2021 was a rough year for me. I'm overweight and I lost 40 lbs in 2 months. People saw me at an event and complimented me on being thinner and asked what I was doing. I said "Thanks! Chronic stress, do not recommend!"
So bad 🙄💕 People really just need To stop commenting on people weight. Similar thing happened to me when I was in so much pain I couldn’t eat for months. Worst was my mom telling me I should try to keep the same weight when I was literally a stick. Now I weight more than I ever have and I’m just loving myself and being grateful for being happy and healthy.
@@vg2binkey884 it is but stress can make your body do crazy shit. I separated from my husband for 2 years and no matter how much i ate i lost at least 50lbs.
I'm torn on this. On one hand, you owe no one an explanation about your body 🤷♀️ on the other, I'm glad people love you and worry enough to say something. Sometimes we don't see an issue until it's pointed out to us. As long as you're conscious of it and doing OK that's all that matters ❤️
Yes some of us are legitimately concerned but it is so hard to express that without sounding like it’s shame. The thing is if you stay silent on (potential)ED, it could be really dangerous. So hard to navigate. The internet community can be really hard too many people trying to shame and be rude when legitimate concerns for someone is hard to bring up. And of course you don’t want to come across as a “concern trolling” it’s more like I really actually 100% care.
It’s so great you posted this. I’ve been really struggling with food lately, anxiety and stress related too, and I’ve always been skinny and hassled about it. I was just asking my mom page on Facebook if they knew of any body positivity pages for skinny girls or ED recovery. I love your transparency on the whole topic and it’s so healing for me hearing you normalize this!
I am currently 10 weeks “sober.” Meaning, my last binge was 10 weeks ago. OEA was never helpful to me, but I know many who had great success with it. Talk therapy has been the most helpful to me. Cutting caffeine was the hardest thing for me, but without it I don’t have the jittery energy that encourages me to eat. My youngest (5yoM) is autistic and much like Alfie, he obsesses over things he loves. Sweets are a big one. We have regulated the type of candy we have in the house rather than how much. We buy the little Dum-Dum suckers rather than bigger lollipops or suckers. If he wants 4-5 of those in a day, that is about the equivalent to 1 Tootsie Pop. His other love is fruit snacks. We buy them in bulk and he gets the equivalent of 2 fruit snacks a day (like 20-25 pieces total). After that he is told that today’s candy is all gone. If that doesn’t work you can always go the “If you don’t have it in the house, they can ask for it all they want, and you can honestly tell them that you don’t have any,” route. The word he says wrong that I love best and will never correct is piano. He says pee-an-ee-oh! My 10 yr old daughter still thinks it’s head ick rather than headache! I’ll never correct that either! You are doing amazing Laura! Stress and difficulties in your marriage take a huge toll on a body, yes you need to be aware, but I do thinks some people are over exaggerating how much you’ve seemed to have lost.
I really needed to hear this! I’m an addict in recovery (19 months sober!) I also struggle with anorexia (plus a few years of bulimia). You’re so right! “You can’t just quit food”. Ugh it’s such a struggle!!!! It’s good to hear someone talking about this, makes me feel less ALONE!💗
You are a great story teller, I could listen to you for hours. And I kinda see why Stephen loves you so madly (I say kinda because what I see is what you choose to share and show, whereas I know it goes much deeper for you both), you are sunshine in a non-sunshiney kind of way, if that makes any sense. You are real and your "scars" make you all the more beautiful. ♡
Totally agree with you! I absolutely see why Stephen loves her so much! Hell I wish I could marry her 😂😂😂 or at least be her friend! She is definitely sunshine in a dark place! 🥰🥰🥰
My mom is from downers grove! Also I totally understand the not feeling motivated to cook when no one is there to eat your food. Your podcast gets me through, thank you for sharing ❤
I just want to say I’m sorry because I commented on your weight loss a while back. I just wanted to say then that I was worried about you and I was hoping that you were taking care of yourself. I hope with all my heart that you did not take it the wrong way because it was on Facebook and people get nasty on there you look beautiful and you are perfect. I have had my weight go up and down all of my life. I feel like I am finally at peace with it. I eat a live I don’t live to eat. I enjoy it and I am grateful for it and it is good and it gives life.
Laura, soooo much of what you spoke about hit home with me! First of all, I have a son with Sensory Processing Disorder who has huge food/texture issues. After literally YEARS of taking him to a nutritionist/dietary counselor, we finally just decided to let him eat what he’s willing to eat to minimize ALL of our stress level! I don’t know if this will backfire someday or not? At 14 years old, he’s a very healthy young man. He essentially only eats crunchy carbs (chips, cereal, crackers) and drinks milk. Of course, he likes junk food, too! (Lol) So even though he may not eat healthily, he is a healthy person. I grew up in a house that always had desserts and sweets. I have three siblings. None of us have eating disorders or issues with food (at least, not that I’m aware of.). Like you, I hope I get the same result with my children! 🤞🏼🙏🏼 Lastly, when I went through my divorce, I lost a ton of weight unintentionally. I jokingly call it the ‘divorce diet.’ (I don’t wish it on anyone.) But I am the type of person that struggles to have an appetite when I’m anxious or stressed out. So there may be times where I feel my stomach grumbling like it’s hungry, but literally NOTHING sounds appetizing … even to the point where I will feel nauseated at the thought of food. Or, I think my body will metabolize it faster because of the stress? Or possibly I’m just not eating as much because my stomach had shrunk from not eating as much? I don’t know. Regardless, the divorce diet I experienced was the worst in regard to weight loss. I had coworkers and friends worried about my weight. However, it wasn’t me trying to lose weight. It just happened. But there have been other times in my life where I was stressed out and I lost some weight. It just wasn’t as noticeable. I will keep you, Stephen, and your family in my thoughts and prayers. You’re a strong woman, and I know you’ll get through this! (((HUGS))) from a fan from South Dakota!!!
Laura you are amazing and I think you and Stephen are both working on yourself and that is so important. I think social media show all the good. Life isn't always good and I respect you both for normalizing struggles. You are amazing and I support you both in your journey.
Your salad comment got me because I was the kid who had their 5th birthday party at olive garden because I loved their salad and wanted everyone to have it because I loved veggies and salad. I still do but during that era of tumblr girls and thigh gaps in the 00s it felt like me liking those things was feeding into the diet culture at the time. I didn't pay attention to my weight but as I've gotten older that old mentality that was ever so present at that time creeps in whenever I step on the scale now. Unfortunately there are generations of disordered eating that have created this hyperfixation on weight and thinness.
Stress, anxiety, work, kid's mixed with doing everything as a single parent is going to cause weight loss! I think u look fab as alway's, we all have our issue's xx
In high-school I was so skinny too, so I completely relate! But man, did I eat A LOT. It was great, people would constantly give me food because they though I hadn't eaten. I miss that fast metabolism though. I started struggling in my later 20s, when I then discovered intermittent fasting. I'm not sure why nor how I forgot about it, but thank you for talking about this and reminding me about IF. Also! Thank you for sharing your recovery process in all your recent content. You're a beautiful soul and your reflections on life have helped me (and so many others) so much. Thank you for you! 🙌🏽
I am a slim, petite build and weight drops off me when stressed and anxious, as my appetite disappears. When people say 'how are you so slim?'I say, 'stress. And that's not healthy.' When am not stressed or anxious i eat loads. I'm gluten plant based, so i'm quite a 'clean, healthy' eater most of the time, but equally don't think twice about indulging in crisps with homous and guac, or GF vegan cookies, chickpea brownies etc. So yeah, i'm slim and quite toned because cycling and yoga are my mental health saviours, because stress and my inability to deal with it causing acute anxiety is mostly down to my not putting on middle aged weight, but i would rather not suffer with anxiety and stress/depression and be heavier and happier if i had a choice.
Laura !!!!!!!!!! Seriously this is the most entertaining podcast I’ve heard in a while! Love it so much thanks for sharing. I’m also sober but only 118 days. Your vulnerability around everything including your sobriety really helps me
Hey Laura! Thank you SO MUCH for opening up about this topic! I am a fairly normal/average body size with average metabolism, but have one friend who, like you, has a fast metabolism, she eats healthy but totally normal portion and yes, also chocolate and cake etc - but is just really slim by nature. That is just her body type. Same with my mom, she also has been bullied for being too skinny as a child. The other day another friend of mine who right now has issues with her body weight talked badly about my more slim friend and literally bashed her for being "too skinny". I looked at her and asked whether she meant that seriously. It is not good to get bullied not only if you are more on the heavy side - but also not if you are more on the skinny side! It is so important to respect ALL body sizes, to not make assumptions about people. You don't owe us an explanation - but again, happy that you shared this openly
Loved this episode. I remember losing weight after my second child. People who hadn’t seen me in some time brought it upon themselves to first tell me how skinny I was. Then proceeded to correspond to each other that I must not be eating or I’m bulimic. It was called stress & being in an abusive relationship. Having been chubby after my first child that I raised alone I guess my group of friends & acquaintances assumed the worst. Just like you Laura you just don’t feel like eating & your stomach does shrink. You’re a smart & beautiful woman & I know you’d never do anything to hurt yourself by being unhealthy because of the love you have for yourself, Alfie & Poppy. Love you Laura ❤️
It blows my mind that people still think it’s ok to comment on someone’s weight. You are too sweet to give an explanation that was never owed. I love listening to your stories, thank you for sharing - and thank you for sharing those prayers those are great and very helpful!
Social media is obsessed with people's weight. Yt creator Eugenia Cooney gets bullied every day because of how her body looks. They accuse her of being pro anorexia and body checking. It's sickening how she gets treated.
