Remember that getting "unstuck" doesn't mean being rich and famous. It means finding yourself in a state of peace more often than not. Find some fun hobbies, and cultivate passions.
I just turned 25 and feel very stuck in life right now. Graduated 3 years ago, got a job straight away in a field I had no interest in and was a step down for my level of degree. But did it anyway because of financial struggles. Met someone at work and ended up falling too hard to the point where we were about to get married soon but couldn’t go on because it got way too toxic. I even had to leave my job for my own mental well-being. Felt completely stuck afterwards struggled with severe depression being unemployed since then (and I still am) engaging in extremely unhealthy behaviour. Honestly surprised but thankful I made it alive through 2019. Not being able to help my family financially at this age is what pains me the most. It’s hard to see your parents working at this age and not able to ease their burden. The guilt is so huge and it’s a constant struggle of still trying to figure out what I have to do and how I need to do it when I don’t know if I even have any dreams anymore and past traumas keep coming back to haunt from time to time.
i wish i could articulate and portray my thoughts as clearly as joe does, instead i feel blocked, in a creative sense and also from a social stand point, being introverted on top of that doesn't help.
@@lillivercheese9046 Same here. Any ideas on how to keep the same standard of life and do something exciting without completely screwing up your marraige or kids?
this was actually amazing......I've been feeling completely down lately because of job, and life stuff but this video really did put some really good points. We are our own architects.
Before this, I was listening to Joe talking about relationships, and it reminded me about how scared I am to get into a serious relationship (or a relationship at all) because of everything negative I've heard about them. I've also had bad experiences with girls myself (although I'm sure those experiences are nowhere near what Joe's had). My self-esteem is so low that I can barely even maintain friendships with people (guys or girls) without constantly second guessing myself at every turn. Whenever I've tried to develop relationships with people, whether friendships or something deeper, I feel like I've always said too much too soon to the wrong person (my feelings for them, personal stuff about myself, etc). There's only ever been one person in my life (so far) that I feel might have been a good match for me (and would have been willing to listen to and understand my issues), but at the time, she was already involved with someone else (who I respected and thought was a good person) and her path in life diverged from mine. Now she's married (to a different guy) and that ship has sailed. The most I can ever hope to do now is develop friendly acquaintances and suppress whatever low self esteem or personal issues might pop out at certain times so I don't make things awkward or bring them down. Even if I had my life together (relative to where I am now) and was on a good path, I would still be scared to become heavily involved with a woman simply because of the risk it would involve. I would have to be absolutely sure (obviously, although how can anyone be ABSOLUTELY sure) that she is someone who can love who I am below the surface, endure my personal baggage, and bring out my best qualities. Of course, I would have to be able to return the same for her. But I'm not at a place like that. In fact, the one career path that I thought I wanted to go down since high school now intimidates the hell out of me, and I don't know what else I would want to do that I would be even remotely good at. As much as I would want to be in a relationship and have someone to love and be loved by, I just don't think I'm stable enough to carry it through, and I don't think I'll ever be stable enough either. I've been to at least five different psychologists/counselors and none of them have really helped much at all. Each time, it ultimately came down to me making the decision to turn my life around at that point, but each time I chose to continue living in misery. I don't know why. My only theory is that for most of my life, I've only ever known how it feels to be the way I am now: lonely, miserable, angry, anxious, self-loathing, etc. Even though I've had tastes of the other side, I'm too paralyzed by the fear that it will all come tumbling down sooner or later to change the way I am now. I tell myself that I might as well stay the way I am now so that I don't have to worry about having anything good taken away from me. No risks, no disappointments. No responsibilities, no stress. The list goes on. The worst part is that the one thing that has become the root of most of my problems (or at least feeds the self-destructive cycle viciously) is something that I would have to fight for the rest of my life even if I broke the cycle. That thing would continuously tempt me to fall back into the destructive pattern of behavior I'm in now. And it's readily available for free and isn't illegal. A lot of people would laugh at me if I said outright what it was. In fact, I told someone in high school and they laughed in my face. So that's another problem. What I struggle with isn't taken as seriously as other issues (and to be fair, I can see why), so less time has been spent on developing treatments and psychological strategies for dealing with it. So I have practically no confidence that seeing psychologists and counselors will solve my issues. Hell, medication combined with that didn't help much either.
hey bro try reading about addictions or even better look up videos on youtube about it. christian ministers talk about it. even if youre not into religion you can ignore the metaphysics yet the science is good bc the truth is many ppl dnt take this problem seriously but theere is a percent of ppl in society who are highly impressionable and affected by this. i think you are talking about pornn right? also once you arr able to relax and find things you enjoy you should feel better and then be able to start having relationships. have faith you can improve
Hes lived a really full life hasn't he? hes done it all, he started of as fresh face geeky nerd, then starts partying like crazy man, and then starts working out and becomes a great martial artist in his own right.
I tell my kids,get rid of the debt,do not be held hostage by revolving payments,its a miserable life.Live within your means,A 500 square foot house,a commuter vehicle,spend your money on hobbies,staying healthy,not a 7,000 foot house you get lost in. Invest in simple long term stocks,coke,IBM,pepsi,etc Get rid of the debt.
hmm good advice mostly but I would invest in Soda Pop companies going forward. people are more aware than ever of how it negatively impacts their health.
Always thought I had shit figured out. Took a chance, left my long-term job for a new opportunity, lost my job, now unemployed. Very depressed and riddled with constant anxiety. Too many negative thoughts, can't see any light because the tunnel is too long and the darkness seems infinite. My head is a bad place to have to live inside of, considering options I never thought I would. I'm sure it's an illusion, but everyone else seems to have their shit together. I just want to feel like I'm in control again.
Hindsight would have been good forty odd years ago. To start again aged 4, I would decide to be a brilliant linguist and pianist. ..perhaps be a freelance interpreter and at weekends be one of those blokes who plays grand piano in the lobby of a posh club and to the end of the night really get the party going with a bit of Ray Charles and Little Richard..but here we are, ive got to crack on, working as an electrician, paying the bills, mortgages, loans on shit I don't want..but I've got a time limit on this shit- 7 years max!Last week I got my piano, I'm learning my languages and if I survive no one's gonna stop me!!:)))
it's going to sound really simple but all you need to do is say out loud what you want to achieve then go out and do it. what we all tend to do is say what we want then spend however long is necessary telling ourselves we can't instead of actually just doing it. there is a lecture on yt from guy called larken rose where he talks about malware for the mind where we put up imaginary boundaries in our mind which prevent us from reaching our full potential. we can't all be billionaires but we could all be better then we are.
