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Best video ever! Wow, I just kept shaking my head yes! I could relate to everything you said. I laughed out loud numerous times. Awesome!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thanks Rick!
Wait until he tells that "wah wah" story
Didn't you kind of get Rhett doing this kind of thing? So you must have seen something...go ahead and beam a little bit, you earned it!
Well, when it's adhd and you basically have 35 TVs on in your head at once or you're hyperfixated on one little thing for 6 hours, either way, people who don't understand are terrible at trying to help
And school, might as well be teaching abacus in computer classes.
Slow moving cargo ships, they are.
So many times we find out something later in life, and it’s frustrating to realize that if we had only known that when we were kids, things would have been very different. We weren’t just “hyper”, or “disruptive” as we found out later (or too late), and we didn’t suck at school or sports because we were “lazy”. I found out not that long ago that even though I’m right-handed, I’m left eye dominant, so I can’t aim or line things up worth a crap because I should be doing them left-handed. Can you imagine telling someone that when you started school back in the 70’s? They’d smile benignly, and make a note in your “file”. I stumbled on to your channel accidentally, and subsequently Rhett’s. I’m getting a lot out of your content, even in my mid fifties. I’ve decided I need to practice and play when the mood strikes, and some other things need to just wait. The fact that I DIDN’T do that when I was younger sometimes weighs on me, but that’s all done with. May as well make some noise while I have the chance. Thanks to both of you.
I don't know of Rhett's parents read these comments, but if they are: you did a tremendous job raising an immensely talented son and should be very proud! Which I am sure you are. :)
They do and they have replied to some of the comments. Thank you from a retired guy, volunteer morning crossing guard (the most joyful, fun, blessed gig ever!) and Friday morning ALP Math assistant, providing plausible deniability after the teacher told me to "teach it the way you learned it." Fortunately I escaped before Dad's struggle with helping my brother through "New Math." Dad asked me during the past ten years before he passed on, "Do they still teach New Math?" Answer: "Yes, but it's a New Math every several years, to provide a market for the publishers."
Rhett, I feel like driving to Georgia and giving you a hug. My son is a musician, successful at that, and he is your astral twin. Like your dad, i supported my son and ive never looked back. The greatest day of my life was spending my entire raise from work to buy him a Korg Triton Extreme. Good for you. You serve society by ROCKIN! Thanks for the transparency. We would all be nearly worthless without music and musicians. I love your channel. Keep up the good work.
Thank you for sharing, its good to know there are others out there. It helps me to help my young son go his own way even though its an accepted path in the Asian society
Supportive parents have such a profound impact on their children's ambitions and talents- God bless your parents Rhett!!!
About to retire Physics teacher here. Can’t tell you how frustrating it is to read your story. I have run across many students like you and I’ve always felt so bad. Not because I thought I failed them as a teacher, but because the system just didn’t allow time for me to work with them… to help them find something they could become passionate about... to adjust my curriculum to find something in my subject they could relate to. Thanks for telling this story and I hope every kid (and teacher) gets a chance to hear it.
I feel bad for people who have the heart for teaching but whose hands are tied by "the system". Both of my sons have ADD and even elementary school was not at all helpful, so we home-schooled them all the way thru high-school, tweaking the schedule and curriculum to fit their abilities. After high school we had them take one semester of college just to validate their education. Both got all A's and promptly quit. My older son has a near photo-graphic memory and is now a Master Sergeant in the Air Force. My younger son is extremely hands-on mechanical and at a fairly young age is pipe-fitter general foreman - the first class in the apprenticeship program was trigonometry. He saw the value in the career opportunity and Aced that class and the next 9 semesters.
I took Physics in the Arts in college. It was one of the best classes I took.
@@krisyoungsteadt9139 That sounds really interesting. How does a guitar, trumpet, flute, etc. work?
Doesn't the fact that you wish you could help such students show that our western form of 'Education' lacks the intelligence of allowing staff and students to discover exactly what Rhett discovered. i.e. Instead of forced education fitting people for the capitalist system. People are unique individuals with unique personalities and interests. Those characteristics are not always served by a set curriculum.
@@Pegasus4213 Yep. Quite right.
I wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until I was an adult. Back in the late 70’s early 80’s I was repeatedly told that I was just lazy. I luckily found computer programming in college which worked well with my ADHD. I have found a huge percentage of the people I work with in the software industry also have ADHD and a lot of them are also musicians as am I.