@@tarabrooks3760 I agree! I’m a follower of hers and I have to avoid the comment section because it is sickening. She’s the absolute sweetest and doesn’t deserve those accusations
Hey girl my son just turned 13 and on the spectrum. i give him sweets 3 times to 4 times a week/weekends..... I hope thats not a lot. i really needed this prayer THANK You sooo MUCh
I completely feel what you went through growing up super thin. At 40 I still have trouble gaining weight. Any stress or increased pain causes me to lose weight. I just started seeing a GI Dr to see how much is related to EDS. I do use supplements to help now. Because of the issues my Ex's family made about my weight both of our children now have issues with their weight as teenagers. I wish people would quit commenting negatively on others' weight. They don't realize the impact it has on the children listening.
I can completely relate to this Laura, I too had an extremely fast metabolism when I was younger & faced bullying & judgement from others, calling me anorexic & being asked "don't you eat", someone actually called me disgusting!! This totally destroyed my confidence, something I still suffer with to this day. I also have family members who are slim. I would eat like a horse & my mum always cooked substantial homemade meals but no matter what I ate, I couldn't put weight on. My Mum even got me these milkshakes called 'Build Up' to help me gain weight but to no avail. Now I'm 40, my metabolism has sped up, but I remember going home from school in tears many times. I would think to myself 'why is it ok to be so mean about someone's weight, I would never even dream of going up to someone & calling them Fat' so why is it ok to bully slim people? I also found the word Skinny incredibly disrespectful & would rather be called slim. So, my advice to other's is, don't judge a book by its cover. xxx
I struggle with eating during times of high stress or grief. For me, I associate eating with joy. I get a lot of enjoyment from eating meals, especially with loved ones. So when I am going through times of stress or depression I struggle to eat. I just can’t get in the right mental space to enjoy it.. so I just don’t do it. Consequently I always drop weight quickly when going though hard times. Knowing this, I try yo be extra careful with myself with life gets challenging.
At a BMI of 17 I was sectioned with my ED. Daily struggle. Still suffering with Ana and my third relapse. I will say your weight loss has been a bit of a trigger for me as I’d love to be your size. It’s ideal to me and my distorted eating brain and it’s really hard not to look at your body and want it. Many of us call it “thinspiration” - completely unhealthy but my brain just isn’t wired right. I’ve actually had to avoid your video’s because it’s so triggering. It’s no different to other well known people on social media being really skinny for us folk. Everyone can be a trigger. It’s not you, it truly is me and my silly brain. So I keep to watching your videos on here where I can’t see your full body. It’s absolutely ridiculous but a very real issue. It drives me insane. Stay healthy, remember to eat and carry on being awesome. Much love from the UK 🇬🇧
It’s crazy how this video popped up right now. I’ve been really struggling more than ever lately with my weight and self image. I struggled with an ED when I was younger. Looking back I now realize how thin I truly was (5’3 and around 115lbs), But this only happened because I got pregnant and gained 70lbs. My daughter is 3 now and I have not lost the baby weight at all despite what I do. I’ve been in a huge slump lately and I need to get my antidepressants refilled but I know I need an appointment which they will weigh me at and I don’t want to face that scale so I’m to the point that I’m going to stop cold turkey because of it, which I’m smart enough to know is a bad thing. It’s such a battle sometimes with self worth.
Oh hunni I feel for you! But please, please don’t stop cold turkey! At least try and tamper off! Try to explain to the docs that you don’t want to know your weight and to not say it out loud or something, but please go and get your depression meds! You will feel so much better! Sending love and hugs🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Oh and yes! I've always said that about food! That unlike drugs & alcohol, you need food to survive! I've suffered from an eating disorder since I was a teenager & had a good hold on it until I got clean & put on 70kg. Then I got cancer & all the weight just fell off VERY fast & it seemed to trigger something in my brain as it was saying, 'See? All you have to do is not eat Emma!' Since then, I've really struggled to stay at a healthy weight. Certainly not without trying but my God is it hard!!
Lots of love to you Laura, you’re a wonderful woman, an even better and an absolute warrior! I downloaded Idiot and Idiots on Audible last night right after watching this Podcast and your former book already had me laughing this morning after I was feeling very sorry for myself after a night of zero sleep so THANK YOU! You have my upmost respect girl!! Sending you, Stephen and your beautiful babies lots of love from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤
In my younger years, facing tragedy and heartbreak would immediately put me into a mode in which I had no appetite. I could drop as much as 30 pounds in a good "crisis" to the point where I was literally forcing myself to drink just a glass of milk. Looking back, I feel the lack of food, i.e. fast, helped me gain clarity in each of those situations. It was not only cathartic, it was spiritual.
You’re GORGEOUS momma ❤ keep doing what makes you happy and comfortable. You never have to explain anything to strangers/ social media. Love and Adore you ❤ You is Smart, You is Beautiful, You is Important ❤
I’ve struggled with food addiction since I was 10 years old. When you said you can’t just not eat. That’s exactly what I always say about food addiction. I can stop smoking, drinking and drugs but food addiction is something I just can’t stop because we have to eat food. 😔
I give a sweet/dessert with dinner. We don’t put any emphasis on sweets, just give her a small amount and the rest of her food and the choice…and she, more than not, naturally chooses the more nutritional foods first. It’s wild but thats how we’ve done it since day 1 and people are always amazed 😂 She does eat 1-2otter pops a day lol and when we get a carton of ice cream, which isn’t often, she’s obsessed for the
Laura never feel like you need to justify anything to anyone! You are beautiful 😍 absolutely love you and your work ( comedy sketches and podcasts) I’m going to treat myself next week and order your books can’t wait to delve in and have a good read ❤️ look after yourself girl u are doing great ❤️
Laura I have been following you for so long I don't remember. I'm sorry to hear about Stephen, I hadn't noticed your weight-loss, I'm huge for my height so you've always just seemed normal to me. I'm glad you have said something. too many people see the internet as a space to be whatever they want toward whoever they want... be honest and wake them up! you are spot on - giving is one of the greatest healing methods. keep being you ❤️
also I eat like you now as an adult and can't lose the weight I gained as a kid. our metabolism is weird. people are mean. fuck everything and everyone. just be you x
Autistic/ADHD here & I do two meals a day too. Intermittent fasting (when done mindfully) is so good for my mental health & for cutting the inflammation in my back that makes me so sore & gives me restless sleep.
People don't realize that some people are naturally very thin. Most people that are very thin, hate it and WANT to gain weight. Thin people sometimes feel so bad about their bodies just like people who are heavier sometimes feel bad!!!
I'm torn between how nice it is that people care and can notice when someone isn't at their best due to their weight and what I normally stand by and never mention weight.
One issue ppl have is they own a scale..it's a tricky thing...some people say that having scales is not the best way to track weight...they should keep track of how your clothes fit Being slave to a scale isn't a good idea... As you say, having a scale usually is that you become slave to them.. I'm glad you talk about how Stephan took scale, just not a good idea bc then everything you eat is a stressful event.. The kindest thing is get rid of the scale... The way to judge isn't the best idea I love that you bring up that you have to eat is issue that crappy thing, the other addictions are sometimes you can quit, but we need to eat As Americans, we are obsessed with weight loss and food...you should never eat something then feel guilt over it, that's not mentally positive... I'm hoping you don't get a scale and just relax about food and that is a better way to gaining or losing weight... And if ppl use a scale, DONT weigh yourself everyday..maybe once a week or so Ppl are here to help you, Laura, so no matter what , we love you for who you are and what you do in life!! Scales are evil...🎃🎃
Laura, I have followed you and Steven both for so long.. so long that my ex from years ago (that I am back with) said wow you still follow them? I said duh I'm team Clery/Hilton forever!! This video hit me hard! I'm in recovery as well and my weight has fluctuated SO much due to health issues and having 3 children.. the last 2 are not even 2 years apart. I had all of my children weighing no more than 135 lbs. I remember in middle school being bullied so bad for "being Asian" (I'm not Asian and looking back how is that even offensive 😆) this one time the coaches son got one of those trash cans on wheels and wheeled it into me and said why don't you go puke in that you bulimic *****. It CRUSHED me. I have a fast metabolism up until now. Anytime I'd lose 10 lbs from oh I don't know... Working, being a wife and chasing kids around. I would be asked nonstop how I was doing and hints about my sobriety. This video is what I needed today more than anything. Someone who relates!! I remember clothes shopping at all those "cool" stores around 12 or so as well and trying to find a 00 long in jeans and having to order them. I'm midway through the video and I just had to comment. I admire your strength and beauty and strive to be more like you. When I need advice, I come to your videos as my mother is half present and would give me the worst advice on any issue. ❤️❤️
My mother thought I had an eating disorder at a young age because I loved salad too... Our house was like yours was.. sweets candy home cooked meals and I remember when my mom would make burgers or chicken fried steak the texture would just gross me out. I've been looking into being Vegan for about 3 years... I've tried but I have no where to start or anything. I don't know easy and cheap vegan meals. If you know of a Vegan site for me to check out please comment! I've never gotten a response from you yet but I believe today is my BLESSED day.
