont do anything even if im good and i like it but if i feel like im doing it for nothing i stop doing it because i feel like i spend time for nothing.
both infp and intp would do a hobby even if it doesnt follow the requirements i wrote up IF !
they would have a friend close to them that would have the same hobby and do it together
Daniel Nistor u are wrong we are not attention seekers. Im good at sports but i don’t do them simply because i don’t really enjoy it. Not because i want attention lol
And here I am, INFP with no passion and no developed talent. That's why I will probably just live a calm and uneventful life, enjoying what other successfull people created. It's not too bad so far tbh...
RaoDGuitar same
I think INFPs consider it a "win" to live by our own principles or lifestyles even when people tell us that won't be possible, so this makes sense as advice.
What career do you suggest for infps
@@akashmishra5224 Hmm INFPs are very subjective by nature, so the best advice tends to be to do what you're personally passionate about and make it work, as trite as that can sound. I have noticed a lot of INFPs work as writers, in the arts, in teaching, in marketing, at nonprofits, and in psychology/social work.
You nailed it Jeanette.
Terrace-te- Real Whatever allows you to live authentically to your own principles!
@@akashmishra5224 - Self employed tradesman/craftsmen.
Being alive is a win already
It's a win and the most important one. But you will need to win more to keep winning.
I also think like this way, i don’t know how things going, i'm just lazy all the time, I hate myself
@@khadijatasnim2187 i know how you feel. You'll get through this okay? Have you gotten tested for depression or some other condition? You seem to care and mental illnesses/disorders sometimes present themselves as laziness. Good luck!
Y R U sure about that? (INTP)
I always make the joke that my birthday means “another year without a Darwin Award.” 🤣 -INFP
As an infp winning to me is to reach happiness and to live a life full of peace, freedom, independence, and to create memories that i'll be thankful for. That's a great victory.
Same
Same
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What about being successful? Was that include of the things that makes you happy? Just asking to gain information about infp
@@MonkeeRush I as an individual INFP obviously can’t speak for all INFPs. But I’d say that in general we just don’t give a shit about “success” whatever that word is supposed to mean.
Success can be almost anything depending on the person in question. And us INFPs don’t give a shit about being “successful” in terms of having a job that gives us lots of money, which is the traditional way of seeing it.
Success to us means a waist of time for other types.
Sometimes for INFPs adopting a "don't believe me just watch" mentality is called for, even if you have to sit on your hands at times to train yourself to do it.
Corduroy and Maple after time I've come to believe that this really is the best way.
hi i really resonate with this. when i was younger i would always try to convince people that question my decisions or ideas. In the end i realize i would have to do it instead
@@sherwinh1661 For sure. Sometimes trying to convince them only makes it worse I've found.
(INFP) "Let the work do the talking"
I have a knack for getting people to open up. Have been told, "I feel like I've always known you", and "There is a sense of peace when I'm around you"... This all began after I accepted myself with all my quirks and offbeat'ness.
can i ask how you accepted yourself? i think i am still in the process. i accepted myself for myself but not for society. i still feel like an outsider.
@@deadleaves58 Read this yesterday and have been trying to think of the most conscience answer to provide... but's not that simple. For me it was spending a good while alone. No relationships and especially trying new things. By going out of my comfort zone I found what worked and what didn't until attracting the right kind of vibe from people. If they don't vibe with me, they respect me for my differences.
PS. I too still feel like an outsider, and it's great!
@@PhotoRubio comfort zone is my weakness..
thank you so much for answering!
This happened to me even when I was at my lowest point. People telling me there dark life stories and then remarking "Wow, I have never told this to anybody. I don't know why I'm telling you all of this" . I don't know why... simply sitting there and listening might be an actual skill.
Same here :)
I feel like I’m winning when I know I make a positive impact on someone else. I like to nurture and make people feel accepted for being authentic. I don’t judge but rather I like to find the psychology behind actions. Bossy people really get on my nerves because I like to do things on my own terms.
Well said.
"Bossy people really get on my nerves"
You said it sister. When I was younger and would ocassionally get in fist fights it was almost always with a bossy type.
I don't know where they get the nerve or the idea that I am in any way subject to their individual wills, but I never hesitate to disavow them of their delusions.
