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Never underestimate a woman’s ability to rationalize bad choices And Avoid all accountability
Right. It's like kryptonite to them.
I’m reading a romance book right now which is literally an exposé on female bad behaviour.
@@maidende8280 Name of the book?
@@Chris-0113 It’s the Outlander series by Diana Gabaldon. I don’t recommend it to men. She’s very long winded & it’s definitely a book written for women. I’m considering doing a redpilled literary analysis of it though, with quotes to support my arguments.
@@maidende8280 do it I ll support your content
If she don’t find you attractive it doesn’t matter what you do.
Bag it and tag it. Nuff said.
This. If you don't pass her looks threshold nothing you do or say will change her mind.
Well, being a good communicater helps
@@chrisl912 it only helps if she finds you attractive already, otherwise you get friend zoned
@@chrisl912 it only helps not to screw it up if she's already attracted.
No amount of game will change her mind if she doesn't find you attractive.
Try it if you want, if you are not attractive (looks,status,wealth) your attitude means nothing. They couldn't care less.
@@TomNook. Harsh reality but many boys are now learning thanks to andrew tate and that sneako kid. I hear boys as young as 10 are now taking in this message. I remember in 2015 when these spaces were full of 55 year old divorced dudes lol
That's what I've been thinking - someone has to care first in order for this to work.
or at least if you have natural charm/ extroverted with a lot of people/connections... I'm pretty much doomed with this. Especially after last experience.
You need to have everything, yep. I'm not bad looking, I think. I still get taken aback a little when girls are blunt in telling me how lucky I must be being a very attractive man (even though I think I'm just okay), and they believe I get a ton of girls. But one mess up and even I quickly get ghosted or put in a position where they expect me to chase. lol Even by the same women that before were trying to advance on me and told me I'm attractive. If you mess up on something they quickly discard you. Not all of them, of course, different tolerance levels matter, but you have to be very careful because even minor mess-ups can make a woman just move to the next option super easily.
@@NeoZeta ok david, clearly you're a hot guy (no homo) but just by reading your little blurb there, it seems to me that your confidence and your attractiveness doesn't match my dude. This is as clear as day to me and it should be to you as well.
So, what is happening in my humble opinion is, these girls see you as 100% and the more you talk, your aura of invincibility is being lowered. Here's how; too much texting, too much back and forth, too much availability, too much interest from the get go. Maybe you don't have a lot of hobbies, or a lot of guy friends. why's having a lot of guy friends important? because girls are weird creatures and they ASSUME you'll be cheating on them. The more guy friends, the more of a 'guy's guy' you are and in their peewee brain, you're going to cheat by association.
This is straight from the horse's mouth. I have a lot of guy friends, A LOT, we're always out and about, or doing poker nights, NFL games, basketball watches, bbq sundays, wings thursdays etc. my point is, with me, a girl has to chase me! not the other way around! soon i'll be joining bjj classes and i want to start a car club for Golf GTI enthusiasts or suburu, still haven't even decided that. My point is, the more hobbies aka 'LIFE' you have the more they chase.
Flipping roles only works if you are attractive to begin with.
If you try that as an average dude, she will just laugh at you and move to the next guy.
Yes and no. Power attracts women more than looks. And besides, power is what you should be concerning yourself for your own sake regardless of what women want or don't want.
@@alterego157 saying power attracts women is like saying Chad looks attract women.
Only a small percentage of men can have power by definition, so this advice will not work for the vast majority of men.
Besides, looks and power often correlate - people in leadership position are expected to look a certain way. If you don't have the looks, everybody will just ridicule you. For instance, a tall guy will be perceived as confident (the confidence is based on the fact that everybody treated this person with respect by default), while a short guy will be branded with "napoleon complex", because no matter how much he achieves, people will always look down on him because of his height. Very ironic, because Napoleon was a man with extreme amount of power, yet he will always be remembered as this short dude with insecurities (while he wasn't even short for his time), which just proves my point.
I think more men are over it. I for one have stopped trying to date and I'm far happier.
4 years+ feb 2023 will be my 5th year being single and happier than ever.
I guess I’m not wired that way as a man
I want to treat my date with the respect that I would like to be treated with. I get the flirting aspect of it, but if someone is not paying attention or being bratty on a date, I’m not going to point it out to them or make it a big deal, I’m just going to walk away or not call them after that.
I don’t have time for child-like games, I want someone who is serious to be with me.
A woman won’t respect you if u don’t call her out
If you like break relationship with them I guess that's a way of pointing it out that they are not high quality enough for you so you would prefer an engaging wokan from the beginning.
I mean it's not a bad thing . If you're ending the relationship or potential hook up.