It’s so wild that you posted this today. I go through ups and downs with my weight. I can’t gain back the weight I lost 2 years ago, and it’s so frustrating. I feel gross. I have a fast metabolism as well, but when you’re not eating anything or eating hardly anything at all, it’s my biggest enemy. 😑 I just cry about it sometimes then get motivated and start drinking smoothies to get an appetite back but that’s a roller coaster. Anyway, my brains all over the place today, so I’m sorry if that’s one long run on sentence 😂
I just got one of these replies too. It's crazy how many people use Laura to scam people!! Fortunately the majority of Laura's subscribers actually have brains!! 🤣
I struggle and I always have struggled with eating issues. When I smoked cigarettes I was very small because I would eat once a day. Now I haven't smoked in years, and I'm a very emotional eater. I will eat at times so much to the point where my stomach will hurt. This week I have started eating more well rounded meals and not overeating or undereating and it's a real struggle for me. Also, words that my child would say incorrectly that were adorable: 1. Caprisuns were Catrisuns 2. Mosquitoes were Poquitos 3. Fish and Fries were Fish and Tries
You’re so right about the importance placed on romantic relationships, ppl often push away their friends in the process. (I’m guilty as well). Listening to your story about your crazy ex has once again shown me how similar our stories are! Btw, happy sober birthday tomorrow Laura! We share the same sober birthday, I will be celebrating 3 years tomorrow. 💗
Laura i can tell it's hard for you to talk about it ! But i assure you talking about it will make it easier for you to cope and change the way you want to! You and i are so diffrent i'm obese ! And what can i say my parents are ashamed of me ! And trust me i don't eat half of what my skinny cousins eat! I do binge sometimes when i'm stressed i eat like i never seen food before but kinda hapens before my period like once or twice a month ! I just can't figure myself out at all ! I'm happy that i heard an opposite body type talking about the stuggle with food it gave me insight about how truly no matter what you are you will be judged ! Have a good day laura i do hope you see this message
Ok seriously!!!! If you loved that story I 110% know you will LOOOOVE her audio book Idiot. I listened to it when I came out a few years ago and it still is one of my favorites 💖💝
My daughter has ASD and serious food aversions. Honestly I’m just happy if she eats something. Right now though she’s been on a detox and I’m crossing my fingers that it’s working because out of no where yesterday she has been asking for bagels, cream cheese, apples and kiwi even! The kid only eats protein bars and sometimes smoothies…. So now that she’s asking me; and I am not having to not force but try to get her to even smell it, then just taste it; I’m so overjoyed! She even took a bite of a burrito the other day! She’s doing so good. We had a nutritional therapist but she made no progress with her so we just stopped and now have been told to just encourage her as we have been doing and hopefully it will get better. I have a nephew who ASD and he is the BEST eater! He picks full salads over ice cream! I wish my kids atw like him all the time! Laura your an amazing mom and person! You got this and I’m just sending love and positivity your way 🙏🏼💕🎃 happy Halloween!
Thank you for addressing this and being open and curious. Some things that really shouted out to me what you said it feels good to go long periods without eating, you are drinking coffee instead of eating to get energy, you don’t have much of an appetite, and you also have unintentional weight loss which is concerning. Well done for bringing it to your psychiatrists attention. I actually came to this video after seeing how you looked in your recent instagram post and knowing lots of people would find it triggering. I hope you are able to develop a healthier relationship with food and gain weight back, I know the gain will likely be difficult with your metabolism but it’s important. I’m wishing you all the best!
My stress/anxiety manifests in basically killing my appetite so its something I’ve learned to be extremely cognizant of in chaotic times. Smoothies, protein bars and powders and soups are my best friends.
Yes! This is what my Doctor said! She also said that you're biggest meal should be lunch & the whole 'breakfast is the most important meal of the day.' She said having a yogurt & some fresh fruit is plenty for breakfast, have a big lunch & a light dinner. This is what I'm trying to implement into my life right now.
Laura, I have a very slow metabolism and have been struggling with my weight fir for many years. I finally got control of it and now I am within the normal BMI. I have been accused of having an eating disorder. You don't have to explain what you look like. I ignore the haters. Body shaming is wrong.
I'm so tired of people complimenting weight loss. We need to stop commenting on people's bodies period. I've recently lost a lot of weight because I started a new medication that made me incredibly nauseous and have zero appetite. Congratulating me for this is not cool.
I have a “farm girl frame”…thick, heavy, dense. I have to be real careful or I could get obese very, very quickly…and it’s hard to take off. I’ve been up/down my entire life. I don’t understand how someone being concerned about you via your weight is offensive. They’re not saying “you’re ugly/useless/trash because you’re fat/skinny”… they’re worried about you. And I’m not talking about people making fun of your weight…I’m talking about those who worry about you because of your weight. There is a difference. So instead of being so quick to take offense when one one asks you if you’re ok b/c of your weight…consider it a blessing you have someone that cares enough to ask.
When my husband and I were having a very hard time in our marriage, I didnt eat. I couldn’t, anxiety was so severe that I would gag at the sight of food. I could drink water but I wasn’t able to actually eat for a good two weeks. I would try protein shakes and I got those down at least. I had lost 15lbs before my gut finally calmed down. Add diarrhea to that and I was miserable physically. It send my body into a spiral even though I thought I mentally had it together. The whole point is, it is no ones business but your own. We love you Laura and support you.
I hear you!!! Before I was diagnosed and treated for a serious autoimmune disorder, I would eat 4500 calories a day and still was a size 0. The rumors hurt.
Tips: Eat with your kids. Three meals and a snack. Make it pleasurable. Connect with them. Also, have dessert everyday. If dessert is a certainty kids will not be as obsessed. Just an idea. You can still eat what you want but the structure will help you take breaks plus show your kids good is fuel. You are a wise woman. You will find your path. Your weight is your business. Teaching kids to eat is fricking hard!
Laura I keep a gallon of milk. Red cap! When you reach a point that your life is such that you could never make up the caloric requirements, the thought for food becomes almost nonexistent! You have maximized your minds potential through fasting! It also means you need it more than anyone else would ever understand. Going backwards or slowing down is not something we can even fathom in those moments and only through accomplishments can we feel alive and the need for fuel. But if you can get it in fast in the morning, all three macronutrients in a complete food all at once, it will keep you on schedule to feel your younger circadian rhythms and remember the things you did and the times you did them.
Stress can do things to our body,my chronic stress has made loose weight without changing my eating habits,people should know everyone is going through something fightung demons inside their head that no one knows about.Be kind people
Learned recently that the stomach is the only organ that is directly communicating with the brain. Hence if you have a shock or sudden upset your body will expel it's contents so you can deal with the issue at hand. This is why emotions and food are so intertwined. Take care of your brain and maintain the pillars of good health which are sleep, nutrition, exercise and healthy social connections and things improve. Take care!
At my house I try not to be restrictive. Yesterday my child at 7 muffins... but buying ice cream can get expensive and we can't just keep buying as much ice cream as we would ever want. I made the rule that each person gets 1 container of ice cream per month. So I encourage my son not to eat his all in one day so he doesn't run out. My child would also eat a quart of applesauce in one day if I let him. Sometimes I cut him off because he will get direahha if he eats that much. I'm much less restrictive than anyone I know though. Some of my relatives will tell their kids "no more fruit, eat your white bread..."
I find it interesting ( as someone who gets overweight) that there is no way at different times of my life anyone would flag my weight gain with concern. Disgust, anger, dissapointment yes, concern no. Interesting. I am not sure I have ever been concerned about some else's weight gain either, but i have definitely worried about friends weight loss.
I've had an ed all my teen and most of my adult life. The only thing that's kept me on the straight and narrow was having a daughter, and not wanting to model my horribly unhealthy behavior. It's been hard, and it still lives in my head, but it's been 6 years since I've been actively doing anything. Also: my 6 year old LOVES salads. I don't get it 🤣
I was built with the same frame as you and truly my recovery started 6 years ago. Sometimes when my mental health is suffering I can’t eat. My doctor assumed I had an eating disorder but truly I didn’t. I just ate a lot of sugar and gluten and I had underlining thyroid conditions. I was always judge by how thin I was. ❤you still are beautiful and you will bounce back.
My Mom hated to eat, cook, smell food and heard this every day growing up and talking about food and calories isn't fun. I've also been skinny most of my life since I'm ADHD and only eat to live and the stomach does shrink. I never get hunger pains or desire food which shocks many people in my 73 years. I became 67 lbs twice in my life, once was misdiagnosed breast cancer but never knew why the second time. I've only been slightly heavy from eating ice cream which is probably a sugar addiction, and coca-cola which I now regret. Now, I'm trying to find out what's going on with my body at 73 because of an odd weight gain in places that is very uncomfortable. I'm going to do more liver cleanses along with my detoxing since my diet was never clean like your diet at your age and my body isn't on track anymore. Exercising isn't easy like it used to be since a car hit my back and 2 back operations later screwed it up. The hospital gave me an infection in my back and I lost 4" after I had my first back fusion. I'm now 5'4" which still shocks me every day still since I've always been tall.... my rib cage is on my waist. 😢 Our body always speaks to us and your meditating is key to your inner knowing. You are doing great and people need to stop judging. I've had heavy people tell me all my life, gain weight you'll look better. 🙃
Our son said "Lessiticity" for Electricity. We didn't correct him. It's adorable! He is now 23 and pronounces words correctly. As far as food issues and children...our Dr told us that " food issues " are parent issues, not kid issues...everything in moderation. My mother limited sweets A LOT and we are all healthy, all the time. Friday night was the exception-Pizza night. I love sweets and gain weight looking at them. My friends who were raised like you don't seem to have the issues. We raised our kids with lots of food choices,including sweets, but not issues regarding sweets- where those foods weren't allowed in my house. It's all good. You Don't need to explain yourself.Ever. I absolutely adore you and your family!
I lost around 30 pounds when my husband and I were still just dating and we had a miscarriage. We broke up for about a year and a half but after we reconnected and sorted through our problems and got married, I gained that 30 pounds and then some back. My weight loss definitely was connected to my depression. Now any weight loss I have is I’m more careful with sugar and excessive eating. However now I feel like my body rarely tells me “hey you’re hungry”. Not sure why or how to fix it but 🤷🏻♀️
This was just the best podcast Laura!!! You have a phenomenal gift of story telling!! I was on the edge of my seat, waiting for more!!! I’ll have to buy your book!!😂🤗❤️
I LOVED it when my kids were little and would give an occational word their own spin, it's the cutest! Eventually as they hear the words used in conversation often enough they correct themselves on their own
I restrict eating in traumatic (see abusive relationships) situations. It's a thing for your brain to try to gain control of something. Our ped told us when we were new parents never to over-control what goes in or what comes out. It's a basic instinct.
I was also bullied for being skinny in highschool. Im 42 now and i weigh like 115. Its the most i have ever weighed(besides having my kids). Ive always been little. Kids would call me skeletor. Kids can be so cruel. Btw, i have always ate well.
@@fromthebayou 100%. I can't change other peoples kids but i taught my children right. You treat people how you would want to be treated and if they witness bullying then they step in...NOT join in.
