I failed, and here is what I have learnt from it

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  • Опубліковано 25 січ 2025

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  • @nitadoor4863
    @nitadoor4863 Місяць тому +1

    Sending you supportive vibes! And thanks for sharing! It means a lot to see the stories of dealing with academic failures online, because usually it's an ideal picture of success everywhere. I failed so many assignments during my bachelor's and my two master's and got so much bad feedback on my PhD articles and so on and I understand how it can affect your self-esteem, but in the end everything will be fine! That's great that you still have an opportunity to resubmit and get a good mark!

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      Thank you, it really means a lot to see the support of this community and I am so grateful for the opportunity to resubmit ☺

  • @theroguescholarmanual
    @theroguescholarmanual Місяць тому +2

    Katie asks the best most thought provoking questions. I'm glad you're starting to feel better. It's really helpful to see people I admire overcome difficult things.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +1

      Katie is honestly just the best! Thank you for your lovely comment ❤️

  • @anabelperezreal
    @anabelperezreal Місяць тому

    Thank you for being so open and vulnerable. Things like this can happen to us all, but it takes real courage to share your feelings online the way you've done in this video!

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      I really appreciate this, thank you so much ❤

  • @HannahsBooks
    @HannahsBooks Місяць тому +1

    There can be something so freeing about being honest and open about the hard things in our lives--partly because our experiences can help other people, but also because the openness takes away that feeling that we have to hide parts of ourselves. Thank you for opening up to us.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +1

      It definitely is very freeing, while being very scary at the same time. I hope that just a little bit of honesty will help someone else who might find themselves in this situation with no outlet

  • @jennifernicole106
    @jennifernicole106 Місяць тому +2

    Your description of the physical sensation is the same thing I experience except mine goes towards panic where my hands go numb and I start shaking. Thank you for sharing. I think we concentrate so much on the grading piece that we forget that mistakes and failure is a part of the process. I'm struggling right now with this historiography because I'm overthinking every sentence.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      Wishing you all the best with your historiography… sometimes time can help with perspective and if you have the chance to take a break, I would recommend it. I didn’t do that and so it’s lead me to this hole that I have to pull myself through

  • @ToReadersItMayConcern
    @ToReadersItMayConcern Місяць тому

    Thank you for learning and for sharing your learning, for displaying, too, vulnerability and teaching us how to be vulnerable in a positive way through that display. This is what strength is, a process through one's failures, and you're helping others discover their own. That's a true gift. I know you're still in the midst of this challenge, but you have the character of a learner, and what you're discovering along the way is valuable, even if it hurts a while. You're doing great, and thank you, again, for sharing with us!

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +1

      This is such a kind and supportive comment, thank you ❤ I feel very grateful for the opportunity o share my experiences on this platform and hopefully make someone else feel a little bit better

  • @patrickavis5475
    @patrickavis5475 Місяць тому +3

    I hope things work out and that you get back on an even keel. The feelings you expressed seem to be a recurring theme in vlogs close to your content and the trends of "feeling high, even higher, showing great things happening, then deep crash, and revelation" seem to happen quite often. Taking time to refocus is easy to say when things aren't piling up but can be hard in the moment.... stay strong :-)

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +1

      Totally agree, this year in particular has been a rollercoaster of highs and lows and I’m just hoping to bring more balance to my life in the new year

  • @Katie_Lack
    @Katie_Lack Місяць тому

    Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story/failure and importance of taking time to process and relying on your tribe of support. It's so relatable from both personal and professional levels. I always admire your ability to juggle it all. You will ace your resubmission!

  • @crystal2816
    @crystal2816 Місяць тому

    I would to hire Katie as my emotional support buddy, she’s so good at it lol 💖

  • @NurseJanice
    @NurseJanice Місяць тому +4

    I want to say to you thank you for being you and being vulnerable! You are so passionate about work, life and study! And I love how you said its not a failure its progress! We grow from these situations! I really couldn't do this PhD with you, Kaelyn, Katie and all of the Accepted Society community! We are one family and it's so so special! Love the merch ! I got my stickers and tumble is on its way! Keep strong and you got this! 💪🏽 🎉❤

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +1

      Thank you for your unfailing support Janice ❤️ and can’t wait to see your merch!

