I don't have low EQ, I have no EQ. I can't feel most emotions and am unable to read the emotions of others unless it is overt. I am not a very positive person.
Do you possibly have autism? Or dismissive avoidant attachment? Those are a couple things that can keep you from feeling emotions or reading other’s emotions.
A sign that I had low EQ was in middle school in the lunch line the girl behind me said she was Infront witch she wasn't and looking back it occurs to me that they may be liked me and it was an excuse to talk to me I said I was Infront and mentally labeled her as a liar for the rest of the year
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I am a Neanderthal (Asperger's), my EQ is similar but not the same. Meaning EQ is not universal to all life necessarily, EQ Is a term used by modern humans/Cro-Magnon to understand of their emotions. But you cannot compare human emotional intelligence to that other than modern human kind, that just is not fair. Can you compare the emotions of a snail to the emotions of a human? no but you can imagine what they might be like, just they are not he same as what your subconscious thinks.
That all make sense now why I have these uncontrolable emotions. I'm probably one of the people with lowest eq. Do I need to see some therapist? How can I improve myself? 😥
@@davemattia sweetie, is that really why? Or do you not know, came up with a false story (believed the story your mind said about me, with no knowledge)? This is called jumping to conclusions. Those with anxiety disorders, PTSD, personality disorders etc are more prone to this… No, this is not why I’m a former medical professional! I quit my job to assist with a very fragile family member. I am now in neuroscience… so, I’m an expert in the field. Be careful with automatically believing whatever your brain comes up with. It’s not all true. Develop some introspection
Well darn. Was hoping for more personality bias. Just that first one. Emotions are distractions from thinking, so in an engineering context they get in the way more than they help, and there is a legitimate personality preference for thinking over feeling. Most of the time I encounter the concept of EQ in the wild it's a highly emotional person trying to make less emotional people feel bad about themselves. The rest of the points were good though.
Being highly emotional isn't the same as being emotionally intelligent...and ignoring emotions because they are hurting isn't actually helpful... Emotionally intelligent people think over their emotions and take them out of the way by dealing with them
@@odlfmariner470 sounds like you don't understand whatsoever. Emotional intelligence is a group of characteristics, emotional skills, that a person possesses. It is NOT a personality. Intellectual intelligence is different than emotional intelligence. Intellectual intelligence is not superior to emotional intelligence. They also are not mutually exclusive. Emotional intelligence is a much higher predictor of success in all realms of life, from career, to relationship and so on. Emotional intelligence is having the skills, ability to navigate all the emotions in your life, how to recognize them, how to process them, how to see emotions in others...without becoming dysregulated, as evidenced by avoidance or blowing up.
Sounds like you have a limited view of what it actually is. In the world of neuroscience, emotions are hardly distractions. That sounds like a conditioned narrative, that is wholly myopic. Would be interesting if you could use introspection and metacognition to delve into where you came up with such a limiting belief. It sounds like your emotional literacy is extremely low. Almost all our decisions have emotional basis. The limbic system is powerful. To intellectualize, is ironically emotional, a posturing of sorts. Being emotionally explosive is NOT the same as emotional intelligence, nor is separating emotions from intellect in an attempt to simplify things cognitively! It's not that simple. Most of our thoughts dictate our feelings/emotions. So you, trying to talk as if they are separate is a lack of understanding. There is a personality preference for thinking over feeling...yes, but that doesn't negate emotions. Often the overly fixated on thinking people are extremely emotionally unaware, to their (and others detriment). I've worked with emotionally intelligent surgeons... and ones that weren't. They are light years apart. The emotionally intelligent ones are safer for patients. Why? Because emotional intelligence involves listening, empathy, taking feedback, self awareness. You can have a highly intellectually intelligent surgeon, who can do a task, did well enough in med school, residency...but is wholly unsafe, due to their lack of emotional intelligence. The surgeon who lacks EQ won't listen when there's a problem, can potentially throw objects in the OR, get so emotionally dysregulated (which is opposite of emotional intelligence...it's completely unintelligent (emotionally)) that they can cause poor outcomes. Please reconsider your view of emotional intelligence. Of course, having emotional intelligence would make this easier...but maybe you have a little?
