At some point, I asked myself, "when was the last time I felt _better_ after checking social media?" I couldn't remember, but I was certain it had been a long time.
I enjoyed my friend's Greece vaca pics, and kept a mental log of the same places I will go if I can afford it. The old me, would've been very jealous and sad about not being able to afford a nice vacation.
@@ktbiwk I hear ya. It’s a trap trying to cull your peace. Remember that. You made a difficult but extremely wise decision please Focus on what you’re gaining in that and not what you’re “missing”. Not enough props are given to ourselves and others for being brave to claim our sovereignty. I give you all the respect. May blessings pour into your life, beautiful human❤
i deleted twitter(X), IG, snap, hookup-dating sites as well. I enjoy a smaller group of friends who I like hanging out with, share deeper connection with them.
THIS VIDEO should be a mandatory watch in 4th grade classes and have them type out a one page summary of it. Exposure starts young, so we need to bring awareness while theyre young.
❤ The good is good and the bad is bad. The number one turn off for me is having horrible and disgusting images thrust upon me that I did not choose to see and I do not want to see. I can choose what I read for sure but I cannot always choose what I see and that is so disappointing when I am just checking in to see some updated pictures of my grandchildren. - I sure enjoy your educating videos and guidance. All the best, Joyce
@@Alex-js5lg You are right and I appreciate that too. And I should have been more clear. It is the thumb nail image that is used that is usually not to my taste and I find disturbing. I do not proceed. One social media platform works better than the other for clicking on the Hide or X option for sure.
I’m a mental health Therapist.. and at this point in my life, I only have LinkedIn and UA-cam 😂😂. The negative impact of social media on individual mental Health and couples (yes it comes up in marriage counseling quite often) is daunting. I miss life before social media. My friends know that I’m the one they’ll have to call or text to stay connected 😂😂😂 So UA-cam is here for mostly music and informational channels and of course I hit up linked when job hunting I feel so much more peace without it and wish more people understood the negative impacts. Especially with our youth. I have a preteen and she has no desire to join social media. I’m sure because she has observed my relationship with it.. and I’m thankful
I used to think that some of those videos were attempting to help people by expressing how relatable they are but since, I'm convinced it's simply more about "commiserating".
Another thing is that I’ve noticed that many people who decorate their lives on social media and show all the major “highlights” of their “perfect” lives are usually living a nightmare! Many of them are having interpersonal problems, relationships/marriages are falling apart, and the happiness they speak of is merely a facade…and let’s not even mention the narcissistic ones who post a selfie or story of a selfie every five seconds 🙄. Yeah, I’m over it.
I watch a variety of UA-cam channels. Several of the people I follow are candid that their lives look nothing like their videos. One, who is a mother, showed her house in real-life disarray, and although it's not the content focus for her channel, showed herself decluttering her home. All of them also admit that they produce their videos to be pleasing or no one would watch them, but it is painful every time they point out issues with noise in the background. All have had burnout and stepped away from their channels multiple times.
Yes, I hate it. Every time I get on Facebook witch isn't often anymore I end up feeling awful about my life. I have to figure out how to stop comparing myself to other people.
I called it a "Spotlight Effect" . Seeing social media shines a spotlight on things you compare yourself to. It makes you more aware of everything in your life that you don't want. It's very contrasting.
Jaroslav Dušek actor and altruist said: "Social media produce 100 000 pieces of information per minute, you can not read all of it in one lifetime. Next minute is produced another 100 000 pieces of information." It dseems best info you get when going to nature, meet with people in real life, in events. You remember better the real life events. Did you notice that your brain tries to remove 90 percent of noise you saw when scrolling social media? It´s because the brain tries to delete during the sleep, information that you dont use often and maintain only those that you think of often, so rather you should follow positive content on social media or some artisic things as music art, nature, sports etc.
Just remember you can curate your feeds. If you don't know how to do that or you go back to the 'angry' stuff then yes, take 30 days off and go be in nature.
I don't activate notifications from any platform. That amount of interruptions would drive me crazy. My problem, as you mention, is seeing those happy posts of people I know surrounded by caring friends and loving family and engaging in activities I can no longer afford. My introspection (why am I not living such an enriching life?) sometimes turns to self criticism and despondency. So, yes, social media is on a diet.
I gave up Instagram, best decision I made this year! The short form content does not encourage intentional consumption. The Instagram app has also become less about connecting with people and more about marketing, and mindless entertainment. At least with UA-cam I only get notifications that are meaningful.
Elon Musk banned me from Twitter nearly a year ago, and it was the best thing that could have happenned for my mental health. All I ever did in that hellsite was doomscroll and argue all day. I've since been able to finish the novel I'd put off for a while and even begin another. I'm never going back there.
The worst thing about social media is seeing the ones who've abused, betrayed, traumatized or have done you wrong in some way, living better lives than you could. Because you were dealing with the depressions, addictions, shame, trauma, dissociation, debts, homelessness etc. Social media makes them the targets and you the psycho who is checking them out. Once I started using social media like that, it facilitated some really dark homicidal ideations in me. That's why I can never, ever return to social media.
This is real!!! And the self discipline it takes to maintain your composure when seeing this images is crucial bc the dark thoughts will take over if not careful.
Svaka čast - ja već 6 godina živim sama - teška depresija 😢. Ostavili me svi koji su me poznavali kao veselu osobu, koja je posudivala i stan i novce. Poštovani svi koji ovo pratite - postavite granicu. Niko vam ne može biti od pomoći ako ste u depresiji. Vrlo rado zaborave sve sto ste dobro ucinili. Moj savjet je - SKLONITE SE OD SoMe. Ne vjerujte da drugi imaju dobar život. Vjerujte sebi i slušajte svoju intuiciju. Ja ne koristim antidepresive iako mi nedostaje moja familija, iako me se odrasla kćerka odrekla, ja ne živim da bih prezivjela - ja živim jer želim da nadigrat ovu depresiju. Ljubim vas sve koji ste tu 😘🫠. Ljubim našu Tracy 😘😘😘💞😘☀️☀️💪💪💪💪👏👏👏
The way i do social media maybe weird but it works: Im basically anonymous on all platforms not following anyone I know personally or who has been in my life. I find this way, Im not constantly in tuned to what others are doing. Im following accounts that deal with my hobbies, education of different topics, sports, and positive people. This has helped with me enjoying all the good of social media.
