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КОМЕНТАРІ • 342

  • @TheItYo
    @TheItYo 3 роки тому +212

    When you’re afraid to lose them you will. Fall back and focus on yourself. It works every time.

  • @kentmarcus1255
    @kentmarcus1255 3 роки тому +407

    If she says she needs space, give her more than she expected or wanted. Scarcity creates value, so making your time and attention a limited resource will make your value immediately begin to rise. Focus on yourself and explore other options just as she is and let her do all of the pursuing from then on out. If she doesn't come back, it's her loss. You'll attract a higher quality partner along the way. If you guys need help with your situations, feel free to ask.

    • @Hi-mb1rr
      @Hi-mb1rr 3 роки тому +6

      Very well said

    • @Hi-mb1rr
      @Hi-mb1rr 3 роки тому +11

      @@pynrapmartinezlyngdohn9370 she’s still trying to see if you care about her if I was you I would start dating other girls bro

    • @kentmarcus1255
      @kentmarcus1255 3 роки тому +30

      @@pynrapmartinezlyngdohn9370 so if she asked for space in November and you didn't go no contact until this month, that means you didn't truly give her space until very recently. Regardless, good job on finally pulling back. The fact that she took two days to respond to you tells me that her interest is currently not very high. Especially considering you responded to her immediately, you're giving off the impression that you're still very interested in her and eager to hear from her. I would mirror the amount of time she is taking to respond to you. Therefore, if she takes two days to text you back, I wouldn't respond for at least two days. It's always better to take a little longer to respond than her, which allows you to maintain frame and not overpursue. Occasionally you can respond a little quicker than she is so she doesn't get the impression that you're purposely taking longer than her, but for the most part stick to mirroring her time and take a little longer than she is to respond. After a few texts back and forth, get to the point and try to schedule a date. You're not there to be her pen pal. You must maintain the frame of being her romantic partner and not just a friend. If she isn't interested in that, kick her to the curb.

    • @fafthefab
      @fafthefab 3 роки тому +2

      Great philosophy that all men should follow

    • @adityakamble8233
      @adityakamble8233 3 роки тому +3

      I don't know what's wrng with her she keep ignoring my messages don't talk to me but on other hand she tells everything in detail to my friend and others about how her day spent today but why not for me I m her bf not care taker ! I think she has lost attraction in me idk what to do she says it's all fine between us but ik it's not

  • @adashiell1
    @adashiell1 3 роки тому +367

    Tell her good luck and see you later

    • @krishbhattacharya4108
      @krishbhattacharya4108 3 роки тому +16

      😂😂Savage

    • @jayr6327
      @jayr6327 3 роки тому +3

      Haha nice to hear.

    • @geralkay3012
      @geralkay3012 3 роки тому +9

      Good luck and good bye more savage lol.

    • @MenMovement
      @MenMovement 3 роки тому

      True, true😌

    • @tobyhebert789
      @tobyhebert789 3 роки тому +2

      My ex was given back to me with the help of someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my love back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem❤💖

  • @threeStarsandaSunJr
    @threeStarsandaSunJr 3 роки тому +133

    I found this guy’s channel back in November of 2017 after my breakup. Took his advice, 4 months later we got back together and to this day, were engaged. This man knows what he’s talking about!

    • @threeStarsandaSunJr
      @threeStarsandaSunJr 3 роки тому +13

      @Melih k I cut off all communication with her and really enforced the no contact rule. I eventually gained the energy to work on my self and build self- confidence and self love. Eventually, I was in a great place mentality, so I asked her to go out for coffee and she noticed how different I was. Then it just took off from there!

    • @threeStarsandaSunJr
      @threeStarsandaSunJr 3 роки тому +1

      @Melih k thank you, brother!

    • @gilakmen2041
      @gilakmen2041 3 роки тому

      @@threeStarsandaSunJr helo bro..just to ask..when she reach to you (text) during no contact after break up, are you delay her text or what? tq..

    • @threeStarsandaSunJr
      @threeStarsandaSunJr 3 роки тому +1

      @@gilakmen2041 nah bruv. Completely ignored it.

    • @oliguayasebesteves166
      @oliguayasebesteves166 3 роки тому +8

      Suicidal move, she rode the carrousel, clogged miles like a good 4 x 4 and came back empty handed...how dared you😢😢? 😲😲

  • @mayorofthenonsense
    @mayorofthenonsense 3 роки тому +128

    There is something Chris said in one of his previous videos about pulling back, which can be paraphrased as follows: _"if all the other men in her life are trying to get near to her and be with her, and you are not, then that says something about you - it says you must be pretty special."_
    This is the best fix and the only TRUE solution for any scenario where the woman has other guys in the background. Take it from someone who has tried it and tested it - nothing will draw her attention back onto you, like you removing your attention from her.
    You make all the other guys look like desperate chumps in comparison. If the relationship continues, it will be her doing, because she genuinely desires and values you now - not because you chased her back into it.

  • @theguywiththeshades6792
    @theguywiththeshades6792 3 роки тому +139

    Point your attention and focus on something or someone else. Worked true tried and tested. Humans are like grown children. We only want whatever is wanted by others. We quickly want to take back the toys we've dropped the moment we see others having a good time with them.

  • @lokey987
    @lokey987 3 роки тому +184

    Just say "ok" and move on.
    They hate that you're non reactionary.
    But they like it at the same time

    • @geralkay3012
      @geralkay3012 3 роки тому +21

      Yes, be mysterious.

