The mother washing his pants really troubles me. I don't know that she had a pattern of covering up his bad behavior, but if she did, his behavior may have only accelerated over time. Consequences are healthy and it begs me to question whether or not he ever had any.
@Diane Upshaw Exactly. She should never have washed those jeans which kind of shows a pattern. He and his parents should've gotten mental help the first sign of trouble. And I know they saw signs of trouble, that's why she washed the pants.
@@lynnpurcell5225 You guys make it seem like she could have stopped this lmao. Always blame the parents lol. The only thing doctors would have done was put him on anti depressants and prolonged the inevitable. Therapist don't stop these guys and parenting doesn't make them. They are defective from the jump.
Why so many pocket knives? The world is so beyond these days, as a parent, or grandparent , you are the adult, you are the one that absolutely must do your best to watch over the children... I personally feel it’s all getting out of hand. If one denies, as a parent, you’re truly causing more harm then good, & you are not a “ cool parent”, that’s letting your own child down. ( so I’m truly beginning to feel.). Be this parent to help direct a child in good choices.
Parents often think that teenagers can be trusted. That is a huge mistake. A certain amount of trust is necessary, but when a 15 yr old is out til after 3 AM? Don’t get me started.
I agree, 3AM is pretty crazy, but there’s people here who think the idea of kids walking around period is crazy, which is unnecessary helicopter parenting. If you never give your kid the chance to be responsible and independent, what incentive do they have?
@@frostbite3318 I think it’s a perilous balance. Looking back at my teenaged self I realize how incredibly innocent I was but I felt so mature. My parents did a good job but they never monitored my internet use (this was late 90’s, early 2000’s.) I remember talking to older dudes via AOL chat rooms. Thankfully, nothing came of it but it’s creepy to look back on.
@@YourPartnerInCrime I had a tough life and was out running the streets alone at 13. I can't believe I survived. Helicopter parenting or not- nothing good happens after midnight. There's a statistic that says that the majority of murders happen at 1:22am. So if you're at home, lock yourself in a closet until 1:23... Then it's safe to come out! 😄
When Aiden posted “has anyone seen Tristan”? After he murdered her, it indicates not only no remorse, but boasting this deeply disturbing behavior is taunting the parents and law enforcement and indicates a deeply disturbed individual with no empathy. In addition, when told Tristan was missing/murdered he said “how’s that my problem”? Clearly this young man is a danger to society. He is broken! Cases like this are not fixable! Therapy and medications will not make him a decent human who is fit for functioning safely in society. Also, anyone who has claimed responsibility Ned’s to have swift, stern consequences! The precedent needs to be set that this is no joking matter. Finally, the mother should be charged, have a very steep fine and face potential prison time as well! Aiden needs to be shown just how much it is HIS problem and he should never have the freedom to harm again. If he does, he will. He’s broken beyond repair. He posted a selfie of himself in the cop car with some sort of peace sign. He deserves to be tried as an adult and should be punished to the fullest extent of the law.
And so many commenting here that he is a child, mentally ill and needs help instead of life in prison because he had a rough childhood. I wonder how many of these same people would want him living beside their teenage daughter if he was released! I have dealt with a lot of mentally ill people in my career (now retired) and I saw over and over how many diagnosed with mental illness will be stabilized with medication. The problem is, many of those same individuals will stop taking that medication after a very short time and their mental state once again deteriorates. It's a revolving door. I'm in no way saying Aiden is mentally ill as this may just be an attempt to prepare a defense for him. The actions of Aiden and his parents appear that none of them have any empathy, yet Aiden knew what he was doing was wrong. But either way, mentally ill or not, I wouldn't want to be anywhere near him if he is ever released.
@@krkfkfktj That's fine as long as you're okay with him living next door to you if he's ever released. A lot of people feel the same way as you do, but they want the offender to live elsewhere.
@@desertlover5027 i wouldn't care but it's not someone I'd necessarily trust my kids to be alone with but I wouldn't really with anyone just the closest people
I think it's rare because she also told him to make up a story and stick with it. She knew it was him. There was no other explanation for his bloody jeans. She had no empathy for this girl. In other cases some parents don't literally wash all the bloody clothing so they remain hopeful
Parents can be prone for covering up for their kids but because - thankfully - so few kids murder it's impossible to tell if covering up for their kids murder is relatively rare or not.
My fav is “this isn’t the child I raised.” Tf does that even mean? Clearly it is. Or you’d have noticed an imposter in your kid’s place and filed a missing persons report before this happened.
@@behindyou3689 supporting your kid is one thing. Covering for them, refusing to believe they did anything wrong, and insisting on their innocence is quite another.
The lack of parental supervision bothered me, too. The mother trying to coach her son also showed that there were no brakes or accountability for Aiden. He may well be a psychopath but the only upside is that the unfortunate murder may be his last.
The voices he’s hearing telling him that he’s a disappointment and a failure is his own conscious. We all have a conscious telling us right from wrong. The boy’s parents (if you want to call them that) contributed to this Tragic situation. They are a disappointment and failure as well.
His dad “loses” the alleged murder weapon and his mum hand washes his trousers, to wash out potential inculpatory evidences. I reckon the whole family tree could do with a mental evaluation.
I wouldn't do it for my children. I know we want to protect our children. It's instinct. But Tristyn's parents felt the same about her. If one of my kids did something serious like killing someone, I'd be there for them and I'd stand beside them, but they're going to have to face the consequences.
@No false hope Darling Important that was said, thank you. Too many in these comments are saying the murder of the young girl was a good thing and are glad it happened smh.
@No false hope Darling who said it was a good thing and glad it happened? I haven't seen a single comment like that. Why would anyone say that. Can you find one and paste it
@@SoulDelSol right! I think people are just thankful that he was caught before he could find his next victim. I don't think anyone believes Tristyn's murder was anything less than horrific.
@@barbara5934 my comment was that if the parents keep covering for him so that he never has any consequences, they could be his targets for death at some point
Dr. Grande I agree with you about staying on top of what your teenager is doing. It was exhausting. I only had 2 kids 3 years apart, but we had to monitor what was going on. They still managed to get in trouble at times. They made it into adulthood in one piece without a criminal record and went to college, graduated college and are responsible adults that take care of their families. So It was worth it and it was a lot of work as parents. We were not their friends and we had no trouble telling them what was right and what was wrong. They managed to like us later on.....
You raised your children like I raised mine. My Daughter gave me gray hair!! My Son, on the other hand, was a “dream” teenager. But you are correct, you cannot be a teenagers “buddy.” You can let your child know that they can bring anything to you, no subject is off limits. Letting them know that you aren’t trying to keep them from having a good time is harder to convince them of~!!! Mine stayed out of jail too, and one just graduated from college with a top degree. They are working and productive. That they know the difference between right and wrong is the greatest gift a parent can give a child.
I feel bad for what I put my parents through. I was wild and somehow made it to adulthood. I would jump out of a second story window to sneak out in the middle of the night. There wasn’t really any way for them to know that I was doing that at the time. Now everyone has cameras lol
@@DottieMinerva Hello Daughter!! LOL! Yes, my Daughter jumped out of our second story window onto the storage shed so she could be out at night with her friends. For quite a number of years she wanted to stay up all night and sleep all day!! Boy, those were tough years!! When she got ready to be on her own I asked her to tell me what I did right and what I did wrong, and to be honest about it. She said, “You taught me the difference between right and wrong, and you were a little bit too strict.” I figured every 18 year old thinks their parents were “too strict.” When she had children she called me up one day and said: “MOM! I apologize for EVERYTHING I did to you. Oh my God! I didn’t know it would be this hard!!!” LOL! Yep, they find out sooner or later. Glad you made it!!
@@Kuulei265 haha that’s the truth! You suddenly understand everything your parents did once you have kids. You did a great job raising your daughter, teenage girls can be a handful but it’s great when you come out on the other side of it. I love my adult relationship with my mom and dad.
I taught high school for thirty years and it was so easy to spot the kids who had parenting and those that didn't. I've told many parents when their teens get mad at them about curfews, video game and phone restrictions, etc. that it means, as parents, they are doing a great job.
Actually it's when they DON'T get mad, it's cause they are used to restrictions and don't make a big deal about them. It's then when the parents are doing a great job.
This case is exceedingly disturbing. Firstly, the fact that she was only 13 and the he is 14, and second the manner of death- 114 stab wounds! That’s an indication of tremendous brutality and rage. In a way a feel bad seeing a 14 year old being charged as an adult. However if he is indeed the perpetrator, as it appears to be, he is a undoubtedly a danger to society and needs to be charged accordingly. I think you are absolutely right regarding supervision. I believe it’s crucial and healthy for teenagers to have parental supervision. Brilliant review as usual, thank you Dr. Grande.❤️
I can't help but to feel entitlement likely played a huge part. A hell of a lot of teenage boys have the reek of incel about them, they may not be one but they certainly act like them.
Tristyn was a friend and teammate of my daughter. I can not comprehend the evilness of all this. The poor poor Bailey family. We pray for them every day.
if my daughter was a friend of someone who got murdered meddling with guys like Aiden, i will be on constant watch from then on i mean like people sort themselves out at around this age
I’ve followed this on local news as it happened close to where I live. Aiden Fucci’s father had a long rap sheet including battery, being arrested at one time for engaging in sexual activity with a minor and another for child abuse, injury, and neglect. Not saying there’s any excuse for what Aiden did, but it seems like what happened to him in his childhood probably contributed.
BS, I stay in Jax beach. Needless to say I’ve been following this murder (just like everyone in the surrounding areas) from the on set. That boy had satanic shit in his room along with many other disturbing things. He knew right from wrong and chose the latter. Str8 pos along with his parents but that doesn’t negate the fact that he knew what was wrong.
@@r.c.l2569 hes 14. He should know right from wrong, yes, but to chalk this up to a 14 year old simply being a "piece of shit" is dishonest. Your experiences in life form your world view & personality. If his father was in fact a child rapist & child abuser you REALLY think that didn't negatively effect his child and that the kid just chose to be a bad person? Cases like these are much more complex. Your input is useless & moot
@@r.c.l2569 I don't think they're saying that he _didn't_ know right from wrong. Given his age and how his parents are, however, his upbringing would have a lot to do with why his personality is so antisocial and unempathetic. One can know that murder is against the law at the time of committing it, yet also not care about the consequences and not feel any remorse about it.
