I am not a wife to anybody *right now, but* when I *do* get married, I want to -respect my husband -be open to receiving and sharing when he leads -support him and trust him, while trusting in God -be forgiving Nice tips, Mark! Thanks!
I love my wife so much she shows me everyday that she loves me even when we are arguing i am truly a blessed man it has made me come closer to Jesus she helped me save my soul and now i lead her in worship and she see me as a strong loving leader
Colossians 3:18 KJV - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. The "as is fit in the Lord" part gets left out of some bibles. I only mention this because some husband's use this verse to "make their wives submit" even if what their husbands are asking is sinful. God has called all of us to submit to Him and for marriage to be a physical representation of that submission. Great video! Just wanted to add that. 😊
Wonderful advise! Great advise for us singles to prepare us for marriage and for those who are married to remind them how to be a better spouse. Awesome!
Mark, thank you for this wonderful reminder. You helped to show me that my little criticisms every now and then of how my husband handled this or that can actually hurt his leadership skills as head of our family. In my mind, I'm always trying to help him, but I'm sure more often than not, it comes across in a belittling way. I don't ever want to hurt him and through watching this, I realized that I need to change the way I handle the times when he falls short (as I'm sure I do daily!) Thank you so much! I'm a new subscriber and have found a lot of beautiful wisdom on your channel. May God continue to bless you and your family!
Amen RN Mom! So glad you found this channel and it is helpful to you. There's a time for a wife to share concerns and a time to just offer grace. No marriage is perfect but when both can be honest and gracious it can be a healthy relationship. Thanks for sharing:)
You have to guard your heart, but if repents and is seeking change then you can open up more to him. Never follow him into sin but you can always try to be a great Christian example to him
That was the situation with my now ex husband. If I ever get involved with anyone else, I’m hoping not to make the same mistakes. My ex was never repentant 😢
I'm really going through something with my wife but it has to do with one thing u were saying receiving my love but its not her fault it's the medication she is taking and it has made me feel loss and worthless. And especially my self-esteem is so low I feel like why me.
BIG Amen and Amen. All glory to our awesome God and Saviour Jesus Christ. This was extremely encouraging. Thank you. May our loving God and Saviour Jesus Christ bless you and your wife and continue to use you for his awesome glory. ✝️ You have a new subscriber.
Ohh here we go today the Lord be using this channel SPECIFICALLY about my "CURRENT DEVELOPING COURTSHIP " that has been in the works for YEARS. I believe this is finally the season we are both more full and mature enough to endeavor this journey in Christ. @5:07 TALKS ABOUT BEING VULNERABLE😲🤧 and I notice his questions always pulls any covers in my life,mask WITHOUT exploit. I'm like "how does he do that"?!! Firstly as you quoted Mark, He was the ONLY guy on the PLANET I willingly RESPECTED,💯,in word and deed.without any type of relationship I admired ,well,ALL OF HIS STRENGTH. awwwe😍😍. it WITNESS to me on a personal level Gods faithfulness also. when it's God,im learning it's ALL GOOD.
Good video I think it was Angelina Jolie in an interview that said a life of service is an important life to live. Can you do a video on ways a husband should love his wife?
Sadly my husband is selfish and doesn’t care about my well being. He takes everyone and everything over me. He’s told me I don’t need to worry about my future or having a home because I’ll probably end up in a nursing home anyway.
My husband and I struggle with our flesh we are recovering drug addicts and at this time we are not members of any church,I think that would be something that we would not need to share as we live in a small city that is riddled with drug addiction as well as satanists n cults ,we really need prayer to be able to move as my son from my x husband is coming to live with us and I really want to be on the same page as my husband and be one before my ( our) son ,Any suggestions?
