We broke up 6 weeks ago (and have been in NC ever since) it was a massive shock and very unexpected. (I was numb/shocked) I felt like she had been planning it for ages. We were engaged and had been together for 8 years. The hardest part is we have a 2.5 year old daughters together, who i see half the week. (Family facilitate the drop offs and pick ups). She was telling me she loved me and we had family days out right up until the day she finished with me so brutally. I feel so lied too and betrayed by her. I just dont understand why she couldnt have sat down and talked through this before hand. Ive started therapy last week and I'm working on growing and improving myself, including my attachment style. I wish you all the best of luck.
Cold, disinterested responses to sexy texts you send them. Lame excuses to break dates or postpone plans...often involving someone who is "just a friend"...but you can't come too.
This video has completely changed my perspective. This whole time I have been so wrapped up what I should have done, shouldn’t have done, how I feel and felt, how I could have behaved etc and didn’t stop at all to think about their perspective and their feelings, what ultimately led them to the decision that they made. I thought it was because of a one off singular event but this made me realise there must have been other things and that was the nail in the coffin, I just missed (overlooked really, because I noticed a shift in behaviour) the signs. I feel more grounded now, sad but knowing it couldn’t have possibly been one thing has given me some peace of mind.
When we broke up I asked how long he has been unhappy, he said since the last time we fought..that was only four days prior. He apologized the next day after the fight, I thought we were okay. Idk if he was being honest about being unhappy for the last four days. I felt like he gave up on us too quickly. But, I understand that he has a lot of stress from his job and me having an anxious attachment style probably added more to it. He’s also dealing with depression, anxiety and trauma from his last relationship. So I know it’s not all on me, I believe he will reach out at some point.
Something I am struggling for past 1 month since we broke up. It came as a surprise hearing that I am not happy with you for a long time just before 4 days back he was calling me love of his life 😢
My girl dropped the bomb on me the end of September and it came right out of left field to me but I now know she’d been thinking about this since December. Crazy how she’s been thinking about this for 10 months and kept it inside. Blows me away how she unloads her needs and walks out and hasn’t even given it a second thought. I thought we had a really good relationship for the past 6 1/2 years. Broken and sad but trying to move forward and putting the time and effort into me and my girls. Wish she cared as much as I do because I was always willing to change for her but I missed the little signs she tried to show me. That’s my fault but I’m not a mind reader, would of been better if she would of just been up front telling me what she needed. I’ve learned a great deal the past month plus about what she needed and how to give it to her but it’s too late. Communication is super important. Makes me a better person moving forward but that’s the worst part because I don’t want the next person. I’m in love with her but she isn’t in the same place. So sorry for all the sad, lonely and broken people here but it will get better. Self reflection and working on you is the best way forward. Good luck 🙏
I found a text on my wife’s phone to a friend saying she wasn’t happy in our marriage and that it wasn’t worth saving. I then found pictures on her laptop about an ex just before we started dating that she lied about. I’d say 12 months prior to separation she had 1 foot out the exit door. She was just waiting for her permanent residency to be approved from my sponsorship.
I had read this title as "how long were they planning on leaving for" in other words: were they just planning on taking a little space away... more often than not, that is how it does start for them.. but if we are not present with them and what they're trying to tell us... then of course they do wind up resorting to totally disconnecting.. which we should try to understand. as our anxiety raises, of course we find it very difficult to have any empathy at all. of course there are those situations wherein we are connecting much too fast for what they are ready for. 😗🙃
Is there a way to fix this though? Overall we respected each other and had a great time. We were together for 8 years. Been 2 months now since she ended it
Can you do a video on if your ex told you that they can’t love you the same it has nothing to do with you but them past childhood traumas. We were together almost 14 years. These arguments, actions and betrayal happened years ago but he can’t have a family with me because he doesn’t want to have resentment agains me.
Hey Craig No hope, relationship fade. I knew the relationship was coming to an end, so I used to intentionally argue with my ex and piss my ex off to make my ex leave me because I could never leave my ex because I was to emotionally connected to my ex and the relationship was hard work coming to the end Final day of relationship... My ex hit me, I left, i then come back days later, ex then gets me removed and I go into NC and it's 2 years later, im still in NC I hope you understand this Craig
Hi coaches! Mine was more a situationship,but I've been thinking at least for at least awhile,he's an avoidant for sure,but I was shocked when we were texting about a bracelet I gave him,and out of nowhere he said your my friend forever.I was stunned,so I said why? Aren't we lovers too? No I'm good just as friends,I felt like a gash was opened on my left side...zapped. I figured out it may have gone back to July, he's accused me of something that isn't true or proven,we went back and forth,the last thing I texted was October second,he left me on delivered for twenty three days,and we still are in NC, deceived is an understatement,very hurt,and he doesn't talk about things ever like this ,and then spring this friend issue up which I declined. Like I told him a thousand times,you can talk to me about anything,you choose not to,and the end result of not talking is this,love this channel,can't get enough of it,thanks so much!
We broke up 6 weeks ago (and have been in NC ever since) it was a massive shock and very unexpected. (I was numb/shocked) I felt like she had been planning it for ages. We were engaged and had been together for 8 years. The hardest part is we have a 2.5 year old daughters together, who i see half the week.
(Family facilitate the drop offs and pick ups).
