Shocking CONFESSIONS of a “SOBER NARCISSIST!” Do they REGRET LOSING YOU and OTHER QUESTIONS ANSWERED

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  • @louisegarner8888
    @louisegarner8888 Рік тому +53

    Wonderful wisdoms you're sharing with us here Telsha, thank you Queen!! 👸🔥💞 We're seeing this spirit of narcissism worldwide now and need to know how it operates and what to do about it.
    A sobering moment for a narc is when they realise they keep aiming down low on auto to keep sinning by missing the mark, knowing deep down they've become an unsafe, irresponsible person that is harmful to others as the spirit of fear forces them to flex to puff and buffer their ego temporarily in the face of their insecurities which is only ever counterbalanced by a distorted shrinkage and contraction of their faith, fortitude and freedom.
    Ignorance is the only evil, it feeds on itself to breed more evil.
    Stop 🛑
    Observe 👁️
    Breathe 🌬️
    Expand (in God's faith) 🙏
    Respond (sensibly, soberly) 🗣️👥
    As an example, "Balenciaga has issued an official apology after coming under fire for a campaign it recently released for the holiday season.
    Highlighting its Objects line featuring logo-heavy accessories, the images were modeled by children, who were seen holding toys dressed in bondage and BDSM gear. These teddy bears were featured in the brand’s Summer 2023 runway in October along with models wearing makeup depicting bruising." ~ hypebae website 👁️
    When we share awareness of the perception deception we're allowing those responsible a space and place for moral correction to take place.
    The Golden rule as spoken by Jesus in Matthew 7:12 and Luke 6:31"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" instructs us to consistently and discerningly check our free will against the spirit and fruit of what's happening within and around us so we don't violate or harm ourselves or others but rather soberly expand God's faith and freedom for all. Amen. 🙏👁️💞🔥🕊️

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +11

      When I tell you we have the coldest Moderator on this side of Heaven!! Let comments and her work speak for her. Bless our Louise Lord Jesus!! Straight 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💃🏽💃🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽✝️🙏🏽✝️💕💕💕

    • @Terri302
      @Terri302 Рік тому +3

      She's the best love you Sis 👍💯💖🤗
      Most days anyway ...winks ✌️💞🕯️🫂👑💪🤣

    • @louisegarner8888
      @louisegarner8888 Рік тому +4

      @@TheTeaonNPDandRelationships Don't forget baddest Tea! ❄😎😂 It was Terri 😎 who explained to me what baddest and coldest meant 🤦‍♀️ and sent me info on this so we need to credit her sharp eyes as well as you doing your videos and talks to give a strong, sound voice and encouragement to those of us who do see through the devil's schemes and are all too often scapegoated into silence rather than given a voice and means to correct these issues, so thank you both!! Part of my many lifelong devaluations by narcs included making me believe nothing I said or was mattered, it's easier to believe the bad things somehow uno and you're helping me undo the damage and reevaluate things to more balanced, true and meaningful. Love you lots, avagooday! xox 💐🙏💪💕🤗✨😎😇🗣️🔥👥👣✨✌️👋

    • @louisegarner8888
      @louisegarner8888 Рік тому +2

      @@Terri302 📢 Projection!! 😂🤣💕😘✌️

    • @Terri302
      @Terri302 Рік тому +2

      @@louisegarner8888 lmao 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @fosterjanine5112
    @fosterjanine5112 Рік тому +178

    They don't regret losing you as a person, but they regret losing their supply! FULL STOP.

    • @Terri302
      @Terri302 Рік тому +2

      Lol 👍😂🤣

    • @ninath13
      @ninath13 Рік тому +13

      These monsters know when someone was good to them even a dog knows That the only difference they don't care they think about that why they always try to come back

    • @patricebeene646
      @patricebeene646 Рік тому +2

      Exactly

    • @InHisService772
      @InHisService772 Рік тому +2

      That part!!!!

    • @kamrenmingo6288
      @kamrenmingo6288 Рік тому +1

      Exactly

  • @tonjajackson9209
    @tonjajackson9209 Рік тому +29

    A sober narcissist wants your forgiveness and another chance to tear you down.

    • @ifeelnothing5175
      @ifeelnothing5175 Рік тому +4

      *yep!.. if they can just get THIER hands just bout around your neck..they will squeeze the hell out of it!!.. ...it ain't love!....❤️😆

  • @Rose-dl6xg
    @Rose-dl6xg Рік тому +114

    When peace of mind is a priority, Some people just cannot be in your life Anymore

    • @ifeelnothing5175
      @ifeelnothing5175 Рік тому +1

      *Simply!

    • @GodsFavorite-3
      @GodsFavorite-3 Рік тому +1

      Even With A Kid Involved, They're No Good For You Or The Child You Must Move Around They just can't be in your life anymore as Sad as it's Seems GOD is Our Father

  • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
    @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +85

    With the spirit of discernment, you can read the room...

  • @Samantha-cp1qm
    @Samantha-cp1qm Рік тому +129

    There is absolutely no regrets here, but as far as them regretting a lose is of No Matter. We ought to be blessed that the Father snatched us from that path.

