Our Discord - discord.gg/xThWx8Q My tentative theory is that based on the comment sections of our videos, lot's of the people here would benefit from the ability to chat to each other in real-time. I've met people who have had/still have a huge impact on me and who I have developed close and collaborative relationships with online first, that I've also gone on to meet in person. We live in interesting times where that is no longer a strange thing. Hopefully this discord will be somewhere where all of you can do the same - interesting chats, find new and useful connections etc. Also my assumption is that this community will grow organically and become self sustaining if it's going to exist at all. So think of me as an intermittently present creator who often totally forgets about a planet he's made then quickly rushes to make sure they haven't turned on each other. Finally, an ENTP is running the server... god help us. ~ Nathan
I love that you don't underestimate the INFPs mental capabilities. Or maybe it is how you seem to speak directly and call things for what they are. Well done.
As a space case flying in our own orbit around a imaginary world of utopian dystopian how can we ever come to the ultimate decision to land and why,seeing a crowd gathered for our impending return to earth in the first dimension
I finally stopped THINKING about doing something and did it. It is frustrating, but also rewarding. Patience for success, overcoming fear of judgement or failure, doing a little each day, and realising lack of perfection is ok, are the things that have helped me the most.
Very well said. Putting productivity over perfectionism is almost always the right move since it's also difficult to know what 'perfect' is. Sometimes something you think is average or flawed is actually the thing that inspires others ~ Nathan
Yeah seemingly we are the worst fit or candidates for the corporate world. The business environment we have today requires one to be ambitious, obedient, hardworking, logical, dedicated, strong etc. You have to fall thousands of times, get criticized, sacrifice a lot of time, from yourself and hobbies, from your friends. INFP's are quite sensitive, they do not like to be controlled at all, they do not like strict deadlines, rigid atmospheres and above all they look for meaning in what they do. So if what they do in that company or position is not in alignment with their values and world view, this can be a torture for the INFP. However, I as an INFP, really think and have seen that just like any other personality, these are qualities that we can change. What is important is being conscious and in peace of who we are and think about how to manage ourselves, our emotions and our inclinations. An ordinary INFP with no sense or desire of achieving something in this life in terms of career etc, is very likely to have nothing, not even something related to his/her hobbies. On the other hand, an INFP can easily start to be aware of their weaknesses or shortcomings and work through them and achieve the things they desire and deserve, and above all can achieve the highest self-confidence too which most INFP's need as well in my opinion. So, my dear fellow INFP's. It's okay not to fit in everywhere, it's okay not to like the routine stuff. But there are things which we have to accept and acknowledge just as any other personality. But let's just try, try to leave the comfort zone and really see, observe and discover things. We are not deficient, we are not vulnerable. We just need just a little more trigger and encouragement. If we can provide this encouragement to ourselves, we can achieve a lot more than we could ever think of trust me, I am one of the proofs of that. After all, we are the nicest, most caring and enthusiastic people by nature. Why all these beautiful features would not be mixed with some other empowering qualities? Wish you all the best guys.
Thank you for your message. As an INFP, I have been looking for certain career paths but there was always someone who told me that it wasn't practical in sustaining myself or it wasn't good enough. I think I'll follow Nathan's advice in seeing a balance, like seeing my costs both in practicality and my freedom/core values.
I'm taking notes from this. Thanks mate. This is the encouragement I needed to be in the corporate world after graduation. I think HR is one of the few business jobs that blend well with Infp attributes. Wish me luck 😇
It's really interesting and fascinating how you take INFPs seriously (most people don't), and try to see things from their perspective with enough respect and a subtle butt-whipping. Kudos~
Also... you need to join the discord! Although I must warn you that it can be distracting when you need to be working, so maybe wait a little bit ~ Nathan
"It's funny how often being misunderstood is synonymous with never actually communicating your thoughts and feelings with people" 😂 Why you gotta call us INxxs out like that
That's a pretty good first step! It's also important to not beat yourself up for not being productive, self judgement in that area is always a bad move ~ Nathan
I’ve noticed infp appreciates when I (as an intj) provide structure to aspirations, creative work, and achieving goals set by ideals. There is a wealth of insight and inventiveness, but expression becomes scattered or bogged down in details, so having someone to help arrange that expression into a cohesive whole seems to provide relief and freedom to act for infp. Must admit, I have a huge soft spot for ‘em. 🤫
My best friend is INTJ and I am INFP, that's exactly how it is, a little planning and structure by someone who really knows us feels tremendously helpful. Also am already having successful writing projects because he never let me get 9-5 jobs and I'll forever be grateful.
You're 100% right, a full-time job doesn't suit INFPs. My personal experience suggests that I start to feel trapped overtime (probably, several months into a job), this is why I now work half-time and feel pretty happy about it.
This is what happened to me at every job I ever had- I stay there to the point until I have a strong urge to kill myself rather than stay there any more. A pit of depression and then I figure out a way to quit cleanly.
It's a tricky thing. Of course it is possible to find full time jobs that are perfect but that does seem to be in the minority of cases for most people and not just INFPs ~ Nathan
It’s funny on the occasions I do find suitable work like at a gallery or someone looking for an artist, I get frozen with fear to the point to where I can’t begin to approach it.
I'm sure not liking your job is a cognitively universal phenomenon. Rather, for IxFPs, not being able to ignore your Fi about it is a weighty problem. If the first function is so natural to a person, so much so that it just feels like the way life is, the air you breath, then for INFPs, your Fi status is crucial, naturally. So any environment you expose yourself to 8 hours a day or more better be overall relatively harmonious to your Fi. If an INFP is known for creating detailed, vivid landscapes, and their Fi is to the point of being unwell, then most everything is painted in that shade of unwellness, vividly. Add to that, many a workplace is very Te oriented. While I don't deny the need for Te strength in business, it is quite a thing to have to not just contend with your inferior function for a living, but to be expected to excel at it. Oh, and by the way, most of modern life overall is T over F, and S over N. The odd man out status INFPs keep referring to is actually quite the practical consideration. Fi is indeed quite analytical, and an INFP's function stack has many positives. But since it is such a common problem to not fair well in Te land, INFPs must give careful consideration to their physical and emotional wellbeing in a less than ideal work environment. It's easy to get yourself in a bit of a twist when the world is structured wonky backwards. It means every day having to shore yourself up to use your weaker muscles to earn your keep - your survival depends on it. That in itself is enough to tire a person and want to hermit a bit. If, however, the working environment has some kind of simpatico morsel, we will make a feast out of that crumb. And if one is actually blessed with having a proper career, being a strong match to their strengths, then an INFP will get that chance to share some of their inner machinations instead of carrying it all inside, like a gargantuan thought bubble resting on our shoulders.
