16 AND PREGNANT | TELLING MY MEXICAN PARENTS. Storytime everyone has been waiting for!

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  • @melissatorresx
    @melissatorresx  3 роки тому +683

    Hey guys I just wanted to clear something since people are pin pointing the way I said something. When I said pulling out is fine for me I said ..IT WAS FINE FOR ME! (At the time because I didn’t get prego till an incident happened) Never did I say it was a good form of protection obviously against diseases/ pregnancy. I know I’m not the only one that feels that way IF you’re in a relationship . Varies from person to person. I know some of y’all got what I meant to say but others wanna act like I’m promoting it😑😑

    • @smiles7703
      @smiles7703 3 роки тому +34

      Jesus loves you everyone, turn to Him while you have a chance. He loves you and does not judge you. He died because He could not imagine eternity without you.

    • @karmasvfx4696
      @karmasvfx4696 3 роки тому +16

      @@smiles7703 no

    • @GlamClan-xe3zi
      @GlamClan-xe3zi 3 роки тому +9

      @@smiles7703 amen

    • @maliaa5416
      @maliaa5416 3 роки тому +3

      @@smiles7703 not one person asked for that

    • @mcytvibes5637
      @mcytvibes5637 2 роки тому +1

      @@destinyyyy.9020 because not everyone believes in jesus lmao

  • @itzyochoa3035
    @itzyochoa3035 3 роки тому +5451

    I think this is important for a lot of girls in Hispanic cultures. I feel like parents try to control everything instead of sitting down and talking to us. I’m 20 and last month I finally told my parents about my boyfriend of three years. I feel like they make it stressful for us because they focus on what other people may think. I’m happy your doing better and that everything worked out for you!

    • @juniorepic145
      @juniorepic145 3 роки тому +28

      yes exactly

    • @melissamorales5088
      @melissamorales5088 3 роки тому +15

      So right!

    • @lupelopez8410
      @lupelopez8410 3 роки тому +19

      I can relate to this so much

    • @serenamartinez3435
      @serenamartinez3435 3 роки тому +5

      I totally agree

    • @JeniceOO
      @JeniceOO 3 роки тому +36

      I was always afraid to introduce my parents to my bf because of how they would react or what they would say and it a horrible feeling but if you really love someone and that person wants to makes thing right then your parents will have to accept it and be supportive.

  • @vanessasanchez5371
    @vanessasanchez5371 3 роки тому +818

    Girl I started tearing up when you were talking about your mom. Trust me I know how bad it is to feel like your mom cares about everyone’s opinion but yours, not to mention how mentally draining it is to feel like you have no control over your life. I hate how society perceives teen moms, a baby is a blessing and I am sooo glad to see that you are doing good!!

    • @The.tingler.slingingslasher
      @The.tingler.slingingslasher 3 роки тому +8

      Teen moms are definitely not bad moms just because they are young and not all of them depend on their parents and they can still make it to school and go to college, so Melissa definitely pulled through

    • @The.tingler.slingingslasher
      @The.tingler.slingingslasher 3 роки тому +12

      The only thing that kinda rubbed me the wrong way was when she said the pull out method is okay to do, condoms don’t always work but they are more helpful to prevent diseases and prevent pregnancy, because she has a mostly teen platform and it can send the wrong message

    • @eddieherring6789
      @eddieherring6789 7 місяців тому

      You're cute❤

  • @gabriela.b3424
    @gabriela.b3424 3 роки тому +738

    I cried. Being in a Hispanic household with a religious mom or strict mom can be very hard. Especially if you end up pregnant at a young age. The first thing in mind is marrying your baby daddy. They just rant and don’t process everything they’re saying and they don’t realize is affecting their daughter or son. But once you have the baby they switch up.
    Much love!💞💞

    • @smiles7703
      @smiles7703 3 роки тому +11

      Jesus loves you everyone, turn to Him while you have a chance. He loves you and does not judge you. He died because He could not imagine eternity without you.

    • @abbystephens5516
      @abbystephens5516 3 роки тому +2

      @@smiles7703 666

    • @DariusFoley
      @DariusFoley 4 місяці тому

      ​@@abbystephens5516you need Jesus man

    • @IloveJesus777j77
      @IloveJesus777j77 4 місяці тому

      ​@@abbystephens5516Romans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".

    • @IloveJesus777j77
      @IloveJesus777j77 4 місяці тому

      ​@@smiles7703Romans 10:9-11 says, "If you confess with your mouth, 'Jesus is Lord,' and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved".

  • @betsyrecinos3424
    @betsyrecinos3424 3 роки тому +830

    parents not using their words properly on their teenager really breaks their heart and stresses them out even more. the thoughts of them trying to kick you out isnt the best opportunity but we love and support you, im so glad that you are finally outta this nightmare and blessed with you're beautiful baby ❤️.

  • @denise7345
    @denise7345 3 роки тому +770

    girl you’re so strong , no everything your mom said is a lie , it can happen to anyone , toxic purity is so bad !! You’re not less of a person if you got pregnant at a young age . It’s not the end of the world and never care what people think ❤️ I cried when you said your dad was supportive, some dads are great ass dads 😭😭

    • @fatboifrmupt9512
      @fatboifrmupt9512 3 роки тому +5

      People like you are the issue.

    • @loganblevenson
      @loganblevenson 3 роки тому +11

      no it doesnt happen to anyone, only irresponsible people. always use protection, and make sure it isnt expired and if it malfunctions or breaks stop immediately
      if you get pregnant at any age and did not wish to and did not take precautions to you dont reward that, she is not strong for this

    • @kamilahlovee
      @kamilahlovee 3 роки тому +11

      @@loganblevenson she is strong for this. you clearly stated that she was young and to go through with it is pretty strong. Clearly people like these comments are the problem. Obviously you clicked on the video just to say it was wrong.