  • @tanyastarks8658
    @tanyastarks8658 Рік тому +78

    The Ex Narc made it seem as if his ex wife and her parents were crazy. I said well it says a lot about you because you not only dated her but you had three children with her. So who's really crazy. The rage that came from the Narc after my statement was like a being in the room with The Hulk. They are very shallow, thin skinned, paranoid, deceitful, anxious and insane. Leave them all the way alone.

    • @bee12355
      @bee12355 Рік тому +10

      That sound like the narc I dealt with. He would fly into a rage, he went from zero to 180 in 5 seconds. I am so happy I blocked him. I don’t want to see or speak to him ever.

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +3

      1000%

    • @dorib.3367
      @dorib.3367 Рік тому +3

      Yes that's exactly who they are from prince charming to the grinch. Their attitude gets even nasty and ugly from 1 to 100 to the point they resent you and start with subliminal messages to your kids and try to shut you out like don't listen to what mom says you know the truth it's what I'm speaking what??? Like my teenage kids won't tell me what was said. People always pull your kids aside when dealing with a Narc and talk the truth to them not this miss Information the Narc tells them.

    • @Tblizzle
      @Tblizzle Рік тому +1

      Sound like my ex. Like Jekle and Hydye

    • @Calicandyy
      @Calicandyy Рік тому +1

      Held his behind accountable 😂😂😂😂

  • @JoannA-sweetly
    @JoannA-sweetly Рік тому +19

    This reminds me of how the demons tremble at God, but keep right on being demons…..

  • @Chosenfavor1
    @Chosenfavor1 Рік тому +25

    Please! Don’t you dare go back ladies/gentlemen. Don’t give in, don’t look back.. it hurts. In time & with God first you will heal. That “sober narc” is not a changed narc 🙏🏽❤️

  • @bellisimaamor6245
    @bellisimaamor6245 Рік тому +69

    My N-ex has had several sobering moments after I left with the children. He told me about all of his realizations & regrets (& that he'll never be the same without his family). I wish him the best. However, the children & I have to rebound, regroup, & glow up [with God's blessings & love]. Stay encouraged y'all!

    • @danalinsey5544
      @danalinsey5544 Рік тому +2

      Excellent

    • @Tblizzle
      @Tblizzle Рік тому +3

      Yes my son's dad says the same thing but I never wanna go through that he'll ever again. I'm good coparenting works just fine for me.

    • @bellisimaamor6245
      @bellisimaamor6245 Рік тому

      @@Tblizzle Good for you. We are in the same boat- coparenting and living our best lives for ourselves and our children. 🌞

  • @slimskinny
    @slimskinny Рік тому +67

    At the discard, the narc told me we’re just two different people:
    Mind you this was 6 years into the relationship.
    Stay away from them! Act on the red flags!

    • @HonestyIsAVirtue7
      @HonestyIsAVirtue7 Рік тому +5

      Mine told me the same thing after 32 years of marriage.

    • @giovannilevoci941
      @giovannilevoci941 Рік тому +3

      The narc told me after 10 years together after I asked her why the breakup, I just love you too much... Crazy...

    • @Vivianwoods63
      @Vivianwoods63 Рік тому +1

      My ex narc told me in these exact words on the day he discarded me, “ YOU ARE EXPOSED”. Since I am informed of a narc. He was telling on himself 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @vanessaking5123
      @vanessaking5123 Рік тому +1

      I heard the same thing

    • @dorarussell2
      @dorarussell2 Рік тому +2

      My ex Narc told me the same thing a few years ago.. that we weren’t compatible…

  • @Imnotyourdoormat
    @Imnotyourdoormat Рік тому +13

    "The eyes Chico...they never lie." Tony Montana circa era SCARFACE 1983

  • @leandraherring1824
    @leandraherring1824 Рік тому +16

    MRS. TEA 💖 THESE WILD ANIMALS DON'T REGRET LOSING YOU.. THEY REGRET THAT U CAUGHT ON TO THEIR GAMES AND GARAGE SALES.. THESE ROACHES ARE CHEAP WITH A BAD HAIRLINE 😂😂😂... MY EX NARC HUSBAND WILL NEVER FIND ANOTHER ME AGAIN 💯 AND YES HE WILL ALWAYS MISS ME AND NOW HE CAN MISS WHAT I'VE BECOME WITHOUT HIM MY SELF LOVE IS THE BEST LOVE ❤️❤️ THANK YOU TELSHA 💖💖 NO REGRETS ON MY END SO LET MY LIFE BEGAN ❤️💯

  • @Noella-v9w
    @Noella-v9w 9 місяців тому +3

    They have those good vibes moments then when you ask them a question they flip instantly into a devil

  • @patriciawilliams5172
    @patriciawilliams5172 Рік тому +24

    Mine narc told me about the relationships he destroyed but the way he told me was unconsciously spoken. He'll be random in his talking don't interrupt them listen. If they catch you listening they'll stop talking.

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +6

      It's so true it's random but don't interrupt them just listen.