Honestly I find Nathan to be the most objective and sensitive in his comments regarding INFPs, other MBTI youtubers like CS Joseph have a clear disdain when they come to the subject of our mbti type - this is much more welcome than that xD
We INFP's at some point need to figure how to work in this world in a way that is best for us. It's not always easy, but it's possible with hard work and dedication. I have come to realization I will never have a career in the corporate world or blue collar world. Yeah, I can work in it, but I need something more. There are very beneficial parts being in a corporate environment we INFP's need. Structure, dedication, learning to fail and get back up again, learning to take critiques and not let it destroy us and learning how to speak up with confidence. We can take those things and use them in our daily lives and build our own creative businesses. Love Who is right when it comes to being misunderstood. How is anyone supposed to get to know us when we are so inward focused. it feels pretty amazing living a little more outwardly. That's something I learned when I came out of the closet. Coming out forced me to evolve from the shy INFP.
Awesome comment! The learning to fail part is very important, failing actually becomes oddly enjoyable once you get used to it since you know it's filled with opportunities for growth ~ Nathan
I found that building the mindset/emotional awareness first, is the key to effortless production. When you accept and work out on your limiting beliefs (fear of failure, perfectionism, trying too hard, fear of success, not being good enough, overthinking versus trusting, not believing in oneself....) and switch to beliefs that allows you to move forward (trusting in oneself, feeling inspired, excited, worthy, thrilled, satisfied...)... Then, exponentially, you just do it, simply do it. Nothing can stop you when the inspiration is here. Not even your own thoughts.
This is so relatable, and im glad im not alone. I am 30 and bearly had a fulltime job, balancing work and money with freedom and art is key to inner peace for me, Im glad I learned early on to have a f*ck you attitude towards anyone who questions alternative ways of living. beeing happy is better than beeing rich 8-) Also all your points were relatable man, great video
I’ve found that saying things even at the risk of being misunderstood really pays out in the end, because even when they don’t really get it they’ll often engage with you purely on the basis of being intrigued by your unique view on things and that’s always a good start. And if they’re not really interested in giving you their time regardless, then that’s that. I was stubborn when it came to making connections because I wanted people to understand me, but expecting people to fully ‘get you’ is a tall order and you can still make genuine connections regardless. When it comes to productivity I’ve found that having an external source to rely on is night and day. I guess I’m lucky because I’m in school and I have access to people who are professional that help me on the basis of my adhd, but something simple as asking someone you live with to remind you of something, having appointments with people so you can’t back out or even timers are life saver. I it all comes back to how I’m always in la la land and I can’t always pull myself back down to earth so having someone or something else do it is great.
Very well said. Also, other people will often be willing to ask questions and dig deeper to understand exactly what you're trying to express, when you find these people, keep them! ~ Nathan
One thing I've found that really helps is getting a hobby. Find something you're really passionate about, whether it be writing, drawing, painting, scuplting, or any combination of those. I've recently gotten into tabletop gaming. The combination of arts and crafts, assembling and paint miniatures, and storytelling absolutely sucked me into it. There's so many possibilities with it, and I find I'm thriving greatly by being in the company of a community that encourages personalization. It's a lot of fun for me, and it's rewarding to see a finished product come out, and it pushes you to do another project quickly.
Coming back to this video 3 years later. Spot on, I didn't know how much STRUCTURE was important for me. A chaotic mind full of creative ideas is nothing without some sort of reliable system to pull them out. They are deemed to stay in the abstract form without it. Took me 3 years to understand that 😂
Great advice.... you know INFPs very well! You’ve given me much to think about... It is reassuring in a way, to know that our weirdness is a strength. Being more assertive and taking action can really help infps. I wouldn’t say it’s so much as decluttering the chaos (or maybe I don’t perceive chaos as chaos) but more like holding on to one of the fleeting wonders and actually doing something with it. It’s a way to get an anchor into the world and it’s a good way to fight that feeling of loneliness that we get as observers. “Carve out freedom” I want that on a mug! Maybe a new set of merch?
Unfortunately INFP weaknesses are a hindrance to professional development for the generally more respected careers. And living off of part times these days isn't seen as professional as many employers seem to find it as a lack of commitment/desperation/something being wrong with the person. Being an INFP is terrible if you ever expect to be independent or earn money in this society lol
There are still ways to turn even these weaknesses into strengths! For me finding jobs that let me do a ton of different things making each day different from the last really helps. That might mean doing some crazyier jobs, but I think that suits us. I could never really see myself doing something in a more “professional field” anyways. Fields can include: Journalism, photography, tour guide, blogger, scuba dive master, game designer, and much more (even HR/marketing stuff) TLDR: Look outside traditional society to find a good job
Building a strong persona of a professional should never concern a true INFP, typically, they are not career-oriented or money-oriented. So their personality type works for them)
I think these things are only terrible if you have been tought that the way you show up is wrong. Of course INFPs can have normal jobs and careers. But maybe the way the INFP is most happy is when they don't. So the way I see it, it is a question of what do I like and want instead of: what am I capable of.
@@ladahealer unfortunately many of us end up having family obligations which turn us towards having to seek more conventional professions :/ This is something other types, especially SJs are better equipped for and it's a bummer as an INFP lol
This is what happens when society is designed for extroverts and the politics that results from that, the longer it all goes on the more mental and emotional gymnastics is required just to survive.
I love this advice. Fellow INFPs, if you’re struggling with the productivity thing - bullet journaling is amazing. (And as a bonus you can doodle while feeling productive)
This (the first advice specifically) reminds me of when I had an art page. I deleted it because I felt insecure with every post and I felt that the guy I like didn't like my drawings so it kinda just crushed me.
The video is incredibly accurate, as always. The solutions You mentioned seem to be very helpful and well-thought. Thank You for creating such great content. Kind regards, Josephine.
@@lovewho I am greatly honoured to dwell somewhere in your incredible mind. After reading your advice that you gave me I changed several things in my life. But now I felt especially good that I could hear it with my own ears. So, even though I cannot stress that enough - thank you. Kind regards, Josephine.
The amount of unfinished projects I have lol But I actually have started working on them again recently so thanks for the extra push 🤗 But that's only for now because of the pandemic... it's hard to carve out your own personal freedom when you're surrounded by people who think they know what's best for you and won't allow you to be yourself... Siigghh😩
So true! External pressure is one of the biggest issues. Listen to people respectfully of course since they're often coming from a place of deep compassion and caring, but then...ignore them all and find your own way! ~ Nathan
As an INFP, I always have many creative ideas for music, stories, art in general. My problem is consistency, so being productive and forcing myself into a routine is key. I get distracted by the moments. lol
Wow! I love my free therapy session! Thank you so much for this advice. I'll admit, I don't tend to follow advice as much, but I'll try my best to follow it.
Yea this type isn't suitable for the highly polarized extroverted world that requires an insane amount of mental and emotional gymnastics just to survive much less get ahead especially when it involves toxic office politics where issues of race and gender ect are being played out.