+Abir Tarafdar can I suggest a book for you which will help you with goal. it's the Kyballion by 3 initiates it's 9 hr audio book on YT or audible it details the teachings of Hermes trismegistus who explains natural law and 7 truths or laws one of which is law of attraction and the law of polarity these two used in conjunction with each other can help you learn how to control and manifest situations to suit your needs. when I first read it about 6 years ago it completely changed my life and it also completely cured my depression which I'd had on and off since my early teens without any medication or psychiatrist.
love JR!!.......and eckhart tolle and pema chodran and tara brach....oh yeah....cant forget duncan trussell!!.....spiritual teachers come in all shapes and sizes!!
Excellent! I'm always stuck in a rut, even in one now but Joe is definitely right about the system! Screwed up world doesn't want anybody living out their dreams including myself. New world, new government/no government soon I pray.
I took my own path in life, people told me because I never did well in school prior to college I shouldn't take an electronics engineering path that it would be too hard for me, I excelled because I loved it, then I did 5 years of social work, my family to this day has ill feelings towards me for it. I also live differently, without relying on credit and again they don't understand why and see it as some kind of failure. We started our own online business and it's been around for 12 years this year again my family thinks that's not a real job. So I did the smart thing, cut ties with their cancerous feelings and thoughts and only see my Mother and Aunt now who don't really understand my life but they know I'm mostly happy and that's good enough for them. As for the rest of them I focused on being a great Uncle to their kids, who are mostly grown now, and I will never put myself around them again as they just breed ill feelings and criticize what they don't understand yet they have all felt the stress of almost losing everything they worked for following "the rules". If your family doesn't support you and criticizes the choices you make do yourself a favor, get them out of your life as it caused me a great deal of unnecessary strain and stress trying to "win them over" for absolutely no gain and I wish I did it years ago but felt the need to be there for their kids.
Good on you for following your own path, and importantly reading your environment so the online business made sense and presented a clear pathway for you (I'm sure there were stumbling blocks along the way). I've done the same thing with cutting people out of my life that are judgmental and constantly criticize. Helps me stay focused on my own goals.
ive been stuck for awhile, but i havent fallen for any traps laid out by society except electronic distraction. ive just been in a nihilistic, apathetic stagnation. when every path seems like a maze engineered by other humans for me to blindly grope through, i am at a loss about what to do at all.
I hear ya man. I hit that state and retreated into the forest for a while. Cam back reinspired. Sometimes need to get out of your normal habits to see the forest for the trees.
I think what he said about community is key. In past history people lived together in tight communities that depended on each other. Where people developed close bonds and formed identities out of the group that shaped who they are. Only for about the past century or so, especially in western society it seems people made a switch from staying in a community to leaving and moving out away from the family and friends you grew up with. Its whats expected in modern society now, almost looked down on if you dont. Like we are all just trying to get away from each other now.
That's as a result of more people achieving higher education, degrees etc... in my experience. In poorer societies people are less financially mobile. You get a job close to home because why would you move far away to work a 9 to 5? When a generation of people attain higher academic goals than their parents, the onus is on them to chase the money which is invariably in a big city somewhere. Admittedly, this was always a middle class phenomenon, its just now more people are entering than category than ever before.
Actually, I believe that has more to do with the exploding of these communities on account of an exponentially growing population. Possibly one with poor education from the start. Kind of the opposite. Can't deny the possibility of what you're saying, though.
jimmy donohue I’ve been in that place. If I may be so bold, I’d recommend allow yourself to “be” that you can’t get out of bed. Don’t resist it as a wrong thing. Allow everything and resist nothing. Life will present the “something” you seek and you’ll be able to see it if you can allow and not resist. The hysteria and panic or anxiety may still be there but you’ll be able to know the next right move for you. Be present and know others just like you have come out of suffering. Hope that helps. Love you brother.
Stay out of debt. Avoid material things that you dont have the money to pay for. Keep your options open. Avoid debt. Avoid compound interest. Dont drink too much. Dont touch hard liquor. Dont touch hard drugs. Dont smoke ciggarettrs. Dont eat junk food. Drive a cheap vehicle that you own. Live like a gypsy if you have to save money and try and figure out a way to own a place to live.
Joe needs to take his own advise. If you want to be a 7 foot tall black man you pick yourself up and you go out there be the best 7 foot tall black man that you can be!
Remember folks, that doesn't mean that having a family is a bad thing. People fall in love with someone and WANT to have kids and raise them. It's a completely natural calling and most (not all) are happy doing it.
there can be dear. Energy dont waste it.Save yours to have some sort of control and then you can get out. i hate be the bearer of bad news.but yeah thise happy go lucky motivational speakers are partly right when they say positivity.is the way to go.
i love joes shit...good philosophically...easy for him in his position...all the motivational talk like that....lets not leave out that its okay not to win the lotto like he did. most people do walk the right path...and get thw door SLAMMED. . joes door opened. good for him...if ur watching...reading...its ok. maybe u do all he said and still...nothing...my point is he never says that his success means nothing..real happiness is good times spent. with loved ones. or spreading real love vibes... u dont need a status. u need food n family. everything else is...more than u need. just smile cuz ur already holding the lottery ticket. and its a winner. so wut are u gonna do?
im not stuck. I bought a 2 bed 1 bath town home in aurora co. I rent one room out for $600 a month. It pays my HOA fee, elec and wifi. So i get the master bedroom and i grow weed in my 2 car garage. Life is grand.
