This guy just said if she nurture me and empowers me!! Don’t listen to him… don’t listen to anyone for that matter get off social and go live and think for yourself, men don’t know what they want until they end up with it, and they never perfect not even to the women they love.. for us on what you want from a man and let him ask if he needs something, and still let him empower himself before you date him lol
@@Zek1472 Those words "empower yourself" is haunting because that's exactly what the serpent told Eve in the Garden concerning the forbidden tree which led to the fall of humanity. Women seeking independence or as you said "empowerment" is actually a code word for "rebelliousness" against the commandment of God given to ALL women that they shall be ruled under the husband. Goggle that. It reminds me of a 1500 year old teaching from Prophet Muhammed when he was asked about what people were sent to hell the most, to which he replied- women. When asked why, he said for disobedience to their husbands which is a commandment given exclusively to them from God.
Women control access to sex men control access to marriage. That’s why men usually propose. Both a man and woman are sovereign individuals and every woman who is not graped can withhold sex until marriage.
The Only Thing That Means Anything To Black Dusty Men child’s Is White MEN Validation, Apart From That Dusty’s Haven’t A Clue What They Want, No Direction, No Leadership, No Work effectiveness. Then Turn Their Trouble Souls To Disrespecting Black Women. That’s All They Got Left.
As a woman who has done EVERYTHING for my man, including supporting him, boosting his morale, encouragement, in EACH relationship, I can tell you, if they dont wanna be WITH YOU, all that shit doesn't even matter...🤷♀️ But if a man doesn't want that woman doing all that, he needs to BE A MAN and tell her she aint for him and LET HER GO, and NOT USE her as a placeholder.
This is semi true, he may not leave even if you're not who he wants, only if he feels there's something that you posses that he needs or want, something that he finds valuable to him that he can use to his benefit, doesn't mean that he actually like or love you, he just found something that you have that will serve him🤷🏾♀️
The more I come across these videos the more it confirms my choice to stay single. It’s exhausting… imma just get comfortable with Jesus and Jesus alone. Edit: y’all really rattled in these comments 😂🫢
@@cheyennetasher218 Exactly. And then he will cheat and blame it on you that you “didn’t make him feel the way he wanted to feel about himself.” Men need to realise that they need to do their inner work by themselves and not rely on a woman to do it for him.
I agree. But women, you must remember that if he’s not in his season or simply immature, he won’t recognize any value in you whatsoever. He can be fully aware that you pouring into him is what he needs, but if he’s in his whore season, it’s in vain. It’s never about YOU, it’s about the man you encounter and where he is in his life. I am the same woman no matter who I meet, and there was only one man who saw my value in 5yrs. I kept the faith and never changed. I put my best foot forward each time because I knew when I did encounter my King, he’d recognize me.
It has nothing to do with season and everything to do with when they really want something. A man will move mountains when he really wants a woman. As a woman you setting a standard and expectations keeps him engaged. Men want what they cant have and desire things that are out of reach. You have to always make it a little challenging for them, its a balance to it but its necessary. You have to set expectations and if they fall short you punish them, to teach them how to treat you. When they realize you wont allow anything they will either leave which does you a favor or step up to the plate. Y’all be making way to many excuse and giving them way to much leeway
@@Yougotthis1212 sounds like a game. At 47, I don’t have time to play . I get what you’re saying and I agree but it’s very discouraging to play love games.
@Kesha Pressley this is the one. I don't play games. I want to be me in my full capacity and the man meant for me will love me just like that without all the mental gymnastics involved.
That's true, you could do everything for men he will never commit. Never try to change a man. He will show you from the get go whats important to him. It took me 13yrs to see it. Love blinds, but space brings clarity.
And they say women are complicated. In other words, don't bother being there for him. You can play wife for a decade, only for him to marry a woman he met a week ago😅.
Exactly that's why i didnt lift a finger..he paid for the meals every night and left me with money when he leaves..im not in lack i got it all with out him tho
Nah... being there for him doesn't mean cleaning his house, giving head on demand, or any of the things many women do to lock a man down. Women are too quick to do, but due to a lack of self-love, uncomfortable with just being. That's what the man is talking about and he's right.
It doesn’t matter what a woman does, doesn’t do or what she is to a man with poor character, morals, and values. She can’t change who he is. The problem is society supports men being horrible humans by making excuses for bad behavior and decisions
@@dama_shares it's really not, she just blamed men who have bad character, and put all the emphasis on h8m, instead of the woman who choose men with bad charatcter
Do you put in no kind of work huh sis? No kind of understanding lol smh sheesh good luck with that. But eith thst mentality, id stay single if I were you...
You’ll be married soon! You have to be selfish and allow him to cater to you, make him work for you. Act like a true queen and he’ll treat you like one. Never settle, if he exhibits bad behavior (not cheating just things (behavior) you don’t like) let him have it and tell him you wont except that and send him on his way. He’ll come back grappling and asking for another chance. You have to teach these men how to treat you. You’re the prize and YES I’m married, happily for over 10 years.
@@tenaybates8141 😆 what are you talking about. A woman can put in max amount of work and no amount will keep the man in the relationship. Men are their own worst enemy. They loose "the one that got away" so many times 😂😂😂. They don't realize that woman who worked so hard to keep him satisfied was the woman he wanted and needed until after she cut off access to her either through a divorce or break up.
He just literally contradicted himself. The definition of a ride or die chick is the woman with whom you have her full support. Ladies, don't cast your pearls before swine
Being a ride or die chick is not the same as being a supporting and nurturing woman. You can ride or die all day every day but if a man is not being respected supported and empowered you are pouring into a cup with a hole in it. A man is very different from a boy
The moron is saying complete nuisance with such confidence and conviction! Although not complete rubbish because he is basically saying that Men do not appreciate Women who cares about them and there's truth in that.
If a man you’re dating treats you second rate because you’re there for him and want to show him that you are dependable, kick his ungrateful butt to the curb!
Well no...Most women treat men like toddlers or broken women and do too much. It's like someone who had dogs as pets their whole life getting a cat and expecting to do the same things. You need to learn about men from men instead of taking horrible advice from other women. Men are very different from women and don't value the same things. Humans of both genders don't respect people who pander and what they get for free/cheap! Do you value Payless shoes as much as Louboutin? Why? So just because YOU did a lot because you have feelings doesn't change the fact that it was offered for little effort. This is the exact point of division between the male and female mentalities. Learn that and you'll see a big change in your relationships!
Women keep your clothes on no matter what comes from his trap let him prove himself to you. If he goes on to the next so be it. It was never meant to be. You are not an object know your worth.
I believe this is so true.The problem is many men will not be honest about who you are to them and will lead you on until they're ready to discard you.
I love seeing all the ladies waking up... Even though women adound the world ahare similar experiences Men will argue "not all" They arent listening ladies Live life!!
Ladies basically do nothing for them, lol I've been there and done everything, don't waste your time. Men are not the prize they think they are. Date a man who wants you more and after you're committed then you can be loving and give him things. Not before. I'm a giver so I have to be careful. Men are users.