    • @Kelss_divaa03
      @Kelss_divaa03 3 роки тому +4

      @@loganblevenson wdym she’s not strong? Shut up

    • @samanthaperez9375
      @samanthaperez9375 2 роки тому

      You’re less of a person it’s weird tf

  • @lizzmg6213
    @lizzmg6213 3 роки тому +477

    Girl I'm 24 and currently 9 weeks pregnant, I'm feeling so stressed out about becoming mom. Idk how you did it in your teens. You're so strong.
    Edit: I just watched the whole video and let me tell you if I have a baby girl I will named her-Meli- I think you're such a strong girl . And also you made me cry 😢. Wow you're so strong Meli .

    • @evelyns.8641
      @evelyns.8641 3 роки тому +12

      I’m also 24 and 9 weeks pregnant & stressed…😅

    • @yaliaaaa.
      @yaliaaaa. 3 роки тому +4

      My mom had me at 22 😩 I wonder what it feels like to be a mom in the teens ! (Not that I wanna feel the process of being pregnant lol) I’ll probably ask my grandma when I’m older since she got pregnant at 15 and I’m 13 rn....

    • @lizzmg6213
      @lizzmg6213 3 роки тому +1

      @@evelyns.8641 I feel tired all the time 😪

    • @jaylenediaz5363
      @jaylenediaz5363 3 роки тому +4

      1’m 24 and I’m 6 weeks and 4 days, I’m so emotional and scared

    • @lastinglife4357
      @lastinglife4357 3 роки тому +1

      @@jaylenediaz5363 turn to the Lord he luvs you.

  • @xo.ana.xo1741
    @xo.ana.xo1741 3 роки тому +1440

    I can’t even imagine especially coming from a Mexican Family too ♥️

    • @Xoalllieg
      @Xoalllieg 3 роки тому +15

      GIRLLL FR !!!

    • @melisagonzalez1451
      @melisagonzalez1451 3 роки тому +12

      Omg I was sayin the same thing😭😭

    • @Robert-dm4nj
      @Robert-dm4nj 3 роки тому +18

      It’s because if you think about it your daughter getting pregnant in her teens you feel like failed as a parent but obviously there’s no other option but to support your child so I understand when parents get mad

  • @estrella1051
    @estrella1051 3 роки тому +345

    i got pregnant at 14 & i was only a freshman. my parents freaked & my situation was horrible & the way i was treated was just so sad. im now 16 & a senior bc im graduating early but its amazing to see how much you’ve grown & all. you’re going to get far in life & i’ll pray for you & your family!

    • @sBaby-bp9xn
      @sBaby-bp9xn 3 роки тому +2

      What you had?

    • @kendalllopez1292
      @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому +8

      Same my situation was honestly draining and sad, such dark times but I would do it all over again for my baby boy❤️

    • @esmeraldalarios6374
      @esmeraldalarios6374 3 роки тому +4

      Sorry about that glad everything is ok now

    • @lizzyezekiel116
      @lizzyezekiel116 3 роки тому +3

      @@kendalllopez1292 awww 💕

    • @samanthaperez9375
      @samanthaperez9375 2 роки тому +13

      “The way I was treated was just so sad” you’re just irresponsible and it was all ur fault don’t blame others

  • @desjay5587
    @desjay5587 3 роки тому +966

    shoutout to that boy that started the rumor that you liked each other. if it wasn’t for him andres wouldn’t be here 😏

    • @kellymoralesv1908
      @kellymoralesv1908 3 роки тому +26

      LMAOL frfr

    • @melissatorresx
      @melissatorresx  3 роки тому +82

      LMAOO😂😂😭

    • @jacqueline6124
      @jacqueline6124 3 роки тому +5

      LMFAOOO

    • @ciellgr
      @ciellgr 3 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂😂😂somebody pin this

    • @smiles7703
      @smiles7703 3 роки тому +5

      Jesus loves you everyone, turn to Him while you have a chance. He loves you and does not judge you. He died because He could not imagine eternity without you.

  • @jenurbina3964
    @jenurbina3964 3 роки тому +341

    When you were crying so was I omg! So glad you got to do what YOU wanted!

    • @arielsea9087
      @arielsea9087 3 роки тому +1

      It’s past time for crying you took on an adult choice. Face it.

    • @jazsb1
      @jazsb1 3 роки тому +2

      @@arielsea9087 it’s still very emotional dumba$$

  • @user-po4qy9yc3n
    @user-po4qy9yc3n 3 роки тому +249

    My favorite part about this is how u were saying how ur dad was supportive. my parents also found out on their own that I was doing things I wasn't suppose to be doing and my dad was the supportive one, my mom was shaming me and calling me all these names if it weren't for my dad being so loving I would've went into a really bad mental state for a long time.

  • @user-dg7ju4ps5b
    @user-dg7ju4ps5b 3 роки тому +657

    damm not me crying with Melissa 🥺! The worst is now over, we support you! ❤️

    • @doraaexplora6356
      @doraaexplora6356 3 роки тому +4

      Right me too😭😭 especially the dad part

    • @kelsey4251
      @kelsey4251 3 роки тому +4

      Right she’s got me tearing up😭

  • @kendalllopez1292
    @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому +127

    I was 15 when I got pregnant and omg my story is just so draining, I’m arab and Mexican so it didn’t go well at all. My mother also said many rude and disrespectful things to me as well as my father and family I was just shamed by everyone around me, made me feel so sad, we were pregnant around the same time and u made my pregnancy so much better❤️

    • @reneeelizabeth8822
      @reneeelizabeth8822 3 роки тому +7

      i hope you’re doing well!!🥺

    • @kendalllopez1292
      @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому +1

      @@reneeelizabeth8822 thanks you luv❤️ I’m doing much better now in a way healthier environment and my parents love my baby boy

    • @Karincl7
      @Karincl7 3 роки тому +5

      I guess abortion was never an option

    • @tifzu_
      @tifzu_ 3 роки тому +9

      @@Karincl7
      Maybe it was but it’s not easy doing it for some girls.