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@@kombe971
If she needs to be called out then she's not an adult she's a child and she's not looking for a partner, she's looking for her own father figure or just someone to entertain her. In other words she's at best to much of a bother and at worst a drama/trouble starter and no grown man wants that for a wife/partner, that's what children are for.
@@kombe971 I don’t want a woman who thinks like that. They don’t make great partners for healthy relationships.
How to impress a woman??
You don't.
"Build it and they will come". Remember boys, we are islands. Women are boats. Make yourself a self sufficient tropical paradise and get colonised by some high value settlers.
You do, just indirectly.
if that's your real face in the profile picture then in your case you do haha...
@@arthurmorgan2906 you don't eve have the spine or balls to put your face in.
@@maidende8280 No.
A minute ago saying literally 0.8% chance of an AVERAGE(not even ugly looking) guy has no chance.
I like this guy, he seems to understand reality, and is honest and has the data backing up the ugly truth. But he then contradicts himself when he goes:
"Just look down on her and flip the script bro"
Won't work. You'll still be invisible to them.
exactly, how you supposed to look down on anyone when you can't even get a match? let alone a date lol
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 Exactly.
Now sure the "looking down" is not the only thing he said, it was quite an oversimplification, but in the end it was part of his argument.
Same crap you hear from dating hucksters...it doesn't work. I tried. You'll only come off as an asshole and be treated as such too.
You'd be surprised
Remember the problem with online dating is girls get mobbed on dating sites
When someone's in front of you even if you're not thier type they're fair more willing to play nice than an online message
@@prettyboyjeremy Not by much. You're naive to think that. Girls talk amongst each other. If they deem certain guys undesirable that spreads. It's 1 against the many.
The game is rigged if you're sub average.
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 Have you ever tried meeting them face to face instead of just trying to get a "match"? Here is a tip for you. Stay off dating apps. Face to face is still tough and it means you need to have done the work to be someone a woman might have some interest in. Many guys won't do the work and they don't have the genetics to let their good looks do all the work for them and still wonder why they can't get any play time with girls.
That 1 in 115 is misleading. What % of those likes are from unattractive women? What % of those likes from attractive women resulted in tinder convos ? What % of those convos lead to dates? What % of those dates lead to sex? What % of those 1st time sexual encounters lead to future encounters or long term relationships? It's probs more like 1 in 10,000 for the average dude 😂!
the 1 in 115 is probably a landwhale lmao. it's over
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 or a bot lol
Yeah, about 50% of the time matches don't even reply, another 49% will flake you after a couple of messages. Other 0.9% will lead to weeks of conversations, withour them actually wanting to meet you.
I did self improvement for the last 6 years, was doing cold approach etc. etc. and I got very self confident but found no woman. If you are a 5 like me and you want a quality woman who is like a 6-7 its very hard, woman turn you down a lot and you cant even use this stuff ur talking about. Its all true but no use. Truth is that womans expectations are through the roof and If you dont look good, you dont even get the date.
It seems like it's best to date women that are 1 level below. If we are a 5, we should only date that we are attracted to. It's just easier. I'm probably a 6, but unfortunately, I don't find 6s attractive, so I'm probably gonna stay single by choice.
That is true, but I think it's good to try cold approaches for a bit just to get over it. I think a 5/10 guy will succeed in 1/1000 cold approaches, even a 10/10 guy will only succeed about 1/10 times. But it helps you with social skills and getting over approach anxiety. The worst case is to lose out on solid warm approach opportunities because of approach anxiety, so look at cold approach as just practice.
This 100%. I'm disappointed that Alex is still spewing this worthless Redpill crap. You'd think he'd be Blackpilled by now.
@@Tsathogguah Ye I see it pretty much the same as you.
You can waste a lot of time and money chasing women, but you will never lose women by chasing money. 💰
I went to meet a woman I was dating at her house and she was about to leave the house wearing jogging bottoms. I was dressed casually but smartly. I told her she needed to wear either a skirt or tailored trousers if she was going to walk down the road with me. She looked shocked at my request but did change her attire.
Women do respect men with standards.
Thats the most braindead story I read today
@@Eboprofen are you talking about yourself?
@@ASENEBS281294 yes
Wouldn't it be fairer to say that the woman you met paid attention to what you said/your request, understood your need to maintain a certain standard, and decided to go along with your standard rather than bypass the opportunity to spend time with you?
Sounds good but not blackpilled enough... None of this "think like a top 20% male" will work if you're not actually in the top 20%, which is mostly about looks
status, looks is second. bro, when it comes to women i want you think TRIBAL. Remember, no matter the time, people are still essentially chimps, behaving like chimps with fancier toys. If you fully understand what I wrote, you'll have an easy life. IF YOU don't, please go to a church or monastery and hang out with evolved beings there.
