I have an INFJ confession, don't know if anyone here can relate but every time someone(friends,family,people) ask me what I am thinking about my mind goes blank, It's not that I am not thinking about it but when I am thinking about how to answer the question I just feel like I can't explain it and so it feels like I am reading a language I understand but cannot read. Actually this goes for most of the questions I get asked that are personal and is about me. That's why nobody really knows me because when I get the chance to talk nothing real comes out, I have it all in my head but don't know how to put it into words and it's quite frustrating and I get misunderstood a lot.
Leah Same as with me. INFJs cannot and will not communicate personal feelings and thoughts with others unless they feel you are an authentic friend, which is a high honor from them. I myself can't communicate what I'm feeling or thinking, because it's in my own words and in a way that only I can understand.
Leah This is exactly how I feel. I have so much inside my head, I just don't know how to explain it when I'm asked to. And then I end up feeling like I come off as an airhead, when really my head is full of too much information.
Leah I'm [most likely] an ISTP, yet I feel the same way, too. It's like trying to describe a specific, rather abstract painting to someone whose never seen something like it. Just comes out as nonsensical blabbing in the end, for me.
Oh my gosh speaking a bully I was bullied to no end and right now at my stage of Life I take no BS from no-one as a matter of fact I need to turn down or calm down or pull back sometimes because I'm on top of every I'm just ready for it when someone comes or I think they're coming for me oh my goodness
same. ever since first grade upto 10th grade. to me i disassociated myself from it buy telling myself i wasnt bullied if i fought back and everyday was a hypervigilant struggle. because of the stuff i went through i hated seeing people act so evil to innocent people who where not looking for a fight and didnt want to stand up. like you i never wanted people to feel what i feel and go through that with no one on your side. i actually use to take the attention of the bully off their victim and onto me because i was numb and no one could hurt me anymore. i can never understand how people can do and say the things they do with no remorse for driving people to suicide, severe mental breakdowns because of being so alone in that deep sorrow and affliction, and of course ptsd and ruining their view and security of life. i believe a lot of infjs are infjs because of the trauma we have experienced and still holding onto their humanity trying to see the light in everyone despite the darkness. i still have a lot of mental and physical problems from all the fights and craziness inflicted against me. i am sorry you had to go through that. it really feels like something was taken from you cant quite figure out what. i hope you dont have ptsd social anxiety and chronic pain from it because no one deserves to deal with that especially at a young age. the world is very messed up and morals have been thrown out the window but even through your experience you still want to help people is inspiring and gives us hope for the future of humanity. hope your doing well now.
I had the same problem, for different reasons. I was off in my little Ni world and others didn't like it. My one lucky break was that I grew tall early on, and I was bigger than the other boys in my class. They still didn't accept me, but they did leave me alone. That was a huge plus for me, because alone suits me well.
Thats great Charles, we need more compassion. The more we give the better. In all cases we are not attached to this material basic world. We will all leave sooner or later anyway, lets use the time wisely..
I think realizing Adolf Hitler was an INFJ can really help us to occasionally take a step back and reevaluate if our ideas are really all that great. Talk to people who disagree with your ideas and try to see things from their perspective. It's easy to get blinded by the beauty of your own inner world, but in the end, we have to live in the real world, and those two might nor conform to one another. Also, brilliant video. I'm looking forward to watching the ones for the other types.
When I feel myself wanting to eliminate certain people from society, I realize, this is not only selfish but not something I wish others to do to me; so to do to them is morally wrong. However, do we allow evil to conquer righteousness? Well, perhaps the perfect martyr considers that the only alternative; so God maybe a martyr who cannot die...anyway. When I feel violent in order to create more peace, I have to reanalyze my thoughts in a way to try to reach the ones I am strongly opposing and hopefully create a peaceful diplomatic relationship with them.
Watch "Adolf Hiter: The Greatest Story Never Told". Me in all my INFJness absolutely hates to see a man, especially one that shares our type, constantly demonized and hated, very much contrasting the German people's total adoration for the man during their time. I know the words "Hitler" and "innocent" being in the same sentence is unfathomable these days, but if you're not convinced by my words, then be convinced by the sheer amount of books, newspapers, government documents, radio broadcasts, memoirs, etc. that the documentary sources its information from. You will have a sort of reinvigorated caring for people in these times, as funny as that sounds.
A few Infj confessions: 1. Afraid Abd worry that I make the people I love and genuinely care about mad because then that makes myself mad as well. 2. Having so many ambitions, ideas, dreams but too little energy to achieve it because we spent too much energy on our minds. 3. Always striving for inner peace and hates stressful situations. Absolutely chaotic. 4. Always prepared and make notes and lists for important things. Usually only works well if it's something they Have to by fate, and things that they worry over the most bc they genuinely care about it.
@shelby M where as you and I find relief in the gathering of similar people after a life time of being an odd duck Paolo feels his specialness is being stolen.
shelby M thank you for this. This is the first time I’ve ever commented on an INFJ video but I have always wanted to argue this. Of course there are so many in one video-all coming to the same place to look for whatever.
shelby M I think there's truth to that but after reading soo many comments and responses on several INFJ videos usually like 1/3 (or about 1/2 on viral ones) are obviously posted by someone who doesn't appear to have the same mindset. They often feel obligated to make people understand they're one when in reality we already know most won't comprehend our life views,especially on the internet..so we tend to not even try. Real INFJs often comment their deep inner thoughts,feelings,struggles,etc and will never waste their time trying to prove to people that they're different when we already realize that they are incapable of perceiving things the way we do. We just want to be understood. We've lived our whole lives like this and quickly learned you will be frowned upon or labeled as a narcissist if we try to explain our isolating feelings or thoughts to most.
Really starting to hate my typing. I've just started diving deeper into this and realized that I as an INFJ don't do a dang thing except think and dream. While these are fantastic things to start from, Without proper implication they are hallow, self-gratifying habits for my own pleasure. The line he said "idealistic, or more accurately perfectionist" really hit home. I honestly kinda wish I was ENFJ or ENFP. Those kinds of people get out there and actually interact with other souls, delivering kindness and selflessness. Meanwhile, here I am sticking in my room, dreaming of dumb stuff that has no basis in what's actually going on. My deepest apologies for the rant, I do not mean to be negative. Perhaps someone else feels the same?
One of the nice things about being an INTJ is that while we don't get out there delivering kindness either, we tend to not stress over that fact. But that book that hasn't been written yet, or the design that has us stumped for the moment can eat us alive. As Michael mentioned in the video, Plato said that all of us are facing hard struggles with life. Voltaire expanded on that concept with his book Candide. Don't feel bad about enjoying your time contemplating concepts. Someone has to do that or they will whither on the vine. You are a tender of the vine of ideas. Be proud, because it is important.
Thank you so much! Also, were you referring to my avatar? Mine is a leaf and yours is a beautiful portrayal of the human form (if I may say so)...what similarity did you have in mind?
I am an INFJ, I’m a romantic, I long for deep meaningful connections, I am hypersensitive to the world around me, sensing and feeling things easily. I am a hermit and a professional oil painter.
"They forget they synthesized it." I think this is why INFJs are so sensitive. To me, my ideals (my values) seem *obvious* (they exist out in the world), so when somebody steps on them, it doesn't feel like a matter of opinion, it feels like a matter of *choice*. You *chose* to step all over my feelings. It's obvious you weren't supposed to do that thing that upset me, how could it not be?
Despite this video being created in 2014 it’s one of the most specific, objective, and unbiased sources for information on INFJ psychology that I have seen online. Great job.
It is interesting how this type has suddenly become very fashionable. I took Jung's test many years ago and discovered I fall into this type of INFJ. Jung told us not to place too much emphasis on types, they are guides, rough maps to help us navigate the mysteries of existence.
Inferior Se: Woman sitting contemplatively in the field while the lion creeps up. I laughed when I saw that! Seeing someone for years and not noticing their facial features. Yup! I'm more focused on the motivation behind it. Sort of like: Officer: Can you describe the man you saw? INFJ: He looked sort of forlorn. He looked lost, desperate and his eyes despaired. Officer: Did you notice what he was wearing? INFJ: Um ....
Great video! The constant use of the word "delicious" kept me entertained. :) I didn't know that my personality type was seen as something others envy....based on my experience, I've always felt kind of like the oddball but not always in the best way. I can't seem to find too many people that can relate to me so I've learned to pull back altogether and keep everything to myself.
oddball - totally, although I'm quite sure that other people don't necessarily see me that way (due to my high adaptability perhaps), that's how I often feel.
Feel the same. I have sensed some jealousy at times though I don't understand why. I do know I can do a lot of things very well (art, writing, music - singer, writing music, am attractive) but know my shortcomings (humanness) and feel envy ruins possibly good relationships. Also, I love to see ways to help people with their problems but they don't seem to care about what troubles me sometimes. It can be very lonely out there.
I’m 66 uears old and just recently found out I’m an INFJ. I was a fighter pilot for twenty years some decades ago and every single flight was a treat. Now I understand that during my sorties I was forced out of my head into the sorrounding world and I needed that. They gave me a sort of meditative experience. I’m happily married to an ESFP. She used to be a professional operasinger, but is now an acclaimed CEO of a governmental bureau. I live a quiet life while she is busy. It’s perfect.
I am an INFJ(-T) but I don't have a lot of trouble at all with remembering specific details whether its names, dates, visual features, age, places etc especially if there is an emotional attachment. The only problem I have with detail is the mathematical side of it, I have always struggled maths and any type of information that includes mathematical problems to solve. I'm much more suited to the artistic and creative side of thinking and living. But my mind does work in a very logical way too, even though I love idealizing about whatever stuff I think about, I am also very realistic and critical in thought and awareness.
I love math and very good at it, but I loved the abstract concepts, not the tedious way of practicing it. I find it is similar to art, btw I can draw pretty well. I think after all I love abstract concepts above all
Sometimes I hate being an INFJ. I've known I've always been different. But sometimes I proudly say I'm an INFJ. Or should I say "Thinker". Because at times or not really at times, I'm ALWAYS in my head. It's pretty annoying and sometimes I wish it wasn't this way. Too much thinking, creating problems that didn't exist in the first place! It's crazy.
@@sahibsajid639 oh and it likes looping depressing thoughts over and over and over again desperately trying to understand meanwhile you lie in bed (where it happens most often for me) and you feeeeeel like shiiiiiiit. especially with that Fi critic hating on you...
Finally can I get a amen, plus if you maybe happened to die as a baby, say drown. And have somewhat of a induced savant syndrome, but one gift didn't pop out, your good at everything, but art or a musical instrument. Can you say "INFJ on Steroids'". ALWAYS in you head can be a living hell, not only when your awake, but go to sleep and dream about shit, you have the answer but your never out of your head. I don't know about you all but I'm 58, no one knew what the hell was wrong with me or why I acted the way I acted. Every teacher I ever had "He can do the work, but he doesn't try" I hated school and barely graduated, my Dad use to laugh and call me Mr Know IT All, I never could figure out what he was laughing at. Upon taking the ASVAB* and LOL its not important anymore, none the less it has been a struggle, finding stoicism after giving away half my shit twice from those pesky divorces put my life on track 25 years ago. Any other INFJs else born with depression? Let me rephrase that, anyone else born irritated at the world, pin up frustration til you pop off like a volcano every now and then. Compounded by being born a warrior, (I hate it that my mother had too once ask "Why do you always resort to violence's?" Basic math mother, take one asshole with an attitude or being a bully plus me ((after joining the AirForce) was enlisted to be a Marine but had brains enough to go for the knowledge Air Force Crypto Maint 306x0) Who aint going to put up with that crap and the equals, one more ahole punched in the head for being a DA. The challenge is what I had been missing in my life. I was like a sponge for knowledge and have been the last 40 years. Does anyone else think gravity is weak because it spans the multiverse un like the other forces that only interact within our own universe. Which makes Gravity and Consciousness fundamental. Never told a sole this stuff, thank you all for being emotional tampons, scratch that off the list. Probably wont be back and don't bother wasting one of your 1440 with a reply. Always Remember, Never forget. Antidepressants should really be called "Damn this makes EVERYTHING MUCH more bearable" pills, You were born to live a Stoic life style, 3 task or projects at once is the magic number that you can manage at once without being over or under task. Even though you never say anything out loud or belittle anyone, Yes 80% of John Q Public is oblivious and INCAPABLE of comprehending things the way you do, yet you often wish you could be just like that. And last but not least "Common sense is not a flower that blooms in everyone's garden" Got other shit to do. Rick
I have never liked that expression: 'Quite helpful' - something either IS helpful or it is not, saying someone is 'quite helpful' is condescending -commit man!
This is just the best INFJ video out there. I wanted to cry watching and hearing what you had to say about this type. My heart still feels heavy and understood
I feel so emotional, because I feel like this is the best that someone or something will ever understand me... it’s as if... after feeling anxious about who I am as a person for so long, I finally understand :,)
I'm an infj and the biggest problem I seem to have is that, though I truly will put everything I have into a relationship, most of my friends are fine with "light" friendships. I guess that infjs are unique in that they expect people to be very open but are private themselves. But don't these people understand that I need to basically be with them always and do everything I can for them? Am I the only infj with this problem?
Micah Snow I used to have that same problem, or anxiety, if you will. I consistently test as INFJ, and I think that sense of wanting complete devotion out of a relationship may be related to that. Either way you're not alone! For a while anyway I often felt like I there wasn't enough closeness or devotion in even my closest friendship, because we still didn't talk about EVERYTHING or be nearly completing each other's sentences or something...but I don't feel that way now, I think because I realized and accepted that I already had what I wanted. What I really wanted was to know I had a close, true relationship with someone, and while it didn't look like I dreamed it would look like, I still had a very good relationship with my family and with several friends. Its not that I settled for less, its that I realized I already had it, I just didn't recognize it because I thought it would look perfect. I dunno if that helps?
