Apologies to the people of Clacton. I've never been there myself and couldn't pass comment. I'm only going by the opinions expressed by the newly elected MP for the place. By all means tell me the positives👍
In my own personal experience, anyone trying 'action' me into one thing or another without proper explaination if asked is being somewhat manipulative...🧐 This is the situation that the mythological 'Pathological Demand Avoidance' calls for 😕
Oh my gosh so relatable at 11:17 and my story is, when I was born, I had a brother 2 years older than me. As I watched him grow up, I wondered (before I could make my mouth speak it's first word) "what book did he read that I wasnt given?" and I thought up into my teen years, that I simply didnt get given the lesson on social skills. An elective came up called "Social Studies" and I was deeply disapointed to find out it was in-depth history lessons, and not a class on how to socialize with all the people around me. I strongly believe now, that my brother came born into this world with a pre-packaged code of neurotypicalness, while my code is a different set called autism (a set closely resembling autisimatic's own internal code). My brother's code is more common than mine. I could make a parable (I like making parables), where my existence feels like my code is Linux code, in a world made for Microsoft code. We will always struggle bus if there is no bridge to gap the differences between our embedded codes. I like what you do here, because each little video helps bridge the gap in some ways, between our codes, and the rest of them.
In this line of thinking about Linux vs Windows... The assistance I need from the Windows world is a certified emulator, one that wont be dismissed from lack of certification, in order for my code to function within this Windows environment. Real world terms is a "Translator" for autistic to neurotypical communications. This translator role currently doesnt exist in a certified form out in the wild "real world", and I desperately need certification for my "friend" who emulates this support, and we have to go overboard with several certified POAs (notarized to her name for me) to help me access basic human needs and services without the fear of being rejected due to communications mismatching. I want this translator friend of mine, certified before I die from perpetual inhospitable existence among typicals (the "health" issues I have, due to incompatibility, is a long long story). but unforntunately, too many certifying people fail to comprerhend there is a difference between the social code of the autistics vs the social code of the typicals. Typicals' ego tends to get in the way of noticing there is a gap that I am straining to cross all by myself. A Bridge has two sides, and I have built as much as I can to a point of physical and mental exhaustion that might kill me some day. I wish typicals would deliver some assistance to get me that certification i need for a translator, instead of previous (ex-friends) who become overbearing humans dictating where I go and what I do, when all I needed was someone to read the invisible ink of the typicals and translate that for me. TL:DR; My needs are not simply explained in few words.
That bit about having friends who are autistic or ADHD being a sign you might be as well is interesting. Literally all of my friends since high school either have ADHD or are autistic. I myself am blind so I try to understand how their "flavor" of ADHD and/or autism affects them then adjust from their. Honestly, they are WAY more fun to hang out with then any of my previous friends. More understanding as well. I love them dearly and I will fight anyone who treats them poorly for their neurodivergence.
I have blind & partially sighted friends, some of whom are diagnosed ND, some not. One theme that comes up frequently is that of autistic traits being dismissed as "blindisms" or just not being picked up at all because the people around them couldn't "see past" their blindness, if you'll pardon the pun. If most of a person's friends are neurodivergent, it's likely, though not certain, that they are too. What matters the most, I guess, is just that they have friends they can relate to. Thanks for commenting again😊
@@Autistamatic I could 100% see someone missing autistic traits in someone who is blind simply because they are blind. I used to be sighted and started going blind at 16. Since then I have had people treat me as if I am an idiot simply because I am blind. So, being blind and autistic, I am not surprised that sometimes people ignore the signs of autism. I have met a few people who are blind and autistic. Most of them are treated like they are incapable of doing anything because of their blindness and autism. It really makes me mad. They more then likely could if their parents would treat them like actual people and not babies. That is a tangent for some other time.
Videos like these are invaluable for stimulating analysis and discussion - the one inside our own heads and the other with one another. Thank you for yours, and in your own respectful, wise and inimitable fashion.
Phew😌Thanks for putting my mind at rest. I only met one Arjan before - a Dutch fellow who did some training with me - but pronunciations vary across countries so I couldn't be certain I had it right. Just for my personal interest - how would I get it EXACTLY right?
