Yes. Alone time with the Lord and his word speeds healing and hope and clarity. Builds you up in a way that others can’t confuse you. The devil is the author of confusion and yet God can help us navigate and find the truth. ❤ to you.
@@lynnedgecomb2672Me too. I get so scared I’m a narcissist but God shows me the truth in his word and his people. Stay strong and just the fact you evaluate yourself is a huge blessing. ❤
When I first met my wife’s step father, he proceeded to malign her father and told me to, “Watch out for him.” The Holy Spirit instantly rebutted,”No, you must watch HIM.” I couldn’t understand because he seemed like such a nice, good intentioned guy. That has been many years ago and I can say that after discovering his covert narcissistic demeanor, this is one of the most evil people I have ever known. With the help of the Holy Spirit I eluded the attempts for control and weathered the subsequent efforts to malign and undermine me. I try to pay attention to feelings I get about some people. I don’t instantly judge them; I wait, keeping my distance and sooner or later the truth manifests itself. It is true that nothing hidden will remain that way; truth will always prevail.
In my worst narc experience, every single time I prayed for Gods insight HE ANSWERED! Sometimes thru dreams, other times thru other means. I prayed He might reveal their true intentions and motives. The problem? I listened, was grateful and then proceeded by my own strength thinking I somehow knew better. I was an idiot. And I paid dearly BUT I have learned to TRUST OUR HEAVENLY FATHER thru HIS SON BY THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT!
I so relate! I was the biggest barrier in my mess. Yet God is still faithful - so thankful He is the rock who never moves! I look back and shake my head at myself.
My "gut" feelings have been injured due to being exposed to continuous gaslighting! Enteric system erosion. I had to get away from the "gas," so to speak, and into fresh air! Now I can think much more clearly. The brain fog is gone. You are one of the new people that God has placed in my life in order to trust again and to heal. Thank you so much for all of your insights and wisdom. Thank you for being brave and creating this channel! God is truly with you and speaking to his people through your channel.
It helps to listen to your body. Dr. Ramani recently addressed this. A Proverb says "The prudent senses danger and hides himself; the simple go on and suffer for it." Time after time I felt a discomfort with ppl; a knot in my stomach, or sometimes I've lurched backwards and my heart has sunk inside at something someone has said, but I've told myself that person was just having a bad day, or I've misapplied Scriptures to excuse that person, and I've gone to some dark places with ppl as a result. From now on I'll listen to those nudges from God!!!
How do you discern an evil person who is pretending that they're good? Dreams, visions, signs? Maybe, but when they aren't forthcoming, Jesus said, "You shall know them by their fruits" - liars, manipulative, slanderous, argumentative, contentious, proud, unrepentant, uncaring, hurtful, selfish, etc. In other words, they lack love or have bad doctrine (or both!).
Matthew 7:15. Same scripture the Lord gave me when I was led out of a church I was in. For the the most part they had good doctrine but I had no peace there, something was off. This was about a year after a warning dream, consistent prayer and talking to an older man of God that was not involved. My peace didn't return so I abruptly left.
Anyone being overcome by anger is evidence of evil working through them. Anyone who overcomes the anger when it appears is evidence of good working through them.
@@livelife5890 …. They didn’t claim to be Muslim, Buddhist, or Hindu, so that made them “Christian “? It’s also easy to confuse sheep and goats! (Watch what goats eat- sheep are more selective)
Wow. How strangely timely this video is. The last few days, even a year after going no contact with my Narcissistic ex, I felt the strong pull of the trauma bond and the desire to “have hope” of her seeing the light, coming back into my life and rekindling the relationship. Last night, before I went to sleep, I prayed to God to give me some sort of sign and to give me a dream to guide me. Well…my dream last night was of me crossing a pond full of crocodiles on a narrow beam. No matter how many times I tried, I lost my balance and was somehow floated back to the starting point. Over and over I tried, but couldn’t cross without falling. I see this as a sign from God that I was (in my mind) thinking of attempting to cross an uncrossable bridge (returning to a formerly toxic relationship) and that it was dangerous to try to do so. Thanks for your videos. 🙏
I had a similar dream with gators and snakes in a swampy area that was dried up. I also had a dream about crossing a river with cows and the person in dating
Such a beautiful, helpful message! I know Yah will deliver me and my child from the toxic environment we’re in…in His timing. I’m trusting in His plan and provision for us. I lay this burden at His feet because I cannot accomplish this on my own.
God spoke to me through your message 🙏 I was given an offer to get back to my narcissist husband and his family with my child. He abandoned both of us two years ago Now he wants us back, I just prayed asking God to guide my steps Now I realise how difficult it is to come out of their control, God gave me freedom and peace and I pray that you too will receive it very soon. Above all I pray God save these people and make them into new creation in Christ 🙏
@@sushmanadella5531 thank you so much for your reply. Your prayers mean so much. I’m praying for you, too that you will not be deceived back into a trap of hollow promises. I pray yours is the rare circumstance of a truly changed person should you believe it’s right for you to return. Blessings to you and your family.
@@terrib4690 Thank you for your prayers and blessings. God bless you and your family too. And may God build back the families the enemy has torn apart Amen 🙏
Terri I know He will deliver you & your child and also me & my children. I'm praying for you!!! Pray for us too? 🙏 ❤️ I'm in a very similar situation...but I know God's going to get all the glory.
Thank you. You do a very nice job explaining using the Word. I too have lived thru betrayal. So true. With the dark night morning comes bringing us light. I am so thankful to God for removing me from the unloving, evil toxic people in my life.
You are spot on with being transformed by The Lord because of betrayal. I am going through a hard betrayal, but because of it I am no longer naive and believing everything people say. I can see with the discernment and keep from being trapped or tricked. Thank you Shaaneen. The Lord bless you.
There is this evil vibe that is there and you may not know how to describe this intense vibe that feels evil. It is there and it is not what you natural eyes, hearing sees, but it's there. It always doesn't align right in your spirit
Thank you for sharing, your wording is what makes sense to me because I keep thinking that the reason I have two abusers in my life is because someone up there hates me. There are times where I don’t want to exist and then my stubbornness kicks in and I think hey wait a minute I have a right to be who I am and these SOB’s can just kiss my big fat one. 👍🙏🤗
This is spot on with what I have been dealing with. I have become very fearful and slowly just staying away from others, even when I’m a room full of people. I don’t feel I can trust anyone and that maybe I am better alone. 😞 Thanks. I think God gave you this content for me. Blessings!
