Hey Dylan, you hit the nail on the head with this one. I am a 64 year old man who just came out to his family 15 years ago including to my wife. No kids involved my wife couldn’t have kids which is fine. Tomorrow 12/27 would have been our 40th anniversary. She passed in March 2021. I could not leave her as she had tons of health issues and if I left she would have no one to care for her. I made a promise on our wedding day till death do us part. I kept that promise. Pretty mush as you said it was family pressure that caused me to marry. And i definitely have my regrets. I did loose a lot of my prime. But im thankful i could be here for her in her time of need. Thanks for your words of encouragement to those coming up now. God bless you friend.
My story is much like yours, except I had two shildren, one of whom is also gay. My wife did not accept homosexuality, either mine or our son's. I've been widowed for fifteen yeaars (I'm 74)and have never been happoer
Bless you Dear Man & your beautiful Soul. So now {please} go on out & Live, Love, Laugh & have the wonderful Life you deserve. As a man especially, you are {still} in your distinguished prime. Please go out & Live for you now-and _Live Well_ in a Happy New Year 2025 & always. ☮️&💜.
Steve, you did a wonderful thing by caring for your wife when she was ill. I admire you so much. Enjoy your time now. You have a lot of catching up to do.
62 here - came out at 40...married to my husband for 7 years - been together for 25 year plus - He's Greek - I'm English ( east London ) he is 5 years younger . Not always been easy - but it is now. Enjoy your life
@@Miller12217 well as a “gay Christian conservative” not all of us are closed minded. Some of us do understand and so far there has only been one alledged Christian that has dumped me as a friend. Everyone else is open loving and friendly to me still . So believe that it will be ok and remember if you do lose a friend, were they really a friend? Love is love and love conquers all.
Dylan, what it boils down to is this: because of familial or societal pressures, sometimes people feel they cannot live their lives as authentically as they would like. I certainly felt the same pressures when I was a younger man, but at some point I decided to come out so that there could never be anyone who could hold my "deep, dark secret" over my head. I was also scared about what "who I am" actually meant; looking back, I can see that that's why I self-medicated with alcohol and drugs until I turned 40, but at the same time, wandering through life to find out just what that meant. I gave up a lot of what I aspired to because I never wanted ANYONE scrutinizing my life. Unfortunately that meant cutting out people from my family, either because they weren't accepting, or they were just plain toxic. I also found a family thru my friends who gave me love and acceptance of who I am, and that helped me live my life as authentically as I wanted to. I have also met many men who were married with children out at Gay bars. I will support people who are doing this, but I will not "get involved" in their situation; doing so would be to deny my own chances for happiness with someone special. As I get older, I'm still hoping to find someone of my own, I thought I had, and we were together for 7 years, but he passed away two years ago in January. It will be a very long time until our kind will be fully accepted and integrated into society without the stigma of prejudice, but I see my generation and yours as the trailblazers for that ultimate time. Love to you and may the coming New Year bring all the blessings for you and yours.
I know so many gay men like me in their 60s and 70s who've been married, or are married to women and have kids and grandkids. That was as choice many made. We were in our 20s in the late 70s and 80s - homosexuality was still illegal in many places and gay marriage was out of the question. A lot of us struggled to understand who we were, tried to conform, tried to say we were bi-, or were bi- and took the path of least resistance. Before jumping to judge, younger people should consider why they have the choices we did not, and what our role in was in creating the conditions that allow them to thrive today. And, don't feel sorry for us. Feel sorry for those who didn't survive. Those who died of AIDS, denied treatment and denied compassion. Those who were murdered. Those who killed themselves in despair. Remember them. We are the lucky ones.
Yeah, so much has changed since we were young and I’m glad for the younger generation. He’s talking about having kids at some point but that was out of the question in the 70’s and 80’s. Seemed like a binary choice back then. Either you could have a family, kids if you wanted, the white picket fence dream . That’s what I wanted. Today, you can have that with a man if you want. There were no positive gay family role models then. Media, societal cues told us that gay life was debauchery, drugs, back alley activity. I’m glad young people ( not all) have it easier. At least there are some positive role models now. Glad to see young gay people having a family if they want. Again, I’m glad for the younger generation. They have options. They didn’t have to experience what we did. Feel bad for those that still hear negativity. Scared we may be taking a step back as of late.. Hopefully 2steps forward 1 step back. Still a lot has to change.
