What NOT to Say to a Depressed Loved One

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  • Опубліковано 13 бер 2016
  • Dr. Byrne shares her advice about what not to say to someone that is or may be depressed. To learn more please visit www.Cognitive-Psychiatry.com

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  • @clichepuff2010
    @clichepuff2010 4 роки тому +768

    All my angels watching this video in order to help someone or yourself
    You are AMAZING!!!

    • @mustafabasim7137
      @mustafabasim7137 3 роки тому +10

      Genius is ability to recognise the creativity in things...
      You are angel 🌹
      Much love

    • @83-reyakhatun80
      @83-reyakhatun80 3 роки тому +7

      Yeah....you are the real angel now

    • @colemanadamson5943
      @colemanadamson5943 3 роки тому +1

      All your angels? You're a nutjob.

    • @reitadeux8631
      @reitadeux8631 3 роки тому +8

      Idk what to do I feel like he just gets sadder every day

    • @sonakshi-jl6gq
      @sonakshi-jl6gq 3 роки тому +2

      @Clichepuff Pink
      Universe 🌌 is sending so much love to you. See.

  • @gracejay924
    @gracejay924 3 роки тому +813

    1. Everyone has bad days
    2. This will get better
    3. I understand what you're going thru
    4. You just need to snap out of it
    5. Think about all the good things in your life

    • @dumpydapillow8519
      @dumpydapillow8519 3 роки тому +157

      And don’t forget the infamous “But god loves you” bs.

    • @laurielolochou7712
      @laurielolochou7712 3 роки тому +13

      Thank you now i know what to say

    • @christenscott1558
      @christenscott1558 3 роки тому +52

      I hear all of these often it just pisses me off.

    • @qcompressed1409
      @qcompressed1409 3 роки тому +19

      What if you had depression too and do know what they’re going through?

    • @channieszoo4342
      @channieszoo4342 3 роки тому +28

      @@qcompressed1409 the emotions that you feel/felt could be completely different from theirs. They probably won’t agree with you saying you understand anyways. You should probably just avoid saying you get it when you might not and they might feel like you don’t.

  • @awesometd848
    @awesometd848 3 роки тому +42

    Sometimes a meaningful hug would really help, no need to say anything.

    • @Domino13334
      @Domino13334 2 роки тому +5

      Absolutely! That give you a feeling that the person cares about you and the situation ❤️

    • @voiceofreason2691
      @voiceofreason2691 2 роки тому +2

      🤝❤️

  • @2listen2u
    @2listen2u 3 роки тому +104

    I like to add that number five actually makes me feel worse. "Look at all the good things in your life." makes me feel like it is wrong for me to be depressed despite all the good things, then I feel ashamed, ungrateful and weak.

    • @msaruthra
      @msaruthra 3 роки тому +2

      What caused depression

    • @2listen2u
      @2listen2u 2 роки тому +5

      @@Sharonamy I would say it makes a big difference if the affirmations are said by yourself, not by others. Like you say when in the deepest of your depression you see everything very grim, positively meant comments from others may be taken negatively. If you are able to say it to yourself you are already on your way of recovery.

    • @taylormatthews4848
      @taylormatthews4848 2 роки тому

      @@msaruthra thats a good question i think may help some but idk

    • @hippytrippy1254
      @hippytrippy1254 2 роки тому +1

      Hell true

    • @annayra6458
      @annayra6458 Рік тому +1

      my dad told me that everything was going good in my life and I had no reason to behave like this two months after my mom died .-.

  • @puzzledtoby
    @puzzledtoby 4 роки тому +286

    Watching this because I have depression and want to be there for other people so that they can have what I wish for
    Edit: I didn't expect this to get so much love, thank you for the nice comments ❤️
    Edit 2: im doing better now being honest i was overreacting

    • @quincysmith7480
      @quincysmith7480 4 роки тому +7

      Same here

    • @devilqueen2757
      @devilqueen2757 4 роки тому +6

      im too❤

    • @clichepuff2010
      @clichepuff2010 4 роки тому +7

      You're such an angel dear

    • @dust_za
      @dust_za 4 роки тому +4

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @puzzledtoby
      @puzzledtoby 4 роки тому +6

      @Valerie Young it's hard to say what exactly but basically someone that they can lean on or trust

  • @thesalonicacastro4305
    @thesalonicacastro4305 4 роки тому +450

    Thank you for telling me what not to say. My boyfriend is feeling really low right now. 😭

    • @buttercup1596
      @buttercup1596 4 роки тому +27

      It'll be ok. Just support amd listen to him

    • @yatniwahyuni9140
      @yatniwahyuni9140 3 роки тому +5

      Mine too

    • @priyalbhagwanani3205
      @priyalbhagwanani3205 3 роки тому +28

      So nice of u to come look for something to support him. I wish i had someone that made efforts to help me too.

    • @yatniwahyuni9140
      @yatniwahyuni9140 3 роки тому +11

      @@priyalbhagwanani3205 everything is gonna be alright love. Pray from far. May God bless u too :)

    • @arathyanil6877
      @arathyanil6877 3 роки тому +7

      Can anyone suggest me a way how to support my boyfriend.. i mn i don't know how to do support in this kinda situation.. whatever i do everything seems pointless!!... And i can't afford to leave him hurt.