God wants you to enjoy life and not alone. That's the enemy, pray for discernment and God will show you the right people to let in your life. Stay prayerful and strong 😇😇😇
@Dale I certainly relate to what you said here. I am by nature a loner in the best of circumstances, but always felt like I should be a "people person" to please God. I know it's ridiculous, as heaven will be the place where all wounds will be healed, and ppl THERE won't be anything like what they were HERE, but I often ask God if He would please make a deserted island in heaven for me, where I can be alone with some cats, dogs and dolphins. And Jesus and the angels can stop by to see me -- that sounds like paradise to me! As it is, I'm car camping all by myself, and enjoying the peace and solitude, reading my Bible and listening to Christian music (I'm 67, so I'm retired). If you enjoy being by yourself as I do, other ppl shouldn't criticize you or make you feel like it's not God's "best" for you. He has made us all different, and the most unhappy times in my life have been spent trying to "be" what someone else thought I should be.
@@themysticalexperiencer8141 I'm definitely not one to criticize, but the word of God definitely say to not forsake to congregate with children of God. In heaven God says his children will all be together singing, praising and worship for all eternity. The light he has put in you is to shine bright on others.
Just know. We are never truly alone. God is here for us all. He is Omnipresent, Pray that God can help you to have discernment through the Holy Spirit. In Luke 1:37 - For with God nothing is impossible. You are precious to The Most High. Hes is teaching me to have faith over fear. Isaiah 41:10 - be not troubled for The Lord your God is with you. God bless you. Keep your eyes fixed on Yahweh. 👑🙏🏽❣️
Excellent! I can relate to the part about betrayal. I was still be in the narcissistic fog had God not allowed me to go through betrayal first. A blessing in disguise.
Shaneen, it hit me to tell you this. The first time I saw you on here, you made me feel so welcome with your introduction. I've never felt that way before and i want to thank you for that. You are special and I thank you so much and thank the Lord for you for helping people like us understand narcissism and from a Bible prospective. ❤️🙏🌹
Shaneen, You have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I'm sure there are many others like me. I love your constant use of scripture to validate your counsel. Sorry I misspelled your name in my other comment. Patrick
The first time I laid eyes on my ex husband when a friend pointed him out saying how handsome he was, my first thought was he is sorry-looking. Somehow, we ended up being married and he turned out to be a serial cheater, liar, and a drunk. Oh how I wish I had gone with my first instinct that he was and is indeed a sorry/despicable man.
Same here. My ex husband stood me up for a date. I pretty much ignored him after that, but my "friends" convinced me to give him another chance. I should have trusted my intuition.
Definitely, I ignored the red flags God gave me about the ex narcissist fiance. I went into the relationship in the flesh and against the will of God, I prayed constantly through out the relationship and left ten months later in the spirit. It hurt but helped me so so much. I know the signs of narcissist and my experience has brought me so much closer to Jesus, I'm stronger and wiser. Amen!
Before I realized by mom was a narcissist I knew something was wrong...I just didn't know what it was. It got to the point where my skin would crawl when she would hug me. The Holy Spirit will prompt you!!
My younger sister claims to be a Christian for the last year. Her and my mother are toxic and they live together. My sister and I had a disagreement recently and she blew up because I told her “no”! I recently retired and took my pension as a lump sum. She was a raging alcoholic and stopped drinking because of many health issues last year. I started including her on my many trips and eating out. I really thought that she changed but there were many red flags that she did not. I realized that she was exhibiting narcissistic traits. She never apologized or wanted to talk it out, instead she ghosted me and blocked me on Facebook. Even though it’s difficult to go no contact, it’s really a relief and a blessing. Thank you for your channel, it’s just what I needed to show me I’m not crazy. God is so Good, He has been trying to show me for a long time that they both are very toxic, and will never embrace the truth about themselves.
The questions in my Journey dealing with Narcissistic betrayers of my life have been answered. Shannen answered troubles that my Psychiatrist and Therapist could not fully answer. They both were correct my next steps to take but Shannen, through the Holy Spirit, opened my eyes and understanding. Shannen, May God Bless you to continue your enlightening ministry “ Glory be to God for everything!”
Like governments during the pandemic/lockdown for instance. "it's for the greater good" is the single common thread linking ALL evils perpetrated by our so called "leaders" in government. Beware of the wickedness in government as well as in individuals in your life. Government is rife with Narcissists because it's the type of profession that draws them like moths to a flame.
Yep....be thankful u found out and hopefully have boundaries and or no contact....my older sister died from mom and husband abuse...she was an empath who was trained to be quiet and get along even with no respect
Thanks for your sharing. In my own experience, I have been in a relationship with a very toxic woman. On the fifth year I had to draw red lines, we had a months long standoff, then two major blows fell upon her. Her young son turned out to be drug addict and she had operation in the hospital. From my observation: the most powerful effect was from troubles with her son. During the last two years, the narcissistic power, toughness, uncompromising style of communication started to go away. It is still there, but a lot less. This year she had a dream with an icon of Morher Marry (before that I prayed in church to Her, it happened same week). The next day she went to the church, next to her office, and found the icon from her dream. She put herself in front of it and then … the unexpected happened (she is not type of a woman who is easy to be moved, stone hard actually), so she burst into tears, and stood and cried. She started to be guided (I want to believe) from above. Did her narcissistic approach vanish? Not quite completely. However, there is a hope that with God’s guidance and mercy she will be healed. So, to conclude, only a series of heavy blows over a period of time can heal the narcissist. Pray & Believe & Beware.
God has opened my eyes to see my husband's tactics. I use to feel so confused but now I can read him like a book. Thank you Lord for your discernment. Although it still leaves me troubled because it is my husband 😔
Love your messages, they are so wonderful, I was able to put a beautiful prayer together through your instructions on Narcissism for my son, and woke up to the fact that I had a did part in his behavior and I do go each day with a broken and a contrite heart to the Lord Jesus to heal my son. Thank you for putting a mirror in my face to see what my guilt was all about.
I've found that when I've prayed for discernment God has faithfully answered that prayer. This is important to see others for who they are, and David also prayed for himself, "Search me,(A) God, and know my heart;(B) test me and know my anxious thoughts. 24 See if there is any offensive way(C) in me, and lead me(D) in the way everlasting."
