Well, when it's adhd and you basically have 35 TVs on in your head at once or you're hyperfixated on one little thing for 6 hours, either way, people who don't understand are terrible at trying to help And school, might as well be teaching abacus in computer classes. Slow moving cargo ships, they are.
So many times we find out something later in life, and it’s frustrating to realize that if we had only known that when we were kids, things would have been very different. We weren’t just “hyper”, or “disruptive” as we found out later (or too late), and we didn’t suck at school or sports because we were “lazy”. I found out not that long ago that even though I’m right-handed, I’m left eye dominant, so I can’t aim or line things up worth a crap because I should be doing them left-handed. Can you imagine telling someone that when you started school back in the 70’s? They’d smile benignly, and make a note in your “file”. I stumbled on to your channel accidentally, and subsequently Rhett’s. I’m getting a lot out of your content, even in my mid fifties. I’ve decided I need to practice and play when the mood strikes, and some other things need to just wait. The fact that I DIDN’T do that when I was younger sometimes weighs on me, but that’s all done with. May as well make some noise while I have the chance. Thanks to both of you.
About to retire Physics teacher here. Can’t tell you how frustrating it is to read your story. I have run across many students like you and I’ve always felt so bad. Not because I thought I failed them as a teacher, but because the system just didn’t allow time for me to work with them… to help them find something they could become passionate about... to adjust my curriculum to find something in my subject they could relate to. Thanks for telling this story and I hope every kid (and teacher) gets a chance to hear it.
I feel bad for people who have the heart for teaching but whose hands are tied by "the system". Both of my sons have ADD and even elementary school was not at all helpful, so we home-schooled them all the way thru high-school, tweaking the schedule and curriculum to fit their abilities. After high school we had them take one semester of college just to validate their education. Both got all A's and promptly quit. My older son has a near photo-graphic memory and is now a Master Sergeant in the Air Force. My younger son is extremely hands-on mechanical and at a fairly young age is pipe-fitter general foreman - the first class in the apprenticeship program was trigonometry. He saw the value in the career opportunity and Aced that class and the next 9 semesters.
Doesn't the fact that you wish you could help such students show that our western form of 'Education' lacks the intelligence of allowing staff and students to discover exactly what Rhett discovered. i.e. Instead of forced education fitting people for the capitalist system. People are unique individuals with unique personalities and interests. Those characteristics are not always served by a set curriculum.
Rhett, I feel like driving to Georgia and giving you a hug. My son is a musician, successful at that, and he is your astral twin. Like your dad, i supported my son and ive never looked back. The greatest day of my life was spending my entire raise from work to buy him a Korg Triton Extreme. Good for you. You serve society by ROCKIN! Thanks for the transparency. We would all be nearly worthless without music and musicians. I love your channel. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for sharing, its good to know there are others out there. It helps me to help my young son go his own way even though its an accepted path in the Asian society
I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until I was an adult. Back in the late 70’s early 80’s I was repeatedly told that I was just lazy. I luckily found computer programming in college which worked well with my ADHD. I have found a huge percentage of the people I work with in the software industry also have ADHD and a lot of them are also musicians as am I.
Same here. The difference between my grades in elementary/middle/high school versus college once I found programming was night and day. Have now had a nice 27 year career writing code and now managing a team. I definitely still struggled at times, which is why I was eventually diagnosed in my early 30's. Learning strategies to work with the ADHD instead of against it helped me tremendously. When you can harness the hyper focused side of ADHD, it's like a super power for slinging code and making music.
@@JeffsBassment I've still not been diagnosed but I'm entirely sure I have adhd. I found drugs at 18 and embraced it fully pot then speed then E interspersed with occasional psychedelics. Acid and Mushrooms. I ended up in mental hospital 2 times. The first time I was discharged on crazy Anti-psychotics. I was a complete zombie. I got back into speed to combat the massive central nervous system suppressive just to feel alive for a few hours. Massive depression followed again and psychotic depression this time. I ended up in mental hospital again and eventually ended up getting a course of ECT. It wiped my memory and rebooted my brain and it gave me 3 months or so of a break from the habitual thoughts of depression. I applied to Uni to finish my computing degree from Mental Hospital and I was accepted back. 2 years later I had a BSC in Computing. I've had a great career since then. I was global lead developer for a fortune 500 oil company. From the depths of human suffering to the heights of as successful career. All throughout this my guitar playing was a constant. I've played since I was 11 and I always played with people. Playing with people stretches you every time. You learn and you hear new things. Played in a few bands and played out a few times. Now I'm older and still play but my passion has burnt down a bit but I still play every other day. I think I'd like to find a Jam group to play with. I feel you. Keep going. You are awesome. Luv and Peace.
@@ianedmonds9191 Dude, that's a hell of an experience. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I definitely struggled with some mental issues throughout life. Depression/bi-polar issues run in my family. And I know all about self-medicating. I found weed at 13 and speed at 16 and, like you, it made me feel normal. But it's easy to abuse and I luckily I was able to get away from it. I still enjoy an herbal supplement every so often though :) Definitely find a group to jam with, my friend. It brings so much peace and joy to make music with others.
Your story is so similar to my own I have Asperger’s so school was extremely hard, and my dad told me the same sentiment of not getting me a guitar. My mom decided to go against his judgement and gave me a squier strat starter pack for Christmas 2013 and I’ve never looked back. My band released our first full length album last year and we’re going on tour this summer! Have a great day, week, and year Rhett. Loving your videos as always
I'm an electrical engineer and my 15 year old son is experiencing what you have gone thru. Thanks for giving me his side of the story. To me you are a success in every sense of the word. Keep the videos going and I'll keep watching Rhett. All the best from Toronto, Canada.
Brutally open and honest. I'm 57 and from the UK. Reminds me entirely of my experience with education. Always the same comments at the end of the school year " Never let's things sink in, could and should do better" Our education system never understood, or recognised, what learning difficulties were. Thanks for being so open, and, like you, my only interest that completely took me to my place was music.
You're not alone, my man. The good side to this is that not only do we have many more resources to deal with it now, but because our brains are wired differently, we can do things that other people can't. Keep doing what you do, man. Keep being awesome.
It's hard many days, but I'm really proud of how our brains are different. It has absolutely played a critical role in accelerating my career in the creative world. Thinking a million miles a minute really helps in creative careers.
I don't know of Rhett's parents read these comments, but if they are: you did a tremendous job raising an immensely talented son and should be very proud! Which I am sure you are. :)
They do and they have replied to some of the comments. Thank you from a retired guy, volunteer morning crossing guard (the most joyful, fun, blessed gig ever!) and Friday morning ALP Math assistant, providing plausible deniability after the teacher told me to "teach it the way you learned it." Fortunately I escaped before Dad's struggle with helping my brother through "New Math." Dad asked me during the past ten years before he passed on, "Do they still teach New Math?" Answer: "Yes, but it's a New Math every several years, to provide a market for the publishers."
This video is a Redemption Song, Rhett. How many kids are out there who never connected with that ONE THING that lit them up? How many grown-ups; old broken down humans who've never answered the question of what they, specifically, are good for? It's so sad. And it's so beautiful that you know how close you came to a life without magic. And that you're looking through the camera from your side, hoping to find others and pull them through to the world you've found. Lead the way, Young Brother.
I've never related so hard to a story. Even in the early 2000's resources for ADHD were scarce. I lost count of the breakdowns and amount of self hate for not being able to learn like a "normal" student. Guitar was/is/will always be my way out. Even as an adult, "normal" jobs terrify me. Every time I embrace music, it embraces back. So that's what I'll stick with 🎸
Now we really undestand what "Remember there is no plan B" means! The best channel on youtube andit is a important video to everyone who loves music but sometimes get frustrated by something that is far away "harder" than what you passed.
I can relate. Didn't get diagnosed until my late 40's. Mental health was stigmatized back then. I am now a teacher who works with kids that have learning disabilities. The system is still broken but I'll go to my grave trying to help these kids. Everybody learns differently. Accept it.
It’s interesting how similar our stories are. Our stories diverge after high school where I turned to the military because my guitar wasn’t going to do it. I’m out and now have a 9-5 that I hate. I have been going to school for Audio Production and I’m on my way to opening a small studio to support local artists. Thank for sharing this story, what an inspiration!
12:14 I literary heard that sentence a million times and thought the same thing - if these are my best years, then I'm screwed haha. High school was no picnic, hated most of it, especially a couple of teachers who just had bad pedagogy. Really did a number on my self-confidence, but as you said, I'm grateful even for the bad moments. It made me develop a thicker skin and that helps when dealing with haters on UA-cam. Nothing feels better than finding something that you're really passionate about, especially if you can make a living off of that, but even if you can't, it's important to have a hobby where you can relax and lay off some steam. Thanks for sharing your story, sorry for the longer comment :)
It's so cool that you found your path and your place Rhett. I myself am autistic and was totally rejected by other children. Thanks to guitar and music, I managed to improve my communication and social skills and I also found my way. (-: All the best Rhett. Mordi
I have a 9yo little sister who struggles at school, she hasn’t been diagnosed with ADHD but she’s had some kind of special treatment from her teachers. Due to a legal situation our parents are going through, sometimes I have to act like a parent for her and I have to admit I’ve been pretty rough when helping with school. Thank you Rhett for sharing your experience with us, as I now understand how frustrating it must be for her too and I’m not helping at all. Keep rocking man, don’t stop sharing with the world!
Rhett… you are describing my daughter. To a tee. She is you. It’s been a very difficult process, but she is about to graduate from HS. I’ve been a ultra conventional parent dealing with a special kid. I hope she like you finds her “thing” in life like you did with guitar. I have shed many tears in this process. I love her so much. For the longest time I have felt her struggles were my fault. I have and still am working through it all. This video has more value then any guitar video you have ever posted. Don’t get me wrong I am a sub and I get all updates. I am a truly appreciative follower, but this story is a bigger blessing than any of your musical offerings. What you did today gave me hope.
