Please Don't Give Up Yet! | What to Do When SOBRIETY Seems IMPOSSIBLE

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  • @eliasnieves8499
    @eliasnieves8499 Місяць тому +4

    Dude man. I'm 4 days sober. And I'm so happy I found your channel. Tonight I had the urge and wound up on one of your UA-cam videos and in 44 min I'll be 5 days sober. Thank you man. Keep it up

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Місяць тому +1

      Congratulations! And keep going! I’m so glad my video could help you get another day of sobriety under your belt.

  • @nicoleanagnostou7719
    @nicoleanagnostou7719 Рік тому +59

    Last week I celebrated 5 months alcohol free. The autoimmune issue I've dealt with the majority of my adult life completely disappeared.

  • @butchcasidy3386
    @butchcasidy3386 Рік тому +30

    That's how I became a fan of yours, 11 months ago !!! Now I'm a month from being A YEAR SOBER! YOUR SOBRIETY CHANNEL HAD ALOT TO DO WITH MY SOBRIETY TODAY.. THANKS TIM.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +3

      Glad to hear you are almost a year sober Butch! That's amazing!

    • @KoolT
      @KoolT Рік тому

      ODAT. One day at a time.

  • @alanfoix9911
    @alanfoix9911 Рік тому +8

    It took me 6 years to get 90 day chip. I lived on skid row. I'd get 30 - 45 days and drink or do drugs. I'd stay loaded for weeks - months, then go back to meetings. I we totally clean for 2 ahalf years. As they say I was on and off the wagon. Then I just smoked weed. I got drunk 3 times since 1996. I did meth , heroin , and prescription drug. On off till 2017 on and off. I been totally clean now for 2 months. It's a hard road.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +1

      Thank you for sharing your story Alan. Props to you for continuing to fight all these years. Congrats on the 2 months of total sobriety!

  • @johnnybarrera9612
    @johnnybarrera9612 Рік тому +7

    I’ve actually started thinking of quitting drinking for a year now. I’ve left it a few weeks and even some months but I aways come back to it. And when I do come back to it, it’s aways like super heavy drink for weeks. I’ll drink a whole bottle of vodka and then beer afterwards. Sometimes I’m surprised I haven’t died due to the amount I drink. It’s really tough but we can do it.

  • @elijahdunmore7526
    @elijahdunmore7526 Рік тому +11

    HI TIM DONT STOP MAKING THESE SOBRIETY VIDEOS I WILL STILL KEEP WATCHING BECAUSE TIM I AM STILL GOING STRONG MY FRIEND AND BROTHER I WILL BE GOING ON 3 YEARS NEXT MONTH MARCH 6- 2023 TIM I HAVE NEVER NEVER NEVER FELT BETTER NO MORE HANGOVERS AND THE BEST THING BEING ABLE TO SAVE MONEY ONE DAY I MAY STOP COUNTING THE YEARS BUT TIM EVERY YEAR I FEEL LIKE CELEBRATING MY JOURNEY I DONT WANT TO GO BACK AT ALL TIM I HOPE WITH MY SOBRIETY JOURNEY AND YOUR SOBRIETY JOURNEY WILL HELP AT LEAST ONE PERSON TIM I CAN GO ON AND ON BECAUSE EVERY YEAR I AM SO PROUD OF MYSELF THANKS AGAIN TIM FOR SHARING ANOTHER GREAT SOBRIETY VIDEO TIM IF SOMEONE COULD JUST TRY BEING SOBER FOR ONE ARE TWO MONTHS OH WHAT A GREAT FEELING🙏🏾❤️

  • @NoSkills2660
    @NoSkills2660 Рік тому +9

    I did stop drinking years ago.. but you still inspired me stop using cannabis.. wanna thank you again for it 🙏

  • @mindlessdillan
    @mindlessdillan Рік тому +2

    For me what worked was I changed my relationship with alcohol. I use to drink at work, while I was alone, anytime I was stressed etc. What I started doing was quit the job that made me drink, and then only drink with other people and NEVER drink when I'm stressed. Those guidelines worked for me, now I can go out with friends, get as drunk as I want, and not wake up the next day yearning for it.
    Its all about changing your coping mechanisms. And what I learned is that I was suppressing feelings, and I needed to feel those feelings and process them. Getting sober was the best decision I've made. 😊 Great video Tim!