I do that in one social media. Have blocked family members and close acquaintances in advance. Unfortunately I created that account some time ago so my username has attracted people from my past. But I don't follow them back nor I post photos of myself. I barely upload anything. But it's the way to keep myself informed.
I quit Facebook decades ago! People were more interested in "likes" and "shares" than actual conversations. I also realized the danger of putting your life or business online.
Yes. Stay away Social media News Ads All useless things that prevent you from doing meaningful things that will make you grow spiritually, physically, mentally, socially, family
Yes for sure, I remember a few years back I woke up checked my phone with to twitter and seen one of the worst videos of my life I literally laid in bed all day and didn’t want to interact with anyone I just wanted to be alone
It can cause social anxiety as well being on social media apps 24/7 will make you feel like an outcast when you are in social settings it’s always good for people to limit their times on social media or just take a huge break and get in the outside world and enjoy everything that’s around you
I purchased your book today; the one titled “Why Am I So Anxious”. There is so much information in your book that will assist me in loving myself. Thank you so much for the information you provide. It feels so much better because you are a qualified individual and even more-so because I believe you want to HELP people! I was stoked to find you have a youtube channel on the back of the book cover so I will definitely learn all I can from you beyond your book. UA-cam is such a gift.
It's interesting how I started out this morning feeling negative thoughts from my 7 year old son being back at his mother's house and addictive patterns with, depression & anxiety letting options slip and being nagged by his mother about his birthday coming soon, had me avoid texting because countless self loathing suggested it was best. So I've been watching Dr Tracy for 12 hours and had a mixed bag of emotions, yet ultimately the self awareness and confirmation has exhausted my bad thoughts and ceased today's lone binge drinking. Yet it's ironic the platform aiding me is an already known source of mental health issues and explained transparently by Dr Tracy 😊. What I'd like to achieve is stopping my 2 steps forward one step back and compulsive self destructive patterns 👍.
I only use UA-cam (The good side of it).No Facebook,no instagram,no whatssup...etc.When I go out for a walk,I leave my mobile phone at home on Airplane mode.I don't even feel the need to talk to people,all they do is complain and talk non sense.
@@Godhasaplanforyou10 I do a few things: I turn most of the notifications off, if I reach for my phone after my 20 minutes I stop myself from actually picking it up, sometimes I leave my phone in another room with the door closed. Also, I view the phone as a TOOL for communication, not an intrinsic part of life, which helps a lot. It's easier to put down a "hammer" when you don't need a hammer, if that makes sense. Also, on the rare days when I spend too much time on my phone (or other electronics), I take a step back, admit I wasted my time, then forgive myself.
Thanks for all the information! After watching this video, I realized that it was a good thing that I never used TikTok and I barely used Instagram in my life. I use Facebook only to chat with friends but I would prefer to go out and meet them someplace. I will definitely consider doing a "digital detox" once in a while.
That's because you make professional, educational and quality content. btw may I ask this question - Can faith in God be beneficial for a patient with F 20.0 diagnosis? Thanks in advance!
I've always been very wary of social media. Thanks for confirming what I've always suspected. I only do positive videos from UA-cam and I will never post a nasty unkind comment. Thanks again for another well presented and very informative video Tracey!
Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks for addressing this very important realities of our mental health concerning our addiction to social media. 💯 And yes I just shared it 🤗❤️
One more thing that I think is worth pointing out is the "first thing in the morning" factor. I can't rightly remember where I picked that up, but it was also a mental health education channel, so it's not just my speculation here. The point that person made was that, about an hour or the first forty minutes after waking up, your brain is still finishing processing the information it engaged with during your sleep. If you immediately begin loading it up with more fresh information (and, in our wonderful times, it's usually negative one on top of that...), it interferes with that process of filing things away for the day, and can contribute to the feeling of being overwhelmed and lacking control over your life. A good habit would be to postpone using your devices until after you're done with refreshing yourself, doing morning calisthenics, eating breakfast, etc. Anyway, thanks for another great video, Dr. Marks! I've been on the receiving end of a few of the positives you've brought up, so I'm glad it wasn't all doom and gloom cautionary look at the topic.
03:54 I saw friends post from a location near me. I was home that day with nothing to do and was bummed that they didn't reach out. I feel that I'm too old to feel that way but I did. 05:06 It's challenging. Political and social awareness accounts that I like are hard to see when the news is negative. Those caused me to leave SM for a stint. But I want to remain aware so I return to the torture. I follow comedy and dog accounts for balance.
@@TheLillianYoung just remember that you felt that way as a result of the interplay of your genetics and every prior experience in your life. Try to acknowledge and validate your feelings. A few thousand years ago, social isolation was likely to lead to death. As a species, we _evolved_ to feel awful at the thought of being alone, excluded, rejected, etc. It's completely normal and rational to feel down when you're left out like that at any age. I think the best thing we can do in situations like that is try to give the people in our lives the benefit of the doubt. Even if there's not really a great reason for being left out, it could be something as simple as each person assumed somebody had already reached out and it was a collective ball drop rather than a deliberate exclusion.
Dr Marks.... Thanks so much for your videos! However, I have not seen any content (this includes other UA-camrs) concerning: how one should respond to the growing anxiety and 'craziness' within our society. As a highly sensitive INFJ type, I'm bombarded daily in my interactions with the general public where I can FEEL their anxiety, anger... etc etc. For me it is almost suffocating; both aggressive and passive aggressive reactions to daily life. I've worked hard over the years to discover myself and improve...but now, the public has become toxic for several reasons and has become a serious threat to our collective mental health. I would greatly appreciate a video that unpacks this situation and what can I do to make it better while protecting myself abuse. Thoughts? Thanks!