What happens when you’re with a man - he says he’s a Christian & after 4 years of following him you realise he’s going nowhere. He’s barely Godly, he doesn’t provide for or serve you. He doesn’t create an emotionally safe environment for you. He questions your loyalty, accusing you of cheating. You’re always reassuring HIM. He cries so much more than you do… what do you do then? When his behaviour is not Godly pretty much at all. Truly, tell me, how long should a wife (3 years into her walk with Christ) wait until she realises she needs to leave otherwise the partner she’s with is going to cripple her severely… Please help me.
Lord almighty, in accordance with this word and ephesians 5:23-33, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind myself to love and respect my godly husband the best way I can, while binding myself not being unequally yoked and have any common share with any man that does not deserve my respect and love, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
Well said, indeed! May we Christian women (potential wives) receive this godly advice with grace & recognize the biblical spiritual wisdom therein. Mark, Question for ya: How do you recognize a man who says he's Christian, but turns out not to be (or not to be committed) at all? Are there other hints other than their fruit? Does the lack thereof mean that he's kind of just going through the motions (which sometimes happens for a season to committed Christians) or should you think twice about being yoked with someone who seems so spiritually immature (even though we're all immature in some way or another)? Oopsi... that's a few Q's rolled into one! Thanks so much, my brother! 💖🙏👍
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger , thanks so much! Cannot wait to view it! May God Almighty continue to to bless you, your family & your ministry!👍🏿🇨🇦💖
This is my question Submit is to be obedient is it ? Should wives be obedient all the time even when the husband is hurtful towards others ?isn’t it our job to quote the Bible and say they r wrong or just be obedient n go with the flow and witness them being disrespectful and hurtful towards the community and the church ?
I personally don’t agree with the message that a wife must submit, and submission. I think people should live how they want, men should not be pressured to be strong and women should not be pressured in to being vulnerable and available. People should be loving because they are good people with kind hearts and love because that’s what kind people do. Not for some powerful being. But keep doing what you want and following what you want. Just be accepting and love each other
Then you have no clue what God meant when he said, "the two shall become one flesh." Why get married at all if you are not willing to do what God has said? Marriage is about far more than your selfish inclination to just get your needs met in this life. Please read THE BIBLICAL TEACHING ON DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE, by Leslie (a man)McFall. It'll give you the real deal on what marriage is and what it is not.
I just want to love Jesus for what he came to this Earth for ( to die for the sins of the world) but I hate the rest of the Bible. Jesus said “if you love me you’ll keep my commandments” so you have to be submissive just to love Jesus?! I can’t stand it. It makes me not want to be a Christian and that really hurts because I love Christ with my HEART!
Oh and I have no more desire whatsoever to try to convince this man to be a man after God's heart. The Holy Spirit can work on This man. As far as me? I could do better but but I'm just waiting for Christ to come back because I have no more desire for anything in this world.
How does a good Christian husband show his wife too? I'm curious is a good Christian husband one who drinks? Is he 1 who hides money from his wife?? Is a good Christian husband a man who doesn't stand up to his children but allows them to disrespect his wi'm the disrespect his wife to the degree that it is abusive and criminal? On both sides? Isn't a good Christian husband supposed to be the head of the family as Christ is the head of the church?? Isn't he supposed to put his life in front of hers? I'm no longer a Christian if I had to put my faith which I have not lost but gained much more of I have to put it in a Box?? I would have to say messianic Is Jew here. My Christian husband who I met at church and married because cause the Holy Spirit led me to marry him not because I wanted to... Has turned into an alcoholic lush Who used to be a federal police officer Our life that was nice has now become miserable Maybe you should be teaching the men how to be men and how She pray in faith to the one creator of the universe in all of his forms and Act like a leader instead of hiding in a car I'm telling you these are the last days because seeing a man who is supposed to be the head of the family let all of it fall on the head of his wife is a sick man indeed. My Faith is with my Father in heaven and always will be. Shalom
It doesn’t sound like your husband is a Christian. I’m sorry about your situation. The Holy Spirit would NEVER have led you to someone to be unequally yoked. Satan sure would though. That’s why the Bible says “test the Spirits”. Now what you need to do is pray God will save your husband and in the meantime you be a Godly wife, a good role model and example…that will help encourage your husband. God can do anything…just believe. He made the world and everything in it, in 7 days…you think He can’t change your situation? He can! Just ask Him, He’s amazing ❤
I am not a wife to anybody *right now, but* when I *do* get married, I want to
-respect my husband
-be open to receiving and sharing when he leads
-support him and trust him, while trusting in God
-be forgiving
Nice tips, Mark! Thanks!
