Who do you surround yourself with? |
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Do you have the right people in your inner circle? The people we surround ourselves with can have a profound impact on how we see ourselves.
The Pygmalion Effect is a prime example of how others' beliefs and expectations of us can shape our reality by shaping our own self-perception.
The premise is simple. When someone believes in us and has high expectations for what we’re capable of, we tend to rise to meet those expectations. In the same way, if someone has low expectations of us and doesn’t believe in our capability or potential, we may internalize those beliefs and place limit on our potential (Fowler & Christakis, 2008; Friedrich et al., 2015; Baudson et al., 2016; Harris & Orth, 2020).
So take a moment now to consider who you spend the most time with and how you feel when you’re around them.
If you don't have an inner circle who believes in you and instills you with a sense of belief and hope about what’s possible, it's time to find one.
Don't leave your support system to chance.
Seek out people who believe in you and encourage you to pursue what you desire. Connect with mentors, join social groups, or seek out like-minded individuals who share your values and interests.
If you have a supportive inner circle, tag them in the comments to let them know! 👇
Full references:
-Fowler, J. H., & Christakis, N. A. (2008). Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study. Bmj, 337.
-Friedrich, A., Flunger, B., Nagengast, B., Jonkmann, K., & Trautwein, U. (2015). Pygmalion effects in the classroom: Teacher expectancy effects on students' math achievement. Contemporary Educational Psychology, 41, 1-12.
-Baudson, T. G., Fischbach, A., & Preckel, F. (2016). Teacher judgments as measures of children's cognitive ability: A multilevel analysis. Learning and Individual Differences, 52, 148-156.
-Harris, M. A., & Orth, U. (2020). The link between self-esteem and social relationships: A meta-analysis of longitudinal studies. Journal of personality and social psychology, 119(6), 1459.
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What about those people who live in loneliness.
@@anonymousyoutubemember try to make friends.
What If you don't have people in your inner circle?
What if these people are none other than my parents?! I'm a girl, so It's not possible for me to take step for me..only tolerating..
Hey can you give up some tricks and advice on how to find a new circle?
I have that circle with me, and it only contains me 😂 and ofcourse my books
😂
Same here
same here 😭
I thought that I am only the one who doesn’t have inner circle
@@ifnotnowthenwhen9063 you are wrong
Many people don't have
People spend most of their time with themselves, yet the voice inside their head is often the greatest heckler and naysayer they have. For me, inner circle means the atmosphere we have inside our heads.
It can’t be described better than this ! Well said .
@@annieb5619 thanks. 🙏
Need to find supportive people for mental peace and growth😊
You can consider me
My mom used to say the same. If your friends put you down & keep you from growth. Find a new circle.
Easier said than done to find a supportive circle these days
I hear excuses. Put yourself out there. Hobbies e.g. dancing, tennis , fitness, intellectual+think-tanks, professional -office groups. Basically find things you care about, and you will have ppl around you
@@energy12211 I have hobbies and people around me, that doesn’t mean people are the supportive kind ;-)
@@Unknownuser15160 sorry to hear that. Time to re-evaluate circle I guess. You got this.
It starts with you.. if you become one yourself, you'll attract those right people to you..
Hence, my closest circle is me❤... People might see ur worth today and not tomorrow or might have varied growth mentality.. But, u r ur own hero forever ❤
Am always asking God to surround me an He love and believe in me! Am contented and so happy with that
So true. My friends are solid ppl and they are there for me and visa/versa thick and thin. Lovely people indeed.
"Surround yourself with the
dreamers and the doers, the
believers and the thinkers, but
most of all, surround yourself
with those who see the
greatness within you, even
when you don't see it
yourself."- Edmund Lee
📌"Show me your friends and I'll show you your future."
-Dan Pena💜
You right, but you are in my outer circle and I look upto you.
I'm a believer and I try to surround myself with positive.❤️
The people, thoughts and content we surround ourselves with matters. Positivity spreads happiness, peace, hope, motivation and encouragement; whereas negativity breeds fear, anxiety, doubt and hopelessness. One adds value to our lives and uplifts us while the other subtracts it and brings us down. This clip is a great reminder that we are not for everyone and everyone is not for us and knowing the difference will help us continue to surround ourselves with those that add to our lives and distance ourselves from those that do not. 💛 Great video Shade 🙌 Your content continues to help inspire, motivate and make me self reflect on the ways I can keep on improving my life not only myself, but for others as well. 🙏🕊️😌🫶😊
Great video. I feel there will be all sorts of people around us. It depends on our choice whom to mingle with. We need to work with them whatsoever be the atmosphere. But try to cultivate positivity and less influenced by the negative vibrations. If we are strong enough no one can influence us.