  • @lunadabaybrandon
    @lunadabaybrandon 3 роки тому +89

    1. Everyone has bad days
    2. There’s people who don’t have food
    3. Let it go
    4. Things will get better
    5. Cheer up
    6. It can’t be that bad
    7. What you need is to go through a real tragedy to gain some perspective
    8. You really think you have it bad?
    9. Quit being so Overdramatic
    10. It’s all in your head
    Those are all things I hear a lot. They just really piss me off.

    • @barbarasimon6863
      @barbarasimon6863 3 роки тому +12

      My sister recently sad that "you have a HUGE problem with your way of thinking" It was really hurtful.... and than my mom and I argued, and she sad "when have you became so sad, you were so happy when you were a child, bring out the old you" (basically this one is sucks) and another often used, when I feel irritated and im not happy "oh here we go again!! Why should you ruin the mornings.. Always!!" damn.... those words makes my heart hurt...im not even kidding..

    • @lunadabaybrandon
      @lunadabaybrandon 3 роки тому +2

      @@barbarasimon6863 I feel you. And who was saying all of that about me? P.S. do I know you?

    • @annaburns2865
      @annaburns2865 2 роки тому

      I’m really sorry. I have heard some of these and it really hurts me to my core.

    • @taylormatthews4848
      @taylormatthews4848 2 роки тому +1

      when when they snap for no reason and you ask them whats WRONG they just yell and say go away, and we try and tell her everythings ok and she should not be affraid to speak but shes just so antisocial and hiding herself. all i want is her to communicate thats ALL.

    • @Ang3la990s
      @Ang3la990s 2 роки тому

      Your comment pisses me off

  • @spaceguy3801
    @spaceguy3801 4 роки тому +256

    Thank you:I have a best friend who has depression,and I said one of these because she talks to me about it,but now I will try to not say them anymore.

    • @buttercup1596
      @buttercup1596 4 роки тому +7

      You seem like a good friend

    • @YeetisMcGeetis
      @YeetisMcGeetis 3 роки тому +1

      Cassie's Vlog oh my I too am depressed so I can tell you it really helps if you tell them that you love them and that you charge about them. Also do any adults know he is cutting? I hope this helps sorry if it was a waste of time.

    • @lxlamayw
      @lxlamayw 3 роки тому +2

      @@YeetisMcGeetis they could both be adults x

    • @YeetisMcGeetis
      @YeetisMcGeetis 3 роки тому

      @@lxlamayw true

    • @YeetisMcGeetis
      @YeetisMcGeetis 3 роки тому

      @@lxlamayw in that case seek a professional

  • @nickwalsh8445
    @nickwalsh8445 3 роки тому +144

    Thank you for that, my parents are very old school and tried helping me through my stages of depression when I was young. They said all the things you just mentioned. To all the parents reading this, know when my parents said those words, it only made me feel worse because I felt that know one understood what I was going thru. If your child is telling you that he or she feels depressed, you need to act quick. You need to get a therapist and you need to talk to your child more. EVERY PARENT SHOULD WATCH THIS

    • @galaxygato9642
      @galaxygato9642 3 роки тому +5

      What do I do if someone i talk to online is depressed? What do I do then?

    • @anitac9389
      @anitac9389 2 роки тому +4

      Thanks for sharing and I hope you are getting better and out of depression. As a parent, I said all the above to my son, who is suffering depression. Would you please let me know when you were young and depressed, what would you like or wish to hear from your parents?

    • @terhemeniorkoso5886
      @terhemeniorkoso5886 2 роки тому

      hey dearly I'm a living testimony of a great Dr Daniel the relationship restorer only healer who fixed back my broken relationship after being separated for months. He can also help you too no matter how worst the case maybe Dr Daniel will put a smile on your face honey within 3days🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀

    • @terhemeniorkoso5886
      @terhemeniorkoso5886 2 роки тому

      Whats@pp him now 🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀

    • @terhemeniorkoso5886
      @terhemeniorkoso5886 2 роки тому

      ♱2347041271746⏭⏯⏯⏯??????????????????????????????????????????????????????????🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀🚀

  • @zewu-junloml7137
    @zewu-junloml7137 3 роки тому +114

    My sister making me smile when I feel depressed
    And here I am, watching this to help her with her battle. Is this sister goals lmao

    • @lutfy0608
      @lutfy0608 3 роки тому

      Yesssiirrrr

    • @parizagilani6604
      @parizagilani6604 3 роки тому +3

      Yes! It is but it’s exactly what I’m going through. I keep trying to help my sister who is depressed but I keep failing which makes me depressed.

    • @sekiro9567
      @sekiro9567 3 роки тому

      Lmao

    • @empyerful
      @empyerful 2 роки тому

      I’m doing the same right now.

    • @kivibes1079
      @kivibes1079 2 роки тому +2

      How she makes you laugh

  • @jacobroth1415
    @jacobroth1415 4 роки тому +20

    I have depression it hasn’t left in 2 weeks it’s been with me my whole life

    • @2ytineshamaraj408
      @2ytineshamaraj408 3 роки тому

      This is the same thing thats going on with me. My depression has been with me ever since i was six and it refuses to leave.

    • @CreativeSarah983
      @CreativeSarah983 3 місяці тому

      Awww I’m sorry 🥺🥺 depression has been killing my mental health and all I could do is cry waterfalls from my eyeballs

  • @pedrokoury1352
    @pedrokoury1352 Рік тому +2

    My dad just can't bear to see me tired, even. He comes in saying things that I already know and find obvious but can't, at that moment, do. Things like you "have to react", "you have to rationalize it", "when I was depressed, I forced myself to go to the gym". It makes me feel even worse. Well, his mom died of depression after losing her daughter (his sister), so he has clearly developed a trauma of sadness. Which sucks for me.