You obviously do not understand…at all. The more you dismiss emotions, and how much they impact your decisions, the more they run your life! Maybe educate yourself on the limbic system. We are far less rational, logical than we think. We are far more emotional than we’d ever like to face. The more you ignore your emotions (which are like symptoms, or an indicator light in your car) the more likely you’re going to have a major issue…that blindly don’t realize had anything to do with your emotions being on charge, especially because you decided to ignore them! One of my favorite neuroscientists , Dr Taylor, said that we think we are thinking creatures who sometimes have emotional, and instead the truth is we are emotional creatures who sometimes think.
Make sense..... In Norway people here are not expressive on their emotions unless they get drunk. I'm struggling to understand my Norwegian boyfriend to the point I see him as a guy with a low IQ. I'm struggling to understand his emotions and he always has fasade and faking it all the time.
you are defining me as a low eq, but instead i have a high eq, the reason in don't show my emotions is because i think my emotions are valuable, and not a thing for everybody, i cry for stupid things i see small things that hit me emotionally but not other people.
If it seems like word salad to you…that says more about you, your ability to understand (or lack of) than what she said. I was in medicine and now am in neuroscience…this is far from word salad, I promise
She didn’t say not to trust your gut…she said to pause, and evaluate, get curious. That way we can check for biases, cognitive distortions, limiting beliefs etc, and be in reality. If a person has low EQ they are more likely to be impulsive, reactive, assume, and make huge errors as a result.
I think her example was a bit off. Not going into business with someone who you feel bad about is usually a good choice. But low EQ will have a feeling and torch a friendship because of this feeling, without going through the process of wondering "wow, I feel insulted by what my friend did. This doesn't seem in character for my friend to insult me. I wonder if I misunderstood, or maybe my friend is in distress, or could I be feeling sensitive for some other reason and this was the last straw?" It's straight to "you don't respect me and this friendship is over!"
I find this video kind of offensive. I can easily see myself in all the examples, but is not true that people with low EQ avoiding to speak about their emotions(maybe some do). It is just too difficult to understand your own emotions and it takes so much time. So instead of speaking with others we think in our heads if we have enough time to focus on our emotional world. Also it is much more difficult to be a woman with low EQ, because society expect you to be overly emotional, but instead you are just confused as a little kid who saw a magic trick for the first time :)) Anyway thanks For video, It hurts, but encourages to spend more time to deepen my understanding on my own emotions
@@nedargiordano7018you’re an example of someone caught in cognitive distortions…and unable to question their rigid beliefs. Develop some introspection and metacognition and come back…
It’s not a contest. However, people with high EQ (regardless of IQ) will do better in the major areas of life, especially in regards to healthy relationships
PhD from which institute? There are lot of worthless PhDs floating around. Plus, you are doing nothing more than simple quoting Howard Gardner verbatim.
someone who doesn't care has a low eq
EQ is pseudo science.
My ex left me ... depression made me not care ...does that count
I don't have low EQ, I have no EQ. I can't feel most emotions and am unable to read the emotions of others unless it is overt. I am not a very positive person.
Me too. I can't understand what running into others mind 😔
Do you possibly have autism? Or dismissive avoidant attachment? Those are a couple things that can keep you from feeling emotions or reading other’s emotions.
@@kzzworld8996 same. because of that relationship with others are so bad for me. I can't figure what they want from me
A sign that I had low EQ was in middle school in the lunch line the girl behind me said she was Infront witch she wasn't and looking back it occurs to me that they may be liked me and it was an excuse to talk to me I said I was Infront and mentally labeled her as a liar for the rest of the year
Dummy. Although you're far from alone. I cut off my girlfriend for another girl who was just playing with me
I don't how I got here but man I am hooked.
An interesting topic..thanks for putting it out there..
it’s hard to deal with this kind of ppl especially you’re in a place you can’t get away.😅
You are a very clever woman. Thank you for this great video.
Informative but this is very subjective depending on the situation. It does not mean you have "low EQ." There needs to be balance.
I disagree with number 4. Always listen to your intuition. I’m not saying the lady is wrong but I do disagree.
If you don’t trust your gut you’ll regret it!
I try to balance the energy by being non-dramatic. I am half-crazy though. There are other crazies like me.
Thank u, Windy!
My feeling fluctuate. Especially during my menstrual 🤪
I do have a colleague that has low IQ intelligence, he pretend to understand something whereby he doesn't.. which causes my emotions to walk over me..
This was a spectacular four and a half minute video. I will forward to as many people as I can. Thank you.
If you take ideas for videos, I have a plurality of the ideas.
I don’t want to impose so if you like to hear a few, please just let me know.
