This video felt like being read like a book. Ironically I'm writing a book right now and I'm absolutely obsessed with writing the best, the greatest masterpiece ever written, not being able to stop the self-hating thoughts whenever I do write. It worked at first but now I realize just how harmful it was, I was literally skimming through the chapters because writing straight up hurt me. I needed this.
I think hating yourself to do something is the easiest way because you get used to be angry, it gives you a sense of commodity. Trying to live feeling your emotions and have discipline is really difficult because emotions and feelings change and are kinda unstable, that's why trying to have "control" over them is the worst and not useful. Instead of discipline and anger to achieve things, we should have faith and love to achieve them. Two different paths, but two different results in yourself.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. Most content in the 'productivity' sphere always sells the idea of difficulty that it has become a commodity sold to attain ambition.
This video just found me when I needed it the most. I've been academically overachieving my whole life, these last years it just got to a point where everything that I did didn't seem to be enough. I am always looking for a way to make things harder, to do more things (I got a job, learned a language, practiced karate, played in a band), only to find that they never fulfill me, in fact, every time I achieve something I feel more empty and depressed, because I no longer have a goal that drives me through life and fills my day so I don't have to think if this is what I really want to do. I feel like I never let my inner self make the decisions, I am always guided by what I externally perceive as the best option. And it is just fucking tiring. Also, I was confused because nobody talks about this. Everybody talks about how important discipline is, but I feel like only few people get to see what it really looks like. And it is scary, the emptiness. This sense of being meaningless. I sometimes feel like nothing ever makes sense, I feel lost and fantasize about ending it all, even after all the effort. So I just wanted to thank you for this video, I really think that you found the perfect way to understand this mess and put it into words. I will remember this video for a long time... I hope that you keep doing your thing and sharing your findings. Also, I would love to talk more in depth about this topic, but I guess that's just a silly hope. Greetings from Spain!
I was skeptical cause i’ve never seen a video of yours and didn’t know if it was just some more motivational bullshit but i was so interested in understanding your point given i didn’t ‘til a few minutes in and now that i’ve watched the entire thing i’m just so glad i did. It was so refreshing to unexpectedly get this much food for thought, and to identify with it so much that i was surprised to not have thought of it in this way before. You’re clearly such a passionate and eloquent person, thank you for this!
If you hate yourself you will never be able to change that, even if you do try to do something different until you can get over the shame, and the guilt of your past.
So true discipline (from love) it's not an equation on what to feel or not in order to do something. It's a guide open in feelings and meanings that will lead to somewhere. Instead of chaining yourself to a result (comes from ego), mark and objective as a path and live and learn from the process without obsessing over the goal. Ego is a chain, a limit, love is experience and feeling, purpose.
2015 playing Halo I used to spend a lot of time building these mega-structures, and one memory that sticks out to me, is that after I spent hours on one of these Megaliths I looked up into the virtual sky and saw that big beautiful arch in Halo:Reach that unfolds across the sky and was hit by this amazing sense of awe and appreciation for for something that is much bigger than me and my creations. Your thoughts here reminded me of that, because when you create a goal, or ideal future, you also create an unbearable present moment. How to fix the unbearable present and still reach your goals? ? Keep your eyes on the big beautiful arch
i have a history of NOT getting what i worked hard to build up.. i got ripped off, betrayed, hit by broadsides.. it sucks.. i keep on trying to do the things i want to do in life but i could really do with some wins (edit: I've learned a lot through it all .. and i try to help people get through crisis and tough days faster on a channel i do.. but I'm an ugly dude so i get about one view a week
Life isn't necessarily confined to the domain of discipline as you have other and foremost , and significantly more important essential branches of life that contribute to its richness and vastness, such as exercising artistic creativity, experiencing relationships, emotional well-being, personal growth, exploration, spontaneity, and even leisure reading, cooking, eating outside, exploring new things that are innovative to self development, freedom, spiritual awakening, as these aspects will introduce you to a life and experience that is multidimensional and thrives on a balance between structure and freedom, and here you have it, and you have the freedom to exercise it.