Michael Pierce hmm. Now I will have to go back and reexamine exactly how deep the relationships are. I am known for having unrealistically high expectations.
Michael Pierce I have the same sort of complex. I always feel with my relationships that I am never as close with the other person as they may feel towards me. It's always one-sided. Though I put in a lot of time to make my friends happy by remembering what they like and doing favors for them, I don't think I am necessarily as close to them to consider myself their "friend". Though I know, a friend is someone you can talk with and trust, I feel we never relate to each other on a deeper level. In the end it may feel dissatisfying but I have learned to see, just as you, that I already have the benefits I could ever get from relationships. All that is needed to be done is to be appreciative of the other person, respect them and respect yourself, and learn from each other. That is the sole reason we run into any person at all, I tend to believe. ^^
Micah Snow You could be an ISFJ. ISFJ types are known to deeply care for others and develop meaningful connections with many people, and of course hold high expectations for them to reciprocate just as much. ^^
No I'm pretty positive I'm infj. I've taken the test multiple times and every aspect of that personality fits me except for the organization skills. Organized is one thing I am not.
5:34 OMG.......spot on. :( I love hearing other people's stories, not seeing them for what they are, but what they have gone through.@_@ thanks for this video, enlightening!
I think some thanks is in order from me to all of my viewership: this video has gotten more views and likes in a week than all my other videos have in months and multiple weeks, and for all of my videos I've gotten nothing but praise. So thank you everyone for your support! My video on INFPs will hopefully be done sometime next week!
Michael Pierce You described perfectly this huge ability to empathise with other people. My mother is an INFJ and she sometimes says she literally feels the pain (or happiness) of other people, even if they are complete strangers. Also, it is interesting to point out that INFJs sometimes simply can't understand strong Fi users. INFJs always think about feelings of other people and they are willing to sacrifice their own needs for the good of the community. But it is more difficult to them to have clear inner principles (INFPs, for example, don't have much problem with that; they always know what is right or wrong for them). For INFJs, it is sometimes like this: If our actions help other people and make them feel better, we are doing the right thing. If we are making trouble for others, we are doing the wrong thing. Feeling of other people are what matters. In any case, this ability to empathise is a great thing, although it can sometimes lead in the wrong direction. Great video, by the way
Michael Pierce Your functioning through Ti is amazing Michael.. I actually thought you were an INTP at first.. still doubt it though ;) .. excellent job, keep going..
This is such a smart video. I can’t describe how appreciative I am of the amount of time you’ve surely put into this. By extension, I’m sure all your other videos are just as quality. Amazing work 🍻
For myself, as an INTJ, my pessimism stems from my observing problems, seeing the clear solutions to those problems, but being completely unable to implement those solutions due to a lack of resources. I think that one day a super A.I. will not only see the solutions, but it will forcibly take the resources to actually make them happen. It may not be a happy ending though. :-( Back to the drawing board...
outside looking in? A friend once said it best "You're a social chameleon, you can equally appear as if that setting is your natural state, may it be a black tie event or a biker rally.
I really liked this video, you use the functions in a good, not so stereotyping or vague way as many others do. You also brought up some good manifestations of the infj and their thought processes. Yes. There is always a dilemma when making NiFe into reality. People might not listen or act rationally in line with our more complicated visions, why nfjs are often portrayed as grumpy wizards in some movies, surrounded by "fools". But then again, we can usually be very persuasive too. It works when you try hard and when you become more passionate about your ideals. :)
I love that you broke it down in the beginning, especially how you explained why so many people are jumping on the INFJ train. The only thing for sure is that people still are looking for a way to explain themselves and as usual they all flock to whatever is popular and unique . So INFJ is what everyone wants to be. How can we know for sure? Quite a conundrum. Anyways, this was the best description I have heard and it was accurate but of course I do not base my identity on this or any other label for to do so would limit my existence. Perhaps that is why people feel such an intense need to attach names and labels onto themselves and others. I have found most people like limits and prefer to have the structure and support of their labels and names which give them a sense of security of parameters on how to think and act. We do it to others which is something I struggle with. But I am unusually defiant and contrary almost to the point of militant. I don’t like being told who or what I am and can be, even if it’s positive. Lol Maybe it’s my age but the world seems to not be getting better or happier just dreadfully more confused and way more insecure. More anxious and fragile in character. Too quick to take offense and point blame. It is almost desperate. Almost as if the human conscienceless is award of something it hasn’t fully realized yet. So very restless about something and doesn’t know why. Sometimes I can’t imagine how I ever didn’t see it before. I apologize. Just one of those INFJ intuition moments I have been having more and more and haven’t yet found the best way to express. Something is wrong. I know that much. It feels like humanity has overslept and is just waking up so still doesn’t realize it is late yet. Or it does and is desperately rushing around trying to make up time or denying they are late because they can’t face what it means yet. Danger. Like what happens to the wild animals when a natural disaster is going to happen. Some panic and make others panic but the human animal is way out of touch with its connection to nature and combined with the problem humans have with accepting their mistakes and admitting they are clueless you have a bunch of panicked animals who don’t know why and so make up all sorts of reasons why or flat out ignore and deny the feelings. Well, I guess we will see. I don’t know maybe I am insane. Lol thanks for making the InFJ a human rather than an aspiration or cool new hip fashion.
we stand before some major change (the heaven will bring it) we are the early awakened. the others are asleep but acting arrogantly as if they are awake. dont take them too serious, dont focus on them, they are unknowing. let them be. or they will make you sick!
Every time I feel like I need to 'find' myself, I think of watching this video (and have now for the x-d time), and each time it feels like I'm going back to my roots. This video makes me feel so understood. It's like I see myself in these explanations, without being able to really fully grasp the logic. None of my friends would ever understand what I see in this. What appeals to me and feels so magnetic are the insights and making (at least a bit of) sense of why I think in a certain way that to others often seem overly complicated. 'They are never satisfied with an incomplete or limited understanding of a subject, and can't rest...' - this is exactly what I go through on a regular basis. Even now when writing this comment (or in general on social media), I feel a strong urge to edit, re-edit myself and delete the post altogether, because I feel that I have not sufficiently accounted for everything, every aspect of what I think. However lately I've tried to resist that kind of urge and try to just do my best (with videos, blog posts, emails, messages) within a given time and try to wrap things up faster. So now I'd better hit the 'comment' button before I change my mind! Thanks so much for having made this video! :D
This is so fascinating and I really enjoyed listening to you. Considering I like to see things in relation to other things, it surprises me that I never considered that my spiritual beliefs (seeing everything in the universe as deeply connected) might depend upon my personality. You mentioning it here has given me something to think about.
How do you other INFJ's do in the work world? This "System" of our earth.... i find myself having a 2 year max anywhere....even after promotions.....and benefits from employers....after i feel...that i i've lived as an example long enough.
Yes! Finally someone understanding my problem. I can only stay for a year before having the urge to break free to feel other experiences. I feel insignificant if I stayed in a job that I know what to expect. I know its bad for my resume.
Its interesting that you say ENFJ & INFJ are sister types, as my older sister is ENFJ and I'm an INFJ - we always had an uncanny closeness, never faught and have always been very connected. I feel very lucky to have gad someone who is able to understand me in this world, even if there were times that I felt very alone and misunderstood by the rest of the world.
I honestly have to say, this was the best generalized discription of an INFJ I've seen/read. You pointed out so many more deep rooted things to my over all decision making and thought process. You're description of us believing that everything is interwebed as a whole, and unable to be believe everything can be completely understood made me realize I bace a lot of my decisions on that concept. For example, I have trouble in school sticking to the concrete criteria, particuarly in social and physical sciences. I find myself stopping my work and studying related concepts for hours to better understand the material given to me in a holistic sense, to the point that I would need to rush my work from "wasting" my time. Thus, though I understood it to such a strong degree, physical work falls short (At least my notes are great for tests, lol!). In terms of sensuality, you're spot on. Certain things like food, drinks, drugs, sounds, sights, etc., can make me feels so amazing, but it has to be situationally perfect or else it really pisses me off. If they're even a bit off, my emotions shock me sometimes. Like if a cold spaggetti noddle touches me, I get extreamly grossed out to the point that I can't control my reaction. Or if I can't find music or a tv show that seems to fit right according to my mood (which, with movies/shows, I never really know until I find it), i just keep serching until I get pissed because it doesn't right, and I give up on the idea. I generally only ever smoke weed and take adderall, and I feel frustrated if I smoke weed when I don't want to relax or have none-physical fun, and I won't take adderall unless I'm in a situation where I can be either highly productive or active. I'm extreamly sensitive to cold/heat. I don't like things touching me. Sex generally does nothing for me, but I still long for it... Yeah, that's a weak sensor for you! Hahah.
+Morgan Brown "In terms of sensuality, you're spot on. Certain things like food, drinks, drugs, sounds, sights, etc., can make me feels so amazing, but it has to be situationally perfect or else it really pisses me off. If they're even a bit off, my emotions shock me sometimes. Like if a cold spaggetti noddle touches me, I get extreamly grossed out to the point that I can't control my reaction." This would be a pointer towards ISFJ over INFJ, in my opinion - both Ni and Si tend to relate things to something ideal, and the way you put this one is something I'd say is not indicative of Ni or Se, but very typical of Si. Most descriptions of Si as a function and especially the SJ types can be pretty bad, though (Michael's ones here are far better than most, I highly recommend watching them). My own take on Si, heavily inspired my Michael: www.reddit.com/r/mbti/comments/447jyt/how_does_si_work_especially_in_the_tertiary/czo31sb
Interesting point. I have actually been thinking lately that I may not be a Intuition dominant, simply because it's hard for me to remember the information Ni seems to be giving me. Thus, being less able to identify its functionality. At the same time, I can't be a sensor. I'm so bad at recalling past things, I can recall the meaning behind it, but what physically happened. I know that Seems kind of Si like, but its mainly revolving around my feelings. Which makes me think (among many other things, of course) that my typing is correct, because Fe and Si work together. It just seems as thought it's Fi and Si working together... which it obviously isn't. Which confuses me lol. I just am so bad with sensory anything. I can remember directions, where I put my phone 30 seconds ago... and I'm only 18 lol. Also, my intense feelings towards sensory detail tends to be all revolving anxiety. Which indicates, to me but correct me of I'm wrong, that it's because I have a weak sensing function. I've had OCD and at a point, phobias to a dozen things. I couldn't be around spray or loud/repetitive sounds without having a panic attack. There was a point for a few months in High School when I didn't eat because I was terrified of it making me sick. Looking back, I kind of view that as my Se being there and taking in information, but being so weak that I couldn't handle it. My logic may be flawed, who knows.
+Morgan Brown Being uncomfortable with sensory things does not necessarily mean the function is weak. If anything, a weak function tends to manifest as obliviousness, black and white application, and going towards extremes in its use. (As Von Franz said, the Ni dominant has a tendency to be "terribly immoderate" in its indulgment in the simple pleasures). I Si is not memory. It is a focus on how things affect you, what experiencing them feels like (this is not a conscious focus, just a mental habit a person isn't necessarily even aware of). It's more about what and how you remember, how you experience things, not how much you remember or how good you are at stereotypically "S" activities - an ISTJ in an online community I'm part of says his memory is pretty bad and an Ne dom he knows basically remembers everything. Another one recounts: "I notice temperature and humidity changes before most people do, and whine about them." "I've had OCD and at a point, phobias to a dozen things. I couldn't be around spray or loud/repetitive sounds without having a panic attack. There was a point for a few months in High School when I didn't eat because I was terrified of it making me sick. Looking back, I kind of view that as my Se being there and taking in information, but being so weak that I couldn't handle it. " Se, if anything, doesn't give a shit. This is inferior Se: www.celebritytypes.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/hitchens.jpg
I do actually indulge myself in simple. I have a high tendency toward quality over quantity. My mom is certainly an INFJ and she does the same thing. My dad who recently passed was EXTREMELY practical (ESTJ for sure). My mom was like that to an extent, baced on the fact that she grew up with 5 siblings and knew my dad young. But she would always splurge on expensive restaurants and such. I noticed myself doing the same thing. Pay for little things that are nice, when I probably should be paying for, say a new phone right now. As for memory... Mine use to be miraculous. I remember my mind playing things on repeat with little of my attention to it, in order for me to remember things. Adding up times between things to have a firm understanding of what I need to do in how much time. Sophmore year in high school, I remembered every single teacher I had, how many of them acted, and random "scenes" of conversations. My memory has weakened sense about 2-3 years ago, when in sophomore year I developed Derealization disorder (basically, your mind shuts out the external world, always due to stress..) This made a lot of things hard for me. I could hardly read for a while, because I wasn't retaining everything. I always loved learning, so this was rough. Even more rough because my memory started fading, but I didn't realize it until I got better. It's almost like my Ni has to go through it's process in a more round about way to be able to remember things that I use to somehow just know. I remember telling my mom a few stories of myself when I was young, that she experienced with me, and she was shocked by how much I remembered. As for the part where people notice the change in temperature more than the change in people.... Oh no haha. That's not much like me. I can read people like a book. An old friend of mine, one who I only hung around about 5 times, he texted me a little bit ago telling me how he was trying to find my number because he thought we had a connection due to the fact that I understood what he was feeling before he realized he was angry/upset. But boy, is that a reoccurring thing in my life. Change in temperature is not something I'm able to identify. 20 degrees and 50 degrees feels the same to me, I wouldn't be able to tell you that theres a 30 degree increase. It just affects my body, and that's what I notice. If kind of cold, I just get stiff, If I'm really cold, I shake bad. I only really pay attention to it because it hits me so hard and I can't control my body from shaking lol.
saw this the day before yesterday. really helped me get a picture of myself as a process. helped so much too that i can see others as being a viable human and not retards because they don't immediately grasp that i'm showing them how to live better lives. actually just had kind of fun interactions today with the same people who were so frustrating and embarrassment causing the day before. And, what happened was, that i lightly interacted and in most cases was able to suggest some small helpful thing they might do to make themselves heal or have more fun or whatever, and have them happily enfold my ideas into their reality. this also seems to be helping me step back into my own creative work and not feel like such a failure, not feel like i can't be creative when i don't actually like the material world of created objects. evidently, concept is an intuition and construction is an object. concept is infinite and construct is finite and knowable. Thank you.
