I developed anxiety right after entering college and I had to drop out I'm still dealing with it all now. Same year my doctor sit me down and say we going to get thru it together. The January next year I apply to uni and got in I seem to have developed depression also long with anxiety while in uni. But I'm on my last year at uni and im not scared to take time off anymore to mentally get myself settle. I take time off during the semester to mentally settle myself before jumping back into hard work again. My parents are slowly starting to understand how to help me and my friends are now fully aware of the signs of me becoming depressed or having anxiety attacks.
@@infernogamers168 I honestly dont know what triggered it. I feel like it could have been a mixture of new environment and living up to others expectations.
After finishing school I’ve started to realize how miserable I was then. Mental breakdowns and lack of mental health support at schools are part of an epidemic ready to boil over. Thank you for doing this series.
All I felt was pain was my first semester of college,almost ended my life the next semester. School to me sometimes felt like I had to survive instead of it feeling like a community where I can learn and grow and be surrounded by people who care about me and want to see my succeed. School taught me lessons in ways that I thought wouldn't learn.
I had to quit uni for severe depression and anxiety. University is the worst place to be if you are suffering with your mental health. They don’t tell you this before you apply for uni, it’s not all fun and partying.
University shouldn't be the norm for people to go to. Some people genuinely haven't got the cognitive ability to handle stress. It's not for everyone. There needs to be high pressure to get the best candidates through. People need to realise university isn't the be all. You can do things without a degree.
im a first year and my preexisting anxiety has been acting up, and im in the process of going to a psychiatrist to get an ADHD diagnosis that may have been overlooked in my childhood. yay me, my zero motivation, and anxiety attacks. :) i realized recently that uni is yet an other thing my dad forced on me. i was so glad to have gotten a scholarship, but ill most likekely loose it because of my horrible grades. im really thinking about taking a gap term or year. my dad is really against it, but what they dont understand that they couldve used it here in eastern europe during communism too. im sure there were fucked up things they did as young adults, to deal with everything. my mom had to leave her good-for-nothing cheating pig husband, move back to her parents, and care for her newborn all at the age of 24. Needless to say without professinal help she was depressed for months and went down to 46 kilos. and i think a lot of my mental health issues could descri e my dad too, he just ignores them and "perseveers". sorry for the long rant. point is, im a uni first year, unhappy, anxious and longoverdue for that damn assestment im getting rn.
Your life is way more valuable than a degree, you can always do your degree when you are more mentally ready for it, University is not a walk in the park and is extremely stressful especially if you are living away from home, always let the people who are around you know how you are feeling including the University itself.
faisalx1 If anybody makes you feel weak or stupid they aren't the best sort of people you want to have in your life, they obviously don't have your best interests at heart, don't let anybody make you feel worthless because your not at all.
I dropped out of Oxford uni because of psychosis after just the first term. I felt like a failure for ages afterwards. 6 years later, numerous hospitalisations under my belt and intensive care in the community, I’m just starting year 4 of 6 of a part time degree with the Open University. I’m doing well, so far all firsts and 2:1s. Sometimes the traditional uni pathway isn’t suitable for people and I think schools need to highlight that more, as well as other options instead of uni.
I chose the Open University as well. I graduated and now I'm doing a Master's. I simply wasn't ready for higher education at 18, even though the pressure was on to go and have a great time, and the rest of it. At the end of the day, University is about learning and research, and sometimes the appetite and preparedness for all that can only come with being a little bit older. You can get formative experiences elsewhere. People really shouldn't be emotionally press ganged into going from one school to the next just because.
I've struggled with anxiety and depression at university and am still struggling with it now. I urge anyone to seek help and stay OUT OF YOUR ROOM. Being alone with you're thoughts in a room 15 hours a day is an easy trap to fall into. I hope this one too helps someone.
@@tamak9415 Watch out - some generic advice is coming your way: 1 - Go to the library to work as this will get you out of your room and around people. 2 - Join a uni club which your interested in and hopefully make a friend!
Zac D'santos women have a higher reported attempt rate because it's usually either crying for attention or failed attempts. Males tend to be more serious about it hence why the actual SUCCESS rate is higher due to the way society looks at men they tend to talk about it less and just build it up inside and just eventually want to stop the pain. 2 seconds later the shot rings out and another 6ft hole is dug while the crying family and friends wonder about it saying there were no signs he was like that.
There is too much pressure to go to university in the UK at 18. There needs to be more talks to students about apprenticeships, working holiday visas etc. Unless you absolutely need a degree, to become a doctor or a lawyer etc, there's no point getting stressed over a generic Marketing degree, getting into so much debt, when you could easily walk into a position without a degree. Young people NEED to learn independence as it's vital, but you can get this in other ways. A degree isn't everything.
So agree with this! I would definitely give my upmost support if my kids would like to take a year/2 or whenever they r ready mentally before joining d uni
I do agree that not everyone is suited for a white collar job, but education isn't just about job training, it's about developing critical thinking that helps you navigate through life. Unfortunately education is not free and even expensive in many countries, so people associate it with what high-paying job they can get with a degree instead of just gaining knowledge and wisdom. I think the economization of education is dehumanizing.
I agree that there is too much pressure to go to university but I don’t agree that some degrees are useless as the point of university isn’t just to get a job. It’s also about learning how to learn and self exploration. I think we need a better definition of what a university is and to make it just an option, not something somebody should do or is pushed to do, but an option if they truly want to do it. We probably also need people who are able to advise what others should do to reach their goals. But the problem with this is that the advisers should be motivated to do so so they are of useful help.
Being in college and having a mental illness can feel so isolating. Most universities don’t understand the daily struggles living with a mental illness is like. Many times do not provide extensions not believing that mental illness is a not good enough excuse
Going through this now. So isolating especially when everyone is telling you it’s the best time of your life and just to have fun but some days you can’t leave your room at all and don’t speak to anyone.
If this doesn't show the seriousness of mental health in university I don't understand what will. I unfortunately wasn't able to finish uni due to how badly mine was getting. It got to a point I would get panic attacks on the way to lectures and turn home. So many things were wrong in my life and uni was a major reason for so much animosity towards myself! I hated myself for so long because I couldn't finish uni. But it's taken me 5 years to actually be okay with it and I hope everyone who is suffering from MH no matter how small/big it is all you should do is talk. Find someone anyone and just express how you feel. A lot of students bottle it all in and honestly that's what can destroy you
This hits hard. So many of my friends and people I know at uni have struggled due to the enormous social and work pressures university puts on students. Although I moved out of my parents' house, I honestly think that if I'd moved out of my home city and away from my supportive family I would not have survived to graduate.
I remember suffering terribly with depression and social anxiety in my first year. I opened up about my mental health and it was not taken seriously and was threatened to be kicked out for low attendance.
Why has the incidence of mental breakdowns in college gone up over 200%? Is the work harder? Is there more mental illness? Is more mental illness actually now being diagnosed?Is it harder for young people to cope than it used to be?
Young people's focus is scattered and fragmented due to the onslaught of information from the internet, flicking from social media to UA-cam constantly. Their brains aren't getting enough rest from this constant connectivity. The constant distraction and stimulation has an effect on a person's ability to concentrate and do deep learning. Not to mention all of the procrastination, lack of time management skills and the amount of time they waste online that they could be using for study. Also they have never been challenged like they are at university before in their entire lives. The internet is great but for a lot of people it is integrated so much into their lives and I think this takes a toll on people's mental health. Life used to be much simpler and more relaxed, just hanging out with friends in the real world without all of this bullshit.
It's possible that more people are reporting it in recent years as it is more widely spoken about. So it could be that more people are coming forward and not that the incidence has increased
I think life has gotten a lot more complex. Certainly compared to the baby boomers time, these days theres no job security, banks keep pouring all these different percentages down our mouthes, finances and phone bills, Uni debt, social media has had a big, big effect, theres a lack of privacy with cctv everywhere, fines for the smallest things, and everyone is only one wageslip away from being in poverty. Life these days is moving at such a faster pace since the wartime. And on top of all that we went through the worst recession Britain had ever seen while we were coming of age. It's not that we're sensitive lol, we're being overloaded and held to ransom by all these complexities.
@@michaelaburke3096 how? I mean other then apprenticeships in random stuff like plumbing there r literallyy no other options it seems, i heard coding bootcamps r good but idk bout those ppl say wont end up in a job from those ://
Literally less than a month ago I was planning my own death. I was convinced that there was literally no other option for me and that ultimately it would be inevitable. Of course this was my depressive mind tricking me into believing these things. But it felt so real and so true. Uni of course didn't help at all. Lonely and isolating I had no friends to reach out and just talk to because at my uni I knew no one. The support system in uni is abysmal and I really feel like they could care less about their students. I'm glad I'm out of that state of mind for now. But I know that at some point I will feel this way again. I dont think that my uni will be helpful in anyway at providing support.
I am not a uni student, but a secondary. It’s not as important but the education itself makes me want to kill myself, I got an insane amount of Maths homework, 5 large activities with 4 days to complete, so far I’ve cried, got angry, had a panic attack and wanted to harm myself...