@Jetsetbob2 no we don't, women know it is a lie, it isn't their first/second/third lie either. See, you guys STILL don't understand women. If this is how you think i won't even bother responding or reading what you write back. It tells me you still see women as an innocent VICTIM.
Also, is there's 'white lies', there's innocent narcissism where you prioritize yourself first and foremost, where you put your mental health above women, because trust you me, women do the same.
So these guys you put down, they know what's good for them and they beat women to the punch.
Thanks for proving my point.🤣🤣🤣
In online dating? Sure, it's mostly about looks because that is all anyone has to go off of. If you're out in real life? Dude you have so much more to show a woman than just your picture.
I know this for a fact because my friend is only 5'10, has a beer gut, and is MISSING A TOOTH LOL (as in, visibly, towards the front of his mouth where it's noticeable) and has a smoke show of a girlfriend and trust me, it's not because of his looks lol.
Meanwhile, I'm that guy that could be considered handsome. I can actually get on Tinder and get a few dates (not a lot, but hey that's more than most guys, right?). But here's the thing... sure I'm attractive enough that I can get dates, but not a SINGLE one progressed past that first date. Looks may help you get your foot through the door, but to act as though they're anywhere near the most important aspect is short changing yourself by a mile.
From what i've experienced... the guys who are most successful with women are guys who can just talk. You don't have to be a cassanova, you don't have to be the life of the party, you just gotta develop a baseline level of personality so you can interact with people. Work on that first and foremost and it'll take you so far. At least, that is what is working for me.
Just so you're all perfectly aware, 6'4 Chad doesn't need to do any of this.
6'4" Chad doesn't even need to be able to put together a compete sentence.
6'4" is too tall for many women. Even a chart based on data that this UA-camr presented showed a curve whose apex was at 6' then immediately curved downward from there. 5' to 6' it curved upward in terms of height preferences in men for women. 6' to 7' it curved down. Diminishing returns. I've always thought 6'4" was awkward and gangly and apparently many women do too.
@@JT-rx1eo I don't believe that for a minute, maybe after 6'7" it might taper off.
@@impudentdomain I included a link so my posted reply was removed.
Lol. It never ceases to amaze me how readily people will discard data and science in favor of their own bias and preconceived notions.
Multiple studies have shown this. Women tend to prefer their male partner to be 21cm (8 inches) taller than them. Average height of women in US is 5'4". Add 8" to 5'4" and you have 6'. And there you have it. And it is no wonder the graph shown by Alexander Grace shows the apex of the curve at 6'.
The way I look at it is Illustrated at my time in the Marine Corps. The Marine Silent Drill Team, a ceremonial unit of male marines, had a height requirement of 5'10" to 6'2". Average of 6'. That's the magic zone. Don't worry though, your very tall height is more valued in basketball!
@@JT-rx1eo cope
This is the very rare miss from Alexander. I dont think he understands how brutal the dating game is.
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 Yes, now people do understand why Alex is a bit more optimistic than most... after he revealed his relationship, that is. It\s impossible that it's not going to influence his view. He's not naively so, he still delivers harsh truths, and points most things as they are. Though he seriously underestimates how messed up the current dating game is and how insanely rare it is to find this "high-quality" woman he speaks of. Were he in a position where he has to start over and get back on the field, he'd surely understand how destroyed the game is.
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 yeah being an average or below average guy who happens to get "lucky" will start to feel like everything is ok
but she has options to choose from at all times esp if she has social media she could just be feeling you out
its fcking rough out here
I feel this way about his content quite often to be honest. I've said before that I think Alex gets too caught up in ideals and what sounds good rather than focusing on how people (specifically women) actually are. I'm not saying that there aren't stable, healthy relationships out there, but they're rarer than even Alex would like to admit. I don't really listen to Jordan Peterson, but I do know that he doesn't understand what dating is like for men despite claiming to. He needs to recognize that it's not the 80's anymore (not to say that dating was perfect then, but it was certainly better). And it makes me think that Alex referencing him shows just how out of touch he is. It's a younger out-of-touch guy listening to an older out-of-touch guy. And just like how Peterson needs to realize that it's not the 80's anymore, Alex needs to realize that not everyone can meet and be with a high quality woman (assuming she actually is one) as soon in life as he has (if at all). I think his early success skews his view and makes him think "high quality women" are more abundant than they are.
@@beganitdidnt6535 Even if you're considered just above average, you're still going to struggle. Unless you want to be pulling your hair here and there, because they are going to make you do it.
I work on a research boat in Florida and literally almost every girl has a boyfriend. Which logically to me means that if every girl has a boyfriend, there are a lot of dateble females.