I know I'm winning when people, in a good way, comment: "There is something different about you".
INFPs : we got potential but first let us have high dose of existential crisis and dread over it
Oh, yes, so very true!
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Couldn't have said it better
When I read this it made me laugh, so thanks for that. :D Also, yeah... idk if it's like something we, INFPs have to go through.
FR
As an INFP, I feel I have no problem "[letting] the work do the talking." What I've recently found difficult (and frustrating) is feeling that my work is either not appreciated or that my actions are misunderstood by others.
7 months till someone liked your comment
How to win as an INFP - "Let the work do the talking"
I feel so secluded as an INFP. I have certain boundaries and convictions that at just for me and I don't push them on everyone. But it feels like everyone I know, including my siblings want me to 'get over myself' and 'let loose'. What they refuse to understand is that this IS who I am.
INFPs = lifetime of misunderstandings. Eventually people will realise who you are, I've been taught that time is the best way to demonstrate who you are.
@@NathanJGlass Thank you. I appreciate it. I hope it comes soon, haha. I'm 28 and tired.
Yes same problem 🐱 here with my siblings n family 😔
As an older INFP I would like to add this. "Winning" is a very subjective word. I don't care that it doesn't look like I am winning to others because I don't live according to their standards. Winning for me is being content with who I am (at the moment) and making a difference in life according to my own measurement system. Also not beating myself up or overanalysing things but just taking things as they come and integrating them into who I am (or not!). Every day is an adventure, whether we leave the house or not! ✌️
As an INFP, my view of winning is when I hopefully finding a career where I can pursue my passion authentically. I am taking steps to get there but if you know anything about my type I do tend to get distracted and will often have bouts of polarization due to not meeting my own ideals of perfection regarding what I am doing. If I get confirmation that I helped someone along the way it is an ego boost and I keep moving.
Excellent! ~ Nathan
I‘m an INFP but I feel really extrovertet when it comes to speaking with people. And I think I’m really good at getting people to like me. But I never trust anyone. That means I don‘t speak to much about me. I keep most things, as example my struggles, to myself. Is this a normal infp-type thing?
Shukran CH I do this too! I know tons of things from other people and they rarely know anything about me.
That sounds extremely INFP to me!
Jane_witha_ T I think I‘m actually an ENFP.
Same. I have a really hard time opening up even to the people closest to me. Im trying yo work on that, but God, its hard.
It doesn't seem too INFP to me. INFPs talk about themselves because they're all about feeling and experience.
Thank you for making a video on our type! I like that you mentioned being a role model of our own values as a way to influence others as opposed to hitting them over the head with it. I resonate with that immensely.
If I am allowed to add my own tips that I have learned through life:
1) Be compassionate towards yourself. We can be very hard on our selves and we know the importance of being compassionate towards others, but we don't realize the importance of being compassionate towards ourselves.
2) Spend time on self-health physically, mentally, and spiritually. I feel as an INFP I had a dislike towards exercise, but incorportating exercise is so important for a healthy mind and body. But individualize your exercise where it is inspiring and fun. Like maybe yoga or African dancing, just as a few examples. Mental health goes without saying. It is impossible to help others if we are not in a good place mentally. And spiritually, without it, there is that strange feeling that something is lacking or missing in our lives. Maybe like an empty or hollow feeling. Spirituality also individualized to what resonates deeply with us can heal that hole inside. And eventually lead us to inner joy.
3) Know when things are not your business. This one is a hard one. We want to help people and get involved in the lives of the people close to us because we care so much, but know that sometimes things are none of our business and trying to help people who don't want help is not helpful.
4) Recognize when we are being selfish. This one is a hard one because we don't like to see ourselves as bad people. But to be frank we can be kind of selfish only wanting to do what we want to do. Recognize the importance of volunteering and helping the community, but not in a way that is draining to ourselves, but uplifting to our spirits.
5) Find our Dharma. This one is a tough one too. But as INFPs we cannot be satisfied in a non-fulfilling job. Our career has to be our passion and what we are meant to do. So find our dharma which is our destined path in life which calls us. We have to listen to the universe which is trying to lead us in the right direction.