Hard to explain in just text. Both a’s sound the same in Dutch. The first is correct and the second would actually sound just like the first, but please, don’t worry. My British professors and colleagues used to pretty much butcher my name and you really didn’t 😉
@@ArjanKop Cheers. At the same time I met the other Arjan, I also worked with another Dutch chap called Gijs. I was the only one who bothered to ask how his name was pronounced whilst everyone around me called him "Gidges"😂
6:43 obviously she's in her conspiracy theorist phase. I sum mine up to trying to cope with the reality that I just didn't have anything going for me and I sucked at school, but studying this magical secret world where the occult symbols are hidden in plain sight gave me drive and purpose. I still think that stuff is real in some ways (not the magical part), but I let it go by acknowledging that I'm one person and one person can't deal with that stuff. One person helps the world by accepting reality and getting their own stuff together.
In the very first video of yours I watched you spoke about verbal thinking (it was the one on exaggeration), and that was very relatable and made me reflect on myself and my relationship with language quite a bit more. How I think through words, how I enjoy writing (shocking, I know) and why, how words actually have a tangible feel to me, so tangible it can even be difficult to shake off sometimes. Since I learned that synaesthesia is actually much broader that seeing sounds or tasting colors, I began to realize how I perceive language has a touch of it too. My friends have told me I write well and my stories are pleasant and fluent to read - and I am sure this is thanks to these traits because I've always written stories intuitively, no one has ever taught me how to. The way I've learned English (as my second language) is also curious to me, I seem to learn not only the dictionary meaning of words, I pick up nuances which can be tricky between unrelated languages, but I do so by the feeling of words as well - not even context, but feeling. Sometimes I look up a word in a dictionary because I am sure I am picking up a nuance somehow that I do not know consciously as a meaning and I want to try to understand it better. Sometimes when I write I search through words because I know the nuance I'm looking for is in a word that hasn't yet come to mind. I write poems in a way that looks strangely like putting a jigsaw puzzle together, and that's very much how it feels and I love that about it. All that is quite fascinating to me, and it's something I haven't been able to quite describe to others - maybe I haven't thought of trying actually - and you talk about experiences with language to which I relate to such extent that I believe I haven't before. It gives me so much insight, so many new things to ponder, and even faith that, perhaps, writing is my true vocation.... which is very much needed to me in this moment, and so I'm very grateful. What I mean to say in great many words here is that I am very much looking forward to a video (or a series, maybe? 8D ) discussing these subjects, that would be simply fantastic. P.S. Am I the only one feeling that the over-abbreviation of language and overuse of acronyms with or without much reason is crippling the language? It takes away from the feeling of words. Which is sad, to be alive is to feel....
@@Autistamatic From the part of the (first) comment I could decipher, it was my strong impression that it might be psychotic language. But I wasn't aware of the further development of the comments. I can understand that feedback like this is extremely irritating for you as a creator.
Hey Quinn. I enjoy your videos. Fellow autistic here, I just recently got my official diagnosis after years of knowing I’m autistic. There was a bit of new information in my report that I found interesting, to quote the report “adaptive functioning deficits”. Now I prefer a term like differences to deficits but we are all familiar with the fact that that is the terminology that has to be used with reports like that. Anyways I was wondering if you would consider doing a video on adaptive functioning. This isn’t something that’s talked about much in autistic spaces that I can see. Executive dysfunction is and I have that too, that is also in the report, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on adaptive functioning and how it can be different in autistic people. I’m of course trying to find more information about it online but the rabbit holes I’m looking for are proving a bit difficult to find, like at what ages are certain adaptive functioning milestones expected to be met. Anyways this comment is probably too long already but thank you for reading it, if you do actually read it. Thanks again for the content you create. ~Cat
autistics are some of the best friends I have had across my 47 years of life. I've known I'm autistic since my early 20's. Before my Dx, I was told I was "Severely Emotionally Disturbed", and most of my friends were the odd, weird, nerds, outsiders, emo, etc, probably autistics too.