  • @007girl9
    @007girl9 4 роки тому +6

    I have depression...but I am watching this cause I found a girl on ig who post depression quotes ..and when I talked t her she's depressed and I wana be there for her as much as I can..t make her feel better..cause I know how worthy it is having someone t listen and make u feel better..i dnt have someone t talk to..but at least I wana be there for those who need someone t listen

  • @NT-vf9vt
    @NT-vf9vt 2 роки тому +4

    My brother doesn’t want to be around me too much anymore. He said he can’t handle my depression. My heart is broken. We are so close and I don’t understand this.

    • @preparetoholdyourcolour7080
      @preparetoholdyourcolour7080 Рік тому

      My sister's told me the same thing i understand your pain mate I'm lucky though if I didn't have my boyfriend and my cats I'd be contemplating suicide NGL do you have anyone else in your life other than your brother?

  • @sithembisomakhanya5910
    @sithembisomakhanya5910 4 роки тому +46

    Thank u so much this was really helpful, My friends are going through depression and sometimes I say it with get better but now I know I'm not supposes to say that thank u so much😭

    • @devilqueen2757
      @devilqueen2757 4 роки тому +6

      hey there. thanks for supporting your friend. cause I don't have one to help me so. I am kinda happy for your friend. you're a good friend ❤

  • @sheane1977
    @sheane1977 3 роки тому +11

    my boyfriend is having depressive episodes again, he lives far, but i really want to help him out and hug him tight rn, he's not replying to my messages but i understand since communicating can be tiring sometimes when youre feeling down but i'm really worried and i want him to know that he's not alone :(( i wish i could just teleport to him and help him feel better

    • @prashantshrestha136
      @prashantshrestha136 2 роки тому

      i have same kind of things im dealing with the person im with rn
      any idea how i can deal with it, she has shown less interest chatting with me and im sad for her
      if soo plz tell me it would help us a lot

  • @lxlamayw
    @lxlamayw 3 роки тому +46

    even as a person who has struggled with severe suicidal depression (caused by my schizophrenia), i’m scared that i’ll say the wrong thing to my best friend, his depression has got so much worse and i want to be there for him ❤️

    • @Myllkka
      @Myllkka 2 роки тому

      I know as a teen we tend to want to help friends with mental health problems, but this can be detrimental to your health if you behave like their 24h therapist.

    • @joanneng6166
      @joanneng6166 Рік тому

      God loves you.
      God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)
      Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤
      Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6)
      'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him.
      'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5)
      'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3)
      Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man.
      Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead!
      Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
      God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way.
      'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23).
      'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH!
      Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace.
      Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time.
      But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE!
      I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍
      JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11)
      JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR."
      IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9)
      IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT!
      GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏

  • @btsismylifeuindianarmy4909
    @btsismylifeuindianarmy4909 3 роки тому +20

    I wish my parents, friends and psychiatrist would see this. Everything just sucks😭

    • @voiceofreason2691
      @voiceofreason2691 2 роки тому +1

      *Everything?* So sorry to hear that!

    • @joanneng6166
      @joanneng6166 Рік тому

      God loves you.
      God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)
      Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤
      Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6)
      'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him.
      'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5)
      'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3)
      Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man.
      Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead!
      Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
      God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way.
      'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23).
      'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH!
      Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace.
      Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time.
      But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE!
      I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍
      JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11)
      JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR."
      IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9)
      IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT!
      GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏

  • @JerjerB
    @JerjerB 3 роки тому +11

    "You're doing that for a reaction"
    "OK fine, don't do anything about it"
    "Why do you always put me through this"

  • @qwertystudios3815
    @qwertystudios3815 4 роки тому +20

    This is probably helpful to other people. I’ll show this to friends and family. Also, you’re right. I have depression, and you’re very right.

  • @michellearntzen5071
    @michellearntzen5071 2 роки тому +4

    This video was so helpful! I have a depressed friend, and I'm glad to know what not to say to him!

  • @TinyBabyDuckling
    @TinyBabyDuckling Рік тому +3

    Typically the one who isn’t depressed can also feel somewhat guilty or responsible and say something like along the lines of “do I not make you happy”, or “do you not want to be here anymore”. Probably one of the most unhelpful things a loved one can say but very common. The fact is that almost nothing can “make you happy” when your depressed, and nowhere is a place that makes everything better. The best thing you can do for a depressed loved one is show leadership, with actions not words. Run them a bath, plan a meal out, use your vision to plan and arrange things to enable a normal life. A depressed person lacks the vision to decide what they want for breakfast let alone big life solutions, so take care of those small normal life decisions for them

  • @StardustJcr
    @StardustJcr 2 роки тому +14

    I'm having a hard time. My older brother is above 30 years and has been depressed since childhood due to an accident. I've always tried to cheer him up but lately it has gotten worse. He lives at moms house and is isolated. This depression has now been spreaded to my younger brother. Both live in the same household with my dysfunctional parents. They don't want to make changes or take a leap out. I feel like giving up on them now because it is too much for me to bear. I've had my hope up for almost 20 years without any changes

    • @sarahlinebarger4554
      @sarahlinebarger4554 2 роки тому +1

      What happened in the accident? It's a difficult thing

    • @noneofyourbuizness
      @noneofyourbuizness 2 роки тому +2

      Poor guy..
      Ptsd make you depressed and anxious without knowing why.
      He need to get to the root of the problem .
      He is lucky to have a lovely brother that care for him

    • @StardustJcr
      @StardustJcr 2 роки тому +1

      @@noneofyourbuizness yes i am hoping he realizes that he has much to live for and a wake up call. Thank you

    • @preparetoholdyourcolour7080
      @preparetoholdyourcolour7080 Рік тому

      I don't mean to be rude but your brother needs to move out, living with toxic dysfunctional parents makes things 10000 times worse in terms of dealing with depression trust me

  • @crochetmumster
    @crochetmumster Рік тому +2

    Never apologize for your feelings/emotions. How you feel at the time is how you feel, no one else. If someone doesn't respect that, that's on them and move on to help yourself.