I love using UA-cam for research purposes. Currently I’m doing a lot of fitness/ research prior to this I was on a Dr. Tracey Marks marathon. Love yr videos ❤
I don't have any social media besides UA-cam however I am way too reliant on it since I started working from home. Too much screen time looking for something to engage in.
Quitting social media is one of the best things I've ever done for my emotional health, and I don't miss it one bit. In addition to UA-cam, I sometimes visit Reddit, both of which I like for the anonymity and ease of avoiding trolls.
Yeah, I do agree with you that the social media can be overwhelming solimiting. And over simulating for some of us with bipolar, who find it very difficult too. I'm warned at night to go to sleep. So live in in your time on a computer and allowing that stimulation is very helpful.
On a POSITIVE note. look for lack of PROPULSION in your depression. Quite often, magnesium supplementation helps with that. Dr. Marks covers that in depth in a different video. Thank You! Dr. Tracey Marks
Dear Doctor Marks! My name is Oxana, I am from Almaty, Kazakhstan. I would like to express my sincere and heartfelt gratitude for all helpful and up-to-the-point relevant information you provide in ALL your videos!!!❤ I am a fybromialgia, discirculatory encephalopathy, and bipolar disorder (type II -- recurrent depressions) survivor. I've been watching ALL your videos for several years and ALWAYS find it helpful for either the problems and challenges I face on a daily (in fact, 24/7) basis or the issues and challenges that some of my friends have. (which means -- I always send links to your videos to my friends). Thank you so much!!!🌹 Looking forward to more news videos ahead!
I have clinical depression and anxiety. A number of family members have this diagnosis going back to at least my maternal grandfather, perhaps further back. Several years ago I had to drastically reduce my social media engagement as it was absolutely making my symptoms worse. On Facebook alone I had over 1000 "friends". Today I have 98. And almost all of them I know in real life in some way and have at least shared real conversations with. Family and some friends I've known for 30 years. Most days I don't even check Facebook or Twitter. And I might as well not have Instagram. Lol I use UA-cam everyday. I guess that counts as social media. I mostly watch video game content. And a few channels on subjects important to me. Like mental/physical health (obviously 😊), disabilty (I'm physically disabled from birth), some retro music, tv and movies stuff. I'm very cautious about commenting on UA-cam videos because there's so much hate online, especially if your comment doesn't sit well with some random stranger. It used to bother me terribly. However, I've been trying to stretch myself and comment more. So far, so good.
I’ve started deleting the Facebook app. I haven’t deactivated my account. I just delete the app so that I have to download and reinstall it to use it. This way, I don’t fill every spare moment wasting time on there. I have to really have a legitimate reason to go through all that. I’ve been getting more done, my thinking feels better organized, and I feel it has significantly reduced my depression and anxiety. Great video.
I think the big issue with social media that wasn’t covered here is fundamentally the notion that experiences are not really experienced in real time - that has a consequence to both the “positive” and “negative” aspects mentioned here - meaning, I think it will always be a disingenuous interaction because it is virtual - you are never truly present
For a person like me every time I watch psych videos I get another diagnosis. For awhile everyone I met was a was “bipolar “ . But I think this video is solid ❤
Excellent video. I quite enjoy hearing different people's viewpoints on different matters on social media even if I don't agree with them. I also love the motivational videos and I love the health videos as well such as yours, they are really good. This video does look at the broader picture because social media does have negatives as well. Thank you for this video.
This comes at the right time. I recently installed Instagram again and started to post few pics. What I'm longing for is connection and I've been a huge amount of my life isolated; out of fear. But the sun is starting to shine and I'm not afraid anymore to express myself. Yet, it is a slippery slope to not get lost in the noise and distraction and focus on the good things and people. Sometimes the algorithm seems so telling as if I would look into a tarot reading. But as with a Tarot reading, to use it as a metaphor, some cards just aren't yours even if it seems like it. And I've noticed that the Algorithm tends to perpetuate a negative state of mind and by that reinforces it. I love your video, thank u for your work!❤
There is a solution. Don’t use social media. Busy yourself with creative options. If you want to get in touch with someone, call them or go visit in person.
Can you do a video on how to not match other peoples energy? I am a very caring person and pretty sensitive and I am realizing that I tend to take on others emotions and match their energy even if I was feeling differently then them
I keep snoozing those TOXIC POSITIVE content it's more hurtful to me depressing content. Everybody is SO happy and has TONS OF ENERGY, that's not real come on !
So I watch mental health channels on UA-cam that target a specific diagnosis. I won't name the channel, or the creator but it is a person living with whom I have followed since my diagnosis. They work with an organization and research educational information presented. Recently, they posted a video about symptoms that get worse with age, and what gets better. Most/all symptoms that get worse are 1) age-related, and 2) biologically based. The things that get better, e.g., having a support team, insight, are more behavioral or psychosocial in nature. Please note: there was no information on how to manage and cope with these age-relared symptoms. It was a short, awareness focused video, speaking to a younger audience. As an older adult, about to turn 65, I was distraught. Initially, the video left me with a sense of hopelessness. I cried off and on the entire day. And, I have been depressed since. Intellectually, I know I am catastrophizing, everyone's experience is different. I already talked to my doctor about symptoms. I got testing. Ok so far. But emotionally. . . I wanted to email the creator to remove (or revise?) the video, but I would have to join the channel/community, and I didn't want to. After the change to a shorter video format (thanks Tik Tok) in the past year, I haven't found the content helpful anymore and unsubscribed. I watch another channel where the creator, living with, shares their own experience, but also interviews other people living with, as well as medical professionals. But this person is also young (30s?). Dr. Marks always presents solution-focused videos, so this is where I'll go moving forward.