Thanks for talking about this. I have always been called skinny in a derogatory way and a nes health app i have confirmed I am pretty much a healthy weight. I just forget to eat or get stressed but I do love food and used to eat tons. I just have a fast metabolism. Because I was harassed about it I became anorexic in a sense when i was in an abusive relationship but it was never intentional any other time.
I have no ED but in my last depression I lost 80 pounds because I always loose my taste. I was down to 45kg. Once I got better, I went back to normal, crazy what mental health can do to us.
For my kids: we teach that all food is neutral. There is no good or bad food. There is no guilt associated with eating sweets and we do not use food as a reward. We serve dessert on the same plate as dinner.
That was aweome how u started this video with a prayer. God bless you. ❤🍁 He took the fuckin scale Hahaha Cake is lethal amd i love it!!!!😁👊lol Im so sorry you had 2 go through that with Damon!! Glad ur not the same person no more. Thats a blessing. Sober is SEXY!! Happy Sunday and BANEENEAS!🙃😛😛 Bless..Love you 2..❤
My daughter has ASD and has troubles with food even now that she’s a teenager. She’s the same way where she will obsessively eat one thing. It has mostly been bread and tortillas. She would eat so much she would give herself issues with going to the bathroom. Most kids and people with ASD have some issues with executive functioning and impulse control where they can’t seem to say no. It’s just an impulse they have to act on. My daughter will do really well for a while, and then she’ll slide back to giving into those impulses.
It's a very strange feeling, living in a larger body and being congratulated for losing weight. When in reality, the reason I lost as much weight as I did was because of the ridiculous anxiety I felt constantly and I stopped eating. I was winded walking to the bathroom because I had zero energy from eating nothing. I survived off protein shakes that I forced myself to drink because I knew I needed SOMETHING in my stomach. Basically, no one can win you are either too fat or too skinny and if you are fat and lose weight in a very unhealthy way everyone's just happy you lost weight ITS SO FUCKED
Eating addiction. My Mom died of diabetes. So sugar and carbs is highly depressing for me, yet it’s an addiction in a very bad way. I am having a problem with stopping eating all the time. Unlike alcohol, we can’t stay away from food. So that food triggers my addiction and makes me obsessive with cravings.
Been fat since age 6 and had my tonsils removed. I am now type 2 diabetic and I have heart issues both conditions run in both sides of my family. I tried losing weight not for me for my health but to fit in so i wouldn't be bullied anymore. Let's just say none of the diets worked. So i decided to not let people bother me. I weigh myself more now because of my heart problems i get bad edema and can't breath and i don't know if it's my heart or my asthma. So i weigh myself and it drives me nuts watching the weight go up and go down as i have to take water pills to keep the edema down. I literally can weigh myself right now and by morning i have gained nearly a pound.
omg that’s so normal and not bad! I have six kids and they all had certain words that are dear to my heart and I never corrected those! Guess what? They all did on their own and they all went to school without speech issues, they all self corrected. school will change them no matter what, especially hearing their peers. You are a great momma!! Enjoy Fussies and bananers with him!!! you’ll never get it back and you’ll always have those memories in your heart❤
I had pancreatitis following my second round of Covid & the constant throwing up shrank my stomach. I’ve lost 30lbs and 5 months later my appetite is finally coming back. I now way less than both of my teens, but I also realize I’ve lost quite a bit of muscle. My mother also lost a lot of weight when she separated from my stepdad.
In an OA meeting the other day a speaker said, an alcoholic still drinks, they drink milk, water, coffee, juice etc. We OA have alcoholic food that we have to abstain from. It's just defining which foods are alcoholic for you. And not just food but food behavior and what you have to stop, eating alone, eating in a car, eating in front of the TV etc.
I say this all the time! Food is one of the worst addictions and it’s not taken seriously and there’s no groups to help! You need food to survive so can’t just quit it!
I usually don't like talking about the weight I've lost over the years with anyone because I have always been slim. Between March 2020 (when the world shut down) and October 2021 I planned my wedding, got married, bought a house, and gave birth to my daughter. I don't think I have to elaborate on how fucking stressful that all was, and for me mega stress = hair and weight loss. When I had the final fitting for my wedding dress, I was the lowest weight I had been since high school...and between then and the wedding day I lost a few more pounds. My mother commented on how loose the back of the dress was as she was helping me put it on. I gained 55 pounds during pregnancy but am just about back to my wedding weight. During pregnancy I would pack so much food for lunch I would be stuffing my face for literally 45 minutes of my one hour lunch break. During the fourth trimester I hunkered down on the couch to eat or watch TV while my daughter breastfed for hours. I'm still breastfeeding today but my appetite hasn't been as strong lately. Pair that with my PPD/PPA and you've got a guaranteed weight loss plan. This is definitely one of those first world problems everyone wishes they had until it happens to them. I just want to fit into my pre pregnancy clothes without having to buy a whole new wardrobe (especially pants!)
My kids, when they were younger and even now, have a maximum of one sweet treat a day. Buy keep in mind were gluten and dairy free. I generally let them have whatever fruit or vegetable they want. They stick with it in moderation.
The second i gave birth to my son i lost my appetite completely, I went from 15 stone (just before I went into labour) to 8 stone within six months, I couldn't stand the thought of any food, I ended up trying to force myself to eat and couldn't even stand a few bites... the only thing that I could eat freely was mash potato's 😔 it was the hardest time in my life especially having a newborn at the time. I struggled to bond with him at first because I was so weak and tired all the time, I sometimes felt like I was going to die. Luckily I have great family around me and they helped me through that time. I'm now a healthy weight for my height(5f7in) but still get scared that when I have a bad day or am feeling unwell that I could slip back to that place. At the time everyone outside my circle who didn't know what I had been through, was so judgemental, accused me of taking drugs to loose weight and all sorts, They just couldn't understand how I'd lost so much weight so quick. I've learnt to ignore all that. I just felt that I was overweight before and no-one ever fronted me out for that, but people seem to find it easier to make comments about someone else's body when they are on the skinnier side. I understand what it's like to just not feel hungry and I wouldn't wish it on anyone 🙁
Sweets are different in our house. They are healthier snacks. Fig bars, bel vita biscuits, organic fruit snacks, yoghurt and fresh fruit…. But my kids don’t usually binge on junk when it’s available because they know it will make them feel like junk. They get treats from time to time but don’t usually overindulge.
No need to explain your body weight to anyone. I gained lots of weight from stress eating and health stuff last year. Every time I would see someone I haven’t seen in a long time I would feel the need to explain my weight gain. Then one day it hit me, no one asked so why am I feeling this need to explain like I have to atone for my weight gain. My body, I can be whatever weight I want ❤
You crack me thee eff up. Sistergirl. We are lettuce freaks. My daughter 19 and I truly prefer that food. A lot! I also have high metabolism. I danced competitively for 20 damn years and became a nurse that never sits down. I truly believe that your childhood filled with good fatty foods gave you a solid start. Screw em if they can’t handle your skinny. 😘😘😘
I have dealt with a eating since I was 12. I diagnosed with anoexica when I was 15. Hospitalized for it more times then I can remember. Treatment centers, therapy, doctors, needles etc. I sick 15 tp 23.I took away my teenage years. I have struggled off and on since I was an adult. The eating disorder almost took my life several times. Stress comes along I will not even I'm doing ,but I will eat barley anything or eating a ton. I've been going through a separation and now trying to settle up so we can divorce. Parent with a man who can just be incredibly awful to me. Ya I'm a lit better. I did struggle a ton last year. Lots tons of weight. I was doing well. You have pay attention with what your eating or not. What your feeling. Wait our the feelings. It rough.
All my life I had issues with food. I Over ate and was huge at school. I was put on a government diet at school, every day sardines! It was the 80s and UK schools..it sucked and now I hate fish. When I had my adhd assesment the Dr said if the GP had realised it was all linked to my other symptoms I'd have been medicated and that would stop. Now I'm on medication I am not hungry all the time but 3 times a day my brain tells my stomach hey its food time. Until now I never had that. At 30 I even had a gastric band fitted, only lost 2 stone! In covid I changed to organic no processed foods and lost 6 stone. I've put 1 back on in 2021but not my weight is levelling out and I feel so much better . On my assesment my Dr said to me, none of this is your fault Debbie you were failed by a poor system. You would never have had to have a band and all these surgeries if they just stopped and looked...I broke down! Now I'm happier x
No one should be commenting on anyone else's body. Period. You don't owe any explanation to anyone. You are a lovely person and as long as you are healthy I see no issue. Sending love ❤️
I Had A Eating Disorder In High School. I Was In Alot Of Pain. Now it's triggered Mainly when I'm Stressed and Anxious. But I'm eating Better Since I Started Practicing Mindfulness / Meditation. ❤️🙌 -Sara
2021 was a rough year for me. I'm overweight and I lost 40 lbs in 2 months. People saw me at an event and complimented me on being thinner and asked what I was doing. I said "Thanks! Chronic stress, do not recommend!"
So bad 🙄💕 People really just need To stop commenting on people weight. Similar thing happened to me when I was in so much pain I couldn’t eat for months. Worst was my mom telling me I should try to keep the same weight when I was literally a stick. Now I weight more than I ever have and I’m just loving myself and being grateful for being happy and healthy.
liar. you loved it. shut up.
40 In two months is probably way to quick!
@@vg2binkey884 it is but stress can make your body do crazy shit. I separated from my husband for 2 years and no matter how much i ate i lost at least 50lbs.
I'm the opposite! I gain from stress and it is brutal as well.
I'm torn on this. On one hand, you owe no one an explanation about your body 🤷♀️ on the other, I'm glad people love you and worry enough to say something. Sometimes we don't see an issue until it's pointed out to us. As long as you're conscious of it and doing OK that's all that matters ❤️
Yes some of us are legitimately concerned but it is so hard to express that without sounding like it’s shame. The thing is if you stay silent on (potential)ED, it could be really dangerous. So hard to navigate. The internet community can be really hard too many people trying to shame and be rude when legitimate concerns for someone is hard to bring up. And of course you don’t want to come across as a “concern trolling” it’s more like I really actually 100% care.
