Yea, im filipino/American and my mom speaks filipino and i cant understand it, my dad is American and he has no clue what she says. As a kid i kept asking my mom to teach me about speaking her language she said she will teach me, but she never did so I tried to copy her but she shouted at me saying that's inappropriate even tho i had no idea what it means.
Torlak Kårstad Woah calm down there mister badass, You are so cool... I’m jealous. No but seriously it isn’t a big deal for most people but if a person doesn’t do it they might be more timid or just feel a certain amount of respect should be given but personally I wouldn’t stand for it either and I feel as if most people (especially men) would stare right back to reciprocate their feelings about what was occurring.
Dude… if someone stares at me i always say to my head "Does he/she hate me we never met, okay okay relax... deep breath just dont make eye contact and everything will be fine" i get nervous really i always think that did i do something wrong or have something wrong with me :/
The whole "understanding a language but not being able to speak it" and "language barrier with family" and "being compared to other people " and the SHAME....I can very much relate too (We love you for who you are Emily and who you will be ❤)
I relate too my gosh every time I go to my hometown(?) Me and my sister (my brother learnt the language and left me and my sister in the dust) would always have a hard time. But all our cousins from my mum's side also spoke English so we would talk to them,...... Then get scolded for "preventing them from learning the language" Also the whole "I want to be white" thing is very common, but I feel like there's also some people that say "I wish I was Asian" (East Asian) and I am partly ashamed of myself for thinking this way but it's true. I think a lot of people don't really talk about it so I see Emily as being brave for coming out and talking about it. Good on you Emily♥️♥️
왜 유튜브가 이걸 알고리즘으로 잡아줬는지 모르겠는데 대강 영상과 같은 상황의 한국계 2세들은 상당히 문화적으로 고립되어 있다는 걸 알았다 차라리 3세면 미련없이 나고 자란 땅의 국적을 선택하겠지만 영상의 경우와 같은 2세들에겐 여러모로 어려운 문제겠다 싶네 이 댓글을 당사자가 읽어주실지는 모르겠지만 노력해서 여기까지 온 거 대단하다고 박수쳐드리고 싶음 앞으로도 좋은 일만 가득하시길.
I'm Chinese American, and I also feel like I'm Dishonoring my family anytime I have to speak in Chinese. I have not been to China in about 9 years, so I didnt have a chance to use the language. Luckily, my school is teaching chinese, so I'm trying to get better at the language.
Listening to music, watching movies/shows/videos, reading, and even playing games of the respective language can really help in learning/retaining that language. Especially effective is chatting with that language with others that are fluent in it. At least, that is what I feel, and what my Spanish teacher has taught me :p
hey i'm Mexican Canadian i feel the same way as you do i grew up speaking English and not a lot of Spanish but i have Ben improving at it and it is starting to get easier to speak to relatives and other people who know Spanish. i hope you continue to speak Chinese and don't feel discouraged at not speaking well because we have lots of time to improve.
@@YOSHlDA many Asian immigrants to western places have a deep seated hatred towards themselves because they see western cultures as superior. They could intentionally or unintentionally not speak it as much at home, or the kid could see their parents language as embarrassing and speak English at home while their parents speak something else! There's lots of reasons someone might not be able to speak their mother tongue. A lot of kids also just lose the ability after too much exposure to only English at school.
People sometimes think I'm Asian lol. Lemme tell you why. I tell people that I am mostly of the Blackfoot tribe. These idiots forgot what a native American is (even tho our school's mascot is a native). So they googled what a Blackfoot was. The first picture they saw was one of my ancestors of course. He just happened to have what Americans call "Asian eyes". Not only did they call him a girl for having two long braids, but they also assumed that he was asain. They looked at the shape of my eyes and THESE IDIOTS SAID I WAS CHINESE 💀!
@@fourtrifiveo4350 yEs i Am vErY mUcH cHiNeSe. iT's NoT LikE I hAvE aN aFrO. iT's jUsT A wEaVe. I'm native American, African American, and European American btw. A very mixed child lol.
I have a similar story: -I was born in china -I moved to canada when i was 1 -I have chinese side of family -I know nothing about chinese culture -My chinese side of the family knows how to speak chinese -i dont know how to speak to most of them -I NEED HELP
I am filipino and I was born in Britain & I also don’t know how to speak my language & so I always get super embarrassed when I meet new family members as they don’t speak English. I also don’t know a lot about filipino culture unfortunately, so I feel your pain
I said something similar as a kid. I asked my white mom if I could have a white dad because my brown dad didn’t match me. I was 3 and I didn’t know any better. Being half Hispanic is weird sometimes. I was pale until I started tanning at the age of 4, I actually get pretty dark.
100% relate. Me and my siblings can’t speak in our native tongue properly, so whenever our grandparents called on the phone we said 2 lines and then rushed to pass it on to the next sibling. Every single time.
@@Soulcrash3 actually, that doesn't have to be necessarily true. The language that I grew up with is the language that is slowly dying from my tongue each day (Cantonese), cuz English replaced it. So, in some cases, the dying language could be the "mother language" if that's the language they were first taught and we're surrounded by as a baby
This is a coincidence. I just listened to the D.Va rap you made with Dan Bull a few hours ago. I didn't realise this was an issue affecting you too because from that rap, you sounded fluent and confident to me. You take care now!
this vid is relatable on so many levels. i was born in the philippines, but i moved to another country at the age of 5 and got exposed to english media. as u can predict, that influenced me a LOT, not only did my ability to speak tagalog get completely erased.. i even lost my understanding on the language and culture. i wanted to re-learn the whole language because i didnt want to embarrass my parents and i didnt want to feel disconnected from it, but i never fully committed. i always felt ashamed when i take the awful flight back to the mother land because of my relative's comments. knowing someone, and many other people, have the same experiences as me feels reassuring. Now that im older, ive been trying to learn the basics and the culture of my homeland^^
That thing about "I'll sound stupid -> I don't try -> I never get better" can apply to so many more things than just learning a language. Learning to play an instrument, or learning to draw, or to weld, or to sing, or basically anything. It's so easy to get locked in place when you have people around you who don't support you when you're trying to do something. Especially if they're outright critical. That's why it's so important to support your kids when they start to pick up hobbies. Sure it's likely that they won't stick with it and that they'll move on to something else, but you don't know that and you don't want to unwittingly be the reason why they gave up and moved on.
Well said. This applies to me but I've learned on my own to just do what I think is best for myself, knowing I'm capable if I put my mind and body to it.
My parents are born in Puerto Rico and I was born in Pennsylvania. I can say I’m a Puerto Rican American. As I was growing up I get nervous sometimes and I was diagnosed with Autism when I was 3, but it didn’t stop me from trying new things. Love the animation by the way. 🙂
I have symptoms of autism, but am not formally diagnosed. I can definitely relate to the notion of "disappointing" my ancestors. The way I've come to see it, my ancestors passed down a heritage to me in some sense of the word, but that does not obligate me to pass it on exactly as is. My being quite different from my ancestors does not obligate me to judge myself as a "failure" for not being who they think I should be. Come to think of it, when I hear stories about other Americans with parents from foreign countries trying to "pass on their heritage", it comes across to me not only as coercive, but downright gross. About ten years ago, my Thai partner discovered the film *Selena*, directed by Gregory Nava, which tells the story of the life of the singer Selena Perez, born in the USA to parents from Mexico. The way the film portrayed her father instilling a Mexican identity in her struck me as downright possessive. But also, I know that western countries like the USA also have a past tradition of willfully destroying the cultures of people it assimilates that is very coercive at an individual level. People should be free to be who they want to be. Thank you for coming to my TED Talk ;-)
it sucks being a foreigner everywhere, it’s like you don’t belong in america because “oh you’re too (enter ethnicity here)” and then when ur at for example mexico they say “oh you’re too american/white”
Im not exactly american and im just living in America for 3 years. But when i first got in America people thought i speak Chinese but im actually Indonesian. But i been doing good here eversince
@@porshaa1665 Whether you like it or not it's a fact, not racist. It's a reason to improve one side or both rather blaming people and telling them to lower the threshold for you. Use it as an incentive, build on it, rather than telling everyone else to destroy their own identity.
Wow, I cried watching this. Thank you for posting. The analog of the potted plants as cultures that we nurture is really apt. I am a Filipino American who never learned the language and grew up also hearing what a 'shame' it was I couldn't speak OR understand Tagalog. To some degree, it's true I wish I had learned, but so I could keep the connection to that part of my identity. But when I or my parents are BLAMED for it, it does make me mad and resentful and I think it's just really disrespectful to the reality that multi cultural people grow up with. I have a lot of strong feelings about it now that I am older because 1) I am going to visit the Philippines soon for the first time since I was, like, a baby. And I feel so weird about it, and realizing I am kind of scared about it. I am excited but I am definitely an impostor or at least feel that way. 2) I have a baby now who is white (Russian)/Filipino and I have just all sorts of thoughts about how to keep him connected to his culture/identity, and feeling bad I can't even pass on Tagalog. I am trying hard to make sure he learns Russian since my husband speaks it at least. I cried when you said you once told your parents you wished they were white. Maybe because I identify with it, maybe also because I'm afraid of hearing it from my own son someday.