I'm not terribly fond of American accents but this is one I could listen to again and again. The red (deep pink?) cardigan says that this is a man who is confident in who he is.
I did that for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years. I came out to my wife 50 years ago. My wife was totally accepting of me being gay and she has passed in 2022. I am now free to be the gay man I always was. That was medically proven. But I am not looking for a boyfriend. Too old now. I am 77. That is OK.
Great video Dylan and Merry Christmas to you and wishing you a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year. I love the sweater you're wearing in this video and wonder if you can let me know where you bought it? Thanks so much. Keep up the great work. Wishing you continued success. 😊💞
Several years ago I met a guy my age and we had an interesting conversation. We both came from small towns and both made a conscious decision at 21 how to live our lives. I stayed straight and he came out. I'd always wondered the "what if" I had gone through on being my true self and he had wondered if life would have been better if he had stayed in the closet, After several conversations we both came to the conclusion there no right or wrong answer, we both had regrets, we both had good times in our past but good or bad we both had made contributions to the people and the world around us that we were a part of what made us. And given a chance to go back and "take the road not traveled" we both couldn't answer if it would be worth the memories we'd be giving up.
You keep being you and doing you Dylan. There will be someone touched by what you said in this video. It will impact someone. It is your experiences that make you who you are as you stated.
I'm 64 , i have never lived a lie and pretended to be straight. It was hard living in the 1970s/ 80s as a teen and in my twenties. But i thought i needed to be true to myself. I have met other men over the years who have been in a straight relationship. I know a guy who is married to a woman , and he says he doesn't want to be alone.
The farthest they've been out the south is Florida... as a native Floridian the truth of such statements and the naturalness with which you say it tickles me.
I met my soulmate in May '23 and he's married for his parents sake but gay af. He 's 45 years old and the family owns a very well known around the world company and he is so afraid of hurting his parents with being gay. Unfortunate I believe he is still married. He is miserable but keeps the act up for the family name. Hoping someday he can be his authentic self
An interesting video. The pressures to conform can be immense for some. Luckily I was sensible and did not marry. You're a young man who has his whole life ahead of you. Your attitude and approach will stand you in good stead. Best wishes for the future. 🙂
Dylan for Some Reason I Love Love and Care about You My Friend. I grew up on a farm in the South Alabama. It was hard for me growing up to decided my Sexuailty. I Love and Care about You My Handsome Friend...Sending Love from Pensacola Beach Florida USA 🇺🇸 😉❤️❤️❤️
Wonderful topic Dylan! Mines a unique story… Got married and knew I was gay and so did my wife… We did separate after three years of marriage however after six months of frustrations for both of us meeting other people we decided to get back together and we had a son Through unconventional means. We are coming up 30 years marriage and I’m now 56 and have no regrets. Yes I may have missed out on an intimate relationship but I have gained so much more. Sexuality is just an aspect and not everything… I have had my intimate needs met by having wonderful massages and taking myself out on dates. I do have a reclusive nature but I have pampered myself in other ways. I feel whole and I did come out to everybody when I was 30 but quickly realised I didn’t need to make an announcement and I’m actually happiest with myself… I don’t need to shout my sexuality from the rooftops… So I have been there and done that but I do recommend that it can work for gay men to be in straight relationships albeit a journey… thanks for the topic again!
I’m 46 and can relate to so much of this. Married to my ex wife for 12 years (we get along well now) and while I so wish I could have been out much sooner I wouldn’t give up my kids (two teenage daughters) for anything.
One can be gsy and adopt a child In today's society it is not true that its expected to get married and have kids I'm 72 and lived in the south all my life and never ezpected to get msrried I was in a 36 year relationship until my life long partner was diagnosed with cancer and i took care of him unti he pased
Why am I on here battling with you about my comments and about your sexuality???? You are happy to keep the insults on your commentary section, but want to erase any comments about my acceptance of you geing gay????
You do not have the right to block commentary. People TAKE TIME OUT OF THEIR LIVES to write to you and explain where they stand, so what exactly is your deal. BEING GAY?????????? ❤.
Look, Dylqn, I do not know what your problem is, but you posted this video, and I don't agree with your past lifestyle choices and about how you don't take your relationships with women seriously as you just be with men if men is what you want. I followed you in September this year 2024. I did not know you until four months ago. I do not want to take the time out of my day anymore to throw insults and argue. You are gay and that is that, and I wish you all the best.
