@@SaHayes-it2uw by talking, asking questions, i mean... If she's got feminine traits, healthy, young and fertile, that's all you need to know... U dont need to eff her to know that and if u do, u may: knock her up (no contraception isnt 100%), get STDs, catch feelings without commitment, and more. Most importantly, it's been forbidden by our creator who wants the best for us. He clearly knows us better than we know ourselves and this restriction along with many with ur sentiment, is 1 of the many evidence of that
yet it happens everyday. people need to stop acting as if it doesn't happen. majority of your friends and even you have probably had a muslim girlfriend so why act like it doesn't happen?
@@Jessicaro It's not acting like it doesn't happen if you say it's not permissible in Islam. And this isnt something every Muslim out there is doing. What's to talk about it anyways apart from saying its haram. Starting anything out doing something that Allah has FORBIDDEN will not end well. There's a reason it's haram.
@@aishaarshadalam3412 yeah but it happens right? because of that why shouldn't it be talked about? now if nobody did it i would get it but just because your silent about it does not make the thing go away. muslim boys and girls date that is a fact. but because nobody can talk about it is exactly the reason why so many eventually get into trouble by falling for a boy that only wants to use them. they losing their virginity and running away and tons of other things that have happened. i have counseled teenagers a lot were muslim so people need to stop acting like things don't happen in society as long as they do not talk about it. and ps even tho it is haram. plenty of muslim people end up married to the person they were in a relationship with so to say it always ends up bad is a bit weird
The hard truth is that it's sometimes impossible for certain people to even comprehend their own needs and desires until they find the things they can't stand.
@@jcl9034 Where did i gave Advice? Are you Ok? Beside find a Imam you can trust. In this Dunya nobody cares for you anyway. Youre Comment is a good example of nobody cares.
I don't get why people don't take the advice of Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him. I mean he was essentially taught by Allah. Our creator. The creator know best hiw his creation works. Respectfully the sister glosses over the fact that people are in relations before marriage. First red flag.
@@michelecherek5392 absolutely no problem with looking for if your looking to get married but starting a relationship without marriage is not okay. People have the mindset of test running a relationship before marriage this is wrong in Islam, im sure. If your Muslim then you would believe whats ment for you is written. That is the mindset in my opinion where success is achieved in marriage.
@@letsplaydone9910 lol I was about to agree with you till you said that last ignorant sentence… mind your business that’s your problem & stay outta women business.
The problem is I honestly met the man who met all my requirements. He was incredible during the engagement but after we got married it’s like he got worse and worse to the point that he completely neglected me emotionally. I tried to talk to him so many times and tell him that our marriage is breaking and I’m literally hurt all the time but he kept invalidating my feelings and kept placing blame on me and my insecurities and that’s it’s something that’s not his problem to fix. How supportive of him. Anyways I stopped wasting my time on him when he wasn’t there for me when my dad passed away. Trying to get a divorce now but he’s an asshole who won’t give it to me so I have to most likely take khula to get rid of him
Yep, make sure you know the person. Don't rush, I got divorced as well. Make sure you pick the person as well and not just picked by the other person. Know your worth and value.
@@disneyjump7221 definitely not! I am single for 7 years. I have a successful business, I have 7 cars, I live in a penthouse and I bang whomever I feel Iike! Because I only bang what I like, I live in heaven. All this marriage is plain and utter nonsense. And I also have two beautiful kids.
@@aliibn-muhammadal-sharif8568 maybe.. but if you wanted to be single then why did you marry someone and ruin their life. Do you know how much of a sin that is. Do you know how difficult it is for a single mom to live in this world let alone the hurt she goes through with it. If you wanted yr dick sucked by every slut out their. You shouldn't have married and put this woman in trouble for the rest of her life. Do you know how hard it is for a single mom with two kids to find someone after this. You can never even pay back for this sin
@@disneyjump7221- I was a single dad with a new born and 8 yr old I was extremely happy. Bonded with the kids. Built my foundation for myself. Fast forward 15 years later, finally married. Hijabi, Muslimah. Alhamdulillah
@@disneyjump7221 why are single dads the most miserable? They work so hard to support their kids when there is no mother. It is the equivalent of a single mother. Single parents work very hard to support their children.
I see lots of people in the ummah getting married mad early just to get married… when they don’t even know themselves properly, haven’t worked on themselves to know what they’ll want and not want… u can’t just marry someone just for deen, this is a whole other human with complications that need to be understood… lifestyle is huge, apart from deen they have something they want to achieve with in this world secondary after being successful in the deen In Sha Allah… what kind of life they want for their future kids also matters, there’s so much that needs to be known and not rushed into before life long commitment… and I also put lots of fault on parents with in the Muslim communities… especially from what I witnessed lots of arab parents want to get this marriage done asap and it’s like yo do y’all really not value ur kid? Y’all want ur kid to spend their life with someone that could be wrong for them?
Facts. I’m not Muslim but my husband is and I see how hard it is. 💜 stay strong always ladies! I was just telling my husband about you girl because in his family it’s basically waiting for everything in life after your married and the girls think that’s the most important goal and they rush. 💜 May Allah take care of all of the sisters and brothers!
@@samjon6403 Jesus chose Moses a murder to represent him. The people that have been through the most have the most to offer. The fact that she's using her past bad choices to help woman is why she is great. People are human and unfortunately we get fed enough lies and fake views on the socials. She's human. to me thats great.
