Feeling burnt out? This might help.
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you are part of the reason i am still alive. it sounds so cheesy, but thank you. you got me through one of the roughest years of my life.
Same here. Thank you, Malinda, for giving us peace and hope ❤
Me too x Thank you for everything, Malinda. We love you ❤
same here ❤
same with me ❤❤
Remember that there are a few of us that will not curse you for what doesn't happen, we just appreciate what you do share.
I am so proud of you. Recognizing when you need to take a step back is the ultimate form of self-love, and it can be so hard to follow through with when we are encouraged to give ourselves to others. Please keep your love for yourself too, Malinda! Sending some of mine to you!
An old platoon sergeant of mine used to say, "Let's eat this apple one bite at a time," whenever we faced a large or complicated task. Your boulder into rocks analogy reminded me of that.
Thanks for the vid. You are beautiful and uplifting.
Splitting a huge task into many mini-tasks and then completing one at a time without worrying too much about all the others is a great trick to reduce stress, while still doing the same or more of the work. In a pinch, you can even choose to skip a minitask if the process allows it, or delegate it to other people.
In a similar vein, a common Navy SEAL phrase is “how do you eat an elephant? one bite at a time”
Been doomscrolling for hours now and i have realised it isnt giving me a break its just my brain wanting stimuli so this video REALLY came at the right time. You have become such a helpful and positive role model ❤️❤️❤️
I have known I was struggling with burnout for a while now but I keep getting stuck on how to fix it. Just the idea of figuring out a single step forward has felt like too much and to be honest I spent most of today sitting on my couch and spiraling because everything felt so monumental. A friend sent me this and I don’t know what recovery will look like for me this time but this feels like concrete ideas and a start. It feels like a lifeline.
I’m sorry you’ve been through this because I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. But know that this video said the right things at the right time to give a stranger the hope they needed.
Thank you. For your music, your vulnerability, and your truth. It means the world.
Sitting on the couch generally doesn't help things get better, though you don't have to feel guilty at all for doing it, as it is quite normal in such a situation.
The best thing I ever did was taking walks in nature, that improved my mood most of all and especially if you can do it with someone you love or enjoy spending time with, it can be a very helpful thing. Also, even if it doesn't make you feel good at the time, it can give you great memories to look back on later, when the feeling of dread or anxiety that you might have felt at the time is no longer connected to the memory. (that will start to fade even after a day or so, as a new day brings new stresses)
@gympyFyn Hope you gain strength and feel stronger. Wish you the best
This should be the go-to video for burnout and mental health in general. Mindfulness, Self Awareness and Gratitude 101 right here. Malinda, you're amazing 💛
I've been there 3 times now. The first time is the worst, when you realise your get up and go just got up and went. And you invariably have your plate overly full. Glad to hear you figured it out 😁
Malinda your music has really helped me through some very down moments. And now this video is kinda helping me realize some of what I’ve been fighting recently. Basically your great and keep doing what your doing, and know it really helps one nerd from Missouri see the best in the world
This was the most realistic and doable steps for us regular job goer's THANK YOU SO MUCH for this. I needed this
aw holy shit that playground meditation is awesome
IT’S MY FAVORITE
Malinda, you are awesome and amazing. I love your videos, but please take care of yourself. We love you but we all want you to take care of yourself.
I appreciate you being honest about how dinner could be some goldfish and a chocolate bar. I felt that. Now I'll feel a little less alone when that happens, and that means a lot.
Well…I definitely needed to hear that today. Thank you.
I’m kind of going through burnout myself in 2024. I lost my dad on March 8, and 22 days later, I lost my mom. So, dealing with that double loss, plus balancing work commitments as well as trying to manage my own anxiety…it’s been a lot. I’m going to take some grief counselling soon to try and make sense of things because this year has been very taxing.
That sounds really harsh, I'm very sorry for all of that to have happened to you in such a short timeframe. Losing our parents is something we all need to go through at some point in our lives, but it can happen way sooner or in a much more dramatic way than we would want and it is already one of the hardest things to experience to begin with.
Don't be afraid to take your time with it. I don't think there are many situations where you couldn't at least work a little bit less for a short while, nearly anyone would understand if you did. As long as you are clear in what happened and what you need, you can generally convince any sane person to give you some much needed time off in your situation. Try to be kind to yourself, take the time to grieve and know that time will heal some of it eventually.