  • @jonathanlee8803
    @jonathanlee8803 Рік тому +9

    Day 8, and man your videos, my will power and the grace of my creator helped me go cold Turkey! First time I tried was a major fail, hallucinating, tremors, crazy shakes, etc. this time was hard, but my determination and these vids got me through. God bless you man. Keep going and doing this work! 🤝🏿💯

  • @Naomi-jm9hm
    @Naomi-jm9hm Рік тому +3

    Such an important message. It's a process with ups and downs, same with quiting smoking or losing weight. It doesnt happen overnight. We aren't failures, we learn!

  • @SubsequentlyMe
    @SubsequentlyMe Рік тому +16

    Thanks for this, Tim. It's funny, this morning while I was cooking breakfast I watched two of your sobriety videos about your "staring at the fridge moment." I thought to myself, "I wish Tim would make more of these." Selfishly because I'm trying to quit (11 days so far) - and then I see this! Really appreciate you!

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +3

      Good luck Darren! I’m glad my videos have been helpful for you 👍🏾

  • @danieldonahue9336
    @danieldonahue9336 Рік тому +14

    People all over the planet need to hear about sobriety. Doing great stuff Tim. Helping us get there. Thanks

  • @MyHomebodyHomey
    @MyHomebodyHomey Рік тому +8

    Thanks for the video.
    Now I've drank twice in February. That is an amazing change for me. Although.... today I'm dealing with dehydration, stomach bloating and back pains after polishing a bottle yesterday. I'm not even sure why I bought the bottle in the first place.
    I am trying hard to focus on the days I didn't drink and trying to give myself a dash of grace for my mistake days.
    Thanks for the encouraging words.

  • @nubiandivegirl3316
    @nubiandivegirl3316 Рік тому +9

    Much needed, much appreciated...lots of starts and stops...keep trying.
    Someone told me once to give myself Grace. We are way too hard on ourselves. Nobody gets an award for being tough on yourself. Give yourself grace in all of life's challenges...we're only human not super human ❤🧡💛

  • @dolphin7860
    @dolphin7860 10 місяців тому +2

    You are gifted when it comes to speaking about sobriety. Very relatable but very entertaining too!

  • @lespetitspoucets702
    @lespetitspoucets702 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Sir, I need it… ok, I fell once again but I start again and one day it will be forever… I keep fighting again.. thank you 🙏🏼

  • @wordsoffire2416
    @wordsoffire2416 Рік тому +2

    Currently drinking while watching this.
    Fuck it’s hard!!!!!

  • @inhabitantofearth
    @inhabitantofearth Рік тому +6

    I needed this video (for fast/junk food addiction). Tim please don't EVER erase this video 🙂

  • @Coconutoilcrazy
    @Coconutoilcrazy Рік тому +9

    I have a different deeper level of respect for you Mr Tim, many thanks

  • @ConsolidatedPBY
    @ConsolidatedPBY Рік тому +12

    You're an angel Tim. Keep up the good work and the positive vibes.

  • @bobbmann5
    @bobbmann5 Рік тому +5

    Thanks Tim. I'm so glad i found your channel as a FULL WEEK Sober today!! YAY ME! Have a blessed Wednesday night my friend. -Bob

    • @bobbmann5
      @bobbmann5 Рік тому +1

      Thanks Tim. I needed this tonight.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +2

      That's awesome Bob!!!!

  • @paige3691
    @paige3691 Рік тому +3

    I am sober 😊💛

  • @colinkoster1812
    @colinkoster1812 Рік тому +1

    Staying clean takes endurance 😅
    Thanks for the video

  • @lynnepaquette4124
    @lynnepaquette4124 4 місяці тому +1

    Your videos are so helpful thank you. I was feeling so hopeless. I'm in AA now. You have such inspirational videos. I just beat the last end of withdrawals. The shaking, the crying, the nightmares, the throwing up, the fear. Never again.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  4 місяці тому

      Glad to hear you got through the withdrawals!

