Can You Ever Really Trust What A Woman Says About Her Male “Friends” & Orbiters?
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2025
- Why you should always vet and verify what a woman says and does to determine her character & trustworthiness.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who is dating a woman who speaks in hyperbole, hints and innuendo. She has a lot of male friends and orbiters who obviously want her romantically. Over time he has caught her in several half truths and lying by omission about these other men. It’s a really good email to see how hard and difficult it can be to vet and verify the true nature and character of women you are dating. Low character women will lie, deflect and misrepresent people and events in their lives to make themselves look like better people than they really are. This is why you can’t allow yourself to get drunk on your emotions in the early stages of dating.
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"Never make someone a proirty, when all you are to them is an option"
Maya Angelou.
The male "friends" are never just friends. They are hooking up with her or wanting to hook up with her. These dynamics never end well and always cause problems. keep her as a friends with benefits or move on.
I'm in or was recently this male friend. When I tried to advance to just holding hands she pulled away. Says she doesn't want a relationship. I am moving on. Everyone thought we were dating. Embarrassing that I played so long.
No
You can't really trust a woman's words, you can only trust her actions. Actions speak louder than Words.
People can change temporarily (appear too) but they always revert back to their real nature
"This girl has disqualified herself. That's it!"
If your girlfriend "hangs out" with other guys then she's not your girlfriend.
Facts
my girlfriend is very successful & is always meeting male clients & partners for business. you’re basically saying a woman should stay inside all day, playing with barbie dolls, closed off from the real world just so your beta jealous mind can be at ease. do you have any idea how young you sound
Nailed it, but be ready for a modern woman that will label you anything you can think of for not trusting her and those "guy friends" she has (insecure, controlling, abusive, possessive, jealous, manipulative, etc.)
I always show an interest & positively talk about her male orbiters if she brings them up. I ask how they are, what new things they are working on, anyone new they are dating etc. The caveat is that they are very seldom doing anything exciting or dating anyone new. So that’s when I offer to get out my little black book & find them one. This shows that I’m never jealous or threatened of another guy & that I have so many options I’m willing to share. 2 birds, 1 stone
this actually is hilarious and not a bad strategy. ill try this one lmao
Honestly she might just think you're dumb for being so actively interested in the backup guy. This is goofy man.
Never trust any of this bs. I walked away from a very good 2 n a half years relationship a few months ago because of this "friend". No regrets!!!
I'm a senior woman. My last boyfriend of a year pulled this one on me. His female friends weren't just friends. I was never invited to hang out with them. Finally after a year I figured it out and could stand it to longer. I booted his sorry ass out of my life.
My regret is it took me so long to figure it out and see the truth.
Your gut told you what was up, always trust your gut!
@@ghostccc8089 you're so right.
@@Georgesspierre uh oh. What do you do? They should be faithful to their boyfriend.
The fact that you were never invited to "hang out" with him and his "friends" was the biggest red flag of them all.
He says it all the time. "what you allow will continue" This also goes for guys you're dating
There are sweepers sleepers and keepers; learn to differentiate. You can keep a placeholder but stay somewhat detached because when the right girl comes along she will have to go.
Coach Corey Wayne, This made me laugh so hard, thanks for sharing!
Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.
I'm keen on meeting the counsellor you're talking about. What steps should I take?
Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive.
Hang in there man….At the end of the day she has her reasons. Right or wrong. Gotta respect that and understand that you deserve someone that wants and loves you.
U made her your whole life, big mistake, life is not one woman
Hey man, it's rough but it's not the end of the world. Take the time to heal and then go out there hang out have fun and hook up. Please read the book 15 to 20 times.