I was raised by two INFJ parents (quite unusual). I'm an INFP. I had an extremely warm upbringing, consistent, solid, loving and ideal emotional support. Likely superior to anyone else's I've ever known. Things were generally excellent. Yet, things could be very vague, and I felt as if life and household was oddly brought to realization, and there was always a bizarre, subjective sense of rigidity around. As if values and principals were in place, but I never quite knew why, and I always looked for answers to fulfill my own personal Fi needs, but there was nothing to grasp. I looked for external linkings and patterns, and couldn't access my parents' internal reasonings. My parents were always mystified by my organic interests and inborn values, and were confused by what I would find interesting, because it wasn't derived from a social truth. Neither I or my parents are "right", and this sounds more negative than it was (I am truly fortunate for my family), but there is a disconnect between INFJs and INFPs regardless of how warm each type is.
you make beautiful videos. I just finished watch this one and the INFP video. The images you select are so evocative and minimally displayed. You are so appreciated.
Thank you! I send these videos to help people determine who they are if they are between types or confused ("sometimes I'm an INFJ, and sometimes I'm an INFP")...NO, no you're NOT. 😂 People often test, then walk away and have no understanding of MBTI at all. There are enormous mistyped INFJs than pretty much anything, because INFJ is the new black, and lots of people pad their tests I think, or try to make it fit. I know an ISFJ and INFP who really thought (or really wanted to be) an INFJ, but they just weren't, and I sent them videos of yours. 'LOOK. See?! You're just as cool as they are, knock it off!' Hell, I'm an INFP and I'm sad that nobody wants to be one, or that we're considered the pathetic little cousin of INFJ :( I appreciate how you say any type can become a hero, because it's true.
You're welcome Michael. :) Thank you so much for sharing and your ever-considerate manner of delivery! "driven to discover the ideal vision of how best to solve problems in society... attempt to communicate it to the world" Yes Yes Yes!!! I've spent almost a decade trying to discover this "purpose"! ...resonate with all the rest as well. Feels so wonderful to see where I fit in.
I have never so quickly understood a concept than by watching this guy's videos. An exaggeration of course, but the sentiment, ground-breaking Jaw-dropping awe, is accurate.
I hear you! All day everyday! I cant get over how often people do this with me: Friends, Family, random strangers on the street. Most conversations I have with people around me is just them protecting, divulging, sharing, or venting. At this point in my life, its just humorous. Sometimes I get the feeling its not actually ME they are trying to talk to, but more so a representation of some sort of soundboard they are looking for or attaining to
Peace Mike. Since its inception, I've watched this (@ least) dozens of times. Literally. And, today, for the 1st time, I noticed the brilliant & vibrant line pattern within the fractal design of your thumbnail. That's all. Ok bye.
Observations: -Ni has allowed me to observe, extrapolate, report criminals who thought they were anonymous, on very little observable data. -Less astute people think I'm psychic. -Strangers tell me their life history and problems, because I listen without judging. Actually, I suspend judgement, to be fair. -People sometimes think I'm a childlike idjit, until they realize my theories provide solutions. -I'm a stranger in a strange land, without a doubt.
OMG.. this vid is to creepy true.. I've just recently been moved to know that I am closest to that of an INFJ 110% and this vid is mind-blowing descriptive of my psyche. Amazing.
I think the nature of both the INFJ and the ENTP make for an interesting relationship. The black-hole nature of the INFJ's Ni-Se attracts the ENTP. And the mystical nature caused by their unique functional order creates very enchanting qualities. Besides that, the INFJ isn't dealing with someone who's Se-heavy since the ENTP isn't Se at all. This pairing wortks incredibly well both ways even though there are potential issues they can have due to the nature both have. Despite all that, I think that they work well together. And if you've seen both this video and the ENTP video, you can see how pairing them is good.
Thank you for stripping away the overly complimentary extreme of many characterizations of this type. I do believe that I am an INFJ, but it has been hard for me to accept as there are too many descriptions out there that seem to pander to a sort of spiritual superiority image of the INFJ. People often forget that Hitler was also an INFJ. INFJ's are more complex and just as capable of being flawed as any other type.
So I did some number crunching. Just assuming that half of the 1% of population in the world are male INFJs like me. When I divided 7 billion by 200, I got 35,000,000. Doesn't look like I'm so alone after all. :D
+I Sir Laughsalot Now, you just need to divide them into demographics for each and every individual country to find out how many of us are over the age of 65 and stuff like that.
+I Sir Laughsalot Oh just get on Fakebook,where they have plenty of so called INFJ forums where such heady topics as "How drunk will I get if I drink alcohol"? ,are offered up for us to contemplate.(**sarcasm**) I am deeply suspicious that most of these self-proclaimed INFJ's are indeed not INFJ's and merely wannabe pretenders...for such a small population,they seem to be everywhere.
But that's still only half a percent of the population. That means if you were stuck in a room with 100 random people, you'd probably be the only INFJ male and maybe even the only INFJ in the entire room. I'm pretty sure I've yet to actually meet another INFJ in my life, and it's kinda sad because our personalities are awesome lol
Hi I love this I am an INFJ from Belize in central America and I love this ..I understand this for it so speak of me ...and my best friend is an INFJ too.. it is such a fun to be a friend of someone just like you ..and true people will never understand us as we are so different ..I am glad to be born an INFJ
Very insightful, Michael. I'm so glad I found your channel. You really tap into the different psychological makeups of each type, with empathy and thoroughness. I am curious, what do you mean when you say the INFJ has a cold interior (compared to their warm and emotional exterior)? You contrast this with the seemingly cold exterior of the INTJ, who actually feels very strongly on the inside.
+MaybelleStyle I'm very glad you've found the channel useful and have enjoyed it! Thank you! As for your question, I was simply trying to express the reversal of roles for T/F between the INFJ and INTJ, where the INFJ prefers Fe/Ti and the INTJ prefers Te/Fi. I used "hot/cold" to more vividly represent the nature of Thinking (T) and Feeling (F) respectively. It's not that the INFJ is emotionally cold inside, or morally cold or anything like that, but simply that while the INTJ's inner world and self is pervaded by passion and highly personal like/dislike for things, the INFJ's inner world is ruled by unemotional logic and detachment. A useful video that gives my updated ideas on these axes and differences is ua-cam.com/video/GXCnhWVC8yY/v-deo.html. Hope that helps!
The description of a weak se is spot on. Everyone assumes I am highly skilled in self control because I hardly ever let my Id have some fun. Ironically this is because I have less control over it than others. I have created hard systems to limit my ID to accomplish goals, if I was to experience se without limitations or rules I fall off the deep end. I am a very black and white person because it is the easiest way for me to have order. This appears as if I have a high amount of self control, but it is more like I have a high amount of loyalty toward a system of intolerance of se/Id etc. When I abandon those systems I have nothing to fall back on so I have no control over se situations. -INTJ
(ENFP) Thank you for all this wonderful and bright information. You helped me understand alot about INFJs and the reason I am attracted to them mentally... energically... XD
THANK YOU. This video is great, and is really the most accurate depiction of my personality type that I have found so far. People really need to look at the functions more, there are way too many generic type overviews.
This was a great explanation of INFJ personality. I am studying personality theory in college and our class had to take the Keirsey Temperment Sorter II ( my results showed myself as INFJ) and write a reflective essay to analyze our results. This helped immensely! Thank you for this video. :)
Great job with the video, very nicely done. You're explanations provide good insight into how mbti works, your voice I find is also quite appropriate for explaining things. Keep it up.
I'm very glad you think Hitler is an INFJ as well. Because what can't he be? Every type has good and bad people. He really helps to put perspective on that. Because everyone assumes we are perfect and can't be bad. Thank you for mentioning that on the video. MY UNDERSTANDING HITLER AND INFJ: ua-cam.com/video/NY7HWf7boMo/v-deo.html
@@Anonymous_Anon882idk, I defo relate to the over/under indulgent as a personal flaw. Not to the extent that the images Pierce used suggest, but I did, for example unintentionally lose 2 stone (28lbs) over the course of a few months why trying to minimise suffering in other areas of life. The sensory world is scary in many ways.
The section on sensing is the truth. I didn't realized there was music at the beginning until I saw comments about it. Anyway, the picture at 13:30 is so true for when I'm in a chaotic environment although I also have bad tinnitus so that tends to make me more sensitive to things.
This is, by far, the most accurate illustration of my mind that I've ever seen. If anyone again asks how I draw conclusions I'm just sending a link to this video. Probably shorter (and more interesting) than anything I could come up with. Thanks!
Thank you from the core of my heart for this video. I've never watched a more complete description of the INFJ. Being an INFJ myself, You perfectly shows the good sides, as the bad sides of being one. For my part, I've been working - and still do every day - to keep a balance between the 2 edges, as I saw I could completely lose myself or completely cut myself from the world, food, relationships, idealastic ideas that others could perceive as totalitarian or strange... +Michael Pierce wouldn't you be an INFJ as well ? or maybe INTJ... Nevertheless, thank you...
Interestingly, I had guessed that you were an INFJ by how you word things in your video. And sure enough, I see comments that you are. Thank you for your very in-depth portrayal of INFJs.
As an intp i find infj interesting they are very convincing people. Their models make sense usually. I think Sam Harris is an infj and I think very highly of him, even though i dont share his total conviction doubt is what plagues me
The fact that people idolize INFJ's are so harmful, I've gotten INFJ on every MBTI and cognitive functions test I have ever taken and yet I still don't believe fully that I'm an INFJ because of how otherworldly and perfect this image of an INFJ is always made out to be. We as INFJ's are so closely acquainted with the guilt of not being perfect that is ironic that the INFJ image is made out to be almost godly in its perfection that we could not possibly ever reach. On another note I take philosophy as a course and now understand why some of Plato's basic ideas and theories made so much sense to me.
INFJs are far from perfect, they just happen to have one of the more preferable modes of operation. What I like about the couple INFJ videos on this channel is that he is much more detailed into the thinking process, and also points out some flaws, such as INFJs often being impractical. This was especially interesting to me personally because I've noticed that I can come up with perfect systems, or for example give advice that would perfectly solve a situation, BUT it would only apply to a perfect system with prerequisites in place, and because no system will have all these the perfect prerequisites in place, the idea therefore becomes impractical or unusable. The way I've always described myself is being a "theoretical thinker" as opposed to a "practical thinker". Though I argue you can't get practicality without theory. You could see though how this is not necessarily always an advantage, and for the purposes of daily life can be a hindrance.
Yeah! The only reason it's been so romanticized is so people can get views by using "The rarest personality" in their titles 🤣 INFJ is no more than simply an other personality type 👌
Great video! I really like your voice too. You sound a little bit like the actor of severus snape from harry potter. A bit emotionless, which makes me excited because you sound like more of a challenge to get to know (in comparison with "easy-to-read" people.) . Crazy INFJ, I know.
Wow, I thought it was just me!! I also noticed the similarity when I started watching which I found alluring to say the least. I always liked Snape. Good old mysterious Snape...
Michael Pierce Yes two comments confirms it my friend! But maybe INFJs are more likely to have a thing for Harry Potter and Snape in which case it will all be very well received. :) Carry on professor Snape. Also, is it possible to have one main type and a secondary type? Many tests and even a psychologist I went to see suggest ESFP/INFJ or that I'm somewhat of a mutt.
I honestly don't know, actually...in my take on Jungian theory the answer would be no, it eventually does come down to one set of preferences over the other, meaning the other is really just a behavior of manifestation of the other preferences in an interesting way. But that's just in my own take on the theory. If it helps, and you might have already, but you could peruse CelebrityTypes INFJ and ESFP sections and see if you relate better to one set of people or the other. They also have a test that I would recommend even though you've already taken plenty of tests, I think they do a better job of helping to differentiate people's types than any other tests I know of. There is also a great article that talks about the differences between the function axis that may be very useful to you. The INFJ and ESFP both have an Ni/Se axis, but the INFJ has a Ti/Fe axis while the ESFP has an Fi/Te axis. Let me know if any of those help at all... www.celebritytypes.com/test.php www.celebritytypes.com/infj.php www.celebritytypes.com/esfp.php www.celebritytypes.com/blog/2012/12/guide-to-jungian-function-axes/
As someone brand new to all these categorizations, what I've found with tests over at celebritytypes is that for every _one_ question I can answer decisively, there are about _five_ questions whose available answers strike me as inattentive to detail. Sometimes woefully inattentive, to crucial detail. Framing questions in a "What is _more_ true of you" manner is great and all, but merely allowing for a vague spectrum doesn't leave room for further contextualization. Every layer of context should be viewed as non-trivial when it comes to certain questions. This would be a problem even if the questions' decisive-to-indecisive ratio (answerable-to-unanswerable ratio) was a reliable five-to-one, as opposed to the unreliable one-to-five (as in my case). If the information gleaned by the test stems from this much unnuanced criteria, how much stock should anyone really put into these categories? Seems too restrictive for an in-depth final verdict. The best example of the type of double-edged sword I'm getting at: *** Which statement do you agree with the most? - Feelings are irrational and have no place in truth-seeking. - Logical analysis is a valuable tool, but some people seem sadly oblivious to its limitations. *** The first answer is dicey because feelings aren't irrational per se. One can understand feelings as having the capacity to be non-rational or even rational. That same person can simultaneously be in agreement with the view that feelings have no place in truth-seeking (especially if we're discussing ontology or epistemology). Had the answer been limited to "Feelings have no place in truth-seeking" I'd be much more comfortable opting for that. As it stands, I still have to choose that first answer over the one below it, and the implicit baggage of "feelings are irrational" as part of my answer cannot be stricken from the record. I'd like to think that nothing about me indicates a personality type who _by_ _default_ dismisses feelings as "irrational" and here I'm boxed into that view by mere association with rationalism. There is no filter for these curve-balls, and they pile up at the end of the tests. Sorry if this has been addressed numerous times in the past. I'm admittedly unfamiliar with the history of these tests and any progressions with their control mechanisms. Maybe it's different with other tests, but celebritytypes is the only one I've taken so far. Frankly, if a test has the tall order of ascribing someone a personality type, its questions have no business being multiple choice. But if they're going to be, we need more than two answers to choose from. All that aside, your video is really well done. I'll be checking out the backlog of videos on this channel.