This kid's problematic behavior was well known to the school officials and whenever he was in trouble, he'd be suspended and kept home with his inept parents. Child abuse history may come up later as well, as it seems his bio father went to prison for child abuse. Our system has to be more proactive on all fronts, especially with the current mental health crisis we're witnessing in the young. I live where this happened.
Some parents want to be their child’s “friend” or the “cool parent” (permissive) but that rarely turns out well. If you love your children parent and mentor them. Offer good learning experiences and opportunities.
@@AetherNightmare it’s all about the environment i don’t think it’s one single factor , I think that really does have some effect on someone to a certain extent but this kid was fucked to start
"The drug dealer denied having anything to do with her death. The police cleared him of any wrongdoing; perhaps he had an alibi, like maybe he was dealing drugs." I appreciate the humor in your videos so much. ❤
To those of you who haven't yet - I highly recommend checking out the podcast. I was shocked at how little views its getting. If you want to see Dr. Grande in a more casual manner, its really great!
This happened about two miles down the street from where I live. Our whole community was and still is in absolute shock. Thank you for making a video on this subject that hits so close to home for myself and my community.
This is the only video I have seen that has given *all* the details of the case, including that of the victim. It was also presented in such a respectful, calm way. Thank you.
How when psychos hear voices in their head it always tells them to go and kill someone. How come the voice never tells them to do the ironing or the laundry?
Ha ha I hope you do realize that this is all perception due to the fact that FL has open records laws so the media is able to find out about all the nut jobs whereas records are sealed in many other states.
How horrible were these parents? Coaching their son to lie to the police, both telling him to, "Find a story and stick with it." And it's all being recorded? Mom washes his bloody jeans. Unbelievable. They should be in jail for bad parenting!
I’ve drilled into all of my children’s heads that they are never to talk to the police without myself or their mother present. And to always invoke their right to shut the fuck up
This was preventable... and this is what happens to a child when you are born with parents that are as bad as it gets for a child. This young man will spend the rest of his life in prison and the parents " adults" will be loose on the streets and they are as responsible as if they had committed the murder themselves. They both need to spend every day in prison as cell mates to this boy. My Opinion.
@ Dr. Grande and community… A good parenting reminder. It takes an adult to be a real parent. Setting boundaries and holding those boundaries firm is one of the ways you can prepare your child for the real world. If you give them opportunities to grow and they do not, then that maybe on them. For example saying no or taking a child’s cell phone privileges away when they are displaying behaviors that are not healthy for their development. My dad used to say to me growing up that it’s important to teach your children boundaries or someone else will. Thank you 🤔❤️
When Aiden asked how Trystan's death is his problem.....It reminds me of when Cain said to God "Am I my brother's keeper?" after he murdered his brother Abel. Its very eerie.
Thanks for the intelligence, respect and kindness when discussing this, Dr Grande. As a mother and a grandmother, I cannot imagine how I would feel in ANY of the positions involved with this crime. I will hug my grandkids extra hard tonight (I'm lucky to have them and my son living with me right now).
I know. That’s how I feel too as a mom. Being the mom of the murderer and the victim is so awful either way. Obviously worse to lose your kid but still heartbreaking knowing your kid killed someone. Ugh
@@PHlophe you have no idea!!! I'm 50 and named after my grandmother. Growing up, the ONLY Emilys were 80 and older! Then, at 28 or so, all these babies named Emily came along. It's been odd, I must say. 🤔
One of details of this horrific case that really unsettled me, besides the murder itself, was the fact that fourteen year-olds were out unsupervised at that time of the morning and that they had 'drug dealers'. I would wager that there must have been an incident earlier in the boys life that caused him to have a morbid fascination with knives.
This is Florida. I lived there all of the 90s, then visited in 2010. A male friend had bought a trailer home in Fort Lauderdale, not realizing that there was an $800./month lot fee. Huh? One evening, he went out. HIS Dealer, "Crystal Lakes," called on the phone. I got out of there but quick.
My Grandmother told about the "Bad Seed" she looked like a perfect little girl and made everything look like a bad accident. I saw the play on UA-cam a few years ago.
That movie shaped the way I saw the world, as a child. I never forgot how she wanted the spelling medal but the kid who did win it turned up dead with the pattern of her taps on his bloody skull.
Parents who pay attention dont seem to care either way what their teenagers do as long as they dont have to confront them; they assume that their behavior is typical or normal and look the other way....Ignorance breeds more ignorance😞
Idiot parents need to stop letting the internet raise their kids for them. The internet is seriously corrupting peoples mental well-being and beliefs. Kids have never been as depressed and suicidal as they are today and it correlates directly with the proliferation of the internet
@@lanceanthony198 Is the television a better option ? Where there are Greta Thunburgs telling kids around the world that they have had their futures destroyed by their parents and ancestors ....The " how dare you ! " attitude running rampant and endorsed by big network television...
@@lanceanthony198 Thats like the inverse of whats happening. Everyone I knew when I was a teenager who wanted to kill themselves had parents who were not really fair or kind. Some of those kids are still suicidal today and it is solely because of their terrible families. The internet is the sole place to escape their utterly miserable excuse for parents, so no, it's not the internet's fault, it's parents not taking responsibility in a large portion of cases
@@Noah_AWICB statistics would disagree with you. Human beings are not meant to stay in their rooms statically staring at a screen all day, it’s terrible for physical and mental health yet the internet enables that. Social anxiety and depression are at an all time high, there used to be no substitute for actually interacting with people, either you spent time with people or there was literally nothing to do.
They didn't know she was out. They were sleeping when she snuck out. Lots of teenagers do it and the parents never know because they aren't out getting murdered.
@@desertlover5027 at 13? Like okay maybe a high school but not a barely teen. Do people not have alarms in their house that go off when you open the window/door at night
@@brittneyharmon6647 i know plenty of people who snuck out at 13 lmao its a lot more common than you think.. and not everyone has alarms in there house like that i actually know a lot of people who dont have alarms on their windows and shit..
@@brittneyharmon6647 my niece who is 12 snuck out of her house a few weeks ago. My sister doesn’t have alarms in her windows. It happens more than you think. Luckily my sister went down for a drink and noticed the window wide open.
I do tutoring for a living and have two students who were acquainted with Aiden at school. This has shaken the community (15 minutes south of Jacksonville, Florida) to the core especially the kids who knew one or both of them. Both of the students of mine said that this boy was very "odd." He apparently had very few friends and didn't seem to want to make any. He seemed depressed. There were warning signs. Much of a loner. In contrast the victim was quite popular. They didn't run in the same crowd at ALL at least at school. The buying and selling of drugs seemed to be their connection. (Speculation by my students). After this incident I do know that the police really have cracked down hard on these middle school kids buying and selling drugs even on school property. Many names have surfaced because of this investigation and the police were made aware of quite a few kids who were "dealers" from the nearby high school. Not that I think that was related to this crime necessarily. This area (not where I live as I'm in Jax)) is a very affluent area where these kids live. Many of the kids are very "entitled" and the horrible part is that the reaction of Aiden's parents doesn't even surprise me. It will probably end up being another case of "affluenza." Tragic. Just tragic. I would love to see Doctor G do a video on that phenomenon.
@@mischaraine1645 I have no way of knowing of course yet. This is just speculation from "rumors" that go around as usual. At least two of the news media interviews with the parents however are consistent in that they are declaring that "their boy was framed by the police." These cases just seem to keep popping up around the country where the defense attorneys use this "affluenza" as a defense (as in the children didn't know what was right or wrong because they were so spoiled and entitled). It doesn't make any sense to me. I certainly hope that isn't the case here and the boy serves the maximum sentence that can be imposed upon a fourteen-year-old if he is found guilty. In addition, I feel the child needs serious help obviously and as a teacher it is so distressing to see things like this. I don't believe prison is the best place for a child to get mental health treatment but I'm not sure what the alternative is in this day and age.
Drug dealers do other things besides selling drugs you know. They shop, go to the movies, go to dates, pick up children from school, they're people like you an me. Only their business is considered illegal.
@@DonPeyote420 You're right, and that's everybody... Everybody has a life. I think you're missing the context of this. It is joke first of all. But despite that; It speaks deeper about the issue that "being one kind of criminal, and not the other - doesn't exempt you in any way." It's the equivalent of a situation, where a person probably kills people, and he holds that to substantiate the fact that he wasn't doing, what's probably considered, an even more severe crime. One doesn't cancel out the other.
Thanks, doc. Such a sad and scary case. Makes me wonder, "Can someone be born a monster?" My gut says no. But then I hear these stories and think otherwise.
People can 100% be born with the genetic predisposition for certain mental health issues. All it takes is one wrong event to happen to trigger those mental health conditions. The teenage/young adult years are when most schizo effective disorders, ASD/NPD, etc. develop or become obvious to outsiders. There are always signs beforehand, but most people either aren’t trained in recognizing them, or have no authority and thus cannot do anything about the situation.
@@-MaryPoppins- The sad thing is many of these out of control criminal teens showed signs as younger children. I don't know in this boy but from the description of his behaviors by friends and family, I would guess he showed disturbing signs at a much younger age. If his early grade school teachers were asked and could be honest, I bet they would say he was a problem kid and had strange behaviors then. As a recently retired teacher, I saw a few during the 28 years who exhibited very alarming behaviors. ( violence toward adults and classmates, talk of wanting to hurt animals and people, fits of rage destroying textbooks classroom materials, self harm, all at the ages of six, seven, eight. Guidance counselers, principals, parents all looked the other way as to not get involved.)