Laura you never need to address your weightloss for anyone
Agreed! It's so frustrating xxx
shut your hole
as someone who also has a fast metabolism and is on the small side, I love hearing her talk about it!
Plus if people have been following her a while they will know she is naturally slim x
Well, except to the dudes she bangs. Would be kinda ignorant for them to find out the hard way…….🎃
It’s so great you posted this. I’ve been really struggling with food lately, anxiety and stress related too, and I’ve always been skinny and hassled about it. I was just asking my mom page on Facebook if they knew of any body positivity pages for skinny girls or ED recovery. I love your transparency on the whole topic and it’s so healing for me hearing you normalize this!
I am currently 10 weeks “sober.” Meaning, my last binge was 10 weeks ago. OEA was never helpful to me, but I know many who had great success with it. Talk therapy has been the most helpful to me. Cutting caffeine was the hardest thing for me, but without it I don’t have the jittery energy that encourages me to eat. My youngest (5yoM) is autistic and much like Alfie, he obsesses over things he loves. Sweets are a big one. We have regulated the type of candy we have in the house rather than how much. We buy the little Dum-Dum suckers rather than bigger lollipops or suckers. If he wants 4-5 of those in a day, that is about the equivalent to 1 Tootsie Pop. His other love is fruit snacks. We buy them in bulk and he gets the equivalent of 2 fruit snacks a day (like 20-25 pieces total). After that he is told that today’s candy is all gone. If that doesn’t work you can always go the “If you don’t have it in the house, they can ask for it all they want, and you can honestly tell them that you don’t have any,” route. The word he says wrong that I love best and will never correct is piano. He says pee-an-ee-oh! My 10 yr old daughter still thinks it’s head ick rather than headache! I’ll never correct that either! You are doing amazing Laura! Stress and difficulties in your marriage take a huge toll on a body, yes you need to be aware, but I do thinks some people are over exaggerating how much you’ve seemed to have lost.
You got this 🥰
I really needed to hear this! I’m an addict in recovery (19 months sober!) I also struggle with anorexia (plus a few years of bulimia). You’re so right! “You can’t just quit food”. Ugh it’s such a struggle!!!! It’s good to hear someone talking about this, makes me feel less ALONE!💗
You are a great story teller, I could listen to you for hours. And I kinda see why Stephen loves you so madly (I say kinda because what I see is what you choose to share and show, whereas I know it goes much deeper for you both), you are sunshine in a non-sunshiney kind of way, if that makes any sense. You are real and your "scars" make you all the more beautiful. ♡
The audiobook is so good, she narrates it, many laughs whilst driving
Totally agree with you! I absolutely see why Stephen loves her so much! Hell I wish I could marry her 😂😂😂 or at least be her friend! She is definitely sunshine in a dark place! 🥰🥰🥰
My mom is from downers grove! Also I totally understand the not feeling motivated to cook when no one is there to eat your food. Your podcast gets me through, thank you for sharing ❤
I just want to say I’m sorry because I commented on your weight loss a while back. I just wanted to say then that I was worried about you and I was hoping that you were taking care of yourself. I hope with all my heart that you did not take it the wrong way because it was on Facebook and people get nasty on there you look beautiful and you are perfect. I have had my weight go up and down all of my life. I feel like I am finally at peace with it. I eat a live I don’t live to eat. I enjoy it and I am grateful for it and it is good and it gives life.
Laura, soooo much of what you spoke about hit home with me!
First of all, I have a son with Sensory Processing Disorder who has huge food/texture issues. After literally YEARS of taking him to a nutritionist/dietary counselor, we finally just decided to let him eat what he’s willing to eat to minimize ALL of our stress level! I don’t know if this will backfire someday or not? At 14 years old, he’s a very healthy young man. He essentially only eats crunchy carbs (chips, cereal, crackers) and drinks milk. Of course, he likes junk food, too! (Lol) So even though he may not eat healthily, he is a healthy person.
I grew up in a house that always had desserts and sweets. I have three siblings. None of us have eating disorders or issues with food (at least, not that I’m aware of.). Like you, I hope I get the same result with my children! 🤞🏼🙏🏼
Lastly, when I went through my divorce, I lost a ton of weight unintentionally. I jokingly call it the ‘divorce diet.’ (I don’t wish it on anyone.) But I am the type of person that struggles to have an appetite when I’m anxious or stressed out. So there may be times where I feel my stomach grumbling like it’s hungry, but literally NOTHING sounds appetizing … even to the point where I will feel nauseated at the thought of food. Or, I think my body will metabolize it faster because of the stress? Or possibly I’m just not eating as much because my stomach had shrunk from not eating as much? I don’t know. Regardless, the divorce diet I experienced was the worst in regard to weight loss. I had coworkers and friends worried about my weight. However, it wasn’t me trying to lose weight. It just happened. But there have been other times in my life where I was stressed out and I lost some weight. It just wasn’t as noticeable.
I will keep you, Stephen, and your family in my thoughts and prayers. You’re a strong woman, and I know you’ll get through this!
(((HUGS))) from a fan from South Dakota!!!
Laura you are amazing and I think you and Stephen are both working on yourself and that is so important. I think social media show all the good. Life isn't always good and I respect you both for normalizing struggles. You are amazing and I support you both in your journey.
Your salad comment got me because I was the kid who had their 5th birthday party at olive garden because I loved their salad and wanted everyone to have it because I loved veggies and salad. I still do but during that era of tumblr girls and thigh gaps in the 00s it felt like me liking those things was feeding into the diet culture at the time. I didn't pay attention to my weight but as I've gotten older that old mentality that was ever so present at that time creeps in whenever I step on the scale now. Unfortunately there are generations of disordered eating that have created this hyperfixation on weight and thinness.
Stress, anxiety, work, kid's mixed with doing everything as a single parent is going to cause weight loss! I think u look fab as alway's, we all have our issue's xx
In high-school I was so skinny too, so I completely relate! But man, did I eat A LOT. It was great, people would constantly give me food because they though I hadn't eaten. I miss that fast metabolism though. I started struggling in my later 20s, when I then discovered intermittent fasting. I'm not sure why nor how I forgot about it, but thank you for talking about this and reminding me about IF.
Also! Thank you for sharing your recovery process in all your recent content. You're a beautiful soul and your reflections on life have helped me (and so many others) so much. Thank you for you! 🙌🏽
I am a slim, petite build and weight drops off me when stressed and anxious, as my appetite disappears. When people say 'how are you so slim?'I say, 'stress. And that's not healthy.' When am not stressed or anxious i eat loads. I'm gluten plant based, so i'm quite a 'clean, healthy' eater most of the time, but equally don't think twice about indulging in crisps with homous and guac, or GF vegan cookies, chickpea brownies etc. So yeah, i'm slim and quite toned because cycling and yoga are my mental health saviours, because stress and my inability to deal with it causing acute anxiety is mostly down to my not putting on middle aged weight, but i would rather not suffer with anxiety and stress/depression and be heavier and happier if i had a choice.
Laura !!!!!!!!!! Seriously this is the most entertaining podcast I’ve heard in a while! Love it so much thanks for sharing. I’m also sober but only 118 days. Your vulnerability around everything including your sobriety really helps me
Congratulations!!! 118 days is AWESOME!!!! 🎉😊❤ much love from the UK! 🇬🇧❤️😊🤗
Congratulations!!! 118 days is AWESOME!!!! 🎉😊❤ much love from the UK! 🇬🇧❤️😊🤗
Hey Laura! Thank you SO MUCH for opening up about this topic! I am a fairly normal/average body size with average metabolism, but have one friend who, like you, has a fast metabolism, she eats healthy but totally normal portion and yes, also chocolate and cake etc - but is just really slim by nature. That is just her body type. Same with my mom, she also has been bullied for being too skinny as a child. The other day another friend of mine who right now has issues with her body weight talked badly about my more slim friend and literally bashed her for being "too skinny". I looked at her and asked whether she meant that seriously. It is not good to get bullied not only if you are more on the heavy side - but also not if you are more on the skinny side! It is so important to respect ALL body sizes, to not make assumptions about people. You don't owe us an explanation - but again, happy that you shared this openly
Loved this episode. I remember losing weight after my second child. People who hadn’t seen me in some time brought it upon themselves to first tell me how skinny I was. Then proceeded to correspond to each other that I must not be eating or I’m bulimic. It was called stress & being in an abusive relationship. Having been chubby after my first child that I raised alone I guess my group of friends & acquaintances assumed the worst. Just like you Laura you just don’t feel like eating & your stomach does shrink.
You’re a smart & beautiful woman & I know you’d never do anything to hurt yourself by being unhealthy because of the love you have for yourself, Alfie & Poppy. Love you Laura ❤️
It blows my mind that people still think it’s ok to comment on someone’s weight. You are too sweet to give an explanation that was never owed. I love listening to your stories, thank you for sharing - and thank you for sharing those prayers those are great and very helpful!
Social media is obsessed with people's weight. Yt creator Eugenia Cooney gets bullied every day because of how her body looks. They accuse her of being pro anorexia and body checking. It's sickening how she gets treated.
@@tarabrooks3760 I agree! I’m a follower of hers and I have to avoid the comment section because it is sickening. She’s the absolute sweetest and doesn’t deserve those accusations
@@dzemergency i 100% agree
Hey girl my son just turned 13 and on the spectrum. i give him sweets 3 times to 4 times a week/weekends..... I hope thats not a lot. i really needed this prayer THANK You sooo MUCh
I completely feel what you went through growing up super thin. At 40 I still have trouble gaining weight. Any stress or increased pain causes me to lose weight. I just started seeing a GI Dr to see how much is related to EDS. I do use supplements to help now. Because of the issues my Ex's family made about my weight both of our children now have issues with their weight as teenagers. I wish people would quit commenting negatively on others' weight. They don't realize the impact it has on the children listening.