See if you can get an extention and talk to a trusted adult about time management skills. Not patronising you, just trying to offer helpful advice. Good luck!
GCSEs are getting harder every year. If you feel like that you need to talk to someone cause even I was stressed when I did mine and mine were from the previous reform so they weren't as hard as yours. Just speak to someone tell them how your feeling
I’m in college paying 35k a year at a performing arts school, 2000 miles away from my family and I hate everything. I had this vision that once I got to college I would finally be happy, and wouldn’t have to deal with being upset like I was in high school. I thought making a bunch of friends and exploring new places would help me get through even if I did ever have depressing thoughts. I was so wrong, it’s week 6 and I have basically no friends. I get along with people and my roommate and I are generally close but nothing compared to any of my prior friendships from before college. I couldn’t even go to any of my classes yesterday because I couldn’t stop crying. Some of my dance classes make me happy but as soon as they’re over and I’m alone again I’m just straight back to feeling awful. I wanted so long to move far away and go to a fancy private arts college. And now that I’m here I wish I knew the reality before spending all this money and uprooting my life. The fact that I’m already questioning if I can make it though 3 years of college is terrifying I feel like I’d let so many people down. And I don’t even want to leave necessarily but if I don’t get better there’s no way I could do months let alone more years of this.
Same i picked a uni across my country because i love its culture and their dialect. Online classes the whole one sem and Im very bad at keeping up with online classes. Keep missing assignments, im stressed, depressed and anxious :(
I'm a senior and I'm only now seeing this despite starting uni 4 years ago. I wish it was further up the UA-cam algorithm. There needs to be more videos like this for neurodivergent students and students with mental health disorders to not feel so isolated.
One of the most important documentaries out there. I dropped out of university due to bad mental health. I was my own worst enemy and I believe many more are to themselves. I had to get out the boxy flat I was staying in but with nothing to do in a new area, I would just spend money on needless food and random junk, plus drink way to much for some sort of fun. This also had really negative effects on my mental health. I am stronger than most and never considered suicide (luckily) but I dropped out and moved back home with my mother which was the best thing for me. As Amy said, sometimes you just need someone to take care of you for a while. I was scrambled and didn't want to talk or see anyone. Even seeing close friends made me feel embarrassed and shy. My mother being the way she is, forced me to get a part time job within about 2 months. Which was difficult for me at the start but helped me build myself back up. From then on I grafted and progressed to where I am today with a full time career and different qualifications on my way. Without University. I am very proud of myself. I am not 100% and never will be, but I'm okay with that and everyday I live and I learn. Even though I've always known this information. It's the first time I've written it down and shared it, But it feels good and I hope it encourages others to share their stories too. The message given in this video and the message I want to promote is: If you aren't feeling right, don't fight the feelings. I forced myself to stay in University longer than I should have and made myself worse and worse in the process. If its time to go home, do it. If its time to quit your job, do it. Sometimes a brief reminder that you can quit your job and get a new one reminds you of how nice and simple life can be.
I dropped out too due to bad mental health. Right now im home but really want to move out due to toxic family. I struggle alot with depression and sometimes suicidal thoughts ,but I hope everything will work out soon. One day at a time.
When I was a university ghost writer some of my clients were at breaking point just like the people in this video. I was glad that I was of some assistance to them during this period.
when I was at Lancaster University between 2003 and 2006 you didn’t even know what depression was. All you knew was you felt awful and didn’t know how to cope. The counsellors were sarcastic and there was very little or no support which led me to drop out of my course. This was the best thing! I’m now a successful violin teacher living in London and am back studying for a BA degree.
I went to uni in 2002 after a breakdown and being in hospital voluntarily for 2 months. I didn’t tell anyone about it but had a bad first year and almost got kicked off course. Then my dad died at end of first year after I scraped through. After that I got more support and managed to get a 2:1, but I still struggled but I’d rather that than just give in. Good luck everyone, I don’t know what support is like now.
I'm not self-diagnosing but i seriously think I have anxiety. Cause I overthink, get overly paranoid and doubt myself so much when it comes to academics. It gets overwhelming with all the assignments that I have to do.
I can't imagine what Amy must be going through, I hope she's getting all the help she needs and seeing a professional , sending love and prayers to all of these kids ❤
It already said that she has emotionally unstable disorder which is borderline personality disorder - rapid mood changes is a characteristic of bpd/eud as well
As someone who also suffers from BPD (what Amy suffers with) her moods were ‘normal’ for someone with BPD, I think that’s why I pushed for a mood stabiliser for so many years because I couldn’t cope with them anymore. It’s very similar in some ways to bipolar & I was told by a medical professional that many years ago before BPD was more well known it wasn’t uncommon for people to be diagnosed with bipolar instead. I’d also recommend a mood stabiliser if she feels it would help, i still suffer with my cycles as it were but nowhere near the degree I was all those years ago.
My experience of dealing with sht: Had depression for years, got through GCSE's with no revision or work not even last minute revision, just sat through lessons with my head in a blank space and this numb feeling all over pretty much hearing static and daydreaming into other worlds, but I still got good grades because I never found subjects difficult. Did A-Levels and my depression worsened and I just did not care at all, still attended but by then I just entirely shut down and was on auto-pilot, did the work talked as usual but my attention just wasn't there, it was as if I was locked in my thoughts and I genuinely didn't care whether I failed in the A-Level exams or not because I couldn't see myself living past that point in time, as expected I didn't do well in the exams although I still passed and met all the requirements I needed to attend the University course I had planned to attend since I decided on my career path when researching my GCSE options. Then I just took some time, just to think and relax and plan and focus on one thing. I focused on only one thing for months. I focused on myself and nothing else. The first year of university went by in a flash and I didn't get to do anything I planned to do but as soon as it ended, in the 6 months of break, I made my plans a reality, I was sick of living so I mended each aspect of my life slowly, one by one, piece by piece, starting with my thoughts, I kept my mind strong and my thoughts clear. As soon as a dark thought occurred I'd visualize that I had incinerated it, any self doubt and I'd tell myself that I know all the doubt is what's false, my strength is real, it is from those who love me and kept me going, and although I love them and they kept me here, I needed to do this for myself so I had to live for my own sake rather than will myself to continue for fear of letting down others. I was discontent with my very essence, who I was, so I reshaped myself, my personality, my emotional state, my health, my relationships, my mind, my will. I chose to burn away all the negative, any bad thought would be met with self-management, I'd imagine losing a finger or limb to make the thoughts dissappear, no more talking about myself or others aggressively or negatively. I calmed myself first and foremost my taking in and being there every waking moment rather than waking moving and fading back to sleep each day, I had to live each day to appreciate my self and my surroundings. I got a part-time job at a large shop, handling luggage, both the physical aspects and interacting with people from all over the world as I'm in central London, I began to control my health rather than leave it to chance, improving my levels of exercise and my diet by being intensely active for 4 hours a day, 5 days a week, 3 months and reducing my intake of unhealthy foods as well as my excessive portions of home meals while increasing my hydration. I had been thin in the first place but I had lost fat and gained muscle as well as tone so I felt much better physically. I could breathe as if it was for the first time. I took each and every moment to appreciate the beauty in everything around me, as if it was the first time I'd seen it all, trees, sunsets, animals, people smiling, helping customers and receiving their thanks for a genuine service made my day. After that I felt capable of trying to form fresh bonds with all of my close friends, I realized my friendships had become stale and rough and disconnected although I still saw them regularly, so I let them know about the changes I'd made to my way of being, and I let them know my feelings and thoughts and that I'd moved on from my past and I was now a new person, that I was sorry for all of my mistakes but that I had forgiven myself because I knew I was a new person, and I became the kind of friend that they would love, that mattered, I no longer felt left out despite being in their company and them trying hard to include me, I no longer had those thoughts to cloud my mind and hold me back, as people nowadays always want the perfect person to find them but they never try to be that person. I try to be myself now, because I'm a new person after going through all my these battles with my mind, I love my life and my self and my friends and family because I tried and fought so hard, my friends love me for me because now I know who I am, I don't have to pretend to be anything. I hope you can all do the same. Ps. My best advice would be to fight and never stop fighting for your own self. If you feel you need it, if you even can feel that dim lingering feeling of hope fading, never be afraid to get professional help. Whether or not others help you, the best person to fight against the dark and fight for a new day is you. So stay strong.
@@nvka1399 Great, best time of my life so far and I'm never going to allow it to fall down to how it used to be. We're all capable of achieving the things we dream if we struggle no matter how difficult it gets. I hope you have the same happiness!
this video needs to go viral. it is absolutely insane that we allow ourselves to get consumed by acedemia while letting it dictate our worth as a human being. fuck societal norms, fuck expectations from others. you don't need a college education to be classified as "credible" or "successful". do what makes YOU happy, because in the end, you are the only person who feels whats inside of you.
I have suffered too and i think something that keeps me going is the thought that in 10 years time i'm not going to care what my uni grades are, and also failure isn't that big of a deal.