On many occasions in various videos you have posted, I've thought to myself, that I hope your wife and kiddos recognize how lucky they are. Never have I heard such insightful tokens of wisdom about partnerships, loyalty, behavioral appropriateness and truly mindful, engaged parenting. It's like your intellect, combined with your passion for your career choice, have enabled you to not just practice your skill, but truly learn important life lessons from so many client's and case studies, allowing you to clearly see and understand exactly what NOT to do and most importantly, how one might actually GET IT RIGHT. I genuinely respect, appreciate and enjoy your efforts in areas I wish were compulsory life lesson classes for so many. At least, here in Australia, even at top performing schools and college, such lessons, as you mentioned, come down to the parent's personal involvement. Many of whom, are perhaps not engaged, educated or equipped with the skills, knowledge or maybe even time, to know how to effectively parent, or maybe they do but as you said, consider it important for their child to learn from experience. Sometimes I really question how things got to this point. Having lived in the US and Australia, parenting styles really are quite similar it seems. And I see more divorce, myself included in the casualties. I'm no expert, but having experienced a narcissistic hubby, I came across your channel hoping to learn and understand more. Hoping not to have history repeat itself. The one thing that I have felt, and perhaps this just comes down to me and may not be so for the majority, is that it seems like COMMUNITY is slipping through our fingers. I don't particularly know what it may have been like for previous generations, but to me, it seems like we're all on our own for the most part. And many of us are getting it wrong.. Not through lack of trying, but without community we don't learn and grow from each other's experiences. People are getting divorced rather than learning how to work through relationship challenges. I don't mean to suggest divorce is never appropriate. But I sense that this is going full circle. Parent's aren't investing their time and energy and working on their parenting skills. Helping their children learn appropriate behaviors. Perhaps parent's don't have community support systems in place to help them understand how to handle situations or cope when they could truly use the help. It seems the elderly are placed into assisted living when perhaps we should be engaging with them when appropriate. Life skills and lessons are being lost. In our rush to get ahead it feels like we're all falling behind. Growing up in Australia, certainly things were different perhaps than they were in the US. But I have a sense of loss. I recall dinners every night with my whole family at the table. If someone was going to be late we would wait so we could share the meal together. I recall frequently cooking dinner with my mum and siblings and lots of conversation. I recall long discussions at the dinner table and in our teens I recall we gave our parent's some challenges they had to work through WITH US. Maybe this still exists and I simply haven't seen it. It feels like everyone's crossing paths but not taking the time to engage. Being old wasn't something to attempt to surgically conceal with face lifts, rather, the wisdom something to admire and see the beauty in. And after my Pa passed away, my Nana moved into the spare room until she passed at 96yrs young. And we listened to her stories and she was a valued member of the family. There were no cell phone's at the dinner table. After a day of horse riding and gardening chores on the weekend, I sat on the front porch and watched the sunset, listening to the cricket or rugby with my Dad. He took me to my sport's practice. Mum packed my school lunch every day. I'm 44 but I feel like I'm describing something that makes me seem 74. I think technology, education, growth, knowledge, learning and advancement are essential and so important. But. I guess I want us to "remember" too. I don't want us to lose touch with what's truly important. Connection with each other in real and meaningful ways so we can keep learning and growing together. I think I need to find my tribe, my connection. We all deserve that. Thanks for your wise and thought provoking commentary. I just love 'em! 😉🦘
What gets me is why Aiden's girlfriend or other friends didn't say anything to responsible adults about his killing fantasies. You nailed it on the head about parents not knowing what their kids are doing and I have to wonder if that separation of life experiences teaches kids that grown ups are not an option to report these things to.
@@thekurtcobainfoundation4200 Hon, you just said that he set your jeans on fire while YOU WERE WEARING THEM! So yes he did try to hurt you! As an older and wiser woman, I can tell you, men who behave like this ONLY GET WORSE and do worse things. NEVER, make excuse for bad behaviour! Towards you or anyone you ca re about! Never get involved with people who dont respect you and your boundaries. Have self respect and high standards when it comes to makijg friends and dating men. You deserve better then a drug addict, they will always bring you down to their level. Remember ,you are the prize ,you are unique and deserve a healthy and mutually loving relationship. There are millions of people out there, so if someone is bad to you ,you will find someone else!
They have been taught to tell about guns but not knives. I know that sounds simplistic, but it isn't. Kids that age have a default not to tell. They must be expressly taught to tell.
@@thekurtcobainfoundation4200 Take the sage advice of other posts! Fire is horrible, and a horrible sign. The rest of your post sounds like he might have a madonna/whore complex. Those men often turn on a woman after they become intimate, and then they become dangerous. Or, they will sleep with their future wives only to have children, and frequent prostitutes the rest of the time. Very, very bad. Sometimes these people go on to murder prostitutes. The point is, the fact that he sees you as too pure to ask you to do these other things now does NOT mean he respects you as a human being. He puts you on a pedestal to satisfy his needs.
@Deirdre Evangelista Your comment is very true and explained well. I was confused by the "he never hurt _me"_ immediately after she said he set her pants on fire and his friend (ie: not him) put it out. Seems similar to hybristophiliac women: lusting after dangerous men, refusing to admit to themselves that no, they wouldn't be the "exception;" if someone is incapable of empathizing with others, they wouldn't single out one lucky individual for whom to suddenly develop empathy.
@Redwood Rebelgirl Bundy did try to kill one of his long-term girlfriends. I can't remember which one, but he admitted to blocking off her house's door/windows and messing with her fireplace so it emptied smoke into the home while she slept one night. She woke up coughing, fixed the problem (the fireplace) and didn't question it at the time.
I have a 21 year old and a 31 year old and they were both a little disruptive in their teens but I myself was way worse! I told them early on they could never pull anything over me that I didn’t already know about! I am thankful they are both now contributing members of society with good careers and plenty of goals! I have a adult stepdaughter that has been to jail, prison, lost her kids, and now using heroin and we were just as involved with her life early in her teen years she stole cars and went to a wilderness camp for children at risk at 13. She just never seemed to comprehend that consequences came with her actions. Early in her childhood she was in and out of hotel rooms with her mom and I still wonder to this day if she was sexually assaulted and physically abused which led to her defiant behavior as a teenager. You just never know. We are scared that to get that phone call of drug overdose but she can only help herself at this point.
I don't understand how Tristyn's parents did not know she was not home til the next morning! I see some dysfunction in that family as well. My condolences to her family, this is such a heart breaking story.
Yeah, mom and dad were probably well aware of their son's proclivity for violent behavior but didn't do a damn thing about it. The interview seemed strangely calm. **The cacti are taking over the set!**
It severely pisses me off how many parents unleash their damaged children on the world, and enable them to harm others. Also, how many parents seem to simply throw their kids to the wolves to be at the mercy of the world. This is exactly how horrors like those one occur, over and over. A lot of parents are overworked - I get it. Maintaining a family is hard. But why don't you THINK about that BEFORE you start your family? Too many people procreate simply as a matter of course for self-affirmation of their egos. Parents do not only have a duty to their children, but they also have a duty to the society and community around them to rear healthy individuals who will benefit (or at least not negatively affect) said society. This is how civilization is maintained. The family unit is the building block. I know parents are not always to blame, but things have gotten to the point where I'm beginning to believe that parents need to be held accountable for the violent crimes of their minor children under specific circumstances. Society cannot stop the wrong people from procreating, but it should sure as hell hold them accountable for their incompetent parenting. Bad parents create the criminals of the future that threaten the lives of the rest of us.
Sometimes criminals have the best of families I just think some people are born into it like there's some sort of a missing gene as well I call it... I had a brother like that and he never seemed to have gotten past I'd say age 14 or 15 and he was always in and out of trouble his entire life and there's probably things he did that I know nothing of based on a few things he told me but I mean he he was so caught up in the face he actually look like a monster I still loved him because he was my brother even though when we grew up we were mortal enemies but I had a sense of I guess sympathy for him that he didn't seem to be able to get it and you know go on with some sort of normal life anyway he died I'd say 10 to 15 years ago with no family know anything except for my brother who's a pastor and they were very close growing up so I guess Paul's information must have been in his wallet or something for them to call and my brother paid for his funeral that's about it I didn't even know he had died till after the fact yes I have a strange family but for the most part we're all very productive people do our best to pay taxes live by the rules raise our children in the church insist on at least a decent education and allow our kids some leniency because of our own growing up but yet we know I should say they know what a belt is it's just the way I believe and guess what they're okay they're pretty good old kids grown adults now with families of their own so I'm just saying some kids have perfect families if they become crazier criminals addicts I know for sure I've seen it
What about the "girlfriend" that stayed with Aiden through MULTIPLE incidents where he pretended to slit her throat? What internal messages about her value/lack of value is she carrying at only 13 or 14 years old? Girls need to have their self value nurtured and learn VERY early that it is never okay for a boy to disrespect, threaten, or inflict violence on them. Best lesson I ever learned from my mom was essentially "one strike and they're out". I learned she had broken off her first engagement at 20 when her fiance slapped her during an argument. She said he begged, cried, sent flowers, even plead with her father to help, etc., but she NEVER took him back. She forgave him in her heart and said he never showed any other violent tendencies, but she pointed out that if forgiven he would have no real consequence for his action. Why not do it again down the road? Or worse? If he faced huge consequences the first time (by losing her) he would hopefully not continue or escalate that behavior with other women in the future. She said you have to value yourself even if someone else doesn't. BEST LESSON EVER.
The scarier part of this case to me is the fact that the parents knew about the murder yet attempted to cover it up. I know defending your family is one thing, but that just some kind of lack of empathy to me. I definitely think the parents need to be monitored.
Such an excellent video, Dr. Grande! ♡♡ The teenage years are without a doubt the most terrifying, they need their parents to be the watchers and their voice of strong reason and wisdom throughout those scary years.
I've been following this case since it broke. So horrific! Although I believe an in depth psychological review of the defendant is necessary and may give us some insight, I absolutely believe he is guilty and needs to be held accountable for his atrocious actions, no matter his age. There is a family that has lost their daughter in the most brutal way. Do I hope he can be rehabilitated? Yes. But until we understand why he chose to do this, I'm not sure if he can be or not. Thank you Dr. for another professional analysis and sharing your thoughts on this case.
Thank you for bringing up the fact that there were teens out at night without their parents knowledge. Teens are impulsive. They do what seems right at the moment. They do not expect to go out at night and get murdered. Apparently, no one knew Tristyn was out that night. Expecting your teen to “stay home” while you go do something else is taking an unnecessary chance. Parents do need to do a better job of thinking about every situation their teen could get into. This was a tragic case all around.
I guess I suffer as Good Girl Syndrome as a kid. I was too afraid to disappoint my mother. Do chores, study, no absenteeism/tardiness in school. I never experience this type of trouble, but I LIVE to watch it in UA-cam. Parenting is the hardest job in a lifetime.
Can you analyze the case of the missing mom in San Diego? Maya Milliete case is so weird and her husband looks SO guilty! I fear it will become a cold case.