Thank you for this video, Dr. Ramani. Years ago, I worked with a fellow minister who seemed to have many noble qualities, but I got into some strange arguments with this person that made no sense, and the person suddenly exploded with anger over minor disagreements. The person would talk for over an hour and then tell me I should learn how to listen. It left me perplexed and confused. Oddly enough, this person was the one who first told me about dealing with narissists.
I've just gone through a similar experience when I tried to alert a person that a video they'd done was very noisy due to the fact they were taping up boxes whilst interviewing a guest on their UA-cam channel. The person started calling me analytical and said people always think they know better and that I was "just like her last assistant who went and started her own channel". I apologised and said I was only thinking if her, her channel and her viewers. She said to me that it was a "learning opportunity" and that Christians need to be able to receive "chastisement and correction" etc. I told her I felt misjudged and hurt. The story doesn't end there, but to make a long story short, she manipulated me into 'stepping down' from being her assistant (which was on a voluntary basis) and then blocked me on the two social media platforms. I had a meeting with her which she recorded but she controlled it by muting me from the start while she read out a statement which included my full name (which I tried to object about) and then conducted the meeting as if it were a disciplinary, where she twisted things and made false accusations. I know of others who have been shut out as well when they raised valid issues with her or she would get jealous when people seemed to be getting a lot of attention. She has hurt a number of people and I'm concerned for people she claims authority over who don't know what she is capable of. She calls herself a pastor but she is controlling and manipulative. She believes she is "next to the President" just because she used to be a Whitehouse correspondent. The sad thing is people, including me, were/are giving her money and then she just bans you suddenly when she wants to have no more to do with you. Well, I guess I ended up writing a novel here! I just saw the similarity with your story and wanted to share my experience with you. May the Lord bless you and I'm sure you will have learned some very interesting lessons about people and their ways.
☹️ I think I’m going through the same thing. The man I’m with gets really upset over the smallest things. It’s confusing bc he does & says really kind & loving things. I have ADHD, Complex PTSD (from my malignant narcissistic ex husband), brain damage all the gaslighting, seizures, and a car accident I had on 08/14/19. My attention span isn’t the best but I think I do a decent job at listening. However, my boyfriend talks and talks and talks. Then gets upset/angry bc I get lost, confused, or can’t remember what he said. He tells me I’m a horrible listener l. I’m 44 & have never been told that before. He’s been calling me unkind names. My heart hurts. He knows that I NEED my sleep but keeps me up late (if I don’t stay up with him he will get upset- basically throw a tantrum). The other night I was in a deep sleep for about 2 hours. He comes in a wakes me up!!!! I ended up not being able to sleep the rest of the night. Last night, he decided (again) to bring up things about me that was bothering him. Again, I couldn’t sleep well. I’m at a loss
God speaks through dreams....2015 I was having incredible dreams..sadly..many clergy don't agree with dream communication...the more I pray and depend on guidance..the more I can trust God listens...the past several months He's given me dreams that were warnings about a professional therapist I was trusting...I was being decieved...very cleverly...the enemy uses whoever he can...that you Shaneen for your biblical and spiritual confirmation that God hears, and answers..if we pay attention. God Bless..
The insight on the narcissistic personality clarifies many issues for me, especially regarding betrayal. Even though I was blindsided, God saw it long ago and He will cause it to work for my good (Rom. 8:28).
I always have prophetic dreams. Before I met my LDR partner in person for the first time, God gave me a dream of what was to come. Which was horrifying, I told this person about the dream and they reassured me they wouldn’t happen. Well turns out, exactly what was in the dream is how the person behaved irl. I was trapped in another country in a manipulationship with a narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. I learned to never ignore Gods warning. And to ask and sometimes demand he show me signs and he always does. I’m dating someone new and I always ask God to show me at each stage. And he does. During this video he texted me. I would rather be alone then be trapped with ungodly, evil people.
PROFOUND!! Found you and subscribed about 6 months ago. So much good information on You Tube but needed the spiritual perspective that led me to you. Watching this video was as though my mother, sister, best friend, and angel from Heaven called me on my cell phone at the perfect time with the perfect loving message, reminding me that we serve an Awesome God!! Thank you is not enough…
Oooooooooo betrayed by that evil person.(Paused video) Let me listen really good to Shaneen,I think I am totally at last going to get validation in what I experienced with these types of disgusting,cold-hearted people
I had that same validation in personal ways when i was experiencing exactly what Jesus said at the Last Supper. Shaneen confirmed it with her words and scriptures because (hindsight) those two scriptures were and are relevant to my faith walk but the rest of Shaneen's explaining the beauty that comes after the betrayal is greatly appreciated for confirmation
Shaneen, I have viewed several of your videos and always appreciate the deep nuggets of truth you bring up. You are giving people hope for healing and pointing them in the right direction. Thanks be to God! May He bless you, immensely!
Great video!! True Christians will be betrayed, it's a blessing because the Holy Spirit sustain and strengthen us, make immovable always abounding in the work of the Lord. God bless you, sister!
Thank you! So spot on. Immensely helpful. I am very grateful for your wisdom and teaching. This is quite healing. I have always had a strong faith, yet now it seems unwavering and non-negotiable. Peace and joy to you.
YOUR VIDEOS ARE HELPING ME A LOT! thank youuuuu! PRAISE GOD FOR THIS MINISTRY. You are exposing the work of the enemy. I pray for your protection! Thank you so much.
Brought up by an overt narcissist and sadistic covert psycho, then marrying a covert narcissist, distorts ones ability to believe the Truth prompts of Holy Spirit... but gradually, over time, and 10 yrs walking close and listening sensitively, I'm finally beginning to know the Truth that sets me fee, and gain the Wisdom that will keep me free from these evil snakes and be vindicated by "wisdom's children" GOD IS GOOD!
I was watching this on a Roku TV and just had to jump on my phone to find your video so I could comment. This was an extraordinary narrative about Discernment! Just an excellent video! I just wanted to reach out and give you encouragement! I was really impressed by this! Thank you!
Wonderful video! JUST what I have been needing to hear. For years, have sadly been "calling evil good, and good evil". Growing in discernment, both in the natural and the spiritual, is being impressed upon me more and more. As a believer, the church I went to was so toxic - took me a long time to realize it and finally leave.