    • @Victory0909
      @Victory0909 Рік тому +3

      100% you just play uninterested while he confesses, as soon as you show concern they stop talking

    • @PurpleReels
      @PurpleReels 3 місяці тому

      Lol this is so true!! Wow.

  • @willowclay5406
    @willowclay5406 Рік тому +1

    Narcissists are draining! They're a complete waste of time!

  • @Lillian-z7c
    @Lillian-z7c 3 місяці тому +2

    The narc told my family i was the best thing to ever happen to him. Yet still fumbled the bag. Now he belongs to the ages. 😊

  • @btp122
    @btp122 Рік тому +39

    FACTS!! I witnessed this while I was with her. There would be moments when she’d look at me and say that she was “sorry”, but when I’d asked “sorry for what?”, she’d wouldn’t answer that question. I think that it’s a cool thing to learn about these people in the way of narcissism, but the way that it is dealt with on this channel is different from how most others are dealing with narcissism on their channel. For we are wrestling with dark entities that we cannot see. The force behind the narcissist is DEMONIC, and I get it that not everyone is spiritual, so it’s not addressed in this way, but narcissism is like bipolar disorder, like other “disorders”…they can’t be treated with medication…they can only be treated with prayer. There are a few people on UA-cam that call themselves “self confessed narcissists”, and that they are giving their subscribers the “inside scoop” to how the narcissist thinks. There are those who go to AA meetings because they are self confessed alcoholics….a self confessed narcissist admits that he is a narcissist, but to me, it’s like admitting that “hey, I am demonic influenced, and because I admit this, it’s all good. In this day in time, when the adversary has dispersed his demons on the world, he (Satan) is most effective when people take what’s obvious evil and “normalize” it…there’s nothing normal about these people influenced in this way, we pray for protection from the narcissist, but we also pray FOR the narcissist soul, and the removal of such a dark and destructive force….Again I say to “The Tea”, BLESS YOUR HEART and Thank you! SHALOM.

    • @sheberry8597
      @sheberry8597 Рік тому +5

      One of the hardest parts is being looked at as the crazy ex when you're the one that was closest to them and actually know them on another level than everyone else. I pray for the situation, however, life seems much more peaceful fleeing from them completely than to even attempt to get them or others to see their messed up ways.

    • @btp122
      @btp122 Рік тому +2

      @@sheberry8597 Yes, the “knowing them” part!! They have a “circle of friends” THAT ENDLESS SUPPLY of narcissists friends, flying monkeys as people call them, that she also has bashed…all of them messy, and messed up….I don’t know your situation, but I can almost guarantee that there are similarities with our situations….yet there you are, freakin loving them genuinely…real…consistent…closer to them than those flying monkeys…even their own family….

  • @sylvanascott1166
    @sylvanascott1166 Рік тому +9

    I was told by a Narc that they are not a nice person and I just stared in their eyes and saw a cold callus individual. So sad.

  • @Luckystarlight1
    @Luckystarlight1 Рік тому +23

    Sooo true Sis!!! That narc told me “you really don’t know me”. Y’all she is speaking Facts!!!!!!

    • @patricebeene646
      @patricebeene646 Рік тому +1

      My ex narc had told me that too.

    • @anntinahall1011
      @anntinahall1011 Рік тому +3

      The ex narc I dealt with said this to me several times too smh wow

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +1

      Come on here and speak on it Sis!!! Big Facts!!

    • @anntinahall1011
      @anntinahall1011 Рік тому +1

      He used to speak in 3rd person quite literally all the time , not just for emphasis

  • @CertifiedRedbone
    @CertifiedRedbone 7 місяців тому +1

    Omg the ego and pride is crazy, the first sign I had was depression but I thought I could pull him out of it. 🗣️Whew talk about it!!!

  • @cameogutierrez3466
    @cameogutierrez3466 Рік тому +2

    They tell on themselves if you just listen it comes from the source itself!

  • @leniecelewis3415
    @leniecelewis3415 Рік тому +13

    The Ex Narcissist Is Silent For Now I Know He Feels Stupid Since His Back Burner Supply Burned Him The Ugly One He Tried To Make Me Jealous With SMH

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +2

      She sure made him out of a monkey 🐒🐒🐒🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @leniecelewis3415
      @leniecelewis3415 Рік тому +3

      @@1010QUEEN7 For Sure 🤣

  • @saturdayschild8535
    @saturdayschild8535 Рік тому +9

    The book Character Disturbance speaks to this. Dr. Simon called it humanization. He warns victims from believing the abuser actually wants to change or is accepting responsibility - they aren’t.
    It’s so important to learn about this trick. It’s just an advanced Hoover. It’s just manipulation.

  • @helendixon1850
    @helendixon1850 Рік тому +3

    They regret missing out on all the benefits and blessings!!! Because you have been blessed from God Almighty 🙏🙏🙏!!! Shut that door 🚪 and don't ever reopen it for that evil spirit to ever enter into your home and your life !!! God Bless You 🙏🙏🙏!