@@blazefairchild465 I agree. He's so creepy! And he's keeping the kids from her side of the family. I feel like those poor kids know a lot and that's why he's refusing to let them visit with their family members. Such a tragic situation.
I hurt so badly for both families. As a mother of two girls it would be so devastating to know what my daughter went through and that her life was taken. Also as a stepmother of 2 boys with severe mental illness I know that is so very hard and heartbreaking. Knowing one of them murdered someone so viciously and would be more than likely going to prison forever before they were old enough to drive would be unimaginable. My prayers are with both families.
DUDE THANK YOU I've wondered about this case for the longest time, thank you for explaining what you think happened, really interesting listening to a professional's point of view
Thank you!! My kids are grown now, but that's how they were raised. They knew, full well, I was going to be in their business. It was a bit easier because cell phones weren't as prevalent, but the internet was. I see way too often, friends not having a clue what their kids are doing. They have phones that the parents pay for, but wouldn't dream of going through. They have enough money to get in trouble with and aren't expected to account for their spending. They take off without a word; parents don't know where they're going or who they're with. They're still kids!! Stop treating them like adults! Yeah, it's easier...until it isn't because they're missing or arrested.
I’ve been watching videos on this case and yours is by far my favourite. You had all the information and displayed it perfectly. You also used the right words to it. Definitely will give you a follow and continue watching your videos 👍🏼
If i was dealing drugs while the murder occured you can best believe given the choice between being xharged with murder or dealing drugs. I would gladly admit to dealing drugs if it was my aliby and was true
Me, too! "I couldn't have done it! I was at 33 Mikess St. from 10- midnight selling crack to the Mallard brothers, Huey, Duey, and Louie." Case Closed! ⚖
@@JustDr.S hell i would let them pin all kinds of drug charges on me possession...distrobution....using.....manufacturing. All that ,just keep those murder charges away from me!!"yeah,yeah, i was making meth growing weed importing coke,and heroin and i was selling it and using it yep all that. But i didnt kill anyone!!
@@kellyhill430 lol. I'd do the same thing. If I was going to jail, I'd volunteer the information, they wouldn't even have to ask. Rather be locked up for drugs, than murdering a teenaged girl! Plus, I'd tell them everything I knew or heard of about the murder. I'm not covering for a murderer like this guy! Cops wouldn't even charge you, then!
@@JustDr.S yes they would, sorry to break your bubble though. You think cops are your friends and let one slide? Lmfao. Matter fact, they’d have you and him in the same cell. Enjoy!
Something really upsetting to me is how the parents yelled at him for posting police car selfies on snapchat not because it was disrespectful or incriminating but bc it was making THEM look bad on social media. Speaks volumes about their view of their son’s MURDER and their parenting in general.
So glad ya did this case! Wait until ya see what he did today for his preliminary hearing😒 He put on a show and it was rescheduled for most likely a psych eval... WOW.Maybe could you do an update?
Very well said about parents monitoring their children. Most parents are so afraid of hurting their precious children's feelings. They don't discipline til it's too late. This causes more harm then good.
The capacity for teenagers to self destruct amazes me. It’s like they are incapable of making a single bad decision, they have to make at least five in rapid succession and then set something on fire. I agree with you Dr Grande-they need supervision, discipline and boundaries to protect them from themselves, at least until they have enough experience to realize that death is something that could actually happen to them. It’s such a shame that in this case it did.
What is a 14-year-old girl doing out walking around at 2:00 a.m.?? When I was in high school me and my boyfriend used to hang out at his mother's house or walk between my street and his Street which were right up against each other but we were 18 years old! Sometimes we went to the playground at the elementary school in my backyard but 14 years old? I was in the house and in my room by 11:00 p.m. at the latest!
So glad your covering this. It had gone quiet the last few weeks. I'm feeling tired and fed up and so happy you posted! Im currently 28/29 weeks pregnant and got diagnosed with gestational diabetes on Friday and I've been feeling so anxious about it! Glad you posted to atleast take my mind of it all for a few mins!
@@sarahalbers5555 thanks 😊 it's all new to me and I've been feeling completely overwhelmed. I didn't have it in my first pregnancy so it's all new and so far I can't even get my glucometer to actually register a reading! All the unknowns and complications that could happen are scary. Just want this last 10 odd weeks of pregnancy to go fast ! Xx
@@hellsbells1576 Gestational diabetes is very serious. Please take your meter to your doctors office so they can show you how to use it. Congrats on the baby! and please take good care of yourself.
@@2cindilu440 I have my information video call about it Tuesday I just picked up the kit and watched the NHS how too videos etc and thought I'd try it out even though the midwife said wait until after the meeting. If I'm stuck after that I'll go to the maternity and get them to demonstrate. It just gave an error code when I tried.
This story reminded me of my niece when she went through her teenage years. Just like tristen, she would sneak out at night just to do seemingly harmless, normal teenage things like walking around the block with her friends and occasionally smoking pot. When I heard Tristen was found on Racetrack Rd that gave me goosebumps bc that's the name of the road my niece also lived off of (though in a different state). My sister often had no idea about what went on and she was married to a police officer. They even had an alarm system (granted this was 10 years ago) but kids will amaze you with what they can figure out.
The mother washing his pants really troubles me. I don't know that she had a pattern of covering up his bad behavior, but if she did, his behavior may have only accelerated over time. Consequences are healthy and it begs me to question whether or not he ever had any.
Not to mention the dad losing the knife is suspicious as hell
She did it in her own interests, not his.
@Diane Upshaw Exactly. She should never have washed those jeans which kind of shows a pattern. He and his parents should've gotten mental help the first sign of trouble. And I know they saw signs of trouble, that's why she washed the pants.
@@lynnpurcell5225 You guys make it seem like she could have stopped this lmao. Always blame the parents lol. The only thing doctors would have done was put him on anti depressants and prolonged the inevitable. Therapist don't stop these guys and parenting doesn't make them. They are defective from the jump.
Why so many pocket knives? The world is so beyond these days, as a parent, or grandparent , you are the adult, you are the one that absolutely must do your best to watch over the children... I personally feel it’s all getting out of hand. If one denies, as a parent, you’re truly causing more harm then good, & you are not a “ cool parent”, that’s letting your own child down. ( so I’m truly beginning to feel.). Be this parent to help direct a child in good choices.
Parents often think that teenagers can be trusted. That is a huge mistake. A certain amount of trust is necessary, but when a 15 yr old is out til after 3 AM? Don’t get me started.
I agree, 3AM is pretty crazy, but there’s people here who think the idea of kids walking around period is crazy, which is unnecessary helicopter parenting.
If you never give your kid the chance to be responsible and independent, what incentive do they have?
I think Tristyn was 13 which makes it even crazier!
@@frostbite3318 I think it’s a perilous balance. Looking back at my teenaged self I realize how incredibly innocent I was but I felt so mature. My parents did a good job but they never monitored my internet use (this was late 90’s, early 2000’s.) I remember talking to older dudes via AOL chat rooms. Thankfully, nothing came of it but it’s creepy to look back on.
@@YourPartnerInCrime I had a tough life and was out running the streets alone at 13. I can't believe I survived. Helicopter parenting or not- nothing good happens after midnight. There's a statistic that says that the majority of murders happen at 1:22am. So if you're at home, lock yourself in a closet until 1:23... Then it's safe to come out! 😄
@@karascene13 I heard someone say, there is nothing open after midnight except the emergency room and legs.
When Aiden posted “has anyone seen Tristan”? After he murdered her, it indicates not only no remorse, but boasting this deeply disturbing behavior is taunting the parents and law enforcement and indicates a deeply disturbed individual with no empathy. In addition, when told Tristan was missing/murdered he said “how’s that my problem”? Clearly this young man is a danger to society. He is broken! Cases like this are not fixable! Therapy and medications will not make him a decent human who is fit for functioning safely in society. Also, anyone who has claimed responsibility Ned’s to have swift, stern consequences! The precedent needs to be set that this is no joking matter. Finally, the mother should be charged, have a very steep fine and face potential prison time as well! Aiden needs to be shown just how much it is HIS problem and he should never have the freedom to harm again. If he does, he will. He’s broken beyond repair. He posted a selfie of himself in the cop car with some sort of peace sign. He deserves to be tried as an adult and should be punished to the fullest extent of the law.
And so many commenting here that he is a child, mentally ill and needs help instead of life in prison because he had a rough childhood. I wonder how many of these same people would want him living beside their teenage daughter if he was released! I have dealt with a lot of mentally ill people in my career (now retired) and I saw over and over how many diagnosed with mental illness will be stabilized with medication. The problem is, many of those same individuals will stop taking that medication after a very short time and their mental state once again deteriorates. It's a revolving door. I'm in no way saying Aiden is mentally ill as this may just be an attempt to prepare a defense for him. The actions of Aiden and his parents appear that none of them have any empathy, yet Aiden knew what he was doing was wrong. But either way, mentally ill or not, I wouldn't want to be anywhere near him if he is ever released.
@@desertlover5027 well I just think prison is not meant for children
It was built for adults
@@krkfkfktj That's fine as long as you're okay with him living next door to you if he's ever released. A lot of people feel the same way as you do, but they want the offender to live elsewhere.
@@desertlover5027 i wouldn't care but it's not someone I'd necessarily trust my kids to be alone with but I wouldn't really with anyone just the closest people
@@krkfkfktj sometimes it is if they crossed the line
This is not a rare scenario. Many mothers are like this: "My boy would never do anything like that." (while hiding his bloody clothing.)
I think it's rare because she also told him to make up a story and stick with it. She knew it was him. There was no other explanation for his bloody jeans. She had no empathy for this girl. In other cases some parents don't literally wash all the bloody clothing so they remain hopeful
Parents can be prone for covering up for their kids but because - thankfully - so few kids murder it's impossible to tell if covering up for their kids murder is relatively rare or not.
Makes me think of The Deadzone (the Christopher Walken movie)
My fav is “this isn’t the child I raised.”
Tf does that even mean? Clearly it is. Or you’d have noticed an imposter in your kid’s place and filed a missing persons report before this happened.
@@behindyou3689 supporting your kid is one thing. Covering for them, refusing to believe they did anything wrong, and insisting on their innocence is quite another.
