@@maria-ed5jg lmao this is so true! I know this most recent one is saying that about me rn. “He must not have cared” naw I gave you plenty of chances and you kept trying to jerk me around
I'd think that playing hard to get also promotes this idea that "No may not actually mean no." If you act disinterested or say you're not interested, a well-adjusted person will move on... Persistence on the matter after things have been made clear shows a lack of respect.
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I don't know about that. There's thrill in the pursuit. If there's no struggle, there's no feeling of achievement. It's like playing with a cat. You can't give it the toy right away, you have to tease it a bit, yank it away. That's how you keep it interested. If you give the cat the toy right away it gets bored and leaves.
See.... if i ask you on a date and you refuse... what else am i supposed to do? I personally move on! Agreeing on a date doesn't mean you're automatically saying yes to sex a relationship or whatever it simply states that there's mutual interest and MAYBE things work out. During the dating phase playing a little bit of hard to get in the sense of challenging your partner is good but uber artificial try-harding isn't
The friends I have who like that are seriously not the ones you want a relationship with, they are way more disrespectful and dicks towards women... but guess women like that so good for them
Another problem with playing hard to get is that it drives away people kind and understanding enough to take signs of disinterest as a reason to move on and not be a pain. It also makes that trait less common leading to more people continuing to bother those who are not interested under the impression that the annoyed individual is playing hard to get.
This is how my dad did it: He told my mum that it was his birthday (and it was) and that a bunch of his friends were going to Mcdonalds for lunch and she was like ughhh fine cuz its your birthday. She was the only one to show. Also the only one invited. They had a buy one get one free burger. She paid. They have been marries for 20 years. Boom.
After two weeks of talking to my new friend, I bluntly informed them "I am trying desperately not to fall in love with you." Dramatic, but I knew they deserved to know upfront. After they got over their initial shock, we made it official. Two years later and I've never regretted making the first move.
@@MK-bj8pd Life is short, go for it! We're getting married now and I wonder what my life would be like if I hadn't had the guts to just be honest. One sentence can change your whole life.
Some people say.. you shouldn't have to PLAY hard to get, you should BE hard to get. Which doesn't mean walking around with ego in your head. But having standards and values that you'd want the other person to respect!
That's the same thing. Anyone who makes such demands of me as another human, by defining such asymmetric roles in the relationship, is clearly not worth my time. The entire point is, unless you get off on it, why take the role of prey? I hunt if I need to eat, not when I need to fuck.
Yep since I always loathed girls who play mind games already was unfortunate enough to come across two who led me on throughout summer but I am glad that's done and over
My friends always tell me to "wait for the guy to ask you out" or "don't respond too fast at his texts" or "don't be easy, make him chase you". And that's not me at all. When I like someone, I like them, I wanna go out with them, I wanna text with them, I wanna show them that I am interested. And if someone loses interest in me bc i am showing interest in them, that's even better, I don't want this kind of person by my side
@@fayzio5282 it's kinda hard to find one, so I just stay humble and patient until the time comes. I make music so a few might pop up. Wish me good luck
@@lonewolf3428 That's all you need to do. Just be you, do you, grow. And at some point, it may be in 3 days or 3 months or even 3 years, she will come along. And you will know it's her. When it's special it feels like you are in a movie. :) I wish you luck with your music and with whatever you do in life. Stay home, stay healthy :)
I think the only useful thing about playing hard to get is that girls can know if the guy is serious or not.. but they do it all the time even if they know the guy is serious about it
Sometimes, I don't understand why Anna doesn't get more views than some other videos that obviously doesn't have content that's as well developed and edited
+Jeril Joseph You don't know that for a fact, so don't try to portray it as such! If you have a theory on something, it's fine to express it, but don't assert it as a fact. Anyhow, my own theory on that situation is quite a bit different than yours. I remember that a while back, Anna uploaded this video titled "things I wish I knew in high school", she later on deleted it at some point, but anyhow, on that video, she was visibly upset, and said something like "you're gonna fuck tons of people in your life" and I just couldn't figure out where that was coming from at that point in time, but shortly afterward, it became public knowledge that she and Ray broke up. So personally, I think he cheated on her.
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I met a guy I really liked. We were friends for a while and I decided to just ask him out, be honest about being into him. He turned me down. I said that was cool and we went back to being friends and everything was fine. UNTIL I met someone else and started dating him. Then suddenly this friend of mine was into me. I'd asked him out too soon, he wasn't ready for a relationship at the time, blah blah blah. Somehow I ended up being the one who hurt him all because I was upfront and honest. Over a year later I'm still vaguely friends with him (there wasn't a lot of drama, just many unsaid words that can make hanging out a little awkward) and still in my relationship. Don't waste time playing games.
Hannah Ansley Being upfront with someone especially when they aren't ready for a relationship isn't always a good idea and that can result in them telling you no
finally, I always feel conscious about being honest about my feelings. People around me always say stuffs like "you're a girl, you shouldn't confess to a guy" or "you are ruining your image as a female if you make an effort to a guy" and especially the "You shouldn't take it seriously. You're a female, you should play hard to get with the boys" And honestly... it's getting really annoying. Boys can't just do everything for you. Boy can't be the only one chasing the girls. Boys can't be the only one saying sorry all the time. And boys can't be the only one giving gifts to girls. Just think about it. Unfair, right? Well there are guys who don't like straight or direct gals cause to them, it ruins their ego as a male While other guys(especially the shy ones) are attracted to direct girls or if not, gets more motivated and falls for the girl more since they know they now have a high chance to be with the girl and wouldn't be so tired to the girl because she isn't hard to get. I used to have an MU (MU means mutual understanding. definition of two people knows they like each other but not in a relationship) I told him I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend yet since my dad doesn't want to. He wants me to finish my studies 1st. 2 months have passed and I have grown tired of being in an MU relationship with him because we acted as if we are already in an actual relationship. I stopped playing hard to get, broke my dad's rules.. My old MU became my BF after that. (｡･ω･｡) just thought of sharing how I feel
Brilliantly put. And btw, thanks for "mutual understanding," a term that so excellently defines the awkward space between two people who like each other and know, but aren't dating yet. Until now I've been calling it "a situation that's not actually a situation."