Me too, tech is a great place for ADHD and non-linear people!
Same here. The difference between my grades in elementary/middle/high school versus college once I found programming was night and day. Have now had a nice 27 year career writing code and now managing a team. I definitely still struggled at times, which is why I was eventually diagnosed in my early 30's. Learning strategies to work with the ADHD instead of against it helped me tremendously. When you can harness the hyper focused side of ADHD, it's like a super power for slinging code and making music.
@@JeffsBassment I've still not been diagnosed but I'm entirely sure I have adhd.
I found drugs at 18 and embraced it fully pot then speed then E interspersed with occasional psychedelics. Acid and Mushrooms.
I ended up in mental hospital 2 times. The first time I was discharged on crazy Anti-psychotics. I was a complete zombie.
I got back into speed to combat the massive central nervous system suppressive just to feel alive for a few hours.
Massive depression followed again and psychotic depression this time.
I ended up in mental hospital again and eventually ended up getting a course of ECT. It wiped my memory and rebooted my brain and it gave me 3 months or so of a break from the habitual thoughts of depression.
I applied to Uni to finish my computing degree from Mental Hospital and I was accepted back.
2 years later I had a BSC in Computing.
I've had a great career since then. I was global lead developer for a fortune 500 oil company.
From the depths of human suffering to the heights of as successful career.
All throughout this my guitar playing was a constant.
I've played since I was 11 and I always played with people.
Playing with people stretches you every time.
You learn and you hear new things.
Played in a few bands and played out a few times.
Now I'm older and still play but my passion has burnt down a bit but I still play every other day.
I think I'd like to find a Jam group to play with.
I feel you. Keep going.
You are awesome.
Luv and Peace.
@@tomseiple3280 For sure. Working from home has especially helped us.
@@ianedmonds9191 Dude, that's a hell of an experience. I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I definitely struggled with some mental issues throughout life. Depression/bi-polar issues run in my family. And I know all about self-medicating. I found weed at 13 and speed at 16 and, like you, it made me feel normal. But it's easy to abuse and I luckily I was able to get away from it. I still enjoy an herbal supplement every so often though :)
Definitely find a group to jam with, my friend. It brings so much peace and joy to make music with others.
Your story is so similar to my own I have Asperger’s so school was extremely hard, and my dad told me the same sentiment of not getting me a guitar. My mom decided to go against his judgement and gave me a squier strat starter pack for Christmas 2013 and I’ve never looked back. My band released our first full length album last year and we’re going on tour this summer! Have a great day, week, and year Rhett. Loving your videos as always
It’s interesting how similar our stories are. Our stories diverge after high school where I turned to the military because my guitar wasn’t going to do it. I’m out and now have a 9-5 that I hate. I have been going to school for Audio Production and I’m on my way to opening a small studio to support local artists. Thank for sharing this story, what an inspiration!
I was going to say the exact same thing. Retiring this year from the AF after 21 years. Following my guitar dreams next year as a retiree.
@@scottbailey6689 Best of luck to you!
I've never related so hard to a story. Even in the early 2000's resources for ADHD were scarce. I lost count of the breakdowns and amount of self hate for not being able to learn like a "normal" student. Guitar was/is/will always be my way out. Even as an adult, "normal" jobs terrify me. Every time I embrace music, it embraces back. So that's what I'll stick with 🎸
I'm an electrical engineer and my 15 year old son is experiencing what you have gone thru. Thanks for giving me his side of the story. To me you are a success in every sense of the word. Keep the videos going and I'll keep watching Rhett. All the best from Toronto, Canada.
This video is a Redemption Song, Rhett. How many kids are out there who never connected with that ONE THING that lit them up? How many grown-ups; old broken down humans who've never answered the question of what they, specifically, are good for? It's so sad. And it's so beautiful that you know how close you came to a life without magic. And that you're looking through the camera from your side, hoping to find others and pull them through to the world you've found. Lead the way, Young Brother.