  • @summerpierce3559
    @summerpierce3559 3 роки тому

    Thank you for actually knowing what to say and what not to say because I hear this stuff all the time and I just wanna cry

  • @wilsondassumpcao2089
    @wilsondassumpcao2089 Рік тому +2

    "Doctor Phil" said ,on national TV in front of millions, this to a depressed person:"You just need to snap out of it" and received a round of applause from his audience.

    • @CorinaVR
      @CorinaVR Місяць тому

      Dr Phil is an idiot.

  • @ashleynicholas5413
    @ashleynicholas5413 Рік тому +10

    Oh my goodness. My entire family could benefit from this. People have good intentions but I’ve had long term clinical depression concurring with situational depression and most people use the phrases verbatim. Thanks for the message that might help someone else out there suffering from depression might be better encouraged by those that really do mean well

    • @wilsondassumpcao2089
      @wilsondassumpcao2089 Рік тому

      I am depressed my entire life and the truth of the matter is that most of the society is still unable to see depression as "real" illness, disease.

  • @ASMinor
    @ASMinor Рік тому +2

    I am an avid #MentalHealthAwareness advocate and spoken word performer, and I love this so much. I travel the country trying to bring that awareness on stages, in classrooms, hospitals, and on my UA-cam channel, so I get excited when I see other advocates. 💙❤

  • @gunjanagrawal8534
    @gunjanagrawal8534 4 роки тому +6

    This is very helpful my friend is going through depression and now I know what not to say so that I don't hurt them

    • @durnel2001
      @durnel2001 3 роки тому +1

      You are a good friend 👍

  • @RayfieldA
    @RayfieldA 2 роки тому +3

    This is helpful but this now arms me with less word ammo on what TO say to a depressed person. Everything NOT to say were all my "go-to's" to try encouraging all the negativeness I am given in depressed conversations!

  • @leonorpettus7801
    @leonorpettus7801 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you , something new I learn not to say to a depressed person

  • @LWDavis58
    @LWDavis58 Рік тому

    Having support has gotten me thru the real tough times.
    Even if it is just a person you can talk to.
    Treatment rarely works.

  • @user-xl1io2bo1p
    @user-xl1io2bo1p Рік тому +2

    Thank you for that video! It really struck a chord with me. It`s an acutest broblem of our time, so I`d like to share some ideas on the issue. When it comes to a deep depression, the major thing to get across is that it is not a person`s deliberate choice to behave in such a way. It is a serious mental condition when a patient simply cannot help feeling frustrated, ashamed, and indifferent all at once. They are just incapable of sweeping aside the desperate thought that there is no way out.
    Hardly could healthy people understand such behavior and often do their best to prevent depressed person from sinking down. Trying to be supportive, they resort to all the suggestions, mentioned above which often come to no good. Though coming with good intention, such attempts might only amplify the toxic thoughts, circling in a depressed mind.
    There is no point criticizing such person or getting overemotional during a conversation, because it tends to make them block out of the world and resist surrounding people willing to lend a helping hand.
    Avoid patronizing comments at all costs. Otherwise a depressed person would simply get protective and shoot down any further arguments, compelling or not.
    The best thing to tackle the problem would be first and foremost to face the fact that it IS a psychological issue that requires special approach. Obviously, a treatment isn`t easy to come by, but what you could do is to make tactful suggestion to talk the problem over together. To struck a chord with them, make hints that in their state it`s worth sizing any opportunity to get out of this hole. They need to realize that one of the most effective and possibly the fastest way to root depression out is to find an occupation, which can help to regain purpose in life. Actually, a job or at least hobby do make a great contribution, as it brings order in life and creates responsibility. Thus, let them keep in mind that instead of endless ruminating on the hopelessness of the situation it`s better to get their act together and rise to the challenge.

  • @goatedmusic9009
    @goatedmusic9009 3 роки тому +8

    Thanks for the video. My girlfriend has pretty bad depression and anxiety. I don’t deal with this stuff as bad and definitely not as often. It is sometimes very hard to communicate with her. This helps out a lot. Thanks again.

    • @marcoschimmenti7705
      @marcoschimmenti7705 2 роки тому

      Im living the same situation, and she is currently under medical control so we can't currently meet. I dont really know how to help her but I want to stay near her

  • @kristophergermo1793
    @kristophergermo1793 3 роки тому

    Thank you for this🙏🏻🙌🏼 I truly appreciate it

  • @7_y1ar
    @7_y1ar 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for the info, now i know what not to tell at myself

  • @beeneyta
    @beeneyta Рік тому +2

    the fact that i’ve been depressed for 8 years and have been told all of these things makes me wanna end it all. no one understands.