  • @yogatron3290
    @yogatron3290 Рік тому +41

    I can't express enough how much your videos have helped me! I feel like I'm having a conversation with an Aunty!
    Dropping knowledge!! Everything you say is 10000000% TRUTH!!!! It's been such a difficult journey, but I'm on my journey of healing! Thank you for helping me/us through this warfare!!! 🙏🙏🙏❣️

    • @CoachCreesh
      @CoachCreesh Рік тому

      She's such a blessing! Oan...with no contact; it get easier day by day!

  • @NorriB2012
    @NorriB2012 Рік тому +4

    Super deep !!!..this one hits
    This hit my spirit just something about this message

  • @audriiiiroberts3030
    @audriiiiroberts3030 Рік тому +6

    So true. My ex used to say he was a loser, and to just leave him alone. And I was always like “no way, you’re a good person don’t be so down on yourself”. What’s wrong with these people!

  • @16Alessandra
    @16Alessandra Рік тому +1

    I’ll never forget when my ex broke down sobbing and said “I’m a piece of shit and I’m going to hell”… that was the realest ish he ever said 🤦🏼‍♀️😑🤣😂

  • @alexandrareginaaminaalexan5256

    God save us and protect us

  • @lafemmepetunia
    @lafemmepetunia Рік тому +6

    Yep, very true! The narc I dealt with was always in victim mode. Drunk for sure on pure substances cocaine, alcohol, cigarettes. Poisons going in and poisons coming out. Super traumatic. In sobering moments, I heard he would change and get help but never did. Save your time, money, energy, spirit and well being. Run far away as far away and as soon as you can fast!

  • @isntshelovely5063
    @isntshelovely5063 Рік тому +5

    THE NARCISSIST HAD THREE PHRASES. 1. "OH I KNOW I DESERVE HELL.". 2. "WHENEVER HE WAS ASKED HOW HE WAS DOING, HE WOULD SAY, "BETTER THAN I DESERVE ". 3. AND THIS ONE WAS HIS FAVORITE, " SOME WILL, SOME WONT, SO WHAT, NEXT". AND LASTLY, THE PASSWORD TO HIS EMAIL ACCOUNT WAS "JUSTME". THIS IS HOW SELF OBSORBED HE WAS!

  • @Luckystarlight1
    @Luckystarlight1 Рік тому +7

    They never Change!!!! Do not go back!!!!!!!!! Stay Gone!! Telsha is speaking Gems y’all!!! This was soooo on point!!!!!!!

  • @nji7772
    @nji7772 Рік тому +1

    Depression, suicidal (I used to be very concerned when he would put himself into very dangerous and life threatening positions like on the edge of a cliff, or on the edge of the rapids; I wondered what the hell)? I really wondered on those few occasions if he really did want to die? Thank you for addressing this issue. "Consider a thoroughly evil fellow, somehow finding himself in Gan Eden, moving about among the righteous, who all sit there resplendent in their crowns of glory, basking in the radiance of the Shechinah. Tzadikim there experience this as indescribable pleasure; THE EVIL ONE (or afflicted one) SUFFERS immeasurably. Completely unaccustomed to spirituality, he experiences this Gan Eden as unbearable discomfort. Darkness can NOT exist in the light". Parasha Bo Rabbi Yitzchok Adlerstein SHALOM Y'ALL.

  • @elev8ted_wellness
    @elev8ted_wellness Рік тому +5

    Hit the nail on the nose! My narc ex had a few rare sober moments where he admitted he was “doing these things and didn’t know why”. He was only like that after he had pushed me too far and knew I was about to leave for good. And those moments were very fleeting. As soon as that feeling of guilt/shame starts creeping in, they can’t handle it and the switch flips again. There’s a huge difference between regret and remorse. He only regretted getting caught and losing his best supply. He has zero remorse for the things he does. I’m just glad I finally walked out once and for all!

  • @cherylbuckner4580
    @cherylbuckner4580 Рік тому +12

    I just wish I had known all this 20yrs ago but I learned my lesson please listen to your inner man it won’t fail you sister you are so right

    • @ifeelnothing5175
      @ifeelnothing5175 Рік тому +1

      Gurl!.. the peace ..and joy ..and life I would have "TODAY"..NEVER KNOWING THESE " THANGS"!!💖

  • @4thManonCross
    @4thManonCross Рік тому +19

    This makes alot of sense and explains what I'm seeing, the confession is like a lure, to pull u in, especially if they know u genuinely cared deeply for them, but its only so they can reset & restart the process, but it gives a glimmer of hope that if committed to prayer, maybe GOD can liberate them so they can be free & live their life treating the next person better, after all with GOD nothing is impossible. I'll just keep my distance pray for em & wish them well

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +4

      I am not at a place in my life that I can pray for him this has never happened to me before in my life he is the only person I know that I don't think he will ever get free

    • @Terri302
      @Terri302 Рік тому +3

      @@1010QUEEN7 Awe You will ..💞🫂💞
      That's why we call them the Hyde's as in Mr.Hyde 🧟🧟🧟