@@brownhaddl3y I'm not sure she is sending messages that she regrets anything she has done. All I see is an arrogant and passive attitude. Blaming everyone for her bad decisions.
When looking for a husband. Look for red flags first: He is mentally stable, he does not get angry easy, he does not have stds, he is not stingy, he is independent from family but yet respectful of family (dependent on family may mean he has an issue), He is kind and has empathy, he is fair and just in decison making (this important when comes to compromising in relationships), observe his reputation on how he treats people in community and outside when going for a coffee. After all this, yes physical attraction is very important. Not mean a super handsome man but something that is attractive in you eyes. To keep the spark and attraction alive, and he must be a good person to. Because when he handsome and becomes abusive that look will become so ugly to you. Also, he should be financially stable and by this I dont mean a millionaire but you get what I mean because all the above is the most important, he akhlaq and then most importatnly too his deen. To sum up, Mentally stable, deen ,akhlaq, finances, attraction.
I am a Christian I got married with a muslim. My husband attracted me we had that instant connection. He did all sorts of haram and totally destroyed me, he has mental health issues, he went into drugs and much more but I never gave up on him. I prayed day and night and it maybe took several years but I can tell you that he found his way to get back on track and now we are very happy. He is still trying daily, but I have faith he is getting there. God puts all the people on our way for a reason. Patience is the key. And everyone is deserving of love. Kindness and good words can penetrate any kind of heart and Allah can change any situation in an instance.
In Islam we do not date. Those who date even if they are Muslim aren’t doing that action because it’s in their religion. to speak about dating and or encourage it is to encourage the haram don’t forget that. To be clear engagement isn’t a thing in Islam either but that isn’t because it’s haram it’s because marriage is a contract you can create the marriage contract and then fulfill it later which is similar to engagement but it isn’t a 1:1. For example if your parents placed their child in a marriage contract with their friends child, then when they reach puberty 15 latest particularly for women 16 latest particularly for men they would fulfill the contract as long as the two of them are willing.
It depends what you mean by "dating". As a Muslim lady living in a city alone with no parents or guardian the only way I can meet potentials is to meet with them alone. So we meet in a public place while observing all modesty rules. If I can't do that then I will end up never marrying 😅.
@@89Salma89 Approach your local masjid and speak with sisters , as well as get a trustworthy imam appointed as your wali incase you have no father, brothers, uncles, cousins, or other male relatives left.
@@89Salma89that isnt dating even so it isn’t for a long period of time. It isn’t longer than a year. A year is even to long as the purpose isn’t to get to know them well as you can’t physically touch, you can’t flirt, you can’t speak softly. You can’t talk about things that are In appropriate for someone you aren’t married to. For example you can’t talk about intimacy and so on. It’s literally to see if you have good religion, good manners, and your attractive- that’s it and nothing more. Even if you aren’t attractive if you have the other two everything else falls into line
Agreed. Experience is best teacher. I was divorced too. And now I don't have a problem with walking away. I MOVE at my own pace to stay in my happy place. But next relationship I will still take my time and not go into negative thinking but If you give up on dating you will never know who you want.
My grandfather tried to give me advice about marriage although he’s been divorced 3 times by 3 different ethnicities… whatever he has to say is unlikely to help me in getting along with the opposite sex/gender… also he’s very well off so it definitely wasn’t because of lack of sustainability
It's called compromise! Learn to be selfless and you will be happy. Men compromise and live most of their life working for wife and kids. It goes both ways. If all you can think about is what your rights are and what you want then you won't ever be happy. Look for who you want as a leader then let them lead!
1) Never take financial advice from a broke person. 2) Never take fitness advice from a lazy person. 3) Never take relationship advice from a divorced person.
Not sure why people leave negative comments. Thank you for helping your sisters out. Good will always be more important than the negative comments. Lots of love habibti! ❤❤❤
I have a lot of respect for you. U have been thru a lot and used all ur traums to positively help others. I am divorce with 2 young children and depressed cant get my self to do anything positive😢
Lmfao 😂 I hate being right about what I think of people so I had to see the rest of your genius videos to realize that I was right. Ugh even the “good ones “ are failures these days.
Why is everyone coming at her, she's not saying dating like other people they. She's saying dating in the Muslim community such as courting. You still have to know what you want because of someone approaches you and you go to your parents and you say I like this guy and then you start to get to know him and you get married and then he's not the right one would you to do then. It's always smart for you to know what you want and everything that you do. This is not haram to have knowledge.
I see a lot of brothers in the comments bashing her and judging her, we have to stop judging and criticizing her my advice to this sister is to do you and not post about this on social media for the world to see plus the best thing you can do is have sincere intention and help from a brother uncle or father figure to analyze and not date around.. unfortunately our sisters are also being affected by the “modern” woman mentality very sad at this rate there’ll be lots of single woman or single mothers in next few yrs 😕
I completely agree, after figuring out what I wanted. I have an integration session with the women who wants to marry me to see if they get along with my goals and mindset. After talking to 40+ I completely rejected about 95% flat within 2 days of talking, and noticed that majority of them dont even know what they want in life or have any goals. 💀
I'm not married but I would also say this, having an idea of what you want it important but also don't have stupid and unrealistic standards. Like I've heard some women say 'I won't get married unless my wedding ring is 10k minimum' like what?! At that point, things matter more in your life than people or if he doesn't earn at least much, then I'm not marrying him etc. The truth is you're never going to find the 'prefect' person or a millionaire, but as long as both parties want to make it work, it'll work.