Her struggles aren’t your fault, as someone that can relate to her experience all I can tell you is to give her the space and support she needs to find her thing and thrive in it, even if it doesn’t make much sense to you.
Agreed with mama W…. Hang in there. Don’t give up hope. Give yourself and your daughter some grace and with time you’ll find her true gifts and talents. Nurture them. Her success may not be your original view of success. But you may just be surprised that their success will be better than anything you could have ever hoped or planned for!
"There's no plan B," takes on a much deeper meaning. Thank you for sharing this. You have inspired a lot of people to simply push forward and try. Thank you.
You have no idea how many musicians (millions I'm sure) can relate to your story of music and their formative school years. Thanks for telling your story.
I'm 73 years old. My parents bought my first guitar when I was 14. Three months layer, I played my first paid gig. They never complained and always encouraged me. They gave me a gift that has given me joy and lasted a lifetime. Play on...keep up the good work!
Rhett, You will probably never know how many young people you have helped by putting this out. Kudos to you buddy! BTW, my perception of you has always been that you are an intelligent and very capable musician.
I don’t know what prompted you to tell your story but you have really elevated the form here. This is one of the most honest, thoughtful and straightforward videos I’ve ever watched on YT and it includes so much in terms of explaining your unique drive to become what you are today, while touching on universal truths about creative people and finding a good path in life.
Wow your story is close to mine Rhett. Im 68 and my pop was a doctor. Back then the teachers just labeled me hyper active. Thanks for sharing this. Love your channel and musicianship!
Wish that all the kids out there like us would come across this video and stop feeling bad about themselves. We're all different. Everyone excels in some area, yet so many of us are held to a high standard of performance in subjects and activities that are completely contrary our personalities. Posting this thoughtful message demonstrates that your talents also extend beyond music, Rhett!
I’ve been a juvenile probation officer for 24 years and I work every day with kids struggling to feel connected to their school. The perseverance you showed can be an example to them about how to find your passion, your worth, your own way. Our schools can be brutal for those who learn differently, but who are brilliantly original. Our teachers aren’t able to reward uniqueness easily. Thankfully, you had caring parents who were patient and you had economic stability which a lot of kids don’t have. I will use your example with teens I work with to show them they can overcome learning difficulties and bad grades and they can be themselves and discover what is meaningful to them over time. Thanks for being so honest!
As an educator, I have to say that school cannot be everything to everyone, but I can understand where you are coming from about your education. Personally, I had a few teachers who made a profound impact on me, but didn't realize the full impact until I had grown up a little more. Today, I have a son with some pretty profound special needs and I am amazed by the teachers and staff at his school. I appreciate your story, makes me think back to my aunt giving me The Wall and Animals on vinyl when I was about 12 or so :) The same aunt also gave me my first transistor radio, first boom box, and first two hand-me-down stereo systems. And then the Christmas when I got my first kinda-nice guitar from my incredible grandparents. Have a great day, Rhett.
Rhett, I'm 70 years old and I'm addicted to your channel. I'm always waiting for your new videos and usually watch each of them numerous times. Thank you! I really loved this one!! I consider you a friend, and enjoy learning about what makes you who you are. Keep up the great work!
All parents must take the time to watch this heartfelt piece with their children. But this comes from someone who didn't get past Plane Geometry in junior high and who stood by helplessly as his father smashed to smithereens his Mexico-made (they weren't any good back then) "Western" (acoustic) guitar on the dresser that left a deep gouge in my heart. Seriously though, I appreciate the passion and commitment you bring to the art.
Wow, I have Adhd as an adult as well and guitar is the only thing that I’ve ever been able to keep my undivided attention on. You inspire me more than any other UA-camr I’ve watched so thank you for that.
As the parent of a 19 year-old dyslexic, I can't thank you enough for posting this Rick. Our son's grade 1 teacher said: "Oh, give him ritalin, and he'll learn to read.". We declined to put a healthy, otherwise-happy six year old kid on drugs and sent him to a special school that uses the Slingerland Multisensory Method instead. He's now a freshman in college.
Your story sounds almost exactly like mine, except I was in high school from 1969-1973, and I didn’t do sports. My parents’ attitudes were the same as yours. My first guitar was a Stella Harmony that I still have, I bought it myself from money earned mowing lawns. At age 12. I did end up in a boring, dead-end job, got married, raised 3 kids, and now, nearing age 66, I’m retired and finally pursuing my dream of being a professional musician. I’m writing and recording songs, and creating orchestral pieces that I hope will eventually get into film and tv. Thank you for sharing your story. You just gave hope to kids everywhere who don’t fit in.
Man, Rhett, you just described my young life in the late 80’s. I dropped out my senior year badly behind. In my early 20’s, I took my GED and aced it... so then I went to college... same thing, Dropped out and just couldn’t do it. I found out after that, that I had ADHD. It just wasn’t a thing and I was considered a troubled kid. Pure hell in my head. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m a local musician in Destin, FL now. We all know now, eh? Cheers bro. I’m a big fan. 😇 Wow... same sports experience too! Wow! I’M NOT ALOOOONE!! Lol I don’t wish that on anyone so I’m sorry you had to suffer it too. Music saved me literally... Amazing...
Hey man. Great video. I’ve two autistic kids. I have a strong suspicion I’m on the spectrum myself. I’m very familiar with ADHD too. We really need to learn to understand and react correctly to neuro diversity as a society on the whole. (I’m in Ireland by the way) it’s funny how music and creativity can make sense to neuro diverse people in general. Both my kids have a massive affinity with music. There’s something primal about it. It’s really great that people like yourself with the audience you have make videos like this. It can only help to de-mistify it. Love all your work dude. Up there with the best guitar channels out there. You’ve really found your own thing. Thx for making this video. On behalf of my kids!!!
Dude, you are a GREAT person for posting this! This takes so much courage, to tell your story with such honesty, to admit to all your flaws and not apologize for them. So many of us have gone through similar things, and it's never easy. I've got a few years on you, but I went through it too--all the doubts, the struggles with school, not understanding why I couldn't "get it," at least for a while. But this is just so important, to know that someone like you, who is looked up to by many, persevered and found out who he was through dedication to what he is passionate about. Honestly, man, thank you for this. You're just awesome. I wish you the best.
Rhett ::: Such an awesome video and a story so many of us can relate to… This will go on to inspire many and touch souls….. “Do What You Love …. And Love What You Do”…Thank you for posting such a great story!!!
My son sounds very similar to you, but his interest is drums. High School (same as you, Northview HS here in Johns Creek) was a struggle to get him through (2021 grad), and he recently dropped out of college in his second freshmen semester last month. He has no idea what he wants to do, or any motivation to do it, other than his only interest in drums. We want him to chase his passion, and try to figure out how to help him continue to evolve as an adult. So I for one appreciate this story.
Your best video ever. Somehow your parents intuitively knew that obsession is the mother of mastery. My parents struggled much like yours, and did their best, but I'll always be the 7-sided peg trying to figure out a way into the ellipsoid hole... Now I'm 53, 3 years into a guitar and music journey... Not only did giving myself permission to follow my guitar obsession save my life, it's also taught me a valuable lesson as a parent myself. That is this: after food, water, shelter and safety, allowing your children to explore with little to none of your direction, even to the point of obsession, so long as it isn't unhealthy, is at least as important as any amount of formal education. Imagine if Bach, DaVinci or Einstein had their obsessions stifled at a young age.
Other side of the coin: As someone who also shares his frustration with ADHD, speaking with an instrument is still the most honest form of communication. You cannot hide and you cannot lie and fortunately music is far more accepting of different approaches to learning and practicing for all types of people
You’re the same age as my own kids. Not to sound condescending here, but I’m proud of you for opening up like this and glad that you found your true calling. Im sure your parents are incredibly proud of you, as they should be! Nothing but love brother!
Rhett, thanks for opening up. Not everyone excels at the same thing. It is interesting how people with certain deficiencies in one area, excel in other areas - I believe this applies to everyone, and that is why we have such a diversified society. The trick is for each to find what they excel at, those that do are lucky, and will be happy.
Bravo! I am a college prof, and I have had so many students like you: students for whom "the system" wasn't designed and for whom it just didn't work. You didn't fail at school, school failed at you. Your line about "learning in class how to learn in class" was brilliant. Also, I haven't heard the phrase "slacking off" in ages. I hope you make a million bucks off of UA-cam, slacker!
Very interesting story, Rhett! It's really a testament to the fact that you found your lane: I remember you as an excellent student at AIMM. You were 100% engaged and constantly progressing - that's what I remember - not your grades. And I would have never guessed that you had learning struggles earlier in life. I think that makes you a great example and role model for upcoming musicians. It's great to see you having success!
Best contribution yet Rhett. As a classroom teacher and coach for 22 years and now as an administrator, I can tell you with absolute certainty that you are not the minority. For decades we preached the short-sided narrative that college = success. The vast majority of our students are good at something, it just happens to not be school. At least the way our traditional schools are set up and run today. We are out of touch with the needs of our community, but slowly righting the ship. We need more innovation in education, period! Thank you for the inspiring message.
Your story reminds me of my daughter. She did poorly in regular school, excelled and struggled at the same time in specialized music school, excelled in opera school. She died several years ago, of cancer, after a semi-successful career. I am about as musical as your father is, but I watch UA-cam to cheer on in my imagination some of the musicians that remind me of her. At the top of the list are you and Mary Spender. -BAK-
Wow, what a story. I too, grew up outside Atlanta and Athens. There are thousands of us out here who found our oasis in music. For you, it was The Wall. For me, it was the Iron Butterfly album, In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida in 1968 when I was 12 years old. I wanted to learn to play the guitar like Erik Brann. My parents took to me to the Athens music store where I came home with a Gibson SG Jr. and a sworn promise to them and myself that I would never give it up. No lessons, I wasn't very good at first, but I got better. I still play nearly every day. I have a small collection of the very guitars you suggested in one of your earlier videos. You're a much better musician than I , but I never lost the passion to play , have fun and create while turning up the Marshall. So glad you put yourself out there for us to hear your story. You and I are a generation apart but your story is very familiar to me.