I suffered terribly and wasn’t able to complete my degree. This was 15 years ago. I didn’t think anyone went through this too. I thought I was the only one. Felt like a failure since then.
At Sheffield University’s School of East Asian Studies you always hear stories of students getting bullied by lecturers off the courses because of mental health problems holding back their progress, happened to me recently, disgusting really
I relate to amy so much, some days I’m really good and Some days, I’m really bad to the point, I just found myself crying in the middle of the night, walking on campus and basically a lot . It hurts even more knowing that I’m trying and I have no one to talk to talk. And like Lauren, sometimes I wish I could just stop work and school altogether
Until today I thought I was just having a bad day or it was just a mood swing that was making me cry every other night. But now seeing Amy’s side of story I’ve realised that I have problem with my mental health and will definitely be seeking help from others.
I’m finishing my degree and I couldn’t happier. Not specifically because I’m gonna finally have my certificate, but because I’m not gonna have those mental breakdowns those people on the video are facing as well. It’s massive and I just feel like punching my teacher in the face every time I see them.
I’m 18 and I feel so much pressure to go to uni. By teachers, friends, family but by sixth form teachers mainly. If Im not doing school work at a current time then I hear voices of teachers in my head telling me I’m a useless human being who’s never going to achieve anything. teachers are making it seem like if I don’t go to uni then I won’t succeed. It got to a point when I was applying but deep down I really didn’t even know what I was doing. something needs to be sorted out because it’s so serious and people don’t realise how much pressure there really is.
God loves you!!! Jesus died for your sins so that you can be with him in heaven one day! Try Community college instead. Saves a tpn of money and preps you for college.
This is actually very hard for me to watch. The pressures of college got too much for me. This was me every day for an year until I completely broke. It was a very dark time in my life. My dad suffered with schizophrenia, so I feel hyper sensitive to mental illness. Thankfully, I got through and I came out with more understanding of what people go through and the pressures that are placed on us.
I am diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, anxiety and depression. I also have 3 children who I homeschool and I’m a full time college student. Life is hard. I hope everyone is doing well.
It's genuinly scary how many people are suffering from bad mental health at uni. most people I've known at uni have experienced some form of poor mental health and 3 friends have dropped out or taken years out because of it.
like amy, i also have been diagnosed with emotional unstable personality disorder... im crying because i know exactly what she's going through. managed to get a 2:1 at uni of liverpool, felt happy about my results, but then other things ruined my day, being emotionally unstable is a daily fight with your mind. i hope she's doing okay.
This journey is tough but I agree asking for help and working through with support is very important. Especially when you are having a mental health crisis.
Thank you for this BBC. My depression has been very difficult to manage at university and I've been rejected help by my doctor countless times as they just call me 'home sick'.
It's so sad to see how this affects people. It must be said that university is not for everyone. It shouldn't be the next pathway for people after college. It's academically challenging and that reflects the grades. There also needs to be a clearly defined line between sadness and depression. Though they are interlinked, depression is a serious cognitive and wellbeing concern. Whereas sadness is triggered by certain events. One should not study for the sake of studying, but through genuine interest. This furthers the cognitive stimulation and breeds hormones which reflect the students emotional state. Therefore if you're studying something you genuinely enjoy, results and your wellbeing will be reflected in the same positive manner. Depression needs to be in the spotlight to help these students in their current situation but also test students before going to university in order to assess whether they have the cognitive ability to cope with the demands of furthering their academic careers. Though much of these points are up for debate, it's crucial to understand another perspective which delves further than just pure emotions of an individual.
i relate to this so much. especially as a student in the US who is going to have a ridiculous amount of student debt. I haven't taken a semester off, including winters or summers, since I started almost two years ago. I'm so burnt out. I'm graduating a year and a half early but it's cost me so much. I related to the girl who said no one checks up on her. I'm there for everyone else but no one ever asks me how I am. it's a lonely life here.
210% increase in mental health in 5 years! The stress of degrees have exacerbated these individuals mental health that was there before they started uni. Surely they knew this? I hope they find peace in their lives
I got accepted last August in my dream university & It is considered as the top university for my dream course, which is Architecture (in my country. im not from US) and now, the pressure & the standard of being THAT student get into me bc i always feel like im not good enough or fast learner or even well prepared like my other classmates. this is my dream course ever since i was a kid. theres a part of me that wants to give up, but theres also a part of me to keep going, but the thing is, i feel like i still dont have that energy & support system to continue. im still not used to the big changes in my life as a college freshman & my mental health is at questionable state tbh (mental health is quite still considered as a taboo most especially to the parents, elders, etc here.) 😔😞
I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. I completely empathise with you - I'm in a similar situation myself. I advise that you talk to someone at your uni about the various options you may have - you could take a year out and hopefully come back to the course when you feel able to? Or maybe uni just isn't for you? There are so many amazing things you can do without a degree, so please realise that there's always another option. I know it's hard, but you still have at least two more years of uni left - it's likely that you'll get burnt out before the end of your course without the right help. In fact, it sounds like you might already be feeling burnt out... I realise that your family may not understand, but it's really important that you listen to your instincts. Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best xx
As a man who is 42 years old had mental health problems all my life, and trained in REBT therapy am a very brave person to speak out I'm in the first year second semester at Uni and it is not just the workload but up early hours, I feel pretty washed out after 100% attendance in the first. Waiting for grades on 2 assignments. Also having BPD and not always getting on with everyone on my course is a daily struggle.
I'm a 17 year old lad in my final year of A levels and im feeling increasing levels of sadness every day it feels like and I don't know if I have a mental illness or not. Like sometime I will use the word depressed and be partially serious but I tell myself I can't be actually depressed surely. Feel like lads can't tell others they are depressed because we live in a world where it's weird for lads to be "depressed" at this age.
In addition the fact that depression became a trend on Tumblr during 2014 makes others hesitant to believe people with actual mental health illnesses because they’re afraid that they’re doing it to follow the trend which makes these mental health illnesses misleading. We also still have a strong stigma against mental health due to generational beliefs and ignorance and lack of education on mental health that currently and definitely needs to be addressed, or our generation will face more problems with mental health, leading to increased suicide rates. I cannot count the amount of times my parents forced me to act normal once I was diagnosed with autism by healthcare professionals in year 5 because they were afraid of what society would say and they hated how I wasn’t normal and were afraid of how others would treat me. It’s cruel to see how society changes us as individuals and trivialises mental health. We do not need to be feeling this way at all, we all don’t deserve to have these issues and we should fix society now for future generations so that they never have to experience this.
As an international student I can vouch all that stress is real and it gets u. Now imagine all of that plus: being thousands of miles away from home, English not being your first language, struggling to make friends and many others more stuff. Bare in mind as well that most of have a COMPLETE different education background so coming here and adjusting to the education system is a whooole another struggle 😂. Honestly you guys are so fortunate to be home you have no idea.
When I failed my bacherol my college allowed me to start taking subjects of the master but I think that was the worst thing that ever happened to me. 2 years later I'm still nowhere close to finishing my master and I still don't even have a bacherol. My schedule is so packed (almost 50 ects in 1 semester) that I have to miss classes every week to attend other classes that overlap. I always come home late, and with the growing lack of motivation going to the classes in the morning is becoming a real struggle... I often see myself just hating myself for it. I tried to contact the mental health department of college 2 years ago but after all this time and their very sparsely booked appointments I feel no progress was made at all and I just wasted even more time. My therapist ended up getting pregnant and only warned me and cancelled my appointment on the day of the appointment I waited more than 2 months for... After wasting all this time I feel the responsibility more than ever to finish my study, yet I find it more and more impossible. All these failure happening also made a lot of people I considered close to ghost me which makes me even feel more alone in my struggle. I wish I was brave enough to have given up year ago. But now I really don't know if that is even an option anymore...
As a parent, this has been my main concern when it comes to education. Ive always strongly believed that education should be fluid, catering to diff needs n abilities of d students. Not d other way around. I had felt what stressful like in acing d paper-chase competition growing up. So i dont bother if any of my kids would opt for non-conventional (paper chase) edu path. Gonna support them!
University is not for everyone. It's a high pressure environment which is designed to teach you about time management and durability. Not everyone is suited and this should be reflected in a cognitive test before attending.
The Open University is a good option. You can work full time whilst studying, and thus not incur student debt. Also, it is well respected by employers as it shows individual commitment. The other point is that there is more flexibility in choosing courses as one does not need specific grades in particular subjects at A level.