That's so sad cause you're being honest :( you changed my whole entire perspective I believe you 1000% men wre users. Now I have to play a game with these guys...you opened my eyes to my baby father
@BM-tx2ph I'm sorry you feel you have to play the game. And I was on the journey to not dating anymore when I became official with my mate. Just focus on yourself and decenter men and you will be much happier.
It’s 2023 and women still searching to see what men want and still neglecting the needs of themselves learning who they are in they 50s and shit…this is crazy!! we need to get these curses banished💯
@Soulness Diary girl yessss!🙏🏾 and I truly would baby but the intensity of the cognitive dissonance on this topic would wake up and rattle even my slaved ancestors that came before me💯 …lmao Ima respectfully contribute by going to therapy and enrolling into parenting classes…🤷🏽♀️😂😂
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
@Emilio Yepez its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
How is this even on the topic of what he said in the video??? ... glad u got your wife back tho, ......buut Definitely not on topic of what he said in the video
He is 1000% correct. This is why so many men will chase after women that don’t want them or that will dog them out. Ladies stop trying to be everything for a man, just be everything you want to be for you and your future family and just seek friendship from men. No sex, no nothing, keep your personal self to yourself. You will have more than enough men than you can handle trying to marry you. I was super chill with all of my male friends, i was very easy to talk to, I didn’t judge them unless we would joke around, and I made it very clear that I didn’t want to date I just wanted to live life and hang out. I had to turn down 5 proposals 💍 in the end. 2 from ex’s and 3 from men I had been dating heavy. Business men who would give me what I wanted. I have been married to my best friend of 14yrs for 10yrs now and we are going strong. This man will do any and everything for me. We will ride hard for one another no questions asked. We have been soulmates from day 1. And this is why so many men I dated didn’t like him 😂. I guess they knew he had something up his sleeve.
exactly I do nun.i clean some days but I definitely don't cook..today I laid in bed all day while he took care of me and the kids.service me all day long.and still wanted to cuddle .I might give him some cookie I might
@@JustKickinIt681youre weird. You flexing that your man took care of you AND YOUR CHILDREN but you "MIGHT" take care of him with sex? Please delete this message smh. This was not a flex at all on you.
If he won’t marry you, he’s using you. If he’s seeing other women while he’s seeing you, he’s using you. If he tells you he needs to have sex with you to see if you’re the one, walk away. Don’t have sex with a man who isn’t committed to you. Ideally, don’t have sex unless you’re married. Women keep giving these men sex, thinking he’ll commit. It doesn’t work that way. Learn to be on your own until you meet the one who will commit. Don’t let a man enter your body unless he’s committed. This will obliterate single motherhood. These men have sex with you because you let them. Then you’re left all effed up because of it. If you’re a female who likes to sleep around, this message isn’t for you.
This is a lovely statement that give us ladies the personal responsibility of setting boundaries for ourselves. Yet, it's still kind of sad because it puts the bulk of the responsibility for our well-being on us and doesn't require men to mature and re-evaluate their ways. Sure...we cannot force anyone to change unless they want to...but it's so exhausting that this pattern of entitlement in so many Black men and men of other nationalities reigns. James Brown said that it was a man's world and until sexism and self-righteous masculine attitudes are dismantled the world over...we, as women, will always be holding the bulk of the responsibility.
It can be with the wrong person or when you want things to go your way most of the time. My father was married to my mother for 55 years until he left this dimension of life. He told me that to be with someone for a long time requires that you both overlook each other's faults amd practice forgiveness. He added that you have to give up wanting things to always go your way. It has to be compromises on everything you do as a couple.
You can do all of that supporting, nurturing, empowering, and helping a man to grow, only for him take all of that...you helped to build over to another woman....the woman he really wants....his dream girl. Ladies, encourage these men to stop wasting time and find their dream girl.
At this point… ladies, we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t. These men are just not happy. Like they honestly just don’t like us… all these unspoken rules, yet we’re told we have unrealistic standards.🙄
It doesn't matter if you nurture care for him empower, or do for him if he doesn't want to commit he is just not going to commit period. This single life is so peaceful.
I only choose a man.......who seeks God. When the Lord chooses your spouse, it's different than the world's standards & advice. He is right about what he's saying, but the missing element is having Christ in your life first. THEN ALL THESE THINGS shall be added unto you.
Ma'am, you're not supposed to choose. The Bible states that "When a man findeth a wife, he finds a good thing!" You're to be discovered. That's the problem today, women are choosing and then get upset with their choice.
@@valken9756 I already know that. My point in my comment is I have a CHOICE!! Just because a man may "choose" me and say God sent him doesn't mean he's the one for me. I look for Godly character to prove whether that's true or not. Women don't have to accept just anything because a man will say all kinds of things. I am going to make my choice by trying the spirit by the Spirit of God.....that's why I said "I only choose." I didn't say I will seek a man or go find a husband. There's a difference.
Commitment in a relationship is ideally based on a combination of factors, including who the person is and how they contribute to the relationship. Both emotional connection and mutual support play crucial roles in a lasting commitment.
My father told me when I was 16 years old that in order to keep my man faithful give him all the goody he can handle. He said hit before he goes to work. If he has an office go hit at the office. When he gets home hit again and he won't have time to cheat. Yeah I was told this by my FATHER at 16! And people wonder why some women are jacked up. To any women who has had an abusive or absent father sort yourself out before dating. Get some therapy and a spiritual life (whatever that means to you). Don't wait to figure it out in your 40s like I did. I fell and scrapped my knees but I'm still standing.
Funny because I knew a guy that said that a woman he was with slept him like this around the clock but he knew what she was doing so he made it his personal mission to cheat on her everytime he left the house and laughed like " did she think I wouldn't cheat?". You let men talk without judgement and they'll tell you how trifling they really are.
shit I knew a dude who girl would give him BJ before he came to work and let him drive her nice ass lexus while she drove the 98 accord and this mf wad still fuckn the office slut IN HER NICE CAR LOL Fuck these men. They selfish and narcissistic.
in my experience the unspoken rule is that its mostly one sided and benefits the man in most cases thats why so many of them get angry wives when its time for divorce...all because of selfishness
If he doesn’t want you all of that doesn’t matter. We have seen women like this get played and used by men who just didn’t want them. We have also seen women that doesn’t do all of this and get the man. To Sum it all up it depends on the man and what he thinks he need at the moment.
"Nurtures me, empowers me, helps me to grow, supports me"; sounds the same as "what a woman does for a man". Thank God I know better than to be a "ride or die chick" to a man I'm not married to. Easy peazy.
You caught that too? He literally said it’s not what you do, but what you are to him…..then turned around and said, you have to empower and nurture…..like that’s a whole contradiction
Commitment often stems from a deep emotional connection, where a person values and appreciates their partner for who they are-qualities, personality, and shared values. On the other hand, actions and contributions, such as support, understanding, and shared responsibilities, contribute to the practical aspects of a relationship. A healthy commitment tends to balance both emotional connection and mutual support, creating a strong foundation for a lasting partnership.
Ladies, when we TRULY want to SERIOUSLY be with a woman, trust and believe, we will make sure it's clear in our behavior, words and actions. We will leave no room for for loose interpretation....... But if you NOT the one, we not going that extra mile or bending over backwards, we just gone go along for the ride, until the wheels fall off..... It's all just that simple.
