Stay or Leave? Top Therapist Reveals Narcissist Relationship Secrets
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- Are you in a relationship with a narcissist? Watch this video as Dr. David Clarke reveals the secrets to help you decide whether to stay or leave.--Check out Dr. Clarke's Books and Online Courses:www.davideclar... and Stay Informed: @DrDavidClarke 🔔 Don't forget to hit the subscribe button and ring the bell to get notified about our latest videos on how to leave a narcissist.Follow Dr. Clarke on Social Media:Instagram: @davideclarkephdTwitter: @davideclarkephdFacebook: / davideclarkephdtiktok: @drdavidclarkeThreads: @davideclarkephdWebsite: www.davideclar...
God’s grace and mercy was with me as He walked me out of the prison of a marriage I was in which was not His will for me.
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Thank you, Dr. Clarke. I wish I'd had people around me like yourself in 1998. I knew within a couple days that getting married was a mistake. As soon as he had my commitment, his personality changed and Mr. Hyde emerged. Suddenly, everything I did was wrong. Since I was a pleaser, he had to make his standards impossibly high so he could justify raking me over the coals. I once asked him what the weather forecast was bcz he'd just watched it, and he lit into me for not watching the news myself all the time like he did. If I was happy, about something, he'd get angry with me and tell me why I shouldn't be happy about that. If I were upset, he'd get angry and tell me why I had no right to be upset.
I wasn't a doormat, but my standing up to him made no difference. He later told me, "Women are just naturally unhappy."
I'm an intelligent, capable, kind person. He was the only person in my life treating me with contempt,. I knew how he was treating me was wrong with every fiber of my being, but somehow never classified it as "abuse" until I read a marriage book that described my hell and said, "Trust that God will provide and leave."
I stayed for almost 2 decades bcz unfortunately, my mom had imprinted on me that marriage was "an unconditional commitment to an imperfect person." I'm NOT passing that poisonous, Satanic idea on to my daughter.
You were the first person who gave me hope. It’s a long and painful journey, but I want to thank you for the hope you gave me. I know Gods love, and I know He does not want people to be abused. ❤ God bless your ministry.
I’m still in my abusive marriage. I’m getting stronger, I am. A lawyer told me it’s okay to take baby steps if that is what you need to do, but make sure you are moving forward. Hope this helps someone.❤
it suredoes, thank you! hope you keep moving forward as well!💝
Thank God for Dr. Clarke! I also recommend the book “When to Walk Away” by Gary Thomas. It helped me so much on my journey out of 30 years of misinformation as a Christian.
Get you a job, save your money and just leave. It will only get worse. A piece of mind is better than anything.
I wish, i had met you earlier. My mum escaped from this codependency to my "christian" narc-father through her death after cancer. She tried her whole life to keep peace. I wonder now, how she survived spiritually, because they both visited a church, which doesnt know much about the power of the holy spirit and proofing the spirits. Its suuuuch a need and kack of information in the body of Christ. Do you translate your books in german? Or subtitle your videos. You are a true blessing to me as the eldest of 3 sibling, who is of course not the golden child. Yod blessed me with a wonderful husband, who shows me true love. Greetings from Austria. 💞
No way when I left I got healthyer and stronger and had peace of mind
I got some baaaad news for you, Sister. You're already divorced, and the divorce started with his first action of disregard toward you. All signing the papers is is making legal what already is. It isn’t your job to keep the marriage together or be a good witness. You can't do either if you're broken and will break more every day till you lose yourself. But you won’t hear any of this until you're ready to. Been there, done that, got out!!! Hoping you get out, too.