Thanks
I push away people I shut out emotions when it comes to connections
I am a Neanderthal (Asperger's), my EQ is similar but not the same. Meaning EQ is not universal to all life necessarily, EQ Is a term used by modern humans/Cro-Magnon to understand of their emotions. But you cannot compare human emotional intelligence to that other than modern human kind, that just is not fair. Can you compare the emotions of a snail to the emotions of a human? no but you can imagine what they might be like, just they are not he same as what your subconscious thinks.
That all make sense now why I have these uncontrolable emotions.
I'm probably one of the people with lowest eq.
Do I need to see some therapist? How can I improve myself?
😥
Well said.
Low EQ lol 😂😂😂😂😂
Excellent video
Wendy, you can do some really bad damage to someone who takes you seriously.
That’s a really off, and inaccurate statement.
She’s stating things that are true
- a former medical professional, now in neuroscience
You may have a low eq
@@Alphacentauri819 That's why you are a FORMER whatever....
@@davemattia sweetie, is that really why? Or do you not know, came up with a false story (believed the story your mind said about me, with no knowledge)? This is called jumping to conclusions. Those with anxiety disorders, PTSD, personality disorders etc are more prone to this…
No, this is not why I’m a former medical professional! I quit my job to assist with a very fragile family member. I am now in neuroscience… so, I’m an expert in the field.
Be careful with automatically believing whatever your brain comes up with. It’s not all true. Develop some introspection
@@Alphacentauri819 She ran -- playtex face
I have a very low eq but im content with it I was just wondering what are the perks of low eq
there is none lol
i took a test and got 0 lol is that bad?
@@babakbe1514 there are
@@achyuththouta6957 what are the perks of low iq? None. Having a well rounded intelligence is best
You might have higher IQ ;)
Well darn. Was hoping for more personality bias. Just that first one. Emotions are distractions from thinking, so in an engineering context they get in the way more than they help, and there is a legitimate personality preference for thinking over feeling. Most of the time I encounter the concept of EQ in the wild it's a highly emotional person trying to make less emotional people feel bad about themselves. The rest of the points were good though.
Being highly emotional isn't the same as being emotionally intelligent...and ignoring emotions because they are hurting isn't actually helpful...
Emotionally intelligent people think over their emotions and take them out of the way by dealing with them
@@lillymirembe4474 it's just different personalities, not intelligence
@@odlfmariner470 sounds like you don't understand whatsoever.
Emotional intelligence is a group of characteristics, emotional skills, that a person possesses. It is NOT a personality.
Intellectual intelligence is different than emotional intelligence.
Intellectual intelligence is not superior to emotional intelligence.
They also are not mutually exclusive.
Emotional intelligence is a much higher predictor of success in all realms of life, from career, to relationship and so on.
Emotional intelligence is having the skills, ability to navigate all the emotions in your life, how to recognize them, how to process them, how to see emotions in others...without becoming dysregulated, as evidenced by avoidance or blowing up.
Sounds like you have a limited view of what it actually is. In the world of neuroscience, emotions are hardly distractions. That sounds like a conditioned narrative, that is wholly myopic. Would be interesting if you could use introspection and metacognition to delve into where you came up with such a limiting belief.
It sounds like your emotional literacy is extremely low. Almost all our decisions have emotional basis. The limbic system is powerful. To intellectualize, is ironically emotional, a posturing of sorts.
Being emotionally explosive is NOT the same as emotional intelligence, nor is separating emotions from intellect in an attempt to simplify things cognitively! It's not that simple.
Most of our thoughts dictate our feelings/emotions. So you, trying to talk as if they are separate is a lack of understanding.
There is a personality preference for thinking over feeling...yes, but that doesn't negate emotions. Often the overly fixated on thinking people are extremely emotionally unaware, to their (and others detriment).
I've worked with emotionally intelligent surgeons... and ones that weren't. They are light years apart.
The emotionally intelligent ones are safer for patients. Why? Because emotional intelligence involves listening, empathy, taking feedback, self awareness.
You can have a highly intellectually intelligent surgeon, who can do a task, did well enough in med school, residency...but is wholly unsafe, due to their lack of emotional intelligence. The surgeon who lacks EQ won't listen when there's a problem, can potentially throw objects in the OR, get so emotionally dysregulated (which is opposite of emotional intelligence...it's completely unintelligent (emotionally)) that they can cause poor outcomes.
Please reconsider your view of emotional intelligence. Of course, having emotional intelligence would make this easier...but maybe you have a little?