    • @theresejohnson2834
      @theresejohnson2834 3 роки тому

      Hi

  • @Yaya-vl4zy
    @Yaya-vl4zy 3 роки тому +211

    Girl I got yelled at just like that at getting pregnant at 21 🤨😒😫 but babies are a big blessing ❤️🙏🏻

    • @victoriaverdugo3581
      @victoriaverdugo3581 3 роки тому +15

      Right!? I was 24 and scared af to tell my parents!! This isn’t right in our culture. We gotta fix this 😩😩

    • @Yaya-vl4zy
      @Yaya-vl4zy 3 роки тому +2

      @@victoriaverdugo3581 yess for sure !!! It shouldn’t be like this ! But sad to say it’s but it’s normal 😫

    • @mykeeshaa822
      @mykeeshaa822 3 роки тому +1

      Congratulations ❤️❤️🥰

  • @lunahdzz
    @lunahdzz 3 роки тому +514

    My dad would kill me if I ever got pregnant at my age.. but ik they would support me because my mom got pregnant at 17 and they already said if I did they would be very upset but they would support me 100% but I can’t have them watch the kid just whenever I need them to.. if that makes sense

    • @esmeraldalarios6374
      @esmeraldalarios6374 3 роки тому +16

      That’s good that you have support from your family not many people have that

    • @cheriporter2303
      @cheriporter2303 3 роки тому +5

      damn ur lucky thats sum good support right there. my mom got pregnant at 18 and my dad got his gf pregnant at 16 but they said if i ever did they would kick me out or make me get an abortion

    • @CarolinaMartinez-sl2oq
      @CarolinaMartinez-sl2oq 3 роки тому

      Omg this is so sad your life is most definitely over and your so young ☹️

    • @lunahdzz
      @lunahdzz 3 роки тому +1

      @@CarolinaMartinez-sl2oq I’m not pregnant.. but even if I was my life wouldn’t be over I would find a way to make my dreams and my child’s dreams come true even if it means changing my dreams to help my child reach there’s.. having a child at a young age does not mean you life is over it just mean you gotta work harder to achieve your dreams

    • @CarolinaMartinez-sl2oq
      @CarolinaMartinez-sl2oq 3 роки тому

      @@lunahdzz true but it still is not the same right? Also I was talking about the girl in the video

  • @gabriellarodriguez2729
    @gabriellarodriguez2729 3 роки тому +721

    How are your parents supposed to get mad if they didn’t talk to you about this? It’s like giving a kid a math test and expecting them to pass it without explaining them how to do it first. Please spread awareness about this!

    • @jenniferescalante370
      @jenniferescalante370 3 роки тому +59

      It’s common sense and school teaches it and there’s google

    • @xoxojossss2898
      @xoxojossss2898 3 роки тому +10

      @@jenniferescalante370 exactly lol

    • @victoria.estradaaa
      @victoria.estradaaa 3 роки тому +44

      @@jenniferescalante370 idk if you know, but schools don’t focus enough about the topic. i guess where you live also plays a role in it. i’ve moved around a lot and each school i’ve been to, one is better than the other about talking about safe sex, pregnancy, different diseases etc. so you cant just say, “you should have known from school”

    • @pinchependejas6492
      @pinchependejas6492 3 роки тому +29

      @@jenniferescalante370 schools are not a reliable source of current and accurate information about teen pregnancy. All school’s advocate for is abstinence. And what good does that do?

    • @jenniferescalante370
      @jenniferescalante370 3 роки тому +2

      @@pinchependejas6492 well at least my school was

  • @crushing0nline
    @crushing0nline 3 роки тому +15

    i started crying when you talking about how supportive your dad was, i envy relationships like that. your very blessed

  • @Lisa-yr1jf
    @Lisa-yr1jf 3 роки тому +13

    A dads love for their daughter. I am so glad your dad was supportive to you.

    • @sparklyunicorn5431
      @sparklyunicorn5431 2 роки тому +1

      I know she's lucky. My dad would have just walked away and shunned me 😏

  • @JeniceOO
    @JeniceOO 3 роки тому +47

    I’m so proud of how you were able to tell your parents it’s not easy but you made the right choice instead of hiding it. God bless you and you’re an amazing mother Andresito will appreciate all you did for him.

  • @mellenamintz
    @mellenamintz 3 роки тому +178

    Your mother is so disrespectful. Props to Your dad tho for being supportive. I wouldn't talk to my mother anymore if she pulled that shit. I'm so sorry you were treated like that

    • @melissuhhh
      @melissuhhh 3 роки тому +13

      Fr I’ve always said the same thing that if my mom got mad at me about it and told me shit like that’s the last thing you gonna tell me 🤚🏼

    • @kendalllopez1292
      @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому +17

      That’s tru but you also have to understand where they are coming from, I do think it’s wrong to let your emotions take over because you can always forgive but you will never forget

    • @mellenamintz
      @mellenamintz 3 роки тому +8

      @@kendalllopez1292 doesn't matter did you not hear the things her mother said to her? Like I dare my mother to speak to me like that.

    • @mellenamintz
      @mellenamintz 3 роки тому +3

      @@melissuhhh exactly like no one deserves to be treated like that

    • @kendalllopez1292
      @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому +7

      @@mellenamintz yea I was also in that situation, I was 15 when I got pregnant and when I told my parents they both started to shame me and made me feel like a terrible person, it’s the worst feeling but I couldn’t do anything, I had nobody/ nowhere else to go to. I’m glad I’m out of that dark place my son is almost one and I’m 16 and now they love him but I will never forget those awful things I went through, they are very supportive now and help me out a lot.

  • @tammat705
    @tammat705 3 роки тому +21

    I feel like this story is a lesson to be learned especially in hispanic households. Too many POC parents are extremely strict and over protective of their kids, yet don't educate them on important topics that affect teens and adults every day. They can't expect kids to just learn things by being restricted so much to the point where they can't even talk to their parents, all it does is cause problems in the future and it isn't a healthy relationship. Pregnancy, s*x ed, substance use and other social topics are so important for parents to discuss with their kids!

  • @marz3704
    @marz3704 3 роки тому +28

    Your so lucky to have a dad that cares .
    Stay safe.