If you like a dude who's either shy or not experienced with women, just ask them out I say. A guy who's experienced with women that doesn't seem to be picking up on your hints just doesnt like you probably.
just remember, its the internet , why not lol. (are you judt gonna wait for a guy to come along and ask or possibly not ask you? you know, some guys are shy too)
No, but i usually flirt a lot before going in and being like.... BANG! I want you.... Also I find it very difficult to flirt with girls, cause like, it's really hard to know if they're actually interested haha
answer will always be no unless you ask...plus maybe the person you are interested in also isn't that brave yet...then what? you both wait eternally to be brave enough to just tell someone you like them? please...don't waste another minute worrying...plus if you say it and they go no...you won't waste any more time wondering either and can get back on the prowl for the appropriate partner! go get emmmmmm
Inviting somebody to dinner is not really saying you "want" them, it doesn't have to imply anything that extreme, only the bare minimum to indicate a desire to date / romantic interest for now, pending successful dating. Maybe thinking about it that way makes it a bit easier? I don't know, I'm so jaded at this point with initial asks that I don't really remember what it was like to be super nervous about it, so might not be helpful.
Wow! Totally agree! Amen and god bless! I don't go for the hard to get thing. It also motivates guys to be creepy and encouraged sexual harassment because some guys are thinking, "she's just playing hard to get".
Given how threatening unwanted advances can be for us women, I am ALL ABOUT the lady making the first move. He knows she's cool with him flirting, she doesn't get hit on by weirdos.... it would be the perfect system.
Given how threatened (and fucked over) a man can be if the woman perceives his advances as 'unwanted', I'm totally down for the lady making the first move. Everything is spot on, and he doesn't need to worry about getting random charges tossed his way.
I tend to easily get confused and clueless if someone likes me or not. Playing games would just tangle me up, so i'd leave u in the dust and find someone else worth my time.
@majestic movement dam i see you. In my side, i tend to back off when a guy gets too close to me, (not in a physical way). Boy tell me i lead people on too much and its not a good habit. bUt iM jUsT tRyN tO gUarD my lil heart
I did it buddy. I mean, I'm closer now than when I was a couple months ago (I hope). anyways, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. so take it, cause you never know.
RedNightFire007 absolutely. To be honest I often say that everyone's sexual personality changes or evolves every 6 months. What I mean by that is we're always going to be developing and changing - sometimes slightly sometimes significantly. But from one six-month period to another many of our.... everything (desires, fantasies, fetishes, experiences, wants, needs, whatever) changes.
I just say "yolo" and do it because the worse thing that could happen is you not telling them how you feel and then wondering if they did like you back later
I made the first move on my husband! He respectfully stood back and gave me my space. We got closer and closer over 2 years of him not making any kind of move. But I could tell he liked me. So I made the move.
I TOTALLY AGREE!!! I’m going out with a guy solemnly because I walked up to him and told him I liked him. 82.3% chance of success. Seriously, go for it.
+C0d0ps "Global Thermonuclear War, analyzing all probabilities...(computer freeze) Funny, the only way to win the game is to not play at all." - War Games, movie
Lol exactly: try talking to that one girl you think you like. You’ll quickly realize how boring she really is. Most girls think of themselves as objects. As trophies. They LOVE looking pretty, but don’t really care that much what’s going on upstairs. They hate words because they reveal how empty headed and shallow they can be.
I have found that girls who play games with the guys they go out with tend to need the validation that comes from the making of us "jump thru hoops". But be careful with all the games since this tends to backfire. Which reminds me of something I read on the bathroom wall at the Viper Room in my youth "Remember no matter how hot she is somewhere there's a guy who's sick of her shit".
At the end where you said “just throw away the games” , sums everything up pretty much perfectly . No one wants to sit through games, and these games have the potential to mess up what could have been a good relationship
+Wild4lon yes. Because being rejected isn't that terrible in the scope of things, you would never "what if" and someone who treats you weirdly after a situation like that isn't really someone worth keeping around. People have/had feelings. It happens. It's a part of life. Letting get that in the way of meaningful friendships or life is unnecessary.
Girls of course you can, set aside the guys with super buff bodies who daily pick up girls ,guys have the same problems. Girls if you think a guy could be interesting and he hasent done anything yet...just bump into him, apologize and slide your hand from the album and to his hand (or shoulder to album) and ask if you could buy him a coffe to apologize. Or something....just an idea.
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The problem is its difficult to differentiate between a woman playing hard to get and a woman who’s not interested. So I just stop trying the very first time she acts disinterested or says openly (or if I suspect she’s uncomfortable). It’s better not to be a creep than to miss out on a girl who’s interested but acting hard to get.
Right on Anna! I 100% agree! Besides, lasting relationships rely on trust so playing games pretty much ruins the relationship from the get go for the long term.
Totally agree. Dishonesty is a bad way to start any relationship and it certainly wont maintain one. Why lie about who your are and what you want, just to win over someone who isn't compatible with you? And why give the cold shoulder to someone you like, when it might make them give up on you? Just be yourself and if it doesn't work out, then there was no chemistry and you're better off without them.
