Glenn Close 'failed in relationships because of childhood trauma'

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  • Опубліковано 26 тра 2021
  • 'We now are in a transforming world. It will take us a while to be able to articulate to ourselves what the result of that has been on us as individuals, and I think it’s really important - I feel it personally - to take the time in solitude, in quiet, to figure out how you have changed and how has it affected how you look out on the world and what your mental health is because I’ve felt it dramatically.'
    Last week, the 74-year-old actress spoke candidly about her childhood trauma.
    When she was still a child, Glenn's late father, Dr William Taliaferro Close, became enamored with a conservative new religious group Moral Re-Armament.
    Eventually he moved the family to the organization's headquarters in Switzerland, effectively cutting Glenn off from the life she once knew.
    Speaking about her traumatic experience on the show, Glenn said: 'I was in this group called MRA and it was basically a cult, everyone spouted the same things and there's a lot of rules, a lot of control.
    'Because of how we were raised, anything you thought you'd do for yourself was considered selfish. We never went on any vacations or had any collective memories of stuff other than what we went through, which was really awful.'
    Detailing the impact this had on her mental health, Glenn explained: 'We were so broken up. It's astounding that something you go through at such a young stage in your life still has such a potential to be destructive.
    'I think that's childhood trauma, because of the devastation, emotional and psychological, of the cult.'
    Glenn, who has been married three times, added: 'I have not been successful in my relationships and finding a permanent partner and I'm sorry about that.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 315

  • @saffronskies333
    @saffronskies333 15 днів тому +77

    I prefer to be alone. No one can hurt you when you are alone.

    • @mariec.9102
      @mariec.9102 13 днів тому +2

      damn🥀...

    • @jayhpaq
      @jayhpaq 12 днів тому +2

      “A rock feels no pain, and an island never cries”.

    • @saffronskies333
      @saffronskies333 11 днів тому +3

      @@jayhpaq the island is sitting in a sea of tears

    • @pjlav6304
      @pjlav6304 11 днів тому +1

      .... You could hurt yourself if you're really desperate?

    • @hbennett5640
      @hbennett5640 9 днів тому

      So true❤

  • @richardl772
    @richardl772 18 днів тому +330

    This resonates. I’m 77 and never married or had any successful intimate relationship. I learned early on that the only person I could really trust was myself and despite numerous ‘courses’ and a lot of effort was never able to shake it.

    • @laurie2355
      @laurie2355 18 днів тому +29

      Me neither.

    • @ceterisparibus8966
      @ceterisparibus8966 18 днів тому +15

      I hope you all can do the work needed to heal. Best wishes and blessings 💐✨

    • @slicktheslickster
      @slicktheslickster 17 днів тому +23

      Nothing wrong with that. You is who you need to be most concerned about.

    • @nancykelly9393
      @nancykelly9393 17 днів тому +27

      Me too. I think early severe trauma causes permanent structural damage to the psyche. Can't be healed, but I think it's possible to be happy anyway.

    • @richardl772
      @richardl772 17 днів тому +9

      @@nancykelly9393. Thanks. I agree.

  • @donald1576
    @donald1576 18 днів тому +218

    Im 67 and the same. Two failed marriages and I gave up in my 40s. Raped as a young teenager. I remember something inside of me physically breaking when it happened. To this day it feels like it made a noise in my soul. I just never really got past it enough to be able to put a relationship together successfully I tried. It's been a lonely life

    • @caole88
      @caole88 18 днів тому +11

      🙏🏽❤️

    • @lisajohnson6351
      @lisajohnson6351 17 днів тому +32

      You should write a book…you have a way of putting things into words that deeply describe the tragedy most don’t.

    • @johnsoutdooradventures3293
      @johnsoutdooradventures3293 17 днів тому +3

      😢🙏❤

    • @tlee4218
      @tlee4218 17 днів тому +27

      Molesting attempts started at 3 and continued until we moved away at 12. Never raped just hounded and had to protect siblings. Why didn’t I tell parents? Bc I knew it would split the family and I didn’t want to do that..At 16 when they visited us and he came into our bedroom to kiss us goodnight, my little sister started crying and I lost it. Screaming at him to get out. Mother and Aunt asking what is going on and told them. We never saw them or spoke to them again. My mother never said anything to me about it, me and my sisters and brother sat together and cried relief.
      Not my mothers fault. She had her trauma from youth. We all lived but I knew then I would never marry. Did have relationships but never for long time and it was fine with me.
      I like sex and like having fun with men. They can be good company but living with them,caring for them? No. Ihad one son and cared for him. Loved him to the day he died.No one else ever felt that way about and it is fine. Now in old age enjoying not working, doing the things I loved in youth..painting writing and playing music. I am embracing my introvert self.
      Write down your story, write it down in healing. Life is crazy, wild and challenging..
      we are human and how we are.
      My father told me to write my own story, meaning never let anyone else write it for me.
      Claiming the abuse instead is blaming and shaming it has made me stronger.
      Write your story for ancestry and for others to give them history.
      We are all damaged by something and it is not required for us all to have the same story, do same things. We are the ones who lived with pain. Life.

