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I feel like people are generally good at riffing off the topic at hand and dancing around it, but when it runs dry this is when that particular flavor of dreadful silence kicks in where everyone can feel the topic has been exhausted. At that point people will latch onto anything because we intuitively understand the group is at risk of sinking down to a lower standard. In my observation it is a massive struggle for people to summon unconventional topics out of thin air, I feel like we can get super far just by having the ability to do so.
‘We intuitively understand the group is at risk of sinking down to a lower standard.’ That’s a collective fear that’s false but made true by individuals thinking the same thing in that moment. That’s why we each can practice relaxing in those moments and allowing organic happenings to arise. However it does, even if it means dispersing the group, what is there to fear? The more we all relax, we realize genuine thoughts do arise when the silence is calm.
@@ArielNiuViews Yeah I mean I totally agree, I prefer a holistic vibe I'm fluent in silence. At the same time I feel like it is demanding when I'm around people who don't really understand it, because in those situations I'm essentially undertaking the role of spiritual leadership and singlehandedly pushing against the norm. There are a lot of social situations where I would much rather chill in my ego and meet people where they are. I think its good to know how to play the social game at every level so to speak.
@@lasis5496 Yeah I see what you mean, you have a very nuanced and valid point here. When I'm tired or less engaged, it's easier to appease. But there is a fine line there to becoming a collective people-pleasing energy which becomes even more draining. It is a moment-by-moment decision to make.
This is really helpful, I feel like too many charismatic videos say to just “be confident and others will follow”. This feels more like a step-by-step on _how_ exactly to drive that conversation, thank you!!
YOU deserve a million subscribers!!! You have such a calm healing energy about you. Keep the videos coming you are going to go SO far!!! Im rooting for you. I neevr comment on any videos but i had to on this one. Ily girllll ❤❤❤❤ UR AMAZING
Love your content Ariel, so helpful in dealing with social anxiety! Would love to see a video on how to introduce yourself less awkwardly/ meeting new people 👀
Thank you for making a video on this topic! I have a family gathering coming up so the timing of the video is perfect. 😄 I'm usually the quiet person sitting and listening to the group conversations, but the individual-to-group flow and cheeky side comments are really great tips 🙂
can you do a video about networking, how to start conversations that’s not the basic “what do you do?” or “what are you majoring?” conversations that are enjoyable and can make it easier for me to start convos without getting awkward
Great content and very insightful on social breakdown, I’ve understood a lot of social working in food service but elaborated and presented helps me convey similar awareness to customer service. Honestly great content, ty ❤
I found you after Vickita Trivedi mentioned you in her latest video…very good content 😊 I watched an older video too, everything has improved 🙌 you seem to take your own advice x
the last tips that you mention am really struggling with witch is silence it will be really kind from you if you do a separate video about it thank you for your effort it really helped 🥰
Hey Ariel, really nice video ! I was wondering if I could help you with Best Quality Editing in your videos better than your Editor with good pricing and also make a highly engaging Thumbnail which will help your videos to reach to a wider audience ? Pls let me know what do you think ?
@@fluffyclouds555 True, but that's different from confidence. You've got to admit that being good looking makes it easier to gain and portray confidence than it would be for someone else. The host of this video is, obviously, rather good looking so it would be easier for her to have that confidence than someone plain, all other things being equal. So context matters. In a science debate someone attractive isn't going to have much confidence in a debate when they know nothing and may feel like a fool being there for example.
Really love ❤ all your videos. But something about the end of the sentences youngsters these days use, are quite unpleasant for me to listen to 😅 some sentences are ended like a question but they really are not. This remind me of the inferiority you speak about earlier. It could be translated wrongly... and the confidence fades gradually in the conversation when you listen to the sound of the talk. Do your guys get what I say? 😊
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This is one of the most on point social skill coach here on UA-cam! So glad I found your channel!!
I feel like people are generally good at riffing off the topic at hand and dancing around it, but when it runs dry this is when that particular flavor of dreadful silence kicks in where everyone can feel the topic has been exhausted. At that point people will latch onto anything because we intuitively understand the group is at risk of sinking down to a lower standard. In my observation it is a massive struggle for people to summon unconventional topics out of thin air, I feel like we can get super far just by having the ability to do so.