Having a couple of children where ADHD was a reality of their childhoods and now into their adulthood, I sympathize with your struggle. What I had to learn as a parent that ADHD or any other issue like that is something like correcting eyesight. If your kid has bad eyesight, you get them glasses. If your kid has ADHD, you get them the help they need to learn how to correct or at least figure out how to exist with it and learn how to deal with it. For my kids, it involved medication and some additional accomodation in school. Parents definitely need to comprehend that "success" has different meanings and that your kids need to ultimately make their own way. So glad you found your way and that your parents ultimately noticed what lit your fire.
Both of my sons have ADD and even elementary school was not helping, so we home-schooled them all the way thru high-school tweaking the schedule and curriculum to fit their abilities. After high school we had them take one semester of college just to validate their education. Both got all A's and promptly quit. My older son has a near photo-graphic memory and is now a Master Sergeant in the Air Force. My younger son is extremely hands-on mechanical and at a fairly young age is pipe-fitter general foreman - the first class in the apprenticeship program was trigonometry. No problem. We taught them how to learn using things that grabbed their interest. ADD/ADHD is a super power.
Right there with you in the “Resource Room” and everything else. Heck, I just turned 54 two weeks ago and my ADHD now has a new friend.. Memory loss! I don’t wish it on anyone in the world, it has me terrified, and it’s impacting everything including my playing and this is the first time I’ve ever told anyone.
Totally relate. I luckily had more leeway at home but definitely suffered with ADHD and things just got harder and harder the further through school I got.
At 63, I can’t tell you how many ways I relate to this. I’ve spent a lifetime scraping by, caring about little but guitaring when my Day gig work is done (if not excelling at it). Now I have a daughter, 17, who is about as interested in school as you were, and has chosen a difficult path, also caring little about anything but music. But if she finds it, and can’t be happy, i’ll do all I can to support her. Thank you.
Rhett, this means so much to me. Ive been diagnosed with ADHD since 6th grade just like you, I’m 17 now. All throughout middle school and my first years of high school and even being a junior now; I felt as though school (specifically school work and homework) have slipped out of my fingers. When you talked about the feeling of hating the 9 to 5 and it being hell, as well as being told you “weren’t gonna make it” hit so home for me, it really made me feel like I’m not alone in my experience . Being trans certainly hasn’t helped my high school experience; although I love my identity and myself… I find myself feeling a bit lost. Thankfully I am anchored by my amazing community of trans and queer people, as well as my high school Jazz Band; I have been playing drums since the age of 4. I love music, my dad is a drummer so I wanted to be just like him, (he is also a college professor as well as my stepmother, the expectation of college has been present in my life since a very young age…) That being said I picked up the guitar at 14, I loved it so much and still do; today I play drums and guitar in my high school jazz band, we won the Berklee Jazz Festival competition my freshman year where the judges got to hear me on both drums and guitar… Music has always been present in my life, so has ADHD. Music has helped me cope with my emotions and so much internal conflict (e.g. my transness and coming to terms with my gender identity as well as ADHD), it’s very comforting to hear a similar story and shared experience from someone older than me. I wanna become successful, to inspire others like me; other trans women, other underprivileged individuals, just like you (and so many others) inspire me to do and be better. Thank you so much. - Valerie
Relate to this hugely, left school with poor grades thinking life was over before it had begun. Eventually I was properly diagnosed with dyslexia, began to study theatre, and now have two degrees, one a masters from a well respected drama school. So glad I found something that clicked, not sure where I would be otherwise.
Wonderful story, Rhett! I struggled through school my entire life and even went undiagnosed until I was 25 years old. ADHD is often seen as an excuse, but it’s about damn time that it is regarded as a mental health condition. When you mentioned sitting at the kitchen table crying over math problems you didn’t understand, I was reliving that same trauma right along side you.
i can truly relate.and like you, guitar/music has been a large part of my salvation. additionally, now one of my children is in a similar boat -and I refuse to belittle her for not fitting the public consensus mold. instead, I've focused on finding out who she is, what her genuine interests and inclinations are, and finding empathetic ways to help her find and stay on her path. frankly, piss on the norms -look what theyve produced..."sheeple"
I get what you are saying, but piss on the norms? Sheeple? Some people thrive and are happy by following the norm, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. People who follow the norm are also valuable and can also do good things for the world. However, I do think the way we treat people who don't fit in is wrong. I guess what I am trying to say is: it's ok to be different, but also to not be different.
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 i respect you're opinion , but sadly the people who thrive on the so called "norm " have a tendency to look down on people who don't comply with that same "norm " , like : i am laywer and make this much money each year , so i am therfore more "succesfull "in life , it's that silly "status " thing i guess .
Struggle is what makes us who we are. Its awesome that you shared this part of your life because there are so many that have been through that, or a family member, or a friend. Our oldest has ADD and when he was young it was ADHD, OCD, borderline Turrets. He too struggled to maintain attention in class, hated sports, etc. It definitely all calmed down as he got older, except for the ADD but he found music as well. He lives in Brooklyn and creates electronic music as an outlet and he is finally getting his grove. We encouraged anything he took an interest in and I think support is everything. Thank you again for sharing. We love ya man.
My wife was still teaching when you were struggling with school. She hated how it seemed like the only approach to AD/HD was medication, even though so many learning issues could be helped just by giving a little more one-on-one time to students, figuring out where they were as a person, as a kid with a lot of things possibly weighing on them. I was lucky enough to have a teacher at my small country school who gave us free guitar lessons at lunch hour. We just had to show up with a guitar. I remember getting that proverbial $50 classical guitar (the teacher said nylon strings were easier on the fingers, and pain made you quit before you got hooked😏), and just holding it and staring at it. I probably would have done pretty well as a musician, but my friends and I listened to all those voices whispering in our ears about not being good enough to make a living at it. Kudos to you for taking it further. I still have that little Raven guitar, and I still love playing it, bad intonation and all. Thanks for sharing.😑
In no way does my comment disparage your other videos but, this one is probably the best video you have made for so many reasons. Most importantly, it can help other parents out there who are struggling with a child that has a learning disability. It doesn't mean that their child isn't intelligent. It means that their child is wired differently and needs to be taught another way.
Well this was like staring in a mirror for fifteen minutes. I also hated school, couldn't play sports, dreaded the prospect of working a "normal" job or having a "normal" life. My thing was drawing, it's all I wanted to do and the only thing I was good at, no artists or creative people in my family so I was on my own. Survived high school, went to art school (my dad thought I was wasting my time and money). Fast forward, I'm 24 years into my career as a television animator having worked on some of the biggest prime time shows ever. You can't fit a square peg into a round hole no matter how hard you push.
I'm right there with you! Mine is writing. I just published my first novel. It's just a start, but it feels good!!! Thanks for the entertainment, man!!! I LOVE toons!!! They're highly underrated entertainment.
This really hits home for me. Everything you said was almost exactly my experience growing up. I started playing guitar at fifteen after my French horn was stolen and my mom was gracious enough to buy me a guitar. I never amounted to much as a musician but still keep at it and find it to be a rewarding hobby. My “it” moment was finding out that I am quite good at building furniture with my bare hands. It is my rabbit hole and now my profession. I now own and operate a company with a handful of employees to whom I can pass my relationship with the craft on to. It’s not easy everyday but it is an amazing ride nonetheless. Thanks Brett for all you do.
Adderall works for me. It literally makes me more functional. Some ppl have it so bad, they can't go without medication. It literally is an issue with the brain regions responsible for executive functions being underdeveloped. And that causes an imbalance in chemicals in the brain which results in various of issues such as emotional explosiveness, lack of focus, hyperactivity, issues with residing comprehension and so on. If my parents had "drugged me up" I wouldn't have ruined everything.
As a retired Art Teacher I am so glad that you have brought this up. So many of the students I am most proud of are the ones that stuck to their guns, went their own way and followed their own instincts. The Arts have been stigmatised in education. So many students gained in self confidence through drama, found a vocation through art or found meaning in their lives through music. It still makes my blood boil to remember the disparaging comments these talented and enthusiastic people had to put up with. To paraphrase Bill Clinton the mantra of education should be "It's the Student, stupid." I lost count of the conversations I had with parents and senior staff arguing that education is about the student and not the parents or the teaching staff. It should not be an educators job to force a round peg into a square hole. Bravo to you Rhett. Clearly your success has proved this point. The fact that you can put over these points with kindness and compassion says much about you. Good teachers are born out of the enthusiasm for their subject and their love for sharing it. They are also people who are not afraid to learn from the students and find out what makes the tick. What you teach I am very pleased to learn.