You’re right. Although more often than not in today’s world we’re inclined to use our freedom of innovative self development for quick pleasures that end up hurting us more than improving the quality of our lives. That’s why it’s important to train that muscle of conscious choice and “action-effect” reevaluation by controlling the direction of daily tasks and getting used to winning with your ego
I think inheriantly we have all that 'MONSTER' inside of us that feeds on our internal & external ambitions that if you fail to 'give it food' you will antagonize yourself and feel like crap ESPECIALLY when you feel or know it's so obtainable and you're willing to do the work it takes to get there and achieve it regardless if it takes days, months, years, or decades but sometimes that 'MONSTER' is never satisfied with what you feed him and he keeps want to be eating and eating and eating until you or the 'MONSTER' know when it's full. But sometimes....How can you tell when the 'MONSTER' is full? Can the 'MONSTER' ever be full? How are you sure you're not the 'MONSTER'? Are you sure that you and this 'MONSTER' aren't ONE identity...? I don't know what else I can really say and/or add to the conversation that has't already been graciously articulated by Liza in this video but I thought I should maybe share something I actually just experienced 2 days ago. Personally I just finished a 4 day self-inflicted challlenge (was suppose to be 3 but I went through burn out & extreme fatigue on the night of 3rd day and did carry over work the next day) where I wanted to start to write and finish a film script in 3 days because I saw a Tik Tok which had a clip from an interview with Sylvester Stallone back in the day where he said he wrote the script for Rocky (1976) in 3 Days and that shocked the hell out of me and ever since I always wanted to accept that challenge for myself and write a script in 3 Days or Under and HONESTLY it was definitely...a challenge to say the least😅. I even have/had those people in my life (God bless them.) that tell me to chill/rest, get some sleep, take some breaks, or slow down a bit but that DRIVE (😆idk if it's the testereorone guys have) to just push beyond your limits and exceed your potential, to even unknowingly (or knowingly in some cases) to the detriment your emotional, psychical, and/or mental well-being as well as human realationships is a REAL THING; and some of us can/will brush it offf as a sign that they want nothing good for you or as a sign that they may want you to slow you down which you can interpret as a threat to your success but in actuality it could be something that we can sometimes fail to understand. We just would have to humble ourselves and be mature enough to realize that sometimes to make that progress towards the inevitable success and/or those scarifices at times, we should evalaute the costs that will come with it and then should conceive a plan where as much costs could be depriciated in the path those the success that can be seen as additonal long term rewards for your work, discipline, etc.
@@lizabashkova Woah, now that's insane😀. Firstly I don't even think I have that power unless God granted it to be unknowingly, but also as I said it your timing for posting looks to be in my favor and at the right times so I really can't take all the credit Liza.
This video felt like being read like a book. Ironically I'm writing a book right now and I'm absolutely obsessed with writing the best, the greatest masterpiece ever written, not being able to stop the self-hating thoughts whenever I do write. It worked at first but now I realize just how harmful it was, I was literally skimming through the chapters because writing straight up hurt me. I needed this.
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I think hating yourself to do something is the easiest way because you get used to be angry, it gives you a sense of commodity. Trying to live feeling your emotions and have discipline is really difficult because emotions and feelings change and are kinda unstable, that's why trying to have "control" over them is the worst and not useful. Instead of discipline and anger to achieve things, we should have faith and love to achieve them. Two different paths, but two different results in yourself.
I agree with this wholeheartedly. Most content in the 'productivity' sphere always sells the idea of difficulty that it has become a commodity sold to attain ambition.
This video just found me when I needed it the most. I've been academically overachieving my whole life, these last years it just got to a point where everything that I did didn't seem to be enough. I am always looking for a way to make things harder, to do more things (I got a job, learned a language, practiced karate, played in a band), only to find that they never fulfill me, in fact, every time I achieve something I feel more empty and depressed, because I no longer have a goal that drives me through life and fills my day so I don't have to think if this is what I really want to do. I feel like I never let my inner self make the decisions, I am always guided by what I externally perceive as the best option. And it is just fucking tiring.
Also, I was confused because nobody talks about this. Everybody talks about how important discipline is, but I feel like only few people get to see what it really looks like. And it is scary, the emptiness. This sense of being meaningless. I sometimes feel like nothing ever makes sense, I feel lost and fantasize about ending it all, even after all the effort. So I just wanted to thank you for this video, I really think that you found the perfect way to understand this mess and put it into words. I will remember this video for a long time... I hope that you keep doing your thing and sharing your findings. Also, I would love to talk more in depth about this topic, but I guess that's just a silly hope. Greetings from Spain!
Wow Im really glad this found you at the right time.
I appreciate you!🫂
I was skeptical cause i’ve never seen a video of yours and didn’t know if it was just some more motivational bullshit but i was so interested in understanding your point given i didn’t ‘til a few minutes in and now that i’ve watched the entire thing i’m just so glad i did. It was so refreshing to unexpectedly get this much food for thought, and to identify with it so much that i was surprised to not have thought of it in this way before. You’re clearly such a passionate and eloquent person, thank you for this!
If you hate yourself you will never be able to change that, even if you do try to do something different until you can get over the shame, and the guilt of your past.
100 percent,, loving yourself is the first step ..
Really needed to hear this, thank you 🙏🏽
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listening to your videos after a hard day is therapeutic in a way, thank you
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So true discipline (from love) it's not an equation on what to feel or not in order to do something. It's a guide open in feelings and meanings that will lead to somewhere. Instead of chaining yourself to a result (comes from ego), mark and objective as a path and live and learn from the process without obsessing over the goal. Ego is a chain, a limit, love is experience and feeling, purpose.