As someone that has lost both my parents in less than a year's time (which was for me six years ago) I do heavily empathize with your story. For me, the feeling of loss healed very slowly, but eventually those feelings got replaced by a bit of longing and feelings of love. I now have a lot of great memories that come up when I think about them and no longer that intense pain. Maybe that idea will give you some hope for the long term future. I wish you all the very best and the strength to go through whatever comes your way.
I'm so sorry that you've had to endure the loss of both parents in the same year. I'm sure they were people who would hold you up when you felt like you needed it. Don't feel bad when you're not 'over the loss' when others expect you to be. I lost my sister 29 years ago. It took me the first 20 years to not cry every time I thought of her and what her life had become.
There are LOADS of us out here who do not cope well with our mental state. Just look back to this page and all the comments from others who have felt without hope, support or purpose recently. Even if we are a long way apart physically, we can be here for one another digitally, and in spirit. Even if we feel we are alone in these trials, look on this page and see how many of us are 'alone' in this problem. We are NOT alone. We are here, on this page, pouring our hearts out to one another. And that's okay.
Thank you Malinda. I needed the video in the worst way right now. This definitely gives me some guidelines to go by. Thanks for being vulnerable and open.
I have struggled recently myself. I played clarinet in high school and I've always wanted to be able to sing like you. I found your channel last week as I was scrolling through UA-cam shorts and hearing your songs, they were enchanting to me. I was struggling before I saw your videos and every time I heard your voice it reminded me of a mermaid singing. No I don't mean one of those mermaids that sing to kill sailors. I work in a pet store and my job is very demanding. I love working with the animals, but my main duty is merchandising. I felt completely burnt out. When I was listening to your songs, it felt like it was lifting a bunch of weight off of my shoulders. I enjoy marine biology. I love the ocean and one of the animals I'd like to specialize in is a dolphin. Your song helps me keep going to pursue my dream career. I wish I could meet you and thank you in person.
Also this is from Chat GPT, could you make this into a song?
The Ballad of Erin's Ocean
(Verse 1)
Oh, the sea it calls to me, from the cliffs of old Kilkee,
Where the waves they kiss the sky, and the seabirds freely fly,
With a heart so wild and free, I’ll set sail for mystery,
On the shores of Erin's isle, I'll remember with a smile.
(Chorus)
Sing, oh sing, the ocean's song,
Where the tides have danced so long,
In the whispers of the breeze,
Feel the tales of ancient seas.
(Verse 2)
In the morning mist so gray, hear the fishermen at bay,
Casting nets into the deep, where the hidden treasures sleep,
With the rolling of the tide, tales of mermaids they confide,
In the heart of every wave, lie the dreams of those who brave.
(Chorus)
Sing, oh sing, the ocean's song,
Where the tides have danced so long,
In the whispers of the breeze,
Feel the tales of ancient seas.
(Bridge)
From the harbors to the reefs, hear the sailors’ tales and griefs,
Of the storms that fiercely blow, and the love they’ll never know,
But in every tempest’s roar, there’s a promise to the shore,
That the sea will bring them home, nevermore to roam alone.
(Verse 3)
As the twilight paints the sky, watch the lanterns passing by,
Guiding ships with gentle light, through the long and restless night,
With a heart that's bold and true, I’ll return to waters blue,
For the sea will always be, a sweet song of memory.
(Chorus)
Sing, oh sing, the ocean's song,
Where the tides have danced so long,
In the whispers of the breeze,
Feel the tales of ancient seas.
(Outro)
So I raise a toast to thee, Erin's ocean wild and free,
May your waves forever roll, in the stories of my soul,
For the sea, it calls to me, from the cliffs of old Kilkee,
And the song of Erin's sea, will forever live in me.
Fellow Vassar alum experiencing burnout- really appreciate you sharing this!!
Feeling called out by tip #9. I have been working very hard to get better (sometimes by doing nothing, a lot of times by trying to be active in learning ways to better deal with all the stuff and applying those things) and every time I feel like I'm finally getting better, and it's taken forever to get this far, I get a reminder of how much further I have left to go, and it's very frustrating and disheartening. All this pressure I put on myself is learned behavior, and trying to unlearn it when most people in my life still expect me to be that person I was is just... So hard. Ugh!