The 1 in 115 doesn't paint the full picture. In a case of matching you will go through 2nd round of evaluation and you will fail that in about 50% and get insta unmatched.
i think it's all bollocks. if you are not attractive enough, not high enough, not athletic enogh, no masculine enough etc, it all doesn't matter. your attitude doesn't matter, you can think whatever you want, you can say whatever you want, you can behave however you want but women won't be attracted to you. they are much bigger lookists than we are
Plenty of men who don't fit that description are boning nice women. Ask yourself why.
@@alterego157 Plenty of unattractive, short, unathletic, feminine men date nice women? You are delusional
Part of these data are explained by the oversaturation of males on these apps. Around 70% of the uses are Tinder are men. So of course the women on the app will be very selective, they literally have their choice. If you're not a very good looking guy (8+/10), probably steer clear of the dating apps. Alex, I think you're right about the teasing thing btw. It works well, just not on the apps.
This 80/20 graph confirms my experience. There was NEVER any place for me in the dating market. If I want to play, I am competing for one of the bottom 4% of women. My time is better spent on the river fishing or on the golf course.
"You need to start thinking like a top 20% man"
No, you need to start LOOKING like a top 20% man. Women do not care about your "masculine frame" mentality. If you're a 5 and you try to act like you're a top 20% guy you are going to come off as incongruent, arrogant and silly. Trust me I've tried.
They can smell blood in the water. Men's emotional intelligence is not as sophisticated as a woman's. Their intuition gives away your actual sense of yourself.
Case in point: unattractive confident guys are labelled as creeps and shamed on tikth0t
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 Yup. It's sad, but women set the bar. Not us. If you can't get approval from other women you'll never get anything.
@@randall2158 you are missing the point, even if you genuinely act and think like a top 20% male, women will still treat you like crap if you are not good looking
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 I didn't miss the point. You did.
The entire "make her think she has to impress you" thing doesn't mean much in the world where online dating apps is how people meet.
I stopped caring what that gender thinks or wants from me a long long time ago and what you know, my self steem, self worth, and overall mental health has gone up 10 fold.
Doesn't mean much on an individual level but women as a group are starting to notice men's attitudes changing.
@@fiveleavesleft6521 Are you sure? I mean I hope so.
we need female robot that can conceive children so we can be done with this.
Lol who gon raise the kids and do the moms work. If you just want kids just save up for a cheap surrogate.
@@hanalala3164 we are working on it, by the time after 10 years, the robots will be able to raise the kids when we go to work also we will be able to have kids with stronger genetics thanks to gene editing a DNA sample. If I have to give my life span for this cause I will because humanity will not perish.
@@hanalala3164 artificial womb and helper maid sex bots
I wonder what would happen if I went up to a girl in public, showing her all the matches get on dating apps and ask her if she help me pick the best ones? I'll be like, "hey can you help go through my matches? I just got so many options I just dont know where to start"
If you're attractive she'll giggle and find it interesting, if you're not attractive she'll ignore you and pretend like she didn't even hear you speak.
@@Krelian4400 yep. It's called halo effect. You will get dramatically different reaction depending on your looks.
Looking at the hoops I have the go through to get a girlfriend, I at times genuinely think of Stockholmmaxxing some insecure, plain looking, lonely, asocial type of girl
but you guys act like 2s and 3s don't exist. GO after these low hanging fruit first, build up your self esteem and level up if that's what you want. right or wrong, i'm saying you guys just want the 7s and more.
@@ibizawavey8630 There is no girl that is not 7+ in her mind. Even extremely ugly girls get swarmed down on dating websites.
Low hanging fruits is a myth.
Lol there are no lonely asocial girls anymore, at least not ones that aren't completely hideous.
@@Krelian4400 there's more asocial girls today than in 1992. Open your eyes man. ffs.
@@ibizawavey8630 asocial girl in 2022 is a girl who spends all her time on social media and dating apps, but doesn't actually go out. Have fun wasting your time in her DM.
Get massive amounts of money. Flaunt your wealth with all sorts of high-end status symbols. Act confident everywhere you go. You *WILL* attract beautiful women. They won't be high-quality women. But you'll definitely attract them.
They will cost
And then get bored of you and move on to the next "Alpha" Male
just get a escort.
One reason for the disparity in the timeframe of answering messages is that women get 30X the number of messages than men because there are so many thirsty simps. It takes women longer to respond because they have far many more messages to go through!
Because they are looking for Chad's message, the rest is like spam mail to them
Girls are on their phones all the time. If she likes you, she will answer in milliseconds.
4am squad
2pm in this timeline :D
I was frustrated with dating women in the U.S. The dating apps were a nightmare. I changed my focus to women in non western countries. Game Changer! if you are broke, ugly, old, you probably still won't do well. If you are a normie I think you will find good success. The women in those other countries really like normies.
What country
What can I do to impress a narcissist?
Why would you want to? Get busy trying to impress yourself and they will come along.