    • @for-house-stark
      @for-house-stark 3 роки тому +7

      Period.

    • @Ace.0.0.0.
      @Ace.0.0.0. 2 роки тому +8

      True that. I had a GF, she fired me. I only said something like - Okay. Thanks for the memories. She rehired me the next week. But we not a good match. We broke up for good later on. Point is I did not freak out when she fired me.

  • @twovthree
    @twovthree 3 роки тому +193

    Attraction is important, but if there's no commitment on her part to push through the highs and lows then she's a waste of your time, gentlemen.

    • @alexandertye3244
      @alexandertye3244 3 роки тому +1

      "Gentlemen"

    • @resspls10k
      @resspls10k 3 роки тому +21

      They only want the good times nowadays. At the first bump, she'll swap you like a Netflix series.

    • @georgezazueta61
      @georgezazueta61 3 роки тому

      @@resspls10k hahahaha is that what happened to you?

    • @mohammed96011
      @mohammed96011 3 роки тому

      Excellent point !!!

    • @MrStavon92
      @MrStavon92 3 роки тому +1

      @@resspls10k facts

  • @DC7BQC
    @DC7BQC 3 роки тому +56

    When a girl says she wants to "keep her options open" when it comes to relationships, LEAVE....like yesterday!!!

    • @georgezazueta61
      @georgezazueta61 3 роки тому +9

      Just do the same shit dude, keep yours open, she will get jealous, get other girls, and she is gonna want to make it a committed relationship again

    • @l0remipsum991
      @l0remipsum991 3 роки тому +1

      one let windows open, flies would come in

  • @LivingALifeOfAbundance
    @LivingALifeOfAbundance 3 роки тому +34

    A woman's attraction for a man grows when she feels that the man is better than her. She has to work for your attention and approval then her attraction will grow.

  • @freddibanuelos3481
    @freddibanuelos3481 3 роки тому +25

    Don't cry
    Don't beg
    Don't say Sorry
    Don't say please
    Don't say I'll change
    Don't start blowing up her phone
    Do: keep fucking calm
    Walk away turn your back
    Keep a whatever attitude
    Talk to other girls

  • @one7decimal2eight
    @one7decimal2eight 3 роки тому +28

    Tell her, oh good, I'm glad you brought that up before I did. I was actually kind of nervous to have this talk with you, but since you beat me to it, I sure am glad you did. Then stand up, tell her you appreciate the time you spent together, shake her hand, no hugs, no kisses, then walk away immediately. If she reaches back out, do not get back to her for at least a week, if you want her in your life. She will think twice before doing that again. Or just walk away. Either way. It's a win win.

    • @jackpartridge7891
      @jackpartridge7891 3 роки тому +3

      You sir you know your stuff

    • @one7decimal2eight
      @one7decimal2eight 3 роки тому +1

      @@jackpartridge7891 its because I've had about 20 years of experience dating a dealing with women. They are always testing you to see what they can get away with. They test to see if you're going to be a man or a bitch. I've only had a couple women break it off with me and I fell apart. This was over 15 years ago. I don't date anymore because it's a waste of time and effort imo and I appreciate peace and quiet, doing what I want, not being nagged over sex, but I digress. I had a woman pull this shit on me a few years ago. Tried breaking it off with me and as she's sitting there telling me in a restaurant she said I can't believe how happy you look. And on said, I am happy. No more dealing with this sort of behavior. And that really really messed with her. Women do not like to be rejected. So even if it sucks, be a man, put on a poker face and smile through it all when she's there. Then you can deal with it once you get home. Btw, that woman still reaches out to me every so often. Because I am the only one that ever put her in her place.

  • @zero1188
    @zero1188 3 роки тому +54

    My gues is he rushed her into a relationship and she didnt get a chance to have her fun exploring stuff. This is why you wait for the girl to ask her the relationship

    • @andrewgill6770
      @andrewgill6770 3 роки тому +2

      @Melih k Very well said. Its about self esteem.

  • @courtmetrage
    @courtmetrage 3 роки тому +56

    Don't be afraid to say it. They care only about themselves. And that's narcissism.

    • @darkfoxjj
      @darkfoxjj 3 роки тому +8

      Everyone should only care about themselves, because if one does not care about oneself how could you value another person.
      That said, I think what you mean is they only care about their feelings, which fluctuate a lot because of different reasons one being their hormonal cycle.

    • @kennethjones5334
      @kennethjones5334 3 роки тому +1

      Couldn't of said it better myself courtmetrage!!!

  • @billionjaybirds1906
    @billionjaybirds1906 3 роки тому +128

    She has bee ruined by social media- the attention and validation addiction. It's an epidemic. Dating has been threatened in a huge way.

    • @egemensuzgun4208
      @egemensuzgun4208 3 роки тому +3

      i blame social media 💯

    • @is2275
      @is2275 3 роки тому

      I swipe right on her on tinder

    • @stefanodelprete
      @stefanodelprete 3 роки тому +18

      With social media they have unlimited choice, your attention will be replaced with the attention that she has from her phone. I hate social media for it, they now have too much power

    • @egemensuzgun4208
      @egemensuzgun4208 3 роки тому +1

      @@stefanodelprete that’s true

    • @CGExclusiive
      @CGExclusiive 3 роки тому +11

      That’s what I said in one of my recent videos.. I’m 20 and relationships in college are doomed.. the social media and attention seeking has killed the possibility of finding real love.. you’re NEVER the only one just be the favorite

  • @andrewgill6770
    @andrewgill6770 3 роки тому +37

    You can make her think about it by saying," I'm cool, many more fish in the sea".