  • @ABLOVE211
    @ABLOVE211 Рік тому +3

    7 days sober 🙏🏽

  • @mannyburgos8936
    @mannyburgos8936 Рік тому +5

    Thank you so much tim I’m on day two and I really want to quit this time

  • @davidrabindranauth4267
    @davidrabindranauth4267 Рік тому +4

    Thanks Tim. Great video. I am on my sober journey. My last drink was 6 weeks ago. I feel great.

  • @Kasanova2x
    @Kasanova2x Рік тому +3

    i was wondering if youd ever do a video again on sobriety, but you really did give sooooooooooo much. and it helped me very much. unfortunately, many relapses later, i find myself trying to quit again, at least for a long enough period to get my health and life in order and where it needs to be. glad to see this. keep it coming tim.

  • @nickhayley
    @nickhayley Рік тому +2

    26 days sober. Bren P Grace was my inspiration. Never thought it was a problem in my life, but want to do a good thing for myself, my partner and those around me.

  • @GreyRock100
    @GreyRock100 Рік тому +3

    I didn't like drinking so I quiet quit. I still drink but only the bare minimum to get by..

  • @lovelylia93
    @lovelylia93 Рік тому +1

    Timothy, I absolutely love your message and couldn't agree more! My DOC was marijuana, I smoked and used edibles and various CBD products for nearly a decade and it left me feeling depressed, anxious, paranoid, isolated, unhealed, and unfulfilled. I tried to get sober a few times.. 5 months, then 6 months, this is my third attempt and I recently passed 1 YEAR!! I struggled with all-or-nothing thinking.. those thoughts that said, "Well, I just fucked that up! Might as well smoke as much as possible now." It took me some time to figure out that failure/relapse was part of the process. The only thing I could do was accept that and have self-compassion. When I focused on self-love, patience, and changing my inner critical voice, everything changed. It also helped that I completely changed my environment and didn't put myself in any situation where I knew drugs/alcohol were being used. It was lonely at times b/c no one understood why I made the choice to stay home while other people were partying, but in the moments of solitude, I gave myself the opportunity to learn to have fun on my own and without substances. I began to see it as a journey of empowerment, not one of deprivation. Now that its been over a year, I seldom crave and when I do I'm easily able to squash the thought with logic and asses what I truly need (*usually some form of stimulation like creativity or social connection*). To anyone struggling with any kind of addiction, please know that you're not alone. There are tons of resources to help (one of my favorites is an app called Loosid as its non-denominational). Therapy can be a wonderful tool as well. Support is key, no matter how you find it! Much love to you all! You have what it takes to beat this! 🤗

  • @RileyWuzzHere
    @RileyWuzzHere Рік тому +6

    Needed this BIG T! Trying to shake this cocaine addiction is definitely a challenge. Contacted my old sponsor. Going to get back in the rooms. 🙏🏽

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +3

      Keep fighting bro!

    • @senathequeen
      @senathequeen Рік тому +2

      🙏🏾🙏🏾 you can be proud of yourself already for making the decision! Keep going

    • @RileyWuzzHere
      @RileyWuzzHere Рік тому +2

      @@senathequeen much appreciated! I currently have 107 days clean. 🙏🏽✊🏽♥️

    • @RileyWuzzHere
      @RileyWuzzHere Рік тому +1

      @@TimothyWard 107 days strong my brotha! Hope to meet you one day and chop it up. 💯

    • @senathequeen
      @senathequeen Рік тому +1

      @@RileyWuzzHere wow!!!👌🏾👌🏾🥰 congrats!! Keep pushing 🙏🏾

  • @benyedder1295
    @benyedder1295 Рік тому +1

    I've been stop starting for so long now start quitting again tomorrow your videos really help thanks

  • @vanderveenandreas
    @vanderveenandreas Рік тому +5

    Video’s like these make me a subscriber, keep it up Tim 🤞

  • @noworriestoday
    @noworriestoday Рік тому +1

    110 days now, feels good and sometimes bad, but never go back to the life of casual drinking and sometimes more in the weekends, seems no problem, but it is sobriety is better thats for sure

  • @kevinsmith5318
    @kevinsmith5318 8 місяців тому

    Marihuna never really appealed to me so it was easy to ignore it. But alcohol is so much more insidious. Stop and start… it kind of grinds one down, but as you say keep quitting until you quit.
    I’m getting too old for this shit.
    What is amazing to me is that there are soooo many people out there in the same boat as me.