6) Lastly, listen to your inner voice, especially when it is telling you to act. INFPs we are observers. We observe what happens around us and we are slow to act because we spend more time thinking than doing. But if we see something and we know something bad will happen, we should do something about it. Instead of watching and waiting, intervene, if appropriate. If that inner voice is like you should do something, even if no one else is doing it, then do it. I especially feel this way about safety. If we recognize an unsafe environment, we should do what we can to fix it.
So yeah that is my advice. Sorry for it being so long. Would love to hear other INFPs insights.
Your comment is exactly what I needed right now. As an infp in my early 20s I'm going through a really hard time finding the right career path and being stuck with one that is not right for me. I've always been too scared to follow my inner voice and do what I'm passionate about which is music, especially when I'm closely surrounded by Si personalities. I'm inspired to explore out of my comfort, thank you for your words!
7) Don't ever stop believing. Believe in your goals, believe in what you do, believe in making the world a better place and that everything's possible, if you're passionate enough to do it. There's always a way.
Our hope and our trust in the good is one of our most valuable instruments. Don't lose them. Because believing is the first step of achieving.
@@blacat2168 I feel like believing can become difficult,believing your inner voice and acting upon it feels like a very though but meaningful thing that's scary but maybe the most important thing
Sara De Marco Yes, I think so too.
Your whole long comment just made my day i guess. Every single advice and saying is just on point. Thank you !
ok but the sentence "infps embody their values." amazing.
Actions speak louder than words, it's so true and also convenient if you're not good at talking eloquently. I've spent my adolescence and early 20s feeling misunderstood or even crazy because of my radical ideas and my inability to express them and convince people of their validity.
When I started actually acting on my principles I understood I don't need to convince anyone to make a change in the world, I can simply act on my own or with other like-minded people. Trying to talk people into changing their worldview is a waste of time and energy. It's much better to act and other people will follow when they see what you're doing is good and makes sense.
yess
Amen to that! 👏👏👏
Playing guitar: too damn perfectionist - and i wont stop until the 'music' sounds 'perfect'. >FOCUSED
Playing anything else: begin excited as shit, then i suddenly stop, and then i'll try another one - never finishing this 'cycle'... > UNFOCUSED
Persistence will pay off in the long run! ~ Nathan
I have taken the 16 personalities test multiple times in my life and people that know me have done it ”as me” aswell. I have gotten this personality 100% of the times. I fully agree with almost all characteristics. However, Im not opinionated at all. Im simply too uncertain about my own ability to understand issues and concepts. Id like to think that I rely on logic more than the description says. But that is probably because I link logic ability to intelligence (not social) and I feel insecure about my own cognitive abilities. Im really afraid that I have low potetial, and I know that its dumb to waste energy on that type of thinking. Nontheless it has followed me for as long as I can remember.
Anyone else?
same here too, you're not alone :)
Oh god. Wow. You just voiced my thoughts and fears. It's crazy, I've been over thinking and trapped inside my own mind lately because of overthinking about these fears and doubts.
This exactly how I feel !!!!
Same here! I think what helps is doing my own research and learning from others, but also understanding that opinions can change with new discoveries and statistics, and life (and things in general) is fluid and non-linear. I also learned to accept myself as more "passive", especially since I do think that, compared to quite a few people out there, I'm able to see, understand, and sometimes accept different perspectives. It may seem easy but I find that many fail to see the other side at times, especially when it comes to matters that are close to their heart. Anyway, stay open-minded and I hope you'll find a stronger sense of conviction soon!
Can't help but agree. I always doubt my intelligence in this world. I'm not very good at logic sometimes...
These tips are SO applicable to ENFJ. I feel like people can't comprehend or don't care enough about the message were trying to send that we have to dumb it down to society for them to understand. It's such an pain in the ass.
Fi doms and aux can be very opinionated. I can respect Fi principles...just don’t tell me how to think and feel and we’ll get along fine.