What you said is very relatable I am german-filipino mixed and im also scared of visiting the Philippines because im too german/white for filipinos but at the same time too asian for Germany and I have never learned tagalog either
I can speak chinese without an accent, however my vocabulary is that of a 5 year old since I never use it. So when I'm visiting in china people think I look and sound chinese, but I'm completely overwhelmed by the cultural differences.
tsuyoku nareru riyuu wo shitta boku wo tsurete susume Aku tahu mengapa aku bisa menjadi kuat, bawa aku bersamamu dorodarake no soumatou ni you kowabaru kokoro Hati yang penuh kekuatan dimuakkan oleh lentera berlumpur furueru te wa tsukamitai mono ga aru sore dake sa Ada sesuatu yang ingin kuambil dengan tanganku yang gemetar, hanya itu saja yoru no nioi ni (I’ll spend all thirty nights) Dalam aroma malam (aku akan menghabiskan seluruh 30 malam) sora nirandemo (Staring into the sky) bahkan jika aku di udara (Menatap langit) kawatte ikeru no wa jibun jishin dake sore dake sa Hanya diriku sendiri yang bisa ku ubah, hanya itu saja tsuyoku nareru riyuu wo shitta boku wo tsurete susume Aku tahu mengapa aku bisa menjadi kuat, bawa aku bersamamu dou shitatte! Aku tidak bisa! kesenai yume mo tomarenai ima mo Aku tidak bisa menghentikan mimpiku, aku tidak bisa berhenti sekarang dareka no tame ni tsuyoku nareru nara Jika aku bisa menjadi kuat untuk seseorang arigatou kanashimi yo Terima kasih, kesedihan sekai ni uchinomesarete makeru imi wo shitta Aku tahu apa artinya dikalahkan oleh dunia guren no hana yo sakihokore! unmei wo terashite Mekarlah bunga lotus (teratai) merah! Terangi takdir ini inabikari no zatsuon ga mimi wo sasu tomadou kokoro Suara kilatan petir menembus telingaku yasashii dake ja mamorenai mono ga aru? wakatteru kedo Apakah ada sesuatu yang tidak bisa dilindungi hanya dengan bersikap baik? Aku tahu suimenka de karamaru zenaku sukete mieru gizen ni tenbatsu Baik dan jahat terjerat dalam air, hukuman ilahi yang dapat melihat jelas kemunafikan (Tell me why, tell me why, tell me why, tell me… I don’t need you!) (Katakan padaku mengapa, katakan padaku mengapa, katakan padaku mengapa, katakan padaku... Aku tidak membutuhkanmu!) itsuzai no hana yori idomi tsuzuke saita ichirin ga utsukushii Satu bunga yang terus berjuang untuk mekar itu lebih indah daripada bunga permata ranbou ni shikitsumerareta togedarake no michi mo Jalan yang penuh dengan duri yang tajam honki no boku dake ni arawareru kara norikoete miseru yo Hanya akan muncul untuk diriku yang serius kantan ni katazukerareta mamorenakatta yume mo Jangan mudah menyingkirkan mimpimu, bahkan impian yang tidak bisa dilingungi sekalipun guren no shinzou ni ne wo hayashi kono chi ni yadotte Hati lotus merah ini berakar dan hidup dalam darah ini hito shirezu hakanai chiriyuku ketsumatsu Rahasia yang tersembunyi akan lenyap karena tersebar mujou ni yaburete himei no kaze fuku Jeritan angin memilukan yang merobeknya dareka no warau kage dareka no nakigoe Bayangan tawa dan tangisan seseorang daremo ga shiawase wo negatteru Semua orang menginginkan kebahagiaan dou shitatte! Aku tidak bisa! kesenai yume mo tomarenai ima mo Aku tidak bisa menghentikan mimpiku, aku tidak bisa berhenti sekarang dareka no tame ni tsuyoku nareru nara Jika aku bisa menjadi kuat untuk seseorang arigatou kanashimi yo Terima kasih, kesedihan sekai ni uchinomesarete makeru imi wo shitta Aku tahu apa artinya dikalahkan oleh dunia guren no hana yo sakihokore! unmei wo terashite Mekarlah bunga lotus (teratai) merah! Terangi takdir ini unmei wo terashite Terangi takdir ini
My sister was like this, when she was in highschool she hung around white friends who thought that anything japanese was weeby and to be ashamed of so she spent years trying to be as white as possible and she even bullied me for embracing japanese language and culture earlier than her. I'm glad she's learning katakana now at 19
I hate when people think "Oh you live in America/Canada and your learning Japanese? Ugh, what gross weeb" there's nothing wrong with being a weeb but I get how it could be disheartening to hear.
This was so incredibly resonant with me. I've been considering doing a video essay on my own channel about my Asian-American identity crisis, and I have to say, this video was such an inspiration. It mirrors my own journey so closely (with the exception of my being biracially Japanese and Filipino, so no language aside from English was ever spoken at home) that I can't help but see how universal this issue is among first-generation American kids. Thank you so much for sharing all of this. It's truly so powerful.
My friend sometimes picks on me because my English isn't very good. It's fine she is just playing around. But I use the same come back. "How many languages do YOU speak?" And she stops :3
Ah. The problems of those who live in English speaking countries. I'm from the Netherlands, and here nearly everyone knows English to some degree. Pretty much everyone is bilingual. Especially people from my province, since Frysian is also an official language here. So most people around me know 3 languages. Your argument wouldn't work here :3
I also have very similar feelings. I'm a Mexican-American who is white passing. I grew up in rural East-Texas and distanced myself from my culture. I hated going to Mexico when I was younger because I felt so out of place. People would always ask me if I was a "Gringo" and were surprised I spoke Spanish. Even at home, it always comes as a surprise when people find out that I'm Mexican. My Spanish has an accent and so I don't speak it unless necessary. It gets made fun of when I speak it with others. I think that hardest thing for me is communicating with my parents. I find it hard and often struggle finding the words that I just get frustrated and give up. I reply to them in English most of the time if I can. I feel like I can't go back and speak with my family in Mexico because they resent me for never coming back to see them. It has been 10 years since I've been and I haven't spoken a word to my cousins.
American Elementary schoolers then : "This sounds weird! What is this?!" American elementary schoolers now : BOKU WO, TSURETE TE SUSUMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
It's rare to actually be related to samurai! Maybe take Kendo class to honor your ancestors if you are interested?? ww 心配しないで元気出して～your family is proud of you
im hispanic and i connect with this video so much it has me in the feels ... parents moved from peru to the US when i was not even 2 yet, and i actually refused to learn english as a toddler until elementary school, then i refused to speak spanish and became embarassed by my culture. between 2013-2019 i never had a real hispanic friend. i was in this very hispanic church scouts troop in middle school for a while, but i never connected with the girls and felt like a loner but it's more cus i'm shy and isolate myself more than anything. i was never bullied for being hispanic, when some white kids in a day care chased me around with questions and wanting me to speak spanish, i hated that, but i cant call them racist cus they were just curious little kids. i am hella lucky that in 2020, i made an online friend who is peruvian like me, except he grew up there and moved to the US as a teenager, as opposed to me moving as a toddler. he's fluent in english and just has an accent while i understand most spanish i just feel insecure about it because of my refusal to speak it as a kid. he's really helped me let go of my shame and that what i've gone through is understandable, and it's never too late to relearn. so sometimes we have late night voice chats where it's just us speaking spanish and sometimes he's impressed with how natural i sound and that i've improved a lot. so i feel super lucky for that. as a kid i didnt like going to peru every summer but we haven't gone since covid and now i miss it more than ever :(
I’m Filipino and grew up in the Philippines but I don’t look or act like it and my Filipino is horrible. My mom is half Canadian and Filipino and my dad Chinese. Every time I interact with someone who isn’t Filipino they are always like wow you’re really in touch with you Filipino roots but when it’s with a Filipino they always think that I’m like Australian or British especially considering my accent. It’s been hard dealing with that and I’ve been going through similar experiences as you had when you were younger. Thank you for making this video as it really helped me feel a lot better about myself! Thank you so much!
I also think it depends where you live in America when your parents move from another place. I'm a bit glad I did end up learning how to speak Spanish but I still feel like an outsider when my grandparents come over for holidays. It's mainly the slang and not knowing how to roll my r right that always gets to me.
I'm different I'm a not Bruneians to the Bruneians and not a Malaysian to the Malaysians eventhough both of the countries are Malays it's the accent ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
This hits So HARD cause like my whole family and friends always wonder why I respond in english but not speak Telegu this video is such a good example on mostly American asians and how Culture shifts are commons even as an Indian the culture trying to get into your ethnic culture is still difficult
Lmao people don't even know how hard all the Indian languages are tho, they are ALL VERY HARD. I also hate the line "Do you speak Indian?" Like do you speak American?
Same I can’t speak telegu either and I went to this Indian place where you learn about the gods and stuff and I was just sitting there like *________* cause I literally couldn’t understand anything. I agree with u
I'm Indian American (Tamil, to be specific), and a child of immigrants. I have also faced numerous identity crises because of it. Another thing added to that was that many Americans do not consider Indians to be Asian, even though we are in Asia. I am still dealing with it, but am also learning to balance my Western and Eastern identity. This video helped me a lot, thank you!
Well what the fuck? Here in Malaysia, India is definitely considered Asian. We’re Asian ourselves PS: the drawings of Emiri are so adorable someone give 2005 Emiri a hug🥰
I mean I think Americans know that India is Asian, but in American English Asian with no specification refers to east Asian while Indians would be considered south Asian. But if you said South Asian Americans should know that you're referring to like India/Bangladesh/Pakistan area. Southeast Asian also is a distin region to Americans. I think Asian being defaulted to east Asian is just a matter of population and the fact that many Chinese people immigranted in the 1800s for the US.
I think you should still try to learn it even if you not good at it. Everyone starts somewhere and that's a very beautiful thing. Don't give up someday you will probably regret the fact that you didn't try besides if you learn it than you can show off the fact you many languages. Just know your beautiful and amazing.
“A shame?! How many languages do you know lady?!” Every bilingual in a nutshell. Cause gosh darn it you better know at least three languages before coming at me I’m both extremely happy and terrified that so many can, in fact “come at me”.
haha, had an opposite experience. as a bug-eyed asian person, a friend of a friend once asked me, "are your eyes really that big or is that your glasses?"
Man, the "I wish I had white parents" bit is something I can really relate to. I never actually said it to my parents, but Ive definitely thought my life would be much easier for me if they were more like my white friends' parents. Ive always been proud of my ethnicity, but I was still pretty Americanized. I eventually realized how hard it is to raise a kid thats basically from a different culture. For children of immigrants, not only is there a generation difference, but a cultural difference.