Women can't respond quick because they already have 2000 requests per hour ahead of your message, while dudes can reply to their 3 responses instantly
I like 90% of your content but I feel like you've missed the mark on this one a bit. Your attitude won't matter of no one cares or finds you attractive to begin with.
This reminded me of my favorite non-advice (not that this is non-advice, just made remember it) in one of those shitty "Do *T H I S* to make EVERY woman chase you!!!1!": Just IGNOOOORE HER!!. Wow, genious. You can only ignore someone if they actually care.
He gives good tips. Y it's important to have a purpose to work towards or any other strengths. U need to give them something to chase. All u can do any way but do it for yourself as well.
Most men are invisible to women. She will not even notice you ignoring her. It only has potential to work if she's already into you.
This is basically a Chadvice.
@@raytracer5726 Exactly.
Here is an easy fix. Average, below average and high value is relative. since some chick living in a trailer park is not going to be around the same kind of "average" guy as some women living in a affluent suburb.
You can be seen as above average in one scenario and below in the other. Why do you think foreign women in poor countries value the same american male while american females wont value the man as much?
Because to that foreign female you would be high value and to the other you arent.
Point is that because it is relative and women want to date up to whatever they see as high value, it is situational, and you will get more hits going after women that will believe you are high value based on their circumstances.
Your chances increase based on environment. Perception is relative to that.
Until she executes the positive side of her value transfer agreement (aquire your house and money after divorce)
But the same women monkey branch once they are in United States. I have seen Iranian and Arab women cheating on their husbands(who are often perceived as women of culture)
> since some chick living in a trailer park is not going to be around the same kind of "average" guy as some women living in a affluent suburb.
With online dating? She will be. And each girl has access to online dating.
@@exoticindiaa Well more often than not, they wont. plus you dont have to marry them immediately, or at all, and if you do, get a prenup.
Don't use black and white thinking. It is fallacious. Nothing is absolute when it comes to relationships as far as protecting yourself legally. You want to increase the odds in your favor as much as possible.
So even if the possibility is there, it is not as often. Plus they wont have the unrealistic expectations just getting in the door.
Marriage doesn't even have to be the goal.
@@gaborb6577 Well your conditioning to get married is only there till you get a different goal.
These channels tend to be reichwing conservative slanted with marriage being a value.
I don't have that problem. So if you want to increase your problems by getting married, so be it. Not interested.
This info is golden bro and presented in a professional, great way
Men are the prize man. Most women havnt faced half the challenges or difficulties a man has
This is solid advice Alex, and ties in very well with what Todd V teaches. Be a high value man, and flip the script on women.
Just be a Chad, trust me bro
Online dating might just work if you are dating abroad. women in western countries use the dating app to get a small but fake confidence boost
Honeymoons are temporary.. DOOM IS ETERNAL!
Women's respect is essential with a majority of this.
women only respect how you look
@@wfgqgqqqgq1486 or I'll never forget when my brother bought a civic (back in the 2000s) and modified it. He went from a nobody to suddenly one g/f after another.
So the rule "Fake it, till you make it" works here?
No
Don't fake it. Live it. Start concerning yourself with what you want not some imaginary statistics woman. Work on yourself and improving your life to make yourself happy and everything will fall in place.
Get fit, get your hobbies on, work hard
They wait for you to message them first and they block you if you don't. LOOOOOOOOL
I guess they can't handle the feeling of "am I not good enough?".
I'm the one, the unique. My only real possession is the ego, which is the only thing of value that everything else gets their's from
I have been doing this from a month! It works wonders
The sad truth is that attitude is generally downstream from looks and status. I stopped believing in game for a number of reasons but probably the biggest is that in my experience women can always tell when you fancy them. Being aloof or negging only works when you mean it. If you actually think a girl is chopped liver and aren’t that interested it makes her want you. If it’s an act it’s arguably worse than being obsequious or putting her on a pedestal.
After years of game I started doing this stuff even without thinking about it, then I started adding muscle mass and with my age its getting out of control, the teasing Alexander says is so important you qualify her on it
@@LiquidfirePUA I actually think being nice to women is underrated. Most of my platonic friends wanted to sleep with me. You have to project some kind of masculine tendencies like not backing down from unpopular opinions but I think being condescending or unkind to get girls is more of an “S Test” or filtration mechanism than an actual attraction builder. If she likes you (looks) she’ll put up with it. If she doesn’t like you know right away. In general I think the practice has been discredited. “Oh you’re not a natural blonde are you? You just think like one” “I used to like girls with glasses but then I got contacts”
That may work when you’re a kid. Grown up women are onto it.
Why it's important to actually be it. Internalize the stuff thru practice and time and just maturing as a person and working to have your stuff together. It's not a quick fix so just enjoy living your life while u grow.