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +2

      @@Terri302 I can't get over the fact that I married the devil himself 👺😈👹

    • @Terri302
      @Terri302 Рік тому +2

      @@1010QUEEN7 It can definitely feel like that the truth is they have lost their soul's and are slaves to their egos, it's all that left inside of them ..
      You have God what do they have? Hold your head up high and shame the devil...Eat ,love, Pray , Sister !!!!... Please Stay strong Jesus loves you 😘 🙏💯💞🫂💪👏👏🎉🎊🎂🎀

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +1

      @@Terri302 thanks because I only have enough strength to call on the Lord left in me but I'm so glad my mama taught me about God and I also know that Jesus is a one word right now prayer God bless you 💕💕💕

  • @sassydragonfly5063
    @sassydragonfly5063 Рік тому +7

    Everything you are saying in this video is 1000% true. He used to tell me in calmer moments that he felt like killing himself. His terrible anxiety would come out at night, especially while sleeping. Once when we were changing his password, he told me to put 666 in the new password - I refused. The demonic depression & oppression is real!

  • @rodneyhenchliffe754
    @rodneyhenchliffe754 Рік тому +10

    Arguably, the 'collapse' itself and leading up to this (re: narcissistic mortification - a sudden loss of control over external or internal reality, or both) brings into play 'sobriety for the Narcissist, because here reality itself confronts and cuts through delusions being entertained. The Narcissist is literally 'sobered up' by reality overwhelming delusion.
    Discuss

  • @annemuigai7130
    @annemuigai7130 Рік тому +4

    The more I hear, the more my heart cries out to the God of all mercy. Should the narcissist remain trapped in that trauma moment for ever and ever: and eventually torment in hell even with Christ dying for the?!
    No..

  • @Glitter504
    @Glitter504 Рік тому +6

    False self but true self shows themselves every now and then when they feel like that’s the best Grade A that elevated their life . They show to that person I have heard it

  • @laurasainz4836
    @laurasainz4836 Рік тому +5

    It sounds like a “sobering narcissist” is very much like an Alzheimer’s patient who has a lucid moment.

  • @healthymindcounselingwelln5411
    @healthymindcounselingwelln5411 Рік тому +10

    Well I always like your videos. Yes, this video is true. Many are also intoxicated with drugs of all kinds

  • @Jay4050sy
    @Jay4050sy Рік тому +2

    When I was still with the narcissist, we had a bad argument, he became very abusive and destroyed things in my apartment. After the quarrel I threw him out of my apartment but he begged at my door and I let him back in. He apologized for his behavior. Some hours later he said with a sad voice to me I don't know why I mistreat you. When I asked him again some time later he denied to have said this. I think that was also one of those sober moments.
    God bless you for your great work
    Greetings from germany❤

  • @queenw4042
    @queenw4042 Рік тому +19

    This is a very interesting point. Years after leaving my ex-narc, I ran into one of his brothers unexpectedly, and he was trying to make me feel some kind of way about the narc. He said that the narc would get drunk and say that he wished he could come "home" meaning back to me. I just had to let the brother know that the narc was not something/one I wanted to consider talking about. Had gone thru too much bs, and was not going to back-track again. Maybe his sobering moment actually came in the drunkenness' Hmm.

  • @jrlatina
    @jrlatina Рік тому +8

    You are so correct!! My ex narc would have those moments with me and would confess how awful he has behaved he would also confess all the trauma and abuse he endured as a child

  • @Rose-dl6xg
    @Rose-dl6xg Рік тому +5

    Edging
    God
    Out

  • @paulettehurt5831
    @paulettehurt5831 Рік тому +4

    Oh my sister the truth is been told, I have experienced all of that with that demonic entity I was married to, the TMH God delivered me from the pits of hell. Thank you dear sister.

  • @csn6670
    @csn6670 Рік тому +9

    It’s true Ms. T. I remember trying to have a conversation w my ex husband about his bouts of depression and although he momentarily admitted it, he then became angry that I had wanted to bring it up. There were moments when his true self would peek through and allowed himself to be vulnerable but the other side of him always won, the mean, angry, demonic self…

  • @salescustomer-service2050
    @salescustomer-service2050 Рік тому +4

    My ex narc at the time of being exposed and lost a supply; he was a sorry. Said I should stay away from him because all he does is hurt people. The next day he was on his defense attitude.

  • @sandykayto629
    @sandykayto629 Рік тому +1

    So true. The narcissist told me that nobody really knows him and he actually said that he could have been a serial killer if he wasn't raised right. 3 times. Scary....

  • @ifeelnothing5175
    @ifeelnothing5175 Рік тому +1

    Yup!!!... "THEY"KNOW WHAT THEY DID".....!!! 💜🤍Thank you Tea💜🤍!!!