I was really shocked when she said "I wish I had white parents"BUT I understand why she did but I'm glad to know that she's alright and realized that it's ok not be with ashamed of what happened and I'm glad that she shared with us this piece of her life because I know what it's like.
Me: Filipino-American My Parents: Don’t teach me their language or culture Also My Parents: Disappointed that I’m not magically bilingual Me: ( ; - ; )ノ
To add to the irony, I'm a white American, but I lived in the Philippines for 2 years as a missionary and speak Hiligaynon, Tagalog, and Karaya fluently and picked up on a lot of aspects of Filipino culture. Ang puso kong pinoy
This video is able to connect and reach out to anyone of a different ethnicity in America and feel the same bond and struggles. On the other hand, things like this can bring the same people together to grow together. I'm complete mexican ethnicity, but I'm born & raised American, and I can only say broken, basic around the house spanish, but I want to get better so I can be with the relatives and friends instead of being a "no sabo" kid. Everyone should bond with where they came from so that the can celebrate the past, present, and all to come.
OMGGGGG, the whole 'hearing-Korean' and 'responding-in-English' thing is LITERALLY my life summed up (except with Japanese, lol). And the entire thing about having a language barrier between me and my grandparents is so relatable...
Yeah, same but with Chinese. Over the last few years I felt really distanced from my country. I watched Chinese shows and tried to find something Chinese to obsess over to guilt trip myself into improving my Chinese. My Chinese improved quite a bit over the last few years but I still feel distanced sometimes.
I’ve never fully related to a video before…I’m Latina and don’t speak barely any Spanish. All my relatives are Spanish speaker and I feel the same as you. It makes me feel so bad about myself and I almost cried realizing I’m not just weird and need to get over myself. This is a real thing and now I’m know I’m not alone. Thank you Emily ^^
I know how you feel my family members are Jamaican/Trinidadian even though we all speak English I don’t connect with the culture at all because of how I don’t visit often they joke and say to my parents “she’s so American” but I have the disconnect because I was the only one of my siblings who wasn’t born in the Caribbean and it frustrates me sometimes
Welp..... I kept watching and watching until i eventually learned how to speak and spell the words in the language of a cartoon i watched back in 2010 or 2009, (only thing was remaining was asking my parents about what those words did mean)
The vicious cycle of not trying because you feel like you sound stupid and never getting better which only makes you sound even more stupid is extremely relatable. I used to speak more Macedonian as a kid but because I lived in America (even though I did interact with Macedonian American family friends) I eventually lost my ability to speak well and only got worse with time due to the anxiety attempting to speak brought. I got even more embarrassed when I learned I had a thick American accent when speaking, which singled me out even if I spoke, and I completely thought I had a Macedonian accent when speaking.
my cousin is bulgarian american but he barely knows any bulgarian as well, only some very basic phrases. i wonder if he feels this way as well sometimes
Dude, once my Mandarin teacher asked me where I was from and I replied "Texas." I looked her dead in the eye and we stared at each other for a good 20 seconds.
Ever get the "no, where are you really from?" lol its badly worded, so I just let the loop continue for as long as possible. Gotta enjoy the little things
SolracJ88 No, I just get more questions going back in my history. Where are you from? Where did you grow up? Where were you born? Where are your parents from? I honestly didn’t notice what they were getting at so I’ve had this exchange with multiple people and one even chuckled like I was giving the wrong answers. I wasn’t being difficult, I was just answering the questions being asked. Now that I know what it’s about, I wish I was third or fourth generation so I could just keep going.
... OK. WHEN THE KIDS WERE RUDE TO THE MUSIC I WAS ALL: ... well um guess what ? Yeah. Kpop is a thing now and suddenly yall say u "know" the lyrics. it aint match for meh tbh.
Ja, dies kann in deinem Fall ziemlich hart sein. Ich würde generell sagen, dass du Deutscher bist, da Deutschland dein Geburtsland ist und dementsprechend die deutsche Staatsangehörigkeit besitzt, richtig? Macht nichts, wenn du aus ethnischer und kultureller Sicht es eher nicht bist. //////////////////////////////////////////////////// Yeah, this can be really tough in your case. I would generally say that you're German, because Germany is your birth country and you own the German citizenship accordingly to that, right? It doesn't matter if you're not German by ethnical or cultural view.
I enjoyed your video immenselly. I'm Uruguayan and for very odd circumstances, I am of two nations, Uruguay and the US. I first came to the US with my parents at age 5 years and 10 months, then went back at age 10, then came back at age 17. To say that I was totally lost and felt uprooted repeatedly is an understatement. I lost friedships so many times I lost count. But fortunately I turned out 100% fluent in both languages, yet with a lot of heartache and emotional upheaval too. Yet despite all this, I found myself identifying with you so much. I guffawed out loud at several points because I could see your situations and empathize with you. I laughed not at you but with you, feeling I somehow knew that even though you felt strange, you also knew who you were and were fine with it. And it was exhilarating to hear what you went through and how you overcame it. Well, just to say I loved your life story. I will subscribe to your channel and I look forward to many good moments during your videos.
Lol. I remember whenever I was out with my younger brother, kids of his age would smirk at us, like we were dating. That make my brother go mad and in a downwards spiral. But I kinda enjoy it especially when I say: he's my brother!... Haha... (Losers. Not getting any. Hahahaha.)
everyone has stories of their race meanwhile me: An Ecuadorian , who grew up in New York and moved to Pennsylvania, :/ lol , Spanish is my first language
This is... amazing. I watched your video holding my breath, because it was so exciting, even though I haven't experienced anything like you have. I found myself utterly fascinated hearing about all those things that have been going through your head. Thank you so much for sharing it! You have a great talent at making things clear and vivid in the listener's mind's eye. I'm going to check out your other videos.
Same. It’s so hard to break old habits of just speaking English. Forgetting my mother tongue contributed to me secluding myself and becoming socially awkward, which certainly doesn’t help things. Just adds to the vicious cycle.
When I was in primary school, a boy joined three years before we graduated and he spoke nothing but Korean. I remember every student didn't care to try and learn Korean to help with the language barrier but I'd always sit with him and try to learn simple words so I could help translate in class and I even helped him with his English. Damn I wish we were still in touch ^^
I mean- you can’t blame them for not knowing Korean. I don’t want too be rude, but you can’t blame people for not wanting too learn a whole new language just to help one kid you don’t know.
God I feel this so much- My Vietnamese parents think than I’m quiet and don’t like to talk but it’s really just because I don’t know how to respond/how to have a conversation and it’s so embarrassing every time my grandpa tries to talk with me and all I can do is nod aghhhshjdjwjsjs
YOOOO My grandpa and grandma think I can speak but all I know is a little more than Yeah con an roi And Chao ba noi chao om noi. Then all i can do is nod and agree saying yea yea
Yes, my dad's side of my family is vietnamese and they always say that when i was younger i spoke viet really well and understood a lot, but now i dont speak or understand viet at all. And those words just placed a lot of pressure on me.
Oh gosh, my Cantonese grandmother has dementia, and I think she forgets that most of us grandchildren can't fully communicate with her (four of my cousins are fluent, gosh, it feels so weird to ask my 10 year old cousin what to respond with), and all I can do is just nod and pretend to go along.
I’ve also had a similar identity crisis. I’m half Mexican and half Japanese (My mom is Mexican and my Dad is Japanese) and I was born in the U.S. Meaning I felt the pressure from my Japanese half to be super smart and gifted and know the language and be super in touch with all the Japanese traditions. And for my Mexican half the expectations were also to learn the language and the cultural traditions, but also to make my family proud and have a super successful job in order to support my family. And I’m also the artist child out of my other siblings who want to be scientists or doctors and it just made me feel super disconnected to both my Mexican and my Japanese roots.
I'm korean, and when my mom packed me kimbap for lunch in the us EVERYONE asked, "is that sushi"? EDIT: sorry, but most people just don't quite understand the relations between korean and japanese people. I'm not saying this to offend anyone, i'm just putting this out.
@@Hapasan808 Well, thank you. It's not actually the japanese people who I'm mad at. I'm just mad at the japanese government for not acknowledging the things that they did and taking it out of the textbooks.
Emily: I wish someone was here to tell me “it’s ok not to be confident in a language.” Me: It’s ok not to be confident in a language. This video is so relatable. I can’t speak my own language not understand it (only a little). It’s hard..
People shouldn't let something like that get to them. I have pretty much lost my ability to speak my first language (although I still can very much understand it.) But on the other hand, I can read, speak and write in English which is considered to be one of the hardest languages to learn. For that, I consider myself to be fortunate.
I'm Korean-American myself and born in America, and this is so relatable. The language part especially, I still do not speak Korean very well even though I have been trying to learn it for years.
this might make sense because of the Japanese invasion on more long ago, which some of koreans, still hate the Japanese for, so basically making them more anti-anime or anti-japanese
@@koto485 I think it's more of the fact that a lot of Asian elders still think anime = cartoon = for kids. But even if they didn't think it that way, even as anime is reaching mainstream status, they still think that having a career related to it is not a viable path in life, that it should just stay a hobby. I'm Indonesian, we got fucked over by 3.5 years of Japanese colonialization, the dismissive attitude towards anime is not related to it.
My grandfather : speak Chinese My grandmother : speak Chinese My dad : speak Chinese My mom : speak Chinese My friends : speak Chinese Me : speak English
I’ve seen this video many times but have never commented. I’m a white American. I’ve never had these feelings. I don’t understand what this is like. But I appreciate and am humbled that you’ve shared your experience. I always want to be as educated as possible given my innate privilege. So thank you for sharing your story. And to every commenter that is sharing their own stories. I’m so glad to hear your voices and stories. I have a deep respect for you all. I’ll always have so much I want to learn, so thank you for helping me.
I know the feeling of people saying ”it a shame” whenever you can’t speak your own language
Yea, im filipino/American and my mom speaks filipino and i cant understand it, my dad is American and he has no clue what she says. As a kid i kept asking my mom to teach me about speaking her language she said she will teach me, but she never did so I tried to copy her but she shouted at me saying that's inappropriate even tho i had no idea what it means.