If only I had known it was a right turn man I could navigate outta raps resulting in a child. Being the victim of that got me stuck lol all problem and no solution to getting out
He mentions in some of his earlier podcasts that when he was starting out as a comic, in his early twenties, he was doing gigs every night and making around $100 per gig. He'd left martial arts instructing which paid very little. He was living hand to mouth totally stressed for a number of years until he scored a development deal for a sitcom worth around $150K. He then moved to LA and then started working as an actor on News Radio. He got introduced through some dude at News Radio to another guy who got him to do post interviews for MMA tournaments which were just emerging back in those days. That's where he met Dana, former owner of the UFC. Because he was deep into Japanese tournaments like Pride, he kept telling Dana, who was also struggling at that stage, about different fighters Dana knew nothing about. So eventually Dana got him to do commentary on UFC matches. So now he's making money and on his way, getting a better stand-up proflie as well. News Radio gets canceled and he moves over to hosting Fear Factor, still doing commentary and post fight interviews for UFC. From what I can piece together he started that supplements company with Aubrey Marcus and his podcast has to make serious bank based on the numbers of downloads and youtube views it gets. Anyway, he transitioned from a broke kid to a multimillionaire - but remember the dude is 52 years old, so it didn't happen overnight. I remember him saying once, the biggest relief was when he knew he could pay all his bills without any stress, and everything after that was just a bonus. I believe him in that I think he's the sort of guy who isn't chasing wealth for the sake of it. Hope that gives you something.
I went to school for two careers, neither one of them worked out, both pretty much shit on me, now Im stuck in a low paying job with a mortgage, shitload of debt and bills and no other potential lineups, any advice for that?
+elgrigorio1 Are you asking me if you're out of options, or telling me? In any case, if I were you I would consider using your spare time to learn the ins and outs of creating a digital business. I'm assuming you're in the States and don't have kids so you should be able to allocate spare time and exploit low cost overseas labour (I'll explain that in a bit). There's a fair bit to know in running a digital business but the rewards are pretty good and can set you up with an income equal to what you're making in your normal job(s) with most of the activity running on autopilot (eventually). If you conduct yourself so you arrive at a point where you have sideline income almost equal to what you're making from employment you can then invest your spare cash into sound investments (you'll need qualified help for this) and should be financially well positioned by the time you're 33. After that, you'll see other options emerge in your environment because the person you will have become will attract people, events and situations that can help you further, and also, very importantly, you will have acquired the skills and insight to SEE opportunities in places where most people can't. If you have a low cost shitty job currently, you're constrained by your available hours that you "sell" to your employer at "wholesale" which they sell to the market at "retail". You're also constrained by your geographical location and the particular supply and demand dynamics of that area. In a digital business model you're selling one or more products and/or services to many over larger geographical areas and specific niches - so it's more stable and there's more room to move and optimise your results. To do all of this you need to study in a rigorous way over time until you know what you're doing. You'll need to know, at overview level; how to have websites and videos created, how to research markets using online tools, and how to market people through a sales funnel and close a proportion of them, and then nurture more sales from new and existing customers. You can learn this stuff online (free and paid courses) and use low cost overseas resources to do the mechanical stuff (building sites and videos, setting up marketing pages etc). If you can learn this stuff and execute it properly you can always sell parts of you digital business(s) and then shove the resultant capital into other investments. So anyway, there's one option to consider. It's not an easy road, and that's why most people won't do it - but the rewards are there if you look. The advice I offer is to find people who are already successful and find a way of being valuable to them. They, over time, will open your eyes to opportunity. People who are already successful are screaming out for young and astute people to help them and they are generally happy to reciprocate because they remember what it was like to be young and hungry and wish to pass on what they have learnt. No one becomes successful on their own. You need like minded people around you. In closing, don't give up hope. Opportunity does exist, you just need to manage your consciousness so you become a person who makes themselves attractive to it. And by "it" I mean people.
Thank you for the advice but I couldn't even hold down a retail position and I've worked 3 jobs at a time since i was 11, I'd rather not go into this, it would be another big mistake
Haha, I think I may have been over critical that day. I was at a low point, but the point I would have been trying to make is that a message is at its most powerful condensed culminating with a strong statement without the wittering on about nonsense at the end. Peace :))
We cant all quit our jobs and do stand up or paint pictures. Whos going to clean your pool joe. Menial jobs are supposed to be dead end. Its a stepping stone and its necessary. And achieving financial stability and a pension isnt too god damn bad. Ive still got a long ways to go to do that. Should i just go do what i love? Drop the mortgage, the car payments. Build a cabin. Fish and hunt every day. It does sound good Joe. Mighty good. I just dont have the money for land. My gf will after retirement but then what does that make me. And why is my life worth saving and hers is still relegated to the cubicle. No, Joe. Theres nothing for it. Men need to work. If you can wrangle or arrange to do something you love then you are lucky indeed. But that isnt feasible for us all Joe. You need to show a fuckload more respect for the working man than your hippy "do what you love" bullshit. Now get in your isolation tank and get that through your head.
inagod To invest in these long term stocks you need a lot of money because it costs a lot of money to buy their shares, moreover its unlikely you will make a lot of money if you don't buy 100's and 100's of these shares as they don't fluctuate much. Investing in "Simple long term stocks" wont get rid of debt
And they have ways of making examples of and punishing those of us who dare to swim for the surface. There are different lines of defense. For most people, advertising and materialism are enough to get them to latch the door to their own prison cell and throw away the key. They've already spent a lifetime watching movies and tv shows telling them what "happily ever after" looks like, and that will do for most people. Some people need a little more of a nudge. For those people, usually, debt and financial constraints are enough. Legal restrictions to travel are often helpful here as well, but less obviously intentional.You want to travel the world and work from a cafe in Paris? Fuck you, we need you in your cubicle and you werent born rich so get in there! You liked that credit card? Good this is how you're gonna' pay the man. And if you still dont play the game there is a kind of cognitive dissonance and social shame that comes into play. But honestly, soon, the cubicle jobs will be a dream anyway even if you wanted one. They're all being sent to places like India where people dont think there's anything better than a cubicle and they'll sit in one for half the price or less. Ok, well, you need a house, because...I mean...what kind of a person are you without stuff, right? Next thing you know, you're a debt slave. And that's it. You dont own that house, that house owns you. And even when it's paid off, skip your property taxes for a year and see who has your house then. It's a hustle. And the scariest thing is, Capitalism has saturated the market in The US, especially. And if you want to see what happens to people that Capitalism has no use for , ie, people who are not producers or consumers? Take a good look at what gets done to indigenous people in places like The Amazon and Africa. And then the downward trajectory of American living standards in places like Detroit all starts to make terrifying sense.