Great video, Alexander
It's been a while.
Yes I am so glad to find this channel
There are no longer any dragons to slay to impress the princess.
The best answer for men is to dress in a suit for your profile picture. I went to a wedding and had a friend take pictures of me on a golf course. My current GF of a year said she liked me because of the picture. The suit shows success.
Rubbish. I had a picture wearing a nice suit for ages as my profile picture (this was a selfie taken in the hotel room before going to a party) but this made no difference to my success with matches
@@BryJovi17 Can't be a selfie. Have someone else take it in good lighting. Mine was on a golf course in the sunlight.
@@PastTime777 so by that logic, if I was wearing a £1,000 branded suit, and women recognised this and knew it meant success, they'd still just go "oh it's a selfie" so defo swiping left on him... if I took a selfie next to a Lamborghini parked on my drive would result in the same outcome too, or taking a selfie while on a yacht? Come on now...
@@BryJovi17 it's all about looks really. If they want to reject you, they'll just come up with some silly excuse, just so she doesn't come off as shallow in her own mind.
5:50 I honestly think it's 90%+ looks at that stage.. Cockiness will make ugly guys seem like creeps. Just my opinion.
I can’t believe the crap I used to read on the internet when I was searching how to get a girl to like you when I was in middle and high school I was an absolute clown 🤡 it got me cheated one twice
Exactly, always told men to work on their craft and better themselves, and love themselves, never shape your life to please others, shape it to serve you
this is gold
9:00 This is the most important point IMO. It's so simple and seems obvious, but really letting it set in that women are neither universally evil nor universally ethereal goddesses has been so helpful to a couple of my friends.
Women are Literally. Just. People.
That's true. I agree. The only thing is is that too many women actually believe they are above men and men reinforce that attitude. As for me, as a guy who doesn't give women special treatment, sure they may be intrigued that a man finally isn't kissing the ground that they step on. But from my perspective, is that really the type of woman (which is basically most of them) I'd want to be with anyway?
yes they are people who make terrible life choices lmao the wall is undefeated. you can't outgame mother nature and father time
You continue to top your best videos! 🔥
Finally you learned it
That’s sad, she chase when you’re least interested but it makes since, as she ignores men on a daily.
great channel! Keep making the vids!
it's okay, i also look down on 90% of them
I look down on the people who workout at the gym who are too prideful to ask for help but had bad form
anyone have good playful teasing examples for when the girl is boring, entitled, not present, or has an uninterested expression?
don't listen to this video.. Don't try to impress women with something YOU ARE NOT..
Be yourself a high quality men according to YOU.. Don't search for validation. If someone likes you it must be for yourself
I think most middle eastern and slavic countries are most likely better environments to raise families in this day and age. Women seem to act more like adults compared to the selfish mental maladjustments in this side of the world.
Don't idealise. I live in slavic country, Russia, and it is as big shitshow here as it is in the west.
@@Straga_Severa well then, guess we're all f****d!
@@firstnameonradio Yes. Yes, we are.
In eastern Europe for example is hard for a woman to live alone/single. It's financial suicide basically,only like 10% of women can afford it actually,while in the West every woman and her children will be financially safe without a Man/Father around.So...overthere women have strong incentive to get a Man ASAP in their early 20s.(Who care if he's average).
@@neboyshanicolich761 I don't know about poorer countries, but in Russia this is as far from truth as you can find it.
@alexandergrace are you going to be doing another bootcamp type thing in Asia?
Cocky is NOT the same as misogynistic. We can assume we are worth high standards WITHOUT hating on ANY other group bc we can apply the standards PERSON BY PERSON and not on the entire group!
So teach the PUA techniques!
i got fed up with dating apps and started swiping right on pretty much every girl just to match and ignore them >:D
As always, great video
Just wanted to share that I think this is only good for the beginning of attraction. Afterwards, if the man isn’t pursuing and making the girl feel valued, why would the girl stay if she has a brain? I was in love with a guy who had this mentality (I fell for him because of other reasons mainly though- he was exactly the man I was looking for in regards to religious and political values, easy to talk to, attractive etc) and he wanted me to chase him (even surprisingly told me this in person lol), even though I knew what he wanted in a wife and that I was even more than what he was looking for (especially age wise I guess). Since he continued the act, I gave up on him, despite being in love with him still. The logical part of my brain was telling me he isn’t worth it since he isn’t pursuing and making me feel special. Im over him now and have no regrets. The deep love I had for him was annoying and painful when I didn’t feel it reciprocated well
If he wasn't pursuing you he just wasn't that into you. Even passive / nice guys will show some interest if they are indeed interested; they won't be aggressive like a PUA but you'll notice it. I think you found him attractive and that made you see all these other positive characteristics which arguable he didn't even possess. Also his lack of attention to you ironically made him more attractive to you. I also thing you're mistaking love for infatuation. Learn from this and move on, you have plenty of options so choose wisely.