Us NTPs and NFPs can really struggle to find our place in the world, and I admire those who do. Best thing to do is force yourself to learn to be organized. It sucks but it helps. At 30 I’m finally learning to keep a planner. My old ESTJ friend would be proud.
you're a real joy to listen to
Thank you!!!! ~ Nathan
First of all, let me thank you for making these videos. As an INFP, I think I do have certain principles and values that are of immense importance to me. Thus, unsurprisingly enough, I view them as ones comprising my personality. That said, I don't really want to be a voice of change because I find it too tiring. I'd much rather be creative (I am a writer) and get as much pleasure as possible from following what I find the most exciting and mentally stimulating. I am not sure what that means. I always hear that INFPs are passionate about some issues, but I guess I just became too self-centered as time goes by. Not sure if that is some sort of progress or degradation for a person of my type. Maybe it's neither, and I am just in this weird stagnation. Sorry for blabbering. Just a few cents from an INFP.
I think this is the natural role for the INFP. I don't think they actually do well as agents of change. They may become shrill or angry, or even make targets of themselves. My favorite INFPs are novelists that provide this window into a creative and beautiful world, and that can be even more of an inspiration than pushing or preaching.
Katherine Chapman
Agreed! I always saw them as the ones who provide the most clarity through creative funnels. I love most INFP writing.
Katherine Chapman - I agree. Maybe I just misinterpreted some bits from the video :') As I certainly cannot see myself as an agent of change :D I think everyone fits certain role, and it just isn't mine ;)
I relate to this a lot. But I think creativity is a more natural way for us to communicate those values that make up our personality, since it's usually through works like writing that people even start considering these perspectives. So in a way when we try avoid being "voices of change" we're more likely to indirectly influence people, the same way we were influenced by things we read. Or I'm just lazy and rationalizing being a fantasy writer hahaha
Wow. You put into words what I never could. And this is why (as an infp) I place a lot of my identity in my work/art. It's the only way people see me.
Are you under 40?
My mom is an INFP and i think she really need to see this.
Please do send it to her!
You are one of the most insightful UA-camrs I have come across. You are changing our lives through your wiseful words.
This is amazing to hear, I never know whether my ramblings in these videos will be useful to anyone so reading your comment felt great! ~ Nathan
When my INFP kid was little, I observed that when it was time to line up for anything, he'd never scramble with the other kids to be first. This means he was usually last, but he didn't care about that at all. The thing was going to happen anyway, and he didn't have to compete to make that happen. #winning
Wow. I came to the same conclusion a couple of days ago - my message needs a (good) medium. And while I see writing as my greatest strength, I'm learning video production because I think it is a more powerful medium nowadays. Nice one.
Very skilled :) what a compliment to hear that from an Intj ...
How to win as as INFP? Good question. I found by experience that I thrive more in chaos and crisis than in "all is good" times!
As an INFP, I bizarely manage well this chaos world in which we live right now. The outside world right now is shut down and weird and it looks like my normal inner life ! It will be less comfortable when the world goes back to extrovert normal world though!
Merci for your videos, I like the INFP ones you make they dont seem judgmental to me and I appreciate that.
Merci from Paris.
Thats amazing to hear! I try my best to avoid judging any person/types approach. We all have our ways that work for us ~ Nathan
@@lovewho well your way works well for me. We INFP are made fun of too often. Merci !
Idiosyncratic. This sounds like AURORA. I'm studying her personality type because we're both INFPs.
"Let the work do the talking" I needed to hear that, thank you. I'm so deep in my head that I don't know what to do sometimes.
One of the best videos I’ve ever seen on advice to INFP. And I couldn’t agree more. We are walking stories, and it’s better to show than tell.
Thank you for the advice! It helped me to know what should I do for next time...
In INFP view, we choose what competition that suits us. What skill that being used, who were the oppenents, and what's the reward. We don't jump to any competitions for sake "winning". We jump to some competitions for fun and experience. Oh and also to see how far society values go, too, as you said in the video.
@@NathanJGlass your welcome! I forgot to add the example...
One of my friend challenging me "who have highest exam score before graduate". I refused because I saw the reward is only a "score". And I knew my friend is a person who will do anything to win, include cheating. So... I don't want to deal with cheaters, too.
But the other friend challenging me "who have better understanding english course" (we're not native on english), I accept it because I knew english will help me with the future. Both of us also being open each other about learning method, so no cheating in here. Despite I mostly lose later, but I got experiences, widened vocabulary+grammars, and I can explore the whole internet too. Which more useful than just "score" reward.