This is the best you've presented. Thank you.
I believe it's true because our ego easily manipulates our emotions. Once we find Self, no one CAN influences us as we live fear, judgment, and gruge FREE!!!
God bless
I need to find supportive people for mental peace growth 🙏
An eye opening video. I’m going to act on it ASAP!!!!
I Agree and Absolutely True
Looking for a new circle is true. Don't blame yourself but seek new circle. Simple. Thx.
No doubt about that, it’s so true!!
Shade Zahrai you are a genius. After watching lots of your old and new videos I came to a conclusion. It is not easy for the normal even developed mind to comprehend your knowledge about human psychology. You must have gained this knowledge through some tough exposure and experiences. I just love your work and learning a lot of things from your video. If somebody can define positivity in its true essence, it's you, Shade ❤
Absolutely correct!
Definetly right!
Yes of course, a new circle is needed .
The way the people you spend most of your time with think about you is very revealing of how you perceive yourself and there in lies your limitation. It’s ok to move past that circle ⭕️ and your comfort zone
We also have to be supportive and kind 😊
gotta be your own circle 🔵
Waw that’s huge!Easier said than done to change your circle
We spent lots of time with ourselves, believe In one self is critical no matter who in your circles are.
Scientific avoidance fades away when new research surfaces every time.
This is exactly true ❤❤
You have a blessed wonderful day and thank you for sharing
You're so right
Thank you Shade you’re right.🙏🏽👑✅🖤
There is 100 % right. 😊🎉
I ain't no circle,i got books.
And i feel heaven about myself.
Lady you may not be right.
It strikes hard to be alone.
@remembergandhi5583 not by choice
Sickness and being in the hse except for doctors appointments
Information given is quite interesting and clear.
We have a saying in Germany: Show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.
Exactly the same meaning in Russian language.
Dr. Bruce Lipton explains people learn bad habits in childhood by observing the environment and people, because brain is growing and at the same time subconscious mind is created, and brain saves all the experience into the subconscious mind, but the adult person is not aware of these programs from childhood, because they are subconscious programs and feelings, brain as a machine uses these programs as a tool to work.... but the problem is the programs are subconscious 95 percent, so in adulthood they are not even aware of these negative patterns and habits. because the conscious mind works only 5 percent or sometimes only 1 percent. The conscious mind is very creative loving and free, but works only 5 percent.......The subconscious mind works like a machine or computer program, based on thoughts,s and habits that you inherited from people and culture.....If you want to change bad habits you learned as an infant (when your brain was in a growing state) you have to practice meditation, metacognition, or Energy psychology and love empathy and gratitude more than 50 percent of the day......Then the miserable negative person may turn into a very loving happy, creative person who wants to help the community of people.
The truth has been told
❤❤❤Ultimate success is if you are successful in the next life. Let’s not forget our final destination just to be successful in this short life. This life is a test. Live life like a traveler on this planet. Peace ✌️
Spend time with yourself to know yourself.
People will eventually get tired of being your crutch. Believe in yourself. Some times friends don't have your back.
Exactly 💯 💯 💯
5 represents God’s grace ❤
Bless You Thank You 😊AMEN 👩🍼 😊
I spend 99% of my time Alone.😁
Its blissful.
☯️🧘♂️☯️
wise saying....."show me your friends and I will you who you are.."
Hello Professor
Thanks a lot for your interesting information.
I do appreciate your job
Super expressung skills 👌👌👌👌💐💐💐
Sad but true ✨✨✨🪷🦋
Doable for me… Yes …
Make that change happen ✌️🍀🌹
will start to analyse the circle. thanks great video
Or at least we can find few positive people to meet every now and then. I like the message
I did that personally long ago. Basically I got no friends outside of my family. It is far more difficult to do it at your work place.
I have a new inner circle and that is live alone with your dreams, goals and make money
True😊
I have that circle and they are family members and i love them
Thanks for yoyr amazing explanation ❤
Woah! This makes a ton of sense
True❤
True 😇😇😇
Correct😅❤loved it..Keep inspiring.🇮🇳🤗
This might truly be the most important thing to do in life.
"New Circle" ✅️
Do you have a full video? Would love to show it to my high school students. So many students come together in the wrong friend group and ends up being who they aren't.