I love my wife so much she shows me everyday that she loves me even when we are arguing i am truly a blessed man it has made me come closer to Jesus she helped me save my soul and now i lead her in worship and she see me as a strong loving leader
Colossians 3:18 KJV - Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord. The "as is fit in the Lord" part gets left out of some bibles. I only mention this because some husband's use this verse to "make their wives submit" even if what their husbands are asking is sinful. God has called all of us to submit to Him and for marriage to be a physical representation of that submission. Great video! Just wanted to add that. 😊
So true, a wife must never follower her husband into sin. No Christian should follow anyone into sin no matter what position they are in. Great point.
Exactly.
Thank you for bringing this out. ❤
Wonderful advise! Great advise for us singles to prepare us for marriage and for those who are married to remind them how to be a better spouse. Awesome!
👍
Hey brother I’ve been listening to your channel for a while I learned a lot. I know some people that really need to hear this
Mark, thank you for this wonderful reminder. You helped to show me that my little criticisms every now and then of how my husband handled this or that can actually hurt his leadership skills as head of our family. In my mind, I'm always trying to help him, but I'm sure more often than not, it comes across in a belittling way. I don't ever want to hurt him and through watching this, I realized that I need to change the way I handle the times when he falls short (as I'm sure I do daily!) Thank you so much! I'm a new subscriber and have found a lot of beautiful wisdom on your channel. May God continue to bless you and your family!
Amen RN Mom! So glad you found this channel and it is helpful to you. There's a time for a wife to share concerns and a time to just offer grace. No marriage is perfect but when both can be honest and gracious it can be a healthy relationship. Thanks for sharing:)
Thank God I came across this video today. It healed me. God bless you
This was perfect and right on time!! God bless you
God bless you too
How do you do #2 (support him) if he’s proven he’s untrustworthy and has let you down many times and disappointed you?
You have to guard your heart, but if repents and is seeking change then you can open up more to him. Never follow him into sin but you can always try to be a great Christian example to him
That was the situation with my now ex husband. If I ever get involved with anyone else, I’m hoping not to make the same mistakes. My ex was never repentant 😢
Saad Bin Masud
Mistakes happen, but repentance is key.
And he clearly had no repentance in his heart for the things he did
@Saad Bin Masud very forgiving of you
thank you.... This is wha i am looking for .. in a biblical way.
You broke this down really well. Thanks!
Great advice! Still have to learn a lot after 11 years of marriage.
My wife is a command freak. I have difficulty dealing with that at times.
Thanks 😊 Mark. I really appreciate 🙏this message. I need this honestly. I am just on d verge ...
How does a good Christian husband love his wife? ☺
As Christ loved the church.
@Tyler Gibson Amen brother !
Beautifully said!!
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I'm really going through something with my wife but it has to do with one thing u were saying receiving my love but its not her fault it's the medication she is taking and it has made me feel loss and worthless. And especially my self-esteem is so low I feel like why me.
Sad
I need this,thank you.
BIG Amen and Amen. All glory to our awesome God and Saviour Jesus Christ. This was extremely encouraging. Thank you. May our loving God and Saviour Jesus Christ bless you and your wife and continue to use you for his awesome glory. ✝️
You have a new subscriber.
Very practical and clear advice! Thank you very much!
My pleasure!
Thanks mark ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽
Extremely helpful
First video I've watched of yours. I'm a subscriber now. Anything for a husband?