The lack of parental supervision bothered me, too. The mother trying to coach her son also showed that there were no brakes or accountability for Aiden. He may well be a psychopath but the only upside is that the unfortunate murder may be his last.
Yeah she was too little too late with her coaching.
Good comment!
I sure hope her and her husband aren't raising any other kids. They raised a psychopath, I think.
@@JustDr.S I wonder if psychopaths are raised or born that way?
may be his last in the "free world" he will kill again for the aryans in jail
I don't wanna take sides here, but the voices in his head telling him he is worthless and a disappointment, might be on to something.
Lmao 🤣 you're right.
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That (for example.Schitsophrenia, delusions, etc.) ... OR; he is just preparing for an isanity plea.
Probably heard it from his parents his whole life.
The voices he’s hearing telling him that he’s a disappointment and a failure is his own conscious. We all have a conscious telling us right from wrong. The boy’s parents (if you want to call them that) contributed to this Tragic situation. They are a disappointment and failure as well.
His dad “loses” the alleged murder weapon and his mum hand washes his trousers, to wash out potential inculpatory evidences.
I reckon the whole family tree could do with a mental evaluation.
Wouldn’t you like it if your own family betrays you.
@@VirallVariety had I brutally killed somebody for the simple reason of me being a deranged psychopath, I wouldn’t care one way or the other.
No, his dad “lost” another knife Aiden had on him. It wasn’t the murder weapon
@@VirallVariety so your kid kills someone you hide it ? REALLY ?
@@castorkat4868 hmm. depends if that someone if annoying tbh.
My parents would not wash my bloody jeans or anything like that, my old man especially would call the cops asap!!!
My mother would have taken them to the police station!
@John Quinn ... in the snow!
@John Quinn right! And with no shoes on 😂
I wouldn't do it for my children. I know we want to protect our children. It's instinct. But Tristyn's parents felt the same about her. If one of my kids did something serious like killing someone, I'd be there for them and I'd stand beside them, but they're going to have to face the consequences.
@@nihilistteddy3 That cause yall white.
WOW !!! sounds like a serial killer who got caught after his 1st murder.
@No false hope Darling Important that was said, thank you. Too many in these comments are saying the murder of the young girl was a good thing and are glad it happened smh.
@No false hope Darling who said it was a good thing and glad it happened? I haven't seen a single comment like that. Why would anyone say that. Can you find one and paste it
@@SoulDelSol right! I think people are just thankful that he was caught before he could find his next victim. I don't think anyone believes Tristyn's murder was anything less than horrific.
And this is the reason why some kids get killed so they couldn't find another victim
Bad start for him. Haha trying to be mr tough guy serial killer psychopath whatever but he fuck himself up. Sorry for that poor girl n her family tho.
This young man has the potential to kill again. No remorse. Very flippant about it
Next time it could be his parents
@@leannemori9688 he got arrested how would it be his parents?
@@barbara5934 my comment was that if the parents keep covering for him so that he never has any consequences, they could be his targets for death at some point
@@eddysgaming9868 lol yes he is probably never getting out tho.We will see but thats the possible outcome here
And you have to take the brutality of the crime into account. He butchered that poor girl.
Dr. Grande I agree with you about staying on top of what your teenager is doing. It was exhausting. I only had 2 kids 3 years apart, but we had to monitor what was going on. They still managed to get in trouble at times. They made it into adulthood in one piece without a criminal record and went to college, graduated college and are responsible adults that take care of their families. So It was worth it and it was a lot of work as parents. We were not their friends and we had no trouble telling them what was right and what was wrong. They managed to like us later on.....
You raised your children like I raised mine. My Daughter gave me gray hair!! My Son, on the other hand, was a “dream” teenager. But you are correct, you cannot be a teenagers “buddy.” You can let your child know that they can bring anything to you, no subject is off limits. Letting them know that you aren’t trying to keep them from having a good time is harder to convince them of~!!! Mine stayed out of jail too, and one just graduated from college with a top degree. They are working and productive. That they know the difference between right and wrong is the greatest gift a parent can give a child.
I feel bad for what I put my parents through. I was wild and somehow made it to adulthood. I would jump out of a second story window to sneak out in the middle of the night. There wasn’t really any way for them to know that I was doing that at the time. Now everyone has cameras lol
I'm sure that they knew that you were right and you instilled a sense of responsibility and purpose in them. They like and appreciate you now.
@@DottieMinerva Hello Daughter!! LOL! Yes, my Daughter jumped out of our second story window onto the storage shed so she could be out at night with her friends. For quite a number of years she wanted to stay up all night and sleep all day!! Boy, those were tough years!! When she got ready to be on her own I asked her to tell me what I did right and what I did wrong, and to be honest about it. She said, “You taught me the difference between right and wrong, and you were a little bit too strict.” I figured every 18 year old thinks their parents were “too strict.” When she had children she called me up one day and said: “MOM! I apologize for EVERYTHING I did to you. Oh my God! I didn’t know it would be this hard!!!” LOL! Yep, they find out sooner or later. Glad you made it!!
@@Kuulei265 haha that’s the truth! You suddenly understand everything your parents did once you have kids. You did a great job raising your daughter, teenage girls can be a handful but it’s great when you come out on the other side of it. I love my adult relationship with my mom and dad.
I taught high school for thirty years and it was so easy to spot the kids who had parenting and those that didn't. I've told many parents when their teens get mad at them about curfews, video game and phone restrictions, etc. that it means, as parents, they are doing a great job.
Actually it's when they DON'T get mad, it's cause they are used to restrictions and don't make a big deal about them. It's then when the parents are doing a great job.
This case is exceedingly disturbing. Firstly, the fact that she was only 13 and the he is 14, and second the manner of death- 114 stab wounds! That’s an indication of tremendous brutality and rage.
In a way a feel bad seeing a 14 year old being charged as an adult. However if he is indeed the perpetrator, as it appears to be, he is a undoubtedly a danger to society and needs to be charged accordingly.
I think you are absolutely right regarding supervision. I believe it’s crucial and healthy for teenagers to have parental supervision.
Brilliant review as usual, thank you Dr. Grande.❤️
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You overestimate this hack.
I can't help but to feel entitlement likely played a huge part. A hell of a lot of teenage boys have the reek of incel about them, they may not be one but they certainly act like them.
Drug abuse is frequently linked to unusual cruelty and lack of empathy. RIP Tristyn
@@chrisbova9686 Can you please elaborate?
Tristyn was a friend and teammate of my daughter. I can not comprehend the evilness of all this. The poor poor Bailey family. We pray for them every day.
What are the demographics of this neighborhood? Sounds like many aspects of this are being covered up, and I think I may have a good guess as to why.
Very evil, I couldn't believe a 14 year old male stabbed this 13 year old female 114 times.
if my daughter was a friend of someone who got murdered meddling with guys like Aiden, i will be on constant watch from then on
i mean like people sort themselves out at around this age
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@@jet4415 I don't believe it. I think others were involved and many things about this are being covered up, for "political" reasons.
I’ve followed this on local news as it happened close to where I live. Aiden Fucci’s father had a long rap sheet including battery, being arrested at one time for engaging in sexual activity with a minor and another for child abuse, injury, and neglect. Not saying there’s any excuse for what Aiden did, but it seems like what happened to him in his childhood probably contributed.
BS, I stay in Jax beach. Needless to say I’ve been following this murder (just like everyone in the surrounding areas) from the on set.
That boy had satanic shit in his room along with many other disturbing things. He knew right from wrong and chose the latter. Str8 pos along with his parents but that doesn’t negate the fact that he knew what was wrong.
The apple does not fall far from the tree. In other words, bad parents beget bad kid(s).
@@r.c.l2569 hes 14. He should know right from wrong, yes, but to chalk this up to a 14 year old simply being a "piece of shit" is dishonest. Your experiences in life form your world view & personality. If his father was in fact a child rapist & child abuser you REALLY think that didn't negatively effect his child and that the kid just chose to be a bad person? Cases like these are much more complex. Your input is useless & moot
@@r.c.l2569 I don't think they're saying that he _didn't_ know right from wrong. Given his age and how his parents are, however, his upbringing would have a lot to do with why his personality is so antisocial and unempathetic. One can know that murder is against the law at the time of committing it, yet also not care about the consequences and not feel any remorse about it.
How did the father not do prison time for the incident with the minor? Something isn't right.
Grande has taken the cactus game to another level.
Literally & figuratively….(all the prickly shade he interjects here and there … has increased and is now his signature)
I don't believe it's a game. I think it has turned into a way of life.
I have started collecting a few too. Grande has inspired me.
Yeah, what's that book in the background though?? Harm reduction by whom??
@@jamesbuttery3862 Grande himself. Link in the description
This kid's problematic behavior was well known to the school officials and whenever he was in trouble, he'd be suspended and kept home with his inept parents. Child abuse history may come up later as well, as it seems his bio father went to prison for child abuse. Our system has to be more proactive on all fronts, especially with the current mental health crisis we're witnessing in the young. I live where this happened.
Some parents want to be their child’s “friend” or the “cool parent” (permissive) but that rarely turns out well. If you love your children parent and mentor them. Offer good learning experiences and opportunities.
@@AetherNightmare it’s all about the environment i don’t think it’s one single factor , I think that really does have some effect on someone to a certain extent but this kid was fucked to start
The time of night!
This happens with a lot of single mothers
"The drug dealer denied having anything to do with her death. The police cleared him of any wrongdoing; perhaps he had an alibi, like maybe he was dealing drugs."
I appreciate the humor in your videos so much. ❤
Lmao I didn’t even notice that😂
To those of you who haven't yet - I highly recommend checking out the podcast. I was shocked at how little views its getting. If you want to see Dr. Grande in a more casual manner, its really great!
Well what's it called??
@@jamesbuttery3862 he links its in the video description
@@jamesbuttery3862 Its Bella Grande Media.
@@monkeytennis7477 Think he'll do a duet with Lady GaGa any time soon? : )
@@JustDr.S 😂
I've waited for the joke about the dealer and I was not disappointed - thx Dr. G
This happened about two miles down the street from where I live. Our whole community was and still is in absolute shock. Thank you for making a video on this subject that hits so close to home for myself and my community.
Aiden is a lost soul. I am positive he would and still may kill again.
That is if he doesn’t end up getting killed.
He clearly enjoyed killing her.
So yes I’m sure he would kill again.