    • @maxineventham7397
      @maxineventham7397 17 днів тому +1

  • @Lemoncare
    @Lemoncare 15 днів тому +20

    Trauma ruins connections.

  • @liliworth8098
    @liliworth8098 13 днів тому +17

    Never safe as a child, created a life course of trying and searching for love and safety… to no avail. 60’s and finally a warm self acceptance and comfort in solitude.

    • @PossumLover1111
      @PossumLover1111 9 днів тому +1

      Thank you for your post. I'm reading it over and over and love what you said.

  • @rickturnr
    @rickturnr 18 днів тому +152

    Being single is ok

    • @Ikaros23
      @Ikaros23 18 днів тому +37

      Far better than beeing with toxic abusers, assholes, neglecters and so on.
      Enjoy the silence ❤

    • @FriendofDorothy
      @FriendofDorothy 17 днів тому +35

      Being single has its luxuries. I was more lonely in a couple of lousy relationships than I am flying solo.

    • @houndmother2398
      @houndmother2398 17 днів тому +25

      It's certainly preferable to being abused Or traumatized.

    • @sniferlip
      @sniferlip 16 днів тому +6

      Yeah, it'll have to be because I can't fix it

    • @terimcgibney4930
      @terimcgibney4930 16 днів тому +12

      It's even better than ok.

  • @hensonlaura
    @hensonlaura 17 днів тому +87

    Me too. 58 y/o. My mother died when I was very young. My 5 years older sister was a hostile bully and dad got an airplane and took off. He was a pilot. I was provided for but have been emotionally alone all my life. I was molested, abused & used & I thought thats the way I had to be. I've never recovered from that childhood.

    • @divinhaquem
      @divinhaquem 17 днів тому +11

      I'm so sorry for your past, dear. It was not right, and it's not your fault. You deserve a happy future!

    • @ss_whole
      @ss_whole 17 днів тому

      Well of course pilots are going to get in a plane and take off, that's their job

    • @brendensangster3571
      @brendensangster3571 16 днів тому +1

      Go to a reputable reiki master asap

    • @Person-mh6xq
      @Person-mh6xq 16 днів тому +1

      I am sorry too :-( Hope you find happiness in other ways - large or small.

    • @Person-mh6xq
      @Person-mh6xq 16 днів тому

      @@ss_whole your profile name here is correct. What a sarcastic, unnecessary comment. You're just the kind of person that causes other people pain. STOP IT.

  • @mapleext
    @mapleext 17 днів тому +63

    This is true and triggers remain and reactions to them remain. At almost 75 I am working through this and am still learning to be there for myself. My life is my partner. Best wishes to all on your journeys.

  • @MetalDeathMusic
    @MetalDeathMusic 18 днів тому +100

    Me too Ms. Close. I try to be in relationships, and I try so hard to be a good partner, but I always seem to mess it up somehow, even if it's just picking the wrong person to be with.

    • @PossumLover1111
      @PossumLover1111 9 днів тому +1

      I love what you wrote. So honest. Thank you.

  • @echase416
    @echase416 12 днів тому +12

    She didn’t find a partner, but did she find herself? That’s the most important thing. We can’t have a good relationship with others and unless we have a good relationship with ourselves.

  • @lesleyhumphreysjones5957
    @lesleyhumphreysjones5957 17 днів тому +40

    Same here familial abuse and neglect rendered me hopeless at relationships, it's a symptom of COMPLEX POST TRAUMA.

  • @ralphrex9118
    @ralphrex9118 16 днів тому +23

    Tragic and true, my longest relationship was 4 months and even writing this I feel immense grief.

  • @lisamay4376
    @lisamay4376 18 днів тому +89

    There are many things I’m good at. Relationships isn’t one of them.

  • @akferren1
    @akferren1 15 днів тому +19

    I’m a perfectionist and an over achiever.. good at whatever I do.. but I have 3 failed marriages and countless failed relationships..now im 53 and I’ve been alone for a decade and I think I’m better this way

  • @HeartWorX.Creations
    @HeartWorX.Creations 15 днів тому +13

    Sadly, goes to shows that what I heard Dr. Laura say once, (which resonates DEEPLY) -is so true……”Some things just can’t be fixed”, contrary to what many ppl-including professionals believe and/or say!! I truly feel that some relationships just aren’t meant to be, including within families-yes, even parent/child relationships…!!

  • @bluebird3042
    @bluebird3042 18 днів тому +84

    I can't be in a relationship. My childhood was just too traumatic & damage that was done at an early age makes it so hard to be with someone.