"Beyond SUS", I read that musically. A SUS chord is a suspended cord. It is chord where the 3rd replaced by the 4th. I'm not expert here, just started a journey a little over a year ago. So to mean sort of ambiguous and beyond that. Learning to play the guitar has opened my eyes to music theory and I love learning about it as well as playing the guitar. New special interest I think, on I've always wanted to do but denied as lessons and buying guitar as kid was too expensive for my parents
Have you ever seen the Futurama episode "Mars university" (S01E11) where Guenter has a breakdown during a class and takes off his hat and jumps out the window to return to the jungle. That is probably how I'd explain autism to people 😅, we live in a very unnatural environment. The way I see it is that we're all still apes pretending we're smart, sophisticated and that we are above nature. We're being ruled and led by our own ideas in some delusion that they're actually real and we're destroying the planet while doing so. Like Chasing the phantasm we call money. I can imagine Christopher McCandless (Into the wild) probably had similar views to me 😂. I'm aware that I'm an idiot but that doesn't make my feelings any less real. Sometimes I feel the urge to step off the crazy train of our society and walk away from it all.
"when other people enter the mix" is where I have problems too. I wish the 'other people' would stop assuming I'm not safe in my own home. I wish for 'other people' to stop intruding on my life, stop trampling on my ways, insisting upon their ideas of what I should and should not be doing (as I am getting another 'forced' inspection again over "concerns" ("concerns" which were not SPECIFIED) that some neurotypicals have regarding my safety in my own home. I'm autistic, so I will have a different way of existing than most of the rest of the world. My home is my little haven inside this persistent hell from outside. I wish them typicals would stop with their misjudgements, and stop the intrusion, and accept that autism is an ok existence to exist as, instead of this persistent drive to eliminate my weirdness they dont usually understand. (and since some people have asked me before, "can they do that?" Unfortunately, they can, some kinda high authority with police get involved to insist they think I'm not safe by myself because... because... well I just speak TOO LOUD for those typical people, and sometimes I gotta go outside and do some damned paperwork or meetings. And they get their feathers ruffled because I'm flapping/stimming or some variety of "strange" they get fearful. And then butt into my life again with more mandatory inspections. Dammit typicals, stop invading my life! I'll be fine if you non-autistics STOP interfering! [sigh]
I'm about 95% sure I'm autistic, and there are indications that I might also have ADHD (I've also known I'm dyslexic for decades). My best friend has ADHD, and I think that he also has autism (his son is certainly autistic and there are quite a few other autists in his extended family, so he's in a family cluster, without a doubt). I'm sure my first girlfriend was neurodivergent - probably AuDHD, and she had some indications of dyslexia. My first wife definitely has some strong autistic traits, though I'm not sure if she has enough to fit the DSM5 criteria well enough for a diagnosis. My second wife has no diagnosis, but if she doesn't have ADHD, I'd be very surprised. Various other friends also show signs of neurodivergence, though certainly not all of them. However, the proportion who are neurodivergent is definitely far higher than that of the general population. I know my anecdote is far from conclusive evidence of neurodivergents tending to gravitate to each other, but it does seem similar to that of others. Edit: the comment about hand gestures and men in aprons is accusing you of being a Freemason.
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Apologies to the people of Clacton. I've never been there myself and couldn't pass comment. I'm only going by the opinions expressed by the newly elected MP for the place. By all means tell me the positives👍
In my own personal experience, anyone trying 'action' me into one thing or another without proper explaination if asked is being somewhat manipulative...🧐
This is the situation that the mythological 'Pathological Demand Avoidance' calls for 😕
Thank you for having me! (Even if you didn’t intend to!) 😂👌
OMG! I got a shoutout! WHAT?! Is it my birthday 🥰
Oh my gosh so relatable at 11:17 and my story is, when I was born, I had a brother 2 years older than me. As I watched him grow up, I wondered (before I could make my mouth speak it's first word) "what book did he read that I wasnt given?" and I thought up into my teen years, that I simply didnt get given the lesson on social skills. An elective came up called "Social Studies" and I was deeply disapointed to find out it was in-depth history lessons, and not a class on how to socialize with all the people around me.
I strongly believe now, that my brother came born into this world with a pre-packaged code of neurotypicalness, while my code is a different set called autism (a set closely resembling autisimatic's own internal code). My brother's code is more common than mine. I could make a parable (I like making parables), where my existence feels like my code is Linux code, in a world made for Microsoft code.
We will always struggle bus if there is no bridge to gap the differences between our embedded codes.