Yes. I can definitely relate to this. I don't suffer as badly as them or have strong desires to kill myself but I can still relate. Sometimes I ask myself whats the point in even trying and sometimes I just think that the stuff i'm learning is useless. Sometimes I dread having to get on the bus in the morning for school and be around all these people. My social anxiety also makes school dreadful for me but i'm starting to slowly get away from feeling really anxious around people.
the workplace expectations got higher so universities give their students these horrible workload. realistically, in my place (i study in design school and i have no close friends in my major so i work alone most of the time), the students help each other or ask someone to help with their assignments
JaneMeadows TV I agree it’s shouldn’t be draining you if your struggling luckily I finished through the support of counselling my friends and course as they were very understand they should always be options or alternatives way if you can’t finish a degree or other means 👍🏻😭😊
it's more likely that they struggled to find male participants bc men tend to be more reluctant and ashamed to speak out about it which is why it's possibly even more important to encourage men to seek help
This is SO important. My personal story is very similar to Amy's. When you're in your first year, you just think you have to wear this brave front in order to get people to like you because you don't want to be seen as weak, but that's not the reality. After everything just reached it's lowest point last year, and I finally did begin to reach out and open up to people, was then finally the moment that my trust began to develop for the friends that I have know. This is SO important, my advice to anyone suffering at the moment at university is to talk to your tutor, talk to your lecturer, talk to someone on your course, put yourself out there, join a society, don't isolate yourself because you are suffering, people are alot less judgmental than you think, and honestly they are probably feeling like they need someone to talk too back
I'm doing my GCSEs right now and honestly its so hard i don't know what to do about it. Like i just can't understand any of it and i feel like everybody else does and i can't remember any of the work. I don't try in my homework, like i'll do it but not to a good standard because i don't see the point, the only thing my teachers care about are my exam results and its becoming way too overwhelming. The only exam i want to do well in is maths but my maths teacher only teaches us lower topics when we are supposed to be doing higher. I hate going to school, i dread it every morning and completing one day feels like an accomplishment. I don't want to go to Uni because i know how hard the work is going to be and i wouldn't be able to do it. Im just so fed up with school and the pressures of it.
It’s time to make a change. Don’t want to see more people dying. Schools need to realize how much stress they have put on students. It’s time for them to realize they might have done something wrong.
I'm a guy in final year computer science, nearing the end of the year, i've hardly done anything for my final year project because the topic is just too hard and too uninteresting for me to understand and be inspired by. I'm alone in lockdown, got no one i can see or meet. I have no idea how to make a passable project. My supervisor doesn't really understand my psychological struggles (isn't aware of them), and he asks me to meet with him and gives me artificial deadlines for things - both of which are major stressors for me. I'm naturally introverted and also don't deal with general stress well. I got bad feedback from my second marker on a presentation i gave a short while ago which i can't help but dwell on. I have zero emotional support from anyone, not even my family, and no friends either. Being a guy too, it's much harder to express that I'm struggling. Everyone seems blind to what these circumstances can do to someone like me, but I assure you, it makes me want little else than to just choose the easy way out...
@@OzozGaming It must be tough for people in first year having to work from home from the beginning, not even meeting any of your classmates properly or experiencing any normal university stuff. Think us 1st years and final year students have it worst, it's just unfortunate timing
@@OzozGaming I might not be able to help much over youtube but if you've got any question about java that i could reasonably answer, i'd try and help you. I did alot of Java back in first and second year
@@gordonfreeman5958 Thankyou soo much I appreciate your help 😊. Ok if im really stuck at some task ill let you know thankyou for your support my friend 😁
University is supposed to set you up for the real world. Yes you need support for mental health and it's best to get it early for those with recognised conditions, but although it may sound insensitive, for those saying they need someone to take care of them (Or implying anyone else should share responsibility for their mental health) They are setting themselves up to leave uni in to the real world completely unprepared for how harsh the professional jobs that many will be aiming for are going to be. There needs to be mental health support in university focused on preparing you for the far less empathetic world beyond the campus walls. Obviously I don't mean those with psychiatric conditions that require constant medication and monitoring but those with conditions where self help is effective.
I would suggest before you run off to uni you spend a couple of years finding out who you are really and working a few jobs. Uni will always be there. Way to many students end up in jobs they don’t do well. Kids today need to develop some mental toughness.
The help may be out there now, & I’m so glad that not only are things slowly improving in the mental health field, but these two really lovely young women got the help they truly deserved - & needed. However, it seems the news at the moment really wants to concentrate on helping the young within the mental health services, which I certainly have nothing against. But what about those who were young, & got forgotten about, & are now adults? What do I, & thousands of others do? We’re stuck in limbo. I had a mental health break down 3 months before my 21st birthday, I spent 7 very long years in the MH services & despite really fighting for any type of therapy, all doors were closed in my face. I eventually had no choice after those 7yrs (despite connecting with a few amazing occupational therapists who, at the very least, would be on the other end of the phone during a crisis, & would take me - someone who suffers with agoraphobia - out for a coffee once a month (it used to be a bit more frequent but due to financial cuts they couldn’t stretch themselves enough)) to leave the services. I was 1 of many ‘forgotten ones’ who was seen as ‘helpless’ because I didn’t fit into any of their category’s or slots. I just turned 32, & you do start to feel like you’re floating & not really existing. I was diagnosed with 2 genetic chronic disabilities 4 yrs ago, just before I left the MH Services, & the only thing that was offered to me at the time wasn’t within travelling distance since I don’t drive & I was already starting to suffer terribly with pain. Despite my numerous pleas of compromise they refused, & that left me on my own. I know I’m not the only one who has been abandoned by the services, & it’s so easy when you’re younger & have the support to say to let people in & just to talk; but when you’ve done exactly that on a repeated basis to professionals that are meant to help, support & guide you to better understanding your conditions / giving you the tools to deal with them, only for the financial cuts to step in & remove those trusted individuals from your care - you do start to clam up & become a bit closed off to others. I am genuinely happy these girls got the support though. It really warms my heart that they & others their age won’t have to go through what I & thousands of other men & women did when we were their age. Wishing them so much love & luck for the future ❤️ xxx
I've just started another semester at uni. 4 days in and I've already had two mental breakdowns and I am thinking about quitting. The week of classes hasn't even ended yet..
Lately seeing men being ignored is horrible and damn dangerous practice and seeing women all the time cry is nothing new but i want men in them and their struggle
Glad that your alive 2 I was in the same ⛵ as far as wanting to die, still do at times but someone out there will need to hear that their life is worth it 2 and you made a difference in his life. Keep it up.
I graduated uni with a degree and anxiety and depression. I didn’t sign up for the last two.
Smh
i know someone who committed suicide over their student loan debt.. here in US the system is broken
I developed anxiety right after entering college and I had to drop out I'm still dealing with it all now. Same year my doctor sit me down and say we going to get thru it together. The January next year I apply to uni and got in I seem to have developed depression also long with anxiety while in uni. But I'm on my last year at uni and im not scared to take time off anymore to mentally get myself settle. I take time off during the semester to mentally settle myself before jumping back into hard work again. My parents are slowly starting to understand how to help me and my friends are now fully aware of the signs of me becoming depressed or having anxiety attacks.
@@keishacharm5319 what were you anxious about?
@@infernogamers168 I honestly dont know what triggered it. I feel like it could have been a mixture of new environment and living up to others expectations.
After finishing school I’ve started to realize how miserable I was then. Mental breakdowns and lack of mental health support at schools are part of an epidemic ready to boil over. Thank you for doing this series.
That was the same with me!
All I felt was pain was my first semester of college,almost ended my life the next semester. School to me sometimes felt like I had to survive instead of it feeling like a community where I can learn and grow and be surrounded by people who care about me and want to see my succeed. School taught me lessons in ways that I thought wouldn't learn.
I had to quit uni for severe depression and anxiety. University is the worst place to be if you are suffering with your mental health. They don’t tell you this before you apply for uni, it’s not all fun and partying.
Katie M agreed!!!!
What are the bad things about it? I am suffering from depression and am applying to uni this year
University shouldn't be the norm for people to go to. Some people genuinely haven't got the cognitive ability to handle stress. It's not for everyone. There needs to be high pressure to get the best candidates through. People need to realise university isn't the be all. You can do things without a degree.
im a first year and my preexisting anxiety has been acting up, and im in the process of going to a psychiatrist to get an ADHD diagnosis that may have been overlooked in my childhood. yay me, my zero motivation, and anxiety attacks. :) i realized recently that uni is yet an other thing my dad forced on me. i was so glad to have gotten a scholarship, but ill most likekely loose it because of my horrible grades. im really thinking about taking a gap term or year. my dad is really against it, but what they dont understand that they couldve used it here in eastern europe during communism too. im sure there were fucked up things they did as young adults, to deal with everything. my mom had to leave her good-for-nothing cheating pig husband, move back to her parents, and care for her newborn all at the age of 24. Needless to say without professinal help she was depressed for months and went down to 46 kilos. and i think a lot of my mental health issues could descri e my dad too, he just ignores them and "perseveers". sorry for the long rant. point is, im a uni first year, unhappy, anxious and longoverdue for that damn assestment im getting rn.
I’m last year biomed and am considering dropping out because I can’t handle it anymore
Your life is way more valuable than a degree, you can always do your degree when you are more mentally ready for it, University is not a walk in the park and is extremely stressful especially if you are living away from home, always let the people who are around you know how you are feeling including the University itself.
Foxy Lady agreed!