    • @WH2012
      @WH2012 18 днів тому +4

      There are some VERY EVIL forces in this world. Don't let it make you lose hope or take away your future joy and potential. Please look into the wisdom of Dr. Laura Schlessinger.

    • @seanm3226
      @seanm3226 18 днів тому +5

      Nope, you’re just trying to find an easy out. We are all flawed people.

    • @laurie2355
      @laurie2355 18 днів тому +7

      I’m 63 now, have 3 wonderful kids, but my relationships NEVER lasted for more than 2 years because of childhood trauma. It SUCKS!!!

    • @victoriasegall3404
      @victoriasegall3404 18 днів тому +7

      @@seanm3226 Exactly! I, too, was traumatized in my childhood and early adulthood, as was my man. We both have ptsd, but we ALSO have very big hearts, and we are the loves of eachother's lives. Are we flawed? Yes. But every day, we take accountability, and work on being the best that we can be. We were made for eachother.

    • @SueP-jg9vx
      @SueP-jg9vx 18 днів тому +5

      wow cant believe there are so many people like me.

  • @stephaniestanley8041
    @stephaniestanley8041 16 днів тому +47

    I'm so sorry Glenn. But this😞does NOT diminish you as the wonderful person you are. ❤

  • @NordeggSonya
    @NordeggSonya 16 днів тому +18

    I'm almost 65 and I too have never had a real relationship that was successful. My mother beat the shit out of us kids and our father knew but let it continue. It kept her away from him. I took pills when I was 9. They let me sleep it off. Afterward my mother asked me did you try to commit suicide? I said yes and she replied next time do it better. That was my life growing up. She was a narcissist and my sister is too. I have a few tendencies towards it but I try to contain myself and be a good person. I got attached to a man that was also a bit narcissist really passive aggressive too. Kind of like he let me choose where we might go for dinner and then afterward say I would have gone to the other restaurant or the other movie. We would go months without intimacy. Little did I realize he was into porn. He was also a momma's boy. After 6 and a half years I gave up. I was 27. I sort of had a relationship at 30 but that didn't work and another at around 45. I keep chosing men like my dad....unavailable. I'm quite happy alone and never ever lonely. Yes I have two cats and a large garden and I like to fly fish. I'm happy and balanced. I'm okay with me and life.

    • @user-zy3id7ji9j
      @user-zy3id7ji9j 16 днів тому +3

      Your story was so touching. Thank you for sharing. I agree, there’s nothing wrong with being alone and/ or doing things by yourself. I love doing exactly what I want to do. 😊 All the best to you.

    • @NordeggSonya
      @NordeggSonya 15 днів тому

      @@user-zy3id7ji9j Thank you for the kind words and God Bless you!!!

    • @AfterDARK.Records
      @AfterDARK.Records 14 днів тому

      Proud of you 🦾🩷🦾

    • @chai848
      @chai848 13 днів тому +1

      I’m sorry you suffered that so young by your mom. You’re doing good at life. God continue to bless you ❤

  • @xamalion7334
    @xamalion7334 17 днів тому +20

    I‘m 42 and have not been able to really connect with someone on a relationship level. Not even my friendships run very deep. I don’t know why that is, but I’m not sad about it. I just think it should be different, but I don’t know how to change it. The only thing that concerns me is getting old.

    • @jeanetteh.9240
      @jeanetteh.9240 16 днів тому +4

      If you can afford it, it's not too late to go into therapy. Ask your doctor for a recommendation. A therapist might be able to help you understand yourself better.

    • @pookiecatblue
      @pookiecatblue 16 днів тому +4

      As long as you're not sad about it, maybe it's ok. Some people are more loners.

    • @chai848
      @chai848 13 днів тому +2

      I can relate. Here’s another angle too. I’m also an HSP. A highly sensitive person. I’m very sensitive to other’s energy, not to sound too woowoo. I have heightened senses. It’s a gift and also a challenge. I get drained easily when around others and need time and space for myself. People I don’t even know will often vent their troubles to me. I tend to attract those who are in need of healing. You may be this way. I get easily overstimulated and overwhelmed. It’s hard to find friends that understand how not to drain you or use you as a therapist. So even without childhood trauma, you could be an HSP. I find myself avoiding people now. Avoiding attracting those who need healing. I’m kind of a recluse now. I have a lively prayer life though! And I pray for others a lot!

    • @xamalion7334
      @xamalion7334 13 днів тому

      @@chai848 thanks, I can relate very much, minus the praying, I’m not religious in any way. But everyone has to cope with their burden the way they see fit.

    • @xamalion7334
      @xamalion7334 13 днів тому +1

      @@jeanetteh.9240 as is said I’m not suffering and I don’t feel like needing help. It’s a vague feeling that things should be different (measured by society and what I see around me)

  • @ElleGen
    @ElleGen 16 днів тому +10

    I can relate. I was s**ually abused from the age of 1 to at least 10. He destroyed my life in the very beginning. I'm in my 50s, single, isolate too much, have a mood disorder, CPTSD, and difficulty having any friendships or romantic relationships.
    It gets better, but I'll never be 100%, and will always wonder what my life would have looked like if I was never traumatized.