    • @egemensuzgun4208
      @egemensuzgun4208 3 роки тому +1

      puts them in their place, then self development 💯

  • @shubhamalaria9885
    @shubhamalaria9885 3 роки тому +18

    First thing dont panic in front her you will look weak. Raise respect for urself by saying its your life you wanna leave doesn't matter to me its a free world. Never ever show weakness and fear to her stay confident as it doesn't matter if she stays or leave. Man after sometime after this shut test she will come back.

  • @dylan1159
    @dylan1159 3 роки тому +72

    Women need to chase validation so they value men's time and attention. If you give it to her too easily and frequently then your time has low value, she'll realise that you are not a high quality male with options. If she loses attraction then you have to simply remove any time and attention away from her, and focus on other things. You have to make her understand that your time I'd precious and difficult to attain. If you guys need any help, just ask.

    • @johnwick2338
      @johnwick2338 3 роки тому +8

      @Tushar Bhardwaj the mindset should be either you get her or you get a better one. You should walk away and focus on yourself. Meet new people... If she comes back and you show that you're still a simp then it's over.. walk away. Do it for yourself. Not her.

    • @sanakiddy2883
      @sanakiddy2883 3 роки тому +3

      @@johnwick2338 dude hes from india...in india ..only two logics work to women...men need to chase ..or men need to ignore, then women will run behind you for money and wealth. Balanced approach never works, there. Most of the women in india are not at all expressive of their feelings. So men in india suffer a lot, even if they have genuine interest.

    • @sanakiddy2883
      @sanakiddy2883 3 роки тому

      @Tushar Bhardwaj bro..i feel sorry for you. But feel happy that you lost her. Forget her slowly and focus on other things

    • @kaberigomes2117
      @kaberigomes2117 3 роки тому +7

      @Tushar Bhardwaj Bro i dont know how much i can help. Your comment was 1 month ago. But here's what i found out after being in a similar situation. The reason you are hoping to win her back is the exact reason why she pushed you away or never felt attracted to you.
      When you put women on pedestal, you immediately show you are off lower value(unfortunately we are not taught these things in school so don't be hard on yourself).
      Now coming to practical steps you can take, if you wish to act on wining her you have to DHV (demonstrate higher value), you can do this by several ways example - getting a better education degree, gym body, or starting a business... Anything that makes you valuable in the society.
      Along with this you need No contact, and when you do, don't bent over to extoll her with effusive praises.
      Be dominant( not aggressive), and a gentleman.
      Good luck.

  • @harrasingh998
    @harrasingh998 3 роки тому +39

    If my girlfriend did that, I'd dump her - simple, what you invest is what you should recieve, if you recieve less, it show's that it isn't worth it for you.

    • @georgezazueta61
      @georgezazueta61 3 роки тому +3

      Just cheat on her, then break up with her so that way you are the one dumping her and then she is gonna feel like shit and she is gonna want to come back

    • @harrasingh998
      @harrasingh998 3 роки тому

      @@georgezazueta61 LOL true

  • @ryanandrews321
    @ryanandrews321 3 роки тому +14

    I like your newer videos. Straight to the point and more brutally honest 👍

  • @snowmanbrooklyn212
    @snowmanbrooklyn212 3 роки тому +8

    Man you changed my life ! God bless you abundantly for your precious advices... Hope i'm the first today to make a comment 😁😁

  • @naturadventur7425
    @naturadventur7425 3 роки тому +52

    Don't change who you are for a woman, move on, and find a woman who loves you for what you are.

    • @johannesolofsson221
      @johannesolofsson221 3 місяці тому

      Is it possible? Everything in life otherwise needs us to fake something to get something

  • @NewLeaf88
    @NewLeaf88 3 роки тому +15

    ATTRACTION GROWS IN SPACE!

  • @fredflinstone8750
    @fredflinstone8750 3 роки тому +113

    Too many snakes these days

  • @moviefan8533
    @moviefan8533 3 роки тому +26

    If a woman ever tells you “I’m not feeling attracted to you”, tell her she’s giving you a headache and adios.
    “But I owe it to her to try!” Try what? Shouldn’t she have tried to sort her shit out before saying something like that to you? When you’re at this point, trust me: cut your losses. I speak from experience.

  • @PedroArnaiz
    @PedroArnaiz 3 роки тому +14

    0:42 "yea right 😂" i knew he's gonna take the piss of that "I'm perfect for her" line

  • @benbenben123ben
    @benbenben123ben 3 роки тому +18

    When the dopamine of a new relationship is over, it’s time to go.
    Btw, that’s about 4-6 weeks.
    In my opinion, it’s just pulling teeth to get intimacy after that.

  • @danialmr5960
    @danialmr5960 3 роки тому +6

    Great content man

  • @Mechanics_world007
    @Mechanics_world007 3 роки тому +2

    improve your life and raise your value,you've got it right man 👍

  • @BangMaster96
    @BangMaster96 2 роки тому +12

    Remember, don't chase one Woman, learn to forgive, and let go. Women are bounded by their feelings & emotions, you can't control them, heck even Women themselves can't control them.
    You as a Man can however control your own feelings & emotions, and you need to show that to her. Stop chasing her, move on. If in the future she changes her mind, she will come back to you herself, and if she doesn't, then that means she was never that into you and all her attraction for you is gone. You as a Man need to learn to remove your ego when dealing with Women, remove logic, and do not chase.