I love when girls are direct. Its refreshing. I was once asked out by two girls at the same time on the subway. My mouth droped! I was interrupted by an emergency before I could take advantage of the oportunity. I was in that city temporarly and that kind of stuff happens to guys more often there than anywhere else in the country, to my knowledge. ( It was in Porto, in Portugal. I'm portuguese)I am currently saving money to move there. Women there are like from another country! Bolder, braver, warmer and more open and giving than women from where I live, plus its a bigger city, with more oportunities for my career goals.
Reasons why you should not playing to be "hard to get" : - It's showing a fake part of your personality - You'll be important only for who want something that other haven't (like a trophy or any other valuable OBJECT) - You'r wasting time that you could spend with the person you love - It's sometimes a risk to lose someone that really cared about you - You miss the opportunity to be happier to get what you want too etc, etc . . . . In Love, be true and yourself is the most important key to have a happy relationship :)
Too bad I learned this through the hard way. A guy liked me but I acted disinterested in him (even tho I liked him too), and I never answered him like I should have. we met at an internship and when it ended all contact ended too. I really regret not approaching him. *sigh*
Thay happened except I was ready to tell him genuinely and the covid happened and we graduated to college and never got to see each other and I even tried to get his number from someone and they didn't have it , I tried so much *sigh*
women, u can't play hard to get anymore if you're into the guy. today men are getting charged with sexual misconduct even after having "consent". the simple fact that a woman admires u could make things not really consensual. so if a woman plays hard to get, i'll just say "ok bye" and move on instead of continue to pursue and then later be told that since she didn't immediately accepted my attempts that means it should've been obvious that she wasn't interested and therefore i harassed her. no thank u, not worth it
@ThePHiLsTeR lmao....dude, this is literally sexual harassment. Just imagine if you told a chick "well, maybe you should have just banged your boss even if you didn't want to. You gotta play it smart to keep your job" There would be a lynch mob coming after you.
@@DivineAtheistWannabe Actually it's sexual harassment and blackmail if they make it known your job is on the line - one is a fire able offense in the work place, the other is a straight up crime punishable by a prison sentence.
The problem of waiting too long is that it can make the person feels being ignored and worse, will going to find someone else instead. But I understand why girls do that. They just want to make sure how serious the guy about his feelings and intentions.
I do the same thing, when I like someone I just tell them "I like you" it's so simple, if they say no it sucks I cry blablabla but I rather that than not saying them what I feel. Or when a guy comes to me and start getting flirty I look at them and say "I have a boyfriend you know, just to be clear" haha, being direct is awkward for the other person sometimes but is the best
im an extremely open person and never lie or pretend the oposite of the truth is true. i may use that "its my birthday so you cant say no" but im worried it might come acroos a little to despret from a guy where from a girl it sounds cute.
Dustin Boyd you know what my profile pic is from? no one has ever recognized it in the 7 years i have been using it. lol good on you for your game knowledge. i also used it in one of my videos but its a crapy video i made in highschool using game clips and some stop anamation. now a days you can make better videos with a cell phone.
Hmm maybe use an emoji after the sentence but I guess it does come over better when said by a girl. After reading the other comments on here some girls really don't like guys flirting with them.
I totally agree with this, and the worst thing about women playing hard to get is that you can't tell if they are playing hard to get or if they simply are not interested and pushing your interest will make you a creep
I have to say THANK YOU!!! I can't stand girls who play all these games and keep making me claw after them. Usually if it happens I just drop them. I shouldn't have to work or jump through extra hoops (Made by a potential future spouse) to date them. It's silly and just drives me away to think I'm undesired. But that is my simple view point.
ERNESERNES TBH, I have been guilty of that. But at the same time, it seems like girls rule me out without ever giving me a chance. Like, what do you want? A hood nigga?
It's the lying that's the problem. I never understood why people felt like they had to fake feelings & manufacture scenarios in order to progress to the next steps in the relationship. Just be direct, upfront in the beginning...quit wasting people's time because it comes off condescending, desperate or even worse, both.
Thank you for the compliment, I guess? LOL! I don't believe in playing hard to get. I always knew what I wanted and what I didn't want. Most of the guys were not what I wanted. I didn't play games, I just simply didn't even give them a shot. When the man I did want appeared in my life, I let him know I wanted him in my life and wanted to be part of his. He is my husband now and I love him more and more everyday :3
Burn Feminists Women who agree with this are statitiscal anomalies is what the opening comment said... I will take it as a compliment :) Have a nice rest of the day!
Maybe you think they're uncommon because a lot of women have rejected you? I'm sure most women would go on a date if they were asked by a person that they're attracted to.
Parabler That's not based solely on my personal experience. I've watched many other guys struggle with the same problem, and I've talked to a lot of college-aged women on the other end of the problem (which was largely self-inflicted, tbh).
I was my crushes crush and she texted me. she waited for me to get invested and started responding with one word and being manipulative. When i stopped texting and talking to her she went to her friends and started crying because i broke her heart. That's why you shouldn't play hard to get a guy thinks you are not interested and he gives up.
No strategizing involved at all. And by all means, be yourself. But I do hope being yourself involves just setting your boundaries/standards and not allowing anyone into your life that expects you to lower them. Men will test you. Have enough self respect to kick them to the curb if they don't shape up and respect what you have already determined is right for you. THAT is ''hard to get'' -- no game playing involved. You let them know who you are; get rid of the ones who want you to compromise. Sometimes that means you're alone for awhile. It's THAT SIMPLE.
if a girl plays hard to get, I assume she's not interested and I just forget about her.
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No, if she plays hard to get, it's your fault.
Nah, people who keep trying and harassing girls who have told you 'no' are the ones to stay the hell away from. He's simply respecting boundaries.
4gma is damaged and delusional.... good luck
- Girl plays hard to get.