  • @suzannebigras7071
    @suzannebigras7071 18 днів тому +30

    I feel for you and understand as I have struggled all my life with connection . I never bonded with my mother nor my father. (They were very damaged people) Makes it extremely difficult to feel a part of Humanity fully when that happens. The loneliness that comes with that is incredibly deep and wounding.

    • @nancykelly9393
      @nancykelly9393 17 днів тому +5

      Me too. Exactly.

    • @i_love_rescue_animals
      @i_love_rescue_animals 15 днів тому +3

      I'm so sorry. You didn't deserve that! I hope you can get therapy or also practice meditation. I did not have as severe an upbringing as you, but I was damaged by my dysfunctional family and emotional abuse. I also can't connect romantically with people and even find holding on to friends to be a challenge.

    • @susanbertsch4100
      @susanbertsch4100 15 днів тому +2

      That last sentence about deep loneliness is so true and so powerful. Sending love to all of us who have felt this in our lives.

  • @renzinthewoods
    @renzinthewoods 15 днів тому +12

    Raised by a mother with BPD who could be very emotionally abusive right along side her intense expressions of maternal love. Took me decades of chasing emotionally unavailable men and ignoring the decent normal guys who showed interest, to realize that I can’t handle that kind of intimacy. I am a very loving and welcoming person, but there’s a core part of me that remains protected from everyone. Once I came to this realization, I found peace and contentment. I recognize that I have no reality based idea of what it feels like to be in love and be loved in return. One can’t truly miss what one can’t experience. Movie plots and music are idealizations of “love.” I no longer allow them to bother me. Our cultural expectation is that we all must find our “true love.” Nuts to that. Some of us are happier single, and the love I might have channeled into a single relationship is available instead to be spread around liberally.

    • @AfterDARK.Records
      @AfterDARK.Records 14 днів тому +2

      OMG this hit home! 🦾🩷🦾 Finally at close to 60 I’ve realized WHO I am. It took almost 4 years of solo meditation and sitting with darkness to stop taking my feelings personally and rather understand what they meant. I’m at peace now. How odd that is! I’ve never been at peace. I’m not interested in another round, instead I’ve allowed myself untethered opportunities. The Power of Love 🦾🩷🦾

  • @velvetmusic9851
    @velvetmusic9851 13 днів тому +5

    Trauma makes you a hard cookie, you are empathic but tough, it obliges you to think, go deep, ask questions, make you doubt of the fabric of reality itself, and ultimately it allows you to develop the ability of alchemizing the pain and turn it into gold. And that for an artist is an asset, a big one.

  • @tatertot1946
    @tatertot1946 13 днів тому +4

    78 and no lasting relaionships. I refused to be denigrated. Ever. Glenn Close? I am so grateful for her work in acting and films, so talented and it is a gift to see her work. Keep strong beautiful lady, you truly matter.

  • @Tarotbyjessa
    @Tarotbyjessa 17 днів тому +10

    I wish I could tell her that she doesn't need to be sorry. ❤

  • @shannon9155
    @shannon9155 18 днів тому +54

    Trauma is something that never goes away.

    • @panergary
      @panergary 17 днів тому +1

      Being rich and famous helps

    • @shannon9155
      @shannon9155 17 днів тому

      @@panergary Yeah I get it.

    • @MK-cc5ve
      @MK-cc5ve 17 днів тому +7

      @@panergaryMaybe you missed Ms Close’s point. She is rich and famous and it didn’t help at all.

    • @brendensangster3571
      @brendensangster3571 16 днів тому +2

      Reiki energy healers make it go away

    • @panergary
      @panergary 16 днів тому

      @@MK-cc5ve I disagree.
      MONEY HELPS !
      ...in my opinion.

  • @Pittbull13
    @Pittbull13 18 днів тому +16

    I am the same. Only person I can trust is me. Being abused as a child- I am always wondering when the next person will betray me. I also do not break up via email, or text. Do those messy issues in person and I hate it. I am not a coward

    • @yiddena
      @yiddena 17 днів тому

      Sounds familiar.

  • @G--do8ro
    @G--do8ro 10 днів тому +3

    We come into this world alone and we leave alone.

  • @dawnsalois
    @dawnsalois 17 днів тому +9

    They say it takes 10 years of hard and serious therapy to heal from childhood trauma. By the time some figure out what's wrong, its too late to get the help and make a new life. Good luck to all the commenters for this post.

    • @Elizabeth-yg2mg
      @Elizabeth-yg2mg 16 днів тому

      Yeah, that's put out by the marketing department of the therapist's association.