Heres the thing dating is better because you actually get to know the person. In Islam, you're supposed to marry right away, which makes no sense and end up marrying a total stranger!
Sister the harsh truth is, you are addicted to attention and you lack the patience and the will to sacrifice some things to have a happy marriage. Most women are in this dilemma you are not alone and men have their own version of this May Allah help us All
My tip is to keep steadfast in prayer and asking Allah, in my moment of pain I asked Allah to please send me my husband, I told Allah you know what I need and when, but please let him come sooner than later, at this time I had no living mehram and although I had enough money to care for myself and my mother I truly needed a partner and a protector - I’m not a beautiful lady, and don’t wear a lot of makeup or glamorous clothing either- young women please don’t focus too much on looks, a mature man will see beyond it. Bless all the single women, trust in Allah and I hope you all to become blessed as I have, inshalla
Take it from me. Dont go into those online relationships when youre getting to know a person. Always one of the parties makes it out like theure more interested in the other than they actually are and something goes wrong. You have no idea who that person really is. What happened to me was that at first i thought as long as my parents know it means its okay - cuz i have to get to know him i cant just marry some random guy. The reason i had to online date was because we were getting no matches for me mainly because we didnt know anyone to ask. Or the ones we were getting were the worst and no woman would accept it. Anyway the guy i spoke to would go overboard about how he wanted to marry me - even though he didnt know me. Say things he wasnt supposed and constantly say i love you. Even though i would tell him not to. We couldnt meet because i was getting treatment done that i needed (nothing serious/ life threatening) but when we could meet, suddenly he was making excuses - before this he would get angry at me for not being able to meet up and say how badly he wanted to meet me and get the ball rolling. We finally met and everything felt wrong. His sister was there and was being a total hypocrite she even had the nerve to say to me will you cook for my brother? Will you cook for me? She was a married woman with two daughters. She also didnt live with her in laws but thought i should live with her parents and also contribute towards the house. Allah will deal with them accordingly. They are disgusting. Thats the last time i will try anything like that
@@angelamarie222 Come on... After the second divorce You have to look in the mirror!! That's why this internet is trash...It allows 2 time/ 2 time divorced women to be influencers!!🥶🥴
@@angelamarie222 because i think what she want from her partner he can't agree because he has a dignity nowadays every male including bad boys looking for good characters women.
JazakAllah I would love to hear the rest because not everyone has tiktok 😊 and also Just a side question when are the prayer set in the regular size going to be available I love them🤌🏼?
There are mothers who never spend time with their daughters, let alone talk to them about what to look for in a husband. Many grow up without role models and miss out on quite a lot in life be it marriage or otherwise.
Omg guys chill!! Dating is not something she meant from a western perspective. She meant when you have a decent conversation in public before commitment (marriage), just to see the compatibility
This is true, but do that when young. I think a main thing that's ignored is that women lose "requirements" the onlder they get, and men gain "requirements." Before you say it's sexist, there's a reason women panic at 30 while men feel unleashed. The worst thing that happened to modern women was "equality".
as someone who has been there and done that, i advise my brothers and sisters....don't do it, it offers more cons than pros. Just do it Islamically as in the long run your physical and mental wellbeing will be stronger and more healthy. ❤
We have the right to chose the person that is we are comfortable with. Yes you can ask family for a suggestion but at the end you voice counts. Also the fact that you are divorced it means that you’re enough brave to stand up and respect yourself because there is a lot of things close doors that women don’t speak up because fear that something happens to them. Also because there is issues of control especially from in-laws because the men don’t draw the line between their family members women has to be quiet. I’m not generalizing that all of them are same there is bad spouses in every culture. Everything is haram but what about when they marry underage girls, what about women getting rape , what about that both parties reflect to their society one face and in reality both parties are cheating, what about how many domestic workers ended up in human slavery the wife’s of the guy knows that the maids are getting sexually harassed and they don’t do anything about it, what about the vaginal mutilation.Remembered when Kenyan women where banned to travel to those countries. There are so many cases. Islam is a religion of respect and love for God but the man is using that for their advantage. Also what about the incident from Iran when that woman ended up death. Let me tell you something, sometimes they have the nerve to criticize this part of the world. One last point a good Muslim guy is supposed to treat and protect their wife, sister or significant others there is not a part of the holy scriptures that said that you have to be covered it said dress with modesty. There is no segregation in the scriptures but like I said on the beginning there is bad people everywhere.
The fact that you said dating is a reason for me to not take you seriously on top of that the least you could do while wearing hijab is cover those arms i am not saying this is you but I see a lot of women these days showing skin while wearing hijab just to get views it’s really not that hard to cover the arms if you already cover the hair I am hijabi myself and I live in Europe so don’t give me those stupid excuses of “it’s hard” it’s really not
Shut up, our prophet swa was married to an divorced women, if you talk bad about her your talking bad about his wife AND YES SHE SHOULD GIVE ADVICE CUZ SHE HAD EXPERIENCE
You know what? She did actually get divorced twice but because of that she has now experience and know what to avoid. Also just because she got divorced doesnt mean its her fault, it can also be the mans fault. Many women get divorced because of how controlling or abusive the husband is.