  • @loveylesley81
    @loveylesley81 Рік тому +6

    I appreciate how you broke this down. It reminded me of Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. You hit the nail right on the head when you spoke of self idolatry. 👏🏽 I have never heard it put like before so I thank you! 🙏🏽

  • @jackiecolbert3915
    @jackiecolbert3915 Рік тому +2

    Omg I have seen this from my ex husband. He has told he regretted it. He told me I didn't deserve any of it. He apologized out of no where. He told me he was sexually molested as a child. He also said he needed deliverance after I said I wanted deliverance. He went to church every Sunday with me and we always prayed together everyday. He still attends church and prays. It was so shocking with the discard. I actually told him he had demons because I dreamed it. Why is it so hard to break free from the narcissist? Sad but true I never saw my ex as a narcissist. He was always sweet and would give you the shirt off his back. Everybody was shocked when we divorced this year.

  • @deetay5475
    @deetay5475 Рік тому +3

    This is why I am able to feel compassion for the narcissist because it’s really not their fault that they are the way that they are. I’m able to forgive because I know that my redemption is in the Lord, and God will restore me. This is my same hope and prayer for the narcissist, that God will restore them and rescue them from the hands of the enemy because at the end of the day, it’s not really about us or the narcissist -it’s about the fight of good and evil light and darkness. Every time a child has a dark experience and the enemy gets a hold of them and turns them into a narcissist, psycho, socio path… the enemy has a small win. I don’t like that. God has a purpose for these people also. Usually a very powerful purpose. So although the devil uses trauma and fear to take hold of them, I believe that they are still God’s. So, in the midst of our pain, we must still pray for them and love them because this is what God has called us to do. Walk in the power of your discard because the discard hurts like hell but it is truly a blessing, but do not lose sight of the true assignment and the true war that is at hand.

  • @anntinahall1011
    @anntinahall1011 Рік тому +4

    He said to me about himself one day “I’m a gross disgusting person “

  • @exposinginsanity
    @exposinginsanity Рік тому +8

    yes! my narc admitted to me he was OCD and ADD....I often told him his excessive worry/fear was more like PTSD. At one point I decided he was ROCD...thus the connection to his "past loves/wives"? I think its a fact that a real NPD will always have multiple mental illnesses going on.

    • @ifeelnothing5175
      @ifeelnothing5175 Рік тому

      *Chile the " Diagnosis"!!!💛😆.....they suffer from that " dark entity" like Tesh said!..

    • @ashleykathryn9038
      @ashleykathryn9038 Рік тому

      A lot of the time it's with ADD, I don't understand why I keep attracting the same demon

    • @cameogutierrez3466
      @cameogutierrez3466 Рік тому

      Agreed

  • @tonekariddick7751
    @tonekariddick7751 Рік тому +8

    Ms.Telsha you are speaking the absolute truth!!! My narc ex husband just told me yesterday how he is suffering with depression and anxiety and how he was going to therapy but stopped. Ms.Telsha you hit the nail on the head!!! I thank God for you! Keep reaching and teaching!! God bless you and May his face shine upon you!!!

  • @michelezeug5206
    @michelezeug5206 Рік тому +3

    They have Intrusive thoughts! For Real!

  • @billiejoiner3003
    @billiejoiner3003 Рік тому +7

    This was definitely on point! Thank you for sharing.

  • @marcusellis8210
    @marcusellis8210 Рік тому +4

    I heard the voice change saying "I given my heart to 1 or 2 ppl and they mess it up and then proceed to say she is a very damage soul...the shame was shown on her face...

  • @majestymoon9276
    @majestymoon9276 Рік тому +12

    Loving all these back to back videos! We need youuu ❤

  • @brotherhype-maninchristjes2766

    +The Tea on NPD and Relationships Praise the LORD 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥amen, my sister Telsha. God bless. Agape love❤

  • @msrsocialmedia7021
    @msrsocialmedia7021 Рік тому +9

    Dead on point with this one. This is 100 percent description of things I went through and witnessed. Made no sense and I kept investing effort to figure out wth was going on. NO ONE will understand this unless having gone through/experienced or witnessed this themselves.

  • @renemattison6630
    @renemattison6630 Рік тому +7

    Hi Ms. T. You are so gifted in what you do. Great insight!

  • @PurpleReels
    @PurpleReels 3 місяці тому +1

    Well what about the Alcoholic Narcissist? This is who I was dealing with. Smh. Sober Narcissist.. interesting concept. 🤔 You know I do remember him saying, "You don't know me" 👀

  • @Linz_n702
    @Linz_n702 9 місяців тому

    I clicked on this video. I had re read my journal. I read today when the narc told me she was a horrible person. Today I clicked on this video. You help me daily, thank you so much.

  • @victoriasofitel
    @victoriasofitel Рік тому +1

    E.G.O = the self that is Easing God Out. Trauma IS the portal for The Enemy to take a foothold! Pray for those who hurt you , BUT DO NOT GO BACK!

  • @RomniBeautyHairandMakeup
    @RomniBeautyHairandMakeup Рік тому +2

    I witnessed sobering moments, especially near the end of relationship

  • @lorettamoore5509
    @lorettamoore5509 Рік тому +3

    You are so right sister

  • @sabrinaseamon208
    @sabrinaseamon208 Рік тому +10

    My sister this is so true !!! 🙏 Thank you for shedding light on this very dark and relevant subject …. It has helped greatly because it’s spiritual warfare 🙌🏽💯❤️

  • @Luckystarlight1
    @Luckystarlight1 Рік тому +6

    Come on with it sis!! Drop the 💎!