    • @pwieland3934
      @pwieland3934 14 днів тому

      I think serious is key, not that it must be a decade's worth. My late father had CPTSD dating back to childhood and married someone abusive. I was extremely lucky as a teenager to be able to reach out for help, and get it much earlier than my dad did. The counseling I got changed my life, and it spurred him to get help. Sometimes it feels crappy to explore family patterns, abuse, or even your own reactions to the former two. That's the "hard" of getting counseling. However, he was much happier in his 60s and 70s because of counseling. He passed with many friends and a loving girlfriend. For most people it is not too late to improve your happiness.

  • @vallip4254
    @vallip4254 14 днів тому +3

    Yes no real role models as a child and trauma that you cannot get past, colour a lifelong world for many. You are not alone.

  • @chai848
    @chai848 13 днів тому +2

    I think a lot of us relate to this. I’m almost 48. No longterm relationships past 2 years. No marriage. My main focus is avoiding being stuck with an unsafe person. So in many ways staying single and safe may be the best I can do. I’m not sure if at this point I can change my ingrained patterns of attracting unsafe men. If I’m meant to be single and at peace and safe, I can deal with that.

  • @LisaG442
    @LisaG442 17 днів тому +9

    Like I’ve always said, actors are very often damaged ppl. And comedians are the most damaged. Scratch the facade on one and you’ll find an abused child or one that wasn’t taught self love

  • @motheryuba57
    @motheryuba57 Місяць тому +36

    She certainly was/is a talented actress. For so many of us, intimate relationships are challenging. Fertile ground for continued growth and insight into the true nature of love perhaps. There are many ways to be intimate with life. Many ways to experience love flowing within us and around us. Many ways to be a lover.
    Her childhood does sound severe and traumatic and she used that to infuse her acting with great subtlety and nuance. Considering what most folks have been through, I wish we could all be a lot more kind and understanding of each other.

  • @wolfganghasenmaier8350
    @wolfganghasenmaier8350 18 днів тому +13

    I work in combatting crime and have many many risks in my life... Sometimes potentially lethal.. And e v e n me with that background / situation can totally trust a few people. True PI is far more dangerous than actor. My reasoning: It would be absurdly arrogant and false to guessI`m the only trustworthy fellow on the globe. 61 yo and after having had countless disappointments I now have scored and met my big love. I wish you that too. One hint: Stand up one m ore time than you fall and learn from each fall. Then go into the next round :)

  • @pamelamls
    @pamelamls 15 днів тому +4

    Same. I am almost 40 years old and I have only had one relationship in my whole life. I was 16 years old when I had my only boyfriend and that was it. I have never had an adult relationship.

    • @a32tl
      @a32tl 15 днів тому +3

      I’m 55 and have never been in a relationship, not even close. Never had close friends either.

  • @Pinkyandthebrain290
    @Pinkyandthebrain290 18 днів тому +17

    I know that I simply can’t reach the stage of having a close bond or even a relationship as it’s been a lot do emotional and psychological trauma for me. I hope to one day find it in me to learn to trust and be ok with that closeness. I’m not sure when this will be. I’m female , 36.

  • @EJofLA
    @EJofLA 18 днів тому +26

    Sorry to hear that Glen. I hope you can still find a way to overcome your past. You're a lovely woman. I remember how you had the exact same reaction to the character you played in "Fatal Attraction" - that she was someone to be pitied, not villified. I remember feeling the same way about the character, and not liking what happened. When you shared that in an interview I felt so validated!

  • @mypointofview1111
    @mypointofview1111 9 днів тому +2

    Being single isnt always down to traumas in your early life. People are predatory creatures and you have to keep yourself safe from them

  • @TheStuport
    @TheStuport 17 днів тому +7

    We ALL have much to offer and share with others. I have learned through time that for me I had more enjoyment being single. I always had "friends with benefits" so I was never lacking for companionship. Yes...I would get a bit jelly over couples who struck gold in their relationships, but I'd be shaken back to life seeing way more negative feelings between other couples and in the end I did what was best for me. Way too late to flip the script now AND why fix "it" if it's not broke? Stay Strong Everyone! 👋

    • @bootsybadger
      @bootsybadger 15 днів тому +2

      @TheStuport that sounds like toxic positivity

    • @TheStuport
      @TheStuport 15 днів тому

      @@bootsybadger It does when viewed that way. I get it. But the same can be said when "Tough Love" is administered! Guessing it comes down to how the wording is presented and received as well. I'm absolutely no phycologist....I just stated my feelings and hoped it didn't offend anyone. In this day and age you can't sneeze in public without someone going off the deep end. Keep Strutting! 👋

  • @danielevans9379
    @danielevans9379 16 днів тому +11

    I’m 58 years old and have spent almost my entire adult life alone. I never would have imagined that when I was young. It’s just not as meaningful life when you do everything alone.

    • @oliviacasino8888
      @oliviacasino8888 16 днів тому +9

      Hang in there dear friend…all lives are meaningful. Life is a gift please know your’s is not without purpose and reason. Be there for yourself and others, it all counts.