Dear Shaneen, I just found your channel today and watched only 3 videos so far. You're an amazing blessing to me and helped me to understand the demonic aspect of narcissism. This is vital information to me. Thank you so much and be blessed abundantly!!!
I had a hard time accepting that someone was a narci and I had a vision saying that you can not unsee what you have seen .from that day he started to hoover me back and I refuse .
God can also warn you through secular psychologists just like he used a Raven to feed Elijah. Don't ignore some of the secular 'experts' on Narcissim here in UA-cam. Just don't agree with everything they say but align it with the word of God.
Beautiful deliverance Shaneen. Thank you for addressing this topic. 🌹 Typically I have had a vulnerability to blood relations inspite of their dysfunctions. But recently the Lord allowed me to suffer betrayal which is not new to me. But the evil intention in this case was much more severe than I ever experienced or imagined. But by God's grace I did escape and have cut her off. Although I did discern in the beginning I just tried to love; as in "Love thy enemies". But I soon realized that my destruction was her intention. I now believe her to have destroyed others. I called her out for what she was and closed the door on any future contact.
Put her in God’s hands. Check out Shaneen’s “ How to pray for the Narcissist “. I did not call out my 95yr old blood relation...it slipped out in my exasperation. I feel your pain.
Proverbs 22:3 The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty. Testing the spirits prevents us from trusting all spirits. In some, you can see pure evil in their eyes such as possession. STRONGS CONCORDANCE: but the simple וּ֝פְתָיִ֗ים (ū·p̄ə·ṯā·yîm) Conjunctive waw | Noun - masculine plural Strong's Hebrew 6612: n f 1) simplicity, naivete adj 2) simple, foolish, open-minded
Shaneen: God showed up at the last minute through your female covert narcissist video to protect me from such a person. I have been attacked repeatedly by very slick narcissists.
ten years ago i found myself in the midst of narcissists from "friends" to ex coworkers somehow I decern their intentions but couldn't escape my narcissistic "mother". I've gone no contact with her permanently.
Hi Shaneen- what was the name of the book you mentioned in your 'Why I created this channel' video? You said it was a book you picked up on narcissism one day & that it described the relationship you were in to a t, & gave you language to describe what was destroying you. Thank you for you channel. It's really great. There's a resource, a podcast called "Conquering the Jezebel Spirit" by Rob Wilson, who also uses the Word to describe & discuss about narcissistic abuse. It's somewhat different than yours, but as you have said, there are hardly any channels that factor God into the process of understanding & healing in regards to narcissistic abuse. I not only wanted you to be aware of someone who might edify & sharpen you further, but also encourage you (if you're not already), to package your content in podcast form. It shouldn't be too difficult, & would greatly broaden your exposure & reach to the number of hurting people who desperately need this ministry. Again, thank you.
It happened to me in my marriage and it was the Holy Spirit after a fast to know what to do explained to me that my wife was wicked and afterwards what I should do.
Beautifully said 👏🏽 🙏🏽 I'm praying that my discernment increases and I believe what I see and hear, not what could be in Jesus name. After marrying Judas, I am not trying to get into these types of relationships in any capacity going forward. I rebuke the Spirit of tolerance in Jesus name! God bless all of you on your journeys of freedom from oppression.
When you grow up with narcissists it's hard to tell what's going on with you sometimes. The Holy Spirit is key here.
Especially when the narcissist distorts the true words of the Bible
No kidding. I keep looking into my heart to find pride and arrogance
Yes. Alone time with the Lord and his word speeds healing and hope and clarity. Builds you up in a way that others can’t confuse you. The devil is the author of confusion and yet God can help us navigate and find the truth. ❤ to you.
@@lynnedgecomb2672Me too. I get so scared I’m a narcissist but God shows me the truth in his word and his people. Stay strong and just the fact you evaluate yourself is a huge blessing. ❤
@@victorial8764 ❤
That GUT feeling is the Holy Spirit warning you; prodding you to avoid evil people...
Yip. It’s more of a gut knowing.
A voiceless voice speaking to you from the soul of your belly.
The very centre of your being.
@@freshliving4199 ...Hmmm...that 'still...small...voice'. ;)
@@suzesinger6762 exactly
Triple amen, I've always believed the gut feeling is God helping us understand.
The spirit of man is the candle of the LORD, Searching all the inward parts of the belly. Proverbs 20:27 KJV
When I first met my wife’s step father, he proceeded to malign her father and told me to, “Watch out for him.” The Holy Spirit instantly rebutted,”No, you must watch HIM.” I couldn’t understand because he seemed like such a nice, good intentioned guy. That has been many years ago and I can say that after discovering his covert narcissistic demeanor, this is one of the most evil people I have ever known. With the help of the Holy Spirit I eluded the attempts for control and weathered the subsequent efforts to malign and undermine me. I try to pay attention to feelings I get about some people. I don’t instantly judge them; I wait, keeping my distance and sooner or later the truth manifests itself. It is true that nothing hidden will remain that way; truth will always prevail.
Wisdom is proven by all her children. (Luke 7:35)
whoa that’s a great testimony
Amen to that! 🙏🏻 💫💯
In my worst narc experience, every single time I prayed for Gods insight HE ANSWERED! Sometimes thru dreams, other times thru other means. I prayed He might reveal their true intentions and motives. The problem? I listened, was grateful and then proceeded by my own strength thinking I somehow knew better. I was an idiot. And I paid dearly BUT I have learned to TRUST OUR HEAVENLY FATHER thru HIS SON BY THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT!
I so relate! I was the biggest barrier in my mess. Yet God is still faithful - so thankful He is the rock who never moves! I look back and shake my head at myself.
Omg me too :-(
The Spirit recognizes before the body does. Spiritual discernment is power.
My "gut" feelings have been injured due to being exposed to continuous gaslighting! Enteric system erosion. I had to get away from the "gas," so to speak, and into fresh air! Now I can think much more clearly. The brain fog is gone. You are one of the new people that God has placed in my life in order to trust again and to heal. Thank you so much for all of your insights and wisdom. Thank you for being brave and creating this channel! God is truly with you and speaking to his people through your channel.