  • @anayeliortiz6491
    @anayeliortiz6491 3 роки тому +230

    My mom kick me out. She didn’t talk to me until my baby was born. My boyfriend took 5 months to realize he had a responsibility. I feel you my boyfriend didn’t step up like I thought he would.

    • @markey4034
      @markey4034 3 роки тому +3

      Good

    • @dri1739
      @dri1739 3 роки тому +8

      Should have been responsible

    • @armandopiano
      @armandopiano 3 роки тому +1

      In all fairness it probably just put a lot of stress and anxiety on him so it probably took him a while cause of it cause yea you get stressed as the one who’s actaully pregnant but once the baby was born you’ll be with the baby taking care of it with him having to find a way to support you the baby himself both financially and emotionally on top of being stressed form it like it’s more stress then you might think so have an open mind

    • @loganblevenson
      @loganblevenson 3 роки тому +2

      maybe be responsible next time and dont thrust a baby you aren’t ready for upon your partner

    • @SaraHRdz49
      @SaraHRdz49 3 роки тому +4

      I’m sending you a lot of love. I believe in you and I think that you’re so strong. Creating a human being and bringing them to the world is such a powerful, magnificent ability. You’re so strong and I can assure you that things *will* get better with time. Please take care. You’re not alone 💖

  • @canelajaime6100
    @canelajaime6100 3 роки тому +14

    I can 10000% relate to growing up in a strict house. I had a curfew until the day i got married at 21 yrs old. I always said I would parent differently. I had rules for my child because children need structure, but I also made sure he knew it was ok to come talk to me or his dad about anything. I never wanted him to be afraid of our reaction. From the comments it’s obvious there’s a lot of people here with similar family dynamics. Life is about lessons and learning from our experiences. Thank you for sharing such a personal story & im glad everything ended up working out for you.

  • @Nona-rd6ux
    @Nona-rd6ux 3 роки тому +187

    omg it’s always the “nosotros te damos todo, y nos sales con estas cosas que fue lo que hicimos mal” like dude 😐

    • @roxannapulquero
      @roxannapulquero 3 роки тому +17

      fr all Mexicans parents use that phrase like brooo. we get it

    • @Nona-rd6ux
      @Nona-rd6ux 3 роки тому +15

      @@roxannapulquero girl and it’s not even bout that 😭, like shit happens it has nun to do with y’all giving us the world, like i hate how they forget they was kids and also committed mistakes like tf.

    • @Sadmares
      @Sadmares 3 роки тому +5

      I’m glad my mom was never like that she gave us freedom,space & most important she would talk to us & explain things calmly instead of just screaming she always said “I rather you trust me & tell me everything rather than not trusting me & hiding important things from me” she wasn’t strict at all & me & my sister turned out fine never lied to her about things strict parents just push kids away honestly

    • @Morenotania123
      @Morenotania123 3 роки тому +2

      Lmao pls 😂😂 why they all like that 🤦🏻‍♀️

    • @Nona-rd6ux
      @Nona-rd6ux 3 роки тому

      @@Sadmares girl that’s my mom too it be my dad doing the most 🧍🏻‍♀️

  • @janettegomez8928
    @janettegomez8928 3 роки тому +67

    I was 20 when I got pregnant and my parents still reacted this way. My baby daddy’s parents literally cried of happiness while all my parents cared about was me finishing college and getting married and what other people would think. To this day I still don’t understand their reaction. I’m not the first and will not be the last person that gets pregnant before getting married, so I don’t see why they made it such a huge deal. Towards the middle of my pregnancy my mom finally became supportive but my dad to this day still brings it up when he drinks even though my son is literally already 2… He tells me that when him and my mom were dating she wouldn’t even hold his hand until they got married I’m like ok it’s different times now get over it. I’m married now AND I’m still going to college, so I don’t get why he’s not over it. They both love my son but I guess it just gets to my dad when the alcohol hits. I’m just glad my suegros were so sweet and supportive throughout the entire thing.

    • @pastelgem5223
      @pastelgem5223 3 роки тому

      I’m 20 too rn I’m 5 months pregnant, i holded off as long as possible to tell my family but my sister noticed I had a bump and asked if I was pregnant which I said said no to at first but then said yeah, telling her I was scared to tell them because I was scared they would be disappointed, my baby daddy on the other hand is 22 and still hasn’t told his mom, I get intrusive thoughts thinking he doesn’t want to tell his mom because his mom doesn’t think I’m the woman for him/ he doesn’t love me the way he would love someone to be excited to tell his family. I believe whole heartedly if he truly loved me and our relationship he’d be excited and tell his family the minute i found out I was pregnant, he’s saying he’s holding off till we know the gender but I have an appointment to find the gender is next month so Here In cali there’s Cerritos mall that has a theater precious moments where they could tell the gender on a big screen and you could invited however many family, I told him if his mother is not supportive of our relationship and has told you before to make sure you don’t have kids with me, or has told you before to leave this relationship, whatever the case may be I don’t want her there, I don’t want noobody who’s not going to be content there, my family already knows and despite what I thought they were going to feel they feel the complete opposite, excited, i make my bed now I lay in it, I always tell him till now as a reminder it doesn’t cost a cent to be honest, if at any point you feel any feelings for another girl/ another girl catches your attention, that’s fine just let me know cause I can’t control your feelings, I’ll pack my stuff and head back home and figure it out, i refuse to be at home taking care of a family that we built while you’re looking to entertain another female, I refuse to be lied to, I’m mad at myself that I evidently let myself be treated a certain way and stayed, realistically I should have left a long time ago, I cry knowing i should have could have made better decisions for myself and I wouldn’t be in the position I’m in, having a baby with someone who I believe would move on in a snap if I died tomorrow, I wish I learned sooner to have unconditional self respect for myself to have known I would be okay eventually if I had chose to leave a while ago cause at the end of the day it’s always been me and nobody who looks out for me, but this is the life I chose all I can do is make better decisions now and stop dwelling on the past but it’s hard when I feel alone all the time, luckily I work 6 days a week so I get distracted but too many thoughts run through my head too much of the time. Soon a baby is gonna be here that needs my support I can’t be the way I’ve been.