Ohh here we go today the Lord be using this channel SPECIFICALLY about my "CURRENT DEVELOPING COURTSHIP " that has been in the works for YEARS. I believe this is finally the season we are both more full and mature enough to endeavor this journey in Christ.
@5:07 TALKS ABOUT BEING VULNERABLE😲🤧 and I notice his questions always pulls any covers in my life,mask WITHOUT exploit. I'm like "how does he do that"?!!
Firstly as you quoted Mark, He was the ONLY guy on the PLANET I willingly RESPECTED,💯,in word and deed.without any type of relationship I admired ,well,ALL OF HIS STRENGTH. awwwe😍😍.
it WITNESS to me on a personal level Gods faithfulness also. when it's God,im learning it's ALL GOOD.
👍
Thank you for this
Love it ❤
God bless!
I agree with most of that
Good video I think it was Angelina Jolie in an interview that said a life of service is an important life to live. Can you do a video on ways a husband should love his wife?
Sure, here it is :) ua-cam.com/video/jy6IXvZ5ddo/v-deo.html
Amen
🙏🏾
Thanks
Good advice, So will you make a video for men to follow as well?
So bless , thank you 🙏🏼
My pleasure!
in sync.... can be as open as possible with him, trust him as Jesus .....is very important
Sadly my husband is selfish and doesn’t care about my well being. He takes everyone and everything over me. He’s told me I don’t need to worry about my future or having a home because I’ll probably end up in a nursing home anyway.
The Church that I go to streems the service live. If anyone wants to watch its called New Covenant Chaple Elba NY.
My husband and I struggle with our flesh we are recovering drug addicts and at this time we are not members of any church,I think that would be something that we would not need to share as we live in a small city that is riddled with drug addiction as well as satanists n cults ,we really need prayer to be able to move as my son from my x husband is coming to live with us and I really want to be on the same page as my husband and be one before my ( our) son ,Any suggestions?
Gofd bless you!
Thank you.
My pleasure!
I love your #4
What happens when you’re with a man - he says he’s a Christian & after 4 years of following him you realise he’s going nowhere. He’s barely Godly, he doesn’t provide for or serve you. He doesn’t create an emotionally safe environment for you. He questions your loyalty, accusing you of cheating. You’re always reassuring HIM. He cries so much more than you do… what do you do then? When his behaviour is not Godly pretty much at all.
Truly, tell me, how long should a wife (3 years into her walk with Christ) wait until she realises she needs to leave otherwise the partner she’s with is going to cripple her severely…
Please help me.
thanks for this vid, hw abt loving the father of ur own baby who is not your husband?..
How do you handle a spouse who takes the grace given for granted?! I mean always... Please advice.
Perhaps this will help applygodsword.com/why-wont-god-fix-my-marriage/
applygodsword.com/what-does-the-bible-say-about-forgiveness-and-reconciliation/
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger Thanks!!
Lord almighty, in accordance with this word and ephesians 5:23-33, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind myself to love and respect my godly husband the best way I can, while binding myself not being unequally yoked and have any common share with any man that does not deserve my respect and love, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
@5:32 yeah that’s me too 🥺 i wish i was better
Well said, indeed! May we Christian women (potential wives) receive this godly advice with grace & recognize the biblical spiritual wisdom therein. Mark, Question for ya: How do you recognize a man who says he's Christian, but turns out not to be (or not to be committed) at all? Are there other hints other than their fruit? Does the lack thereof mean that he's kind of just going through the motions (which sometimes happens for a season to committed Christians) or should you think twice about being yoked with someone who seems so spiritually immature (even though we're all immature in some way or another)? Oopsi... that's a few Q's rolled into one! Thanks so much, my brother! 💖🙏👍
I think this video will help answer these questions ua-cam.com/video/XRJ-7CPnLns/v-deo.html
ApplyGodsWord.com/Mark Ballenger , thanks so much! Cannot wait to view it! May God Almighty continue to to bless you, your family & your ministry!👍🏿🇨🇦💖
Yr chuckle 🤔😁😂
This is my question
Submit is to be obedient is it ?