"The oaths of a woman I inscribe on water"
*Remember it's just your turn. Set the date, have fun, & hook up.*
Think of her male orbiters as a backup , ofc the relationship wont always be perfect and in those bad days , thats when she will call her backup , its that simple , just set your healthy boundaries and she can take it or leave it
It’s never “just a friend”
100% correct. He's "just a friend" means:
#1 He's a dude that wants to bang her & she's 50/50 on it happening
#2 He's a dude that she wants to bang and he's 50/50 on it happening
#3 They've already banged & are always open to doing it again under the right circumstances
#4 He's a dude she doesn't want to bang & he's been friendzoned but she likes the attention of an orbiter
I'm sure there's other examples I didn't mention but those 4 come to mind
I haven't seen the video yet. But my best friend is a girl and she's absolutely only a friend. She has been my best friend for almost 12 years, and I have zero desire for her. It's pretty normal in Scandinavia, where I am from.
a lot of the time it is. they are weak beta males who never get a shot of the pussy so settle for ruining all her relationships & bad mouthing the guys. a lot of my most beautiful dates have had guys all like this. sleazy little shadow dwellers ready to pounce as soon a you screw up
@@andreasleonhard1512no, that means SHE put you in the friend zone lol.
@@Ahahahhaaah No. Are you incapable of understanding what I wrote? If she tried to kiss me or anything like that, I would have zero interest in it.
If her friendship belongs to everyone, she belongs to no one.
Hey coach, I’m glad your back on and getting popular again! I always resonated with your coaching as I did it subconsciously back in the day. This is perfect for men now as it’s telling them to self reflect and we cannot sit here and blame women, we as men have to take responsibility.
Incredibly important information
"Corey can't even fix her" 😂😂
My sister in laws husband is having to deal with this. Poor guy.
your brother?
@Aspartamebraintumor No. My wife's half-sister's husband.
Coach Corey Wayne, Subscribed because your videos always make me smile!
Another good one Corey
No you can't trust her when she has "male friends" (future boyfriend orbiters waiting their turn) but when you call her out on it be ready for her to throw any label you can think of at you (insecure, controlling, abusive, possessive, jealous, manipulative, etc.) - your best bet is to end the relationship when realizing she has "male friends" and find another woman who respects you and only wants to be with you. A woman who doesn't need her ego and validation boosted from other men.
Things I trust more than the worof a woman:
Flint tap water
Politicians
FDA food standards
A compulsive liar
A used syringe
Corey had me cracked up with the imitations😂
😂😂😂😂
In my experience, he's just a friend, it's for the children, and I'm a child of the king. Have become huge red flags!
Corey thank you for this video, I needed a raality check for a girl I was seeing rhats the same way.
Say you don't accept that with a serious relationship. If she goes off, simply respond "now I know how you really feel, bye"
I just went through the cliche. It was the guy she named dropped...she made fun of him now she is doing him. Co worker with access. Even used the don't worry and I didn't. I was too cool about it and didn't stop it. Glad she is gone though. 304
Yup, gotta stay vigilant and nip that shit in the bud early.
Last winter, I dated someone similar (e.g., male orbiters, inconsistent behavior) to this for two months. Once the red flags were evident, I told her goodbye. There wasn't any stable, long-term potential. People with these kinds of problems need to get help from a qualified mental health professional if they have any intention of ever living a normal adult life that includes a loving partner. Nobody can save a person from themselves.
It just happened. I was totally asleep. That’s some funny shit right there.
So accurate ! Great advice !
I would disagree with the "if she has a good father figure she is not gonna have male friends". my ex came from a traditional and conservative family, yet I found out she had a male friend she didn't talk to me about. that guy didn't even knew she was in a relationship.
also, another girl (with I only had talking stage) had a few male friends just for attention basically, yet she had a really great bond with her father.
Yea i agree. My ex came from good parents and still had male orbiters/friends that she wanted to hang out with
@@tannerhaselden yea man it sucks, i wish people would stop with this narrative that having good relationships with fathers/parents would stop everything bad from happening. we have plenty of cases in which that doesn't matter, the girl still cheats/lies or it's overall shady. one thing i noticed tho, they all have in common, is girls with a social media addiction. because i think at the end of the day it all boils down to needing external attention and validation. so if she constantly posts herself, on instagram, tiktok etc... it's someone to generally avoid. speaking from personal experience and what I also noticed from other couples.
and also, I would add for every man reading, trust your emotions. trust your gut. you are not insecure. jealousy happens for a reason, you are not tripping most of the time, you are just not ok with some bullshit.
so take some step backs, take your time to analize the situation and most importantly be really careful to how she reacts, and also how she interacts with some guys etc...if you feel something is shady, it's for a reason...don't disregard your own feelings, be your best friend. and take care.