So they can ignore u and u feel weak and stupid
faisalx1 If anybody makes you feel weak or stupid they aren't the best sort of people you want to have in your life, they obviously don't have your best interests at heart, don't let anybody make you feel worthless because your not at all.
Foxy Lady have you ever noticed cemeteries around or near campuses? I gave.
Antoinita Violette Can't say I have to be honest..
I dropped out of Oxford uni because of psychosis after just the first term. I felt like a failure for ages afterwards. 6 years later, numerous hospitalisations under my belt and intensive care in the community, I’m just starting year 4 of 6 of a part time degree with the Open University. I’m doing well, so far all firsts and 2:1s. Sometimes the traditional uni pathway isn’t suitable for people and I think schools need to highlight that more, as well as other options instead of uni.
Did you feel lost when dropping out of uni ?
I chose the Open University as well. I graduated and now I'm doing a Master's. I simply wasn't ready for higher education at 18, even though the pressure was on to go and have a great time, and the rest of it. At the end of the day, University is about learning and research, and sometimes the appetite and preparedness for all that can only come with being a little bit older. You can get formative experiences elsewhere. People really shouldn't be emotionally press ganged into going from one school to the next just because.
Sharms.K yes I did. Took me 3 years after dropping out to start at the open uni.
CRYPTO UK no. I have since been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder.
well after covid i realised that i’m much happier at home. i feel like shit here despite having the nicest studio.
I've struggled with anxiety and depression at university and am still struggling with it now. I urge anyone to seek help and stay OUT OF YOUR ROOM. Being alone with you're thoughts in a room 15 hours a day is an easy trap to fall into. I hope this one too helps someone.
Thanks, I'm currently in this period, I feel so lonely and dealing with this is not normal. The struggle is hard
What if you’ve got no friends...and have nowhere else to be expect your room?
@@tamak9415 Watch out - some generic advice is coming your way: 1 - Go to the library to work as this will get you out of your room and around people. 2 - Join a uni club which your interested in and hopefully make a friend!
I play games on my computer to forget about everything.
Where else should I go?
I’m studying Medicine so I will be at University for 5 maybe 6 years, wish me luck.
Best of luck!
Best of luck !
From Israel 👌
Same
Good luck man. be strong and listen your soul.
Goodluck and take care
Sick of young men being ignored and unrepresented in the media when it comes to mental health
i love your profile pic ~~love that song
I think men hardly talk about mental health issues, they probably declined to feature but I completely agree with you
Especially since the high suicide rate.
Zac D'santos women have a higher reported attempt rate because it's usually either crying for attention or failed attempts. Males tend to be more serious about it hence why the actual SUCCESS rate is higher due to the way society looks at men they tend to talk about it less and just build it up inside and just eventually want to stop the pain. 2 seconds later the shot rings out and another 6ft hole is dug while the crying family and friends wonder about it saying there were no signs he was like that.
Man up mate, come on. Should know by now.
There is too much pressure to go to university in the UK at 18. There needs to be more talks to students about apprenticeships, working holiday visas etc. Unless you absolutely need a degree, to become a doctor or a lawyer etc, there's no point getting stressed over a generic Marketing degree, getting into so much debt, when you could easily walk into a position without a degree. Young people NEED to learn independence as it's vital, but you can get this in other ways. A degree isn't everything.
So agree with this! I would definitely give my upmost support if my kids would like to take a year/2 or whenever they r ready mentally before joining d uni
I do agree that not everyone is suited for a white collar job, but education isn't just about job training, it's about developing critical thinking that helps you navigate through life. Unfortunately education is not free and even expensive in many countries, so people associate it with what high-paying job they can get with a degree instead of just gaining knowledge and wisdom. I think the economization of education is dehumanizing.
I agree that there is too much pressure to go to university but I don’t agree that some degrees are useless as the point of university isn’t just to get a job. It’s also about learning how to learn and self exploration.
I think we need a better definition of what a university is and to make it just an option, not something somebody should do or is pushed to do, but an option if they truly want to do it. We probably also need people who are able to advise what others should do to reach their goals. But the problem with this is that the advisers should be motivated to do so so they are of useful help.
Being in college and having a mental illness can feel so isolating. Most universities don’t understand the daily struggles living with a mental illness is like. Many times do not provide extensions not believing that mental illness is a not good enough excuse
Going through this now. So isolating especially when everyone is telling you it’s the best time of your life and just to have fun but some days you can’t leave your room at all and don’t speak to anyone.
If this doesn't show the seriousness of mental health in university I don't understand what will. I unfortunately wasn't able to finish uni due to how badly mine was getting. It got to a point I would get panic attacks on the way to lectures and turn home. So many things were wrong in my life and uni was a major reason for so much animosity towards myself! I hated myself for so long because I couldn't finish uni. But it's taken me 5 years to actually be okay with it and I hope everyone who is suffering from MH no matter how small/big it is all you should do is talk. Find someone anyone and just express how you feel. A lot of students bottle it all in and honestly that's what can destroy you
The challenging task of being human is to endure the possibility of failure.
I like this.
That hit me in the feels.
This hits hard. So many of my friends and people I know at uni have struggled due to the enormous social and work pressures university puts on students. Although I moved out of my parents' house, I honestly think that if I'd moved out of my home city and away from my supportive family I would not have survived to graduate.
It's a world where your mood bounces around with your current grade. Many will relate to these stories so I'm glad they've been told
I remember suffering terribly with depression and social anxiety in my first year. I opened up about my mental health and it was not taken seriously and was threatened to be kicked out for low attendance.
That is so sad. Hope you’re doing better today, and know you are worth getting help you need.
Why has the incidence of mental breakdowns in college gone up over 200%? Is the work harder? Is there more mental illness? Is more mental illness actually now being diagnosed?Is it harder for young people to cope than it used to be?
crystal perkins haha yes
I think social media plays a role. It never existed before. Even 10 years ago, social media was around but it wasn’t as big.
Young people's focus is scattered and fragmented due to the onslaught of information from the internet, flicking from social media to UA-cam constantly. Their brains aren't getting enough rest from this constant connectivity. The constant distraction and stimulation has an effect on a person's ability to concentrate and do deep learning. Not to mention all of the procrastination, lack of time management skills and the amount of time they waste online that they could be using for study. Also they have never been challenged like they are at university before in their entire lives. The internet is great but for a lot of people it is integrated so much into their lives and I think this takes a toll on people's mental health. Life used to be much simpler and more relaxed, just hanging out with friends in the real world without all of this bullshit.
It's possible that more people are reporting it in recent years as it is more widely spoken about. So it could be that more people are coming forward and not that the incidence has increased
I think life has gotten a lot more complex. Certainly compared to the baby boomers time, these days theres no job security, banks keep pouring all these different percentages down our mouthes, finances and phone bills, Uni debt, social media has had a big, big effect, theres a lack of privacy with cctv everywhere, fines for the smallest things, and everyone is only one wageslip away from being in poverty.
Life these days is moving at such a faster pace since the wartime. And on top of all that we went through the worst recession Britain had ever seen while we were coming of age.
It's not that we're sensitive lol, we're being overloaded and held to ransom by all these complexities.
Thank you for including me in this - I really enjoyed helping contributing
never been to uni but college was one of the worst times of my life. Not worth the hassle x
This is why I left university after five months it got too much. Best decision I've made
Yumi Chan u will regret that desicion later in life tho
faisalx1 fuck off u can have a good life without a degree
@@michaelaburke3096 how? I mean other then apprenticeships in random stuff like plumbing there r literallyy no other options it seems, i heard coding bootcamps r good but idk bout those ppl say wont end up in a job from those ://
Literally less than a month ago I was planning my own death. I was convinced that there was literally no other option for me and that ultimately it would be inevitable. Of course this was my depressive mind tricking me into believing these things. But it felt so real and so true. Uni of course didn't help at all. Lonely and isolating I had no friends to reach out and just talk to because at my uni I knew no one. The support system in uni is abysmal and I really feel like they could care less about their students. I'm glad I'm out of that state of mind for now. But I know that at some point I will feel this way again. I dont think that my uni will be helpful in anyway at providing support.
Same here and the therapists at u I are racist and making me feel guilty for even being in uni lmao
I am not a uni student, but a secondary. It’s not as important but the education itself makes me want to kill myself, I got an insane amount of Maths homework, 5 large activities with 4 days to complete, so far I’ve cried, got angry, had a panic attack and wanted to harm myself...
See if you can get an extention and talk to a trusted adult about time management skills. Not patronising you, just trying to offer helpful advice. Good luck!
Please talk to your head of year, the last thing your teachers want is for you to feel overwhelmed (trust me im a teacher). They can get you support
GCSEs are getting harder every year. If you feel like that you need to talk to someone cause even I was stressed when I did mine and mine were from the previous reform so they weren't as hard as yours. Just speak to someone tell them how your feeling
Ik it’s hard but remember these hard times will pass, stay strong, you can do it.
Me too pissed off with this stupid system
I’m in college paying 35k a year at a performing arts school, 2000 miles away from my family and I hate everything.