Right, he appears to have no remorse whatsoever!
I was thinking the same thing. He may end up killing an inmate in prison.
This is the only video I have seen that has given *all* the details of the case, including that of the victim. It was also presented in such a respectful, calm way. Thank you.
How when psychos hear voices in their head it always tells them to go and kill someone. How come the voice never tells them to do the ironing or the laundry?
Because it's usually BS, an attempt to use insanity as a defense.
Can kill but leaves messes and evidence
Because it isn’t there problem lol.
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Note to self: don't live in Florida to reduce your chances of being the subject matter on Dr. Grande's show.
I live in Florida, but not hear the part better known as South Alabama.
Ha ha I hope you do realize that this is all perception due to the fact that FL has open records laws so the media is able to find out about all the nut jobs whereas records are sealed in many other states.
Well nuts, I'm in Cali & everyone knows Cali is way worse than Fl. I must be doomed. I know! I'll move to...IDAHO!
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@@reneeolson4881 California has become to Idaho what NYC is to Florida. THINK OF THE CHILDREN and stay in your own state!
So true I lived in Fl and had a friend he got murdered in the house next door to my house
Fl is a messed up🥺
How horrible were these parents? Coaching their son to lie to the police, both telling him to, "Find a story and stick with it." And it's all being recorded? Mom washes his bloody jeans. Unbelievable. They should be in jail for bad parenting!
The bad parenting also gies for the girl's parents, out at 1am at 13, taking drugs, no supervision and maybe little idea who she was friends with
@@NellsTravelKitchen--How does anyone know she did drugs? Because Aiden said so to take suspicion off of himself?
I’ve drilled into all of my children’s heads that they are never to talk to the police without myself or their mother present. And to always invoke their right to shut the fuck up
@@NellsTravelKitchen shocking
This was preventable... and this is what happens to a child when you are born with parents that are as bad as it gets for a child. This young man will spend the rest of his life in prison and the parents " adults" will be loose on the streets and they are as responsible as if they had committed the murder themselves. They both need to spend every day in prison as cell mates to this boy. My Opinion.
@ Dr. Grande and community… A good parenting reminder. It takes an adult to be a real parent. Setting boundaries and holding those boundaries firm is one of the ways you can prepare your child for the real world. If you give them opportunities to grow and they do not, then that maybe on them. For example saying no or taking a child’s cell phone privileges away when they are displaying behaviors that are not healthy for their development. My dad used to say to me growing up that it’s important to teach your children boundaries or someone else will. Thank you 🤔❤️
When Aiden asked how Trystan's death is his problem.....It reminds me of when Cain said to God "Am I my brother's keeper?" after he murdered his brother Abel. Its very eerie.
Thanks for the intelligence, respect and kindness when discussing this, Dr Grande. As a mother and a grandmother, I cannot imagine how I would feel in ANY of the positions involved with this crime. I will hug my grandkids extra hard tonight (I'm lucky to have them and my son living with me right now).
I know. That’s how I feel too as a mom. Being the mom of the murderer and the victim is so awful either way. Obviously worse to lose your kid but still heartbreaking knowing your kid killed someone. Ugh
A grannie named Emily , is highly unsual
@@PHlophe you have no idea!!! I'm 50 and named after my grandmother. Growing up, the ONLY Emilys were 80 and older! Then, at 28 or so, all these babies named Emily came along. It's been odd, I must say. 🤔
You sound like an awesome Mom/Grandma!!! Very sweet comment. Made me feel better.
I read that title too fast and for a minute I thought that Dr. Fauci snapped
I’m crying laughing
@Lost BorderlineSoul who killed more gay people, him or Reagan.
me too 😭
A counselor, a serial killer, and a detective...
I've pre-ordered!!!
One of details of this horrific case that really unsettled me, besides the murder itself, was the fact that fourteen year-olds were out unsupervised at that time of the morning and that they had 'drug dealers'. I would wager that there must have been an incident earlier in the boys life that caused him to have a morbid fascination with knives.
This is Florida. I lived there all of the 90s, then visited in 2010. A male friend had bought a trailer home in Fort Lauderdale, not realizing that there was an $800./month lot fee. Huh? One evening, he went out. HIS Dealer, "Crystal Lakes," called on the phone. I got out of there but quick.
I can go the store and buy a drink unsupervised
But I don't live in America afterall
Child murderers freak me out! Dr. Grande, you should do a video about the old film “The Bad Seed”, it’s a very eerie movie😰
My Grandmother told about the "Bad Seed" she looked like a perfect little girl and made everything look like a bad accident. I saw the play on UA-cam a few years ago.
That movie shaped the way I saw the world, as a child. I never forgot how she wanted the spelling medal but the kid who did win it turned up dead with the pattern of her taps on his bloody skull.
I saw that movie at around age 12 and now 50 yrs later when reminded of it or occasionally thinking of it, it haunts me as to how evil she was.
epidemic of parents who don't pay attention.... that's a big part of the origin story for the majority of criminals
Parents who pay attention dont seem to care either way what their teenagers do as long as they dont have to confront them; they assume that their behavior is typical or normal and look the other way....Ignorance breeds more ignorance😞
Idiot parents need to stop letting the internet raise their kids for them. The internet is seriously corrupting peoples mental well-being and beliefs. Kids have never been as depressed and suicidal as they are today and it correlates directly with the proliferation of the internet
@@lanceanthony198 Is the television a better option ?
Where there are Greta Thunburgs telling kids around the world that they have had their futures destroyed by their parents and ancestors ....The " how dare you ! " attitude running rampant and endorsed by big network television...
@@lanceanthony198 Thats like the inverse of whats happening. Everyone I knew when I was a teenager who wanted to kill themselves had parents who were not really fair or kind. Some of those kids are still suicidal today and it is solely because of their terrible families. The internet is the sole place to escape their utterly miserable excuse for parents, so no, it's not the internet's fault, it's parents not taking responsibility in a large portion of cases
@@Noah_AWICB statistics would disagree with you. Human beings are not meant to stay in their rooms statically staring at a screen all day, it’s terrible for physical and mental health yet the internet enables that. Social anxiety and depression are at an all time high, there used to be no substitute for actually interacting with people, either you spent time with people or there was literally nothing to do.
My parents would have never allowed me to walk around the neighborhood at 1am.
They didn't know she was out. They were sleeping when she snuck out. Lots of teenagers do it and the parents never know because they aren't out getting murdered.
@@desertlover5027 at 13? Like okay maybe a high school but not a barely teen. Do people not have alarms in their house that go off when you open the window/door at night
@@brittneyharmon6647 i know plenty of people who snuck out at 13 lmao its a lot more common than you think.. and not everyone has alarms in there house like that i actually know a lot of people who dont have alarms on their windows and shit..
@@brittneyharmon6647 my niece who is 12 snuck out of her house a few weeks ago. My sister doesn’t have alarms in her windows. It happens more than you think. Luckily my sister went down for a drink and noticed the window wide open.
@@brittneyharmon6647 Nothing like blaming the victim
Hi Dr. Grande 💛 I love you! Thanks for all the great content. Can you please do the Summer Wells case? 😚
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I do tutoring for a living and have two students who were acquainted with Aiden at school. This has shaken the community (15 minutes south of Jacksonville, Florida) to the core especially the kids who knew one or both of them. Both of the students of mine said that this boy was very "odd." He apparently had very few friends and didn't seem to want to make any. He seemed depressed. There were warning signs. Much of a loner. In contrast the victim was quite popular. They didn't run in the same crowd at ALL at least at school. The buying and selling of drugs seemed to be their connection. (Speculation by my students). After this incident I do know that the police really have cracked down hard on these middle school kids buying and selling drugs even on school property. Many names have surfaced because of this investigation and the police were made aware of quite a few kids who were "dealers" from the nearby high school. Not that I think that was related to this crime necessarily. This area (not where I live as I'm in Jax)) is a very affluent area where these kids live. Many of the kids are very "entitled" and the horrible part is that the reaction of Aiden's parents doesn't even surprise me. It will probably end up being another case of "affluenza." Tragic. Just tragic. I would love to see Doctor G do a video on that phenomenon.
@@mischaraine1645 I have no way of knowing of course yet. This is just speculation from "rumors" that go around as usual. At least two of the news media interviews with the parents however are consistent in that they are declaring that "their boy was framed by the police." These cases just seem to keep popping up around the country where the defense attorneys use this "affluenza" as a defense (as in the children didn't know what was right or wrong because they were so spoiled and entitled). It doesn't make any sense to me. I certainly hope that isn't the case here and the boy serves the maximum sentence that can be imposed upon a fourteen-year-old if he is found guilty. In addition, I feel the child needs serious help obviously and as a teacher it is so distressing to see things like this. I don't believe prison is the best place for a child to get mental health treatment but I'm not sure what the alternative is in this day and age.
I've never been this early for you, Doctor Grande! What a great way to enjoy my Sunday afternoon! I always enjoy your content (and your humor!).
Grande psychoanalyzing the whole drugdealer sich in a joke
Drugdealer : "I didn't commit this crime, because I was busy committing another crime."
Drug dealers do other things besides selling drugs you know. They shop, go to the movies, go to dates, pick up children from school, they're people like you an me. Only their business is considered illegal.
@@DonPeyote420 You're right, and that's everybody... Everybody has a life.
I think you're missing the context of this. It is joke first of all. But despite that; It speaks deeper about the issue that "being one kind of criminal, and not the other - doesn't exempt you in any way."
It's the equivalent of a situation, where a person probably kills people, and he holds that to substantiate the fact that he wasn't doing, what's probably considered, an even more severe crime.
One doesn't cancel out the other.
@@skehlaaj oh, no, I know it's a joke, I'm also responding to this with a joke - in the style of observational comedy, slice of life.
@@DonPeyote420 some kill people too
Glad you covered this case!
Thanks, doc. Such a sad and scary case. Makes me wonder, "Can someone be born a monster?" My gut says no. But then I hear these stories and think otherwise.
People can 100% be born with the genetic predisposition for certain mental health issues. All it takes is one wrong event to happen to trigger those mental health conditions. The teenage/young adult years are when most schizo effective disorders, ASD/NPD, etc. develop or become obvious to outsiders. There are always signs beforehand, but most people either aren’t trained in recognizing them, or have no authority and thus cannot do anything about the situation.