Should wives be obedient all the time even when the husband is hurtful towards others ?isn’t it our job to quote the Bible and say they r wrong or just be obedient n go with the flow and witness them being disrespectful and hurtful towards the community and the church ?
I personally don’t agree with the message that a wife must submit, and submission. I think people should live how they want, men should not be pressured to be strong and women should not be pressured in to being vulnerable and available. People should be loving because they are good people with kind hearts and love because that’s what kind people do. Not for some powerful being. But keep doing what you want and following what you want. Just be accepting and love each other
Then you have no clue what God meant when he said, "the two shall become one flesh." Why get married at all if you are not willing to do what God has said? Marriage is about far more than your selfish inclination to just get your needs met in this life. Please read THE BIBLICAL TEACHING ON DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE, by Leslie (a man)McFall. It'll give you the real deal on what marriage is and what it is not.
I agree. Both respect each other and work together in godly way. Pray together and work together.
No matter how hard i try its not enough for him.then why is that?
Sorry can’t listen to after 45 years of lies and cheating being left alone. I’m having trouble now at the end of life respecting him
idk why im watching this im lez LMAOO
I just want to love Jesus for what he came to this Earth for ( to die for the sins of the world) but I hate the rest of the Bible. Jesus said “if you love me you’ll keep my commandments” so you have to be submissive just to love Jesus?! I can’t stand it. It makes me not want to be a Christian and that really hurts because I love Christ with my HEART!
Oh and I have no more desire whatsoever to try to convince this man to be a man after God's heart.
The Holy Spirit can work on This man. As far as me? I could do better but but I'm just waiting for Christ to come back because I have no more desire for anything in this world.
How does a good Christian husband show his wife too?
I'm curious is a good Christian husband one who drinks? Is he 1 who hides money from his wife?? Is a good Christian husband a man who doesn't stand up to his children but allows them to disrespect his wi'm the disrespect his wife to the degree that it is abusive and criminal? On both sides?
Isn't a good Christian husband supposed to be the head of the family as Christ is the head of the church?? Isn't he supposed to put his life in front of hers?
I'm no longer a Christian if I had to put my faith which I have not lost but gained much more of I have to put it in a Box?? I would have to say messianic Is Jew here.
My Christian husband who I met at church and married because cause the Holy Spirit led me to marry him not because I wanted to... Has turned into an alcoholic lush Who used to be a federal police officer
Our life that was nice has now become miserable
Maybe you should be teaching the men how to be men and how She pray in faith to the one creator of the universe in all of his forms and Act like a leader instead of hiding in a car
I'm telling you these are the last days because seeing a man who is supposed to be the head of the family let all of it fall on the head of his wife is a sick man indeed.
My Faith is with my Father in heaven and always will be.
Shalom
It doesn’t sound like your husband is a Christian. I’m sorry about your situation. The Holy Spirit would NEVER have led you to someone to be unequally yoked. Satan sure would though. That’s why the Bible says “test the Spirits”. Now what you need to do is pray God will save your husband and in the meantime you be a Godly wife, a good role model and example…that will help encourage your husband.
God can do anything…just believe. He made the world and everything in it, in 7 days…you think He can’t change your situation? He can! Just ask Him, He’s amazing ❤
You make a lot of videos but is your wife in any of them if not why not
She's quite busy and we have different gifts, mine is teaching :) But yes, here are some videos with her: ua-cam.com/video/W0kCZrrD7mY/v-deo.html
The guy and I respect each other as equal human beings. Neither of us leads or follows. We walk side by side and support each other.
Are you a Christian ?
@@bluemeadows7520 He is. I used to be.
My lord and my God with is the son of God die not the father