I find the way to find meaning in that is to aim to master what your job is in an effort to gain respect from those around you and stay open to happiness that others have, whatever form it takes, and try to meet them in it, and use helping others be their best selves as your motivation
Completely agreed on the point of being misunderstood coinciding with never actually expressing yourself. I think many INFPs like the tortured artist persona, and that suits it. Your advice seems to me to be the difference between a well functioning INFP, and a complete mess (in my humble experience with them). Great points! Jeff Buckley!! ...his cover of Hallelujah is one of the most gorgeous songs on the face of the earth.
Agreed! I'm glad that song exists since it put him on the map even though there are definitely better songs on the album including the title track 'Grace' ~ Nathan
I don't know if it's due to your word choice or something else, but out of all the MBTI youtubers I've seen it's your insights that really make me feel seen. I'm sure you're not the only one who understands the INFP type well, but it definitely resonates more when it comes from you . Thank you :-)
I HATE that by the end of the video I was already speechless with so much pin point precision. Heck not even the end, half way through and I was already sobbing. The "Be productive" tip is very real. When I got my feelings hurt I used to write poems and after writing them I'd feel much better, so the "do things to declutter your mind" is a REALLY good one Also the "chrystalized thoughts" is very real. That is the reason I started writing, be it poems, expierences or just silly thoughts Ironically, I thought that this video was gonna make me hate myself, but now I feel much more like embracing the infp's way of life. At times I wanted to change, be more logical, procrastinate less, be less infp... but I don't think that will happen anymore! Greetings and Love from Brazil!
Thank you so much for uploading , tbh I'm always trying to turn my weaknesses into strenghts but I give up , especially about being practical , my final exams are after 48 days from now , I've made a schedule since I couldn't manage things without it , and It's working so far , I think that the goal from that change is the thing that is motivating me , I want to do well this time so I convinced my self that without this scheduled I'm not going far , I think that the "Goal" is really important otherwise I wouldn't be able to make this
Speaking as someone who is quite bad with his schedule I agree, this is something that I need to improve and would advise others to do so as well ~ Nathan
Perfect. The most practical, short and to the point video for INFPs. You really grasp the importance of creativity, it crystal-clear :) Thank you for your videos.
This resonates big time! I'm really not great at expressing my feelings and worries and showing my emotions, but the times when I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone and talked about it, I was listened to, but I don't feel anything changed because of it. I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that not everyone 'gets me' and sometimes I'm fine with that, Id rather just be me than try to please others, but it can also be lonely and frustrating being misunderstood all the time. I get along with most people, and can be quite extrovert sometimes, but it's finding that connection and click that I only find with a few that's hard. Anyone else find this?
You mentioned something that I rarely hear but but believe is most helpful. Observe yourself. Step back and watch what you are thinking, doing, wanting, hating, etc. As an INTJ, it helps me to course correct. I can see that if I keep heading this direction or keep doing that, I'm gonna end up where I don't want to be. Great video.
This video has so much reality in it. Writing thoughts down and being done with them, for instance, is something I myself did independently of this video for a long time.
This is so accurate, validating, and helpful it is beyond belief. Your recommendations are so insightful, I suspect you are this personality type, yourself. I actually never wanted to take a personality test until a much smarter friend convinced me. Amazed at how INFP-T describes me to a tee.
As an Infp myself. I feel like one thing that has really helped me in life is doing drama. I feel through drama I have met so many weird and wonderful people that I otherwise wouldn't get to know. I also feel like in a weird way, I'm able to express myself through the many characters that I play even if that character is completely different from me. So if any fellow infps feel lost or that they can't express themselves I recommend trying a drama class as I feel like it has really helped me personally. Also improv once I got used to it is literally the most fun I've ever had. Idk if anyone will see this but I hope it helps.
I feel like you were talking about me . . . I identify with a lot of these struggles, for example a year ago I finally got up the courage to leave my 9 to 5 job after feeling so trapped and bored to pursue more creative interests. So I've been at home for a year and it's been . . . fantastic. I'm still trying to figure out how to do this for the long term but I'm very determined after having tasted this freedom. Also, I totally agree with you about "Grace".
Ok so this is great to hear. It's always concerning to talk about these things in a video because there is a catch: making use of freedom is not easy. I'm very glad that you're enjoying and embracing it! ~ Nathan
I’m literally all ideas and no execution Like I’m an idea machine to the point where if for example in my writing if I try to commit to writing something long I’ll get bored with it because I’ll have moved on to a new idea which is more exciting. Secondly, I also fear that the idea will never be as good in real life as it is in my head and I can never fully translate something from my head to the real world the way I want to
This is exactly how I express myself. I have been capturing myself in moments of my life in song since I was 20, and with the written word since I was 12. Writing music is what I do to cope with everything, is *definitely* a window into how I feel about something haha that is far more elaborate than someone just asking me. That Jeff Buckley quote is soooo true for me holy shit lol I have so many songs in garage band, all unnamed in disorganized INFP fashion 😋 that I will go back to and tweak endlessly over time. I have some of them posted and don’t mind sharing with people I don’t know, but my friends and family like... holy shit, I feel like they’re asking me to strip naked for them when they ask for the link to my songs.
Whenever I'm composing a piece I make sure to get it done in one day (they're piano improvisations so obviously it's a quicker thing to produce). Leaving something in GarageBand is the worst feeling! ~ Nathan
Wow! As a 54 year old INFP gal, I find this to be very insightful! Well done good sir! 👍🏼😃. I think I shall have to listen to this one again. Your encouragement to work with our seeming weaknesses is spot on!
Thank you so much for releasing me from the 9 to 5 that I was definitely not doing anyway. It's just good to have the validation 😌 like a breath of fresh air
Very thoughtfully said Nathan and you didn't bruise my gentle INPF feelings once. I have to admit, I sometimes hear what I am saying and think that I am weird as f**k.
The "being productive" part was true. My mind become more stable after pouring out into writings and drawings. Alas, some people are criticize me to having dark fantasy, and ask me to produce more happier product so I get more attention. Somehow it caused me in dilemma: shall I focus on stabilizing my mind first, or listen to them so I get the attention that I wanted? At the end I prefer making bittersweet fantasy: still dark, but also giving some hope and positive things between the darkness. Just like real life.
All good advice for INFP. I have a suggestion for a video..how about how types change as they age? If you're a say 65year old INFP, surely you shouldn't still be the same as when you were 25yr old. Maybe you will have developed your inferior function even, so you might seem less like an INFP when older? Just an idea? I'm 68yrs old now, I'm not the same person I was at 30 even. 😊
Thank you for your chrysalises your thinking at the moment advice and Jeff Buckley documentary snippets, cause I'm actually in a kinda similar situation now. You gave me enough push to do and finish my project.
Great vid as usual Nathan! I really like the idea of crystallising these "mental states" as you call it and since I'm not really creative this mainly is done through journalling and just writing all my daydreams, feelings and interesting perspectives/philosophies I come up with. Also having freedom of time seems to be a lot more valuable to us than financial freedom so I only realised the importance of your second point recently but I can't do much about it because I've already entered the field of medicine which is like the least flexible option haha
I think like this: i have potentially written serveral collection of poems. But I know that I at some point want to be a teacher. So I don't want to get into the process of publishing because of the potential redicule from students if it is in some ways published. Once you officially put something out there, it is permanent and you loose your anonymity...