She was telling me she loved me and we had family days out right up until the day she finished with me so brutally. I feel so lied too and betrayed by her. I just dont understand why she couldnt have sat down and talked through this before hand.
Ive started therapy last week and I'm working on growing and improving myself, including my attachment style.
I wish you all the best of luck.
Take heart dude. Stay put and trust me, she will come back at some point. Focus on yourself and your daughter no matter what. Good luck3
Look for the onset signs of indifference, disrespect, negligence, etc. If you see these signs coming, prepare your own exit.
Cold, disinterested responses to sexy texts you send them. Lame excuses to break dates or postpone plans...often involving someone who is "just a friend"...but you can't come too.
This video has completely changed my perspective. This whole time I have been so wrapped up what I should have done, shouldn’t have done, how I feel and felt, how I could have behaved etc and didn’t stop at all to think about their perspective and their feelings, what ultimately led them to the decision that they made. I thought it was because of a one off singular event but this made me realise there must have been other things and that was the nail in the coffin, I just missed (overlooked really, because I noticed a shift in behaviour) the signs. I feel more grounded now, sad but knowing it couldn’t have possibly been one thing has given me some peace of mind.
When we broke up I asked how long he has been unhappy, he said since the last time we fought..that was only four days prior. He apologized the next day after the fight, I thought we were okay. Idk if he was being honest about being unhappy for the last four days. I felt like he gave up on us too quickly. But, I understand that he has a lot of stress from his job and me having an anxious attachment style probably added more to it. He’s also dealing with depression, anxiety and trauma from his last relationship. So I know it’s not all on me, I believe he will reach out at some point.
Something I am struggling for past 1 month since we broke up. It came as a surprise hearing that I am not happy with you for a long time just before 4 days back he was calling me love of his life 😢
My girl dropped the bomb on me the end of September and it came right out of left field to me but I now know she’d been thinking about this since December. Crazy how she’s been thinking about this for 10 months and kept it inside. Blows me away how she unloads her needs and walks out and hasn’t even given it a second thought. I thought we had a really good relationship for the past 6 1/2 years. Broken and sad but trying to move forward and putting the time and effort into me and my girls. Wish she cared as much as I do because I was always willing to change for her but I missed the little signs she tried to show me. That’s my fault but I’m not a mind reader, would of been better if she would of just been up front telling me what she needed. I’ve learned a great deal the past month plus about what she needed and how to give it to her but it’s too late. Communication is super important. Makes me a better person moving forward but that’s the worst part because I don’t want the next person. I’m in love with her but she isn’t in the same place. So sorry for all the sad, lonely and broken people here but it will get better. Self reflection and working on you is the best way forward. Good luck 🙏
I found a text on my wife’s phone to a friend saying she wasn’t happy in our marriage and that it wasn’t worth saving. I then found pictures on her laptop about an ex just before we started dating that she lied about. I’d say 12 months prior to separation she had 1 foot out the exit door. She was just waiting for her permanent residency to be approved from my sponsorship.
Horrible. I'm sorry.
overwhelmed with feelings of hurt and betrayal... yep that's where I am
Pls do one on how to save a relationship from breaking up
I had read this title as "how long were they planning on leaving for" in other words: were they just planning on taking a little space away... more often than not, that is how it does start for them.. but if we are not present with them and what they're trying to tell us... then of course they do wind up resorting to totally disconnecting.. which we should try to understand. as our anxiety raises, of course we find it very difficult to have any empathy at all.
of course there are those situations wherein we are connecting much too fast for what they are ready for. 😗🙃
The day they spotted your replacement. In my case anyway, more than once.
Karma never loses its address.
Is there a way to fix this though? Overall we respected each other and had a great time. We were together for 8 years. Been 2 months now since she ended it
Can you do a video on if your ex told you that they can’t love you the same it has nothing to do with you but them past childhood traumas. We were together almost 14 years. These arguments, actions and betrayal happened years ago but he can’t have a family with me because he doesn’t want to have resentment agains me.
Oh Lord. Probably forever I hate to say...😢
How long do you think your ex was planning on leaving?
Please do a video on how to save a relationship especially if your sensing them pulling away
Hey Craig
No hope, relationship fade.
I knew the relationship was coming to an end, so I used to intentionally argue with my ex and piss my ex off to make my ex leave me because I could never leave my ex because I was to emotionally connected to my ex and the relationship was hard work coming to the end
Final day of relationship...
My ex hit me, I left, i then come back days later, ex then gets me removed and I go into NC and it's 2 years later, im still in NC
I hope you understand this Craig
Hi coaches! Mine was more a situationship,but I've been thinking at least for at least awhile,he's an avoidant for sure,but I was shocked when we were texting about a bracelet I gave him,and out of nowhere he said your my friend forever.I was stunned,so I said why? Aren't we lovers too? No I'm good just as friends,I felt like a gash was opened on my left side...zapped. I figured out it may have gone back to July, he's accused me of something that isn't true or proven,we went back and forth,the last thing I texted was October second,he left me on delivered for twenty three days,and we still are in NC, deceived is an understatement,very hurt,and he doesn't talk about things ever like this ,and then spring this friend issue up which I declined. Like I told him a thousand times,you can talk to me about anything,you choose not to,and the end result of not talking is this,love this channel,can't get enough of it,thanks so much!