I never struggled with learning disabilities. I was actually put into gifted programs in elementary school and junior high. Despite that, I HATED high school. I felt like I was in prison while I was there. My grades started slipping the last couple of years. I had pretty much the same experience with sports that you did. I really despised team sports. Individual sports were a little more bearable. I decided I would make up for that when I went to college. I had to join the Army and serve for 4 years to get the money to afford college. I worked my ass off in college and got a 4.0 GPA my first two years, which allowed me to get into an even better college. I maintained my 4.0 for the first year, then the grind of working 30 hours a week, studying all night, and sleeping 5 hours if I was lucky started getting to me. I had no friends or social life at all. By the third year in college my grades started tanking again, and I stopped caring. Although I didn't know it at the time, I was suffering from depression. I couldn't even find the motivation to get out of bed. I felt like I could learn more from a $25 book you could get at Barnes and Noble about the subjects I was studying than from my $300 textbook and the classes I was taking. I stopped going to college and started looking for jobs. I had a job for a while doing tech support over the phone. I quickly realized that I couldn't deal with sitting in a cubicle all day. I got a great job that allows me to travel for a living (I'm writing this from Buenos Aires), pays me well, and doesn't require me to ever set foot in an office or sit through meetings. I've been doing it for 23 years, and plan to do it for another 19 at least. Although my struggles were different than yours, I can relate to a lot of how you felt about the whole school and work system. I also love guitar and will keep at it until I physically can't anymore. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help a lot of people who are dealing with similar issues.
Absolutely fantastic video! Thanks for opening up and sharing, Rhett. I’m a former teacher turned pediatrician who has spent a lot of time working with kids and families in classrooms and clinics to help treat, manage, and cope with adhd. There is still so much the general populous doesn’t understand about how people/children with adhd function and the challenges they face. Videos like these can make all the difference for kids trying to understand why they are struggling, parents trying to understand their kids, and anyone trying to understand this condition better. Thanks for using your platform to help other understand and find hope through understanding. Now…back to preaching the gospel of fuzz!
Me too. The Ritalin epidemic was strong back there, everyone seemingly was prescribed drugs to help.. I also was put in special classes. I struggled. However, as I grew up, I realized that I was just too creative to learn in the “normal” way. Eventually stated my own business after floundering around for years and now things are fine, I’m a mostly normal human. Shoot, SAME story as you, so insane that they didn’t have anything resembling an alternative method of teaching then, that they didn’t even realize that some people just don’t get on with learning in the same way as others.
Hey Rhett, Love your channel and I’m a bass player. Thank you for being so transparent on your journey. Remember, life is a journey and you’ve used yours to bless the world. Your journey may feel difficult, but you came out all the better. Your an incredible musician, filmmaker, and story teller. Look what a attipical journey has created. Hats off to you Rhett, for not giving up. The world is better for it. God bless you young Brother!!!!!
The "one size fits all" approach to education will always fail. Not all students are "academically minded", some are more practical and hands-on. Not everyone is suited for a college education. A plumber or an electrician earns more and has less debt than most college graduates. Also there is no shame in not being good at sports in my opinion. Glad that you found your niche where you can thrive and are happy. Good for you.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going! "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent!" ~ Calvin Coolidge. Press On! Rhett Shull🙌🏻🙌🏻🌎
I understand, not from my own experiences, but those of my son. We sent him to a private school, and they did not have (or were not willing to have) the resources to deal with children who were not the shining examples of what they wanted their denomination to produce. My son loved music, and was taking piano lessons, but one of the teachers who regarded him as a "loser" (and told others so my son could overhear) managed to get into a position where she could create a reason to have him expelled. There were not discipline issues, just a prejudice against a student with difficulties. You managed to get past your obstacles, and I really enjoy watching your videos. I enjoyed several years as a gigging musician, so your experiences resonate.
thank you for this Rhett... in most ways, i shared the same exsperiences. where i am the one that settled for the mindless 9-5 kinda , your story is inspiring even now. even though i will never achieve any of the same success... i can honestly say , i play guitar not because im good at it but because i love it . sometimes you just need to find the things that you love and make you happy . now almost 40 years later i still play and it makes me feel exstremely happy and know ive found my thing that does that . cheers Rhett i love you channel.
I really can't express how much simillar some things in your life have been to my own. You and your content made me realize that I had to make a change and pursue my dreams, today I study music at my city's conservatory and study music at college, all because one day I found your channel. So thank you very much for everything you've made so far.
Read I was in the pocket with you from the moment you started talking. I haven’t read any comments below, but I am absolutely positive that so many of your viewers and more definitely relate to your journey. I would love to talk with you and share my journey with you. I am a licensed social worker who has had ADD my entire life, I’m 50 years old I still have it, I’ve learned to live with it, it’s my superpower, and I didn’t realize this until my own children were diagnosed years ago. My parents reacted much like yours. I’m the youngest of eight kids, all seven before me went to college, many of them graduating magna cum laude, valedictorians of Brown University and what not. Thank you for being so vulnerable and a time when your viewers are at an all time high. I’ve enjoyed you for the last few years, I credit you and your videos and Rick Beato for taking a 48-year-old guy and turning them into somebody who believes there’s a place for him in this music world. Thank you again, Billy Mac
I wish I had heard this 30 years ago in high school! Maybe I wouldn’t be working the dead end job everyone fears. Thank you Rhett, I’m gonna play this for my kids
Thanks! Spectrum here, too. Different journey - made it through school okay, but very much a stranger in a world made by and for people who don't think like I do. You're kind-of a hero on here, playing all this nice gear and sounding great, so it's a big deal when you share it was a struggle.
Here’s to you Rhett, I started guitar at about the same age, but opted for the corporate gig…now I’m 70, retired playin in a band and having a great time…But it’s not time wasted, I mean those in between years…I never quit playing…I really enjoy your video presentations and enjoy the occasional live moments vicariously through you…and on occasion I do have a live moment myself with the band…cheers
Thanks for sharing. 53 years old and ADHD has been a constant companion. Hopefully the schools manage it better now than they did way back when. It's a struggle, a real struggle.
I'm a high school teacher here in Florida. I encounter many students whose experiences are very similar to yours. It's nice to hear a candid statement about it. And it's encouraging to know you found your own way. Everyone is different.
Glad you shared that story. Being a guitar player and knowing the musicians I've met in my 68 years, many of them tended to not fit into the "standard" way of educating children. Rick Beato, as I'm sure you know, has shared similar experiences he had struggling with math. I too struggled with math and to this day use only bone simple algebra when working on building/repairing old tube guitar amps. But music has a way of breaking through to people who think in non-conventional ways. I hope some young folks who are experiencing similar struggles will be inspired by your message.
We don’t know each other, but I love you Rhett. You give people like me tons and tons of inspiration to put all that I have into those six strings. Thank you for this.
Profoundly inspiring. Neural atypicals rule. Thanks for doing this, Rhett; I'll bet a lot of us following your channel have similar experiences and can relate.
thnx for this brother. my son is 15 and he’s going thru exact same stuff. adhd, depression hates school. ironically, he’s a damn good drummer but he learned to hate it because i made him practice almost everyday. like you with sports. and no matter how many great gigs he played or how much praise he got, he still wound up hating being “the drummer kid.” anyhow, glad you found guitar on your own and weren’t forced into it. ps: my kid did percussion too. it helped him get very good on the snare but he hated every minute of it. finally my son discovered skateboarding on his own and like u with sports the years of drumming taught him how to stick with something. 🙏
Rhett, I love how very humble and "real" you are in your videos. You also make it clear that hard work, consistent effort, and passion will eventually pay off. Hope to see you play live now that we are in the Atlanta area.
Thanks for the story. Everyone has one, everyone has their past that has brought them to where they are. Some found their life, some found their failure. I'm glad yours was the life you never could have imagined.
Rhett - thanks for your willingness to be open, honest and vulnerable! It’s that kind of authenticity that attracts me to people like you, Rick Beato, and others. It compels a level of kinship in a virtual world tat I think holds the deeper rewards in the online world, beyond the fabulous content that brought me to your channel, and others like you, a long time ago! Peace my friend - the background you shared, and the manner by which you shared it, just serves to motivate me more to learn from you and others - and makes for a much richer experience on your channel! There’s plenty enough ego online to go around. What there’ll never be enough of is people like yourself whose genuine nature and sharing further motivates and inspires me! Thanks brother!
You and Corey Congilio are SO pleasant to listen to on any topic. You cut deep on this one. They gave me a blank diploma at my high school. An all white school in Detroit (65 grad). What a snake pit. But we survived thanks to music!!
Hey Rhett, I’m really happy for you, that you found music and that your folks hung in there with you. I’m 70 now and always felt like a late bloomer. It took me until I was about 25 until I found the blues harmonica and I’ve been playing in bar bands for years now, written tunes and put out records. I’m very grateful for having found something I loved. Two years ago I took up guitar and love it, too. I practice for hours everyday - haven’t got any time to waste. I really enjoy your channel and all you’ve accomplished!
Best video ever! Wow, I just kept shaking my head yes! I could relate to everything you said. I laughed out loud numerous times. Awesome!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks Rick!
Wait until he tells that "wah wah" story
Didn't you kind of get Rhett doing this kind of thing? So you must have seen something...go ahead and beam a little bit, you earned it!
Well, when it's adhd and you basically have 35 TVs on in your head at once or you're hyperfixated on one little thing for 6 hours, either way, people who don't understand are terrible at trying to help
And school, might as well be teaching abacus in computer classes.
Slow moving cargo ships, they are.
So many times we find out something later in life, and it’s frustrating to realize that if we had only known that when we were kids, things would have been very different. We weren’t just “hyper”, or “disruptive” as we found out later (or too late), and we didn’t suck at school or sports because we were “lazy”. I found out not that long ago that even though I’m right-handed, I’m left eye dominant, so I can’t aim or line things up worth a crap because I should be doing them left-handed. Can you imagine telling someone that when you started school back in the 70’s? They’d smile benignly, and make a note in your “file”. I stumbled on to your channel accidentally, and subsequently Rhett’s. I’m getting a lot out of your content, even in my mid fifties. I’ve decided I need to practice and play when the mood strikes, and some other things need to just wait. The fact that I DIDN’T do that when I was younger sometimes weighs on me, but that’s all done with. May as well make some noise while I have the chance. Thanks to both of you.
Supportive parents have such a profound impact on their children's ambitions and talents- God bless your parents Rhett!!!