I have worked for the same company for 14 years and am currently a business process auditor. Which might sound antithetical to type as an INFP but somehow it works. I prefer NOT to be a professional writer even though I’m good at it though…putting a deadline on my creativity and having to pin all hopes of income in it would stress me out. Fanfic is more my speed, figuratively and literally. That said when I retire I know I will be plenty busy doing whatever I feel like doing!
First time commenting , love your video's, they make me laugh. INFP but luckily I have some need to be a list maker and I get so much satisfaction when I can cross something off. I still procrastinate but the list is always encouraging me to tackle the next thing.
I can't bring myself to ramble on or have filler, plus... sometimes you've just said all you want to say on a particular topic. Also, it's probably a topic I will revisit! ~ Nathan
Thank you for providing very good insight and a very well thought out parcel of advice. I don't often go to other people for advice on how to live my life, but I really find you to be easily relatable. Thank you very much for the help!
This is great advice. However, I find my greatest challenge is particitpating in society. As we live in a time where human activity affects everything. Society is focused on growth, money, and living beyond the limits of our planet. It seems that no one cares about our modern lifestyle and it's impact on the future, or near future.
Listen, you're the first person in many INFP videos I hear clearly wording the fact that it may be more rewarding to us to have a humble live full of non-monetised kind versus a full-time job at the cost of freedom which is essentially the core of our type. I have heard lots of advice that still kept talking about "yeah...just find a nicer way to squeeze yourself into the nicest box you can find" instead of opnly saying: "OK, reality is, you only need to do that as far as you really reqire to for the sake of bills, but otherwise, aren't you creative enouhg to be actually OK in a healthy low budget life?" I'm in that place and I've been wondering if I'm really that wrong on this and it's incredibly helpful to get a simple confirming input like that. Because I am often envied for my ability to prioritise my freedom and self-care over things of systemic pressure, but most of the time it's in an const unaware "you have it so good!" way. And I'm like: "Yes, but it's hard earned, you know? Especially in our type of society!". And you just went and bluntly stated both sids of the deal and I love that honesty.
yes exactly,i often being misunderstood by my family,my schoolmates,even my teachers because im not being assertive and communicating what i really think/want
about the part where you mentioned we often feel misunderstood, despite the fact that i've always tried hard af to explain what i feel and fully share with them my perspective, it only pushes some people to make more and more assumptions about me and fully believe they've understood what I meant simply because i shared it with them. it's extremely hurtful because once they make that assumption, they stop asking and never doubt it, which leaves me to being completely misunderstood, and often with belittled feelings. and so, perhaps, communication might be the key when it comes to explaining our opinions, but once it comes to our feelings, honestly i just can not share that, its too much of a chaos for it to be shared and have any slight chance of being understood
My two closest friends are INFP’s and the conversations are brilliant and fun. But you are right both of of them have millions of ideas, though they can never make them concrete. Also side note: how does one attract or find more thinker types? Such as INTJ’s? I’m a INTP who is mostly surrounded by feelers and it can get overwhelming.
I have a game project but I want to create something real. But in my house I don't feel free to express my self in that way a unique project demands. I live with my dad: ISFJ and my sister INFJ+ her loved one ISTP.
Our Discord - discord.gg/xThWx8Q
My tentative theory is that based on the comment sections of our videos, lot's of the people here would benefit from the ability to chat to each other in real-time. I've met people who have had/still have a huge impact on me and who I have developed close and collaborative relationships with online first, that I've also gone on to meet in person. We live in interesting times where that is no longer a strange thing. Hopefully this discord will be somewhere where all of you can do the same - interesting chats, find new and useful connections etc.
Also my assumption is that this community will grow organically and become self sustaining if it's going to exist at all. So think of me as an intermittently present creator who often totally forgets about a planet he's made then quickly rushes to make sure they haven't turned on each other.
Finally, an ENTP is running the server... god help us.
~ Nathan
I love that you don't underestimate the INFPs mental capabilities. Or maybe it is how you seem to speak directly and call things for what they are. Well done.
You're very welcome. I'll have my 10% now :P
As a space case flying in our own orbit around a imaginary world of utopian dystopian how can we ever come to the ultimate decision to land and why,seeing a crowd gathered for our impending return to earth in the first dimension
I like u
I loved this video 🦋🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍
"INFP's minds can be... weird as f*ck"
and i *oof-*
"and i oof" I like this remix
@@rayoflight7416 Blame it on my weird as f*ck INFP mind lmao
...and I oof, ['cause] I got 99 problems singing bye, bye, bye
I finally stopped THINKING about doing something and did it. It is frustrating, but also rewarding. Patience for success, overcoming fear of judgement or failure, doing a little each day, and realising lack of perfection is ok, are the things that have helped me the most.
Very well said. Putting productivity over perfectionism is almost always the right move since it's also difficult to know what 'perfect' is. Sometimes something you think is average or flawed is actually the thing that inspires others ~ Nathan
But the question is doing what ??
this
Wish it was that simple for me
This makes so much sense to me
My thoughts when reading the title: "this could be as long as a movie"
I hate it because you're not wrong
For real
Think of this as the opening scene in a long running tv series ~ Nathan
Kokola9000 actually, this would be as long as the Star Wars saga
Owwie
Yeah seemingly we are the worst fit or candidates for the corporate world. The business environment we have today requires one to be ambitious, obedient, hardworking, logical, dedicated, strong etc. You have to fall thousands of times, get criticized, sacrifice a lot of time, from yourself and hobbies, from your friends. INFP's are quite sensitive, they do not like to be controlled at all, they do not like strict deadlines, rigid atmospheres and above all they look for meaning in what they do. So if what they do in that company or position is not in alignment with their values and world view, this can be a torture for the INFP. However, I as an INFP, really think and have seen that just like any other personality, these are qualities that we can change. What is important is being conscious and in peace of who we are and think about how to manage ourselves, our emotions and our inclinations. An ordinary INFP with no sense or desire of achieving something in this life in terms of career etc, is very likely to have nothing, not even something related to his/her hobbies. On the other hand, an INFP can easily start to be aware of their weaknesses or shortcomings and work through them and achieve the things they desire and deserve, and above all can achieve the highest self-confidence too which most INFP's need as well in my opinion.
So, my dear fellow INFP's. It's okay not to fit in everywhere, it's okay not to like the routine stuff. But there are things which we have to accept and acknowledge just as any other personality. But let's just try, try to leave the comfort zone and really see, observe and discover things. We are not deficient, we are not vulnerable. We just need just a little more trigger and encouragement. If we can provide this encouragement to ourselves, we can achieve a lot more than we could ever think of trust me, I am one of the proofs of that.
After all, we are the nicest, most caring and enthusiastic people by nature. Why all these beautiful features would not be mixed with some other empowering qualities? Wish you all the best guys.