@@-MaryPoppins- The sad thing is many of these out of control criminal teens showed signs as younger children. I don't know in this boy but from the description of his behaviors by friends and family, I would guess he showed disturbing signs at a much younger age. If his early grade school teachers were asked and could be honest, I bet they would say he was a problem kid and had strange behaviors then. As a recently retired teacher, I saw a few during the 28 years who exhibited very alarming behaviors. ( violence toward adults and classmates, talk of wanting to hurt animals and people, fits of rage destroying textbooks classroom materials, self harm, all at the ages of six, seven, eight. Guidance counselers, principals, parents all looked the other way as to not get involved.)
My oldest brother has severe mental health issues, I’ve always said my mother would help him bury the body if he killed anyone.
What mental issues are they?
Being proactive rather than reactive is very good counsel, Doctor Grande, thank you. 🌵
I've heard about this kid, but really I'm here for the Grande flora collection 🌵🌵🌵🌵🌵
As always! 🙂
On many occasions in various videos you have posted, I've thought to myself, that I hope your wife and kiddos recognize how lucky they are. Never have I heard such insightful tokens of wisdom about partnerships, loyalty, behavioral appropriateness and truly mindful, engaged parenting. It's like your intellect, combined with your passion for your career choice, have enabled you to not just practice your skill, but truly learn important life lessons from so many client's and case studies, allowing you to clearly see and understand exactly what NOT to do and most importantly, how one might actually GET IT RIGHT. I genuinely respect, appreciate and enjoy your efforts in areas I wish were compulsory life lesson classes for so many. At least, here in Australia, even at top performing schools and college, such lessons, as you mentioned, come down to the parent's personal involvement. Many of whom, are perhaps not engaged, educated or equipped with the skills, knowledge or maybe even time, to know how to effectively parent, or maybe they do but as you said, consider it important for their child to learn from experience. Sometimes I really question how things got to this point. Having lived in the US and Australia, parenting styles really are quite similar it seems. And I see more divorce, myself included in the casualties. I'm no expert, but having experienced a narcissistic hubby, I came across your channel hoping to learn and understand more. Hoping not to have history repeat itself. The one thing that I have felt, and perhaps this just comes down to me and may not be so for the majority, is that it seems like COMMUNITY is slipping through our fingers. I don't particularly know what it may have been like for previous generations, but to me, it seems like we're all on our own for the most part. And many of us are getting it wrong.. Not through lack of trying, but without community we don't learn and grow from each other's experiences. People are getting divorced rather than learning how to work through relationship challenges. I don't mean to suggest divorce is never appropriate. But I sense that this is going full circle. Parent's aren't investing their time and energy and working on their parenting skills. Helping their children learn appropriate behaviors. Perhaps parent's don't have community support systems in place to help them understand how to handle situations or cope when they could truly use the help. It seems the elderly are placed into assisted living when perhaps we should be engaging with them when appropriate. Life skills and lessons are being lost.
In our rush to get ahead it feels like we're all falling behind.
Growing up in Australia, certainly things were different perhaps than they were in the US. But I have a sense of loss. I recall dinners every night with my whole family at the table. If someone was going to be late we would wait so we could share the meal together. I recall frequently cooking dinner with my mum and siblings and lots of conversation. I recall long discussions at the dinner table and in our teens I recall we gave our parent's some challenges they had to work through WITH US. Maybe this still exists and I simply haven't seen it. It feels like everyone's crossing paths but not taking the time to engage. Being old wasn't something to attempt to surgically conceal with face lifts, rather, the wisdom something to admire and see the beauty in. And after my Pa passed away, my Nana moved into the spare room until she passed at 96yrs young. And we listened to her stories and she was a valued member of the family. There were no cell phone's at the dinner table. After a day of horse riding and gardening chores on the weekend, I sat on the front porch and watched the sunset, listening to the cricket or rugby with my Dad. He took me to my sport's practice. Mum packed my school lunch every day. I'm 44 but I feel like I'm describing something that makes me seem 74.
I think technology, education, growth, knowledge, learning and advancement are essential and so important. But. I guess I want us to "remember" too. I don't want us to lose touch with what's truly important. Connection with each other in real and meaningful ways so we can keep learning and growing together.
I think I need to find my tribe, my connection. We all deserve that.
Thanks for your wise and thought provoking commentary. I just love 'em! 😉🦘
What gets me is why Aiden's girlfriend or other friends didn't say anything to responsible adults about his killing fantasies. You nailed it on the head about parents not knowing what their kids are doing and I have to wonder if that separation of life experiences teaches kids that grown ups are not an option to report these things to.
@@thekurtcobainfoundation4200 Hon, you just said that he set your jeans on fire while YOU WERE WEARING THEM! So yes he did try to hurt you! As an older and wiser woman, I can tell you, men who behave like this ONLY GET WORSE and do worse things. NEVER, make excuse for bad behaviour! Towards you or anyone you ca re about! Never get involved with people who dont respect you and your boundaries. Have self respect and high standards when it comes to makijg friends and dating men. You deserve better then a drug addict, they will always bring you down to their level. Remember ,you are the prize ,you are unique and deserve a healthy and mutually loving relationship. There are millions of people out there, so if someone is bad to you ,you will find someone else!
They have been taught to tell about guns but not knives. I know that sounds simplistic, but it isn't. Kids that age have a default not to tell. They must be expressly taught to tell.
@@thekurtcobainfoundation4200 Take the sage advice of other posts! Fire is horrible, and a horrible sign.
The rest of your post sounds like he might have a madonna/whore complex. Those men often turn on a woman after they become intimate, and then they become dangerous. Or, they will sleep with their future wives only to have children, and frequent prostitutes the rest of the time. Very, very bad. Sometimes these people go on to murder prostitutes. The point is, the fact that he sees you as too pure to ask you to do these other things now does NOT mean he respects you as a human being. He puts you on a pedestal to satisfy his needs.
@Deirdre Evangelista
Your comment is very true and explained well.
I was confused by the "he never hurt _me"_ immediately after she said he set her pants on fire and his friend (ie: not him) put it out.
Seems similar to hybristophiliac women: lusting after dangerous men, refusing to admit to themselves that no, they wouldn't be the "exception;" if someone is incapable of empathizing with others, they wouldn't single out one lucky individual for whom to suddenly develop empathy.
@Redwood Rebelgirl
Bundy did try to kill one of his long-term girlfriends.
I can't remember which one, but he admitted to blocking off her house's door/windows and messing with her fireplace so it emptied smoke into the home while she slept one night.
She woke up coughing, fixed the problem (the fireplace) and didn't question it at the time.
This is only channel i can watch that is only a single person talking the whole time. His assessments and break down of cases is on point !
Monitor their teenagers? From the day children are born, one has signed up to monitor them for at least 2 1/2 decades!!!!
3 and a half decades, and mine still monitor me 😆
Absolutely!
three decades 🤗
Really, it's a life sentence!
I have a 21 year old and a 31 year old and they were both a little disruptive in their teens but I myself was way worse! I told them early on they could never pull anything over me that I didn’t already know about! I am thankful they are both now contributing members of society with good careers and plenty of goals!
I have a adult stepdaughter that has been to jail, prison, lost her kids, and now using heroin and we were just as involved with her life early in her teen years she stole cars and went to a wilderness camp for children at risk at 13. She just never seemed to comprehend that consequences came with her actions. Early in her childhood she was in and out of hotel rooms with her mom and I still wonder to this day if she was sexually assaulted and physically abused which led to her defiant behavior as a teenager. You just never know.
We are scared that to get that phone call of drug overdose but she can only help herself at this point.
I don't understand how Tristyn's parents did not know she was not home til the next morning! I see some dysfunction in that family as well. My condolences to her family, this is such a heart breaking story.
I do too. I totally agree with you
Her parents can’t be given a pass either… They need some Parenting Classes!
Yeah, mom and dad were probably well aware of their son's proclivity for violent behavior but didn't do a damn thing about it. The interview seemed strangely calm.
**The cacti are taking over the set!**
The father has done time for abuse, so the apple is falling near the tree in this case.
Both prenats had no clue where their children were or that they did drugs. We need to do better with our children
Dr Grande _is_ a cactus. Those "decorations" are his offspring.
Just watched sentencing. This was truly shockingly unbelievable!
It severely pisses me off how many parents unleash their damaged children on the world, and enable them to harm others.
Also, how many parents seem to simply throw their kids to the wolves to be at the mercy of the world.
This is exactly how horrors like those one occur, over and over.
A lot of parents are overworked - I get it. Maintaining a family is hard.
But why don't you THINK about that BEFORE you start your family?
Too many people procreate simply as a matter of course for self-affirmation of their egos.
Parents do not only have a duty to their children, but they also have a duty to the society and community around them to rear healthy individuals who will benefit (or at least not negatively affect) said society.
This is how civilization is maintained. The family unit is the building block.
I know parents are not always to blame, but things have gotten to the point where I'm beginning to believe that parents need to be held accountable for the violent crimes of their minor children under specific circumstances.
Society cannot stop the wrong people from procreating, but it should sure as hell hold them accountable for their incompetent parenting.
Bad parents create the criminals of the future that threaten the lives of the rest of us.
Sometimes criminals have the best of families I just think some people are born into it like there's some sort of a missing gene as well I call it... I had a brother like that and he never seemed to have gotten past I'd say age 14 or 15 and he was always in and out of trouble his entire life and there's probably things he did that I know nothing of based on a few things he told me but I mean he he was so caught up in the face he actually look like a monster I still loved him because he was my brother even though when we grew up we were mortal enemies but I had a sense of I guess sympathy for him that he didn't seem to be able to get it and you know go on with some sort of normal life anyway he died I'd say 10 to 15 years ago with no family know anything except for my brother who's a pastor and they were very close growing up so I guess Paul's information must have been in his wallet or something for them to call and my brother paid for his funeral that's about it I didn't even know he had died till after the fact yes I have a strange family but for the most part we're all very productive people do our best to pay taxes live by the rules raise our children in the church insist on at least a decent education and allow our kids some leniency because of our own growing up but yet we know I should say they know what a belt is it's just the way I believe and guess what they're okay they're pretty good old kids grown adults now with families of their own so I'm just saying some kids have perfect families if they become crazier criminals addicts I know for sure I've seen it
This story really got me. Unimaginable how he could do that. How can you let your kids stay out that late. Nice shirt DR grande 👕
This is a tragic local story where I live. Thank you.