About to retire Physics teacher here. Can’t tell you how frustrating it is to read your story. I have run across many students like you and I’ve always felt so bad. Not because I thought I failed them as a teacher, but because the system just didn’t allow time for me to work with them… to help them find something they could become passionate about... to adjust my curriculum to find something in my subject they could relate to. Thanks for telling this story and I hope every kid (and teacher) gets a chance to hear it.
I feel bad for people who have the heart for teaching but whose hands are tied by "the system". Both of my sons have ADD and even elementary school was not at all helpful, so we home-schooled them all the way thru high-school, tweaking the schedule and curriculum to fit their abilities. After high school we had them take one semester of college just to validate their education. Both got all A's and promptly quit. My older son has a near photo-graphic memory and is now a Master Sergeant in the Air Force. My younger son is extremely hands-on mechanical and at a fairly young age is pipe-fitter general foreman - the first class in the apprenticeship program was trigonometry. He saw the value in the career opportunity and Aced that class and the next 9 semesters.
I took Physics in the Arts in college. It was one of the best classes I took.
@@krisyoungsteadt9139 That sounds really interesting. How does a guitar, trumpet, flute, etc. work?
Doesn't the fact that you wish you could help such students show that our western form of 'Education' lacks the intelligence of allowing staff and students to discover exactly what Rhett discovered. i.e. Instead of forced education fitting people for the capitalist system. People are unique individuals with unique personalities and interests. Those characteristics are not always served by a set curriculum.
@@Pegasus4213 Yep. Quite right.
Rhett, I feel like driving to Georgia and giving you a hug. My son is a musician, successful at that, and he is your astral twin. Like your dad, i supported my son and ive never looked back. The greatest day of my life was spending my entire raise from work to buy him a Korg Triton Extreme. Good for you. You serve society by ROCKIN! Thanks for the transparency. We would all be nearly worthless without music and musicians. I love your channel. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for sharing, its good to know there are others out there. It helps me to help my young son go his own way even though its an accepted path in the Asian society
I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until I was an adult. Back in the late 70’s early 80’s I was repeatedly told that I was just lazy. I luckily found computer programming in college which worked well with my ADHD. I have found a huge percentage of the people I work with in the software industry also have ADHD and a lot of them are also musicians as am I.
Me too, tech is a great place for ADHD and non-linear people!
Same here. The difference between my grades in elementary/middle/high school versus college once I found programming was night and day. Have now had a nice 27 year career writing code and now managing a team. I definitely still struggled at times, which is why I was eventually diagnosed in my early 30's. Learning strategies to work with the ADHD instead of against it helped me tremendously. When you can harness the hyper focused side of ADHD, it's like a super power for slinging code and making music.
@@JeffsBassment I've still not been diagnosed but I'm entirely sure I have adhd.
I found drugs at 18 and embraced it fully pot then speed then E interspersed with occasional psychedelics. Acid and Mushrooms.
I ended up in mental hospital 2 times. The first time I was discharged on crazy Anti-psychotics. I was a complete zombie.
I got back into speed to combat the massive central nervous system suppressive just to feel alive for a few hours.
Massive depression followed again and psychotic depression this time.
I ended up in mental hospital again and eventually ended up getting a course of ECT. It wiped my memory and rebooted my brain and it gave me 3 months or so of a break from the habitual thoughts of depression.
I applied to Uni to finish my computing degree from Mental Hospital and I was accepted back.
2 years later I had a BSC in Computing.
I've had a great career since then. I was global lead developer for a fortune 500 oil company.
From the depths of human suffering to the heights of as successful career.
All throughout this my guitar playing was a constant.
I've played since I was 11 and I always played with people.
Playing with people stretches you every time.
You learn and you hear new things.
Played in a few bands and played out a few times.
Now I'm older and still play but my passion has burnt down a bit but I still play every other day.
I think I'd like to find a Jam group to play with.
I feel you. Keep going.
You are awesome.
Luv and Peace.
@@tomseiple3280 For sure. Working from home has especially helped us.
@@ianedmonds9191 Dude, that's a hell of an experience. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I definitely struggled with some mental issues throughout life. Depression/bi-polar issues run in my family. And I know all about self-medicating. I found weed at 13 and speed at 16 and, like you, it made me feel normal. But it's easy to abuse and I luckily I was able to get away from it. I still enjoy an herbal supplement every so often though :)
Definitely find a group to jam with, my friend. It brings so much peace and joy to make music with others.
Your story is so similar to my own I have Asperger’s so school was extremely hard, and my dad told me the same sentiment of not getting me a guitar. My mom decided to go against his judgement and gave me a squier strat starter pack for Christmas 2013 and I’ve never looked back. My band released our first full length album last year and we’re going on tour this summer! Have a great day, week, and year Rhett. Loving your videos as always
I'm an electrical engineer and my 15 year old son is experiencing what you have gone thru. Thanks for giving me his side of the story. To me you are a success in every sense of the word. Keep the videos going and I'll keep watching Rhett. All the best from Toronto, Canada.
Brutally open and honest.
I'm 57 and from the UK.
Reminds me entirely of my experience with education.
Always the same comments at the end of the school year " Never let's things sink in, could and should do better"
Our education system never understood, or recognised, what learning difficulties were.
Thanks for being so open, and, like you, my only interest that completely took me to my place was music.
You're not alone, my man. The good side to this is that not only do we have many more resources to deal with it now, but because our brains are wired differently, we can do things that other people can't.
Keep doing what you do, man. Keep being awesome.
It's hard many days, but I'm really proud of how our brains are different. It has absolutely played a critical role in accelerating my career in the creative world. Thinking a million miles a minute really helps in creative careers.
I think it’s pretty cool that someone who struggled to “get it” in school has now taught so many others. Well done Rhett, and thank you,
I don't know of Rhett's parents read these comments, but if they are: you did a tremendous job raising an immensely talented son and should be very proud! Which I am sure you are. :)
They do and they have replied to some of the comments. Thank you from a retired guy, volunteer morning crossing guard (the most joyful, fun, blessed gig ever!) and Friday morning ALP Math assistant, providing plausible deniability after the teacher told me to "teach it the way you learned it." Fortunately I escaped before Dad's struggle with helping my brother through "New Math." Dad asked me during the past ten years before he passed on, "Do they still teach New Math?" Answer: "Yes, but it's a New Math every several years, to provide a market for the publishers."
This video is a Redemption Song, Rhett. How many kids are out there who never connected with that ONE THING that lit them up? How many grown-ups; old broken down humans who've never answered the question of what they, specifically, are good for? It's so sad. And it's so beautiful that you know how close you came to a life without magic. And that you're looking through the camera from your side, hoping to find others and pull them through to the world you've found. Lead the way, Young Brother.
I've never related so hard to a story. Even in the early 2000's resources for ADHD were scarce. I lost count of the breakdowns and amount of self hate for not being able to learn like a "normal" student. Guitar was/is/will always be my way out. Even as an adult, "normal" jobs terrify me. Every time I embrace music, it embraces back. So that's what I'll stick with 🎸
Now we really undestand what "Remember there is no plan B" means! The best channel on youtube andit is a important video to everyone who loves music but sometimes get frustrated by something that is far away "harder" than what you passed.
I can relate. Didn't get diagnosed until my late 40's. Mental health was stigmatized back then. I am now a teacher who works with kids that have learning disabilities. The system is still broken but I'll go to my grave trying to help these kids. Everybody learns differently. Accept it.
It’s interesting how similar our stories are. Our stories diverge after high school where I turned to the military because my guitar wasn’t going to do it. I’m out and now have a 9-5 that I hate. I have been going to school for Audio Production and I’m on my way to opening a small studio to support local artists. Thank for sharing this story, what an inspiration!
I was going to say the exact same thing. Retiring this year from the AF after 21 years. Following my guitar dreams next year as a retiree.
@@scottbailey6689 Best of luck to you!
12:14 I literary heard that sentence a million times and thought the same thing - if these are my best years, then I'm screwed haha. High school was no picnic, hated most of it, especially a couple of teachers who just had bad pedagogy. Really did a number on my self-confidence, but as you said, I'm grateful even for the bad moments. It made me develop a thicker skin and that helps when dealing with haters on UA-cam. Nothing feels better than finding something that you're really passionate about, especially if you can make a living off of that, but even if you can't, it's important to have a hobby where you can relax and lay off some steam. Thanks for sharing your story, sorry for the longer comment :)
Your parents must be extremely proud. Would love to see a video of them watching this. A tearjerker for sure.
It's so cool that you found your path and your place Rhett. I myself am autistic and was totally rejected by other children. Thanks to guitar and music, I managed to improve my communication and social skills and I also found my way. (-: All the best Rhett. Mordi
I have a 9yo little sister who struggles at school, she hasn’t been diagnosed with ADHD but she’s had some kind of special treatment from her teachers.
Due to a legal situation our parents are going through, sometimes I have to act like a parent for her and I have to admit I’ve been pretty rough when helping with school.
Thank you Rhett for sharing your experience with us, as I now understand how frustrating it must be for her too and I’m not helping at all.
Keep rocking man, don’t stop sharing with the world!
Rhett… you are describing my daughter. To a tee. She is you. It’s been a very difficult process, but she is about to graduate from HS. I’ve been a ultra conventional parent dealing with a special kid. I hope she like you finds her “thing” in life like you did with guitar. I have shed many tears in this process. I love her so much. For the longest time I have felt her struggles were my fault. I have and still am working through it all. This video has more value then any guitar video you have ever posted. Don’t get me wrong I am a sub and I get all updates. I am a truly appreciative follower, but this story is a bigger blessing than any of your musical offerings. What you did today gave me hope.
Her struggles aren’t your fault, as someone that can relate to her experience all I can tell you is to give her the space and support she needs to find her thing and thrive in it, even if it doesn’t make much sense to you.