The issue is extremely important and not discussed often at all both the men and the women are pressured by this centuries old tradition I speak on this issue actually on Twitter, but I couldn't stop thinking about the Chipotle bowl I was distracted. Can we do that again no Chipotle filter yum lol
In Islam you can't date however I've been divorced two times also. However don't put your bad relationship habits on others. marriage is a life lesson you get married and you and your husband grow together by following Quran the only thing Allah asked each believer is to marry another believer. Everything else will fall into place and there is nothing wrong with getting a divorce either. Please don't spread false information sister. ❤ Inshallah
Ye it’s not talked about cause haram. Don’t fing normalise it. Ik u got ur own decision’s and wtv. But there are so many Muslim kids that don’t that educated on Islam and dating so don’t make it sound normal. Btw I’m only a teen so stick to ur deen and inshallah we will all go jannat. ❤ameen. Also Allah knows what happened cause she’s divorced twice I’m not judging at all. But you have tagged dating and shown that u date. Like some stuff can stay of the internet. Stop putting the Muslim people in confusion.
"dating in the muslim communities" DON'T DO IT. Period.
Fax brother
100% fax
Then how do you get to know a potential mate?
@@SaHayes-it2uw talking about interesst etc
@@SaHayes-it2uw by talking, asking questions, i mean... If she's got feminine traits, healthy, young and fertile, that's all you need to know... U dont need to eff her to know that and if u do, u may: knock her up (no contraception isnt 100%), get STDs, catch feelings without commitment, and more.
Most importantly, it's been forbidden by our creator who wants the best for us. He clearly knows us better than we know ourselves and this restriction along with many with ur sentiment, is 1 of the many evidence of that
Dating and relationships outside marriage is Not talked about BECAUSE IT'S NOT PERMISSIBLE IN ISLAM
Exactly!!
yet it happens everyday. people need to stop acting as if it doesn't happen. majority of your friends and even you have probably had a muslim girlfriend so why act like it doesn't happen?
@@Jessicaro bro none of my muslim friends date and i have never dated anyone shut up💀 delusional.
@@Jessicaro It's not acting like it doesn't happen if you say it's not permissible in Islam. And this isnt something every Muslim out there is doing. What's to talk about it anyways apart from saying its haram. Starting anything out doing something that Allah has FORBIDDEN will not end well. There's a reason it's haram.
@@aishaarshadalam3412 yeah but it happens right? because of that why shouldn't it be talked about?
now if nobody did it i would get it but just because your silent about it does not make the thing go away. muslim boys and girls date that is a fact. but because nobody can talk about it is exactly the reason why so many eventually get into trouble by falling for a boy that only wants to use them. they losing their virginity and running away and tons of other things that have happened. i have counseled teenagers a lot were muslim so people need to stop acting like things don't happen in society as long as they do not talk about it.
and ps even tho it is haram. plenty of muslim people end up married to the person they were in a relationship with so to say it always ends up bad is a bit weird
as muslims, we cannot date. please stop this and remember your deen 💗💗
you can date with a chaperone, like a parent in the same room as you.
@@lindahakansson9632 this isnt a field trip this is shikr
@@fizzyxw and who told you that?
@@lindahakansson9632 who told you you needed a chaperone to date? wheres your source lol
@@fizzyxw Google it, everyone knows it. Even the most strict muslims do it.
The hard truth is that it's sometimes impossible for certain people to even comprehend their own needs and desires until they find the things they can't stand.
True
And some people won't comprehend their own desires and needs until theyve married and divorced 10+ times.
so try to think about it long and hard. Look at situations around you and analyse! Think about what you do not like for now and add to it
SISTERS if you are attracted to someone let your father or brothers check him if he is a good person, the rest is nonsense.
If you dont have Brothers or a father?
No Wali at all? Its impossible not to get fooled.
@@jacquelinestevenson5183 Find an imam that you can trust then. With all due respect. Just don't give haram advice like the girl in the video does.
@@jcl9034 Where did i gave Advice?
Are you Ok?
Beside find a Imam you can trust. In this Dunya nobody cares for you anyway.
Youre Comment is a good example of nobody cares.
@@jacquelinestevenson5183 Im not saying you did, calm down woman.
@@jcl9034 Read youre Comment again and dont talk like that "woman". You have no manners.
Dating is haram tho. Don't you know that?
With dating she meant marrying
Stop acting like you don’t understand her point, she’s not talking about haram dating
Breathing is Haram too
@@george4vIogging yes dating is haram do you have a problem ? If you do don’t become Muslim end of the story
There’s something called halal dating. Dont you know that?
I don't get why people don't take the advice of Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him. I mean he was essentially taught by Allah. Our creator. The creator know best hiw his creation works.
Respectfully the sister glosses over the fact that people are in relations before marriage. First red flag.
Looking for or being in relationships, does NOT equate to HAVING RELATIONS...
@@michelecherek5392 absolutely no problem with looking for if your looking to get married but starting a relationship without marriage is not okay.
People have the mindset of test running a relationship before marriage this is wrong in Islam, im sure.
If your Muslim then you would believe whats ment for you is written. That is the mindset in my opinion where success is achieved in marriage.
Then Rasulullah (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam) raised his hands, cried and said:
‘O Allah! my Ummat, my Ummat!’
...
It's funny how you're trying to use that to harass someone.
And why are you down in every woman's comment section, see the hypocrisy?