    • @janettegomez8928
      @janettegomez8928 3 роки тому +1

      @@pastelgem5223 once her grandchild is here I’m sure she will love your baby and hopefully y’all will have a better relationship. If not she’s just going to have to learn to get along with you bc y’all are family now. Stay strong girly 💕 & definitely leave if you’re not happy with your baby daddy. Never feel forced to stay with someone just bc y’all have a baby together. In the end everything will work out the way it’s supposed to ❤️

  • @Cami-jh7fk
    @Cami-jh7fk 3 роки тому +16

    Girl im not pregnant nor have I've never been but when my mom found out I was sexually active she bashed me with the same comments and jokes for months, to this day she'll still say stuff, and I can't imagine how you felt in that moment but you're so strong and your baby is so beyond beautiful !

  • @IvanMartinez-ix1rd
    @IvanMartinez-ix1rd 3 роки тому +10

    I was 15 when I had my son.. I’m 34 now and my son is 19. We look like brothers. It’s hard to raise a child being a child but it’s a blessing

  • @taniahernandezdorantes6359
    @taniahernandezdorantes6359 3 роки тому +8

    Your mom reminds me so much of how my mom is. She’s just the way she is bc of how she cares about what others think. When I was 17 I lost my virginity with some guy from church and it made this whole commotion. 5 years later I’m 21 and I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. We’re both in college and we’re wanting to move in with each other. His parents are really supportive of it, they support us moving in and getting married later. Or even just doing a small wedding for now. But my mom on the other hand, no I’ve gotta do a big wedding before moving out. And it sucks bc I’m 21 now so that shouldn’t be her decision anymore. It just feels like she cares about what others think and not me.

  • @liliymarin33
    @liliymarin33 3 роки тому +8

    Dude I can relate to how you feel when one parent is against your life decisions. It hurts you so much because you deeply need that other parents support

  • @jane3823
    @jane3823 3 роки тому +50

    I wasn’t waiting for this video but I’m glad it’s up because I love story times 😂😭

  • @Ash-fx6cq
    @Ash-fx6cq 3 роки тому +6

    when you talked about your dad i started crying with you 🥲 i’m glad you’re doing good as well as the baby

  • @maribelltrujillo2225
    @maribelltrujillo2225 3 роки тому +9

    It’s true Hispanic parents care so much what other ppl think or will say ! But we are here to support you !💕

  • @Fabfashionguru
    @Fabfashionguru Рік тому +2

    I’m watching this now because I’m 22 pregnant with my first baby and this video honestly relieved me. Everything happens for a reason and I’m so grateful my family is extremely supportive

  • @natmartinez5167
    @natmartinez5167 3 роки тому +61

    I started crying when she started crying 😢♥️♥️

  • @yesieufracio7069
    @yesieufracio7069 3 роки тому +16

    My parent’s reactions were okay. I mean my mom wasn’t surprised at it because I’ve been dating my boyfriend for like a very long time and I was 21 at the time. My dad was actually a little mad and disappointed, but today he’s the one that loves my baby the most🥰 I’m just glad you’re thriving today girl🙌🏽 you deserve it❤️

  • @gloria8659
    @gloria8659 3 роки тому +11

    When I got pregnant me and my boyfriend waited I think a month to tell our parents, I expected my mom and dad to be angry they acted really calm my dad was telling us that this wasn't a joke and a big responsibility ect. In the car home they were crying and saying that they were happy they were going to be grandparents they were honestly the sweetest my dad would always get me my cravings and my mom would cook for me I'm so thankful I had I good support system 😢

  • @valesxmx
    @valesxmx 3 роки тому +17

    Aww im so glad that you had some type of support, i cant imagine how hard and terrifying it was to try and tell your parents that you were pregnant, considering that they were strict. Youre so strong melissa!

  • @rocioaleman2029
    @rocioaleman2029 3 роки тому +3

    I don’t hear enough about supportive hispanic fathers. Although your mom didn’t have a good reaction, I’m so glad your dad was there for you

  • @Joshua-ht1re
    @Joshua-ht1re 6 місяців тому +2

    Man im 12 and i got a 15 yr old pregnant but yh her parents weren't mad thry supported her and yh she baby was born and im enjoying my life rn since im a father ❤

  • @cinthiaacosta4520
    @cinthiaacosta4520 3 роки тому +200

    You’re such a strong girl! Only Dios sabe porque pasan las cosas💗

  • @xitlallialva
    @xitlallialva 3 роки тому +11

    GIRL i cried with you .. we literally have the same story , so unexpected reactions but now they love our little ones 🥺

  • @alondramarquez840
    @alondramarquez840 3 роки тому +14

    You’re so strong girl!! I remember you announcing your pregnancy like if it was yesterday. I was so happy for you and just look how far you have came!! You’re such an amazing mommy, always wishing you and your little family the best!💗

  • @nayelimende500
    @nayelimende500 3 роки тому +5

    I’m not even in a relationship but my father sounds like your mom , when you said “ she just cares what people think “ exactly how I feel how he thinks it’s heartbreaking because I’m your daughter and I were to get pregnant he would disown me . I wish he cared and loved us more than any other person opinion. You were so blessed to have your dad support 🙏 you’re doing amazing! Your baby god is going to see what you do for him and be so proud !

  • @danaevse
    @danaevse 3 роки тому +10

    I literally started tearing up when you started crying and getting emotional lol. I’m very emotional and cry easily. It’s really nice that your dad supported you 💗btw I’m also Hispanic so I know how you felt :(

  • @evelyncruz7832
    @evelyncruz7832 3 роки тому +24

    hearing about how your moms reaction hurts my heart for you, I am so sorry that it wasn't the best reaction or at least one you expected. it sucks to see that Mexican moms are just so ingrained with what they had to experience their childhood and put it onto their children.
    Since you are now a mom, you can now change that perspective on your children and show a different way on how to raise them. It just sucks how us daughters of Mexican households are restrained from so many things. Your fathers reaction was perfect, and I love that he sees his daughter the same

  • @estrella1051
    @estrella1051 3 роки тому +26

    exactly what my mom said to me. everything your mom said, mine said to me but she continued to even after i had my son.