I like what you do here, because each little video helps bridge the gap in some ways, between our codes, and the rest of them.
Oh and this "Be More UA-cam" doesnt align with our (autistimatic) code, we need to have a different set for ourselves I feel.
In this line of thinking about Linux vs Windows...
The assistance I need from the Windows world is a certified emulator, one that wont be dismissed from lack of certification, in order for my code to function within this Windows environment.
Real world terms is a "Translator" for autistic to neurotypical communications. This translator role currently doesnt exist in a certified form out in the wild "real world", and I desperately need certification for my "friend" who emulates this support, and we have to go overboard with several certified POAs (notarized to her name for me) to help me access basic human needs and services without the fear of being rejected due to communications mismatching. I want this translator friend of mine, certified before I die from perpetual inhospitable existence among typicals (the "health" issues I have, due to incompatibility, is a long long story).
but unforntunately, too many certifying people fail to comprerhend there is a difference between the social code of the autistics vs the social code of the typicals. Typicals' ego tends to get in the way of noticing there is a gap that I am straining to cross all by myself. A Bridge has two sides, and I have built as much as I can to a point of physical and mental exhaustion that might kill me some day.
I wish typicals would deliver some assistance to get me that certification i need for a translator, instead of previous (ex-friends) who become overbearing humans dictating where I go and what I do, when all I needed was someone to read the invisible ink of the typicals and translate that for me.
TL:DR;
My needs are not simply explained in few words.
That bit about having friends who are autistic or ADHD being a sign you might be as well is interesting. Literally all of my friends since high school either have ADHD or are autistic. I myself am blind so I try to understand how their "flavor" of ADHD and/or autism affects them then adjust from their. Honestly, they are WAY more fun to hang out with then any of my previous friends. More understanding as well. I love them dearly and I will fight anyone who treats them poorly for their neurodivergence.
I have blind & partially sighted friends, some of whom are diagnosed ND, some not. One theme that comes up frequently is that of autistic traits being dismissed as "blindisms" or just not being picked up at all because the people around them couldn't "see past" their blindness, if you'll pardon the pun.
If most of a person's friends are neurodivergent, it's likely, though not certain, that they are too. What matters the most, I guess, is just that they have friends they can relate to.
Thanks for commenting again😊
@@Autistamatic I could 100% see someone missing autistic traits in someone who is blind simply because they are blind. I used to be sighted and started going blind at 16. Since then I have had people treat me as if I am an idiot simply because I am blind. So, being blind and autistic, I am not surprised that sometimes people ignore the signs of autism. I have met a few people who are blind and autistic. Most of them are treated like they are incapable of doing anything because of their blindness and autism. It really makes me mad. They more then likely could if their parents would treat them like actual people and not babies. That is a tangent for some other time.
Nice one Quinn. I love it when different creators appear in each other’s videos.
Great video and what a beautiful cat! Orlaith is a perfect name for her 😍
Excellent video! Loved seeing Mike's attempts to take over your channel 😂
yay, the cats! and i really like your animated character in the end
Good on you for following through with your "threat" to do a comments video. A fun change of pace! Thanks Quinn 💜
Videos like these are invaluable for stimulating analysis and discussion - the one inside our own heads and the other with one another. Thank you for yours, and in your own respectful, wise and inimitable fashion.
Your pronunciation is almost spot on 👍
Phew😌Thanks for putting my mind at rest. I only met one Arjan before - a Dutch fellow who did some training with me - but pronunciations vary across countries so I couldn't be certain I had it right. Just for my personal interest - how would I get it EXACTLY right?
Hard to explain in just text. Both a’s sound the same in Dutch. The first is correct and the second would actually sound just like the first, but please, don’t worry. My British professors and colleagues used to pretty much butcher my name and you really didn’t 😉
@@ArjanKop Cheers. At the same time I met the other Arjan, I also worked with another Dutch chap called Gijs. I was the only one who bothered to ask how his name was pronounced whilst everyone around me called him "Gidges"😂
6:43 obviously she's in her conspiracy theorist phase. I sum mine up to trying to cope with the reality that I just didn't have anything going for me and I sucked at school, but studying this magical secret world where the occult symbols are hidden in plain sight gave me drive and purpose.