I think it’s pretty cool that someone who struggled to “get it” in school has now taught so many others. Well done Rhett, and thank you,
Well this was like staring in a mirror for fifteen minutes. I also hated school, couldn't play sports, dreaded the prospect of working a "normal" job or having a "normal" life. My thing was drawing, it's all I wanted to do and the only thing I was good at, no artists or creative people in my family so I was on my own. Survived high school, went to art school (my dad thought I was wasting my time and money). Fast forward, I'm 24 years into my career as a television animator having worked on some of the biggest prime time shows ever. You can't fit a square peg into a round hole no matter how hard you push.
I'm right there with you! Mine is writing. I just published my first novel. It's just a start, but it feels good!!! Thanks for the entertainment, man!!! I LOVE toons!!! They're highly underrated entertainment.
Rhett… you are describing my daughter. To a tee. She is you. It’s been a very difficult process, but she is about to graduate from HS. I’ve been a ultra conventional parent dealing with a special kid. I hope she like you finds her “thing” in life like you did with guitar. I have shed many tears in this process. I love her so much. For the longest time I have felt her struggles were my fault. I have and still am working through it all. This video has more value then any guitar video you have ever posted. Don’t get me wrong I am a sub and I get all updates. I am a truly appreciative follower, but this story is a bigger blessing than any of your musical offerings. What you did today gave me hope.
Her struggles aren’t your fault, as someone that can relate to her experience all I can tell you is to give her the space and support she needs to find her thing and thrive in it, even if it doesn’t make much sense to you.
Hang in there dad…your daughter is precious. And when she finds her gig support it 100%. Love her no matter what.
Agreed with mama W…. Hang in there. Don’t give up hope. Give yourself and your daughter some grace and with time you’ll find her true gifts and talents. Nurture them. Her success may not be your original view of success. But you may just be surprised that their success will be better than anything you could have ever hoped or planned for!
@@RhettShull thank you for the response. I will keep loving her through it all. Even step back and let her find her way. But watching …quietly
Now we really undestand what "Remember there is no plan B" means! The best channel on youtube andit is a important video to everyone who loves music but sometimes get frustrated by something that is far away "harder" than what you passed.
As a parent of two kids with special needs (autism and ADHD) I just wanted to say thank you Rhett for posting this video.
You're not alone, my man. The good side to this is that not only do we have many more resources to deal with it now, but because our brains are wired differently, we can do things that other people can't.
Keep doing what you do, man. Keep being awesome.
It's hard many days, but I'm really proud of how our brains are different. It has absolutely played a critical role in accelerating my career in the creative world. Thinking a million miles a minute really helps in creative careers.
I can relate. Didn't get diagnosed until my late 40's. Mental health was stigmatized back then. I am now a teacher who works with kids that have learning disabilities. The system is still broken but I'll go to my grave trying to help these kids. Everybody learns differently. Accept it.
Brutally open and honest.
I'm 57 and from the UK.
Reminds me entirely of my experience with education.
Always the same comments at the end of the school year " Never let's things sink in, could and should do better"
Our education system never understood, or recognised, what learning difficulties were.
Thanks for being so open, and, like you, my only interest that completely took me to my place was music.
THIS IS AWESOME BRO! Thank you for sharing this! More power rhett!
12:14 I literary heard that sentence a million times and thought the same thing - if these are my best years, then I'm screwed haha. High school was no picnic, hated most of it, especially a couple of teachers who just had bad pedagogy. Really did a number on my self-confidence, but as you said, I'm grateful even for the bad moments. It made me develop a thicker skin and that helps when dealing with haters on UA-cam. Nothing feels better than finding something that you're really passionate about, especially if you can make a living off of that, but even if you can't, it's important to have a hobby where you can relax and lay off some steam. Thanks for sharing your story, sorry for the longer comment :)
My son sounds very similar to you, but his interest is drums. High School (same as you, Northview HS here in Johns Creek) was a struggle to get him through (2021 grad), and he recently dropped out of college in his second freshmen semester last month. He has no idea what he wants to do, or any motivation to do it, other than his only interest in drums. We want him to chase his passion, and try to figure out how to help him continue to evolve as an adult. So I for one appreciate this story.
Yup! I’m a Northview grad as well, 2008! He’ll find a way to make it work, just continue to give him the support he needs to make it happen
I needed this video today. Thanks Rhett keep up the great content
Loved this Rhett and very relatable. Thank you for sharing and all you do in this music community! ✌️
Totally relate. I luckily had more leeway at home but definitely suffered with ADHD and things just got harder and harder the further through school I got.