Nice to have some one like you to be honest and tell it like it is. Sometimes it’s not always what we want to hear but it’s what we need to know and you are being real and letting us know that the signs are clear
That's why I feel no remorse for men that get played. Their entire life is spent using women they really don't want. Virtue signaling and wasting her time until they meet what they desire. Ladies, keep your cup full. Pour into no man that's not coming correct.
@@OneTwo-yw4ij Amen to that! Funny though if you keep your giving in check you come off as aloof, bitchy, or selfish. Ever notice how the total bitchesvare the ones getting married first, the "nice, caring, considerate" girls finish last. Life is funny, SUCK IT UP, get a well paying job and a dog!! 🤣
It is common for black men to find themselves in solitary situations at nursing homes as they age. I am thankful that my husband frequently acknowledges and appreciates my support. I believe this quality played a significant role in his decision-making process. Perhaps individuals from different cultural backgrounds have varied perspectives on the broader aspects of life.
Hmmm… Nurture him and empower him. Isn’t it strange how men say women can’t raise children, but then looks to a woman to raise a man? I don’t know about y’all, but it’s something men and women need to pay attention to. A woman can’t raise children, but must raise a man in order for him to commit to her. A man should never say that women can’t raise children and looking to be nurtured and empowered by a woman. And ladies, if a man says something like that to you - Women can’t raise children and should never be a single mother - He’s a sick man you should avoid like the plague. Don’t try to nurture or empower him bcuz he’s beyond help and not worth the struggle it’s gonna be for you to try.
I was married to a man for three decades that fits this mode. I could never ever please him. Later years after researching our issues I found him to be a bona-fide narcissist. I had to divorced him. Knowledge is power!!
Honestly when you nurture, empowers, support and helps him to grow he finds another woman that isn't willing to do any of that- he marries the woman that is cold, no sex, no affection and she doesn't even like him- he spends his life trying to convince her to eventually love him and the marriage is purely transactional to her.
So true. That’s why it’s important to not have sex. To get closer to God. Pray for Discernment. Pray for that man. Going out of your way to please him does not and will not make him stay.
@ Real True, not true. Not even the Army , Navy, Air force, FBI, and CIA can vet these demons with their resources. Hunny, we are on our own out here with limited resources, and as far as finding a man like you described . Good luck and go for it!!!
Lets keep it clean. Hit him in the feels. I dont talk and dont lift a finger. I listen, compliment, support, set boundaries. I have had the best dating life. But let me tell you alot of them get scared and will think you are too good to be true. So i have learned men dont know what they want😂😂😂😂
This reminds me of something I heard once that I never forgot... people don't fall in love with a person, they fall in love with how that person makes them feel about themselves. It's really ego driven. If they can imagine you helping them get to the level of success they want, then they will commit to you. All relationships have some level of self-serving in them, so each person needs to weigh the benefits vs. the costs and decide if it's worth it for them.
It’s amazing that men say that want a woman to nurture them. I don’t need a woman to nurture me, add to my growth and development, that was my parents job, I’m a grown man, I don’t need nor seek that from a woman, or from my wife, Yahuah mandated in his word it’s the man’s job to do that for his wife, as that’s what Yahuah has done for his
My husband is one of my four best friends. He respects me like he does our other friends instead of the chick he screwed. We have been married 27 years. We had problems but I was working them out with my bestie who is also my husband. Think about it. How many partners have come and gone vs how long have you and your real besties stayed at each others side? Marry your real friend who has proven they love you as a friend more than anything else.
Women of value to convince men to choose them….they show up as themselves and what will align and yoke will indeed yoke. Showing up in value and nurturing or expanding a man’s growth is bit becoming a mother figure or forcefully trying to intersect his interests. Many of us have lost the art of patience, friendship, and intimacy through communication while withholding sex & favors. We operate so transactional thinking doing this will result in xyz. A man finds value with your character. Only a man looking to use and break a woman from his own broken spirit will try to make you believe you have to compete & convince him to pick you through acting like a wife. Agree with this entire clip.
Notice he says a Man.....not a childish guy, not a guy not ready to commit, the bible says"When I became man, I put away childish things".......rise up MEN💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
@lemonman77able You're not supposed to just get passports but to make enough to live comfortably by moving there permanently as the cost of living is anywhere from 66- 80% cheaper, and so are the women. You're supposed to see what is done differently by the men there for women to be different.
It's about setting standards and boundaries on how sb will treat you. If he doesn't value you, get rid of him cause he's not the one. The right man will appreciate what you do for him and reciprocate.
Isn’t this why the Passport Bro’s got started. They said woman not doing any domestic duties for them. Yall need to talk to each other and get ya story straight!
Why do they make it so complicated to interact with them on a human level? At every turn, they want to disrespect you. You didn't do this, you didn't do that, you're too much of this, or not enough of that. It's like a tool that you can't fix; no matter how you twist and turn it, no matter how many times you read the manual, the shit don't want to work. Man, fk all that. That's too many rules. Who has time to be jumping through all those hoops and hurdles? Just leave.
Honestly, this is 100% true. Does she improve him as a man? If she does, she is the one for him. Trust me on this my dad only loved one woman his whole life. Never dated anyone else. As soon as he met my mom, he realized that she improved him over time. They have been together for over 35 years (married) I don't know the total years of them being together before it. 🙌
These are the same men cheating on their spouses and acting as relationships advisors smh. Trust God and his process. Don’t do too much but don’t push people away so fast. It’s so sad how these influencers have influence many relationships in a negative way. The best thing to do is to pray about/for your partner and God will do the rest
He ain’t lying, I don’t even like men 😂and I have ones I dealt with still talking about who I am to them. Meanwhile some woman has carried his baby, took care of him while he sick, supported him when he fell off. I’ll never understand women that bend over backwards, the key is always create the idea in your mind, pitch to him, breadcrumb him so much that he always invest more, and once he’s professed his love for you, then maybe make em a sandwich 🥪 😂
It explains why, in my relationship, he fell off. I said, "Let me do it more, and maybe he'll get back to who he used to be." He only got more comfortable in no longer being that guy. He'd send me messages on what a woman should do for her "husband," but he had been a boyfriend for 2 years. Didn't want to talk about the future. He had no intentions of making me a wife, and so he didn't.
If that was true, I would be married to this one particular guy instead of him being married to this girl that he knocked up because she was there doing things for him. While I was encouraged him to build his business and to expand becoming the man that he is today, she was there cooking for him, and washing his clothes because I was off traveling doing my thing. I admire that man to this day for everything that he has become and everything that he will be, because I saw in him what he did not see in himself. So I don’t think this to be true. What I have experience is the men that you do breathe life into like this that select you usually are the type of men that I’ve been needing some type of acceptance from their mom, most of their life and your fulfilling that void.
The issue is women try to love men the way THEY want to love them and not the way MEN want to be loved, especially when they are at a particular period in their life. Maybe he didn't need your encouragement. Maybe he needed you to alleviate some of the things on his mind so he could focus on more important tasks (to him). I don't think women realize how much they DON'T inspire a man to be better for them. They actually deter it. What the guy said is true and you don't even realize your comment confirms it. He said a man commits to a woman for who she is to him. Based on your statement, he committed to the woman that could fill gaps in his life and balance him out. It sounds like he didn't want to commit to a life coach.