I had this vision that once I got to college I would finally be happy, and wouldn’t have to deal with being upset like I was in high school. I thought making a bunch of friends and exploring new places would help me get through even if I did ever have depressing thoughts.
I was so wrong, it’s week 6 and I have basically no friends. I get along with people and my roommate and I are generally close but nothing compared to any of my prior friendships from before college. I couldn’t even go to any of my classes yesterday because I couldn’t stop crying.
Some of my dance classes make me happy but as soon as they’re over and I’m alone again I’m just straight back to feeling awful. I wanted so long to move far away and go to a fancy private arts college. And now that I’m here I wish I knew the reality before spending all this money and uprooting my life. The fact that I’m already questioning if I can make it though 3 years of college is terrifying I feel like I’d let so many people down. And I don’t even want to leave necessarily but if I don’t get better there’s no way I could do months let alone more years of this.
Same i picked a uni across my country because i love its culture and their dialect. Online classes the whole one sem and Im very bad at keeping up with online classes. Keep missing assignments, im stressed, depressed and anxious :(
I'm a senior and I'm only now seeing this despite starting uni 4 years ago. I wish it was further up the UA-cam algorithm. There needs to be more videos like this for neurodivergent students and students with mental health disorders to not feel so isolated.
Going through this
Fatimah Conteh ❤️
Stay strong hun.
me too...
how have you been lately
This documentary speaks to me like nothing else before. I am happy to know that both these girl are alive, it gives me hope
One of the most important documentaries out there.
I dropped out of university due to bad mental health. I was my own worst enemy and I believe many more are to themselves. I had to get out the boxy flat I was staying in but with nothing to do in a new area, I would just spend money on needless food and random junk, plus drink way to much for some sort of fun. This also had really negative effects on my mental health. I am stronger than most and never considered suicide (luckily) but I dropped out and moved back home with my mother which was the best thing for me. As Amy said, sometimes you just need someone to take care of you for a while. I was scrambled and didn't want to talk or see anyone. Even seeing close friends made me feel embarrassed and shy. My mother being the way she is, forced me to get a part time job within about 2 months. Which was difficult for me at the start but helped me build myself back up. From then on I grafted and progressed to where I am today with a full time career and different qualifications on my way. Without University. I am very proud of myself.
I am not 100% and never will be, but I'm okay with that and everyday I live and I learn. Even though I've always known this information. It's the first time I've written it down and shared it, But it feels good and I hope it encourages others to share their stories too.
The message given in this video and the message I want to promote is: If you aren't feeling right, don't fight the feelings. I forced myself to stay in University longer than I should have and made myself worse and worse in the process. If its time to go home, do it. If its time to quit your job, do it. Sometimes a brief reminder that you can quit your job and get a new one reminds you of how nice and simple life can be.
Dan Rich stay strong 🖤 well done
I dropped out too due to bad mental health. Right now im home but really want to move out due to toxic family. I struggle alot with depression and sometimes suicidal thoughts ,but I hope everything will work out soon. One day at a time.
Well said, boi 🥺
When I was a university ghost writer some of my clients were at breaking point just like the people in this video. I was glad that I was of some assistance to them during this period.
when I was at Lancaster University between 2003 and 2006 you didn’t even know what depression was. All you knew was you felt awful and didn’t know how to cope. The counsellors were sarcastic and there was very little or no support which led me to drop out of my course. This was the best thing! I’m now a successful violin teacher living in London and am back studying for a BA degree.
I'm going to be going there in October, hopefully support has improved since then.
Amy I appreciate you being so honest.
I went to uni in 2002 after a breakdown and being in hospital voluntarily for 2 months. I didn’t tell anyone about it but had a bad first year and almost got kicked off course. Then my dad died at end of first year after I scraped through. After that I got more support and managed to get a 2:1, but I still struggled but I’d rather that than just give in. Good luck everyone, I don’t know what support is like now.
prayers and good wishes for all students including myself on this journey.
I'm not self-diagnosing but i seriously think I have anxiety. Cause I overthink, get overly paranoid and doubt myself so much when it comes to academics. It gets overwhelming with all the assignments that I have to do.
I can't imagine what Amy must be going through, I hope she's getting all the help she needs and seeing a professional , sending love and prayers to all of these kids ❤
Amy seems to be rapid cycling. She should get checked for bipolar. I have it and a mood stabilizer might really help her out ❤️⚓️
It is quite common with her disorder I believe
It already said that she has emotionally unstable disorder which is borderline personality disorder - rapid mood changes is a characteristic of bpd/eud as well
As someone who also suffers from BPD (what Amy suffers with) her moods were ‘normal’ for someone with BPD, I think that’s why I pushed for a mood stabiliser for so many years because I couldn’t cope with them anymore. It’s very similar in some ways to bipolar & I was told by a medical professional that many years ago before BPD was more well known it wasn’t uncommon for people to be diagnosed with bipolar instead.
I’d also recommend a mood stabiliser if she feels it would help, i still suffer with my cycles as it were but nowhere near the degree I was all those years ago.
*Full attention on girls problems. Zero focus on male struggles.*
My experience of dealing with sht:
Had depression for years, got through GCSE's with no revision or work not even last minute revision, just sat through lessons with my head in a blank space and this numb feeling all over pretty much hearing static and daydreaming into other worlds, but I still got good grades because I never found subjects difficult. Did A-Levels and my depression worsened and I just did not care at all, still attended but by then I just entirely shut down and was on auto-pilot, did the work talked as usual but my attention just wasn't there, it was as if I was locked in my thoughts and I genuinely didn't care whether I failed in the A-Level exams or not because I couldn't see myself living past that point in time, as expected I didn't do well in the exams although I still passed and met all the requirements I needed to attend the University course I had planned to attend since I decided on my career path when researching my GCSE options. Then I just took some time, just to think and relax and plan and focus on one thing. I focused on only one thing for months. I focused on myself and nothing else. The first year of university went by in a flash and I didn't get to do anything I planned to do but as soon as it ended, in the 6 months of break, I made my plans a reality, I was sick of living so I mended each aspect of my life slowly, one by one, piece by piece, starting with my thoughts, I kept my mind strong and my thoughts clear. As soon as a dark thought occurred I'd visualize that I had incinerated it, any self doubt and I'd tell myself that I know all the doubt is what's false, my strength is real, it is from those who love me and kept me going, and although I love them and they kept me here, I needed to do this for myself so I had to live for my own sake rather than will myself to continue for fear of letting down others. I was discontent with my very essence, who I was, so I reshaped myself, my personality, my emotional state, my health, my relationships, my mind, my will. I chose to burn away all the negative, any bad thought would be met with self-management, I'd imagine losing a finger or limb to make the thoughts dissappear, no more talking about myself or others aggressively or negatively. I calmed myself first and foremost my taking in and being there every waking moment rather than waking moving and fading back to sleep each day, I had to live each day to appreciate my self and my surroundings. I got a part-time job at a large shop, handling luggage, both the physical aspects and interacting with people from all over the world as I'm in central London, I began to control my health rather than leave it to chance, improving my levels of exercise and my diet by being intensely active for 4 hours a day, 5 days a week, 3 months and reducing my intake of unhealthy foods as well as my excessive portions of home meals while increasing my hydration. I had been thin in the first place but I had lost fat and gained muscle as well as tone so I felt much better physically. I could breathe as if it was for the first time. I took each and every moment to appreciate the beauty in everything around me, as if it was the first time I'd seen it all, trees, sunsets, animals, people smiling, helping customers and receiving their thanks for a genuine service made my day. After that I felt capable of trying to form fresh bonds with all of my close friends, I realized my friendships had become stale and rough and disconnected although I still saw them regularly, so I let them know about the changes I'd made to my way of being, and I let them know my feelings and thoughts and that I'd moved on from my past and I was now a new person, that I was sorry for all of my mistakes but that I had forgiven myself because I knew I was a new person, and I became the kind of friend that they would love, that mattered, I no longer felt left out despite being in their company and them trying hard to include me, I no longer had those thoughts to cloud my mind and hold me back, as people nowadays always want the perfect person to find them but they never try to be that person. I try to be myself now, because I'm a new person after going through all my these battles with my mind, I love my life and my self and my friends and family because I tried and fought so hard, my friends love me for me because now I know who I am, I don't have to pretend to be anything. I hope you can all do the same.
Ps. My best advice would be to fight and never stop fighting for your own self. If you feel you need it, if you even can feel that dim lingering feeling of hope fading, never be afraid to get professional help.
Whether or not others help you, the best person to fight against the dark and fight for a new day is you. So stay strong.
How are you doing now?
@@nvka1399 Great, best time of my life so far and I'm never going to allow it to fall down to how it used to be. We're all capable of achieving the things we dream if we struggle no matter how difficult it gets. I hope you have the same happiness!
+Trafalgar Law good to hear your uni experience hasnt been tainted by your depression during school. Know too many people who cannot say the same x
This comment needs more attention, its really uplifting.