    • @melissatorresx
      @melissatorresx  3 роки тому +12

      I didn’t mention that but same girl same

  • @garcia8596
    @garcia8596 3 роки тому +8

    I’m balling rn 😭😭I feel like we all have that Mexican mom always telling us rude stuff but we’re here for you ❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼

  • @pamelamonserrat3045
    @pamelamonserrat3045 3 роки тому +26

    i got pregnant at 15 i was a sophomore.till this day i remember my mom reaction :( when i told her she just got out of the room and started screaming as loud as she could. sadly is the only thing i remember of her when i told her but now i graduation high school as a junior.

  • @iiiamtrinitee
    @iiiamtrinitee 3 роки тому +18

    I'm so in love with this story especially that your brother let you do tell them and that your dad, boyfriend , and brother reaction and I'm glad your dad comforting you and I see it took alot of you but it's a beautiful story

  • @annarodriguez2942
    @annarodriguez2942 3 роки тому +6

    I know exactly how you feel girl. I am 23 and live with my parents because of financial reasons and they still try to control my life. I feel like Mexican parents especially if they go to church care a lot about what people think. They have not tried to sit down with me or my younger sister and talk to us about sex or anything but yet they expect us to off the bat know what they want from us. I can’t even go travel with my bf without them threatening to kick me out of the house if I do travel with him. That makes me not even talk to them about what’s going on with my life & I’ve had to figure out everything out for myself or from friends. You’re so strong by going through this & I give you props. I would not even know what to do if I got pregnant right now.

    • @ilikepizza2020
      @ilikepizza2020 3 роки тому

      It’s sad you have to go through that especially as an adult. I hope things get better for you.

  • @emilygarcia3806
    @emilygarcia3806 3 роки тому +6

    This story was so heart-wrenching 🥺💗 I got so emotional with you imagining how your dad was comforting and protecting you first before anything else. It’s so sad that many Hispanic moms, including my own, have the mentality of “Qué pensará la gente?”. So glad you had your dad’s & baby daddy’s words of comfort and emotional support during that state of vulnerability.

  • @khaileenhernandez931
    @khaileenhernandez931 3 роки тому +4

    i got pregnant at 17 my parents have been always so strict and they’d never let me go over to any guys house but with this guy it was different they let me go over all the time and he was allowed over . i would always tell my parents i would NEVER get pregnant now here i am 18 and 8 months pregnant now looking back at the day i told my parents we all just cried a lot but things happen for a reason and it’s just all Gods plan. My baby daddy’s parents are so supportive + my parents i feel like such a disappointment but i’m so glad i have them ❤️

  • @ivy-io6wz
    @ivy-io6wz 3 роки тому +8

    to anyone watching this in a similar situation, please know that there are different options out there! do what YOU feel is right.

    • @yellinout_tee
      @yellinout_tee Рік тому

      oh i’m keeping mine,I don’t believe in abortion ever since I knew about abortion and adoption is not for me also !!!

  • @luz5636
    @luz5636 3 роки тому +13

    Girl my sister wasn’t as young as you but she was I think 23 when she got pregnant. She told me first (even though we were not close at the time) I felt like a mom, I was disappointed but I also knew to support her. I feel like her having her baby created a even stronger bond and I was with her when she had her baby. I love her son & im his madrina so I love him double!
    My mom was of course not happy with it and she will bring up the fact that she didn’t make the baby so she shouldn’t have to help out as much (she’s a single mom) but girl honestly I love her son so much I always help her out as much as I can.
    I’m so happy and he brings so much joy into my life. ❤️
    Overall if you’re reading this and going trough this situation, know there’s people who will love you and support you no matter what. Also if you’re young it might be hard but honestly parents just have a big shock at first but they end up loving the kiddos!
    ❤️

  • @luisanamendez9972
    @luisanamendez9972 3 роки тому +3

    Literally my mom but awe 🥺🥺 I was literally crying with you the whole time I’m so happy for you and wish nothing but the best to your little family 🥺❤️

  • @anayelicuellar6750
    @anayelicuellar6750 3 роки тому +3

    I was so surprised to relate to almost everything you went through just because I left my home due to my toxic mom and physical abuse. I moved in with my boyfriend a day before graduating from high school (not planned at all). My relationship with my family is not the same anymore, but I am mentally better now.

  • @aidenlondon
    @aidenlondon 3 роки тому +6

    Remember that you don’t attract what you want, you attract who you are. So focus on love. Focus on happiness. Focus on feeling fulfilled and like you already have everything you’ve ever wanted. Focus on gratitude. You are a powerful source of energy. When you do this, you will get what you want because you are in alignment and focusing on all you have instead of a lack. Just know you have everything you have ever wanted. It’s already yours . Be joyful! Sending loving energy to you all. ❤️

  • @carolinaacosta2732
    @carolinaacosta2732 3 роки тому +4

    I could relate to you soo much , I got pregnant my sophomore year and it was the hardest. I felt like my feelings were never important to my parents and I was depressed my whole pregnancy. So proud of you for being such a good mom no matter what your age is ❤️

  • @darlenevaladez
    @darlenevaladez 3 роки тому +8

    this is the first video I’ve watched from your channel and girl you’re so strong & I’m happy for you that you are in a better mindset & place thank you for sharing your story!

  • @claudiacontreras2135
    @claudiacontreras2135 3 роки тому +15

    I honestly did not expect for this video to get emotional much less your moms reaction. It makes sense because 95% of Hispanic parents have a very traditional mindset that doesn’t make sense anymore but they still try to enforce it. I’m glad you’re happy with your baby and didn’t go thru with the marriage being that that’s not something you want right now. You look so happy as a mommy! 💙

  • @user-pc9yr8xb2r
    @user-pc9yr8xb2r 3 роки тому +3

    My pregnancy went so much like yours !!! My Mexican parents mostly my mom was making it all about her and my dad had the same Reaction as yours, he was supportive. But in the end everything worked out and she loves my daughter and baby daddy !