Thank you for your message. As an INFP, I have been looking for certain career paths but there was always someone who told me that it wasn't practical in sustaining myself or it wasn't good enough. I think I'll follow Nathan's advice in seeing a balance, like seeing my costs both in practicality and my freedom/core values.
This is a pretty epic comment, thank you very much for taking the time to leave it! ~ Nathan
Don't mind me, I'll just copy this amazing comment and leave it on my notes for future encouragement ❤️
I'm taking notes from this. Thanks mate. This is the encouragement I needed to be in the corporate world after graduation. I think HR is one of the few business jobs that blend well with Infp attributes. Wish me luck 😇
@@pooja350 glad you found it helpful, I really appreciate that. Best of luck with everything, there is nothing that you cannot do.
It's really interesting and fascinating how you take INFPs seriously (most people don't), and try to see things from their perspective with enough respect and a subtle butt-whipping. Kudos~
I've known too many INFPs who are amazing to take them any other way ~ Nathan
"get shit done, carve out as much freedom as possible" - I needed to hear that :)
Also... you need to join the discord! Although I must warn you that it can be distracting when you need to be working, so maybe wait a little bit ~ Nathan
@@lovewho Yeah, they're all lovely people on there! Good job at uniting people x
...and see the benefits in being a misfit. 😁
I like INFPs 🍬
-INTP
We like INTPs too! :)
My dad is an INTP, we get along well ( at least nowadays, when I was a teenager things were not so smooth).
Who doesn't?
¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I like INTP’s :) some of the best people to have intellectual conversations with!
Same, even tho my brother is an intp and I don't really get along with him, but everyone is different so
"It's funny how often being misunderstood is synonymous with never actually communicating your thoughts and feelings with people" 😂 Why you gotta call us INxxs out like that
My bad but I couldn’t resist putting that line in there ~ Nathan
Thought the same 😂
1. Get things done
2. Carve out freedom
3. See the benefits being a misfit
“Finally today I’m being productive... oh no I lost in daydreaming and forgot it “ yes this is my life
I always googling "productive things to do" But never really do it 😶
Read about what interests you.
That's a pretty good first step! It's also important to not beat yourself up for not being productive, self judgement in that area is always a bad move ~ Nathan
@@jacob_massengale Thanks for the advice.. I'm gonna looking what I think I'm interested in .
I’ve noticed infp appreciates when I (as an intj) provide structure to aspirations, creative work, and achieving goals set by ideals. There is a wealth of insight and inventiveness, but expression becomes scattered or bogged down in details, so having someone to help arrange that expression into a cohesive whole seems to provide relief and freedom to act for infp. Must admit, I have a huge soft spot for ‘em. 🤫
My best friend is INTJ and I am INFP, that's exactly how it is, a little planning and structure by someone who really knows us feels tremendously helpful. Also am already having successful writing projects because he never let me get 9-5 jobs and I'll forever be grateful.
You're 100% right, a full-time job doesn't suit INFPs. My personal experience suggests that I start to feel trapped overtime (probably, several months into a job), this is why I now work half-time and feel pretty happy about it.
I tend to burn out after only months due to overwork and the toxic office politics taking their toll.
This is what happened to me at every job I ever had- I stay there to the point until I have a strong urge to kill myself rather than stay there any more. A pit of depression and then I figure out a way to quit cleanly.
It's a tricky thing. Of course it is possible to find full time jobs that are perfect but that does seem to be in the minority of cases for most people and not just INFPs ~ Nathan
It’s funny on the occasions I do find suitable work like at a gallery or someone looking for an artist, I get frozen with fear to the point to where I can’t begin to approach it.
I'm sure not liking your job is a cognitively universal phenomenon. Rather, for IxFPs, not being able to ignore your Fi about it is a weighty problem.
If the first function is so natural to a person, so much so that it just feels like the way life is, the air you breath, then for INFPs, your Fi status is crucial, naturally. So any environment you expose yourself to 8 hours a day or more better be overall relatively harmonious to your Fi.
If an INFP is known for creating detailed, vivid landscapes, and their Fi is to the point of being unwell, then most everything is painted in that shade of unwellness, vividly.
Add to that, many a workplace is very Te oriented. While I don't deny the need for Te strength in business, it is quite a thing to have to not just contend with your inferior function for a living, but to be expected to excel at it.
Oh, and by the way, most of modern life overall is T over F, and S over N. The odd man out status INFPs keep referring to is actually quite the practical consideration. Fi is indeed quite analytical, and an INFP's function stack has many positives. But since it is such a common problem to not fair well in Te land, INFPs must give careful consideration to their physical and emotional wellbeing in a less than ideal work environment.
It's easy to get yourself in a bit of a twist when the world is structured wonky backwards. It means every day having to shore yourself up to use your weaker muscles to earn your keep - your survival depends on it. That in itself is enough to tire a person and want to hermit a bit.
If, however, the working environment has some kind of simpatico morsel, we will make a feast out of that crumb. And if one is actually blessed with having a proper career, being a strong match to their strengths, then an INFP will get that chance to share some of their inner machinations instead of carrying it all inside, like a gargantuan thought bubble resting on our shoulders.
Just over one minute in and I'm already feeling attacked. (But in a good way? It's nice knowing I'm not the only one struggling with stuff like this)
Honestly I find Nathan to be the most objective and sensitive in his comments regarding INFPs, other MBTI youtubers like CS Joseph have a clear disdain when they come to the subject of our mbti type - this is much more welcome than that xD
Kokola9000 I feel the same! I find Nathan's advice to actually be useful and I do like his approach.
Attacking people in a nice way since 1994 ~ Nathan
We INFP's at some point need to figure how to work in this world in a way that is best for us. It's not always easy, but it's possible with hard work and dedication. I have come to realization I will never have a career in the corporate world or blue collar world. Yeah, I can work in it, but I need something more. There are very beneficial parts being in a corporate environment we INFP's need. Structure, dedication, learning to fail and get back up again, learning to take critiques and not let it destroy us and learning how to speak up with confidence. We can take those things and use them in our daily lives and build our own creative businesses.
Love Who is right when it comes to being misunderstood. How is anyone supposed to get to know us when we are so inward focused. it feels pretty amazing living a little more outwardly. That's something I learned when I came out of the closet. Coming out forced me to evolve from the shy INFP.
Awesome comment! The learning to fail part is very important, failing actually becomes oddly enjoyable once you get used to it since you know it's filled with opportunities for growth ~ Nathan
I found that building the mindset/emotional awareness first, is the key to effortless production.
When you accept and work out on your limiting beliefs (fear of failure, perfectionism, trying too hard, fear of success, not being good enough, overthinking versus trusting, not believing in oneself....) and switch to beliefs that allows you to move forward (trusting in oneself, feeling inspired, excited, worthy, thrilled, satisfied...)... Then, exponentially, you just do it, simply do it.
Nothing can stop you when the inspiration is here. Not even your own thoughts.
Extremely well said ~ Nathan
You found the key.
Not bad.