Fikamar27 i would agree with this. competition for competition’s sake probably seems meaningless to many INFPs unless, as you say, we manage to develop something as a result that we would wish to develop anyhow - regardless of whether there was a competition or not. tribe validation seems like a bonus rather than a goal. i’m not saying we’re never motivated by tribe validation but the circumstances have to be very particular for it to be something we strive for.
from what i’ve seen in my own life (and i’m middle aged at this point), the more we live our authentic lives - whatever that means at that particular point in time to the particular INFP - the more validation we get. because people see we’re walking the walk, not just talking the talk. we inspire people by being our (best) selves, which means living consistently with our values. and not competing with others unless it serves our own purpose may be one of them. i think our greatest strength is getting people to think, ”oh, that way of doing things/living is actually an option too? well, who knew?” and this is how we can make changes in society, by showing people possibilities other than the norm.
went off on a tangent there but i think you get the point!
So basically: develop that blind Se and inferior Te 😆
M Rod yes, energy management is always a problem i find. energy and willpower. if i don’t want to do the thing and not doing it won’t get me into significant trouble, i generally don’t do the thing.
Tolkien is another INFP author whose beliefs and philosophy underly his amazing stories.
I must be the only INFP who hates Tolkiens work..though the Tolkien movie is meant to be good
@@atomiccritter6492 Why do you hate it?
@@beaverones41 I just dont like dungeons and dragons type fantasy - i dont really know why but I suspect because its too far away from reality and I usually like fantasy thats closer to reality
@@atomiccritter6492 So you can watch something and just the fact that it is unrealistic will make you dislike it? I find that very weird but if that is how you feel I guess. I just think Lord of the rings are the greatest books and movies that will ever be made so I have a hard time understanding people that don't like them.
@@beaverones41 well people have different tastes youre welcome to like the stuff i hate and vice versa
You actually know what you are talking about, thanks for sharing this, its really valuable
This was so eye opening for me! I am simply physically uncommitted from any values I hold dear to myself.
It feels monumental to align physical reality with my inner life. Sometimes I feel a firm tide pushing my intentions away from body. I know this is my journey to bear, and this insight helps a lot!
As an INFP, my idea of winning is to finally overcome my "hopeless romantic" stage 💀
Thanks so much! I’m so impressed by your starting saying it might be hard to adopt the attitude of winning cause that’s what I felt before watching this episode of yours, winning for me as an INFP is really personal.
Well said. To the point and no emotions for us infps to over "think" about.
Thank you ~ Nathan
Yeap. That's another video in which you can replace "INFP" with my name and get a full insight of the complicated knot that is my mind. THANK YOU ❤
im an INFP.
your video gave me a chance to learn English hard .
i have wanted to understand the way i am.
thank you from Japan.🇯🇵
Wow thats amazing! ~ Nathan
Would be cool to see a video that discusses INFP's Extroverted Intuition in depth
I shut off Pandora and stopped what I was doing to watch this, lol. Concise as always; thank you, Nathan. I can see why Luanne loves you. We love you now too.
Didn’t even look at my phone and was therefore totally surprised by the sudden end. Some of the best advice I could have ever gotten tho, so thank you!
The only win I care for in life is being truly comfortable and happy with myself. As others have also noted, mental health seems to be a challenge that we as INFPs must overcome throughout various stages in our life. Finding the creative outlet to do so is part of that win.
This is the most beautiful advice, anyone has ever given. I used to be very outspoken, especially 5 years ago. But it wasnt received well by my friends and i was bullied, so I learned how to not be sensitive and not talk out on current affairs. But it turns out I wasnt being put together and calm, but rather supressing my feelings.
What I didnt realise was I dont need to disregard my inclination I just need another way to present them
Thanks again.
Me, an INFP, as the title card plays, “but why do I need to win?”
Nathan, immediately afterwards, “INFPs don’t seem to be as interested in winning.”