I've always been honest online, and never hid my autism or schizophrenia diagnosis (or other ones). I build communities, almost entirely composed of other people who later reveal their disabilities to me privately. I don't hide how bad my life is, or my few wins. In fact, me letting people know what was going on with me is what got me out of an incredibly abusive (my father did die, I got away) household because someone was willing to help and I was willing to accept that help. Human interaction is hard, and black and white is extremely rare, no matter how much my own brain screams at me that it's common. Anyway Dr. Marks, did you ever get the chance into using tabletop roleplaying as mutual storytelling that teaches mindfulness and better social interaction skills? You might not remember us conversing about this since it was awhile ago.
I miss the Quality of Social Life before computers and cell phones... people nowadays stare at their phones with frown faces....I do not look at social media.
I don’t comment often. I have F20 Schizophrenia. Every now and then I see Pareidolia. This is a topic that’s rare and hard to find a solution and information. And all that the internet says is that there is no specific medicine or medication for it. Doctor I would like you to make a video or an update video on this topic. It will really help me. Love your videos. Thank you. ❤
I do not follow people I do not like or if I do not like their content. I have no problem with any social media. And I don't argue back and forth with people either..
Social media makes me feel lonely 😔 because delt with people blocking me on Facebook . I try to say sorry to someone😢 it hurts that they don't care 😢. One of them said to me that I don't know what love is😢
Envy is a 7 deadly sin. Be aware of how social media is influencing your outlook on life. Eliminate any and all content that are perpetuating anxiety, depression, and especially fear!!!
Dr. Alex Korg, the author of *The Upward Spiral* says social media contributes to depression because while the curated content and likes produce more dopamine (at first), oxytocin (the love/bonding hormone) levels drop at the same time. We think we are connecting to others online, but we aren't. It's just addiction.
It sure is a dark place. I got viciously cyber bullied for months on end. Three channels, two in particular made numerous videos about me, and one of them used my face and distorted it. Almost dedicated her channel about me. I reported them numerous times but YT doesn’t care about bullying. They only care about their algorithm. Thoroughly disgusted!
UA-cam is EXTREMELY toxic. I had an account with my real name and image. I received many rape threats and reported them all, nothing ever happened. I used to report horrible channels in my native language disguised as "reports of the dark web" where in the comments section paedos leave their numbers to exchange CSA material. It took a really long time but I managed to shut some of those down, but probably it wasn't me, it was because they showed the face of the girl known as "Amy Unknown", a victim. One day an old man changed the title of his video, who was a rant about something unrelated, and he named it as a very violent rape threat against me. He reverted his actions but after I reported severe hate speech against victims of a protected group, which I am part of, my whole account of more than 10 years, with no videos, was banned. It was absolutely disgusting.
This is something I don’t understand, like literally either stop posting content since apparently it is cringe content, or just make a new channel under a different name and continue as normal. The internet literally forgets everything after a week, nothing here matters so why take it serious and get upset over it?
I feel like I had too many problems on Facebook makes me depressed. Because people just block me for no reason 😢 when I tried to apologize they still do it. The friend I used to be friends with and her boyfriend said I don't know what love is
There’s the added layer of brain mapping thru 5G so it knows how to get you. Quitting all social media has made my life better and better each day. Keep talking about this, Dr!
Yeah i use facebook alot to talk to people. Nothing better than finding people to talk about specific things to. But also just rant out thoughts Also i somehow can't scroll longer than like i dunno 20-30 posts after that i'm like "bruhhh"
At some point, I asked myself, "when was the last time I felt _better_ after checking social media?" I couldn't remember, but I was certain it had been a long time.
NEVER
youtube is still social media
I enjoyed my friend's Greece vaca pics, and kept a mental log of the same places I will go if I can afford it. The old me, would've been very jealous and sad about not being able to afford a nice vacation.
@@blueelf217 same that's somewhat me now
Yeah, this is why I quit Instagram and Facebook.
Me too, 6 years ago, and as a visual artist, I can't help but feel I shot myself in the foot 😢 I'm sooo resistant to going back.
@@ktbiwk I hear ya. It’s a trap trying to cull your peace. Remember that. You made a difficult but extremely wise decision please Focus on what you’re gaining in that and not what you’re “missing”. Not enough props are given to ourselves and others for being brave to claim our sovereignty. I give you all the respect. May blessings pour into your life, beautiful human❤
Same
She doesn't recommend that. He careful with Rebound effect
i deleted twitter(X), IG, snap, hookup-dating sites as well. I enjoy a smaller group of friends who I like hanging out with, share deeper connection with them.
THIS VIDEO should be a mandatory watch in 4th grade classes and have them type out a one page summary of it. Exposure starts young, so we need to bring awareness while theyre young.
Social Media is a cancer in this world. My perception of life has dramatically changed because of it.
I simply HAVE to detox from social media . It definitely takes a toll if you allow it to.
❤ The good is good and the bad is bad. The number one turn off for me is having horrible and disgusting images thrust upon me that I did not choose to see and I do not want to see. I can choose what I read for sure but I cannot always choose what I see and that is so disappointing when I am just checking in to see some updated pictures of my grandchildren. - I sure enjoy your educating videos and guidance. All the best, Joyce
@@JACLevair I appreciate that some platforms have a sensitive content warning that obscures the media until you click "proceed."
@@Alex-js5lg You are right and I appreciate that too. And I should have been more clear. It is the thumb nail image that is used that is usually not to my taste and I find disturbing. I do not proceed. One social media platform works better than the other for clicking on the Hide or X option for sure.
I’m a mental health Therapist.. and at this point in my life, I only have LinkedIn and UA-cam 😂😂. The negative impact of social media on individual mental
Health and couples (yes it comes up in marriage counseling quite often) is daunting. I miss life before social media. My friends know that I’m the one they’ll have to call or text to stay connected 😂😂😂
So UA-cam is here for mostly music and informational channels and of course I hit up linked when job hunting
I feel so much more peace without it and wish more people understood the negative impacts. Especially with our youth. I have a preteen and she has no desire to join social media. I’m sure because she has observed my relationship with it.. and I’m thankful
I used to think that some of those videos were attempting to help people by expressing how relatable they are but since, I'm convinced it's simply more about "commiserating".