It helps to listen to your body. Dr. Ramani recently addressed this. A Proverb says "The prudent senses danger and hides himself; the simple go on and suffer for it." Time after time I felt a discomfort with ppl; a knot in my stomach, or sometimes I've lurched backwards and my heart has sunk inside at something someone has said, but I've told myself that person was just having a bad day, or I've misapplied Scriptures to excuse that person, and I've gone to some dark places with ppl as a result. From now on I'll listen to those nudges from God!!!
Betrayal is quite the eye-opener.
How do you discern an evil person who is pretending that they're good?
Dreams, visions, signs? Maybe, but when they aren't forthcoming, Jesus said, "You shall know them by their fruits" - liars, manipulative, slanderous, argumentative, contentious, proud, unrepentant, uncaring, hurtful, selfish, etc. In other words, they lack love or have bad doctrine (or both!).
Matthew 7:15. Same scripture the Lord gave me when I was led out of a church I was in. For the the most part they had good doctrine but I had no peace there, something was off. This was about a year after a warning dream, consistent prayer and talking to an older man of God that was not involved. My peace didn't return so I abruptly left.
Anyone being overcome by anger is evidence of evil working through them.
Anyone who overcomes the anger when it appears is evidence of good working through them.
couldnt have said it better. i have experienced all of those in one person, who claims to be a Christian by the way
Yup! I exactly
@@livelife5890 …. They didn’t claim to be Muslim, Buddhist, or Hindu, so that made them “Christian “?
It’s also easy to confuse sheep and goats!
(Watch what goats eat- sheep are more selective)
Being ...;harmless as doves and as wise as serpents'....is what it needs to deal with Narcs.
Wow. How strangely timely this video is.
The last few days, even a year after going no contact with my Narcissistic ex, I felt the strong pull of the trauma bond and the desire to “have hope” of her seeing the light, coming back into my life and rekindling the relationship. Last night, before I went to sleep, I prayed to God to give me some sort of sign and to give me a dream to guide me.
Well…my dream last night was of me crossing a pond full of crocodiles on a narrow beam. No matter how many times I tried, I lost my balance and was somehow floated back to the starting point. Over and over I tried, but couldn’t cross without falling. I see this as a sign from God that I was (in my mind) thinking of attempting to cross an uncrossable bridge (returning to a formerly toxic relationship) and that it was dangerous to try to do so.
Thanks for your videos. 🙏
I had a similar dream with gators and snakes in a swampy area that was dried up. I also had a dream about crossing a river with cows and the person in dating
I had a dream of being chased around the house by a large tarantula when I considered breaking no Contact
wow
Such a beautiful, helpful message! I know Yah will deliver me and my child from the toxic environment we’re in…in His timing. I’m trusting in His plan and provision for us. I lay this burden at His feet because I cannot accomplish this on my own.
God spoke to me through your message 🙏
I was given an offer to get back to my narcissist husband and his family with my child. He abandoned both of us two years ago
Now he wants us back, I just prayed asking God to guide my steps
Now I realise how difficult it is to come out of their control, God gave me freedom and peace and I pray that you too will receive it very soon.
Above all I pray God save these people and make them into new creation in Christ 🙏
@@sushmanadella5531 thank you so much for your reply. Your prayers mean so much. I’m praying for you, too that you will not be deceived back into a trap of hollow promises. I pray yours is the rare circumstance of a truly changed person should you believe it’s right for you to return. Blessings to you and your family.
@@terrib4690 Thank you for your prayers and blessings.
God bless you and your family too.
And may God build back the families the enemy has torn apart
Amen 🙏
Terri I know He will deliver you & your child and also me & my children. I'm praying for you!!! Pray for us too? 🙏 ❤️
I'm in a very similar situation...but I know God's going to get all the glory.
@@beingthesalt thank you for your prayers! You’re so kind. Yes, I’m praying for you and your child, too.
Thank you. You do a very nice job explaining using the Word. I too have lived thru betrayal. So true. With the dark night morning comes bringing us light. I am so thankful to God for removing me from the unloving, evil toxic people in my life.
You are spot on with being transformed by The Lord because of betrayal. I am going through a hard betrayal, but because of it I am no longer naive and believing everything people say. I can see with the discernment and keep from being trapped or tricked.
Thank you Shaaneen.
The Lord bless you.
There is this evil vibe that is there and you may not know how to describe this intense vibe that feels evil. It is there and it is not what you natural eyes, hearing sees, but it's there. It always doesn't align right in your spirit
Demons that are with these people
Now I finally realised why I had seven years of narcissistic abuse ! God was teaching me strengthening me for the future thank you Jesus.
Thank you for sharing, your wording is what makes sense to me because I keep thinking that the reason I have two abusers in my life is because someone up there hates me. There are times where I don’t want to exist and then my stubbornness kicks in and I think hey wait a minute I have a right to be who I am and these SOB’s can just kiss my big fat one. 👍🙏🤗
Wow, you're such a great communicator and teacher, and you're well grounded in the bible. Thank you Ma'am.
2020 during the "Pandemic" my discernment began getting stronger. Know so many things were just not true❤
So true... I was once dating a man and in my my sleep in my mind's eye I got the message 'he is not for real.' and this was the truth..
This is spot on with what I have been dealing with. I have become very fearful and slowly just staying away from others, even when I’m a room full of people. I don’t feel I can trust anyone and that maybe I am better alone. 😞
Thanks. I think God gave you this content for me. Blessings!
God wants you to enjoy life and not alone. That's the enemy, pray for discernment and God will show you the right people to let in your life. Stay prayerful and strong 😇😇😇
@Dale I certainly relate to what you said here. I am by nature a loner in the best of circumstances, but always felt like I should be a "people person" to please God. I know it's ridiculous, as heaven will be the place where all wounds will be healed, and ppl THERE won't be anything like what they were HERE, but I often ask God if He would please make a deserted island in heaven for me, where I can be alone with some cats, dogs and dolphins. And Jesus and the angels can stop by to see me -- that sounds like paradise to me! As it is, I'm car camping all by myself, and enjoying the peace and solitude, reading my Bible and listening to Christian music (I'm 67, so I'm retired). If you enjoy being by yourself as I do, other ppl shouldn't criticize you or make you feel like it's not God's "best" for you. He has made us all different, and the most unhappy times in my life have been spent trying to "be" what someone else thought I should be.
@@themysticalexperiencer8141 I'm definitely not one to criticize, but the word of God definitely say to not forsake to congregate with children of God. In heaven God says his children will all be together singing, praising and worship for all eternity. The light he has put in you is to shine bright on others.