Winning to me is this scene:
The year is 2081. I am 78 and look out from my little window on a changed world. I've done my part and have dreamed as much as I possibly can. The fire and spark that I had when I was 17 still holds strong. I am uncompromising and stand up for what I believe is write. I leave behind something big, beautiful, and artistic. Even if I am the only one to care for it, I hope it change the world. Or at least someone's world. I won't feel ashamed for dreaming big and wanting more. I won't be living someone else's shallow, empty life.
I consider winning as living in my intense emotions and just let them be, because that’s seems to be the beauty of life.
I gets lots of love...and hate living this INFP life. I just do things my way, tell the truth all the time, don’t care about scores and meaningless competition at school. So many people love me for that. They became my friends, my fellowy supporters. But the others - who don’t understand me wholely - hate me together. Like they would make me feel weird anytime i make myself comfortable (eventhough i know they want to do it so bad too but they just can’t the way i do :)). It’s good to read people well and don’t get to live up to society and people’s expectations, but it’s hard sometimes. Glad i’m not the only alien :))))
I don't know if my values would benefit society as a whole. But I dream of a world where people would be able to think outside of the box and understand that a lot of their traditions and rules are needlessly strict or outdated.
this is actually really helpful, thank you!! I often worry about being hypocritical and the way you articulated this is very nice and clear. Have a good day!
The only win that I strive for in life is overcoming mental health issues and becoming the best version of myself
Needed to hear this like 😫😫😫
It was soo timely tho 🤭
Thanks a lot 🤗
Wow! I am reading Orwell's 1984 now. Glad to know I am reading a work of another INFP.
You just earned a subscription my dude
- an INFP who wants to win
As an INFP, I can say this is so true and the issue I tell everyone about is basically the trash education system of my country ( India) and I think education system should be changed a lot and shouldn't be based on memorization. Instead of spending truckloads of money on army, government should focus on better education system. But nobody around me seems to care 😕. And they think I am a weirdo . I am a little weird because I am an infp but still....
Yeah the hardest part is to get so deep into being convincingly ourselves that people in our immediate surroundings stop the "Adapt! Adapt! Adapt!" chanting and either shut it or even go "Oh, I see. Couldn't do it that eay, but I guess that's also a way to live. Good for you!" 😂 and maybe, very maybe "WOW I don't know how you manage but it's amazing. Would you share insights on how you do it? Maybe there are aspects to learn from that I can apply, too, even if we're very different."
The real struggle of winning is often really the sheer survival and hopefully to "thriving" part, that tends to be an extra high hurdle from our starting points unless very lucky (but we're not the only ones there. Although frankly, unlucky INFP versus most other types is rather close to being doomed. And then it's "be the miracle or break" very realistically very fast! Best chance if epic escape at the price of high risk of "instant kill" to use gaming language).
Nathan did anyone tell you that you're a damn good advisor
Nadine I would say more of a critic.
@@NathanJGlass hahaha always gotta keep an escape door
(INFP) I think what you said about your actions speaking louder than words has merit, but I think people hearing the passion come out when you speak about why you are doing that makes even more sense when paired together. I was offended when you said we were skilled. lol I'm insecure about not being good at anything.
I agree with the sentiment that winning as an INFP is different. Let your life reflect your state of winning.
INFP's dont likes challenges because if they see from the start the opponent is better or if they lost once they give up
Even when they thought they were the best EVEN when they lost just because of bad luck
tbh i think we’re usually pretty uncompetitive, except with ourselves. we don’t tend to care too much about what other people are achieving, we’re too focused on doing better than we did previously against our own metrics/value system. maybe Enneagram types/instinctual variants play more of a role in any competitiveness you see in INFPs, especially as most of us are 4s and way more self-focused than tribe-focused.
A S I guess being competitive depends on what for. I’m extremely competitive when it comes to playing sports or games of any kind. But it’s because I want to try and be the best I can be and of course winning is fun. I’m not a sore loser and if I do lose i usually just try again. Now, as for a career or something..I’m less motivated to be competitive. I will always try my best but I wouldn’t care enough for a promotion, for example, unless I wanted the promotion enough maybe 🤷♀️
A S I reread your comment and I guess I’m just competitive with myself in the end even if I’m trying to beat other people. Because I never feel too bad when I lose. I don’t even know what my point is. I need to sleep 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
@@AML147 I relate so much with the video games, I don't like winning when the enemy is playing bad, and I don't mind losing if the enemy plays better than me, late reply lol I just found this video today
I love that you are straight to the point!💗...that I cannot distract myself reading the comments lol
as an infp...my family was not really content with me drawing all time or trying to enter a competition; I was portrayed as lazy and whatsoever they might've called me
welp, I did not care that much to tell them how they are not understanding my point but instead I acted, in the end I got accepted and they even tried to help!