MY DAD SHAMES ME FOR NOT KNOWING KANNADA. now i have to do kannnada class torture
Yes, it sucks so bad. To top it off, Korean was actually my very first language and I just forgot about it
@@lunahetfield same with me!
Ye i live in indonesia but grew up speaking english and it's always pointed out that i couldn't speak indonesian
“He just stared right back at him until he got uncomfortable”
Yo legit, your brother is a straight up badass
I thought that was kind of a normal passive-aggressive response? I do that too and never thought much of it...
Torlak Kårstad Woah calm down there mister badass, You are so cool... I’m jealous. No but seriously it isn’t a big deal for most people but if a person doesn’t do it they might be more timid or just feel a certain amount of respect should be given but personally I wouldn’t stand for it either and I feel as if most people (especially men) would stare right back to reciprocate their feelings about what was occurring.
Dude… if someone stares at me i always say to my head "Does he/she hate me we never met, okay okay relax... deep breath just dont make eye contact and everything will be fine" i get nervous really i always think that did i do something wrong or have something wrong with me :/
Bruh I just read that when she said it
I did tried once, but it didn't last long bc staring back is also uncomfortable.
The whole "understanding a language but not being able to speak it" and "language barrier with family" and "being compared to other people " and the SHAME....I can very much relate too
(We love you for who you are Emily and who you will be ❤)
same, it always feels so bad to not be able to speak the language of my other half of the family, romanian ;-; it feels so weird
I relate too my gosh every time I go to my hometown(?) Me and my sister (my brother learnt the language and left me and my sister in the dust) would always have a hard time. But all our cousins from my mum's side also spoke English so we would talk to them,......
Then get scolded for "preventing them from learning the language"
Also the whole "I want to be white" thing is very common, but I feel like there's also some people that say "I wish I was Asian" (East Asian) and I am partly ashamed of myself for thinking this way but it's true. I think a lot of people don't really talk about it so I see Emily as being brave for coming out and talking about it.
Good on you Emily♥️♥️
Hi fellow ash lol
OMG YES!
Ash Lost my mom tells me not to speak english in the philippines because i’ll be kidnapped lol
왜 유튜브가 이걸 알고리즘으로 잡아줬는지 모르겠는데 대강 영상과 같은 상황의 한국계 2세들은 상당히 문화적으로 고립되어 있다는 걸 알았다
차라리 3세면 미련없이 나고 자란 땅의 국적을 선택하겠지만 영상의 경우와 같은 2세들에겐 여러모로 어려운 문제겠다 싶네
이 댓글을 당사자가 읽어주실지는 모르겠지만 노력해서 여기까지 온 거 대단하다고 박수쳐드리고 싶음 앞으로도 좋은 일만 가득하시길.
Looks like Korean with all the ovals.
"Why didn't you teach your kid Korean"
*Responds in Spanish*
Lmaoo
Y e s
Porque no necesita korean
PUEDE ALGUIEN PERFORARME EN LA CARA? gracias
Si
The only perk ive experienced being an Asian kid in an america school is special treatment in math class
thats... bad
@Len same its all bs lol
I'm Chinese American, and I also feel like I'm Dishonoring my family anytime I have to speak in Chinese. I have not been to China in about 9 years, so I didnt have a chance to use the language. Luckily, my school is teaching chinese, so I'm trying to get better at the language.
I'm Arabican American
That’s good. Try your best to learn it at a younger age because it’s harder to learn when your older. It is good for you to learn. Keep going at it.
Don’t feel bad I never been to Hong Kong before
Also I don’t have a cantonese accent so I could never speak it correctly, so I never spoke it
Listening to music, watching movies/shows/videos, reading, and even playing games of the respective language can really help in learning/retaining that language. Especially effective is chatting with that language with others that are fluent in it.
At least, that is what I feel, and what my Spanish teacher has taught me :p
hey i'm Mexican Canadian i feel the same way as you do i grew up speaking English and not a lot of Spanish but i have Ben improving at it and it is starting to get easier to speak to relatives and other people who know Spanish.
i hope you continue to speak Chinese and don't feel discouraged at not speaking well because we have lots of time to improve.
Man. As a Korean American myself I found this so relatable. Especially the part where people teased me for not knowing Korean. This was so cathartic
How can you not know it when your parents are Korean and know the language it’s so bizzare to me
@@YOSHlDA many Asian immigrants to western places have a deep seated hatred towards themselves because they see western cultures as superior. They could intentionally or unintentionally not speak it as much at home, or the kid could see their parents language as embarrassing and speak English at home while their parents speak something else! There's lots of reasons someone might not be able to speak their mother tongue. A lot of kids also just lose the ability after too much exposure to only English at school.
@@YOSHlDA some people have english as their first language.
@@atsuucore but their parents are Korean so 1st language they should learn is Korean not English how did it happen
@uniiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii so they didn’t talk to you in Arabic at all?
“Just stare at them till they get uncomfortable”
Damn. Why didn’t I think of that.
omg I luv ur profile pic it's kimi no na wa its literally my fave movie
georgina RIGHT!!!!!
That'll never work against me i'm good at staring contest fight me
Beta Areus but what if I put on glasses that make it look like I’m opening my eyes
I've done this since I was a child lol
So basically Im an asian american, and this other guy is like, “you’re not asian you don’t have squinty eyes!”
and I got so mad ;-;
People sometimes think I'm Asian lol. Lemme tell you why.
I tell people that I am mostly of the Blackfoot tribe. These idiots forgot what a native American is (even tho our school's mascot is a native). So they googled what a Blackfoot was. The first picture they saw was one of my ancestors of course. He just happened to have what Americans call "Asian eyes". Not only did they call him a girl for having two long braids, but they also assumed that he was asain. They looked at the shape of my eyes and THESE IDIOTS SAID I WAS CHINESE 💀!
@@mrpotatomansoul2577 🅱️ruh moment
You're like an anime character! 🙃
@@fourtrifiveo4350 yEs i Am vErY mUcH cHiNeSe. iT's NoT LikE I hAvE aN aFrO. iT's jUsT A wEaVe.
I'm native American, African American, and European American btw. A very mixed child lol.
@@daylenhigman8680 anime characters have them 👁️👄👁️ eyes
I have a similar story:
-I was born in china
-I moved to canada when i was 1
-I have chinese side of family
-I know nothing about chinese culture
-My chinese side of the family knows how to speak chinese
-i dont know how to speak to most of them
-I NEED HELP
UwU
So your ethnicity is China and nationality china not very confusing
I am filipino and I was born in Britain & I also don’t know how to speak my language & so I always get super embarrassed when I meet new family members as they don’t speak English. I also don’t know a lot about filipino culture unfortunately, so I feel your pain
@RUOQI XU i can speak it too but i cant write the chinese character XD
so relatable, except for i wasn't born in china. uwu
Also, the use of a flower as a symbol of your mastery of the language and culture is an excellent visual metaphor. Well done.
"I wish I had white parents"
BRUH I SPAT MY DRINK OUT. I'M NOT EVER YOUR FATHER BUT THAT HURT
Bruh u got hearted by the queen.
@Aimal Tabassam I know
J4studios x4 I know
@Towerbattles kid I know
I said something similar as a kid. I asked my white mom if I could have a white dad because my brown dad didn’t match me. I was 3 and I didn’t know any better. Being half Hispanic is weird sometimes. I was pale until I started tanning at the age of 4, I actually get pretty dark.
“Secretly hoping we’d run out of time before we play it”
Me: *my mind when we have to perform in front of the class*
*time runs out*
*Yours is postponed to be the first one the next day*
*insert shocked pikachu face
@@timpark02 that was me. I was supposed to do a presentation the next day and then the pandemic hit
LOL same
@Bro Zieg You’re lucky!
I felt this.
100% relate. Me and my siblings can’t speak in our native tongue properly, so whenever our grandparents called on the phone we said 2 lines and then rushed to pass it on to the next sibling. Every single time.
I can so relate to this on a whole other level
Same...Moroccan dad
My parents would always barede me for not wanting to talk to my relatives because of my terrible Spanish
SAMEEEEE IN MY FAM IM KNOWN AS THE "AMERICAN" ONE CAUSE I WAS BORN HERE AND I DONT SPEAK MY NATIVE LANGUAGE WELL srry for caps-
@@Soulcrash3 actually, that doesn't have to be necessarily true. The language that I grew up with is the language that is slowly dying from my tongue each day (Cantonese), cuz English replaced it. So, in some cases, the dying language could be the "mother language" if that's the language they were first taught and we're surrounded by as a baby
As a Chadian-Canadian, this is so relatable. I have always had communication problems with my family. I couldn't even hold myself in a conversation.
@RainOperator938 GIGA CHAD CANADIAN
fr I'm Ethiopian Canadian and I really wish I had duolingo teaching Amharic at least.
Emily’s Dad : why don’t you have more Korean friends
My Dad : why don’t you have any friends
Bruh same
lol good comment you deserve a like
You will now never know why I got a 100 likes
oof thats relatable
i can be your friend -w-
That, “a shame” part got to me, as my comprehension of the Japanese language is whittling away every day
It was the same with me and my Spanish
This is so true though
Omg I cried.....It’s so weird cus..... I literally had all the same experiences as you growing up as Korean American
OR3O!!!! I swear that username looks so familiar. WAIT NVM YOU MADE THAT DOKI DOKI SONG RIGHT? I LOVE THAT SONG SO MUCH
Its hard being a Filipino Turkish citizen like I can speak Turkish and English but I can't speak Tagalog.