Another thing is that I’ve noticed that many people who decorate their lives on social media and show all the major “highlights” of their “perfect” lives are usually living a nightmare! Many of them are having interpersonal problems, relationships/marriages are falling apart, and the happiness they speak of is merely a facade…and let’s not even mention the narcissistic ones who post a selfie or story of a selfie every five seconds 🙄. Yeah, I’m over it.
I watch a variety of UA-cam channels. Several of the people I follow are candid that their lives look nothing like their videos. One, who is a mother, showed her house in real-life disarray, and although it's not the content focus for her channel, showed herself decluttering her home.
All of them also admit that they produce their videos to be pleasing or no one would watch them, but it is painful every time they point out issues with noise in the background. All have had burnout and stepped away from their channels multiple times.
It was the news for me. It was driving me over the edge.
Yes, I hate it. Every time I get on Facebook witch isn't often anymore I end up feeling awful about my life. I have to figure out how to stop comparing myself to other people.
100% this!
I called it a "Spotlight Effect" . Seeing social media shines a spotlight on things you compare yourself to. It makes you more aware of everything in your life that you don't want. It's very contrasting.
Wow.. this is really insightful.
Spotlight effect usually refers to thinking everybody is paying a lot of attention to you but IDK if it's a real definition either way
Jaroslav Dušek actor and altruist said: "Social media produce 100 000 pieces of information per minute, you can not read all of it in one lifetime.
Next minute is produced another 100 000 pieces of information."
It dseems best info you get when going to nature, meet with people in real life, in events. You remember better the real life events.
Did you notice that your brain tries to remove 90 percent of noise you saw when scrolling social media?
It´s because the brain tries to delete during the sleep, information that you dont use often and maintain only those that you think of often, so rather you should follow positive content on social media or some artisic things as music art, nature, sports etc.
I think I’ll start doing a break from social media.
It's that time again for me...feeling depressed and considering logging out of these accounts
Yeah, totally helped me when I quit facebook and instagram. Now I'm only addicted to UA-cam :)
You won’t regret it ❤
Just remember you can curate your feeds. If you don't know how to do that or you go back to the 'angry' stuff then yes, take 30 days off and go be in nature.
Coming away from Fb helped enormously. Several years ago now.
I don't activate notifications from any platform. That amount of interruptions would drive me crazy. My problem, as you mention, is seeing those happy posts of people I know surrounded by caring friends and loving family and engaging in activities I can no longer afford. My introspection (why am I not living such an enriching life?) sometimes turns to self criticism and despondency. So, yes, social media is on a diet.
I gave up Instagram, best decision I made this year! The short form content does not encourage intentional consumption. The Instagram app has also become less about connecting with people and more about marketing, and mindless entertainment.
At least with UA-cam I only get notifications that are meaningful.
Elon Musk banned me from Twitter nearly a year ago, and it was the best thing that could have happenned for my mental health.
All I ever did in that hellsite was doomscroll and argue all day. I've since been able to finish the novel I'd put off for a while and even begin another. I'm never going back there.
@@deadmanthehekatonkheire994 being temp banned from reddit helped me break that habit. No ragrets.
Good for you it was like that for me in Instagram. I would get so pissed
The worst thing about social media is seeing the ones who've abused, betrayed, traumatized or have done you wrong in some way, living better lives than you could. Because you were dealing with the depressions, addictions, shame, trauma, dissociation, debts, homelessness etc. Social media makes them the targets and you the psycho who is checking them out. Once I started using social media like that, it facilitated some really dark homicidal ideations in me.
That's why I can never, ever return to social media.
Oh this
Well, I have added them on my social media and now I post best of my pictures to make them feel extremely jealous of me. Lol
This is so real.
I wish it never existed in the first place
This is real!!! And the self discipline it takes to maintain your composure when seeing this images is crucial bc the dark thoughts will take over if not careful.
Svaka čast - ja već 6 godina živim sama - teška depresija 😢. Ostavili me svi koji su me poznavali kao veselu osobu, koja je posudivala i stan i novce. Poštovani svi koji ovo pratite - postavite granicu. Niko vam ne može biti od pomoći ako ste u depresiji. Vrlo rado zaborave sve sto ste dobro ucinili. Moj savjet je - SKLONITE SE OD SoMe. Ne vjerujte da drugi imaju dobar život. Vjerujte sebi i slušajte svoju intuiciju. Ja ne koristim antidepresive iako mi nedostaje moja familija, iako me se odrasla kćerka odrekla, ja ne živim da bih prezivjela - ja živim jer želim da nadigrat ovu depresiju. Ljubim vas sve koji ste tu 😘🫠. Ljubim našu Tracy 😘😘😘💞😘☀️☀️💪💪💪💪👏👏👏
The way i do social media maybe weird but it works: Im basically anonymous on all platforms not following anyone I know personally or who has been in my life. I find this way, Im not constantly in tuned to what others are doing. Im following accounts that deal with my hobbies, education of different topics, sports, and positive people. This has helped with me enjoying all the good of social media.
I do that in one social media. Have blocked family members and close acquaintances in advance. Unfortunately I created that account some time ago so my username has attracted people from my past. But I don't follow them back nor I post photos of myself. I barely upload anything.
But it's the way to keep myself informed.
Thanks for the great content you produce. You make this world a better place :)
I quit Facebook decades ago! People were more interested in "likes" and "shares" than actual conversations. I also realized the danger of putting your life or business online.
They love that on Facebook
How many 'decades' has Facebook been around?
20 years.@@freesoul2804
@@freesoul2804Since 2008 iirc.