Thank you so much, my friend, for your words of insight! :)
This, I think, was just what I needed to hear 😢 ♥
two months ago i lost someone who i really looked up-to and someone who was very close to my heart, and everything sort of just became...really horribly dim. It wasn't completely out of the blue, but I still cannot believe just how unprepared I was, not to mention shattered when I heard about it.
So much so that I began to lose all energy and motivation...all willpower disappeared - even in things I believed in and were normally hyped about like my like my lightnovel which I've always been dedicated to for years. (gakuen st warriors on fp). Still in a writer's block because I couldn't even muster the energy, will or even the mind to write.
"actions speak louder than words"
Was was one thing the person I lost used to say, along with "if you have committted to something, whatever it is, finish it as well as you can."
Perhaps it's just me meandering lol but this makes me at least want* to get my act together again - and stop being a zombie.
Basically, thanks!
This makes me remember why I wanted to write in the first place...which is what I think I had been losing sight of...
That's amazing! Thank you for this comment ~ Nathan
@@lovewho :) tysm too :)
I have been in the camp of blazing your own path and let others follow if they wish. I just don't enforce my views or what ever on others, but due to who I am others can become curious or even inspired by what I do. The simple one for me is keeping in shape, and it is apparent I do so. It does lure people to be curious about staying healthy. Though I rarely hear of it, people do get surprised about my ability to draw. I feel like I'm failing someone because I can't inspire them to be more consistent with practicing. I practice during my breaks at work every day and I hope my skill development and consistency would spur them to hop on board as well to push themselves.
Though at times it all feels like it is for nothing, that it is a trail that I and I alone will go and everyone else will stay the same. Though I guess that is nothing new. I never felt like I belonged anywhere, among a friend group, family, work, and so on. Though now I know it is normal, or at least for this type.
Dude, recently I found your videos... they are emotional for me cuz im also INFP and artist, Im always tryin to get something important on canvas. Idea of something I believe in. Thank you, its motivating to actually do it and use canvas and colours as a medium
3:25 in the brainstorming and building process of my "medium" of expression...been a journey to get to any form of absolution about it...but I'm creating a world...Supernatural version of 9/11 era Las Vegas...shadow vs light...called Neon...Character/ relationship/morals-driven concepts and plots...to ultimately create a place people can experience the social experiment of Vegas before smart phones...that is more fantastical and magnified...also going to be a series of hybrid novels and comicbooks placed together in a meaningful, seemless way...giving the reader 2 forms of storytelling to choose from...it's still broad and vague...but it's narrowed down enough to create within it and discover the core messages and themes as the characters, environments, and cultures created evolve organically:)
I'm starting with loving myself and yes I'm not interested in winning, I'm interested in learning what is true. The law ot attraction has helped to get out of my confort zone.
Lol anytime he talks about INFPs he’s always like “god this is gonna he a difficult one” and it always make me giggle inside 😂
I'm just making this up but maybe in ancient times communities would have someone who is a shaman vision-healer... the members of the community, who play different roles, would go to that person for guidance and inspiration. And the shaman's knowledge of the interconnectedness of things would provide something for everyone. I feel like that is maybe the INFP's archetype or ideal role in society... what is the modern analog though? Counselors, priests maybe.
Well another dead entity which I suspect was very high in INFPs is polymathy which is dead these days.