I can attest to this! About two years ago I realized my husband was a narc and abusive (after 16 years of marriage) but decided to stay and researched and tried every tactic under the sun given by experts, even trying (like this lady) to live out the fruits of the Spirit, but the abuse just kept escalating. About a year ago, I found Dr. Clarke and realized I needed to leave. The abuse had gotten so bad, that I finally left after being physically assaulted multiple times and him threatening to kill me. I am almost two months out from leaving and it is difficult, especially because he came and took my kids away from me and is trying to turn them against me (all because I can’t afford a lawyer and he can) and I am fighting for them, but despite it all, my hope is found in Jesus and my life is still filled with the most incredible peace. God has been so good to me and I’m just trusting Him in all areas of my life, especially when it comes to my three teenage sons. I know that He will never fail me. ❤
Dr. Clarke, I cannot thank you enough for your content. I didn't want to leave, especially because of my faith. But I am SO GRATEFUL for your clarification on God's Word, both the OT and NT. When you explained about Exodus 21 and 1st Corinthians 7:15, I knew that God sanctioned me leaving. Although this is a very sensitive subject, I hope you might be willing to do a video about how narcs withhold marriage rights from their spouses as a control and dominance tactic. I know a lot of ladies like myself don't really know how to talk about being made involuntarily celibate by their narc husbands, but boy is that tough. Between you and Mike Winger, I understand that denying spousal rights when it comes to the marital bed, not buying food, not buying clothing or other basic necessities is truly abominable in the eyes of God. This is abandonment by an unbeliever. I've experienced all of this and more in my marriage to the narc, and was so dismayed that the church I originally asked for help told me I needed to stay until he started to physically beet (sic) me. Then, GOD BROUGHT ME TO YOUR YT CHANNEL. God bless you, Dr. Clarke. Women like me need to hear from a straight-talking, no-nonsense, Bible-believing counselor like you.
A narcissist don't even know that they're a narcissist they don't even think about it they think that's the way they're supposed to be and it's not and it's best to get away from there path my opinion
Thank you for being firm in this answer… I needed to hear it!
Dr. Clarke,
You see it all
Needed this today. My husband thinks he can change and is telling he but I see no evidence
Thanks, Dr. Clarke.
That first lady is already crazy from the narcissist triple doses of gaslighting and psychological abuse. Those 2 right there will easily get you to behave this way. If he added some emotional abuse to that concoction, she would have😢 overdosed. She needs someone to stop her head from spinning
I can't find the Anti narc warriors group on you tube. Anybody please send link. Thanks
I want to leave. I’m ready…I’m stuck as narc had gr 4 brain cancer..he could last 1 , 2. Or 5 yrs. So far it hasn’t regrown from his surgery and treatment…he’s 72 I’m 66..
Just go. Save up your money and just leave. He will always play the sympathy card on you though.
Good evening Dr Clarke I agree I left the narcissist spouse I would like help in filling for divorce from him I would greatly appreciate your assistance in this matter 🙏
Good luck , unless you pay him more then the lawyer.... I can only try to discern his M.O
@@deannaadams9263 oh ok got it
I can't get out of this 40 year mess...I have tried for past 10 years but now he has made sure I can not get to any money but my disability which no lawyer will take less than 300 just for consultation and 5000 to hire and get it going. And I have no place to live ...
I understand Cindy, I'm kinda in the same (43 yrs), but I'm 🙏 for open doors & peace! Will pray for you!
Listen you can do this. Save up your money and just GO. I did it with a small baby and I only had $500 to my name. That was over 20 years ago. Divorced and I love it. You can too. God will provide just take the first steps.
Can you help me find a Therapist in Kansas City Mo.? I have been married to one for 43 yr. Children are grown, and yes they are his flying monkeys. I have no where to go. I am on a disability is my only income. Need help, my health physical and emotional health is going down . Killing me !!! Help please.
Therapy & Theology online with Lysa Terkeurst , Jim & Joel is helpful for gaining understanding on their behaviour.
@@JoanneBurton-he8fs what's this? How about more info please... Thank you
Have you tried a domestic abuse advocacy group in your area?
I already knew all of this stuff without a book. How does anyone know he has a license in phycology? I have seen a phycologist about this , she said the same thing. Leave ! Been working on it, saving all my money. Why pay 250.00 for what health insurance pays for? 😂😂😂😂😂