Uhhhh whatever man😒
Ohh boy came for understanding eq , now got more confused knowing different types of intelligent. Bye I give up
Quitter
what do men do when they're angry
*Screaming into the void mindlessly.
Who knows. There's 3.5 billion in the world. I doubt all men do the same thing.
Why are women so irrational?
People behave within a spectrum. Not all men behave the same.
Same thing women do when they angery but... with a different set of means available to them!!!!
I had low eq, then I went into settings and levels everything out. Now I the treble and bass are cohesively balanced.
I have low EQ...
I have an EQ of 13. I put more stock in an acid trip for decision making than emotion. I also dont care that I have no friends.
You obviously do not understand…at all.
The more you dismiss emotions, and how much they impact your decisions, the more they run your life! Maybe educate yourself on the limbic system. We are far less rational, logical than we think. We are far more emotional than we’d ever like to face. The more you ignore your emotions (which are like symptoms, or an indicator light in your car) the more likely you’re going to have a major issue…that blindly don’t realize had anything to do with your emotions being on charge, especially because you decided to ignore them!
One of my favorite neuroscientists , Dr Taylor, said that we think we are thinking creatures who sometimes have emotional, and instead the truth is we are emotional creatures who sometimes think.
Make sense..... In Norway people here are not expressive on their emotions unless they get drunk. I'm struggling to understand my Norwegian boyfriend to the point I see him as a guy with a low IQ. I'm struggling to understand his emotions and he always has fasade and faking it all the time.
you are defining me as a low eq, but instead i have a high eq, the reason in don't show my emotions is because i think my emotions are valuable, and not a thing for everybody, i cry for stupid things i see small things that hit me emotionally but not other people.
Hiding emotions due to fears of what others think….is far from high emotional intelligence
Word salad
If it seems like word salad to you…that says more about you, your ability to understand (or lack of) than what she said.
I was in medicine and now am in neuroscience…this is far from word salad, I promise
Durp a durp durp
all true more me exception the 5th
My boyfriend lol
I use to have low IQ then one day I woke up and seen the world with a different perspective now I'm a genius with a high IQ ...The End
Trust your gut instincts. This woman is wrong.
Lmaoooooo you have low eq then
She didn’t say not to trust your gut…she said to pause, and evaluate, get curious. That way we can check for biases, cognitive distortions, limiting beliefs etc, and be in reality. If a person has low EQ they are more likely to be impulsive, reactive, assume, and make huge errors as a result.
I think her example was a bit off. Not going into business with someone who you feel bad about is usually a good choice.
But low EQ will have a feeling and torch a friendship because of this feeling, without going through the process of wondering "wow, I feel insulted by what my friend did. This doesn't seem in character for my friend to insult me. I wonder if I misunderstood, or maybe my friend is in distress, or could I be feeling sensitive for some other reason and this was the last straw?" It's straight to "you don't respect me and this friendship is over!"
I find this video kind of offensive. I can easily see myself in all the examples, but is not true that people with low EQ avoiding to speak about their emotions(maybe some do). It is just too difficult to understand your own emotions and it takes so much time. So instead of speaking with others we think in our heads if we have enough time to focus on our emotional world. Also it is much more difficult to be a woman with low EQ, because society expect you to be overly emotional, but instead you are just confused as a little kid who saw a magic trick for the first time :)) Anyway thanks For video, It hurts, but encourages to spend more time to deepen my understanding on my own emotions
No matter how high a mans emotional intelligence is, the female will always give the opportunity to the handsome man
Are you okay? Please make this generalization make sense
@@pinknotebook all adults know a single heterosexual women, is going to give the opportunity to the handsome alpha male. Prove me wrong?
@@nedargiordano7018 prove yourself right first then the answer from my end will be answered automatically.
@@nedargiordano7018you’re an example of someone caught in cognitive distortions…and unable to question their rigid beliefs.
Develop some introspection and metacognition and come back…
HIGH IQ IS SUPERIOR! EQ DOESNT CHANGE A SHIT! HIGH IQ MEANS BETTER HUMAN!
It’s not a contest. However, people with high EQ (regardless of IQ) will do better in the major areas of life, especially in regards to healthy relationships
PhD from which institute? There are lot of worthless PhDs floating around. Plus, you are doing nothing more than simple quoting Howard Gardner verbatim.
Seems like you are swiping at the air…empty “argument”. Try harder.