    • @jolojolo599
      @jolojolo599 5 місяців тому

      Hope you're still here and got better, and that no one can understand you is not completely true. For sure, no one could ever feel the way you do exactly or tell what you're going through in detail. But people still can understand some aspects of life that you're also experiencing and help you with them. So, don't give up yet, there's still hope at the end of the tunnel

  • @jennifervistal2468
    @jennifervistal2468 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks a lot. This video is very helpful.

  • @Unknown-me6ok
    @Unknown-me6ok 3 роки тому +3

    Thank u soooo much my girl is dealing with depression🥺I hope I can make her happy I wish it gets better😩

  • @samcartwright6338
    @samcartwright6338 2 роки тому +2

    Most of these (as a person who constantly struggles on and off with depression) just add on to it. Especially the “think of everything good you have” because it’s not like they are choosing to be that way, and thinking of the good things only makes them dive deeper, cause why would you feel like this with a loving family and nice house etc. One thing every person struggling with depression is trying to answer is “why”. A lot of times following this why question will lead to nihilism which just makes things even worse, cause then you’re questioning your beliefs and morales on top of being in a depressive state. The best thing to do for someone who you might think is depressed is to give them a good day: plan it ahead of time but don’t give them the option to opt out, if they won’t even get out of bed, set up everything for them without being pushy, make it easy for them. Do the things you know they like doing, and give them a type of purpose, no matter how small, so there is some sense of accomplishment. This won’t cure it but it will help.

  • @virginiomaldonado2746
    @virginiomaldonado2746 3 роки тому

    Thanks for the info DR

  • @armedmariner
    @armedmariner 3 роки тому +4

    Big help. Thank you. I have a loved one who has episodes. I always feel like I’m doing something wrong. Thankfully I’m not doing these five things. Although once I did say “snap out of it” and frankly that was ridiculous in 4-5 years of hindsight!

  • @smellymelly6780
    @smellymelly6780 4 роки тому +7

    Thank you my friends are going through depression

  • @alexou2111
    @alexou2111 2 роки тому

    I am currently suffering from post travel depression and most people told me those five things. I think this contributes to us going for professionals to seek help because they actually studied that so they would understand.

  • @achingaster1199
    @achingaster1199 3 роки тому

    Thank you. Need this.

  • @ytflix4
    @ytflix4 3 роки тому +1

    we all are here bcoz we were depressed at somepoint but now want to help others with same situation bcoz we didn't had this someone....

  • @fateemmassally4903
    @fateemmassally4903 3 роки тому +4

    Living in a culture where people don't even understand what depression is about.....
    I don't even know where to start.

  • @idilinda6328
    @idilinda6328 3 роки тому +1

    My soul cries for everyone whose also here bc they don’t know if their loved ones words Trumps their real raw emotion..

  • @_W_74
    @_W_74 2 роки тому +2

    Sometimes I can't even talk to anyone like ever, just staying in my room and the bad memories haunts me forever, after some time I feel normal back again but sometimes talking about it it even go worse turning the depression into a deep depression becomes a deep abyss with no ending.

    • @voiceofreason2691
      @voiceofreason2691 2 роки тому +1

      Maybe you´ve been *not* taIking to the *right* person/peopIe

    • @_W_74
      @_W_74 2 роки тому +1

      @@voiceofreason2691 True

  • @xeinha375
    @xeinha375 2 роки тому

    Yes this is so helpful

  • @AsdAsdAsfq
    @AsdAsdAsfq 2 роки тому

    This really helps thank you so much

  • @Prettybrowneyes9151
    @Prettybrowneyes9151 3 роки тому +6

    I have an older brother that suffers from anxiety and depression. I had tried numerous times to ask them what they need or if the even want to seek some help but I get the same response always that they are okay..What’s draining to me is the more I comfort them as well the more they are comfortable Doing nothing letting me take charge of everything around the house it drains me and my energy sometimes. Idk what else to do.. he hasn’t even been taking care of he’s diet or health and not being able to even get out of the room.. I feel like I’m stuck on a loop

    • @naasihzawawi3167
      @naasihzawawi3167 3 роки тому

      I feel u, my gf does the same. So how is it going right now.

  • @DalinquentB
    @DalinquentB Рік тому

    Your very smart ,your words are helpful...thanks.

  • @tai7397
    @tai7397 Рік тому

    I have a feeling that me friend has severe depression. This has helped a lot for things not to say to her. Thanks!

  • @resolute4665
    @resolute4665 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much!

  • @blehhhhhh
    @blehhhhhh 2 роки тому

    thank you, i lost my best friend to my ignorance and i don't ever want it to happen again

  • @mondenkambule8652
    @mondenkambule8652 3 роки тому

    Wow. Helpful thanks a lot.

  • @traciealdrich5109
    @traciealdrich5109 Рік тому

    Ty for helping my loved ones understand

  • @ravenlayug5326
    @ravenlayug5326 Рік тому

    Thank you so much ma'am!

  • @humanrightsatfirst9163
    @humanrightsatfirst9163 Рік тому

    Working with this topic and analysing these so called well ment advices is a great idea, might make life much more easier for those, who suffer from it, 👍 !

  • @purpletea7654
    @purpletea7654 3 роки тому +4

    I wish everyone who talk to me watched this 😭

  • @ThePureLegend95
    @ThePureLegend95 7 років тому +13

    Really good advice, thank you!

