Harvard Prof. Ellen Langer - How to live life fully with Mindfulness & Open-Mindedness

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  • Опубліковано 5 чер 2024
  • 0:00 Intro
    0:35 What is happiness? How can we achieve it?
    1:29 What is mindfulness?
    4:33 How can we look at the world in a mindful way?
    8:17 How is mindfulness related to mental flexibility?
    10:25 How can we help kids to develop mindfulness & mental flexibility?
    12:42 What problems can arise from rules?
    16:02 How can we teach kids mindfulness?
    20:09 How can people motivate themselves to become and stay mindful?
    26:20 How can one learn new activities without extrinsic rewards, rules or instructions?
    33:20 How can we have more fun in life by being mindful?
    35:03 Are children naturally mindful?
    40:17 What are the health benefits of being mindful?
    47:35 How can I be a more mindful parent?
    Dr. Ellen Langer is a professor in the Psychology Department at Harvard University. Her books written for general and academic readers include "Mindfulness" and "The Power of Mindful Learning" and "Mindful Creativity".
    The citation for the APA distinguished contributions award reads, in part, "...her pioneering work revealed the profound effects of increasing mindful behavior…and offers new hope to millions whose problems were previously seen as unalterable and inevitable. Ellen Langer has demonstrated repeatedly how our limits are of our own making."
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 52

  • @marcuswirtz490
    @marcuswirtz490 2 роки тому +34

    52 yrs old, and I've been telling the world "Beware means Be Aware; pay attention, not go away" all my life.

    • @terrytari1891
      @terrytari1891 2 роки тому +1

      Her & Brian Johnson are my favorite psychologist on Mindfulness. They are more than smart. They are innovators too!

    • @beabea892
      @beabea892 Рік тому +1

      Thanks for this recommendation. I will check out Brian Johnson. This interview has been the clearest I’ve ever heard on mindfulness.

    • @thankyou4416
      @thankyou4416 7 місяців тому

      HO- OH-PONO-PONO✨🕊✨👌🏻👼🙏

  • @claresmith9261
    @claresmith9261 2 місяці тому +3

    This ladies absolutely brilliant, totally agree with everything she’s saying… so inspiring

  • @dianedobry800
    @dianedobry800 7 місяців тому +6

    When I taught English in Hungary, I found my students were glazing over when I was trying to get them to understand the rules. So I would teach them the rules, but then I would have a game that they could play to show what they knew and what they weren’t sure of regarding word choice, grammar, punctuation. And I did that also in the US when I was teaching writing. The students are much more engaged when it’s a game, and I would give them just a little mini mini prizes at the end when they demonstrated that they could remember most of those rules. One time I decided not to give a midterm exam, but rather to have teams working together to answer questions like a game show and it just so happened that I was observed that day, but fortunately the observer found it to be an interesting approach to getting the students to prepare for the game rather than the test

  • @eileenroth9868
    @eileenroth9868 2 дні тому

    This is excellent advice! I have stumbled on this practice on my own by accident. Thank you for affirming this idea! ❤

  • @goodnatureart
    @goodnatureart Рік тому +21

    Ellen Langer is grounded and pioneered mindfulness way before it was popular. The power of uncertainty and looking for 5 new things has been so helpful in teaching people to keep living fresh, not get stuck in the illusion something or someone is solid and certain.

    • @dianasolfest7237
      @dianasolfest7237 7 місяців тому +3

      I mindfully nominate her to be our next President of the United States. I found her here on UA-cam only a week or so ago & she is the 1 rst person I have found in a very long time, that I think of as an ideal role model for me to emulate. She is just Brilliant & I just wish I knew her in person so I could ask her to be a mentor to me & of course - a Friend!

  • @beabea892
    @beabea892 Рік тому +24

    Ellen, I would like to let you know there is a movement of schools that actually do teach this, though it is not necessarily called ‘mindful.’ The International Baccalaureate. It has revolutionized my teaching. I can confirm that when you ask questions of students’ answers instead of judging their answer as right/wrong, you
    a) learn a lot
    b) their confidence grows
    c) what they learn they rarely forget
    d) have a lot of fun

    • @elsimeyer5445
      @elsimeyer5445 5 місяців тому +1

      Excellent, I am part of a movement that is busy making teachers aware of the Socratic teaching methods

  • @melaniedewberry6274
    @melaniedewberry6274 Рік тому +12

    Ellen, I'm so very grateful that you speak these truths

  • @beabea892
    @beabea892 Рік тому +8

    Brilliant interview. Thank you for sharing it.