- Guy thinks she hates him.
*The End*
girls to her best friend after it happens: idk what I did wrong everything was great I thought he really liked me. guess hes just like the rest
Girl is interested in me
Me: I have a friend that's single
Girl:oh
Me:Go get him tiger
As a girl, this is a good ending because I don't want guys to go near me 💅✨
@@maria-ed5jg lmao this is so true! I know this most recent one is saying that about me rn. “He must not have cared” naw I gave you plenty of chances and you kept trying to jerk me around
Real
"If you want him to like you, you have to stay 6ft away from him at all times"
Welllll, that's true for everyone now!
Thinking this too 😂
That's true, I instantly don't like people that violate my bubble now.
Forshadowing!
She jinxed it
Imagine when someone replies"not anymore"
I'd think that playing hard to get also promotes this idea that "No may not actually mean no." If you act disinterested or say you're not interested, a well-adjusted person will move on... Persistence on the matter after things have been made clear shows a lack of respect.
yup, absolutely agree!
If all people thought like that then the human race would have been long extinct.
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I heard some guys like it when girls play hard to get...but then again maybe those aren't the types of guys we should be looking for.
qazedc3 OH MY GOODNESS THE WORDS OF TRUTH WERE SPILLED
I don't know about that. There's thrill in the pursuit. If there's no struggle, there's no feeling of achievement. It's like playing with a cat. You can't give it the toy right away, you have to tease it a bit, yank it away. That's how you keep it interested. If you give the cat the toy right away it gets bored and leaves.
See.... if i ask you on a date and you refuse... what else am i supposed to do?
I personally move on! Agreeing on a date doesn't mean you're automatically saying yes to
sex a relationship or whatever it simply states that there's mutual interest and MAYBE things work out.
During the dating phase playing a little bit of hard to get in the sense of challenging your partner is good
but uber artificial try-harding isn't
The friends I have who like that are seriously not the ones you want a relationship with, they are way more disrespectful and dicks towards women... but guess women like that so good for them
qazedc3, Take it from a guy;Desperate girls are super cute.
I love it when girls are direct! Makes life so much easier!
Women are covert communicators in all parts of life.
Exactly
Amen, brother!
Amen!!!
for real man
@@brennendehexe7934 that's a lot of bs you're holding, why dont you drop some
Another problem with playing hard to get is that it drives away people kind and understanding enough to take signs of disinterest as a reason to move on and not be a pain. It also makes that trait less common leading to more people continuing to bother those who are not interested under the impression that the annoyed individual is playing hard to get.
Artsy_Judoka Your comment deserves way more votes!
PREACH!! Underrated comment!!
Artsy_Judoka Absolutely true!
This. 100%
This is how my dad did it: He told my mum that it was his birthday (and it was) and that a bunch of his friends were going to Mcdonalds for lunch and she was like ughhh fine cuz its your birthday. She was the only one to show. Also the only one invited. They had a buy one get one free burger. She paid. They have been marries for 20 years. Boom.
Wow what a smooth criminal
Damn son
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that is the cutest love story i've ever read omg better than titanic
:D
After two weeks of talking to my new friend, I bluntly informed them "I am trying desperately not to fall in love with you." Dramatic, but I knew they deserved to know upfront. After they got over their initial shock, we made it official. Two years later and I've never regretted making the first move.
Respect. 👊🏻 a virtual fist bump for you
Wow, what a phrase!
@No_Name thats not true
Never even dreamed of having that much boldness, but holy hell if that hasn’t been an exact thought
@@MK-bj8pd Life is short, go for it! We're getting married now and I wonder what my life would be like if I hadn't had the guts to just be honest. One sentence can change your whole life.
Some people say.. you shouldn't have to PLAY hard to get, you should BE hard to get. Which doesn't mean walking around with ego in your head. But having standards and values that you'd want the other person to respect!
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That's the same thing. Anyone who makes such demands of me as another human, by defining such asymmetric roles in the relationship, is clearly not worth my time. The entire point is, unless you get off on it, why take the role of prey? I hunt if I need to eat, not when I need to fuck.
yes!
The point is to go after someone you want, instead of playing mind games and hoping for a relationship
Exactly. If you live a fulfilling life you won't have to play hard to get you just will be hard to get.
Finally someone said it ! Don't play game people
but im lvl 98 in world of warcraft :c
+Luchingador it's ok wow is a good game ! :D
+Luchingador so the wow fever is coming back now or what? D:
+nether Dwing it really is ^_^
Yep since I always loathed girls who play mind games already was unfortunate enough to come across two who led me on throughout summer but I am glad that's done and over
I love it when girls play hard to get, because that's my cue to go get someone else!!! 😂 😂 😂
She’s not playing hard to get...she just don’t want u
@@translator544 Ok incel
@@translator544 youre having a bad day
@@derrik1878 I appreciate the civilness of your response 🖒
I dont like to play games if i domt show interest is because i am not.intereated..
i always tell someone that i like them, when i do. Just makes everything clear enough and you get what you want.....or not. and move on.
TuffKat certainly lol
And that's how it should be honesty is the best policy
My kind of girl.
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Wish all women had that approach 😕
My friends always tell me to "wait for the guy to ask you out" or "don't respond too fast at his texts" or "don't be easy, make him chase you". And that's not me at all. When I like someone, I like them, I wanna go out with them, I wanna text with them, I wanna show them that I am interested. And if someone loses interest in me bc i am showing interest in them, that's even better, I don't want this kind of person by my side
I need a girl like you 😭😭😭
@@lonewolf3428 She's out there I promise ❤
@@fayzio5282 it's kinda hard to find one, so I just stay humble and patient until the time comes. I make music so a few might pop up. Wish me good luck
@@lonewolf3428 That's all you need to do. Just be you, do you, grow. And at some point, it may be in 3 days or 3 months or even 3 years, she will come along. And you will know it's her. When it's special it feels like you are in a movie. :)
I wish you luck with your music and with whatever you do in life. Stay home, stay healthy :)
@majestic movement i don't think that it has to do with a girl's appearance .. it has to do with her character🧚♀️
“Playing hard to get” is for teenagers and preteens. Honestly.