  • @Greyrayin
    @Greyrayin 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you

  • @2l84me8
    @2l84me8 Рік тому +1

    “This is all your fault!”
    “How come other people are doing better than you?”
    “You’re doing this to yourself!”
    “God already made you perfect and you’re ruining yourself!”
    Are just some of my personal favorites thrown at me growing up.

  • @Lear_Bear
    @Lear_Bear 3 роки тому +2

    I just cried till my head a heart hurt so thanks for saying what my family doesn’t bc all they say is “give your burdens to god” :|

  • @fbhooky8606
    @fbhooky8606 3 роки тому

    I'm here to support her😌

  • @shadowofthedarkness7321
    @shadowofthedarkness7321 4 роки тому +27

    What if we both have depression..?

    • @mikaylakruger1064
      @mikaylakruger1064 3 роки тому +3

      This is me! My mom is going through a terrible depression. I know that she is not in a good place right now, but I have failed to be there for her in the ways she needs because I have been too caught up in my own depression. How do you make it up to someone when you've let them down like this? How do I push past my own depression and help her?

  • @helenarichard
    @helenarichard 2 роки тому +1

    To me people always say "you're beautiful, intelligent and probably have a nice family". Excuse me, how does that help me when I am suicidal?

  • @shennyboi110
    @shennyboi110 4 роки тому +16

    I feel like i’ve been doing some of these :(

    • @homemademovies8364
      @homemademovies8364 3 роки тому +2

      You know, it takes an honest and brave person to admit something like this. Lots of love, stay strong, you should be forgiven 😊😊

  • @sarafinadavilar
    @sarafinadavilar 3 роки тому +1

    Yes thank u 🙏🏽

  • @user-vq2ho5jn7k
    @user-vq2ho5jn7k 3 роки тому +1

    I wish people could understand. The things ive told that will forever stick with me by a loved one when i tried to open up...were "cut me a break. I dont want to deal with this." "Comforting you is like comforting a child." "You will never be loved by anyone." They dint get that these stick with us..we dont forget these words..we only remember them even more when we are feeling down

  • @jooleeuh6430
    @jooleeuh6430 Рік тому +2

    Having a breakdown at the moment. Looking fo a way to explain to my loved ones. This is very true

    • @joanneng6166
      @joanneng6166 Рік тому

      God loves you.
      God says "I will never leave you nor forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)
      Jesus is a Friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24) What a friend we have in Jesus! 🙂🥰❤
      Jesus says 'I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.' (John 14:6)
      'For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him, will not perish but have everlasting life.' (John 3:16) (Eternal life with Jesus in heaven / paradise versus eternal hell and damnation for all who reject Him.
      'God saved us not because of righteous things we had done, but because of His mercy...' (Titus 3:5)
      'Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In His great mercy, He has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead.' (1 Peter 1:3)
      Jesus Christ left all the glory of heaven and came down to earth through the vehicle of the womb of Virgin Mary. When the Holy Spirit came upon her, she conceived, even though she was never with a man. Jesus Christ was Fully God, Fully Man.
      Jesus Christ lived 33 years on earth. He healed the sick, caused the blind to see, the deaf to hear, the lame to walk, cast out demons, even raised the dead!
      Jesus Christ chose to suffer and lay down His life for you and I on the humble wooden Cross, for our sins (moral wrongdoings eg lies, stealing, selfishness, unforgiveness, hate, jealousy, greed, lust, adultery, murder etc etc). He laid down His life for all although He was perfect and sinless. He knew no sin, did no sin, in Him was no sin. He was the God-man who reconciled sinful man back to God (who is Holy, Perfect). He was the Representative of Man, as the Perfect Sacrifice, for God's holiness cannot co-exist with sin, and necessitates a Perfect Sacrifice as sin offering. This is so that Man can now come freely to God to HisThrone of Grace to receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.
      God loves man (whom He created) and this necessitates the Son of God, Jesus Christ, to be the sacrifice to reconcile man back to God. It pained God the Father immeasurably, but it was the Only Way.
      'For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.' (Romans 3:23).
      'For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.' (Romans 6:23) HALLELUJAH!
      Jesus Christ was brutally tortured, given stripe after stripe on His bare body using the Roman whip with ferocious hooks attached to the whip, that clawed out His flesh until He could see His own bones, and no sliver of flesh was left. He became so disfigured His face knew no form. He was spat upon, mocked at. When the time came for Him to depart earth, He said 'Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing.' ( Luke 23:34). He had no bitterness. He was at peace.
      Jesus Christ became obedient unto death, even death on the Cross! The worst form of punishment of that time.
      But God the Father raised Jesus from the dead after 3 days! PRAISE GOD! He is now seated at the right hand of God the Father in heaven. HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE!
      I KNOW BECAUSE I HAVE A PERSONAL EXPERIENCE OF JESUS! 3 YEARS AGO, ONE MORNING WHEN I JUST WOKE UP AND MY MIND WAS STILL BLANK, I LITERALLY HEARD A VERY KIND VOICE SAYING TO ME 'HELLO, CHILD OF GOD!' IT WAS INSTANTLY THE RECOGNIZABLE VOICE OF JESUS! THERE WAS NO ONE AROUND ME OR IN THE HOUSE! I WILL NEVER FORGET SUCH A ONCE IN A LIFETIME PRECIOUS ENCOUNTER WITH JESUS HIMSELF! 🥰❤❤❤🙏 I PROMISE IT'S MY MOST UNFORGETTABLE, PRIZED, SPECIAL AND PRECIOUS EXPERIENCE! HALLELUJAH! HE IS RISEN! HE IS ALIVE! JUST AS THE WORD OF GOD SAID. EVERY WORD OF GOD IS FLAWLESS! I FEEL A DUTY TO SHARE! KEEP YOUR HOPE IN HIM ALIVE! 🙌🙌🙌👏👏👏👍👍👍
      JESUS WAS OBEDIENT UNTO DEATH ON THE CROSS. AS SUCH, GOD THE FATHER GAVE HIM THE NAME THAT IS ABOVE ALL NAMES! THAT AT THE NAME OF JESUS, EVERY KNEE SHOULD BOW, IN HEAVEN, ON EARTH, AND UNDER THE EARTH, AND EVERY TONGUE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT JESUS CHRIST IS LORD, TO THE GLORY OF GOD THE FATHER. (Philippians 2:10-11)
      JESUS IS COMING BACK SOON A SECOND TIME. ON THAT DAY ALL WILL SEE HIM, THEN ACKNOWLEDGE TOO LATE THAT HE ALONE IS LORD OF ALL. DON'T WAIT TILL THEN TO RECEIVE HIM. IT WILL BE TOO LATE! IT'S TRUE, TOMORROW IS NOT GUARANTEED. RECEIVE JESUS NOW. PRAY TO JESUS SAYING "LORD JESUS, I REPENT OF MY SINS. COME INTO MY HEART, I WILL MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOUR."
      IF YOU DECLARE WITH YOUR MOUTH "JESUS IS LORD," AND BELIEVE IN YOUR HEART GOD RAISED HIM FROM THE DEAD, YOU WILL BE SAVED. (ROMANS 10:9)
      IF YOU DID, ALL HEAVEN REJOICES!!! 😇🥰🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤HALLELUJAH!!! GO TO A BIBLE-BASED CHURCH, AND KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE, NO MATTER WHAT!
      GOD HAS AN AMAZING PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE! MAY YOU REACH THE FULLNESS OF YOUR DESTINY AND HIGH CALLING IN HIM! ABOVE ALL, MAY YOU INCREASE IN THE KNOWLEDGE AND REVELATION OF GOD HIMSELF. GOD BE WITH YOU 🙂🙏