  • @UlisesBarrera
    @UlisesBarrera 3 роки тому +18

    What a Beautiful beautiful beautiful woman

  • @nikolaandonov6766
    @nikolaandonov6766 2 місяці тому

    I want to ask a question.
    In regard to the tennis players for instance...
    Why do they practice the different types of hits over and over again?
    Or the formula 1 drivers practice so many hours?
    They want to achieve flow state.
    They don't want to ask themselves what is new in this particular situation, they want just to react, to act without thinking.
    Is this Mindless state ?
    If it is, why so many people want to achieve FLOW state?
    Sometimes people ask themselves: where the time passed? it was such fun it was so easy...
    Do you think that effortless flow state is somehow less than Mindfully engaging the world around us?

  • @elizabethwilk9615
    @elizabethwilk9615 6 місяців тому +1

    Some interesting points and lots of relativism.

  • @traianliviudanciu8665
    @traianliviudanciu8665 3 місяці тому

    Hawe we enaugh time to learn from own mystakes ?

  • @geertheymans8258
    @geertheymans8258 8 місяців тому +4

    Nice interview. One big REDUCTIONIST PRESUMPTION : that at the basis ANYTHING has to be or can be funny, engaging, enjoying to work. Why reductionist ? Because it frames ALL LIFE EXPERIENCE through the filter of FUN.
    Life is not always FUN. Losing a 16 year old child is not fun. It is tragic.
    So much for the LIMITS or BOUNDARIES of the mindfulset in life, all of life.

    • @sarahwong2264
      @sarahwong2264 7 місяців тому

      😅😮😮 59:33

    • @kingofdubb2133
      @kingofdubb2133 3 місяці тому

      you are absolutely right, from your perspective, but what about from the child's perspective? It is likely that the child did not want to die, and was terrified of dying, but countless people have "died", and come back to life, and related their experiences, and most related that it was the most beautiful experience of their life, and that they did not want to come back to their body, and the life they left behind. Many have also related meeting their deceased loved ones on the other side, and related that they (their deceased loved ones) were much happier than they were when their loved ones were alive. We are taught from an early age that death is a terrible thing, and that it is better not to think about it, or discuss it - my mother was like that, and if the subject came up in conversation, she would always change the subject, she never took me, or my siblings to funerals, or to visit graves.

  • @tulinalpkaya3936
    @tulinalpkaya3936 7 місяців тому

    How does blood sugar go down?

  • @nikolaandonov6766
    @nikolaandonov6766 2 місяці тому

    21:20 If people tend to confuse mindfulness with thinking, then not thinking means absence, not being in the present and what is called not being in the NOW ? Isn't that Mindless being or thinking about what could had happened or what might happen, that is called WORRYING.
    Being in the present is called CARRYING, to be careful, not anxious.

  • @krishnantampi5665
    @krishnantampi5665 7 місяців тому

    One and one is a big one ie one stream And one streamakes a long one stream😊😊😅😊❤

  • @ilovekarima1
    @ilovekarima1 7 місяців тому +2

    Pity, too many ADDS !

  • @robinr5669
    @robinr5669 3 місяці тому

    She has made the rounds of every talk host saying almost the same exact thing. How can she sell books without any new content or examples.

  • @stellazoellambert626
    @stellazoellambert626 Рік тому +1

    Dommage que ce soit pas en français 😭

  • @traianliviudanciu8665
    @traianliviudanciu8665 3 місяці тому

    What make You happy If You are thirsty ?

  • @ilovekarima1
    @ilovekarima1 7 місяців тому +3

    Do u have to have so many interruptions with adds ????

    • @billwalt9026
      @billwalt9026 2 місяці тому

      buy the UA-cam Premium and you get no ads and its like 15-20 a month, so good to not be distracted

  • @nikolaandonov6766
    @nikolaandonov6766 2 місяці тому

    I think little children play not in a mindful state, because they play just for fun regardless of rules or performance expectations.
    They don't ask themselves what is new or how can i be better, they allow the imagination to guide them and allow them to explore what happens.