Unbelievably refreshing honesty...this has to be so liberating for you...it made us all better people..
Thanks for sharing all that Rhett, keep up the great work! Takes alot of courage to tell the world all those things.
Bless you, brother. Thank you for this story...
Music is a saving grace for us all. Rock on!
You have no idea how many musicians (millions I'm sure) can relate to your story of music and their formative school years. Thanks for telling your story.
I've never had someone hold a guitar and speak to me more without actually playing it. Thank you for this.
Other side of the coin: As someone who also shares his frustration with ADHD, speaking with an instrument is still the most honest form of communication. You cannot hide and you cannot lie and fortunately music is far more accepting of different approaches to learning and practicing for all types of people
I do enjoy your channel, Rhett. Thanks for sharing this. Keep up the good work.
solid Video Rhett. Dig the stuff you do
I'm literally in music school right now! It was like you were talking right to me! Love you and all you do! Keep up the great work and great playing. Thank you for this video!
"There's no plan B," takes on a much deeper meaning. Thank you for sharing this. You have inspired a lot of people to simply push forward and try. Thank you.
This is very inspiring. Thank you.
Snap!! keep up the good work
Wow your story is close to mine Rhett. Im 68 and my pop was a doctor. Back then the teachers just labeled me hyper active. Thanks for sharing this. Love your channel and musicianship!
Oh, man. As someone who also has ADHD, I really feel this...especially the stuff about working 9 to 5 every day being a living hell. It's something I've been dealing with for 20 years and I've got nothing left after making ends meet. Also the bit about "turn it down!" killing your confidence.
It's so amazing how your parents supported you and helped you live out your dreams rather than strangling them in the crib and continuing to point you down the "normal" path. Mad props to them for encouraging you even when they didn't understand. So many neurodiverse people never get that backing, so the fact that they built you up instead of tearing you down makes them heroes in my eyes.
Best video I've seen in a long time and you are a wealth of inspiration to me, pal. Thanks.
Rhett, thanks for sharing that. And thanks for your content. So glad you found your thing!
Rhett,
You will probably never know how many young people you have helped by putting this out. Kudos to you buddy! BTW, my perception of you has always been that you are an intelligent and very capable musician.
Rhett ::: Such an awesome video and a story so many of us can relate to… This will go on to inspire many and touch souls….. “Do What You Love …. And Love What You Do”…Thank you for posting such a great story!!!
Well done for sharing, very brave!
Love this!
It's so cool that you found your path and your place Rhett. I myself am autistic and was totally rejected by other children. Thanks to guitar and music, I managed to improve my communication and social skills and I also found my way. (-: All the best Rhett. Mordi
Rhett, thanks for opening up. Not everyone excels at the same thing. It is interesting how people with certain deficiencies in one area, excel in other areas - I believe this applies to everyone, and that is why we have such a diversified society. The trick is for each to find what they excel at, those that do are lucky, and will be happy.
Wow - thanks for sharing and giving us all hope. Love your channel!
You doing great Rhett, love watching your vids!
Relate to this hugely, left school with poor grades thinking life was over before it had begun. Eventually I was properly diagnosed with dyslexia, began to study theatre, and now have two degrees, one a masters from a well respected drama school. So glad I found something that clicked, not sure where I would be otherwise.
You just described me in middle school through high school. Never had a diagnosis, just struggled. I too just dove head first in music and the guitar. I’m 3 years younger than you but I wish I could’ve somehow seen this back then. Love the video.
Thanks for sharing this stuff, very relatable!
Thx for sharing! Thx for all the stories, all the love, all the insight! You're helping people and that's the greatest thing of all!
Being parents is a real tough job and they're no good school to learn how to do unfortunately. Happy that it finally worked out for yourself in music.
Man, Rhett, you just described my young life in the late 80’s. I dropped out my senior year badly behind. In my early 20’s, I took my GED and aced it... so then I went to college... same thing, Dropped out and just couldn’t do it. I found out after that, that I had ADHD. It just wasn’t a thing and I was considered a troubled kid. Pure hell in my head. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m a local musician in Destin, FL now. We all know now, eh? Cheers bro. I’m a big fan. 😇 Wow... same sports experience too! Wow! I’M NOT ALOOOONE!! Lol I don’t wish that on anyone so I’m sorry you had to suffer it too. Music saved me literally... Amazing...