I do know that once you've gotten to some sort of consistency in your thinking, you can really ONLY learn from people you disagree with! One monstrous trap of our lovely little internet is the ability to look up people you agree with already - gosh, they're SO SMART! Umm... oh, yeah. So are you! That's a dead-end. But one thing I HAVE to throw up at all the self-actualizer life coaches - stuff like your health & basic, unavoidable responsibilities can woof up a lot of your options and narrow down the forks in the road. It's pretty much immoral to just ABANDON your family to scope out the inside of your belly-button, in my opinion. At least before my spinal discs went South, I did figure out that money is NOT happiness - lucky thing, cause I got none! People who "need" more than clothes, food & a roof over their head - they can get ridiculously unhappy, because there's NEVER "enough."
Globox822 An average, or lesser, existence is what most of us will live in this life. I think the trick is finding things, either work or outside of work, that will fulfill you mentally, physically, spiritually, etc. and make you as happy as you can be in this life.
Well I found out I can’t be a 7’ tall black guy. FUCK IM FUCKING TRAPPED. HOW THE FUCK DO YOU START LIFE WHEN YOU FEEL TIED UP??? Never thought I’d ask UA-cam, but please can I have some advice. I’m broke, have two dogs that I refuse to let go, and I’m technically stuck on the other side of New Mexico because I can’t afford first and last months rent, plus deposit, plus however much more it’ll be to have a yard and hopefully no neighbors. FUCKIN SHIT GOD DAMNIT! Please help.
excellent, the unfortunate problem with all of this is, that if people really knew the truth, there would be no future for the human race,,we'd simply say,"well, that's just way too much to sacrifice. sorry, no kids". the end.
I think some people would still desire kids. Athletes, actors and musicians/singers all still have children. They have namesakes, and that is whether or not they raise them themselves or even raise them somewhat 'properly'.
You're 13 and your logo is awesome. Keep your eyes and ears open. Keep learning all the time. Figure out how to make money online in addition to your chosen path or profession. Consider getting a trade first up rather than attending college and getting lumped with a debt you can't shift. Don't get into credit card debt. Remember social capital is important and often overlooked by many. Therefore figure out how to be valuable to other people (friends, family, and other contacts you meet). Ask older people to help you learn. Make yourself valuable to them. They will want to pass on what they have learnt and help you spread your net of influence as you grow. Don't resist changing your mind in the face of new evidence. A single human can't know everything. Wrestle your ego to the ground - learn to do this - it's very important. If you're straight, don't get a woman pregnant by accident - it'll completely impact the course of your life and limit your choices. In fact wear condoms all the time as there's untreatable strains of gonorrhea now and by the time you're in full swing it'll have penetrated large swathes of the population. If you live in the States, go overseas and see parts of the world. Keep your wits about you when you're undertaking this travel. be kind to animals and people in general. If you're a cunt, it can come back to haunt you. Do hard shit like learning to play an instrument. It'll teach you a set of symmetries and patterns that will cast your neural net wider than otherwise possible. Be mindful of what thoughts you allow yourself to "spoon with". Understand that keeping your own cache of secrets is powerful. Do't blab to all asunder everything you are doing or intend to do until you've made significant progress. You'll dilute your energy otherwise, and others who have their own shit going on will try and hold you back. Keep your powder dry.
I wish he was my dad growing up. My dad said, do what I say, never question me, never say no to me! Oh and believe this jesus bullshit to make me feel fulfilled.
Remember that getting "unstuck" doesn't mean being rich and famous. It means finding yourself in a state of peace more often than not. Find some fun hobbies, and cultivate passions.
Lee S correct because there are rich and famous people who are "stuck" in their own version of this.
I just turned 25 and feel very stuck in life right now. Graduated 3 years ago, got a job straight away in a field I had no interest in and was a step down for my level of degree. But did it anyway because of financial struggles. Met someone at work and ended up falling too hard to the point where we were about to get married soon but couldn’t go on because it got way too toxic. I even had to leave my job for my own mental well-being. Felt completely stuck afterwards struggled with severe depression being unemployed since then (and I still am) engaging in extremely unhealthy behaviour. Honestly surprised but thankful I made it alive through 2019. Not being able to help my family financially at this age is what pains me the most. It’s hard to see your parents working at this age and not able to ease their burden. The guilt is so huge and it’s a constant struggle of still trying to figure out what I have to do and how I need to do it when I don’t know if I even have any dreams anymore and past traumas keep coming back to haunt from time to time.
I hope things are getting better for you
i wish i could articulate and portray my thoughts as clearly as joe does, instead i feel blocked, in a creative sense and also from a social stand point, being introverted on top of that doesn't help.
He started out an introvert.
im almost 23 and i work most of the time. i dont really do much else.
***** i think it matters more of what your reading then where your reading it from
RipenGetlita It's number 517 - his guest is a guy called Crash.
No probs brother.
Yeah he comes out with some gold.
He just put in words, what i have tried so hard to explain
As Im sitting in starbucks right now, studying my ass off. This is the only thing that can keep me going and give me that boost of motivation.
Sending out big love to Joe! He's incredible and is/has changed peoples lives for the better. Such a great guy!
+Scott Mills
lol
+Scott Mills different strokes for different folks :P
+SociallyWired Meow
I love Joe Rogan. He'll kick your ass into enjoying life.
The most important thing in life for a man is to always pull out so you never get stuck.
...or there's this thing called "a Condom" my man....worked for the past 38 years!
DustinCorvetteZr1 you sir are a genuine GENIUS
Not only is he correct in his theory, he also articulates it quite well!
Two years ago today, I bought a house knowing full well it is a trap. Now I'm trapped! What the hell?!
100% stuck, house, family, job i can't escape
Allan Bell I hear ya brother
@@lillivercheese9046 Same here. Any ideas on how to keep the same standard of life and do something exciting without completely screwing up your marraige or kids?
Allan Bellemare any change or still stuck?
@@PAP3RMAN.732 changed, got divorced
@@allanbellemare1949 Oh man are you okay??
As goofy as he can be at times but i have to admit that i can trust joe any given day
this was actually amazing......I've been feeling completely down lately because of job, and life stuff but this video really did put some really good points. We are our own architects.
one video that can change everything ....
Well, did it?
Before this, I was listening to Joe talking about relationships, and it reminded me about how scared I am to get into a serious relationship (or a relationship at all) because of everything negative I've heard about them. I've also had bad experiences with girls myself (although I'm sure those experiences are nowhere near what Joe's had). My self-esteem is so low that I can barely even maintain friendships with people (guys or girls) without constantly second guessing myself at every turn.