  • @blockinglowtier
    @blockinglowtier Рік тому +1

    I thought the thumbnail was about quitting your job. I feel like I need to do it soon I can't stand it anymore!

  • @tjgurn9382
    @tjgurn9382 Рік тому

    Coming up on 2 years sober. Life is so much better on the other side! Thanks to Allen Car’s Quit Drinking and you Tim. You the man!

  • @sallyl5071
    @sallyl5071 Рік тому +1

    I love this! I got sober in 1986 after a few trys but always hated hearing the Negatives others got for so called slipping instead of celebrating the days you were able to not pick up.!Anyway, I'm a rare case cos I stayed sober/ clean ( except in hospital) for I think 27 years, with the help of a familiar program than just on my own but applying what I learned . I did pick up a drink 9 years ago , had a few sips as no longer in my twenties, didn't abuse it any longer, drank a bit of wine at night( no more bar fly shite) then unconsciousally stopped again.I have no rules for myself.Maybe i wasnt a true alcholic, idk but others once thought i was.I messed with alot of substances back in the day. .I do have many health issues now but I just let it be so to speak, now..I just love your different take than what I was programmed to believe.I do have sober people in my life still .I'm technically sober but not feeling label's anymore.. Tim if you think what I wrote is triggering in any way for anyone or new sober people or those trying , please feel free to delete this..I will not be offended!! I was just moved to comment..✌️❤️..Take care

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +1

      Thank you so much for sharing your story Sally!

    • @sallyl5071
      @sallyl5071 Рік тому

      @Timothy Ward , The whole story is quite the doozy but I will spare you! Anyway, I am serious if anyone is bothered in any way pls delete.

  • @daisyswimmer7728
    @daisyswimmer7728 Рік тому +1

    I just watched your video about safe places to park when you live in a car, because it is my fantasy to do this, part time (I love being alone). I was intrigued by it so I looked at your channel, then found this video about sobriety. I'm telling you, Tim, I about fell out of my seat, because I am a chronic relapser. I've had long periods of sobriety in the past 35 years but the last 3.5 years have been full of - get sober for a week or a month, then drink again for two months. I only get sober out of a sense of duty to the people around me in recovery groups and my family. I have an immense sense of shame and guilt for not working harder (doing chores) for my family and for not being able to stay sober for my fellow peeps in recovery groups. Also, I am old now and alcohol is killing me slowly with body system wide inflammation and obesity. Thank you for the pep talk.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому

      Hope the video gave you some encouragement and inspiration Daisy! Keep fighting, you’ve gotten sober for long periods in the past, so you can definitely do it again! 🙂👍🏾

  • @jc7887
    @jc7887 Рік тому +1

    Great video brother....."Keep quitting until you quit". I love that.

  • @wjkathman
    @wjkathman Рік тому

    Actually I don’t need this video, as I haven’t had an alcoholic beverage in more than seventeen years. But this guy is trying to do something positive and deserves salutations for that. Good work!

  • @rhunl
    @rhunl Рік тому +1

    Another great video Tim, thank you for the positivity. Day 7 is upon me, and glad to be making progress. We've had 5 or 6 "day 7's" over the last six month, and one "day 30", so like you say it's a process and got to enjoy those wins.

  • @daisylavender5275
    @daisylavender5275 Рік тому +3

    My addiction is gambling. I went from gambling six days a week down to three. Hopefully I can get it down to once a week.😩

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +2

      Everyday you resist the urge and don’t gamble is a win! Keep fighting, you got this!