AntiBullshitMan Yeah, they're annoying sometimes. The tests are a pointer that can guide you to the right direction, that's it. The reason is that the tests are based on dichotomatic thinking - there's four scales (or dimensions) and you get assigned a score on each one, which are then used to determine your preferences. They measure introversion/extroversion, whether you have a thinking/feeling preference (roughly translating into toughminded vs. accommodating, the Big 5 Accomodation scale is more about that than MBTI T/F), whether you prefer sensing/intuition (~ concrete vs. abstract thinking, roughly), and whether you're a Judger or a Perceiver. Roughly, Judgers are more organized and conscientious, while Perceivers tend to be more unorganized, spontaneous and keeping options open type people. This is all useful information. The problem comes when trying to make the test results conform to a functional stack. Say you're on the edge with your Thinking/Feeling preference: You get both INTP (a classic logician) and INFP (often an idealist and/or a writer) results. The functional stacks are: INTP = Ti Ne Si Fe INFP = Fi Ne Si Te By wavering, you can turn from a cold, detached logician to someone who makes his judgment primarily on deeply felt values and passions. Strange. Or INTP vs. INTJ. Both types are outwardly similar abstract systems thinkers. Yet, when you meet both kinds of people in person, they give off a totally different feel. Why is that? INTP = Ti Ne Si Fe INTJ = Ni Te Fi Se Not one function attitude in common! This is a profound difference in how you take in and process information, and it's supposed to be indicated by how conscientious and orderly you are? Very strange, to say the least. So use the tests to get a pointer in the right direction, but leave it at that. The test results and the functional approach Michael teaches here measure separate things. If you force them to match, you lose value both could give you. Let both be what they are, and you'll get more out of both. I'd check out the Ti type descriptions (primarily xxTP) being annoyed at the vagueness of the questions to that extent is a decent indicator of a Ti preference in my experience.
I'm an infj and it's baffling to hear how correct these things are. I've done this test loads and infj I am. it's hard. I feel like I'm the only one I know on my level. like I can share my ideas with no one because no one will get them. it's like a hidden knowledge like I can see stuff and link things that hardly anyone else sees.it's a strange feeling to just feel but litterally be on a different plane of conciousness than everyone you come across. it's not nice. it makes me look like a right smart ass sometimes. and your constantly alone.
Completely agree. I think most people who meet me think I'm stuck up or rude because I don't engage in chit chat like the normal person can, I'm just not interested in it and would rather not appear fake and try to pretend I am interested. You're right it is lonely, it's not like you can initiate a deep or heavily complex discussion without looking and sounding like a weirdo. I constantly feel as though I have to shape myself to the idea of what people want me to be, just so people don't think I'm weird.
I do feel that we are just extremely intelligent beings and I have let me get this right and have a low tolerance for idiots or I don't want to use the word idiot but I think you get what I'm trying to say
Maybe I'm INFJ, so I really enjoyed this, thanks. I can't find anyone around me who is INFJ, so I sometimes feel lonely...(I heard that INFJ is one of the rarest types.)
This is great! I finally know what I am.. not too long ago I had a quality supervisor who stated “I made her SICK cause’ I was just too happy and positive and had a vision that everything could go right” and for a few years I just thought she hated me but then I realized that she was judging my true form without probable cause #BSME
This vid is fairly accurate, but it seems to make Se look WAY too weak in INFJs. INFJs are very aware, when it comes to their perfectionism. You ask an INFJ too describe all the PROBLEMS in a picture, I'm pretty sure the INFJ will beat out almost all the other types in the # of problems they will find. You seem to be describing "working memory" too much as "Se". Working memory is correlated with general IQ. You'd probably find that INFJs have better working memories than the average person, since, as you said yourself, because of their strive for mastery of something. If you want to talk about INFJ weaknesses, then talk about Si. I agree that an INFJ has a very cold-rational internal form of logic...there are times that I'm much more "cold-blooded" in my thinking than my INTJ brother.
Agreed. He rectified it in his “revisited” video but what he’s talking about with Se in this video applies more to unhealthy INFJs with a certain ‘dyspraxic schizoidia’ than anyone-else. Normal INFJs aren’t that out of-touch with their Se at all.
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass. INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss. Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves. INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up. Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed. INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane. INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows. INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries? INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions. INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes. INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook. INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in. Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference. INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment. INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves. The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer. It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group. The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming. INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted) INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots! When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!" Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ. Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying. Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes. Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment. Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials. INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen. So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. No convert agenda, deeply empathic intellectuals who sincerely care about you. They have a excellent sense of humor also (wink).
The fact is that personality typology does not constitute "placing labels on people" nor does it remotely put them in a box, limit their potential or destroy their self-determination or freedom. That is all complete nonsense. Everyone has a definite personality type with various nuances and knowing your type is the basis for growing within it. The idea that type is just a "label" that limits growth is absurd. In psychology we use countless "labels" words and concepts to describe and understand our experiences and patterns thereof. Understanding them more precisely is the basis for growth and change. A psychologist who thinks type = oppressive labeling is not thinking very deeply about what the theory actually means and says.
I have an INFJ confession, don't know if anyone here can relate but every time someone(friends,family,people) ask me what I am thinking about my mind goes blank, It's not that I am not thinking about it but when I am thinking about how to answer the question I just feel like I can't explain it and so it feels like I am reading a language I understand but cannot read.
Actually this goes for most of the questions I get asked that are personal and is about me. That's why nobody really knows me because when I get the chance to talk nothing real comes out, I have it all in my head but don't know how to put it into words and it's quite frustrating and I get misunderstood a lot.
Leah Same as with me. INFJs cannot and will not communicate personal feelings and thoughts with others unless they feel you are an authentic friend, which is a high honor from them. I myself can't communicate what I'm feeling or thinking, because it's in my own words and in a way that only I can understand.
Leah This is exactly how I feel. I have so much inside my head, I just don't know how to explain it when I'm asked to. And then I end up feeling like I come off as an airhead, when really my head is full of too much information.
Leah I'm [most likely] an ISTP, yet I feel the same way, too. It's like trying to describe a specific, rather abstract painting to someone whose never seen something like it. Just comes out as nonsensical blabbing in the end, for me.
It's like you 're an excellent speaker in your head but when it comes out, you don't know what happened
Yes this is relatable!
I was bullied as a child and because of that I want to treat people better. I hate when people lack compassion
Oh my gosh speaking a bully I was bullied to no end and right now at my stage of Life I take no BS from no-one as a matter of fact I need to turn down or calm down or pull back sometimes because I'm on top of every I'm just ready for it when someone comes or I think they're coming for me oh my goodness
same. ever since first grade upto 10th grade. to me i disassociated myself from it buy telling myself i wasnt bullied if i fought back and everyday was a hypervigilant struggle. because of the stuff i went through i hated seeing people act so evil to innocent people who where not looking for a fight and didnt want to stand up. like you i never wanted people to feel what i feel and go through that with no one on your side. i actually use to take the attention of the bully off their victim and onto me because i was numb and no one could hurt me anymore. i can never understand how people can do and say the things they do with no remorse for driving people to suicide, severe mental breakdowns because of being so alone in that deep sorrow and affliction, and of course ptsd and ruining their view and security of life. i believe a lot of infjs are infjs because of the trauma we have experienced and still holding onto their humanity trying to see the light in everyone despite the darkness. i still have a lot of mental and physical problems from all the fights and craziness inflicted against me. i am sorry you had to go through that. it really feels like something was taken from you cant quite figure out what. i hope you dont have ptsd social anxiety and chronic pain from it because no one deserves to deal with that especially at a young age. the world is very messed up and morals have been thrown out the window but even through your experience you still want to help people is inspiring and gives us hope for the future of humanity. hope your doing well now.
I've been there that's what I when thru
I had the same problem, for different reasons. I was off in my little Ni world and others didn't like it. My one lucky break was that I grew tall early on, and I was bigger than the other boys in my class. They still didn't accept me, but they did leave me alone. That was a huge plus for me, because alone suits me well.
Thats great Charles, we need more compassion. The more we give the better. In all cases we are not attached to this material basic world. We will all leave sooner or later anyway, lets use the time wisely..
I want to be close to people, but be left alone.
Good luck with that :P
The hedgehog's dilemma
go to motorcycle rally's, 10,000 people at main stage or just your few friends at the camp site
It depends one on one is nice too😊❤ 5:05
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I think realizing Adolf Hitler was an INFJ can really help us to occasionally take a step back and reevaluate if our ideas are really all that great. Talk to people who disagree with your ideas and try to see things from their perspective. It's easy to get blinded by the beauty of your own inner world, but in the end, we have to live in the real world, and those two might nor conform to one another.
Also, brilliant video. I'm looking forward to watching the ones for the other types.
Great way to look at it
Drecon84 ikr
When I feel myself wanting to eliminate certain people from society, I realize, this is not only selfish but not something I wish others to do to me; so to do to them is morally wrong. However, do we allow evil to conquer righteousness? Well, perhaps the perfect martyr considers that the only alternative; so God maybe a martyr who cannot die...anyway. When I feel violent in order to create more peace, I have to reanalyze my thoughts in a way to try to reach the ones I am strongly opposing and hopefully create a peaceful diplomatic relationship with them.
Amen.
Watch "Adolf Hiter: The Greatest Story Never Told". Me in all my INFJness absolutely hates to see a man, especially one that shares our type, constantly demonized and hated, very much contrasting the German people's total adoration for the man during their time.
I know the words "Hitler" and "innocent" being in the same sentence is unfathomable these days, but if you're not convinced by my words, then be convinced by the sheer amount of books, newspapers, government documents, radio broadcasts, memoirs, etc. that the documentary sources its information from. You will have a sort of reinvigorated caring for people in these times, as funny as that sounds.
A few Infj confessions:
1. Afraid Abd worry that I make the people I love and genuinely care about mad because then that makes myself mad as well.
2. Having so many ambitions, ideas, dreams but too little energy to achieve it because we spent too much energy on our minds.
3. Always striving for inner peace and hates stressful situations. Absolutely chaotic.
4. Always prepared and make notes and lists for important things. Usually only works well if it's something they Have to by fate, and things that they worry over the most bc they genuinely care about it.
INFJs: 1% in the offline world; 80% on the Internet
@shelby M where as you and I find relief in the gathering of similar people after a life time of being an odd duck Paolo feels his specialness is being stolen.
shelby M thank you for this. This is the first time I’ve ever commented on an INFJ video but I have always wanted to argue this. Of course there are so many in one video-all coming to the same place to look for whatever.
shelby M you’re absolutely right. You have a good day too ! :)
shelby M I think there's truth to that but after reading soo many comments and responses on several INFJ videos usually like 1/3 (or about 1/2 on viral ones) are obviously posted by someone who doesn't appear to have the same mindset. They often feel obligated to make people understand they're one when in reality we already know most won't comprehend our life views,especially on the internet..so we tend to not even try. Real INFJs often comment their deep inner thoughts,feelings,struggles,etc and will never waste their time trying to prove to people that they're different when we already realize that they are incapable of perceiving things the way we do. We just want to be understood. We've lived our whole lives like this and quickly learned you will be frowned upon or labeled as a narcissist if we try to explain our isolating feelings or thoughts to most.
Umm...this is an INFJ video. Why would so many INFJ’s be watching and commenting? Think about it.
Really starting to hate my typing. I've just started diving deeper into this and realized that I as an INFJ don't do a dang thing except think and dream. While these are fantastic things to start from, Without proper implication they are hallow, self-gratifying habits for my own pleasure. The line he said "idealistic, or more accurately perfectionist" really hit home. I honestly kinda wish I was ENFJ or ENFP. Those kinds of people get out there and actually interact with other souls, delivering kindness and selflessness. Meanwhile, here I am sticking in my room, dreaming of dumb stuff that has no basis in what's actually going on. My deepest apologies for the rant, I do not mean to be negative. Perhaps someone else feels the same?
Same
that's more like an infp. infjs are both dreamers and doers. but the doing usually come later bc we are slow to start
Don't take it so hard just keep stepping in the right direction (against the wind usually).
That was a very INFJ thing to say ❤️.