@@bangwithcamino693, That's all well and good. The problem comes in when you accept and withdraw from a place you claim you don't need! If you're simply wasting a woman's time because it's nice to receive freely from her and get what you need elsewhere. You're a garbage person that's greedy and self-serving in nature. And many of you lie through your teeth. You all will express what you say you need, then watch the woman you don't want. Bend over backwards to give it to you. Your displeasure stems from the fact that "you don't want it from her." It has nothing to do with not giving it properly. The constant nitpicking of any and every effort is why a lot of women don't care anymore. It will always be what she didn't do right and not the fact that you're not honest enough to move on.
@@bangwithcamino693, That's like eating the whole meal at a restaurant, then refusing to pay because it's not what you ordered! Why did you eat all of it? You're gonna pay or, they're going to call the police.......You time thieves will be repaid one way or another. And it usually comes from the very thing you want the most.
@@OneTwo-yw4ij That was a terrible analogy and doesn't apply to this scenario. A better analogy would be that I want steak and waitress A brings me a salad because she thinks I need the greens and waitress B brings me the steak AND the salad. Of course the guy is going to with B because that's what I asked for and then some. A gave me what she wanted me to have. Nobody is wasting your time. You're not doing your job.
I figured this out in my early 20s. A man will love you regardless if you’re what his heart desires and cherishes. Doing extra shit will not make a man love you if his heart doesn’t.. he’ll probably just stay around because it benefits him not because he loves you
Who she is to him!!! ENPOWERS HIM! NUTURE HIM!!! HELPS HIM GROW!!!! SUPPORTS HIM!!!!! Commitment: Woman is put into a different category!!! Teach Manhood!!! The man thinks differently than women!!!
But then u find urself empty, drained, used up, bitter bc he was never capable of pouring back into u nor give u what u needed emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally. Those giys know that they are not enough when u meet them. After build them up, increase theor confidence, ego, theu are now grown up in all those areas and are ready 2 leave the safety of ur nest and fly away 2 bigger, better or just orher challenges.😢 Not realizing that u still have a ton more and u prove that bc after they've checked out, you Glow up bigger & better than u both could've ever imagined. PeriodT
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This guy just said if she nurture me and empowers me!! Don’t listen to him… don’t listen to anyone for that matter get off social and go live and think for yourself, men don’t know what they want until they end up with it, and they never perfect not even to the women they love.. for us on what you want from a man and let him ask if he needs something, and still let him empower himself before you date him lol
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@@Zek1472 Those words "empower yourself" is haunting because that's exactly what the serpent told Eve in the Garden concerning the forbidden tree which led to the fall of humanity. Women seeking independence or as you said "empowerment" is actually a code word for "rebelliousness" against the commandment of God given to ALL women that they shall be ruled under the husband. Goggle that.
It reminds me of a 1500 year old teaching from Prophet Muhammed when he was asked about what people were sent to hell the most, to which he replied- women. When asked why, he said for disobedience to their husbands which is a commandment given exclusively to them from God.
It don’t matter what you do for a man if you not the one you are not the one ☝️
Then he shouldn't be there.
Women control access to sex men control access to marriage. That’s why men usually propose. Both a man and woman are sovereign individuals and every woman who is not graped can withhold sex until marriage.
Lordt thank you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@@blackfranklin I agree with he shouldn’t. But it’s the women who let him be there .
@@carolynroberts6671 and that shouldn't be happening, it just just gives him license to step all over her... believe me that's his plan.
Don't play the wife if your not the wife..
And even then have boundaries
So then how do you become the wife? Gotta audition for the role.
@@johnt7684 the same way yall audition for a husband position
I know someone doing this right now.
The Only Thing That Means Anything To Black Dusty Men child’s Is White MEN Validation, Apart From That Dusty’s Haven’t A Clue What They Want, No Direction, No Leadership, No Work effectiveness. Then Turn Their Trouble Souls To Disrespecting Black Women. That’s All They Got Left.
As a woman who has done EVERYTHING for my man, including supporting him, boosting his morale, encouragement, in EACH relationship, I can tell you, if they dont wanna be WITH YOU, all that shit doesn't even matter...🤷♀️ But if a man doesn't want that woman doing all that, he needs to BE A MAN and tell her she aint for him and LET HER GO, and NOT USE her as a placeholder.
@@michelecherek5392 that part!
They will never tell you anything until they've left you high and dry
Men don't know what they want. Change like the wind. Just live your life ladies.
Exactly!!!
Great advice.
😂😂😂😂 exactly
Best advice ever!
Absolutely true
You can bring a man a 60 inch tv 📺 with a projector 📽️ and turn tricks like a circus clown 🤡… if you’re not who he wants he will leave , period.
yup, if your screaming and yelling and don’t cook he definitely leaving
You clearly missed what was said.
Some men have deeper issues then the woman they want.
This is semi true, he may not leave even if you're not who he wants, only if he feels there's something that you posses that he needs or want, something that he finds valuable to him that he can use to his benefit, doesn't mean that he actually like or love you, he just found something that you have that will serve him🤷🏾♀️
@@elle7079 preeeeeaachh
A man won’t commit to a woman until he put god first, disciplined and knows what he wants. Period!
Period!!!!!
facts
Facts.
Amen
Amen ❤
The more I come across these videos the more it confirms my choice to stay single. It’s exhausting… imma just get comfortable with Jesus and Jesus alone.
Edit: y’all really rattled in these comments 😂🫢
🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️ exactly!!
Same
Facts sis
Amen and Praise Jesus❤❤ You don't have to perform for Jesus and He still thinks you are beautiful, and deserve love and respect. ❤
Exactly. These men love to talk in circles saying a bunch of nothing and constantly moving the goal post.
Ladies, the only thing that keeps a man is a man who wants to be kept
Periodt
Why are you "keeping" a man? Women have value. They are kept. Are we trying to rest in his femininity? Not a man but a male.
Bingo
Nail on the head! Bam!
Period. It’s not rocket science 😂 They making it harder than what it is
To simplify this for the ladies, it not about what you do for him as much as it is how you make him feel about himself when he’s around you.
I nurture and up lift my man more then anything else and still if a man doesn't want to be kept then you will not keep him. Simple.
Natural narcs
@@cheyennetasher218 Exactly. And then he will cheat and blame it on you that you “didn’t make him feel the way he wanted to feel about himself.”
Men need to realise that they need to do their inner work by themselves and not rely on a woman to do it for him.
He's got to come built already. You cannot heal others.
@@abshalomfarrow7061 and how is that not narcissistic abuse?
I agree. But women, you must remember that if he’s not in his season or simply immature, he won’t recognize any value in you whatsoever. He can be fully aware that you pouring into him is what he needs, but if he’s in his whore season, it’s in vain. It’s never about YOU, it’s about the man you encounter and where he is in his life. I am the same woman no matter who I meet, and there was only one man who saw my value in 5yrs. I kept the faith and never changed. I put my best foot forward each time because I knew when I did encounter my King, he’d recognize me.