Yes. Stay away
Social media
News
Ads
All useless things that prevent you from doing meaningful things that will make you grow spiritually, physically, mentally, socially, family
I've been mostly out of all social media since 2018.
Yes for sure, I remember a few years back I woke up checked my phone with to twitter and seen one of the worst videos of my life I literally laid in bed all day and didn’t want to interact with anyone I just wanted to be alone
This is something I keep hearing and have experienced. Thank you for validating me. Good for us, seriously.
I've experienced this as well
It can cause social anxiety as well being on social media apps 24/7 will make you feel like an outcast when you are in social settings it’s always good for people to limit their times on social media or just take a huge break and get in the outside world and enjoy everything that’s around you
I purchased your book today; the one titled “Why Am I So Anxious”. There is so much information in your book that will assist me in loving myself. Thank you so much for the information you provide. It feels so much better because you are a qualified individual and even more-so because I believe you want to HELP people! I was stoked to find you have a youtube channel on the back of the book cover so I will definitely learn all I can from you beyond your book.
UA-cam is such a gift.
Oh my goodness. Such an important subject.
Facebook without fail would remind me of everybody i was so glad to forget as well as fully mix my family and social circles.
Thanks!
You’re welcome and thank You!
It's interesting how I started out this morning feeling negative thoughts from my 7 year old son being back at his mother's house and addictive patterns with, depression & anxiety letting options slip and being nagged by his mother about his birthday coming soon, had me avoid texting because countless self loathing suggested it was best. So I've been watching Dr Tracy for 12 hours and had a mixed bag of emotions, yet ultimately the self awareness and confirmation has exhausted my bad thoughts and ceased today's lone binge drinking. Yet it's ironic the platform aiding me is an already known source of mental health issues and explained transparently by Dr Tracy 😊. What I'd like to achieve is stopping my 2 steps forward one step back and compulsive self destructive patterns 👍.
I only use UA-cam (The good side of it).No Facebook,no instagram,no whatssup...etc.When I go out for a walk,I leave my mobile phone at home on Airplane mode.I don't even feel the need to talk to people,all they do is complain and talk non sense.
Wow we should be friends. Love your mindset
I limit myself to 20 minutes/day on social media, it was definitely a healthy choice for me!
@@Godhasaplanforyou10 I do a few things: I turn most of the notifications off, if I reach for my phone after my 20 minutes I stop myself from actually picking it up, sometimes I leave my phone in another room with the door closed. Also, I view the phone as a TOOL for communication, not an intrinsic part of life, which helps a lot. It's easier to put down a "hammer" when you don't need a hammer, if that makes sense. Also, on the rare days when I spend too much time on my phone (or other electronics), I take a step back, admit I wasted my time, then forgive myself.
Thanks for all the information! After watching this video, I realized that it was a good thing that I never used TikTok and I barely used Instagram in my life. I use Facebook only to chat with friends but I would prefer to go out and meet them someplace. I will definitely consider doing a "digital detox" once in a while.
Thanks much for the super thanks! That’s great that you’re not sucked into social media. The algorithms are really good at pulling us in 😊
That's because you make professional, educational and quality content.
btw may I ask this question - Can faith in God be beneficial for a patient with F 20.0 diagnosis? Thanks in advance!
Agreed. I have deleted the apps from my phone for long periods of time. Taking a break is necessary.
I've always been very wary of social media. Thanks for confirming what I've always suspected. I only do positive videos from UA-cam and I will never post a nasty unkind comment. Thanks again for another well presented and very informative video Tracey!
All the hate on social media towards women, gays, etc is just too much for me. Just awful the things people feel comfortable saying on social media
That's something that most conservatives LOVE to do on all of those media apps, unfortunately
This is so true. Its just better for my mental health to stay AWAYYYY from all of it
Thank you Dr. Tracey Marks for addressing this very important realities of our mental health concerning our addiction to social media. 💯
And yes I just shared it 🤗❤️
Loved this! Thanks for sharing!
well said doc
I find that if I follow lots of healthy cooking channels, I get more motivated to make healthy meals. Sm can be helpful in very hyperfocused ways
One more thing that I think is worth pointing out is the "first thing in the morning" factor. I can't rightly remember where I picked that up, but it was also a mental health education channel, so it's not just my speculation here. The point that person made was that, about an hour or the first forty minutes after waking up, your brain is still finishing processing the information it engaged with during your sleep. If you immediately begin loading it up with more fresh information (and, in our wonderful times, it's usually negative one on top of that...), it interferes with that process of filing things away for the day, and can contribute to the feeling of being overwhelmed and lacking control over your life. A good habit would be to postpone using your devices until after you're done with refreshing yourself, doing morning calisthenics, eating breakfast, etc. Anyway, thanks for another great video, Dr. Marks! I've been on the receiving end of a few of the positives you've brought up, so I'm glad it wasn't all doom and gloom cautionary look at the topic.
This is great point. The influx of notifications early in the morning is too much stimulation for the brain.
My biggest challenge with SM is the news and horrible real-life situations that no seems to care about 😢
Yup. This is me. For sure. All of the above thanks for the hot tip. I’ve been thinking about this for a while now. Time to take action.
How did it go?
03:54 I saw friends post from a location near me. I was home that day with nothing to do and was bummed that they didn't reach out. I feel that I'm too old to feel that way but I did. 05:06 It's challenging. Political and social awareness accounts that I like are hard to see when the news is negative. Those caused me to leave SM for a stint. But I want to remain aware so I return to the torture. I follow comedy and dog accounts for balance.
@@TheLillianYoung just remember that you felt that way as a result of the interplay of your genetics and every prior experience in your life. Try to acknowledge and validate your feelings.
A few thousand years ago, social isolation was likely to lead to death. As a species, we _evolved_ to feel awful at the thought of being alone, excluded, rejected, etc. It's completely normal and rational to feel down when you're left out like that at any age. I think the best thing we can do in situations like that is try to give the people in our lives the benefit of the doubt. Even if there's not really a great reason for being left out, it could be something as simple as each person assumed somebody had already reached out and it was a collective ball drop rather than a deliberate exclusion.