I.cam't just hop on a plane & fly to South Carolina in the USA. That would better than here but all I was trying to explain BEFORE DELETING was you have your right to be a gay man youhave been talking about this for such a long time as much and as long as I have explaining how long I have been single. All I am left with are the memories of finding messages sent to youhaving no recollection of a bunch of screenshots sent to you of commentary attacking you, and for what reason, I still do not know.
Dylan. It is a New Year in 2025 and a new start, so you don't deserve negativity right now, so I have removed all my comments in 2024. It is a time of celebrations. Thanks.
This is my dance music channel House In The Underground TV. I have incorporated some of the photos from The Basement Adult Cruise Club in Auckland CBD. All I want is for people to play these mixes.but I need another dance music channel to do this. Also, find a place to mix these tracks so you can play them. I am at the end of hearing about people's right to love, sex and intimacy as being worthless garbage. I am going to do everything in my power in 2025 to make this happen in one way or another . 🤡👹👺👻🤬👿💀👿👹☠️ ❤️🩹💖💝💘🧡💛💚💙🩵🩶 🙉🙈😾😿🙀😽😼😻😹😻🙉 🤩😘😗☺️😚🤗😇🤣😂😅🤑 Marika.
Hey Dylan, you hit the nail on the head with this one. I am a 64 year old man who just came out to his family 15 years ago including to my wife. No kids involved my wife couldn’t have kids which is fine. Tomorrow 12/27 would have been our 40th anniversary. She passed in March 2021. I could not leave her as she had tons of health issues and if I left she would have no one to care for her. I made a promise on our wedding day till death do us part. I kept that promise. Pretty mush as you said it was family pressure that caused me to marry. And i definitely have my regrets. I did loose a lot of my prime. But im thankful i could be here for her in her time of need. Thanks for your words of encouragement to those coming up now. God bless you friend.
My story is much like yours, except I had two shildren, one of whom is also gay. My wife did not accept homosexuality, either mine or our son's. I've been widowed for fifteen yeaars (I'm 74)and have never been happoer
@@melb8606So she never got to know that it's through genes and that of her womb environment that created your gay son.
@@melb8606 I am so glad you found your happiness, it makes a world of difference when we can finally be happy, with our lives AND ourselves.
Bless you Dear Man & your beautiful Soul. So now {please} go on out & Live, Love, Laugh & have the wonderful Life you deserve. As a man especially, you are {still} in your distinguished prime. Please go out & Live for you now-and _Live Well_ in a Happy New Year 2025 & always. ☮️&💜.
Steve, you did a wonderful thing by caring for your wife when she was ill. I admire you so much. Enjoy your time now. You have a lot of catching up to do.
62 here - came out at 40...married to my husband for 7 years - been together for 25 year plus - He's Greek - I'm English ( east London ) he is 5 years younger . Not always been easy - but it is now. Enjoy your life
I'm a gay man of 30yo and too i haven't come out to my Christian conservative's family but i wouldn't dare marry a woman even under pressure
@@Miller12217 well as a “gay Christian conservative” not all of us are closed minded. Some of us do understand and so far there has only been one alledged Christian that has dumped me as a friend. Everyone else is open loving and friendly to me still . So believe that it will be ok and remember if you do lose a friend, were they really a friend? Love is love and love conquers all.
Dylan, what it boils down to is this: because of familial or societal pressures, sometimes people feel they cannot live their lives as authentically as they would like. I certainly felt the same pressures when I was a younger man, but at some point I decided to come out so that there could never be anyone who could hold my "deep, dark secret" over my head. I was also scared about what "who I am" actually meant; looking back, I can see that that's why I self-medicated with alcohol and drugs until I turned 40, but at the same time, wandering through life to find out just what that meant. I gave up a lot of what I aspired to because I never wanted ANYONE scrutinizing my life. Unfortunately that meant cutting out people from my family, either because they weren't accepting, or they were just plain toxic. I also found a family thru my friends who gave me love and acceptance of who I am, and that helped me live my life as authentically as I wanted to. I have also met many men who were married with children out at Gay bars. I will support people who are doing this, but I will not "get involved" in their situation; doing so would be to deny my own chances for happiness with someone special. As I get older, I'm still hoping to find someone of my own, I thought I had, and we were together for 7 years, but he passed away two years ago in January. It will be a very long time until our kind will be fully accepted and integrated into society without the stigma of prejudice, but I see my generation and yours as the trailblazers for that ultimate time. Love to you and may the coming New Year bring all the blessings for you and yours.