I love this
It has nothing to do with season and everything to do with when they really want something. A man will move mountains when he really wants a woman. As a woman you setting a standard and expectations keeps him engaged. Men want what they cant have and desire things that are out of reach. You have to always make it a little challenging for them, its a balance to it but its necessary. You have to set expectations and if they fall short you punish them, to teach them how to treat you. When they realize you wont allow anything they will either leave which does you a favor or step up to the plate. Y’all be making way to many excuse and giving them way to much leeway
@@Yougotthis1212 sounds like a game. At 47, I don’t have time to play . I get what you’re saying and I agree but it’s very discouraging to play love games.
This is great advice for young women 🌹 thanks for sharing x❤
@Kesha Pressley this is the one. I don't play games. I want to be me in my full capacity and the man meant for me will love me just like that without all the mental gymnastics involved.
Don't do wife duties when your still a girlfriend.
Men should not do husband duties while they still a boyfriend
It cuts both ways.
Agreed
So True on both sides....it cuts both ways.....in the end, unless you are the wife or the husband, husband/wife rules don't apply to you.
Lol. Like women know how to be wives these days!😅😅
That's true, you could do everything for men he will never commit. Never try to change a man. He will show you from the get go whats important to him. It took me 13yrs to see it. Love blinds, but space brings clarity.
It sure does, Sister. ❤🙏🏾
I've been stopped gaf about what these dudes think. 🙄 Single life brings me more peace than any man ever will. Protect your peace! ✌🏾
Hey
And they say women are complicated. In other words, don't bother being there for him. You can play wife for a decade, only for him to marry a woman he met a week ago😅.
Exactly that's why i didnt lift a finger..he paid for the meals every night and left me with money when he leaves..im not in lack i got it all with out him tho
@@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829liar!
Nah... being there for him doesn't mean cleaning his house, giving head on demand, or any of the things many women do to lock a man down. Women are too quick to do, but due to a lack of self-love, uncomfortable with just being. That's what the man is talking about and he's right.
So true wtf
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It doesn’t matter what a woman does, doesn’t do or what she is to a man with poor character, morals, and values. She can’t change who he is. The problem is society supports men being horrible humans by making excuses for bad behavior and decisions
Yes! You've hit the nail on the head. This is so accurate.
And society doesn’t support women who also make large terrible life decisions to prove an overall ‘point’ to their existences? Get over yourself
Very true.
@@malindajones2613 major facts 💯💯
@@dama_shares it's really not, she just blamed men who have bad character, and put all the emphasis on h8m, instead of the woman who choose men with bad charatcter
Pleasing a man is really exhausting. Just be good and be yourself.
What will be will be!
I ain't doing none of that. Either you want me or you don't. 🤷🏿 period.
Do you put in no kind of work huh sis? No kind of understanding lol smh sheesh good luck with that. But eith thst mentality, id stay single if I were you...
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You’ll be married soon! You have to be selfish and allow him to cater to you, make him work for you. Act like a true queen and he’ll treat you like one. Never settle, if he exhibits bad behavior (not cheating just things (behavior) you don’t like) let him have it and tell him you wont except that and send him on his way. He’ll come back grappling and asking for another chance. You have to teach these men how to treat you. You’re the prize and YES I’m married, happily for over 10 years.
@@tenaybates8141 😆 what are you talking about. A woman can put in max amount of work and no amount will keep the man in the relationship. Men are their own worst enemy. They loose "the one that got away" so many times 😂😂😂. They don't realize that woman who worked so hard to keep him satisfied was the woman he wanted and needed until after she cut off access to her either through a divorce or break up.
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I hate that phase “watch this “😂😂😂😂 it’s like they coming up with a grand revelation
He just literally contradicted himself. The definition of a ride or die chick is the woman with whom you have her full support. Ladies, don't cast your pearls before swine
Hey
Like seriously!!! The contradiction is real. Take the mics away from these 🤡.
Being a ride or die chick is not the same as being a supporting and nurturing woman. You can ride or die all day every day but if a man is not being respected supported and empowered you are pouring into a cup with a hole in it. A man is very different from a boy
The moron is saying complete nuisance with such confidence and conviction! Although not complete rubbish because he is basically saying that Men do not appreciate Women who cares about them and there's truth in that.
This...👏👏👏. These phucking swines.
I've been there with this. Never audition or perform for a man!
Or chase a woman.
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That part!
@@souschef4489the irony is we don’t even want to be chased.. most of us want to be left alone lol
Sis, what is dating?
Basically what he is saying is He doesn’t love you for what you do. He loves the way you make him feel!
Preach! 🎉
If a man you’re dating treats you second rate because you’re there for him and want to show him that you are dependable, kick his ungrateful butt to the curb!
Hallelujah!
Well no...Most women treat men like toddlers or broken women and do too much. It's like someone who had dogs as pets their whole life getting a cat and expecting to do the same things. You need to learn about men from men instead of taking horrible advice from other women. Men are very different from women and don't value the same things. Humans of both genders don't respect people who pander and what they get for free/cheap! Do you value Payless shoes as much as Louboutin? Why? So just because YOU did a lot because you have feelings doesn't change the fact that it was offered for little effort. This is the exact point of division between the male and female mentalities. Learn that and you'll see a big change in your relationships!
Women keep your clothes on no matter what comes from his trap let him prove himself to you. If he goes on to the next so be it. It was never meant to be. You are not an object know your worth.
😂😂😂😂you act like women don't want sex as well
I believe this is so true.The problem is many men will not be honest about who you are to them and will lead you on until they're ready to discard you.
I love seeing all the ladies waking up...
Even though women adound the world ahare similar experiences
Men will argue "not all"
They arent listening ladies
Live life!!
Ladies basically do nothing for them, lol
I've been there and done everything, don't waste your time. Men are not the prize they think they are. Date a man who wants you more and after you're committed then you can be loving and give him things. Not before.
I'm a giver so I have to be careful. Men are users.
Hello
That's so sad cause you're being honest :( you changed my whole entire perspective I believe you 1000% men wre users. Now I have to play a game with these guys...you opened my eyes to my baby father
@BM-tx2ph I'm sorry you feel you have to play the game. And I was on the journey to not dating anymore when I became official with my mate. Just focus on yourself and decenter men and you will be much happier.
It’s 2023 and women still searching to see what men want and still neglecting the needs of themselves learning who they are in they 50s and shit…this is crazy!! we need to get these curses banished💯
@Soulness Diary girl yessss!🙏🏾 and I truly would baby but the intensity of the cognitive dissonance on this topic would wake up and rattle even my slaved ancestors that came before me💯 …lmao Ima respectfully contribute by going to therapy and enrolling into parenting classes…🤷🏽♀️😂😂
Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it
@Emilio Yepez its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.
How is this even on the topic of what he said in the video??? ... glad u got your wife back tho, ......buut Definitely not on topic of what he said in the video
Wish you guys all the best
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@@jtrealhatman4952: it's a spam post
SOOOOOO glad I'm single. Tired of the dating game and games men play. Too much
Women play more.😂
Samee❤😂 Being single is great.