Anyone who plays mind games is immature and insecure
totally
Playing hard to get automatically makes me *not* attracted to the person.
Or they might be insane did you consider that
I think the only useful thing about playing hard to get is that girls can know if the guy is serious or not.. but they do it all the time even if they know the guy is serious about it
Not true I am immature and insecure but I never play mind game I just runaway all the time 😂
Sometimes, I don't understand why Anna doesn't get more views than some other videos that obviously doesn't have content that's as well developed and edited
because she used ray william johnson to get fame then left him after she was happy
+Jeril Joseph You don't know that for a fact, so don't try to portray it as such!
If you have a theory on something, it's fine to express it, but don't assert it as a fact.
Anyhow, my own theory on that situation is quite a bit different than yours.
I remember that a while back, Anna uploaded this video titled "things I wish I knew in high school", she later on deleted it at some point, but anyhow, on that video, she was visibly upset, and said something like "you're gonna fuck tons of people in your life" and I just couldn't figure out where that was coming from at that point in time, but shortly afterward, it became public knowledge that she and Ray broke up.
So personally, I think he cheated on her.
Probably due to connections :/ I was surprised at first too!
and her characters all hhave diff clothes
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I met a guy I really liked. We were friends for a while and I decided to just ask him out, be honest about being into him. He turned me down. I said that was cool and we went back to being friends and everything was fine.
UNTIL I met someone else and started dating him. Then suddenly this friend of mine was into me. I'd asked him out too soon, he wasn't ready for a relationship at the time, blah blah blah. Somehow I ended up being the one who hurt him all because I was upfront and honest.
Over a year later I'm still vaguely friends with him (there wasn't a lot of drama, just many unsaid words that can make hanging out a little awkward) and still in my relationship. Don't waste time playing games.
Sounds like he just wanted to plant his seeds, otherwise he'd have accepted you the first time.
That guy sounds problematic. I'm glad you never fell for his bullshit.
That was a boy, not a man. My qualifications? I'm a man.
Hannah Ansley
Being upfront with someone especially when they aren't ready for a relationship isn't always a good idea and that can result in them telling you no
@@whygiveup11 Being turned down is not the issue, wasting each others time is.
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God damn two years already? How long have I been subbed to this thing?
We're all waiting bro, we're all waiting
damn im gettin older
ikr
Damn that's crazy.
Anna is manipulating time again.
I loved that sentence “someone who wants you only because they can’t have you is always gonna looking for the best next thing” 😌
Anna is like me
except female
and attractive
and funny
and likable
and popular
and talented
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damn dude
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same
Guys and girls, if someone ya like is playing hard to get. Forget about them and move on
They haven't matured enough for dating, and especially not for marriage
Great advice - games aren't the way to create a successful relationship, honesty is.
finally, I always feel conscious about being honest about my feelings. People around me always say stuffs like "you're a girl, you shouldn't confess to a guy" or "you are ruining your image as a female if you make an effort to a guy" and especially the "You shouldn't take it seriously. You're a female, you should play hard to get with the boys"
And honestly... it's getting really annoying.
Boys can't just do everything for you. Boy can't be the only one chasing the girls. Boys can't be the only one saying sorry all the time.
And boys can't be the only one giving gifts to girls. Just think about it. Unfair, right?
Well there are guys who don't like straight or direct gals cause to them, it ruins their ego as a male
While other guys(especially the shy ones) are attracted to direct girls or if not, gets more motivated and falls for the girl more since they know they now have a high chance to be with the girl and wouldn't be so tired to the girl because she isn't hard to get.
I used to have an MU (MU means mutual understanding. definition of two people knows they like each other but not in a relationship)
I told him I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend yet since my dad doesn't want to. He wants me to finish my studies 1st. 2 months have passed and I have grown tired of being in an MU relationship with him because we acted as if we are already in an actual relationship. I stopped playing hard to get, broke my dad's rules.. My old MU became my BF after that. (｡･ω･｡)
just thought of sharing how I feel
Brilliantly put. And btw, thanks for "mutual understanding," a term that so excellently defines the awkward space between two people who like each other and know, but aren't dating yet. Until now I've been calling it "a situation that's not actually a situation."
Don't listen to those females because I bet most of them are single and they are going to stay that way by playing hard to get!
too many times women are simply educated to be ignorant and not think for themselves
If you like a dude who's either shy or not experienced with women, just ask them out I say.
A guy who's experienced with women that doesn't seem to be picking up on your hints just doesnt like you probably.
:')
"Pencil me in. I write in pen" :O hahahahahaha xD beautiful!
butt i didn't get it, what's that mean?
@@MONO-rr4rm if you write in pen, you cannt change it, it shows commitment
@@yanzhao5673 THX!