One of the nice things about being an INTJ is that while we don't get out there delivering kindness either, we tend to not stress over that fact. But that book that hasn't been written yet, or the design that has us stumped for the moment can eat us alive. As Michael mentioned in the video, Plato said that all of us are facing hard struggles with life. Voltaire expanded on that concept with his book Candide. Don't feel bad about enjoying your time contemplating concepts. Someone has to do that or they will whither on the vine. You are a tender of the vine of ideas. Be proud, because it is important.
The most accurate, revealing and honest description I have heard so far.
Thank you so much! Also, were you referring to my avatar? Mine is a leaf and yours is a beautiful portrayal of the human form (if I may say so)...what similarity did you have in mind?
the way you say delicious is strangely gratifying.
Lol I know!!!!
David Walker called asmr
Yess, strangely I find myself extremely drawn to that expression 'delicious ideas'.
Ikr!
I am an INFJ, I’m a romantic, I long for deep meaningful connections, I am hypersensitive to the world around me, sensing and feeling things easily.
I am a hermit and a professional oil painter.
Im a water colorist 🎉
"They forget they synthesized it."
I think this is why INFJs are so sensitive.
To me, my ideals (my values) seem *obvious* (they exist out in the world), so when somebody steps on them, it doesn't feel like a matter of opinion, it feels like a matter of *choice*. You *chose* to step all over my feelings.
It's obvious you weren't supposed to do that thing that upset me, how could it not be?
Yess!!
Amen!
This
And then they tell me they didn’t intend to hurt my feelings or even know that they did 😭😭😭😭😭
Despite this video being created in 2014 it’s one of the most specific, objective, and unbiased sources for information on INFJ psychology that I have seen online. Great job.
I am an infj , but i've never met an infj ,would love to know other infjs too
Komal Agarwal i am an INFJ, if you would like to talk, i would love to do it
I am sure you have but you just didnt know it at the moment. We like to hide in plain sight.
I am an infj
I met another INFJ once. We made a very deep connection almost instantly. Definitely the best friendship I've had so far.
Komal Agarwal join some kind of internet discussion board for INFJ. Ocassionally members get together IRL
I have one parent INFJ and my brother is INFJ too! I feel so lucky! They are truly the best
Absolute LUXURY.. I'd enjoy even ONE INFJ in my life hehe! :)
Love INFPs!
It is interesting how this type has suddenly become very fashionable. I took Jung's test many years ago and discovered I fall into this type of INFJ. Jung told us not to place too much emphasis on types, they are guides, rough maps to help us navigate the mysteries of existence.
Inferior Se: Woman sitting contemplatively in the field while the lion creeps up. I laughed when I saw that! Seeing someone for years and not noticing their facial features. Yup! I'm more focused on the motivation behind it. Sort of like:
Officer: Can you describe the man you saw?
INFJ: He looked sort of forlorn. He looked lost, desperate and his eyes despaired.
Officer: Did you notice what he was wearing?
INFJ: Um ....
Yessss
Great video! The constant use of the word "delicious" kept me entertained. :) I didn't know that my personality type was seen as something others envy....based on my experience, I've always felt kind of like the oddball but not always in the best way. I can't seem to find too many people that can relate to me so I've learned to pull back altogether and keep everything to myself.
oddball - totally, although I'm quite sure that other people don't necessarily see me that way (due to my high adaptability perhaps), that's how I often feel.
Feel the same. I have sensed some jealousy at times though I don't understand why. I do know I can do a lot of things very well (art, writing, music - singer, writing music, am attractive) but know my shortcomings (humanness) and feel envy ruins possibly good relationships. Also, I love to see ways to help people with their problems but they don't seem to care about what troubles me sometimes. It can be very lonely out there.
I’m 66 uears old and just recently found out I’m an INFJ.
I was a fighter pilot for twenty years some decades ago and every single flight was a treat. Now I understand that during my sorties I was forced out of my head into the sorrounding world and I needed that. They gave me a sort of meditative experience.
I’m happily married to an ESFP. She used to be a professional operasinger, but is now an acclaimed CEO of a governmental bureau. I live a quiet life while she is busy. It’s perfect.
I am an INFJ(-T) but I don't have a lot of trouble at all with remembering specific details whether its names, dates, visual features, age, places etc especially if there is an emotional attachment. The only problem I have with detail is the mathematical side of it, I have always struggled maths and any type of information that includes mathematical problems to solve. I'm much more suited to the artistic and creative side of thinking and living. But my mind does work in a very logical way too, even though I love idealizing about whatever stuff I think about, I am also very realistic and critical in thought and awareness.
+Francisca 24 omg me too exactly to a T! -fellow infj
I really relate!
I absolutely relate to this.
I hate math.
I love math and very good at it, but I loved the abstract concepts, not the tedious way of practicing it. I find it is similar to art, btw I can draw pretty well. I think after all I love abstract concepts above all
Sometimes I hate being an INFJ. I've known I've always been different. But sometimes I proudly say I'm an INFJ. Or should I say "Thinker". Because at times or not really at times, I'm ALWAYS in my head. It's pretty annoying and sometimes I wish it wasn't this way. Too much thinking, creating problems that didn't exist in the first place! It's crazy.
The INFJ loop functions are not Feeling. It's Ni and Ti. A very cold set up.
@@sahibsajid639 oh and it likes looping depressing thoughts over and over and over again desperately trying to understand meanwhile you lie in bed (where it happens most often for me) and you feeeeeel like shiiiiiiit. especially with that Fi critic hating on you...
You sound schizophrenic
Finally can I get a amen, plus if you maybe happened to die as a baby, say drown. And have somewhat of a induced savant syndrome, but one gift didn't pop out, your good at everything, but art or a musical instrument. Can you say "INFJ on Steroids'". ALWAYS in you head can be a living hell, not only when your awake, but go to sleep and dream about shit, you have the answer but your never out of your head. I don't know about you all but I'm 58, no one knew what the hell was wrong with me or why I acted the way I acted. Every teacher I ever had "He can do the work, but he doesn't try" I hated school and barely graduated, my Dad use to laugh and call me Mr Know IT All, I never could figure out what he was laughing at. Upon taking the ASVAB* and LOL its not important anymore, none the less it has been a struggle, finding stoicism after giving away half my shit twice from those pesky divorces put my life on track 25 years ago. Any other INFJs else born with depression? Let me rephrase that, anyone else born irritated at the world, pin up frustration til you pop off like a volcano every now and then. Compounded by being born a warrior, (I hate it that my mother had too once ask "Why do you always resort to violence's?" Basic math mother, take one asshole with an attitude or being a bully plus me ((after joining the AirForce) was enlisted to be a Marine but had brains enough to go for the knowledge Air Force Crypto Maint 306x0) Who aint going to put up with that crap and the equals, one more ahole punched in the head for being a DA. The challenge is what I had been missing in my life. I was like a sponge for knowledge and have been the last 40 years.
Does anyone else think gravity is weak because it spans the multiverse un like the other forces that only interact within our own universe. Which makes Gravity and Consciousness fundamental.
Never told a sole this stuff, thank you all for being emotional tampons, scratch that off the list.
Probably wont be back and don't bother wasting one of your 1440 with a reply.
Always Remember, Never forget. Antidepressants should really be called "Damn this makes EVERYTHING MUCH more bearable" pills, You were born to live a Stoic life style, 3 task or projects at once is the magic number that you can manage at once without being over or under task. Even though you never say anything out loud or belittle anyone, Yes 80% of John Q Public is oblivious and INCAPABLE of comprehending things the way you do, yet you often wish you could be just like that. And last but not least "Common sense is not a flower that blooms in everyone's garden" Got other shit to do. Rick
I'm an INFJ and this is quite helpful in my examination of myself. Thank you very much! :)
I have never liked that expression: 'Quite helpful' - something either IS helpful or it is not, saying someone is 'quite helpful' is condescending -commit man!
This is just the best INFJ video out there. I wanted to cry watching and hearing what you had to say about this type. My heart still feels heavy and understood
Thank you! Wow! I'm glad I could help!
DELICIOUSLY DELICIOUS
So delicious
I feel so emotional, because I feel like this is the best that someone or something will ever understand me... it’s as if... after feeling anxious about who I am as a person for so long, I finally understand :,)
This is probably the BEST description I have ever heard on my type. Thank you so much for your work! :)
And I love how you say "delicious theory". That's one of the best ways to describe that feeling!
I'm an infj and the biggest problem I seem to have is that, though I truly will put everything I have into a relationship, most of my friends are fine with "light" friendships. I guess that infjs are unique in that they expect people to be very open but are private themselves. But don't these people understand that I need to basically be with them always and do everything I can for them? Am I the only infj with this problem?
Micah Snow I used to have that same problem, or anxiety, if you will. I consistently test as INFJ, and I think that sense of wanting complete devotion out of a relationship may be related to that. Either way you're not alone! For a while anyway I often felt like I there wasn't enough closeness or devotion in even my closest friendship, because we still didn't talk about EVERYTHING or be nearly completing each other's sentences or something...but I don't feel that way now, I think because I realized and accepted that I already had what I wanted. What I really wanted was to know I had a close, true relationship with someone, and while it didn't look like I dreamed it would look like, I still had a very good relationship with my family and with several friends. Its not that I settled for less, its that I realized I already had it, I just didn't recognize it because I thought it would look perfect. I dunno if that helps?
Michael Pierce hmm. Now I will have to go back and reexamine exactly how deep the relationships are. I am known for having unrealistically high expectations.
Michael Pierce I have the same sort of complex. I always feel with my relationships that I am never as close with the other person as they may feel towards me. It's always one-sided. Though I put in a lot of time to make my friends happy by remembering what they like and doing favors for them, I don't think I am necessarily as close to them to consider myself their "friend". Though I know, a friend is someone you can talk with and trust, I feel we never relate to each other on a deeper level. In the end it may feel dissatisfying but I have learned to see, just as you, that I already have the benefits I could ever get from relationships. All that is needed to be done is to be appreciative of the other person, respect them and respect yourself, and learn from each other. That is the sole reason we run into any person at all, I tend to believe. ^^
Micah Snow You could be an ISFJ. ISFJ types are known to deeply care for others and develop meaningful connections with many people, and of course hold high expectations for them to reciprocate just as much. ^^
No I'm pretty positive I'm infj. I've taken the test multiple times and every aspect of that personality fits me except for the organization skills. Organized is one thing I am not.
What a spot on video! Your accuracy rendered me misty eyed. I'm going to go out on a limb and say you're INFJ, as well?
I connected to so much in this video, especially seeing the universe as an interwoven system. Thank you for this.
5:34 OMG.......spot on. :( I love hearing other people's stories, not seeing them for what they are, but what they have gone through.@_@ thanks for this video, enlightening!
I think some thanks is in order from me to all of my viewership: this video has gotten more views and likes in a week than all my other videos have in months and multiple weeks, and for all of my videos I've gotten nothing but praise. So thank you everyone for your support! My video on INFPs will hopefully be done sometime next week!
whats your type sir?
Matuvo Namiikaze INFJ, good sir! And thank you so much for the praise! I'm glad you liked it and found it applicable!
Michael Pierce
ah, the wolf type, somehow i figured so, i love how you talk about them in such an indifferent way, no bias^^
Michael Pierce You described perfectly this huge ability to empathise with other people. My mother is an INFJ and she sometimes says she literally feels the pain (or happiness) of other people, even if they are complete strangers. Also, it is interesting to point out that INFJs sometimes simply can't understand strong Fi users. INFJs always think about feelings of other people and they are willing to sacrifice their own needs for the good of the community. But it is more difficult to them to have clear inner principles (INFPs, for example, don't have much problem with that; they always know what is right or wrong for them). For INFJs, it is sometimes like this: If our actions help other people and make them feel better, we are doing the right thing. If we are making trouble for others, we are doing the wrong thing. Feeling of other people are what matters. In any case, this ability to empathise is a great thing, although it can sometimes lead in the wrong direction. Great video, by the way
Michael Pierce
Your functioning through Ti is amazing Michael.. I actually thought you were an INTP at first.. still doubt it though ;) .. excellent job, keep going..
This is such a smart video. I can’t describe how appreciative I am of the amount of time you’ve surely put into this. By extension, I’m sure all your other videos are just as quality. Amazing work 🍻
"Deliciously compelling intellectual insights" Awesome!
i agree with most of this however i see infj as constantly striving to not drown in ther pessimism from always being on the outside looking in
For myself, as an INTJ, my pessimism stems from my observing problems, seeing the clear solutions to those problems, but being completely unable to implement those solutions due to a lack of resources. I think that one day a super A.I. will not only see the solutions, but it will forcibly take the resources to actually make them happen. It may not be a happy ending though. :-( Back to the drawing board...
outside looking in? A friend once said it best "You're a social chameleon, you can equally appear as if that setting is your natural state, may it be a black tie event or a biker rally.
I really liked this video, you use the functions in a good, not so stereotyping or vague way as many others do. You also brought up some good manifestations of the infj and their thought processes. Yes. There is always a dilemma when making NiFe into reality. People might not listen or act rationally in line with our more complicated visions, why nfjs are often portrayed as grumpy wizards in some movies, surrounded by "fools". But then again, we can usually be very persuasive too. It works when you try hard and when you become more passionate about your ideals. :)
Wow this is spot on! I am an INFJ and these tendencies hit spot on.
Thanks for putting together such a well thought out and descriptive video!
I have ideas but I suck at trying to make them happen
Couldn't be more agree. I have sooo many ideas yet very sucks at trying to make them happened. Zzz
I love that you broke it down in the beginning, especially how you explained why so many people are jumping on the INFJ train. The only thing for sure is that people still are looking for a way to explain themselves and as usual they all flock to whatever is popular and unique . So INFJ is what everyone wants to be. How can we know for sure? Quite a conundrum.