OMG OR3O
holy crap its OR3O
This is a coincidence. I just listened to the D.Va rap you made with Dan Bull a few hours ago. I didn't realise this was an issue affecting you too because from that rap, you sounded fluent and confident to me. You take care now!
this vid is relatable on so many levels. i was born in the philippines, but i moved to another country at the age of 5 and got exposed to english media. as u can predict, that influenced me a LOT, not only did my ability to speak tagalog get completely erased.. i even lost my understanding on the language and culture. i wanted to re-learn the whole language because i didnt want to embarrass my parents and i didnt want to feel disconnected from it, but i never fully committed. i always felt ashamed when i take the awful flight back to the mother land because of my relative's comments. knowing someone, and many other people, have the same experiences as me feels reassuring. Now that im older, ive been trying to learn the basics and the culture of my homeland^^
I grew up in another country but i didn't spoke english at home only my mother tongue
This comment section is the most worldwide thing I've seen in a while. BTW I'm Brazilian.
Thanks for the heart!
Aaaahhh. I'm Brazilian American
same
sameee
Same here bud! My parents and two older sisters were born in Brazil but i was born in America. Ive never even been there sooooo. Heh...
"My dad would call out in Korean and I would call back in-"
My sleep deprived brain: "American ..... wait...."
Well if they mean the Ethnicity, then it is the correct use. If language, then wrong.
That thing about "I'll sound stupid -> I don't try -> I never get better" can apply to so many more things than just learning a language. Learning to play an instrument, or learning to draw, or to weld, or to sing, or basically anything. It's so easy to get locked in place when you have people around you who don't support you when you're trying to do something. Especially if they're outright critical. That's why it's so important to support your kids when they start to pick up hobbies. Sure it's likely that they won't stick with it and that they'll move on to something else, but you don't know that and you don't want to unwittingly be the reason why they gave up and moved on.
Well said. This applies to me but I've learned on my own to just do what I think is best for myself, knowing I'm capable if I put my mind and body to it.
My parents are born in Puerto Rico and I was born in Pennsylvania. I can say I’m a Puerto Rican American. As I was growing up I get nervous sometimes and I was diagnosed with Autism when I was 3, but it didn’t stop me from trying new things. Love the animation by the way. 🙂
I have symptoms of autism, but am not formally diagnosed. I can definitely relate to the notion of "disappointing" my ancestors.
The way I've come to see it, my ancestors passed down a heritage to me in some sense of the word, but that does not obligate me to pass it on exactly as is. My being quite different from my ancestors does not obligate me to judge myself as a "failure" for not being who they think I should be.
Come to think of it, when I hear stories about other Americans with parents from foreign countries trying to "pass on their heritage", it comes across to me not only as coercive, but downright gross. About ten years ago, my Thai partner discovered the film *Selena*, directed by Gregory Nava, which tells the story of the life of the singer Selena Perez, born in the USA to parents from Mexico. The way the film portrayed her father instilling a Mexican identity in her struck me as downright possessive.
But also, I know that western countries like the USA also have a past tradition of willfully destroying the cultures of people it assimilates that is very coercive at an individual level.
People should be free to be who they want to be. Thank you for coming to my TED Talk ;-)
My mom is from Puerto Rico, but she is half puerto rican, half dominican
it sucks being a foreigner everywhere, it’s like you don’t belong in america because “oh you’re too (enter ethnicity here)” and then when ur at for example mexico they say “oh you’re too american/white”
It's cause everywhere there's xenophobic or racist people. Over time you either adapt or stay true to yourself and others adapt
YES THATS EXACLY IT
@@reesespuffs335 “Build a wall to keep the Mexicans out” is the worst racist joke I’ve ever heard.
Im not exactly american and im just living in America for 3 years. But when i first got in America people thought i speak Chinese but im actually Indonesian. But i been doing good here eversince
@@porshaa1665 Whether you like it or not it's a fact, not racist. It's a reason to improve one side or both rather blaming people and telling them to lower the threshold for you. Use it as an incentive, build on it, rather than telling everyone else to destroy their own identity.
"I feel like older Koreans really like to stare for some reason"
No Emily. That's just all Older Asian people...
Well it's Practically the same in all Asian Region i guess, same with Indonesia, China, and Japan, its all about Respect i guess.
oh no, Im already doing it
... THAT'S JUST EVERYONE
That is all old people
That’s just every old person everywhere....
i mean some of them are literally staring out their window for up to 9h
I feel the same but instead of it being Asian I’m Hispanic. Also Rosetta Stone helps! That’s how my friends learned English
DUDE SAMEEEE!!! EXCEPT, I kinda suck ass at Spanish and can only really speak english...
Me too I'm Puerto Rican but I still can't talk in Spanish
sameeee
Ey!! Yo tambien hermano!
Same but I had to teach my self English
Wow, I cried watching this. Thank you for posting. The analog of the potted plants as cultures that we nurture is really apt. I am a Filipino American who never learned the language and grew up also hearing what a 'shame' it was I couldn't speak OR understand Tagalog. To some degree, it's true I wish I had learned, but so I could keep the connection to that part of my identity. But when I or my parents are BLAMED for it, it does make me mad and resentful and I think it's just really disrespectful to the reality that multi cultural people grow up with.
I have a lot of strong feelings about it now that I am older because 1) I am going to visit the Philippines soon for the first time since I was, like, a baby. And I feel so weird about it, and realizing I am kind of scared about it. I am excited but I am definitely an impostor or at least feel that way. 2) I have a baby now who is white (Russian)/Filipino and I have just all sorts of thoughts about how to keep him connected to his culture/identity, and feeling bad I can't even pass on Tagalog. I am trying hard to make sure he learns Russian since my husband speaks it at least. I cried when you said you once told your parents you wished they were white. Maybe because I identify with it, maybe also because I'm afraid of hearing it from my own son someday.
What you said is very relatable
I am german-filipino mixed and im also scared of visiting the Philippines because im too german/white for filipinos but at the same time too asian for Germany
and I have never learned tagalog either
Emily's older bro is literally the most badass person ever.
"Fight me" on the recommended list
i do that too. one thing worst than looking someone in the eye is them looking at me
You know what they say about bald people
*They trade their hair for power*
@@squidpedia8682 Yeah, big power is given to few chosen ones who sacrifice there hair.
Yessee
"The lowest grade I ever got on a spelling test was an 88% in like fourth grade and I cried that day"
I felt that on a spiritual level.
Am I the only one with average/low grades ? Jeez, everyone's a smart kid in this comment section
@@bonsoir5170 no when i get a low score on test i just hear and feel that imma be whooped in the ass with a belt
My lowest grade was 90%, cried for like 2 hours
As a web and a “nerd,” I felt that too…
The lowest grade I got was 89% :(
It crazy to think no matter where you’re from most 1st generation kids will feel like this. Experiences repeat themselves through many people.
1st generation kid problems
*sad 1st generation noises*
what do u mean by 1st generation kids?
Do you mean second-generation immigrants?
I love the way the grandparents were so kind on the phone
So what have we learned?
Embrace your culture, and Sim is 100% Saitama
I love my brazilian culture but i like to learn about other cultures too.
I can speak chinese without an accent, however my vocabulary is that of a 5 year old since I never use it.
So when I'm visiting in china people think I look and sound chinese, but I'm completely overwhelmed by the cultural differences.
tsuyoku nareru riyuu wo shitta boku wo tsurete susume
Aku tahu mengapa aku bisa menjadi kuat, bawa aku bersamamu
dorodarake no soumatou ni you kowabaru kokoro
Hati yang penuh kekuatan dimuakkan oleh lentera berlumpur
furueru te wa tsukamitai mono ga aru sore dake sa
Ada sesuatu yang ingin kuambil dengan tanganku yang gemetar, hanya itu saja
yoru no nioi ni (I’ll spend all thirty nights)
Dalam aroma malam (aku akan menghabiskan seluruh 30 malam)
sora nirandemo (Staring into the sky)
bahkan jika aku di udara (Menatap langit)
kawatte ikeru no wa jibun jishin dake sore dake sa
Hanya diriku sendiri yang bisa ku ubah, hanya itu saja
tsuyoku nareru riyuu wo shitta boku wo tsurete susume
Aku tahu mengapa aku bisa menjadi kuat, bawa aku bersamamu
dou shitatte!
Aku tidak bisa!
kesenai yume mo tomarenai ima mo
Aku tidak bisa menghentikan mimpiku, aku tidak bisa berhenti sekarang
dareka no tame ni tsuyoku nareru nara
Jika aku bisa menjadi kuat untuk seseorang
arigatou kanashimi yo
Terima kasih, kesedihan
sekai ni uchinomesarete makeru imi wo shitta
Aku tahu apa artinya dikalahkan oleh dunia
guren no hana yo sakihokore! unmei wo terashite
Mekarlah bunga lotus (teratai) merah! Terangi takdir ini
inabikari no zatsuon ga mimi wo sasu tomadou kokoro
Suara kilatan petir menembus telingaku
yasashii dake ja mamorenai mono ga aru? wakatteru kedo
Apakah ada sesuatu yang tidak bisa dilindungi hanya dengan bersikap baik? Aku tahu
suimenka de karamaru zenaku sukete mieru gizen ni tenbatsu
Baik dan jahat terjerat dalam air, hukuman ilahi yang dapat melihat jelas kemunafikan
(Tell me why, tell me why, tell me why, tell me… I don’t need you!)
(Katakan padaku mengapa, katakan padaku mengapa, katakan padaku mengapa, katakan padaku... Aku tidak membutuhkanmu!)
itsuzai no hana yori idomi tsuzuke saita ichirin ga utsukushii
Satu bunga yang terus berjuang untuk mekar itu lebih indah daripada bunga permata
ranbou ni shikitsumerareta togedarake no michi mo
Jalan yang penuh dengan duri yang tajam
honki no boku dake ni arawareru kara norikoete miseru yo
Hanya akan muncul untuk diriku yang serius
kantan ni katazukerareta mamorenakatta yume mo
Jangan mudah menyingkirkan mimpimu, bahkan impian yang tidak bisa dilingungi sekalipun
guren no shinzou ni ne wo hayashi kono chi ni yadotte
Hati lotus merah ini berakar dan hidup dalam darah ini
hito shirezu hakanai chiriyuku ketsumatsu
Rahasia yang tersembunyi akan lenyap karena tersebar
mujou ni yaburete himei no kaze fuku
Jeritan angin memilukan yang merobeknya
dareka no warau kage dareka no nakigoe
Bayangan tawa dan tangisan seseorang
daremo ga shiawase wo negatteru
Semua orang menginginkan kebahagiaan
dou shitatte!