I'm at a point where I don't like to date a man who is friends with his ex😅
@RonInTheUSA222 that makes sense. Your right
Most women don't know how difficult it is for a man to see he's girl having guy friends
Woman are very fragile, if you can get her, there must be another guy who has more rizz than you and take her away from you and you never know, he must be one of her male friends..
As for me I don't want my girl having male friends
then get out of America because you have no Authority over these women unfortunately......
"Why can't we be friends, why can't we be friends, why can't we be friends" 🎶
Coach for president
All/most women are just good for casual relationships. Be true to yourself, be kind/ considerate/level headed/ honest. But accept that she isn’t yours and never was, and never will be. It takes so much pressure off you, dampens the punches to the gut. We live in a society where we are fishing in a sewer. It’s freeing to accept this reality that majority of the world is just not “OK” be the 3% of that population.
Have your girl text one of her “friends” and say “come over with a bottle of wine and let’s see where this could go” and watch what happens
What happen then?
There can be those RARE occasions where the dude and chick can be friends, but it takes the man to have done the shadow work and have the disciple to not wanna smash everything that moves, which is far and few between. My golden rule: if not her, then there is always her friends” 🤷🏽
The point is that he has to purposefully repress his desire to smash her.
Sure opposite sex can value a friendship, but they are kidding themselves if they haven’t considered dating or that one or both are waiting around for the opportunity for sex or dating.
Same sex friendships in heterosexual people don’t have this dynamic. Which is why it’s inappropriate for committed people to carry on close (above acquaintance level) relationships with the opposite sex.
They either both want sex or the “uninterested” party wants attention. Both are bad
CLASSIC !!!
I've been dating a girl for the past 15 days. She is my Metro crush and after 5 months I went talk to her. She's loving when with me, but almost no sign of life when we are not together. We already hooked up, and after tomorrow, she goes to ski with a guy friend. I'm gonna break-up before this. I've been walking away for the last few days. I don't know if I should break-up before or after she goes to ski.
No....my exes family used to have dinners on occasion with another family. It was really odd. I questioned her about it before because i knew that there was a single guy in the family. Ended up dumped me after 4 years and rebounded to the "family friend" and now they are engaged.
Men & women can't be just friends eventually sex gets in the way, it's biology.
@CoachCoreyWayne: 🎶 She blamed it on the A-A-A-A-A-Alcohol 🎶 😂😂😂😂
We need a follow up email for this guy. I’m curious if he has the balls to end it
The girl that the guy is describing to coach sounds like my Ex. Had majority of male co worker friends and would let two in particular come over to her place late at night to hangout. When I found that out that was the end
When you determine someone like this is not worthy of more than FWB, what are the ethics of monkey branching to a good girl? Assuming you’re already in an official relationship with this one, that’s kind of a problem. You can’t really downgrade to casual dating, I think you just need to dump her and start looking elsewhere
Lol right on coach ❤
I don't understand why people have the desire to be friends with the opposite sex.
Even as a kid I didn't want girls as friends.
Lmao even when I was a kid I still knew that I could never just be friends with a girl 😂
My gf went out with a guy friend that she’s known for a few years a while back when we basically broke up one day. She went out with him later that night (just as friends). We obviously got back together and it was forgotten about but her girl friends asked her to go out this weekend and that guy and his girlfriend are going to be there. She wants me to go but I don’t want to go hang out with a guy that she basically went on a date with the same night that we “broke up” is that a fair choice of mine? Or am I being too much of a baby and just go out with my girl even though this guy and his gf are going to be there?
Had a friend who was dating a chick who went to her friends and family dinner only to find out that night 2 of the guys there ran a train on her. He broke up with her
One of my close female friends told me she rather chat with men more because they normally have more interesting conversations or things to talk about than women do where she lives.
And I feel I can believe her because honestly most women don’t have a whole lot of things to talk about, other than relationships, family life, work, and usually shallow tv or movies they watch. Smarter women want to talk about a variety of things usually.
Would this count?
You're being hoodwinked. She's insecure if she's being truthful about being comfortable with men more than women. In other words: it's a huge red flag.