  • @WolfQueenLydia
    @WolfQueenLydia Рік тому

    This is why instead of saying "I understand" I say "I feel you" "I see you" etc. And when I say it, I feel it in that moment and let my voice speak it in tone. It's saying to them "I acknowledge you, and I'm not going through what you are but I am here."

  • @annaburns2865
    @annaburns2865 2 роки тому

    My husband always says the worst thing and then he gets mad at me for reiterating that I am depressed because he doesn’t seem to get it. He doesn’t exactly say “snap out of it.” But that seems to be the implication. Thank you for explaining that probably comes from his childhood when emotions weren’t valued. That was like a 💡moment for me. Because he indeed does seem to be “very harsh and judgmental” towards me and the fact that I have depression. Even though he has depression. But he is bipolar and I have clinical depression so his bipolar depression is different.

  • @butterfly7287
    @butterfly7287 2 роки тому +1

    thank you

  • @griffinbrincat8454
    @griffinbrincat8454 3 роки тому +2

    thank you so much you helped me help my best friend

  • @jalenmoses8629
    @jalenmoses8629 2 роки тому +1

    Bị nghiện bài này từ thời Bảo Thy, ko ngờ lại có ngày được nghe idol mới trong lòng mình Đức Phúc cover lại. Cảm ơn em ĐP vì đã cover lại lắng đọng cảm xúc như vậy

  • @fletchergorman1053
    @fletchergorman1053 Рік тому

    In a dual teacher home growing up, you get overlooked. You find something you love doing, then seizures stole it. You have been a disappointment ever since. Why does tomorrow bring anything worthwhile.

  • @sabasiddiqui429
    @sabasiddiqui429 Рік тому

    Thank you Dr. Byrne for this. Could you please share what are the things we should say to a depressed loved one?

  • @miliparmar8737
    @miliparmar8737 3 роки тому

    Thank you.... This was really very helpful.... Can you please say what else can I do to help them get out of depression?

  • @theprotectivefreaksystem3331
    @theprotectivefreaksystem3331 4 роки тому +3

    Your right I’ve been told more then one of these and it’s not helpful to hear these things.

  • @hussainjeragh1412
    @hussainjeragh1412 2 роки тому

    Who ever watched this vid, i hope u know u have a kind heart

  • @Asmr_799
    @Asmr_799 3 роки тому

    Thank u so much

  • @Versatile668
    @Versatile668 Рік тому

    Being diagnosed like literally medically diagnosed depression and everything else I could make them understand it's not something that could be fixed mental breakdowns and traumatic events in my life some of it made me numb some of it didn't I dealt with it most of my life anybody that I ever lived with as a roommate but it's not like we're always suicidal and sad and you know all the time. I hate the way they tried to make us out to look like has nothing to do with drug's or any of that. So many times I was threatening situations that literally i could not comprehend that it just broke my mind. And then years and years of torment and torture psychologically it makes you want to not be attached to anybody anymore for someone to tell you they love you but just to put me through horrendous horrible psychological damage whether that was a short amount of time Or a long extended where they convince you that that's the only way you'll ever be treated just have to accept it because I've experienced that you seen it so much with other people psychological things that I wouldn't do to another person subconsciously unintentionally. And then dealing with the painful being overactive there's things I would like to do but it's too strenuous for my body. Etc okay well I'm not bipolar I'm not schizophrenia and I really wish they would stop with that misconception has nothing at all to do with drugs or alcohol I don't know who keeps thinking that making that out I'm just saying I'm not in recovery from drugs and alcohol I don't know how that's constantly being wrongfully confused with my account none of that is on my medical none of that is on my record none of that.