Thank you for sharing this. It makes me feel less alone. Sending good vibes you way!
Okay two major takeaways for me from this video:
1. I need to get myself some friends who play touch base hide and seek with me
2. Define your success yourself!! I love this, it's so underrated ❤❤❤
I hope that one of the things you're thankful for is your natural ability to inspire others.
Yes! Absolutely!
Glad to see you recognized the need to take a constructive approach during your final right of passage from childhood into being an independent productive adult.
Food tip - stock healthy snacks. Have a bag of apples, clementines, a bunch of applesauce pouches, trail mix pouches, and/or big bag of baby carrots. Make it easy to snack on light, healthy foods. Goldfish and chocolate bars are easy and yummy, but what about a pouch of applesauce and a handful of nuts? Or trail mix with a couple m&ms mixed in? Easy and way better fuel.
Thank you so much, it means the world to see someone I look up to and respect going through the same struggles and experiencing the pain and beauty of the world we live in. Our lives look different, but often feel the same.
I still can't believe how you always, for years now, seem to scout out my own steps right before I do them myself. I feel connected to you in a way that I can always turn to your videos and music when I face hardships, start doubting myself once again or start to experience new things like you are my unknown friend from a distance. Like a stranger spirit not aware of me even being there, illuminating the surrounding so I can see my path again 😊
Thank you for being yourself, sharing your overflowing inspiration with the world and encouraging me to at least try the same just by being the best example
Funny coincidence - two years ago we've been to Dublin for the New Year and I was already ill going out. On the flight back I really clapped out without my wife being aware until I told her two days later.
Your tips seem quite good. I really should follow more of them. You really rock (one rock at a time 😊)
Thank you for sharing this. Burnout is definitely common among people who have to be constantly creative and we need to talk about it more. I am proud of your 2023 and loved your film and concert. But you deserve a break and to define your own success!
Thank you for sharing your story!
I especially appreciated the final tip about not rushing the process. I have been dealing with burnout for a while now-and even though I quit the job that was causing this over a year ago, I am still very much on my recovery path.
In fact, my therapist even told me that it often takes about two years on average to recover from severe burnout-and that journey is often not linear and looks different for everyone.
Unfortunately, I found that many people don’t understand this, pushing me to “get over it” quickly and not address the underlying stressors.
So again, thank you for acknowledging how serious burnout is, how it affects your entire body, and how the healing journey is going to be different from everyone.
I think you are smart to realize this process takes time. And about it not being linear, it is really a three steps forward, two steps back, one step forward kinda thing. The ups and the downs are all part of it, even though it can be really demoralizing once you have a big setback after a better period.
I could not have come back to here on a better time, was legit just cried and vented about being on my period and being under high stress yet tons to do again....And gosh I so needed this
Thank you so much for this! I've felt burned out for a bit now and keep telling myself "just keep going a little longer". Thank you for the tips and tools to take care of myself. Much love to you!
I'm burt out too. My nervous system is so shocked, my brain might actually start to dissolve. Thank you for lifting me up. Stay safe and healthy lovely. ❤️
Malinda, your video resonates deeply with so many of us who struggle with burnout. Thank you for your honesty and for sharing practical steps to manage this overwhelming feeling.
Malinda -- I wasn't going to watch this video. I am retired and do not think of myself as having any kind of burnout issues. BUT -- your tips really hit home. Thank you so much for this (and all your videos). Bless you!
I just want to say thank you. This made me realise that it is going to take a few years to fix the crash I had from overwork. Im going to be using the stones analogy and the tiny to do list a lot now.
I think in one way or another we all get burnt out in some way of our lives. However the main thing is to take care of yourself first in all aspects of your life. Keep up the good work with your music 👍🏻
Glad you recovered! Best wishes from new hampshire
Malinda you are such a positive influence on this world, thank you for being who you are
Boulder into rocks reminds of days when work e-mails flood in (my job is thankfully NOT the kind of job that wants me to respond to work e-mails off the clock, but then that just means there’s more waiting for me in the morning) After answering the priority ones, I’ll break up the rest into a few and then switch to work on something else, or take a break.