“If you want him to like you, you have to be 6 feet away from him at all times”
Well that aged like wine 😂😭😂😭
OMG that's direct as fuck. You go guuurl! I'm not that brave (yet?)
just remember, its the internet , why not lol. (are you judt gonna wait for a guy to come along and ask or possibly not ask you? you know, some guys are shy too)
No, but i usually flirt a lot before going in and being like.... BANG! I want you.... Also I find it very difficult to flirt with girls, cause like, it's really hard to know if they're actually interested haha
answer will always be no unless you ask...plus maybe the person you are interested in also isn't that brave yet...then what? you both wait eternally to be brave enough to just tell someone you like them? please...don't waste another minute worrying...plus if you say it and they go no...you won't waste any more time wondering either and can get back on the prowl for the appropriate partner! go get emmmmmm
Inviting somebody to dinner is not really saying you "want" them, it doesn't have to imply anything that extreme, only the bare minimum to indicate a desire to date / romantic interest for now, pending successful dating. Maybe thinking about it that way makes it a bit easier? I don't know, I'm so jaded at this point with initial asks that I don't really remember what it was like to be super nervous about it, so might not be helpful.
Wow! Totally agree! Amen and god bless! I don't go for the hard to get thing. It also motivates guys to be creepy and encouraged sexual harassment because some guys are thinking, "she's just playing hard to get".
And also it's just straight up disingenuous and makes guys hang on longer than they should...
yes totally
You took the words out of my mouth
Exactly, I’m fine with approaching. But if she says no. That’s the ball game and I’m moving on.
@lavender fields Sorry to hear you had to deal with that. That's disrespect. It's good you had a friend who defended you.
Man she was on that social distancing 3 years early
Given how threatening unwanted advances can be for us women, I am ALL ABOUT the lady making the first move. He knows she's cool with him flirting, she doesn't get hit on by weirdos.... it would be the perfect system.
Why isn't it popular then?🤔... Would make life so much better if it was 😪
Agreed...
apparently girls in the uk have been known to ask guys out. maybe it's just a north american thing?
Given how threatened (and fucked over) a man can be if the woman perceives his advances as 'unwanted', I'm totally down for the lady making the first move. Everything is spot on, and he doesn't need to worry about getting random charges tossed his way.
+hybby Nobody press charges just for flirting. Worst case they call you creepy and go away.
it would be a simpler world if every woman thinks and acts like Anna.
In regard to this, at least.
Not just every woman but men as well
leonell domingo Men are generally more straightforward than women. But yeah, I get what you mean.
***** men are crazy? Yes. I would agree. But women can't be as simple as "1+1=2" unlike men are.
or if they just thought at all
I tend to easily get confused and clueless if someone likes me or not. Playing games would just tangle me up, so i'd leave u in the dust and find someone else worth my time.
@majestic movement im a girl lol 💀
@majestic movement dam i see you. In my side, i tend to back off when a guy gets too close to me, (not in a physical way). Boy tell me i lead people on too much and its not a good habit. bUt iM jUsT tRyN tO gUarD my lil heart
How will i ever have that confidence to say 'hey i like you'
It comes with age, experience, and confidence for starters.
I did it buddy. I mean, I'm closer now than when I was a couple months ago (I hope). anyways, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. so take it, cause you never know.
RedNightFire007 absolutely. To be honest I often say that everyone's sexual personality changes or evolves every 6 months. What I mean by that is we're always going to be developing and changing - sometimes slightly sometimes significantly. But from one six-month period to another many of our.... everything (desires, fantasies, fetishes, experiences, wants, needs, whatever) changes.
I just say "yolo" and do it because the worse thing that could happen is you not telling them how you feel and then wondering if they did like you back later
you don't have to say it, there's eye contact, gesture etc.
Wait wait wait. Who is this FLOATING HEAD GUY you've been dating for two years???
:D
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I smell drama...
happy 2 year anniversary!
THAT'S MY BROTHER'S NAME
I made the first move on my husband! He respectfully stood back and gave me my space. We got closer and closer over 2 years of him not making any kind of move. But I could tell he liked me. So I made the move.
I TOTALLY AGREE!!! I’m going out with a guy solemnly because I walked up to him and told him I liked him. 82.3% chance of success. Seriously, go for it.
Games are for the computer not for relationships.
#PCMasterRace
+C0d0ps "Global Thermonuclear War, analyzing all probabilities...(computer freeze) Funny, the only way to win the game is to not play at all." - War Games, movie
This kinda reminds me of Detroit become human
Gamers rise up!! We are supreme Gentlemen!
Lol yes!
These days girls aren’t playing hard to get, they’re playing hard to WANT!
Lol exactly: try talking to that one girl you think you like. You’ll quickly realize how boring she really is. Most girls think of themselves as objects. As trophies. They LOVE looking pretty, but don’t really care that much what’s going on upstairs. They hate words because they reveal how empty headed and shallow they can be.
we don't want to be "wanted" by guys. these days girls are lesbian❤️
@@cct306 ah jumped on the bandwagon did ya!?!..forget about social media dos and donts and be yourself!!!
Master of Reality that envy to the biology is sooo 1800's lol. Religion has fucked up your mind, shame on you.
C CT The world has warped your mind. Shame on you.
I think it's sexy for a woman to have the confidence to ask a man out. It's the age of gender equality, so why not? Go for it ladies!
I have found that girls who play games with the guys they go out with tend to need the validation that comes from the making of us "jump thru hoops". But be careful with all the games since this tends to backfire. Which reminds me of something I read on the bathroom wall at the Viper Room in my youth "Remember no matter how hot she is somewhere there's a guy who's sick of her shit".
Greatest quote I've ever come across tbh
At the end where you said “just throw away the games” , sums everything up pretty much perfectly . No one wants to sit through games, and these games have the potential to mess up what could have been a good relationship
I love being upfront with people. They just don't expect it
I just want to say, you're completely and totally right, Ana. Being honest is... usually best.
even if you're terrified of rejection, and possibly losing someone you like?
+Wild4lon stfu
Even then :)
+Wild4lon yes. Because being rejected isn't that terrible in the scope of things, you would never "what if" and someone who treats you weirdly after a situation like that isn't really someone worth keeping around. People have/had feelings. It happens. It's a part of life. Letting get that in the way of meaningful friendships or life is unnecessary.