    • @fj4731
      @fj4731 2 роки тому

      Hi Sir
      I need advice if can help me out..
      I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
      1) on my Birthday my gf did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
      I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
      What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
      I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
      What should I had said and do?
      2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
      I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
      In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
      3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
      What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
      Please help..Thank you

  • @hasanmahmudkhan3785
    @hasanmahmudkhan3785 3 роки тому +2

    Loved your animated videos. I think those where easier to visualise nd understand

  • @k.i.i.3699
    @k.i.i.3699 3 роки тому +11

    The cartoons are cool… But I don’t know what it is about a real life person speaking that engages me more. There’s more emotion in the real videos and I just get more out of it (I’m also assuming these are a lot easier to make).

  • @PedroArnaiz
    @PedroArnaiz 3 роки тому +21

    If she acting difficult just walk away, she'll come back to you eventually because she misses you

    • @henriklajv7581
      @henriklajv7581 3 роки тому +7

      After a player broke her heart, then she will come back to you.

    • @egemensuzgun4208
      @egemensuzgun4208 3 роки тому

      after she has ridden the CC

    • @PedroArnaiz
      @PedroArnaiz 3 роки тому

      @@henriklajv7581 If she acting difficult but not cheating on you , walk away to reattract her back . but if she acting difficult and also cheating on you then leave her forever .

    • @PedroArnaiz
      @PedroArnaiz 3 роки тому +1

      @@egemensuzgun4208 If she acting difficult but not cheating on you , walk away to reattract her back . but if she acting difficult and also cheating on you then leave her forever .

    • @emerphillicuanan1545
      @emerphillicuanan1545 3 роки тому

      How will i know if she's cheating...

  • @AchieverSoulVirals
    @AchieverSoulVirals 3 роки тому +2

    Comment section has itself full of advices and experience , great channel ever saw😶😶😶😶

  • @rogerogyconcepcion9400
    @rogerogyconcepcion9400 3 роки тому +5

    Great vids as always

  • @mrj_onsong
    @mrj_onsong 3 роки тому +68

    Say no to simping and say yes to pimping

  • @josetheseventhorcustmachin778
    @josetheseventhorcustmachin778 3 роки тому +16

    So I’m getting the sense if men wants women...all we have to do is focus on improving and growing ourselves and then women will just come to you? Plz correct me if I’m wrong

    • @universalblessings7024
      @universalblessings7024 3 роки тому +1

      Think about it like this, Chris Brown, Anthony Joshua, Bradley Martyn.... have the potential to receive more girls towards them without putting in much work because over years they worked on themselves so much that their value speaks enough for itself.
      Not saying you must be famous or be like them but if you consistently work towards your goals and display it so the world can see especially on social media you will receive many more better options.
      Also in person if you dress well and take care of your physique & you can provide for yourself Overall women will be more attracted towards you.
      It would give you more confidence to approach more often & you would find it hilarious if a girl did turn you down.
      As you know your so high value most women would love to be in a man presence that has so much going for himself.

    • @josetheseventhorcustmachin778
      @josetheseventhorcustmachin778 3 роки тому

      Thx replay

    • @universalblessings7024
      @universalblessings7024 3 роки тому

      @@josetheseventhorcustmachin778 no problem

    • @josetheseventhorcustmachin778
      @josetheseventhorcustmachin778 3 роки тому

      @Universal Blessings but in simple terms “just excel and prevail and woman will come to u” right?

  • @theheroesjourney7770
    @theheroesjourney7770 2 роки тому +3

    What you said is 100% is true.thank you so much 🌷❤

  • @_noname2032
    @_noname2032 3 роки тому +4

    My girl is in the same situation (does not know, what she wants) but says, she really loves me and thinking about breaking up brings her to tears. Shall I respont in the same way?

  • @luismiguelrodrigues6151
    @luismiguelrodrigues6151 3 роки тому +2

    Great advice as always Chris Thanks for the insight and Keep up the good work 🙏🏾👌🏾

  • @spiritualrituals9603
    @spiritualrituals9603 3 роки тому +16

    How can u accept someone who flirts with others in a naughty way anyway? Not logical. Why do u even wanna fix the situation? I mean come on I understand u like this girl but I believe u should have some respect and dignity.

  • @mohamadnorhamidibinanuar383
    @mohamadnorhamidibinanuar383 3 роки тому

    Heyy criss, welcome back 🔥

  • @ramborajkumar298
    @ramborajkumar298 3 роки тому +5

    Girl I've been talking with for a few months, who previously had been texting me all day, now has started to text only at the end of the day, that too with low interest. How should I respond when she texts at the end of the day ? Should I reply with my usual enthusiasm or should I show low interest and respond late ?

    • @XVNRX
      @XVNRX 2 роки тому

      What did you do

  • @Flamey34
    @Flamey34 3 роки тому +1

    Hey Chris can you talk about Long Distance Relationships / Breakups and Rebound Relationships in general

  • @felicialartey8865
    @felicialartey8865 3 роки тому +4

    I always tell my gf or wife that i am busy also i am unpredictable. And Lord she respects me a lot!