@@Tsathogguah I don’t expect you to understand, but I feel like you’re making assumptions about me and what I went through
I didn’t actually find him attractive at first, he wasn’t my type but we connected so well on everything that I grew to like him over time. I wouldn’t say it’s infatuation when what I felt for him was so sincere, and it took me so long to forget about him. He had talked about marriage with me so many times, and I really thought we were going to get married. He would always compliment me and put in effort to meet, but that was it. He always prioritized his side jobs and expected me to be chasing him, despite being very interested (there were many instances that made me sure of his interest). Anyway, no point in talking more about him. Just posted to share a female pov about being expected to “chase”
@@pinkmed123 I agree, in relationships men should be sure not to play it cool to the extent that it's neglectful, and remember that some level of commitment is going to be required at some stage by most sensible women. In my mid 20s I wasn't serious with a girlfriend, and unknowingly strung her along for a few years until she was miserable. I was clueless about it at the time. One thing though, although I don't know this guy's exact situation, it's important to remember that side projects can be very important parts of people's lives, and should usually be seen as part of the package when you first decide to get involved with someone.
He might not have known that you really loved him. There’s a certain emotional “security” women ask from men. Women sometimes don’t realize that men want that too. I don’t know whether that’s what was going on with you and him, but maybe it was.
@@pinkmed123 sorry, but it just doesn't add up. You say he complimented you, asked you out, made his interest clear, was talking about marriage. What more do you want?
Prioritizing his job? Well duh, money doesn't grow on trees. I might be insanely in love with a girl, but my job will always be a priority because someone has to pay the bills you know.
He expected you to chase him? Did he explicitly say it, or was it you thinking that way? From my own experience, vvomen love to make up sh*t that's not even there and then get mad at you for it.
Although using a dating app's data is a good starting point to showcase this, but there are inherently many biases that come with this data. For example, a huge percentage of people on dating apps are not looking for a stable relationship, but a fling. As guys tend to be more horny that girls, it is a possibility that guys set a lower standards just to get 'laid'. Furthermore, the dating app culture also plays a role here. By this I mean, people who tend to join dating apps are well aware of the fact that many use this app just for a quick fling, and hence girls might be more picky in this sense as they want to secure a better guy to lower the 'risk' of partnering up with a low quality guy, taking into the account the fling culture.
Finally and the biggest flaw of all, is that the dating app sample size is not even close to a representative of the entire population of people who are looking to date. Girls especially, who tend to take things slow and develop feelings naturally via unintentional interactions instead of actively seeking a mate through a platform.
Therefore, generating a whole conclusion based on this data is inherently flawed, though it can provide insights to people who are actively using dating platforms. I would like for you to look at this data at a more scientific point of view, but i still applaud the fact that you attempted to use data to explain this. Thanks!
The way I see it, the effort should be about 50-50. If not then she's just not interested (or your not interested). In any case, women generally expect guys to make the first move -- I mean, if he does then he's likely to pay for the whole date.
women can see straight through mens desires, curb your enthusiasm and youll be more attractive
So you say fake it until you make it?
I dont talk to 99.8% of my female matches. Im 193cm. And of those 0.02% I ask out rarely even 1. Because all of them are 5s or 6s. Which i dont need aside from casual sex.
One thing though is you can't look at averages like they apply to every single woman. For exemple if you make an average between 2 types of women "Will never date a man with long hair" and "Loves men with long hair" you might have an overall disadvantage for you with the whole population, but if you go only for that niche it's actually an advantage. It's not exactly a linear thing, and sometimes the "average" can represent a thing that doesn't really exist in that form. Also the goal is not to have success with all or most women, but just find 1 x)
I choose the alternative solution, I am not good enough? That might be true , but I won't jump thru any hooks either I'll just ignore women.
Guys, I would still suggest wanting to make sure you put SOME effort into wanting to impress her; just don’t go overboard like simps.
Otherwise girls are gonna feel u don’t care about them
"What can I do to impress a Woman?" Nothing.
I have a thing to add. You also should be valuable in order to put value on yourself.
Chase excellence not women 💪
4:50-e true
So he says "Don't try to impress women" but later says "Be a high value man" which are the guys that impress women.
Impress them indirectly, So it doesn't look try hard is the game and what he may have meant.
If u brag about a new car it's less powerful then if she finds out on her own for example.
looks maxing is the way forward bro
I also think something that Alex fails to realize is that this type of behavior will only be tolerated by most women if the guy is good looking (especially the "resting b*tch face" comment). Alex has acknowledged the importance on looks and how it alters peoples' perception of your actions / the things you say before.....so I'm a little surprised that he didn't mention that in this video.