Thanks for sharing!
thanks for encouragement rhett🔥
Your parents must be extremely proud. Would love to see a video of them watching this. A tearjerker for sure.
Wow, I have Adhd as an adult as well and guitar is the only thing that I’ve ever been able to keep my undivided attention on. You inspire me more than any other UA-camr I’ve watched so thank you for that.
awesome video, loved it. keep up the great work mate
A very, very good video and content, Mr. Shull. and great that you posted it.
I don’t know what prompted you to tell your story but you have really elevated the form here. This is one of the most honest, thoughtful and straightforward videos I’ve ever watched on YT and it includes so much in terms of explaining your unique drive to become what you are today, while touching on universal truths about creative people and finding a good path in life.
As an educator, I have to say that school cannot be everything to everyone, but I can understand where you are coming from about your education. Personally, I had a few teachers who made a profound impact on me, but didn't realize the full impact until I had grown up a little more. Today, I have a son with some pretty profound special needs and I am amazed by the teachers and staff at his school.
I appreciate your story, makes me think back to my aunt giving me The Wall and Animals on vinyl when I was about 12 or so :) The same aunt also gave me my first transistor radio, first boom box, and first two hand-me-down stereo systems. And then the Christmas when I got my first kinda-nice guitar from my incredible grandparents.
Have a great day, Rhett.
Love you Rhett!!💯🍻🇨🇦🍻💯
This was awesome! I relate to so much of what you said.
Dude, you are a GREAT person for posting this! This takes so much courage, to tell your story with such honesty, to admit to all your flaws and not apologize for them. So many of us have gone through similar things, and it's never easy. I've got a few years on you, but I went through it too--all the doubts, the struggles with school, not understanding why I couldn't "get it," at least for a while. But this is just so important, to know that someone like you, who is looked up to by many, persevered and found out who he was through dedication to what he is passionate about. Honestly, man, thank you for this. You're just awesome. I wish you the best.
I was diagnosed ADHD at 57...it began to explain my life of struggle with achievement...particularly with music theory...thanks!
Thanks for baring your soul and sharing your story. I can relate on so many levels
thanks rhett i needed this today..thanks..
I appreciate this. For me I was never diagnosed with ADHD even tho that’s what I always heard I had. But music became my escape. Not just from what I seen as failures of life at school but also the violence at my home. If I didn’t have music I easily could say I wouldn’t be here. Writing, singing and once I went to college I picked up the guitar. Music is the biggest reason I’ve been able to survive.
I’ve been a juvenile probation officer for 24 years and I work every day with kids struggling to feel connected to their school. The perseverance you showed can be an example to them about how to find your passion, your worth, your own way. Our schools can be brutal for those who learn differently, but who are brilliantly original. Our teachers aren’t able to reward uniqueness easily. Thankfully, you had caring parents who were patient and you had economic stability which a lot of kids don’t have. I will use your example with teens I work with to show them they can overcome learning difficulties and bad grades and they can be themselves and discover what is meaningful to them over time. Thanks for being so honest!
That was honestly one of the most inspiring videos I've seen in a very long time! Thank you for sharing this kind of personal stuff Rhett🙏
Thanks for sharing, man! Your authenticity is incredible and super helpful!
Very interesting story, Rhett! It's really a testament to the fact that you found your lane: I remember you as an excellent student at AIMM. You were 100% engaged and constantly progressing - that's what I remember - not your grades. And I would have never guessed that you had learning struggles earlier in life. I think that makes you a great example and role model for upcoming musicians. It's great to see you having success!
Great video Rhett! When they diagnosed me with ADHD my school systems response was just to drug me up😂. Our parents are very similar though.
Adderall works for me. It literally makes me more functional. Some ppl have it so bad, they can't go without medication. It literally is an issue with the brain regions responsible for executive functions being underdeveloped. And that causes an imbalance in chemicals in the brain which results in various of issues such as emotional explosiveness, lack of focus, hyperactivity, issues with residing comprehension and so on. If my parents had "drugged me up" I wouldn't have ruined everything.
Bless you Rhett, you're a star and an inspiration!