Hang in there dad…your daughter is precious. And when she finds her gig support it 100%. Love her no matter what.
Agreed with mama W…. Hang in there. Don’t give up hope. Give yourself and your daughter some grace and with time you’ll find her true gifts and talents. Nurture them. Her success may not be your original view of success. But you may just be surprised that their success will be better than anything you could have ever hoped or planned for!
@@RhettShull thank you for the response. I will keep loving her through it all. Even step back and let her find her way. But watching …quietly
"There's no plan B," takes on a much deeper meaning. Thank you for sharing this. You have inspired a lot of people to simply push forward and try. Thank you.
You have no idea how many musicians (millions I'm sure) can relate to your story of music and their formative school years. Thanks for telling your story.
I'm 73 years old. My parents bought my first guitar when I was 14. Three months layer, I played my first paid gig. They never complained and always encouraged me. They gave me a gift that has given me joy and lasted a lifetime. Play on...keep up the good work!
Rhett,
You will probably never know how many young people you have helped by putting this out. Kudos to you buddy! BTW, my perception of you has always been that you are an intelligent and very capable musician.
I don’t know what prompted you to tell your story but you have really elevated the form here. This is one of the most honest, thoughtful and straightforward videos I’ve ever watched on YT and it includes so much in terms of explaining your unique drive to become what you are today, while touching on universal truths about creative people and finding a good path in life.
Wow your story is close to mine Rhett. Im 68 and my pop was a doctor. Back then the teachers just labeled me hyper active. Thanks for sharing this. Love your channel and musicianship!
Bless you, brother. Thank you for this story...
Music is a saving grace for us all. Rock on!
Unbelievably refreshing honesty...this has to be so liberating for you...it made us all better people..
Wish that all the kids out there like us would come across this video and stop feeling bad about themselves. We're all different. Everyone excels in some area, yet so many of us are held to a high standard of performance in subjects and activities that are completely contrary our personalities. Posting this thoughtful message demonstrates that your talents also extend beyond music, Rhett!
I’ve been a juvenile probation officer for 24 years and I work every day with kids struggling to feel connected to their school. The perseverance you showed can be an example to them about how to find your passion, your worth, your own way. Our schools can be brutal for those who learn differently, but who are brilliantly original. Our teachers aren’t able to reward uniqueness easily. Thankfully, you had caring parents who were patient and you had economic stability which a lot of kids don’t have. I will use your example with teens I work with to show them they can overcome learning difficulties and bad grades and they can be themselves and discover what is meaningful to them over time. Thanks for being so honest!
Thanks for baring your soul and sharing your story. I can relate on so many levels
As an educator, I have to say that school cannot be everything to everyone, but I can understand where you are coming from about your education. Personally, I had a few teachers who made a profound impact on me, but didn't realize the full impact until I had grown up a little more. Today, I have a son with some pretty profound special needs and I am amazed by the teachers and staff at his school.
I appreciate your story, makes me think back to my aunt giving me The Wall and Animals on vinyl when I was about 12 or so :) The same aunt also gave me my first transistor radio, first boom box, and first two hand-me-down stereo systems. And then the Christmas when I got my first kinda-nice guitar from my incredible grandparents.
Have a great day, Rhett.
Rhett, I'm 70 years old and I'm addicted to your channel. I'm always waiting for your new videos and usually watch each of them numerous times. Thank you! I really loved this one!! I consider you a friend, and enjoy learning about what makes you who you are. Keep up the great work!
I was diagnosed ADHD at 57...it began to explain my life of struggle with achievement...particularly with music theory...thanks!
All parents must take the time to watch this heartfelt piece with their children. But this comes from someone who didn't get past Plane Geometry in junior high and who stood by helplessly as his father smashed to smithereens his Mexico-made (they weren't any good back then) "Western" (acoustic) guitar on the dresser that left a deep gouge in my heart. Seriously though, I appreciate the passion and commitment you bring to the art.
Wow, I have Adhd as an adult as well and guitar is the only thing that I’ve ever been able to keep my undivided attention on. You inspire me more than any other UA-camr I’ve watched so thank you for that.
As the parent of a 19 year-old dyslexic, I can't thank you enough for posting this Rick. Our son's grade 1 teacher said: "Oh, give him ritalin, and he'll learn to read.". We declined to put a healthy, otherwise-happy six year old kid on drugs and sent him to a special school that uses the Slingerland Multisensory Method instead. He's now a freshman in college.
As a parent of two kids with special needs (autism and ADHD) I just wanted to say thank you Rhett for posting this video.
Your story sounds almost exactly like mine, except I was in high school from 1969-1973, and I didn’t do sports. My parents’ attitudes were the same as yours. My first guitar was a Stella Harmony that I still have, I bought it myself from money earned mowing lawns. At age 12. I did end up in a boring, dead-end job, got married, raised 3 kids, and now, nearing age 66, I’m retired and finally pursuing my dream of being a professional musician. I’m writing and recording songs, and creating orchestral pieces that I hope will eventually get into film and tv. Thank you for sharing your story. You just gave hope to kids everywhere who don’t fit in.
Man, Rhett, you just described my young life in the late 80’s. I dropped out my senior year badly behind. In my early 20’s, I took my GED and aced it... so then I went to college... same thing, Dropped out and just couldn’t do it. I found out after that, that I had ADHD. It just wasn’t a thing and I was considered a troubled kid. Pure hell in my head. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m a local musician in Destin, FL now. We all know now, eh? Cheers bro. I’m a big fan. 😇 Wow... same sports experience too! Wow! I’M NOT ALOOOONE!! Lol I don’t wish that on anyone so I’m sorry you had to suffer it too. Music saved me literally... Amazing...
Hey man. Great video. I’ve two autistic kids. I have a strong suspicion I’m on the spectrum myself. I’m very familiar with ADHD too. We really need to learn to understand and react correctly to neuro diversity as a society on the whole. (I’m in Ireland by the way) it’s funny how music and creativity can make sense to neuro diverse people in general. Both my kids have a massive affinity with music. There’s something primal about it. It’s really great that people like yourself with the audience you have make videos like this. It can only help to de-mistify it. Love all your work dude. Up there with the best guitar channels out there. You’ve really found your own thing.
Thx for making this video. On behalf of my kids!!!
Dude, you are a GREAT person for posting this! This takes so much courage, to tell your story with such honesty, to admit to all your flaws and not apologize for them. So many of us have gone through similar things, and it's never easy. I've got a few years on you, but I went through it too--all the doubts, the struggles with school, not understanding why I couldn't "get it," at least for a while. But this is just so important, to know that someone like you, who is looked up to by many, persevered and found out who he was through dedication to what he is passionate about. Honestly, man, thank you for this. You're just awesome. I wish you the best.
Rhett ::: Such an awesome video and a story so many of us can relate to… This will go on to inspire many and touch souls….. “Do What You Love …. And Love What You Do”…Thank you for posting such a great story!!!
My son sounds very similar to you, but his interest is drums. High School (same as you, Northview HS here in Johns Creek) was a struggle to get him through (2021 grad), and he recently dropped out of college in his second freshmen semester last month. He has no idea what he wants to do, or any motivation to do it, other than his only interest in drums. We want him to chase his passion, and try to figure out how to help him continue to evolve as an adult. So I for one appreciate this story.
Yup! I’m a Northview grad as well, 2008! He’ll find a way to make it work, just continue to give him the support he needs to make it happen
Your best video ever. Somehow your parents intuitively knew that obsession is the mother of mastery. My parents struggled much like yours, and did their best, but I'll always be the 7-sided peg trying to figure out a way into the ellipsoid hole... Now I'm 53, 3 years into a guitar and music journey... Not only did giving myself permission to follow my guitar obsession save my life, it's also taught me a valuable lesson as a parent myself. That is this: after food, water, shelter and safety, allowing your children to explore with little to none of your direction, even to the point of obsession, so long as it isn't unhealthy, is at least as important as any amount of formal education. Imagine if Bach, DaVinci or Einstein had their obsessions stifled at a young age.
I've never had someone hold a guitar and speak to me more without actually playing it. Thank you for this.
Other side of the coin: As someone who also shares his frustration with ADHD, speaking with an instrument is still the most honest form of communication. You cannot hide and you cannot lie and fortunately music is far more accepting of different approaches to learning and practicing for all types of people
You’re the same age as my own kids. Not to sound condescending here, but I’m proud of you for opening up like this and glad that you found your true calling. Im sure your parents are incredibly proud of you, as they should be! Nothing but love brother!
Rhett, thanks for opening up. Not everyone excels at the same thing. It is interesting how people with certain deficiencies in one area, excel in other areas - I believe this applies to everyone, and that is why we have such a diversified society. The trick is for each to find what they excel at, those that do are lucky, and will be happy.
Bravo! I am a college prof, and I have had so many students like you: students for whom "the system" wasn't designed and for whom it just didn't work. You didn't fail at school, school failed at you.
Your line about "learning in class how to learn in class" was brilliant. Also, I haven't heard the phrase "slacking off" in ages.
I hope you make a million bucks off of UA-cam, slacker!
Very interesting story, Rhett! It's really a testament to the fact that you found your lane: I remember you as an excellent student at AIMM. You were 100% engaged and constantly progressing - that's what I remember - not your grades. And I would have never guessed that you had learning struggles earlier in life. I think that makes you a great example and role model for upcoming musicians. It's great to see you having success!
Best contribution yet Rhett. As a classroom teacher and coach for 22 years and now as an administrator, I can tell you with absolute certainty that you are not the minority. For decades we preached the short-sided narrative that college = success. The vast majority of our students are good at something, it just happens to not be school. At least the way our traditional schools are set up and run today. We are out of touch with the needs of our community, but slowly righting the ship. We need more innovation in education, period! Thank you for the inspiring message.