‘We intuitively understand the group is at risk of sinking down to a lower standard.’ That’s a collective fear that’s false but made true by individuals thinking the same thing in that moment. That’s why we each can practice relaxing in those moments and allowing organic happenings to arise. However it does, even if it means dispersing the group, what is there to fear? The more we all relax, we realize genuine thoughts do arise when the silence is calm.
@@ArielNiuViews Yeah I mean I totally agree, I prefer a holistic vibe I'm fluent in silence. At the same time I feel like it is demanding when I'm around people who don't really understand it, because in those situations I'm essentially undertaking the role of spiritual leadership and singlehandedly pushing against the norm. There are a lot of social situations where I would much rather chill in my ego and meet people where they are. I think its good to know how to play the social game at every level so to speak.
@@lasis5496 Yeah I see what you mean, you have a very nuanced and valid point here. When I'm tired or less engaged, it's easier to appease. But there is a fine line there to becoming a collective people-pleasing energy which becomes even more draining. It is a moment-by-moment decision to make.
Relaxing into it is the key. Thank you sis! ❤
This is really helpful, I feel like too many charismatic videos say to just “be confident and others will follow”. This feels more like a step-by-step on _how_ exactly to drive that conversation, thank you!!
You are one of the most talented UA-camrs out there. You are gonna hit 1M subscribers.
YOU deserve a million subscribers!!! You have such a calm healing energy about you. Keep the videos coming you are going to go SO far!!! Im rooting for you. I neevr comment on any videos but i had to on this one. Ily girllll ❤❤❤❤ UR AMAZING
Thank you so much 🥹 comments like this really do keep me doing my best ♥️
you’re such a queen for involving the other group members ❤
Love your content Ariel, so helpful in dealing with social anxiety! Would love to see a video on how to introduce yourself less awkwardly/ meeting new people 👀
Yes I would love a video about that too
Thank you for making a video on this topic! I have a family gathering coming up so the timing of the video is perfect. 😄 I'm usually the quiet person sitting and listening to the group conversations, but the individual-to-group flow and cheeky side comments are really great tips 🙂
can you do a video about networking, how to start conversations that’s not the basic “what do you do?” or “what are you majoring?” conversations that are enjoyable and can make it easier for me to start convos without getting awkward
I’ll add this to the lineup! 😁👍🏻
Great content and very insightful on social breakdown, I’ve understood a lot of social working in food service but elaborated and presented helps me convey similar awareness to customer service.
Honestly great content, ty ❤
I found you after Vickita Trivedi mentioned you in her latest video…very good content 😊 I watched an older video too, everything has improved 🙌 you seem to take your own advice x
Me too!
the last tips that you mention am really struggling with witch is silence it will be really kind from you if you do a separate video about it thank you for your effort it really helped 🥰
Noted!
I’m heading to an award show later, so this is right on time as a primer. TYSM 🙏🏿
Thanks for the latest view, Ms. Niu.
Great tips! Thanks for sharing
This video is very helpful. I’m great 1 on 1, but terrible in a group conversation
I like your voice so much
Very very helpful
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I absolutely love your videos ❤
This is awesome!
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Native Youth :)
Hey Ariel, really nice video ! I was wondering if I could help you with Best Quality Editing in your videos better than your Editor with good pricing and also make a highly engaging Thumbnail which will help your videos to reach to a wider audience ? Pls let me know what do you think ?
Don't you think that someone that looks like you, that it would be easier to be charismatic or confident.
sure, and these tips help all who look however they look like
@@ArielNiuViews Agree, but it certainly helps to be hot :)
you’d be surprised
We’ve all interacted with someone incredibly good looking who was totally shallow, vapid, not the sharpest tool in the shed..so, there’s that
@@fluffyclouds555 True, but that's different from confidence. You've got to admit that being good looking makes it easier to gain and portray confidence than it would be for someone else. The host of this video is, obviously, rather good looking so it would be easier for her to have that confidence than someone plain, all other things being equal. So context matters. In a science debate someone attractive isn't going to have much confidence in a debate when they know nothing and may feel like a fool being there for example.
Really love ❤ all your videos. But something about the end of the sentences youngsters these days use, are quite unpleasant for me to listen to 😅 some sentences are ended like a question but they really are not. This remind me of the inferiority you speak about earlier. It could be translated wrongly... and the confidence fades gradually in the conversation when you listen to the sound of the talk. Do your guys get what I say? 😊