This resonates so much with me. Thx
Having a couple of children where ADHD was a reality of their childhoods and now into their adulthood, I sympathize with your struggle. What I had to learn as a parent that ADHD or any other issue like that is something like correcting eyesight. If your kid has bad eyesight, you get them glasses. If your kid has ADHD, you get them the help they need to learn how to correct or at least figure out how to exist with it and learn how to deal with it. For my kids, it involved medication and some additional accomodation in school. Parents definitely need to comprehend that "success" has different meanings and that your kids need to ultimately make their own way. So glad you found your way and that your parents ultimately noticed what lit your fire.
Both of my sons have ADD and even elementary school was not helping, so we home-schooled them all the way thru high-school tweaking the schedule and curriculum to fit their abilities. After high school we had them take one semester of college just to validate their education. Both got all A's and promptly quit. My older son has a near photo-graphic memory and is now a Master Sergeant in the Air Force. My younger son is extremely hands-on mechanical and at a fairly young age is pipe-fitter general foreman - the first class in the apprenticeship program was trigonometry. No problem. We taught them how to learn using things that grabbed their interest. ADD/ADHD is a super power.
I never struggled with learning disabilities. I was actually put into gifted programs in elementary school and junior high. Despite that, I HATED high school. I felt like I was in prison while I was there. My grades started slipping the last couple of years. I had pretty much the same experience with sports that you did. I really despised team sports. Individual sports were a little more bearable. I decided I would make up for that when I went to college. I had to join the Army and serve for 4 years to get the money to afford college. I worked my ass off in college and got a 4.0 GPA my first two years, which allowed me to get into an even better college. I maintained my 4.0 for the first year, then the grind of working 30 hours a week, studying all night, and sleeping 5 hours if I was lucky started getting to me. I had no friends or social life at all. By the third year in college my grades started tanking again, and I stopped caring. Although I didn't know it at the time, I was suffering from depression. I couldn't even find the motivation to get out of bed. I felt like I could learn more from a $25 book you could get at Barnes and Noble about the subjects I was studying than from my $300 textbook and the classes I was taking. I stopped going to college and started looking for jobs. I had a job for a while doing tech support over the phone. I quickly realized that I couldn't deal with sitting in a cubicle all day. I got a great job that allows me to travel for a living (I'm writing this from Buenos Aires), pays me well, and doesn't require me to ever set foot in an office or sit through meetings. I've been doing it for 23 years, and plan to do it for another 19 at least. Although my struggles were different than yours, I can relate to a lot of how you felt about the whole school and work system. I also love guitar and will keep at it until I physically can't anymore. Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sure it will help a lot of people who are dealing with similar issues.
Thanks Rhett. this really hit home. it meant so much to me .
I love this! Thank you.
Your story reminds me of my daughter. She did poorly in regular school, excelled and struggled at the same time in specialized music school, excelled in opera school. She died several years ago, of cancer, after a semi-successful career. I am about as musical as your father is, but I watch UA-cam to cheer on in my imagination some of the musicians that remind me of her. At the top of the list are you and Mary Spender.
-BAK-
My wife was still teaching when you were struggling with school. She hated how it seemed like the only approach to AD/HD was medication, even though so many learning issues could be helped just by giving a little more one-on-one time to students, figuring out where they were as a person, as a kid with a lot of things possibly weighing on them. I was lucky enough to have a teacher at my small country school who gave us free guitar lessons at lunch hour. We just had to show up with a guitar. I remember getting that proverbial $50 classical guitar (the teacher said nylon strings were easier on the fingers, and pain made you quit before you got hooked😏), and just holding it and staring at it. I probably would have done pretty well as a musician, but my friends and I listened to all those voices whispering in our ears about not being good enough to make a living at it. Kudos to you for taking it further. I still have that little Raven guitar, and I still love playing it, bad intonation and all. Thanks for sharing.😑
One life on earth, my guy. Pick up that guitar some more if it makes your day
As the parent of a 19 year-old dyslexic, I can't thank you enough for posting this Rick. Our son's grade 1 teacher said: "Oh, give him ritalin, and he'll learn to read.". We declined to put a healthy, otherwise-happy six year old kid on drugs and sent him to a special school that uses the Slingerland Multisensory Method instead. He's now a freshman in college.
Your vulnerability’s have truly shown a side of you that is beautiful Rhett.
My favorite video you’ve ever put out!