It's admirable that you want to help your students also develop life skills and their individual moral compass.
I wish we could oblige but the video is from a client event so we can only share snippets.
i love this!
That’s 100% correct.
Generally i spend my lots of time in my office and unfortunately my all friends who lives in abroad and i inspire and influence by few motivational speaker and u r also inspired me and specially ur smile and eyes
This. Sooo true..I have about 5 but mostly I influence myself 😅😂❤❤❤
Totally! ⚡️
That smile! ❤
ok, i heard this thing. but feeling abt own self is sth new. never thought of it that way
Thank's for info monk last night teacher.
Thank you are knowledgeable
Its true❤
Proverbs 13:20 says Walk with the wise and become wise for a companion of fools suffers harm.
I don't have 5people in my inner circle beleive in me (I have 5 but jealous about me ). I will not find a new circle, rather I believe how good I am and still stay with them focusing and achieving my goals
I need to really find a circle
you're amazing 👏🙏
Thank you
I spend time with God...
I get a lot of one to one
Funny that ✨🧘✨
fantastic expression
I don't spend time with 5 people, that sounds really extravagant. I spend time with 2 people, my boyfriend and my brother, I work alone and from time to time I spend an evening with the odd friend.
The most honest,sincere and loyal people whom you can put your trust on are the blood relations,this is not a mere thought but practical experience which no one can disagree for me the man who supported me most is my older brother,if he was not there for me I would have become a beggar,with nobody caring,and yet some people try to associate with you and all they can do is just talk.
I spend time with myself only soooo yah
Great.......
Amo suas aulas prof
So true
Myself, myself, myself, coworker or two, best friend, mom. That’s it. Lol
New circle ..😊
The bare truth
I believe that if no one believes me, I'm stronger than them. If I have to rely on people for confidence, I'll be paralyzed for the rest of my life. The natives had a ritual for the young man to have confidence. He had to survive obstacles without help from people, but put into practice what he was taught. He had to depend on himself; that's where a hero is born. This is why this generation is so emotionally weak. She speaks beautifully, it's like a sandcastle on the beach.
Ghenkis Khan's fabled analogy teaches that a single arrow can easily be broken but not multiples. Strength from unity does not imply no strength in character.
Faster alone, further together.
@@ShadeZahrai Character is what will determine who you are. Just like a person's gut tells how healthy he is. A bad character like Hitler covered himself with many layers, but he was defeated. The wisdom of others is educational and motivating. But if we learn to observe how different we are and at the same time we are similar but not the same, we would not generalize people.
There's nothing wrong with people not learning quickly. That's where we can see the ability to understand and discern the human being.
Indeed. "The light of a good character surpasseth the light of the sun."
Find yourself a new circle! Easier said then done. You know it is impossibly hard to find 1 good friend that you can trust and to find a completly new circle and pretend you previous circle is none of your concern that is just a fantasy.
Great 👌
Thanks.
💯💯
True dat! Good thing I prefer the company of my dog! It is reliable, easygoing, and suspicious of strangers! 😅
It's so hard to find good friends but I'm not saying I won't try
If you have a supportive inner circle, tag them in the comments to let them know! 👇
Full References:
-Fowler, J. H., & Christakis, N. A. (2008). Dynamic spread of happiness in a large social network: longitudinal analysis over 20 years in the Framingham Heart Study. Bmj, 337.
-Friedrich, A., Flunger, B., Nagengast, B., Jonkmann, K., & Trautwein, U. (2015). Pygmalion effects in the classroom: Teacher expectancy effects on students' math achievement. Contemporary Educational Psychology, 41, 1-12.
-Baudson, T. G., Fischbach, A., & Preckel, F. (2016). Teacher judgments as measures of children's cognitive ability: A multilevel analysis. Learning and Individual Differences, 52, 148-156.
-Harris, M. A., & Orth, U. (2020). The link between self-esteem and social relationships: A meta-analysis of longitudinal studies. Journal of personality and social psychology, 119(6), 1459.
What do you have to say about the concept of self efficacy and how that might be related to this?
Myself 😅
Awesome! Thank you!
It's me and the universe and that's all I need. Sigma male. Because every time I focus on someone they prove to me why I'm better off alone
Thanks Shade great content.
The inner circle is in your head and in your heart and if you don't have God in your inner circle you are going to be average. He is the only one who can truly make you feel and believe in your self because we're all connected there is a silver lining that runs through all of us and he is that silver lining his DNA is whiting us because he's the source of life. Salms 36:9