@@noworneversoulbeach No, accountability.
He is 1000% correct. This is why so many men will chase after women that don’t want them or that will dog them out. Ladies stop trying to be everything for a man, just be everything you want to be for you and your future family and just seek friendship from men. No sex, no nothing, keep your personal self to yourself. You will have more than enough men than you can handle trying to marry you. I was super chill with all of my male friends, i was very easy to talk to, I didn’t judge them unless we would joke around, and I made it very clear that I didn’t want to date I just wanted to live life and hang out. I had to turn down 5 proposals 💍 in the end. 2 from ex’s and 3 from men I had been dating heavy. Business men who would give me what I wanted. I have been married to my best friend of 14yrs for 10yrs now and we are going strong. This man will do any and everything for me. We will ride hard for one another no questions asked. We have been soulmates from day 1. And this is why so many men I dated didn’t like him 😂. I guess they knew he had something up his sleeve.
Plenty of women chasing the same men.
exactly I do nun.i clean some days but I definitely don't cook..today I laid in bed all day while he took care of me and the kids.service me all day long.and still wanted to cuddle .I might give him some cookie I might
@@JustKickinIt681youre weird. You flexing that your man took care of you AND YOUR CHILDREN but you "MIGHT" take care of him with sex? Please delete this message smh. This was not a flex at all on you.
@@souschef4489 hence why she is giving this advice
HE'S NOT CORRECT ABOUT NOTHING, HE DIDNT SAY ANYTHING, THAT SH*T WAS RETARDED.... PLEASE READ MY COMMENTS IN THE THREAD...
If he won’t marry you, he’s using you. If he’s seeing other women while he’s seeing you, he’s using you. If he tells you he needs to have sex with you to see if you’re the one, walk away. Don’t have sex with a man who isn’t committed to you. Ideally, don’t have sex unless you’re married. Women keep giving these men sex, thinking he’ll commit. It doesn’t work that way. Learn to be on your own until you meet the one who will commit. Don’t let a man enter your body unless he’s committed. This will obliterate single motherhood. These men have sex with you because you let them. Then you’re left all effed up because of it. If you’re a female who likes to sleep around, this message isn’t for you.
Do you know how many women of the church have done that and were still clowned on? 😂😂😂
You BOLD ASF!!! How dare you Queen? I love it 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗 Yes yes!!!
This is a lovely statement that give us ladies the personal responsibility of setting boundaries for ourselves. Yet, it's still kind of sad because it puts the bulk of the responsibility for our well-being on us and doesn't require men to mature and re-evaluate their ways. Sure...we cannot force anyone to change unless they want to...but it's so exhausting that this pattern of entitlement in so many Black men and men of other nationalities reigns. James Brown said that it was a man's world and until sexism and self-righteous masculine attitudes are dismantled the world over...we, as women, will always be holding the bulk of the responsibility.
Commitment!!!huh!!!he marries u n still sleeps around with women
Celibacy gang in attendance Ma'am!!! 2018 and going SKRONG!
A way couples can make things work is by allowing to understand each others trauma and finding a way to work through it together.
Relationship can be exhausting.
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It can be with the wrong person or when you want things to go your way most of the time.
My father was married to my mother for 55 years until he left this dimension of life. He told me that to be with someone for a long time requires that you both overlook each other's faults amd practice forgiveness. He added that you have to give up wanting things to always go your way. It has to be compromises on everything you do as a couple.
You can do all of that supporting, nurturing, empowering, and helping a man to grow, only for him take all of that...you helped to build over to another woman....the woman he really wants....his dream girl. Ladies, encourage these men to stop wasting time and find their dream girl.
He still ain't said nothing 😂😂😂😂😂
Waste of words .
OMG that is what I was thinking
Exactly my point.
These dudes. Literally be saying nothing
He’s saying a lot actually. It’s just not understood
At this point… ladies, we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t. These men are just not happy. Like they honestly just don’t like us… all these unspoken rules, yet we’re told we have unrealistic standards.🙄
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Behavior is a language... LISTEN TO IT!❤
It doesn't matter if you nurture care for him empower, or do for him if he doesn't want to commit he is just not going to commit period. This single life is so peaceful.
Yasss! Singledom is soooo peaceful!!!!
I’m happy god blessed me and my husband with each other
I only choose a man.......who seeks God. When the Lord chooses your spouse, it's different than the world's standards & advice. He is right about what he's saying, but the missing element is having Christ in your life first. THEN ALL THESE THINGS shall be added unto you.
U r correct.
Bible says Men LOVE ur Wives as Christ loves the church. Women RESPECT ur husbands. 😮 🙏🙏🙏
U r correct.
Bible says Men LOVE ur Wives as Christ loves the church. Women RESPECT ur husbands. 😮 🙏🙏🙏
Ma'am, you're not supposed to choose. The Bible states that "When a man findeth a wife, he finds a good thing!" You're to be discovered. That's the problem today, women are choosing and then get upset with their choice.
@@valken9756 I already know that. My point in my comment is I have a CHOICE!! Just because a man may "choose" me and say God sent him doesn't mean he's the one for me. I look for Godly character to prove whether that's true or not. Women don't have to accept just anything because a man will say all kinds of things. I am going to make my choice by trying the spirit by the Spirit of God.....that's why I said "I only choose." I didn't say I will seek a man or go find a husband. There's a difference.
Amen
Commitment in a relationship is ideally based on a combination of factors, including who the person is and how they contribute to the relationship. Both emotional connection and mutual support play crucial roles in a lasting commitment.
I gave on men5 years ago 🙃 and my hair grew back lol
😂😂😂 that part!!!🎉❤ Hair been sprouting like a tree 😂😂
Thanks for the laugh 😂😂
😂😂😂fr though!
I hollered!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂 Peace!! Leave ‘em right there!!!!
Women, just do for yourself. Do not do it if it does not benefit you.
Look ladies live young life and be happy
My father told me when I was 16 years old that in order to keep my man faithful give him all the goody he can handle. He said hit before he goes to work. If he has an office go hit at the office. When he gets home hit again and he won't have time to cheat. Yeah I was told this by my FATHER at 16! And people wonder why some women are jacked up.
To any women who has had an abusive or absent father sort yourself out before dating. Get some therapy and a spiritual life (whatever that means to you). Don't wait to figure it out in your 40s like I did. I fell and scrapped my knees but I'm still standing.
Girl. It hit me when I got married. It was rough. Father issues are stifling
U don't have to give him anything..if hes a cheater thats on him
My pop told me to never get married...iv never been in lack
Funny because I knew a guy that said that a woman he was with slept him like this around the clock but he knew what she was doing so he made it his personal mission to cheat on her everytime he left the house and laughed like " did she think I wouldn't cheat?". You let men talk without judgement and they'll tell you how trifling they really are.
shit I knew a dude who girl would give him BJ before he came to work and let him
drive her nice ass lexus while she drove the 98 accord and this mf wad still fuckn the office slut IN HER NICE CAR LOL Fuck these men. They selfish and narcissistic.