  • @script2438
    @script2438 Рік тому

    Thanks Tim... You're words couldn't have been said any better. I appreciate you.

  • @alexandramather7071
    @alexandramather7071 Рік тому

    This video reminded me that I found you when I was first trying to become alcohol free! I listen to you now because you align with my beliefs, but I found you bc of your easy going but tough love sobriety talks. You’re very good at this 👍

  • @lindacolleran5492
    @lindacolleran5492 Рік тому +1

    Brilliant !!!! This can change a person's mind !!!!

  • @hazeldaniels2540
    @hazeldaniels2540 Рік тому

    Hey Tim today I'm 2years Sober 11days Sober ... also I got a hold of my friend & told me that she's back with drinkin .. didn't know what to say speechless sad because I know inside what the effects are ..- Good thing I've learnt is that we don't judge its actually their call not mine .. Thanks..

  • @libo6368
    @libo6368 Рік тому +1

    U are a great speaker very good points..u should be acknowledged

  • @w1ldthin9
    @w1ldthin9 Рік тому +1

    tim im still struggling with drinking but its all a part of the process. always appreciate your input and inspiration

  • @MrTemqueser
    @MrTemqueser Рік тому +1

    Gym analogy is 🔥

  • @jeremytorgersen
    @jeremytorgersen Рік тому +2

    Great video, especially as this can apply to so many domains of life! Thank you!

  • @ItsBellum
    @ItsBellum Рік тому +1

    A win is a win is a win :)

  • @wendywilson-fall3973
    @wendywilson-fall3973 Рік тому

    This is useful for those trying to stop cigarette smoking!!

  • @cacapichi8564
    @cacapichi8564 Рік тому

    Nothing to add, comment for the algo because I find this video great!! I wish it could get more visibility, lots of people need this advice

  • @mikeglendinningandtheguita7282
    @mikeglendinningandtheguita7282 4 місяці тому

    This is a great video. This guy is giving me a lot of hope

  • @michellequigley3220
    @michellequigley3220 Рік тому

    I loved your video! I started wanting a glass of wine at least every other night And drink socially during the weekend. Everyone I'm around drinks. I had fun over the last ten years drinking. I didn't drink till I was in my late 30s. I'm going to be 50 and want a different mine set. I want to have fun without drinking. Last day I drank was Super Bowl. I don't get drunk, mostly just buzzed. I want to wean to sobriety unless it seems like I can just drink at special occasions. I have a cruise in a month and would like to have some drinks. I told my husband maybe I won't even want to drink on the cruise. I don't want to be hard on myself if I want to have a drink or two or even a few at a wedding or vacation. One day at a time.

  • @jjjppp-5136
    @jjjppp-5136 Рік тому

    Thank you for your videos, Tim. I'm really struggling, and I recognize I have a problem. Part of my issue is that I do not drink often. I have drank 3 times in the past 12 months. Therefore, I just always assumed I didn't have an issue. However, those 3 times I've drank, it's like drunk me just wants to destroy my life. So my issue is I can go months without drinking, BUT I start getting antsy when I feel like things are happening out of my control. I'm trying to get into therapy, but I'm just at a super low point right now. Going to try the journal and get on the right path.

  • @JenniferLKersten
    @JenniferLKersten Рік тому +2

    Love it Tim! You are the best! ♥️🍎

  • @wayneburbage8900
    @wayneburbage8900 Рік тому

    Keeping it real Tim . I needed that.

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 Рік тому

    You’re a great teacher this is helpful.

  • @recall660
    @recall660 Рік тому

    the pic today is very clear thanks buddy

  • @mikeglendinningandtheguita7282
    @mikeglendinningandtheguita7282 4 місяці тому

    Thank you, I needed that

  • @user-ks7qj5dz5c
    @user-ks7qj5dz5c Рік тому +1

    Great video tim 👍 💓

  • @romanshagiev9205
    @romanshagiev9205 Рік тому

    Really helpful video, I love this format. Thank you so much for talking about this topic and sharing your experience. I personally don't have problems with regulating alcohol use during the day (I usually can tell when I've had enough so that I don't feel hungover the next morning). I have trouble managing alcohol use during the week, almost every evening after work I feel like having a drink to calm down. And just like you said in your previous videos, I simply can't enjoy any of my hobbies without alcohol anymore. The first step is admitting the problem, right?..