I can completely relate to this Laura, I too had an extremely fast metabolism when I was younger & faced bullying & judgement from others, calling me anorexic & being asked "don't you eat", someone actually called me disgusting!! This totally destroyed my confidence, something I still suffer with to this day. I also have family members who are slim. I would eat like a horse & my mum always cooked substantial homemade meals but no matter what I ate, I couldn't put weight on. My Mum even got me these milkshakes called 'Build Up' to help me gain weight but to no avail. Now I'm 40, my metabolism has sped up, but I remember going home from school in tears many times. I would think to myself 'why is it ok to be so mean about someone's weight, I would never even dream of going up to someone & calling them Fat' so why is it ok to bully slim people? I also found the word Skinny incredibly disrespectful & would rather be called slim. So, my advice to other's is, don't judge a book by its cover. xxx
I struggle with eating during times of high stress or grief. For me, I associate eating with joy. I get a lot of enjoyment from eating meals, especially with loved ones. So when I am going through times of stress or depression I struggle to eat. I just can’t get in the right mental space to enjoy it.. so I just don’t do it. Consequently I always drop weight quickly when going though hard times. Knowing this, I try yo be extra careful with myself with life gets challenging.
At a BMI of 17 I was sectioned with my ED. Daily struggle. Still suffering with Ana and my third relapse. I will say your weight loss has been a bit of a trigger for me as I’d love to be your size. It’s ideal to me and my distorted eating brain and it’s really hard not to look at your body and want it. Many of us call it “thinspiration” - completely unhealthy but my brain just isn’t wired right. I’ve actually had to avoid your video’s because it’s so triggering. It’s no different to other well known people on social media being really skinny for us folk. Everyone can be a trigger. It’s not you, it truly is me and my silly brain. So I keep to watching your videos on here where I can’t see your full body. It’s absolutely ridiculous but a very real issue. It drives me insane.
Stay healthy, remember to eat and carry on being awesome. Much love from the UK 🇬🇧
It’s crazy how this video popped up right now. I’ve been really struggling more than ever lately with my weight and self image. I struggled with an ED when I was younger. Looking back I now realize how thin I truly was (5’3 and around 115lbs), But this only happened because I got pregnant and gained 70lbs. My daughter is 3 now and I have not lost the baby weight at all despite what I do. I’ve been in a huge slump lately and I need to get my antidepressants refilled but I know I need an appointment which they will weigh me at and I don’t want to face that scale so I’m to the point that I’m going to stop cold turkey because of it, which I’m smart enough to know is a bad thing. It’s such a battle sometimes with self worth.
Oh hunni I feel for you! But please, please don’t stop cold turkey! At least try and tamper off! Try to explain to the docs that you don’t want to know your weight and to not say it out loud or something, but please go and get your depression meds! You will feel so much better! Sending love and hugs🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Oh and yes! I've always said that about food! That unlike drugs & alcohol, you need food to survive! I've suffered from an eating disorder since I was a teenager & had a good hold on it until I got clean & put on 70kg. Then I got cancer & all the weight just fell off VERY fast & it seemed to trigger something in my brain as it was saying, 'See? All you have to do is not eat Emma!'
Since then, I've really struggled to stay at a healthy weight.
Certainly not without trying but my God is it hard!!
Lots of love to you Laura, you’re a wonderful woman, an even better and an absolute warrior! I downloaded Idiot and Idiots on Audible last night right after watching this Podcast and your former book already had me laughing this morning after I was feeling very sorry for myself after a night of zero sleep so THANK YOU! You have my upmost respect girl!! Sending you, Stephen and your beautiful babies lots of love from the UK 🇬🇧 ❤
In my younger years, facing tragedy and heartbreak would immediately put me into a mode in which I had no appetite. I could drop as much as 30 pounds in a good "crisis" to the point where I was literally forcing myself to drink just a glass of milk.
Looking back, I feel the lack of food, i.e. fast, helped me gain clarity in each of those situations. It was not only cathartic, it was spiritual.
You’re GORGEOUS momma ❤ keep doing what makes you happy and comfortable. You never have to explain anything to strangers/ social media. Love and Adore you ❤
You is Smart, You is Beautiful, You is Important ❤
I’ve struggled with food addiction since I was 10 years old. When you said you can’t just not eat. That’s exactly what I always say about food addiction. I can stop smoking, drinking and drugs but food addiction is something I just can’t stop because we have to eat food. 😔
I give a sweet/dessert with dinner. We don’t put any emphasis on sweets, just give her a small amount and the rest of her food and the choice…and she, more than not, naturally chooses the more nutritional foods first. It’s wild but thats how we’ve done it since day 1 and people are always amazed 😂
She does eat 1-2otter pops a day lol and when we get a carton of ice cream, which isn’t often, she’s obsessed for the
Laura never feel like you need to justify anything to anyone!
You are beautiful 😍 absolutely love you and your work ( comedy sketches and podcasts) I’m going to treat myself next week and order your books can’t wait to delve in and have a good read ❤️ look after yourself girl u are doing great ❤️
Laura I have been following you for so long I don't remember. I'm sorry to hear about Stephen, I hadn't noticed your weight-loss, I'm huge for my height so you've always just seemed normal to me.
I'm glad you have said something. too many people see the internet as a space to be whatever they want toward whoever they want... be honest and wake them up!
you are spot on - giving is one of the greatest healing methods.
keep being you ❤️
...also at about 7 I decided to eat certain foods to deliberately get fat so I would be left alone.
also I eat like you now as an adult and can't lose the weight I gained as a kid. our metabolism is weird. people are mean.
fuck everything and everyone.
just be you x
Autistic/ADHD here & I do two meals a day too.
Intermittent fasting (when done mindfully) is so good for my mental health & for cutting the inflammation in my back that makes me so sore & gives me restless sleep.
People don't realize that some people are naturally very thin. Most people that are very thin, hate it and WANT to gain weight. Thin people sometimes feel so bad about their bodies just like people who are heavier sometimes feel bad!!!
I think weight loss from separation/divorce is very common. I did the same thing, as have any of my friends when they were going through that.
I'm torn between how nice it is that people care and can notice when someone isn't at their best due to their weight and what I normally stand by and never mention weight.
One issue ppl have is they own a scale..it's a tricky thing...some people say that having scales is not the best way to track weight...they should keep track of how your clothes fit
Being slave to a scale isn't a good idea...
As you say, having a scale usually is that you become slave to them..
I'm glad you talk about how Stephan took scale, just not a good idea bc then everything you eat is a stressful event..
The kindest thing is get rid of the scale...
The way to judge isn't the best idea
I love that you bring up that you have to eat is issue that crappy thing, the other addictions are sometimes you can quit, but we need to eat
As Americans, we are obsessed with weight loss and food...you should never eat something then feel guilt over it, that's not mentally positive...
I'm hoping you don't get a scale and just relax about food and that is a better way to gaining or losing weight...
And if ppl use a scale, DONT weigh yourself everyday..maybe once a week or so
Ppl are here to help you, Laura, so no matter what , we love you for who you are and what you do in life!! Scales are evil...🎃🎃
Laura, I have followed you and Steven both for so long.. so long that my ex from years ago (that I am back with) said wow you still follow them? I said duh I'm team Clery/Hilton forever!! This video hit me hard! I'm in recovery as well and my weight has fluctuated SO much due to health issues and having 3 children.. the last 2 are not even 2 years apart. I had all of my children weighing no more than 135 lbs. I remember in middle school being bullied so bad for "being Asian" (I'm not Asian and looking back how is that even offensive 😆) this one time the coaches son got one of those trash cans on wheels and wheeled it into me and said why don't you go puke in that you bulimic *****. It CRUSHED me. I have a fast metabolism up until now. Anytime I'd lose 10 lbs from oh I don't know... Working, being a wife and chasing kids around. I would be asked nonstop how I was doing and hints about my sobriety. This video is what I needed today more than anything. Someone who relates!! I remember clothes shopping at all those "cool" stores around 12 or so as well and trying to find a 00 long in jeans and having to order them. I'm midway through the video and I just had to comment. I admire your strength and beauty and strive to be more like you. When I need advice, I come to your videos as my mother is half present and would give me the worst advice on any issue. ❤️❤️
My mother thought I had an eating disorder at a young age because I loved salad too... Our house was like yours was.. sweets candy home cooked meals and I remember when my mom would make burgers or chicken fried steak the texture would just gross me out. I've been looking into being Vegan for about 3 years... I've tried but I have no where to start or anything. I don't know easy and cheap vegan meals. If you know of a Vegan site for me to check out please comment! I've never gotten a response from you yet but I believe today is my BLESSED day.
It’s so wild that you posted this today. I go through ups and downs with my weight. I can’t gain back the weight I lost 2 years ago, and it’s so frustrating. I feel gross. I have a fast metabolism as well, but when you’re not eating anything or eating hardly anything at all, it’s my biggest enemy. 😑 I just cry about it sometimes then get motivated and start drinking smoothies to get an appetite back but that’s a roller coaster. Anyway, my brains all over the place today, so I’m sorry if that’s one long run on sentence 😂
I just got one of these replies too. It's crazy how many people use Laura to scam people!!
Fortunately the majority of Laura's subscribers actually have brains!! 🤣
I struggle and I always have struggled with eating issues. When I smoked cigarettes I was very small because I would eat once a day. Now I haven't smoked in years, and I'm a very emotional eater. I will eat at times so much to the point where my stomach will hurt. This week I have started eating more well rounded meals and not overeating or undereating and it's a real struggle for me.
Also, words that my child would say incorrectly that were adorable:
1. Caprisuns were Catrisuns
2. Mosquitoes were Poquitos
3. Fish and Fries were Fish and Tries
You’re so right about the importance placed on romantic relationships, ppl often push away their friends in the process. (I’m guilty as well). Listening to your story about your crazy ex has once again shown me how similar our stories are! Btw, happy sober birthday tomorrow Laura! We share the same sober birthday, I will be celebrating 3 years tomorrow. 💗
Congratulations on staying sober proud of you 👏🏾
@@babymish1324 thanks!!! 💗💗
Laura i can tell it's hard for you to talk about it ! But i assure you talking about it will make it easier for you to cope and change the way you want to!