  • @shelly.7467
    @shelly.7467 3 роки тому +30

    I’m so glad you shared this with us, I’m crying watching this

  • @kiarasoria1449
    @kiarasoria1449 3 роки тому +4

    I got pregnant around the same time as you also. Telling my parents was the hardest thing because they are hispanic! You are so strong, i remember watching your video when being pregnant! ❤️

  • @melissamorales5088
    @melissamorales5088 3 роки тому +361

    “Ay meli” I’ve heard that so many times too 😂but you’re so strong, I know exactly what you mean by Mexican parents & how they are 🥺

    • @melissal0p3z_
      @melissal0p3z_ 3 роки тому +6

      same it’s a never ending cycle “ay meli” 😭

    • @_melumanzor_
      @_melumanzor_ 3 роки тому +2

      Sameee 😂

    • @melissuhhh
      @melissuhhh 3 роки тому +3

      @@melissal0p3z_ Fr when they say that, that just makes me cry😅(in bad situations)

    • @melissal0p3z_
      @melissal0p3z_ 3 роки тому +6

      @@melissuhhh ongggg, everytime i hear “ayy meli” or “ayy melissa” it’s the sound of disappointment 😭

  • @paularondon1289
    @paularondon1289 3 роки тому +6

    just know i cried with you girl, you are very strong and an amazing mother love youu❤️

  • @keniaarose
    @keniaarose 3 роки тому +4

    this video truly made me emotional.. i cried 😭 i’m happy everything turned out well for you💗 you’re amazing meli, much love to youuu

  • @eliazarlopez6200
    @eliazarlopez6200 3 роки тому +2

    I am pregnant and 16 as well 14weeks today 🥺 I just want to thankyou for sharing your story it makes me feel less lonely in this 🥺❤️

  • @soniamorales5706
    @soniamorales5706 3 роки тому +4

    omg, girl your strong I wasn't able to tell my mom face to face I texted her. Not because I was scared but because I felt so embarrassed. I was 17 years old with my first son. and had a second boy at 21. right now I'm 24 with a 6-year old and 3 year old.

  • @keniaalamos3384
    @keniaalamos3384 3 роки тому +2

    Im so proud of you! I was pregnant in high school too (senior year) and girl its no joke. What matters is that your baby and you are in great health. Life happens when we least expect and desicions we make along the way but as long as you're the best mom to your son, there's nothing better than that ❤

  • @roselyncarmona9657
    @roselyncarmona9657 3 роки тому +16

    I WAS WAITING FOR THIS ONE 😭! ty

  • @jocelynrp1
    @jocelynrp1 3 роки тому +7

    aww here for you and your baby melissa! despite i might just be a stranger on the internet, i'm here to support you as a dedicated subscriber and let you know that you're an inspiration to me ❤️

  • @Luv4bobaa
    @Luv4bobaa 3 роки тому +3

    so brave of you Melissa! thank you for being strong and sharing your story

  • @jaeme6812
    @jaeme6812 3 роки тому +4

    Thanks beautiful for sharing your story. I’m so proud of you. You have grown so much to become the person you are now. Blessings for you and your beautiful baby boy !❤️

  • @mxzls
    @mxzls 3 роки тому +4

    you’re so strong!! so glad you had the support that you needed❤️

  • @Chiara-qj1dp
    @Chiara-qj1dp 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you for being strong to share this story and spilling your heart out. Rawest video you have out and truly loved it. Congratulations on adresito and may your live be filled with happiness 🥲❤️

  • @aaliyahrose.
    @aaliyahrose. 3 роки тому +2

    i admire you so much. i love you i’m soo glad you had the support you did and glad you stayed strong when things were hard.🤍

  • @anaparra6451
    @anaparra6451 3 роки тому +2

    girl you had me all teary eyed when you were talking about your dad thank you for sharing your story

  • @sandraleyva1169
    @sandraleyva1169 3 роки тому +155

    When I told my mom that I was pregnant, she said hay mija pendeja te dije abre los ojo y no las piernas .y lo hicistes alrebez😂 I was turning 21 when I got pregnant. Some parents can be very hard to understand how we feel.I got rejected by my father & my father blamed my mother for everything. At the end my parents love my daughter .

    • @kendalllopez1292
      @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому +7

      I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant and I was all alone, nobody was there for me, me and my bd broke up and he said he wanted nothing to do with “my kid”. My parents are Mexican and arab and they judged me so much and said so many hurtful things, my family shamed me and made me feel so awful, now they all love my son but it just hurts me how much they talked about me and now they want to act like they were always supportive.

    • @jules7174
      @jules7174 3 роки тому +1

      @@kendalllopez1292 i am so sorry you had to go through all the hurtful comments and actions.

    • @NavyIrl
      @NavyIrl 3 роки тому +2

      Girl you were growwwwnnn lol

    • @kendalllopez1292
      @kendalllopez1292 3 роки тому

      @@jules7174 yea I’m glad those days are past now even though I do still Remeber those moments but I’m glad they love my baby now❤️

    • @sandraleyva1169
      @sandraleyva1169 3 роки тому +5

      @@NavyIrl lol yes I was, however, the “machismo” of the hispanic culture is scary and I was “grown” but afraid. I had a 16 hour week job and was in school full time. I was not as grown as we all think we are. In my point of view is that being hispanic and you get pregnant before marriage, you are being judge whether you are 15 or 30! Life goes on and you prove them wrong and show people how strong you are.