Your story reminds me of my daughter. She did poorly in regular school, excelled and struggled at the same time in specialized music school, excelled in opera school. She died several years ago, of cancer, after a semi-successful career. I am about as musical as your father is, but I watch UA-cam to cheer on in my imagination some of the musicians that remind me of her. At the top of the list are you and Mary Spender.
-BAK-
So powerful Rhett! Takes guts to share your story, but looking at the comments it's clearly resonated with a lot of people! 🙏
Being parents is a real tough job and they're no good school to learn how to do unfortunately. Happy that it finally worked out for yourself in music.
Wow, what a story. I too, grew up outside Atlanta and Athens. There are thousands of us out here who found our oasis in music. For you, it was The Wall. For me, it was the Iron Butterfly album, In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida in 1968 when I was 12 years old. I wanted to learn to play the guitar like Erik Brann. My parents took to me to the Athens music store where I came home with a Gibson SG Jr. and a sworn promise to them and myself that I would never give it up. No lessons, I wasn't very good at first, but I got better. I still play nearly every day. I have a small collection of the very guitars you suggested in one of your earlier videos. You're a much better musician than I , but I never lost the passion to play , have fun and create while turning up the Marshall. So glad you put yourself out there for us to hear your story. You and I are a generation apart but your story is very familiar to me.
Having a couple of children where ADHD was a reality of their childhoods and now into their adulthood, I sympathize with your struggle. What I had to learn as a parent that ADHD or any other issue like that is something like correcting eyesight. If your kid has bad eyesight, you get them glasses. If your kid has ADHD, you get them the help they need to learn how to correct or at least figure out how to exist with it and learn how to deal with it. For my kids, it involved medication and some additional accomodation in school. Parents definitely need to comprehend that "success" has different meanings and that your kids need to ultimately make their own way. So glad you found your way and that your parents ultimately noticed what lit your fire.
Both of my sons have ADD and even elementary school was not helping, so we home-schooled them all the way thru high-school tweaking the schedule and curriculum to fit their abilities. After high school we had them take one semester of college just to validate their education. Both got all A's and promptly quit. My older son has a near photo-graphic memory and is now a Master Sergeant in the Air Force. My younger son is extremely hands-on mechanical and at a fairly young age is pipe-fitter general foreman - the first class in the apprenticeship program was trigonometry. No problem. We taught them how to learn using things that grabbed their interest. ADD/ADHD is a super power.
Right there with you in the “Resource Room” and everything else. Heck, I just turned 54 two weeks ago and my ADHD now has a new friend.. Memory loss! I don’t wish it on anyone in the world, it has me terrified, and it’s impacting everything including my playing and this is the first time I’ve ever told anyone.
Totally relate. I luckily had more leeway at home but definitely suffered with ADHD and things just got harder and harder the further through school I got.
At 63, I can’t tell you how many ways I relate to this. I’ve spent a lifetime scraping by, caring about little but guitaring when my Day gig work is done (if not excelling at it). Now I have a daughter, 17, who is about as interested in school as you were, and has chosen a difficult path, also caring little about anything but music. But if she finds it, and can’t be happy, i’ll do all I can to support her. Thank you.
Rhett, this means so much to me. Ive been diagnosed with ADHD since 6th grade just like you, I’m 17 now. All throughout middle school and my first years of high school and even being a junior now; I felt as though school (specifically school work and homework) have slipped out of my fingers.
When you talked about the feeling of hating the 9 to 5 and it being hell, as well as being told you “weren’t gonna make it” hit so home for me, it really made me feel like I’m not alone in my experience . Being trans certainly hasn’t helped my high school experience; although I love my identity and myself… I find myself feeling a bit lost. Thankfully I am anchored by my amazing community of trans and queer people, as well as my high school Jazz Band;
I have been playing drums since the age of 4. I love music, my dad is a drummer so I wanted to be just like him, (he is also a college professor as well as my stepmother, the expectation of college has been present in my life since a very young age…) That being said I picked up the guitar at 14, I loved it so much and still do; today I play drums and guitar in my high school jazz band, we won the Berklee Jazz Festival competition my freshman year where the judges got to hear me on both drums and guitar… Music has always been present in my life, so has ADHD. Music has helped me cope with my emotions and so much internal conflict (e.g. my transness and coming to terms with my gender identity as well as ADHD), it’s very comforting to hear a similar story and shared experience from someone older than me.
I wanna become successful, to inspire others like me; other trans women, other underprivileged individuals, just like you (and so many others) inspire me to do and be better. Thank you so much.
- Valerie
Hang in there Valerie! You can do it…be a light for others…
Great story! At 66, I’m still struggling with a learning disability but I’m working hard to beat it. God bless!
Relate to this hugely, left school with poor grades thinking life was over before it had begun. Eventually I was properly diagnosed with dyslexia, began to study theatre, and now have two degrees, one a masters from a well respected drama school. So glad I found something that clicked, not sure where I would be otherwise.
Wonderful story, Rhett! I struggled through school my entire life and even went undiagnosed until I was 25 years old. ADHD is often seen as an excuse, but it’s about damn time that it is regarded as a mental health condition. When you mentioned sitting at the kitchen table crying over math problems you didn’t understand, I was reliving that same trauma right along side you.
i can truly relate.and like you, guitar/music has been a large part of my salvation. additionally, now one of my children is in a similar boat -and I refuse to belittle her for not fitting the public consensus mold. instead, I've focused on finding out who she is, what her genuine interests and inclinations are, and finding empathetic ways to help her find and stay on her path. frankly, piss on the norms -look what theyve produced..."sheeple"
I get what you are saying, but piss on the norms? Sheeple? Some people thrive and are happy by following the norm, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. People who follow the norm are also valuable and can also do good things for the world. However, I do think the way we treat people who don't fit in is wrong. I guess what I am trying to say is: it's ok to be different, but also to not be different.
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 i respect you're opinion , but sadly the people who thrive on the so called "norm " have a tendency to look down on people who don't comply with that same "norm " , like : i am laywer and make this much money each year , so i am therfore more "succesfull "in life , it's that silly "status " thing i guess .
@@antoonhermans8953 yeah, that's messed up
Struggle is what makes us who we are. Its awesome that you shared this part of your life because there are so many that have been through that, or a family member, or a friend. Our oldest has ADD and when he was young it was ADHD, OCD, borderline Turrets. He too struggled to maintain attention in class, hated sports, etc. It definitely all calmed down as he got older, except for the ADD but he found music as well. He lives in Brooklyn and creates electronic music as an outlet and he is finally getting his grove. We encouraged anything he took an interest in and I think support is everything. Thank you again for sharing. We love ya man.
My wife was still teaching when you were struggling with school. She hated how it seemed like the only approach to AD/HD was medication, even though so many learning issues could be helped just by giving a little more one-on-one time to students, figuring out where they were as a person, as a kid with a lot of things possibly weighing on them. I was lucky enough to have a teacher at my small country school who gave us free guitar lessons at lunch hour. We just had to show up with a guitar. I remember getting that proverbial $50 classical guitar (the teacher said nylon strings were easier on the fingers, and pain made you quit before you got hooked😏), and just holding it and staring at it. I probably would have done pretty well as a musician, but my friends and I listened to all those voices whispering in our ears about not being good enough to make a living at it. Kudos to you for taking it further. I still have that little Raven guitar, and I still love playing it, bad intonation and all. Thanks for sharing.😑
One life on earth, my guy. Pick up that guitar some more if it makes your day
In no way does my comment disparage your other videos but, this one is probably the best video you have made for so many reasons.
Most importantly, it can help other parents out there who are struggling with a child that has a learning disability.
It doesn't mean that their child isn't intelligent. It means that their child is wired differently and needs to be taught another way.
Well this was like staring in a mirror for fifteen minutes. I also hated school, couldn't play sports, dreaded the prospect of working a "normal" job or having a "normal" life. My thing was drawing, it's all I wanted to do and the only thing I was good at, no artists or creative people in my family so I was on my own. Survived high school, went to art school (my dad thought I was wasting my time and money). Fast forward, I'm 24 years into my career as a television animator having worked on some of the biggest prime time shows ever. You can't fit a square peg into a round hole no matter how hard you push.
I'm right there with you! Mine is writing. I just published my first novel. It's just a start, but it feels good!!! Thanks for the entertainment, man!!! I LOVE toons!!! They're highly underrated entertainment.
This really hits home for me. Everything you said was almost exactly my experience growing up. I started playing guitar at fifteen after my French horn was stolen and my mom was gracious enough to buy me a guitar. I never amounted to much as a musician but still keep at it and find it to be a rewarding hobby. My “it” moment was finding out that I am quite good at building furniture with my bare hands. It is my rabbit hole and now my profession. I now own and operate a company with a handful of employees to whom I can pass my relationship with the craft on to. It’s not easy everyday but it is an amazing ride nonetheless. Thanks Brett for all you do.
Great video Rhett! When they diagnosed me with ADHD my school systems response was just to drug me up😂. Our parents are very similar though.
Adderall works for me. It literally makes me more functional. Some ppl have it so bad, they can't go without medication. It literally is an issue with the brain regions responsible for executive functions being underdeveloped. And that causes an imbalance in chemicals in the brain which results in various of issues such as emotional explosiveness, lack of focus, hyperactivity, issues with residing comprehension and so on. If my parents had "drugged me up" I wouldn't have ruined everything.