    • @danielevans9379
      @danielevans9379 16 днів тому +3

      @@oliviacasino8888
      Thank you for the words of wisdom
      ❤️🙏

    • @AfterDARK.Records
      @AfterDARK.Records 14 днів тому +1

      🦾🩷🦾

  • @Krystal-vd1ql
    @Krystal-vd1ql 16 днів тому +5

    There are many relationships you can be successful at. Men are not the only creatures on the planet fcs. I’ve had many relationships and now married to my second husband. He’s a wonderful husband. If I were single I’d be just as happy with good friends, a few animals and comfortable little home.

  • @ellobo1326
    @ellobo1326 16 днів тому +5

    One in six people are narcissists. Childhood trauma or not, one is rolling the dice if getting into a relationship.

  • @alimccreery755
    @alimccreery755 16 днів тому +3

    I can relate. Thanks for sharing 🤗

  • @houndmother2398
    @houndmother2398 17 днів тому +8

    Right there with you.

  • @lhart99
    @lhart99 18 днів тому +7

    I feel this, I was molested several times as a kid. The trauma has really screwed me up emotionally.

  • @viviennethorpe1035
    @viviennethorpe1035 12 днів тому +1

    Some of us may consider this sad..but I guess if one has childhood trauma one learns to navigate life to the best of one's limitations amd abilities accordingly..sometimes, what we ve never had we can never truly miss? ❤

  • @WelfareChrist
    @WelfareChrist 14 днів тому +1

    I'm turning 40 this year and I've noticed that a lot of traumatic stuff from my childhood keeps coming up. I guess in my 20s I was too busy figuring out who I was to notice it, in most of my 30s I was busy trying to establish a career and financial security, and now in my late thirties I'm getting more reflective and I've noticed I'm getting panic attacks or crying in public for no discernible reason. Then I realized that so much of the horrific abuse I suffered as a child was stuff I basically never spoke about ever, like I'm still keeping these secrets for my parents like when I'd lie over and over about where these bruises were coming from. I remember being in 2nd grade and coming up with all these lies about why I had this awful black eye and it didn't even occur to me until I was 36 how insane it is to punch an 8 year old in the face because the 8 year old was me, and it makes me so sad thinking about myself as a child having to be brave and lie to these adults because if I told them I'd get hurt. Only now I'm noticing how much and how deeply its affecting me.

    • @maryanneevans8812
      @maryanneevans8812 13 днів тому

      I'm so sorry you had to experience this. No child ever should. I'm sorry and sending you love.

  • @leonablack3516
    @leonablack3516 15 днів тому +3

    A long term happy relationship with a loyal, loving good partner is a myth and if it does happen it is very rare. We all have childhood trauma.

  • @sniferlip
    @sniferlip 16 днів тому +4

    Well this makes me feel better

  • @karlad4082
    @karlad4082 13 днів тому +1

    It’s okay. All you really need is loving yourself and you can still live the happily ever after story 😊

  • @allthingsnu4673
    @allthingsnu4673 9 днів тому

    I am 59 and although I dated some people in my younger years I have never felt very secure in relationships because of traumas I experienced in my childhood, teens and even in young adulthood. From one of those dating relationships I had a child who is now grown and happily married with two children. At first, I was ashamed when I became pregnant but now I am very blessed and grateful to have my child, grandchildren and son-in-law. I have not dated in many years now and don't know if I ever will again.

  • @hennagal7360
    @hennagal7360 19 днів тому +28

    33 seconds ?

    • @MichaelWaisJr
      @MichaelWaisJr 18 днів тому +7

      That’s what she said.

    • @jeanne8507
      @jeanne8507 18 днів тому +2

      @@MichaelWaisJr😂😂😂

  • @dewfall56
    @dewfall56 17 днів тому +4

    She was so gorgeous in The Natural.

  • @susansmith493
    @susansmith493 11 днів тому +3

    Heal thyself before you ruin someone else's life.

  • @blueberry8658
    @blueberry8658 8 днів тому

    Adult Children of Alcoholics and other family dysfunction, ACA, offers wonderful tools, fellowship and hope for healing from painful childhood experiences. It's not easy, but it can truly help.

  • @Ganeden999
    @Ganeden999 6 днів тому

    «At least you can avoid situations that might make you vulnerable especially in relationships.» Yeah! 👍

  • @nappyfries
    @nappyfries 10 днів тому

    I don’t want to be like this. I’ve been through a lot of trauma both as a child & adult. I’m 41 & trying to do a lot of healing. I want to have a successful relationship once in my life.

  • @blue_moon6490
    @blue_moon6490 15 днів тому +2

    I worked with her first husband when I was younger, he always seemed to still admire her.