  • @mzlo2057
    @mzlo2057 Рік тому +1

    Beautiful

  • @jeffbrassette5656
    @jeffbrassette5656 Рік тому

    Great Video! Thank You

  • @bb-od9ku
    @bb-od9ku Рік тому +1

    Im almost at a month an I keep wanting to give in bad now. It sucks.

  • @fabionovelli3136
    @fabionovelli3136 Рік тому

    Thanks a lot for these words

  • @TheDoublelouis
    @TheDoublelouis Рік тому

    Thank you for this, Tim. Really needed this.

  • @andrewhampton7918
    @andrewhampton7918 Рік тому

    love this tim thank you for all your helpful videos

  • @uncommon_name9337
    @uncommon_name9337 Рік тому

    I thought the thumbnail meant quiting my job . The signs are becoming pretty clear now hahahaha

  • @TapOutBass
    @TapOutBass Рік тому

    Great video Tim

  • @brenop111
    @brenop111 Рік тому

    this was a great one tim, thank you!

  • @SYZ
    @SYZ 4 місяці тому

    Thank you

  • @cryptomonsta3836
    @cryptomonsta3836 Рік тому

    Wow this is good

  • @girlwithpearls
    @girlwithpearls Рік тому +1

    I want quit!

  • @rebeccadetert5
    @rebeccadetert5 Рік тому +1

    Hi

  • @timburton9514
    @timburton9514 7 місяців тому

    Day 99!

  • @Coconutoilcrazy
    @Coconutoilcrazy Рік тому

    What do you say to one that drinks and says "Whats the point?"

  • @matlee9832
    @matlee9832 Рік тому

    What do I do if my friends have the same addiction? I really don’t want to have to do this but is it worth cutting the people who don’t want to quit out of my life.

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +1

      Mat, sometimes we do have to take a step back from certain people in our lives if they are enabling us with our addictions. It's not easy to do and they may not understand why we are doing it but you have to do whatever is necessary to get back control of your life. Good luck brother!

  • @KoolT
    @KoolT Рік тому +1

    Go get that white chip.

  • @Emaalove
    @Emaalove Рік тому

    I smoke weed every day and need to stop to save money and just breathe smdh

  • @boney16nxt
    @boney16nxt Рік тому

    Hi Tim please help

  • @tonijurisic8200
    @tonijurisic8200 Рік тому +1

    ♥️

  • @Iciclesoulforever88
    @Iciclesoulforever88 Рік тому +1

    Last Friday or I mean yesterday, it has been one month since I am sober. And it looks like nothing
    but it was painful and hard. But I don't want to come back again to the road of alcohol and alcoholism and prefer to endure the pain.
    One day I will find my path and goals and a true passion in life that make me enjoying my life.
    Your videos help Tim so thank you!!! You are brave and wise!!!
    And what help me go threw it, it might sound funny but now I drink non-alcoholic beer now.
    Cheers Tim and thanks for this kind of content!!! Appreciate :)

    • @TimothyWard
      @TimothyWard  Рік тому +1

      Congratulations on making it one month Simon! Keep going, the pain and difficulties subside the longer you are sober!

    • @Iciclesoulforever88
      @Iciclesoulforever88 Рік тому

      It's good to hear that with time, I will get use to this new life.
      Thank you so much Timothy.🙂

  • @SimplyNaturalBlack
    @SimplyNaturalBlack Рік тому

    ❤❤

  • @kickinaddiction
    @kickinaddiction Рік тому

    Almost everyone I know is struggling with alky or some sort of substance abuse. It’s ruined basically my entire families life. Including mine! I love the sobriety videos 👍 messages of hope.

  • @GrindstoneCowboy357
    @GrindstoneCowboy357 Рік тому