I know so many gay men like me in their 60s and 70s who've been married, or are married to women and have kids and grandkids. That was as choice many made. We were in our 20s in the late 70s and 80s - homosexuality was still illegal in many places and gay marriage was out of the question. A lot of us struggled to understand who we were, tried to conform, tried to say we were bi-, or were bi- and took the path of least resistance. Before jumping to judge, younger people should consider why they have the choices we did not, and what our role in was in creating the conditions that allow them to thrive today. And, don't feel sorry for us. Feel sorry for those who didn't survive. Those who died of AIDS, denied treatment and denied compassion. Those who were murdered. Those who killed themselves in despair. Remember them. We are the lucky ones.
Yeah, so much has changed since we were young and I’m glad for the younger generation. He’s talking about having kids at some point but that was out of the question in the 70’s and 80’s. Seemed like a binary choice back then. Either you could have a family, kids if you wanted, the white picket fence dream . That’s what I wanted. Today, you can have that with a man if you want. There were no positive gay family role models then. Media, societal cues told us that gay life was debauchery, drugs, back alley activity. I’m glad young people ( not all) have it easier. At least there are some positive role models now. Glad to see young gay people having a family if they want. Again, I’m glad for the younger generation. They have options. They didn’t have to experience what we did. Feel bad for those that still hear negativity. Scared we may be taking a step back as of late.. Hopefully 2steps forward 1 step back. Still a lot has to change.
You are adorable and a darling person.....thank you for sharing your stories.
Dude you're awesome and I love your accent 😍
I'm not terribly fond of American accents but this is one I could listen to again and again. The red (deep pink?) cardigan says that this is a man who is confident in who he is.
You’re so Genuine and In the Zone here - I’m sending this to 2 gentlemen I know who need this
I did that for 51 years and cared for her with MS for 26 years. I came out to my wife 50 years ago. My wife was totally accepting of me being gay and she has passed in 2022. I am now free to be the gay man I always was. That was medically proven. But I am not looking for a boyfriend. Too old now. I am 77. That is OK.
And ❤ your red sweater...Nice
Great video Dylan and Merry Christmas to you and wishing you a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year. I love the sweater you're wearing in this video and wonder if you can let me know where you bought it? Thanks so much. Keep up the great work. Wishing you continued success. 😊💞
Hi Dylan , Love listening to your opinions on life ! So much of what you talk about hits home !! ❤
Several years ago I met a guy my age and we had an interesting conversation. We both came from small towns and both made a conscious decision at 21 how to live our lives. I stayed straight and he came out. I'd always wondered the "what if" I had gone through on being my true self and he had wondered if life would have been better if he had stayed in the closet, After several conversations we both came to the conclusion there no right or wrong answer, we both had regrets, we both had good times in our past but good or bad we both had made contributions to the people and the world around us that we were a part of what made us. And given a chance to go back and "take the road not traveled" we both couldn't answer if it would be worth the memories we'd be giving up.
You keep being you and doing you Dylan. There will be someone touched by what you said in this video. It will impact someone. It is your experiences that make you who you are as you stated.
Thanks for sharing the story.
I'm 64 , i have never lived a lie and pretended to be straight. It was hard living in the 1970s/ 80s as a teen and in my twenties. But i thought i needed to be true to myself. I have met other men over the years who have been in a straight relationship. I know a guy who is married to a woman , and he says he doesn't want to be alone.
Great video as always! I love it!
Dylan, if you had been in my life 60 years ago, we would be married now. You are brilliant and beautiful.
The farthest they've been out the south is Florida... as a native Floridian the truth of such statements and the naturalness with which you say it tickles me.
It's Dylan...my fav guy.
You look great wearing red.
I met my soulmate in May '23 and he's married for his parents sake but gay af. He 's 45 years old and the family owns a very well known around the world company and he is so afraid of hurting his parents with being gay. Unfortunate I believe he is still married. He is miserable but keeps the act up for the family name. Hoping someday he can be his authentic self
I wanna marry him. That accent and those eyes!! Dang!!
We Gay men, united are stronger 🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🧿🧿🧿✝️✝️✝️🌠🌠🌠
I agree with you. I wanted to live a little before settling down.
Been there . Tough act to perform.