+Wild4lon Yes!! Becouse you don't waste your time
Direct approach is the best way. More women should be that way. At least no ones time would be wasted
very true, if i txt or call a girl and she doesn't respond regularly, i get it, i'm not a stalker, time to move on
@majestic movement "happens to me often and it's flattering a girl puts you on that pedestal"
Teach me, sensei.
WOW a no games relationship, that sounds like fantastic thing to have!!!
Depends on what kind of games. Board games? If my best friend and his wife are a good example, they can be wonderful. :P
I LOVE how bold you are, it's so inspiring! I completely relate and when you're bold how people react to you really tells you about that person
I don't like games, but I can't be direct either ahhhh D:
Same... the struggle >.
Drink maximum amount of coffee/tea before you say it? (to grow that courage)
Work at your own pace. It will work out in the end as long you stay you.
Girls of course you can, set aside the guys with super buff bodies who daily pick up girls ,guys have the same problems. Girls if you think a guy could be interesting and he hasent done anything yet...just bump into him, apologize and slide your hand from the album and to his hand (or shoulder to album) and ask if you could buy him a coffe to apologize. Or something....just an idea.
actually men are not all that simple lol. that's how i see it at least.
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The problem is its difficult to differentiate between a woman playing hard to get and a woman who’s not interested.
So I just stop trying the very first time she acts disinterested or says openly (or if I suspect she’s uncomfortable).
It’s better not to be a creep than to miss out on a girl who’s interested but acting hard to get.
I prefer the more direct approach too. I ain't got time for games.
Right on Anna! I 100% agree! Besides, lasting relationships rely on trust so playing games pretty much ruins the relationship from the get go for the long term.
And I love your glasses! Reminds me of Yankumi from Gokusen :)
The only guys you're going to get playing hard to get are the kind who can't take no for an answer. What's the colloquial term for that?
Totally agree. Dishonesty is a bad way to start any relationship and it certainly wont maintain one. Why lie about who your are and what you want, just to win over someone who isn't compatible with you? And why give the cold shoulder to someone you like, when it might make them give up on you? Just be yourself and if it doesn't work out, then there was no chemistry and you're better off without them.
"personally I like to be as direct as possible"
"I lIKe YoU"
That's me 😂 and honestly it's always worked well
I’m sure it has. That’s how I want a women to approach me too 😕
Deliberate, yes. First looks, then personality, then a realization.
As Jack from emkay once said, "she is not someone to conquer, she is someone to get to know."
last time i was this early there were no shitty comments talking about how early they are.
you literally just made a shitty joke so..
Meg Stop that't the jo.. ugh never mind
how fucking ironic :L xD
+Meg Stop I wouldn't even count it as a joke. xD
your shitty comment on shitty early comments was a shit joke
"I love a man who can keep up a schedule."
Husband goals, tbh.
I love when girls are direct. Its refreshing. I was once asked out by two girls at the same time on the subway. My mouth droped! I was interrupted by an emergency before I could take advantage of the oportunity. I was in that city temporarly and that kind of stuff happens to guys more often there than anywhere else in the country, to my knowledge. ( It was in Porto, in Portugal. I'm portuguese)I am currently saving money to move there. Women there are like from another country! Bolder, braver, warmer and more open and giving than women from where I live, plus its a bigger city, with more oportunities for my career goals.
Anna, you are spot on.
Also, Cherry 2000. Lol.
Reasons why you should not playing to be "hard to get" :
- It's showing a fake part of your personality
- You'll be important only for who want something that other haven't (like a trophy or any other valuable OBJECT)
- You'r wasting time that you could spend with the person you love
- It's sometimes a risk to lose someone that really cared about you
- You miss the opportunity to be happier to get what you want too
etc, etc . . . .
In Love, be true and yourself is the most important key to have a happy relationship :)
Well said.
Too bad I learned this through the hard way. A guy liked me but I acted disinterested in him (even tho I liked him too), and I never answered him like I should have. we met at an internship and when it ended all contact ended too. I really regret not approaching him. *sigh*
awesome for you that you learned your lesson from this experience. many people would just blame the other person
You are learning👍🏻,it wont just come naturally. Next time,you can also take the charge😊.
Hahahahah thats funny
Thay happened except I was ready to tell him genuinely and the covid happened and we graduated to college and never got to see each other and I even tried to get his number from someone and they didn't have it , I tried so much *sigh*
"Pencil me in?"
"I write in pen ;) "
This is how it's done men.
If there weren't games then it'd be much easier for someone to understand the word "no".
women, u can't play hard to get anymore if you're into the guy. today men are getting charged with sexual misconduct even after having "consent". the simple fact that a woman admires u could make things not really consensual. so if a woman plays hard to get, i'll just say "ok bye" and move on instead of continue to pursue and then later be told that since she didn't immediately accepted my attempts that means it should've been obvious that she wasn't interested and therefore i harassed her. no thank u, not worth it
@ThePHiLsTeR lmao....dude, this is literally sexual harassment.
Just imagine if you told a chick
"well, maybe you should have just banged your boss even if you didn't want to. You gotta play it smart to keep your job"
There would be a lynch mob coming after you.
@@DivineAtheistWannabe Actually it's sexual harassment and blackmail if they make it known your job is on the line - one is a fire able offense in the work place, the other is a straight up crime punishable by a prison sentence.
The problem of waiting too long is that it can make the person feels being ignored and worse, will going to find someone else instead. But I understand why girls do that. They just want to make sure how serious the guy about his feelings and intentions.
Nope
Girls do it for validation
I wish girls that play games would watch this....
Playing hard to get makes you easy to forget.