Find yourself an ENFJ 😏
💗😊💕INFP here. ‘Win’, isn’t part of my self-vocabulary. A rug is pulled from under me when someone wants to engage in quarrels and fights with me. When this happens, I just stare at them while I try to backtrack to figure out what I have done to cause them to want to engage in a fight with me. Meanwhile they take my silence as me having conceded and therefore they have won. Since I’m not engaging, they are just fighting with themselves. I’m not placed on this earth to fix everyone viewpoint. Everyone’s got choices to make. Live and let live.💕😊💗
😂😂 you right... I'm never interested in winning... I remember playing chess in a championship... The guy I was playing was so nerves, I thought he was going to cry there way he was acting... I just put my king down, without even thinking... Everyone was so confused as in why would I do that... he was surprised as well.. relieved too. We both didn't win at the end lol but we both won some games and lost some... I never regretted my decision, my teacher wasn't pleased with me though
Winning to me is a stable relationship with my esfj making every day an adventure. He's my light even in my dark time
Infp here. How can a medium be found when any one else doesn't feel, see or even understand the same as infp's. You'll always see this from a different perspective when we try to let you see from our perspective that often require our Fi, that you simply dont have?
I think this is why so many of them become artists and novelists. There is so much message and inspiration in these art-forms, that speak continually to the person who reads or views them, long after they walk away.
@@LadyIarConnacht That is very true.
The feeling messages through other languages is tricky to share when the reciever dont or cant feel the same. Perhaps artwork that works with all the other senses and thought patterns is the better translater.
Shared experiences works too, because there we can potentially feel the same or connect our fellings from the same source.
I think that's more a universal feeling. Not just Fi. No one can truly feel what another feels on the same personal level, no matter the expertise or empathy. Not one Fi user will Feel/share perspectives to the same level as another Fi user, feeling is completely personal and not feeling understood is completely universal. Fi users tend to isolate their emotions deep within themselves, and then feel disjointed because no one can dive into their deep authentic feeling. At the end of the day, no one will understand another 100 percent. Ever. It's not cognitive function based. On another note, Fi doms need to find a way to "pull" their feeling closer to the surface as to not drown and suffocate within it.- Infps need to bathe in authentic expression with a give no shit attitude and be happy with what they are and what they produce and their personal tint of perspectives...stop isolating...and breathe. Love infj type 4
I had a therapist once tell me that I had a "doing problem."
This is a Real cool video well said and in a way for INFPs to understand but Not feel pushed lol anyway I am older now and I understand that now but I wish somebody knew how to explain that to me sooner so I hope it’s gonna help all other young INFPs stop f procrastinating lol
Dude love your insights! I am fucking so confused on my career ! All jobs i tried so far have been plain life sucking or so low paying that i cant even pay my education debt. Infps shit is killing me !!
The drop in the beat(0:07) though lol...INFP
So happy to see fellow INFPs in the Comment Section :)
I LOVED this... Thank you!
This was so eloquently put 🌼🌼🌼
I appreciate this video so deeply, thank you.
I watch these videos less to understand myself and more to understand the world.
"You mean, others are not governed entirely by their principles?"
As INFP, I am so joyful when husband goes out to help others and phisically at home not as much as he could. As long as he leave me to serve others in need, I dont mind.
I am an infp, but I lived in an abusive and very invalidating environment. I keep hearing all these wonderful things about us, but it hurts to know that since I have BPD as well, I may never be able to show myself to the world. I feel empty, meaningless, and useless, and I need something to look up. All I really want is to be loved. To be a close friend. To be someone that people want or need in their lives. I feel like people see me as disingenuous and fake, and I don't want to be, but I feel like I am. I don't have any redeeming qualities, and at this point I just want out.
The most you can do is start taking steps to improve your situation. Stay focused on obtaining valuable skills that will benefit you in the future. Try to think about what you can be doing now to make tommorow better.
Nice wording, Nathan!
Nathan Glass
My mother’s name hahahahaha
Quirky critic?! Great turn of phrase
Wow. That's great advice.
uknow this makes a lot of sense
Am I the only one INFP who blames my non-success or success (is never my fault because I'm perfect) because of my INFPness (word I recently made) and then giggles about the word "INFPness" because I said "penis"
Yeah, sorry..
Good video. Something I'll share. Especially the point about a view and needed medium to match.
Thank you Sir. Very good advice
This resonates with me a lot, except for *principles and values being irrational". My very strong Fi is actually often very justifiable. Of course, according my understanding :).
I loved the statement on winning, though this was abruptly short and far less detailed compared to the one on INTP?