Just know. We are never truly alone. God is here for us all. He is Omnipresent, Pray that God can help you to have discernment through the Holy Spirit.
In Luke 1:37 - For with God nothing is impossible.
You are precious to The Most High. Hes is teaching me to have faith over fear.
Isaiah 41:10 - be not troubled for The Lord your God is with you. God bless you. Keep your eyes fixed on Yahweh. 👑🙏🏽❣️
@@themysticalexperiencer8141 Amen!
Excellent! I can relate to the part about betrayal. I was still be in the narcissistic fog had God not allowed me to go through betrayal first. A blessing in disguise.
Shaneen, it hit me to tell you this. The first time I saw you on here, you made me feel so welcome with your introduction. I've never felt that way before and i want to thank you for that. You are special and I thank you so much and thank the Lord for you for helping people like us understand narcissism and from a Bible prospective. ❤️🙏🌹
Shaneen,
You have no idea how much your videos have helped me. I'm sure there are many others like me.
I love your constant use of scripture to validate your counsel.
Sorry I misspelled your name in my other comment.
Patrick
The first time I laid eyes on my ex husband when a friend pointed him out saying how handsome he was, my first thought was he is sorry-looking. Somehow, we ended up being married and he turned out to be a serial cheater, liar, and a drunk. Oh how I wish I had gone with my first instinct that he was and is indeed a sorry/despicable man.
Same here. My ex husband stood me up for a date. I pretty much ignored him after that, but my "friends" convinced me to give him another chance. I should have trusted my intuition.
@@katcraig7525 yes, I agree. Somehow, our subconscious recognized something was wrong, off about them.
I look back and think how did I have kids with a 4'11 265lb bald stinky person. Only God could have made that happen, still unsure why.
Thank you so much 🙏 I do believe the Lord makes us stronger through these trials.
Definitely, I ignored the red flags God gave me about the ex narcissist fiance. I went into the relationship in the flesh and against the will of God, I prayed constantly through out the relationship and left ten months later in the spirit. It hurt but helped me so so much. I know the signs of narcissist and my experience has brought me so much closer to Jesus, I'm stronger and wiser. Amen!
Before I realized by mom was a narcissist I knew something was wrong...I just didn't know what it was. It got to the point where my skin would crawl when she would hug me. The Holy Spirit will prompt you!!
My younger sister claims to be a Christian for the last year. Her and my mother are toxic and they live together. My sister and I had a disagreement recently and she blew up because I told her “no”! I recently retired and took my pension as a lump sum. She was a raging alcoholic and stopped drinking because of many health issues last year. I started including her on my many trips and eating out. I really thought that she changed but there were many red flags that she did not. I realized that she was exhibiting narcissistic traits. She never apologized or wanted to talk it out, instead she ghosted me and blocked me on Facebook. Even though it’s difficult to go no contact, it’s really a relief and a blessing. Thank you for your channel, it’s just what I needed to show me I’m not crazy. God is so Good, He has been trying to show me for a long time that they both are very toxic, and will never embrace the truth about themselves.
The questions in my Journey dealing with Narcissistic betrayers of my life have been answered. Shannen answered troubles that my Psychiatrist and Therapist could not fully answer. They both were correct my next steps to take but Shannen, through the Holy Spirit, opened my eyes and understanding. Shannen, May God Bless you to continue your enlightening ministry “ Glory be to God for everything!”
The spirit of decernment,You will know when someone is evil bug we tend to ignore until you pray and ask for guidance
Hallelujah!! God gave me a clarifying dream. Hallelujah!
Evil intentions usually mask themselves in compassion
Like governments during the pandemic/lockdown for instance. "it's for the greater good" is the single common thread linking ALL evils perpetrated by our so called "leaders" in government. Beware of the wickedness in government as well as in individuals in your life. Government is rife with Narcissists because it's the type of profession that draws them like moths to a flame.
What if the betrayal is from a parent and they managed to con you almost all of your life? Its so painful to face that truth.
Yep....be thankful u found out and hopefully have boundaries and or no contact....my older sister died from mom and husband abuse...she was an empath who was trained to be quiet and get along even with no respect
@@sirtedricwalker2979 thats horrible, they should be punished for her
@@jilross4892 "Vengeance is MINE; I WILL repay," says the Lord. "He will bring every secret deed into judgement."
Yes it is!!! but with God all things are possible!!!
Yes been suffering this for 41 years
Another Spirit-filled and timely message. A Safe people message that says things succinctly. Thank you once again.
Thanks for your sharing. In my own experience, I have been in a relationship with a very toxic woman. On the fifth year I had to draw red lines, we had a months long standoff, then two major blows fell upon her. Her young son turned out to be drug addict and she had operation in the hospital. From my observation: the most powerful effect was from troubles with her son. During the last two years, the narcissistic power, toughness, uncompromising style of communication started to go away. It is still there, but a lot less. This year she had a dream with an icon of Morher Marry (before that I prayed in church to Her, it happened same week). The next day she went to the church, next to her office, and found the icon from her dream. She put herself in front of it and then … the unexpected happened (she is not type of a woman who is easy to be moved, stone hard actually), so she burst into tears, and stood and cried. She started to be guided (I want to believe) from above. Did her narcissistic approach vanish? Not quite completely. However, there is a hope that with God’s guidance and mercy she will be healed. So, to conclude, only a series of heavy blows over a period of time can heal the narcissist. Pray & Believe & Beware.
YOU are a blessing!!!!
God has opened my eyes to see my husband's tactics. I use to feel so confused but now I can read him like a book. Thank you Lord for your discernment. Although it still leaves me troubled because it is my husband 😔
Love your messages, they are so wonderful, I was able to put a beautiful prayer together through your instructions on Narcissism for my son, and woke up to the fact that I had a did part in his behavior and I do go each day with a broken and a contrite heart to the Lord Jesus to heal my son. Thank you for putting a mirror in my face to see what my guilt was all about.
Excellent! I especially love the difference between our gut feeling v spiritual discernment. I love the way you showed the positive value of betrayal.
I've found that when I've prayed for discernment God has faithfully answered that prayer. This is important to see others for who they are, and David also prayed for himself, "Search me,(A) God, and know my heart;(B)
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
24 See if there is any offensive way(C) in me,
and lead me(D) in the way everlasting."