@@zhaliaaziz bc our prophet cried for our ummah but ppl like her destroy it
Well what you wanna say Shia 🫥
@@zhaliaaziz and you don't call it Harasment you call it guidence
And if that your profil is you i can see some haram you doing
@@letsplaydone9910 lol I was about to agree with you till you said that last ignorant sentence… mind your business that’s your problem & stay outta women business.
May Allah guide you !
And all of us. !
The problem is I honestly met the man who met all my requirements. He was incredible during the engagement but after we got married it’s like he got worse and worse to the point that he completely neglected me emotionally. I tried to talk to him so many times and tell him that our marriage is breaking and I’m literally hurt all the time but he kept invalidating my feelings and kept placing blame on me and my insecurities and that’s it’s something that’s not his problem to fix. How supportive of him. Anyways I stopped wasting my time on him when he wasn’t there for me when my dad passed away. Trying to get a divorce now but he’s an asshole who won’t give it to me so I have to most likely take khula to get rid of him
Good luck !
Yes sure go ahead and become a statistic
Sorry about this..what happened any updates?
What's khula? And update?
Sounds like a narcissist
Yep, make sure you know the person. Don't rush, I got divorced as well. Make sure you pick the person as well and not just picked by the other person. Know your worth and value.
Yeah we ain't taking advice from a big mouth feminist muslim who got divorced twice. There's a reason the guys could not tolerate her big mouth.
I feel like being a single dad of two girls is the best thing for me.... wallah I love the normal life inshallah next time sister
Single dads are the most miserable men out there.
@@disneyjump7221 definitely not! I am single for 7 years. I have a successful business, I have 7 cars, I live in a penthouse and I bang whomever I feel Iike! Because I only bang what I like, I live in heaven. All this marriage is plain and utter nonsense. And I also have two beautiful kids.
@@aliibn-muhammadal-sharif8568 maybe.. but if you wanted to be single then why did you marry someone and ruin their life. Do you know how much of a sin that is. Do you know how difficult it is for a single mom to live in this world let alone the hurt she goes through with it. If you wanted yr dick sucked by every slut out their. You shouldn't have married and put this woman in trouble for the rest of her life. Do you know how hard it is for a single mom with two kids to find someone after this. You can never even pay back for this sin
@@disneyjump7221- I was a single dad with a new born and 8 yr old
I was extremely happy. Bonded with the kids. Built my foundation for myself. Fast forward 15 years later, finally married.
Hijabi, Muslimah. Alhamdulillah
@@disneyjump7221 why are single dads the most miserable? They work so hard to support their kids when there is no mother. It is the equivalent of a single mother. Single parents work very hard to support their children.
I see lots of people in the ummah getting married mad early just to get married… when they don’t even know themselves properly, haven’t worked on themselves to know what they’ll want and not want… u can’t just marry someone just for deen, this is a whole other human with complications that need to be understood… lifestyle is huge, apart from deen they have something they want to achieve with in this world secondary after being successful in the deen In Sha Allah… what kind of life they want for their future kids also matters, there’s so much that needs to be known and not rushed into before life long commitment… and I also put lots of fault on parents with in the Muslim communities… especially from what I witnessed lots of arab parents want to get this marriage done asap and it’s like yo do y’all really not value ur kid? Y’all want ur kid to spend their life with someone that could be wrong for them?
Facts. I’m not Muslim but my husband is and I see how hard it is. 💜 stay strong always ladies! I was just telling my husband about you girl because in his family it’s basically waiting for everything in life after your married and the girls think that’s the most important goal and they rush. 💜 May Allah take care of all of the sisters and brothers!
How did y'all get married?
@@psycho7.7 at the local mosque
Girlllll this ain’t just for your community. I’m Christian and we need this too!!!! Keep up the greatness 😊
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Greatness of being divorced twice with two kids from two men. I don't think that.
@@samjon6403 Jesus chose Moses a murder to represent him. The people that have been through the most have the most to offer. The fact that she's using her past bad choices to help woman is why she is great. People are human and unfortunately we get fed enough lies and fake views on the socials. She's human. to me thats great.
@@brownhaddl3y I'm not sure she is sending messages that she regrets anything she has done. All I see is an arrogant and passive attitude. Blaming everyone for her bad decisions.
Yess gurl ❤
When looking for a husband. Look for red flags first: He is mentally stable, he does not get angry easy, he does not have stds, he is not stingy, he is independent from family but yet respectful of family (dependent on family may mean he has an issue), He is kind and has empathy, he is fair and just in decison making (this important when comes to compromising in relationships), observe his reputation on how he treats people in community and outside when going for a coffee. After all this, yes physical attraction is very important. Not mean a super handsome man but something that is attractive in you eyes. To keep the spark and attraction alive, and he must be a good person to. Because when he handsome and becomes abusive that look will become so ugly to you. Also, he should be financially stable and by this I dont mean a millionaire but you get what I mean because all the above is the most important, he akhlaq and then most importatnly too his deen. To sum up, Mentally stable, deen ,akhlaq, finances, attraction.
I am a Christian I got married with a muslim. My husband attracted me we had that instant connection. He did all sorts of haram and totally destroyed me, he has mental health issues, he went into drugs and much more but I never gave up on him. I prayed day and night and it maybe took several years but I can tell you that he found his way to get back on track and now we are very happy. He is still trying daily, but I have faith he is getting there. God puts all the people on our way for a reason. Patience is the key. And everyone is deserving of love. Kindness and good words can penetrate any kind of heart and Allah can change any situation in an instance.