  • @i_love_rescue_animals
    @i_love_rescue_animals 15 днів тому +1

    I completely understand where Glenn is (well, not COMPLETELY - I wasn't abused exactly like she was!). I'm so sorry you went through that and are still going through it. I think being alone is not the worst thing though. I hope Glenn has good friends and companion animals. Also hope she is in therapy and maybe doing meditation practice. I also am incapable of being in a romantic relationship after seeing my parents' incredibly dysfunctional marriage, and being bullied by my mom and my brother. I was not horribly abused - I was never physically abused, but the psychological affected me in such a way that I was never like "oh yeah, that's what I want - a relationship, a family!" Whenever a man would show any attraction to me, I would run. I did have a few, very short relationships - but just didn't "get it" and felt like I was suffocating. Now I'm old and have my pets and friends as companions and they are enough and probably better than what I could have achieved had I gotten into a long term relationship or marriage.

  • @JesgateOnDown
    @JesgateOnDown 17 днів тому +3

    OR THIS VERY WELL COULD BE UNDIAGNOSED AUTISM !!!
    Many people are (finally) being diagnosed in their 40s,50s, 60s +
    Autism can wreak havoc on forming stable long lasting relationships + several highly respected actors are autistic ...masking (copying other people's mannerisms) to *fit* *in* is synonymous with *acting* .....
    2 examples are Tom Hanks & Anthony Hopkins

  • @kathrynmolesa1641
    @kathrynmolesa1641 14 днів тому +1

    I loved her in the movie
    Sarah: Plain and Tall.

  • @urchickie
    @urchickie 18 днів тому +9

    I don’t think human are “mate for life” species. She shouldn’t blame herself.

    • @marthajean50
      @marthajean50 17 днів тому

      Our closest relative is the bonobo monkey. They're the exact opposite of "mate for life", in the extremest sense of the phrase.

  • @peterjeffery8495
    @peterjeffery8495 7 днів тому

    Childhood trauma in my case messed with my ability to judge people for who they were. I was the glass half full type which is why my adult life has been riddled with betrayal, especially by those I let got close to me. Somewhere around age 11 that part of my psyche stopped developing. However I am still striving for a meaningful relationship.

  • @saffronskies333
    @saffronskies333 15 днів тому +1

    We just want to be loved the way we want to be loved. Not like our parents loved us..

  • @lynnienorris5776
    @lynnienorris5776 16 днів тому +3

    But...
    You're a hell of an Actor

  • @rwss2012
    @rwss2012 17 днів тому +3

    Trauma is a tool the enemy uses to keep us bound ad distant from God and His Blessings. #PrayAboutIt🙏🏽

  • @AussieAngel826
    @AussieAngel826 16 днів тому +2

    I can relate to this

  • @SimoneNC
    @SimoneNC 20 днів тому +14

    Yeah me too

    • @ronbo30
      @ronbo30 20 днів тому +2

      If you have garbage from the past? Do yourself and the other person a favor, DO NOT MARRY. It will be a nightmare . Unless you can forgive and heal? Don’t marry. It’s a recipe for disaster.

    • @SimoneNC
      @SimoneNC 17 днів тому

      @@ronbo30 too late for that! I’ve had 3 failed and never again! But I have healed a lot since my last divorce

  • @frenchustube
    @frenchustube 17 днів тому +2

    Thank you for saying that because I’m in the same boat as you are. Because of sexual abuse as a kid, I was never confident in my life always on the lookout. Never trusting anyone being a loner, major anxiety, and depression. I have destroyed my health with alcohol. these abusers are monsters they don’t know the pain that they inflict to someone later in life.
    I endured such a shame that I left my country years ago . I never wanted to be here. People are nice here but it’s not my home. I’m kind of old to go back because every time i go back on vacation it reminds me of what i have lost.
    The molestor ,a doctor was 50 years old at least and i was 10. When i started to talk about it ,someone told me it was not really abuse because i am gay anyway!

    • @ElleGen
      @ElleGen 16 днів тому +3

      Same, CSA and alcoholism. Sending positive thoughts. If it's the U.S. you happened to move to, welcome & I'm glad you're here.

    • @frenchustube
      @frenchustube 15 днів тому

      @@ElleGen thank you!

    • @pwieland3934
      @pwieland3934 14 днів тому

      Hang in there. There is a growing movement of people speaking up about abuse by health professionals, many of them professional and college athletes of both genders - wrestlers, gymnasts - people going in for simple exams and being harmed. I think you will find in the liminal spaces of the web there are many people who have had experiences like yours and you are not alone.

  • @user-gc6fq5uv9b
    @user-gc6fq5uv9b 20 днів тому +13

    me too

  • @triciashortridge2309
    @triciashortridge2309 12 днів тому

    I am in the same boat with Glenn and most of the commentors in this thread. I have to look for other ways to fulfill myself. Amongst other things I do, having a couple good pups helps immensly.