Anyways, this was the best description I have heard and it was accurate but of course I do not base my identity on this or any other label for to do so would limit my existence. Perhaps that is why people feel such an intense need to attach names and labels onto themselves and others. I have found most people like limits and prefer to have the structure and support of their labels and names which give them a sense of security of parameters on how to think and act. We do it to others which is something I struggle with. But I am unusually defiant and contrary almost to the point of militant. I don’t like being told who or what I am and can be, even if it’s positive. Lol
Maybe it’s my age but the world seems to not be getting better or happier just dreadfully more confused and way more insecure. More anxious and fragile in character. Too quick to take offense and point blame. It is almost desperate. Almost as if the human conscienceless is award of something it hasn’t fully realized yet. So very restless about something and doesn’t know why. Sometimes I can’t imagine how I ever didn’t see it before. I apologize. Just one of those INFJ intuition moments I have been having more and more and haven’t yet found the best way to express. Something is wrong. I know that much. It feels like humanity has overslept and is just waking up so still doesn’t realize it is late yet. Or it does and is desperately rushing around trying to make up time or denying they are late because they can’t face what it means yet. Danger. Like what happens to the wild animals when a natural disaster is going to happen. Some panic and make others panic but the human animal is way out of touch with its connection to nature and combined with the problem humans have with accepting their mistakes and admitting they are clueless you have a bunch of panicked animals who don’t know why and so make up all sorts of reasons why or flat out ignore and deny the feelings. Well, I guess we will see. I don’t know maybe I am insane. Lol thanks for making the InFJ a human rather than an aspiration or cool new hip fashion.
we stand before some major change (the heaven will bring it) we are the early awakened. the others are asleep but acting arrogantly as if they are awake. dont take them too serious, dont focus on them, they are unknowing. let them be. or they will make you sick!
one sided therapeutic relationship though :(
6:51 Most accurate thing I've ever heard
Every time I feel like I need to 'find' myself, I think of watching this video (and have now for the x-d time), and each time it feels like I'm going back to my roots. This video makes me feel so understood. It's like I see myself in these explanations, without being able to really fully grasp the logic. None of my friends would ever understand what I see in this. What appeals to me and feels so magnetic are the insights and making (at least a bit of) sense of why I think in a certain way that to others often seem overly complicated. 'They are never satisfied with an incomplete or limited understanding of a subject, and can't rest...' - this is exactly what I go through on a regular basis. Even now when writing this comment (or in general on social media), I feel a strong urge to edit, re-edit myself and delete the post altogether, because I feel that I have not sufficiently accounted for everything, every aspect of what I think. However lately I've tried to resist that kind of urge and try to just do my best (with videos, blog posts, emails, messages) within a given time and try to wrap things up faster. So now I'd better hit the 'comment' button before I change my mind! Thanks so much for having made this video! :D
This is so fascinating and I really enjoyed listening to you. Considering I like to see things in relation to other things, it surprises me that I never considered that my spiritual beliefs (seeing everything in the universe as deeply connected) might depend upon my personality. You mentioning it here has given me something to think about.
How do you other INFJ's do in the work world? This "System" of our earth....
i find myself having a 2 year max anywhere....even after promotions.....and benefits from employers....after i feel...that i i've lived as an example long enough.
My max is 8 months :/ I can't do it...
The Watlingtons Create a buisness selling a product or a consultation service. Independence is INFJ's secondary name.
So true man!!!
4 years for me! Need to move onto other interests or bosses don’t understand my free spirit nature.
Yes! Finally someone understanding my problem. I can only stay for a year before having the urge to break free to feel other experiences. I feel insignificant if I stayed in a job that I know what to expect. I know its bad for my resume.
Its interesting that you say ENFJ & INFJ are sister types, as my older sister is ENFJ and I'm an INFJ - we always had an uncanny closeness, never faught and have always been very connected. I feel very lucky to have gad someone who is able to understand me in this world, even if there were times that I felt very alone and misunderstood by the rest of the world.
ENFJs are essentially louder, more-social and concretely-theoretical INFJs.
I honestly have to say, this was the best generalized discription of an INFJ I've seen/read. You pointed out so many more deep rooted things to my over all decision making and thought process. You're description of us believing that everything is interwebed as a whole, and unable to be believe everything can be completely understood made me realize I bace a lot of my decisions on that concept. For example, I have trouble in school sticking to the concrete criteria, particuarly in social and physical sciences. I find myself stopping my work and studying related concepts for hours to better understand the material given to me in a holistic sense, to the point that I would need to rush my work from "wasting" my time. Thus, though I understood it to such a strong degree, physical work falls short (At least my notes are great for tests, lol!).
In terms of sensuality, you're spot on. Certain things like food, drinks, drugs, sounds, sights, etc., can make me feels so amazing, but it has to be situationally perfect or else it really pisses me off. If they're even a bit off, my emotions shock me sometimes. Like if a cold spaggetti noddle touches me, I get extreamly grossed out to the point that I can't control my reaction. Or if I can't find music or a tv show that seems to fit right according to my mood (which, with movies/shows, I never really know until I find it), i just keep serching until I get pissed because it doesn't right, and I give up on the idea. I generally only ever smoke weed and take adderall, and I feel frustrated if I smoke weed when I don't want to relax or have none-physical fun, and I won't take adderall unless I'm in a situation where I can be either highly productive or active. I'm extreamly sensitive to cold/heat. I don't like things touching me. Sex generally does nothing for me, but I still long for it... Yeah, that's a weak sensor for you! Hahah.
+Morgan Brown "In terms of sensuality, you're spot on. Certain things like food,
drinks, drugs, sounds, sights, etc., can make me feels so amazing, but
it has to be situationally perfect or else it really pisses me off. If
they're even a bit off, my emotions shock me sometimes. Like if a cold
spaggetti noddle touches me, I get extreamly grossed out to the point
that I can't control my reaction."
This would be a pointer towards ISFJ over INFJ, in my opinion - both Ni and Si tend to relate things to something ideal, and the way you put this one is something I'd say is not indicative of Ni or Se, but very typical of Si. Most descriptions of Si as a function and especially the SJ types can be pretty bad, though (Michael's ones here are far better than most, I highly recommend watching them).
My own take on Si, heavily inspired my Michael: www.reddit.com/r/mbti/comments/447jyt/how_does_si_work_especially_in_the_tertiary/czo31sb
Interesting point. I have actually been thinking lately that I may not be a Intuition dominant, simply because it's hard for me to remember the information Ni seems to be giving me. Thus, being less able to identify its functionality.
At the same time, I can't be a sensor. I'm so bad at recalling past things, I can recall the meaning behind it, but what physically happened. I know that Seems kind of Si like, but its mainly revolving around my feelings. Which makes me think (among many other things, of course) that my typing is correct, because Fe and Si work together. It just seems as thought it's Fi and Si working together... which it obviously isn't. Which confuses me lol.
I just am so bad with sensory anything. I can remember directions, where I put my phone 30 seconds ago... and I'm only 18 lol.
Also, my intense feelings towards sensory detail tends to be all revolving anxiety. Which indicates, to me but correct me of I'm wrong, that it's because I have a weak sensing function. I've had OCD and at a point, phobias to a dozen things. I couldn't be around spray or loud/repetitive sounds without having a panic attack. There was a point for a few months in High School when I didn't eat because I was terrified of it making me sick. Looking back, I kind of view that as my Se being there and taking in information, but being so weak that I couldn't handle it.
My logic may be flawed, who knows.
+Morgan Brown Being uncomfortable with sensory things does not necessarily mean the function is weak. If anything, a weak function tends to manifest as obliviousness, black and white application, and going towards extremes in its use. (As Von Franz said, the Ni dominant has a tendency to be "terribly immoderate" in its indulgment in the simple pleasures). I
Si is not memory. It is a focus on how things affect you, what experiencing them feels like (this is not a conscious focus, just a mental habit a person isn't necessarily even aware of). It's more about what and how you remember, how you experience things, not how much you remember or how good you are at stereotypically "S" activities - an ISTJ in an online community I'm part of says his memory is pretty bad and an Ne dom he knows basically remembers everything. Another one recounts: "I notice temperature and humidity changes before most people do, and whine about them."
"I've had OCD and at a point, phobias to a dozen things. I couldn't be
around spray or loud/repetitive sounds without having a panic attack.
There was a point for a few months in High School when I didn't eat
because I was terrified of it making me sick. Looking back, I kind of
view that as my Se being there and taking in information, but being so
weak that I couldn't handle it. "
Se, if anything, doesn't give a shit. This is inferior Se: www.celebritytypes.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2012/04/hitchens.jpg
I do actually indulge myself in simple. I have a high tendency toward quality over quantity. My mom is certainly an INFJ and she does the same thing. My dad who recently passed was EXTREMELY practical (ESTJ for sure). My mom was like that to an extent, baced on the fact that she grew up with 5 siblings and knew my dad young. But she would always splurge on expensive restaurants and such. I noticed myself doing the same thing. Pay for little things that are nice, when I probably should be paying for, say a new phone right now.
As for memory... Mine use to be miraculous. I remember my mind playing things on repeat with little of my attention to it, in order for me to remember things. Adding up times between things to have a firm understanding of what I need to do in how much time. Sophmore year in high school, I remembered every single teacher I had, how many of them acted, and random "scenes" of conversations. My memory has weakened sense about 2-3 years ago, when in sophomore year I developed Derealization disorder (basically, your mind shuts out the external world, always due to stress..)
This made a lot of things hard for me. I could hardly read for a while, because I wasn't retaining everything. I always loved learning, so this was rough. Even more rough because my memory started fading, but I didn't realize it until I got better. It's almost like my Ni has to go through it's process in a more round about way to be able to remember things that I use to somehow just know. I remember telling my mom a few stories of myself when I was young, that she experienced with me, and she was shocked by how much I remembered.
As for the part where people notice the change in temperature more than the change in people.... Oh no haha. That's not much like me. I can read people like a book. An old friend of mine, one who I only hung around about 5 times, he texted me a little bit ago telling me how he was trying to find my number because he thought we had a connection due to the fact that I understood what he was feeling before he realized he was angry/upset. But boy, is that a reoccurring thing in my life. Change in temperature is not something I'm able to identify. 20 degrees and 50 degrees feels the same to me, I wouldn't be able to tell you that theres a 30 degree increase. It just affects my body, and that's what I notice. If kind of cold, I just get stiff, If I'm really cold, I shake bad. I only really pay attention to it because it hits me so hard and I can't control my body from shaking lol.
this video inspires me to become the best person i can be. thank you
saw this the day before yesterday. really helped me get a picture of myself as a process. helped so much too that i can see others as being a viable human and not retards because they don't immediately grasp that i'm showing them how to live better lives. actually just had kind of fun interactions today with the same people who were so frustrating and embarrassment causing the day before. And, what happened was, that i lightly interacted and in most cases was able to suggest some small helpful thing they might do to make themselves heal or have more fun or whatever, and have them happily enfold my ideas into their reality. this also seems to be helping me step back into my own creative work and not feel like such a failure, not feel like i can't be creative when i don't actually like the material world of created objects. evidently, concept is an intuition and construction is an object. concept is infinite and construct is finite and knowable. Thank you.
I was raised by two INFJ parents (quite unusual). I'm an INFP. I had an extremely warm upbringing, consistent, solid, loving and ideal emotional support. Likely superior to anyone else's I've ever known. Things were generally excellent.
Yet, things could be very vague, and I felt as if life and household was oddly brought to realization, and there was always a bizarre, subjective sense of rigidity around. As if values and principals were in place, but I never quite knew why, and I always looked for answers to fulfill my own personal Fi needs, but there was nothing to grasp. I looked for external linkings and patterns, and couldn't access my parents' internal reasonings. My parents were always mystified by my organic interests and inborn values, and were confused by what I would find interesting, because it wasn't derived from a social truth.
Neither I or my parents are "right", and this sounds more negative than it was (I am truly fortunate for my family), but there is a disconnect between INFJs and INFPs regardless of how warm each type is.
you make beautiful videos. I just finished watch this one and the INFP video. The images you select are so evocative and minimally displayed. You are so appreciated.
Thank you! I send these videos to help people determine who they are if they are between types or confused ("sometimes I'm an INFJ, and sometimes I'm an INFP")...NO, no you're NOT. 😂 People often test, then walk away and have no understanding of MBTI at all. There are enormous mistyped INFJs than pretty much anything, because INFJ is the new black, and lots of people pad their tests I think, or try to make it fit. I know an ISFJ and INFP who really thought (or really wanted to be) an INFJ, but they just weren't, and I sent them videos of yours. 'LOOK. See?! You're just as cool as they are, knock it off!' Hell, I'm an INFP and I'm sad that nobody wants to be one, or that we're considered the pathetic little cousin of INFJ :(
I appreciate how you say any type can become a hero, because it's true.
Ooooh, finally someone on the comments that is actually interested in MBTI.
>:D I would love to be INFP!
You're welcome Michael. :) Thank you so much for sharing and your ever-considerate manner of delivery!
"driven to discover the ideal vision of how best to solve problems in society... attempt to communicate it to the world"
Yes Yes Yes!!! I've spent almost a decade trying to discover this "purpose"! ...resonate with all the rest as well. Feels so wonderful to see where I fit in.
This was wonderful.
I have never so quickly understood a concept than by watching this guy's videos.
An exaggeration of course, but the sentiment, ground-breaking Jaw-dropping awe, is accurate.
Also, you are an incredible artist! Great work. Subscribed :)
Sometimes I can't point to facts. I've learned, through videos like yours, to rely on facts to back up my intuition.
Everyone always does soulbaring towards me and treats me like a therapist, that was very accurate.