You and i are so diffrent i'm obese ! And what can i say my parents are ashamed of me ! And trust me i don't eat half of what my skinny cousins eat! I do binge sometimes when i'm stressed i eat like i never seen food before but kinda hapens before my period like once or twice a month ! I just can't figure myself out at all ! I'm happy that i heard an opposite body type talking about the stuggle with food it gave me insight about how truly no matter what you are you will be judged ! Have a good day laura i do hope you see this message
Ok seriously!!!! If you loved that story I 110% know you will LOOOOVE her audio book Idiot. I listened to it when I came out a few years ago and it still is one of my favorites 💖💝
My daughter has ASD and serious food aversions. Honestly I’m just happy if she eats something. Right now though she’s been on a detox and I’m crossing my fingers that it’s working because out of no where yesterday she has been asking for bagels, cream cheese, apples and kiwi even! The kid only eats protein bars and sometimes smoothies…. So now that she’s asking me; and I am not having to not force but try to get her to even smell it, then just taste it; I’m so overjoyed! She even took a bite of a burrito the other day! She’s doing so good. We had a nutritional therapist but she made no progress with her so we just stopped and now have been told to just encourage her as we have been doing and hopefully it will get better. I have a nephew who ASD and he is the BEST eater! He picks full salads over ice cream! I wish my kids atw like him all the time! Laura your an amazing mom and person! You got this and I’m just sending love and positivity your way 🙏🏼💕🎃 happy Halloween!
Thank you for addressing this and being open and curious. Some things that really shouted out to me what you said it feels good to go long periods without eating, you are drinking coffee instead of eating to get energy, you don’t have much of an appetite, and you also have unintentional weight loss which is concerning. Well done for bringing it to your psychiatrists attention. I actually came to this video after seeing how you looked in your recent instagram post and knowing lots of people would find it triggering. I hope you are able to develop a healthier relationship with food and gain weight back, I know the gain will likely be difficult with your metabolism but it’s important. I’m wishing you all the best!
My stress/anxiety manifests in basically killing my appetite so its something I’ve learned to be extremely cognizant of in chaotic times. Smoothies, protein bars and powders and soups are my best friends.
Yes! This is what my Doctor said! She also said that you're biggest meal should be lunch & the whole 'breakfast is the most important meal of the day.'
She said having a yogurt & some fresh fruit is plenty for breakfast, have a big lunch & a light dinner. This is what I'm trying to implement into my life right now.
Laura, I have a very slow metabolism and have been struggling with my weight fir for many years. I finally got control of it and now I am within the normal BMI. I have been accused of having an eating disorder. You don't have to explain what you look like. I ignore the haters. Body shaming is wrong.
I'm so tired of people complimenting weight loss. We need to stop commenting on people's bodies period. I've recently lost a lot of weight because I started a new medication that made me incredibly nauseous and have zero appetite. Congratulating me for this is not cool.
I have a “farm girl frame”…thick, heavy, dense. I have to be real careful or I could get obese very, very quickly…and it’s hard to take off. I’ve been up/down my entire life.
I don’t understand how someone being concerned about you via your weight is offensive. They’re not saying “you’re ugly/useless/trash because you’re fat/skinny”… they’re worried about you. And I’m not talking about people making fun of your weight…I’m talking about those who worry about you because of your weight.
There is a difference.
So instead of being so quick to take offense when one one asks you if you’re ok b/c of your weight…consider it a blessing you have someone that cares enough to ask.
Yes on the toddler food nutritionist btw!! It is so hard with sugar and finding a healthy way to have it available w kids
When my husband and I were having a very hard time in our marriage, I didnt eat. I couldn’t, anxiety was so severe that I would gag at the sight of food. I could drink water but I wasn’t able to actually eat for a good two weeks. I would try protein shakes and I got those down at least. I had lost 15lbs before my gut finally calmed down. Add diarrhea to that and I was miserable physically. It send my body into a spiral even though I thought I mentally had it together. The whole point is, it is no ones business but your own. We love you Laura and support you.
I hear you!!! Before I was diagnosed and treated for a serious autoimmune disorder, I would eat 4500 calories a day and still was a size 0. The rumors hurt.
Tips: Eat with your kids. Three meals and a snack. Make it pleasurable. Connect with them. Also, have dessert everyday. If dessert is a certainty kids will not be as obsessed. Just an idea. You can still eat what you want but the structure will help you take breaks plus show your kids good is fuel. You are a wise woman. You will find your path. Your weight is your business. Teaching kids to eat is fricking hard!
I could listen to you tell stories for hours lol
One because they’re interesting/funny/scary/sad, all that lol
And 2, the way you tell it
Laura I keep a gallon of milk. Red cap! When you reach a point that your life is such that you could never make up the caloric requirements, the thought for food becomes almost nonexistent! You have maximized your minds potential through fasting! It also means you need it more than anyone else would ever understand. Going backwards or slowing down is not something we can even fathom in those moments and only through accomplishments can we feel alive and the need for fuel. But if you can get it in fast in the morning, all three macronutrients in a complete food all at once, it will keep you on schedule to feel your younger circadian rhythms and remember the things you did and the times you did them.
Stress can do things to our body,my chronic stress has made loose weight without changing my eating habits,people should know everyone is going through something fightung demons inside their head that no one knows about.Be kind people
Learned recently that the stomach is the only organ that is directly communicating with the brain. Hence if you have a shock or sudden upset your body will expel it's contents so you can deal with the issue at hand. This is why emotions and food are so intertwined. Take care of your brain and maintain the pillars of good health which are sleep, nutrition, exercise and healthy social connections and things improve. Take care!
BMI (Body Mass Index) …. BPM (Beats Per Minute) Tell me you were married to a musician without telling me… 🤣😊😉
At my house I try not to be restrictive. Yesterday my child at 7 muffins... but buying ice cream can get expensive and we can't just keep buying as much ice cream as we would ever want. I made the rule that each person gets 1 container of ice cream per month. So I encourage my son not to eat his all in one day so he doesn't run out.
My child would also eat a quart of applesauce in one day if I let him. Sometimes I cut him off because he will get direahha if he eats that much.
I'm much less restrictive than anyone I know though. Some of my relatives will tell their kids "no more fruit, eat your white bread..."
I find it interesting ( as someone who gets overweight) that there is no way at different times of my life anyone would flag my weight gain with concern. Disgust, anger, dissapointment yes, concern no. Interesting. I am not sure I have ever been concerned about some else's weight gain either, but i have definitely worried about friends weight loss.
This is such an interesting point, tbh.
I've had an ed all my teen and most of my adult life. The only thing that's kept me on the straight and narrow was having a daughter, and not wanting to model my horribly unhealthy behavior. It's been hard, and it still lives in my head, but it's been 6 years since I've been actively doing anything.
Also: my 6 year old LOVES salads. I don't get it 🤣
I was built with the same frame as you and truly my recovery started 6 years ago. Sometimes when my mental health is suffering I can’t eat. My doctor assumed I had an eating disorder but truly I didn’t. I just ate a lot of sugar and gluten and I had underlining thyroid conditions. I was always judge by how thin I was. ❤you still are beautiful and you will bounce back.
My Mom hated to eat, cook, smell food and heard this every day growing up and talking about food and calories isn't fun. I've also been skinny most of my life since I'm ADHD and only eat to live and the stomach does shrink. I never get hunger pains or desire food which shocks many people in my 73 years. I became 67 lbs twice in my life, once was misdiagnosed breast cancer but never knew why the second time. I've only been slightly heavy from eating ice cream which is probably a sugar addiction, and coca-cola which I now regret. Now, I'm trying to find out what's going on with my body at 73 because of an odd weight gain in places that is very uncomfortable. I'm going to do more liver cleanses along with my detoxing since my diet was never clean like your diet at your age and my body isn't on track anymore. Exercising isn't easy like it used to be since a car hit my back and 2 back operations later screwed it up. The hospital gave me an infection in my back and I lost 4" after I had my first back fusion. I'm now 5'4" which still shocks me every day still since I've always been tall.... my rib cage is on my waist. 😢 Our body always speaks to us and your meditating is key to your inner knowing. You are doing great and people need to stop judging. I've had heavy people tell me all my life, gain weight you'll look better. 🙃
Our son said "Lessiticity" for Electricity. We didn't correct him. It's adorable! He is now 23 and pronounces words correctly. As far as food issues and children...our Dr told us that " food issues " are parent issues, not kid issues...everything in moderation. My mother limited sweets A LOT and we are all healthy, all the time. Friday night was the exception-Pizza night. I love sweets and gain weight looking at them. My friends who were raised like you don't seem to have the issues. We raised our kids with lots of food choices,including sweets, but not issues regarding sweets- where those foods weren't allowed in my house. It's all good. You Don't need to explain yourself.Ever. I absolutely adore you and your family!
I lost around 30 pounds when my husband and I were still just dating and we had a miscarriage. We broke up for about a year and a half but after we reconnected and sorted through our problems and got married, I gained that 30 pounds and then some back. My weight loss definitely was connected to my depression. Now any weight loss I have is I’m more careful with sugar and excessive eating. However now I feel like my body rarely tells me “hey you’re hungry”. Not sure why or how to fix it but 🤷🏻♀️
This was just the best podcast Laura!!! You have a phenomenal gift of story telling!! I was on the edge of my seat, waiting for more!!! I’ll have to buy your book!!😂🤗❤️
I LOVED it when my kids were little and would give an occational word their own spin, it's the cutest! Eventually as they hear the words used in conversation often enough they correct themselves on their own
Laura you look fabulous. We all lose and gain weight throughout life. You look so pretty. And I enjoy your work. Thank you.
I restrict eating in traumatic (see abusive relationships) situations. It's a thing for your brain to try to gain control of something. Our ped told us when we were new parents never to over-control what goes in or what comes out. It's a basic instinct.