Aku tidak bisa!
kesenai yume mo tomarenai ima mo
Aku tidak bisa menghentikan mimpiku, aku tidak bisa berhenti sekarang
dareka no tame ni tsuyoku nareru nara
Jika aku bisa menjadi kuat untuk seseorang
arigatou kanashimi yo
Terima kasih, kesedihan
sekai ni uchinomesarete makeru imi wo shitta
Aku tahu apa artinya dikalahkan oleh dunia
guren no hana yo sakihokore! unmei wo terashite
Mekarlah bunga lotus (teratai) merah! Terangi takdir ini
unmei wo terashite
Terangi takdir ini
I'm from china and, grew up in Singapore
I take foundation CHINESE O levels and Ns for everything else
Relatable
Same 😔😔😔
My sister was like this, when she was in highschool she hung around white friends who thought that anything japanese was weeby and to be ashamed of so she spent years trying to be as white as possible and she even bullied me for embracing japanese language and culture earlier than her. I'm glad she's learning katakana now at 19
Same here but im white and Lithuania side
I’m just tired of being expected to know kpop because I’m Korean
I hate when people think "Oh you live in America/Canada and your learning Japanese? Ugh, what gross weeb" there's nothing wrong with being a weeb but I get how it could be disheartening to hear.
@@thedivineofsin i know how you fell! I'm not Korean but I am Asian and people expect me to know everything about the country my PARENTS are from.
I want to learn Japanese i only know a few words.
This was so incredibly resonant with me. I've been considering doing a video essay on my own channel about my Asian-American identity crisis, and I have to say, this video was such an inspiration. It mirrors my own journey so closely (with the exception of my being biracially Japanese and Filipino, so no language aside from English was ever spoken at home) that I can't help but see how universal this issue is among first-generation American kids.
Thank you so much for sharing all of this. It's truly so powerful.
My friend sometimes picks on me because my English isn't very good.
It's fine she is just playing around.
But I use the same come back. "How many languages do YOU speak?"
And she stops :3
A good comeback to that would be at least it’s a whole number
Ah. The problems of those who live in English speaking countries. I'm from the Netherlands, and here nearly everyone knows English to some degree. Pretty much everyone is bilingual. Especially people from my province, since Frysian is also an official language here. So most people around me know 3 languages. Your argument wouldn't work here :3
Nice.
eh nao é surpresa encontrar vc aq
99k;',>!
People: *stares at them*
Emily: *uncomfortable*
Brother Josh: .....
Older brother: *STARE*
Sim*
;V
LMAO
Hahahahh staring back is something I’d do when I was a kid
CHOKED
XD
My Mom’s side: “You’re too White to be Hispanic”
My Dad’s Side: Your’re dark to be white”
Me: “WHAT AM I THEN?!?!”
Grey lol
Bruh im Mexican but i can barely speak any Spanish
Beautiful. That's what.
Human
valid
whether you like it or not,
you will always be valid 👏😔
Omg right
I also have very similar feelings. I'm a Mexican-American who is white passing. I grew up in rural East-Texas and distanced myself from my culture. I hated going to Mexico when I was younger because I felt so out of place. People would always ask me if I was a "Gringo" and were surprised I spoke Spanish. Even at home, it always comes as a surprise when people find out that I'm Mexican. My Spanish has an accent and so I don't speak it unless necessary. It gets made fun of when I speak it with others.
I think that hardest thing for me is communicating with my parents. I find it hard and often struggle finding the words that I just get frustrated and give up. I reply to them in English most of the time if I can. I feel like I can't go back and speak with my family in Mexico because they resent me for never coming back to see them. It has been 10 years since I've been and I haven't spoken a word to my cousins.
My entire family: *Spanish, living in Spain and speaking Spanish*
Me: *also lives in Spain*
Also me: e n g l i s h
Do you speak english well?
American Elementary schoolers then : "This sounds weird! What is this?!"
American elementary schoolers now : BOKU WO, TSURETE TE SUSUMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Demon Slayer op!
Overrated
@@gavin1721 stop being a hater, just dont watch it if you don't like it
Overrated
anime weebs in school is nothing new
Me: Japanese
Also me: Can’t use Samurai sword
Ancestors: *Shame*
Ishigami Yu no! I like japan!
I sub to u
Me: Korean
also me: *can use anything as a weapon and uses it well*
ancestors: *proud?*
It's rare to actually be related to samurai! Maybe take Kendo class to honor your ancestors if you are interested?? ww 心配しないで元気出して～your family is proud of you
Me: Is from a European family
also me: Practices swordplay instead of learning helpful things
Ancestors: still dead
im hispanic and i connect with this video so much it has me in the feels ... parents moved from peru to the US when i was not even 2 yet, and i actually refused to learn english as a toddler until elementary school, then i refused to speak spanish and became embarassed by my culture. between 2013-2019 i never had a real hispanic friend. i was in this very hispanic church scouts troop in middle school for a while, but i never connected with the girls and felt like a loner but it's more cus i'm shy and isolate myself more than anything. i was never bullied for being hispanic, when some white kids in a day care chased me around with questions and wanting me to speak spanish, i hated that, but i cant call them racist cus they were just curious little kids.
i am hella lucky that in 2020, i made an online friend who is peruvian like me, except he grew up there and moved to the US as a teenager, as opposed to me moving as a toddler. he's fluent in english and just has an accent while i understand most spanish i just feel insecure about it because of my refusal to speak it as a kid. he's really helped me let go of my shame and that what i've gone through is understandable, and it's never too late to relearn. so sometimes we have late night voice chats where it's just us speaking spanish and sometimes he's impressed with how natural i sound and that i've improved a lot. so i feel super lucky for that.
as a kid i didnt like going to peru every summer but we haven't gone since covid and now i miss it more than ever :(
Sw😂wzr
Me: 100% German and lives in Germany
Also me: Is bad at German
😹
Die gelbe Seegurke same except I'm from another country lol
Ist es wegen der grammatik hahahahah?
Deutsche sprache schwere sprache
-every German on this planet
My mom: Chinese
My dad: chinese
My parents: why don’t you speak French/Spanish
Me: *confused*
Lol
Same my mom told me te learn a new language
Felt that
Lol same
Atleast i watched the sub for animes
Dang, stuff like that’s confusing at times and I have a massive amount of respect for you
Id rather have no finds and be confused than to be killed for no reason
I’m Filipino and grew up in the Philippines but I don’t look or act like it and my Filipino is horrible. My mom is half Canadian and Filipino and my dad Chinese. Every time I interact with someone who isn’t Filipino they are always like wow you’re really in touch with you Filipino roots but when it’s with a Filipino they always think that I’m like Australian or British especially considering my accent. It’s been hard dealing with that and I’ve been going through similar experiences as you had when you were younger. Thank you for making this video as it really helped me feel a lot better about myself! Thank you so much!
As a hispanic living in america, maintaining both cultures is difficult, but it helps to know both for work/having fun
It is the same with me
Same I hate that I can’t speak Spanish but I love our culture and I want to learn but I just can’t for some reason
I felt this with my soul
I also think it depends where you live in America when your parents move from another place. I'm a bit glad I did end up learning how to speak Spanish but I still feel like an outsider when my grandparents come over for holidays. It's mainly the slang and not knowing how to roll my r right that always gets to me.
@@xxamythedogxx3531 same, slang can be difficult.
The biggest problem is when you are not “American” for the Americans but not “Korean” for the Koreans
Yup
The Chinese have this term called Jook-sing or zuk-sing (竹升). It means, "bamboo" which in Chinese, its a negative connotation with Westernized Asians.
Felt that one, but German
It funny because "American" doesnt truly mean anything unless you white or black.
I'm different I'm a not Bruneians to the Bruneians and not a Malaysian to the Malaysians eventhough both of the countries are Malays it's the accent ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
This hits So HARD cause like my whole family and friends always wonder why I respond in english but not speak Telegu this video is such a good example on mostly American asians and how Culture shifts are commons even as an Indian the culture trying to get into your ethnic culture is still difficult
Lmao people don't even know how hard all the Indian languages are tho, they are ALL VERY HARD. I also hate the line "Do you speak Indian?" Like do you speak American?
Same I can’t speak telegu either and I went to this Indian place where you learn about the gods and stuff and I was just sitting there like *________* cause I literally couldn’t understand anything. I agree with u
I can’t believe how you succinctly you’ve summarised everything I’ve been feeling into this one video. Thanks so much :)
My parents: "Learn Chinese goddamnit"
Me: *Angry italian noise*
Kasaisho did u know that Chinese is the first hardest language to learn
My mum: "learn to speak Spanish"
Me: Angry French and English noises
JJGeorgeG GJ did u know that I’m chinese
JJGeorgeG GJ and viet
JJGeorgeG GJ and taiwanese
emily: “i wish i had white parents”
me: *GASPS LOUDLY LIKE A CARTOON* MIJA QUE PASO
Chale porfin un hispanohablante ;-;
Josua Caleb hollllaaa niño 🥴🥴
No habla español
Ah sí, más hispanohablantes😌
Reyes_DoesFlipsYT I can relate to this so hard
I feel like it was a missed opportunity that Skill Share didn’t sponsor this video
thats rough buddy
Sokka: man I love the moon
I love how the first two comments are about Avatar.
Veteran Fan! Not exactly an OG fan because I joined the fandom in 2011 but still!
@@hranghlei same here ✌🏽
Fax
I'm Indian American (Tamil, to be specific), and a child of immigrants. I have also faced numerous identity crises because of it. Another thing added to that was that many Americans do not consider Indians to be Asian, even though we are in Asia. I am still dealing with it, but am also learning to balance my Western and Eastern identity. This video helped me a lot, thank you!