I hear you! All day everyday! I cant get over how often people do this with me: Friends, Family, random strangers on the street. Most conversations I have with people around me is just them protecting, divulging, sharing, or venting. At this point in my life, its just humorous. Sometimes I get the feeling its not actually ME they are trying to talk to, but more so a representation of some sort of soundboard they are looking for or attaining to
Peace Mike. Since its inception, I've watched this (@ least) dozens of times. Literally. And, today, for the 1st time, I noticed the brilliant & vibrant line pattern within the fractal design of your thumbnail. That's all. Ok bye.
Observations:
-Ni has allowed me to
observe, extrapolate, report criminals who thought they
were anonymous, on very little observable data.
-Less astute people think
I'm psychic.
-Strangers tell me their
life history and problems,
because I listen without judging. Actually, I suspend
judgement, to be fair.
-People sometimes think
I'm a childlike idjit, until
they realize my theories
provide solutions.
-I'm a stranger in a strange land, without a doubt.
OMG.. this vid is to creepy true.. I've just recently been moved to know that I am closest to that of an INFJ 110% and this vid is mind-blowing descriptive of my psyche. Amazing.
I think the nature of both the INFJ and the ENTP make for an interesting relationship. The black-hole nature of the INFJ's Ni-Se attracts the ENTP. And the mystical nature caused by their unique functional order creates very enchanting qualities.
Besides that, the INFJ isn't dealing with someone who's Se-heavy since the ENTP isn't Se at all. This pairing wortks incredibly well both ways even though there are potential issues they can have due to the nature both have. Despite all that, I think that they work well together. And if you've seen both this video and the ENTP video, you can see how pairing them is good.
I wouldn't want to be paired with an entp. They are very aggravating to me.
Thank you for stripping away the overly complimentary extreme of many characterizations of this type. I do believe that I am an INFJ, but it has been hard for me to accept as there are too many descriptions out there that seem to pander to a sort of spiritual superiority image of the INFJ. People often forget that Hitler was also an INFJ. INFJ's are more complex and just as capable of being flawed as any other type.
So I did some number crunching. Just assuming that half of the 1% of population in the world are male INFJs like me. When I divided 7 billion by 200, I got 35,000,000. Doesn't look like I'm so alone after all. :D
+I Sir Laughsalot I'm with ya lad.
+I Sir Laughsalot Now, you just need to divide them into demographics for each and every individual country to find out how many of us are over the age of 65 and stuff like that.
Actually most INFJs are female, so you are indeed alone.
+I Sir Laughsalot Oh just get on Fakebook,where they have plenty of so called INFJ forums where such heady topics as "How drunk will I get if I drink alcohol"? ,are offered up for us to contemplate.(**sarcasm**) I am deeply suspicious that most of these self-proclaimed INFJ's are indeed not INFJ's and merely wannabe pretenders...for such a small population,they seem to be everywhere.
But that's still only half a percent of the population. That means if you were stuck in a room with 100 random people, you'd probably be the only INFJ male and maybe even the only INFJ in the entire room. I'm pretty sure I've yet to actually meet another INFJ in my life, and it's kinda sad because our personalities are awesome lol
Hi I love this I am an INFJ from Belize in central America and I love this ..I understand this for it so speak of me ...and my best friend is an INFJ too.. it is such a fun to be a friend of someone just like you ..and true people will never understand us as we are so different ..I am glad to be born an INFJ
We INFJs just have that deep look in our eyes.
Most sumptuous explanation that I have ever come across to my type. Please make more videos such as these. It was a pure delight
Very insightful, Michael. I'm so glad I found your channel. You really tap into the different psychological makeups of each type, with empathy and thoroughness.
I am curious, what do you mean when you say the INFJ has a cold interior (compared to their warm and emotional exterior)? You contrast this with the seemingly cold exterior of the INTJ, who actually feels very strongly on the inside.
+MaybelleStyle I'm very glad you've found the channel useful and have enjoyed it! Thank you! As for your question, I was simply trying to express the reversal of roles for T/F between the INFJ and INTJ, where the INFJ prefers Fe/Ti and the INTJ prefers Te/Fi. I used "hot/cold" to more vividly represent the nature of Thinking (T) and Feeling (F) respectively. It's not that the INFJ is emotionally cold inside, or morally cold or anything like that, but simply that while the INTJ's inner world and self is pervaded by passion and highly personal like/dislike for things, the INFJ's inner world is ruled by unemotional logic and detachment.
A useful video that gives my updated ideas on these axes and differences is ua-cam.com/video/GXCnhWVC8yY/v-deo.html. Hope that helps!
The description of a weak se is spot on. Everyone assumes I am highly skilled in self control because I hardly ever let my Id have some fun. Ironically this is because I have less control over it than others. I have created hard systems to limit my ID to accomplish goals, if I was to experience se without limitations or rules I fall off the deep end. I am a very black and white person because it is the easiest way for me to have order. This appears as if I have a high amount of self control, but it is more like I have a high amount of loyalty toward a system of intolerance of se/Id etc. When I abandon those systems I have nothing to fall back on so I have no control over se situations. -INTJ
(ENFP) Thank you for all this wonderful and bright information. You helped me understand alot about INFJs and the reason I am attracted to them mentally... energically... XD
Thank you such an insightful perspective on INFJ, this video touch home is so many ways.
Pretty much Spot on. Thank you. Very well done.
THANK YOU. This video is great, and is really the most accurate depiction of my personality type that I have found so far. People really need to look at the functions more, there are way too many generic type overviews.
I LOVE how you described this.
This was a great explanation of INFJ personality. I am studying personality theory in college and our class had to take the Keirsey Temperment Sorter II ( my results showed myself as INFJ) and write a reflective essay to analyze our results. This helped immensely! Thank you for this video. :)
Great job with the video, very nicely done. You're explanations provide good insight into how mbti works, your voice I find is also quite appropriate for explaining things. Keep it up.
This is an excellent excellent excellent dissertation. I hope you write a book young man.
I'm very glad you think Hitler is an INFJ as well. Because what can't he be? Every type has good and bad people. He really helps to put perspective on that. Because everyone assumes we are perfect and can't be bad. Thank you for mentioning that on the video. MY UNDERSTANDING HITLER AND INFJ: ua-cam.com/video/NY7HWf7boMo/v-deo.html
INFJ [TheBarracuda57]
Well,,all that stuff about Hitler isn't true,, do some research seriously.
Most indepth mbti videos I've seen. Shown this series to many people to help them understand their type.
It’s a very good video but it makes Se sound way too weak. Se is nowhere-near that repressed in normal, healthy INFJs.
@@Anonymous_Anon882idk, I defo relate to the over/under indulgent as a personal flaw. Not to the extent that the images Pierce used suggest, but I did, for example unintentionally lose 2 stone (28lbs) over the course of a few months why trying to minimise suffering in other areas of life.
The sensory world is scary in many ways.
Best Jungian video I've seen and I've seen hundreds.
The section on sensing is the truth. I didn't realized there was music at the beginning until I saw comments about it. Anyway, the picture at 13:30 is so true for when I'm in a chaotic environment although I also have bad tinnitus so that tends to make me more sensitive to things.
Great video and i loved the pictures you used. im an infj and this makes so much sense to me.
This is, by far, the most accurate illustration of my mind that I've ever seen. If anyone again asks how I draw conclusions I'm just sending a link to this video. Probably shorter (and more interesting) than anything I could come up with. Thanks!
Thank you from the core of my heart for this video. I've never watched a more complete description of the INFJ. Being an INFJ myself, You perfectly shows the good sides, as the bad sides of being one.
For my part, I've been working - and still do every day - to keep a balance between the 2 edges, as I saw I could completely lose myself or completely cut myself from the world, food, relationships, idealastic ideas that others could perceive as totalitarian or strange...
+Michael Pierce wouldn't you be an INFJ as well ? or maybe INTJ...
Nevertheless, thank you...
+Jill Raimondo Thank you so much! I do identify as INFJ. :)
+Michael Pierce People confuse you for an INTJ an awful lot O_o
@@Komatik_ he’s not a quietly-narcissistic robot. I can’t imagine why they would.
Interestingly, I had guessed that you were an INFJ by how you word things in your video. And sure enough, I see comments that you are. Thank you for your very in-depth portrayal of INFJs.
As an intp i find infj interesting they are very convincing people. Their models make sense usually.
I think Sam Harris is an infj and I think very highly of him, even though i dont share his total conviction doubt is what plagues me
Quiestre Sam Harris is an INFJ according to multiple sources.
This makes a lot of sense to me and I relate. Thank you for the video.
The fact that people idolize INFJ's are so harmful, I've gotten INFJ on every MBTI and cognitive functions test I have ever taken and yet I still don't believe fully that I'm an INFJ because of how otherworldly and perfect this image of an INFJ is always made out to be. We as INFJ's are so closely acquainted with the guilt of not being perfect that is ironic that the INFJ image is made out to be almost godly in its perfection that we could not possibly ever reach.
On another note I take philosophy as a course and now understand why some of Plato's basic ideas and theories made so much sense to me.
INFJs are far from perfect, they just happen to have one of the more preferable modes of operation. What I like about the couple INFJ videos on this channel is that he is much more detailed into the thinking process, and also points out some flaws, such as INFJs often being impractical.
This was especially interesting to me personally because I've noticed that I can come up with perfect systems, or for example give advice that would perfectly solve a situation, BUT it would only apply to a perfect system with prerequisites in place, and because no system will have all these the perfect prerequisites in place, the idea therefore becomes impractical or unusable.
The way I've always described myself is being a "theoretical thinker" as opposed to a "practical thinker". Though I argue you can't get practicality without theory. You could see though how this is not necessarily always an advantage, and for the purposes of daily life can be a hindrance.
Yeah!
The only reason it's been so romanticized is so people can get views by using "The rarest personality" in their titles 🤣
INFJ is no more than simply an other personality type 👌
thank you for sharing this video. it helps me understand my personality and know exactly what i need to do in next 10 years!!!
Great video! I really like your voice too. You sound a little bit like the actor of severus snape from harry potter. A bit emotionless, which makes me excited because you sound like more of a challenge to get to know (in comparison with "easy-to-read" people.) . Crazy INFJ, I know.
Well thank you! I appreciate it! (snape lol)
Wow, I thought it was just me!! I also noticed the similarity when I started watching which I found alluring to say the least. I always liked Snape. Good old mysterious Snape...
Good grief I DO sound like Snape.
Michael Pierce Yes two comments confirms it my friend! But maybe INFJs are more likely to have a thing for Harry Potter and Snape in which case it will all be very well received. :) Carry on professor Snape.
Also, is it possible to have one main type and a secondary type? Many tests and even a psychologist I went to see suggest ESFP/INFJ or that I'm somewhat of a mutt.
I honestly don't know, actually...in my take on Jungian theory the answer would be no, it eventually does come down to one set of preferences over the other, meaning the other is really just a behavior of manifestation of the other preferences in an interesting way.
But that's just in my own take on the theory. If it helps, and you might have already, but you could peruse CelebrityTypes INFJ and ESFP sections and see if you relate better to one set of people or the other. They also have a test that I would recommend even though you've already taken plenty of tests, I think they do a better job of helping to differentiate people's types than any other tests I know of. There is also a great article that talks about the differences between the function axis that may be very useful to you. The INFJ and ESFP both have an Ni/Se axis, but the INFJ has a Ti/Fe axis while the ESFP has an Fi/Te axis. Let me know if any of those help at all...
www.celebritytypes.com/test.php
www.celebritytypes.com/infj.php
www.celebritytypes.com/esfp.php
www.celebritytypes.com/blog/2012/12/guide-to-jungian-function-axes/
Nice :-) you are so smart, good job with this video. I really like how you put these together. INFJ, baby.
As someone brand new to all these categorizations, what I've found with tests over at celebritytypes is that for every _one_ question I can answer decisively, there are about _five_ questions whose available answers strike me as inattentive to detail. Sometimes woefully inattentive, to crucial detail. Framing questions in a "What is _more_ true of you" manner is great and all, but merely allowing for a vague spectrum doesn't leave room for further contextualization. Every layer of context should be viewed as non-trivial when it comes to certain questions. This would be a problem even if the questions' decisive-to-indecisive ratio (answerable-to-unanswerable ratio) was a reliable five-to-one, as opposed to the unreliable one-to-five (as in my case). If the information gleaned by the test stems from this much unnuanced criteria, how much stock should anyone really put into these categories? Seems too restrictive for an in-depth final verdict.
The best example of the type of double-edged sword I'm getting at:
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Which statement do you agree with the most?
- Feelings are irrational and have no place in truth-seeking.
- Logical analysis is a valuable tool, but some people seem sadly oblivious to its limitations.
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The first answer is dicey because feelings aren't irrational per se. One can understand feelings as having the capacity to be non-rational or even rational. That same person can simultaneously be in agreement with the view that feelings have no place in truth-seeking (especially if we're discussing ontology or epistemology). Had the answer been limited to "Feelings have no place in truth-seeking" I'd be much more comfortable opting for that. As it stands, I still have to choose that first answer over the one below it, and the implicit baggage of "feelings are irrational" as part of my answer cannot be stricken from the record. I'd like to think that nothing about me indicates a personality type who _by_ _default_ dismisses feelings as "irrational" and here I'm boxed into that view by mere association with rationalism. There is no filter for these curve-balls, and they pile up at the end of the tests.
Sorry if this has been addressed numerous times in the past. I'm admittedly unfamiliar with the history of these tests and any progressions with their control mechanisms.
Maybe it's different with other tests, but celebritytypes is the only one I've taken so far. Frankly, if a test has the tall order of ascribing someone a personality type, its questions have no business being multiple choice. But if they're going to be, we need more than two answers to choose from.
All that aside, your video is really well done. I'll be checking out the backlog of videos on this channel.