-INFP
This is the highest praise I could possible get from an INFP ~ Nathan
I saw the title and I was amazed that the video was only 6 minutes long XD
Haha yes lot's of INFPs were preparing for a feature length movie ~ Nathan
This is so relatable, and im glad im not alone. I am 30 and bearly had a fulltime job, balancing work and money with freedom and art is key to inner peace for me, Im glad I learned early on to have a f*ck you attitude towards anyone who questions alternative ways of living. beeing happy is better than beeing rich 8-) Also all your points were relatable man, great video
Excellent comment, thank you very much ~ Nathan
Love the fuzzy jumper and your eyebrows.
Why thank you... ~ Nathan
I’ve found that saying things even at the risk of being misunderstood really pays out in the end, because even when they don’t really get it they’ll often engage with you purely on the basis of being intrigued by your unique view on things and that’s always a good start. And if they’re not really interested in giving you their time regardless, then that’s that. I was stubborn when it came to making connections because I wanted people to understand me, but expecting people to fully ‘get you’ is a tall order and you can still make genuine connections regardless.
When it comes to productivity I’ve found that having an external source to rely on is night and day. I guess I’m lucky because I’m in school and I have access to people who are professional that help me on the basis of my adhd, but something simple as asking someone you live with to remind you of something, having appointments with people so you can’t back out or even timers are life saver. I it all comes back to how I’m always in la la land and I can’t always pull myself back down to earth so having someone or something else do it is great.
Very well said. Also, other people will often be willing to ask questions and dig deeper to understand exactly what you're trying to express, when you find these people, keep them! ~ Nathan
One thing I've found that really helps is getting a hobby. Find something you're really passionate about, whether it be writing, drawing, painting, scuplting, or any combination of those. I've recently gotten into tabletop gaming. The combination of arts and crafts, assembling and paint miniatures, and storytelling absolutely sucked me into it. There's so many possibilities with it, and I find I'm thriving greatly by being in the company of a community that encourages personalization. It's a lot of fun for me, and it's rewarding to see a finished product come out, and it pushes you to do another project quickly.
Coming back to this video 3 years later. Spot on, I didn't know how much STRUCTURE was important for me.
A chaotic mind full of creative ideas is nothing without some sort of reliable system to pull them out. They are deemed to stay in the abstract form without it. Took me 3 years to understand that 😂
Hmmm....thanks. that's helpful too
Great advice.... you know INFPs very well! You’ve given me much to think about... It is reassuring in a way, to know that our weirdness is a strength. Being more assertive and taking action can really help infps. I wouldn’t say it’s so much as decluttering the chaos (or maybe I don’t perceive chaos as chaos) but more like holding on to one of the fleeting wonders and actually doing something with it. It’s a way to get an anchor into the world and it’s a good way to fight that feeling of loneliness that we get as observers. “Carve out freedom” I want that on a mug! Maybe a new set of merch?
"holding on to one of the fleeting wonders" - this quote is amazing, very well said! That is actually a great idea for the merch! ~ Nathan
👏👏👏 well said, fellow INFP!
"ok this is gonna be great"
nathan : "number one,be productive."
shhhit-
Unfortunately INFP weaknesses are a hindrance to professional development for the generally more respected careers. And living off of part times these days isn't seen as professional as many employers seem to find it as a lack of commitment/desperation/something being wrong with the person. Being an INFP is terrible if you ever expect to be independent or earn money in this society lol
There are still ways to turn even these weaknesses into strengths! For me finding jobs that let me do a ton of different things making each day different from the last really helps. That might mean doing some crazyier jobs, but I think that suits us. I could never really see myself doing something in a more “professional field” anyways.
Fields can include: Journalism, photography, tour guide, blogger, scuba dive master, game designer, and much more (even HR/marketing stuff)
TLDR:
Look outside traditional society to find a good job
Building a strong persona of a professional should never concern a true INFP, typically, they are not career-oriented or money-oriented. So their personality type works for them)
I think these things are only terrible if you have been tought that the way you show up is wrong. Of course INFPs can have normal jobs and careers. But maybe the way the INFP is most happy is when they don't. So the way I see it, it is a question of what do I like and want instead of: what am I capable of.
@@ladahealer unfortunately many of us end up having family obligations which turn us towards having to seek more conventional professions :/ This is something other types, especially SJs are better equipped for and it's a bummer as an INFP lol
This is what happens when society is designed for extroverts and the politics that results from that, the longer it all goes on the more mental and emotional gymnastics is required just to survive.
You basically summarised everything my two INFPs need to learn
I love this advice. Fellow INFPs, if you’re struggling with the productivity thing - bullet journaling is amazing. (And as a bonus you can doodle while feeling productive)
This (the first advice specifically) reminds me of when I had an art page. I deleted it because I felt insecure with every post and I felt that the guy I like didn't like my drawings so it kinda just crushed me.
It's important to ignore hate and ignore compliments, they're just illusions ~ Nathan
The video is incredibly accurate, as always. The solutions You mentioned seem to be very helpful and well-thought. Thank You for creating such great content. Kind regards, Josephine.
Thank you very much! You did cross my mind during this video since you're literally an INFP I've recently said should 'produce' more things! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho I am greatly honoured to dwell somewhere in your incredible mind. After reading your advice that you gave me I changed several things in my life. But now I felt especially good that I could hear it with my own ears. So, even though I cannot stress that enough - thank you.
Kind regards, Josephine.
You can't tell me that the majority of the viewers of this video are INFP's. We need to figure ourselves out lol
Amazing video!
Haha! Glad you enjoyed it ~ Nathan
The amount of unfinished projects I have lol
But I actually have started working on them again recently so thanks for the extra push 🤗
But that's only for now because of the pandemic... it's hard to carve out your own personal freedom when you're surrounded by people who think they know what's best for you and won't allow you to be yourself...
Siigghh😩
So true! External pressure is one of the biggest issues. Listen to people respectfully of course since they're often coming from a place of deep compassion and caring, but then...ignore them all and find your own way! ~ Nathan
@@lovewho I've been listening for years so I guess it's the ignoring part now 😂😂 Thanks!!
As an INFP, I always have many creative ideas for music, stories, art in general. My problem is consistency, so being productive and forcing myself into a routine is key. I get distracted by the moments. lol
Whoooa! So much valuable information! I felt like I needed an Intermission half way just to start processing the overload.
Well feel free to rewatch it whenever, you know where to find me ~ Nathan
Wow! I love my free therapy session! Thank you so much for this advice. I'll admit, I don't tend to follow advice as much, but I'll try my best to follow it.
I am blown away about how much you know about me. There are things you pointed out in many of your videos that even I haven’t thought about.
Thank you so much for your INFP content!
Thank you! hope you're enjoying it ~ Nathan
Yea this type isn't suitable for the highly polarized extroverted world that requires an insane amount of mental and emotional gymnastics just to survive much less get ahead especially when it involves toxic office politics where issues of race and gender ect are being played out.