  • @LauraCisneros-2024
    @LauraCisneros-2024 Місяць тому

    Thank you for putting this strength and inspiration out into the world.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      A massive shout out to you Laura! You were one of those people that pulled me out of the hole

  • @theoryof.lauren
    @theoryof.lauren Місяць тому

    thank you cait!!! this video is going to be such a great and important resource for so many students (me included!!) failures are not talked about enough in academic spaces and we need to normalize it because it is going to happen to everyone at some point in their respective journeys. thank you for sharing your experience, i am so grateful to learn from your wisdom

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      Thank you for your beautiful words Lauren! I feel so lucky to be a part of this incredible community

  • @misskhalia
    @misskhalia Місяць тому

    Thank you for letting us in on your journey friend. It supports us all. Drawing strength from you ❤

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      Thank you ☺️ being vulnerable is scary but also so medicinal

  • @kellyjeffrie2331
    @kellyjeffrie2331 Місяць тому

    I feel as if this video has come at just the right time for me - I got scores back for an essay that was way below what i was expecting. I was genuinely proud of my submission and felt really hopeful but I had also missed the point. I was devastated, imposter syndrome was telling me that I am just not smart enough and I should drop out. Sadly I was not offered the chance to resubmit so i have to accept the grade that i was given. But, Katie did such an awesome job of listening and supporting and being there without forcing advice on you which was amazing to hear - I am going to play back her words over and over to build myself back up too.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      Having a friend or a community that gives you the space to just talk through and experience your feelings means so much and I’m so glad I can give this to you in the video. I’m sorry to hear about your grade but it will only mean progression from here on out for you ♥️

  • @marywong9976
    @marywong9976 Місяць тому +1

    Just wanted to echo everyone's comments above! I think your bandwidth currently is shockingly large and to just keep going is already such victory! I am myself at a crossroads making a huge decision about broadening my bandwidth and this video had really given me a space to confront the fears underlying this decision. Thank you! ❤

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      Thank you ☺️ one thing I don’t end up mentioning is that if I got the opportunity to go back in time, I’m not sure I would’ve actually handled things any differently (apart from maybe choosing a different topic lol). In the end, all the circumstances that led to this I would not have changed

  • @KatieIbsen
    @KatieIbsen Місяць тому

    “Trust yourself to the community” is such a powerful message that I fear we have largely lost in our modern society, but it’s the best thing Accepted has given us back. I’m so proud of you, you are a huge breath of fresh air in this academic world

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      I would not be here without you ♥️ thank you so much my friend!

  • @jolloyd2293
    @jolloyd2293 Місяць тому

    I'm so glad your boss intervened sensitively and that helped break down the trauma wall. I couldn't do half of what you do and there is never any shame in realising that something has to change when the current situation, whatever it is, becomes burn out untenable and unsustainable.. Being open about your own so bravely and honestly situation will help so many of us.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +1

      She’s a truly incredible boss and I take so much of what she has taught me into my own business. I think this was definitely the tipping point for me to realise that I cannot go on the way I am right now - something has got to give and I am working out what that is

  • @susancmeyer
    @susancmeyer Місяць тому

    Ah, Cait. I'm sorry to hear this, but kudos for honestly sharing your experience of it. It's a supreme juggle: working, researching, writing, PhD applications, family, social life, self-expectations, self-questioning, etc. It happens. How you responded to it and shared your response, however, will help many others who have experienced or will experience something similar. Honesty around failure and self-doubt in academia is slowly coming to the fore and is so necessary. Thank you.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      I absolutely agree - it’s not about what happened but it’s about how we coming through it but breaking down the taboo 😊

    • @susancmeyer
      @susancmeyer Місяць тому

      @@caits_corner absolutely :]

  • @jacquelineperry4350
    @jacquelineperry4350 Місяць тому +1

    I know exactly how you feel. I had the exact same experience a couple of months ago. I submitted a great essay, and that was the feedback... but I missed the point of the question 🤦‍♀️ So my High Distinction essay was dropped to a Credit. I was gutted, but I took it as a learning opportunity, and I'll be more careful next time. I will also make use of the academic advisors prior to submitting... to make sure I'm not missing the point in the future 👍

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому

      I think half my issue was the fact that I didn’t get that chance to talk to my tutor before hand

  • @RuebenNomura
    @RuebenNomura Місяць тому +1

    Just subscribe from Hawaii and respect for your channel

  • @edmondmurphy
    @edmondmurphy Місяць тому +1

    Ah come on, you failed an essay…and they are giving you an opportunity to re-submit…what’s the impact…clickbait title if ever I saw one.

    • @caits_corner
      @caits_corner  Місяць тому +2

      Given this is what I experienced and the worry it caused is still valid - since you don’t feel that way feel free to unsubscribe