Thank You 🙏🏻
i can truly relate.and like you, guitar/music has been a large part of my salvation. additionally, now one of my children is in a similar boat -and I refuse to belittle her for not fitting the public consensus mold. instead, I've focused on finding out who she is, what her genuine interests and inclinations are, and finding empathetic ways to help her find and stay on her path. frankly, piss on the norms -look what theyve produced..."sheeple"
I get what you are saying, but piss on the norms? Sheeple? Some people thrive and are happy by following the norm, and I don't think there is anything wrong with that. People who follow the norm are also valuable and can also do good things for the world. However, I do think the way we treat people who don't fit in is wrong. I guess what I am trying to say is: it's ok to be different, but also to not be different.
@@rodriguezelfeliz4623 i respect you're opinion , but sadly the people who thrive on the so called "norm " have a tendency to look down on people who don't comply with that same "norm " , like : i am laywer and make this much money each year , so i am therfore more "succesfull "in life , it's that silly "status " thing i guess .
@@antoonhermans8953 yeah, that's messed up
Me too. The Ritalin epidemic was strong back there, everyone seemingly was prescribed drugs to help.. I also was put in special classes. I struggled. However, as I grew up, I realized that I was just too creative to learn in the “normal” way. Eventually stated my own business after floundering around for years and now things are fine, I’m a mostly normal human. Shoot, SAME story as you, so insane that they didn’t have anything resembling an alternative method of teaching then, that they didn’t even realize that some people just don’t get on with learning in the same way as others.
Thanks for sharing Rhett, with all the things going on the world these days your openness and honesty is refreshing. Cheers keep it up!
Thanks alot for sharing this. Playing and exploring the guitar has also helped me in the struggles of life.
Rhett, this means so much to me. Ive been diagnosed with ADHD since 6th grade just like you, I’m 17 now. All throughout middle school and my first years of high school and even being a junior now; I felt as though school (specifically school work and homework) have slipped out of my fingers.
When you talked about the feeling of hating the 9 to 5 and it being hell, as well as being told you “weren’t gonna make it” hit so home for me, it really made me feel like I’m not alone in my experience . Being trans certainly hasn’t helped my high school experience; although I love my identity and myself… I find myself feeling a bit lost. Thankfully I am anchored by my amazing community of trans and queer people, as well as my high school Jazz Band;
I have been playing drums since the age of 4. I love music, my dad is a drummer so I wanted to be just like him, (he is also a college professor as well as my stepmother, the expectation of college has been present in my life since a very young age…) That being said I picked up the guitar at 14, I loved it so much and still do; today I play drums and guitar in my high school jazz band, we won the Berklee Jazz Festival competition my freshman year where the judges got to hear me on both drums and guitar… Music has always been present in my life, so has ADHD. Music has helped me cope with my emotions and so much internal conflict (e.g. my transness and coming to terms with my gender identity as well as ADHD), it’s very comforting to hear a similar story and shared experience from someone older than me.
I wanna become successful, to inspire others like me; other trans women, other underprivileged individuals, just like you (and so many others) inspire me to do and be better. Thank you so much.
- Valerie
Hang in there Valerie! You can do it…be a light for others…
They never officially diagnosed me as ADHD as a kid, they just used the mildly insulting term "learning disabled" at the time. A lot of what you said ended up being very similar for me growing up. My dad is good at math and wanted me doing all the sports. I was okay at basketball and baseball, but I never had any passion for either. Math has always been a disaster for me. So he for sure had a strained relationship with me. Guitar was one of the few things that got me through high school and college, even if I didn't end up pursuing music degrees. It's done me many favors in my adult life as well.
Hey Rhett, What a great story and thanks so much for sharing it.
Rhett, thank you so much for sharing such a personal experience with us! That was touching and inspiring! Thank you for sharing!
The "one size fits all" approach to education will always fail. Not all students are "academically minded", some are more practical and hands-on. Not everyone is suited for a college education. A plumber or an electrician earns more and has less debt than most college graduates. Also there is no shame in not being good at sports in my opinion. Glad that you found your niche where you can thrive and are happy. Good for you.
That was cool man. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing that. You’re the man!
Love everything about this video. Thank you for sharing this story.
I can completely relate to so much of this!
This is amazing brother. Thanks for sharing this, one of your best videos yet. Amazing channel.
Almost every word hit home. Thanks for sharing homie
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