Thank you for this video, Dr. Ramani. Years ago, I worked with a fellow minister who seemed to have many noble qualities, but I got into some strange arguments with this person that made no sense, and the person suddenly exploded with anger over minor disagreements. The person would talk for over an hour and then tell me I should learn how to listen. It left me perplexed and confused. Oddly enough, this person was the one who first told me about dealing with narissists.
I've just gone through a similar experience when I tried to alert a person that a video they'd done was very noisy due to the fact they were taping up boxes whilst interviewing a guest on their UA-cam channel.
The person started calling me analytical and said people always think they know better and that I was "just like her last assistant who went and started her own channel".
I apologised and said I was only thinking if her, her channel and her viewers. She said to me that it was a "learning opportunity" and that Christians need to be able to receive "chastisement and correction" etc. I told her I felt misjudged and hurt. The story doesn't end there, but to make a long story short, she manipulated me into 'stepping down' from being her assistant (which was on a voluntary basis) and then blocked me on the two social media platforms.
I had a meeting with her which she recorded but she controlled it by muting me from the start while she read out a statement which included my full name (which I tried to object about) and then conducted the meeting as if it were a disciplinary, where she twisted things and made false accusations.
I know of others who have been shut out as well when they raised valid issues with her or she would get jealous when people seemed to be getting a lot of attention.
She has hurt a number of people and I'm concerned for people she claims authority over who don't know what she is capable of. She calls herself a pastor but she is controlling and manipulative. She believes she is "next to the President" just because she used to be a Whitehouse correspondent. The sad thing is people, including me, were/are giving her money and then she just bans you suddenly when she wants to have no more to do with you.
Well, I guess I ended up writing a novel here! I just saw the similarity with your story and wanted to share my experience with you.
May the Lord bless you and I'm sure you will have learned some very interesting lessons about people and their ways.
☹️ I think I’m going through the same thing. The man I’m with gets really upset over the smallest things. It’s confusing bc he does & says really kind & loving things. I have ADHD, Complex PTSD (from my malignant narcissistic ex husband), brain damage all the gaslighting, seizures, and a car accident I had on 08/14/19. My attention span isn’t the best but I think I do a decent job at listening. However, my boyfriend talks and talks and talks. Then gets upset/angry bc I get lost, confused, or can’t remember what he said. He tells me I’m a horrible listener l. I’m 44 & have never been told that before. He’s been calling me unkind names. My heart hurts. He knows that I NEED my sleep but keeps me up late (if I don’t stay up with him he will get upset- basically throw a tantrum). The other night I was in a deep sleep for about 2 hours. He comes in a wakes me up!!!! I ended up not being able to sleep the rest of the night. Last night, he decided (again) to bring up things about me that was bothering him. Again, I couldn’t sleep well. I’m at a loss
@@NopeNotTodaySatan Its time to leave.. before he kills your soul. Go dearest
God speaks through dreams....2015 I was having incredible dreams..sadly..many clergy don't agree with dream communication...the more I pray and depend on guidance..the more I can trust God listens...the past several months He's given me dreams that were warnings about a professional therapist I was trusting...I was being decieved...very cleverly...the enemy uses whoever he can...that you Shaneen for your biblical and spiritual confirmation that God hears, and answers..if we pay attention. God Bless..
I sent you an email recently...I'd like to connect..if your open to that?
The insight on the narcissistic personality clarifies many issues for me, especially regarding betrayal. Even though I was blindsided, God saw it long ago and He will cause it to work for my good (Rom. 8:28).
I love how everytime you do a part you enter twine the Bible! Love it! Beautiful
I always have prophetic dreams. Before I met my LDR partner in person for the first time, God gave me a dream of what was to come. Which was horrifying, I told this person about the dream and they reassured me they wouldn’t happen.
Well turns out, exactly what was in the dream is how the person behaved irl. I was trapped in another country in a manipulationship with a narcissist with psychopathic tendencies. I learned to never ignore Gods warning. And to ask and sometimes demand he show me signs and he always does.
I’m dating someone new and I always ask God to show me at each stage. And he does. During this video he texted me. I would rather be alone then be trapped with ungodly, evil people.
Well,I call and called people out and allllmost lost my life a couple times duration of my lifetime.
Losses are hideous with these types of people
Yes, discernment, but then our passions placed elsewhere.
PROFOUND!! Found you and subscribed about 6 months ago. So much good information on You Tube but needed the spiritual perspective that led me to you. Watching this video was as though my mother, sister, best friend, and angel from Heaven called me on my cell phone at the perfect time with the perfect loving message, reminding me that we serve an Awesome God!! Thank you is not enough…
Thank you Holy Spirit 💓
Oooooooooo betrayed by that evil person.(Paused video)
Let me listen really good to Shaneen,I think I am totally at last going to get validation in what I experienced with these types of disgusting,cold-hearted people
I had that same validation in personal ways when i was experiencing exactly what Jesus said at the Last Supper.
Shaneen confirmed it with her words and scriptures because (hindsight) those two scriptures were and are relevant to my faith walk but the rest of Shaneen's explaining the beauty that comes after the betrayal is greatly appreciated for confirmation
In all your ways acknowkedge HIM,, and HE will direct your path,,
Shaneen, I have viewed several of your videos and always appreciate the deep nuggets of truth you bring up. You are giving people hope for healing and pointing them in the right direction. Thanks be to God! May He bless you, immensely!
Definitely not coincidence if I cry and this video cross my way 🙏🏻❤
Your teaching is dynamic and much appreciated!
I hope one day I will meet someone like you in my life ❤
Great video!! True Christians will be betrayed, it's a blessing because the Holy Spirit sustain and strengthen us, make immovable always abounding in the work of the Lord. God bless you, sister!
Thank you! So spot on. Immensely helpful. I am very grateful for your wisdom and teaching. This is quite healing. I have always had a strong faith, yet now it seems unwavering and non-negotiable. Peace and joy to you.
YOUR VIDEOS ARE HELPING ME A LOT! thank youuuuu! PRAISE GOD FOR THIS MINISTRY. You are exposing the work of the enemy.
I pray for your protection! Thank you so much.