“Nurtures me. Empowers me. Helps me to grow.” 🤔 But here’s a question. Is he nurturing her, empowering her, helping her grow?
in my experience the unspoken rule is that its mostly one sided and benefits the man in most cases thats why so many of them get angry wives when its time for divorce...all because of selfishness
Hell nah 😂😂😂
he has to like you first and that is not something you can control. once he likes you, you can support, nurture and empower him.
If he doesn’t want you all of that doesn’t matter. We have seen women like this get played and used by men who just didn’t want them. We have also seen women that doesn’t do all of this and get the man. To Sum it all up it depends on the man and what he thinks he need at the moment.
When a man speaks, I got to listen.
And then act according.❤
"Nurtures me, empowers me, helps me to grow, supports me"; sounds the same as "what a woman does for a man". Thank God I know better than to be a "ride or die chick" to a man I'm not married to. Easy peazy.
You caught that too? He literally said it’s not what you do, but what you are to him…..then turned around and said, you have to empower and nurture…..like that’s a whole contradiction
Commitment often stems from a deep emotional connection, where a person values and appreciates their partner for who they are-qualities, personality, and shared values. On the other hand, actions and contributions, such as support, understanding, and shared responsibilities, contribute to the practical aspects of a relationship. A healthy commitment tends to balance both emotional connection and mutual support, creating a strong foundation for a lasting partnership.
nurture him impower him🤯 what is he doing for you?! when you're doing all that for him?🤔
Babying them.. making them weaker!!!
Ladies, when we TRULY want to SERIOUSLY be with a woman, trust and believe, we will make sure it's clear in our behavior, words and actions. We will leave no room for for loose interpretation....... But if you NOT the one, we not going that extra mile or bending over backwards, we just gone go along for the ride, until the wheels fall off..... It's all just that simple.
Yep, I'm at the point of the last wheel left.
On way out, wasted too much time.
Nice to have some one like you to be honest and tell it like it is. Sometimes it’s not always what we want to hear but it’s what we need to know and you are being real and letting us know that the signs are clear
@@pamelareid9437 Yes, why waste time playing games. Just be honest and everybody will not their own decisions based on that
That's why I feel no remorse for men that get played. Their entire life is spent using women they really don't want. Virtue signaling and wasting her time until they meet what they desire. Ladies, keep your cup full. Pour into no man that's not coming correct.
@@OneTwo-yw4ij Amen to that! Funny though if you keep your giving in check you come off as aloof, bitchy, or selfish.
Ever notice how the total bitchesvare the ones getting married first, the "nice, caring, considerate" girls finish last.
Life is funny, SUCK IT UP, get a well paying job and a dog!! 🤣
Doing nurturing things to help that man grow and be empowered is not enough. This is legit advice.
All he did was confirm how backward men think? This is exactly why I don’t mess with these idiots.
Lol!
That's true
It is common for black men to find themselves in solitary situations at nursing homes as they age. I am thankful that my husband frequently acknowledges and appreciates my support. I believe this quality played a significant role in his decision-making process. Perhaps individuals from different cultural backgrounds have varied perspectives on the broader aspects of life.
Hmmm… Nurture him and empower him.
Isn’t it strange how men say women can’t raise children, but then looks to a woman to raise a man? I don’t know about y’all, but it’s something men and women need to pay attention to. A woman can’t raise children, but must raise a man in order for him to commit to her.
A man should never say that women can’t raise children and looking to be nurtured and empowered by a woman. And ladies, if a man says something like that to you - Women can’t raise children and should never be a single mother - He’s a sick man you should avoid like the plague. Don’t try to nurture or empower him bcuz he’s beyond help and not worth the struggle it’s gonna be for you to try.
Very well said!❤
Every Nation enslaved our ancestors for disobeying The Most High our curses run deep. Happy Sabbath (Friday sun down till Saturday sun down).
Hahhhahahh😂
❤ facts
This 🎯 🎯 🎯
We truly have different natures. This is why Sex should be with her husband, one who has committed to her
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It's always mind over matter...
If she dont mind, it won't matter!
Yup and it can change on a dime. No matter what he does love yourself. You are enough.
Now this is REAL advice
I was married to a man for three decades that fits this mode. I could never ever please him. Later years after researching our issues I found him to be a bona-fide narcissist. I had to divorced him. Knowledge is power!!
I've done all of the above......still got divorced.
It's b.s. These men play too many games
Honestly when you nurture, empowers, support and helps him to grow he finds another woman that isn't willing to do any of that- he marries the woman that is cold, no sex, no affection and she doesn't even like him- he spends his life trying to convince her to eventually love him and the marriage is purely transactional to her.
Selfish people are going to be themselves no matter the Sexual orientation. Beware of Selfish people.
Categories... Hm, shaking my head. I believe it. I've seen it and experienced it. This is why I'm taking my time this time around.
Me to bare minimum because u can be doing too much and they don't want you too
So true. That’s why it’s important to not have sex. To get closer to God. Pray for Discernment. Pray for that man. Going out of your way to please him does not and will not make him stay.
Lies. You just have to find a man who isn’t broken and can self manage. Women remember you are biologically his mate you just have to choose wisely.
@ Real True, not true. Not even the Army , Navy, Air force, FBI, and CIA can vet these demons with their resources. Hunny, we are on our own out here with limited resources, and as far as finding a man like you described . Good luck and go for it!!!
who is biologically my mate....sorry only qualified applicants regardless of race
That's right ❤ it's not how much you do for him it's about who she is to him
Lets keep it clean. Hit him in the feels. I dont talk and dont lift a finger. I listen, compliment, support, set boundaries. I have had the best dating life. But let me tell you alot of them get scared and will think you are too good to be true. So i have learned men dont know what they want😂😂😂😂
This reminds me of something I heard once that I never forgot... people don't fall in love with a person, they fall in love with how that person makes them feel about themselves. It's really ego driven. If they can imagine you helping them get to the level of success they want, then they will commit to you. All relationships have some level of self-serving in them, so each person needs to weigh the benefits vs. the costs and decide if it's worth it for them.
…….that part!
It’s amazing that men say that want a woman to nurture them. I don’t need a woman to nurture me, add to my growth and development, that was my parents job, I’m a grown man, I don’t need nor seek that from a woman, or from my wife, Yahuah mandated in his word it’s the man’s job to do that for his wife, as that’s what Yahuah has done for his
My husband is one of my four best friends. He respects me like he does our other friends instead of the chick he screwed. We have been married 27 years. We had problems but I was working them out with my bestie who is also my husband. Think about it. How many partners have come and gone vs how long have you and your real besties stayed at each others side? Marry your real friend who has proven they love you as a friend more than anything else.
I did allll that and he still cheated and chose the whore😂
Same here..My ex married married a h* that use to sleep with his cousin
The only "whore" is HIM! Call awful names to the one that hurt you, it's not the Woman who cheated on you.
Women of value to convince men to choose them….they show up as themselves and what will align and yoke will indeed yoke. Showing up in value and nurturing or expanding a man’s growth is bit becoming a mother figure or forcefully trying to intersect his interests.
Many of us have lost the art of patience, friendship, and intimacy through communication while withholding sex & favors. We operate so transactional thinking doing this will result in xyz. A man finds value with your character. Only a man looking to use and break a woman from his own broken spirit will try to make you believe you have to compete & convince him to pick you through acting like a wife. Agree with this entire clip.