This happened near where I live. So horrific. Thank you for covering this Dr. Grande.
So great to hear from you, Dr. Grande! Always good content.
Your conclusion, comments, and admonition to parents, excellent.
What about the "girlfriend" that stayed with Aiden through MULTIPLE incidents where he pretended to slit her throat? What internal messages about her value/lack of value is she carrying at only 13 or 14 years old? Girls need to have their self value nurtured and learn VERY early that it is never okay for a boy to disrespect, threaten, or inflict violence on them.
Best lesson I ever learned from my mom was essentially "one strike and they're out". I learned she had broken off her first engagement at 20 when her fiance slapped her during an argument. She said he begged, cried, sent flowers, even plead with her father to help, etc., but she NEVER took him back. She forgave him in her heart and said he never showed any other violent tendencies, but she pointed out that if forgiven he would have no real consequence for his action. Why not do it again down the road? Or worse? If he faced huge consequences the first time (by losing her) he would hopefully not continue or escalate that behavior with other women in the future. She said you have to value yourself even if someone else doesn't. BEST LESSON EVER.
Been waiting in anticipation for you to cover this case after hearing about it on the news!
The scarier part of this case to me is the fact that the parents knew about the murder yet attempted to cover it up. I know defending your family is one thing, but that just some kind of lack of empathy to me. I definitely think the parents need to be monitored.
I think they were defending themselves first and foremost.
When you want the facts, Dr G is the place to be. ❤️
“Do you know where your children are?” Both sets of parents are learning this lesson the hard way.
Such an excellent video, Dr. Grande! ♡♡
The teenage years are without a doubt the most terrifying, they need their parents to be the watchers and their voice of strong reason and wisdom throughout those scary years.
I've been following this case since it broke. So horrific! Although I believe an in depth psychological review of the defendant is necessary and may give us some insight, I absolutely believe he is guilty and needs to be held accountable for his atrocious actions, no matter his age. There is a family that has lost their daughter in the most brutal way. Do I hope he can be rehabilitated? Yes. But until we understand why he chose to do this, I'm not sure if he can be or not.
Thank you Dr. for another professional analysis and sharing your thoughts on this case.
I appreciate you speaking your thoughts on monitoring teenage children
Thank you for bringing up the fact that there were teens out at night without their parents knowledge. Teens are impulsive. They do what seems right at the moment. They do not expect to go out at night and get murdered. Apparently, no one knew Tristyn was out that night. Expecting your teen to “stay home” while you go do something else is taking an unnecessary chance. Parents do need to do a better job of thinking about every situation their teen could get into. This was a tragic case all around.
I agree. Dr. Grande is the first commentator I’ve heard to question why Tristyn was also out so very late. Such a senseless tragedy.
Wow, Dr. Grande addressed all sides on this. without sounding like he was blaming the victim. No small feat. Kudos.
Tragic all around. I am grateful my kids and myself got through the teenage years as difficult as those times were for all of us.
Finally somebody who knows how the game work and been thru the struggling.
I guess I suffer as Good Girl Syndrome as a kid. I was too afraid to disappoint my mother. Do chores, study, no absenteeism/tardiness in school. I never experience this type of trouble, but I LIVE to watch it in UA-cam. Parenting is the hardest job in a lifetime.
Yes! I've been looking forward to this. So many of us asked for this and I want to thank you for researching it.
Thank you for a balanced and level-headed analysis.
Yep
Can you analyze the case of the missing mom in San Diego? Maya Milliete case is so weird and her husband looks SO guilty! I fear it will become a cold case.
Great idea. I think we all realized she was sadly, never coming home.
I fear for the children.He is to close to snapping & has too many guns.
That audio with what sounds for sure like gunshots is so disturbing
@@blazefairchild465 I agree. He's so creepy! And he's keeping the kids from her side of the family. I feel like those poor kids know a lot and that's why he's refusing to let them visit with their family members. Such a tragic situation.
He was found guilty! Huzzah ✨
Another excellent job Dr. Grande.
I am a simple girl, I see Dr. Grande I klick "like"
You explain everything so well I really enjoy your videos
I hurt so badly for both families. As a mother of two girls it would be so devastating to know what my daughter went through and that her life was taken. Also as a stepmother of 2 boys with severe mental illness I know that is so very hard and heartbreaking. Knowing one of them murdered someone so viciously and would be more than likely going to prison forever before they were old enough to drive would be unimaginable. My prayers are with both families.
My sympathies are only with the girl 's family
Each video your background gets better and better! Thank you again for your analysis, Dr. Grande!
My brother lives a few blocks from where this all happened. Really rocked the neighborhood. God bless Tristyn and her family.
God obviously didn't bless her or her family.
@GoGreen1977, the devil is the evil one!
@@GoGreen1977 agreed. If this is god’s way of blessing them then maybe he should stay out of things
Your recap and analysis of these cases are spot on. Your sarcastic comments regarding actions REALLY take away from your overall posting though.
DUDE THANK YOU I've wondered about this case for the longest time, thank you for explaining what you think happened, really interesting listening to a professional's point of view
Thank you!! My kids are grown now, but that's how they were raised. They knew, full well, I was going to be in their business. It was a bit easier because cell phones weren't as prevalent, but the internet was.
I see way too often, friends not having a clue what their kids are doing. They have phones that the parents pay for, but wouldn't dream of going through. They have enough money to get in trouble with and aren't expected to account for their spending. They take off without a word; parents don't know where they're going or who they're with.
They're still kids!! Stop treating them like adults! Yeah, it's easier...until it isn't because they're missing or arrested.
I can’t imagine what that poor baby went through. Jesus Christ
I’ve been watching videos on this case and yours is by far my favourite. You had all the information and displayed it perfectly. You also used the right words to it. Definitely will give you a follow and continue watching your videos 👍🏼
If i was dealing drugs while the murder occured you can best believe given the choice between being xharged with murder or dealing drugs. I would gladly admit to dealing drugs if it was my aliby and was true
WTH? This is the weirdest comment! 🤔
Me, too! "I couldn't have done it! I was at 33 Mikess St. from 10- midnight selling crack to the Mallard brothers, Huey, Duey, and Louie." Case Closed! ⚖
@@JustDr.S hell i would let them pin all kinds of drug charges on me possession...distrobution....using.....manufacturing. All that ,just keep those murder charges away from me!!"yeah,yeah, i was making meth growing weed importing coke,and heroin and i was selling it and using it yep all that. But i didnt kill anyone!!
@@kellyhill430 lol. I'd do the same thing. If I was going to jail, I'd volunteer the information, they wouldn't even have to ask. Rather be locked up for drugs, than murdering a teenaged girl! Plus, I'd tell them everything I knew or heard of about the murder. I'm not covering for a murderer like this guy! Cops wouldn't even charge you, then!
@@JustDr.S yes they would, sorry to break your bubble though. You think cops are your friends and let one slide? Lmfao. Matter fact, they’d have you and him in the same cell. Enjoy!
Very well spoken 😊
Something really upsetting to me is how the parents yelled at him for posting police car selfies on snapchat not because it was disrespectful or incriminating but bc it was making THEM look bad on social media. Speaks volumes about their view of their son’s MURDER and their parenting in general.
Your videos are so soothing despite the topic
So glad ya did this case! Wait until ya see what he did today for his preliminary hearing😒 He put on a show and it was rescheduled for most likely a psych eval... WOW.Maybe could you do an update?
Very well said about parents monitoring their children. Most parents are so afraid of hurting their precious children's feelings. They don't discipline til it's too late. This causes more harm then good.
It would be really great to hear your breakdown of the Steven Prescott case. We study it in schools in Canada. I'd love your perspective
Parenting advice from Dr. G - as a toddler parents, I’ll take it anytime!
The capacity for teenagers to self destruct amazes me. It’s like they are incapable of making a single bad decision, they have to make at least five in rapid succession and then set something on fire. I agree with you Dr Grande-they need supervision, discipline and boundaries to protect them from themselves, at least until they have enough experience to realize that death is something that could actually happen to them. It’s such a shame that in this case it did.
I was hoping you would talk about this case. Such a brutal and senseless murder. Thank you for your analysis Dr Grande!💙💙
What is a 14-year-old girl doing out walking around at 2:00 a.m.?? When I was in high school me and my boyfriend used to hang out at his mother's house or walk between my street and his Street which were right up against each other but we were 18 years old! Sometimes we went to the playground at the elementary school in my backyard but 14 years old? I was in the house and in my room by 11:00 p.m. at the latest!
this case breaks my heart. thank you for covering it
So glad your covering this. It had gone quiet the last few weeks. I'm feeling tired and fed up and so happy you posted! Im currently 28/29 weeks pregnant and got diagnosed with gestational diabetes on Friday and I've been feeling so anxious about it! Glad you posted to atleast take my mind of it all for a few mins!
Helen, just take care and chill. Happy for you and your baby!
@@sarahalbers5555 thanks 😊 it's all new to me and I've been feeling completely overwhelmed. I didn't have it in my first pregnancy so it's all new and so far I can't even get my glucometer to actually register a reading! All the unknowns and complications that could happen are scary. Just want this last 10 odd weeks of pregnancy to go fast ! Xx
@@hellsbells1576 Gestational diabetes is very serious. Please take your meter to your doctors office so they can show you how to use it. Congrats on the baby! and please take good care of yourself.
@@2cindilu440 I have my information video call about it Tuesday I just picked up the kit and watched the NHS how too videos etc and thought I'd try it out even though the midwife said wait until after the meeting. If I'm stuck after that I'll go to the maternity and get them to demonstrate. It just gave an error code when I tried.
This story reminded me of my niece when she went through her teenage years. Just like tristen, she would sneak out at night just to do seemingly harmless, normal teenage things like walking around the block with her friends and occasionally smoking pot. When I heard Tristen was found on Racetrack Rd that gave me goosebumps bc that's the name of the road my niece also lived off of (though in a different state). My sister often had no idea about what went on and she was married to a police officer. They even had an alarm system (granted this was 10 years ago) but kids will amaze you with what they can figure out.
Poor Tristyn. My heart goes out to her family. 💔
It's been a hot minute since I could keep up with this channel, but the new wooden cactuses bring me sooooooo much joy 💛