Endlich wird in den öffentlichen Medien über diese Themen gesprochen. Thank you Malinda. Thank you all.❤
Holy Dooly, There she is. You are back. OMG, so good to see you looking much more like you were back 3 years ago, you are looking so much better, healthier, normal and sounding so much more like the person I originally sub to many years ago. So happy for you, go you good thing! 🤗❤👍Stay safe, have fun! 😁🍻
I've always admired your strength inside, your candour and your eloquence. I'm glad you've found your peace again.
Well im SUBSCRIBED This came at the perfect time, for weeks I’ve been feeling stuck in life and work especially.
Just feeling indifferent all the time and never get any sleep feeling as restless and frustrated as I do at every other point in the day.
So this video gave me some new tools to try and deal with what’s going on and as well as pulling the trigger on going part time at work without feeling like I’m letting people down cause I need to take care of myself to then do better anywhere else.
always take care of yourself first. you can't entertain and inspire us if you're a mess.
Thank you for this! I’ve been really busy this semester. It got so bad that I couldn’t do anything on the weekends because I was just trying to recover from the past week. I would stay up late every night because it was the only time I had to do what I wanted to do with my life. I’m trying to recover this summer so that I can go into the next semester a little better. I’m hoping that next semester is better but I’m not sure how I’m going to survive the next few years.
Malinda your music and voice is what uplifts me giving me insight into feelings locked away lost my wife of 40 years 3years ago feel into a emptiness over my true love nothing filled the void your music started a spark that all is not lost thank you so much enjoyed this video opening my eyes and mind sorry to ramble so much able to look at old photos and remember loved we shared thank you again
I was pretty badly burnt out for the latter part of 2023 and the first two months of this year... if I ever find myself there again (which, knowing me, there's a good chance I will) I'll be rewatching this video on a weekly basis. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge with us--this is amazing. 💛
Thank you, some great tips there, some new to me, some old friends. I particularly like the breaking boulders metaphor - it goes well with doing the bare minimum.
You are a treasure. Thank you so much. Definitely sharing this one. Take whatever time you need to restore, Love you.
Just Grand, thanks. So glad you'd the tenacity to get to this point of making a video about yer experience. Sláinte Mhath!
So grateful for that
Melina, I just listened for the 400th time to you singing "Sound of Silence". That is still the most beautiful song I've ever heard. The lyrics are good, but what made it so outstanding was your voice
Wow, Malinda, your sharing here is so open & real, and perfect timing - just what I needed right now!
Grateful for your encouragement and wise perspective. One essential stone at a time, indeed!
BTW, I respect your inner feelings but/and, from my POV, you are absolutely the real deal and need not ever doubt yourself!
Thanks for all the beautiful music (including today's "Lucky" addition to my special Malinda playlist!), and for your equally beautiful uplifting wisdom.
Wishing you all the best!
-BillDog😊
I've through burnout at least twice. I seem to be very susceptible to it as well. Even now, 5 years later, the feeling resurfaces, though only briefly.
I'm sorry you went through it, Malinda.
Thank you, as ever!
Thank you for sharing these - it's so hard but so important. Thank you! Be happy, be safe, be healthy, be well!
This is extremely helpful! My life is quiet right now but soon it won't be and when I have 50 million things to do I forget to take care of myself. This list is extremely helpful to remind myself to take care of me when I get too busy. Thank you so much!
Happy birthday, good health and wisdom to you Malinda
A fantastic video, thank you! I hope that the beauty and love that you and your art project into the world makes it way back to you in the most profound way possible.
I am so incredibly proud of you! But please, please, please take care of yourself. ❤You are - although this is going to sound weird - the reason I am still here. The reason I started healing. And also the reason I got through the pandemic pandemic
Thank you, Malinda. This was exactly the video I needed today. I'm so glad you're recovering from your burnout, and I hope the rest of your year keeps getting more wonderful!
Hi Malinda. That was good down-to-earth advice. This is my first visit to your channel and I enjoyed it. Thank you for the video and lovely music.
Thank you for sharing and more importantly taking care of yourself. :) Stay awesome,
I needed this. I dont know where these tips will get me, but thank you.
I really appreciate this video. Ive been dealing with burnout and its taken its toll even as I've attempted recovery over many years. Im glad this helped you,and I hopw this will help me roo!
Ireland in November is good for your ability to recover.