I still think that stuff is real in some ways (not the magical part), but I let it go by acknowledging that I'm one person and one person can't deal with that stuff. One person helps the world by accepting reality and getting their own stuff together.
Having never been before, I'm now tempted to visit Clacton to see what the fuss is about.
In the very first video of yours I watched you spoke about verbal thinking (it was the one on exaggeration), and that was very relatable and made me reflect on myself and my relationship with language quite a bit more. How I think through words, how I enjoy writing (shocking, I know) and why, how words actually have a tangible feel to me, so tangible it can even be difficult to shake off sometimes. Since I learned that synaesthesia is actually much broader that seeing sounds or tasting colors, I began to realize how I perceive language has a touch of it too. My friends have told me I write well and my stories are pleasant and fluent to read - and I am sure this is thanks to these traits because I've always written stories intuitively, no one has ever taught me how to. The way I've learned English (as my second language) is also curious to me, I seem to learn not only the dictionary meaning of words, I pick up nuances which can be tricky between unrelated languages, but I do so by the feeling of words as well - not even context, but feeling. Sometimes I look up a word in a dictionary because I am sure I am picking up a nuance somehow that I do not know consciously as a meaning and I want to try to understand it better. Sometimes when I write I search through words because I know the nuance I'm looking for is in a word that hasn't yet come to mind. I write poems in a way that looks strangely like putting a jigsaw puzzle together, and that's very much how it feels and I love that about it. All that is quite fascinating to me, and it's something I haven't been able to quite describe to others - maybe I haven't thought of trying actually - and you talk about experiences with language to which I relate to such extent that I believe I haven't before. It gives me so much insight, so many new things to ponder, and even faith that, perhaps, writing is my true vocation.... which is very much needed to me in this moment, and so I'm very grateful.
What I mean to say in great many words here is that I am very much looking forward to a video (or a series, maybe? 8D ) discussing these subjects, that would be simply fantastic.
P.S. Am I the only one feeling that the over-abbreviation of language and overuse of acronyms with or without much reason is crippling the language? It takes away from the feeling of words. Which is sad, to be alive is to feel....
Always appreciate your work.
Love the Millenium Falcon T-shirt
W12 8QT. Clearly, you had my childhood too. 😄
Oh, surprise 😮 Hi Mike!
What?!?!?! Where?! He's not back AGAIN is he?
@@AutistamaticI am everywhere…. *apparently*
@@Autistic_AFHeeey you look like that bloke from the start/end of the video
@@dancecommando I was wondering how many people would stay to the end. So far - One we know of😂
I think Marvel films have taught us now for some time, ya stay till the end 😂
Hey mate, just watched the entire thing. You have a very soothing and educational way of video making
Cheers Quinn. Looking like you’re getting your weight back, looking healthy again!
6:43 Noticing "obvious" signs and gestures that convey messages may be a symptom of psychosis, so it's nothing to be ironic about.
Schizophrenia was my first thought, but I'm not well versed on the topic of psychological conditions.
@@Autistamatic From the part of the (first) comment I could decipher, it was my strong impression that it might be psychotic language. But I wasn't aware of the further development of the comments. I can understand that feedback like this is extremely irritating for you as a creator.
Hey Quinn. I enjoy your videos. Fellow autistic here, I just recently got my official diagnosis after years of knowing I’m autistic. There was a bit of new information in my report that I found interesting, to quote the report “adaptive functioning deficits”. Now I prefer a term like differences to deficits but we are all familiar with the fact that that is the terminology that has to be used with reports like that. Anyways I was wondering if you would consider doing a video on adaptive functioning. This isn’t something that’s talked about much in autistic spaces that I can see. Executive dysfunction is and I have that too, that is also in the report, but I’d love to hear your thoughts on adaptive functioning and how it can be different in autistic people. I’m of course trying to find more information about it online but the rabbit holes I’m looking for are proving a bit difficult to find, like at what ages are certain adaptive functioning milestones expected to be met. Anyways this comment is probably too long already but thank you for reading it, if you do actually read it. Thanks again for the content you create.