  • @jannieminnie7381
    @jannieminnie7381 3 роки тому +4

    The comments are so sad ): I’m very blessed that my dad doesn’t have the views that most Mexican families have, because seriously I don’t know what I would do. I’m 17 and pregnant, I was nervous to tell my dad and he didn’t make me feel one Oz of shame or embarrassment. Ugh my heart goes out to you girls

  • @carmelarodriguez1012
    @carmelarodriguez1012 3 роки тому +27

    Girl I’m Hispanic and I’m 16 as well hace como like 2 months I was pregnant and I told my mom I missed my period and my mom wanted to go to the doctor to confirm I was pregnant because she doesn’t believe in those tests and so we did and I was pregnant and I was only about one month pregnant and there was practically nothing there cause I was so early then my mom decided I was gonna get an abortion and it was so painful because it was medically which means by a pill so they gave me a prescription for pain meds and my mom didn’t go pick it up because she wanted me to deal with pain as a punishment then 1 day after the pill she kicked me out and I had no where to go I slept on the street that night with the pain and my clothes outside and I didn’t tell my boyfriend because I didn’t want to worry him the next day I moved in with my boyfriend now me and my boyfriend got an apartment on our own we bought a car and I no longer speak with my mom

    • @adrianarogeligo
      @adrianarogeligo 3 роки тому +8

      I’m so so sorry you went through that!! My heart breaks for you but I’m glad your doing better ❤️and your mom smh

    • @estephanucha
      @estephanucha 2 роки тому +5

      I can’t believe she forced you to do that :( I am so sorry that is terrible !! I wish I was there for you like in person omg I’m so sorry I am praying for your future ❤️

    • @bluesclues8823
      @bluesclues8823 11 місяців тому

      god damn. this is pretty much everything my mother had threatened me with growing up. i hope you are okay now.. ❤️🫂

  • @anny7408
    @anny7408 3 роки тому +4

    Your dad is a king 🥺🥺

  • @melisasales8058
    @melisasales8058 3 роки тому

    girl having a kid takes so much of your mental strength and patience but trust it will be okay!!! As long as you have a strong support system that can help you figure things out it will be okay.

  • @YERAIMY
    @YERAIMY 3 роки тому +18

    Her mom asked, what did they do wrong with her ? They basically never gave her the freedom to learn in life . And as a human being when parent do not gives us the freedom to live our own experiences . We just want to do it without permission !

    • @sparklyunicorn5431
      @sparklyunicorn5431 2 роки тому

      Yep! I had this kind of parent too. I went crazy and I blame them lol

  • @vanediaz444
    @vanediaz444 3 роки тому +15

    IVE BEEN WAITING FOR THIS ONEEEE TURN IT UPPPPPPP

  • @dayanari_slp8389
    @dayanari_slp8389 3 роки тому +1

    28 here and have a 10 year old son. I got pregnant right after high school graduation. My dad kicked me out and my mom just cried. So yes, I went to live with my now husband. Didnt see my parents for 4 years but now we are cool. We waited to have another child. So now I have a 3 year old daughter and my son with the same baby daddy. Life is rough but if God gives you lemons make lemonade. :)

  • @rubij7
    @rubij7 3 роки тому +5

    My mom said she didn’t want nothing to do with my baby. But he’s the love of her life now. I think it’s the heat of the moment they say stuff they don’t mean.

  • @YAKYAKKURDAPYA
    @YAKYAKKURDAPYA 3 роки тому +3

    I’ve been wanting to get pregnant, your lucky 🍀 and blessed! Please keep grinding and smile always.

  • @johannaminchala1477
    @johannaminchala1477 3 роки тому +10

    yay i’ve been waiting for this. you are super strong melissa💕

  • @lmao6082
    @lmao6082 3 роки тому +1

    girl im crying with you !! but look at the present now , all of us love andresito ever since he was on the way ! been here since day 1 . me and my sisters love you and your family!!

  • @aqalv_
    @aqalv_ 3 роки тому +1

    I finally got around to watching the entire video and I honestly cried when you cried when you were talking about your dad, I know my dad would of been supportive too if I had gotten pregnant but I also understand why your mom reacted the way she did especially if they are religious and old school. They’re just so much more strict and have different points of views. But I’m so proud of you Meli, you’re a great mom and you’re doing your best. 🤍 I’m 25 and just the thought of having a little human being terrifies me. 🥲🤣
    Take care of yourself and Andresito. 💕

  • @ChristineChang20
    @ChristineChang20 10 місяців тому

    your dad came in clutch. I'm so glad he was there for you

  • @marihernandez8114
    @marihernandez8114 3 роки тому +2

    girl dis made me cry :( i’m going thru the same thing, i’m 16 && pregnant but i’m happy ❤️

  • @ericamacias3334
    @ericamacias3334 3 роки тому +29

    I got pregnant with my son at 16 I was so scared to tell my parents I told my sister and she told my parents I was scared my parents weren’t going to help me out because they always said “si sales con una chingadera te vas de la casa” but thankfully they did as long as I kept going to school
    Edit: girl my mom was the same

  • @AngelicaHernandez-ri6gr
    @AngelicaHernandez-ri6gr 3 роки тому +4

    And I watched the whole 💅🏽, I usually be skipping videos like this but I loved your story.

  • @ivonneasmr8013
    @ivonneasmr8013 3 роки тому +10

    I got emotional only because my brother went through the same thing my mom was hurt my dad didn’t take it well all this brought somewhat of distance between our family my father wasn’t really the type to be here for us but being Hispanic is difficult we go through so many strict rules I guess it makes some of us do things behind their backs and not being able to have support.

  • @deniisegarza7263
    @deniisegarza7263 3 роки тому

    I feel like as long as you have your dads support that anyone else’s opinion doesn’t matter whatsoever, I’m happy that you had ur dads full support!

  • @Bennysbrokenfoot
    @Bennysbrokenfoot 3 роки тому +8

    I’ve been waiting for this one!! The Tea I’ve been waiting for. Also you look bomb at in the video ❤️ lysm

  • @jaslynes4821
    @jaslynes4821 3 роки тому +1

    Girl you got this! stay strong for me...us supporters we will always be here for you! i am so happy that you are doing well. ignore the hate because there is a reason why the haters are behind you. Keep doing what you do... you inspire me to do better and to chase my dreams! love you xoxo!