An interesting video. The pressures to conform can be immense for some. Luckily I was sensible and did not marry. You're a young man who has his whole life ahead of you. Your attitude and approach will stand you in good stead. Best wishes for the future. 🙂
I love to hear u talk nice voice😍
Enjoyed the video and joined your UA-cam channel 😊
I Love a You Dylan. 😉👍❤️❤️❤️
You are so wise beyond your age. This coming from a 70 year old man.😎
Like Dylan said..."just screw it"
Dylan for Some Reason I Love Love and Care about You My Friend. I grew up on a farm in the South Alabama. It was hard for me growing up to decided my Sexuailty. I Love and Care about You My Handsome Friend...Sending Love from Pensacola Beach Florida USA 🇺🇸 😉❤️❤️❤️
Wonderful topic Dylan! Mines a unique story… Got married and knew I was gay and so did my wife… We did separate after three years of marriage however after six months of frustrations for both of us meeting other people we decided to get back together and we had a son Through unconventional means. We are coming up 30 years marriage and I’m now 56 and have no regrets. Yes I may have missed out on an intimate relationship but I have gained so much more. Sexuality is just an aspect and not everything… I have had my intimate needs met by having wonderful massages and taking myself out on dates. I do have a reclusive nature but I have pampered myself in other ways. I feel whole and I did come out to everybody when I was 30 but quickly realised I didn’t need to make an announcement and I’m actually happiest with myself… I don’t need to shout my sexuality from the rooftops… So I have been there and done that but I do recommend that it can work for gay men to be in straight relationships albeit a journey… thanks for the topic again!
I’m 46 and can relate to so much of this. Married to my ex wife for 12 years (we get along well now) and while I so wish I could have been out much sooner I wouldn’t give up my kids (two teenage daughters) for anything.
💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝💖💝
One can be gsy and adopt a child
In today's society it is not true that its expected to get married and have kids
I'm 72 and lived in the south all my life and never ezpected to get msrried
I was in a 36 year relationship until my life long partner was diagnosed with cancer and i took care of him unti he pased
Sorry I didn't take in any of this 11-minute video other than how good-looking you are lol
Love you.❤❤
Just leave the straight relationship it’s toxic I left the straight world in December 2024 it’s dangerous pretending
Why am I on here battling with you about my comments and about your sexuality???? You are happy to keep the insults on your commentary section, but want to erase any comments about my acceptance of you geing gay????
I was married for 25 years before coming out
This is some feedback in this video "Being gay but stuck in a STRAIGHT relationship."
You do not have the right to block commentary.
People TAKE TIME OUT OF THEIR LIVES to write to you and explain where they stand, so what exactly is your deal.
BEING GAY??????????
❤.
Look, Dylqn, I do not know what your problem is, but you posted this video, and I don't agree with your past lifestyle choices and about how you don't take your relationships with women seriously as you just be with men if men is what you want.
I followed you in September this year 2024. I did not know you until four months ago. I do not want to take the time out of my day anymore to throw insults and argue.
You are gay and that is that, and I wish you all the best.
I.cam't just hop on a plane & fly to South Carolina in the USA.
That would better than here but all I was trying to explain BEFORE DELETING was you have your right to be a gay man youhave been talking about this for such a long time as much and as long as I have explaining how long I have been single.
All I am left with are the memories of finding messages sent to youhaving no recollection of a bunch of screenshots sent to you of commentary attacking you, and for what reason, I still do not know.
Dylan. It is a New Year in 2025 and a new start, so you don't deserve negativity right now, so I have removed all my comments in 2024. It is a time of celebrations. Thanks.
OK, so what us actually going on? I'm trying to post some feedback here about this video. I'm at my wits end about your comments removals here.
I'm at my wits end about your comments removals here, too. It’s so great to not be alone on this.
@itme7685 I'm sorry about that. I don't have anything more to say. 😁
@itme7685 Strange experimental synths, BTW. Thanks.
This is my dance music channel House In The Underground TV.
I have incorporated some of the photos from The Basement Adult Cruise Club in Auckland CBD.
All I want is for people to play these mixes.but I need another dance music channel to do this.
Also, find a place to mix these tracks so you can play them.
I am at the end of hearing about people's right to love, sex and intimacy as being worthless garbage.
I am going to do everything in my power in 2025 to make this happen in one way or another .
🤡👹👺👻🤬👿💀👿👹☠️
❤️🩹💖💝💘🧡💛💚💙🩵🩶
🙉🙈😾😿🙀😽😼😻😹😻🙉
🤩😘😗☺️😚🤗😇🤣😂😅🤑
Marika.