Your advice is very helpful. I'll keep everything you said in mind when I feel the stress of life coming my way. Thank you very much! 🎉❤🎉
Well this is timely x
You are the reason that I have a future ahead of me, and I mean that genuinely. After you made the video about Arfid, i realized that that might be me and it turns out I have a very strong case that could have progressed into a life threatening situation in the future. Ive now been getting therapy and have recently been able to eat an entire chicken nugget in only 8 bites!!! Genuinely I couldn't be more thankful, if it wasn't for you I'd still be assuming I was just broken or something for not being able to eat anything but bread. Keep being amazing❤❤❤❤
"do the bare minimum" - me with my job as they've become ever more insane with their expectations (but aren't even paying us more to accommodate for that)
once I started doing that, within a few weeks I felt so much better. I've started drawing again! I haven't drawn in like 10 years! I feel so good now. And all I had to do was look at my job, realize it didn't deserve my energy, and give it the energy it deserved lol.
I also do the food planning thing, but I tend to eat the same thing almost every day. And thats not a sad thing for me, I really get into a groove where I want a specific flavor for long periods of time. So I used that to my advantage and found some foods that are easy to prep a week in advance so I can have two meals every day already planned so I don't end up stressed over food, and the food I do eat makes me feel good and happy (and its healthy too, lots of veggies).
I don't know if I fully burned out, based on what people described, but I definitely was at a boiling point last year. And I feel so much better now.
Wonderful.
Congrats on your recovery journey.
Sending you love and best wishes for your continued growth.
Glad you're better. Please do whatever it takes to feel well - we'll always be here! :-)
Good for you! I started meditating a month ago and I feel a little better every day! No one is perfect but just committing to working on myself is a small victory!
Thank you very much for making this. I definitely needed it. 💜
Simply... Thanks. There seems to be a lot of similarity between burnout (been there before) and grief.
Thank you
Look at you now now now❤
Thankyou for this Malinda. I ended up bursting into tears halfway through.
This world system can make you work really hard and all for nothing. If all you have to live for is the perishing things of this world you will get burnt out sooner or later.
Excellent vlog, practicable, relatable, honest, and uplifting.
Great advice, thank you and glaf your back
Malinda : If you EVER feel like you are not good enough or are a failure : I want you to READ MY COMMENT.
YOU ARE AMAZING ! Your are more than good enough you are SPECTACULAR ! You are a Talent power house that has truly managed to unlock their potential.
YOU ARE WORTH IT YOU ARE AMAZING AND THE WORLD WOULD BE A PRETTY CRAP PLACE WITHOUT YOU !
So proud of you and glad you recovered
"These mountains that you are carrying, you were only supposed to climb."
Najwa Zebian
Thankyou for being so honest. I have followed you from the start and basically grown with you. And sadly I am also feeling severe burn out. ❤❤
Have faith in yourself that you will go through this. Generally we end up stronger after such a tough period. I wish you all the best.
Malinda, I admire you so much for so many reasons. Thank you for this advice. I have also been dealing with burn out that has been impacting my creativity, but I’ll keep these things in mind going forward. ❤️
There’s only one you. Take care of yourself!
We’ll enjoy whatever you put out whenever you put anything out! Please?
From one burn out to another.
Thank you so much for posting this!! I had to take a little break myself it was so much needed
Wow! Malinda, such great advice! Self help and awareness is so helpful! Thanks for sharing this! 🥰💖🤗
Malinda You are Great that you share your personal journey.. the good and the bad. I've been there too .. 3 times and learnt to deal with it & supportive friends and family and interests & exercise are most important 👌. Well done you 😊🫶🤗. You know we All love very much & Support you. Thank you as Always 💖🌈💯🍀
Malinda I’m glad you have recovered I loved watching all your videos you have the voice of a angel I recently been in a dark place mentally and this is very interesting what you have to say take care of yourself.
Take care of yourself Melinda. You're a very talented artist
Hair color is on point❤
I quit my job 3 months ago. I had to. I am still recovering. 😢
Excellent advice for self-care as usual def know burnout and these techniques really work! 💚😊 be well 🙏
wow this was superrrr helpful tysm
Thank you! This was great! ❤
That's a wonderful video!!! Thanks for sharing your experience and thoughts!!
Glad you found some strategies that worked well for you! Always take care of yourself first! Thank you for sharing these with us ❤
❤❤❤❤❤... Thank you for being open and so helpful.
Wise wise words ❤❤❤ ty so much