    • @fj4731
      @fj4731 2 роки тому

      Hi Lartey
      I need advice if can help me out..
      I wish to know how we Man should react with words or respond with action
      1) on my Birthday my gf did not get me a Birthday Gift and only a Slice cake that clearly she didnt prepare in advance
      I react badly by saying where is my Birthday present and why my Birthday is miserable with just a slice cake…
      What i did for her Birthday I spend $$$ and a proper Birthday with fireworks candle ..by the sea front …she was very happy …but I told her I didnt buy her any Birthday gift because she didnt even bother to reciprocate
      I know I feel like Shit and act like Shit
      What should I had said and do?
      2) One day I went haircut she got herself a Take Out fast food for herself ..she used to include dinner for me but this comeback together after the breakup..she didn’t invest much on me and put little effort.
      I called her out where is my dinner that she got for herself only …I felt so bad she used to share and we eat together Take Out but this time unlike all our 7 years she prefer to go home and eat alone ….leaving myself to eat alone and get my own take out..I am ok but I felt Bitter why she said she love me but her action is Not much
      In the past 7 years it very natural to date and text her …but now she withdraw 80% ..
      3) she told me she would be sociable when I saw one her picture in her phone she with a guy in the gym
      What would a Alpha Musculine man do ?
      Please help..Thank you

  • @darkfoxjj
    @darkfoxjj 3 роки тому +12

    Summary: Find out what it is that is killing her attraction to you (neediness,clinginess etc.) and stop doing that behavior.

  • @Ghhh-on3nl
    @Ghhh-on3nl 3 роки тому

    Great to see you back

  • @middsaguides1852
    @middsaguides1852 3 роки тому +5

    I am just curious, while i am not that much available and all that stuff, when she texts me or facetime me, should i act like really happy and talk normal or should i behave, like not interested into talking?

    • @trivundevic4542
      @trivundevic4542 3 роки тому +3

      Depending on her mood - the way she behaves should be the way you behave. If she is annoying - you act like not interested, if she is normal you are normal too.

    • @riduwanj5577
      @riduwanj5577 3 роки тому

      @@trivundevic4542 thanks for the advice

  • @Michael_the_Drunkard
    @Michael_the_Drunkard 3 роки тому +6

    So, guys I am asking for your advice: met a girl on the internet, that doesn't live far from me. We almost went out for a date, but when she pulled away, I just cut her off and canceled. 3 weeks later, I reestablished contact with her and had a few conversations. She was responsive. Should I pull away now?

    • @bennettray8465
      @bennettray8465 3 роки тому +6

      no, just ask her out, if she bails on the date, then pull away

    • @Michael_the_Drunkard
      @Michael_the_Drunkard 3 роки тому +1

      @@bennettray8465 when I mean responsive, I mean she did respond but I had to initiate the conversation.

    • @kentmarcus1255
      @kentmarcus1255 3 роки тому +5

      First question, why did you cancel the date and cut contact? In what kind of way did she pull away? Second question, what was the point of you reestablishing contact with her if you weren't trying to make plans? Are you expecting her to initiate the plans? If so, you're not going to get anywhere. You have to take the lead as the man and schedule a date. If she is being responsive, you should make definite plans. If she isn't willing to make plans or gives you a wishy washy answer, give her space and let her reach out to you.

    • @Michael_the_Drunkard
      @Michael_the_Drunkard 3 роки тому +1

      @@Mk7adxm did the same, I gave her 3 weeks to initiate contact

    • @Michael_the_Drunkard
      @Michael_the_Drunkard 3 роки тому +2

      @@kentmarcus1255 As soon as she reaches out to me, I'd set up a new date.

  • @mrcool665
    @mrcool665 3 роки тому +5

    I have to keep in the back of my mind that feelings aren't facts.

  • @h2oboi531
    @h2oboi531 3 роки тому +14

    “I’m confused with talking to other guys”
    Translation: toss her to the streets

  • @Ianocity
    @Ianocity 3 роки тому +5

    I'll keep it short: One of my old coworkers at my old job was really into me but I was oblivious to her coming onto me but we were friends, I left that job and city and moved across the state but we continued to text, I figured out she liked me and things were great but when lockdown happened I started overpursuing, being needy, being too available, acting low value and such. She's now lost pretty much all attraction for me (she hasn't blocked me yet so that's good) and sends many word word responses after I initiate contact (I now am the one to always initiate conversation but before she would initiate EVERY TIME) I've been giving space for her to hopefully become reattracted to me but I'm also focusing on myself and am really happy at the moment in life! So my question is, should I wait for her to reach out to me? And if she doesn't just move on? Would appreciate the feedback. Thanks!

    • @kentmarcus1255
      @kentmarcus1255 3 роки тому +8

      Yes you should absolutely wait until she reaches out to you first from now on. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. You acting needy and overpursuing her has gotten you into this situation where she has lost interest and is no longer texting you. Continuing to do that will make her lose even more interest to the point where it is unsalvageable. If you leave her alone and she still has interest, the space will make her wonder about you and reach out. If she doesn't, it is her loss and move on. Continue to focus on you and start dating other women! It's time to pull her off of the pedestal you put her on where she does not deserve to be.

    • @Ianocity
      @Ianocity 3 роки тому +2

      @@kentmarcus1255 For sure. Thanks man! I've been talking to other women and regaining my abundance mindset and I'm feeling like I used to when I attracted the girl the first time. I forgot how I was. I was focusing on myself, busy but happy and really into my purpose (which is this YT channel I own) and whenever I talk about my passion and purpose she's really excited for me even after she's lost attraction for me so I'm pretty sure she'll come back, most of her guy friends are pretty chill (they don't have much ambition) so that helps me stand out from them too naturally. I'll post updates if she texts me at some point. Remember, always focus on you and the women will too.

    • @gilakmen2041
      @gilakmen2041 3 роки тому

      @@kentmarcus1255 bro..if I go no contact to her after the break up..if she reach to me during the no contact, should I delay the text or what...