Well what the fuck? Here in Malaysia, India is definitely considered Asian. We’re Asian ourselves
PS: the drawings of Emiri are so adorable someone give 2005 Emiri a hug🥰
I mean I think Americans know that India is Asian, but in American English Asian with no specification refers to east Asian while Indians would be considered south Asian. But if you said South Asian Americans should know that you're referring to like India/Bangladesh/Pakistan area. Southeast Asian also is a distin region to Americans. I think Asian being defaulted to east Asian is just a matter of population and the fact that many Chinese people immigranted in the 1800s for the US.
"I can't understand and speak two languages very well."
The Anime Man who can speak perfect japanese and english : *Poses menancingly*
You mean Joey the anime man?
Saladdin Ihsan yes
JOEY
My mom tried to put me into Chinese Sunday school, but everyone there already knew how to speak Chinese and I couldn’t even form a sentence.
I think you should still try to learn it even if you not good at it. Everyone starts somewhere and that's a very beautiful thing. Don't give up someday you will probably regret the fact that you didn't try besides if you learn it than you can show off the fact you many languages. Just know your beautiful and amazing.
im struggling with learning how to write and read chinese qwq cri
damn i feel that
Im vietnamese and its the same thing to me.
i don't know how to read or write chinese i still i know to say stuff in chinese but sometime i forget how say it
“A shame?! How many languages do you know lady?!” Every bilingual in a nutshell. Cause gosh darn it you better know at least three languages before coming at me
I’m both extremely happy and terrified that so many can, in fact “come at me”.
i know four but would be ashamed saying this, learning languages can be harder for someone and this is absolutely fine! :(
I feel that i speak 4 languages
Boi if my kid doesn't know my nativ languag and feels ashamed of it, I whould be like " kid I barely know the language and I studied it"
Oof i know english,spanish,a lil japanesse,french and a small little bit of portuguese
Sorry i aint bragging
Being a polygot is nc (me with 5 language)
I FELT THIS SO MUCH! Like basically all the points she covered, except for my parents being Vietnamese I can relate!
I’m an Asian Australian with an American accent who’d never been to America, people and myself get confused.
movies probably?
Mr worldwide
this is very relatable
Same tho ;-;
I hope you are safe. My brothers and I have heard that Asian people across the world (including in Australia) are attacked and blamed for COVID-19.
My bully at school: "Why are your eyes so small? Can you even see me?"
Me: _Your free trial of life, has expired._
My friends think I’m Japanese while I’m Filipino and American
It’s cause my eyes
haha, had an opposite experience. as a bug-eyed asian person, a friend of a friend once asked me, "are your eyes really that big or is that your glasses?"
@@kerentan9446 Fr?
same im a fil kor
Relatable. I'm part of a native American tribe with a language that's slowly dying and in a way. I feel kinda guilty.
Same I am also a native american, I always felt guilty about not learning the language and felt so bad when I couldn't say my full clan.
I'm also a part of a Native American tribe (Comanche) and I feel ashamed when my grandmother talks to me in the language and I don't understand
Same
Hard same.
I an not native american, i an half german, but i do relate to the shame part of not being able to speak a language that i should speak.
3 years later and this is still such a relevant experience for so many people.
I love how Emily animates one her brothers like Saitama, it gives me a serious yet not caring vibe...
Etomic Venture
that brother apparently actually looks like that! theres a storytime animatic that tells you about him! :D
Man, the "I wish I had white parents" bit is something I can really relate to. I never actually said it to my parents, but Ive definitely thought my life would be much easier for me if they were more like my white friends' parents. Ive always been proud of my ethnicity, but I was still pretty Americanized. I eventually realized how hard it is to raise a kid thats basically from a different culture. For children of immigrants, not only is there a generation difference, but a cultural difference.
I just really wish I wasn't so different.
Same i feel like being white (just my opinion dont @ me) is a lot easier then being Asian or Hispanic or Black or lord help mixed.
I've thought this too, I've never said it out loud but I kinda feel guilty everytime I do
I was really shocked when she said "I wish I had white parents"BUT I understand why she did but I'm glad to know that she's alright and realized that it's ok not be with ashamed of what happened and I'm glad that she shared with us this piece of her life because I know what it's like.
Same, My ethnicity Mexican but I relate to all of this.
Me: Filipino-American
My Parents: Don’t teach me their language or culture
Also My Parents: Disappointed that I’m not magically bilingual
Me: ( ; - ; )ノ
Bruh same but British 😅
To add to the irony, I'm a white American, but I lived in the Philippines for 2 years as a missionary and speak Hiligaynon, Tagalog, and Karaya fluently and picked up on a lot of aspects of Filipino culture. Ang puso kong pinoy
bro same
relatable T-T
FELT THAT
This video is able to connect and reach out to anyone of a different ethnicity in America and feel the same bond and struggles. On the other hand, things like this can bring the same people together to grow together. I'm complete mexican ethnicity, but I'm born & raised American, and I can only say broken, basic around the house spanish, but I want to get better so I can be with the relatives and friends instead of being a "no sabo" kid. Everyone should bond with where they came from so that the can celebrate the past, present, and all to come.
*”My two older brothers!”*
Me: *Saitama and Genos*
Indeed
That's what I thought
Y e s.
OMGGGGG, the whole 'hearing-Korean' and 'responding-in-English' thing is LITERALLY my life summed up (except with Japanese, lol). And the entire thing about having a language barrier between me and my grandparents is so relatable...
same, but me with chinese-
Yeah, same but with Chinese. Over the last few years I felt really distanced from my country. I watched Chinese shows and tried to find something Chinese to obsess over to guilt trip myself into improving my Chinese. My Chinese improved quite a bit over the last few years but I still feel distanced sometimes.
Same but with Romanian
Same me but with Nigerian
I understand really well but just do answer in the language
“Being bilingual is cool and a great skill.”
Me knowing conversational Vietnamese: Oh yeah, I forgot that I know a second language...
StriderHoang me as a 10-19 year old Asian-American, Vietnamese female living in Maryland USA
I’ve never fully related to a video before…I’m Latina and don’t speak barely any Spanish. All my relatives are Spanish speaker and I feel the same as you. It makes me feel so bad about myself and I almost cried realizing I’m not just weird and need to get over myself. This is a real thing and now I’m know I’m not alone. Thank you Emily ^^
me: *knows english but is hispanic*
my family: *wants me to learn spanish*
me:...no *learns japanese*
*cries with similar experience but Tagalog*
English is considered to be one of the hardest languages to learn. You are very fortunate to be able to read, speak and write it.
@@calypsosystem3726 you and me both. you and me both
I know how you feel my family members are Jamaican/Trinidadian even though we all speak English I don’t connect with the culture at all because of how I don’t visit often they joke and say to my parents “she’s so American” but I have the disconnect because I was the only one of my siblings who wasn’t born in the Caribbean and it frustrates me sometimes
You: "haha get nae naed" _dabs_
It's refreshing to see someone so levelheaded about race relations and identity
Many Filipinos: *yes this is too familiar*
* me watching anime*
Friends: do you even understand what they are saying?
Me: No but i can feel it.
Welp.....
I kept watching and watching until i eventually learned how to speak and spell the words in the language of a cartoon i watched back in 2010 or 2009, (only thing was remaining was asking my parents about what those words did mean)
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Frnd : do u even understand what they r saying ?
me : bruh, have u ever heard what subtitles is ?
@@mashihuzzaman1962 lmao ikr
SAME
The vicious cycle of not trying because you feel like you sound stupid and never getting better which only makes you sound even more stupid is extremely relatable. I used to speak more Macedonian as a kid but because I lived in America (even though I did interact with Macedonian American family friends) I eventually lost my ability to speak well and only got worse with time due to the anxiety attempting to speak brought. I got even more embarrassed when I learned I had a thick American accent when speaking, which singled me out even if I spoke, and I completely thought I had a Macedonian accent when speaking.
my cousin is bulgarian american but he barely knows any bulgarian as well, only some very basic phrases. i wonder if he feels this way as well sometimes
"yo how tf do you speak such good english"
sir I was born here
I can relate so much.
Dude, once my Mandarin teacher asked me where I was from and I replied "Texas." I looked her dead in the eye and we stared at each other for a good 20 seconds.
@@henryyin2471 holy moly , make it more , add 1 hours
:p
Ever get the "no, where are you really from?" lol its badly worded, so I just let the loop continue for as long as possible. Gotta enjoy the little things
SolracJ88 No, I just get more questions going back in my history. Where are you from? Where did you grow up? Where were you born? Where are your parents from? I honestly didn’t notice what they were getting at so I’ve had this exchange with multiple people and one even chuckled like I was giving the wrong answers. I wasn’t being difficult, I was just answering the questions being asked. Now that I know what it’s about, I wish I was third or fourth generation so I could just keep going.
Me: Listening to anime op not knowing a single word.
Also me: This song goes hard
Lol
Same
Yea thats me with death metal, idk wot their saying but if its good then i'll keep listening
But why? How could you see something you can't understand and call it entertainment
... OK. WHEN THE KIDS WERE RUDE TO THE MUSIC I WAS ALL: ... well um guess what ? Yeah. Kpop is a thing now and suddenly yall say u "know" the lyrics. it aint match for meh tbh.
Can relate
Father: Croatian Family
Mother: Turkish Family
Me & my Sibling : born & raised in Germany
*Mesut Özil is that you?*
Ja, dies kann in deinem Fall ziemlich hart sein. Ich würde generell sagen, dass du Deutscher bist, da Deutschland dein Geburtsland ist und dementsprechend die deutsche Staatsangehörigkeit besitzt, richtig? Macht nichts, wenn du aus ethnischer und kultureller Sicht es eher nicht bist.
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Yeah, this can be really tough in your case. I would generally say that you're German, because Germany is your birth country and you own the German citizenship accordingly to that, right? It doesn't matter if you're not German by ethnical or cultural view.
I've heard of people which parents were both "halfies". So they're a genetic melting pot, which is no big problem. Love doesn't know borders.