In Islam we do not date. Those who date even if they are Muslim aren’t doing that action because it’s in their religion. to speak about dating and or encourage it is to encourage the haram don’t forget that.
To be clear engagement isn’t a thing in Islam either but that isn’t because it’s haram it’s because marriage is a contract you can create the marriage contract and then fulfill it later which is similar to engagement but it isn’t a 1:1.
For example if your parents placed their child in a marriage contract with their friends child, then when they reach puberty 15 latest particularly for women 16 latest particularly for men they would fulfill the contract as long as the two of them are willing.
It depends what you mean by "dating".
As a Muslim lady living in a city alone with no parents or guardian the only way I can meet potentials is to meet with them alone. So we meet in a public place while observing all modesty rules. If I can't do that then I will end up never marrying 😅.
@@89Salma89 Approach your local masjid and speak with sisters , as well as get a trustworthy imam appointed as your wali incase you have no father, brothers, uncles, cousins, or other male relatives left.
@@89Salma89that isnt dating even so it isn’t for a long period of time. It isn’t longer than a year. A year is even to long as the purpose isn’t to get to know them well as you can’t physically touch, you can’t flirt, you can’t speak softly. You can’t talk about things that are In appropriate for someone you aren’t married to. For example you can’t talk about intimacy and so on.
It’s literally to see if you have good religion, good manners, and your attractive- that’s it and nothing more. Even if you aren’t attractive if you have the other two everything else falls into line
@@89Salma89also you can’t be doing these things without a mahram male knowledge as well as permitting it to occur knowing the other the person
She’s divorced not once but twice and she thinks she can give good girls advice . Mashallah
You, right here. Part of the problem. If you know how often good girls fall prey to sadistic spouses, you'll weep
@@okunadewaleeyah6504 yeah sure , blame on the others, it’s easier
@@jconstantino9217 Why you up here being disrespectful? Many men marry and divorce many times.
@copperonfire6618 yeah but statistically, women are the most likely to initiate divorce
@@copperonfire6618 how’s that disrespectful? It’s a fact ! You cannot westernize Islam, very simple.
Agreed. Experience is best teacher. I was divorced too. And now I don't have a problem with walking away. I MOVE at my own pace to stay in my happy place. But next relationship I will still take my time and not go into negative thinking but If you give up on dating you will never know who you want.
Just because your a divorcee like myself it does not make you less valuable so don’t lower your standards because of this
Body count and having a child makes you less valuable
@@kingdrift1136 not really ...😊 Hence men love whores and porn stars and marry them
@@kingdrift1136You need to change your attitude.Be kind..
May god bless you inshallah
She is misguiding muslim, muslim women should be careful
I have opened 5 businesses and they all failed. Therefore you should listen to me on how not to fail a business hahahahahaha I love the logic.
Taking advice from an alcoholic who says drinking is not a sin
You saying she said that?
My grandfather tried to give me advice about marriage although he’s been divorced 3 times by 3 different ethnicities… whatever he has to say is unlikely to help me in getting along with the opposite sex/gender… also he’s very well off so it definitely wasn’t because of lack of sustainability
Divorced twice. Girl i have never seen a stronger and prettier girl that you.
May Allah give you everything you want
You’re in a relationship with social media. You’re loving the attention. And that’s all you feel that you need.
You a hater 🤣
@@TheHoodVoice2024 right
S t f u
1000%
So true
May Allah bless you with a good spouse. Ameen
Amine
Amen
It's called compromise! Learn to be selfless and you will be happy. Men compromise and live most of their life working for wife and kids. It goes both ways. If all you can think about is what your rights are and what you want then you won't ever be happy. Look for who you want as a leader then let them lead!
1) Never take financial advice from a broke person.
2) Never take fitness advice from a lazy person.
3) Never take relationship advice from a divorced person.
Not sure why people leave negative comments. Thank you for helping your sisters out. Good will always be more important than the negative comments. Lots of love habibti! ❤❤❤
Chapter one
Dating don't no matter what
“Dating” says enough about the state of our communities. That’s where the problem lies.
Harram in my tate voice no dating that leads to divorce
NOW HE IN JAIL TALKING ABOUT HARAAMM 🤣
I have a lot of respect for you. U have been thru a lot and used all ur traums to positively help others. I am divorce with 2 young children and depressed cant get my self to do anything positive😢
FORGET the dating if he doesn't meet your requirements. Period.
Dating in the Muslim community.😂 she is off her head
I think she means getting to know with the intention of marriage
@@mme1212 maybe she should say that then
She needs to remain single. She is unsufferable and jaded.
Lmfao 😂 I hate being right about what I think of people so I had to see the rest of your genius videos to realize that I was right. Ugh even the “good ones “ are failures these days.
Don’t listen to her
So much attitude
If his intentions are marriages thats the only quality.
may allah guide you
Why is everyone coming at her, she's not saying dating like other people they. She's saying dating in the Muslim community such as courting. You still have to know what you want because of someone approaches you and you go to your parents and you say I like this guy and then you start to get to know him and you get married and then he's not the right one would you to do then. It's always smart for you to know what you want and everything that you do. This is not haram to have knowledge.