Whenever I've tried to develop relationships with people, whether friendships or something deeper, I feel like I've always said too much too soon to the wrong person (my feelings for them, personal stuff about myself, etc). There's only ever been one person in my life (so far) that I feel might have been a good match for me (and would have been willing to listen to and understand my issues), but at the time, she was already involved with someone else (who I respected and thought was a good person) and her path in life diverged from mine. Now she's married (to a different guy) and that ship has sailed. The most I can ever hope to do now is develop friendly acquaintances and suppress whatever low self esteem or personal issues might pop out at certain times so I don't make things awkward or bring them down.
Even if I had my life together (relative to where I am now) and was on a good path, I would still be scared to become heavily involved with a woman simply because of the risk it would involve. I would have to be absolutely sure (obviously, although how can anyone be ABSOLUTELY sure) that she is someone who can love who I am below the surface, endure my personal baggage, and bring out my best qualities. Of course, I would have to be able to return the same for her.
But I'm not at a place like that. In fact, the one career path that I thought I wanted to go down since high school now intimidates the hell out of me, and I don't know what else I would want to do that I would be even remotely good at.
As much as I would want to be in a relationship and have someone to love and be loved by, I just don't think I'm stable enough to carry it through, and I don't think I'll ever be stable enough either. I've been to at least five different psychologists/counselors and none of them have really helped much at all. Each time, it ultimately came down to me making the decision to turn my life around at that point, but each time I chose to continue living in misery. I don't know why. My only theory is that for most of my life, I've only ever known how it feels to be the way I am now: lonely, miserable, angry, anxious, self-loathing, etc. Even though I've had tastes of the other side, I'm too paralyzed by the fear that it will all come tumbling down sooner or later to change the way I am now. I tell myself that I might as well stay the way I am now so that I don't have to worry about having anything good taken away from me. No risks, no disappointments. No responsibilities, no stress. The list goes on.
The worst part is that the one thing that has become the root of most of my problems (or at least feeds the self-destructive cycle viciously) is something that I would have to fight for the rest of my life even if I broke the cycle. That thing would continuously tempt me to fall back into the destructive pattern of behavior I'm in now. And it's readily available for free and isn't illegal. A lot of people would laugh at me if I said outright what it was. In fact, I told someone in high school and they laughed in my face. So that's another problem. What I struggle with isn't taken as seriously as other issues (and to be fair, I can see why), so less time has been spent on developing treatments and psychological strategies for dealing with it.
So I have practically no confidence that seeing psychologists and counselors will solve my issues. Hell, medication combined with that didn't help much either.
hey bro try reading about addictions or even better look up videos on youtube about it. christian ministers talk about it. even if youre not into religion you can ignore the metaphysics yet the science is good bc the truth is many ppl dnt take this problem seriously but theere is a percent of ppl in society who are highly impressionable and affected by this. i think you are talking about pornn right? also once you arr able to relax and find things you enjoy you should feel better and then be able to start having relationships. have faith you can improve
"first you have to know, not fear, know, that one day youre going to die"
fight club is a good example of a film that can change your perspective on things....
Hes lived a really full life hasn't he? hes done it all, he started of as fresh face geeky nerd, then starts partying like crazy man, and then starts working out and becomes a great martial artist in his own right.
Yeah he's a good example of success all round I reckon.
You can almost always opt out of life. Logically and philosophically it makes sense to me, but I still carry the whatever the survival instinct is.
Yeap maby I’ll pull the trigger in a bit
I tell my kids,get rid of the debt,do not be held hostage by revolving payments,its a miserable life.Live within your means,A 500 square foot house,a commuter vehicle,spend your money on hobbies,staying healthy,not a 7,000 foot house you get lost in. Invest in simple long term stocks,coke,IBM,pepsi,etc Get rid of the debt.
hmm good advice mostly but I would invest in Soda Pop companies going forward. people are more aware than ever of how it negatively impacts their health.
Always thought I had shit figured out. Took a chance, left my long-term job for a new opportunity, lost my job, now unemployed. Very depressed and riddled with constant anxiety. Too many negative thoughts, can't see any light because the tunnel is too long and the darkness seems infinite. My head is a bad place to have to live inside of, considering options I never thought I would. I'm sure it's an illusion, but everyone else seems to have their shit together. I just want to feel like I'm in control again.
Just what I needed Joe.
Love how joe cuts the dude off like,"NO WISDOM IS MY THING"
i really needed this
I needed this.
Wow it can't be a coincidence that I just happen to find this today...
3rd Gunman it never is keep going bro
simplistically said " we as humans are defined by what comes out our mouths not what goes in it"
so many stuck people i know...... they are my inspiration
Hindsight would have been good forty odd years ago. To start again aged 4, I would decide to be a brilliant linguist and pianist. ..perhaps be a freelance interpreter and at weekends be one of those blokes who plays grand piano in the lobby of a posh club and to the end of the night really get the party going with a bit of Ray Charles and Little Richard..but here we are, ive got to crack on, working as an electrician, paying the bills, mortgages, loans on shit I don't want..but I've got a time limit on this shit- 7 years max!Last week I got my piano, I'm learning my languages and if I survive no one's gonna stop me!!:)))
We all gotsta crack on brother. Goodluck with piano playing!
Are you doing it? It's easy to buy the item, and hard to actually DO it. I hope you are playing it.
Of course..and the piano was free😁 you can track my progress on my UA-cam channel. Thanks
Really? If I got to start again age 4, I'd be making a lot of sports bets.
Andrew Beadle hope you made it
No risk, no reward.
I so needed to hear this today.
Even though I put this up, I visit regularly. Glad it was of value for you.
I'm stuck. I see the trap & am avoiding it but am stuck where I am. I just don't wanna be a part of 'the game' but I'm stuck as of right now.
Many of us are unfortunately. keep going!
it's going to sound really simple but all you need to do is say out loud what you want to achieve then go out and do it. what we all tend to do is say what we want then spend however long is necessary telling ourselves we can't instead of actually just doing it. there is a lecture on yt from guy called larken rose where he talks about malware for the mind where we put up imaginary boundaries in our mind which prevent us from reaching our full potential. we can't all be billionaires but we could all be better then we are.