~Cat
autistics are some of the best friends I have had across my 47 years of life. I've known I'm autistic since my early 20's. Before my Dx, I was told I was "Severely Emotionally Disturbed", and most of my friends were the odd, weird, nerds, outsiders, emo, etc, probably autistics too.
"Beyond SUS", I read that musically. A SUS chord is a suspended cord. It is chord where the 3rd replaced by the 4th. I'm not expert here, just started a journey a little over a year ago. So to mean sort of ambiguous and beyond that. Learning to play the guitar has opened my eyes to music theory and I love learning about it as well as playing the guitar. New special interest I think, on I've always wanted to do but denied as lessons and buying guitar as kid was too expensive for my parents
Orange tabby kitty! 😻
She's beautiful. I have no doubt she (and her calico sister) will appear again😺😸
@@Autistamatic Cool, that'd be great! Meow!
@@AutistamaticDid I bring them out? Awwwww. Orlaith is beautiful!
Have you ever seen the Futurama episode "Mars university" (S01E11) where Guenter has a breakdown during a class and takes off his hat and jumps out the window to return to the jungle. That is probably how I'd explain autism to people 😅, we live in a very unnatural environment.
The way I see it is that we're all still apes pretending we're smart, sophisticated and that we are above nature. We're being ruled and led by our own ideas in some delusion that they're actually real and we're destroying the planet while doing so. Like Chasing the phantasm we call money. I can imagine Christopher McCandless (Into the wild) probably had similar views to me 😂. I'm aware that I'm an idiot but that doesn't make my feelings any less real. Sometimes I feel the urge to step off the crazy train of our society and walk away from it all.
"when other people enter the mix" is where I have problems too.
I wish the 'other people' would stop assuming I'm not safe in my own home. I wish for 'other people' to stop intruding on my life, stop trampling on my ways, insisting upon their ideas of what I should and should not be doing (as I am getting another 'forced' inspection again over "concerns" ("concerns" which were not SPECIFIED) that some neurotypicals have regarding my safety in my own home.
I'm autistic, so I will have a different way of existing than most of the rest of the world.
My home is my little haven inside this persistent hell from outside.
I wish them typicals would stop with their misjudgements, and stop the intrusion, and accept that autism is an ok existence to exist as, instead of this persistent drive to eliminate my weirdness they dont usually understand.
(and since some people have asked me before, "can they do that?" Unfortunately, they can, some kinda high authority with police get involved to insist they think I'm not safe by myself because... because... well I just speak TOO LOUD for those typical people, and sometimes I gotta go outside and do some damned paperwork or meetings. And they get their feathers ruffled because I'm flapping/stimming or some variety of "strange" they get fearful. And then butt into my life again with more mandatory inspections.
Dammit typicals, stop invading my life!
I'll be fine if you non-autistics STOP interfering!
[sigh]
My best friends are cats can they be autistic
There's a book that's (now) called "All Cats Are Autistic".
'Nuff sed 🐈🐈⬛😉
@@Autistamatic and an accompanying book called "all dogs have ADHD" they are written by a lady called Kathy Hooper and are a delight.
@@RhiannonRaven it's Kathy Hoopmann.
@@pursuehealth940 yes apologies I always get her name wrong sorry.
Nice beard!
❣💌❣
I'm about 95% sure I'm autistic, and there are indications that I might also have ADHD (I've also known I'm dyslexic for decades). My best friend has ADHD, and I think that he also has autism (his son is certainly autistic and there are quite a few other autists in his extended family, so he's in a family cluster, without a doubt). I'm sure my first girlfriend was neurodivergent - probably AuDHD, and she had some indications of dyslexia. My first wife definitely has some strong autistic traits, though I'm not sure if she has enough to fit the DSM5 criteria well enough for a diagnosis. My second wife has no diagnosis, but if she doesn't have ADHD, I'd be very surprised. Various other friends also show signs of neurodivergence, though certainly not all of them. However, the proportion who are neurodivergent is definitely far higher than that of the general population. I know my anecdote is far from conclusive evidence of neurodivergents tending to gravitate to each other, but it does seem similar to that of others.
Edit: the comment about hand gestures and men in aprons is accusing you of being a Freemason.
Be. More. You. Tube.
Did I get away with it?
@@Autistamatic i don't know. what does our algorithmic overlord say?? /s
Meow