  • @Killahcop1hunnid
    @Killahcop1hunnid 4 роки тому +11

    No it’s 3 years not 3 weeks

  • @calebhastings3588
    @calebhastings3588 3 роки тому +1

    My mom is off and on depressed and there is nothing that I can do about it and it sucks. I've always tried to help her and now laying here in bed I have finally came to the conclusion that there is nothing I can do to save her. She one day realized all of what you said to be true, so she quit taking her anti depression medicine thank God. She got better for a while but the past week she has been locked in her room and something I said kinda pissed her off and it made it worst. Not entirely sure what to do. Guess there is nothing I can do. But pray that she doesn't try to kill herself as she has tried 3 times before. She almost succeeded the third time. I have been entirely stressed my whole life because of it. I love my mom and she will eventually be fine but the docs say it's an illness but I know, and she knows that isn't true. It's life's circumstances. This time however she seems like gone. I'm pretty scared but I've been through it since I was a child. I feel helpless. And slightly hopeless

  • @Random-yy1ub
    @Random-yy1ub 3 роки тому +1

    One of the biggest things I hear is but you have so many people around you who love you and you have so many good things in life how can you be depressed I hate just cause I have a family that they think I'm fine or just cause I have a house to live in and food to eat that my life is perfect

  • @jpc3603
    @jpc3603 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you I am currently watching this to try and help my amazing mum. The last point about not pointing out good things about or in the persons life, does anyone with either firsthand, carer or professional experience have any advice on whether it is ok to atleast talk about positive times when the person really enjoyed themselves and you were there with them? Or do you feel this cannot have an uplifting impact at all? Thank you

  • @Anime_no_joō
    @Anime_no_joō 3 роки тому +1

    I've been depressed for a few years on and off. Never talked to my family about it. I just went into a shell. My 9 year relationship is falling apart. I just want to be alone I don't want to be in a relationship anymore. Too much pressure and expectations that I just can't give. I rather focus on my kids and myself. I'm finally about to get the help that I need. I lost so much weight and it's physically affecting my body. I'm thinking about death alot more (I'm not going to commit) but sometimes thinking about my death is comforting.

  • @nidoqueen106
    @nidoqueen106 Рік тому

    2:18 is really helpful, thank you

  • @willow.y2883
    @willow.y2883 3 роки тому

    I love this video

  • @JayceBarbeeMusic
    @JayceBarbeeMusic 2 роки тому

    im commenting this now to hopefully one day look back on and realize things can, and will get better. im struggling right now.

  • @roshundralewis7551
    @roshundralewis7551 Рік тому +1

    Omg,im trying maybes. To not be a narcissist. Thanks i can help see!

  • @vikasgupta1828
    @vikasgupta1828 10 місяців тому

    Thanks

  • @jamesriggs885
    @jamesriggs885 3 роки тому

    It’s when you feel depressed and don’t want to be around but have no reason to feel that way but your mind makes you because you’re so used to it

  • @virginiomaldonado2746
    @virginiomaldonado2746 3 роки тому +1

    Going thru a separation with my wife... 28 years old been together for 6. Had no idea of my wife traumatic upbringing/childhood... 3 years into the relationship providing structure, stability and my love for her and my stepdaughter now 10 kept having issues because she was not used to this. I had no idea my wife had severe depression, PTSD and anxiety until 3 years into the relationship when diagnosed thru my insurance. No matter how much support, love, encouraging I’ve given I have become the enemy and as she describes a verbal abuser and controller... breaks my heart there’s no way to say anything right, good times and then the storm, meds make her feel worst... it’s been a nightmare now as previously done escaping reality and those demons my wife let the household. Cannot deal with any stress etc . I’m about to give up but my love for her keep me somehow persevering...

  • @chilvaryisdead3244
    @chilvaryisdead3244 Рік тому

    Hey thanks for this really nice video but can you do another video with what you can say to a loved one who is depressed or maybe how to support them ?

  • @ziamariaperez8636
    @ziamariaperez8636 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for this video! I've been struggling how to make a reply to my friend. I admit that I failed to give good responses to them, I just hope I can help. Can you please make a video where you list down what things can we say or reply to depressed people? It would be very helpful. Thank you very much and God bless you!
    May we all get to know God who can fill the voids in our hearts. May you receive salvation from Jesus who is able to save and may you have a relationship with Him as He is coming sooner. May we be found in consistent repentance and obedience to God's Word.

  • @jennifertelfer4787
    @jennifertelfer4787 2 роки тому

    Hello I've decided to go into the mental health Spectrum for furthering my education. And wondering what my main focus should be?

  • @thedrawingchannel-gamingco4205
    @thedrawingchannel-gamingco4205 2 роки тому

    Hey everyone, I wanted to ask how to cope with feelings of sadness & depression whilst working from home in Covid times. With a stressful/high expectations job. How do you keep yourself motivated? I tend to lose energy and appitite during stress and I might be developing an eating problem. All together I understand that its normal that days can be difficult but I really dislike how work makes me feel at home + the stress. Are there healthy coping mechanisms I can use?