I find the way to find meaning in that is to aim to master what your job is in an effort to gain respect from those around you and stay open to happiness that others have, whatever form it takes, and try to meet them in it, and use helping others be their best selves as your motivation
Completely agreed on the point of being misunderstood coinciding with never actually expressing yourself. I think many INFPs like the tortured artist persona, and that suits it.
Your advice seems to me to be the difference between a well functioning INFP, and a complete mess (in my humble experience with them). Great points!
Jeff Buckley!! ...his cover of Hallelujah is one of the most gorgeous songs on the face of the earth.
Agreed! I'm glad that song exists since it put him on the map even though there are definitely better songs on the album including the title track 'Grace' ~ Nathan
This was actually terribly practical advice, that I intend to use and keep in mind.
Thank you.
I don't know if it's due to your word choice or something else, but out of all the MBTI youtubers I've seen it's your insights that really make me feel seen. I'm sure you're not the only one who understands the INFP type well, but it definitely resonates more when it comes from you . Thank you :-)
"INFPs' minds can be weird as fuck"
*that's* *not* *even* *an* *insult*
*IT'S.* *JUST.* *TRUE.*
GREAT advice btw
I HATE that by the end of the video I was already speechless with so much pin point precision. Heck not even the end, half way through and I was already sobbing.
The "Be productive" tip is very real. When I got my feelings hurt I used to write poems and after writing them I'd feel much better, so the "do things to declutter your mind" is a REALLY good one
Also the "chrystalized thoughts" is very real. That is the reason I started writing, be it poems, expierences or just silly thoughts
Ironically, I thought that this video was gonna make me hate myself, but now I feel much more like embracing the infp's way of life.
At times I wanted to change, be more logical, procrastinate less, be less infp... but I don't think that will happen anymore!
Greetings and Love from Brazil!
Thank you so much for uploading , tbh I'm always trying to turn my weaknesses into strenghts but I give up , especially about being practical , my final exams are after 48 days from now , I've made a schedule since I couldn't manage things without it , and It's working so far , I think that the goal from that change is the thing that is motivating me , I want to do well this time so I convinced my self that without this scheduled I'm not going far ,
I think that the "Goal" is really important otherwise I wouldn't be able to make this
Speaking as someone who is quite bad with his schedule I agree, this is something that I need to improve and would advise others to do so as well ~ Nathan
Perfect. The most practical, short and to the point video for INFPs.
You really grasp the importance of creativity, it crystal-clear :)
Thank you for your videos.
This resonates big time! I'm really not great at expressing my feelings and worries and showing my emotions, but the times when I have pushed myself out of my comfort zone and talked about it, I was listened to, but I don't feel anything changed because of it. I'm trying to come to terms with the fact that not everyone 'gets me' and sometimes I'm fine with that, Id rather just be me than try to please others, but it can also be lonely and frustrating being misunderstood all the time. I get along with most people, and can be quite extrovert sometimes, but it's finding that connection and click that I only find with a few that's hard. Anyone else find this?
You mentioned something that I rarely hear but but believe is most helpful. Observe yourself. Step back and watch what you are thinking, doing, wanting, hating, etc. As an INTJ, it helps me to course correct. I can see that if I keep heading this direction or keep doing that, I'm gonna end up where I don't want to be. Great video.
This video has so much reality in it. Writing thoughts down and being done with them, for instance, is something I myself did independently of this video for a long time.
Interesting. That makes sense 🤔
This is so accurate, validating, and helpful it is beyond belief. Your recommendations are so insightful, I suspect you are this personality type, yourself. I actually never wanted to take a personality test until a much smarter friend convinced me. Amazed at how INFP-T describes me to a tee.
As an Infp myself. I feel like one thing that has really helped me in life is doing drama. I feel through drama I have met so many weird and wonderful people that I otherwise wouldn't get to know. I also feel like in a weird way, I'm able to express myself through the many characters that I play even if that character is completely different from me. So if any fellow infps feel lost or that they can't express themselves I recommend trying a drama class as I feel like it has really helped me personally. Also improv once I got used to it is literally the most fun I've ever had.
Idk if anyone will see this but I hope it helps.
I've watched a few of your videos today on INFP and am really impressed by the insight. Keep up the good work, I am subscribed!
I feel like you were talking about me . . . I identify with a lot of these struggles, for example a year ago I finally got up the courage to leave my 9 to 5 job after feeling so trapped and bored to pursue more creative interests. So I've been at home for a year and it's been . . . fantastic. I'm still trying to figure out how to do this for the long term but I'm very determined after having tasted this freedom.
Also, I totally agree with you about "Grace".
Ok so this is great to hear. It's always concerning to talk about these things in a video because there is a catch: making use of freedom is not easy. I'm very glad that you're enjoying and embracing it! ~ Nathan
Well it's certainly a learning process but it's very rewarding too!
I’m literally all ideas and no execution
Like I’m an idea machine to the point where if for example in my writing if I try to commit to writing something long I’ll get bored with it because I’ll have moved on to a new idea which is more exciting. Secondly, I also fear that the idea will never be as good in real life as it is in my head and I can never fully translate something from my head to the real world the way I want to
This is exactly how I express myself. I have been capturing myself in moments of my life in song since I was 20, and with the written word since I was 12. Writing music is what I do to cope with everything, is *definitely* a window into how I feel about something haha that is far more elaborate than someone just asking me. That Jeff Buckley quote is soooo true for me holy shit lol I have so many songs in garage band, all unnamed in disorganized INFP fashion 😋 that I will go back to and tweak endlessly over time. I have some of them posted and don’t mind sharing with people I don’t know, but my friends and family like... holy shit, I feel like they’re asking me to strip naked for them when they ask for the link to my songs.
Whenever I'm composing a piece I make sure to get it done in one day (they're piano improvisations so obviously it's a quicker thing to produce). Leaving something in GarageBand is the worst feeling! ~ Nathan
Wow! As a 54 year old INFP gal, I find this to be very insightful! Well done good sir! 👍🏼😃. I think I shall have to listen to this one again. Your encouragement to work with our seeming weaknesses is spot on!
I always tell one of my INFPs that they need to hold back less
Very good advice in my view! ~ Nathan
I love how accurate it is! Thank you💗
“It does not to well to dwell on dreams and forget to live.”💛⭐️✨
Thank you so much for releasing me from the 9 to 5 that I was definitely not doing anyway. It's just good to have the validation 😌 like a breath of fresh air
I'm an INFP & I think you're really smart. Absolutely....creative freedom.
Thank you for this advice; this is actually practical and actionable, and gives me as an INFP a way to improve that I can work toward. 🙏🏻
This is really great to hear! ~ Nathan
"Being inwardly focused when it's taken to an extreme can be kind of like repression, or at least come at the expense of expression." Thank You
Nearly spat out my tea watching this!! You hit the nail on the head, as always.
Nearly? Must try harder... ~ Nathan
@@lovewho Nah, that would be pointless. I never spit, Nathan.