+seaniekay yeah really good point. I'm working on that myself. Thanks for your comment 👍
+Abir Tarafdar can I suggest a book for you which will help you with goal. it's the Kyballion by 3 initiates it's 9 hr audio book on YT or audible it details the teachings of Hermes trismegistus who explains natural law and 7 truths or laws one of which is law of attraction and the law of polarity these two used in conjunction with each other can help you learn how to control and manifest situations to suit your needs. when I first read it about 6 years ago it completely changed my life and it also completely cured my depression which I'd had on and off since my early teens without any medication or psychiatrist.
Thanks for the suggestion. I'll hunt those resources down. I'm committed to hitting my goals so any help is good. Thanks again!
True words. fall in the hole and it's like that corridor in your dreams the exit just keeps moving further away.
He's right and he says it the way it is!
love JR!!.......and eckhart tolle and pema chodran and tara brach....oh yeah....cant forget duncan trussell!!.....spiritual teachers come in all shapes and sizes!!
I have been explaining this to people since I was a child. It is a very simple concept.
great post my man
Well said.
Excellent! I'm always stuck in a rut, even in one now but Joe is definitely right about the system! Screwed up world doesn't want anybody living out their dreams including myself. New world, new government/no government soon I pray.
I took my own path in life, people told me because I never did well in school prior to college I shouldn't take an electronics engineering path that it would be too hard for me, I excelled because I loved it, then I did 5 years of social work, my family to this day has ill feelings towards me for it. I also live differently, without relying on credit and again they don't understand why and see it as some kind of failure. We started our own online business and it's been around for 12 years this year again my family thinks that's not a real job. So I did the smart thing, cut ties with their cancerous feelings and thoughts and only see my Mother and Aunt now who don't really understand my life but they know I'm mostly happy and that's good enough for them.
As for the rest of them I focused on being a great Uncle to their kids, who are mostly grown now, and I will never put myself around them again as they just breed ill feelings and criticize what they don't understand yet they have all felt the stress of almost losing everything they worked for following "the rules". If your family doesn't support you and criticizes the choices you make do yourself a favor, get them out of your life as it caused me a great deal of unnecessary strain and stress trying to "win them over" for absolutely no gain and I wish I did it years ago but felt the need to be there for their kids.
Good on you for following your own path, and importantly reading your environment so the online business made sense and presented a clear pathway for you (I'm sure there were stumbling blocks along the way). I've done the same thing with cutting people out of my life that are judgmental and constantly criticize. Helps me stay focused on my own goals.
that's some powerful stuff right there
joe rogan has wise over years and i love thanks for this
ive been stuck for awhile, but i havent fallen for any traps laid out by society except electronic distraction. ive just been in a nihilistic, apathetic stagnation. when every path seems like a maze engineered by other humans for me to blindly grope through, i am at a loss about what to do at all.
I hear ya man. I hit that state and retreated into the forest for a while. Cam back reinspired. Sometimes need to get out of your normal habits to see the forest for the trees.
Wow, I love this man now.............
crystal clear man. fuck thats wise
That all sounds GREAT ! ! ! Joe........
This is guy is good. He should start his own podcast or something.
Yeah I reckon too
@@tenzingbhutia5000 your name is awesome!
the lost motivational tape series, i want more
I think what he said about community is key. In past history people lived together in tight communities that depended on each other. Where people developed close bonds and formed identities out of the group that shaped who they are. Only for about the past century or so, especially in western society it seems people made a switch from staying in a community to leaving and moving out away from the family and friends you grew up with. Its whats expected in modern society now, almost looked down on if you dont. Like we are all just trying to get away from each other now.
That's as a result of more people achieving higher education, degrees etc... in my experience. In poorer societies people are less financially mobile. You get a job close to home because why would you move far away to work a 9 to 5? When a generation of people attain higher academic goals than their parents, the onus is on them to chase the money which is invariably in a big city somewhere. Admittedly, this was always a middle class phenomenon, its just now more people are entering than category than ever before.
Actually, I believe that has more to do with the exploding of these communities on account of an exponentially growing population. Possibly one with poor education from the start. Kind of the opposite. Can't deny the possibility of what you're saying, though.
Joe i fucking love you mate, preach!
I’ve got to do something because right now I can’t bring myself to get out of bed anymore.
jimmy donohue I’ve been in that place. If I may be so bold, I’d recommend allow yourself to “be” that you can’t get out of bed. Don’t resist it as a wrong thing. Allow everything and resist nothing. Life will present the “something” you seek and you’ll be able to see it if you can allow and not resist. The hysteria and panic or anxiety may still be there but you’ll be able to know the next right move for you. Be present and know others just like you have come out of suffering. Hope that helps. Love you brother.
Abir Tarafdar Thanks for the warm words. I love you too brother.
that is so true
Stay out of debt. Avoid material things that you dont have the money to pay for. Keep your options open. Avoid debt. Avoid compound interest. Dont drink too much. Dont touch hard liquor. Dont touch hard drugs. Dont smoke ciggarettrs. Dont eat junk food. Drive a cheap vehicle that you own. Live like a gypsy if you have to save money and try and figure out a way to own a place to live.
Yep, I'm stuck.
logical awareness
dude. i always talk about the video game thing. yes!!!!!
Joe needs to take his own advise. If you want to be a 7 foot tall black man you pick yourself up and you go out there be the best 7 foot tall black man that you can be!
Do the best you can.
Become the best version of you....the TRUE you. 1♡
this is great but going on your own and having to work for the man is unserpassable for some of us
Remember folks, that doesn't mean that having a family is a bad thing. People fall in love with someone and WANT to have kids and raise them. It's a completely natural calling and most (not all) are happy doing it.
what about getting unstuck? after enough wrong turns, there can be no way out
there can be dear.
Energy
dont waste it.Save yours to have some sort of control and then you can get out.
i hate be the bearer of bad news.but yeah thise happy go lucky motivational speakers are partly right when they say
positivity.is the way to go.
i love joes shit...good philosophically...easy for him in his position...all the motivational talk like that....lets not leave out that its okay not to win the lotto like he did.
most people do walk the right path...and get thw door SLAMMED. .
joes door opened. good for him...if ur watching...reading...its ok. maybe u do all he said and still...nothing...my point is he never says that his success means nothing..real happiness is good times spent. with loved ones. or spreading real love vibes... u dont need a status. u need food n family. everything else is...more than u need. just smile cuz ur already holding the lottery ticket. and its a winner. so wut are u gonna do?