Notice he says a Man.....not a childish guy, not a guy not ready to commit, the bible says"When I became man, I put away childish things".......rise up MEN💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
They're still boys doing manhood wrong. What would they know about it? Their fathers are always abandoning them.
Rise up and get your passports😂
@lemonman77able You're not supposed to just get passports but to make enough to live comfortably by moving there permanently as the cost of living is anywhere from 66- 80% cheaper, and so are the women. You're supposed to see what is done differently by the men there for women to be different.
Black men keep telling y’all in every way possible that they don’t want you and y’all keep trying to change their minds
Right, all they know is passports and std's 😂😂😂 they better stay single and live!
It's about setting standards and boundaries on how sb will treat you. If he doesn't value you, get rid of him cause he's not the one. The right man will appreciate what you do for him and reciprocate.
You can be nurturing and empowering and still men will go to left.... lose lose ...
He’s right. A way to a man’s heart is not in the bedroom. You just gonna waste a lot of effort on a dude that will leave you and marry a virgin.
They don't love
Define empowers him, define nurtures him, define supports him, define helps him to grow please and thank you!
Isn’t this why the Passport Bro’s got started. They said woman not doing any domestic duties for them. Yall need to talk to each other and get ya story straight!
😂😂😂 IKR. That's why people ignore them. The rubbish! They be like....⬆️⬇️↖️↙️➡️🔄↪️↔️⤵️🔀🔃
Why do they make it so complicated to interact with them on a human level? At every turn, they want to disrespect you. You didn't do this, you didn't do that, you're too much of this, or not enough of that. It's like a tool that you can't fix; no matter how you twist and turn it, no matter how many times you read the manual, the shit don't want to work. Man, fk all that. That's too many rules. Who has time to be jumping through all those hoops and hurdles? Just leave.
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Honestly, this is 100% true. Does she improve him as a man? If she does, she is the one for him. Trust me on this my dad only loved one woman his whole life. Never dated anyone else. As soon as he met my mom, he realized that she improved him over time. They have been together for over 35 years (married) I don't know the total years of them being together before it. 🙌
Perspective is everything. The battle is in the mind. How you see it will effect how you treat it.
These are the same men cheating on their spouses and acting as relationships advisors smh. Trust God and his process. Don’t do too much but don’t push people away so fast. It’s so sad how these influencers have influence many relationships in a negative way. The best thing to do is to pray about/for your partner and God will do the rest
ABSOLUTELY ❤
Support him, nurture him, helps him to grow🤨 sounds like a newborn baby😩
😲 you are awesome and independent and assemblers you call the doctor every days in Jesus the ye
God created woman as a helpmate for man. The role of the man is to provide and protect
He ain’t lying, I don’t even like men 😂and I have ones I dealt with still talking about who I am to them. Meanwhile some woman has carried his baby, took care of him while he sick, supported him when he fell off. I’ll never understand women that bend over backwards, the key is always create the idea in your mind, pitch to him, breadcrumb him so much that he always invest more, and once he’s professed his love for you, then maybe make em a sandwich 🥪 😂
Facts sis, I learned this the hard way 😂
It explains why, in my relationship, he fell off. I said, "Let me do it more, and maybe he'll get back to who he used to be." He only got more comfortable in no longer being that guy. He'd send me messages on what a woman should do for her "husband," but he had been a boyfriend for 2 years. Didn't want to talk about the future. He had no intentions of making me a wife, and so he didn't.
Just show him respect let him feel happy and at peace in his home
❤In his Home, heart, belly and balls😄
@@TheManuella3 My man said that’s still not enough 😮
@@biancacox6548Then what does it take to 🤷🏽♀️
Still not enough...😂😂😂
If that was true, I would be married to this one particular guy instead of him being married to this girl that he knocked up because she was there doing things for him. While I was encouraged him to build his business and to expand becoming the man that he is today, she was there cooking for him, and washing his clothes because I was off traveling doing my thing. I admire that man to this day for everything that he has become and everything that he will be, because I saw in him what he did not see in himself. So I don’t think this to be true. What I have experience is the men that you do breathe life into like this that select you usually are the type of men that I’ve been needing some type of acceptance from their mom, most of their life and your fulfilling that void.
The issue is women try to love men the way THEY want to love them and not the way MEN want to be loved, especially when they are at a particular period in their life. Maybe he didn't need your encouragement. Maybe he needed you to alleviate some of the things on his mind so he could focus on more important tasks (to him). I don't think women realize how much they DON'T inspire a man to be better for them. They actually deter it. What the guy said is true and you don't even realize your comment confirms it. He said a man commits to a woman for who she is to him. Based on your statement, he committed to the woman that could fill gaps in his life and balance him out. It sounds like he didn't want to commit to a life coach.
@@bangwithcamino693, That's all well and good. The problem comes in when you accept and withdraw from a place you claim you don't need! If you're simply wasting a woman's time because it's nice to receive freely from her and get what you need elsewhere. You're a garbage person that's greedy and self-serving in nature. And many of you lie through your teeth. You all will express what you say you need, then watch the woman you don't want. Bend over backwards to give it to you. Your displeasure stems from the fact that "you don't want it from her." It has nothing to do with not giving it properly.
The constant nitpicking of any and every effort is why a lot of women don't care anymore. It will always be what she didn't do right and not the fact that you're not honest enough to move on.
@@bangwithcamino693, That's like eating the whole meal at a restaurant, then refusing to pay because it's not what you ordered! Why did you eat all of it? You're gonna pay or, they're going to call the police.......You time thieves will be repaid one way or another. And it usually comes from the very thing you want the most.
@@OneTwo-yw4ij That was a terrible analogy and doesn't apply to this scenario. A better analogy would be that I want steak and waitress A brings me a salad because she thinks I need the greens and waitress B brings me the steak AND the salad. Of course the guy is going to with B because that's what I asked for and then some. A gave me what she wanted me to have. Nobody is wasting your time. You're not doing your job.
I figured this out in my early 20s. A man will love you regardless if you’re what his heart desires and cherishes. Doing extra shit will not make a man love you if his heart doesn’t.. he’ll probably just stay around because it benefits him not because he loves you
I understand this
Wow. He's so right! Omg.. I didn't know that
Who she is to him!!! ENPOWERS HIM! NUTURE HIM!!! HELPS HIM GROW!!!! SUPPORTS HIM!!!!! Commitment: Woman is put into a different category!!! Teach Manhood!!! The man thinks differently than women!!!
But then u find urself empty, drained, used up, bitter bc he was never capable of pouring back into u nor give u what u needed emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally. Those giys know that they are not enough when u meet them. After build them up, increase theor confidence, ego, theu are now grown up in all those areas and are ready 2 leave the safety of ur nest and fly away 2 bigger, better or just orher challenges.😢 Not realizing that u still have a ton more and u prove that bc after they've checked out, you Glow up bigger & better than u both could've ever imagined.
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This is not what its is, Look at my Brain or my Spirit. amen the Last words its what i agree on amen, You said something that Men need to hear and Women need a conferance see real information is real amen Apostle Pastor Bridget bond , That what you open .