How would a girlfriend feel about a man having female friends Nd flirting with them.
im not a bad judge of character ive been decieved.. corey.
Same.
Her: ...I was hammered and really drunk...I accidentally fell on his knob...it happens...!
Him: Oh I understand honey, sorry to be so insecure...
Yeah! They will then demand trust and for you to be secure and understanding. Nah…
You can never trust what a woman says.
Oh this gonna be good 😂😂😂😂😂
Hey Coach would you please kindly get whoever checks your comments to keep deleting these comments regarding this "spiritual adviser Renee White". It is a scam and is on most of your videos comments in the threads. I dislike scams as well as ones targeting people who are in a vulnerable state. Thank you for your content Corey.
She’s with the guy who played me and him. Crazy I removed myself NC and back in Jan dude reached out asking bout me and her. Ignored it crazy
Short answer- no
She pulled the mel Gibson's defense 😅
She has assured me! 😆😂
You could have just put a question mark in your title after “says?” and left off the rest, tbh.
Before I listen gonna say hell no you can’t. Just gotta either not deal with her if she has too many guy friends or not take her that serious. Bec no decent woman has a bunch of “male friends” she’s not messing with these day if you catch my drift.
Can u really ever trust what any woman says ever?
No, he’s always a back up. Always
My best friend is a girl. She has hooked me up with her friends, and I have done the same. Nothing wrong with having a girl as a best friend being a male. We had a thing 15 years ago, but as friends it is so much better for us. No jealousy, or craziness between us. And all should know, she is the only girl real friend I have. I will not be friend zoned or spend my time bn just friends with any other girl
you said ti right there. years ago you hooked up with her. Yous were never truly platonic "friends"
1:33 LMFAO 😂
What she says, maybe. What the thirsty orbiters say, not so much... 😮
just a friend in the friend group and hooked up with him in less time than a month
No
I’m sure they’re Fred’s. Maybe be nice and share sometime Corey 😡 😤 😢😢
Just be friends with benefits with her. Don’t picture her as your love or future wife. Use the women who wants to be used, simple as that.
Hope he wakes the fuck up 😂 14:25
sounds like my ex. she belongs to the streets man.
they are all hypergamists and coin operated.
SHE BELONGS TO THE STREETS!!! 🙃
Nope.
I invited a girl out for a first date but she forgot but she offered to pay for herself as making it up to me for missing the date. Is it wrong to accept those terms even though she said she will pay for herself as a way to make it up to me
No. I personally wouldn't accept. Her proposal indicates she was already assuming you will pay for the whole meal initially. Sure it's chivalrous but good women will jump and fight you to pay the whole thing or at least offer to split.
She "forgot" you and assumed you'd pay the total anyway. If she didn't offer to pay the whole bill and set a specific day and time for the redo date, I'd walk.
@trentonz71 she had talked about trying to meet up again and she'll pay for herself as a way to make it up to me. I had responded the next morning accepting those terms and asked her what day was best for her but she never responded. Wondering if she feels some type of way because i didn't respond to her text the night before
@@trentonz71Hey Trent, some girl told me she forgot our date and apologized, but she didn't bring up anything about rescheduling. I told her no problem and went no contact. Been two weeks. We've been on one date previously. What should I do if she ever hit me up again?
To fair Colombian women to tend to have male friends. Different culture.
🤣🤣🤣 08:23
She reminds me of someone I dated .. Yeah too much non sensical lies man hahah.. Its def no gf material.. Just hook up, have fun .. Or live with the heartbreaks
Typical 304 at work 😂🤣
Sounds like my recent ex.
MALE FRIENDS = DTB.
For the Streets !
Music show?? This guy SUX!
First!
you don't have an automatic right to know what a girl has done before she met you, frankly it's none of his business. Going through her phone is a weak move, just makes him look paranoid and insecure and like he is threatened by her past. You either choose to accept things or you walk away. Carrying on like this will just lead to endless paranoia.
I would want to know if my girlfriend hangs out with a guy she has hooked up with and who got the hots for her.
@@stefanfeist9893 Men that value themselves, their time and have opinions are not going to do that. They can just end it move on and attract someone better.
@@AndrewAung1992 True.
Could have been a 2 second video. The answer is always NO
No