  • @BoratMyWife
    @BoratMyWife 8 днів тому

    I really relate to a lot of these comments. I feel like there's something in me that makes meaningful socialization impossible. But what's strange is that I never faced very serious abuse as a kid, so I'm constantly wondering what it is about my life that made these feelings so extreme.

  • @Gfy69ytb
    @Gfy69ytb 15 днів тому +2

    Being part of the silent generation or coming after doesn’t give you a pass to stop doing the work on yourself. I had a complex traumatic childhood and I still have my mother alive, Still abusing me, but I do the work anyway, because I’m worth it. I don’t date or see anyone while I’m at it. I don’t have the option to leave her. It’s OK to identify with what Glenn went through, but you can’t cling to it until you die. Buck up and do the work.

  • @brecky
    @brecky 10 днів тому

    Totally understand this. ❤

  • @Ackermanmedia
    @Ackermanmedia 13 днів тому

    No wonder she played the villain so well in Fatal Attraction....Makes so much sense now.

  • @tara34952
    @tara34952 12 днів тому

    It's really sad😢

  • @stargazer4299
    @stargazer4299 20 днів тому +11

    Peace n Love 🌹🌹

  • @sallyclay1974
    @sallyclay1974 15 днів тому +1

    U never want to put all your eggs in one basket. Never rely on another, in a relationship to fulfill your happiness in life. That person can leave, die steal your money , etc! Be independent have a job, bk acct, stable housing, and a stable relationship. There r no guarantees in life.

  • @jmfs3497
    @jmfs3497 9 днів тому

    I wasn't in a cult... it was almost the opposite. My mom left when I was four. Dad remarried an Mommie Dearest type who effectively destroyed all family connection by putting herself first. Dad became a shell. I'm present, but I'm too patient for people. Small things that feel normal to others, feel so hateful and irrational to me. I stopped dating over 15 years ago just because i was tired of it not making sense.

  • @Miamiflow885
    @Miamiflow885 13 днів тому

    Reading everyones comments, glad my life isnt the only one put on the back burner

  • @edl6398
    @edl6398 14 днів тому +1

    Me too!!

  • @Teeveepicksures
    @Teeveepicksures 14 днів тому

    Some "trigger points" are happy memories. And they hurt the most as the guilt seeps in and you rot from the inside.

  • @ParticleLarry
    @ParticleLarry 16 днів тому +2

    Wow this is f'n depressing

  • @GhANeC
    @GhANeC 8 днів тому

    Yet again a reminder that most celebrities are not at all much different than most of us

  • @gilliangriggs6526
    @gilliangriggs6526 11 днів тому +1

    Jesus heals. Restores. Teaches me to love and be loved. Glory to God ❤

  • @RJAustin09
    @RJAustin09 16 днів тому

    wow this is interesting. I need to see if she has a book.

  • @ImnotassweetasIusedtobe
    @ImnotassweetasIusedtobe 10 днів тому +1

    I was her waitress. She was drunk, belligerent, violent, and abusive.

  • @grawakendream8980
    @grawakendream8980 17 днів тому +2

    relate

  • @Takumi_Did_Nothing_Wrong
    @Takumi_Did_Nothing_Wrong 10 днів тому

    Is this from a documentary? What's it called?

  • @Fegga1955
    @Fegga1955 15 днів тому

    ❤❤❤

  • @user-hs5pr5bt1v
    @user-hs5pr5bt1v 18 днів тому +8

    Time is a cruel mistress.

  • @PHN-2024
    @PHN-2024 17 днів тому +2

    I think Glen Close realistic portrayal of a Psychotic Lover with Abandonment Issues in the movie "Fatal Attraction" doesn't help her cause in finding and maintaining a Healthy Companionship.

    • @frenchustube
      @frenchustube 17 днів тому +2

      That’s a very good comment and I never thought about that. But you are right she was good in the role. She was probably relieving some of her own trauma.

  • @Liisa_011
    @Liisa_011 17 днів тому +1

    I always knew something was very off with Glenn Close Eerie.

  • @shankarbalakrishnan2360
    @shankarbalakrishnan2360 28 днів тому +4

    Hello glen❤❤🎉🎉

  • @nuthinbutlove
    @nuthinbutlove 11 днів тому

    It took me all of 67 years to realize that my childhood created who I am. Crazy huh?

  • @FlipMacz
    @FlipMacz 24 дні тому +5

    ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉great clip

  • @Leslie-es5ij
    @Leslie-es5ij 17 днів тому +3

    I always said that actors can act like real people, but they have a hard time being real people. I don't care what your trauma was , it wouldn't kill you to just be nice.

  • @lindatabler
    @lindatabler 17 днів тому +1

    Very similar for me....

    • @lindatabler
      @lindatabler 17 днів тому

      Not a cult but abuse of various kinds....

  • @iceman9610
    @iceman9610 17 днів тому

    That’s horrible.

  • @JohnGlen502
    @JohnGlen502 19 днів тому +5

    Cults are so dangerous. Kids of course don't understand.