I see a lot of brothers in the comments bashing her and judging her, we have to stop judging and criticizing her my advice to this sister is to do you and not post about this on social media for the world to see plus the best thing you can do is have sincere intention and help from a brother uncle or father figure to analyze and not date around.. unfortunately our sisters are also being affected by the “modern” woman mentality very sad at this rate there’ll be lots of single woman or single mothers in next few yrs 😕
I need hijab tutorial pls
Grab ur washroom towel and wrap that shit around ur head
Thank you sister 😊❤
My number one tip is fear Allah!!!
You taught us why you got divorced . Thanks 🙏
Stop acting like you don’t understand her point, she’s not talking about haram dating
Dating is prohibited in Islam
Outside of Marriage, there is no relationship other than that
guys can anyone tell me what is the specific surahs that bride have to read at there wedding day please please tell???
I completely agree, after figuring out what I wanted. I have an integration session with the women who wants to marry me to see if they get along with my goals and mindset. After talking to 40+ I completely rejected about 95% flat within 2 days of talking, and noticed that majority of them dont even know what they want in life or have any goals. 💀
I'm not married but I would also say this, having an idea of what you want it important but also don't have stupid and unrealistic standards. Like I've heard some women say 'I won't get married unless my wedding ring is 10k minimum' like what?! At that point, things matter more in your life than people or if he doesn't earn at least much, then I'm not marrying him etc. The truth is you're never going to find the 'prefect' person or a millionaire, but as long as both parties want to make it work, it'll work.
If she is coming from a wealthy family she has the right to marry at her level ,,,it's not unreasonable
I'm 43, never married and probably never will
i can see why you are divorced twice - astagfilluallah
Sis says so much whilst saying absolutely nothing. Literally gave herself a whole intro to just say marry a partner that fulfills your requirements 😐
😂😂😂 "I have so much to offer" proceeds to offer nothing
There are always two sides to the story
Dating is Haram
Yet many Muslim men date non-Muslim women. If it’s not allowed in your religion, why do they break the rules?
@@Rosiejanedoe Because they are sinners. And there is no denying that. Dating is not allowed for anyone unless your engaged.
@@Rosiejanedoe Cope. Both men and women do this. Triggered feminist.
Heres the thing dating is better because you actually get to know the person. In Islam, you're supposed to marry right away, which makes no sense and end up marrying a total stranger!
Twice?!
Lol
You're the problem!
Why on earth would someone want advice from you twice you couldn't keep your man. You've got so much too offer what more divorce advise
Sister the harsh truth is, you are addicted to attention and you lack the patience and the will to sacrifice some things to have a happy marriage. Most women are in this dilemma you are not alone and men have their own version of this May Allah help us All
My tip is to keep steadfast in prayer and asking Allah, in my moment of pain I asked Allah to please send me my husband, I told Allah you know what I need and when, but please let him come sooner than later, at this time I had no living mehram and although I had enough money to care for myself and my mother I truly needed a partner and a protector - I’m not a beautiful lady, and don’t wear a lot of makeup or glamorous clothing either- young women please don’t focus too much on looks, a mature man will see beyond it. Bless all the single women, trust in Allah and I hope you all to become blessed as I have, inshalla
Take it from me. Dont go into those online relationships when youre getting to know a person. Always one of the parties makes it out like theure more interested in the other than they actually are and something goes wrong. You have no idea who that person really is.
What happened to me was that at first i thought as long as my parents know it means its okay - cuz i have to get to know him i cant just marry some random guy. The reason i had to online date was because we were getting no matches for me mainly because we didnt know anyone to ask. Or the ones we were getting were the worst and no woman would accept it.
Anyway the guy i spoke to would go overboard about how he wanted to marry me - even though he didnt know me. Say things he wasnt supposed and constantly say i love you. Even though i would tell him not to.
We couldnt meet because i was getting treatment done that i needed (nothing serious/ life threatening) but when we could meet, suddenly he was making excuses - before this he would get angry at me for not being able to meet up and say how badly he wanted to meet me and get the ball rolling.
We finally met and everything felt wrong. His sister was there and was being a total hypocrite she even had the nerve to say to me will you cook for my brother? Will you cook for me? She was a married woman with two daughters. She also didnt live with her in laws but thought i should live with her parents and also contribute towards the house. Allah will deal with them accordingly. They are disgusting. Thats the last time i will try anything like that
Damn that sucks
🙄 never listen to a divorce woman! No way!!
Why? What’s wrong with sharing things she wished she would have known to prevent someone else making the same mistakes .
@@angelamarie222 Come on... After the second divorce You have to look in the mirror!! That's why this internet is trash...It allows 2 time/ 2 time divorced women to be influencers!!🥶🥴
@@angelamarie222 because i think what she want from her partner he can't agree because he has a dignity nowadays every male including bad boys looking for good characters women.
JazakAllah I would love to hear the rest because not everyone has tiktok 😊 and also Just a side question when are the prayer set in the regular size going to be available I love them🤌🏼?
There are mothers who never spend time with their daughters, let alone talk to them about what to look for in a husband. Many grow up without role models and miss out on quite a lot in life be it marriage or otherwise.
Omg guys chill!! Dating is not something she meant from a western perspective. She meant when you have a decent conversation in public before commitment (marriage), just to see the compatibility
Yesss
@@dr.prachi girl who hurt you 😉
Yes, she meant it and it's haram
@@eslamali1500 ok sue her
People, by "dating" she means "marrying".