  • @ritaharris7120
    @ritaharris7120 Рік тому +2

    Oooh weee Sista. You are preaching right here!!🙏🏾👍🏽

  • @Barbie_Ann_
    @Barbie_Ann_ Рік тому +9

    By far the one that hit the most for me that many people get caught into. Woman, I’ve been following you for a reason because you speak with reason and so damn anointed. I cried to this one because as an “empath” dealing with a narcissist has taught me how to level it out. I never dealt with with one in my 40 years of life- and here he came. Can you speak if possible on Flying Monkeys not that I don’t know them but how people should learn how to avoid them versus reaching out to them and trying to express them selves to them- every mistake I make. You man- are hitting it! I listen to you in repeat when ever I feel the urge to see how he’s doing 😒

  • @lindsayralda3378
    @lindsayralda3378 Рік тому +1

    This makes me so sad to listen to because it’s so on point you’re so right but I feel so so sorry for him for not being able to fight off that demon I know it happened in childhood and I just feel so bad for him that I couldn’t help him be free because I see the potential and it’s not fair 😭

  • @sylvestersmith906
    @sylvestersmith906 Рік тому +5

    I've witnessed them sober moments I've had quite an experience with the narcissists I was with I can't even explain it all on these comments but it was sobering for me too

  • @rosamontelongo842
    @rosamontelongo842 Рік тому +1

    Mrs. Tea yesss, yes, yes the PAIN the NARCS carry it is soooo DEEP and so crushing to them, like you said" you can see it" Not saying that we should run to them And help NOT at all it just is very SAD, because if they could be DELIVERED all that PAIN would turn into true HAPPINESS. It takes work and let God touch your spirit. ❤️🔥🕊️🙌

  • @1010QUEEN7
    @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +5

    You are a sweet blessing from God to us thank you for your obedience to our God keep doing his work you are helping me through this process I know once I come out of this I will never go through this again in my life just like Job in the bible 💕💕💕

  • @JoyLady-1966
    @JoyLady-1966 Рік тому +1

    You on it…I didn’t realize so many girlfriend narcissists I had in my life UNTIL I left my husband.
    Them things all dropped those mask😮😮😮😮😮after he left. They were too entertained at my expense.
    Started telling on themselves. All these years they were jealous and they could not stand me.
    The thing these people don’t realize that they could have the same if they put the work in BUT we know that ain’t happening 😂😂😂

  • @Simonejoy
    @Simonejoy Рік тому +2

    We have to remember that they are wolves in sheep clothing. They have to present truth to keep up with their lies and mask.

  • @johnoulds3003
    @johnoulds3003 Рік тому +2

    I understand but she will be just fine. That's a road I wouldn't want to travel on. ⚘️⚘️⚘️ Thank you for the information 🙏

  • @patriciawilliams5172
    @patriciawilliams5172 Рік тому +4

    You are telling the truth

  • @soulsurvivor9108
    @soulsurvivor9108 Рік тому +15

    This message is right on time!!! I kid you not Telsha, I am going thru this right now with my ex… everything that you are saying is so true. They will become so vulnerable and honest in how they treated you, you can literally feel that they are showing parts of them that they never shown and just like that will switch right back to how they normally act. I’ve seen it more times than I can count…. He is begging me to come back and these moments of seeing these sobering moments will almost pull you to them because of our empathetic nature….

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +5

      Not the narc I'm married to he will never tell the truth never

    • @soulsurvivor9108
      @soulsurvivor9108 Рік тому +5

      @@1010QUEEN7 they don’t always tell the truth and when they do, it’s when they are near rock bottom and feeling like they are about to lose it all. I wish you prayers and strength to fight this spiritual battle and I pray you can find your way out.

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +2

      Facts!!

    • @ifeelnothing5175
      @ifeelnothing5175 Рік тому +1

      @@1010QUEEN7 *that's most men!!! lol!

  • @femlange9284
    @femlange9284 Рік тому +3

    I so agree.. Pray for them

  • @wendyeasmon5568
    @wendyeasmon5568 Рік тому +4

    Wow the narc spoke on fear and feeling powerful at a particular time just last week. Can’t believe how on point this is. So so true!!!!!! Don’t have to deal with him too much any more besides some things with the kids thankfully. It’s been a long hard revolving journey.

  • @nji7772
    @nji7772 Рік тому +2

    Without deliverance, forget it. It is not possible EVER to change anyone. Honesty is tooo much for these "creatures". As well as deliverance, years of therapy are necessary to address and overcome the "trauma" that they experienced as a child and that is where the defense mechanisms were taken on - false selves to survive so necessary way back in time but only gets compounded over time until the protection of the "image" is ALL that matters. NO EXCUSE! Just say'n.