No one else could explain this better but would this comment make other psychologists feel inadequate. 😄 Thank you Dr Tracey Marks. Perfect timing. 👍
Dr Marks.... Thanks so much for your videos! However, I have not seen any content (this includes other UA-camrs) concerning: how one should respond to the growing anxiety and 'craziness' within our society. As a highly sensitive INFJ type, I'm bombarded daily in my interactions with the general public where I can FEEL their anxiety, anger... etc etc. For me it is almost suffocating; both aggressive and passive aggressive reactions to daily life. I've worked hard over the years to discover myself and improve...but now, the public has become toxic for several reasons and has become a serious threat to our collective mental health. I would greatly appreciate a video that unpacks this situation and what can I do to make it better while protecting myself abuse. Thoughts? Thanks!
I love using UA-cam for research purposes. Currently I’m doing a lot of fitness/ research prior to this I was on a Dr. Tracey Marks marathon. Love yr videos ❤
I don't have any social media besides UA-cam however I am way too reliant on it since I started working from home. Too much screen time looking for something to engage in.
Quitting social media is one of the best things I've ever done for my emotional health, and I don't miss it one bit. In addition to UA-cam, I sometimes visit Reddit, both of which I like for the anonymity and ease of avoiding trolls.
I noticed the same behaviors in the workplace. And it seems to be encouraged, tolerated; and coddled- basically normalized
Love the animations. Thank you for your content
Yeah, I do agree with you that the social media can be overwhelming solimiting. And over simulating for some of us with bipolar, who find it very difficult too. I'm warned at night to go to sleep. So live in in your time on a computer and allowing that stimulation is very helpful.
Covering pro and con great idea thanks
I found this video helpful, thank you!
On a POSITIVE note. look for lack of PROPULSION in your depression. Quite often, magnesium supplementation helps with that. Dr. Marks covers that in depth in a different video. Thank You! Dr. Tracey Marks
Dear Doctor Marks!
My name is Oxana, I am from Almaty, Kazakhstan. I would like to express my sincere and heartfelt gratitude for all helpful and up-to-the-point relevant information you provide in ALL your videos!!!❤
I am a fybromialgia, discirculatory encephalopathy, and bipolar disorder (type II -- recurrent depressions) survivor. I've been watching ALL your videos for several years and ALWAYS find it helpful for either the problems and challenges I face on a daily (in fact, 24/7) basis or the issues and challenges that some of my friends have. (which means -- I always send links to your videos to my friends).
Thank you so much!!!🌹
Looking forward to more news videos ahead!
I’m glad you’re finding the videos helpful Oxana! They help me too
I have clinical depression and anxiety. A number of family members have this diagnosis going back to at least my maternal grandfather, perhaps further back.
Several years ago I had to drastically reduce my social media engagement as it was absolutely making my symptoms worse. On Facebook alone I had over 1000 "friends". Today I have 98. And almost all of them I know in real life in some way and have at least shared real conversations with. Family and some friends I've known for 30 years. Most days I don't even check Facebook or Twitter. And I might as well not have Instagram. Lol I use UA-cam everyday. I guess that counts as social media. I mostly watch video game content. And a few channels on subjects important to me. Like mental/physical health (obviously 😊), disabilty (I'm physically disabled from birth), some retro music, tv and movies stuff. I'm very cautious about commenting on UA-cam videos because there's so much hate online, especially if your comment doesn't sit well with some random stranger. It used to bother me terribly. However, I've been trying to stretch myself and comment more. So far, so good.
Great video Thank you Dr Marks!
Love the stuff you do and especially the way that you do it. Thanks.
Very great information! Thanks for sharing 🦋
I really appreciate the nuance in your perspective here. 🙌🏻
I have backed off using Social media. I tend to get involved with problems i have no control over. That can be frustrating.
Thanks for sharing, Dr. Marks
Exactly correct ❤
I have set my FB to inactive. Lovely...FB soaked up to much energy that I can use better elsewhere...
I’ve started deleting the Facebook app. I haven’t deactivated my account. I just delete the app so that I have to download and reinstall it to use it. This way, I don’t fill every spare moment wasting time on there. I have to really have a legitimate reason to go through all that. I’ve been getting more done, my thinking feels better organized, and I feel it has significantly reduced my depression and anxiety. Great video.
I think the big issue with social media that wasn’t covered here is fundamentally the notion that experiences are not really experienced in real time - that has a consequence to both the “positive” and “negative” aspects mentioned here - meaning, I think it will always be a disingenuous interaction because it is virtual - you are never truly present
For a person like me every time I watch psych videos I get another diagnosis. For awhile everyone I met was a was “bipolar “ . But I think this video is solid ❤
Valeu, Doutora!!
Excellent video. I quite enjoy hearing different people's viewpoints on different matters on social media even if I don't agree with them. I also love the motivational videos and I love the health videos as well such as yours, they are really good. This video does look at the broader picture because social media does have negatives as well. Thank you for this video.
This comes at the right time.
I recently installed Instagram again and started to post few pics. What I'm longing for is connection and I've been a huge amount of my life isolated; out of fear. But the sun is starting to shine and I'm not afraid anymore to express myself. Yet, it is a slippery slope to not get lost in the noise and distraction and focus on the good things and people. Sometimes the algorithm seems so telling as if I would look into a tarot reading. But as with a Tarot reading, to use it as a metaphor, some cards just aren't yours even if it seems like it. And I've noticed that the Algorithm tends to perpetuate a negative state of mind and by that reinforces it.
I love your video, thank u for your work!❤
Yh, because my “friends” that I helped was having “fun” without me. Had to rethink my whole friend group.
Thanks.
There is a solution. Don’t use social media. Busy yourself with creative options. If you want to get in touch with someone, call them or go visit in person.