    • @kentmarcus1255
      @kentmarcus1255 3 роки тому

      @@gilakmen2041 it depends. How long were you in no contact before she reached out? Typically, if she reached out to you at night I'd wait until the next day. If she messaged you sometime during the day I would give it a few hours. You don't want to come off as too eager and respond right away. Regardless, if she's reaching out use it as an opportunity to schedule a date.

    • @Ianocity
      @Ianocity 3 роки тому

      @@kentmarcus1255 Update: she views my stories occasionally despite not following me on any social media anymore all the while I'm working on myself and feeling really damn good! I'd like her to come back but if she doesn't it's all good. I guess her going out of her way to view my story occasionally (she doesn't follow me so it can't be an accidental viewing) is an good thing? I'll let her continue watching and regain her interest but I'm not gonna reach out

  • @Txp91
    @Txp91 3 роки тому +6

    At least we know that "THEY WERE ON A BREAK" LOL

    • @egemensuzgun4208
      @egemensuzgun4208 3 роки тому

      haha never fall for that

    • @Txp91
      @Txp91 3 роки тому +1

      @@egemensuzgun4208 No way hahaha. She can't pull that crap on me

    • @egemensuzgun4208
      @egemensuzgun4208 3 роки тому

      my girlfriend tryed to pull that crap on me (we have 2 kids) i told her if that’s the case i’m out and i’m moving 500km south to the capital
      turns out she has the hots for a doctor at her work.

    • @Txp91
      @Txp91 3 роки тому +1

      @@egemensuzgun4208 at least you did not act like Ross lol shouting. I'm sorry man especially when kids are involved. I hope things get better:) just be the best version of yourself and she will see what she lost :)

  • @ZubayrAdayar
    @ZubayrAdayar 3 роки тому +4

    Good to see you

  • @kahere8345
    @kahere8345 3 роки тому +3

    the thing that keep people together isn’t attraction it’s respect and love. Women don’t get that they chase butterflies respect your self doesn’t care ...

  • @oambitiousone7100
    @oambitiousone7100 11 місяців тому +1

    A woman’s feelings are her superpower. She gets a lot of info and synthesizes it. There’s something off about you to her.

  • @MikeandEva
    @MikeandEva 2 роки тому +1

    Great Video!!

  • @otni430
    @otni430 7 місяців тому

    Great videos Great book

  • @ebakihngomes1220
    @ebakihngomes1220 Рік тому +2

    Her feelings for you are not stable. It means she can leave you at any time. You have given her the power to determine the fate of your relationship. Reverse that man.

  • @brookvalley907
    @brookvalley907 3 роки тому +8

    How many times have we heard that women have gone back to or had flings with their exes? You should never cut your exes off completely. Always maintain a good friendly relationship with everyone, no matter what they do. I've even met other women through my exes. What you do not do is put all of your eggs in one basket. You should be dating two to four women at the same time. If one of them moves on to other guys, tell them that you are sad that they are moving on, but feel free to stay in touch. Exes have rekindled relationships with me after months of not contacting me. If she appears to be losing interest and you want to spike her attraction, just do all of the things that you would do, if you were getting ready to start dating other women: diet, lift weights, run, buy new clothes, go to clubs without her. If you want to maintain her attract over a longer period of time, date multiple women and let all of the women know that you "sometimes" date other women. Two things will hold women's interest longer: you keep yourself ripped, well-dressed, flirt with other women; and you date two to four women at the same time.

  • @ragerlight3200
    @ragerlight3200 3 роки тому +71

    Darius will say: she is not yours, it's just your turn.

    • @VishDumb
      @VishDumb 3 роки тому

      Who's he?

    • @luisenriquebravo9313
      @luisenriquebravo9313 3 роки тому +17

      More like: I'm not hers it just her turn, you're the prize

    • @christiandavidleon1842
      @christiandavidleon1842 3 роки тому +2

      @@VishDumb Darius M, (type that to find his channel) coach for men who provides amazing advice on how to deal with modern women. Red pill preacher, basically.

    • @ragerlight3200
      @ragerlight3200 3 роки тому +7

      @@VishDumb Darius M. Is a legend of alpha male

    • @jackspinner4727
      @jackspinner4727 3 роки тому +4

      That Darius guy takes it to far the other way. Basically almost teaching men to hate women or become incels. That it’s just your turn thing is ridiculous. Saying no high quality females just isn’t true. Don’t be an incel just as bad as womanizer imo

  • @davekata6610
    @davekata6610 3 роки тому +1

    Love the new look

  • @canm7157
    @canm7157 3 роки тому +7

    What if she wants you to message her first, but is also responsive, shows affection and respects your boundaries?

    • @unusualvideos8269
      @unusualvideos8269 3 роки тому +5

      She's respecting you but don't be too available and escalate physical interaction more ,it works ,but Remember don't be a text buddy always

    • @canm7157
      @canm7157 3 роки тому +3

      @@unusualvideos8269 What if it's a long-distance relationship?

    • @johnosasi4710
      @johnosasi4710 Рік тому +2

      @@canm7157 Then playfully encourage her to contact you. You could chip this in during your conversations. If that doesn't change, then you may have to let it all go. LDR is tricky anyway

  • @keithlamontdavis8047
    @keithlamontdavis8047 3 роки тому +23

    If you're afraid of losing her, she's has control of the relationship and control of you. Therefore, she's not going to respect you and will leave you anyway.
    You can't be with a woman you're afraid of. It'll never work.