    • @nikolaandonov6766
      @nikolaandonov6766 2 місяці тому

      Noticing new things without fear of evaluation or judgment, fear of doing it "wrong" from the perspective of : what if...?
      Not this is but this could be....
      Yes, this is mindfulness.

  • @karensmiles7463
    @karensmiles7463 8 місяців тому +1

    Mindfulness wow,but the answer to the worlds problems?

  • @user-xr6rh6jy8z
    @user-xr6rh6jy8z 8 місяців тому +1

    Is there a consensus of opinions among psychologists about Mr. Trump. Certainly, Mr. Trump can be regarded as the prime example of one who does not follow rules mindlessly. How do you decide who can - cannot follow rules?

    • @gailfore1
      @gailfore1 8 місяців тому +3

      Thanks for providing this lens to look through! If you put this observation in the context of the video, consider that he is an example of one who has frozen his understanding (his own rules), who therefore does not notice anything new. Consider those attempting to introduce any new thinking /ideas to him, to contemplate, will be met with (pardon the expression) a wall of frozen thinking.. To me, rule-breaking is not mindLESS, but born of an INFLEXIBLE MIND. Translated to :I already KNOW, for example, MY RULES, so I do NOT NOTICE, anything else. Curiosity avoided, chaos avoided therefore, IMO, change and growth impossible. Perhaps the stuff and irritation of all dictators...?

    • @karensmiles7463
      @karensmiles7463 8 місяців тому +2

      Do you think Langer was singling out an individual,or speaking to all...TDS .

    • @FEEBO2025
      @FEEBO2025 3 місяці тому

      You don't break the rules the force your own. Flexible mind!

  • @user-dc6bi9ii7b
    @user-dc6bi9ii7b 4 місяці тому

    In one of your videos you said one should not say thanks when they wake in the morning. That is stupid talk. Noone is assured that they would wake up in the morning. Someone dies in sleep.

  • @billwalt9026
    @billwalt9026 2 місяці тому +1

    will ya marry me? I recently over dosed on listening, registering and repeating her in her words.
    I'll wash the kitchen and bathrooms on my knees, repaint the house, cottage and uo then office.
    just smile at me and know that I finally get it, Like Ram Dass... Be Here Now.
    My Broker and Lawyer are available at my expense, for your investigative interviewing.

  • @beabea892
    @beabea892 Рік тому

    Evaluations are mindless. A penny has just dropped for me. They teach this in coaching- stop evaluating what your client is saying! And it seems so straightforward to stop doing this. Just notice…

  • @traianliviudanciu8665
    @traianliviudanciu8665 3 місяці тому

    1+1 = 2

    • @EugenieMacGillavry
      @EugenieMacGillavry 3 місяці тому

      Add one heap of sand to another ( one) heap of sand... you will still have one heap of sand... only bigger😊

    • @traianliviudanciu8665
      @traianliviudanciu8665 3 місяці тому

      @@EugenieMacGillavry that is not science
      that is magic

    • @EugenieMacGillavry
      @EugenieMacGillavry 3 місяці тому

      @@traianliviudanciu8665 Science IS magic . Isn't it magical that when you put 2 piles together it makes one ? And when you bring a human egg and a human seed together it makes one human? Both examples emperical proven.

    • @traianliviudanciu8665
      @traianliviudanciu8665 3 місяці тому

      Magic use ilusion

    • @FEEBO2025
      @FEEBO2025 3 місяці тому

      Clouds, laundry, snow piles, a pile of paper clips...

  • @cjk6736
    @cjk6736 6 місяців тому

    Harvard needs to reach real morals, not fake jibberish.

    • @FEEBO2025
      @FEEBO2025 3 місяці тому

      Reach? You sound jealous. You didn't listen to the interview or you would know how dumb you sound. Anything at Harvard in immoral? WAKE UP cj!

  • @intelligentbodymassage.com7472
    @intelligentbodymassage.com7472 5 місяців тому +1

    but why does she keep repeating the same content? I don't get it. there must be more?