Maybe but Dr. Tracey Marks made me happy. ❤
The ONLY social media app I have is SnapChat but am strongly considering dropping it
Thank You for the video. 🧠🏥🧠🏥🧠🏥🧠🏥🧠
Definitely need to cut back, I realized how bad I felt yesterday just scrolling all day.
JOMO (JOY OF MISSING OUT)
I wish that was talked about more
Can you do a video on how to not match other peoples energy? I am a very caring person and pretty sensitive and I am realizing that I tend to take on others emotions and match their energy even if I was feeling differently then them
I only use Twitter, and that's really only to stay in touch with what is happening in the world, I don't want to be naive to the issues facing people.
Thanks❤
Humm .. but FOMO is a trick that content makers use to trigger the audience to click!
I keep snoozing those TOXIC POSITIVE content it's more hurtful to me depressing content. Everybody is SO happy and has TONS OF ENERGY, that's not real come on !
Yes, the comparison hurts my self worth.
So I watch mental health channels on UA-cam that target a specific diagnosis. I won't name the channel, or the creator but it is a person living with whom I have followed since my diagnosis. They work with an organization and research educational information presented. Recently, they posted a video about symptoms that get worse with age, and what gets better.
Most/all symptoms that get worse are 1) age-related, and 2) biologically based. The things that get better, e.g., having a support team, insight, are more behavioral or psychosocial in nature.
Please note: there was no information on how to manage and cope with these age-relared symptoms. It was a short, awareness focused video, speaking to a younger audience.
As an older adult, about to turn 65, I was distraught. Initially, the video left me with a sense of hopelessness. I cried off and on the entire day. And, I have been depressed since.
Intellectually, I know I am catastrophizing, everyone's experience is different. I already talked to my doctor about symptoms. I got testing. Ok so far.
But emotionally. . .
I wanted to email the creator to remove (or revise?) the video, but I would have to join the channel/community, and I didn't want to. After the change to a shorter video format (thanks Tik Tok) in the past year, I haven't found the content helpful anymore and unsubscribed.
I watch another channel where the creator, living with, shares their own experience, but also interviews other people living with, as well as medical professionals. But this person is also young (30s?).
Dr. Marks always presents solution-focused videos, so this is where I'll go moving forward.
I've always been honest online, and never hid my autism or schizophrenia diagnosis (or other ones). I build communities, almost entirely composed of other people who later reveal their disabilities to me privately. I don't hide how bad my life is, or my few wins.
In fact, me letting people know what was going on with me is what got me out of an incredibly abusive (my father did die, I got away) household because someone was willing to help and I was willing to accept that help.
Human interaction is hard, and black and white is extremely rare, no matter how much my own brain screams at me that it's common. Anyway Dr. Marks, did you ever get the chance into using tabletop roleplaying as mutual storytelling that teaches mindfulness and better social interaction skills? You might not remember us conversing about this since it was awhile ago.
I miss the Quality of Social Life before computers and cell phones... people nowadays stare at their phones with frown faces....I do not look at social media.
I don’t comment often. I have F20 Schizophrenia. Every now and then I see Pareidolia. This is a topic that’s rare and hard to find a solution and information. And all that the internet says is that there is no specific medicine or medication for it. Doctor I would like you to make a video or an update video on this topic. It will really help me. Love your videos. Thank you. ❤
I do not follow people I do not like or if I do not like their content. I have no problem with any social media. And I don't argue back and forth with people either..
Great video! Socials help my mental health, I don't feel as lonely and I create content that helps with the depression 😊
Social media makes me feel lonely 😔 because delt with people blocking me on Facebook . I try to say sorry to someone😢 it hurts that they don't care 😢. One of them said to me that I don't know what love is😢
Envy is a 7 deadly sin. Be aware of how social media is influencing your outlook on life. Eliminate any and all content that are perpetuating anxiety, depression, and especially fear!!!
Dr. Alex Korg, the author of *The Upward Spiral* says social media contributes to depression because while the curated content and likes produce more dopamine (at first), oxytocin (the love/bonding hormone) levels drop at the same time. We think we are connecting to others online, but we aren't. It's just addiction.
Yes, and most are addicted.
It sure is a dark place. I got viciously cyber bullied for months on end. Three channels, two in particular made numerous videos about me, and one of them used my face and distorted it. Almost dedicated her channel about me. I reported them numerous times but YT doesn’t care about bullying. They only care about their algorithm. Thoroughly disgusted!
UA-cam is EXTREMELY toxic.
I had an account with my real name and image.
I received many rape threats and reported them all, nothing ever happened.
I used to report horrible channels in my native language disguised as "reports of the dark web" where in the comments section paedos leave their numbers to exchange CSA material.
It took a really long time but I managed to shut some of those down, but probably it wasn't me, it was because they showed the face of the girl known as "Amy Unknown", a victim.
One day an old man changed the title of his video, who was a rant about something unrelated, and he named it as a very violent rape threat against me. He reverted his actions but after I reported severe hate speech against victims of a protected group, which I am part of, my whole account of more than 10 years, with no videos, was banned.
It was absolutely disgusting.
This is something I don’t understand, like literally either stop posting content since apparently it is cringe content, or just make a new channel under a different name and continue as normal. The internet literally forgets everything after a week, nothing here matters so why take it serious and get upset over it?
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I feel like I had too many problems on Facebook makes me depressed. Because people just block me for no reason 😢 when I tried to apologize they still do it. The friend I used to be friends with and her boyfriend said I don't know what love is
Western Civilization is making me depressed, and there's not much that can be done about it.
Can learning a language helps with depression, or it increases the anxiety?
There’s the added layer of brain mapping thru 5G so it knows how to get you. Quitting all social media has made my life better and better each day. Keep talking about this, Dr!
Yeah i use facebook alot to talk to people. Nothing better than finding people to talk about specific things to. But also just rant out thoughts
Also i somehow can't scroll longer than like i dunno
20-30 posts after that i'm like "bruhhh"