  • @Increase315
    @Increase315 Рік тому +1

    i just left a narcissist you explained them to a TEA!!!! he was adopted evil heartless and has no peace

  • @dogblues4829
    @dogblues4829 Рік тому +1

    Oceans of Blessings y'all

  • @janeenhunter9537
    @janeenhunter9537 Рік тому +1

    Thank you and i have seem all of those too and it's scary i just thank God that god has remove this spirit out of my life

  • @cc1522
    @cc1522 Рік тому +1

    I can attest. I have witnessed quite a few sobering moments and same as you describe when you start to press that spirit flips the switch on them. I will say, he did warn me. He told me that every time he has something good for himself the demons come. I thought he was talking about people. I soon found out he was talking about himself

  • @elizabethschrier1344
    @elizabethschrier1344 Рік тому +6

    I am a new subscriber to your UA-cam channel. I absolutely LOVE your channel soooo much! It's so helpful me! I'm grateful for you and your UA-cam channel!

  • @donnahale1011
    @donnahale1011 Рік тому +3

    Ms. Tea KEEP TELLING AND SHARING THESE GEMS...they r needed!!! These messages r helping me 2 understand more about a narc and helping me 2 NEVER EVER GO BACK!!!! THANK U, THANK U, THANK U!!! I am finding myself listening 2 these messages over and over again!!!!! God Bless u Sis.!!

  • @nutinman4u
    @nutinman4u Рік тому +1

    My narc said " I did a lot of people wrong" and then Infront of their flying monkeys when I said what they said they called me a lier...smfh

  • @takeyourpowerbackinc.2584
    @takeyourpowerbackinc.2584 Рік тому +1

    Them moments last 90 days my prayers go out to anyone who have experienced any situation with a narc sad thing is they don’t wanna get help or change very controlling individuals very

  • @timothysparrey8688
    @timothysparrey8688 Рік тому +1

    QUEEN TEA AND MY PRECIOUS FAMILY!! PLEASE KNOW THIS ABOUT ME!! I AM TIRED OF ME! I WILL BREAK ME! I WILL REBUILD ME!! TO GOD BE THE GLORY!! STAY STRONG!! STAY HARD!! TIME TO PICK UP OUR SHOVEL AND MAKE OUR PATH! LOVE OUR GOD!! ❤️ ♥️ ❤️

  • @annesworld4007
    @annesworld4007 3 місяці тому

    yep, I have heard things like " I am lucifers son", " You dont know me, I have a very dark side", "I have many demons inside of me", "I am a god", "I dont want your heart, I want your soul." those were scary moments.

  • @tyreewilliams7954
    @tyreewilliams7954 Рік тому +3

    Wow Ms. Telsha you are right, one of the last conversations I had with her was a month before I woke up, one morning she was cooking me breakfast and she's started crying I'm like why you crying? She said "people are going to die God's coming back and people going to die" ! I was like we our both believers so what's going on? I remember this so vividly she said Tyree I can't go on I tried never mind. Then she went to work. That was a last conversation I had with her. Wow Ms. Telsha that was a sobering moment. God bless you Ms.Telsha 💯💯🙏🏿🙏🏿❤️

  • @kimberlyfloyd1009
    @kimberlyfloyd1009 Рік тому

    Miss T, at the end of the day, we don't want anyone to suffer. All we wanted was to be in a loving relationship and a marriage. The devil ruins them because that is his ultimate revenge on God. Mine hoovered 3 months later... but I denied him access and went no contact because you helped me so much. Your song short "blocking you blesses me" I listened to all the way home from filing for divorce. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.🙏

  • @timahawk3220
    @timahawk3220 Рік тому

    This is so true my ex narc called saying he wants me back and apologized and bust out crying saying he is sad and as much as he tried to act like he isn’t that he is smh

  • @soulsurvivor9108
    @soulsurvivor9108 Рік тому +6

    So true Telsha… mine has been trying to get back together so tough lately. I feel almost conflicted because he has been showing me very sobering moments, I mean almost like he feels the lost more than I did. Every time I see him, he looks like he just wants to break down and cry… this does not look like an act that they usually play. this is a different feeling that I have never seen before…. He knows that he lost the best thing.

    • @ikneadu
      @ikneadu Рік тому +1

      Its called manipulation. Please don't buy into it. Save your own life!

    • @soulsurvivor9108
      @soulsurvivor9108 Рік тому +1

      @@ikneadu Yeah, I know it is but it’s crazy how this disorder can really cloud one’s better judgement if they’re not strong enough especially with these “Sobering” moments that some will show. No worries honey…I don’t intend on EVER going back and I know he knows that. I would go complete NC but we share a child, so there is contact. Telsha message today was God sent and right on time, almost feels like she was speaking directly to me.

    • @rochellemack642
      @rochellemack642 Рік тому

      Please don't GO BACK THE B.S. WILL BE MUCH MUCH WORSE UGH

    • @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships
      @TheTeaonNPDandRelationships  Рік тому +4

      Don't you go back!! It will be worst.

    • @JoannA-sweetly
      @JoannA-sweetly Рік тому +1

      Stay free, do you want to stay In the rodeo of hovering, devalue, discard; hovering, devalue, discard?? This is their REAL CONSISTENT CHARACTER. BE SAFE, LOVE YOU, LOVE GOD & MOVE ON!