JP himself also said that it's my fault and only my fault that 99% of women don't like me.
It's interesting, that there are tons of videos, about what a man has to do, to get and hold on to a woman. But as I see it, there is almost nothing, the other way around.
I hate buzzwords like "cocky".
@Helena Guess It's a small YT recommended world. Not to seem robotic but, I don't see these as an ideology so much as men dealing with an observable situation. Women's (and men's) behavior, especially on apps, are measurable.
@Helena "do you think this is the consequence of a social construct or that it comes from nature?" I think it's both.
It's natural for a str8 woman to want a man, but it seems mass media has created women who think too highly of themselves. I get looks and double takes, but I don't think I'm a male super model.
Just because a "tall" or "cute" guy will shove his penis in her, doesn't mean she's actually valuable to him or that she's "a catch".
Honestly I don't share my age, but I'm not older, and also not super young. I went to a University, did a short stint in the military, now work for a major technology company. Mornings, I literally throw on my sunglasses, Vans, jeans, T or sweater, grab my longboard and cruise across the Marriott residence plaza to the coffee shop. No flash , no bling.
And, no dating apps.
I think we have to get beyond ego/competitive/pecking order in our own selves first before we can attract a genuine partner (male or female). Just as an intelligent sensitive man can get beyond the biological urge to spread seed and can see value and enjoyment from fidelity, A woman can also grow beyond hypergamy.
Those are in the biological realm also in the level of the ego and competitiveness mentioned earlier.
Living in a world where you are constantly measuring yourself against someone else as to whether or not you are good enough is a form of hell. Peace of mind and true connection lie beyond such dynamics. We are all capable of getting there we just have to see the trap of the former mentioned. Just in the same way that for some people getting drunk is a short-lived experience because they don’t like the hangover. Maybe some people never give up heavy drinking but there are many that do. If you see the trap of the ego and skirt chasing and hypergamy it’s not that attractive to follow it with the zeal of a religious nut.
I was once idealistic too
@@impudentdomain did you give up on the concept? From personal experience my life got much better when I stopped trying to align with who is right and who is wrong and then rather focus on deciding which course of behaviour is most productive for the outcome sought. I was also lucky to have the Man I was coparenting with have a good value structure. We both where are much more than just pure biology and were guided by principles that put the well-being of our daughter first. It was a great life lesson.
PUA 101...
How did relationships work before indoor plumbing was invented? Queen Elizabeth the 1st took pride in taking a bath once a month. That wasn't feasible for the average person. Imagine trying to get a date when you're absolutely filthy and smelly.
I want to have genuine conversations with women, learn about them and let them learn about me, and see whether we connect. I’ve been failing to connect for a few years now. And women seem to have very bad social skills anymore, which I need to compensate for somehow.
Having genuine conversations is the fastest way to end up in friendzone.
Connection for women is just another word for physical attraction. If she doesn't open up, it means she doesn't find you attractive. Don't try to compensate, you will just waste your time.
Demonizing women for their hypergamous nature is no different than demonizing a 70yo man who still looks at a 20yo woman and says "I'd hit it". As men and women it's just in our nature.
The concept of hypergamy has enabled men to answer the age old question "what do women want...?" Now we know that answer: "more".
I think cockiness is annoying because its fake. Its confidence without having tangible evidence to back it up. I could say that if i got in a fight with Conor mcgregor, I'd win. Sounds stupid right? Thats cause it is.
to me both ways are not genuine ways to know another person. For real just be yourself. don't be braggy and avoid braggy people. don't feel like you have to entertain nor that she has to entertain you. If it's meant to be you won't have these kind of problems.
Just try making a profile on dating app as a woman looking for women, and one will see women reply very quickly and often be ready to meet as soon as possible.
The elephant is the room that is rarely being discussed when focusing on the disparity between male and female interest in each other, is simply that women are much less heterosexual than men, their interest in men is focused on resources, status and emotional needs. It would be interesting to know how many percent of women, women find attractive.
Yes...this...Women and Women get on easy,Gay Men get on easy,it's just Men and Women where it sucks for most Men...bottom 90% of them.
This video is so realistic
Spot on mate! Perfect advice for the current times
"let's say you walk into a party" Who said that?
Searching for the truth between Hamza and Wheat Waffles, I think I may have found it here but not completely
These two graphs look almost the same
1st world problems.
a woman is pursuing me right now. But, she is a GF to someone else. Before my redpill education, I would instinctually act upon her hypergamy. Because of men like Alexander teaching female biological nature, I have changed. I am sympathetic to the other male(s) she already has gamed. I am not pursuing. She is not worth the trouble she is causing every man she meets.
There is a saying: if she's single you are competing with 100 men, if she's married you are competing with just 1.