The way that I always learn something new from you ❤ but weirdly it's something I already knew
U have to trust yourself to be disciplined, again liza with that heat 🔥💯
2015 playing Halo I used to spend a lot of time building these mega-structures, and one memory that sticks out to me, is that after I spent hours on one of these Megaliths I looked up into the virtual sky and saw that big beautiful arch in Halo:Reach that unfolds across the sky and was hit by this amazing sense of awe and appreciation for for something that is much bigger than me and my creations. Your thoughts here reminded me of that, because when you create a goal, or ideal future, you also create an unbearable present moment. How to fix the unbearable present and still reach your goals? ? Keep your eyes on the big beautiful arch
You droppin' gems.💎Self motivation, is a powerful tool to achieve more out of your life but, make sure you get real fulfillment out of the journey.
You're absolutely correct!
I should quit my full time job
Even hate can turnout other thing in the futures
Thank you❤
i have a history of NOT getting what i worked hard to build up.. i got ripped off, betrayed, hit by broadsides.. it sucks.. i keep on trying to do the things i want to do in life but i could really do with some wins
(edit: I've learned a lot through it all .. and i try to help people get through crisis and tough days faster on a channel i do.. but I'm an ugly dude so i get about one view a week
I can relate to you so much
you get everything you want but you still hate yourself. Every single day it fucking sucks
Life isn't necessarily confined to the domain of discipline as you have other and foremost , and significantly more important essential branches of life that contribute to its richness and vastness, such as exercising artistic creativity, experiencing relationships, emotional well-being, personal growth, exploration, spontaneity, and even leisure reading, cooking, eating outside, exploring new things that are innovative to self development, freedom, spiritual awakening, as these aspects will introduce you to a life and experience that is multidimensional and thrives on a balance between structure and freedom, and here you have it, and you have the freedom to exercise it.
You’re right. Although more often than not in today’s world we’re inclined to use our freedom of innovative self development for quick pleasures that end up hurting us more than improving the quality of our lives. That’s why it’s important to train that muscle of conscious choice and “action-effect” reevaluation by controlling the direction of daily tasks and getting used to winning with your ego
@@lizabashkova I'm agreeable with you as well.
I think inheriantly we have all that 'MONSTER' inside of us that feeds on our internal & external ambitions that if you fail to 'give it food' you will antagonize yourself and feel like crap ESPECIALLY when you feel or know it's so obtainable and you're willing to do the work it takes to get there and achieve it regardless if it takes days, months, years, or decades but sometimes that 'MONSTER' is never satisfied with what you feed him and he keeps want to be eating and eating and eating until you or the 'MONSTER' know when it's full. But sometimes....How can you tell when the 'MONSTER' is full? Can the 'MONSTER' ever be full? How are you sure you're not the 'MONSTER'? Are you sure that you and this 'MONSTER' aren't ONE identity...?
I don't know what else I can really say and/or add to the conversation that has't already been graciously articulated by Liza in this video but I thought I should maybe share something I actually just experienced 2 days ago.
Personally I just finished a 4 day self-inflicted challlenge (was suppose to be 3 but I went through burn out & extreme fatigue on the night of 3rd day and did carry over work the next day) where I wanted to start to write and finish a film script in 3 days because I saw a Tik Tok which had a clip from an interview with Sylvester Stallone back in the day where he said he wrote the script for Rocky (1976) in 3 Days and that shocked the hell out of me and ever since I always wanted to accept that challenge for myself and write a script in 3 Days or Under and HONESTLY it was definitely...a challenge to say the least😅.
I even have/had those people in my life (God bless them.) that tell me to chill/rest, get some sleep, take some breaks, or slow down a bit but that DRIVE (😆idk if it's the testereorone guys have) to just push beyond your limits and exceed your potential, to even unknowingly (or knowingly in some cases) to the detriment your emotional, psychical, and/or mental well-being as well as human realationships is a REAL THING; and some of us can/will brush it offf as a sign that they want nothing good for you or as a sign that they may want you to slow you down which you can interpret as a threat to your success but in actuality it could be something that we can sometimes fail to understand. We just would have to humble ourselves and be mature enough to realize that sometimes to make that progress towards the inevitable success and/or those scarifices at times, we should evalaute the costs that will come with it and then should conceive a plan where as much costs could be depriciated in the path those the success that can be seen as additonal long term rewards for your work, discipline, etc.
Love your oversized hoodie.
Yes YOU ARE RİGHT You told about me😇😇😇😇👸🏼👸🏼👸🏼👸🏼
Oh hey bestie ❤
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Thank you Rey that’s insane 😭 you comment before I click „publish”
@@lizabashkova Woah, now that's insane😀. Firstly I don't even think I have that power unless God granted it to be unknowingly, but also as I said it your timing for posting looks to be in my favor and at the right times so I really can't take all the credit Liza.
You deserve to be honored by those who as you bashkova ,, thank you ,, oh my god during writing this I heard you at the video saying hug me ☺️🥹
What does it mean bashkova ? is it coincidence or universal reflect 👀😯