Look at the people that have 'kind of tooken chances'
im not stuck. I bought a 2 bed 1 bath town home in aurora co. I rent one room out for $600 a month. It pays my HOA fee, elec and wifi. So i get the master bedroom and i grow weed in my 2 car garage. Life is grand.
malcolm mock But you can get a lot of home in Aurora for cheap. I'd rather live in cap hill but it's expensive to buy there =(
malcolm mock All that stuff sounds like a trap until you mentioned the garage, yes, life is grand!
Right on brother!
I tracked your iP. See you soon.
I'm "free" but I don't see the opportunities to advance in a career path I want. What should I do?
Which podcast # is this please
Why doesn't every trainer make it this simple ??? thanks Joe Rogan :)
If only I had known it was a right turn man I could navigate outta raps resulting in a child. Being the victim of that got me stuck lol all problem and no solution to getting out
I feel like it's easier for him to say this cause he's worth like $25million
He mentions in some of his earlier podcasts that when he was starting out as a comic, in his early twenties, he was doing gigs every night and making around $100 per gig. He'd left martial arts instructing which paid very little. He was living hand to mouth totally stressed for a number of years until he scored a development deal for a sitcom worth around $150K. He then moved to LA and then started working as an actor on News Radio. He got introduced through some dude at News Radio to another guy who got him to do post interviews for MMA tournaments which were just emerging back in those days. That's where he met Dana, former owner of the UFC. Because he was deep into Japanese tournaments like Pride, he kept telling Dana, who was also struggling at that stage, about different fighters Dana knew nothing about. So eventually Dana got him to do commentary on UFC matches. So now he's making money and on his way, getting a better stand-up proflie as well. News Radio gets canceled and he moves over to hosting Fear Factor, still doing commentary and post fight interviews for UFC. From what I can piece together he started that supplements company with Aubrey Marcus and his podcast has to make serious bank based on the numbers of downloads and youtube views it gets. Anyway, he transitioned from a broke kid to a multimillionaire - but remember the dude is 52 years old, so it didn't happen overnight. I remember him saying once, the biggest relief was when he knew he could pay all his bills without any stress, and everything after that was just a bonus. I believe him in that I think he's the sort of guy who isn't chasing wealth for the sake of it. Hope that gives you something.
I went to school for two careers, neither one of them worked out, both pretty much shit on me, now Im stuck in a low paying job with a mortgage, shitload of debt and bills and no other potential lineups, any advice for that?
+elgrigorio1 What are your areas of study and how old are you?
I studied nursing and cosmetology and Im 23, and don't give me the u still got years ahead of you bullshit, Cause I am already out of options
+elgrigorio1 Are you asking me if you're out of options, or telling me? In any case, if I were you I would consider using your spare time to learn the ins and outs of creating a digital business. I'm assuming you're in the States and don't have kids so you should be able to allocate spare time and exploit low cost overseas labour (I'll explain that in a bit). There's a fair bit to know in running a digital business but the rewards are pretty good and can set you up with an income equal to what you're making in your normal job(s) with most of the activity running on autopilot (eventually). If you conduct yourself so you arrive at a point where you have sideline income almost equal to what you're making from employment you can then invest your spare cash into sound investments (you'll need qualified help for this) and should be financially well positioned by the time you're 33. After that, you'll see other options emerge in your environment because the person you will have become will attract people, events and situations that can help you further, and also, very importantly, you will have acquired the skills and insight to SEE opportunities in places where most people can't.
If you have a low cost shitty job currently, you're constrained by your available hours that you "sell" to your employer at "wholesale" which they sell to the market at "retail". You're also constrained by your geographical location and the particular supply and demand dynamics of that area. In a digital business model you're selling one or more products and/or services to many over larger geographical areas and specific niches - so it's more stable and there's more room to move and optimise your results. To do all of this you need to study in a rigorous way over time until you know what you're doing. You'll need to know, at overview level; how to have websites and videos created, how to research markets using online tools, and how to market people through a sales funnel and close a proportion of them, and then nurture more sales from new and existing customers. You can learn this stuff online (free and paid courses) and use low cost overseas resources to do the mechanical stuff (building sites and videos, setting up marketing pages etc). If you can learn this stuff and execute it properly you can always sell parts of you digital business(s) and then shove the resultant capital into other investments.
So anyway, there's one option to consider. It's not an easy road, and that's why most people won't do it - but the rewards are there if you look. The advice I offer is to find people who are already successful and find a way of being valuable to them. They, over time, will open your eyes to opportunity. People who are already successful are screaming out for young and astute people to help them and they are generally happy to reciprocate because they remember what it was like to be young and hungry and wish to pass on what they have learnt. No one becomes successful on their own. You need like minded people around you. In closing, don't give up hope. Opportunity does exist, you just need to manage your consciousness so you become a person who makes themselves attractive to it. And by "it" I mean people.
Thank you for the advice but I couldn't even hold down a retail position and I've worked 3 jobs at a time since i was 11, I'd rather not go into this, it would be another big mistake
+elgrigorio1 No worries - Just be open. Good things can happen : )
The message is great (but I like to listen to it without the last 17 seconds.)
Haha, I think I may have been over critical that day. I was at a low point, but the point I would have been trying to make is that a message is at its most powerful condensed culminating with a strong statement without the wittering on about nonsense at the end. Peace :))
I am not stucked my problem is I dont know what is my finish line I dont know what do with my life.
i wonder who started sighing when he started saying this
+Derek Brunette It was Crash, pretty sure he was just taking a few deep breaths.
whao
We cant all quit our jobs and do stand up or paint pictures. Whos going to clean your pool joe. Menial jobs are supposed to be dead end. Its a stepping stone and its necessary. And achieving financial stability and a pension isnt too god damn bad. Ive still got a long ways to go to do that. Should i just go do what i love? Drop the mortgage, the car payments. Build a cabin. Fish and hunt every day. It does sound good Joe. Mighty good. I just dont have the money for land. My gf will after retirement but then what does that make me. And why is my life worth saving and hers is still relegated to the cubicle. No, Joe. Theres nothing for it. Men need to work. If you can wrangle or arrange to do something you love then you are lucky indeed. But that isnt feasible for us all Joe. You need to show a fuckload more respect for the working man than your hippy "do what you love" bullshit. Now get in your isolation tank and get that through your head.