Religion is routine, Faith is Love, no matter what, or who you believe in. Big hugs Laura!
Routine is an important aspect of most mental health recovery programs.
I was also bullied for being skinny in highschool. Im 42 now and i weigh like 115. Its the most i have ever weighed(besides having my kids). Ive always been little. Kids would call me skeletor. Kids can be so cruel. Btw, i have always ate well.
People can be so cruel which is what kids learn. 😢
@@fromthebayou 100%. I can't change other peoples kids but i taught my children right. You treat people how you would want to be treated and if they witness bullying then they step in...NOT join in.
Wow, what a story! Thx for sharing. I need to reconnect with my high school tribe. They’re so healing!!
I include fiber as much as possible when having sugar.
Think that is the healthier way rather than restriction of sweets.
Thanks for talking about this. I have always been called skinny in a derogatory way and a nes health app i have confirmed I am pretty much a healthy weight. I just forget to eat or get stressed but I do love food and used to eat tons. I just have a fast metabolism. Because I was harassed about it I became anorexic in a sense when i was in an abusive relationship but it was never intentional any other time.
The story of Damon! 😳 I'm so happy you made it out! I love you my friend! 💖
I have no ED but in my last depression I lost 80 pounds because I always loose my taste. I was down to 45kg. Once I got better, I went back to normal, crazy what mental health can do to us.
For my kids: we teach that all food is neutral. There is no good or bad food. There is no guilt associated with eating sweets and we do not use food as a reward. We serve dessert on the same plate as dinner.
That was aweome how u started this video with a prayer. God bless you. ❤🍁 He took the fuckin scale Hahaha
Cake is lethal amd i love it!!!!😁👊lol
Im so sorry you had 2 go through that with Damon!! Glad ur not the same person no more. Thats a blessing. Sober is SEXY!!
Happy Sunday and BANEENEAS!🙃😛😛 Bless..Love you 2..❤
7 months into my breakup and I lost so much weight in the beginning. As I healed I gained height and got happy and healthy again :)
My daughter has ASD and has troubles with food even now that she’s a teenager. She’s the same way where she will obsessively eat one thing. It has mostly been bread and tortillas. She would eat so much she would give herself issues with going to the bathroom. Most kids and people with ASD have some issues with executive functioning and impulse control where they can’t seem to say no. It’s just an impulse they have to act on. My daughter will do really well for a while, and then she’ll slide back to giving into those impulses.
It's a very strange feeling, living in a larger body and being congratulated for losing weight. When in reality, the reason I lost as much weight as I did was because of the ridiculous anxiety I felt constantly and I stopped eating. I was winded walking to the bathroom because I had zero energy from eating nothing. I survived off protein shakes that I forced myself to drink because I knew I needed SOMETHING in my stomach. Basically, no one can win you are either too fat or too skinny and if you are fat and lose weight in a very unhealthy way everyone's just happy you lost weight ITS SO FUCKED
Eating addiction. My Mom died of diabetes. So sugar and carbs is highly depressing for me, yet it’s an addiction in a very bad way. I am having a problem with stopping eating all the time. Unlike alcohol, we can’t stay away from food. So that food triggers my addiction and makes me obsessive with cravings.
You looked so healthy and beautiful in both pregnancy's. That's all I'll say.
Been fat since age 6 and had my tonsils removed. I am now type 2 diabetic and I have heart issues both conditions run in both sides of my family. I tried losing weight not for me for my health but to fit in so i wouldn't be bullied anymore. Let's just say none of the diets worked. So i decided to not let people bother me. I weigh myself more now because of my heart problems i get bad edema and can't breath and i don't know if it's my heart or my asthma. So i weigh myself and it drives me nuts watching the weight go up and go down as i have to take water pills to keep the edema down. I literally can weigh myself right now and by morning i have gained nearly a pound.
omg that’s so normal and not bad! I have six kids and they all had certain words that are dear to my heart and I never corrected those! Guess what? They all did on their own and they all went to school without speech issues, they all self corrected. school will change them no matter what, especially hearing their peers. You are a great momma!! Enjoy Fussies and bananers with him!!! you’ll never get it back and you’ll always have those memories in your heart❤
I had pancreatitis following my second round of Covid & the constant throwing up shrank my stomach. I’ve lost 30lbs and 5 months later my appetite is finally coming back. I now way less than both of my teens, but I also realize I’ve lost quite a bit of muscle.
My mother also lost a lot of weight when she separated from my stepdad.
Never owned scales. If it wobbles start walking. It's in the measurements. I lose weight in hard times. I literally can't take anymore in.
In an OA meeting the other day a speaker said, an alcoholic still drinks, they drink milk, water, coffee, juice etc. We OA have alcoholic food that we have to abstain from. It's just defining which foods are alcoholic for you. And not just food but food behavior and what you have to stop, eating alone, eating in a car, eating in front of the TV etc.
I say this all the time! Food is one of the worst addictions and it’s not taken seriously and there’s no groups to help! You need food to survive so can’t just quit it!
I usually don't like talking about the weight I've lost over the years with anyone because I have always been slim.
Between March 2020 (when the world shut down) and October 2021 I planned my wedding, got married, bought a house, and gave birth to my daughter. I don't think I have to elaborate on how fucking stressful that all was, and for me mega stress = hair and weight loss. When I had the final fitting for my wedding dress, I was the lowest weight I had been since high school...and between then and the wedding day I lost a few more pounds. My mother commented on how loose the back of the dress was as she was helping me put it on.
I gained 55 pounds during pregnancy but am just about back to my wedding weight. During pregnancy I would pack so much food for lunch I would be stuffing my face for literally 45 minutes of my one hour lunch break. During the fourth trimester I hunkered down on the couch to eat or watch TV while my daughter breastfed for hours. I'm still breastfeeding today but my appetite hasn't been as strong lately. Pair that with my PPD/PPA and you've got a guaranteed weight loss plan.
This is definitely one of those first world problems everyone wishes they had until it happens to them. I just want to fit into my pre pregnancy clothes without having to buy a whole new wardrobe (especially pants!)
My kids, when they were younger and even now, have a maximum of one sweet treat a day. Buy keep in mind were gluten and dairy free. I generally let them have whatever fruit or vegetable they want. They stick with it in moderation.
The second i gave birth to my son i lost my appetite completely, I went from 15 stone (just before I went into labour) to 8 stone within six months, I couldn't stand the thought of any food, I ended up trying to force myself to eat and couldn't even stand a few bites... the only thing that I could eat freely was mash potato's 😔 it was the hardest time in my life especially having a newborn at the time. I struggled to bond with him at first because I was so weak and tired all the time, I sometimes felt like I was going to die. Luckily I have great family around me and they helped me through that time. I'm now a healthy weight for my height(5f7in) but still get scared that when I have a bad day or am feeling unwell that I could slip back to that place. At the time everyone outside my circle who didn't know what I had been through, was so judgemental, accused me of taking drugs to loose weight and all sorts, They just couldn't understand how I'd lost so much weight so quick. I've learnt to ignore all that. I just felt that I was overweight before and no-one ever fronted me out for that, but people seem to find it easier to make comments about someone else's body when they are on the skinnier side. I understand what it's like to just not feel hungry and I wouldn't wish it on anyone 🙁
Sweets are different in our house. They are healthier snacks. Fig bars, bel vita biscuits, organic fruit snacks, yoghurt and fresh fruit…. But my kids don’t usually binge on junk when it’s available because they know it will make them feel like junk. They get treats from time to time but don’t usually overindulge.
No need to explain your body weight to anyone. I gained lots of weight from stress eating and health stuff last year. Every time I would see someone I haven’t seen in a long time I would feel the need to explain my weight gain. Then one day it hit me, no one asked so why am I feeling this need to explain like I have to atone for my weight gain. My body, I can be whatever weight I want ❤
You crack me thee eff up. Sistergirl. We are lettuce freaks. My daughter 19 and I truly prefer that food. A lot! I also have high metabolism. I danced competitively for 20 damn years and became a nurse that never sits down. I truly believe that your childhood filled with good fatty foods gave you a solid start. Screw em if they can’t handle your skinny. 😘😘😘
I have dealt with a eating since I was 12. I diagnosed with anoexica when I was 15. Hospitalized for it more times then I can remember. Treatment centers, therapy, doctors, needles etc. I sick 15 tp 23.I took away my teenage years. I have struggled off and on since I was an adult. The eating disorder almost took my life several times. Stress comes along I will not even I'm doing ,but I will eat barley anything or eating a ton. I've been going through a separation and now trying to settle up so we can divorce. Parent with a man who can just be incredibly awful to me. Ya I'm a lit better. I did struggle a ton last year. Lots tons of weight. I was doing well. You have pay attention with what your eating or not. What your feeling. Wait our the feelings. It rough.
All my life I had issues with food. I Over ate and was huge at school. I was put on a government diet at school, every day sardines! It was the 80s and UK schools..it sucked and now I hate fish.
When I had my adhd assesment the Dr said if the GP had realised it was all linked to my other symptoms I'd have been medicated and that would stop. Now I'm on medication I am not hungry all the time but 3 times a day my brain tells my stomach hey its food time. Until now I never had that.
At 30 I even had a gastric band fitted, only lost 2 stone! In covid I changed to organic no processed foods and lost 6 stone. I've put 1 back on in 2021but not my weight is levelling out and I feel so much better .
On my assesment my Dr said to me, none of this is your fault Debbie you were failed by a poor system. You would never have had to have a band and all these surgeries if they just stopped and looked...I broke down!
Now I'm happier x
No one should be commenting on anyone else's body. Period. You don't owe any explanation to anyone. You are a lovely person and as long as you are healthy I see no issue. Sending love ❤️
I Had A Eating Disorder In High School. I Was In Alot Of Pain. Now it's triggered Mainly when I'm Stressed and Anxious. But I'm eating Better Since I Started Practicing Mindfulness / Meditation. ❤️🙌 -Sara