Infp here. Good video mate
Thank you very much! ~ Nathan
i agree with you..a lot of information..so, i’ll come back to this a few times so i can remember it and fully take it in
Yay, I made it within the hour this was posted. Guess it’s not so bad, not being able to sleep.
That...is...hardcore. I like it. ~ Nathan
Yes! That album is truly a masterpiece.
Amen! ~ Nathan
Your videos are so clarifying. Thank you! :)
This is great to hear! Thank you for leaving this comment ~ Nathan
Very thoughtfully said Nathan and you didn't bruise my gentle INPF feelings once. I have to admit, I sometimes hear what I am saying and think that I am weird as f**k.
Glad to hear it! ~ Nathan
The "being productive" part was true. My mind become more stable after pouring out into writings and drawings. Alas, some people are criticize me to having dark fantasy, and ask me to produce more happier product so I get more attention. Somehow it caused me in dilemma: shall I focus on stabilizing my mind first, or listen to them so I get the attention that I wanted?
At the end I prefer making bittersweet fantasy: still dark, but also giving some hope and positive things between the darkness. Just like real life.
Dark fantasies are the best ones! ~ Nathan
This is VERY USEFUL information! Thank you so much:) You are very intelligent and insightful..excellent!
All good advice for INFP. I have a suggestion for a video..how about how types change as they age? If you're a say 65year old INFP, surely you shouldn't still be the same as when you were 25yr old. Maybe you will have developed your inferior function even, so you might seem less like an INFP when older? Just an idea? I'm 68yrs old now, I'm not the same person I was at 30 even. 😊
Thanks big brother Nathan for the advice! :)
Anytime! ~ Nathan
Well, that’s great advice. Probably the best toolkit for Infps to live their life by i have ever heard.
Thank you for your chrysalises your thinking at the moment advice and Jeff Buckley documentary snippets, cause I'm actually in a kinda similar situation now. You gave me enough push to do and finish my project.
This is really great to hear! ~ Nathan
Thank you!!! I NEEEEEDED to hear that!! ❤
(…so much so, that I’m going to listen to it again! 😅)
thank you for the reminder. it's been a while, since i've created something. i keep forgetting, how much i liked it.
It is a great joy indeed! ~ Nathan
I'm the INFP whisperer
I do it.
It is not "fun".
But publication does help.
You do feel isolated.
This is an excellent video!
Great vid as usual Nathan! I really like the idea of crystallising these "mental states" as you call it and since I'm not really creative this mainly is done through journalling and just writing all my daydreams, feelings and interesting perspectives/philosophies I come up with. Also having freedom of time seems to be a lot more valuable to us than financial freedom so I only realised the importance of your second point recently but I can't do much about it because I've already entered the field of medicine which is like the least flexible option haha
Journalling is the perfect example of this, thinking about it now I can't believe I didn't mention that one in the video ~ Nathan
This was revelatory, thank you so much.
I think like this: i have potentially written serveral collection of poems. But I know that I at some point want to be a teacher. So I don't want to get into the process of publishing because of the potential redicule from students if it is in some ways published. Once you officially put something out there, it is permanent and you loose your anonymity...
There are some well known people who are anonymous! Have you ever heard of Banksy? ~ Nathan
@@lovewho Hehe. Are you suggesting that I write my poems illegally on walls in the city? (Not a bad idea though)
You can always go with a pen name :)
I have worked for the same company for 14 years and am currently a business process auditor. Which might sound antithetical to type as an INFP but somehow it works. I prefer NOT to be a professional writer even though I’m good at it though…putting a deadline on my creativity and having to pin all hopes of income in it would stress me out. Fanfic is more my speed, figuratively and literally. That said when I retire I know I will be plenty busy doing whatever I feel like doing!
First time commenting , love your video's, they make me laugh. INFP but luckily I have some need to be a list maker and I get so much satisfaction when I can cross something off. I still procrastinate but the list is always encouraging me to tackle the next thing.
The day you upload this video is my birthday and I'm an infp 9w1, quite amazing isn't it?
You where finishing up and I thought "oh, that's it? I was expecting this to be at least 30min" 😊
I can't bring myself to ramble on or have filler, plus... sometimes you've just said all you want to say on a particular topic. Also, it's probably a topic I will revisit! ~ Nathan
Thank you for providing very good insight and a very well thought out parcel of advice. I don't often go to other people for advice on how to live my life, but I really find you to be easily relatable. Thank you very much for the help!
This is great advice. However, I find my greatest challenge is particitpating in society. As we live in a time where human activity affects everything. Society is focused on growth, money, and living beyond the limits of our planet. It seems that no one cares about our modern lifestyle and it's impact on the future, or near future.
Great vid thx. More like this about infp please!
Listen, you're the first person in many INFP videos I hear clearly wording the fact that it may be more rewarding to us to have a humble live full of non-monetised kind versus a full-time job at the cost of freedom which is essentially the core of our type.
I have heard lots of advice that still kept talking about "yeah...just find a nicer way to squeeze yourself into the nicest box you can find" instead of opnly saying: "OK, reality is, you only need to do that as far as you really reqire to for the sake of bills, but otherwise, aren't you creative enouhg to be actually OK in a healthy low budget life?"
I'm in that place and I've been wondering if I'm really that wrong on this and it's incredibly helpful to get a simple confirming input like that. Because I am often envied for my ability to prioritise my freedom and self-care over things of systemic pressure, but most of the time it's in an const unaware "you have it so good!" way. And I'm like: "Yes, but it's hard earned, you know? Especially in our type of society!". And you just went and bluntly stated both sids of the deal and I love that honesty.
Liked, subscribed, and *smashed* the notification bell. :)
LOVE IT! ~ Nathan
Thank you for this Nathan.
yes exactly,i often being misunderstood by my family,my schoolmates,even my teachers because im not being assertive and communicating what i really think/want
Now I wonder once again if I am actually an INFP.
I can’t agree with you more on every single point literally
That's great to hear, hopefully you find it useful ~ Nathan
about the part where you mentioned we often feel misunderstood, despite the fact that i've always tried hard af to explain what i feel and fully share with them my perspective, it only pushes some people to make more and more assumptions about me and fully believe they've understood what I meant simply because i shared it with them. it's extremely hurtful because once they make that assumption, they stop asking and never doubt it, which leaves me to being completely misunderstood, and often with belittled feelings. and so, perhaps, communication might be the key when it comes to explaining our opinions, but once it comes to our feelings, honestly i just can not share that, its too much of a chaos for it to be shared and have any slight chance of being understood
My two closest friends are INFP’s and the conversations are brilliant and fun. But you are right both of of them have millions of ideas, though they can never make them concrete.
Also side note: how does one attract or find more thinker types? Such as INTJ’s? I’m a INTP who is mostly surrounded by feelers and it can get overwhelming.
I have a game project but I want to create something real. But in my house I don't feel free to express my self in that way a unique project
demands. I live with my dad: ISFJ and my sister INFJ+ her loved one ISTP.
One of the best, most practical(lol) videos. Thank you ❤