Honesty and vulnerability is refreshing
"If you want him to like you, you have to stay 6ft away from him at all times."
Definitely true
Pro Tip: Don't play hard to get if you're already hard to want.
You're literally the only girl in the universe that remains who still does that.
I'm glad I played hard to get. I got a good spanking for being a bad girl
You need Jesus
yes u do and i can help
+jesus garcia I've always considered myself a Christian woman and can never say no to Jesus
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Omd 😂
I do the same thing, when I like someone I just tell them "I like you" it's so simple, if they say no it sucks I cry blablabla but I rather that than not saying them what I feel. Or when a guy comes to me and start getting flirty I look at them and say "I have a boyfriend you know, just to be clear" haha, being direct is awkward for the other person sometimes but is the best
you cant play hard to get with men because they have too many options, while you are playing hard to get, the next girl is making it easy for him
only the alpha males has to many options!
i just found out about anna but she's amazing so freakin creative. i'm hooked.
it's a shame there's only one of her I wish all girls were like her.
Don’t we all 😕
This is why Anna Akana is the GOAT. She just wants a little more honesty and straightforwardness.
When my 70 year old grandfather joined facebook he had someone ask his relationship status
im an extremely open person and never lie or pretend the oposite of the truth is true.
i may use that "its my birthday so you cant say no" but im worried it might come acroos a little to despret from a guy where from a girl it sounds cute.
True ... but my birthday is coming up so I'm gonna try it. ha
tell me how it works out for you
Dustin Boyd you know what my profile pic is from? no one has ever recognized it in the 7 years i have been using it. lol
good on you for your game knowledge.
i also used it in one of my videos but its a crapy video i made in highschool using game clips and some stop anamation. now a days you can make better videos with a cell phone.
Hmm maybe use an emoji after the sentence but I guess it does come over better when said by a girl. After reading the other comments on here some girls really don't like guys flirting with them.
I totally agree with this, and the worst thing about women playing hard to get is that you can't tell if they are playing hard to get or if they simply are not interested and pushing your interest will make you a creep
Ive always been direct and all women I was close to for years were even directer than me. I just turn around and walk when girls play.
"Pencil me in."
"I write in pen." That was so good 👌
Thank you for saying all this. I never understood the "hard to get" thing either, and too many people still do it!
I have to say THANK YOU!!! I can't stand girls who play all these games and keep making me claw after them. Usually if it happens I just drop them. I shouldn't have to work or jump through extra hoops (Made by a potential future spouse) to date them. It's silly and just drives me away to think I'm undesired. But that is my simple view point.
You are amazing. We need more girls like you.
Your simple direct approach makes life so well, simple. If I got a message from you. I think my heart might stop. Lucky guy that has you!
Does anyone else feel disappointed when there are no ads at the end? 😂😅
i meant her sponsored videos :) She does the ads herself
Lmao
Most of the time women play hard to get cause that's what they are taught
poor advice, need better big sisters lol
ERNESERNES what do you mean?
ERNESERNES sounds like a whole lot of mixed messages, what do you mean "too busy to try to make relationships?" Sounds like a real headache.
ERNESERNES At this point I have to ask, are you a guy or a girl?
ERNESERNES TBH, I have been guilty of that. But at the same time, it seems like girls rule me out without ever giving me a chance. Like, what do you want? A hood nigga?
Eventually the guy walks away… over kid games
It's the lying that's the problem. I never understood why people felt like they had to fake feelings & manufacture scenarios in order to progress to the next steps in the relationship. Just be direct, upfront in the beginning...quit wasting people's time because it comes off condescending, desperate or even worse, both.
Good advice delivered in a very entertaining format. Great work!
Just knowing a person like you exists is a blessing. I adore your content; thank you. Friggen brilliant!
Ohhhhh my god directness is DEFINITELY desired
Wish women that agreed with this were more common.
Inb4 the deluge of replies saying they are. Face it ladies, you're statistical anomalies.
Thank you for the compliment, I guess? LOL! I don't believe in playing hard to get. I always knew what I wanted and what I didn't want. Most of the guys were not what I wanted. I didn't play games, I just simply didn't even give them a shot. When the man I did want appeared in my life, I let him know I wanted him in my life and wanted to be part of his. He is my husband now and I love him more and more everyday :3
+Gabriela Centurion Neumann But no one complimented you : ^ (
Burn Feminists Women who agree with this are statitiscal anomalies is what the opening comment said... I will take it as a compliment :) Have a nice rest of the day!
Maybe you think they're uncommon because a lot of women have rejected you? I'm sure most women would go on a date if they were asked by a person that they're attracted to.
Parabler That's not based solely on my personal experience. I've watched many other guys struggle with the same problem, and I've talked to a lot of college-aged women on the other end of the problem (which was largely self-inflicted, tbh).
I was my crushes crush and she texted me. she waited for me to get invested and started responding with one word and being manipulative. When i stopped texting and talking to her she went to her friends and started crying because i broke her heart. That's why you shouldn't play hard to get a guy thinks you are not interested and he gives up.
"Regular intercourse."
"With each other."
I liked that that had to be specified. ^_^
Omg thank you! All the "strategizing" is exhausting me! I just want to be myself 😅
No strategizing involved at all. And by all means, be yourself. But I do hope being yourself involves just setting your boundaries/standards and not allowing anyone into your life that expects you to lower them. Men will test you. Have enough self respect to kick them to the curb if they don't shape up and respect what you have already determined is right for you. THAT is ''hard to get'' -- no game playing involved. You let them know who you are; get rid of the ones who want you to compromise. Sometimes that means you're alone for awhile. It's THAT SIMPLE.
It's incredible and rare to finally see a truly strong woman out there.
Oh Anna you can't just shy away like that without placing a quirky ad