As a retired Art Teacher I am so glad that you have brought this up. So many of the students I am most proud of are the ones that stuck to their guns, went their own way and followed their own instincts. The Arts have been stigmatised in education. So many students gained in self confidence through drama, found a vocation through art or found meaning in their lives through music. It still makes my blood boil to remember the disparaging comments these talented and enthusiastic people had to put up with. To paraphrase Bill Clinton the mantra of education should be "It's the Student, stupid." I lost count of the conversations I had with parents and senior staff arguing that education is about the student and not the parents or the teaching staff. It should not be an educators job to force a round peg into a square hole. Bravo to you Rhett. Clearly your success has proved this point. The fact that you can put over these points with kindness and compassion says much about you. Good teachers are born out of the enthusiasm for their subject and their love for sharing it. They are also people who are not afraid to learn from the students and find out what makes the tick. What you teach I am very pleased to learn.
I never struggled with learning disabilities. I was actually put into gifted programs in elementary school and junior high. Despite that, I HATED high school. I felt like I was in prison while I was there. My grades started slipping the last couple of years. I had pretty much the same experience with sports that you did. I really despised team sports. Individual sports were a little more bearable. I decided I would make up for that when I went to college. I had to join the Army and serve for 4 years to get the money to afford college. I worked my ass off in college and got a 4.0 GPA my first two years, which allowed me to get into an even better college. I maintained my 4.0 for the first year, then the grind of working 30 hours a week, studying all night, and sleeping 5 hours if I was lucky started getting to me. I had no friends or social life at all. By the third year in college my grades started tanking again, and I stopped caring. Although I didn't know it at the time, I was suffering from depression. I couldn't even find the motivation to get out of bed. I felt like I could learn more from a $25 book you could get at Barnes and Noble about the subjects I was studying than from my $300 textbook and the classes I was taking. I stopped going to college and started looking for jobs. I had a job for a while doing tech support over the phone. I quickly realized that I couldn't deal with sitting in a cubicle all day. I got a great job that allows me to travel for a living (I'm writing this from Buenos Aires), pays me well, and doesn't require me to ever set foot in an office or sit through meetings. I've been doing it for 23 years, and plan to do it for another 19 at least. Although my struggles were different than yours, I can relate to a lot of how you felt about the whole school and work system. I also love guitar and will keep at it until I physically can't anymore. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help a lot of people who are dealing with similar issues.
Absolutely fantastic video! Thanks for opening up and sharing, Rhett. I’m a former teacher turned pediatrician who has spent a lot of time working with kids and families in classrooms and clinics to help treat, manage, and cope with adhd. There is still so much the general populous doesn’t understand about how people/children with adhd function and the challenges they face. Videos like these can make all the difference for kids trying to understand why they are struggling, parents trying to understand their kids, and anyone trying to understand this condition better. Thanks for using your platform to help other understand and find hope through understanding.
Now…back to preaching the gospel of fuzz!
Me too. The Ritalin epidemic was strong back there, everyone seemingly was prescribed drugs to help.. I also was put in special classes. I struggled. However, as I grew up, I realized that I was just too creative to learn in the “normal” way. Eventually stated my own business after floundering around for years and now things are fine, I’m a mostly normal human. Shoot, SAME story as you, so insane that they didn’t have anything resembling an alternative method of teaching then, that they didn’t even realize that some people just don’t get on with learning in the same way as others.
Hey Rhett, Love your channel and I’m a bass player. Thank you for being so transparent on your journey. Remember, life is a journey and you’ve used yours to bless the world. Your journey may feel difficult,
but you came out all the better. Your an incredible musician, filmmaker, and story teller. Look what a attipical journey has created. Hats off to you
Rhett, for not giving up. The world is better for it.
God bless you young Brother!!!!!
The "one size fits all" approach to education will always fail. Not all students are "academically minded", some are more practical and hands-on. Not everyone is suited for a college education. A plumber or an electrician earns more and has less debt than most college graduates. Also there is no shame in not being good at sports in my opinion. Glad that you found your niche where you can thrive and are happy. Good for you.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going! "Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent!" ~ Calvin Coolidge. Press On! Rhett Shull🙌🏻🙌🏻🌎
I understand, not from my own experiences, but those of my son. We sent him to a private school, and they did not have (or were not willing to have) the resources to deal with children who were not the shining examples of what they wanted their denomination to produce. My son loved music, and was taking piano lessons, but one of the teachers who regarded him as a "loser" (and told others so my son could overhear) managed to get into a position where she could create a reason to have him expelled. There were not discipline issues, just a prejudice against a student with difficulties. You managed to get past your obstacles, and I really enjoy watching your videos. I enjoyed several years as a gigging musician, so your experiences resonate.
thank you for this Rhett... in most ways, i shared the same exsperiences. where i am the one that settled for the mindless 9-5 kinda , your story is inspiring even now. even though i will never achieve any of the same success... i can honestly say , i play guitar not because im good at it but because i love it .
sometimes you just need to find the things that you love and make you happy . now almost 40 years later i still play and it makes me feel exstremely happy and know ive found my thing that does that . cheers Rhett i love you channel.
I really can't express how much simillar some things in your life have been to my own. You and your content made me realize that I had to make a change and pursue my dreams, today I study music at my city's conservatory and study music at college, all because one day I found your channel. So thank you very much for everything you've made so far.
Thank you.
Read I was in the pocket with you from the moment you started talking. I haven’t read any comments below, but I am absolutely positive that so many of your viewers and more definitely relate to your journey. I would love to talk with you and share my journey with you. I am a licensed social worker who has had ADD my entire life, I’m 50 years old I still have it, I’ve learned to live with it, it’s my superpower, and I didn’t realize this until my own children were diagnosed years ago. My parents reacted much like yours. I’m the youngest of eight kids, all seven before me went to college, many of them graduating magna cum laude, valedictorians of Brown University and what not. Thank you for being so vulnerable and a time when your viewers are at an all time high. I’ve enjoyed you for the last few years, I credit you and your videos and Rick Beato for taking a 48-year-old guy and turning them into somebody who believes there’s a place for him in this music world. Thank you again, Billy Mac
I wish I had heard this 30 years ago in high school! Maybe I wouldn’t be working the dead end job everyone fears. Thank you Rhett, I’m gonna play this for my kids
Thanks! Spectrum here, too. Different journey - made it through school okay, but very much a stranger in a world made by and for people who don't think like I do.
You're kind-of a hero on here, playing all this nice gear and sounding great, so it's a big deal when you share it was a struggle.
Here’s to you Rhett, I started guitar at about the same age, but opted for the corporate gig…now I’m 70, retired playin in a band and having a great time…But it’s not time wasted, I mean those in between years…I never quit playing…I really enjoy your video presentations and enjoy the occasional live moments vicariously through you…and on occasion I do have a live moment myself with the band…cheers
Same here. In my case I found graphic design and I love it.
Thanks for sharing. 53 years old and ADHD has been a constant companion. Hopefully the schools manage it better now than they did way back when. It's a struggle, a real struggle.
I'm a high school teacher here in Florida. I encounter many students whose experiences are very similar to yours. It's nice to hear a candid statement about it. And it's encouraging to know you found your own way. Everyone is different.
Glad you shared that story. Being a guitar player and knowing the musicians I've met in my 68 years, many of them tended to not fit into the "standard" way of educating children. Rick Beato, as I'm sure you know, has shared similar experiences he had struggling with math. I too struggled with math and to this day use only bone simple algebra when working on building/repairing old tube guitar amps. But music has a way of breaking through to people who think in non-conventional ways. I hope some young folks who are experiencing similar struggles will be inspired by your message.
We don’t know each other, but I love you Rhett. You give people like me tons and tons of inspiration to put all that I have into those six strings. Thank you for this.
Hey Rhett! Good Job! This will touch many in a very beneficial way! Thx for your bravery!
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Profoundly inspiring. Neural atypicals rule. Thanks for doing this, Rhett; I'll bet a lot of us following your channel have similar experiences and can relate.
thnx for this brother. my son is 15 and he’s going thru exact same stuff. adhd, depression hates school. ironically, he’s a damn good drummer but he learned to hate it because i made him practice almost everyday. like you with sports. and no matter how many great gigs he played or how much praise he got, he still wound up hating being “the drummer kid.”
anyhow, glad you found guitar on your own and weren’t forced into it. ps: my kid did percussion too. it helped him get very good on the snare but he hated every minute of it.
finally my son discovered skateboarding on his own and like u with sports the years of drumming taught him how to stick with something.
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Rhett, I love how very humble and "real" you are in your videos. You also make it clear that hard work, consistent effort, and passion will eventually pay off. Hope to see you play live now that we are in the Atlanta area.
Thanks for the story.
Everyone has one, everyone has their past that has brought them to where they are.
Some found their life, some found their failure.
I'm glad yours was the life you never could have imagined.
Rhett - thanks for your willingness to be open, honest and vulnerable! It’s that kind of authenticity that attracts me to people like you, Rick Beato, and others. It compels a level of kinship in a virtual world tat I think holds the deeper rewards in the online world, beyond the fabulous content that brought me to your channel, and others like you, a long time ago!
Peace my friend - the background you shared, and the manner by which you shared it, just serves to motivate me more to learn from you and others - and makes for a much richer experience on your channel!
There’s plenty enough ego online to go around. What there’ll never be enough of is people like yourself whose genuine nature and sharing further motivates and inspires me!
Thanks brother!
Like Rick said, and yes, I laughed out load numerous times because I can and so many people can relate!
Thank You Rhett! Thank You!
You and Corey Congilio are SO pleasant to listen to on any topic. You cut deep on this one. They gave me a blank diploma at my high school. An all white school in Detroit (65 grad). What a snake pit. But we survived thanks to music!!
Hey Rhett, I’m really happy for you, that you found music and that your folks hung in there with you. I’m 70 now and always felt like a late bloomer. It took me until I was about 25 until I found the blues harmonica and I’ve been playing in bar bands for years now, written tunes and put out records. I’m very grateful for having found something I loved. Two years ago I took up guitar and love it, too. I practice for hours everyday - haven’t got any time to waste. I really enjoy your channel and all you’ve accomplished!