    • @tiagoT_
      @tiagoT_ 3 роки тому +2

      well said!

    • @vorux4707
      @vorux4707 3 роки тому +1

      That is so true!

  • @muktadiramindu77
    @muktadiramindu77 3 роки тому

    I have experienced this... after our first date she told me that she really enjoyed the time...I told little jokes..she laughed.. I buy her gifts.. she told me that I am such a nice guy...I fell in love with her... I thought she also has fallen into me..The sang songs and sent me audios.. but slowly she started losing attraction.. and After two weeks she told me that her Id is hacked and then she cut all communication....
    The pain is really unbelievable...

    • @bravobravo673
      @bravobravo673 3 роки тому

      Hey

    • @bravobravo673
      @bravobravo673 3 роки тому +1

      When was it ,how long?? Did she come baxk

    • @muktadiramindu77
      @muktadiramindu77 3 роки тому

      @@bravobravo673 Now it's about more than a month.. I called her.. messaged her but she did not reply....

  • @Firerose101
    @Firerose101 3 роки тому +5

    First mistake is listening to her words and not her actions.

  • @cenamohit
    @cenamohit 3 роки тому

    lots of love from India
    nice information bro

  • @despachantecentral3841
    @despachantecentral3841 3 роки тому +42

    friend with benefits...''she belongs to the streets''...

  • @belliumm
    @belliumm 3 роки тому +35

    Funny how women always try to act like they are on your side even when they are breaking up with you

    • @karinpowers1018
      @karinpowers1018 3 роки тому

      Did you know that men often behave the same way?

    • @belliumm
      @belliumm 3 роки тому

      @@karinpowers1018 You're right, both men and women need to see through the facade

    • @Michael_the_Drunkard
      @Michael_the_Drunkard 3 роки тому +9

      @@karinpowers1018 no, not really. Men are usually more direct

    • @Kunal24fit
      @Kunal24fit 3 роки тому

      So true man. 🤟

    • @karinpowers1018
      @karinpowers1018 3 роки тому

      @@Michael_the_Drunkard How do you know this? Have you been broken up with by a man?

  • @aodh5966
    @aodh5966 3 роки тому +5

    No loyalty, no relationship. Dump her, give her infinite space. Maybe she will come back, but do you really want a washed up woman who is talking to other men?

  • @dhandhotrader3794
    @dhandhotrader3794 3 роки тому +1

    Write more books on Women Psychology

  • @chrisa2284
    @chrisa2284 3 роки тому +1

    What Should I text my ex? I've been in no contact for almost two months. She is seeing someone else but she doesn't know that I know. I think that her rebound is gone to S**t now. She wants me to text her but I don't know the right thing to say. She contacted me in the middle and wrote me an apology, wished me for my birthday and left again.

    • @daryl9799
      @daryl9799 3 роки тому +1

      So you wanna be her back up plan after buddy piped her down? Come on dude you have been there done that move on it will happen again.

  • @agbordaniels
    @agbordaniels 3 роки тому

    My ex wants me to pay for intimacy as opposed to moving forward together in a relationship. What can you advise, gone no contact for the past 4 days n feeling like a champion even tho that’s nothing. Got back in contact with her cos she called in November talking about she had a dream about me n wanted to make sure I was ok, regret staying in contact since then of course thinking it was a signal we could work something out. Keep making classical mistakes in my interactions n pushing her further away.

  • @antilaw9911
    @antilaw9911 Рік тому +2

    Problem is.... she wants a guy that's cute and everything, but on that she can control. If she finds man that's attractive and has all the qualities but he also has boundaries and doesn't want to be controlled, there lies the problem

  • @beastincarnate9046
    @beastincarnate9046 3 роки тому

    Thanks ❤️
    Love from India

  • @adriankj3938
    @adriankj3938 3 роки тому +9

    And if she friend zones you, you get up and go but make your intentions clear before you do.

    • @kyioma
      @kyioma 3 роки тому

      how do i make my intention clear? what i should i say? should i say something to her or other way round?

    • @adriankj3938
      @adriankj3938 3 роки тому

      @@kyioma Tell him/her how you really feel and that you won’t be excepting friendship and walk away. You do this if they play the “let’s be friends card”

  • @lonewolf6574
    @lonewolf6574 3 роки тому +4

    “Yeah right” 😂

  • @LaForceStoicienne
    @LaForceStoicienne 2 роки тому +1

    What about a girl that you have been in couple for more than a year ?

  • @therealdon4
    @therealdon4 3 роки тому

    Thankyou so much bro

  • @KulwantSingh-xr4si
    @KulwantSingh-xr4si 3 роки тому

    What fictional/non-fictional men would you say most embody the characteristics you argue make men desirable?

  • @lastwiz5041
    @lastwiz5041 3 роки тому

    Me n my girl have been fighting seen October\18\ 2020 until now I'm not afraid of losing her but I don't want it to end hating each other help

  • @shepumiah2113
    @shepumiah2113 Рік тому

    Bro, just leave. A girl who dosent know whether she wants a casual fling or a commitment is red flag.
    Would you want to second guess yourself for years to come for some girl. Remember the answer to what she really wants out of life is already there, she wants multiple options, if she is flirting with other men openly, she is already showing you that she disrespects you.
    Don't settle for a heartbreak, move on and work on your self and in years to come you will be happier and find someone who will treat you right and add value.
    Remember you deserve to be someone's one and only, not a option.
    She already showed you who she is, don't be blinded .
    Consider it a blessing and move on.