Ahh, Ottoman I see
Don't Croats and Turks hate each other though?
That must make family reunions fun!
I enjoyed your video immenselly. I'm Uruguayan and for very odd circumstances, I am of two nations, Uruguay and the US. I first came to the US with my parents at age 5 years and 10 months, then went back at age 10, then came back at age 17. To say that I was totally lost and felt uprooted repeatedly is an understatement. I lost friedships so many times I lost count. But fortunately I turned out 100% fluent in both languages, yet with a lot of heartache and emotional upheaval too.
Yet despite all this, I found myself identifying with you so much. I guffawed out loud at several points because I could see your situations and empathize with you. I laughed not at you but with you, feeling I somehow knew that even though you felt strange, you also knew who you were and were fine with it. And it was exhilarating to hear what you went through and how you overcame it.
Well, just to say I loved your life story. I will subscribe to your channel and I look forward to many good moments during your videos.
Old Koreans: Staring
Emi: (internally) pls no
Emi's Brother: ASSERT DOMINANCE
I would throw in T-posting just to push the dominance over the top.
Lol. I remember whenever I was out with my younger brother, kids of his age would smirk at us, like we were dating. That make my brother go mad and in a downwards spiral. But I kinda enjoy it especially when I say: he's my brother!... Haha... (Losers. Not getting any. Hahahaha.)
What an absolute Chad.
:)
everyone has stories of their race
meanwhile me: An Ecuadorian , who grew up in New York and moved to Pennsylvania, :/ lol , Spanish is my first language
Not everyone
I can relate here. I am a fellow Ecuadorian and I can't speak Spanish well because I was born in America but I will try
meanwhile : sasuke's clan is getting killed
Pennsylvania? More like PENISVANIA AHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Me over here as a half Japanese half Colombian and my first language is English (United States English)
Me: *half Dutch half Vietnamese*
Dutch people: *U Chinese?*
Vietnamese people: *Where u from, white people land?*
Gekoloniseerd
Nói được Tiếng Việt không bạn?
ok, first of all, as a hetalian, imma just... *squeals* tHAT IS SO COOL OMG- THATS AMAZING!
@@hoanghunglong9222 Nói chuyện Tiếng Việt cho em thì khó mà em vẫn hiểu được tất cả mọn người.
@@ottohettemakrieger2428 Altijd
It’s been a few years I watched your channel. Holy cow, the quality of your drawings and video became insane.
lives in uk:
"why is your accent weird"
goes to lithuania (home country):
"why is your accent weird"
-.-
big bruh
Lithuania gay.
Perfectly balanced
Alwayzbooster no u
@@alwayzbooster7721 *show UNO reverse card
Classmate: hey can you read this?
*chinese text*
Me: no i don’t know chinese, i’m thai
Classmates: didn’t you say you were Asian?
Me:🤯
I can relate, btw hello fellow thai
*Google is your friend.*
hello fellow thais
glad to be here
I’m half Chinese and idk how to read Chinese but I can read a little Thai
lol im 25 percent thai and i cant even read it so whenever my kun yaai is visiting i feel awkward because she really wants me to learn it lol
Emily: crying over an 88%
Me when I get an 65% in middle school: hell yeah
As long as I don't utterly fail then I'm fine
asia 101 welcome to hk
Me getting a 26% on a sundanese test:
Im not suprised, this was bound to happen
Me get 25% out of 100%: FUCK YEAHHH!!!!!!
The highest percentage I have in school is 91% percentage for Life Orientation
This is... amazing. I watched your video holding my breath, because it was so exciting, even though I haven't experienced anything like you have. I found myself utterly fascinated hearing about all those things that have been going through your head. Thank you so much for sharing it! You have a great talent at making things clear and vivid in the listener's mind's eye. I'm going to check out your other videos.
That’s exactly what I feel about learning Chinese I want to learn but I get stressed because I’m bad and I don’t like trying to talk Chinese
same aa
I’m Malaysian Chinese, I’m not good at Chinese but I can speak mandarin well. But still mix a bit with English and Malay.☺️
Same. It’s so hard to break old habits of just speaking English. Forgetting my mother tongue contributed to me secluding myself and becoming socially awkward, which certainly doesn’t help things. Just adds to the vicious cycle.
I usally just quit-
Same it’s also confusing since some of my family speaks mandarin and some Cantonese
When I was in primary school, a boy joined three years before we graduated and he spoke nothing but Korean.
I remember every student didn't care to try and learn Korean to help with the language barrier but I'd always sit with him and try to learn simple words so I could help translate in class and I even helped him with his English.
Damn I wish we were still in touch ^^
Loulou Morgz bruh thats so sweet 🥺🤧
I mean- you can’t blame them for not knowing Korean. I don’t want too be rude, but you can’t blame people for not wanting too learn a whole new language just to help one kid you don’t know.
Mystique Melodies I agree but they could at least learn a few basic words or take out a translator
Loulou Morgz that sounds nice, I bet you were close friends
Raja Sohail ikr. Like learning hello, or school words like pencil, or eraser etc.
God I feel this so much-
My Vietnamese parents think than I’m quiet and don’t like to talk but it’s really just because I don’t know how to respond/how to have a conversation and it’s so embarrassing every time my grandpa tries to talk with me and all I can do is nod aghhhshjdjwjsjs
Same
As a fellow Viet, I feel that
YOOOO My grandpa and grandma think I can speak but all I know is a little more than
Yeah con an roi
And
Chao ba noi chao om noi.
Then all i can do is nod and agree saying yea yea
Yes, my dad's side of my family is vietnamese and they always say that when i was younger i spoke viet really well and understood a lot, but now i dont speak or understand viet at all. And those words just placed a lot of pressure on me.
Oh gosh, my Cantonese grandmother has dementia, and I think she forgets that most of us grandchildren can't fully communicate with her (four of my cousins are fluent, gosh, it feels so weird to ask my 10 year old cousin what to respond with), and all I can do is just nod and pretend to go along.
I’ve also had a similar identity crisis. I’m half Mexican and half Japanese (My mom is Mexican and my Dad is Japanese) and I was born in the U.S. Meaning I felt the pressure from my Japanese half to be super smart and gifted and know the language and be super in touch with all the Japanese traditions. And for my Mexican half the expectations were also to learn the language and the cultural traditions, but also to make my family proud and have a super successful job in order to support my family. And I’m also the artist child out of my other siblings who want to be scientists or doctors and it just made me feel super disconnected to both my Mexican and my Japanese roots.
"No, she likes to draw anime..."
*internal anti-Japanese Korean sentiment intensifies*
I'm korean, and when my mom packed me kimbap for lunch in the us EVERYONE asked, "is that sushi"?
EDIT: sorry, but most people just don't quite understand the relations between korean and japanese people.
I'm not saying this to offend anyone, i'm just putting this out.
Ted Lee kimbap actually inspired by sushi so it’s understandable
@@tedlee7821 I'm Japanese, I love Kimbap. Also Kimchi. You guys make good food.
@@Hapasan808 Well, thank you. It's not actually the japanese people who I'm mad at. I'm just mad at the japanese government for not acknowledging the things that they did and taking it out of the textbooks.
@@tedlee7821 sameee
Emily: I wish someone was here to tell me “it’s ok not to be confident in a language.”
Me: It’s ok not to be confident in a language. This video is so relatable. I can’t speak my own language not understand it (only a little). It’s hard..
Same
You are correct about that even though I have trouble speaking my heritage's language I just go with it.
People shouldn't let something like that get to them. I have pretty much lost my ability to speak my first language (although I still can very much understand it.) But on the other hand, I can read, speak and write in English which is considered to be one of the hardest languages to learn. For that, I consider myself to be fortunate.
@@trapperscout2046 That is very true
My grand parents used to: speak Chinese
Me: replies back in English
Years later
I speak Chinese
Grandparents: learn english
how the turn tables
This is a sad story =((
They should pick one.
Yeah this is the exact reason i dont know any chinese at all. My grandma wants to practice her english rather than teach me cantonese
@@lilliantrinh8221 Ah I see you're a person of culture as well. Memento
I'm Korean-American myself and born in America, and this is so relatable. The language part especially, I still do not speak Korean very well even though I have been trying to learn it for years.
"what's your kid been up to?"
"she likes to draw"
"Oh? Like Fashion design? Animation?"
"No, Anime"
"*Oh, Ew.*"
My Career choice in a nutshell TTwTT
this might make sense because of the Japanese invasion on more long ago, which some of koreans, still hate the Japanese for, so basically making them more anti-anime or anti-japanese
@@koto485 I think it's more of the fact that a lot of Asian elders still think anime = cartoon = for kids. But even if they didn't think it that way, even as anime is reaching mainstream status, they still think that having a career related to it is not a viable path in life, that it should just stay a hobby. I'm Indonesian, we got fucked over by 3.5 years of Japanese colonialization, the dismissive attitude towards anime is not related to it.
My dream is to make my own anime, god I just love making my own franchise where people can enjoy both my stories and characters.
HA! I was like number 420!
@@TheLovelyAviZone Start from Webtoon, it should help.
My family: spanish
Me: spanish
Also me: doesnt like spicy things
My family: S H A M E
Lol
Relatable
OMG SAMEEEE
Same bro
I am spanish and don't like spicy things
And my family always say
Shame shame shame shame shame
Same
My grandfather : speak Chinese
My grandmother : speak Chinese
My dad : speak Chinese
My mom : speak Chinese
My friends : speak Chinese
Me : speak English
Oof
@Zach Crom same here...
Duo: speak Chinese or die
#relatable
So relatable.
I’ve seen this video many times but have never commented. I’m a white American. I’ve never had these feelings. I don’t understand what this is like.
But I appreciate and am humbled that you’ve shared your experience. I always want to be as educated as possible given my innate privilege. So thank you for sharing your story. And to every commenter that is sharing their own stories. I’m so glad to hear your voices and stories. I have a deep respect for you all. I’ll always have so much I want to learn, so thank you for helping me.