Brought up by an overt narcissist and sadistic covert psycho, then marrying a covert narcissist, distorts ones ability to believe the Truth prompts of Holy Spirit... but gradually, over time, and 10 yrs walking close and listening sensitively, I'm finally beginning to know the Truth that sets me fee, and gain the Wisdom that will keep me free from these evil snakes and be vindicated by "wisdom's children"
GOD IS GOOD!
Discernment from the Holy Spirit is important of knowing people's motives.
You are a very needed blessing to me! Thank you angel!
This made me feel soon much better and stronger in my faith. Thank you!
This is so very true. Thank you 😊
I was watching this on a Roku TV and just had to jump on my phone to find your video so I could comment. This was an extraordinary narrative about Discernment! Just an excellent video! I just wanted to reach out and give you encouragement! I was really impressed by this! Thank you!
Wonderful video! JUST what I have been needing to hear. For years, have sadly been "calling evil good, and good evil". Growing in discernment, both in the natural and the spiritual, is being impressed upon me more and more. As a believer, the church I went to was so toxic - took me a long time to realize it and finally leave.
Dear Shaneen, I just found your channel today and watched only 3 videos so far. You're an amazing blessing to me and helped me to understand the demonic aspect of narcissism. This is vital information to me. Thank you so much and be blessed abundantly!!!
I know these things, but i need to hear it out loud from someone other than me sometimes...thanks
This was sooo good on so many levels!
Great work. Really precious insights.
So beautifully explained...comforting message to those who have gone through this pain..thank you so much...
I can usually tell I don't like the person, if I don't like their scent. I get bad vibes.
I had a hard time accepting that someone was a narci and I had a vision saying that you can not unsee what you have seen .from that day he started to hoover me back and I refuse .
This was an extremely good and valuable teaching! Thank you so much! May God Richly Bless You! Amen!
Yes, thank you and may our Lord continue to bless you greatly.
God can also warn you through secular psychologists just like he used a Raven to feed Elijah. Don't ignore some of the secular 'experts' on Narcissim here in UA-cam. Just don't agree with everything they say but align it with the word of God.
God Exonorated me & Made me so much Stronger & Bolder, while being silent to protect myself from criminals in the church.
Excellent video.. Definitely lead by the Holy Spirit. May God continue to guide you and bless you as you seek to do his will...
Omg, this has been my question for the past month!!! Crazy that I fell on your video! Be blessed
Excellent teaching!!!!! THANK YOU!! This gives me great hope recovering from a deception!! ❤
Beautiful deliverance Shaneen. Thank you for addressing this topic. 🌹
Typically I have had a vulnerability to blood relations inspite of their dysfunctions. But recently the Lord allowed me to suffer betrayal which is not new to me. But the evil intention in this case was much more severe than I ever experienced or imagined.
But by God's grace I did escape and have cut her off. Although I did discern in the beginning I just tried to love; as in "Love thy enemies". But I soon realized that my destruction was her intention. I now believe her to have destroyed others. I called her out for what she was and closed the door on any future contact.
Put her in God’s hands. Check out Shaneen’s “ How to pray for the Narcissist “. I did not call out my 95yr old blood relation...it slipped out in my exasperation. I feel your pain.
Every one of your videos Bless Me Thank You for your diligence. God bless you.🙏🙏 1
excellent and uplifting message Shaneen! !
Proverbs 22:3 The prudent see danger and take refuge, but the simple keep going and pay the penalty. Testing the spirits prevents us from trusting all spirits. In some, you can see pure evil in their eyes such as possession.
STRONGS CONCORDANCE: but the simple
וּ֝פְתָיִ֗ים (ū·p̄ə·ṯā·yîm)
Conjunctive waw | Noun - masculine plural
Strong's Hebrew 6612: n f 1) simplicity, naivete adj 2) simple, foolish, open-minded
Shaneen: God showed up at the last minute through your female covert narcissist video to protect me from such a person. I have been attacked repeatedly by very slick narcissists.
Thank you for a very informative and helpful message. I love every word you said. It is all so true. God bless you.
I love your channel, this video (and many others) is so precious. Thank you so much for your work 🙏
Thank you so much. I fully agree with everything you said.
Wonderful video. Thank you so much!
You're so welcome!
ten years ago i found myself in the midst of narcissists from "friends" to ex coworkers somehow I decern their intentions but couldn't escape my narcissistic "mother". I've gone no contact with her permanently.
+Shaneen Megji Praise the LORD thank you so much, my beloved sister Shaneen. God bless. Agape love
Hi Shaneen- what was the name of the book you mentioned in your 'Why I created this channel' video? You said it was a book you picked up on narcissism one day & that it described the relationship you were in to a t, & gave you language to describe what was destroying you. Thank you for you channel. It's really great. There's a resource, a podcast called "Conquering the Jezebel Spirit" by Rob Wilson, who also uses the Word to describe & discuss about narcissistic abuse. It's somewhat different than yours, but as you have said, there are hardly any channels that factor God into the process of understanding & healing in regards to narcissistic abuse. I not only wanted you to be aware of someone who might edify & sharpen you further, but also encourage you (if you're not already), to package your content in podcast form. It shouldn't be too difficult, & would greatly broaden your exposure & reach to the number of hurting people who desperately need this ministry. Again, thank you.
I'm very observant and can read people pretty well. I may not figure it out immediately but I can tell pretty quickly.
Thank you for these helpful words.
Thank you so much Shaneen , spot on✌🏿💪🏿🙏🏿🤗😍🙌🏿
Loved this one. Thanks for posting.
The Lord bless you 🙏 your videos helps me so much from The Biblical perspective 💖 you're a God sent 🙏
Love your videos! Thank you and God bless you 🙏 ❤️
Good stuff thanks sister in Christ
It happened to me in my marriage and it was the Holy Spirit after a fast to know what to do explained to me that my wife was wicked and afterwards what I should do.
Its a shame how naive i was smh
Beautifully said 👏🏽 🙏🏽 I'm praying that my discernment increases and I believe what I see and hear, not what could be in Jesus name. After marrying Judas, I am not trying to get into these types of relationships in any capacity going forward.
I rebuke the Spirit of tolerance in Jesus name! God bless all of you on your journeys of freedom from oppression.
After marrying Judas🤣🤣🤣oh that got me🤣🤣 I get what you mean tho. Yes! Discernment. 🙏
@@Angela-zf8sn lol
It was my research INTO "Oppression" THAT lead me to Narc abuse enlightenment