Yasin Miah I just read ur comment and I loved it so much😭😭Do u have insta??
this video needs to go viral. it is absolutely insane that we allow ourselves to get consumed by acedemia while letting it dictate our worth as a human being. fuck societal norms, fuck expectations from others. you don't need a college education to be classified as "credible" or "successful". do what makes YOU happy, because in the end, you are the only person who feels whats inside of you.
I have suffered too and i think something that keeps me going is the thought that in 10 years time i'm not going to care what my uni grades are, and also failure isn't that big of a deal.
I suffered terribly and wasn’t able to complete my degree. This was 15 years ago. I didn’t think anyone went through this too. I thought I was the only one. Felt like a failure since then.
At Sheffield University’s School of East Asian Studies you always hear stories of students getting bullied by lecturers off the courses because of mental health problems holding back their progress, happened to me recently, disgusting really
I relate to amy so much, some days I’m really good and Some days, I’m really bad to the point, I just found myself crying in the middle of the night, walking on campus and basically a lot . It hurts even more knowing that I’m trying and I have no one to talk to talk.
And like Lauren, sometimes I wish I could just stop work and school altogether
Until today I thought I was just having a bad day or it was just a mood swing that was making me cry every other night. But now seeing Amy’s side of story I’ve realised that I have problem with my mental health and will definitely be seeking help from others.
I’m finishing my degree and I couldn’t happier. Not specifically because I’m gonna finally have my certificate, but because I’m not gonna have those mental breakdowns those people on the video are facing as well. It’s massive and I just feel like punching my teacher in the face every time I see them.
I feel them. I'm a first year student too. Everyday is hard..
Lehua Kono no it's not lol first year is banter
I’m 18 and I feel so much pressure to go to uni. By teachers, friends, family but by sixth form teachers mainly. If Im not doing school work at a current time then I hear voices of teachers in my head telling me I’m a useless human being who’s never going to achieve anything.
teachers are making it seem like if I don’t go to uni then I won’t succeed. It got to a point when I was applying but deep down I really didn’t even know what I was doing. something needs to be sorted out because it’s so serious and people don’t realise how much pressure there really is.
God loves you!!! Jesus died for your sins so that you can be with him in heaven one day! Try Community college instead. Saves a tpn of money and preps you for college.
This is actually very hard for me to watch. The pressures of college got too much for me. This was me every day for an year until I completely broke. It was a very dark time in my life. My dad suffered with schizophrenia, so I feel hyper sensitive to mental illness. Thankfully, I got through and I came out with more understanding of what people go through and the pressures that are placed on us.
I am diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder, anxiety and depression. I also have 3 children who I homeschool and I’m a full time college student. Life is hard. I hope everyone is doing well.
Hey, sorry to hear you’re having a challenging time. I hope things get better for you❤️
@@Amin-cr1jc thank you!!
It's genuinly scary how many people are suffering from bad mental health at uni. most people I've known at uni have experienced some form of poor mental health and 3 friends have dropped out or taken years out because of it.
@Speaking Truth less dem@nding than easy to copy, basic questions exams highschool with repititive schedules? Lmao
like amy, i also have been diagnosed with emotional unstable personality disorder... im crying because i know exactly what she's going through. managed to get a 2:1 at uni of liverpool, felt happy about my results, but then other things ruined my day, being emotionally unstable is a daily fight with your mind. i hope she's doing okay.
This journey is tough but I agree asking for help and working through with support is very important. Especially when you are having a mental health crisis.
I'm so glad they both got through it!
Knowing that 18 years of school didn't do me any good, I should've NOT entered university AT ALL.
Thank you for this BBC. My depression has been very difficult to manage at university and I've been rejected help by my doctor countless times as they just call me 'home sick'.
It's so sad to see how this affects people. It must be said that university is not for everyone. It shouldn't be the next pathway for people after college. It's academically challenging and that reflects the grades. There also needs to be a clearly defined line between sadness and depression. Though they are interlinked, depression is a serious cognitive and wellbeing concern. Whereas sadness is triggered by certain events. One should not study for the sake of studying, but through genuine interest. This furthers the cognitive stimulation and breeds hormones which reflect the students emotional state. Therefore if you're studying something you genuinely enjoy, results and your wellbeing will be reflected in the same positive manner.
Depression needs to be in the spotlight to help these students in their current situation but also test students before going to university in order to assess whether they have the cognitive ability to cope with the demands of furthering their academic careers.
Though much of these points are up for debate, it's crucial to understand another perspective which delves further than just pure emotions of an individual.
I,m like them,I understand
There needs to be workshops or social level talks at Universities about mental health. It would help so many people get through different stages.
i relate to this so much. especially as a student in the US who is going to have a ridiculous amount of student debt. I haven't taken a semester off, including winters or summers, since I started almost two years ago. I'm so burnt out. I'm graduating a year and a half early but it's cost me so much. I related to the girl who said no one checks up on her. I'm there for everyone else but no one ever asks me how I am. it's a lonely life here.
Uni can be tough. Self love and time for rest is as cruical as the work we do
bruh life is too short to be stressing yourself out like this, this take a step back, chill and compose yourself again
210% increase in mental health in 5 years! The stress of degrees have exacerbated these individuals mental health that was there before they started uni.
Surely they knew this?
I hope they find peace in their lives
I got accepted last August in my dream university & It is considered as the top university for my dream course, which is Architecture (in my country. im not from US) and now, the pressure & the standard of being THAT student get into me bc i always feel like im not good enough or fast learner or even well prepared like my other classmates. this is my dream course ever since i was a kid. theres a part of me that wants to give up, but theres also a part of me to keep going, but the thing is, i feel like i still dont have that energy & support system to continue. im still not used to the big changes in my life as a college freshman & my mental health is at questionable state tbh (mental health is quite still considered as a taboo most especially to the parents, elders, etc here.) 😔😞
I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this. I completely empathise with you - I'm in a similar situation myself. I advise that you talk to someone at your uni about the various options you may have - you could take a year out and hopefully come back to the course when you feel able to? Or maybe uni just isn't for you? There are so many amazing things you can do without a degree, so please realise that there's always another option. I know it's hard, but you still have at least two more years of uni left - it's likely that you'll get burnt out before the end of your course without the right help. In fact, it sounds like you might already be feeling burnt out... I realise that your family may not understand, but it's really important that you listen to your instincts. Whatever you decide, I wish you all the best xx
what uni?
As a man who is 42 years old had mental health problems all my life, and trained in REBT therapy am a very brave person to speak out I'm in the first year second semester at Uni and it is not just the workload but up early hours, I feel pretty washed out after 100% attendance in the first. Waiting for grades on 2 assignments. Also having BPD and not always getting on with everyone on my course is a daily struggle.
I'm a 17 year old lad in my final year of A levels and im feeling increasing levels of sadness every day it feels like and I don't know if I have a mental illness or not. Like sometime I will use the word depressed and be partially serious but I tell myself I can't be actually depressed surely. Feel like lads can't tell others they are depressed because we live in a world where it's weird for lads to be "depressed" at this age.
In addition the fact that depression became a trend on Tumblr during 2014 makes others hesitant to believe people with actual mental health illnesses because they’re afraid that they’re doing it to follow the trend which makes these mental health illnesses misleading. We also still have a strong stigma against mental health due to generational beliefs and ignorance and lack of education on mental health that currently and definitely needs to be addressed, or our generation will face more problems with mental health, leading to increased suicide rates. I cannot count the amount of times my parents forced me to act normal once I was diagnosed with autism by healthcare professionals in year 5 because they were afraid of what society would say and they hated how I wasn’t normal and were afraid of how others would treat me. It’s cruel to see how society changes us as individuals and trivialises mental health. We do not need to be feeling this way at all, we all don’t deserve to have these issues and we should fix society now for future generations so that they never have to experience this.
this is so heartbreaking to watch
All universities care about is making money from us students. They see us as cash cows, not as human beings. No second chances. I'm so fed up.
I feel anxious just from watching this
It’s so sad that how much I relate them and how less I know what to do with it..
As an international student I can vouch all that stress is real and it gets u. Now imagine all of that plus: being thousands of miles away from home, English not being your first language, struggling to make friends and many others more stuff. Bare in mind as well that most of have a COMPLETE different education background so coming here and adjusting to the education system is a whooole another struggle 😂.
Honestly you guys are so fortunate to be home you have no idea.
Literally in my first month of uni and I can already relate.
When I failed my bacherol my college allowed me to start taking subjects of the master but I think that was the worst thing that ever happened to me. 2 years later I'm still nowhere close to finishing my master and I still don't even have a bacherol. My schedule is so packed (almost 50 ects in 1 semester) that I have to miss classes every week to attend other classes that overlap. I always come home late, and with the growing lack of motivation going to the classes in the morning is becoming a real struggle... I often see myself just hating myself for it. I tried to contact the mental health department of college 2 years ago but after all this time and their very sparsely booked appointments I feel no progress was made at all and I just wasted even more time. My therapist ended up getting pregnant and only warned me and cancelled my appointment on the day of the appointment I waited more than 2 months for... After wasting all this time I feel the responsibility more than ever to finish my study, yet I find it more and more impossible. All these failure happening also made a lot of people I considered close to ghost me which makes me even feel more alone in my struggle. I wish I was brave enough to have given up year ago. But now I really don't know if that is even an option anymore...