AntiBullshitMan Yeah, they're annoying sometimes. The tests are a pointer that can guide you to the right direction, that's it.
The reason is that the tests are based on dichotomatic thinking - there's four scales (or dimensions) and you get assigned a score on each one, which are then used to determine your preferences. They measure introversion/extroversion, whether you have a thinking/feeling preference (roughly translating into toughminded vs. accommodating, the Big 5 Accomodation scale is more about that than MBTI T/F), whether you prefer sensing/intuition (~ concrete vs. abstract thinking, roughly), and whether you're a Judger or a Perceiver. Roughly, Judgers are more organized and conscientious, while Perceivers tend to be more unorganized, spontaneous and keeping options open type people.
This is all useful information. The problem comes when trying to make the test results conform to a functional stack.
Say you're on the edge with your Thinking/Feeling preference: You get both INTP (a classic logician) and INFP (often an idealist and/or a writer) results. The functional stacks are:
INTP = Ti Ne Si Fe
INFP = Fi Ne Si Te
By wavering, you can turn from a cold, detached logician to someone who makes his judgment primarily on deeply felt values and passions. Strange.
Or INTP vs. INTJ. Both types are outwardly similar abstract systems thinkers. Yet, when you meet both kinds of people in person, they give off a totally different feel. Why is that?
INTP = Ti Ne Si Fe
INTJ = Ni Te Fi Se
Not one function attitude in common! This is a profound difference in how you take in and process information, and it's supposed to be indicated by how conscientious and orderly you are? Very strange, to say the least.
So use the tests to get a pointer in the right direction, but leave it at that. The test results and the functional approach Michael teaches here measure separate things. If you force them to match, you lose value both could give you. Let both be what they are, and you'll get more out of both.
I'd check out the Ti type descriptions (primarily xxTP) being annoyed at the vagueness of the questions to that extent is a decent indicator of a Ti preference in my experience.
You're so good at this.
I'm an infj and it's baffling to hear how correct these things are. I've done this test loads and infj I am. it's hard. I feel like I'm the only one I know on my level. like I can share my ideas with no one because no one will get them. it's like a hidden knowledge like I can see stuff and link things that hardly anyone else sees.it's a strange feeling to just feel but litterally be on a different plane of conciousness than everyone you come across. it's not nice. it makes me look like a right smart ass sometimes. and your constantly alone.
I agree with you, it is lonely :/
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Sara Pinto in touch lol
Completely agree. I think most people who meet me think I'm stuck up or rude because I don't engage in chit chat like the normal person can, I'm just not interested in it and would rather not appear fake and try to pretend I am interested.
You're right it is lonely, it's not like you can initiate a deep or heavily complex discussion without looking and sounding like a weirdo. I constantly feel as though I have to shape myself to the idea of what people want me to be, just so people don't think I'm weird.
I do feel that we are just extremely intelligent beings and I have let me get this right and have a low tolerance for idiots or I don't want to use the word idiot but I think you get what I'm trying to say
just here to say that the picture you made at 1:53 is really impressive! very cool, definitely should be proud of it
Maybe I'm INFJ, so I really enjoyed this, thanks. I can't find anyone around me who is INFJ, so I sometimes feel lonely...(I heard that INFJ is one of the rarest types.)
This is one of the best Ni explanations I’ve seen.
Good God Michael. These videos are beyond true. They're literary gems. Did you write these manuscripts yourself? Can I have a copy? Amazing.
+INFJ Sean Retracted. Found it. Proceed.
This is great! I finally know what I am.. not too long ago I had a quality supervisor who stated “I made her SICK cause’ I was just too happy and positive and had a vision that everything could go right” and for a few years I just thought she hated me but then I realized that she was judging my true form without probable cause #BSME
This vid is fairly accurate, but it seems to make Se look WAY too weak in INFJs. INFJs are very aware, when it comes to their perfectionism. You ask an INFJ too describe all the PROBLEMS in a picture, I'm pretty sure the INFJ will beat out almost all the other types in the # of problems they will find. You seem to be describing "working memory" too much as "Se". Working memory is correlated with general IQ. You'd probably find that INFJs have better working memories than the average person, since, as you said yourself, because of their strive for mastery of something. If you want to talk about INFJ weaknesses, then talk about Si.
I agree that an INFJ has a very cold-rational internal form of logic...there are times that I'm much more "cold-blooded" in my thinking than my INTJ brother.
Agreed. He rectified it in his “revisited” video but what he’s talking about with Se in this video applies more to unhealthy INFJs with a certain ‘dyspraxic schizoidia’ than anyone-else. Normal INFJs aren’t that out of-touch with their Se at all.
Good and balanced view on the type. Also really like your pronounciations of the names are the end of the video 😅
I am a Clinical Psychologist with 30 years of experience dealing with people. I was branded a INFJ quite sometime ago. I never really accepted that evaluation because placing 'labels' on people puts them into a box. It limits their potentiality and personal growth. At worse, it can destroy a individual's self determination and freedom. However, the Myers Briggs Personally Test is interesting but somewhat incomplete. I have never encountered a 'classical' INFJ before. Why? Because certain characteristics of this personality type have many subgroups some of which overlap other MBTI personality types. That being said I will describe the characteristics of how a 'orthodox' INFJ thinks, behaves and responds in strict accordance with the MBTI Personalty Test. Be forewarned, I find some INFJ 'stereotypes' rather funny. And will approach such in a humorous fashion. INFJ's posess a wonderfully sense irony and will immediately recognize the silly 'stereotypes' others have attrubuted to them.....So let's start breaking some myths about the INFJ Personalty Type
When a INFJ gives you the dreaded 'Death Stair' they are not attempting to understand you. They are wondering if you're carrying a gun. Killing INFJ's is a pleasurable experience. Why? Because everyone hates a smart ass.
INFJ's frequently experience 'Sensory Overload' issues. They love Forests, Parks and Woodland areas to recharge their batteries. Why? Because trees don't talk! A squirrel cannot complain it has 'Daddy Issues'. Pine trees do not suffer from 'gender identity' problems. And I have never seen a bunny rabbit strung out Crack Cocaine. Solitude is bliss.
Never say to a INFJ, 'I do not understand', They will run away screaming or jump infront of a bus. No one understands them. INFJ's sometimes don't even understand themselves.
INFJ's feel uncomfortable being around large groups of people. However, once you get them talking, they never shut up.
Why do a INFJ 'Door Slam' people? Because it's called a Coping Mechanism. They dislike being emotionally hurt. There is nothing strange about this behavior. Some people become alcoholics others pill poppers. INFJ's will just run away and pretend you never existed.
INFJ's have the psychic ability to absorb people's emotions. No. This is phenomen is called 'Transference'. If you continuously talk about your problems, a INFJ will unconsciously adopt some aspects of your emotional state. However, INFJ's posess strong identities which prevents them from going completely insane.
INFJ's are the most honest, compassionate and sensative people on Earth. Not really. Mother Nature just screwed them up genetically. They're brains are hard wired to respond during crisis situations. A 'diehard' INFJ will instinctively sacrifice their life attempting to save yours. No questions asked. Why? I have no freaking idea. I didn't invent the rules. Ask God. I'm sure She knows.
INFJ's think differently than others. Yes. They think outside the box. They live outside the box. They have never actually seen the box. What does it look like? Does it contain groceries?
INFJ types are occasionally arrogant, cold towards others and aloof. This is actually true. Being omnipotent has its drawbacks. INFJ's have a difficult time sugar-coating the truth. Being overtly honest is their trademark. If they sense someone cannot handle the truth, they will lie to protect that person's emotions.
INFJ's are stubborn yet will openly admit to errors in judgment or making mistakes.
INFJ's think too deeply. They want to solve everyone's problems. They get frustrated when people ask for advice - then completely ignore their recommendations! They do not understand why everyone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again. Eventually, a INFJ will simply give up. The phrase 'People need to learn things the hard way' was invented by a INFJ. So was the 'unfriend' button on Facebook.
INFJ's do not respect authority because they have developed their own Moral, Ethical, Spiritual and Cognative belief systems. Mature (older) INFJ's care very little about how people perceive them and less about the impressions they make upon others. INFJ's enjoy approval and acceptance (like everyone else) but infrequently compromise their princepals to simply fit in.
Do not mistake a INFJ's confidence as egocentrismn. There is a difference.
INFJ's are frequently interpreted as posessing a Narcissist Personalty Disorder. This stereotype is absolutely false. A Narcissist loves adoration and attention. The typical INFJ cares more about others than themselves, sometime to their own detriment.
INFJ's dislike themselves. They feel alone within the world and misunderstood. Being a INFJ a curse. Consequently, a small minority INFJ's often experience psychological Depression, Alienation Issues and Avoident Behavior problems. The phrase 'You are your own worst enemy' accurately describes a INFJ's perception of themselves.
The most admirable personality traits of the INFJ are (1) INFJ's are compassionate which makes them a easy targets for emotional exploitation and abuse. Never play 'Guilt Games' with a INFJ. They already persecute themselves (subconsciously) for being different. (2) They don't have the ability to forgive themselves for past mistakes, A INFJ's unforgiving 'Guilt Complex' is an integral part of their personality. INFJ's have occasionally been known to slowly kill themselves over time, believing they deserve such suffering. 'Hell on Earth' is their punishment and they willing accept it....sometimes. Not always. (3) Once you secure the trust of a INFJ, everything about them suddenly becomes clear. The stereotypes vanish. These are people you want within your life. They have incredible insight into human nature and will identify your weaknesses and lift you up from darkness. Seeing the world through a INFJ eyes is the greatest gift they can offer.
It would be impossible to understand a MBTI typology without stating the negative traits of a specific personality group.
The 'Dark Side' of a INFJ is rather frightening. Never test their 'Authenticity' or personal dignity. Do not play games with a INFJ. They have limitations like everyone else. A INFJ can determine your intentions or plans within minutes. Literally. This Hyperobservient behavior is quite unique. Avoid getting into heated arguments with a INFJ unless you are prepared to be intellectually, emotionally or psychologically castrated. They have cognitive resources almost beyond understanding. A vindictive INFJ will never stop until they destroy your life (this has nothing to do with physical murder). Such behavior is almost Psychopathic in nature (hence the concern INFJ's may be catorgized as possessing a Psychological Disorder rather than a Personality Dysfunction). Fortunately, INFJ's are not prone to violent behavior. They give up easily, This is where the 'Door Slam' or simply walking away from an argument comes from. Once they reveal their true inner nature, you will begin to understand why only 1% of the world's population are INFJ's. They are so dam charming.
INFJ's dislike small talk, idle conversations, superficial people and hypocrites. Life is too short talking to such individuals (but they understand its occasionally necessary to be socially accepted)
INFJ's are not spontaneous. They just pretend to be spontaneous. Their minds are always attempting to 'connect the dots....even when there are no dots!
When the Zombie Apocalypse occurs, a INFJ will be eaten screaming, "I told you so... I told you so!"
Imagine your on the Titanic. It's 1912. You see a Iceberg coming. Your jumping around and telling everyone the ship is about to sink. People just laugh and finish their Champagne. Welcome to the wonderful world of a INFJ.
Avoid getting into deep conversations with a INFJ. They are walking encyclopedias. They will jump from topic to topic then back again to support a idea or theory. Male INFJ's are 'scattered brained' in the worst way possible. But there is method to such madness. The are searching for the correct answer to a specific problem. And 95% of the time they will discover it... or have a complete nervous breakdown trying.
Occasionally, you will notice a INFJ acting mysteriously, doing unusual things or just behaving weird. Get used to this behavior. It has absolutely nothing to do with you. The INFJ is just going through a 'stage' or experimenting with something that interests them. Like building a Thermonuclear Bomb or discovering a cure for Herpes.
Never tell a INFJ they have a 'Old Soul'. They are absolutely terrified of being reincarnated again. INFJ's are aware that neither Heaven or Hell wants them. Why? Because God doesn't need the extra competition on who should run Heaven (Him or a INFJ) and Satan can't deal with a INFJ pestering him for all eternity....that would be considered cruel and unusual punishment.
Aliens will never abduct a INFJ. There are some things too bizarre even for Extraterrestrials.
INFJ's have a difficult time forming a thought or idea into words. Yes. Someday a INFJ will develop Telekinesis and scare the hell out of everyone. Stop laughing, it's going to happen.
So next time you accidentally encounter a INFJ, break all COVID 'Social Distancing' issues and hug them. INFJ's are a endangered species. Literally. Whatever purpose they were created for has already been accomplished. There represent only 1% of 7.7 billion people on planet Earth according to MBTI statistics. In my opinion, this Myers Briggs Personality represents the noblest aspects of humanity....Intelligent, Wise, Caring, Virtuous, Observent, Altruistic and Protective. Dispight their faults (which everyone has, no one is perfect) INFJ's are genuine. You get exactly what you see meeting these people. No convert agenda, deeply empathic intellectuals who sincerely care about you. They have a excellent sense of humor also (wink).
INFJs aren’t a type known for being narcissistic by a long stretch. Where on earth did you get that from?
The fact is that personality typology does not constitute "placing labels on people" nor does it remotely put them in a box, limit their potential or destroy their self-determination or freedom. That is all complete nonsense. Everyone has a definite personality type with various nuances and knowing your type is the basis for growing within it. The idea that type is just a "label" that limits growth is absurd. In psychology we use countless "labels" words and concepts to describe and understand our experiences and patterns thereof. Understanding them more precisely is the basis for growth and change. A psychologist who thinks type = oppressive labeling is not thinking very deeply about what the theory actually means and says.
I've seen much of this in a video upload. Verbatim. Did you produce the video, or just poach its content?
This is fantastic detail! 👌