  • @yashdeshpande6439
    @yashdeshpande6439 3 роки тому

    Liked in less than 5 secs

  • @opinions664
    @opinions664 3 роки тому

    Thanks man.

  • @conservativelibbu
    @conservativelibbu 3 роки тому

    She said she loves me and want to marry me but didn't want sex so I refused to this situation and walked away to gain attraction but she got infuriated and asked me to go... but then she called me after 4 days to catch up along with a mutual friend... but I told her that I was busy. Now its been a week and still no contact from her. She has been giving a lot of silent treatment lately but I don't contact her and wait for her to contact me. Am I doing it right Chris?

    • @creativeembargo
      @creativeembargo 3 роки тому

      No, you should have said that you could meet up together and not that you are not interested. Just tell our front that sex is important to you and if she doesn’t want too she can leave at any point

    • @conservativelibbu
      @conservativelibbu 3 роки тому

      @@creativeembargo I did that, she agreed to have relationship but no sex she says and she is bit abusive and furious all the time. Get triggered easily.

  • @kelvinnjoagwuani9699
    @kelvinnjoagwuani9699 3 роки тому +2

    I guess we're in a twisted reality

  • @shayakghosal9992
    @shayakghosal9992 3 роки тому +2

    Received the same behavior. either way..ignorance(one in a more vocal way than the other)

  • @rajanikantcrazycomadyvideo
    @rajanikantcrazycomadyvideo 3 роки тому

    Really great

  • @truenewsexposingtheblues.7908
    @truenewsexposingtheblues.7908 3 роки тому +6

    What about a man that loses attraction to a girl?

    • @K9amilo90
      @K9amilo90 3 роки тому +1

      Are you a guy?

    • @chriswhite1584
      @chriswhite1584 3 роки тому +3

      Bye Bye 👋

    • @truenewsexposingtheblues.7908
      @truenewsexposingtheblues.7908 3 роки тому +3

      100 percent a man. I don't overly cater to woman so I don't have that problem of them losing attraction for me. I normally lose it for them.

    • @dreamcore
      @dreamcore 3 роки тому +2

      Think about what any of those girls did or almost did right afterward, against what they did to make it even easier for you to ditch them, and you should have your answers

    • @aldo321
      @aldo321 3 роки тому +2

      Your question is already the answer of that very question mate. When you lose attraction for a woman, than for you that means only that you lost attraction for her. Its basically over. If you want to invest your time and go against the tide in order to give attraction a chance to come back to life ... well that you gotta ask yourself only ... and the right question you‘d ask yourself is „ Is she worth that?“. Cheers!

  • @mosessunday6173
    @mosessunday6173 3 роки тому +1

    Is good to see your again 😊🤣

  • @ddmozz
    @ddmozz 3 роки тому +1

    I dig the hawaiian shirt outfit.

  • @kamilnowak1930
    @kamilnowak1930 3 роки тому +2

    What if a man already has a child with such a girlfriend?

  • @NoName-zb1gm
    @NoName-zb1gm 5 місяців тому

    I think a lot of us do it but I hate when guys make excuses for women's bad behavior. Judge the situation by the end result or like you say by their actions. She's talking to other guys. She doesn't love him even though she wants to and she wants to do the right thing. Well she's doing the wrong thing. End of story. Or if she says yes to a date and flakes that means she said no. No was the final answer.

  • @puLysh
    @puLysh 3 роки тому

    More Power Sire 👍

  • @amirabedi9429
    @amirabedi9429 3 роки тому

    Love you from Iran

  • @TheRoman1
    @TheRoman1 Рік тому

    Open your options too

  • @DevinObi
    @DevinObi 2 роки тому +1

    y’all know what a break means right 🤣🤣🤣

  • @KhasiPatti
    @KhasiPatti 3 роки тому +3

    Chris ma man😎... I been doing it like u were told in ur book(when a woman flake on you 2times then move on and forget about her)..my x gf i've asked her to hangout with me but she flake twice (each sunday in 2weeks) , At that moment she said i can't bcuz bla bla bla.... I just told her that ' okay ' bye.... She call me at that moment 3times i didn't pick up.. i went no contact on her (its been 3weeks now)... I heard that she dated someone else now , for me i think its just a test(Jealousy) cause she missing me , she wanted me to reach out to her, but I didn't , am just waiting for her to reach out to me untill she change her behavior.....I think its a right decision i made if am not wrong.. thank you

    • @KhasiPatti
      @KhasiPatti 3 роки тому

      I'll keep updating here until she reached out to me and 😊thanks for motivated me Man 💪😎

    • @gilakmen2041
      @gilakmen2041 3 роки тому +1

      when she reach to you..are u delay her text or what

    • @KhasiPatti
      @KhasiPatti 3 роки тому +1

      Yep....but i don't do texting bcuz i Don't see their reaction.....only calling 😉....if they text , i ignore it......

    • @gilakmen2041
      @gilakmen2041 3 роки тому +1

      @@KhasiPatti so you meant..u gonna delay their text rite?

    • @KhasiPatti
      @KhasiPatti 3 роки тому

      @@gilakmen2041 yes..until they call me....

  • @georgezazueta61
    @georgezazueta61 3 роки тому

    Guys, if your gf disrespect you just cheat on her, break up and get a new one or wait for her to come back begging you

  • @jonnafin2324
    @jonnafin2324 3 роки тому +6

    Just leave and move on dude 🤣 no need to chase her and make her find attraction to you again.