She just calls is dating. Nothing haram.
PSA: open the bowl with the foil on the bottom as it won't get soggy. Yes, upside down.
MashaAllah
This is true, but do that when young. I think a main thing that's ignored is that women lose "requirements" the onlder they get, and men gain "requirements." Before you say it's sexist, there's a reason women panic at 30 while men feel unleashed. The worst thing that happened to modern women was "equality".
as someone who has been there and done that, i advise my brothers and sisters....don't do it, it offers more cons than pros. Just do it Islamically as in the long run your physical and mental wellbeing will be stronger and more healthy. ❤
The right tips before marriage: learn fiqh of nikkah and fiqh of family and then practice it😬
Please don't misguide young sisters to commit sin
This is not how the shariah works so don't make your shariah Please
May Allah guide you and us
As soon as I heard “dating” I knew something wasn’t right here
Divorced twice and did Mut'ah how many times?
We have the right to chose the person that is we are comfortable with. Yes you can ask family for a suggestion but at the end you voice counts. Also the fact that you are divorced it means that you’re enough brave to stand up and respect yourself because there is a lot of things close doors that women don’t speak up because fear that something happens to them. Also because there is issues of control especially from in-laws because the men don’t draw the line between their family members women has to be quiet. I’m not generalizing that all of them are same there is bad spouses in every culture. Everything is haram but what about when they marry underage girls, what about women getting rape , what about that both parties reflect to their society one face and in reality both parties are cheating, what about how many domestic workers ended up in human slavery the wife’s of the guy knows that the maids are getting sexually harassed and they don’t do anything about it, what about the vaginal mutilation.Remembered when Kenyan women where banned to travel to those countries. There are so many cases. Islam is a religion of respect and love for God but the man is using that for their advantage. Also what about the incident from Iran when that woman ended up death. Let me tell you something, sometimes they have the nerve to criticize this part of the world. One last point a good Muslim guy is supposed to treat and protect their wife, sister or significant others there is not a part of the holy scriptures that said that you have to be covered it said dress with modesty. There is no segregation in the scriptures but like I said on the beginning there is bad people everywhere.
Divorced twice? Oh 😢you are such a Beautiful and lovely Sister in Islam ❤️
The fact that you said dating is a reason for me to not take you seriously on top of that the least you could do while wearing hijab is cover those arms i am not saying this is you but I see a lot of women these days showing skin while wearing hijab just to get views it’s really not that hard to cover the arms if you already cover the hair I am hijabi myself and I live in Europe so don’t give me those stupid excuses of “it’s hard” it’s really not
In shaa Allah....
Can we talk about the political and economic state of the world??!!
Sister let's talk about Quran and Hadith.
I love your honesty
you got divorced twice to learn this sis?
I get divorced already once, And I will never ever marry again,I dont think that i can survive from a second divorce 💔
There is no dating in Islam. Be a good Muslim and marry a good muslimah
Never take an advice from a woman got divorced twice 😂😂
Shut up, our prophet swa was married to an divorced women, if you talk bad about her your talking bad about his wife AND YES SHE SHOULD GIVE ADVICE CUZ SHE HAD EXPERIENCE
You know what? She did actually get divorced twice but because of that she has now experience and know what to avoid. Also just because she got divorced doesnt mean its her fault, it can also be the mans fault. Many women get divorced because of how controlling or abusive the husband is.
I’m a girl and we r 🇵🇰🤲🏼🧕🏼🕋
The issue is extremely important and not discussed often at all both the men and the women are pressured by this centuries old tradition I speak on this issue actually on Twitter, but I couldn't stop thinking about the Chipotle bowl I was distracted. Can we do that again no Chipotle filter yum lol
Im actually trying to learn more , shorty just told me she's Muslim , and i was like cool 😎
OMG the police can just stay away! i love you and your videos💕 would love to hear more advise ! God Bless ❤️
Thank you Mahnoor 🎉🎉
The Deen...💯☝️
STOP DATING IN ISLAM FOR ALLAH’S SAKE 😭😭
Don’t learn from experience learn from wuran and sunnah, divorced twice says a lot about you would love to hear the man’s side
Why would anyone take relationship advice from someone that can’t maintain one, thats like asking a poor person how to get rich 🤑
There is nothing like dating in Islam period. it's either marriage or nothing
This sister has sooo many red flags.
Girl I'm not gonna lie I was looking at that chipotle bowl I just traveled to overseas and I miss Chipotle😩😩😩
😂 my stomach hurt after it
@@ZahraaBerro yup same used to happen to me😂😂
In Islam you can't date however I've been divorced two times also. However don't put your bad relationship habits on others. marriage is a life lesson you get married and you and your husband grow together by following Quran the only thing Allah asked each believer is to marry another believer. Everything else will fall into place and there is nothing wrong with getting a divorce either. Please don't spread false information sister. ❤ Inshallah
Ye it’s not talked about cause haram. Don’t fing normalise it. Ik u got ur own decision’s and wtv. But there are so many Muslim kids that don’t that educated on Islam and dating so don’t make it sound normal. Btw I’m only a teen so stick to ur deen and inshallah we will all go jannat. ❤ameen. Also Allah knows what happened cause she’s divorced twice I’m not judging at all. But you have tagged dating and shown that u date. Like some stuff can stay of the internet. Stop putting the Muslim people in confusion.