Wow, when Amy got out of the hospital, she was completely ignored by everyone in her home. They talked to her like they were at the office.
As a parent, this has been my main concern when it comes to education. Ive always strongly believed that education should be fluid, catering to diff needs n abilities of d students. Not d other way around. I had felt what stressful like in acing d paper-chase competition growing up. So i dont bother if any of my kids would opt for non-conventional (paper chase) edu path. Gonna support them!
University is not for everyone. It's a high pressure environment which is designed to teach you about time management and durability. Not everyone is suited and this should be reflected in a cognitive test before attending.
i fr fr think i have what amy has. im exactly like her
The Open University is a good option. You can work full time whilst studying, and thus not incur student debt. Also, it is well respected by employers as it shows individual commitment. The other point is that there is more flexibility in choosing courses as one does not need specific grades in particular subjects at A level.
My social anxiety made college the hardest years of my life :( i regret it every day
Yes. I can definitely relate to this. I don't suffer as badly as them or have strong desires to kill myself but I can still relate. Sometimes I ask myself whats the point in even trying and sometimes I just think that the stuff i'm learning is useless. Sometimes I dread having to get on the bus in the morning for school and be around all these people. My social anxiety also makes school dreadful for me but i'm starting to slowly get away from feeling really anxious around people.
I relate with Amy so much the mood swings from very happy to very sad
the workplace expectations got higher so universities give their students these horrible workload. realistically, in my place (i study in design school and i have no close friends in my major so i work alone most of the time), the students help each other or ask someone to help with their assignments
This is so sad. Uni is supposed to be fun.
@Shane Jordan had to move into halls because home life was to bad
Shane Jordan 😢
JaneMeadows TV I agree it’s shouldn’t be draining you if your struggling luckily I finished through the support of counselling my friends and course as they were very understand they should always be options or alternatives way if you can’t finish a degree or other means 👍🏻😭😊
Uni is meant to be about education. Yeah you can have fun, but it's not "meant to be fun"
@Shane Jordan thanks hard times always young and stressed story of most lives
It’s called borderline personality disorder not “emotionally unstable personality disorder”
Once again young men are ignored, nobody cares about us
we care, stay strong
it's more likely that they struggled to find male participants bc men tend to be more reluctant and ashamed to speak out about it which is why it's possibly even more important to encourage men to seek help
you are not alone
bella broughton I doubt they even tried,it fits the bbc 3 narrative more if there’s 2 vulnerable girls
@@tenfold2395 interestingly you're simply making assumptions to fit your own narrative you have no idea of their intentions
College is already a huge pain in the ass. There is a reason why I refuse to spend money on university.
Thank you!
This is SO important. My personal story is very similar to Amy's. When you're in your first year, you just think you have to wear this brave front in order to get people to like you because you don't want to be seen as weak, but that's not the reality. After everything just reached it's lowest point last year, and I finally did begin to reach out and open up to people, was then finally the moment that my trust began to develop for the friends that I have know. This is SO important, my advice to anyone suffering at the moment at university is to talk to your tutor, talk to your lecturer, talk to someone on your course, put yourself out there, join a society, don't isolate yourself because you are suffering, people are alot less judgmental than you think, and honestly they are probably feeling like they need someone to talk too back
I hate when people use having a mental breakdown as some sort of relatable joke when it’s serious and this is it....
I'm doing my GCSEs right now and honestly its so hard i don't know what to do about it. Like i just can't understand any of it and i feel like everybody else does and i can't remember any of the work. I don't try in my homework, like i'll do it but not to a good standard because i don't see the point, the only thing my teachers care about are my exam results and its becoming way too overwhelming. The only exam i want to do well in is maths but my maths teacher only teaches us lower topics when we are supposed to be doing higher. I hate going to school, i dread it every morning and completing one day feels like an accomplishment. I don't want to go to Uni because i know how hard the work is going to be and i wouldn't be able to do it. Im just so fed up with school and the pressures of it.
These are some incredible people
God bless you Lauren and love you from the bottom of my heart
I understand you but you should be stronger and you are strong
Love you so much ❤️
It’s time to make a change. Don’t want to see more people dying. Schools need to realize how much stress they have put on students. It’s time for them to realize they might have done something wrong.
I'm a guy in final year computer science, nearing the end of the year, i've hardly done anything for my final year project because the topic is just too hard and too uninteresting for me to understand and be inspired by.
I'm alone in lockdown, got no one i can see or meet. I have no idea how to make a passable project. My supervisor doesn't really understand my psychological struggles (isn't aware of them), and he asks me to meet with him and gives me artificial deadlines for things - both of which are major stressors for me.
I'm naturally introverted and also don't deal with general stress well. I got bad feedback from my second marker on a presentation i gave a short while ago which i can't help but dwell on. I have zero emotional support from anyone, not even my family, and no friends either.
Being a guy too, it's much harder to express that I'm struggling. Everyone seems blind to what these circumstances can do to someone like me, but I assure you, it makes me want little else than to just choose the easy way out...
Same here I am in my 2nd semester 1st yr doing computer science and im really struggling with Java 😓
@@OzozGaming It must be tough for people in first year having to work from home from the beginning, not even meeting any of your classmates properly or experiencing any normal university stuff. Think us 1st years and final year students have it worst, it's just unfortunate timing
@@OzozGaming I might not be able to help much over youtube but if you've got any question about java that i could reasonably answer, i'd try and help you. I did alot of Java back in first and second year
@@gordonfreeman5958 yh it is tough for me because it has kind of affected my mental well being but yh i guess its part of life now with this pandemic
@@gordonfreeman5958 Thankyou soo much I appreciate your help 😊.
Ok if im really stuck at some task ill let you know thankyou for your support my friend 😁
University is supposed to set you up for the real world. Yes you need support for mental health and it's best to get it early for those with recognised conditions, but although it may sound insensitive, for those saying they need someone to take care of them (Or implying anyone else should share responsibility for their mental health) They are setting themselves up to leave uni in to the real world completely unprepared for how harsh the professional jobs that many will be aiming for are going to be. There needs to be mental health support in university focused on preparing you for the far less empathetic world beyond the campus walls. Obviously I don't mean those with psychiatric conditions that require constant medication and monitoring but those with conditions where self help is effective.
School doesn't teach you meantally, emotionally, spiritually stuff.
Mabhe psysically but still only history and work till your 65
I would suggest before you run off to uni you spend a couple of years finding out who you are really and working a few jobs. Uni will always be there. Way to many students end up in jobs they don’t do well. Kids today need to develop some mental toughness.
The help may be out there now, & I’m so glad that not only are things slowly improving in the mental health field, but these two really lovely young women got the help they truly deserved - & needed.
However, it seems the news at the moment really wants to concentrate on helping the young within the mental health services, which I certainly have nothing against. But what about those who were young, & got forgotten about, & are now adults? What do I, & thousands of others do? We’re stuck in limbo. I had a mental health break down 3 months before my 21st birthday, I spent 7 very long years in the MH services & despite really fighting for any type of therapy, all doors were closed in my face. I eventually had no choice after those 7yrs (despite connecting with a few amazing occupational therapists who, at the very least, would be on the other end of the phone during a crisis, & would take me - someone who suffers with agoraphobia - out for a coffee once a month (it used to be a bit more frequent but due to financial cuts they couldn’t stretch themselves enough)) to leave the services. I was 1 of many ‘forgotten ones’ who was seen as ‘helpless’ because I didn’t fit into any of their category’s or slots.
I just turned 32, & you do start to feel like you’re floating & not really existing. I was diagnosed with 2 genetic chronic disabilities 4 yrs ago, just before I left the MH Services, & the only thing that was offered to me at the time wasn’t within travelling distance since I don’t drive & I was already starting to suffer terribly with pain. Despite my numerous pleas of compromise they refused, & that left me on my own. I know I’m not the only one who has been abandoned by the services, & it’s so easy when you’re younger & have the support to say to let people in & just to talk; but when you’ve done exactly that on a repeated basis to professionals that are meant to help, support & guide you to better understanding your conditions / giving you the tools to deal with them, only for the financial cuts to step in & remove those trusted individuals from your care - you do start to clam up & become a bit closed off to others.
I am genuinely happy these girls got the support though. It really warms my heart that they & others their age won’t have to go through what I & thousands of other men & women did when we were their age. Wishing them so much love & luck for the future ❤️ xxx
So Scary that mental heath so high so hard the end only do your best I find Semesters also .
I've just started another semester at uni. 4 days in and I've already had two mental breakdowns and I am thinking about quitting. The week of classes hasn't even ended yet..
Lately seeing men being ignored is horrible and damn dangerous practice and seeing women all the time cry is nothing new but i want men in them and their struggle
Glad that your alive 2 I was in the same ⛵ as far as wanting to die, still do at times but someone out there will need to hear that their life is worth it 2 and you made a difference in his life. Keep it up.