Joe I just listen to this. are you following me because this is spot on I am trapped. A-frade to make a chioce😣
Hey, all you high achieving happy motherfuckers should be thankful for dudes like me! It suck, but someone has to be that example of what not to do.😕
inagod To invest in these long term stocks you need a lot of money because it costs a lot of money to buy their shares, moreover its unlikely you will make a lot of money if you don't buy 100's and 100's of these shares as they don't fluctuate much. Investing in "Simple long term stocks" wont get rid of debt
invest small amounts each month / year into an index fund.
And they have ways of making examples of and punishing those of us who dare to swim for the surface. There are different lines of defense. For most people, advertising and materialism are enough to get them to latch the door to their own prison cell and throw away the key. They've already spent a lifetime watching movies and tv shows telling them what "happily ever after" looks like, and that will do for most people. Some people need a little more of a nudge. For those people, usually, debt and financial constraints are enough. Legal restrictions to travel are often helpful here as well, but less obviously intentional.You want to travel the world and work from a cafe in Paris? Fuck you, we need you in your cubicle and you werent born rich so get in there! You liked that credit card? Good this is how you're gonna' pay the man. And if you still dont play the game there is a kind of cognitive dissonance and social shame that comes into play. But honestly, soon, the cubicle jobs will be a dream anyway even if you wanted one. They're all being sent to places like India where people dont think there's anything better than a cubicle and they'll sit in one for half the price or less. Ok, well, you need a house, because...I mean...what kind of a person are you without stuff, right? Next thing you know, you're a debt slave. And that's it. You dont own that house, that house owns you. And even when it's paid off, skip your property taxes for a year and see who has your house then. It's a hustle. And the scariest thing is, Capitalism has saturated the market in The US, especially. And if you want to see what happens to people that Capitalism has no use for , ie, people who are not producers or consumers? Take a good look at what gets done to indigenous people in places like The Amazon and Africa. And then the downward trajectory of American living standards in places like Detroit all starts to make terrifying sense.
I do know that once you've gotten to some sort of consistency in your thinking, you can really ONLY learn from people you disagree with! One monstrous trap of our lovely little internet is the ability to look up people you agree with already - gosh, they're SO SMART! Umm... oh, yeah. So are you! That's a dead-end. But one thing I HAVE to throw up at all the self-actualizer life coaches - stuff like your health & basic, unavoidable responsibilities can woof up a lot of your options and narrow down the forks in the road. It's pretty much immoral to just ABANDON your family to scope out the inside of your belly-button, in my opinion. At least before my spinal discs went South, I did figure out that money is NOT happiness - lucky thing, cause I got none! People who "need" more than clothes, food & a roof over their head - they can get ridiculously unhappy, because there's NEVER "enough."
What if you don't have the capacity for something bigger, then just an average existence?
Globox822 An average, or lesser, existence is what most of us will live in this life. I think the trick is finding things, either work or outside of work, that will fulfill you mentally, physically, spiritually, etc. and make you as happy as you can be in this life.
Well I found out I can’t be a 7’ tall black guy. FUCK IM FUCKING TRAPPED. HOW THE FUCK DO YOU START LIFE WHEN YOU FEEL TIED UP??? Never thought I’d ask UA-cam, but please can I have some advice. I’m broke, have two dogs that I refuse to let go, and I’m technically stuck on the other side of New Mexico because I can’t afford first and last months rent, plus deposit, plus however much more it’ll be to have a yard and hopefully no neighbors. FUCKIN SHIT GOD DAMNIT! Please help.
was good except for the other guy sighing all the time over joe
Sad to know that the problem to all our shiitts is Money...
We need money for that,for this OH wait we need it for everyfuckingthing
excellent, the unfortunate problem with all of this is, that if people really knew the truth, there would be no future for the human race,,we'd simply say,"well, that's just way too much to sacrifice. sorry, no kids". the end.
I think some people would still desire kids. Athletes, actors and musicians/singers all still have children. They have namesakes, and that is whether or not they raise them themselves or even raise them somewhat 'properly'.
I'm 13 any advice???
You're 13 and your logo is awesome. Keep your eyes and ears open. Keep learning all the time. Figure out how to make money online in addition to your chosen path or profession. Consider getting a trade first up rather than attending college and getting lumped with a debt you can't shift. Don't get into credit card debt. Remember social capital is important and often overlooked by many. Therefore figure out how to be valuable to other people (friends, family, and other contacts you meet). Ask older people to help you learn. Make yourself valuable to them. They will want to pass on what they have learnt and help you spread your net of influence as you grow. Don't resist changing your mind in the face of new evidence. A single human can't know everything. Wrestle your ego to the ground - learn to do this - it's very important. If you're straight, don't get a woman pregnant by accident - it'll completely impact the course of your life and limit your choices. In fact wear condoms all the time as there's untreatable strains of gonorrhea now and by the time you're in full swing it'll have penetrated large swathes of the population. If you live in the States, go overseas and see parts of the world. Keep your wits about you when you're undertaking this travel. be kind to animals and people in general. If you're a cunt, it can come back to haunt you. Do hard shit like learning to play an instrument. It'll teach you a set of symmetries and patterns that will cast your neural net wider than otherwise possible. Be mindful of what thoughts you allow yourself to "spoon with". Understand that keeping your own cache of secrets is powerful. Do't blab to all asunder everything you are doing or intend to do until you've made significant progress. You'll dilute your energy otherwise, and others who have their own shit going on will try and hold you back. Keep your powder dry.
Abir Tarafdar thx
Abir Tarafdar do u have instagram??
yeah @arbsterio
Abir Tarafdar k imma follow u
Advice for a 18 year old ?
begin injecting steroids
I wish he was my dad growing up. My dad said, do what I say, never question me, never say no to me! Oh and believe this jesus bullshit to make me feel fulfilled.
Fuck.
Pretty sure Joe honestly believes in simulation theory. A lot of what he says is like this.
Joe, lay off the blunts and coffee, your brain is tripping over your tongue !
government profile ^fake